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167 | What Financial Experts Don’t Discuss with You: Are You Protecting Your #1 Asset? · Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Mastery, Wealth Mindset, Leadership Principles, Intuitive Decision-Making, Human Design

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Erin Gray: I want to follow up for the previous podcast that I released on Monday.
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Erin Gray: Today I want to talk about something that most people completely overlook when they think about assets.
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Erin Gray: You know, so many of us are taught to focus on money or investments or real estate property.
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Erin Gray: You know, things that you can see, that you can touch, that you can track.
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Erin Gray: What I always talk about, like the stuff that's in that 3D observed world.
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Erin Gray: And I believe that the most important asset that we have, each of us have, is ourselves, our energy, our attention, our well-being, because everything else is going to cascade from there.
0:36
Erin Gray: I was in a podcast group, I mean it was about a year ago, a year and a half ago.
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Erin Gray: And the mentor that was talking about the new currency that is actually in the world is our attention.
0:50
Erin Gray: And I believe this is so true because think about how highly coveted our attention is this day and time.
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Erin Gray: So a lot of us, you know, don't think about ourselves, our attention, our like protecting us.
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Erin Gray: We are the number one asset, you know.
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Erin Gray: So because we don't value ourselves, because we don't think about ourselves in this way, a lot of times we overcommit, we overwork, we overextend ourselves.
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Erin Gray: We think about everyone and everything else is more important than what we are.
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Erin Gray: And today I want to talk about and show you why protecting your number one asset, which I believe is you, each of us, right?
1:26
Erin Gray: You are the number one asset.
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Erin Gray: I am my number one asset.
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Erin Gray: You know, your business bestie is her number one asset.
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Erin Gray: You know, really start to think about that.
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Erin Gray: And that is actually the foundation for everything else in our life, our business, our relationships, our money, our just our entire life.
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Erin Gray: So think about it that way.
1:42
Erin Gray: And today we're going to dive into this topic.
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Erin Gray: So, like I mentioned, I talked about this briefly in the previous episode that about life giving and life draining energy or tasks.
1:56
Erin Gray: I don't like the word tasks, but just what are the life force?
2:00
Erin Gray: Time is unlimited.
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Erin Gray: We push off things, we waste our time.
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Erin Gray: And I know I have talked about like nothing is ever wasted.
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Erin Gray: But when you really start to think about how am I using my energy and am I thinking that time is completely unlimited, but money is, you know, finite versus that my time here on earth is has a set amount and money is unlimited.
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Erin Gray: And because that we think the first way, where our money is, you know, finite and our time is unlimited, we aren't as protective of our time and of our energy.
2:42
Erin Gray: So what that might look like is we might over-deliver, you know, when it comes to work.
2:49
Erin Gray: And a lot of this is going to come back to what do we actually believe about ourselves and what do we do we value ourselves?
2:56
Erin Gray: Do we believe that we're worthy?
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Erin Gray: So we might over-deliver with clients, and that might come from improving energy.
3:02
Erin Gray: We might scroll on social media.
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Erin Gray: Like I was having this conversation, it's been probably a couple months with a client.
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Erin Gray: And the way that she was trying to wind down was scrolling social media.
3:11
Erin Gray: And I said, let's just figure out a different way to wind down that is more productive and more helpful to your nervous system, as well as creating that dopamine hit besides social media.
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Erin Gray: Maybe we say yes to every request.
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Erin Gray: We don't know how to say no yet, you know, because we have so many thoughts and beliefs about like ourselves of when we say no.
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Erin Gray: So we treat other assets like money or property as more important than ourselves.
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Erin Gray: And this is where we haven't truly yet embodied this at a very and understood it at a very cellular level.
3:46
Erin Gray: Like there is this understanding, which I think is very logical.
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Erin Gray: It's you get it with your mind, but to know it, to live it is when you actually like take it into the body, right?
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Erin Gray: Like you actually live it and embody it.
4:06
Erin Gray: And so if you are depleted, no other asset that you have matters.
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Erin Gray: You know, I can't tell you how many times that I have talked to people that have, you know, worked their life to build their business, to sell it.
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Erin Gray: And because they have worked and burned themselves out, their health isn't, they haven't, you know, maintained relationships, they don't have hobbies.
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Erin Gray: There's just so many things that we have, you know, if we aren't aware, we will put value on other things besides ourselves.
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Erin Gray: So you can have all the money in the world.
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Erin Gray: But if your energy is drained, if you don't have your health, if you haven't, you know, cultivated your creativity, if you haven't practiced and cultivated your the way that you make decisions, think about your relationships, even you know, your ability to earn more can I want to say compromise, but just think about like your energy is the capital that allows everything else to grow.
