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🎸 **Raising a Guitar Prodigy: The REAL Story of a Mom-ager · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: What's your name? Please? My name is Beam Mom ten
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  Speaker 1: years old. When I saw that Bee was heading into
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  Speaker 1: an artistic perceive it wasn't just a matter of being
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  Speaker 1: a mom and sacrificing. I did not want him to
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  Speaker 1: struggle to do the things that he loved the way
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  Speaker 1: that I struggled.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome, Mom's Welcome inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host,
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  Speaker 2: Monica Samuels, and I'm here with my lovely friend and
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  Speaker 2: co host Julie.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks for having me, well, thanks for being here, you're
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  Speaker 3: the co host. Just kidding, I expect you to be Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited to be here. We've missed each other, we.
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  Speaker 2: Have because you've been in Los Angeles just live in
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  Speaker 2: the life here for a few weeks.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's been a wild ride where I've
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  Speaker 3: gotten to actually see my oldest child more often than
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  Speaker 3: I've seen her in a year. So that's been fantastic.
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  Speaker 3: And I've just been you know, looking forward to you know,
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  Speaker 3: seeing you and doing this show and you know, juggling
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  Speaker 3: the chaos of motherhood, which I learned that term from
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  Speaker 3: watching the Oscars this week, which I thought was fantastic.
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  Speaker 2: Sutching Jesse Buckley get her Academy works that her.
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  Speaker 3: Speech was like it was right on target for what
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  Speaker 3: she goes through, what we all have been through. If
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  Speaker 3: you have children and the chaos of juggling everything, that
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  Speaker 3: is a massive, massive feat.
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  Speaker 2: Well right, well, like you had so your kids. Your
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  Speaker 2: daughters were in the Zach Theater, so they did school
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  Speaker 2: and they were in the performing arts right.
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  Speaker 3: Right, And my oldest wants to pursue it in LA
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  Speaker 3: and she's really trying, and so it's it's different. It's
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  Speaker 3: a very difficult industry. I mean, honestly, you'll even hear
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  Speaker 3: like when Harrison Ford said, this is not easy, and
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  Speaker 3: it's really it's really kind of hard. But you know,
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  Speaker 3: I think more importantly juggling some your own life and
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  Speaker 3: your dreams and then your children's dreams, and then you
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  Speaker 3: pile life on top of it. I mean last year
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  Speaker 3: I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I'm doing great. I
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  Speaker 3: think our guests had the same experience. So you have
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  Speaker 3: to like leave space for for.
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  Speaker 2: Yourself, for yourself, for the kids and everything else.
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  Speaker 3: Well yeah, well, as you know, I was, it's bananas
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  Speaker 3: Monka on top of everything else.
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  Speaker 2: I remember I was the team mom for Chases Base
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  Speaker 2: Lord do I ever. Yeah, that was a professional endeavor
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  Speaker 2: I turned. I retired as an attorney, and I put
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  Speaker 2: all my professional life baseball to a child's baseball.
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  Speaker 3: But how'd that work out for you?
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  Speaker 2: Well? He played one year, you played one semester of college.
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  Speaker 2: She got up to the college level.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I thought it was pretty good. And I've written a
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  Speaker 2: screenplay about that experience, which I think is it's fabulous
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  Speaker 2: turning into something. You know, it's a cautionary tale to
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  Speaker 2: all your parents out there who right think that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you live vicariously through your kids or whatever, which is
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  Speaker 2: not a good thing to do necessarily.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. But then on top of it, like my kids
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  Speaker 3: used to travel for soccer and rock claiming and baseball,
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  Speaker 3: and our guest today is traveling all over the place.
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  Speaker 2: At the zach And Theater, they were in the Christmas Carol,
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  Speaker 2: didn't they stay up late? And they didn't go.
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  Speaker 3: To suat an alarm? Pick them up in my pajamas,
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, oh boy, okay, well.
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  Speaker 2: A lot that was nothing compared to what our earth.
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  Speaker 3: That is so true. You were kind of I am
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  Speaker 3: a weak soul compared to this.
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  Speaker 2: You were slacking, you know.
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  Speaker 3: True story I think some of us are.
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  Speaker 2: Just trying to keep our kids alive until bedtime. But
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  Speaker 2: other moms out there are raising eleven year old guitar prodigies.
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  Speaker 2: They were going to meet that lady today. Michelle Melnick
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  Speaker 2: is the mom to Bay Melnick Virgallyino, who is absolutely
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  Speaker 2: crushing it on the guitar while still being a kid.
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  Speaker 2: He probably needs to be reminded to clean his room
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  Speaker 2: every once.
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  Speaker 1: In a while.
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  Speaker 2: I could be wrong. That's how it works sometime, because
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  Speaker 2: no matter how talented your child is, you are still
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  Speaker 2: a mom, and we want to hear all about it
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  Speaker 2: from Michelle herself. Welcome, Michelle, Welcome to the Mom's Club.
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  Speaker 1: II, thank you so much, Thank you for having me.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much. Well, so, I've had the privilege
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  Speaker 2: of seeing Bee perform. Now Bay, just to give our
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  Speaker 2: audience a little background, he was on America's Got Talent
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  Speaker 2: I think it was season twenty and he performed and
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  Speaker 2: he's just I can't even describe how great he is.
