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- 0:01Speaker 1: It gets no better than this. You are now in
- 0:05Speaker 1: June to perspect Us with big.
- 0:10Speaker 2: Let's get straight to it.
- 0:11Speaker 3: We're not gonna love you till you love yourself. They're
- 0:13Speaker 3: not gonna support you till you support yourself. Make sure
- 0:16Speaker 3: you love yourself first. Always support yourself first. Be your
- 0:20Speaker 3: number one fan, your number one supporter.
- 0:22Speaker 2: Be selfish.
- 0:24Speaker 4: Hey, y'all, welcome to Perspectives live with Bank and Chanelle,
- 0:29Speaker 4: and we have our amazing guests here. We are at
- 0:32Speaker 4: the gallery Anderson Smith Art Gallery. Nice up here, y'all.
- 0:39Speaker 4: And you know, we brought the squad with us, so
- 0:42Speaker 4: we got Kodak in his Sunday best look at you,
- 0:47Speaker 4: look at you, and then we got my boot Jojo
- 0:51Speaker 4: fine and cute as eva. Hello, you said, and I
- 0:55Speaker 4: mean and shas the man I'm in.
- 1:00Speaker 5: The building, shouts the model. They said, I came to
- 1:03Speaker 5: start some trouble, but we'll see.
- 1:05Speaker 2: Let's see. Hey, We're gonna do a wellness check for
- 1:08Speaker 2: how everybody feeling.
- 1:10Speaker 4: You know, I'm amazing, amazing, Okay, just in case there
- 1:20Speaker 4: was wonder run yea.
- 1:21Speaker 2: How you feeling, man? They pay that I feel good.
- 1:25Speaker 2: I feel the Friday.
- 1:29Speaker 6: That's how you know, he gets too much paper.
- 1:32Speaker 2: You ain't because what's the when they pay that shout a?
- 1:39Speaker 2: I got the money? Hey, I got any Look at you?
- 1:42Speaker 2: Look at you, Jo Joe? How you footing the baddest
- 1:45Speaker 2: boat equitting the game?
- 1:46Speaker 4: Hello, I'm good, I'm chilling. I feel good.
- 1:51Speaker 6: It's Friday.
- 1:53Speaker 4: You know what?
- 1:54Speaker 7: You know?
- 1:54Speaker 3: What said?
- 1:56Speaker 4: It's ninety Friday? Grease what you said?
- 2:03Speaker 2: That song really gonna get somebody beat up?
- 2:05Speaker 8: For real?
- 2:07Speaker 2: You got a whole dude, somebody don't sing that part?
- 2:10Speaker 2: You my girl?
- 2:11Speaker 9: Uh?
- 2:12Speaker 2: What about you? Shad a song? It's just a song.
- 2:15Speaker 5: I'm feeling good. I'm feeling very demure, you know, very cutey.
- 2:21Speaker 5: Be in the art gallery, so you know the bodes
- 2:23Speaker 5: is fither.
- 2:27Speaker 2: Moderator. What we're doing?
- 2:28Speaker 3: Oh now, how the crowd feeling? How y'all feeling before
- 2:31Speaker 3: we get started?
- 2:36Speaker 10: Okay, okay, what we're doing, bro, get right to what
- 2:42Speaker 10: we need we're writing. No, no, no, you gotta be
- 2:47Speaker 10: as certain. You gotta get you gotta go, you.
- 2:51Speaker 4: Gotta go get it. I approach men all the time.
- 2:53Speaker 6: I have no problem with doing it like I have
- 2:56Speaker 6: no problem with doing it like you can sit around
- 2:59Speaker 6: and wait for them to come to you, and that's
- 3:01Speaker 6: cool if that's what you prefer. But if I see
- 3:04Speaker 6: something or somebody that I like, like, why gotta why
- 3:08Speaker 6: can't I approach him? That's that's something I can't do.
- 3:10Speaker 6: I like that, I mean because they like noah, no, no,
- 3:14Speaker 6: I'm like why.
- 3:15Speaker 4: Well, see, I have a different outlook on that because
- 3:18Speaker 4: I don't think women are supposed to chase, right, and
- 3:22Speaker 4: that's why a lot of these men are getting a
- 3:23Speaker 4: little sassy or whatever. But if you like somebody, like
- 3:27Speaker 4: I have seen a man that I liked right, and
- 3:30Speaker 4: I'm like, ooh, I got my eye on him. Prime example,
- 3:33Speaker 4: golf course yesterday, I spotted him when I walked in
- 3:37Speaker 4: the dull you hear me? Asked thought people in the
- 3:40Speaker 4: audience that was there. I say, oh, I'm getting his number,
- 3:44Speaker 4: and it was like, oh, I spotted him out I
- 3:46Speaker 4: pointed to him. I said, I gotta stop talking to
- 3:48Speaker 4: y'all because I need to go introduce myself to the
- 3:51Speaker 4: group of people. And guess who gave you their number?
- 3:54Speaker 4: The one I was interested in. Because when you see me,
- 3:56Speaker 4: you gonna look at me. I don't have to be
- 3:59Speaker 4: assertive and be aggressive and approach you you're gonna look
- 4:02Speaker 4: at me and want my you.
- 4:03Speaker 2: Did, but you did initiate that situation.
- 4:07Speaker 4: I walked up to five six million, and it.
- 4:10Speaker 2: Was but you. You initiated that. You gave a couple
- 4:13Speaker 2: of looks like, let me know you interested.
- 4:17Speaker 4: Look. I shook his hand. I shook everybody handle and
- 4:19Speaker 4: he grabbed tight.
- 4:21Speaker 6: He was like, or did you grab.
- 4:26Speaker 2: Ask him?
- 4:27Speaker 4: You gave just like I did that to the whole group.
- 4:36Speaker 4: It wasn't a single.
- 4:37Speaker 2: Person, did you high Hey?
- 4:43Speaker 4: No, I shout everybody hand. I asked everybody what they did.
- 4:47Speaker 4: I told them what I did, so I made it
- 4:49Speaker 4: like a networking move. But I knew I needed him
- 4:52Speaker 4: to look at me because he was gonna want my number.
- 4:55Speaker 2: Them you still had.
- 4:58Speaker 11: To initiate that that chase. So you didn't chase him,
- 5:02Speaker 11: but you put yourself in a position to get.
- 5:04Speaker 12: What you want, in position you walk over.
- 5:07Speaker 4: But I'm saying, but you don't say, hey, I'm such
- 5:09Speaker 4: and such one man by itself or two man, Hey,
- 5:12Speaker 4: I'm such and such. Nice to meet. You cannot get
- 5:14Speaker 4: your number. No.
- 5:15Speaker 6: Wait, that's confusing to men, though, because how how is
- 5:19Speaker 6: the man supposed to know that you want him? If
- 5:22Speaker 6: you're not showing that you want him energy.
- 5:25Speaker 12: You got to show something energy.
- 5:27Speaker 2: It's energy.
- 5:27Speaker 5: You don't have to approach him, but let me have
- 5:29Speaker 5: to show some sort of signs from across the room.
- 5:32Speaker 4: He needs to show see the sign.
- 5:36Speaker 11: Let me, let me, let me add to what they're saying, though,
- 5:38Speaker 11: because like if if he always get approached like that,
- 5:41Speaker 11: like if women is just nice to him all the time,
- 5:44Speaker 11: what's gonna make you stand out? If all you're doing
- 5:46Speaker 11: I'm saying hey, every woman saying hey, then what makes
- 5:49Speaker 11: you special?
- 5:50Speaker 4: You don't look at me? Did you see me? No,
- 5:54Speaker 4: it's not the lou Guess what he asked me for
- 5:56Speaker 4: my number. I didn't have to say nothing to him,
- 6:00Speaker 4: but hello. But I shook his hand. Fourth out of
- 6:04Speaker 4: the five people, its five men standing right there. I
- 6:06Speaker 4: talked to every man and guess what. Before I walked away,
- 6:10Speaker 4: he said, I'm gonna get your put it on my phone.
- 6:12Speaker 4: I said, absolutely, so you said, I told him after
- 6:16Speaker 4: he told me, you get what I'm saying. Like he
- 6:18Speaker 4: could have said nothing, and I would have walked away
- 6:20Speaker 4: and it would have just been I didn't get the number.
- 6:23Speaker 4: So but when he said, oh, I gotta get your number,
- 6:26Speaker 4: and I said absolutely. So that's me reassuring him that
- 6:29Speaker 4: what he saw in me, I saw exactly in him.
- 6:32Speaker 2: So if you stood in the corner all night just
- 6:34Speaker 2: looking at him, every I ain't send in no corner.
- 6:38Speaker 2: I'm saying, do you think that would have worked?
- 6:39Speaker 4: I ain't, but I ain't never said it in no corner.
- 6:42Speaker 4: I'm gonna walk past you and you gonna see me
- 6:44Speaker 4: if I want you, and I'm.
- 6:45Speaker 2: Gonna say, I.
- 6:49Speaker 3: Say, it's about women picking dudes, right, And I heard
- 6:53Speaker 3: this on somewhere on somebody sent it was like.
- 6:56Speaker 11: I said, I said it, huh, I said what you
- 6:59Speaker 11: just said? What you're about to say? No, it was like,
- 7:03Speaker 11: if you pick a dude, right, and he sees something
- 7:06Speaker 11: you he don't like, he gonna he gonna exaggerate that.
- 7:09Speaker 3: But if dude pick you, that mean he picked you.
- 7:12Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
- 7:13Speaker 3: So I'm willing to take whatever coach you because I
- 7:14Speaker 3: already picked you.
- 7:16Speaker 2: You you know what I'm saying. When you pick it's like
- 7:18Speaker 2: like you said it get kund of Sassin and now
- 7:21Speaker 2: it's like yeah.
- 7:23Speaker 6: Right, yeah yeah, and that way it could go that
- 7:26Speaker 6: way too, because I've also realized like, if you do
- 7:28Speaker 6: approach a man like you approaching him so you you
- 7:32Speaker 6: like him, he may not like you, Yes, may you
- 7:37Speaker 6: the energy that.
- 7:37Speaker 4: You want to like you?
- 7:39Speaker 6: You approach and aproach you trying to you know what
- 7:41Speaker 6: I'm saying, But I'm still gonna shoot my shot.
- 7:43Speaker 2: I don't care.
- 7:44Speaker 11: So thank going back to what you said, you said,
- 7:46Speaker 11: so if a dude, if you if you approach a
- 7:48Speaker 11: dude and it's something that he don't like about you,
- 7:51Speaker 11: he gonna it's gonna be exaggerated and that makes him
- 7:53Speaker 11: say so he's sassyf for not liking you back how
- 7:55Speaker 11: you like him?
- 7:56Speaker 4: No, so I'm not saying he's sass if he didn't
- 7:59Speaker 4: like me back. But a lot of men like I
- 8:01Speaker 4: have a lot of homeboys, right, and women are flying them,
- 8:04Speaker 4: getting them, playing tickets and doing different stuff like taking
- 8:07Speaker 4: them to dinner, walking up to them like, oh, you're
- 8:09Speaker 4: amazing number.
- 8:12Speaker 2: I'm not going to give me one second.
- 8:14Speaker 13: Brittany said she got one line for y'all.
- 8:19Speaker 12: A man who choose this, that's it.
- 8:24Speaker 4: Right a man, but a man have to choose you.
- 8:27Speaker 4: So like if I would have walked up to those
- 8:28Speaker 4: five men and nobody said anything to me that just
- 8:31Speaker 4: wasn't for me. I wouldn't have felt no certain type
- 8:34Speaker 4: of way because I didn't approach anybody. I spoke to everybody,
- 8:37Speaker 4: but the one that I had my eye on actually
- 8:40Speaker 4: just shook my hand a little tighter and said, I'm
- 8:42Speaker 4: gonna grab your number. And then that's when I reassured
- 8:46Speaker 4: him that yes, I'm interested in you as well, but
- 8:49Speaker 4: I'm not gonna show the first level of interest because
- 8:52Speaker 4: I want you to like me. I could have liked
- 8:54Speaker 4: him and he could have not said anything. Dude, put
- 9:00Speaker 4: myself in an area hold on.
- 9:04Speaker 6: But there's sometimes you're in a situation like, for instance,
- 9:08Speaker 6: with my career, I'm around a lot of celebrities, right,
- 9:13Speaker 6: so not saying that I'm going to talk to these celebrities,
- 9:16Speaker 6: but just saying like, that's the room that I'm in.
- 9:19Speaker 6: If I see somebody, these men are already looking at
- 9:22Speaker 6: women who look like us or just a beautiful woman
- 9:26Speaker 6: in general, and they're already judging that woman. They're already
- 9:30Speaker 6: looking at that woman like she just want to talk
- 9:32Speaker 6: to me because X, Y, and Z. So he may
- 9:35Speaker 6: not even approach you just off just because of that.
- 9:38Speaker 6: He just may think like, oh, she on some bullshit
- 9:40Speaker 6: just by the way you look, so he may not
- 9:42Speaker 6: even approach you because of that. You can approach a
- 9:44Speaker 6: dude and be like, oh, hey, I'm such or such,
- 9:47Speaker 6: and he'd be like, yeah, nah, she she she trying
- 9:50Speaker 6: to get my bread, or she just on some bullshit,
- 9:52Speaker 6: you know, something like that, and dismiss you. And that's cool.
- 9:56Speaker 6: But if I want to talk to you and I'm
- 9:57Speaker 6: not on that, then I'm going to introduce myself. But
- 10:00Speaker 6: I'm gonna say, hey, I think you c I like
- 10:02Speaker 6: what you got going on. My name is Jojo. I
- 10:04Speaker 6: would like to get to know you.
- 10:05Speaker 4: I don't think there's nothing wrong with that.
- 10:07Speaker 11: So really, it sounds like women are afraid, not not you,
- 10:10Speaker 11: but most women are afraid of rejection in that moment
- 10:12Speaker 11: because if, like say, the roles are reversed and it's
- 10:16Speaker 11: a guy walking up to a group of five women
- 10:20Speaker 11: that's walking into the lions, then if you walk into
- 10:23Speaker 11: if you're walking up to five different dudes, you got five.
- 10:26Speaker 2: Chances of walking away with something.
- 10:28Speaker 11: If I'm walking up to five different women, shit, I
- 10:33Speaker 11: gotta be real precise in how I'm moving that moment question.
- 10:37Speaker 4: It depends on a group of women you walking with
- 10:39Speaker 4: walking up to because some of these girls are being
- 10:41Speaker 4: say take me and my friend. All you gotta do
- 10:43Speaker 4: is have a little jewelry on a little ice, and
- 10:46Speaker 4: especially if you got a little carter, they didn't see
- 10:47Speaker 4: you walk out up. So it depends on who you walk.
- 10:51Speaker 2: That's not what I want. I don't want the women.
- 10:54Speaker 2: I don't want a woman to think like that.
- 10:57Speaker 14: Somebody got something to say, like so Jojo, I don't
- 11:01Speaker 14: think that you are wrong. I think that your approach
- 11:06Speaker 14: it's probably just different from some of us that are
- 11:09Speaker 14: a little bit older, Like I am never my dad
- 11:12Speaker 14: was like, you don't approach me.
- 11:14Speaker 4: That's how I was raised.
- 11:15Speaker 14: But like Chanelle said, if I see someone that I'm
- 11:19Speaker 14: interested in, I'm gonna walk past you, give you a
- 11:22Speaker 14: little smile, give you a little razzle dazzle, and hopefully
- 11:26Speaker 14: you will approach me. But if not, I'm moving on.
- 11:30Speaker 2: So I just think that this.
- 11:31Speaker 14: Depends on where you're coming from.
- 11:33Speaker 15: Like, I don't think you're wrong.
- 11:35Speaker 14: I just think that we're just different, Like it's just
- 11:38Speaker 14: different generations.
- 11:40Speaker 5: Because y'all just more modern, Like this is more modern,
- 11:42Speaker 5: that's more a traditional way you're gonna put yourself like
- 11:45Speaker 5: in a line of a man versus like approaching him
- 11:47Speaker 5: that's more traditional but modern like all right.
- 11:51Speaker 15: So y, like neither one is wrong.
- 11:54Speaker 4: You just gotta do what works for you, you.
- 11:57Speaker 14: Know what I'm saying, and jojo, I understand because you're
- 11:59Speaker 14: in a street, but like that wouldn't work in my
- 12:02Speaker 14: industry because that would be an hr situation.
- 12:05Speaker 12: So you know, I.
- 12:09Speaker 11: Also think it depends on what what type of man
- 12:11Speaker 11: you're approaching, because, like I said earlier, if you're approaching
- 12:13Speaker 11: a man who's used to getting that type of attention,
- 12:16Speaker 11: then you approaching me and smiling at me, women smiling
- 12:22Speaker 11: me all the time, you don't be a little bit
- 12:23Speaker 11: more assertive than that if you were going to tie me. Also,
- 12:25Speaker 11: I'm slow, so you like me, you got to tell
- 12:28Speaker 11: me because I don't be getting I don't be.
- 12:29Speaker 10: Catching a lot of a lot of men are slow.
- 12:32Speaker 6: Your pass just.
- 12:35Speaker 4: What I know.
- 12:36Speaker 15: He might be nervous like that.
- 12:38Speaker 6: You might intimidate him, like look at you, like you said,
- 12:40Speaker 6: you're beautiful, but you may be intimidated.
- 12:41Speaker 4: But I know, but that's not the man for me.
- 12:43Speaker 4: If he's intimidated, so I don't even want him, So
- 12:47Speaker 4: that exes him out of the bunch for me immediately,
- 12:51Speaker 4: because see, I'm old school. I want a man that's
- 12:53Speaker 4: going to be a protector of provider, that is going
- 12:56Speaker 4: to lead the family. You can't be intimidated by me.
- 12:59Speaker 4: You need to say see me as like, oh, oh
- 13:01Speaker 4: my god, she has power for me too. Let me
- 13:03Speaker 4: lead us in a great direction. So if you intimidated,
- 13:07Speaker 4: you ain't my man.
- 13:07Speaker 9: No facts, I was just gonna piggyback off what Chanelle
- 13:10Speaker 9: said in the fact that I think that our age
- 13:14Speaker 9: group is a little more traditional and allowing the man
- 13:17Speaker 9: to be the role of being like the hunter in pursuit.
- 13:20Speaker 9: So you put yourself in a position to where he
- 13:22Speaker 9: saw that you were interested in him, and he was like, okay,
- 13:25Speaker 9: well she is putting herself right here. Let me pounce
- 13:29Speaker 9: on this and make sure that she know I want
- 13:30Speaker 9: her to. I'm also not like, I'm not gonna approach
- 13:33Speaker 9: a man and chase. I don't think that's the woman's role.
- 13:36Speaker 9: Approaching a man and chasing is two totally different things.
- 13:40Speaker 5: I approaching a man sometimes for them it takes away
- 13:43Speaker 5: the chase. They feel like it's automatic.
- 13:45Speaker 6: Oh she approached me, because if I get to know you,
- 13:47Speaker 6: I shake your hand and we have a simple conversation.
- 13:49Speaker 6: We had a bar, were having a conversation. We get
- 13:52Speaker 6: each other's numbers. You're gonna want to know who the
- 13:54Speaker 6: hell is that girl that walked up on me and
- 13:56Speaker 6: got my number. Men do not get approached by so
- 14:00Speaker 6: off rip. He's gonna be like, damn, like she came
- 14:03Speaker 6: home on now she ain't she cool as fuck?
- 14:05Speaker 4: Like you know what I'm saying. They don't want to
- 14:06Speaker 4: know more about me, And that's where the chase come. Now.
- 14:09Speaker 6: It's like not going to hit her up and see
- 14:10Speaker 6: what she got going on or whatever whatever. It could
- 14:12Speaker 6: go either way.
