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Ep 29 | The Alarm Clock Wars: Is Hitting Snooze a Relationship Dealbreaker? · Arguing Ever After

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Hello and welcome to Arguing Ever After.
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I'm Luke and this is Amber. Hello.
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All right, here we are. It is our 20. 9th, 29th I
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remembered first, which is amazing.
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Kind of a little bit that's. OK, I'm fine with you
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remembering. 29th. Yeah, yeah, I didn't.
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I mean, I guess each time we go a little bit further than
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halfway through the year. I don't know.
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We just keep making it happen. Are we going to have like a like
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a 30th, like a 30th celebration, like a birthday?
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Dirty 30. Dirty.
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Oh oh, but we might have a topic.
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I don't know if we can go naughty, dirty.
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I don't know what you're talking about.
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I don't. Know the topic about dirt?
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Is it appropriate to dig for worms with your fingers?
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Oh, the answer to that is no. Sometimes what?
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Appropriate. What if they come right up to
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the top after a rainstorm and you got to catch 1 to go
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fishing? I mean, I, I guess if you have
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to do that, but. They actually, I don't go
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fishing, so it's kind of a erroneous subject, but there was
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a time when I would have done that as a child.
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Yeah, I wouldn't have done that ever.
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Would you have eaten a worm? Oh, you know, did you?
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You. Feel like I was pressured into
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it at some point. No one would ask that question
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who didn't eat a. Worm.
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I probably have eaten a worm in my life.
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I might eat more than one, I don't know.
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More than one. I don't remember.
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It's probably probably a blocked out look at you looking at me,
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looking at me like I know. I don't know.
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I don't know, I feel like you'd remember specifically not eating
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a worm. I specifically remember that
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I've never eaten a worm. Not fair.
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Yeah, well, I'm I've eaten other things, but I've never eaten a
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worm. Oh, what have you eaten?
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Oh. God, we don't need to talk about
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it, I mean, but also I think. That a frog A.
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Frog. Mosquito.
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Have you eaten a frog? I don't.
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Yeah, but not raw. Not raw like frog's legs.
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Yeah, I've had frog's legs. Interesting you never had frog
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leg. No, my grandma used to love them
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though. There used to be a place in
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Frogtown. Oh yeah, the Frogtown Diner that
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served frog legs. It's no longer there.
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It's been gone for decades. But.
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I mean, that fits though, yes. You're in Frogtown.
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Served frog legs. Right, right.
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I don't know, maybe they do somewhere in there, but that's
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also getting very local. I would say you could let us
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know, but if you are interested and you have a place, drop it in
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the comments. Let other people know where they
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could try. There's a very special name for
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it but I don't remember. But if you want to let other
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people know where to sample frog legs, but.
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I had them in probably Florida. It was with my grandpa and it
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was so it would have been either in Virginia or Florida, I don't
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remember which place. Years ago I worked at a culinary
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school and I remember seeing all the little frog legs in the
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refrigerator. Oh, gross.
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Well, yeah, but I mean, before that I would have thought
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there's not that much on a frog leg.
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Well, a big frog. It must be.
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I don't know where they're farming these poor little frogs.
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But big frogs, Yeah, I caught a frog once that was like the size
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of a like a pancake. Well my brother and I both
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caught it and the thing could jump like 8 feet.
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It was crazy, was. It a frog or a toad?
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I don't think toads get that big.
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I actually guess I don't know, but I'm pretty sure it was a
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bullfrog, hence the name Bull. Because they're bigger, yeah.
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I don't know. Big, big green, kind of
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brightish green thing. It was so big.
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It was in upstate New York, way up by the Canadian border.
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At first we didn't think it was a frog, we thought it was like
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some random bright green moths just hanging out by a tree.
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And then it moved and we were like what?
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And we happened to be on a frog catching mission at the time to
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go fishing with black frogs because they're the best bait if
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you want to catch big fish anyway.
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So then we were little kids and decided, well, we got to catch
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this giant frog. So then we try to catch it and
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seriously, the thing would jump and it was like an 8 foot jump.
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So we were like running after this monster frog.
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We did end up catching it. We didn't try to go fishing with
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it. Well, I.
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Think my uncle made us like set it free or something which is
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probably for the best. Oh.
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It's a big frog, Yeah. Like that one gets to win,
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right? It seems like the last couple
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places we've lived we've had toads, not necessarily frogs
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now. The things in the trees that
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sing all the songs are tree frogs.
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I don't see them. I mean like I see toads and
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we've had. That's true.
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In the in the lawn, yeah. Yeah, and we've had dogs who've
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been obsessed with the toads are we had a dog who wanted to eat
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them and she would dig up every space to eat them, dugout under
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our patio somehow, and our whole sidewalk collapsed.
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I mean, she was going after those things.
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She was committed. But the one before it really
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loved the toads and was friends with them.
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I don't know if the the toads were friends with her, but she
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was friends with toads. I remember one time she had
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caught up, well twice actually. But I remember the first time
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she caught a toad. I didn't know if she had it in
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her mouth and she dropped it right at the door when she came
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in. And she's like, look at my
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friend. It was a present.
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It was, yeah. And I didn't want to touch the
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toad, but I didn't want the toad hopping around.
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I think I called you and asked you what on earth to do or when
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you were going to be home. I don't remember, just pick the
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toad up and put it outside. I think that's what I I.
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Sure hope so, because what else I mean.
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I mean, if you were going to be home in like 2 minutes, I'd have
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waited. I suppose.
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Yeah, I don't know, because I don't remember picking the toad
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up. I'm always afraid when I pick
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him up that I'm going to squish them, and I don't want to.
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I don't want to squish them. You have to be gentle.
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Yeah, well, but she would if she would catch them and she'd bring
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such breadman a couple times and she, I.
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Wonder if she secretly had eaten one.