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  Speaker 2: I mean he is he's eleven talent.
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  Speaker 3: He's eleven eleven Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I mean if you had told me, well he's actually thirty,
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  Speaker 2: he just looks like an eleven year old, I'd be like, oh, okay,
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  Speaker 2: he's that good. So tell us how all this started.
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  Speaker 2: Tell us how he started playing the guitar, Like, where
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  Speaker 2: did this all start?
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  Speaker 1: Well, so, I mean, I guess it started musically way
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  Speaker 1: before he started actually playing guitar. He just he was
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  Speaker 1: really I'm a huge fan of live music and music
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  Speaker 1: in general, and I had it on all the time.
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  Speaker 1: And we have a house. We live in the city,
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  Speaker 1: but we have a house sixty miles north, and so
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  Speaker 1: we were in the car driving back and forth to
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  Speaker 1: this house every weekend and stuff like that. We'd be
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  Speaker 1: in the car and we would be rocking out. And
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  Speaker 1: he compiled. By the age of two, he had a
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  Speaker 1: two hundred and fifty song playlist of songs that he loved,
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  Speaker 1: and he would fortually'd like play him over and over again.
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of them were like my favorite songs,
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  Speaker 1: or they used to be until he made me play
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  Speaker 1: them over and over and over again. And I didn't
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  Speaker 1: understand what was happening, Like I was just like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to play it again, and he's and then
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  Speaker 1: he explained to me in you know, the way that
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  Speaker 1: you were translating your kid's vocabulary at two, he was saying, here,
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  Speaker 1: mimmy drums, guitar, bass, you know, like he was trying
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  Speaker 1: to understand how they put it all together, and he
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  Speaker 1: was identifying the components of it. And at that moment,
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  Speaker 1: I realized that we weren't on the same page like I,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I he wasn't just a spectator in some way.
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  Speaker 1: He was on the other side of it, but he
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  Speaker 1: just hadn't gone there yet. So I knew he was
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  Speaker 1: gonna be musical. And if you met him at that age,
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  Speaker 1: you would know he was going to be performative because
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  Speaker 1: he was just like a lot of an effort into
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  Speaker 1: charming the pants out of everyone. Bye By when he
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  Speaker 1: was three, he became really obsessed with the song, like
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  Speaker 1: more than all the other songs, Uh, Rocky Me Baby
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  Speaker 1: by Steve Miller band, and we called him Bebear and
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  Speaker 1: so he thought it was Rocky Me bea Bear, and
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  Speaker 1: he thought it was his song, and so he like
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  Speaker 1: you know, memorized it. It was obsessed with like air
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  Speaker 1: guitar it. And then he asked us when he three,
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  Speaker 1: to take lessons so that he can learn how to
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  Speaker 1: play the guitar for this song. And then the day
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  Speaker 1: after he turned four, he took his first lesson, and
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  Speaker 1: very shortly after that he fell in love with Slash
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  Speaker 1: from Guns and Roses. And then it was all Slash
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  Speaker 1: all the time for quite a few years. And he
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  Speaker 1: still is still like you know, considered the Slash, you know,
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  Speaker 1: his idol. And he got to both meet and play
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  Speaker 1: with Slash.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, had to be a huge What was that meeting? Like,
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I'm obsessed with Slash too. I was Slash
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  Speaker 3: you can see by my hair for Halloween in college.
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  Speaker 3: So when I heard that, I was like, I'd love
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  Speaker 3: to hear what you the special relationship they had, I'm
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  Speaker 3: sure he was beyond words Slash. Yeah, I mean, So.
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  Speaker 1: When Bay was on America's Got Talent on his so
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  Speaker 1: he he recorded his audition in March by it aired
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  Speaker 1: in July, I think and uh and that was a
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  Speaker 1: song by Lenny Kravitz. And so he played this song
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  Speaker 1: and and it's funny for all the years that they
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  Speaker 1: literally learned every song this Slash has ever played. It
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  Speaker 1: was a song that Slash didn't play that got his attention,
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  Speaker 1: and he DMed Bay and and and in the interview
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  Speaker 1: on the you know, in the lead up to him
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  Speaker 1: playing the audition, he mentioned how he was obsessed with
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  Speaker 1: Slash and so yeah, Slash DMed him and just said
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  Speaker 1: great job and you know, thanks for the shout out.
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  Speaker 1: And it was and we didn't see it for a week.
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  Speaker 1: We the message came in and we were just getting
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  Speaker 1: so inundated with messages that I didn't see it for
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  Speaker 1: a week. And then when I found it, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: my son is going to disown and uh. But we
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  Speaker 1: wrote back and he was just lovely and he you know,
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  Speaker 1: wrote him back again and then a couple of so
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  Speaker 1: that was like yeah, August maybe or September and then uh,
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  Speaker 1: and then he was playing in Soho Sessions and the
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  Speaker 1: when the founders of Soho Sessions was sent a video
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  Speaker 1: of Bay in January, like ten days before the Soho
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  Speaker 1: Sessions that Joe Banamasa and Slash were going to be playing.
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  Speaker 1: And Greg Williamson, uh so, one of the co friends
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  Speaker 1: is just like just the patron saint of everything right now.
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  Speaker 1: Like it was just really amazing. We had a great conversation.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, I don't know what I can do, but
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  Speaker 1: let me see, let me see what I can do,
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  Speaker 1: and uh, you know, and and he made it happen.