- 14:13Speaker 11: But also I think the definition of the chase is
- 14:15Speaker 11: different because for me, if I feel like I got
- 14:17Speaker 11: to chasing women, it's almost like I have to convince
- 14:20Speaker 11: her a while I'm a good match. Whereas if like
- 14:22Speaker 11: this has happened last week, last weekend and Teilgate, like
- 14:26Speaker 11: the girl I met there, like I've known her for years,
- 14:28Speaker 11: But I'm like, damn, you kind of bagged me because
- 14:30Speaker 11: you just put yourself in a position. You put yourself,
- 14:34Speaker 11: thank you, You put yourself in a position where it's
- 14:37Speaker 11: like you are open to being pursued it's not you
- 14:41Speaker 11: chasing me, but you're kind of letting those walls down
- 14:45Speaker 11: and it's not as much restraint and you're letting me.
- 14:48Speaker 11: You're letting the game come to you. So like in
- 14:51Speaker 11: that moment, I feel like, damn, you kind of pulled me.
- 14:55Speaker 13: All right, So that's good. So that was a good conversation.
- 14:59Speaker 13: So it's gonna take us and the next thing. Y'all
- 15:00Speaker 13: mentioned careers multiple times. So is there still an expectation,
- 15:04Speaker 13: being that it's twenty twenty four going into twenty five,
- 15:07Speaker 13: that women should prioritize family over career and has this
- 15:11Speaker 13: change for men?
- 15:13Speaker 2: Let's go with black Bank. You said what it is, then.
- 15:18Speaker 4: You ain't paying attention over that is.
- 15:20Speaker 13: There's still an expectation that women should prioritize family over career.
- 15:27Speaker 3: That's what's the word. I'm trying to subjective. It depends
- 15:32Speaker 3: on what type of dudes you is. You know what
- 15:34Speaker 3: I'm saying me, You do what you want to do, baby,
- 15:38Speaker 3: Just do whatever you want to be. You want to
- 15:40Speaker 3: be the biggest hustle, to be the bigger hoest, You
- 15:41Speaker 3: want to be the biggest white, be the biggest white.
- 15:44Speaker 2: We in crewe control. Baby, do what you want to do.
- 15:45Speaker 2: I just don't want all.
- 15:49Speaker 4: I think it gets tricky for women now because women
- 15:52Speaker 4: have been disappointed so much by men. So women are
- 15:56Speaker 4: prioritizing career because they want to be financially situated. So
- 16:00Speaker 4: it actually messes up a lot of the traditional ideals
- 16:04Speaker 4: of relationship because now women are like, I'm the boss.
- 16:07Speaker 4: So now we get a little arrogant, and we get
- 16:09Speaker 4: a little cockier, you know, and so we take away
- 16:13Speaker 4: sometimes that submissive component which some men. If you like
- 16:17Speaker 4: a traditional man that's a provider, You don't want me
- 16:20Speaker 4: to come into the house like nigga, you get your
- 16:22Speaker 4: own socks. You get what I'm saying. You still want
- 16:24Speaker 4: me to get that. But because women have been disappointed
- 16:27Speaker 4: so much and men have let them down so much,
- 16:30Speaker 4: they're not willing to not make sure they get to
- 16:33Speaker 4: the bag. You get what I'm saying.
- 16:36Speaker 3: Your question question like, how do women always say and
- 16:41Speaker 3: we got a room full of women, I don't want
- 16:43Speaker 3: to start no ship, but it's the time to start it.
- 16:45Speaker 3: Women always say niggas gonna beat niggas. I just heard
- 16:48Speaker 3: her one of them say that over it right, Me
- 16:51Speaker 3: a gonna be men? Me and are men I thought
- 16:54Speaker 3: I heard somebody say that they know they don't get
- 16:57Speaker 3: don't beat me up, y'all. Ma'ma reaching up person. Look nah,
- 17:03Speaker 3: but they say, men, all right, what's your outlook on men?
- 17:06Speaker 2: First?
- 17:07Speaker 4: I think they're amazing. I think they're the most beautiful
- 17:10Speaker 4: creature that was created. But I also think they ain't
- 17:13Speaker 4: ship sometimes.
- 17:13Speaker 2: Okay, do you think man ain't ship? Give around? Applausea,
- 17:17Speaker 2: you think man ain't ship sometimes?
- 17:21Speaker 4: Let me answer the question.
- 17:24Speaker 12: The other half.
- 17:26Speaker 2: Let me let me land the plane. Let me land
- 17:28Speaker 2: the plane. Okay.
- 17:30Speaker 3: If you already know your brother, you helped your brother
- 17:34Speaker 3: cheap your daddy, you know he wants ship. None of
- 17:37Speaker 3: your uncles ain't ship. What makes you think you gonna
- 17:40Speaker 3: find this?
- 17:41Speaker 2: Make up? Make believe nigga, to.
- 17:45Speaker 6: Make believe nigga though.
- 17:46Speaker 3: A nigga that you think you he gonna be everything
- 17:49Speaker 3: you dreamed of when you was a princess.
- 17:52Speaker 6: That's what said that he has to have everything or
- 17:56Speaker 6: he has to be let down.
- 17:58Speaker 2: She said let down.
- 17:59Speaker 4: So I mean you could be let down but not
- 18:01Speaker 4: be perfect.
- 18:02Speaker 3: If I let you down, right, I let you down
- 18:04Speaker 3: with something you knew I was capable of.
- 18:06Speaker 4: Well, no, so so the thing.
- 18:08Speaker 2: Is that's who I am. That means you need to
- 18:11Speaker 2: leave me.
- 18:12Speaker 4: No, no, so so baby, But no, I'm saying, let y'all,
- 18:17Speaker 4: I'm not saying it depends on situation, right. So I'll
- 18:20Speaker 4: give you an example why I'm why I'm a hustler
- 18:23Speaker 4: is as I got pregnant at fifteen, my son and
- 18:25Speaker 4: dad begged for my kid. The whole world thought it
- 18:29Speaker 4: was a bad idea. But because fifteen and in love,
- 18:32Speaker 4: he beg and plead and crying. And he's never did
- 18:35Speaker 4: nothing for that boy because I left him because he
- 18:39Speaker 4: wasn't right. You get what I'm saying. So as soon
- 18:41Speaker 4: as I left the child you begged for and pleading for,
- 18:44Speaker 4: now my mama got to help me because I'm in
- 18:46Speaker 4: a ninth grade. That's what I mean by let down promises.
- 18:50Speaker 4: I was married before multiple times. I've been married four times.
- 18:53Speaker 4: We already know this. You get what I'm saying. So
- 18:56Speaker 4: judge judging mama, don't judge me. I'm still cute, So
- 18:58Speaker 4: I'm looking for a husband. I'm right now, called me
- 19:06Speaker 4: and went forward. I had a situation where a man
- 19:09Speaker 4: begged me to start working. Don't work. Don't work helped
- 19:12Speaker 4: me grow my business. And then when I helped them,
- 19:14Speaker 4: when they did something I didn't like and I had
- 19:16Speaker 4: an opinion about it, he said, oh, I'm not gonna
- 19:18Speaker 4: pay your bills. Well, sir, you told me start working.
- 19:21Speaker 4: How you're gonna hold my bill money on top of
- 19:23Speaker 4: my head? And you begged me to not work. So
- 19:25Speaker 4: that's what I mean. It's situational. I don't but I
- 19:28Speaker 4: don't put that on the man in an audience because
- 19:30Speaker 4: they never did anything to me.
- 19:31Speaker 2: Yeah, but a lot of that goes back to you, though, because.
- 19:36Speaker 4: When you married, they say, listen to your husband, be submitted.
- 19:41Speaker 3: Did he did he have those qualities of a nigga
- 19:44Speaker 3: that will stall you out once he told you not
- 19:46Speaker 3: to work?
- 19:47Speaker 2: Did you see that before he did that?
- 19:48Speaker 4: I didn't see it because he had walked in providing.
- 19:51Speaker 4: He had provided everything, so I didn't have a reason
- 19:54Speaker 4: to think I wasn't gonna have We had money everywhere.
- 19:58Speaker 4: You get what I'm saying. But the control component with
- 20:02Speaker 4: the money, and that's what ended up happening.
- 20:05Speaker 6: I think that when you say like a man like
- 20:07Speaker 6: when people will be like, oh whatever, it's because of
- 20:11Speaker 6: that reason, like a man let a woman down.
- 20:14Speaker 4: It's not because that he's not perfect.
- 20:17Speaker 6: But if you guys have certain boundaries and understandings within
- 20:23Speaker 6: the relationship and you go out and just fucking blind
- 20:26Speaker 6: sight her and do some whole other ship that she's
- 20:30Speaker 6: she's not doing that she can definitely most definitely be doing,
- 20:34Speaker 6: and you're doing it.
- 20:34Speaker 4: It's like, well, damn, you just fucking cross me.
- 20:37Speaker 6: Just like if you've had a homeboy to do some
- 20:38Speaker 6: shit like that to cross you, you're gonna be You're
- 20:41Speaker 6: gonna be good on that, man, just like how we
- 20:44Speaker 6: feel if a nigga do some ship, we're gonna be
- 20:46Speaker 6: good on this. Be across the boundary what it is.
- 20:49Speaker 4: Okay, we got the audience, the audience trying to ask
- 20:51Speaker 4: her something.
- 20:53Speaker 1: Yea.
- 20:54Speaker 16: So I'm just listening to I know that some of
- 20:58Speaker 16: the things that the win women are saying and doing it.
- 21:01Speaker 2: Please y'all don't jump on me. I'm just listen.
- 21:06Speaker 16: It's a little contradictory because y'all want traditional values. Can't
- 21:10Speaker 16: be approached traditionally, but you want to live a modern boss, lady,
- 21:15Speaker 16: you can't. You can't hold on. You can't man be
- 21:20Speaker 16: the boss of a man.
- 21:23Speaker 2: Thank you a man. Now, this is what I'm saying,
- 21:28Speaker 2: let me finish, Let me finish, Hold hold on a
- 21:31Speaker 2: little bit. Go ahead, bro, No it's not gentleman, go ahead,
- 21:41Speaker 2: go ahead.
- 21:42Speaker 16: But like I was saying, like you want to be
- 21:44Speaker 16: approached by the man, But when the man comes in,
- 21:47Speaker 16: everything doesn goes that not you. When everything isn't exactly
- 21:52Speaker 16: how you think it should be, then you're ready to
- 21:54Speaker 16: tough tail and leave a man. When you're in a
- 21:57Speaker 16: relationship with a man, y'all got to be team than
- 22:00Speaker 16: opponents facts, y'all be looking for the wind the win.
- 22:05Speaker 2: I gotta be one up on you.
- 22:08Speaker 16: How you're gonna keep me straight? How you gonna how
- 22:10Speaker 16: you're gonna keep me straight? How we gonna keep each
- 22:13Speaker 16: other straight?
- 22:14Speaker 4: But everybody is are we gonna do this together?
- 22:16Speaker 2: I'm with you.
- 22:18Speaker 4: So, But when you have a partnership and then the
- 22:20Speaker 4: man doesn't do his side of the partnership, I'm not
- 22:24Speaker 4: talking about a woman that's getting in a relationship. Oh
- 22:27Speaker 4: make sure you pay all my bills, make sure you
- 22:29Speaker 4: take care of me. What am I I I gonna get?
- 22:31Speaker 4: I'm talking about when we decide that we are a
- 22:33Speaker 4: Wii and you drop the ball on the Wii because
- 22:36Speaker 4: you want to hang out to eight nine o'clock because
- 22:39Speaker 4: now you ask me to start working to help build
- 22:41Speaker 4: your business for you that you're trying to get off
- 22:44Speaker 4: the ground and you're gonna take care of our household.
- 22:47Speaker 4: But then inside your household, you're acting reckless and you're
- 22:50Speaker 4: coming in doing anything. You got condoms in your car,
- 22:53Speaker 4: in your pocket, and you get what I'm saying. That's
- 22:56Speaker 4: what I'm talking about. I'm not talking about the that's
- 23:00Speaker 4: just trying to use you, so.
- 23:04Speaker 2: Doctor, hold on listen.
- 23:08Speaker 11: But also it's also something to where I think I
- 23:11Speaker 11: think women have to be more careful about who they
- 23:14Speaker 11: choose as leaders for their household because a lot of
- 23:17Speaker 11: women are going to whoever is going to pay those bills.
- 23:20Speaker 11: So you didn't know what other qualities this man had
- 23:23Speaker 11: as a leader, But as long as he was taking
- 23:25Speaker 11: care of and paying your bills, that's all they needed.
- 23:27Speaker 2: So he shows you after the fact that he was
- 23:29Speaker 2: a fuck nigga. Let me let me finish, because he was.
- 23:35Speaker 11: That was always him. But the other qualities never mattered
- 23:39Speaker 11: until they mattered. You saw that he didn't.
- 23:42Speaker 16: You can always you just can't look like smokey cruise ship.
- 23:49Speaker 16: You can run them. You can beat a boss. You
- 23:51Speaker 16: just can't look like you his boss. You know what
- 23:53Speaker 16: I'm saying, You can't. My mom always said, my my
- 23:57Speaker 16: husband is the head. Well my parents still my husband's ahead.
- 24:02Speaker 16: That turns ahead.
- 24:03Speaker 4: Okay.
- 24:03Speaker 6: So so the boss part, right, So that's the part
- 24:06Speaker 6: that I was stuck on. You said, women want to
- 24:09Speaker 6: be the boss, you don't want to be traditional. Traditional. Well,
- 24:11Speaker 6: to me, traditional is the man goes out and makes
- 24:14Speaker 6: the money, and the woman stays home and she takes
- 24:17Speaker 6: care of the house and she takes care of the
- 24:18Speaker 6: of the kids.
- 24:19Speaker 13: Correct.
- 24:20Speaker 6: Okay, So if that's if that's way, hold on, though
- 24:24Speaker 6: technically it is because the woman, like you said, she
- 24:28Speaker 6: stays home while the man goes to work and make
- 24:32Speaker 6: the money.
- 24:33Speaker 4: Okay.
- 24:33Speaker 6: So these women, some of them are saying the same thing,
- 24:36Speaker 6: like they don't want to work, they want your money.
- 24:40Speaker 6: It's traditional as hell.
- 24:42Speaker 11: But that ain't you gonna take the bad side of tradition.
- 24:46Speaker 6: Let me finish tradition ahead, let me finish. So you're
- 24:55Speaker 6: saying like you want this traditional woman, and you got her,
- 24:58Speaker 6: but you don't got her in the warm that you
- 25:01Speaker 6: want her in. So you you bought up this, this
- 25:04Speaker 6: this conversation or this topic.
- 25:06Speaker 4: But you're not even hearing me out.
- 25:09Speaker 6: So, like I was saying, you want her to be traditional,
- 25:13Speaker 6: but she is being traditional.
- 25:15Speaker 4: She's just giving you a little bit.
- 25:17Speaker 6: More aggression and she's a little bit more not demure
- 25:23Speaker 6: then you want her to be. But that's because that's
- 25:27Speaker 6: because these women aren't taking no more bullshit. Because when
- 25:31Speaker 6: they were traditional back in the day, these men were
- 25:34Speaker 6: still out here cheating and had multiple families and multiple whatever, and.
- 25:39Speaker 4: That's tradition, right.
- 25:42Speaker 6: But now but now as they do it, the women
- 25:45Speaker 6: ain't going and they standing up for it, and they
- 25:47Speaker 6: talking their ship and they popping their ship and they
- 25:48Speaker 6: gonna let you know a you're doing s y Z.
- 25:51Speaker 6: Make sure you bring them money home. Make sure you
- 25:52Speaker 6: bring the money home. And now they popping their ship
- 25:54Speaker 6: and you upset about it.
- 25:55Speaker 4: But now it's called you a gold digger. So that
- 25:58Speaker 4: that's the term for the traditional woman in twenty twenty four. Oh,
- 26:01Speaker 4: now she'll go there.
- 26:05Speaker 3: Mean me, y'all trying to justify what women he's saying. Basically,
- 26:11Speaker 3: what he's saying is you can't want to want granddaddy
- 26:14Speaker 3: and you don't want to be grandma.
- 26:16Speaker 2: You can't. Grandma went through a lot of ship to
- 26:18Speaker 2: keep granddaddy. But you brought that bag, That's what he's saying.
- 26:23Speaker 4: But I get it, you can't get it. Brought that bag.
- 26:25Speaker 2: The niggas bringing that bag a question?
- 26:30Speaker 3: No, No, the niggas who got the money got them
- 26:34Speaker 3: A grandmama who ain't playing like that, she already locked it.
- 26:39Speaker 3: If a typical nigga that's handling this business, it's a
- 26:43Speaker 3: woman holding on to his leg, ain't letting him go.
- 26:46Speaker 3: Give her damn what he do know? They know the
- 26:49Speaker 3: other side of this ship. Yeah, hold on, that's a bullshit.
- 26:54Speaker 2: What y'all talking about.
- 26:55Speaker 3: These niggas who ain't ship, ain't got no money, and
- 26:57Speaker 3: they still want to run ship and they want to
- 26:59Speaker 3: do all this.
- 27:00Speaker 2: You fuck up. Ain't got a dick.
- 27:04Speaker 6: We got make me stand up.
- 27:07Speaker 15: So like, we're talking about two totally different types of people,
- 27:12Speaker 15: because at the end of the day, there are men
- 27:15Speaker 15: that are willing to be what you need them to be.
- 27:18Speaker 12: But listen, I'm a one man.
- 27:20Speaker 15: I'm probably gonna get booed for this, but I'm keep
- 27:22Speaker 15: it a buck. You can't talk to no man any
- 27:25Speaker 15: kind of way and think you're gonna get a certain
- 27:27Speaker 15: thing from them. And I say that because as the women,
- 27:30Speaker 15: it is easier to be a boss when he knows
- 27:33Speaker 15: that you're speaking to the spirit in him. Most men
- 27:37Speaker 15: don't know how to provide because they didn't come from
- 27:39Speaker 15: no providers. Most of these men are first generation. Take
- 27:43Speaker 15: care of be this, decide to be a stand up man,
- 27:46Speaker 15: be a good.
- 27:47Speaker 2: This out of these things.
- 27:48Speaker 4: And you're.
- 27:50Speaker 15: Social media has look it ain't checking if you got it,
- 27:55Speaker 15: and now out here trying to compete with that, and
- 27:59Speaker 15: now how that you really want to do and you
- 28:02Speaker 15: have to teach it. It has to be a safe place.
- 28:06Speaker 15: And most of the time because we as women look
- 28:09Speaker 15: at the stuff that's online. Now I'm not talking about Shanel.
- 28:12Speaker 15: I'm not talking about you Jojo. I'm just saying in general,
- 28:15Speaker 15: there are women that they see things and now you're
- 28:18Speaker 15: comparing your whole like, oh, this is what I want.
- 28:22Speaker 4: I'm trying to compare somewhere. You can.
- 28:25Speaker 15: A lot of times the issue is you I can
- 28:29Speaker 15: go and put on nice clothes and I can go
- 28:31Speaker 15: do this.
- 28:32Speaker 4: You close.
- 28:33Speaker 15: You don't clean a bathroom, you barely clean your I'm
- 28:36Speaker 15: just keeping it a buck. So now you feel like
- 28:38Speaker 15: you want this high dollar man, but you low value.
- 28:42Speaker 4: Women because you can't do the regular things. So my my.
- 28:46Speaker 15: Issue, but my it is, it is that you feel
- 28:50Speaker 15: like if you go because no, Channell, no, you know
- 28:53Speaker 15: how to house do all of these things, but you
- 28:58Speaker 15: just came out and felt like because I got a
- 29:00Speaker 15: nice body, whether you pay for or that God gave
- 29:03Speaker 15: it to you.