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It was like you need to try this.
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I don't. No, not the way.
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Because she wasn't ever eating them.
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OK, well, not that you knew. No, she wasn't.
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She was a sweetheart, but OK. But Speaking of she's.
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Speaking of sweethearts, yeah, well, maybe not yet.
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She's kind of sweet. Yeah, we just added.
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Yeah, we did. A new member to the podcast
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family. Official addition to the FAM.
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Yes, yes she is a super cute 3 month old Great Dane dog.
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She going to be a big girl. She is going to be.
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We like big dogs. And we cannot lie.
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Yeah. We had A at some point we
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decided we were going to start downsizing big dogs after a
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couple of noofs we had. I was pretty committed to that.
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I was too. And then?
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We have this really great older dog, which is, you know, he
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tried to enter into one of our podcasts once or twice older.
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Well, he's older than the puppy. Well, OK, just makes you sound
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like you're saying he's a old dog.
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He's not old, no, but he's older than the puppy anyhow.
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He feels a little small frequently, that's true.
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And he is a Bernese Mountain dog.
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So I don't know if you're not a dog person, none of this matters
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to you. But if you do want to go Google
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sizes, it's it it's. Well, he's small for a Bernese.
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I mean he weighs 100 lbs. Yeah, yeah.
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So he feels a little smaller than what I'm used to, so.
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So you were like, I wonder if we just go hard to the top biggest
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dog there is. Yes.
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Yeah, because there's not a taller dog.
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There's not. There are heavier dogs.
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Mastiff wins the heavy award. Right, right.
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I learned recently when researching about the breed that
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there are cross between originally a cross between Irish
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Wolfhound and a Mastiff. Oh, a great.
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Dane an English mastiff? Yeah.
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Which is not, which is actually German.
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Right, and that some French dude thought it was a Danish dog.
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Yeah, but did they say why he thought that?
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I can't remember, yes, but I don't remember.
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I don't remember what it said. I don't know.
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I don't know, but not. But it's still, it's still a
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really cute dog. In Germany they call it Deutsche
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Doge. Yeah.
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Which is funny because it means the German dog in my brain
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because doggy means dog, but over there that means mastiff.
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Well, and we've been trying to figure out a name for her.
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We're close. Not going to be the vote for
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many reasons. I don't want to wait two weeks
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for a dog. Oh yeah, we're not putting that
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on the podcast poll. No, we appreciate if anyone
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wants to comment on what they think a girl Great Dane should
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be named right we're currently down to.
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Oh, don't tell anybody 3. No, you can't tell.
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I won't tell them we're down to three.
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Yeah. We don't give away names.
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We learned 1A hard way at once. Yeah, well.
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But it worked out OK. I mean what that but also if you
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ever have someone tell you about not a name and I actually have
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told like two people what names we were thinking and I but if
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you what? Are you thinking?
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I don't know. I don't know.
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But if you've ever told anybody or heard someone tell you about
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names, that this isn't the name. These are the things I'm
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thinking about automatically. You have an opinion as the
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hearer of the name. As the hearer.
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As the listener, like if I were to say I have two names, it is
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Jane and George, right? Automatically you say, well, I
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prefer Jane or I prefer George, or you could even say I don't
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like either name, right? Yeah.
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And for a lot of people, I'm sure that doesn't affect them.
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That's probably. True, but I feel like a lot of
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people naming is very personal so here's life hack #5. #5 we're
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up to five. How do you keep track of that in
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your head? I'm guessing on the five, wow, I
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don't think I've been able to get more than 5, but anyhow, and
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I'm going to give you 6 life hack number.
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Five, get ready for the blessings, people.
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Yes, do not tell anyone a name your thinking.
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Do not tell them the name. That's number five.
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Number six. Number six.
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If someone tells you names they're thinking do not have a
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reaction you. Could think.
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They're both good. I don't think that's a life
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hack. It should have.
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That's good advice, but I don't think because a life hack is a
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is a personal no improvement situation.
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You don't think that's not an improvement?
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I think it's good advice. I don't think that's a life
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hack. I don't care.
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You know what? Hey you.
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Are OK, so you're a life hack. I'm just saying.
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You're giving them away cheap today.
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Because here's the thing. Like we're. 29 episodes in and
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only up to #6 and we're trying to plug put 2.
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In there, who cares? Apparently you do.
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But anyhow, like, it doesn't. I mean, people names are so
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intensely personal. Now, I'm not going to say a dog
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name is anywhere near as personal as a kid name.
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But a lot of times, you know, if you have an opinion, the person
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on the other side has gone through great thinking most of
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the time as to why the name matters.
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And if you were like, I don't really like Mabel, right?
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Because maybe I chose Mabel because that's my grandma's
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name. So now we're like, Mabel sounds
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like an old lady. Yeah, I'm naming it after my
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grandma, right. Like.
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I feel like I'm being attacked. No, you're not being.
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What's your grandma named Mabel? You don't know my grandma.
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We've been together for how many years?
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And you don't know my grandma's. Name.
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That's not fair. I never met hey.
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I'm just. I don't think you've ever told
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me your dad's parents names. Oh my gosh, this is not true.
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No this. Is what maybe one time I'm
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pretty. Sure, this is what is called gas
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lighting I. Can't imagine you?
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I have to. Well, not a lot because they
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were gone before I came around, so it would not have come up.
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Sure. Same with your mom's side.
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OK, anyhow I would think after. I mean, I know your mom's mom,
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OK? Anyway, whatever.
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But we're not revealing names on there.
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But I mean, I'm just saying it's not, we've only been together
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for like 8,000,000 years, but that's OK.
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Oh my goodness. Gracious.
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Go back to the naming thing. I told a couple people and the
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reactions weren't what I wanted the reactions to be.
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And I thought that's interesting.