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  Speaker 1: He and so Bee got to play with Joe Bamasa
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  Speaker 1: and Slash, Yeah, ten minute rendition of the Thrill Is
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  Speaker 1: Gone and soloing back and forth with them. And he
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  Speaker 1: got to meet him obviously before, you know, in the
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  Speaker 1: green room before that happened, and Slash like, people say,
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  Speaker 1: don't meet your idols, It's so not true. Slash was
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  Speaker 1: even more sweet and jen and humble. Then everyone says
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  Speaker 1: he is, like he has a reputation for being he's
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  Speaker 1: just a good guy, and he has that reputation, and
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  Speaker 1: he's soft spoken and he's just really authentic and amazing.
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  Speaker 1: But he was like that times ten. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't tell you it was the most amazing meeting ever.
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  Speaker 1: Like it's just you know, Bey was so I mean,
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  Speaker 1: he couldn't love this man more. You know, he's just
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  Speaker 1: so amazing and so kind and so generous.
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  Speaker 3: I bet as a mom you loved that. How authentic
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  Speaker 3: his mentor was. I mean, that's got a you know
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  Speaker 3: what I mean really boost.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I think, you know, I think that a lot
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  Speaker 1: of the people that they wants to emulate or considers
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  Speaker 1: heroes are pretty good guys, you know, and and girls
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  Speaker 1: by the way. I mean, there are a lot of women,
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  Speaker 1: you know, amazing women guitarists too, but he he doesn't
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  Speaker 1: tend to be fascinated by divas. He you know, like
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  Speaker 1: he's a real musician. He considers himself like real musician
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  Speaker 1: and he sees that and other people. In fact, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: Slash is his idol, but he just met him. But
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  Speaker 1: he's being mentored by Kiko Lereo, who's the Frammy winning
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  Speaker 1: ex Megadeath guitarist for the last year. And he's like
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  Speaker 1: a legitimate mentor. And he's the coolest, most down to earth,
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  Speaker 1: most just amazing guy. And he has these you know,
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  Speaker 1: he really even though he's like a metal guitarist, he's
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  Speaker 1: like steeped in theory and all of this. And he's
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  Speaker 1: guy today who's a blues and rock guitarist to like
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  Speaker 1: learn jazz. So he's learning all sort of all the
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  Speaker 1: jazz players. He's learning Joe Pass And yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Did any of these did any of them mention how
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  Speaker 2: they how really they started playing the guitar, Like three
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  Speaker 2: seems a little early, but I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Think he goes started later. I think I don't remember exactly,
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  Speaker 1: maybe fourteen, and uh, Slash I think was a teenager also,
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  Speaker 1: like you know around that time, I mean, you know,
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  Speaker 1: there's such a different You're talking about generations where the
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  Speaker 1: resources are so different, right, I mean you know they
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  Speaker 1: Bey had had teachers, like qualified teachers, and uh, there
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  Speaker 1: was a gap because of COVID of like you know,
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  Speaker 1: for a year. So like he took his first lessons
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  Speaker 1: when he was four, and then there was like a
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  Speaker 1: gap for about a year where he was just learning
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  Speaker 1: online and like learning by ear and picking riffs together.
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  Speaker 1: But but right before he turned six, he started working
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  Speaker 1: with a great teacher who was like, here's the foundation,
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  Speaker 1: here are the scales, here's what you gotta do, here's
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  Speaker 1: the here's the real root. If you want to if
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  Speaker 1: you want to be great, you got to know this stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And that's when he really excluded. That's when it went
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  Speaker 1: from playing some riffs and like things that you could
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  Speaker 1: hear my ear, but to literally playing entire songs. And
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  Speaker 1: and then the day he turned seven, he performed live
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  Speaker 1: for the first time, singing and playing guitar with a band.
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  Speaker 3: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I'm thinking to all you moms out there
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  Speaker 2: who have three year olds right now, can you imagine
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  Speaker 2: your three year old telling you, yeah, I want to
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  Speaker 2: pick up this, and yeah, I think I want I
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  Speaker 2: think I want to play this incredibly. I mean that, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that he is obviously prodigy. I mean yes, but what
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  Speaker 2: was your role in when he was three or four?
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  Speaker 2: As you said, when four he was learning online? Obviously,
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  Speaker 2: maybe he's also really good at computer stuff too, but
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  Speaker 2: did he did you, like, were you helping him along
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  Speaker 2: the way yourself? I mean, you're even lessons, but were
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  Speaker 2: you also actively involved in this or was he just so.
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  Speaker 1: No? I mean, I don't have the skill set. I
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  Speaker 1: have an mfan fiction. I don't have the skill set
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  Speaker 1: to to really help him. My job is really providing resource.
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  Speaker 1: And and when by started to obviously by the time
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  Speaker 1: Bay was like, I don't know five turning six, it
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  Speaker 1: was very obvious that he was achieving things at a
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  Speaker 1: different pace than perhaps other kids his age or his
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  Speaker 1: interest is so his passion and all the rest of that.