5:20
Erin Gray: Like it is the foundation, who you are, what you believe about yourself, that is the most important thing.
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Erin Gray: Everything about you is the most important asset.
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Erin Gray: And I want to offer that if you want support to think differently about this, to have someone give you a more of a 30,000-foot view, like what I do brilliantly with clients is I ask you very potent, thought-provoking questions.
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Erin Gray: Because part of my job of working with you is to get you to think differently.
5:52
Erin Gray: Because when you think differently, you live differently, you make different decisions, and that creates a different trajectory in your life.
6:00
Erin Gray: So when you're able to think differently, make decisions more clearly, more simply, without all of the mind drama, more confidently, you know, like you're trusting your intuition, that saves you so much time.
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Erin Gray: So if this is something that you've been around here for a while and you're like, you know what?
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Erin Gray: I really am feeling a call in my heart to visit with Aaron, you can click the link in the show notes and schedule a call with me.
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Erin Gray: I also want to remind you that the workshop that I will be hosting in December is going to be all about communicating with your spouse.
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Erin Gray: Better, I should say, more improved when it comes to money.
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Erin Gray: And if you want to come and join us for the workshop, then click that link in the show notes as well.
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Erin Gray: And you can register and you can have come have some fun, ask some questions, learn some stuff, and join us.
6:51
Erin Gray: Okay, so what does this actually look like?
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Erin Gray: I always like to go from the 5D, like you have to think differently.
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Erin Gray: And then also, like, what does this look like?
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Erin Gray: Practicality, you know, everybody wants to know about the how.
7:04
Erin Gray: And I want to say when it comes to the how, it's gonna be different for every person.
7:08
Erin Gray: How you feel in your body is different, how I feel in my body.
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Erin Gray: What your intuition says might be different than mine, but I want to kind of just give you an overview, and then you're gonna need to go, like I say, with everything else.
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Erin Gray: You're gonna need to go and you're gonna need to play with this.
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Erin Gray: But I will say that no matter who you are, neglecting yourself, it doesn't always look like really big.
7:27
Erin Gray: I think that it's almost kind of like this chipping away over time, right?
7:32
Erin Gray: It doesn't, it's not like these big things that we're doing, it's in these micro moments, right?
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Erin Gray: It can be so subtle.
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Erin Gray: You know, you can say that you're busy all the time.
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Erin Gray: Like I think there's a lot of people in today's world where we say we're busy.
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Erin Gray: I try not to use that language anymore because I think there's a lot of association with busy of like I'm important, like I've done a lot, versus like I like to say my plate is full and that everything that's on my plate, like in the best way, right?
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Erin Gray: Like with everything that's on my plate, everything that's on my calendar is because I want it to be there.
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Erin Gray: But if you're saying that you're busy all the time, but then at the end of the day, you don't even know what you've accomplished.
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Erin Gray: You don't, you feel like so just like worn out, ready to sit on the couch, you know, think about how you're feeling.
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Erin Gray: I think this really goes back to this deeper feelings of like proving or worthiness.
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Erin Gray: And a lot of us have grown up, you know, get gaining our or believing that our value is coming from proving.
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Erin Gray: Like we've had to show or prove ourselves of like if you're busy, if you're being productive, like that's another word, you know, then then you're worthy versus just like knowing you're whole, you're worthy just as you are, and where do you want to spend your time?
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Erin Gray: So maybe those words weren't said exactly to you growing up, but for sure I know in the business in the corporate world, this is language, right?
8:56
Erin Gray: This is the language that we use.
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Erin Gray: And so, where did we pick up these messages?
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Erin Gray: Are we using this language?
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Erin Gray: And what kind of language do we want to start using and thinking about so that we can really start honoring and protecting our energy?
9:15
Erin Gray: Maybe going back to productiveness, you know, maybe you are pushing through when you're tired, when you're exhausted, because rest doesn't rest and productiveness aren't in your mind the same, like they're not parallel, they're not actually friends.
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Erin Gray: You know, we think productive is the doing, the masculine.
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Erin Gray: Productive is also resting and thinking and napping and giving ourselves that our bodies this um rest so that we can regenerate and we can come back and we can be even stronger.
9:49
Erin Gray: You know, my brother, I don't know if he still says this.
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Erin Gray: He might, my mom's told me this the other day.
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Erin Gray: I think that he said he used to say that naps are nasty.
9:57
Erin Gray: And I'm like, no, they're not.
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Erin Gray: You know, they there's a time for us to rest, to recharge.
10:03
Erin Gray: You know, we when you really start to think about, I am my most valuable asset, then you're going to move differently in the world.