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And so when I told people just names of our dogs, you know, in
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the past and have not like they've not had the back and
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forth of what it will be. I like that our current dog
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people have trouble with. I know they do.
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I think it's a. They do.
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But I mean, I'm sure if we were to have told people, oh, we're
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thinking Toblerone, they would have been like, oh, who can say
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that? Nobody can say.
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It no one can say it, it's really fun.
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The good news is we named the dog for us.
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Right, right. And I think that's the important
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thing is you're I'm naming the dog for me.
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I have to say this name way more times than I want to say it on a
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especially as a puppy, you know, but anyhow, that was kind of
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some of the reaction and I'm thinking most of it wasn't the
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names that we're currently thinking.
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But I don't know, just it's just don't do it.
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Don't tell people your ideas for names.
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Save yourself that and save the other person from having to feel
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like they need to form an opinion.
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And again, those both sound like nice names.
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That's always a really valid option.
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Or I don't know. That's where I think a little
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white lie, if you don't like it, can be fine.
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OK, good to know. Fine.
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So you know, that's what we've been up to.
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Puppy Dome is. It's too much work.
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It's a lot. It's and I, we knew that, you
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know, not our first rodeo. We've had got it.
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What? A lot.
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I tried. I tried to count today and then
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I got confused. I don't think we're quite at 10,
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but we're getting close. We're definitely not at a dozen,
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but you know, yeah, we used to have like 3 dogs at a time for a
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little while. But I like dogs.
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I like dogs a lot. I think, well, they're just a
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lot of fun to have around. My favorite thing is that
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they're your best friend all the time.
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You come home from work and they're like, it's party time.
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I missed you so bad and I love you so much.
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Yeah, yeah. And it's pretty great.
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I mean, that's unconditional, you know?
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I mean, there's always some challenges, and I'm fine with
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the challenges. No dog is ever perfect.
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But I'm going to tell you, no dog of ours has ever had the
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same person. Animality.
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What is the word? It's not personality because
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they're not people. There's an actual word, but I'm.
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Going to animal personality. No, no, it's not a personality.
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OK, That's that's anamorphic. Well, I think animals are people
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too. Is that anamorphicizing?
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I don't the word no. Something anyhow.
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But no, there's I guess behavior I don't know.
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Doesn't matter. Temperament, Temperament.
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Sure, that's not quite the same. Behavior.
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Anyway, whatever. Anyhow, none of them have all
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have been the same. Some have been close, but none
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of them have been the same. So I'll be interested to watch.
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And when they're really young, they're usually a little bit of
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a sweetheart. Yes, that's where we're at right
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now. But I am also aware that they
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turn into monsters for a little bit.
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I really hope this one doesn't. Our last one didn't.
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What? Oh, our current dog.
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Yeah, the last puppy. No, he didn't.
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You're right. He was.
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Amazing. He was our second most amazing
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dog we've ever had for a puppy, second most, but every other one
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we've struggled with. But it's worth it because in the
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end you get a dog. And in the end, in this one,
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we're going to have a big old dog.
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And there was an episode many years ago where people learn
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that I liked big dogs. So living out a little bit of a
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childhood fantasy here, there's no way my parents would have.
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My dad might have, you know, my dad might have been OK with a
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dog that big, but there's no way my mom would have ever a dog
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that big in her house. I think the biggest dog I
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remember having was probably like 40 lbs.
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Oh, but she did have a bigger one once.
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That's right. Anyway, yeah so so that's that's
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been going on and we expect that that's going to be her life for
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a little while The worst part though, I think of a puppy. 2
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bad things about a puppy number one, this one's really bad right
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now. Potty training and and #2 is the
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amount of times they wake up in the middle of the night that's
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so awful. Related to the first one.
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A lot of times it is, but not always, not always.
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And we are in this really, really cold, cold vortex right
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now. And I know we always complain
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about the cold in Minnesota, but this poor puppy, she's potty
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training, learning to go potty outside and it's like going to
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be -40° tomorrow or something like that. -22 with like a 50
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below wind chill. That's ridiculous.
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And we've always had hairy dogs, really hairy dogs.
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And so they go outside and if it's too cold, they'll kind of
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turn around quickly. They'll still do their business.
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Nope, not her. She's frozen immediately and
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shivering and so oh. It's so cute and so sad.
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The little dog shivers. Luke used to make fun of people
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who would get their dogs dog sweaters and dog boots.
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That's true. And he's like, they're dogs,
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they're fine. They're made for being outside,
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you know? And then the second this little
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baby touched the outside world with us, he's like, she needs a
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coat, she needs boots. I mean within minutes of us.
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Well, she did. She was shimmering.
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The little poor thing, she was litter training inside.
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She was litter. Training inside and it's very
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cold. So in my defense, I would like
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if it was 30, I'd have been like, well, she could suffer
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through it and figure it out. Yeah, but it's been like mega
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cold. So she needed a little help.
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I still think she needs more help.
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We should wrap blankets around her or something.
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Well. I tried today to like so we we
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got boots and she's really good. She like immediately got into
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the boots. Very cute.
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Most dogs that I've seen, it takes them a bit of acclamation.
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They don't want it. They try to RIP them off.
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But she's like, OK, it's fine. And she got a nice thick coat.
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Not coat, vest, doggy vest, It doesn't matter.
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Yeah, vest. And again, she has no problems
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with that. But today it was so.
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Cool, I almost bought today. There's there's like little
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suits, whole body suits for these dogs you can buy.
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They're not cheap because they're made for like it's
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serious conditions like $100 where you can get a whole like
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whole suit, the cover like from from foot to every piece of the
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dog except the part they got to do their business with.
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It's it looks pretty cool on the Internet.
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I'm just saying. I mean, OK, OK.
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But the dog size we have, I know currently what she is today is
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like. According to the little booties,
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is XL. Yeah, well, I mean, her feet are
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already big. She's she's so adorable.
