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NARCISSISTS THINK THEY OWN YOU: Why They Don’t Want You, But Won't Let You Go · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So boom y'all I've seen it 1000 times.
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  I know I know y'all don't send it 1000 times too.
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  Y'all actually probably experienced it as well.
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  A narcissist will treat you like trash.
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  Like literal garbage. Like like the the the stuff
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  underneath the bottom of your shoe.
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  They'll treat you like trash. They'll leave you for someone
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  else. And then the second you post a
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  photo with a new date or just by yourself smiling, being happy,
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  they are blowing up your damn phone.
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  They are texting you, they're calling you.
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  Even if they're in a new relationship where there is
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  pretending to be happy. They're they found the love of
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  their life. They've never felt this way
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  before about somebody else. They'll still be Hawking and
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  harassing you. The crazy thing, yeah the crazy
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  thing about it is they don't want to be with you, but they
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  will be damned if you are happy with anybody else.
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  Like today we are literally talking about narcissistic
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  ownership and as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm going to tell
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  you why narcissists do it and how you can finally cut the
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  cord. How you can finally be done with
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  the people that think they own you like and what not.
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  Because this is what goes on, this is what happens.
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  This is the mindset mentality of narcissistic people.
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  They, Simply put, think that you belong to them.
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  There's no other way to put it. They don't want you, but they
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  don't want you to be with anybody else.
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  How dare you? How dare you be with anybody
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  else? How?
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  Dare you? Even though I left you, even
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  though I told you that you were worthless, even though I told
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  you that I never wanted to see you again.
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  I regret it every second that we were together.
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  Even though I said all of this mess, all of it.
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  Now you moved on and now I'm happy.
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  You know what I'm saying? What's going on?
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  They will mess, you're trying to mess your life up, right?
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  And sometimes does this work if you've moved on, if you are
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  happy with, if you are happy with somebody else, if you moved
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  on as well after they left you? I've heard these situations
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  before where you will end the the survivor will end their new
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  relationship and try to get back with the narcissist.
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  And then the narcissist of course breaks up with them again
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  and leaves them high and dry. Leaves them absolutely high and
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  dry. The highest and the driest don't
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  want you to be happy. They come back into your life,
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  swing, they swing back into your life like a Wrecking Ball,
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  destroy everything. And then they try to pop back up
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  and what not. That's what they do.
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  You know what I mean? If y'all join in on YouTube,
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  make sure you hit that like button.
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  Drop a comment. I've got my eyes in the comment
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  section and what not. I would do AQ and A at the end.
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  So I'm I'm just going to mark some of the questions.
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  I'll I'll answer at the end. Y'all just stay to the end to
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  get your questions answered and whatnot.
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  But let's hop right into the topic right at hand.
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  Y'all narcissists thinking you belong to them, even if they
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  left you like they, a lot of narcissists view you as a
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  permanent asset and they will put you on the shelf.
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  Like to a narcissist, you are not an X.
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  They might call you an X. They might call you a horrible,
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  they might call you anything but the a child of God, right?
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  You're not an X, you're an asset.
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  You're you're a toy that they put on a shelf.
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  Narcissist like want to know you're still there waiting just
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  in case the new relationship, the new situation falls through,
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  doesn't pan out. They the new person figures out
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  that they're dealing with a narcissist and breaks up with
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  them. They want you to be lying in
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  wait just in case. So if you move on, you are you
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  have essentially fallen off the shelf and that triggers in a
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  narcissist a panic response. They panic because they see you
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  have moved on. They panic because their backup
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  plan is no longer a backup plan. You you don't look, you don't
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  backed it up, backed it on the bottom there.
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  You like beep, beep. You don't know.
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  You don't know the sound the trucks make when you're backing
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  up. Beep, beep, beep, beep.
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  You don't back the bottom of that thing.
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  You know what I'm saying? That's what is what happened
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  right there. I think you said just got.
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  I really hope you're well. Text last night.
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  Yep, you see just the look, that's just the flash right
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  there. That's just what they want you
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  to notice them. They want you to see if you
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  still there. They want to make sure they want
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  to make sure that you are the my my Plan B is not being with
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  somebody else. So they will monitor you.
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  Like This is why narcissists keep tabs, y'all.