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  Speaker 1: And so I started doing a lot of research to
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  Speaker 1: understand because I think prodigy is sort of a myth,
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  Speaker 1: and the research sort of weighs that out that there
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  Speaker 1: are that for kids too, And it doesn't matter really
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  Speaker 1: whether it's chess or guitar or you know, gymnastics. There
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  Speaker 1: are three major things that children who are highly successful
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: and success is a tricky word, but are achieving things
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  Speaker 1: at a rapid rate that you maybe not expect. There
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  Speaker 1: are three components and the first component is having some
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  Speaker 1: kind of caregiver who validates. That's like the most important thing.
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  Speaker 1: So whoever it is Stephen King's mom paid them five
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  Speaker 1: cents for each story, whatever it is, that shows value,
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  Speaker 1: that you value what your child is doing, right, So
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  Speaker 1: that's that first thing, that validation, and you can provide resources.
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  Speaker 1: That's like a major component, right, and that you don't
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  Speaker 1: have to be rich. We're not. You don't have to
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  Speaker 1: be whatever, but you have to Validation and resources are
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  Speaker 1: extremely important for anyone who's trying to learn things, you know.
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  Speaker 1: The second thing is and it's probably the first thing
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  Speaker 1: that they have to have the kind of passion to
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  Speaker 1: put to their ten thousand hours in because the practice
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  Speaker 1: is you don't get anywhere without being able to do
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  Speaker 1: that practice. But the third thing is is that and
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  Speaker 1: this ties into the resources, is that they have a
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  Speaker 1: feedback loop. So they have instruction that not only like
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  Speaker 1: his teachers did taught them a found a real foundation
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  Speaker 1: to what they were supposed to be doing, but also
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  Speaker 1: like corrected them when they were doing things that that
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  Speaker 1: aren't going to serve them right. And it's amazing, especially
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  Speaker 1: for these young kids, how important that is because if
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  Speaker 1: you're if you think of any of these one three,
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  Speaker 1: these three components, if they don't have validation and support,
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  Speaker 1: it's probably going to take them a very long time
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  Speaker 1: to be able to figure out how to get their
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  Speaker 1: needs met right. If they don't have the passion to
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  Speaker 1: put that time in it, they'll never succeed because they
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  Speaker 1: need they need to be able to do that. The
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  Speaker 1: third thing, though, is is that if they're just learning
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  Speaker 1: off the internet and there's no one telling them like
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  Speaker 1: this is this is like what you should be doing,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to have like Swiss cheese knowledge. And that
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  Speaker 1: means that no matter how much time you spend, a
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  Speaker 1: good portion of that is going to be going to waste, right,
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  Speaker 1: it's not going to be effective. And the other part
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  Speaker 1: of of that feedback loop is for people who know
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  Speaker 1: better to be able to push you to the edge.
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  Speaker 1: So for kids who were really succeeding, they're constantly pushing
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  Speaker 1: to the edge of what their ability is are. And so,
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  Speaker 1: for instance, when Bey, who was already a pretty proficient guitarist,
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  Speaker 1: when he started working with Kikoing and somewhere in there
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  Speaker 1: he started keep you know, guiding him to start learning jazz.
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  Speaker 1: Like they would melt down. He was like, I can't
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  Speaker 1: do this, and then he would work his way through
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  Speaker 1: it and then he would start running again. And that
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  Speaker 1: speed bump experience that where you realize that you know
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  Speaker 1: you in It corrects your ego and it corrects whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, for kids like Bey, he's just like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, maybe I don't know what I'm doing right.
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  Speaker 1: But then he works through it and then he learns,
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  Speaker 1: and then that confidence builds and then he has that
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  Speaker 1: in his toolbox. But without that process, without someone and
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  Speaker 1: saying you know and knowing him well enough to know
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  Speaker 1: where those things should be. Because there's tons of people
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  Speaker 1: out there that will give you advice, but this is
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  Speaker 1: advice from someone who knows Bee and knows what he's
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  Speaker 1: trying to achieve and wants him to be the best
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  Speaker 1: guitarist that ever lived and is a rock star in
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  Speaker 1: his own right, and so he you know, he understands
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: that stuff. So I feel like, you know, the idea
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: that he's born with it, I think is that's probably
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: not very true. And I think any kid can do
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: anything that they want to.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: When I was I've been writing a book for a
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: while but still shorting get a screenplay about my experience
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: as doing the baseball team. And I talked to you
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: professor at the University of Texas who said, you know, statistically,
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: kids quit whatever they were doing when they're younger, at
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: about twelve or thirteen. A lot of it is because
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: their parents were pushing them and they got burned out
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: and didn't like it. It's the kids who really, since
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: it's in them, they have to want to do it.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: So I mean, if you've seen that yourself, like, how
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: much did you ever have to tell him, babe, you've
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: got to go practice.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that was my question.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: I don't have to tell pay to pick up the guitar,
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: and I don't have to tell him to. I mean,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: he's very like, he'll put up he'll he'll come home,
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: pick up the guitar, put on the backing track, and
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: start jamming and doing all sorts of stuff. He writes music,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: and so it's all very self motivated as far as
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: that's concerned. But like he's a kid like any else,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: he doesn't want to do scales because is boring, Like
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: he doesn't want to do the boring stuff. And and
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: bringing it back to Kiko, like Ken knows that, you know,
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: he knows that he doesn't want to sit there and
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: do it scales and whatever. But then what happens is
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: he you know, learns these new scales and these new
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: moods and and so and so forth, and then he
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: sees what he can do because he's now learned it,
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: and then you know, it forces him back. But as
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: far as a regiment regimented like practice the way that
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: you know you would say, okay, this is your homework,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: this is what you need to do, you know, Pay's
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: not like that. And so he's sort of so that
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: type of stuff. And and he's a singer, you know,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: who's trying to you know, his guitar skills are up
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: here and his singing is probably over here, and we're
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: trying to close that gap. And that requires you know,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: doing warm up and you know, all the rest of
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: the stuff so that he at this age pre pebescent,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: can have as much control over his voice and then
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: navigate through that as you know, as he's hitting puberty
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: and stuff like that, and and you know, like getting
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: him to do those things. So I always say to him, Chick,
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: this is your this is your game. So I'm not
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: gonna I do everything else. I'm not going to remind
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: you that this is what you need to do to
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: achieve the things you want to do. And I've always
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: said to him like, this is your ride. The second
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: you don't want to do this, I get my life back.