- 29:03Speaker 4: I got nice clothes.
- 29:08Speaker 2: To what.
- 29:08Speaker 15: You don't deserve anything everything. These people who do got
- 29:12Speaker 15: this mind of God. They work for it, just like
- 29:14Speaker 15: you need to put some work in it. That's how
- 29:16Speaker 15: I personally, Lord.
- 29:18Speaker 2: Jesus, how y'all feeling? Y'all still with us? What we're doing?
- 29:24Speaker 13: Moderator, So let's go with, are we living in the
- 29:28Speaker 13: day and age where it's okay to be sexually experimental?
- 29:32Speaker 2: Huh?
- 29:33Speaker 12: Absolutely?
- 29:34Speaker 2: Who came up with that question?
- 29:35Speaker 4: Question? I came away question.
- 29:38Speaker 6: I came up with that question.
- 29:41Speaker 2: Okay, I did it?
- 29:43Speaker 13: So again, are we living in the day and age
- 29:45Speaker 13: where it's okay to be sexually experimental?
- 29:48Speaker 6: Who cares tradition?
- 29:54Speaker 12: No, this is an era you can.
- 29:58Speaker 2: So let's start.
- 29:59Speaker 13: We're going hold on, we're gonna start with We're gonna
- 30:02Speaker 13: start with you go ahead.
- 30:04Speaker 5: Has the model period? No, absolutely, this is definitely the era.
- 30:08Speaker 5: You can try out a lot of ship. You can
- 30:11Speaker 5: be yourself like, I'm all for all of that.
- 30:14Speaker 4: I need you to give us a little bit more,
- 30:16Speaker 4: try all of what. Let's hear it.
- 30:18Speaker 5: Whatever you want to do, Like, so what you like
- 30:20Speaker 5: to do? I like girls? So you know this is
- 30:24Speaker 5: one of those erarors you can actually, right, I like
- 30:26Speaker 5: bad bitches, don't right.
- 30:28Speaker 4: I think that was a little rejection.
- 30:33Speaker 5: I'm like, no, no, no, no, no no no, that was
- 30:36Speaker 5: what was given.
- 30:37Speaker 12: It was given, bad bitch.
- 30:38Speaker 5: But this is an error where you can really experiment,
- 30:41Speaker 5: like with no judgment.
- 30:42Speaker 12: So that's just an example.
- 30:43Speaker 5: Like I like women, so I can experience with experiment
- 30:48Speaker 5: with women without being judged.
- 30:49Speaker 17: So absolutely that my people back in the back. I
- 30:53Speaker 17: told you I got them in here for y'all. Yeah
- 31:00Speaker 17: you do.
- 31:02Speaker 4: So what you think, Jojo?
- 31:04Speaker 15: Yeah?
- 31:05Speaker 6: I think like sex is sex.
- 31:09Speaker 4: I mean I think that's what we're talking about.
- 31:10Speaker 6: I feel like when you ask that question, I'm thinking
- 31:14Speaker 6: sex with the partner, like sexual experiences with your person, Yeah,
- 31:21Speaker 6: like with your person, Yeah, I think I think so.
- 31:24Speaker 4: I think there are some things that men may not be.
- 31:29Speaker 6: Willing to try with their women because they may feel
- 31:31Speaker 6: like it's crossing certain lines or certain boundaries or whatever.
- 31:35Speaker 6: But it's just like I personally feel like, if if
- 31:41Speaker 6: you're not going to go and do these sexual things
- 31:44Speaker 6: with your partner that they want to do, then they're
- 31:47Speaker 6: going to want to wander off and do those things
- 31:50Speaker 6: with other people. No, because say, for instance, you're with somebody.
- 31:55Speaker 6: You're with a man and he constantly likes him, right,
- 31:59Speaker 6: but you, as a.
- 32:00Speaker 4: Woman, you don't want to keep going down there for hours.
- 32:02Speaker 4: He might be a type of nigga that it takes
- 32:03Speaker 4: hours for him to fucking come. You know what I'm
- 32:05Speaker 4: saying that you may not want to do that shit.
- 32:07Speaker 6: So if you don't, then he gonna go out and
- 32:09Speaker 6: find little Tasha down the street and she's gonna get off.
- 32:13Speaker 6: So I just feel like, in order to just stop
- 32:15Speaker 6: all of that, you gotta you gotta please your partner.
- 32:20Speaker 4: I don't with it to a certain extent. I got boundaries.
- 32:24Speaker 4: You hear me, don't come over here telling me you
- 32:27Speaker 4: want to sleep with a boy and I watch it
- 32:30Speaker 4: and I'm not interested in nothing going in my butt
- 32:32Speaker 4: that hurt. If you want to go in your butt,
- 32:35Speaker 4: then stick it in my butt. But I'm willing to
- 32:37Speaker 4: do everything else. You hear me.
- 32:40Speaker 12: Everything.
- 32:40Speaker 4: I am an open butt. I have had sex in
- 32:43Speaker 4: every airport that I've ever been in, you hear me.
- 32:46Speaker 4: So I'm gonna do some shit. Whatever you want to do, sir,
- 32:49Speaker 4: let's go. Just don't bring no boy up in here,
- 32:51Speaker 4: and you gonna try to bring no big old thing
- 32:54Speaker 4: inside of my butt because I want to be able
- 32:56Speaker 4: to ship at sixty And that's what y'all ain't thinking about.
- 33:02Speaker 4: It Just gonna be into.
- 33:04Speaker 2: The flo's gonna come out real smooth. Yeah, all right,
- 33:08Speaker 2: all that you yeah?
- 33:11Speaker 11: Because I feel like I feel like if you linkoling
- 33:13Speaker 11: with your partner whoever you're in the bedroom with that
- 33:16Speaker 11: ship that's between y'all. Like I feel like a lot
- 33:19Speaker 11: of times too many people are worried about what people
- 33:20Speaker 11: outside the bedroom got to say, what they got to
- 33:22Speaker 11: do in the bedroom.
- 33:23Speaker 2: That ship don't matter.
- 33:24Speaker 11: Like the most influential person you know could be a
- 33:28Speaker 11: fucking freak.
- 33:28Speaker 2: You would never know that ship. Wow.
- 33:30Speaker 11: And if you didn't know, why would you know? Why
- 33:32Speaker 11: would it matter to you? Would it change your perception
- 33:35Speaker 11: of that person? Probably not.
- 33:37Speaker 2: It shouldn't because this nigga, If this nigga.
- 33:40Speaker 11: A cure the incurable disease and you find out he
- 33:43Speaker 11: liked the goddamn uh where two tuos in the bedroom?
- 33:46Speaker 2: Who gives a fuck?
- 33:48Speaker 6: I want to try.
- 33:51Speaker 1: That?
- 33:52Speaker 2: Don't matter. That's that's all I'm saying.
- 33:53Speaker 11: That ship, what another what another motherfucker got going on
- 33:56Speaker 11: in the bedroom, don't matter.
- 33:57Speaker 15: What you hon on?
- 33:58Speaker 2: What two twos?
- 33:59Speaker 5: Your?
- 34:00Speaker 11: I sleep naked, so I don't know what you're talking about.
- 34:02Speaker 11: You were I sleep? If I sleep naked, you think
- 34:05Speaker 11: I'm wearing anything to happen.
- 34:06Speaker 4: I didn't say when you went to sleep?
- 34:08Speaker 2: I said no, no, you guys, no.
- 34:14Speaker 11: T shirt that I go to sleep, balls naked, crack
- 34:21Speaker 11: on the sheet, your cover, Let me go back, let
- 34:25Speaker 11: me go back to the model, hit the pillow.
- 34:27Speaker 13: So is it your partner's responsibility to fulfill all your
- 34:29Speaker 13: sexual needs?
- 34:30Speaker 4: And it should be?
- 34:33Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, I think so too. Just going back to
- 34:36Speaker 6: what I said, because if my partner not doing it
- 34:39Speaker 6: and I really want to do it, anybody, if you
- 34:41Speaker 6: really want to do something and you and you want
- 34:43Speaker 6: to do it with your partner, your partner steadily telling
- 34:45Speaker 6: you no, no, no, they're trying to keep shame you
- 34:47Speaker 6: and ship like you don't want to go do it
- 34:48Speaker 6: with somebody else. That's just the reality of it. Like period,
- 34:53Speaker 6: I'm trying to do all of it, to do.
- 34:59Speaker 2: Everything all right, and then so let's move on.
- 35:04Speaker 13: So bank, is it a woman's responsibility to help regulate
- 35:08Speaker 13: a man's emotions?
- 35:10Speaker 8: What you mean?
- 35:12Speaker 13: Is it a woman? Which is not like a note
- 35:15Speaker 13: in order for is it?
- 35:17Speaker 2: Is it a woman?
- 35:18Speaker 13: Is it your woman's responsibility to help manage your emotions?
- 35:22Speaker 3: No, it depends on what type of emotion. You just
- 35:23Speaker 3: got some bitch as emotion, you just a bitch. But
- 35:26Speaker 3: if you got emotion that's going on through life, yes,
- 35:28Speaker 3: she's supposed help you managing. Like I was just telling
- 35:30Speaker 3: her over here. Women don't understand when you choose certain
- 35:33Speaker 3: type of dudes. You really got to come on and
- 35:35Speaker 3: be everything for this dude. Like like I say, dude,
- 35:39Speaker 3: don't care about no amount of money when it comes.
- 35:42Speaker 2: Down to the right long like, so are they provided?
- 35:45Speaker 2: If a dude ain't provide for you and you ain't.
- 35:47Speaker 3: The one for him, you don't mind doing for the
- 35:50Speaker 3: for the one that give him something. That money came
- 35:52Speaker 3: by that part, You know what I'm saying, like, if
- 35:54Speaker 3: you make me feel like I can't even buy this
- 35:56Speaker 3: what you're giving me, So this money don't mean she
- 35:59Speaker 3: because I this shit feel better than anything.
- 36:01Speaker 8: You get, know what I'm saying.
- 36:02Speaker 2: So hey, yeah, she help me manage my emotions.
- 36:07Speaker 12: I agree. I agree with that wholeheartedly.
- 36:09Speaker 18: Yeah.
- 36:10Speaker 4: I think that hold on quick, we.
- 36:11Speaker 2: Can go right here and then we'll come back.
- 36:13Speaker 8: Go ahead.
- 36:14Speaker 4: I agree with that. And man banked and talked about
- 36:16Speaker 4: this before, Like, the biggest part of what I do
- 36:19Speaker 4: with a man is I check on him. I check
- 36:21Speaker 4: on him every day. I'm like, how are you? No,
- 36:23Speaker 4: don't tell me the generic answer of I'm cool, No,
- 36:27Speaker 4: how are you? For real? At two in the morning,
- 36:29Speaker 4: if you up? While you up, babe, what's going on
- 36:31Speaker 4: with you? Let me check on you? And I a
- 36:34Speaker 4: lot of times put my hand on his heart and
- 36:36Speaker 4: be like, tell me how your heart feel, Like, tell
- 36:38Speaker 4: me what you really want to be inside? Like, if
- 36:40Speaker 4: there's nothing else in the world that you can do,
- 36:42Speaker 4: and we only got one day, what is it that
- 36:44Speaker 4: we're gonna be When you check on your man and
- 36:47Speaker 4: you and he generally know that you love him to death,
- 36:50Speaker 4: I'm gonna love the fuck out of a nigga, you
- 36:52Speaker 4: hear me, And that's when women be like men don't
- 36:55Speaker 4: provide all of mine provide. But but like Bank said,
- 36:58Speaker 4: it's because I'm giving them some that they're not gonna
- 37:01Speaker 4: get from everybody else. Men need you. Men need to
- 37:04Speaker 4: feel safe, and as a woman, you have to be
- 37:06Speaker 4: their safe space. And if you are not, they're gonna
- 37:09Speaker 4: search everywhere for it.
- 37:12Speaker 6: So what I was gonna say, because I said, I agree,
- 37:15Speaker 6: and what you said managing man's emotions, I think yes,
- 37:21Speaker 6: women should do that because a lot of men do
- 37:23Speaker 6: not know how to control their emotions. They don't even
- 37:26Speaker 6: know that they have emotions, and if they do, they're
- 37:29Speaker 6: taught in life to not have them. So it's like
- 37:33Speaker 6: us being women and us having feelings and emotions and
- 37:36Speaker 6: knowing what it feels like to be sad or depressed
- 37:39Speaker 6: or you know, things like that, and us as women,
- 37:42Speaker 6: like we go through so many things in life. We
- 37:44Speaker 6: experienced so many, so many things backlash from just people,
- 37:48Speaker 6: and it's like we we endure that. So as a
- 37:52Speaker 6: woman with a man, we have to be there for
- 37:55Speaker 6: them to help.
- 37:56Speaker 4: Them navigate these emotions that they.
- 37:58Speaker 6: Don't understand because they don't understand it. They feel like,
- 38:02Speaker 6: oh I'm feeling like this, I'm gonna just shut the
- 38:03Speaker 6: fuck up. No, like I'm here to help you navigate it.
- 38:06Speaker 4: Almost like a therapy.
- 38:07Speaker 6: So yeah, like be there for your man at all times.
- 38:12Speaker 5: That I think y'all made some great points what you
- 38:15Speaker 5: brought up therapy, So a lot of I think you
- 38:19Speaker 5: should be there to be supportive of your man's emotions. Yes,
- 38:22Speaker 5: but sometimes men come along with baggage, They come along
- 38:25Speaker 5: with trauma that you had nothing to do with. So
- 38:28Speaker 5: I cannot take on emotions and trauma that came from
- 38:32Speaker 5: your childhood or your past relationships.
- 38:34Speaker 12: So you need to seek therapy.
- 38:36Speaker 5: You need to seek help because I can't take on
- 38:38Speaker 5: that if you haven't, if you haven't addressed that issue yourself.
- 38:44Speaker 13: There, I appreciate that what you think I said, No,
- 38:50Speaker 13: but also I feel like it's a part of a
- 38:52Speaker 13: big part of my personality.
- 38:53Speaker 4: Like.
- 38:57Speaker 11: Because I'm not a I'm a very even person, Like
- 39:02Speaker 11: I'm never gonna be too mad or or or anything
- 39:05Speaker 11: about that. But I just don't feel like I would
- 39:08Speaker 11: need a woman to uh regulate my emotions about anything,
- 39:13Speaker 11: because if I feel the type of way I'm gonna
- 39:14Speaker 11: tell you, And that's how it is. I'm very straightforward
- 39:18Speaker 11: on a lot of things. So in my life, me
- 39:21Speaker 11: me personally, Let me me personally. I don't feel like
- 39:26Speaker 11: we have to even talk about it. You know what
- 39:28Speaker 11: I'm saying.
- 39:28Speaker 3: If you've been around a person and it's your person,
- 39:30Speaker 3: or you really love this person, you knowing something off
- 39:33Speaker 3: with this person. So by you knowing some off of
- 39:35Speaker 3: this person, you can do a gesture that I ain't
- 39:37Speaker 3: got nothing to do it what's wrong, bab, Because most
- 39:39Speaker 3: of time niggas don't like to tell you what's going
- 39:42Speaker 3: on because they don't want you to stress with them.
- 39:45Speaker 3: So you can do certain shit that just change my
- 39:47Speaker 3: whole vibe to make me feel a whole nother way.
- 39:50Speaker 3: And I could have just lost a whole half a
- 39:51Speaker 3: million dollar last night on a plate. You never know,
- 39:54Speaker 3: But you can do something like, damn, the world ain't
- 39:57Speaker 3: over with. I got something right here that I ain't.
- 40:00Speaker 3: You. You get a woman gotta give you some shit that
- 40:02Speaker 3: you don't even know you need.
- 40:04Speaker 2: That's how I feel. You know, I didn't even know
- 40:06Speaker 2: I needed this.
- 40:08Speaker 11: You know, you know what hold on bank, I had, Jojo.
- 40:12Speaker 11: What you said just reminded me of some because we
- 40:14Speaker 11: work together. So you see me, I think how I
- 40:16Speaker 11: say that what I said? I say what I said
- 40:18Speaker 11: because I'm the type of a person that's like, fuck it,
- 40:20Speaker 11: I'm gonna figure it out. So what's telling you about
- 40:24Speaker 11: a problem gonna solve if I haven't already.
- 40:28Speaker 2: Solved the problem.
- 40:29Speaker 6: But that's the problem.
- 40:31Speaker 11: So if if I know we are fifty thousand dollars
- 40:36Speaker 11: in debt and you ain't found out yet, my my
- 40:38Speaker 11: job is to come up with fift thousand dollars, what
- 40:41Speaker 11: I'm gonna tell you about the phone. I need to
- 40:43Speaker 11: figure this problem out because as a leader, that's what
- 40:46Speaker 11: I'm supposed to do. You're supposed to do whatever I
- 40:49Speaker 11: need you to do, and that a part of your
- 40:51Speaker 11: duty is not stressing about shit that I'm supposed to
- 40:54Speaker 11: fix because at the end of the day, I'm going
- 40:56Speaker 11: to fix whatever the problem is. So telling my girl
- 40:59Speaker 11: about whatever issue is it's not solving the problem.
- 41:03Speaker 4: That's what you.
- 41:03Speaker 6: Agree, And that's why I'm saying, like that's what you think.
- 41:07Speaker 4: We are here.
- 41:08Speaker 6: We're we're not here to to look down on you,
- 41:10Speaker 6: because that's what's going on. If we're partners that's exactly
- 41:14Speaker 6: what we are. But if I know you can't help
- 41:15Speaker 6: me with this, with this, you don't know that.
- 41:17Speaker 2: I know you can't.
- 41:18Speaker 3: You know that because even in my field, you don't
- 41:20Speaker 3: know nothing about what I.
- 41:22Speaker 4: Many things that that you don't know about women.
- 41:26Speaker 2: You don't know it'll be better. I need.
- 41:29Speaker 3: I need to build this house, this house. Get getting
- 41:31Speaker 3: on my nerve. Man, I need to go put your
- 41:32Speaker 3: put your boots on, and get your helm.
- 41:34Speaker 4: No, I know what I can build it.
- 41:40Speaker 3: Okay, I'm talking about Okay, done thought, take the out
- 41:46Speaker 3: put on.
- 41:48Speaker 4: Let's take this model out. Because what the power of
- 41:51Speaker 4: women is, I don't help you figure it out. If
- 41:54Speaker 4: I love you, I'm putting them boots, songs, song and
- 41:58Speaker 4: whatever I gotta put on to make sure it's good. Look,
- 42:02Speaker 4: I have a whole construction degree because a nigga wanted
- 42:05Speaker 4: to be a contract that not me. Talk to me
- 42:10Speaker 4: about it. You can't talk to me about it.
- 42:15Speaker 5: So from where y'all are coming from, I understand, because
- 42:18Speaker 5: as a good woman, you're gonna automatically want to get
- 42:20Speaker 5: in there with your men.
- 42:21Speaker 12: You're like, all right, what's the problem. I'm here to help.
- 42:24Speaker 5: But what they're saying is, as a man, you don't
- 42:26Speaker 5: really want to put that on your woman, So you
- 42:27Speaker 5: kind of just put that on your back, like all right,
- 42:29Speaker 5: let me figure it out, because I don't want to
- 42:30Speaker 5: put the stress on my woman. So even though they
- 42:33Speaker 5: have a good woman and like she's gonna get in
- 42:35Speaker 5: here with me, but as a man, you don't want
- 42:37Speaker 5: to put that on your woman.
- 42:38Speaker 3: No, baby, I don't want you to think about it,
- 42:40Speaker 3: think about how to make me feel mushy, because I
- 42:43Speaker 3: already feel fucked up out there coming.