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  Some people think it's love, right?
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  And there's some people who think it's love like, well,
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  they're watching my social media, they're stalking me,
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  they're harassing me. So it must mean that they love
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  me, right? It's must, it must mean that
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  they care because they're a lot. They're stalking me, they're
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  harassing me. That must mean that they care,
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  right? This must be love, right?
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  No, that ain't y'all. That ain't love.
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  That is not love. That's obsession, that's
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  ownership. That's they're checking.
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  Like they're pretty much checking the inventory, right?
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  They're doing an inventory list and whatnot to make sure that
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  you're going to always steal, that you're still there right
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  where I left you. And does this work on people?
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  Yes, it does. And this is not me trying to
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  chastise people and pick on them.
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  This is just a good it. It does work.
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  It works for it works for narcissistic people.
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  This is how it goes. It does work.
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  And because sometimes you're trauma bonded, right?
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  You're not you because sometimes a narcissist breaks up with you,
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  right? And you're not ready for them.
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  You're you're not ready for the break up to happen.
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  So you're still trauma bonded to them.
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  So you're not ready for the relationship to end, right?
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  You're not ready for the relationship to end.
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  So you are happy that they reach out.
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  You're happy that they're watching.
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  You get a a hit of dopamine when you check your stories and you
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  notice that they're watching your stories, right?
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  You notice that they're looking and whatnot, and you notice
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  they're watching your stories. And that's what ends up
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  happening. That's what ends up going
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  everywhere it goes. Thank goodness for Criminal
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  Court. He has new supply.
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  Everyone says I should feel bad for her.
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  I mean, you could have empathy for the other person, but like,
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  don't let the empathy just carry you doing something else.
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  Sure. What's going on, girl?
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  My dad said that man is so obsessed.
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  There's fatal attraction. You're going to be next.
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  And oh, yeah, it could be happen.
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  That could happen. I don't know if you sit down
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  with the same person because, you know, you're scared of me.
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  And she's basic, that's why. Oh, there it is.
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  There it is. Yeah.
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  Sherry got a she got a a scary one.
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  She got a scary one. Yeah.
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  I'll be doing good though, girl. But when a I'm not laughing at
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  your problems, when a narcissist like you're to a narcissist,
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  y'all you being happy without them feels like a personal
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  attack. Like it's a, it's a, it's a
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  shot. It's a direct shot to the ego.
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  It's a, it's a cannonball. It's a cannonball blast directly
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  to the ego. Like because narcissists in our
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  minds, we're always doing like the compare and contrast and
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  stuff, right? We're doing it compare and
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  contrast. That's good to hear.
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  So we are always trying to compare ourselves to other
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  people. It just, it's just a natural
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  thing that happens. So if you find someone that's
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  better than us, it proves we were the problem.
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  It proves that we're not the best you ever going to get.
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  Even though we might say that, even though we might try to
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  convince us to convince ourselves that's the way it is,
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  it's not how it goes. So in a narcissist's mind, if
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  you have somebody better, even if we have somebody, we can't
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  have that. I know that sounds stupid.
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  Like Lee, that sounds dumb as hell.
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  It is. It's ignorant as hell.
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  It just is. Like we can't have you being
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  happy even though we moved on and we're happy.
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  That sounds stupid. Does it?
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  We need to in our minds, in a narcissist's mind, we need to
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  believe you are miserable without us so we can feel
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  superior. Like your joy, your happiness is
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  a direct insult to the ego. It's a direct attack to the ego
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  and whatnot. This is what happens.
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  This is the way it goes. This is part of it, y'all?
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  This is part of it and whatnot. This is the mentality that a lot
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  of narcissists have and this is like, this is where it goes.
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  This is why a narcissist will cheat on you, leave you for
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  somebody else, be go months without talking to you, and then
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  all of a sudden you post a picture like you didn't have to
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  post a picture of somebody else. You can post a picture of just
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  happy smiling at the beach somewhere like and they'll just
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  message you. Who got you smiling like that?
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  But you smiling at who you who you smiling at?
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  How dare you smile without me? It sounds stupid, doesn't it?
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  It sounds ridiculously stupid because it is.
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  It actually is. You take it back and look at it.
