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Life Lessons From Reddit, Angelo Lorenzo & Michael David | The Christian Reeve Podcast | #129 | · The Christian Reeve Podcast

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Hello and welcome to another episode of the Christian read
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podcast. Now today's episode is going to
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be a bit different. I should explain basically I had
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these two episodes of the podcast from wanna say maybe
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summer of last year they're quite old episodes and both of
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these episodes were recorded via Instagram live.
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Now generally I only tend to use Instagram live when I'm having
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Connectivity problems with my guests by a zoom because that's
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how I typically do the podcast. And unfortunately as a result,
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the episodes don't tend to have very good quality which is
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entirely out of my control. You know, as I say over chords
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the podcast through two different means, I do it through
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zoom and I also simultaneously record with an audio software
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program thing. Anyway, all of Goes out the
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window when it has to be done through Instagram live.
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Now, of course, there are benefits to doing it for
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Instagram live. For example, it's live.
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So it's a different version of the podcast.
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It opens it up potentially for questions from viewers and you
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might be asking, why am I talking about this?
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Why am I re releasing these episodes?
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Well, first things first, I didn't massively promote these
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two episodes in the beginning, they were on my podcast Clips
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channel, YouTube channel, and they will also available on
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Instagram, but I don't think a lot of people saw them, maybe
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the quality. Put them off, maybe there was
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just less people listening back. Then I'm always encouraging
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people to go and check out the order episodes, but I don't know
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that people always do or want to because I guess, you know,
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generally You can people tend to be more interested in the latest
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thing, you're doing as opposed to something you did a year ago
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or something like that. Not always, you know, some
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people are fully invested in what you're doing, right?
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This second. But other people, maybe not so
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much. And I guess I felt really bad
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about these two people sort of being left out and not being
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included in the standard Run for the podcast.
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I remember telling them at the time that it wouldn't be
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included and it would be different.
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It would be Like a part of this new series, I was trying, which
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I was trying. I was trying to give it a go and
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they kind of accepted it I suppose and just kind of went
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with it and we're just happy to do the conversation with me and
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I treated it exactly the same as I would, any other podcast still
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did loads of research for it, still trying to engage with
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everyone and make a good episode and people liked it and
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everything, but I think it just kind of sucked for them because
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it wasn't included. Due to my standard run.
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So here it is, being included in my standard run of episodes, but
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because I also feel bad for the people who listen to this
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podcast regularly, who look forward to it being released, I
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thought I would do some extra content here and kind of add it
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all together. So you might have like this one
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big episode basically like three episodes in one essentially and
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it's part of a new thing that I'm trialing in general.
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Which is that when I have these episodes that are Instagram live
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based, which I'm going to have a few more and this is one of the
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reasons why it prompted my decision to do this because I
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can't always help the fact that I have to do some episodes via
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Instagram live. There's going to be at least two
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that I'm going to be doing in the next month where it's
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either. It's usually because I have to
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interview a bunch of people in a group and when that happens
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unfortunately Zoom doesn't give me the possibility of having
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several Or in a live stream not live stream in the zoom cool for
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longer than 40 minutes. I can only record it for 40
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minutes. I did eventually pay at one
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point but then it just wasn't financially viable right now.
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I will pay for it in the future when things are a bit more
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possible in the finance department is if I haven't
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finance department, it just sounds more.
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I don't know. Somehow better doesn't it sounds
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like Real professional anyway. That's how I'm kind of
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approaching it and in order to make those episodes Steel.
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Have the kind of standard feel of the Christian we've podcast.
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I figure all ads, these kind of, I don't know, whatever this is
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right now to the beginning of each episode where it's been
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recorded on Instagram live. So you're always at least get
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some sort of content where it's just me talking like this.
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And it's the standard feel of the Christian re podcast.
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And then, you know, It goes, then to the Lesser quality of of
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the podcast. I mean, I think if nothing else
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the most important thing is, can I hear the people in the podcast
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and is the content? Good.
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And I stand by everything that I do, everything that I put out,
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I'm always confident that it will be a good conversation.
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I wouldn't release it otherwise. And, you know, I anticipate
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these upcoming episodes to be good.
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I mean, I would say that wouldn't I did.
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To say like oh they're gonna be shit, it was seriousness.