- 42:48Speaker 2: I want my blunts and ship rolled up. I want
- 42:50Speaker 2: my ship, this ship.
- 42:53Speaker 4: You feel like you know what food, you know what
- 42:58Speaker 4: talking about?
- 42:58Speaker 3: Let me just feel like I came to a castle
- 43:02Speaker 3: that remind me that I'm a king through your actions.
- 43:06Speaker 4: So what if you already doing that?
- 43:08Speaker 6: Like what if you're already getting that, but and you're
- 43:10Speaker 6: still having the like you still got other things going on.
- 43:14Speaker 6: I'm all I'm saying is is I get I get
- 43:16Speaker 6: exactly what you're saying. Nobody wants to put that on
- 43:18Speaker 6: their woman, But in a partnership, it don't matter. That's
- 43:24Speaker 6: what she's there for to help you in every way,
- 43:28Speaker 6: not just to cook and clean and fuck and suck
- 43:31Speaker 6: and emotional and all that that may be helping you,
- 43:34Speaker 6: but we're just saying like that also causes problems because
- 43:38Speaker 6: say you just lost fifty thousand whatever on the plug,
- 43:42Speaker 6: whatever you was doing.
- 43:43Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
- 43:43Speaker 6: We can feel that energy.
- 43:45Speaker 4: When you come home.
- 43:46Speaker 6: We can feel it, and we may ask you over
- 43:48Speaker 6: and over and over what's going on, and you don't
- 43:49Speaker 6: say nothing.
- 43:50Speaker 3: You think that you want to be in this indictment.
- 43:53Speaker 3: You don't know what I'm doing. You don't know what
- 43:56Speaker 3: the fuck I'm doing? Who could have got?
- 44:03Speaker 2: Bitch?
- 44:03Speaker 3: Don't don't tell you know that you want to be
- 44:09Speaker 3: I don't know what the hell I'm doing. Hold, don't
- 44:17Speaker 3: know what this man doing?
- 44:20Speaker 4: Well, when you put it like that, don't tell me
- 44:22Speaker 4: about it. Don't you.
- 44:26Speaker 2: Want to be nosy?
- 44:27Speaker 4: Don't tell me?
- 44:28Speaker 2: So we got a question. We got a question for
- 44:30Speaker 2: right quick?
- 44:33Speaker 12: Okay, y'all, how y'all doing? Hey?
- 44:38Speaker 2: Drink so strong?
- 44:40Speaker 6: Okay, So listen, it's twenty twenty four.
- 44:42Speaker 2: I just want to know why.
- 44:43Speaker 8: Is love so conditional for women?
- 44:45Speaker 2: Thank you?
- 44:47Speaker 12: Like love is so conditional for y'all?
- 44:49Speaker 2: Men love my conditions?
- 44:50Speaker 19: And I want to know why you not already coming
- 44:53Speaker 19: already as a woman already. Why I gotta do something
- 44:55Speaker 19: to make you feel like you gotta be womanly?
- 44:58Speaker 2: Thank you. I think I can do as a man
- 45:02Speaker 2: to make you not be a woman. You're a woman.
- 45:05Speaker 2: Hold On, I said that. I'm said that, thank you.
- 45:11Speaker 5: I mean, let me get after you think women, let
- 45:14Speaker 5: us know how you're ready, ladies.
- 45:15Speaker 11: Hold on, let us lad ladies, ladies, all right, quick, ladies, ladies.
- 45:19Speaker 2: I got a question. I got a question.
- 45:23Speaker 11: If if the man that you're talking to said that
- 45:27Speaker 11: you ain't making me feel manlessen, I'm mad like a bitch.
- 45:29Speaker 2: Of that nigga.
- 45:30Speaker 11: Like until like I'm saying, y'all saying, a man got
- 45:33Speaker 11: to put you in your feminine energy. What if a
- 45:36Speaker 11: nigga had if you had to put a nigga in masking,
- 45:38Speaker 11: you know, bro, that's no, that's that's not gonna happen.
- 45:42Speaker 11: That's not gonna fly with y'all.
- 45:44Speaker 2: Listen.
- 45:44Speaker 3: A lot of these dudes is in their feminine energy.
- 45:46Speaker 3: But listen, he had to sit up, just said.
- 45:51Speaker 6: You just said from the South Mississippi.
- 45:54Speaker 19: So I'm like super traditional, I'm not controlling or I'm
- 45:57Speaker 19: not any of those things. I'm a woman, so I
- 45:59Speaker 19: know how y'all already is. So what I'm saying is
- 46:05Speaker 19: like my grandma raised me.
- 46:07Speaker 2: So it's like I be.
- 46:10Speaker 19: More women than half of these women. Because y'all so conditional.
- 46:14Speaker 19: You have to do so many things to make y'all
- 46:16Speaker 19: feel soft and being y'all soft vibe.
- 46:20Speaker 12: Absolutely. First question, absolutely.
- 46:24Speaker 19: Not, you know second part question second, it's two points.
- 46:28Speaker 2: It's two points.
- 46:30Speaker 4: Part is what is sassy?
- 46:32Speaker 2: What is sassy?
- 46:33Speaker 4: Because you can't do what you want to.
- 46:34Speaker 12: Do with me, all right, Like I said, absolutely not.
- 46:38Speaker 5: A man does not have to do anything that make
- 46:40Speaker 5: me to show up as a woman. I'm gonna show
- 46:42Speaker 5: up as I am. However, you have to do things
- 46:45Speaker 5: for me if you want me to show up like
- 46:47Speaker 5: I'm not just showing up for anything. So we can
- 46:50Speaker 5: say love is conditional, but I mean it's on both sides, okay,
- 46:54Speaker 5: because men have their expectations, have their expectations of a relationship.
- 46:58Speaker 4: I agree, just in general, I got something.
- 47:02Speaker 3: Manet you, they gonna keep you until you do the
- 47:06Speaker 3: wrong ship, then they gonna let you go.
- 47:07Speaker 2: Other than that, niggas to deal with your ship forever.
- 47:10Speaker 2: The women, but who.
- 47:14Speaker 5: Okay, I don't have to.
- 47:20Speaker 6: I got something to say because she said, why does
- 47:24Speaker 6: a man have to put you in your female energy? Now,
- 47:27Speaker 6: I can't speak for any other female in here, but
- 47:29Speaker 6: I'm gonna speak for myself, and I'm gonna say this
- 47:33Speaker 6: growing up, right, it's so many things that like a
- 47:39Speaker 6: woman has to do and and and life, like people
- 47:43Speaker 6: are always judging this woman.
- 47:45Speaker 4: A woman is tough. It is the toughest species.
- 47:49Speaker 6: On this fucking earth, and she has to be because
- 47:52Speaker 6: she has emotions. But people are keep throwing ship this
- 47:55Speaker 6: way and this way, and she's supposed to just keep
- 47:57Speaker 6: handling it and handling it.
- 47:58Speaker 4: Especially as a black woman.
- 48:00Speaker 6: We go through so much different shit. So we's so tough.
- 48:03Speaker 6: We're tough. We're tough, We're tough. We know, like this
- 48:05Speaker 6: person is saying some bullshit, this person doing some bullshit.
- 48:08Speaker 4: Then you got this nigga over here, he owns some bullshit.
- 48:11Speaker 6: I gotta take care of these kids because I might
- 48:13Speaker 6: be with a nigga who ain't taking care of them.
- 48:15Speaker 4: So now I gotta be strong enough to take care
- 48:17Speaker 4: of them too.
- 48:17Speaker 6: So now I'm just super strong, and I done got
- 48:20Speaker 6: this masculine energy that I have no idea where it
- 48:23Speaker 6: came from. I didn't even know if it was a
- 48:24Speaker 6: thing until people start saying, oh, she has masculine energy,
- 48:27Speaker 6: Oh she has masculine energy.
- 48:28Speaker 4: I'm over here thinking like, but what the fuck is that?
- 48:30Speaker 6: But really, whole time, it's just me being so tough
- 48:33Speaker 6: because I have to deal with the world. But I
- 48:35Speaker 6: have to be strong not only for me, but for
- 48:36Speaker 6: everybody around me. So now when I'm with this man,
- 48:40Speaker 6: I'm tough and I'm tough, and I'm doing this and
- 48:42Speaker 6: I'm working hard and I'm doing all this other shit.
- 48:44Speaker 6: And when he comes in and he's like, I got you, baby,
- 48:47Speaker 6: don't worry about it. You ain't gotta work that hard.
- 48:49Speaker 6: You ain't gotta do all of that. I'll go pick
- 48:51Speaker 6: the kids up, I'll go this, I'll go do this
- 48:53Speaker 6: for you. And slowly that woman starts getting softer and
- 48:57Speaker 6: softer and softer to where she feels like she can
- 48:59Speaker 6: trust you. And now she feel like now she's in
- 49:01Speaker 6: her feminine energy and she could love you on condition
- 49:04Speaker 6: not so quick. It's a real thing.
- 49:10Speaker 2: Nah ho ho ho ho ho. I got it. Go
- 49:14Speaker 2: ahead and get in there. I gotta respond to that. Bro.
- 49:17Speaker 3: Have y'all ever seen no women that just remain women regardless.
- 49:20Speaker 3: Though I'm not talking about this what's going on. I'm saying,
- 49:24Speaker 3: you got some women that have been sweet all my life,
- 49:27Speaker 3: Like this lady has been a sweet lady all my life.
- 49:31Speaker 3: Some women got it, some women don't.
- 49:33Speaker 2: That's just what it is.
- 49:34Speaker 4: But she may have it with you, But you don't
- 49:36Speaker 4: know what kind of hell in termin.
- 49:38Speaker 2: No, I'm talking about.
- 49:39Speaker 3: We all know women that like, that's a nice lady,
- 49:42Speaker 3: don't you that you've been knowing all your life?
- 49:45Speaker 4: Yeah, you see what I'm saying, like, this is a
- 49:48Speaker 4: nice lady. But to me, But then I also them saying, oh,
- 49:53Speaker 4: that lady's so sweet. I didn't seen her turn up
- 49:56Speaker 4: on a situation where she may have had to turn out. Fact,
- 49:58Speaker 4: that ain't the same thing. I'm saying.
- 50:00Speaker 2: She out of character then though, right when she turned up,
- 50:02Speaker 2: that's out of character sweet for sure.
- 50:05Speaker 3: Okay, when you can when you get these women these
- 50:07Speaker 3: days that out of character when they're.
- 50:09Speaker 4: Being sweet, Where y'all mean, what do you mean?
- 50:15Speaker 3: How if I gotta if I gotta get you in
- 50:17Speaker 3: your feminine energy, I gotta get you out of characters
- 50:20Speaker 3: because you already in your masculine well, I'm.
- 50:22Speaker 4: Not coming to a man, but I will. I will
- 50:28Speaker 4: be selective of who I give my time and energy to.
- 50:32Speaker 3: But we had a conversation in our podcast, and then
- 50:34Speaker 3: motherfucker went crazy too.
- 50:35Speaker 2: Shu outside the shun nail. Our shit went crazy.
- 50:41Speaker 3: But like a women say, like when women say, and
- 50:45Speaker 3: y'all gonna chew me up, I don't care. I'm ready
- 50:46Speaker 3: to get into it anyway, y'all gonna say, how can
- 50:50Speaker 3: a woman's take he drove me to cheat on him?
- 50:54Speaker 3: I never understood that, baby, you you being a cheater?
- 50:57Speaker 3: You been would do it? Am I right or wrong?
- 51:01Speaker 4: You wrong?
- 51:02Speaker 3: That ain't no such make you bought? Can't nigga make
- 51:06Speaker 3: you go outside of your character? If that's against your character,
- 51:09Speaker 3: you're not gonna do it.
- 51:10Speaker 2: Bro, that's a lot.
- 51:11Speaker 3: That's just like saying That's just like saying a nigga saying,
- 51:13Speaker 3: my wife made me go to punk parties.
- 51:16Speaker 4: Bro, you wont to go.
- 51:18Speaker 2: Cain't nobody drive you to do some shit you don't
- 51:21Speaker 2: want to do.
- 51:24Speaker 6: I don't think that's true.
- 51:25Speaker 3: How you already want to circumstances just hand to persent itself.
- 51:30Speaker 11: And you hadn't lost respect for this man? Yet hold
- 51:32Speaker 11: hold on, you lost respect now you could be you.
- 51:34Speaker 11: It's it's another It's all right. So let's use another example.
- 51:37Speaker 11: If a nigga not a thief, you can't make a
- 51:39Speaker 11: nigga a thief by leaving money out on the table.
- 51:42Speaker 11: If you leave one hundred dollars on the table right now,
- 51:44Speaker 11: I'm gonna take it because I'm a thief.
- 51:45Speaker 2: No, I'm fucking with you.
- 51:47Speaker 11: I'm fucking with you, but I'm not a thief, so
- 51:49Speaker 11: I wouldn't take it. But it's another nigga that'll probably
- 51:51Speaker 11: see that shit like she and not say nothing. But
- 51:55Speaker 11: it's two different type of niggas. So my tripping, I'm I.
- 52:00Speaker 4: Don't think you're tripping. I mean, women don't like that.
- 52:03Speaker 4: I sometimes agree with men on some things, but I've
- 52:06Speaker 4: never been faithful to nobody. I never have, so you know,
- 52:11Speaker 4: me and my friends debate faithful And I mean I didn't.
- 52:18Speaker 3: He didn't make you do it either, did it?
- 52:21Speaker 7: Did?
- 52:22Speaker 4: No? But I am not like that anymore. But see
- 52:29Speaker 4: the thing about it, So like I always tell people,
- 52:34Speaker 4: and I even always tell my friends, like people try
- 52:36Speaker 4: to weaponize me with who I am as a person.
- 52:39Speaker 4: You could never weaponize me because I'm gonna tell you
- 52:42Speaker 4: who I am. I don't care if you create a
- 52:44Speaker 4: group chat about it. I've never been faithful to a
- 52:47Speaker 4: nigga before I'm working on it. I went to therapy.
- 52:51Speaker 4: They did not make me cheat, but it was another
- 52:53Speaker 4: nigga looking at me, and after a time and a time,
- 52:56Speaker 4: I responded back the same thing that happens with men.
- 52:59Speaker 4: Women go approach heese man, and approach heese man. They
- 53:02Speaker 4: weren't even going look at the cheat on you that day.
- 53:04Speaker 4: It wasn't malicious, tend to do it. It didn't happened,
- 53:08Speaker 4: but it's you. I went to therapy to get it
- 53:12Speaker 4: up out of me. And that's the reason that I
- 53:14Speaker 4: won't commit to none of these men right now, because
- 53:16Speaker 4: I steal my cheat and I don't want to do that.
- 53:18Speaker 12: No mochus man, God got a bag, Okay, I feel So.
- 53:23Speaker 20: I got a couple things to say first or foremost,
- 53:26Speaker 20: shout out, shut out, a big bang shut out coda,
- 53:28Speaker 20: because y'all speaking is some real shit.
- 53:30Speaker 8: The ladyes y'all speaking is some real shit too.
- 53:32Speaker 20: But at first and foremost, I just want to say,
- 53:34Speaker 20: as a real man, right, we go through shit right
- 53:38Speaker 20: like they were saying, you know what I'm saying, like,
- 53:41Speaker 20: if I'm in debt fifty thousand dollars, I'm not going
- 53:43Speaker 20: to tell you I'm in debt fifty thousand dollars. But
- 53:45Speaker 20: as my woman, like Big Bank was saying, you should
- 53:48Speaker 20: know something is wrong with me, so you should be there.
- 53:51Speaker 8: That cansole me regardless. You should have.
- 53:53Speaker 20: To know what I'm going through to know that I'm
- 53:56Speaker 20: going through something to be there for me, you know
- 53:58Speaker 20: what I'm saying.
- 53:59Speaker 8: Then, on that how what you were saying, like with the.
- 54:03Speaker 20: Like when you said that you hadn't been faithful, right,
- 54:05Speaker 20: nobody drove you to do that. As a man like
- 54:08Speaker 20: Big Bank was saying, well, we make that choice that
- 54:11Speaker 20: you my woman, I'm gonna stick with you until you
- 54:13Speaker 20: make it that to the point where that that's that
- 54:16Speaker 20: you feel me. And so as a man, if you
- 54:21Speaker 20: make me comfortable, if you my peace, I'm gonna stick
- 54:24Speaker 20: beside you. But as soon as you throw me off,
- 54:27Speaker 20: then you gotta slide. And so for men, I feel
- 54:31Speaker 20: like that's why we are so logical and y'all are
- 54:33Speaker 20: emotional because y'all act on impults or act on oh damn,
- 54:38Speaker 20: you made me feel this type of way, So I'm
- 54:40Speaker 20: about to go do this. But as a man, it's
- 54:42Speaker 20: like you made me feel this type of way. Does
- 54:45Speaker 20: this really affect me? If it don't affect how I move,
- 54:48Speaker 20: how I make my money, then fuck it. I'm gonna
- 54:50Speaker 20: stick besides you, and I'm gonna do what I gotta
- 54:52Speaker 20: do because you my peace, and that's what I stick beside.
- 54:55Speaker 20: So as a man, it's like you mine. I'm gonna
- 54:58Speaker 20: hold you down until you show me that I don't
- 55:00Speaker 20: need to do that no more, and then I'm gonna
- 55:02Speaker 20: go do my thing.
- 55:03Speaker 4: Well, I never got caught, so nobody never felt no
- 55:06Speaker 4: certain type of way. His emotions was intact. I was
- 55:10Speaker 4: at home, weint on him at six am, and he
- 55:13Speaker 4: ain't never know I got in at five. So guess what,
- 55:16Speaker 4: I never got caught. Better, You never gonna feel no
- 55:19Speaker 4: certain type of way. You ain't gonna feel crazy or nothing.
- 55:22Speaker 4: All right, just putting that out.
- 55:24Speaker 6: There, period.
- 55:26Speaker 2: Hey, let me ask you all a question.
- 55:29Speaker 13: Hold on, hold it down right, quick, life, hold it
- 55:32Speaker 13: down right quick? Okay, go ahead, I'm gonna ask you
- 55:34Speaker 13: all a question.
- 55:35Speaker 3: Do y'all think women do y'all think men should cater
- 55:40Speaker 3: to all your emotions.
- 55:42Speaker 6: No, I don't think he should cater to all of
- 55:48Speaker 6: our emotions, but I think that he should acknowledge that
- 55:50Speaker 6: I am having an emotion.
- 55:53Speaker 3: But what if you just emotional? Motherfucker every day? So
- 55:55Speaker 3: I put the knowledge it every day?
- 55:58Speaker 4: Like when you say emotional every ding something wrong?
- 56:00Speaker 2: It's pitched again? Now she got a problem like that?
- 56:04Speaker 2: Like what what's wrong with her today?
- 56:06Speaker 4: That?
- 56:07Speaker 2: Like like that?
- 56:08Speaker 7: Cash?
- 56:08Speaker 3: Should I always every day?
- 56:11Speaker 6: Well, it depends if you if you see she has
- 56:13Speaker 6: a problem and you ain't never check on her. The
- 56:16Speaker 6: first day she had a problem, Well guess what. The
- 56:18Speaker 6: next day she's gonna have a problem. For the day
- 56:19Speaker 6: after that, she's gonna have a problem. Is she gonna
- 56:21Speaker 6: have a problem unless.
- 56:22Speaker 4: You ask her what the problem? Sometimes women do that.
- 56:24Speaker 6: They gonna be mad as hell all the way up
- 56:26Speaker 6: until you be like, baby, what's wrong?
- 56:28Speaker 2: So you're gonna create all these issues and expect your man.