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So you into a really good topic because this
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: is inside the mom's club. Let's talk about how you
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: do this.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: Speak a little bit his momager, Yeah, and his mom.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: So if you're not seeing a message from Slash for
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: a week, are you the only person that is processing
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: these messages? Booking, traveling? I mean, how do you? How
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: do you manage all of this? I mean I was
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: watching your son and he's so well spoken, and people
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: are going to be wanting him all over the place,
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: you know as his album comes out. So speak to
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: your life a little bit. How do you handle all this?
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: I wish I could tell you that I have the
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: secret sauce on how to do it. All The truth
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: is is that it's like being hit by a truck,
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: like I don't. I don't know my name most of
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: the time. I don't like I really like it's you know,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: I'm a writer, and you know, sort of got sucked
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: into his dad opened a technology consulting company when we
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: had our first mortgage, like lace twenty five years ago.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: And because everyone in my family and everyone surrounded me
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: were business owners, it was more intuitive for me to
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: get sucked into the business and take care of all
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: the stuff, you know, take care of the people and
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: the insurance and so on and so forth. And so
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: we've been partners in that. And I would I used
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: to be able to like sneak away, for I would
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: do everything that was necessarily and sneak away for two
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: weeks and do nothing but right, and then you know,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: be able to at least get a draft done or
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: whatever it was I was doing. And I burned those
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: candles at birth ends for probably about ten years, way
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: before Bay came along. And then I had gotten diagnosed
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: with a rare order mean disease, and it had a
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: tough year and I stopped rating because it was just
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: like a brutal, brutal year. And then I got better
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: and I got pregnant, so and so I was like,
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna go
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: right back to what I was doing and so and so.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: But as you know, the second you have a kid,
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: that's you know, so we have a business that we're running,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: and I have a kid, and I'm recovering from you know,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: a tough you know, health issue. And then I started
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: getting back to my writing. I want to say Bay.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: It was like like maybe Bay was six uh set yeah,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: something around like seven maybe, and so he was starting
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: to do everything he was doing, but I could still
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: like stay up really late and you know, get start
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: getting work done. And I just started to get well,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: this worked, and I was kind of excited that I
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: was getting I was gonna I was gonna juggle it all.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: And then two things happened. Bay's career took off, like
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: he was the first year. I mean, by the time
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: he was eight, he played in three countries, uh seven cities.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: You know, he's booked for the first time at the
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: bitter end. The conversation started when he was seven, but
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: his book when he was eight, and so right before
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: his first show, like his first and his him and
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: when I say him, I mean him in a band.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: You know, his first show, I was diagnosed with breast cancer.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: So I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I kept it
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: from him until after the show and then told him
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: and just said, you know, I'm not going anywhere. I
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: might not look so hot, you know, I might not
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: feel so hot, I might not look you know, look
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: so hot, but I'm gonna I'm not going anywhere. And
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: with the exception of not being able to go to
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: his shows in London, I was able to just keep
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: pushing through. I had a tremendous amount of support and
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: love and uh and his dad and his dad's parents, like,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: we're right there the whole time we were going through this.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: But he he just his life just got more and
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: more and more and he just you know, just got
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: just his life swelled. And so the truth is is
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: that I never I was never able to go back
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: to writing, you know, and I will. I will one day.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: But the reality of being a mom is that, you know,
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: like I said, I had an MFA in fiction. I
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: was a writer. I didn't have the parents that did
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: all those things that I listed for Bey. They didn't
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: do that for me. And that's a very difficult thing
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: if you're a literary writer, because you make no money
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: and and so and so forth, you need a decent
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: amount of support in some way or another. When I
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: saw that Bey was heading into an artistic proceed it
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: wasn't just a matter of being a mom and sacrificing
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: because of the sake of that. It was also that
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: I did not want him to struggle to do the
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: things that he loved the way that I struggled lifelong.
• 25:40
  Speaker 5: You know.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: You did, Yeah, exactly.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: And it is you know, you want as a mother
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: to be to be the best mother that you possibly can,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: and I know what that's like not to have that,
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: And so I would say that I'm not thrilled about
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: the fact that my needs are not necessarily but I
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: think that's part of being a mom is being like, Okay,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: this is I'm going to figure out my way through this,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: but right now, my kid comes first because he can't
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: do for himself.