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I just I guess, you know, I really meant what I said at the
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beginning of the year when I said that I wanted to do more
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discussion based episodes and I want to try to constantly I
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suppose evolve, you know, not just with the podcast but in all
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areas of my life, I'm trying as hard as I possibly can with
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everything with acting. I'm I'm, you know, I'm applying
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for new roles all the time for acting and voice acting roles.
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I'm doing more episodes of the podcast.
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I'm doing more discussion episodes now, so it's not just
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guests. I'm doing a lot of things right
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now, to try to put myself out there as much as I can to test
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myself to challenge myself. and to just generally create better
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content, you know that that's my key goal with all of this is
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what can I do to make sure that I'm producing the best content
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possible, and You know, constantly improving, I guess is
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my mindset and because now I've got some people that I know are
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regularly watching and listening.
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So thank you very much for listening and watching the
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podcast. I really appreciate it.
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It's one of the reasons why I'm not quick to release episodes
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all the time. Like, for instance, we've missed
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a week and that was by Design. I didn't have a guest lined up.
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I think it was What was that? I think there was a no-show at
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one point and that kind of messed with my schedule and
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normally, when I get a no-show, I just do a discussion episode
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but I don't ever want to release something for the sake of it.
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You know, one of the things that I'm doing is whenever I have a
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discussion episode, I tend to do even more research than I do for
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my standard interviews because I'm delving into a topic. and
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trying to kind of gain a broad understanding of it.
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But the more complex, the issue is and the more there is to
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read, the more time, it will take me to prepare the episode.
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Like, for instance, the episode that I did on Multi potentiality
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and polymaths, I had to basically read and go through
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all the different links via both the pages they had on Wikipedia
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and yes, I know Wikipedia but it's just useful for Science and
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for other things, you know, it has everything collected in one
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area and you can check the links to check if the information That
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Cara and stuff. Anyway I realized I had to do to
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lots of research and so I spent maybe a good couple of hours
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because I actually did the research for the episode and
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then recorded it and released it all in the same day which was a
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big test for me. I've never done that before but
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I managed to get it done. But with that topic
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multipotentialite e and polymaths.
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There wasn't loads and loads of information like I could
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potentially have gone down a rabbit hole.
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Bye. I didn't luckily but there are
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other topics that are coming up that I'm planning on doing that.
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I'm actively researching right now that just take time.
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And I think, you know, I'm a big subscriber to that mindset of
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less is more and in the sense of releasing less.
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But when you do release content, it's the best that it possibly
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can be. I'm a big believer in that and
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also just taking your time and you know delivering content.
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Really is going to be engaging for people, you know, wherever
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you're listening to this, or however, you're listening to
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this podcast. I imagine it serves one or two
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purposes. It's either something that you
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actively look forward to. And whenever it comes out you're
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eager to see it or listen to it and and gain something from it,
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be it to be full of laughter and I am not comedian, but if you
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get a laugh out of it, great or to learn something new.
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What to discover someone new or just generally to enjoy an hour
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or two however long it goes right.
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And I imagine this and I know for a fact, there's other people
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that listen and watch this podcast and it's sort of like, a
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background thing, you put it on in the background, maybe while
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you're driving, or while you're doing work, naughty should be
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working. I did the same.
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I mean, I listen to a lot of podcasts, particularly wrestling
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podcasts. And I often have it on in the
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background and I really enjoy that I can lose myself in that
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and get a lot of work done and the time just flies by you know,
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and recently, I've been getting a lot of wonderful compliments
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from people telling me that they think I have a voice for radio.
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They like listening to my voice whatever and you know I'm not
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good at taking compliments ever. I thank you for those people who
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did give those compliments. I tried To sort of regarding the
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except the compliments. But then when I noticed that
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quite a few people are saying the same thing.
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I tend to think. Okay, let's do something about
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this. Let's use this, you know,
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obviously, you know, I'm not going to walk around thinking,
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I'm brilliant or anything, I never do.
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I always think, you know, I always think of myself as like a
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project that I'm constantly working on, that's what I
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believe are. Humans are we are just Pete, a
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work of art that is never finished.
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That's genuinely what I think we all are.
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Anyway, with that in mind, you know, Amazing, my train of
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thought here, this is not good during the middle of a podcast.
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Know what am I going to do? Want to make sure that if this
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had been like a year or two ago, I would have been really
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worried. I would have been upset.
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I would have been like, oh no, I would have stopped the podcast,
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ended it there, continued later, but bring me that upset that
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I've randomly forgotten what I was talking about.