10:13
Erin Gray: I want you to think about like yourself as like the most finest thoroughbred horse.
10:19
Erin Gray: And I know that might sound silly, but when we look at things sometimes outside of ourselves, we can receive that message a little bit easier or maybe more clear, you know?
10:29
Erin Gray: So think about, I don't know, I don't know too much about the Kentucky Derby, but like I'm pretty sure they're probably a million plus dollar race horses, right?
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Erin Gray: So think about what is that regimen?
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Erin Gray: Like what is that, what what is that day in, day out for that horse?
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Erin Gray: What kind of food do you think it gets fed?
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Erin Gray: What kind of exercise do you think that it goes through?
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Erin Gray: What kind of rest do you think, right?
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Erin Gray: So, what are all the trainers that that that horse has for that one specific horse?
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Erin Gray: You know, how are they taking care of that horse every single day so that it can show up to the race and ultimately win?
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Erin Gray: Right.
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Erin Gray: Like that's the goal.
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Erin Gray: So I want you to think about yourself.
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Erin Gray: Like, how are you fueling yourself from a from a rest perspective, from a food perspective, from a liquid perspective, from doing doing things in your business that you love or you don't love?
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Erin Gray: Are you continuing to do those things?
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Erin Gray: Like, how are you the most supportive and loving to yourself?
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Erin Gray: Also think about like where do you compromise your own priorities for other people's wants or desires and expectations?
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Erin Gray: And you might be doing this subconsciously.
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Erin Gray: You may not even be questioning, like, I do this sometimes.
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Erin Gray: Like, I'm not saying here I'm perfect, but there are times where I'm like in the middle of something.
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Erin Gray: I'm like, wait a second, you didn't even ask yourself if you wanted to do this.
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Erin Gray: And so, really going back and being like, okay, hang on a second, before you do anything, like almost become very hyper aware of what are you doing?
11:59
Erin Gray: What are you saying yes to?
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Erin Gray: You know, a lot of times this is very habitual, and habits come from our self-concept.
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Erin Gray: So and like I said, you know, I'm an open book.
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Erin Gray: I was noticing myself this past week doing this.
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Erin Gray: I was had said yes to something before I even stopped and asked myself.
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Erin Gray: And then as I was in it, and here's the thing that you will know you will know how you, you know, if it's a yes or no for you or by how you feel.
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Erin Gray: And if I can encourage you to tune into anything, it is to tune into your body even more.
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Erin Gray: So these are just these can be, right?
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Erin Gray: They can be small energy leaks, but they can end up being really big ones because they compound over time.
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Erin Gray: So I always like to look at like the 1% with clients, you know, those micro shifts.
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Erin Gray: So think about your micro shifts of where are you slowly eroding your potency over time?
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Erin Gray: Think about how that might erode your focus, your confidence, your nervous system stability.
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Erin Gray: And if you're not protecting your energy now, who is gonna do it for you if you don't?
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Erin Gray: That's the first question.
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Erin Gray: And second of all, at what point are you going to realize that you aren't?
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Erin Gray: Is it gonna be, is it gonna come to the place where you have to feel exhausted or burned out?
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Erin Gray: You know, are you gonna be so frustrated?
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Erin Gray: Like that's where I got probably six years ago.
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Erin Gray: I just was angry at the world.
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Erin Gray: And so that was my cue to be like, hang on a second, something's gotta change because I didn't like who I was.
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Erin Gray: So you have to also go back to like those are practical things that you might pay attention to, but what you really need to look at is your mindset.
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Erin Gray: I always start with that 5D, right?
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Erin Gray: So the first step for you would be recognizing you as the most important asset.
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Erin Gray: Like if I ask you that right now, do you view yourself as your most important asset?
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Erin Gray: The answer is no.
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Erin Gray: Then we got to go back and we got to be like, okay, what are the beliefs that I have about myself?
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Erin Gray: This begins with evaluating your self-concept.
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Erin Gray: Like your self-concept is what drives everything.
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Erin Gray: So, what do you currently believe about yourself?
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Erin Gray: Who you are, your ability and your capability.
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Erin Gray: Do you view yourself as someone who is highly successful in business, whose time is precious and her body is like the most, I come back to asset, right?
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Erin Gray: Like valuable thing.
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Erin Gray: Like we only have one body.
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Erin Gray: We only have one vessel on this earth, our body, right?
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Erin Gray: So if we don't take care of our body, if we don't take care of our mind, if we aren't connected spiritually, then everything else is going to cascade and and it's gonna show up differently for us.
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Erin Gray: So are you speaking kindly to yourself?