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: I've read some of your writings that this is going
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: to come for you all in due time, and Bay's
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: going to thank her when he wins a Grammy, uh
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: for everything that she has.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: And I think we start a mom's club mom of
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: the Year Award. We certainly have a candidate, right yes, absolutely, yeah, absolutely.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: Now he also plays soccer, right yeah.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: He got to play with FC Darsa in Barcelona when
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: he was eight.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: I mean it's pretty hard. I will say though that
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: much to his coaches, sugar in here, you know, his
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: music definitely comes first, and so you know, he you know,
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: I like to think that the soccer provides a really
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: nice counterbalance for him because he has a band of
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: brothers and a sister who's in the who's in his
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: you know that he's been playing with for and a
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: lot of the kids he's been playing with he's known
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: for since he was two or three or four years old,
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: So so he needs that's.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: But I would also say that these kids are really competitive,
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: and when you can't put the same amount of time
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: in with practice and stuff like that, then you're not
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: as sharp, and you know, you're not getting as many
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: goals and you're not so and so forth. So like,
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: on one hand, I think it's a really good counterbalance.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: On the other hand, it's like it's a little frustrated,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: right because you want to sort of go to this
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: place where you don't have as much stress, but because
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: of how competitive he is, he still has the stress
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: over there too.
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and what year is he in college? I know
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: he's a fifth grader? Held, is what grade is he in?
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's in fifth grade?
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: And is here mainstream school or do you homeschool him?
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: Or he's been in he's been in private school since
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: he was in kindergarten.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Our flexibility does it not.
• 28:02
  Speaker 5: Well?
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: At the time? You know what it was the reason
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: that we did and had nothing to do with any
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: of the music at the time. It was that he
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: he was born January fourth, and so he just missed
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: New York City is like really rigid, and he had
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: just missed the deadline. So he should have been the
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: year ahead, but they wouldn't put him a year ahead,
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: and so it started. It created a dynamic that was
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: difficult because he wasn't he wasn't he wasn't able to
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: work at his potential and the G and T program
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: that he tested into wouldn't have started for another year.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: And so we're in COVID and and he really like
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: he'd like deteriorated, like he he came into like reading,
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: he came into like the four PK reading and the
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: teachers wouldn't teach him, and so at that point we
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: were like, Okay, we have to get back up to speed,
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: and we did so with private instructors and so at
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: that point he started moving into a private school. And
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: so when he could have started and stayed in mainstream,
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: I wasn't going to take the chance again. So he's
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: been in private school.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: We have some moms here who have a lot of
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: questions for you, and probably more than the average group
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: of Zoomer moms because there is a lot here. So
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: welcome zoomer moms. Welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: Hi.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: I am going to introduce each one of you and
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: tell us your name, where you're from, a little bit
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: about yourself, and you've have a question for Michelle Eve.
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: Welcome to the Mom's Club. Hi.
• 29:31
  Speaker 6: Yes, I am from Selina's, California, a mom of a
• 29:39
  Speaker 6: young man who is brilliant on the computer. He's my
• 29:43
  Speaker 6: tech support. And what I do is I DJ for
• 29:47
  Speaker 6: a living and very very busy and done a lot
• 29:53
  Speaker 6: of work in LA celebrity events, private parties, corporate events,
• 29:59
  Speaker 6: things like that. So I'm hearing Michelle speak about her
• 30:02
  Speaker 6: son and my head is doing this like, you know,
• 30:06
  Speaker 6: like I can just picture a moment she mentioned he
• 30:09
  Speaker 6: was learning blues, you know, and I'm listening to everything
• 30:14
  Speaker 6: she's saying, and I'm getting excited because I could already see,
• 30:19
  Speaker 6: like this young man Bee is going to be amazing,
• 30:23
  Speaker 6: Like he's already amazing, but he's going to be one
• 30:27
  Speaker 6: of those artists like when you think of me, think
• 30:31
  Speaker 6: of someone for example, BB King, like everyone he's the King, right,
• 30:37
  Speaker 6: That's what I think. And Bey is so young, he's
• 30:40
  Speaker 6: a fifth grader and he's already this talented and gifted,
• 30:45
  Speaker 6: and that's what it is. It's a gift because not
• 30:49
  Speaker 6: a you know, anyone could take a guitar lesson, it's
• 30:52
  Speaker 6: not the same. When you have someone that has it
• 30:55
  Speaker 6: in their spirit and their soul they shine. It's different
• 31:00
  Speaker 6: and and you know you can see it. There's just
• 31:03
  Speaker 6: something different. And just hearing Michelle speak about it, it
• 31:07
  Speaker 6: just it makes me so happy to see a fresh
• 31:12
  Speaker 6: young generation coming. So here's my question. When Bay writes
• 31:16
  Speaker 6: his songs, do you help him write the songs? And
• 31:21
  Speaker 6: if you do, what is your input with that?
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: It's actually a really good question. So Bey has been
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: composing instrumentally for a while, and he's recorded, we're just
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: started recording some of his own songs. But when it
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: comes to being able to articulate, so he can articulate
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: himself through his guitar really well and through the tonality
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: of his voice, but he can't. He's not at a
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: point where where he can articulate using the words to
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: get across what he's looking for. And so he usually
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: starts by like throwing some ideas and words at May
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: and then because I'm a writer, I go and write
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: the lyrics and bring him back to him and we
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: work through it so until he's in a position where
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: he can, you know, fully articulate the things that he's
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: trying to, you know, to his vision. He uses me.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: And you are a writer, you could be the next
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: Lennon and McCartney. Now you could just go forward and
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: just keep it going. Lisa, welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: Tell us a little bit about yourself and do you
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: have a question for Michelle.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: Hi.