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But now I don't feel that way. I feel sort of confident in what
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I'm doing. I know I can pull it back.
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I can get it where it needs to be and sort of, more
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importantly, I know that I know what to do in order to make it
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engaging and interesting and something that people would want
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to listen to. Because I've spent a lot of time
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listening to other podcasts that, you know, Do things,
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right? And I've listened to ones that
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do things wrong, and Obviously is subjective but I think that
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the key thing with most podcasts and I've said this in previous
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episodes. So sorry for beating a dead
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horse but it's all about structure.
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It's all about having something you can follow and follow
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easily. You know, I you'll notice I try
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not to dark from topic to topic. I try to kind of have a sort of
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a flow that you can go along with you know, we ease into each
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topic rather than just dying and I hate going back and Off on,
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you know going back to something.
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You heard maybe half an hour ago.
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That sucks. I think if you're done with one
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thing and you want to move onto the next thing move on to the
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next thing, you know, don't just kind of Keep going back and
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forth because it's that I think is erratic.
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I think that becomes frustrating to listen to and the last thing
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I would want my podcast to be is frustrating anyway to the main
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event. Why it's not the main event.
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As I said before, this is bonus content attached to two episodes
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of the podcast. It's all condensed into one big
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bumper episode and I imagine I'll be releasing this episode
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along with Several other episodes.
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I'll be releasing around the same time.
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All in one goes, you'll get several episodes at once and
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you'll know that I've done my very best to kind of put
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everything together and make it as interesting engaging as I
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can. But, you know, I've been really
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kind of going out of my way to make sure that I take what you
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guys say into account. And I'm pursuing radio, I'm
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pursuing voice acting and I'm pursuing podcasting, you know
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this year in June. I think June time will be the
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two-year anniversary of the podcast, which is amazing.
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You know, I didn't even think we'd get past 10 episodes and
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here we are. How many episodes has it been
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170? Something I think 160 something.
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I don't know. I can't even remember the number
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at this point, but it's not the numbers.
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It's not how many it's the quality of each episode.
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You know. Each episode needs to be as good
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as the last And that's why I aspired to do anyway.
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I've rambled on for a long enough.
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I figured, I would give you this random content that I just, you
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know, I was hoping I'd get more responses, to be honest, but I
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figured I could just ad-lib. So, all of this is ADD lived.
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By the way, I often tend to ad-lib ad-lib ad-lib during
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their podcasts. When I'm, you know, throwing
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questions of people, attend to kind of just think of things on
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the spot and use the existing In questions, I have as a kind of
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means of guiding the conversation, but sometimes I
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don't even end up asking all those questions to be honest.
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It really depends, but normally, I have something prepared, and I
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do have something prepared here, but my plan was basically just,
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oh, I've got some things to read here.
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Let's just see my initial thoughts on each of these things
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and I'll share it with my audience so I apologize.
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If this is crap. It's To be a bit of extra
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content, tagged along tagged along, tagged on to content has
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already been released, but it's bonus content.
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But anyway, I keep going on and on and on, and I'm kind of sick
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of my, the sound of my own voice at this point.
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So anyway, I asked credit via the arse credit subreddit.
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What's the biggest life lesson you've learned so far?
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And I thought this would blow up.
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I thought it would get loads of responses.
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I was like, yeah. To be pretty and I maybe I can
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make a whole podcast out of it. And of course, that was me being
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naive but I did get a few responses and I thought I would
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share them with you and I don't know, maybe it'll make for a
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good title for this because I imagine the title of this
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episode is going to be something like.
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I don't know, life lessons from Reddit and then the names of the
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guests I had on the show previously all in one big
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bumper. Code.
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Anyway, I asked the people that read it and as you can imagine,
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I got some serious answers. I've got some silly answers and
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I've got some weird answers that.
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I don't even know how to respond to but this is what people sent
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me. So the first person said, no
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matter how much you try to help someone, it will always fail if
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they don't want to help themselves.
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I totally agree with this. This is something that For me,
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as a life lesson in my own life. I kind of learned years ago
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because I remember in my younger years sort of What about my
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early 20s? I had a very bad attitude
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towards life, you know, I wasn't happy, I wasn't in a good place
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back then, I was working in my customer services and yeah, you
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know, the story but I just wasn't happy and constantly.
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I'd hear people saying, oh, you need to do this.
