19: The Shame Program: How It Hijacks Your Behavior and How to Rewrite It
Shame isn’t an emotion.
It’s a program.
And most of us are running it without even knowing it.
In this episode of (re)Parenting Radio, Lisa breaks down shame as a survival-based operating system installed early in life—one that doesn’t just affect how you feel, but how you behave.
We explore how shame shows up as:
People-pleasing
Perfectionism
Hiding or procrastination
Collapsing after feedback
Harsh self-talk
The belief: “If they really saw me, I wouldn’t be accepted.”
You’ll learn why shame doesn’t disappear with success, why it hijacks behavior under pressure, and how to rewrite the code…
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