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But anyhow, like the the size she's going to be is nowhere
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near what she's going what she is today.
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Like right now, what 30 lbs, if that, you know, maybe 40
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somewhere in there. You know, she's going to get so
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much bigger. So you don't want to spend a lot
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on this this puppy clothes. But also on the flip side, we've
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had dogs who are so big that they couldn't really get like
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dog costumes or dog because they don't even make them that size.
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Men's Exhale T-shirts. Yeah, yeah, we've definitely
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done that for costumes before. I do recall though, like at some
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point I did see a place that was like like a big and tall for
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dogs and they did have a lot of Great Dane stuff.
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So if anyone is listening and knows of a great resource for
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Great Dane things. Yeah.
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Let us know. Let us.
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Know because it sounds like Luke is just wanting to make sure
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that she's comfortable forever. And it's so funny because I
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mean, this is, it's So what not, I mean, you love dogs, but
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you've never like fussed over. Well, I've never had one that
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shivered the second she went outside.
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The rest of them were like, cool, it's like I got fur.
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That's what it's for, right? No, their breeds are also
22:18
mountain like we've had mountain dog, mountain dog, mountain dog,
22:20
mountain dog like we've had. Well, I guess technically
22:24
Newfoundland is not a mountain dog, but there are get in
22:26
literally the North Atlantic and go swimming dog.
22:30
So like we've had built for cold, I think like the last five
22:36
dogs, New Finland. Makes sense, we live in
22:38
Minnesota. Leonberger.
22:41
Pyrenees. Pyrenees.
22:42
I mean they yeah. And Bernie's like 5 dogs we've
22:45
had. Every one of them has a super
22:48
thick like double coat and this one's got like a nothing.
22:53
A .01 coat nothing. There's a couple little tiny
22:56
short hairs on her. But she's.
22:58
A huge, adorable little outfit She's.
22:59
Just so adorable in her little outfit.
23:03
I don't know. I'm sure at some point here
23:05
we'll post some pictures, but I don't know, you know you don't
23:11
like that. Idea.
23:11
I know I'm fine, I just realized we're so off topic so hard I
23:14
actually forgot the topic we're supposed to be talking about.
23:17
That's OK, we can keep talking about having.
23:21
We could we could make up a question about dogs.
23:23
I know we could. We.
23:24
Could freestyle 1 the well we have a couple.
23:27
Of I mean, I you're, yeah, so, but the other thing, so we said
23:32
potty training is terrible. The other thing that's terrible?
23:36
You said make it waking up. Waking up in the middle.
23:39
Of the night. Is awful.
23:41
Yeah, we are watching. Well, that's a solid segue.
23:44
I just remembered what we were talking about.
23:46
That's listen, 10 out of 10 people, you'll see.
23:49
Yeah. Here we go.
23:50
Bring it. Bring it.
23:51
We are a little sleep deprived right now.
23:54
That's true. Because when they whine in their
23:57
kennel, sometimes it's to potty train, sometimes it's because
24:00
they woke up, you know, whatever.
24:01
Yeah, she's actually doing pretty good.
24:05
We've had dogs who've woken up three times in the middle of
24:09
the. Night you.
24:09
Know and. Which one was the one we had
24:12
that we literally were like drew straws like we were jumping off
24:15
a ship or something it. Was yeah.
24:17
Where it was like every two hours.
24:19
Or something. That was our last noof she.
24:23
Was was that buttercup? Yeah, yeah.
24:24
Oh my. We got her.
24:26
So I think we got her at about 8 weeks which makes.
24:29
A difference so bad. Yeah, we couldn't talk to each
24:32
other. We were like, we were so angry
24:35
all, all the time. Terrible.
24:37
Yeah, absolutely terrible. Yeah, and she had a like a
24:40
little bladder issue we had two dogs with, but she had a bladder
24:43
issue pretty early on. So, you know, she couldn't hold
24:47
it, but I don't know it's. So anyhow, but lots of sleep
24:51
deprivation, having to wake up early and and.
24:56
And not for nothing, the couple extra side points just for my
24:59
pain, I'm still healing from my surgery.
25:03
So we're both suffering. So you can't sleep because you
25:06
get it where you wake up easier than me.
25:09
OK, I'm saying we're both suffering and then, Oh no.
25:13
I didn't say we weren't. I was talking in general.
25:15
Yeah, being woken up by a dog, People suffer from that.
25:21
I wasn't talking about me specifically.
25:23
OK, well, I was talking about me.
25:24
I know you were welcome. To the Luke show.
25:27
That's why I gave you the look. Like what in the world?
25:29
Yeah, Well, that's by the way. It's hard for me.
25:33
It's man. No, I don't listen.
25:37
Are you coming at me? Of course it is.
25:40
Right, It's hard for everybody to wake up in the middle of the
25:42
night to dogs, but. I can't have no problems over
25:46
here it. Was just really random.
25:50
Because I do you want to know why maybe you'll find a little
25:54
little heart and that Grinch hearty ears.
25:57
OK, because when I wake up to the dog or in any morning for
26:01
the last three weeks since my throat surgery, my throat is so
26:06
freaking dry that it hurts and I got to drink water.
26:12
But now with this puppy, I, I'm like she's whining, I better go,
26:17
'cause what if she's like about to do some business, I'm gonna
26:20
go save her from that doing it all over there 'cause then I
26:22
gotta clean up every anyway. So I have not been able to
26:27
'cause I'm not making an extra 5 second stop to get some water.
26:29
I'm going right beeline downstairs to get the dog out of
26:33
her crate to bring her outside. So I'm not drinking any water.
26:37
So I'm just adding a little bit to the suffering.
26:39
So take that or leave that. But that's that's how I feel
26:43
about the situation. And yeah, it's no fun.