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Erin Gray: Do you value yourself?
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Erin Gray: Do you value your brain?
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Erin Gray: Like I've really been talking to my daughter lately about like her brain is like so valuable, so valuable.
15:01
Erin Gray: All of our brains are, right?
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Erin Gray: Like, so really, do you really think about your brain that way?
15:07
Erin Gray: Are you what you are reading, what you are watching, podcasts that you are listening to?
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Erin Gray: Are you consuming information that is helpful to your brain?
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Erin Gray: What are you doing to your body?
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Erin Gray: Are you treating it and giving it so much love and support from a food and uh water and all the things?
15:26
Erin Gray: What about your emotions?
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Erin Gray: Are you processing your emotions?
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Erin Gray: Or are you just like, oh, I don't have time for that?
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Erin Gray: You know, on to the next thing.
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Erin Gray: Like your emotions are your key.
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Erin Gray: They are telling you constantly, telling you they're like your GPS.
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Erin Gray: So are you paying attention to your emotions?
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Erin Gray: And when we change our self-concept, the behavior naturally follows, but so many of us try to change the behavior first and then think that the self-concept matches catches up, but that's not how it works.
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Erin Gray: I I was, I don't know what I was, I think it was sure it was probably YouTube, because that's about all I watch.
16:01
Erin Gray: And they were talking about like Jessica Simpson and releasing weight or something.
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Erin Gray: And she said it was like from willpower.
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Erin Gray: And I was like, oh, isn't that fascinating?
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Erin Gray: Like that is that is definitely moving from the 3D versus changing your self-concept of someone just wanting to be healthy and releasing weight versus I just had, you know, willpower to me is like I muster through this, right?
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Erin Gray: Versus changing your beliefs about yourself and then letting the behavior, you know, follow.
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Erin Gray: So think about when you value yourself, when you know that you are inherently worthy and deserving of having an amazing life, you're gonna make different choices.
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Erin Gray: You're gonna choose based on what fuels you instead of the people pleasing and the habits that you're used to doing because that is what you're used to doing.
16:52
Erin Gray: Like it feels uncomfortable to start to say no.
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Erin Gray: So start first with your self-concept.
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Erin Gray: Journal that out.
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Erin Gray: Do you describe yourself?
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Erin Gray: If I were to ask you, do you talk about yourself in an uplifting way or an empowering way?
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Erin Gray: Do you believe that you're confident, that you're successful, that you're wealthy, that you're regulated, that your nervous system is regulated?
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Erin Gray: Do you feel calm, powerful, empowered?
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Erin Gray: Like journal on your self-concept and then journal on what you want to believe about yourself and start believing that now.
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Erin Gray: And the thing that I will say about this is first and foremost, it's always awareness.
17:29
Erin Gray: You've got to get out on paper, you've got to see what you actually think about yourself.
17:32
Erin Gray: I think so many times in the spiritual world, we try to gaslight ourselves or we try to bypass, maybe that's a better way to say it.
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Erin Gray: We try to bypass what we think about ourselves.
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Erin Gray: No, it needs to come up and out.
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Erin Gray: We need to see what we actually think about ourselves.
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Erin Gray: And then we get to decide how do we want to think about ourselves?
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Erin Gray: And then when we decide, okay, I want to change my beliefs and I want to change my self-concept, then you're gonna have to take action from that place.
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Erin Gray: So if you say, okay, I want to be feeling more confident, well, then when the time comes to feel more confident, that might be making a decision and not doubting yourself.
18:08
Erin Gray: It might say saying something to someone that you may not have said before.
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Erin Gray: You're going to be presented with opportunities for you to show that you're more confident.
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Erin Gray: And it's in the actual action that you fuse the belief because you have the belief and you also have to move from that belief.
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Erin Gray: So once you look at your self-concept, and this is something that I help clients with.
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Erin Gray: So if this is something that is of interest to you, reach out.
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Erin Gray: I can, you know, we can have a conversation and see if we're a good fit for each other.
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Erin Gray: Then what you want to do is ask some specific questions on actually the 3D part, like what are you actually doing?
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Erin Gray: Ask, like, does the thing that I'm about to do, does it energize me or does it deplete me?
18:52
Erin Gray: I would I always like to say, like, do a calendar audit, you know, tracking your your when I say calendar, I mean what you have on your calendar and how you feel, like your energy across the week, right?
19:06
Erin Gray: So notice when you're doing specific tasks, first of all, are you doing them out of obligation?
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Erin Gray: And how do you feel when you do them?
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Erin Gray: So protecting those I call them like the blocks of time that are life-giving.
