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Here Are 5 Types Of People That Narcissists Target · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what type of person does a narcissist typically pursue or
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  go after? That's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all. Five types of people that a
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  narcissist will pursue or go after death from the perspective
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  of a narcissist. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And what was another episode of The Narcissist Code?
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  So blam, blam. Welcome back, folks.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Yeah, yeah. What type of person, what type
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  of human does a narcissist go after?
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  That's the that's the question of today.
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  Well, Lee, I'll go and let you know right now.
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  Narcissists go after weak people.
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  Not so fast, Lee, I'll let you know right now to go off the
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  empathetic people. Not so fast.
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  Could those be true? And weak people is a very.
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  I don't like using the word weak.
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  It's just kind of. Yeah, there's different words we
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  could use other than weak, right?
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  But today I've compiled a list of five types of people that a
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  narcissist will go after. You got to stay to the end,
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  right? The first type of person is drum
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  roll. Jump roll.
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  Please. I need a video editor.
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  Yeah, 'cause I I wish I had drumroll sit right there.
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  But the first type of person is a strong person.
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  Lee, what the hell are you talking about?
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  Strong people, why they hear strong people won't go for
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  narcissist. You be surprised.
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  Strong people don't end up with narcissist.
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  You be surprised. Strong people would just know
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  with see through a narcissist BS quickly.
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  You be surprised, narcissistic people, including myself.
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  This is some some of this stuff on this list or it's going to go
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  for me. Like I love strong people.
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  I love strong women women. Oh goodness.
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  I don't know. It's just it's something about
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  them, right. That's why I think I've always
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  kind of been attracted to older women older than me because it's
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  just they had their stuff together and they were, you
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  know, they exuded this strength. It's just I don't know, I love I
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  love it. He's got a smiling now, just
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  there's a lot of people, when you hear these, the red pill
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  podcasters, like no man, no alpha, no alpha male would go
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  for an older woman. You shut the fuck up.
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  That's some weirdo shit, man, Seriously, that always has to
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  make me, you know, But seriously, that's how my mind
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  works. But it really is a lot of
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  narcissists do go after strong people because they, I, I'm
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  attracted to the strength. I don't know why.
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  It's just something about me. It's something about the people,
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  but narcissists go after strong people, you know it, It just
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  happens like sometimes if you like, because I can't think of
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  another word, the opposite of strength.
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  Sometimes people go after, sometimes narcissists do.
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  Sometimes narcissists end up with people who are the opposite
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  of strength, right? Who who lacked the strength,
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  they lack the strength. They end up with them, but they
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  treat, they just run over top of it and they bulldoze that type
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  of person, right? They bulldoze them and treat
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  them horribly. And sometimes they look, just
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  look at them like they're pathetic and they discard them
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  viciously. For a strong person, for a
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  person that has their stuff together.
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  It's kind of crazy how it works though, y'all?
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  So a lot of narcissists, narcissists will go after strong
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  people just for the hell of it, right?
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  The next type of person that I have now, right here, y'all is
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  vulnerable people. Yes, vulnerable people can be
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  targeted by narcissists. Now, could impacts or empathetic
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  people fall into this category? Yeah, this this subtype.
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  You could, right? You absolutely could.
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  A lot of people could fall into this subtype of vulnerable
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  people because you might be, when I say vulnerable, I mean
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  you could be grieving. You could be going through some
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  type of grief, you could be coming out of a relationship.
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  You could be sad, you could be unhappy.
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  You could be there's something going on.
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  You didn't get a job promotion. You're going out like your cat
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  passed away. Your dog ran off because, you
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  know, it's 4th of July and your dog ran off because they're
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  shooting fireworks and the neighbors are shooting fireworks
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  and your dog took off running and never came home.
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  Like that type of stuff does happen.
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  You see what I'm saying? So they do go after some people
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  who are extremely vulnerable. Vulnerable people end up with
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  narcissists all the time, you know, and a lot of times during
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  your, during this period of vulnerability, this narcissist
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  will be around you and they'll, he'll help, they'll help you get
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  through this time, this vulnerable time, right?
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  This time of do you need somebody?
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  They'll help you get through this time and it'll just make
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  you feel that'll make you feel weirder.
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  I promise you it will. It's one of the things that
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  happens where they'll help you get through the vulnerability,
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  get through this vulnerable time, and they'll shoot you
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  horribly. It's crazy how that works out.
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  The next type that I have written down right here before
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  we go to #3 out, if you haven't already, check out my new
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  course, Finding Your Why about how to heal from a narcissistic
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  abuse, abusive relationship. It's called finding your why.
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  It's available at mentalillness.net, mental
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  illness.net. But yes, so the third type,
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  thank you for sticking around is religious people.
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  Yo, Oh my goodness, boy, this when I go, when I, when I start
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  talking about religious people, so many people take this the
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  wrong way. They get rubbed the wrong way.
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  And I understand, I can understand it, right?
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  I get it. But religious people are targets
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  for narcissists because religious like this is not
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  y'all. I'm a religious person.
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  I'm more, I'm more spiritual, but I'm a religious person.
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  I'm a believer God. I'm not here where I'm at right
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  now without God, without the word of God.
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  I read the whole Bible. I'm not here without, without
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  God, right? So I know in this situation it's
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  going to be tough to understand. But like religious people, you
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  don't need physical proof that things exist.
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  You, you walk by faith, right? Walk by faith, not by sight,
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  right? So narcissists use that to their
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  advantage. You got to believe that I'm
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  going to change. You got to believe that God put
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  me here. God told me to come talk to you.
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  God said this. God said that.