26:47
Right, right. There's some some thoughts I
26:52
have to help you out with that. But regardless, what I was
26:55
saying was that the nice thing that we do is that, and we
26:59
didn't do this for a long time, is that we trade off.
27:04
I think did that come up with buttercup or was it 1 before it
27:07
did it was so bad. Yeah, yeah.
27:10
You were ready to kill me. Well, that was not fair.
27:12
Because I sleep hard. You sleep so hard.
27:16
You sleep so light. And so this was probably, I
27:20
mean, before that we'd had a baby, you know, she's now quite
27:23
a bit beyond a baby. Well.
27:25
She ain't a baby, no. More, but like it was always I
27:28
always had to get up with her. That's different.
27:31
How is that? Different if you're, if you're
27:34
prepared with needed supplements, it's different.
27:42
We shouldn't go into. This let's totally want that to
27:44
be another topic because you just want to win all the.
27:47
Listen 12:00 to 8:00. You got to calm down.
27:50
No, it's just trying to oh, as if that's never going on the
27:53
podcast. You just default win.
27:56
Good Lord. I don't know.
28:00
Anyhow, my point isn't that I don't know why you think
28:03
everything. And again, not everything's a
28:06
competition. Sometimes things are.
28:08
We're literally on a. Competition show right now, I
28:11
know, but we have to have some. Conversation to bring substance
28:15
that's true to our listeners we have well we.
28:18
Are we're there, we have definitely been sleep deprived
28:21
of late, Yeah, I mean, but it's only been.
28:23
A couple days so like and last night was semi.
28:25
Decent. I think she went like 6 or 7
28:28
hours in a row, something like that.
28:30
I've only had her for two nights.
28:32
Oh hey, do you know what's? Nice.
28:34
I feel good about this. I mean it.
28:36
Last night I came down here and got her to go to sleep and I
28:39
woke up with her. What do you mean I woke up with
28:42
her? In the morning you woke up
28:46
before her or with the sound to her.
28:49
Her whining. Like I came.
28:52
Down there wasn't a middle of the night one.
28:55
Yes, OK. OK, I was gonna.
28:56
I was saying that was nice. Especially for you who wakes up?
29:00
Well, I woke you up. You didn't.
29:01
Wake up too much. No, I'm saying you didn't have
29:03
to. Wake up in the middle of the
29:04
night. That's true.
29:06
Talk about it's not a competition.
29:07
Listen to you go the turn. Yeah, why don't you?
29:10
Explain it some. More to me, what wouldn't even
29:13
matter, it would. Have been your turn anyhow.
29:15
OK, so never. It's not a competition.
29:19
For sure. No, it's supposed to.
29:22
Be like equal. That's not competitive.
29:28
OK. I don't know like a.
29:30
Shared responsibility. I agree.
29:33
I've agreed. With it, the entire time I was
29:35
merely pointing out the natural wind that occurred last night
29:39
because of the dog. OK, great, OK, great.
29:44
I mean so. What else are we going to talk
29:47
about, Luke? Oh well.
29:50
Amber, I have a question for you.
29:53
Thank you. Well, I don't usually ask the
29:56
question. Sometimes you got to remind me,
29:58
cueing me up a little bit. Now you're supposed to say.
30:02
Something like and then this OK. You're There we go.
30:05
I actually did forget and. In this corner we have Luke
30:09
weighing in at probably only £183 because he couldn't eat
30:13
anything for three weeks, but also sporting a very fresh new.
30:23
I don't know what this is, some kind of a hoodie that is like
30:26
supposed to be tactical, made in made in the US or something
30:30
tactical. I don't know I'll.
30:31
Explain. These things, all of that.
30:34
So that's where we are. He's coming in a little hot
30:38
today. We we have changed it up a
30:42
little bit, letting Luke ask the question.
30:44
We've let him ask it before. You're gonna have to let me
30:46
formulate. Some of them too.
30:48
Oh my gosh, you totally have. Formulated him.
30:50
He's really upset and thinks that it's been I'm getting my
30:53
butt. Whooped thinks it's been.
30:55
Unfair based on the questions which we previously discussed
30:59
every time he's upset because currently we both have together
31:05
4 ties, 7 ties. Luke has won eight arguments.
31:13
I mean, that's. True, and I have won. 12 so
31:18
we're gonna see an experiment here to if Luke changes it,
31:24
don't vote for Luke because he's mad that he's not winning but
31:27
we're just yeah don't vote for me because I.
31:29
Just had surgery and I can't talk.
31:31
And none of that either. This is literally not the vote.
31:35
And yeah, so there you go. That's what we've got over there
31:39
and in this corner. Claiming to weigh in at 135 lbs
31:43
with hair that looks redder every day.
31:47
We have Amber with a shirt. Oddly enough.
31:51
I don't know if we were planning on talking about dogs, but her
31:53
shirt says all I need is this dog and that dog and the other
31:57
dog and those dogs over there and the dog in the other room
32:02
anyway because Amber, she really wants all the dogs.
32:05
I love dogs. So here's the question, OK.
32:11
Semi related to sleep. Deprivation What is an
32:18
appropriate amount of time to. Snooze your alarm clock.
32:23
For when you share a bedroom with your significant other.
32:28
OK. You want me to tell you the
32:32
time? Is that the question?
32:36
Well, I don't know. This is why I don't ask the
32:42
questions, people, because I'm just here for the talking.
32:47
It's probably also why you're winning more, because I'm here
32:52
for the what? 30 minutes versus.
32:55
An hour I don't, is that OK? So that's the.
32:58
Question. Well then I mean, I feel.
32:59
Like you're just going to win. Maybe it's yes or no.
33:07
OK, yes or no. What is the?
33:08
Question then what do you think my.
33:11
Average snooze amount of time? Oh my God, an hour.
33:16
But lately it's not been there in school, it's not been OK.