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Erin Gray: Like I talked about that in the previous episode, like the life-giving, those are the big rocks, those are the things that you need to be putting on your calendar first, you know, learning to say no, feeling that discomfort, because if you are someone who has people pleased all their life, which this was me, then it is gonna feel uncomfortable.
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Erin Gray: The shame and the doubt or the guilt is gonna come up and it's coming up to be transcended.
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Erin Gray: So when you act from the from the perspective or the belief that you are the most important asset, then all these other decisions, like how you spend money, how you structure your business, how you show up in your relationships, how you are with your friends, how you are with your children, they're going to naturally fall into place because you're moving first from a person who values themselves.
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Erin Gray: You know, there are conversations that I don't necessarily have anymore with people because I value my energy and I know I'm the number one asset.
20:24
Erin Gray: And so is it worth my time to have a conversation with somebody who's not ready to receive a message?
20:29
Erin Gray: No.
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Erin Gray: You know, I'm not here to convince or prove to anybody anymore.
20:33
Erin Gray: Like when they're ready, they're ready.
20:35
Erin Gray: But I'm not here to, you know, to show you all that I know and to prove that, you know, I can help you.
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Erin Gray: And like some people just are not ready to receive a message.
20:45
Erin Gray: So really recognizing where is my energy most efficient and most useful and a good, yeah, good use of my time, right?
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Erin Gray: So you have to really start to think about where are you, I would look at it as more of an overgiving, right?
21:03
Erin Gray: Where are you over giving your time?
21:05
Erin Gray: I have this a lot with clients.
21:07
Erin Gray: Where are you over giving advice?
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Erin Gray: Where are you over giving advice to people that they aren't paying you for?
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Erin Gray: Because that's really important too.
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Erin Gray: And yes, I believe in, you know, giving and helping people, and not everybody, you know, like I'm not saying that everything needs to be paid for, but if you have friends that are coming to you with the same thing over and over again, like I've had family members this way, there's just no point in having this conversation for the 257th time.
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Erin Gray: And so my energy is better served somewhere else.
21:38
Erin Gray: And so you just have to be mindful of where are you overgiving.
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Erin Gray: And that can look like money, that can look like time, that can look like I mean, so many different areas, right?
21:47
Erin Gray: So just really get clear where are you doing this?
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Erin Gray: And the example that I would have you or leave you with is thinking about your, like I said before and earlier, is like think about your energy as your capital.
22:00
Erin Gray: Your nervous system is the bank.
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Erin Gray: So every time you ignore your needs, you overcommit, you overgive, you're basically withdrawing right this energy without depositing it back.
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Erin Gray: Over time, you're gonna be depleting, right?
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Erin Gray: Now, I know I talk a lot about money as circulating and money's energy, and we're all energy, but you know, when you think about if you're just continuing to take, right, deplete, that energy is going somewhere else.
22:29
Erin Gray: So really start to honor your energy.
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Erin Gray: When you value yourself, you're building up this allocation that allows you to operate from you know, more calmness, more clarity, confidence, and ease.
22:43
Erin Gray: Like it's really about spending time on yourself so that you learn how to first like I always talk about like you can't pour from an empty cup when you believe that you're whole, when you are when I say fed, I mean like spiritually and emotionally and energetically and all of it.
23:01
Erin Gray: Then you get to show up for other people.
23:04
Erin Gray: So today, this week, this weekend, ponder.
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Erin Gray: Am I protecting the most important asset?
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Erin Gray: Pick one, you know, really dive into your self-concept, pick one action that you're gonna do that's gonna honor your energy and let it be about something that you probably would be like a 180.
23:23
Erin Gray: What are you, what are you used to saying yes to that you want to say no to, or vice versa?
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Erin Gray: So, where in your life, what is one area of your life, whether it's business or with your kids or your spouse or friends or you know, your community, where is one area that you are used to over giving that you're ready to pull back on some?
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Erin Gray: And if you want support to think differently about valuing yourself more so that you can protect your energy while building wealth and impact, you can reach out to me to schedule a discovery call.
23:54
Erin Gray: You can just click the link in the show notes for us to connect.
23:58
Erin Gray: As always, I love you.
24:00
Erin Gray: I love each of you.
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Erin Gray: I'm rooting for you.
24:03
Erin Gray: You are the number one asset.
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Erin Gray: The world needs more of us that believe that to our core, that have fully embodied that, that show up for ourselves first so that we can show up for others, so that we can be an example of what is possible to other women in the world, to our children.
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Erin Gray: Like this is generational stuff that we are transcending and changing.
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Erin Gray: So that is all I have for you today.
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Erin Gray: I will see you in the next episode.