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  So when you are especially, yeah, if you move like yeah, if
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  you moved on and you find somebody that fits you and
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  you're actually happy, the narcissist, some a lot, a lot of
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  narcissist will try to Hoover you if they, even if they
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  haven't reached out before, now they're reaching out again.
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  Now they're trying to to sabotage you.
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  They want to sabotage your new relationship.
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  So they will Hoover just long enough to break up your new
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  relationship. And the moment you're single
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  again, they'll disappear. They didn't really want you
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  back. They just want, they just didn't
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  want you to be happy with somebody else.
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  They didn't even want you back. That's true.
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  They just didn't want you to be with somebody else.
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  And has that happened before to people that I've talked to?
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  Yes, yes, there's people that I've spoken to.
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  They're just like Lee. I had moved on.
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  I was happy, I was doing well. And then the narcissist hoovered
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  and I broke up with my new partner who I was happy with and
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  try to go back to them. And then as soon as we got back
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  together, they started treating me like crap again.
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  They start treating me like crap and start things just started
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  happening backwards again and now I'm back to square one.
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  Now I'm unhappy again. Now I like I've had people that
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  break up with a new person and then get back with the
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  narcissist and then the narcissist breaks it with them
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  and they try to go back to the new person.
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  I was like, why'd the new person take you back after you broke it
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  with them for somebody else? Why would they do that?
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  And it's like, yeah, now I'm single again and I'm sad.
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  Yeah, yeah, you are. Yeah.
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  If you leave a happy relationship that you're in for
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  a narcissist to go back to a narcissist that treated you bad,
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  you're going to be unhappy for a little bit because you're going
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  to feel you're going to, you're probably going, I've talked to
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  people, they're you're going to feel dumb like why would I so
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  die? Why I do that?
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  That that's what happens, y'all, because not sometimes they make
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  like sometimes when a narcissist is hoovering you after they
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  moved on, some of them will make a grand gesture, right?
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  But others will just do little bit of little things.
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  They'll breadcrumb you, right? They'll send a random I'm
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  thinking of you text message. They'll send you a random DM on
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  Instagram, on Facebook. They'll like they'll like a
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  post. They'll like something that you
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  posted 197 weeks ago on Instagram, 197 weeks ago.
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  They had to scroll forever to get to that.
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  Was that like 7? Was it?
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  Was it 197? It's like 5-6 years?
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  No, it ain't 54. Well, four years.
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  Let's scroll back four years to like a photo.
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  And you're like, who the hell is that?
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  And you like it catches your eye.
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  Who the hell like this old photo?
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  Oh, it's my ex, right? These are bread crumbing.
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  These are like little poke. They're poking you.
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  They're they're, they're, they're, they're, they're
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  throwing bait into the ocean. They're throwing bait into the
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  pond to see if you bite. And I guess what happens if you
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  respond? They know that they still got
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  you. What's wrong with you?
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  They know that they still got you.
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  I'm missing you, texty. I just.
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  Just wanted to see how you were doing here.
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  And then things happen and now I miss you so much and I just like
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  you and just, I don't know what's going on.
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  You know, I'm unhappy in my new relationship.
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  I can't believe I left you for somebody else.
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  Why would I do that? Why would I do that to you?
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  And you're you're like, so are you going to break with this
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  other person and us get back together?
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  I can't just. Break it with them.
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  I turned over a new leaf. I got.
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  To be nice, I got to find a way to leave them so it doesn't hurt
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  them as much. Can you understand?
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  Like I want you I'm you're not the side piece.
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  You're the piece on the side that's better than the side
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  piece. They're not the same thing.
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  A side pieces, you don't care. You're just trying to hit it.
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  A piece on the side is like it's like an extra.
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  It's like a an Andre for the full.
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  Course meal, you're going to be a full.
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  Course right? Just give me time.
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  And does that work? Yes, it does work sometimes,
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  right? Then I preserve works.
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  It does. So you have to have the power of
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  indifference out. The only way to win is to show.
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  To show the narcissist that our opinion and our presence have 0
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  value. You have to show the narcissist
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  that they don't matter anymore. Like you have to literally
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  become unownable. You have to take back your
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  ownership papers, right? You don't belong to anybody.
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  You're self-sufficient. You're self loved, right?