- 56:33Speaker 4: Issues. Y'all gotta understand that women come on issues. Niggas
- 56:35Speaker 4: come on issues every day.
- 56:36Speaker 2: Is not.
- 56:39Speaker 4: Niggas come with y'all got baby mamas want to call
- 56:43Speaker 4: in the middle of the night, y'all want to then
- 56:46Speaker 4: sleep with the dancers, y'all sleep with the nursing.
- 56:51Speaker 13: No that we we like that look so look real
- 56:56Speaker 13: dope conversation. We got one more. She wanted to address
- 56:59Speaker 13: the pannel after that, and we're getting ready. That way
- 57:02Speaker 13: we can close us on out.
- 57:03Speaker 4: Hold on, go ahead, okay, I want to.
- 57:09Speaker 18: Oh so let's start back from the beginning. I think
- 57:13Speaker 18: we got the characteristics and what they do naturally as
- 57:17Speaker 18: a person, and you can avoid a lot of this
- 57:19Speaker 18: ship Like a lot of the stuff is like immature
- 57:22Speaker 18: that y'all talking about, Like, oh, address this emotion and
- 57:25Speaker 18: that like you're supposed to already know that from your parents.
- 57:28Speaker 18: That's what your mother is for. She's an example for
- 57:30Speaker 18: you as the wife. Your father is an example as.
- 57:32Speaker 4: A no no no no.
- 57:34Speaker 2: No no.
- 57:39Speaker 11: No.
- 57:41Speaker 4: But guess what you man come with most of the emotions.
- 57:44Speaker 4: So that means but most of y'all ain't had no mama.
- 57:47Speaker 4: I've but people that ain't had no mama, they started
- 57:49Speaker 4: taking care of the South at twelve.
- 57:53Speaker 3: Let me ask you question, do y'all really want the
- 57:56Speaker 3: truth or a lot you could believe the truth?
- 57:59Speaker 12: I want the truth. Okay, We're going to the truth.
- 58:03Speaker 3: That's cap Thank you, baby, thank you, queen.
- 58:08Speaker 2: No real truth.
- 58:12Speaker 4: You can truth, but you have to live in reality.
- 58:15Speaker 6: You gotta open up your big ass eyes and see
- 58:17Speaker 6: what the fuck going on and realize that motherfuckers out
- 58:20Speaker 6: here is fucked up. Okay, they grew up and they
- 58:24Speaker 6: grew up with no mama, and they grew up with
- 58:26Speaker 6: no daddy, And you're trying to tell me just because
- 58:27Speaker 6: they ain't have no mamma and no daddy and what's
- 58:28Speaker 6: saw to how to be raised as an individual, that
- 58:31Speaker 6: they don't deserve no love. And they fell in love
- 58:33Speaker 6: with you, and you're supposed to just be like, I'm
- 58:36Speaker 6: good on buddy, because he don't know how to love
- 58:38Speaker 6: you properly. No, because if I love you, I'm gonna
- 58:41Speaker 6: I'm gonna deal with that bullshit, that that trauma that
- 58:43Speaker 6: you came then I'm gonna try to help you figure
- 58:44Speaker 6: it out.
- 58:46Speaker 2: That man. I think.
- 58:49Speaker 3: I think, really, man, I think really the best relationships
- 58:54Speaker 3: it's the nigga who can tell the best lies.
- 58:56Speaker 2: Man, because you tell the truth truth like the truth
- 59:01Speaker 2: cheth truth.
- 59:03Speaker 4: Thank you crazy hell well truth.
- 59:09Speaker 12: Truth.
- 59:10Speaker 2: She gonna be motherfucking mind.
- 59:13Speaker 1: Man.
- 59:13Speaker 4: I agree with you, though I agree. Watch your talk
- 59:17Speaker 4: some of the best relationships are because the women have
- 59:20Speaker 4: been lied to the best because I know some of
- 59:23Speaker 4: those people and they have no idea that their husbands
- 59:26Speaker 4: do what they do because their husbands make sure that
- 59:28Speaker 4: they don't find out. But I just feel like, don't
- 59:31Speaker 4: let me find out. But also I prefer you to
- 59:34Speaker 4: tell me the truth because I don't want to have
- 59:36Speaker 4: to go to the clinic and get appeal every goddamn
- 59:39Speaker 4: thirty days. I gotta take the rest of my life
- 59:41Speaker 4: because you out here doing some whole ship. Let me
- 59:43Speaker 4: decide what I'm going to do with my motherfucking life.
- 59:47Speaker 4: And that is the problem with these men that want
- 59:49Speaker 4: to keep lying to you. And I have homegirls that
- 59:52Speaker 4: now got ship that they can't fucking get rid of
- 59:54Speaker 4: because a nigga want to lie. And that's when you
- 59:56Speaker 4: get your motherfucking head blown off.
- 59:59Speaker 2: The truth damn.
- 1:00:00Speaker 4: Okay, I give you then and figure it out, Okay.
- 1:00:04Speaker 3: But we just sat there and say you that's the
- 1:00:07Speaker 3: case every woman should use coming with every man, because
- 1:00:11Speaker 3: every woman.
- 1:00:12Speaker 2: Says like it's contradicting. I can't here, you can't hear
- 1:00:19Speaker 2: what they're saying on the panel. Hold it down, hold on,
- 1:00:22Speaker 2: Hold on one second. Y'all. Hold up, Hold up, Okay.
- 1:00:31Speaker 3: No, I'm saying this is contradicting though, like we saying,
- 1:00:36Speaker 3: especially in ALLOUTA. You meet a dude at this big
- 1:00:39Speaker 3: old age were at right now and he having most
- 1:00:42Speaker 3: you think he got hold And when I meet you today,
- 1:00:46Speaker 3: offen to get rid of all my whole. Just go ahead,
- 1:00:56Speaker 3: you're gonna get rid of like if you're good enough,
- 1:00:58Speaker 3: you're gonna get rid of the little strack.
- 1:01:00Speaker 4: No she what she's said and asking you to get
- 1:01:02Speaker 4: rid of all your whole.
- 1:01:04Speaker 12: We're not making clear that you got hold.
- 1:01:07Speaker 4: Just don't lie.
- 1:01:08Speaker 2: How am I line? When you the reason why you
- 1:01:11Speaker 2: wanted me? Because I am?
- 1:01:15Speaker 21: Hold up, don't nobody won't nobody that nobody else don't
- 1:01:18Speaker 21: want bank. That's okay, And it's a shortage on these
- 1:01:25Speaker 21: kind of niggas.
- 1:01:29Speaker 6: Listen, talk about it. Man, What you mean bank? Not
- 1:01:33Speaker 6: the problem that you got holes. It's a problem that
- 1:01:36Speaker 6: you meet a girl. I know you don't, but I'm
- 1:01:39Speaker 6: just saying what the problem is you meet the girl.
- 1:01:46Speaker 6: The problem is is that the man who has holes
- 1:01:49Speaker 6: meets the girl who he really want, Like he might
- 1:01:53Speaker 6: just want her to fuck her, right, but he has
- 1:01:55Speaker 6: to tell her exactly what he needs to tell her
- 1:01:57Speaker 6: to fuck her.
- 1:01:59Speaker 4: So now you're gonna tell I ain't got no hold.
- 1:02:01Speaker 3: I don't understand that. You ain't gotta tell the women
- 1:02:03Speaker 3: ship they going. You ain't gotta tell them ship there
- 1:02:06Speaker 3: Like we had a conversation after we fucked, like, so
- 1:02:10Speaker 3: you in a relationship.
- 1:02:13Speaker 2: Like this, be real man Like, I don't get to
- 1:02:18Speaker 2: know you till I fuck to you.
- 1:02:20Speaker 3: That's what's sucking it up, be falling us first, you
- 1:02:24Speaker 3: know what I'm saying.
- 1:02:25Speaker 2: We we got them for about a month straight. Now
- 1:02:28Speaker 2: I'm trying to get to know you know what all?
- 1:02:29Speaker 2: You like this bitch man like? We don't we what
- 1:02:33Speaker 2: not compatible?
- 1:02:33Speaker 3: We don't agree on ship but you already now you're
- 1:02:36Speaker 3: already into something.
- 1:02:38Speaker 4: But see that's that's but that's why I don't operate
- 1:02:42Speaker 4: like but you but as women, you bank has a
- 1:02:47Speaker 4: balid point. Women everybody been with a man before they
- 1:02:51Speaker 4: get to know that man. And so what I that's
- 1:02:54Speaker 4: the thing one thing that I will not do. I
- 1:02:57Speaker 4: will go my last long term relations ship. I didn't
- 1:03:00Speaker 4: sleep with him for four months, but I allowed him
- 1:03:02Speaker 4: to sleep with whoever. I used to post on Instagram
- 1:03:05Speaker 4: like Oh, he left me in the hotel for twelve
- 1:03:07Speaker 4: hours because he wanted to go get a dig suck,
- 1:03:09Speaker 4: but he always came back. And I knew I wasn't
- 1:03:11Speaker 4: providing the service. So I can't tell you don't get
- 1:03:14Speaker 4: the service if I'm not willing to provide it. But
- 1:03:17Speaker 4: I made him get to know me first. I made
- 1:03:19Speaker 4: him tell me all kinds of things about him, and
- 1:03:22Speaker 4: him know things about me, and he he always tell
- 1:03:25Speaker 4: people like I just wanted to fuck the bitch, but
- 1:03:27Speaker 4: she made me get to know her, and then I
- 1:03:29Speaker 4: liked her. Dude, after I fucked, I tried to get
- 1:03:31Speaker 4: rid of Did you miss her?
- 1:03:33Speaker 2: Alright? What you think about that?
- 1:03:35Speaker 12: Which part? What we talking? Anything? Go back to your point,
- 1:03:42Speaker 12: say what you just said.
- 1:03:43Speaker 2: My point was I really kind of forgot what I said.
- 1:03:45Speaker 12: Oh you said no no no no no no no no.
- 1:03:47Speaker 4: No no what you said?
- 1:03:48Speaker 12: You said, you're getting to know a bitch?
- 1:03:50Speaker 4: Y'all? Fuck?
- 1:03:51Speaker 12: Why are you waiting until after you know her to try.
- 1:03:53Speaker 3: To get it know at It ain't no man, listen, bro,
- 1:03:56Speaker 3: I ain't talking about me personally, I'm saying in general,
- 1:04:00Speaker 3: and we all.
- 1:04:01Speaker 2: Know people just can't to be truthful. Man, I'm sick
- 1:04:04Speaker 2: of y'all.
- 1:04:05Speaker 3: You meet a motherfucker, man, women, men, whoever, you know,
- 1:04:09Speaker 3: if you're gonna give her, get him some pussy of
- 1:04:11Speaker 3: if he you're gonna suck her. You already know that
- 1:04:13Speaker 3: when you first meet a person. I always tell that
- 1:04:15Speaker 3: when I first if I was single. I'm just speaking hypothetic.
- 1:04:20Speaker 3: I see a woman, I'm not thinking about. Nothing goes
- 1:04:25Speaker 3: on with her. Besides I want.
- 1:04:26Speaker 2: To sleep with her. That's just anyway. Anyway, that's because
- 1:04:31Speaker 2: it's the first thing.
- 1:04:32Speaker 3: Is physical attraction, right, So that's that's gonna be like damn.
- 1:04:35Speaker 2: I kind of like that.
- 1:04:37Speaker 3: So that's what I'm thinking about off the rip, I
- 1:04:38Speaker 3: ain't thinking about can she read?
- 1:04:46Speaker 4: You read?
- 1:04:48Speaker 2: If your asspact? You think I can? If you can read, okay,
- 1:04:51Speaker 2: we'll figure that later this ship.
- 1:04:56Speaker 4: Hen why.
- 1:04:59Speaker 2: You she can't? She can't read? She can suck men
- 1:05:03Speaker 2: big yeah, yeah, that count.
- 1:05:08Speaker 4: She could count. She don't gotta read, but she knows
- 1:05:11Speaker 4: her number. No but you.
- 1:05:12Speaker 6: But you gotta beware though, because there are some crazy
- 1:05:15Speaker 6: ass bitches out here that you can fuck and don't
- 1:05:17Speaker 6: know nothing about her unless you know. Now she's stalking you.
- 1:05:20Speaker 6: Now she's doing some all types of crazy ship. You
- 1:05:22Speaker 6: know what I'm saying, Like you have Like when I'm saying,
- 1:05:25Speaker 6: as a woman, if you just gonna suck a girl,
- 1:05:27Speaker 6: like let her know what's going on, if you got
- 1:05:28Speaker 6: a situation, let her know, if you just trying to.
- 1:05:31Speaker 4: Suck her, let her know.
- 1:05:32Speaker 6: And everybody scared because it's like, oh, if I say something,
- 1:05:34Speaker 6: she may not be willing to fuck. But let her
- 1:05:36Speaker 6: make that decision because then you're gonna ultimately fuck yourself up.
- 1:05:40Speaker 4: Now she's pulling up on you, and you're like, damn, bitch.
- 1:05:46Speaker 2: I'm about to say, that's how to make good decisions.
- 1:05:48Speaker 2: I'm gonna put this.
- 1:05:51Speaker 11: It's not even that serious, like, yeah, I got a
- 1:05:53Speaker 11: girl that I'm already fucking.
- 1:05:55Speaker 6: That you fucking if you have a situation, you have.
- 1:05:58Speaker 11: A situation that they got ship to do with you.
- 1:06:02Speaker 3: Most men, and I'm gonna put this claim out there
- 1:06:04Speaker 3: for men, most men be actually thinking they like the
- 1:06:07Speaker 3: women at first.
- 1:06:08Speaker 6: It's crazy.
- 1:06:09Speaker 11: I don't believe what they do until they shows, until.
- 1:06:16Speaker 3: Their mask come off. Because everybody come in a relationship
- 1:06:20Speaker 3: with a mask on.
- 1:06:21Speaker 2: I wouldn't give a fuck who you is.
- 1:06:23Speaker 3: You not pulling up your regular self first day shout
- 1:06:26Speaker 3: and I start seeing late on in life and how
- 1:06:29Speaker 3: you really? How you really?
- 1:06:33Speaker 2: I don't know. I still like you.
- 1:06:35Speaker 6: Because you had a mask on, but like you just
- 1:06:38Speaker 6: think somebody just gone.
- 1:06:41Speaker 3: Like that's how you're gonna get authentic, your authentic self, though,
- 1:06:44Speaker 3: You're gonna get your authentic person when you draw the
- 1:06:46Speaker 3: line this who I am time.
- 1:06:52Speaker 4: I think that it takes time.
- 1:06:53Speaker 3: To If it takes time, are you mad at me?
- 1:06:55Speaker 3: Because I don't like when you show me you. I'm saying,
- 1:06:58Speaker 3: like a woman to say a nigga didn't because she
- 1:07:01Speaker 3: waited six months down the line he finally found out
- 1:07:03Speaker 3: who she was.
- 1:07:03Speaker 2: He'd be like, Bro, I can't deal with this. How's
- 1:07:06Speaker 2: he wrong?
- 1:07:07Speaker 12: He's not.
- 1:07:07Speaker 2: I wasn't even dating you.
- 1:07:09Speaker 4: He's not wrong.
- 1:07:10Speaker 3: That's what happens most of the time. But niggas don't
- 1:07:12Speaker 3: even know that. I just cracked the cold to night.
- 1:07:14Speaker 3: Niggas don't even know that what to be. He don't
- 1:07:16Speaker 3: know how to say it. But I really like her brother,
- 1:07:18Speaker 3: But I don't know what it is.
- 1:07:19Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. No, you don't, Bro, you
- 1:07:21Speaker 2: don't like her.
- 1:07:22Speaker 11: That's the truth, though, bro, like you most of these
- 1:07:27Speaker 11: people be me and these people bro having six day
- 1:07:30Speaker 11: all the good ship in.
- 1:07:31Speaker 3: The beginning, you know what I'm saying, the butterflies, and
- 1:07:33Speaker 3: she looked good. She got by some eight good outfits.
- 1:07:36Speaker 3: She don't want somem eight good bags.
- 1:07:38Speaker 4: She don't know.
- 1:07:39Speaker 3: Now this shit started. Now she gotta repeat this ship.
- 1:07:42Speaker 3: I've seen that jacket before.
- 1:07:43Speaker 2: I see that. You try to reap it. You try
- 1:07:45Speaker 2: to you know what I'm saying, And it ain't what
- 1:07:47Speaker 2: you said it was, so we both was lying.
- 1:07:51Speaker 4: If she did not she didn't want eighteen good outfits.
- 1:07:54Speaker 4: You and slider jacket in y'all ain't nigga to the
- 1:07:56Speaker 4: mall or nothing to get a little sweater at that point,
- 1:07:59Speaker 4: because if you and seen me eight or ten times,
- 1:08:02Speaker 4: that's over a month of good out Okay, But when
- 1:08:05Speaker 4: I got when I when I have to buy that sweater,
- 1:08:08Speaker 4: that would make me feel a way like that ship together.
- 1:08:12Speaker 4: So you really just at that point at that point.
- 1:08:16Speaker 3: If you will from the man, one more question, y'all
- 1:08:21Speaker 3: before we go. It's a dude wrong for acting like
- 1:08:25Speaker 3: he got money when you know, all women that's all
- 1:08:27Speaker 3: they want your hero.
- 1:08:32Speaker 2: Listen, we're from a town of Vaness's I don't.
- 1:08:34Speaker 3: I don't blame them niggas because these niggas ain't got
- 1:08:36Speaker 3: no money. They can't get no plussy, they can't get
- 1:08:38Speaker 3: no woman. So are you mad at the nigga for
- 1:08:41Speaker 3: fortraying he got money trying to get game?
- 1:08:45Speaker 2: It's a game. We both playing the game, right.
- 1:08:48Speaker 4: What's the guy? Hold on? Wait?
- 1:08:54Speaker 6: What is the woman pretending to have? So the men
- 1:08:56Speaker 6: pretending to have money, what's she pretending to have?
- 1:08:58Speaker 2: The woman is pretending to be uh, what do you say?
- 1:09:01Speaker 2: A nourisher? Because she really not.
- 1:09:03Speaker 4: You don't give a fuck about her being a nurse.
- 1:09:05Speaker 3: She pretended she got six, but she really don't. She
- 1:09:09Speaker 3: pretended a lot in the beginning that mask so my mask,
- 1:09:14Speaker 3: kids don't really oma what did some that? We're both lying.
- 1:09:21Speaker 4: But let me tell you something. If you broke your
- 1:09:23Speaker 4: dick shouldn't even be able to get hold Like if
- 1:09:26Speaker 4: you ain't got nothing to offer and your ship together,
- 1:09:29Speaker 4: God should be like limb dick.
- 1:09:33Speaker 2: The hardest I'm trying to fuck up on something.
- 1:09:37Speaker 6: She you're talking about, say that I was just about it.
- 1:09:43Speaker 3: You motherfucker can't do that, but it's all I got.
- 1:09:47Speaker 13: It work, So bank Cocho for waiting no more has
- 1:09:53Speaker 13: has something for you?
- 1:09:54Speaker 2: A Coco? What's up?
- 1:09:55Speaker 4: Thank you know?
- 1:09:56Speaker 1: I love you?
- 1:09:56Speaker 2: Right?
- 1:09:57Speaker 4: You sound and real. You're making men.
- 1:09:59Speaker 22: Sound real selfish, right because at the end of the day,
- 1:10:02Speaker 22: like when it comes to being truthful about stuff like
- 1:10:05Speaker 22: if you got you got hold, Like like they said, women,
- 1:10:08Speaker 22: we're gonna fuck you if we want to fuck you,
- 1:10:09Speaker 22: regardless of what we're gonna do it, you can tell
- 1:10:12Speaker 22: me on it.