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  You become an easy target for an abusive person when you're hyper
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  religious and you don't question anything, right?
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  Especially if this narcissistic person is a pseudo religious
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  themselves or, or, or a yeah they, they might, yeah, Somebody
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  that could be pastors. Your pastor could be a toxic,
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  abusive narcissist. Imagine how crazy they sound
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  right there. Your pastor is a narcissist.
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  Your pastor is abusive. Your pastor is a horrible human
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  being, right. Your pastor is a terrible
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  person. But I heard picking people off
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  from the church. The I just did a video on my
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  other channel, my reaction channel, where the pastor had a
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  side chick. The yeah, the pastor had a side
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  chick and the wife knew about it and she was helping him get
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  ready. So religious people are targeted
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  by narcissists cause narcissists, some narcissists
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  just target religion as a whole because of, you know, the, the
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  things about some of the things about religion that they like,
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  right? So religious people can
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  absolutely become a target for narcissistic abusive people.
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  The 4th I have right here is unavailable.
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  Unavailable people become targets for narcissists.
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  Believe. What the hell does that even
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  mean? Unavailable?
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  If you're unavailable, then you're not going to be with
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  anybody. That's incorrect.
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  You yourself could be in a relationship.
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  You yourself could be married. You yourself could be.
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  You know what I'm saying? It's just like sometimes they go
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  for people that are unavailable, like because they themselves are
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  technically unavailable. The only time I hear these,
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  these stories about people that are married, that narcissist
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  target. Yeah, sometimes I've, I've heard
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  these stories before where narcissists only target married
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  people because you have something to lose.
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  Like if I'm married and you're married, you have something to
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  lose. You're not going to tell my wife
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  because that'll ruin your life as well.
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  You're not going to tell your boyfriend because they'll ruin
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  your relationship. You're not going to tell your
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  girlfriend or whoever this situation might be.
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  You see what I'm saying? You're not going to tell your
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  husband. You're not going to tell your
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  wife because they will blow your own shit up.
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  So you're not going to say anything about me.
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  So your availability can't attract some narcissist.
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  Your availability is important right here, y'all.
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  So that's why I tell. I tell this to so many people.
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  You being available is absolutely important.
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  It really is. So it's just like as you keep
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  moving on, as things keep going forward, you have to understand
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  that your availability has could play a role in it.
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  You could be unavailable and a narcissist comes come and comes
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  and catches you while you're in a vulnerable state.
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  You see what I'm saying? You could be grieving and the
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  laws of a pet or something like that or something happens to
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  your family or your mom, but you married and the narcissist comes
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  there and you married to a narcissist.
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  Yeah, it's so many do moving pieces, but narcissist can
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  absolutely. And a lot of times we do target
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  unavailable people. I know everybody going,
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  everybody going to have something to say about this.
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  Like we'll leave if they're unavailable and they're
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  cheating. They're horrible people too.
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  Hey, we listen, we don't judge. I know people going to say like,
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  why y'all? If you're unavailable, you
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  shouldn't be doing the narcissist anyway.
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  Hey, manipulation works differently, doesn't it, y'all?
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  The last one I have written down y'all and if y'all have any,
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  let's say in the comment sections, drop.
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  What made you drop one of these? If you fall, if you fall into
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  one of these five categories, drop it in the comment section.
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  If you don't fall into one of these categories, drop why you
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  think they picked you, why you think they chose you, like what
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  type of person you are and why they went out to you.
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  The last one I got right here y'all is people close to them.
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  A lot of nurses go after slash target people that are close to
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  them, not just physically close to them.
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  Like not just yeah, proximity matters.
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  Like you can be close to me in proximity wise, right?
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  You can absolutely be close to me that way.
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  But when I say narcissists target close people, this is
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  their friends and people around them.
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  Like are you How many times when I'm doing my one on ones over
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  Zoom and whatnot, those are still my one on ones are still
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  available and mental illness.net as well.
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  Every time I've been doing my one on ones over Zoom and people
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  just would tell me they're just like well I started dating.
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  We we were friends for a long time and then we started dating.
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  We were friends. This is my cousin's my cousin's
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  best friend. This is my my brother's best
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  friend, my sister's best friend. Like y'all all have been around
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  each other for a while, so it is they're close proximity and
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  they're close to you relationship wise, right?
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  This could this person, you could already be around this
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  person for a while and y'all could be friends for a while.
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  Y'all could be dating other people, married to other people,
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  then just somehow become single at the same time.
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  Or they can pursue you while you're unavailable.
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  You can fall into two of these categories, 2 or more of these
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  categories, Y'all, you can be a strong person that's vulnerable
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  because you're going through something that's also
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  unavailable, that's also religious and that's close to
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  this person. You said you could fall into all
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  5 and they can get you, right? You'll be the perfect target.
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  They have to be 5 for five you, you can be 5 for five, right?
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  So it's just like sometimes your closeness to this person, this
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  is your friend or the family member or somebody like that,
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  that they could get you, right? Because I, when I say family
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  member, I don't mean any type of like pancestral, right?
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  I'm talking about like narcissist.
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  The narcissist is your family member and they target you
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  because you're a family. Like it's not always going to be
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  an intimate relationship, right? It can be friends, family
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  members, it can be cousins, brothers, sisters, aunts, Co
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  workers that you get targeted because you're close to them,
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  right? You know what I'm saying?
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  You're you're their child. Is this could be your parent,
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  your narcissist could be a parent.
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  You're close to them because you're their child.
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  You say proximity does matter, but also the relationship
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  dynamic as well, y'all. So I appreciate y'all tuning in
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  to this episode y'all, I hope you hope it brought you some
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