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  You don't have to do all that type of stuff right there.
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  Yeah. Just remain single as long as
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  you're as long as you're happy, right?
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  Be happy with yourself before you be happy with somebody else.
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  You're evil. Going no contact.
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  I'm going to save that one and answer it a little bit, but
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  that's what happens. I'm just telling you, you have
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  to become unownable. You have to they can't get
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  supply from you. They get supply from you.
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  Of course, they already be coming back towards you, right?
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  You know, so the thing about like this, you are not a trophy.
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  You not you might be a you might be trophy esque, but you're not
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  their trophy and you are not a backup plan.
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  If they don't want you, give them a give them exactly what
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  they asked for nothing. If they break up with you, they
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  didn't want you don't get back into a relationship dynamic with
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  them because in their minds, it's OK how I treated you.
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  All my behaviors are OK now. Everything that I've said and
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  done is OK because you took me back.
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  You didn't have to take me back, right?
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  You didn't have to take me back. You know what I'm saying?
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  You didn't have to take me back. So if you take them back, this
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  is what this is what a mind goes to.
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  This is literally what a mind goes to.
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  They will keep doing this type of stuff over and over and over
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  again because at the end of the day, the toxic behaviors benefit
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  them. So I got a few minutes for a
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  question to answer. Y'all down and pick my son up
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  from school. Tricia says.
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  Yeah, yeah. They hoovered me just to get
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  what they wanted from me, just to get just to get her mommy
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  makeover. And I did it.
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  This just sucks. I wish I went back just so she
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  could just get what she wanted. Yeah.
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  And that's what happened. Y'all, a lot of narcissists are
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  users, right? They're users.
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  They come back, they'll try to use you right, especially if
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  you're, if you're offering, they will take, they will take, take,
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  take and very well, very rarely give.
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  What you come to understand about narcissistic relationships
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  is they are very parasitic in nature.
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  Narcissistic relationships are very rarely symbiotic, right?
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  They are taking from you. Parasites take, They don't give
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  anything but a virus, right? They leave a virus behind like a
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  tick, but a tick is a parasite. They take, take, take, and they
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  leave you with Lyme, Lyme disease or be as rash or
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  something like narcissist, like ticks.
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  Kelly says one of the things we as survivors have to get past is
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  being lonely. We have to learn all over again.
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  Yeah, Self love is extremely important.
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  I've been happy for over a year. Yeah.
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  They. Hey, good for you.
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  Yeah, but that's what it goes on.
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  Self love is an extremely important tenet of being happy,
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  y'all? If you're unhappy by yourself,
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  you will eventually be unhappy in a relationship because you
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  can't be alone. Like you're dependent on
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  somebody else. If you're constantly dependent
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  on somebody else to supply you with happiness, you're going to
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  be a you're going to be a very sad person.
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  I'll say it like that. If y'all just join on YouTube,
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  make sure I hit the like button just like the button like hit
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  the like button. Turn on those notifications so
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  you don't miss another live and we won't keep moving y'all.
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  Hey, Sir, what was the reaction to the complaint filed against
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  the narcissism court? What what was the reaction to
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  the what does this mean? Right?
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  I'm, I'm, I'm confused. What, what what what what would
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  be a reaction to you found charges against?
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  If you found charges against a narcissist, of course they're
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  going to be pissed off. Charges, child support,
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  restraining order, whatever, right?
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  How long can someone hide the mask for?
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  That's a good question. It depends.
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  Some can only hide for hide it for a few days, a few hours.
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  Some can hide it for weeks, months, right?
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  It really depends. That's why I like, it's
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  imperative that you, you got to like, you got to tap on the mask
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  out. When I say tap on the mask, you
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  will literally have to just you have to pull them out.
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  You have to pull the mask out. Sometimes you have to make them
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  uncomfortable. See how they handle uncomfort
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  being uncomfortable. See how they handle criticism,
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  Right. See.
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  See how they handle being criticized?
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  See. See how they handle being the
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  butt of a joke? See how they're treating other
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  people around you? If they're Yeah, if they got
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  road rage on the first date or they're yelling at the waiter or
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  the waitresses, the bus driver, the Uber driver.