• 32:33
  Speaker 7: Yes, I'm I'm Lisa, the co founder of the nonprofit
• 32:37
  Speaker 7: Kids Rock for Kids, where Bay has performed with us
• 32:40
  Speaker 7: since he was eight years old here in New York City.
• 32:43
  Speaker 7: It's been a true pleasure. We provide safe, collaborative spaces
• 32:50
  Speaker 7: for young musicians. We've worked with over eight hundred musicians
• 32:53
  Speaker 7: since we started, and we provide professional stages and mentorship
• 32:58
  Speaker 7: and most importantly can unity our kids. My kids need
• 33:03
  Speaker 7: this now more than ever there. You know, we have
• 33:06
  Speaker 7: so many kids who talk about feeling isolated and they're
• 33:10
  Speaker 7: on their phones, and you know, having dealt with COVID
• 33:14
  Speaker 7: and lockdown, especially in New York City, that was really
• 33:16
  Speaker 7: hard on kids. And you know, we work with kids
• 33:20
  Speaker 7: ages pretty much like nine to nineteen who are passionate
• 33:24
  Speaker 7: and dedicated about music and often don't have kids at
• 33:27
  Speaker 7: the same level to play with. So we provide a
• 33:30
  Speaker 7: community of kindred spirits. And I mean over the past
• 33:34
  Speaker 7: three years is Bay has played with probably over like
• 33:37
  Speaker 7: twenty to thirty musicians from our community, and the community
• 33:42
  Speaker 7: is always growing. We're always interested in talking with new
• 33:45
  Speaker 7: parents who are interested in getting involved. We talked to
• 33:48
  Speaker 7: kids in the New York City area, around the country,
• 33:51
  Speaker 7: around the globe. The one question I have is do
• 33:55
  Speaker 7: you have specific advice or sayings in helping Bay deal
• 33:59
  Speaker 7: with situations that are difficult for him, like disappointments, whether
• 34:04
  Speaker 7: it's like how he felt about a performance or not
• 34:08
  Speaker 7: advancing in a competitive situation that he's faced.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: So I think that the answer to that is really
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: kidous communication, you know, And honestly, you know, like he
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: we're not in a lot of you know, like obviously
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: he's a lot of competitive things when he plays soccer,
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: but he has a whole team that's bummed if they live.
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: But when he he's really hard on himself, and so
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: he'll leave any of his performances and be like, did
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: I did I sing well enough? Did I?
• 34:40
  Speaker 6: You know?
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: Did I did everything I was supposed to do? And he,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: you know, part of I think being so driven is perfectionism.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: And so when you look at the aspects that are
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: causing suffering and what you're trying to sort of navigate through,
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: like we try to keep reminding him it's like per
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: progress over perfection, like were you better than you were before?
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: Did you handle this better than you did before? Like,
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: because it's so easy to get into this arbitrary thing
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: where you're not. No one's perfect and he's never going
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: to be perfect, and it's his imperfections and his authenticity
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: that matter. It's not that he was able to hit
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: this note or that note or whatever it is. And so,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: but when you're thinking about something like AGT for instance,
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: he knew he didn't make it through the semifinals, Like
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: after the semifinal competition, he knew he didn't make it
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: to the finals. His gut told him like, and he
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: was picking up all these things, and so we didn't
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: know for sure, but his gut told him like because
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: of things that had happened, that he thought that he
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: wasn't going to make it through. And so I was like, okay, well,
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: what if that's true, what happens? What do we do?
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: And we spent the good part of that day processing
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: through it, so that when it actually happened, there was
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: a little bit of disappointment, but he had already processed
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: through it and he was ready to move on to
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: the next step of whatever he was going to do.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: He's really resilient, and it is a gift. I want
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: to say, if he's gifted with anything, it's with that
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: kind of resilience, because he doesn't he doesn't crumble with adversity,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and he has other things that he had
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  Speaker 1: adversity do with you. You know, he has been health
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: issues and so and so forth, and in everything that
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: he sort of had to deal with. It's the resilience
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: that got him through.
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  Speaker 3: But you make it very light to Bay and to
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: me you say, well what if? Because you know it
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  Speaker 3: just is an opportunity to go a different path or
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: do another opportunity opens. That's how I feel.
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  Speaker 2: Laura, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little
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  Speaker 2: bit about yourself and do you have a question for Michelle.
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  Speaker 5: So my name is Laura McDonald. I live in New
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  Speaker 5: York City. Fun fact, I used to play in many
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  Speaker 5: rock and roll bands, myself, bass guitar. Where do you
• 37:06
  Speaker 5: ultimately see him like as as a slash like a
• 37:11
  Speaker 5: great guitar player, or him having his.
• 37:13
  Speaker 4: Own band and he's singing leads, he's making albums, he's
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: produced and then he goes the branches off to produce
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: other artists. Is that all in the kitten kaboodle of
• 37:26
  Speaker 4: what you envisioned for him?