33:21
It's. Been more like, well, closer to
33:25
30 minutes. If you average it out, it's
33:27
probably 45, I don't know. OK, but the point is.
33:30
I know you need there. To be a question.
33:32
This is why I'm in trouble, because I don't know what people
33:35
are. Going to vote on right now
33:36
because I don't have an answer. What's the best dog breed?
33:39
We've ever had. I thought about asking you that.
33:43
Just to see where it would go. Because I would argue, well,
33:48
we'll, we'll actually, we'll actually have it.
33:50
We'll have a whole episode. No, we could.
33:52
We could do. That question, I don't care.
33:54
No, this is a really. Fun one for.
33:56
People, because we could do whatever question you want to
33:59
do, but it needs to be one or the other.
34:09
And you would think. With this that we were.
34:10
Live we're not we're pre recorded we're not Live we.
34:14
It's like live every time though, because we don't come in
34:17
here with a script. I mean, we just talk about
34:19
stuff. I didn't know we were talking
34:21
about dogs today. I mean, we always give.
34:23
A little update about what's going on in our.
34:25
I know, but I didn't know the. Whole thing, we talked about
34:27
dogs. We're like the whole thing.
34:29
I have no problem with that. Let's talk about.
34:30
The breed I. Don't know you.
34:31
Asked me a question. You choose the question.
34:33
Hold on, I got to get back. To this alarm clock because
34:35
that's the question we had talked about was how long do you
34:38
snooze for? I don't think that's the
34:40
question anymore and. Was it appropriate?
34:44
Maybe we should talk about dog. Breed.
34:47
I don't know man. Oh, this?
34:50
Could not be scripted. No, we're going to.
34:52
No, we're going with the. Alarm clock because we need to
34:54
have a whole separate episode about the dog thing OK we do we
34:57
do it's fine OK plus we. Just got a new dog breed.
35:01
So that we got to grow and see what we think of her.
35:04
OK. Anyway, OK, So the question is,
35:07
the question is what is an appropriate amount of time to
35:12
snooze your alarm clock for when you sleep in a room with a
35:14
significant other? That's very well put.
35:18
That's it. Not what is.
35:21
Inappropriate. What is inappropriate?
35:23
Sure. OK.
35:25
I'm going to. Lose.
35:28
You go, OK. So thank you for asking me that
35:33
and thank the listener for. Listening, yes, thank you
35:36
listener for. We're just all over.
35:39
The place ride. It's a ride.
35:40
Today and it you know the so we learned the last sleep
35:43
deprivation. Will do.
35:44
This is what we learned the last.
35:46
Time with Luke it's a ride with the questions, so you know, I
35:49
mean, but it's sort of kind of fun.
35:50
Maybe I could do the? Next one too, I don't care.
35:53
Sure. I'm totally fine with you
35:54
asking, but I got to put the way it's put.
35:56
Up on the On the what the? Words on the Internet.
36:00
Too. I'm in the poll because you
36:01
think that's the. Poll.
36:02
I think that's tricky too. Oh my God, people will be.
36:04
Just reading that. Thinking, Oh well, based on the
36:08
way that's written, Mm hmm. Anyway, I mean what I love.
36:12
Is that it's just not possible that you're wrong.
36:15
I did get into. A whole discussion about pizza
36:17
toppings today. Oh, you did?
36:19
Oh yeah, And how I was just abhorrently wrong.
36:24
How is it possible that? I would rather have olives than
36:27
pineapples. I was like, what are you talking
36:29
about this person? This listener clearly.
36:32
Hello listener. No, they're just wrong.
36:34
OK. So what is a reasonable amount
36:40
of alarm? Sleep time?
36:41
Is that what your question was? Snooze time, snooze time.
36:47
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What is a reasonable amount of
36:49
time? To snooze your alarm when you
36:51
share a room with a significant other.
36:54
Right. OK, right.
36:54
OK, here we go. So.
36:57
For me, I think we'll go with snooze time because part of the
37:05
thing I think of is is like a standard old alarm clock that
37:09
you hit to shut it up. I've had one of those you've
37:12
had. It had bells.
37:13
Uh huh. You've had several of them.
37:16
Again, We've been together for 800 years.
37:17
We've Do you remember all my alarm clocks?
37:19
Yeah, I remember you used to. Have three that would.
37:22
Go off. Yeah.
37:22
Please elaborate all. The different alarms different
37:25
alarms in. One morning that would go off
37:28
and then at some point you also added a phone into there, so and
37:34
was this when I had to put them in?
37:35
Different parts of the room. Oh God, it was.
37:38
So bad because like, here's the thing, if I use an alarm, like I
37:43
mean, most people don't get to don't have the luxury of waking
37:47
up whenever they'd like, right? Sure.
37:49
I mean, that's the dream one day, right?
37:51
I mean, just let me wake up. I actually don't want to just
37:54
wake up. Late all the time you do though
37:56
I. Do I would totally like to wake
37:58
up late, maybe like my mom, she's a night.
38:02
Owl Yeah, I like to stay up late I.
38:04
Like to wake up a little bit later.
38:06
I like to let my body let itself wake up.
38:09
There's nothing. And like, I like to just lay in
38:12
the silence for a little bit, you know, it's just, it's really
38:16
nice and it's peaceful, right? Like that's what I like a
38:19
morning to be. I like a morning to be peaceful.
38:23
We're not talking about days off.
38:24
Don't. Get sidetracked, come out.
38:25
So no, this is. All a part of why I feel the way
38:29
I feel about alarms and and yes, you had an A ridiculous amount
38:35
of alarms going off and we've had roommates and stuff like
38:38
that and they've all been like, what on earth is going on?
38:41
Literally it sounds like there's fire alarms going off and smoke
38:46
detectors CO2. I mean, like, it just sounds
38:48
like a, it just sounds like a, it's ridiculous anyhow.