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If you want to change your life, you got to do this.
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And it always used to frustrate me hearing that, like, because
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people would make it sound so easy.
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Oh, you just need to change your So oh, you just need to do this.
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And then everything will be different.
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And there is an element of Truth in that, but the bigger thing
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that people should tell you in that moment, is that yes, you
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can change your life for the better, but you're going to have
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to work for it and you're gonna have to work hard and you won't
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get it straight away. That's what people should tell
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you. Maybe they just tell you you
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know, I will things will get better because that's just the
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quickest easiest thing to hear but I don't know, I'm a big firm
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believer in telling people the truth and, you know, giving it
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to them straight, you know, not leaving anything on said or
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leaving anything out. And I think that if I'd heard
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that years ago and heard it enough, I would have accepted it
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earlier on a probably would have made the changes necessary to
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becoming the person I am today. But from experience when I have
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tried to help people that didn't have the right attitude in much
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the same way as people tried to help me and I didn't have the
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right attitude, it took getting to a point where I was so
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miserable that I knew I was forced to change things because
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if I didn't I don't know what would happened.
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You know, I just knew I was sick and tired.
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I was tired of being sort of miserable and depressive and - I
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hated being like that. I hated myself back then and so
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I changed my attitude slowly but surely, but I made some key
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changes in my life, probably the biggest of which was cutting
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down to part-time hours and then going to college and then going
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to University you know all these changes happened in the space of
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a year and my life look totally different a year later but my
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attitude was the biggest thing that changed.
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And from that point onwards, you know, I'm not going to say it
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was like all sunshine and daisies because it wasn't some
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of the hardest times were still yet to come, but at least my
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head was beginning to become. You know, grow to the point
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where it was in the right headspace.
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You know. And I think the biggest thing
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that's actually changed over the years for me, as I've spent a
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lot more time being introspective and I think this
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is something that we all need to do or find time to do at points
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in our lives so that we can reflect on what has happened.
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Good and bad in our lives so far come to terms with it,
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understand it. It and grow and learn from it,
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but we have to have that time. If we never stop to reflect, we
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never learn anything but Eastern in my perspective.
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Now, specifically regarding other people with this saying,
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yeah, I've seen it, you know, there's been times when I've
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given people advice and, you know, I can see that they're
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just not going to listen to me and I'm wasting my breath and
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largely that can be due to stubbornness.
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But I think, I think it tends to be more down to people feeling
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trapped, people feeling, like, whatever people say to them,
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it's hopeless because they can't imagine how things could be
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better if they'd follow this advice.
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But the funny thing is when they do eventually kind of open up
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and begin to accept people, And their advice and and trying
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something different going out of their comfort zone.
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They find that thing's actually change pretty quickly and
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amazingly. So like I'll give you an
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example, just going back to me being miserable in that first
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job, I had 18 through to 24 21 or just before I was 21.
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So it's about 3 years around time that I dropped from
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full-time to part-time hours because I've worked there for
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about two years full time. I was obviously, considering
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going to college and I was Looking at, you know, how would
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she would cost and what I would need to do and a big worry and
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concern of mine at the time. Was will I be able to cut down
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my hours? What if they say, no, what do I
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do? Will I have to find a new job.
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What am I gonna do? Like obviously, all these
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whirring thoughts went through my head and I was young and
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inexperienced and didn't realize that things would be fine.
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Either way. I was just scared.
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I was worried and the funny thing was at the time, I had a
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particular boss. Who wasn't pleasant?
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They weren't a bad person. I think they were just young and
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had a bad attitude towards things here and there and they
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weren't always unreasonable, but they were riding me pretty hard,
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as far as, you know, being a little bit unfair here and there
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and we didn't like each other. At one point, we eventually got
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on good terms. But I think for the first kind
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of six months of working together or how other however
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long it was we just didn't get on and they knew I didn't like
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them and I'm pretty sure. They didn't like me and we just
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think on we tried to be professional at all times but
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bear in mind I was young. I was like 19 20 at the time.
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Anyway, it came to me needing to cut my hours down and that meant
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I had to directly talk to this manager.
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So I had to ask this manager who didn't like me, who knows?
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I don't like them for a favor essentially and it blew me away
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and this is when people surprise you how wonderfully
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accommodating. This person was, when I did ask
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them, I remember it very clearly.
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We were sitting down in this, in this kind of like, Random
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meeting room was like a tiny little room with a old ass
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computer from like the 2000s that we rarely ever went in.