- 1:10:12Speaker 2: For what you tell me.
- 1:10:13Speaker 22: You know what I'm saying, I'm gonna be mad for
- 1:10:15Speaker 22: a minute. But if I want to fuck.
- 1:10:16Speaker 2: I'm a fuck. You understand what you're saying.
- 1:10:19Speaker 22: So what happens is when y'all lying, like when guys
- 1:10:22Speaker 22: lie to us.
- 1:10:23Speaker 4: Going back to her question.
- 1:10:25Speaker 22: Just acting No, not just the money, the fucking bitches,
- 1:10:28Speaker 22: all kinds of stuff like anything a man is lying for,
- 1:10:31Speaker 22: Like you don't want to tell us because you're scared
- 1:10:32Speaker 22: you're gonna lose, not scared, whatever the reason is, you're
- 1:10:35Speaker 22: not being honest about what you're doing. When they were
- 1:10:36Speaker 22: talking about you know, men messing around, like tell me
- 1:10:39Speaker 22: the truth. I'm like, you should now tell me the truth.
- 1:10:42Speaker 22: You know what I'm saying. Let me let me, give
- 1:10:44Speaker 22: me the choice to choose what I want to deal with.
- 1:10:46Speaker 22: You know you don't tell the truth. Why because you
- 1:10:49Speaker 22: don't want to lose the bit.
- 1:10:50Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm gonna tell the truth.
- 1:10:54Speaker 22: But look, it's going back to her when she was
- 1:10:56Speaker 22: she was asking, why do men have to come in
- 1:10:58Speaker 22: the door trying to build us up and make us
- 1:11:01Speaker 22: feel away? And the reason a lot of times is
- 1:11:03Speaker 22: because we are fucked up from previous niggas.
- 1:11:06Speaker 4: Doing shit like that.
- 1:11:07Speaker 22: So we guarded all of us fucked up niggas come
- 1:11:10Speaker 22: into relationships fucked up too, you know what I'm saying.
- 1:11:12Speaker 22: And y'all, y'all don't come in as y'all true self.
- 1:11:15Speaker 22: We not coming there and fully hear everybody fucked up.
- 1:11:17Speaker 22: So at the end of the day, you got it,
- 1:11:19Speaker 22: like she was saying, like it's all chot. We all
- 1:11:21Speaker 22: gotta learn if you fuck with somebody, this who you
- 1:11:23Speaker 22: want to be your person, whatever you gonna go through
- 1:11:25Speaker 22: whatever with that person, you're gonna be honest with that person.
- 1:11:28Speaker 22: But if you not shit, you gonna get what she
- 1:11:31Speaker 22: was saying, you gonna keep fucking up people.
- 1:11:33Speaker 4: They going into relationships guarded.
- 1:11:35Speaker 2: I agree with that coda that what you got.
- 1:11:37Speaker 11: Nah, I was about to say, it just depends on
- 1:11:39Speaker 11: the on the degree of fucked up because your your
- 1:11:42Speaker 11: shit burnt down. I ain't finna goddamn bill this whole
- 1:11:45Speaker 11: house up. You feel me, I'm not about like your shit.
- 1:11:49Speaker 11: If your shit fucked up.
- 1:11:50Speaker 2: I'm not.
- 1:11:50Speaker 11: It's too much to deal with because it's gonna be.
- 1:11:52Speaker 11: It's another woman that's Justine Stein that's not as fucked up.
- 1:11:55Speaker 11: So why am I put up with your ship that
- 1:11:56Speaker 11: another nigga did when I'm trying to build or I'm
- 1:11:59Speaker 11: gonna live nothing to it another nigga actually affect my house?
- 1:12:02Speaker 2: You feel me? But it's so many see the thing
- 1:12:04Speaker 2: about it.
- 1:12:04Speaker 3: And then, like you said, it may do sound selfish,
- 1:12:07Speaker 3: and you're right, but I'm just speaking for I ain't
- 1:12:09Speaker 3: speaking for the dudes that y'all pick over, you know
- 1:12:11Speaker 3: what I'm saying. It's a lot of dudes out there
- 1:12:12Speaker 3: that that y'all speak up, but y'all don't like them.
- 1:12:15Speaker 3: Y'all want to go fuck with the niggas who you
- 1:12:17Speaker 3: know it ain't ship and think you're gonna make them that.
- 1:12:19Speaker 2: And then when he turned that girl just talking about
- 1:12:21Speaker 2: this nigga he want to say no more.
- 1:12:23Speaker 3: If you if you could convince your nigga to beat
- 1:12:25Speaker 3: the nigga that's in your mind.
- 1:12:26Speaker 2: You not gonna like him. I guarantee you that I agree.
- 1:12:30Speaker 2: If you could convince your.
- 1:12:31Speaker 3: Nigga to go for half of the ship, that damn
- 1:12:34Speaker 3: he can go for this joke. Yeah, none, you turn
- 1:12:37Speaker 3: it to you ain't got no spine. I know a
- 1:12:40Speaker 3: bunch of good dudes out here, man that's really looking
- 1:12:43Speaker 3: for wise like this is a good man, got a
- 1:12:44Speaker 3: shit together, but he can't found him. Got the money,
- 1:12:48Speaker 3: got everything, but brouh, I ain't fuck with the whole bro.
- 1:12:50Speaker 4: Five O four three three eight having what a man
- 1:12:56Speaker 4: in a back?
- 1:12:57Speaker 3: No, but I'm just keeping it real. How many men
- 1:12:59Speaker 3: you y'all know, Like I know a lot of dudes,
- 1:13:01Speaker 3: be like, Bank, I want to be married, bro, I
- 1:13:03Speaker 3: want to have kids. I want to do all that, Bro.
- 1:13:06Speaker 3: But it's just like I got to move out of
- 1:13:07Speaker 3: Atlanta or something.
- 1:13:09Speaker 6: And women feel the same exact way. Huh, women feel
- 1:13:12Speaker 6: the same way.
- 1:13:13Speaker 13: All right, So real quick, she got another question for you, Bank,
- 1:13:16Speaker 13: and then we're gonna move on to the left.
- 1:13:17Speaker 5: Right.
- 1:13:19Speaker 18: I wanted to answer your question when he was like
- 1:13:20Speaker 18: it's okay for man to like fines or I'm from
- 1:13:24Speaker 18: Atlanta too, So it depends on finis becuz.
- 1:13:28Speaker 12: Hood nigga for this and green nigga for thiss is different.
- 1:13:32Speaker 18: Like hood nigga, he can not have real money, legal money.
- 1:13:36Speaker 4: He gonna make that shit happen for you. So if that.
- 1:13:39Speaker 18: Nigga like you enough, he'ple can bill gatesmorrow.
- 1:13:42Speaker 3: Nah facts, what's the green nigga for this nigga who
- 1:13:45Speaker 3: got damn staying that mama ain't got.
- 1:13:47Speaker 4: Now he's sweet. Anybody can get over him.
- 1:13:49Speaker 18: That's the tricks the nigga that like they give his
- 1:13:51Speaker 18: money out, but he really going to work a regular job.
- 1:13:54Speaker 2: That ain't no getting finished. He getting he's getting into it.
- 1:13:59Speaker 2: I thought, yeah, hold on, No, she just made a point.
- 1:14:05Speaker 3: She said, leading with the money, right, I hate, she said,
- 1:14:08Speaker 3: leading with the money, dudess, leading with money.
- 1:14:10Speaker 2: I'm old school. I'm a South nigga.
- 1:14:13Speaker 3: We you know, we believe in You know what I'm saying,
- 1:14:15Speaker 3: put in my pocket, give me something.
- 1:14:18Speaker 2: I'm down there trying to get two bringing some food.
- 1:14:20Speaker 2: I appreciate it. I ain't tell you I'm going to
- 1:14:22Speaker 2: give your money back.
- 1:14:23Speaker 3: I'm that kind of nigga, I'm trying to see if
- 1:14:24Speaker 3: you we if we partners.
- 1:14:27Speaker 4: No, no, no, it's on your south side Atlanta.
- 1:14:34Speaker 2: One we don't know, like so oh for sure. Shout
- 1:14:40Speaker 2: out to the woman that feed.
- 1:14:40Speaker 11: Niggas about your last night.
- 1:14:50Speaker 3: She said, you can't if a dude lead with his money.
- 1:14:52Speaker 3: Man most of the time, he finished, cause nigga ain't
- 1:14:55Speaker 3: trying to get nobody.
- 1:14:56Speaker 6: Most dudes money anyway.
- 1:14:58Speaker 5: But this is you need to give the what you
- 1:15:01Speaker 5: said or something right because of those things.
- 1:15:09Speaker 2: They're literally leading.
- 1:15:10Speaker 4: You lead with your money.
- 1:15:11Speaker 15: You put up like you know, we know too many
- 1:15:13Speaker 15: people that work all week to make it look like
- 1:15:16Speaker 15: they're doing something on the weekend.
- 1:15:18Speaker 2: Right.
- 1:15:19Speaker 4: But if you led with that and you're mad, then now.
- 1:15:21Speaker 15: This girl has aectations of these things from.
- 1:15:25Speaker 4: You who you really mad at because you.
- 1:15:28Speaker 15: You start and then this is the thing, try to
- 1:15:31Speaker 15: with your money, and then a second she asks you
- 1:15:33Speaker 15: for some second she said, hey, this is because my nigga, that's.
- 1:15:37Speaker 2: What you had.
- 1:15:38Speaker 15: You You being mad at her sound stupid because you
- 1:15:40Speaker 15: put out bait to catch what you was fishing for
- 1:15:43Speaker 15: total versus the women who actually ain't doing none of
- 1:15:46Speaker 15: those things. And would like to have a high value
- 1:15:49Speaker 15: man that kind of got this, you know, not kind
- 1:15:51Speaker 15: of really got their stuff together.
- 1:15:52Speaker 2: But most of them don't.
- 1:15:54Speaker 15: But what happens is that, I mean, you not looking
- 1:15:56Speaker 15: at her. She don't like the dime. And I'm gonna
- 1:16:00Speaker 15: say this, but this is the truth. Most of the
- 1:16:03Speaker 15: people that you're really looking for, you the upgrade for them,
- 1:16:06Speaker 15: and not just financially. I'm saying you're the upgrade for
- 1:16:10Speaker 15: them to want life to be different.
- 1:16:12Speaker 4: That's that's the part we be looking at her.
- 1:16:14Speaker 15: I was like, oh, well, you know, yeah, she c man,
- 1:16:17Speaker 15: you know, she don't do this, this and that. Well
- 1:16:19Speaker 15: I guess what if she had somebody that was willing
- 1:16:21Speaker 15: gonna pay for her to get her time into a cup,
- 1:16:23Speaker 15: breast lifted her booty, none and.
- 1:16:25Speaker 4: All of those things.
- 1:16:25Speaker 2: Guess what she gonna be lowyal to you.
- 1:16:27Speaker 15: She gonna graise your children, She's gonna do all of
- 1:16:29Speaker 15: these things.
- 1:16:29Speaker 2: You don't want to.
- 1:16:30Speaker 15: Fix nobody, but you want to be fixed, like I
- 1:16:37Speaker 15: think I'm.
- 1:16:37Speaker 2: Gonna fix my all right, all right, so look y'all,
- 1:16:42Speaker 2: we do all snapped out. So look, look, go with
- 1:16:44Speaker 2: the last question of the night. It is the we
- 1:16:46Speaker 2: got an election coming up.
- 1:16:47Speaker 13: So here's this question, right, do men and women make
- 1:16:50Speaker 13: decisions differently under pressure?
- 1:16:52Speaker 2: How should this be valued in leadership?
- 1:16:55Speaker 13: Let's go with do men and women make decisions differently
- 1:16:59Speaker 13: under and if so, how should this be value leadership?
- 1:17:04Speaker 2: We'll start with you, Kodak.
- 1:17:07Speaker 11: I do believe men and women make decisions under pressure differently.
- 1:17:11Speaker 11: I believe politically is different than like socially. So like
- 1:17:16Speaker 11: we're talking about if we only got fifty dollars, then
- 1:17:19Speaker 11: we need to figure out which bill need to get
- 1:17:20Speaker 11: paid first. That's different. Then you know, if we're gonna bomb,
- 1:17:23Speaker 11: I ran or some shit. But it just it is different.
- 1:17:28Speaker 11: It is different. I feel like just being in clutch situations.
- 1:17:32Speaker 11: That's why a lot of times, that's why the man
- 1:17:34Speaker 11: is the leader in of the house in most situations,
- 1:17:36Speaker 11: in most traditional senses, the man is gonna lead because
- 1:17:39Speaker 11: he can make better decisions in that moment. Now, I
- 1:17:42Speaker 11: do believe in a successful family unit, then a positive
- 1:17:50Speaker 11: decision can be made with the input of women because
- 1:17:53Speaker 11: you can see something from a different perspective, then I'm
- 1:17:55Speaker 11: gonna see it and that's gonna help make the best
- 1:17:58Speaker 11: decision because I mean again, I work with Jojo, so
- 1:18:01Speaker 11: it's almost like we do make some of these decisions.
- 1:18:04Speaker 11: I'd be like, fuck them folks all the time, and
- 1:18:06Speaker 11: Joe's were like, well, no, we can't say fuck them
- 1:18:08Speaker 11: folks because that's your boss. And so whereas I would
- 1:18:16Speaker 11: be very brutish in the situation, she will come with tack.
- 1:18:19Speaker 11: Like I think a perfect example like last week with
- 1:18:21Speaker 11: the homecoming, I'm like, fuck it, put everybody in the room,
- 1:18:24Speaker 11: we're gonna put them together. JoJo's like, no, we're gonna
- 1:18:26Speaker 11: get a list, we're gonna put it together, we're gonna
- 1:18:28Speaker 11: call names off. And I'm like, you're right. I wouldn't
- 1:18:33Speaker 11: even thought to do it like that, even though it
- 1:18:34Speaker 11: sounds like some simple ship, simple shit to do. Whereas
- 1:18:37Speaker 11: in the beginning I did say niggas is slow, I'm niggas.
- 1:18:44Speaker 6: You stupid.
- 1:18:45Speaker 2: Joe.
- 1:18:49Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that.
- 1:18:52Speaker 6: When you say under pressure, I think that women me
- 1:19:02Speaker 6: who's that? I think women make good decisions under pressure.
- 1:19:07Speaker 6: I think that we can think rationally and we know
- 1:19:11Speaker 6: how to dig into that emotional side as well, which
- 1:19:15Speaker 6: is something that most men can't do. Like most men
- 1:19:19Speaker 6: are gonna go straight, business straight, corporate straight. This is
- 1:19:23Speaker 6: what we need to do, and they're gonna like try
- 1:19:26Speaker 6: to like grab the dick a little bit too, you
- 1:19:28Speaker 6: know what I'm saying. So it's just like, but as
- 1:19:30Speaker 6: a woman, she can she can go in with with
- 1:19:34Speaker 6: elegance and she can literally diffuse a situation better than
- 1:19:40Speaker 6: a man. I feel like, with a simple smile for real,
- 1:19:43Speaker 6: it's all to take because y'all niggas so easy.
- 1:19:45Speaker 2: But yeah, go ahead, bank. Uh what question?
- 1:19:53Speaker 13: Do men and women under pressure?
- 1:19:59Speaker 2: Thank you? Men and women make decisions better under pressure?
- 1:20:02Speaker 2: It depends. It depends on what type of decision on
- 1:20:06Speaker 2: I feel like if it's it's situational, we're talking about
- 1:20:10Speaker 2: familiar decisions.
- 1:20:12Speaker 3: Like it's like business relationship, what what type of decision?
- 1:20:15Speaker 2: Damn?
- 1:20:15Speaker 6: Underpressure?
- 1:20:17Speaker 13: Anything under pressure? So somebody come up in here right now.
- 1:20:21Speaker 13: Who who's gonna react calmly? A man or woman?
- 1:20:25Speaker 3: I think a man gonna add more calm than a woman,
- 1:20:27Speaker 3: but some women be calm though. It depends on what
- 1:20:30Speaker 3: the man coming in here doing. He coming in here
- 1:20:31Speaker 3: with waving a gun, they gonna panic and run out
- 1:20:34Speaker 3: from that.
- 1:20:35Speaker 13: He coming in on it, that's the right decision, huh,
- 1:20:37Speaker 13: he coming in on that? So who's gonna who's gonna
- 1:20:40Speaker 13: act calmly underressure? Wh're gona get us out of here
- 1:20:42Speaker 13: the way we need to get out of here.
- 1:20:45Speaker 2: It's left up to the man, right for that.
- 1:20:46Speaker 5: Well, that's different I think honestly men, because women, a
- 1:20:51Speaker 5: lot of times we react based on the emotion, thank you,
- 1:20:54Speaker 5: So if we're being honest, So if if somebody came
- 1:20:57Speaker 5: in here waving a gun, I think, you know, men
- 1:20:59Speaker 5: will be to control the situation a little better and
- 1:21:02Speaker 5: we might panic a little more because that's just how
- 1:21:03Speaker 5: we handle situations. So just naturally, I do think men
- 1:21:07Speaker 5: are better leaders and they react better under pressure. But again,
- 1:21:11Speaker 5: like you said, it depends on what pressure we're talking about.
- 1:21:14Speaker 5: We at the house political okay, if we're talking business
- 1:21:17Speaker 5: and it's a little different, we're talking about the household.
- 1:21:20Speaker 5: We know women kind of we handle the kids a
- 1:21:23Speaker 5: little different. We handle kids a little better. So it
- 1:21:25Speaker 5: just depends on what kind of pressure we talking about.
- 1:21:28Speaker 2: Exactly.
- 1:21:28Speaker 11: I think if a guy came in here with a gun,
- 1:21:30Speaker 11: I think that falls under the protector the protect the umbrellas.
- 1:21:33Speaker 11: So men, I feel like would probably handle that situation.
- 1:21:36Speaker 3: But I'm running out back, Nah, but I feel like,
- 1:21:46Speaker 3: I guess that's the Kamala Harris And that's a Kamala
- 1:21:50Speaker 3: Harris question basically, like what she if her dude pissed off?
- 1:21:53Speaker 2: What she got? Damn wake up and bomb someone? Correct?
- 1:21:56Speaker 2: I believe so, Chanelle, what you think you? I know,
- 1:22:00Speaker 2: if my.
- 1:22:00Speaker 3: Wife was the president and I pissed off, everybody gotta go.
- 1:22:06Speaker 6: No, I don't think so.
- 1:22:07Speaker 4: I don't know. You know, see, I hate to talk
- 1:22:13Speaker 4: about like political stuff like that's not really just like
- 1:22:16Speaker 4: my my thing that I prefer to talk about. And
- 1:22:21Speaker 4: I believe men should be the leaders in my personal opinion,
- 1:22:25Speaker 4: I'm I mean, I'm not gonna talk about who I
- 1:22:28Speaker 4: voted for or whatever. But you know, in a situation
- 1:22:32Speaker 4: where if it's in business under pressure, I think women
- 1:22:36Speaker 4: will help you make a clearer decision. But women are
- 1:22:41Speaker 4: very emotional, so I don't I think she can help
- 1:22:46Speaker 4: you make the best decision when two when the two
- 1:22:49Speaker 4: come together, I don't think it's a standalone situation. I
- 1:22:54Speaker 4: think if it's me and you in a room and
- 1:22:56Speaker 4: it's some pressure, we gonna figure out how to make
- 1:22:59Speaker 4: this make sense. The same way he just kind of
- 1:23:02Speaker 4: said with them in business, they was discussing something he
- 1:23:06Speaker 4: had one way, and Jojo simply came, well, no, what's
- 1:23:08Speaker 4: Gorna doing like that? And ultimately it was her helping
- 1:23:11Speaker 4: him as a collective, so it was a team. Yeah.