38:54
But for me, I think like thinking about when you want to
38:59
wake up, what your ideal time is.
39:01
And like, maybe this is what I do.
39:05
OK, OK, ideal time would be whatever.
39:08
Let's say my ideal time to wake up is 6:00.
39:11
OK, I. Think.
39:14
Setting my alarm for 5:45 if I'm trying to 6:00 is ideal, but I
39:22
know I'm going to not really wake up until 6/10. 6:15, right?
39:30
OK so that gives me a 30 minute window.
39:34
Do you really set it just 15? Minutes before my ideal wake up
39:37
time. Yeah, wow.
39:38
And then I sleep. So I guess technically I know
39:40
that it's 30 minutes, but I'm like, I don't mind being rushed
39:45
in the morning at all. That doesn't bother me.
39:47
I would rather have those last like because I'm not fully the
39:51
first alarm once I snooze it. Cuz mine is set in 15 minute
39:55
increments. If you had a discussion with me
39:57
prior about how long the increments could be.
40:00
And all that you had to see you were trying to trap me.
40:02
You I was not trying to trap. You up put me in a trick bag.
40:05
Oh my gosh, not at. All anyhow, so like I have the
40:09
15 minutes and then if I fall right back asleep, I can
40:12
actually fall back asleep in that time.
40:14
It's not a competition. And then after.
40:16
That I am taking that time from sleeping, you know, once that I
40:22
hit the snooze, then it's 6:00. Now if I had to get up and I'd
40:26
hop out of bed, but I got a little bit of time.
40:29
So then I can just kind of peacefully lay there for another
40:34
15 minutes and frequently be out of bed after I felt like I could
40:41
get myself out of bed nicely. Look at you like a flower like.
40:45
A flower just. A butterfly floating out of bed.
40:48
You are a butterfly, so. Usually that.
40:51
Happens before that last minute or two because I hate hearing
40:56
alarms, everything. About.
40:59
Alarms drives me bonkers and there's nothing restful for me
41:05
in an alarm. And I think and I I should just
41:11
not worry about it because there's no way you're hearing my
41:13
alarms go off. There's just no way you are.
41:17
But I also don't want to be disrupting someone else's sleep
41:21
with alarms. Also, it just sounds awful to
41:23
hear the alarms going and going and going, which is I think
41:27
that's awful because I've had to live with that with the person
41:30
who has had four alarm clocks spread all over the bedroom and
41:34
then he'd hit snooze and then it.
41:36
So it'd be like just this cacophony of just awfulness.
41:42
Well, all I'm trying to do is sleep restfully.
41:46
I have a hard time falling and staying asleep.
41:50
Well falling not so much anymore but staying asleep.
41:52
I have a really hard time with any little noise or movement or
41:56
things like that. A lot of times will wake me up
41:59
so I'm usually just regularly tired.
42:03
But then you have this super loud annoying alarm that I know
42:08
there is no reason for it to be set so early because you have 0
42:13
intention of getting up that early.
42:16
Like you set it at like, you know, an hour before you plan on
42:20
waking up. I think 30 minutes with if you
42:25
don't let it ring that second time.
42:27
If you do fine. Sometimes it happens, it
42:30
happens. If I'm lucky, it'll ring twice
42:32
be, you know, like the snooze and then one more, right?
42:36
So I guess that's technically three times going off, isn't it
42:39
the first alarm? It's the amount of time.
42:41
That's oh, sorry, 30 minutes there.
42:43
You go. That's what we're talking.
42:44
About, but I don't think that that's the.
42:46
Same to, to me, I hear what you're saying, but we'll say 30
42:49
minutes. But to me it's the amount of
42:51
times as well within that time frame because like if I had a
42:54
alarm going off at six, an alarm going off at 6:15, right?
43:04
OMG if you want me to argue. My point I will, but if you want
43:06
to argue it for me, you can just keep talking.
43:08
No, I'm not. I'm just saying it's.
43:10
The amount of alarm time, like the time amount of times it goes
43:13
off that I think is most disruptive to other people
43:16
because typically I can fall asleep after one alarm or
43:19
something like that. So I'll say 30 minutes and for
43:23
me on my clock, that's nobody asked.
43:27
You that question, I just want to be clear, just want to be
43:31
point of contention and point of order.
43:34
I the question asked, ladies and gentlemen to the artful and very
43:41
skillful arguer to my left was an amount of time.
43:49
It was not how many times did it go off, it was not how many
43:54
alarms you owned. It was how long.
43:57
I just want to be clear. That's important, Sure, for me.
44:01
Both those things matter, but if we're just looking at time and
44:05
30 minutes is reasonable. If I'm not planning on waking up
44:09
an hour beforehand or if I'm not planning like that just is
44:14
wasteful to other people's earspace.
44:16
OK, well let's let me. Talk about how I can waste your
44:18
earspace. I know if I said that my.
44:21
Battle was over. This is really fun cuz I never
44:24
get to be the first. Person I argument.
44:28
And so a lot of times I sit there and I, when I, when you're
44:32
arguing and I, I try to OK, I gotta remember this point to go
44:35
after. I gotta remember that point to
44:36
go after. And I every time you're clearly
44:39
doing OK. Every time I.
44:41
Forget a good portion of them, but this one's kind of fun
44:45
because you just had to kind of, well, good luck.
44:48
I mean, you didn't fully, but you just had to sit there and
44:50
listen. Well, I argued and then you're
44:54
now going to argue back, which is kind.
44:58
Of fun but. Before all of this, they're
45:01
they're voting on your answer. It's there is no sympathy vote
45:06
that you asked for earlier, so you can just vote however.
45:10
You want he's. Begging for sympathy votes.
45:15
Just saying I'll take what I can.
45:16
Get I understand losing 12. To 8 even if some.