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  If they're yelling at people around here, if they cussed a
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  Mama out or they daddy out. Come on now.
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  Who's that at R Clark? Yes.
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  You have to ask deep, penetrating questions.
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  You can't just look. If you want to get beneath the
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  mask, you got to ask questions that make people uncomfortable.
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  You can't just say, you can't just ask little simple stuff
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  because that's not going to help anything out.
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  That's going to get you, that's going to get you set up.
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  You got to ask deep penetrating questions, make them
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  uncomfortable. Instead of asking, why are
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  somebody like you single asking you?
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  If if I were to, if I were, if I was talking to Tammy, let's say
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  if I were to interview your exes, what would they say about
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  you? What would, what would be, what
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  would be the consensus about you?
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  Most of my exes would probably say I'm crazy, but they were
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  abusive to me and they, you got to pull the mask off.
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  Y'all, you have to pull the mask off.
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  You can't just be if you're afraid to ask questions, the
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  mask is going to stay on longer. I promise you.
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  If you're afraid to be yourself, the mask will stay on longer and
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  you'll be like, well, I just, I never knew.
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  I didn't. The mask stayed on for a long
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  time because you asked the question or sometimes y'all, you
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  can ask the questions and they can lie.
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  They can lie if you just met him and he said my why so many
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  questions like I'm trying to get to know your ass.
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  I'm trying to get to know who you are.
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  Oh, why so many questions? Oh, don't worry about it.
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  No, there'll be no, there'll be no more questions.
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  Check. Please don't worry about that.
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  The last question you're going to hear from me say is can I get
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  the check? We ain't talking no more.
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  What we got to talk for. Who we talking for?
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  I didn't know I was married to a narcissist for 15 years.
• 18:24
  That was what happened. Y'all, like a lot of people,
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  don't. You don't see it till later on,
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  right? Sometimes you see it up front,
• 18:30
  but you got the time to think about it as well.
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  Narcissism in and in and of itself wasn't very prevalent as
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  it is right now. Right now, today's day and age
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  is very prevalent. The word narcissist is around
• 18:41
  everywhere. Whether it's whether it's used
• 18:43
  right or rightfully or wrongly, it's still around, right?
• 18:47
  It's still out there yeah I've avoided a lot of a lot of them
• 18:52
  asking questions, not badgering, but in conversation Yep Yep.
• 18:54
  You don't have to like say you don't have to interview I mean
• 18:56
  you're a first date or a second date or whatever isn't
• 18:59
  technically an interview, right, But that's the way it goes right
• 19:01
  there And like I said, if y'all don't know y'all can find all my
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  coaching, my one on ones my website.
• 19:06
  Everything is going to be available at mental illness.
• 19:11
  Oh sure mental illness.net. Like I said, you can find
• 19:15
  everything in mentalillness.net. My one on ones over zoom, my, my
• 19:19
  courses, my highly rated five star courses, everything is
• 19:22
  going to be available at mentalillness.net for y'all to
• 19:25
  check out. Do you, what do you say?
• 19:29
  Do you think people have become more narcissistic?
• 19:31
  I think narcissism is more prevalent right now because the
• 19:33
  cameras are on it, right? And a lot of times you get
• 19:36
  rewarded for being narcissistic and charming and, and being
• 19:39
  sometimes you get rewarded for being evil.
• 19:41
  Let's keep it high and ready y'all.
• 19:42
  And if if y'all live in the United States you get rewarded
• 19:45
  for being a horrible fucking person nowadays, right?
• 19:47
  You can be terrible. You can say racist crazy ass
• 19:50
  stuff and you'll get you can cuss kids out say right.
• 19:52
  You can call kids black kids the N word and make it become a
• 19:55
  millionaire because weirdos are out there.
• 19:57
  You can be a horrible fucking person and the weirdos will
• 20:00
  donate to your GoFundMe because they too are horrible people.
• 20:03
  Right, You can be a horrible person to get rewarded for it.
• 20:06
  You can be a horrible person and become a politician and just say
• 20:09
  crazy ass stuff and people will, will, will reward you for it.
• 20:12
  So why wouldn't you want to be narcissistic?
• 20:14
  You see what I'm saying? The good people get the good
• 20:17
  people get pushed to the back. It's the assholes and the
• 20:20
  horrible narcissistic people. They get pushed to the front
• 20:22
  that are just like shine the lightest shine on it.