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I don't even know what that room was for, to be honest.
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I think it was just for monitoring certain things.
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Anyway, we went in that room and we sat down and we went through
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what? My new hours would be, and we
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sort of, I don't know how to put it, we sort of negotiated the
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hours and I was saying all these hours would work for me and he
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said, oh well, you've got to be a little bit flexible.
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Christian, you might need to kind of give us something that
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will work for us. And we agreed basically on hours
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that would work for me during the week couple of days a week.
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And then I My Sacrifice, if you like was I gave them a Shift on
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a on a Saturday, you know, because I tried to get a morning
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shift and they were like, no, we need you here for most of the
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day, and as I go, I don't want to do a close, okay, should we
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do a mid-shift? Okay, agreed.
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And we agreed on it, and I was happy with that and those shifts
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sucked, but hey, I was now as only working three days a week,
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I didn't feel trapped there anymore.
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I was able to do over time which was A New Concept for me and do
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it on my terms and I felt a lot happier. during that final year,
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I'm still hard, but finally, I realized and this is the point
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by getting out of my comfort zone and Not being afraid, just
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just going for it and seeing what happens, things changed,
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and they change for the better. But crucially, they took time to
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change and that's what we need to exercise his patients.
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But yeah, that's quite a tangent along from what they said, no
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matter how much you try to help some women will always fail if
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they don't want to help themselves.
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Yeah, I mean, just to tie a bow on that there's got to be that
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willingness to change from the person themselves.
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They've got to be in the mindset of the when they receive advice
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from people around them. They have to be willing and
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ready to try those things even if they don't necessarily agree
25:32
with them and they think of maybe this would be detrimental
25:35
to me. They just need to try anyway,
25:39
unless they know definitely, it's not going to work because
25:42
not all advice that you receive is good advice for you.
25:46
You have to think about whether or not it's good advice for you.
25:51
But action is always better than in action.
25:53
You know, your situation is never going to get better if you
25:56
do nothing. So yeah, anyway, let's move it
26:01
on one person said never give anyone up, never let anyone down
26:05
never run around and desert someone and iconic song, of
26:09
course. Yeah, I don't know.
26:13
There's that just tickled me real thought.
26:14
I was funny. They begin to give once one
26:19
person said everyone sucks. X and that got quite a few
26:23
upvotes. I know the feeling, I mean,
26:27
okay, I know this is a funny comment but maybe there's an
26:30
area of seriousness in this, you know, I felt like this times
26:35
where you know, seemingly everyone is just against you or
26:41
causing you problems or just not worth your time.
26:46
But I can assure you. It's not true.
26:47
Even if it feels that way, more often than not what you need to
26:51
do is Branch out, put yourself out there and try different
26:56
things, get out and about and you'll realize that, not
26:59
everyone indeed sucks. It could just be the immediate
27:02
people around you either in your workplace or at home or
27:06
whatever, are not your people and your people are out there.
27:10
You just need to find them and that might mean by.
27:14
I don't know joining clubs. Clubs trying things you've never
27:17
done before but you want to do, you know, getting out of your
27:20
comfort zone? I say again, but it's important,
27:22
you need to do that. You need to get out there and
27:27
you'll you will realize that not everyone sucks.
27:30
So there you go. Moving on.
27:33
You can't pour from an empty cup and this person said it's a
27:37
quote that they live by recently.
27:41
You can't pour from an empty cup.
27:44
I would assume this means, This is talking about.
27:52
Everyone, literally. It's what's within within
27:55
someone? Isn't it?
27:56
I guess? you know, you need to There's
28:03
gotta be something within you. Maybe I'm just butchering this,
28:06
I don't know the way I anticipate anticipate interpret.
28:10
This quote, is that within you? There needs to be some kind of
28:15
motivation. There needs to be something
28:18
driving, you look, a driving force of some description. it's
28:23
like you can't you running on empty, can't run them reserves,
28:26
you can't run on nothing, you gotta You got to be in good
28:30
condition, you got to take care of yourself, you know, from a
28:33
physical and mental standpoint. But there's got to be something
28:36
within you, some driving force. Something that's keeping you
28:39
going and pushing you and moving you forward.