- 1:23:15Speaker 6: So ultimately you might listen to the man like if
- 1:23:17Speaker 6: it's too in a situation, you'd be like, okay, what
- 1:23:19Speaker 6: we're gonna do? Goddamn? And he said now we're gonna
- 1:23:21Speaker 6: blow this ship up, he'd be like, whoa hold on, Now,
- 1:23:24Speaker 6: we can't do that, but this is what it's gonna
- 1:23:27Speaker 6: cause it's gonna happen from this is gonna this. I
- 1:23:29Speaker 6: think about that, and that's what we.
- 1:23:31Speaker 11: Like more rational, right, but also to like count of that,
- 1:23:35Speaker 11: sometimes the ship needs to get blown up too.
- 1:23:40Speaker 6: And then if he say that and he's like, nah,
- 1:23:41Speaker 6: but this ship really needs to get blown up, and
- 1:23:43Speaker 6: I'll be like, blow that ship up.
- 1:23:44Speaker 11: Baby, cause like today I told you what I told you,
- 1:23:47Speaker 11: You text me that ship today, I like, shit, fuck
- 1:23:50Speaker 11: she folk that ship.
- 1:23:55Speaker 3: More al the story, man, I don't think I could
- 1:23:58Speaker 3: be a man without a woman at the bottom line.
- 1:24:02Speaker 3: So however, whatever we love y'all, but still y'all, I'm
- 1:24:06Speaker 3: at all right real quick, yo, what let me say this.
- 1:24:15Speaker 3: Let me say this right here. Do women tell their
- 1:24:19Speaker 3: friends when they tripping? Please answer that, yes, okay, all right,
- 1:24:24Speaker 3: all right, all right, that's a good question.
- 1:24:27Speaker 2: But do you come around this dude with her acting
- 1:24:31Speaker 2: like she wasn't tripping?
- 1:24:33Speaker 8: No, huh.
- 1:24:36Speaker 3: So listen if you if you was tripping, right, we
- 1:24:40Speaker 3: was in a relationship and you was tripping. I feel
- 1:24:41Speaker 3: like me you was into it, and she told you
- 1:24:44Speaker 3: in the car that you was wrong. She not finna
- 1:24:46Speaker 3: let me know that she told you. She let me
- 1:24:49Speaker 3: know that you're.
- 1:24:49Speaker 4: Wrong, my friend, She's gonna tell me.
- 1:24:54Speaker 2: And and you're not gonna go on me that you're
- 1:24:57Speaker 2: wrong either.
- 1:24:57Speaker 4: Well, I'm a geminized I'm gonna just come make it better.
- 1:25:00Speaker 4: But I'm not really gonna apologize all the time. I'm
- 1:25:02Speaker 4: just gonna come try to figure out how to fix
- 1:25:04Speaker 4: it without the actual apology. You know, Gemini is a
- 1:25:07Speaker 4: little crazy.
- 1:25:08Speaker 6: Well why does it matter if her friends too?
- 1:25:11Speaker 2: Not tell me?
- 1:25:11Speaker 3: I'm just saying, like, just say fencing, Like, when a
- 1:25:16Speaker 3: woman is right, you know, they got to be right
- 1:25:18Speaker 3: for a whole year about that one thing. So I'm
- 1:25:22Speaker 3: always right about everything. When I'm right one time, and
- 1:25:26Speaker 3: it's intuition ship?
- 1:25:28Speaker 2: How how accurate do y'all think intuition is? So?
- 1:25:33Speaker 3: Why ask me then? If you already know some ship
- 1:25:38Speaker 3: and you thought of it, why ask me?
- 1:25:39Speaker 11: Hold hello, bank, hold on? If the intuition is that accurate,
- 1:25:46Speaker 11: why y'all keep running in to the niggas?
- 1:25:48Speaker 2: Thank you?
- 1:25:49Speaker 4: Because you guess what you are?
- 1:25:52Speaker 2: Hold now we're cooking. Now we're cooking.
- 1:25:55Speaker 15: No, you already found could But guess what a lot.
- 1:25:59Speaker 4: Of women want to see if they can't figure out
- 1:26:01Speaker 4: how to.
- 1:26:02Speaker 12: Change change exactly.
- 1:26:04Speaker 4: They already know you're fucked up, but they like, I'm
- 1:26:07Speaker 4: gonna fuck this ship out of him. I'm gonna change
- 1:26:14Speaker 4: so you think.
- 1:26:15Speaker 3: So you should be mad at you pussy cause your
- 1:26:17Speaker 3: pussy can't change this man.
- 1:26:19Speaker 4: Pussy get lonely too, like the little dicks get lonely.
- 1:26:23Speaker 3: What I'm saying, she said, women feel as if though
- 1:26:28Speaker 3: around she can find meet you today, and you drink beer.
- 1:26:33Speaker 3: I don't like beer, though, girl. She's telling a friend
- 1:26:35Speaker 3: to leave, but it now he's gonna be a fucking
- 1:26:37Speaker 3: beer drinker for the rest of his life. But you
- 1:26:41Speaker 3: thinking I can love him enough and then I can
- 1:26:43Speaker 3: say it in a way he'll stop drinking beer.
- 1:26:45Speaker 2: That never happens.
- 1:26:46Speaker 3: You gotta ask yourself if I can I live and
- 1:26:49Speaker 3: love this person if he don't change nothing.
- 1:26:51Speaker 2: About him forever.
- 1:26:53Speaker 6: The problem is.
- 1:26:53Speaker 2: That's what you gotta do. That's how you pick your partner. Man.
- 1:26:56Speaker 3: You look at a person up and down? Can I
- 1:26:58Speaker 3: love this person just like this?
- 1:27:00Speaker 2: With el? Anything you do extra after that is extra?
- 1:27:04Speaker 4: I agree?
- 1:27:05Speaker 3: But come on, I get plad of mic please. Somebody
- 1:27:10Speaker 3: get blad of mic. Better, get plaud of mic please.
- 1:27:13Speaker 4: But let me tell you before she say something. The
- 1:27:17Speaker 4: issue is this, you don't get to meet that person
- 1:27:20Speaker 4: because everybody lying in the beginning. That's so you getting
- 1:27:24Speaker 4: down the line. Ain't nine months, nigga, finest you for
- 1:27:27Speaker 4: a whole year?
- 1:27:28Speaker 2: How intuition intuition package that ship is one hundred percent?
- 1:27:38Speaker 1: What the.
- 1:27:41Speaker 2: Broke that intuition broke?
- 1:27:42Speaker 4: And just be lying percon accurate.
- 1:27:46Speaker 15: I just said on thousand percent.
- 1:27:48Speaker 6: Say that I said it's a thousand percent accurate? Are
- 1:27:52Speaker 6: you sure did?
- 1:27:55Speaker 2: Don't be lying intuition? No, no, no, don't.
- 1:27:58Speaker 4: Lie and say that you're gonna stop drinking beer.
- 1:28:00Speaker 2: Don't.
- 1:28:01Speaker 6: This is where when she comes into play. No, no, no,
- 1:28:04Speaker 6: this is where the intuition come into play. It's like, Okay,
- 1:28:06Speaker 6: I'm drinking beer and I'm dealing with this nigga whos
- 1:28:08Speaker 6: drinking beer? Are We'll leave him, girl, he ain't gonna
- 1:28:09Speaker 6: stop drinking beer. Yeah, but he told me that he
- 1:28:12Speaker 6: was gonna stop.
- 1:28:12Speaker 4: Like, I trust him. I know he gonna stop.
- 1:28:15Speaker 2: I was gonna try. I'm addicted.
- 1:28:16Speaker 6: No, but listen, but you keep doing it and keep
- 1:28:18Speaker 6: doing it, but you lie about it.
- 1:28:20Speaker 4: That's where then t wish you keep coming in.
- 1:28:21Speaker 6: You like, I know this nigga drinking this fucking beer.
- 1:28:25Speaker 3: But if we having a conversation and I tell you
- 1:28:27Speaker 3: stop cutting me off, stop cutting me off, women all say, well,
- 1:28:31Speaker 3: that's just I'm just I'm sorry. I don't be trying
- 1:28:33Speaker 3: to do it on purpose. I'm understand everything that goes
- 1:28:37Speaker 3: on with a woman. A man has to understand. But
- 1:28:40Speaker 3: when a dude got a defect about him, it's.
- 1:28:42Speaker 2: It's like change it. No, change it, brother, It's not
- 1:28:46Speaker 2: hold up. You can I can say.
- 1:28:47Speaker 3: It, don't come it. Everything that I say that I
- 1:28:52Speaker 3: don't like about you as a woman, you'd be like
- 1:28:55Speaker 3: except me for who I am, absolutely and everything that you.
- 1:28:59Speaker 2: Say you like me. That's which is everything.
- 1:29:03Speaker 3: I gotta fit, I gotta be like, I need to go,
- 1:29:05Speaker 3: I need to change for my baby.
- 1:29:07Speaker 2: But it's huh, go ahead.
- 1:29:10Speaker 15: The intuition thing is true, it is it don't lie
- 1:29:14Speaker 15: to us. We lie to ourselfs because our intuition will
- 1:29:18Speaker 15: have already told us exactly.
- 1:29:20Speaker 4: What it was.
- 1:29:21Speaker 15: And then we'll say, okay, I heard this, because can
- 1:29:25Speaker 15: I just be honest? And most of the time we
- 1:29:28Speaker 15: don't trust ourselves. We know our intuition be right, but
- 1:29:31Speaker 15: we don't trust ourselves because we did pick the last
- 1:29:34Speaker 15: that didn't do right.
- 1:29:35Speaker 6: Trust him. We're not trusting ourselves trying to trust him right.
- 1:29:39Speaker 2: We're trying.
- 1:29:40Speaker 15: We're trying to get past our trust issues right. So
- 1:29:43Speaker 15: that's how we are rationalized with our intuition. And then
- 1:29:46Speaker 15: the sad part is is that's why what they say
- 1:29:49Speaker 15: hindsight is.
- 1:29:50Speaker 4: Twenty twenty made me feel like this was some is off.
- 1:29:54Speaker 15: That's something that's off, was off before you had says
- 1:29:58Speaker 15: and still kept doing it. But this is the thing
- 1:30:00Speaker 15: that don't mean her intuition wasn't right. That means she
- 1:30:03Speaker 15: didn't trust herself enough and that.
- 1:30:07Speaker 2: I gotta guy, hold hold on, hold on, So I.
- 1:30:10Speaker 3: Gotta be the fall guy because you know that your
- 1:30:12Speaker 3: intuition one hundred percent correct. But you went against yourself
- 1:30:15Speaker 3: for a nigga that you know you already know because God,
- 1:30:18Speaker 3: whoever the intuition.
- 1:30:19Speaker 2: They told you, So you you mad?
- 1:30:22Speaker 4: You yess what? Yes? What you feeling?
- 1:30:29Speaker 2: Hold on listen? But that's but that's not I'm like,
- 1:30:31Speaker 2: but that's how a woman.
- 1:30:32Speaker 3: That's how woman remains bitter because she's not accusing the mirror.
- 1:30:37Speaker 3: She gotta be like, hey, man, you knew that ship
- 1:30:39Speaker 3: was wrong. You knew it from the beginning. Nigga was
- 1:30:41Speaker 3: a fuck nigga bro eat that.
- 1:30:43Speaker 4: But to the next day the intuition might be right,
- 1:30:46Speaker 4: but guess what some of you niggas be coming fucking
- 1:30:48Speaker 4: the ship out of us, God damn it. And sometimes
- 1:30:52Speaker 4: and then the one that's gonna do your right, this
- 1:30:55Speaker 4: big and the one that's gonna do your wrong, did
- 1:30:57Speaker 4: this big beating up beating that thing.
- 1:31:00Speaker 2: So tell what I'm saying.
- 1:31:01Speaker 4: So sometimes we know you ain't shit, we know you
- 1:31:05Speaker 4: ain't right, but that thing is thanking, So we be like, girl,
- 1:31:08Speaker 4: he gonna change, Girl.
- 1:31:10Speaker 11: He gonna listen, what what what you what you're talking about?
- 1:31:14Speaker 2: That's not but that's not intuition. That is hindsight.
- 1:31:17Speaker 11: Of course, it's easy to say you made the right
- 1:31:19Speaker 11: decision after you realize you made the wrong decision.
- 1:31:23Speaker 4: You was already wrong.
- 1:31:24Speaker 2: You picked, you picked it.
- 1:31:26Speaker 6: It's not that.
- 1:31:32Speaker 2: Listen.
- 1:31:32Speaker 11: Yeah, no, no, I understand what you said. Hold bank,
- 1:31:38Speaker 11: I play, I play. I play a lot of fantasy
- 1:31:40Speaker 11: football this year. Right, So if I start a quarterback
- 1:31:42Speaker 11: and I'm like, man, he ain't gonna be shipped, but
- 1:31:45Speaker 11: let me put him in. Let me start him this week,
- 1:31:47Speaker 11: he throw four interceptions.
- 1:31:48Speaker 2: She I already knew, but you know what that was.
- 1:31:50Speaker 11: That's not intuition, that's hindsight because I didn't go with
- 1:31:52Speaker 11: the thought that I knew was right.
- 1:31:54Speaker 2: I kept that nigga in there. No, man, don't understand.
- 1:32:00Speaker 2: I just it's just way.
- 1:32:02Speaker 4: We had somebody over there. I want to talk the top.
- 1:32:07Speaker 4: Just stop lying, bro, what's the lie?
- 1:32:10Speaker 2: Bro? Hold up? Hold up?
- 1:32:11Speaker 3: HELDO heard women say, why did you say that nigga?
- 1:32:15Speaker 3: Like I ain't saying nothing, Well, why you do it
- 1:32:17Speaker 3: to me like that.
- 1:32:19Speaker 2: Fish? That's how I do it.
- 1:32:24Speaker 4: That's a lie.
- 1:32:25Speaker 3: What you mean if a nigga basically what she just said,
- 1:32:27Speaker 3: if a nigga ain't gotta say nothing. He just treats
- 1:32:30Speaker 3: you how you want to be treated and fuck you
- 1:32:33Speaker 3: how you want to be fucked tomorrow When that nigga
- 1:32:35Speaker 3: don't answer whatever he's doing, he could be being s
- 1:32:37Speaker 3: for real. Now it's like you tripping, like flipping out.
- 1:32:41Speaker 3: She thinking, she flipping out because you don't win ghosts.
- 1:32:43Speaker 2: Ain't went got they by being business.
- 1:32:45Speaker 3: You know this, okay, but then you're you're concoct the
- 1:32:49Speaker 3: whole move in your head that now you calling me
- 1:32:52Speaker 3: and you shifting our energy that it wasn't even.
- 1:32:53Speaker 4: That that's them. He switched up my intuition.
- 1:32:59Speaker 6: I know what the fuck you doing If I'm sucking
- 1:33:01Speaker 6: with a nigga like and I'm a and I'm accusing
- 1:33:03Speaker 6: him for about something, I already know what's going on.
- 1:33:06Speaker 6: I'm not gonna say something if I don't know what's
- 1:33:09Speaker 6: going on. Us as women, we gonna know.
- 1:33:13Speaker 4: No, knowing that we're gonna have to say something.
- 1:33:15Speaker 6: We're no.
- 1:33:16Speaker 3: No, you don't know ship if you knew that, and
- 1:33:20Speaker 3: you'll know a lottery number, like if women can catch
- 1:33:23Speaker 3: what you're doing, no, like a woman fucker need.
- 1:33:27Speaker 2: A house, A motherfucker tell you a second.
- 1:33:28Speaker 3: You're probably stopped by the store right there and got
- 1:33:30Speaker 3: your rubbles and you went down there.
- 1:33:31Speaker 2: I know it. You're probably that's a lot you need.
- 1:33:34Speaker 6: God damn, that's a lot.
- 1:33:37Speaker 4: That's a lot.
- 1:33:38Speaker 2: If you could come up, you got a whole movie.
- 1:33:43Speaker 2: And women really believe that.
- 1:33:44Speaker 3: I'd have seen women sit around and think of something
- 1:33:47Speaker 3: in their pestimistic mind and be for real mad at
- 1:33:50Speaker 3: you about some ship that you ain't even.
- 1:33:52Speaker 6: I don't know nothing about that. Yeah, that's some different ship.
- 1:33:56Speaker 6: That's most like if you around somebody for a long.
- 1:33:58Speaker 2: Ass, it's most of them.
- 1:33:59Speaker 3: Because some women out of relationships and nigga, you can
- 1:34:01Speaker 3: suck around the spream Saint cloonne that fuck nigga had on.
- 1:34:04Speaker 21: Now you him, let me ask you this, now you him, let.
- 1:34:07Speaker 6: Me ask you a questions.
- 1:34:08Speaker 2: But they just said everybody's unhealed.
- 1:34:10Speaker 6: Bank huh, bank huh.
- 1:34:14Speaker 4: Let me ask you a question.
- 1:34:15Speaker 8: Go ahead.
- 1:34:17Speaker 6: Sean says, you know you better than you know yourself.
- 1:34:19Speaker 2: Yes, so myself. She knows me.
- 1:34:23Speaker 6: So if you start moving funny and in some off,
- 1:34:29Speaker 6: she gonna know it.
- 1:34:30Speaker 2: Listen you if.
- 1:34:31Speaker 3: Something I'm being off in the past, man, something's gonna
- 1:34:35Speaker 3: stay off, bro, it's just what it is.
- 1:34:37Speaker 2: Once once you.
- 1:34:38Speaker 3: Once, women do not gotta understand. Stop telling niggas you forget,
- 1:34:41Speaker 3: forgave them because you don't answer the question.
- 1:34:44Speaker 2: Huh.
- 1:34:44Speaker 3: If something is off, something's gonna always be off because
- 1:34:48Speaker 3: women have all the emotions just like a just like
- 1:34:51Speaker 3: women do, So something's gonna always be off if I'm
- 1:34:54Speaker 3: not carrying to your feelings in that moment. Regardless, you
- 1:34:58Speaker 3: got a lot of people, got expectations without commit unication.
- 1:35:01Speaker 2: You could have wanted something to eat, but I don't know.
- 1:35:03Speaker 2: You home it like your wama get mad? Where you at?
- 1:35:10Speaker 3: That ship on my arm right here, it plunks against
- 1:35:13Speaker 3: against some bank bank.
- 1:35:15Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
- 1:35:17Speaker 4: I can't eat. That's a thing. Go bank.
- 1:35:22Speaker 15: That's a thing.
- 1:35:23Speaker 4: That's a thing.
- 1:35:24Speaker 2: You got it.
- 1:35:24Speaker 6: You that's a thing.
- 1:35:25Speaker 2: What's the thing like?
- 1:35:26Speaker 6: You can't go get no food without bringing no food?
- 1:35:30Speaker 2: I get it. And let's sitting in my way, sook. Yes,
- 1:35:33Speaker 2: that's cold, because y'all are it ain't consideration that I
- 1:35:39Speaker 2: make sure you're okay.
- 1:35:40Speaker 3: You're but y'all say I want to protect it provided
- 1:35:44Speaker 3: look ug, look uga, but you got to go food
- 1:35:50Speaker 3: and meet with stone and plants and get some food
- 1:35:53Speaker 3: and I come back home full.
- 1:35:56Speaker 6: You may get that food bank gonna stress us out
- 1:35:59Speaker 6: bank my food. Get that food.
- 1:36:02Speaker 3: Okay, you're supposed to call her actually you want something,
- 1:36:08Speaker 3: But do you know how many times that you do
- 1:36:10Speaker 3: things and you don't call it actually?
- 1:36:12Speaker 22: Right?
- 1:36:13Speaker 6: Yeah, huh fo different about food, all.