• 20:24
  Right. I'll be doing a one-on-one with
• 20:27
  you again real soon. Oh yeah, we did talk.
• 20:29
  That's why when you say about the when you say about the the
• 20:32
  body down. I was like, I just talked to a
• 20:33
  woman about that very recently. I was like, yeah, yeah, it was
• 20:36
  it. So we we've done a one-on-one
• 20:37
  before. So y'all see I did one-on-one
• 20:39
  with Trisha. She said you helped me a lot.
• 20:42
  So I got look, I got live reviews for my one on ones right
• 20:44
  here. Thank you.
• 20:45
  Shout out to Trisha. Live review from one-on-one.
• 20:49
  Hey, I hope you're doing good, though.
• 20:50
  Seriously, I see your name. I was like, that's the same
• 20:52
  Trisha. I talked to you recently.
• 20:53
  I see your name. We talked to we just we just we
• 20:54
  just talked recently. What?
• 20:55
  Ain't that long ago we talked. I've been married to an artist
• 20:58
  for 21 years. Done.
• 21:00
  Protect yourself and be safe as you exit, right?
• 21:02
  Leaving can be the most dangerous time to protect
• 21:04
  yourself and be as safe as possible.
• 21:06
  Chrissy, appreciate that I it was there, but I wasn't
• 21:10
  educated. Yep.
• 21:11
  Sometimes you sometimes you see the red flags and you don't
• 21:13
  understand that they're red flags because you don't know
• 21:15
  that they're red flags, right? You wouldn't like we we're not
• 21:17
  we were not taught this in the school.
• 21:19
  You know, we were taught Y equals MX plus B.
• 21:23
  You know, we're not taught this is this toxic.
• 21:27
  This is this toxicity is a red flag.
• 21:29
  You know what I mean? That's what ends up happening
• 21:30
  right there. We were not taught that he
• 21:34
  enjoys causing chaos. Yep, there you go raising hell
• 21:37
  yes, and thank you again. I appreciate you appreciate you
• 21:38
  appreciate you. Anyway, y'all, I do have to hop
• 21:41
  off here. I got to hit this road to get in
• 21:43
  line for my son's school. You know y'all, if y'all pick
• 21:45
  your kids up from school, you know those those lines be
• 21:47
  getting long as hell if you're late and whatnot.
• 21:51
  Algebra channel. What's that was that slope
• 21:52
  intercept Y equals Ms. What B is that slope intercept Y equals MX
• 21:56
  plus B. What is that?
• 21:57
  That just popped in my head. I have a y'all don't know.
• 22:01
  I have a degree in industrial and systems engineering.
• 22:03
  Like I'm a, I'm a, I'm an engineer by trade, right, But
• 22:06
  I'm thinking about going back to school over the summer and
• 22:08
  getting becoming a psychologist. I'm trying to go to might go get
• 22:11
  my masters in psychology and whatnot.
• 22:14
  We'll see. People have told me I need to go
• 22:15
  ahead and do that right there. Like go ahead and go to school
• 22:17
  and get your psychiatry degree. Well, I'm just considering it
• 22:20
  right. I'm considering it Turn, look,
• 22:23
  turn on those YouTube notifications and you won't miss
• 22:25
  another one, right 'cause I'm I'm going live like I'm going to
• 22:28
  start planning my lives further ahead of time and the next live
• 22:31
  I do y'all, the next live I do, I'm going to have guests on to
• 22:34
  share y'all stories and the talk.
• 22:36
  It'll probably about an hour long.
• 22:37
  People are going to come on, share your Share your story, use
• 22:40
  your voice and stuff like that. So if that slope intercept wipes
• 22:43
  and they supposed to be that's what it is.
• 22:45
  OK, yeah, I knew it was something y'all.
• 22:49
  But anyways, y'all, I really appreciate y'all tuning in.
• 22:51
  I'm grateful for every single one of y'all.
• 22:54
  Check out my website mentalillness.net for all things
• 22:57
  Lee Hammock mental illness.net. I appreciate y'all tuning in.
• 23:00
  We will chat later this week. Al Peace vibrations going.