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  Speaker 1: So? Bey has been since the very first time that
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: he performed live when he turned seven, he has been
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: the front the lead vocalist and lead guitarist of his
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: band and the band called the Only Bay All Stars
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: and by is the only band that is where he
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: that is his sweet spot. He is. He is he
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: is when he writes, it's to everything that he does
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  Speaker 1: is by design that he that's the position that he holds.
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  Speaker 1: He has no interest in being a rhythm guitarist or
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: he has no interest in and he and you know,
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: in the band that he's been playing with, they're called
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: the All Stars for a reason because he brings in
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: all these amazing other musicians. And there he brings in singers.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: But if he has, you know, a ninety minute show,
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: he'll be singing seventy minutes of that. So and yeah, yeah, so,
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  Speaker 1: I mean that's what he's looking to do. I don't
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: I doubt very highly that he would get very interested
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  Speaker 1: in producing other people. I think he's very fulfilled. And
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: it seems like this is his path. He hasn't deviated
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: much from the beginning. This is the way he's always been,
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: and this is where he seems very very comfortable.
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: If he were to wake up one day and say,
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: you know, I think I want to go to law school,
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: would you be surprised and or disappointed?
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  Speaker 1: Like, I mean, oh, I you know what, I don't
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  Speaker 1: really care. I mean, as far as I'm concerned, anything
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  Speaker 1: that he wants to do and that makes him happy
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: and he's healthy. I'm good with, Like, I really I
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: if it means that we get to just chill out
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: and go there, like I will tell you the thing
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: I missed because we you know, we just went to
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: see Marcus King last night and who's just a lovely
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: human being. And we were speaking to him afterwards, and
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: Marcus King's a huge, huge influence on Bay. Bay studies
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: him like he's he's really just next level. And I said,
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: on the way there, I'm like, would it be nice though,
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: if we does. Scott's got to say, go to see
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: a show where Bige's professional connection to whoever it is
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: is irrelevant, Like, wouldn't that be great if we don't
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: have to like go up and meet him, because I
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: have no interest in meeting anyone like ge know what
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, so, uh, yes, if he I would
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: be shocked if he wanted to be a lawyer. But
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: but but I would not be disappointed. I'd be like, Okay, cool,
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: that's good.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think he's.
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  Speaker 2: Sure he would be a good lawyer too. Sounds like
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: he would be great anything because he has the right
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: drive and the and the attitude and everything so I
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: think that's great and I want to thank especially I
• 40:16
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  Speaker 3: I mean, Woodlock is very special. They also provide us
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• 40:44
  Speaker 2: So we love you, absolutely love them. Well, Michelle, where.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: Can we tell us what's coming up? I know something
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: big is happening for bed. We're gonna forget law school
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: right now.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: Tell us real quick thing. Note, Julie and I talked
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: for years about being taking guitar lessons together. Do you
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: think Bay could take a little short like get us
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: started anyway?
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: That's a song with the basics.
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: The basics.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, tell us where we can find I'm so Bay.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Is so we're really looking forward to Bay's band is
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: releasing uh one of they're singles called break It Down.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: That's going to be the next couple of weeks that's
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: going to be released, and they're going to be playing,
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: as we mentioned, at Beach Live Festival, which is a huge,
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: huge deal. Before that helped me at Lunch Festival in Pennsylvania.
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: So they're playing both two nights of I think their
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: three nights. I think they have a three night festival
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: and their Bays band is playing two nights of that festival.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: And so yeah, like those are those are the things
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  Speaker 1: we're looking forward to. Hopefully everyone will go and listen
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: to his song break It Down when it gets released
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: and and go out to you know, one of these
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: festivals and go rock out with him. But you can
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: always go to his website at the Onlybay dot com
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: events and see all the different events that he has
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: across the country, and it would be great to see them.
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'll see you. You're rocking out too, all
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: up front.
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: The other night. Yeah, you're you'res number one fan absolutely
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: and you're you're amazing as.
• 42:17
  Speaker 3: We say here, yes, very much said, I.
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: Cannot believe we've just it just goes by so fast.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: I'm smiling because that was so joyful to hear everybody was.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: And Julie, you're gonna have to take me over to
• 42:28
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• 42:31
  Speaker 2: and the ice cream is calorie free. I think, oh no, no,
• 42:36
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• 42:37
  Speaker 3: It's free. It's not calorie free. Yeah, come on, okay, yeah.
• 42:41
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  Speaker 3: It's been an incredible show, and we think Michelle for
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• 43:00
  Speaker 2: Say like, I watched Bay and the Drummer. Oh my god,
• 43:04
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• 43:06
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• 43:32
  Speaker 2: what is our motto? Our motto here.
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: Is well today our motto?
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: Our motto is, what is our motto today?
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: Well? I mean, are you trying out chuckle overco oh?
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: No, wait, we got to start what it is first.
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: So our motto is if you don't laugh, sometimes you're
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: gonna cry. That is our long standing it's what we
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: stand for. But we really feel like it's important for
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: you moms out there to have something that you can
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: just take off the top of your head and carry
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: it with you everywhere. So now we have a new one.
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: It is chuckle or buckle. So if you're thinking, like
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: what a day this has been rough, just remember chuckle
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: or buckle, laugh or you'll lose it, you know. Let's
• 44:13
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• 44:15
  Speaker 2: inside the Mom's Club.