- 1:36:20Speaker 3: Right, I'm just talking about period, man, Dudes supposed to
- 1:36:23Speaker 3: I don't know, man, I guess I'm.
- 1:36:26Speaker 2: Not talking the situation. I'm just accent period. Like most women.
- 1:36:28Speaker 3: I have a lot of women women friends that are
- 1:36:31Speaker 3: in here, we have a real conversation with off camera.
- 1:36:33Speaker 2: They be legit, they beat, they beat. You know what
- 1:36:35Speaker 2: I'm saying, saying the truth.
- 1:36:36Speaker 3: Like you can have a friend that's a woman, that's
- 1:36:39Speaker 3: a friend, right, she know all the real ship to
- 1:36:41Speaker 3: me and know when she's not in a relationships. Soon
- 1:36:43Speaker 3: as she get in a relationship, you turn into a
- 1:36:45Speaker 3: fuck nigga too, because how dude doing her?
- 1:36:48Speaker 2: Like damn sh you cool lab my little sister.
- 1:36:51Speaker 3: Now you're in a relationship going through the ship that
- 1:36:53Speaker 3: I'm putting the motherfucker through. Now I'm some bullshit, but
- 1:36:57Speaker 3: you just understood it. When you want in a relationship,
- 1:36:59Speaker 3: that's crazy. Right, huh do that happen? Yes, yes, thank you.
- 1:37:06Speaker 3: Me and Seaney could be talking about something, she'd be yeah, yeah, man, yeah,
- 1:37:09Speaker 3: you get with it.
- 1:37:09Speaker 2: She get a nigga. She don't understand that.
- 1:37:11Speaker 4: Even a son.
- 1:37:12Speaker 3: I tell my wife this all the time. I hear
- 1:37:14Speaker 3: you telling my kids shit that they shouldn't go forward.
- 1:37:16Speaker 3: They with they girl, But you want me to go
- 1:37:19Speaker 3: for it? You get what I'm saying, Like, oh, nah,
- 1:37:25Speaker 3: she said that she ain't no good, But you don't
- 1:37:28Speaker 3: saying that before.
- 1:37:31Speaker 4: It's different, different, different, No.
- 1:37:37Speaker 3: Live will been with his girl thirteen years. No, it's
- 1:37:41Speaker 3: not something when the girl down there thirteen years that
- 1:37:43Speaker 3: she ain't the same, That means you know, that means
- 1:37:46Speaker 3: you know, you know, you know you're wrong. Women they
- 1:37:49Speaker 3: played and I am just bashing women. I love women
- 1:37:52Speaker 3: once again, especially Black women. I love women with everything
- 1:37:54Speaker 3: in me. But what I'm saying is I get it though,
- 1:37:57Speaker 3: because I actually talked and asked questions to the people
- 1:38:00Speaker 3: that I'm not in relationship with, like they get it,
- 1:38:03Speaker 3: but they just don't want.
- 1:38:05Speaker 2: I can't let you know I get it because I
- 1:38:07Speaker 2: might want to run it. Am I tripping?
- 1:38:10Speaker 3: They get everything it is that we're trying to say,
- 1:38:13Speaker 3: I see where you're coming from, but I can't see
- 1:38:15Speaker 3: that because it's breaking cold. But but but then they
- 1:38:18Speaker 3: get mad at the niggas they can't pimp. She say,
- 1:38:21Speaker 3: women is the biggest pimp. The niggas they can't pimp.
- 1:38:23Speaker 2: It's sessin.
- 1:38:28Speaker 4: Just is what it is.
- 1:38:29Speaker 15: This shit is nothing new. We do what we want
- 1:38:32Speaker 15: to do, and that's just what it is.
- 1:38:34Speaker 4: The niggas.
- 1:38:35Speaker 15: It's just like y'all putting y'all put in to our pussy. Huh,
- 1:38:41Speaker 15: you just said y'all putting niggas is putting y'all put
- 1:38:44Speaker 15: it to your puss. Because whenever we want you to,
- 1:38:46Speaker 15: y'all do, y'all gonna do it. We move how we
- 1:38:48Speaker 15: want to move because we can move how we want
- 1:38:50Speaker 15: to move because we women. It just is what it is,
- 1:38:54Speaker 15: is what it is. Some women old school shit. We
- 1:38:57Speaker 15: used to the old school shit. We used to women
- 1:38:59Speaker 15: who men who do this, do this, do this, and
- 1:39:02Speaker 15: do this, and we're trying to bring it to this century.
- 1:39:04Speaker 15: It's just not gonna work like that. I'm old school.
- 1:39:08Speaker 15: I'm nineteen eighty. When I was coming up, we dated
- 1:39:11Speaker 15: niggas who did this, this this in the third, we're
- 1:39:13Speaker 15: trying to brain this shit to this generation and it's
- 1:39:17Speaker 15: just saying what it is. We gotta fine niggas. It's
- 1:39:20Speaker 15: like a search in this generation. The bee, well, we
- 1:39:23Speaker 15: used to a nigga being women know what's going on,
- 1:39:27Speaker 15: and we play to y'all intelligence, y'all fall into it.
- 1:39:31Speaker 4: It is what it is.
- 1:39:32Speaker 15: It's point blank, we're not ignorant. Were not this And
- 1:39:35Speaker 15: in the third we know what's going on.
- 1:39:39Speaker 2: Exactly exactly what.
- 1:39:41Speaker 15: I'm saying exactly.
- 1:39:42Speaker 2: That's the problem.
- 1:39:43Speaker 3: That's the problem when you when you when you go
- 1:39:45Speaker 3: to dealing with a nigga who knows like, oh about going.
- 1:39:47Speaker 15: For that exactly because you came up, but you ain't
- 1:39:51Speaker 15: that way. You came up in the era we came
- 1:39:53Speaker 15: up in that way back in the day. You ain't shit.
- 1:39:56Speaker 15: You was in the streets. You're a fucking hole. It
- 1:40:00Speaker 15: took you twenty years to say, Hey, I'm finna whoo
- 1:40:04Speaker 15: whoo whoop, and I'm finna be this type of man.
- 1:40:06Speaker 15: Forget what your woman stayed down with this shit because
- 1:40:09Speaker 15: that's what she chose to do. You been, you been,
- 1:40:12Speaker 15: nigga's been not nothing. Twenty fifteen ten.
- 1:40:17Speaker 2: Craving.
- 1:40:18Speaker 15: I'm saying it's shooting. I'm saying it took you to
- 1:40:21Speaker 15: change when you was ready to change, and because she
- 1:40:24Speaker 15: stayed down with you, that says, see it ain't it.
- 1:40:28Speaker 15: This is not rocket science. The relationship shit really getting
- 1:40:32Speaker 15: on my nerves to be honest, because this shit not
- 1:40:35Speaker 15: rocket science. You either gonna fuck with who you wanna
- 1:40:37Speaker 15: fuck with when you get spiritual, when you get to
- 1:40:39Speaker 15: a certain level and when you start elevating, you attract
- 1:40:42Speaker 15: a certain type of different nigga. Carry plant blank. We're
- 1:40:45Speaker 15: gonna fuck with a low life nigga who ain't got
- 1:40:47Speaker 15: shit going on. When you get to this level, you're
- 1:40:49Speaker 15: gonna fuck with a nigga who got this going on.
- 1:40:51Speaker 15: When you get to that level, you're gonna fuck with
- 1:40:54Speaker 15: who got going on. When you get to a spiritual level,
- 1:40:56Speaker 15: you're gonna do this and you're gonna fuck with that
- 1:40:58Speaker 15: type of nigga. When you get to a spiritual level.
- 1:41:00Speaker 15: Now you tied, you tied to this type of nigga.
- 1:41:02Speaker 15: You tie this type of nigga. Use tied this type
- 1:41:03Speaker 15: of nigga, and then you're gonna fuck with what you
- 1:41:06Speaker 15: feel like it's in your element. When you get to
- 1:41:08Speaker 15: when you level up, it's different level city.
- 1:41:10Speaker 4: Shit.
- 1:41:11Speaker 15: We fuck with different niggas at different experiences in our lives.
- 1:41:15Speaker 15: Whatever we're going through, whatever traumatic experiences. A lot of
- 1:41:18Speaker 15: us didn't have Mama's dadd it is. We out in
- 1:41:21Speaker 15: the street this and in the third day, out in
- 1:41:23Speaker 15: the street, So we fuck with what we know. When
- 1:41:26Speaker 15: we get to that mental level where we have grown
- 1:41:28Speaker 15: spiritually and mentally, then we start dealing with people that's
- 1:41:32Speaker 15: on our level that elevate us and put us in
- 1:41:34Speaker 15: a position. This relationship. Shit, it's not difficult. It's very
- 1:41:38Speaker 15: simple shit, very simple facts.
- 1:41:41Speaker 3: He let me ask y'all something. Do y'all feel Do
- 1:41:44Speaker 3: y'all feel like it's not? But I feel like if
- 1:41:48Speaker 3: it was easy, it wouldn't work. If it was easy
- 1:41:51Speaker 3: to be with somebody that ain't your person, Bro, it
- 1:41:53Speaker 3: ain't gonna be easy, bro, that's I think that's what.
- 1:41:56Speaker 3: That's the miscommunication. A lot of people think they gonna
- 1:41:58Speaker 3: get in a relationship and it's gonna be easy. You
- 1:42:00Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, You ain't gonna you ain't gonna
- 1:42:02Speaker 3: go through nothing. That never happens. I agree that never
- 1:42:05Speaker 3: happened because.
- 1:42:06Speaker 6: You got to deal with something, though, like how long you're.
- 1:42:08Speaker 2: Gonna deal with something? For the shit you're gonna deal
- 1:42:11Speaker 2: with something forever? Relationship you said, that's a lot you
- 1:42:17Speaker 2: ain't dealing with something with you.
- 1:42:19Speaker 3: There's plenty things he don't like about you, just don't
- 1:42:21Speaker 3: say it because you don't want to hurt your finish.
- 1:42:22Speaker 4: It's plenty things why you just don't care.
- 1:42:24Speaker 3: He just don't say it because he don't want to
- 1:42:26Speaker 3: hurt your finish, and they can run you all the
- 1:42:27Speaker 3: way down. I'm pretty sure if I if I, if
- 1:42:31Speaker 3: I still around a person for more than a day,
- 1:42:34Speaker 3: I can find every flaw that I want to find
- 1:42:36Speaker 3: in that person because everybody got flawed.
- 1:42:39Speaker 2: I can find something about everybody in the world that
- 1:42:41Speaker 2: I don't like.
- 1:42:42Speaker 3: Because we're different. So, but women feel like they gotta
- 1:42:46Speaker 3: point out every little thing. So once you do that,
- 1:42:48Speaker 3: you're basically showing me how you see me and how
- 1:42:50Speaker 3: do you how do you want to want my respect?
- 1:42:52Speaker 2: When I see you see me this way? Are you crazy?
- 1:42:56Speaker 3: You better try to keep that ship to yourself or leave,
- 1:42:58Speaker 3: because once you're done showed me who you see me.
- 1:43:00Speaker 3: Ass that's how that i'ma I'm gonna I'm gonna beat that.
- 1:43:03Speaker 3: Damn there in a shadow? Am my tripping? If you
- 1:43:07Speaker 3: if you come out your mouth and tell me I
- 1:43:10Speaker 3: see you as a no good ass nigga, you can't
- 1:43:13Speaker 3: change that because that's how you see me.
- 1:43:16Speaker 2: You can say little things to let me know. That's
- 1:43:18Speaker 2: because because because because if if you ask.
- 1:43:20Speaker 3: Me something like damn that you are you fucking that girl?
- 1:43:22Speaker 3: And if I'd be like hell no or hell yeah, whatever,
- 1:43:26Speaker 3: But if I'm not and I'm really not, and I
- 1:43:28Speaker 3: feel like, damn, that's how you see me a nigga,
- 1:43:31Speaker 3: that'll do that whatever whatever it is. So I'm not
- 1:43:35Speaker 3: in my eyes, I mean in my heart, I'm not who.
- 1:43:40Speaker 3: You don't see me the way I want you to
- 1:43:41Speaker 3: see me? So how can I really respect you or
- 1:43:44Speaker 3: love you properly?
- 1:43:47Speaker 6: But what if you said that you're not fucking her
- 1:43:49Speaker 6: and you is? Now how am I supposed to move.
- 1:43:51Speaker 3: If i'm If I if I lie, then ship you
- 1:43:53Speaker 3: probably see me like that. That's who That's who I am.
- 1:43:56Speaker 3: I'm saying if if if.
- 1:43:57Speaker 2: You do some ship and see me in a way
- 1:44:00Speaker 2: that I am not, that just goes against my morals.
- 1:44:04Speaker 2: How do you see me?
- 1:44:05Speaker 3: How can I How can you tell me you love me?
- 1:44:07Speaker 3: How can you tell me you're you're for me? Because
- 1:44:09Speaker 3: I know how I would feel if I looked at
- 1:44:11Speaker 3: a person that way.
- 1:44:12Speaker 4: But most times bank women don't just come off and
- 1:44:15Speaker 4: see you as no fuck ass nigga. Most times it's
- 1:44:18Speaker 4: because you done did some bullshit to them for them to.
- 1:44:21Speaker 19: See you as that.
- 1:44:22Speaker 4: I am not gonna.
- 1:44:25Speaker 2: Leave. Who finna go through that every day?
- 1:44:27Speaker 3: But Gus, if you can't deal with it, don't try
- 1:44:36Speaker 3: to act like you're don't try to hold up. Please
- 1:44:38Speaker 3: let me get this off. Don't try to act as
- 1:44:40Speaker 3: if though you're over something. Just say, baby, it's gonna
- 1:44:43Speaker 3: take time. I'm trying to deal with this. Don't try
- 1:44:45Speaker 3: to act like you over something. And then we argue
- 1:44:47Speaker 3: about uh, who gonna uh why ain't come pump your
- 1:44:51Speaker 3: gas when that ain't the argument. We're arguing about the
- 1:44:53Speaker 3: ship that you're not heal from. But you don't know
- 1:44:56Speaker 3: how you tell you told me that you over it,
- 1:44:58Speaker 3: so you can't bring that ship back up. So now
- 1:45:00Speaker 3: we just have a little nick picked bullshit about about
- 1:45:03Speaker 3: that same ship.
- 1:45:04Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you know, a little therapy, don't hurt little therapy.
- 1:45:11Speaker 4: Sit down with the mediator. You know, that's what therapists
- 1:45:14Speaker 4: are you.
- 1:45:16Speaker 3: But but most women, bro, I went to therapy before
- 1:45:19Speaker 3: told the therapy. She knows she was talking about. You know,
- 1:45:22Speaker 3: most women, if you don't take their side, they don't
- 1:45:24Speaker 3: want to hear. They ain't up on their friends. I
- 1:45:25Speaker 3: don't want to he that she's stupid.
- 1:45:27Speaker 4: I wanna talk about stupid.
- 1:45:28Speaker 2: Should I find that one friend that's gonna be my life?
- 1:45:32Speaker 2: I ain't stupid, and I'm the one not tripping. Am
- 1:45:35Speaker 2: I tripping?
- 1:45:36Speaker 13: No?
- 1:45:37Speaker 3: You don't even call you don't even call the homegirl
- 1:45:39Speaker 3: who you know gonna check you when you wanna be
- 1:45:41Speaker 3: right tonight? I want to be right tonight. I ain't
- 1:45:43Speaker 3: calling it bitch, she's stupid. She don't know she gonna
- 1:45:46Speaker 3: say she gonna always on the niggas side. But now
- 1:45:48Speaker 3: she telling you the truth? Yeah, m hm, you I
- 1:45:52Speaker 3: need to say, girl, he called me a bitch, but
- 1:45:54Speaker 3: you left out.
- 1:45:55Speaker 2: The part of what you said.
- 1:45:59Speaker 4: I want to know what I'm wrong. Tell me?
- 1:46:01Speaker 2: Can you take it?
- 1:46:02Speaker 3: Though?
- 1:46:03Speaker 4: I can, and it don't matter if I could take
- 1:46:05Speaker 4: it or not.
- 1:46:05Speaker 2: Just tell me.
- 1:46:07Speaker 3: But some dudes, and some dudes don't want to. Most
- 1:46:11Speaker 3: dudes want to stay out of the caddy shit. So
- 1:46:13Speaker 3: if I know what type of girl I got and
- 1:46:15Speaker 3: what type of attitude she got, I know what I
- 1:46:17Speaker 3: can say and what I could bring to her without
- 1:46:18Speaker 3: her getting offended. So things going smooth. I ain't finna
- 1:46:21Speaker 3: offend you like a woman can. Things to be going smooth.
- 1:46:25Speaker 3: And you could just disrupt this ship. Damn they were
- 1:46:28Speaker 3: just doing good for thirty minutes. Yea disrupt the piece
- 1:46:36Speaker 3: for nothing.
- 1:46:36Speaker 4: But her piece might get disrupted, but she'll come back down.
- 1:46:40Speaker 2: Nah, baby, because at the end of the day, I can.
- 1:46:42Speaker 3: I can get over this because I don't want you
- 1:46:45Speaker 3: to feel I can tell you in a way to
- 1:46:47Speaker 3: let you know I didn't like that, or I didn't before.
- 1:46:49Speaker 2: I just talk at you.
- 1:46:52Speaker 3: Most women don't like that you say certain thing in them. Hey,
- 1:46:55Speaker 3: you ain't my dad, and now you're controlling. But this
- 1:46:57Speaker 3: is what I want to I want to tell you this.
- 1:46:58Speaker 3: I don't know how else to express myself to say, Hey,
- 1:47:01Speaker 3: I don't like that ship, don't do that.
- 1:47:03Speaker 2: Why are you talking to me like that? I don't know.
- 1:47:05Speaker 3: So how do you do Either Either you're too aggressive
- 1:47:09Speaker 3: or you emotional withdrawing.
- 1:47:12Speaker 2: Either controller or your emotional with drawings. That's no middle.
- 1:47:16Speaker 4: What do you do? I don't know.
- 1:47:18Speaker 3: I feel like if I just let you have it
- 1:47:20Speaker 3: like ship, bab yeah babe, yeah yeah. So you're just
- 1:47:23Speaker 3: gonna dismiss the conversation.
- 1:47:25Speaker 4: You ain't gonna say nothing. That's the problem.
- 1:47:27Speaker 12: Say nothing. That's a line.
- 1:47:29Speaker 3: But if i'm if I'm backing forth with you now
- 1:47:32Speaker 3: you're looking at me like I sound like a bitch
- 1:47:35Speaker 3: nigga always. But they say, we gotta wrap it up, man,
- 1:47:38Speaker 3: we can do this ship all night.
- 1:47:39Speaker 4: Man.
- 1:47:40Speaker 7: I appreciate y'all. Y'all had a good time. I know
- 1:47:42Speaker 7: we're talking in circles. Yeah, shanel what we're doing, y'all listen.
- 1:47:50Speaker 7: We're doing this again next month in a different state. Okay,
- 1:47:54Speaker 7: so make sure y'all pay attention. This thing about to
- 1:47:57Speaker 7: be big.
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- 1:48:16Speaker 5: Look, I appreciate y'all coming out listening to us. We're
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- 1:48:28Speaker 5: I had a good time.
- 1:48:30Speaker 6: You know, everybody always y'all, even though y'all had a
- 1:48:33Speaker 6: whole bunch of shit to say about everything I had
- 1:48:35Speaker 6: to say.
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- 1:48:46Speaker 12: I just talked shit.
- 1:48:47Speaker 2: You look crazy. You know you'll look crazy. Yeah, okay,
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- 1:48:59Speaker 2: this was cool. This is cool. I'm a little high
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