28:44
That's how I interpret that quote and in that sense I would
28:47
tend to agree with it. I also will add this though that
28:51
I think sometimes it's okay if you've got nothing to offer in
28:55
that particular moment, you know, I don't think that we're
28:58
not robots, we're not supposed to, you know, continuously
29:03
contribute and give give give all the time.
29:07
No matter what, Society, might tell us, or expect from us.
29:10
We're not robots. We need to rest.
29:12
We need to Relax, sometimes, sometimes we need to take a side
29:16
seat. You know, I'm sure you've been
29:18
in group situations before where, you know, maybe you're
29:21
often expected to be the leader, or to, you know, push things
29:26
forward. But you know what, sometimes,
29:28
it's good to sort of just observe a bit, you know, I do
29:32
that, as I've gotten older, I observe a hell of a lot more
29:34
than I used to Because I don't feel the need to be in control
29:41
of everything. I feel the need to be in control
29:43
of everything in my own life. And I think that's important for
29:45
everyone to have a grip. A kind of Just control of what's
29:52
going on in their own particular life, but I don't think it's
29:55
necessary. but not maybe just you know focus on the things
30:01
that you can control and the things you know you have
30:04
influence over but don't worry too much about the things that
30:07
you don't have influence over and Yeah, just observe a bit
30:13
more. See what you can learn, so we
30:15
can pick up. I don't know.
30:16
That's, that's what I take from that.
30:19
If you want to lose a friend, lend them money.
30:22
Uh-huh. I'm 50/50 on this, I'm 50/50
30:29
because I think it depends. You know, I do think generally
30:33
it's not a good idea to sort of go into business with friends or
30:39
to borrow large amounts of money from Friends. because, yeah, you
30:46
know, maybe that could lead to the end of a friendship
30:49
potentially, but I don't know. You know, I mean, I've borrowed
30:51
money from friends and paid them back.
30:53
I've had friends, borrow money from me, some of whom paid me
30:57
back, some of whom didn't. I've never really been one to
31:00
chase people up for for money because I kind of see that.
31:05
It's like low Behavior. You know, I'm not the tax man,
31:09
you know me if they're not going to pay me back, I just know.
31:12
Well, they don't respect me enough so I'm not going to help
31:17
them again. You know what I mean?
31:20
But then again, I've never lent like the large amounts of money.
31:23
We're talking like 50 Quid here, 100 there, you know, like 20,
31:27
quit here, like nothing. It's like Pocket Change, you
31:29
know? And I think if you can help
31:32
people, you should, you know, but you know, you're not, you're
31:36
not a bank and people shouldn't treat you as such if they know
31:41
you they should. You back even if they say, oh,
31:44
don't worry. Don't pay me back.
31:46
I mean, unless they really reluctant like I know, I'm
31:49
reluctant when people want to pay me back, I'm like, no, no,
31:52
no please don't. But I'm very happy that they
31:55
offered and that they, that was on their mind because that's how
31:58
it would be with me. I'd be very conscientious of the
32:01
fact that I owe someone money and I'd want to pay them back.
32:05
So like I said, I'm 50/50 on that.
32:06
I think it depends on who you're lending the money too.
32:12
And if you can trust them or not on that sense, but it's a tricky
32:16
one, isn't it? The jury's out on that one?
32:19
Here's another one. Should we save that one till the
32:23
end? Yeah, I'll come back to that one
32:26
because that's a big one. Nothing great comes from anyone
32:31
ordinary. And in this person said, quote
32:33
by me, unless I just saw that somewhere and forgot about it.
32:36
If so, let me know I disagree entirely with that quote.
32:42
I get what it's trying to say but I think some of the most
32:47
amazing people I've ever met in my life are indeed just ordinary
32:50
everyday people. I think everyone is capable of
32:56
something extraordinary, if you give them a chance, and I've
32:59
seen it many times over. I mean, when I was volunteering,
33:03
I saw some of the most amazing kindness and acts of generosity
33:10
in and just all the nice things you could imagine from just
33:15
seemingly. Everyday people that you want
33:17
passed in the street. So, great things are Always
33:24
capable of coming out of ordinary people.
33:28
And I think, you know, in our minds, we often look at like,
33:32
the most intelligent or talented people and society, and we
33:36
regard them as these extra Ordinary larger-than-life
33:39
People. But, you know, the biggest thing
33:41
about those people that makes them different from everyone
33:43
else is not so much their talent, it's their drive.
33:47
It's the fact that they kept pushing to that point, because
33:51
people forget rule, Born. you know, in the same way, more or
33:57
less, and the key things that separate us tend to be are
34:03
circumstances where we were born.
34:06
The households, we were born into the countries, were born
34:08
into the opportunities that were afforded or not afforded.
34:11
You know, these factors change things and make it either easier
34:16
or more difficult, but we're still all going to face
34:19
different battles some more so than others, right?
34:25
But that drive that willingness to be the best and keep pushing
34:30
yourself forward. Never giving up like that is
34:33
something that we all have and often.
34:35
It's a choice thing, you know? I mean it's I choose to just
34:39
keep pushing and never stopping until I get what I want.
34:42
I mean I'm the same. You know, you might hear me
34:45
Grumble from time to time about not having what I want, but I
34:48
never give up. I keep trying because it's just
34:50
not in me to give up. It really isn't?
34:53
I'm not going to say, I've never given up in life because I have.
34:55
But, you know what? I came right back full circle to
34:58
where we are now. And look at me all these Years
35:01
later doing working probably harder than I've ever worked in
35:04
my entire life. Trying to make something of
35:07
myself in entertainment, in all shapes and forms.
35:13
I'm trying because I can't imagine not trying and I just
35:21
unequivocally just completely disagree with this quote and
35:26
often. When I see these sorts of
35:27
quotes, I know that it's coming from a - minded person.
35:31
And I'm not trying to criticize that person.
35:33
It's just, this is the sort of thing I used to say when I was -
35:37
minded, you know, as I go yeah, nothing greater than to me.
35:41
Oh yeah, that'll never happen. It's like how do you know unless
35:44
you try? How do you know?
35:45
You don't know. So try Human beings.
35:52
Are we unique and pretty much all the same.
35:56
Mmm, this is an interesting one. And when we roll, we definitely
35:59
all unique. This is true.
36:02
No two. Human beings are exactly the
36:04
same though, you will find human beings that are similar.
36:09
You, you will have met the similar type of person many
36:11
times over but that exact how to put it.
36:21
The way that one person is assembled in it all senses of
36:25
the work of the sense. I can't even speak right now.
36:27
I do apologize. All the ways that that
36:30
particular person is put together is unique to them and
36:33
them only. But you are going to find
36:36
similar personalities, similar looking people similar tastes in
36:42
an interest in things, Etc, it's similar ideas, you know, no, two
36:46
ideas or ever original, but maybe the way they communicated
36:50
can be, I don't know. but this is kind of saying two
36:56
contradictory things which are both true, which I find
36:59
interesting because we are all unique and yet, fundamentally,
37:04
we are the same Society divides us and makes us Divide ourselves
37:12
and treat each other differently and such but we are pretty.
37:16
We are fundamentally the same. We're all human beings, you
37:19
know? And we often have to learn how
37:25
to be the best versions of ourselves and that comes through
37:28
life experience and the willingness to accept life
37:31
lessons as they come and to move forward.
37:34
And as I said before, to put take ourselves out of our
37:37
comfort zone, and do the very best we can To really make the
37:43
most out of ourselves. You know, I always think it
37:46
comes down to choice. We don't always get choice in
37:50
life as far as what happens to us.
37:54
I mean, you know, mostly life is things that happen to us, but we
37:58
do at least have Choice over decisions in our lives.
38:03
You know, a or b, a b c. You know, we often get presented
38:07
decisions, we have to make a choice and that choice can often
38:12
be impactful on our lives, you know, I think of times in my
38:16
life where there's job. Turn down and I wonder would, my
38:20
life have been better. If I had taken the other job,
38:24
would have been worse who's to say?
38:26
All I know is in that moment, I made the right decision for me
38:31
that I stand by. I think I made the right
38:34
decision in that moment, but I guess you'll never know until
38:37
the very end, right? But all you can do is your best.
38:41
So and I guess we'll end on this big quote, which I haven't even
38:47
read, but I can already see that.
38:48
It's good. This one person says, treat
38:52
everyone with kindness. You never know what they're
38:56
going through. It doesn't always justify their
38:58
actions or attitude, but I know I've had some days where people,
39:03
who would have thought. I was a much different person
39:05
because of the way I was acting some of those people who you
39:09
have one interaction with. And then decide what kind of
39:13
person they are based on that lost their dad that day, or
39:16
their mum, maybe they lost their job or relapse tough to being
39:20
sober for ten years. You just never know.
39:22
I wish I understood this sooner in life.
39:24
Yeah, thank you very much. I'm going to say the name
39:28
shocked cooler underscore OG on Reddit.
39:32
I totally agree with you. You know, I think about some of
39:38
the worst days in my life where I was breaking down.
39:42
Strangest kindness sometimes people even people, I found that
39:47
I thought didn't like me or had a problem with me.
39:50
Surprise me with their kindness in some of my lowest moments.
39:54
I all, I honestly think that us humans were at our best when
39:58
we're lifting each other up. when we're consciously, making
40:05
an effort to just push each other forward.
40:10
You know, little things can often mean so much.
40:16
And I think we just have to make it habit in our lives to help
40:20
those around us as much as possible.
40:23
And you know, with what this person is saying, yeah, treat
40:26
everyone with kindness, even if they're being nasty to you,
40:30
that's not to say that you have to know, completely turn the
40:33
other cheek and just let them be horrible to you completely, but
40:37
be understanding realize that we all have bad days.
40:43
We will have our moments and maybe that, you know, doesn't
40:46
fully reflect the complete nature of a person.
40:49
It's probably just a bad moment, a bad day, you know, takes time,
40:56
I think to fully understand the intentions of a person and how
41:02
they operate and such and now, I think about a lot of times in my
41:09
life, where I've chose to be kind because it is a choice
41:15
often it you know I mean for me it comes naturally because I'm a
41:20
person who is very conscientious of like they're more compass and
41:25
stuff. I'm not going to sit here and
41:27
tell you, I am perfect human being or something, or I've
41:29
always made the right decisions, because that's not true.
41:32
Sometimes I've been spiteful, sometimes I've been selfish
41:36
sometimes, I've been deliberately mean and, you know,
41:38
I'm ashamed of that, but in those moments, I realized, when
41:44
I reflected on it, it came down to Ego.
41:47
It came down to Ignorance lack of emotional maturity, all these
41:53
things, you know? We get the very best out of
41:56
ourselves. When we are kind and we make the
42:01
right decisions that benefit, not only ourselves, but everyone
42:04
else around us, you know, with everything that I do.
42:08
And that I'm aspiring for in my own life as far as my goals and
42:12
aspirations are concerned. I always try to make sure that
42:16
I'm lifting up other people and helping other people and, and
42:19
making a fuss of other people and their achievements.
42:22
You know, I'm proud of everyone around me that's doing.
42:25
When I want them to do well. And there's no point getting
42:29
jealous of people or, you know, being upset that others are
42:33
doing well and not you, your time will come.
42:36
I fully believe maybe one day, my time will come.
42:40
I hope my time will come. I don't know.
42:43
But one thing I do know is that it's never a bad thing or a
42:48
waste to be kind to people, that's always going to be worth
42:53
so much more than money or anything else could ever.
42:58
Be worse. I hope you've enjoyed this
43:02
little impromptu section of the podcast.
43:07
I did my best to make it interesting and engaging.
43:09
Thank you to all the people on Reddit.
43:10
Who answered my question. Who knows, maybe I'll do more of
43:14
these in the future. Yeah, let me know what kind of
43:18
stuff you want to hear in these kind of episodes that I do these
43:21
Instagram lives in, I share these lives in again.
43:24
I apologize for the quality of what's about to come It's
43:28
Instagram live. There's nothing I can do about
43:30
it but I thought I'd give you one bumper episode.
43:33
As I said before, that's got a bit of everything in it and I
43:37
don't know, it's something different, isn't it?
43:38
I'm trying something different. I hope you like it.
43:41
I hope you enjoy these two older episodes, which I'm very proud
43:44
of the guests were fantastic and I believe that they should be
43:50
showcased and not hidden away on an old Channel that I have.
43:58
So this is me given them another shot and trying to promote them
44:01
as well as try something different with this podcast
44:05
structure, as I continue to grow as a podcaster and get better as
44:13
if nothing else. I think what we've sort of
44:16
spoken about throughout the course of these last well 45
44:19
minutes but there is personal growth and wanting to get better
44:25
and making a commitment to that. And the decision to continuously
44:30
work on oneself. So, without further Ado, I hope
44:35
that you enjoy these two episodes and this whole bonus
44:38
episode in its entirety. Thank you so much for listening,
44:42
and please check out these two extra episodes.
44:46
Peace be with you, I'll see you real soon.