45:20
Of you. If everyone sympathy voted me,
45:21
you'd still be kicking my butt. That's the truth anyway.
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Are you done? Nice SO.
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Luke, what do you think is a reasonable no?
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What is What is the question to you?
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I am now. The floor is yours.
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I have not rested. I got a lot.
45:39
I got a lot of. Answers Your case is super
45:41
rested because you were long in the wind there.
45:45
OK, so my answer is man, I don't know if there's a simple answer.
45:50
First of all, let me address a couple of things that of late
45:58
and I mean some months, my actual snooze time 30 minutes.
46:06
It has been because I know that you don't like it.
46:08
Now that being said, I can't and and I'm like I have tried to
46:14
overcome this and people if y'all got some ideas, send me a
46:18
message. I'm just there's I cannot wake
46:23
up in the morning if it's early. I mean if it's later, I can wake
46:28
up sort of easy. Like if it's like 8 or
46:30
something, I got no problem waking up, but getting up at
46:33
like 5:00 in the morning, 5:30 in the morning, like our kid
46:37
gets up at 545 S. Getting up super early to be up
46:41
when our child is awake is not easy to do, especially because
46:46
we don't really go to bed like super early.
46:47
Like we're not going to bed. Like I know people that go to
46:50
bed at like 9:00. That is amazing.
46:53
I don't even like I haven't even wow 9:00 that's just an
46:58
inappropriate time. So we go to bed usually like
47:00
10/10/30 something like that most nights.
47:04
So the difficulty for me is like, it's a short amount of
47:10
sleep no matter what. Like, you know, 'cause if I go
47:12
to bed at 10, I don't fall asleep super easily.
47:15
You actually fall asleep before me every night.
47:18
So I'm typically up till I, I don't know, 11-11 to midnight
47:27
depends on, you know, the day. And I read and Amber sleeps with
47:30
the TV on, which just for the record, I actually hate because
47:35
that has nothing to do with. Alarms.
47:37
Well, it has. Something to do with part of the
47:39
argument you were putting up stuff that wasn't part of the Oh
47:42
yeah, I could talk. I get to talk because my sleep
47:46
and dogs sleep and all this other deprivation and whatnot.
47:49
And it's the light sleeping and waking up to guess what?
47:53
Guess what? I can't fall asleep to the TV.
47:56
Good news, I fall asleep. Before you.
48:00
That's not good news for me because the TV is on and
48:03
sometimes I tried to turn it off or even turn it down and you're
48:06
like half sleep and you'll crack an eye open and be like, I'm
48:09
watching that. I was like, wait, what?
48:11
No, you're not. Anyway, so it's hard to fall
48:15
asleep. So I typically fall asleep
48:16
between 11 and midnight. And if I'm gonna get up on time,
48:19
it's, it's around, well, 5:30 for sure, cuz our kid gets up at
48:23
5:45. And prior to that I gotta like
48:26
make a cup of coffee so I can survive the morning.
48:31
But I'd like to get up a little earlier cuz I have a morning
48:33
routine where when I get up, I have a little quiet time.
48:35
I read a couple of books, have some meditation and kind of get,
48:40
it's like my chill time. Kind of like you talked about in
48:42
the bed. I do that out of the bed.
48:44
So I do try to get up a little earlier and I enjoy being up
48:49
like as the first one in the house.
48:51
I actually started waking up on weekends now on purpose, like
48:53
earlier, like I've actually set an alarm.
48:55
I don't know if you've noticed, but I've set an alarm a number
48:58
of Sundays at like 9:00 or 8:30 I've noticed.
49:01
Because I like getting up early. So anyway, so the amount of time
49:07
that I set an alarm for is based on the sort of the lack of sleep
49:12
that I have and how difficult it for me to get up.
49:14
Now, if I went to bed at like, I don't know, 9 or 8 or something,
49:21
I probably would get up super easily, but I don't because
49:24
there's too much going on. And then the other reason that I
49:28
don't get up easily is medical. It don't.
49:32
Hey, this is just the truth. I have sleep apnea.
49:36
It's the truth. I just had surgery for it.
49:38
So it's bad And it makes it so that when I sleep, I do not get
49:45
the same sleep as people who do not have severe obstructive
49:50
sleep apnea. That is a fact, fact of my life.
49:55
My score is so high that I have had a number of surgeries
49:58
recommended to me over the course of my life.
50:02
I almost never enter REM sleep and I've had like four or five
50:06
sleep studies. So you probably enter REM sleep.
50:09
Most people enter it after about 1520 minutes after falling
50:12
asleep. I literally never enter it.
50:14
And that's the restorative phase of sleep when your brain does
50:17
all the crazy dreams and stuff. And I have so the sleep apnea is
50:23
a lack of oxygen. So I I don't get as much air
50:26
anyway. So I'm tireder and that is a a
50:29
by product of having sleep apnea is you're tired all the time,
50:34
but you know, it obviously makes it harder to wake up.
50:37
So, so one of the reasons I have had so many alarms, as you
50:40
pointed out in your argument, that were three and four
50:43
different alarms. And they're ones that had bells
50:46
on them. And I remember at some point
50:48
putting them in different parts of the room so that I have to
50:50
like get out of bed to go turn off the alarm.
50:54
And all of that was was in service to two things.
50:59
It was my lack of sleep and that when I'm asleep, I don't really
51:03
sleep very well. So, so it's hard to get up.
51:08
So I typically as a preference, if it's early, set the alarm for
51:12
about an hour before I'm supposed to get up.
51:15
Except lately it's been because because I know that it's, I'm
51:21
not going to get up and you don't like it.
51:23
So it's been more like 1/2 an hour, which is difficult because
51:26
then I don't get up early. Sometimes I'm lucky and I get up
51:29
like if I set my alarm for 5:00, I'll get up at 5:00.
51:31
So every once in awhile, which is great.
51:33
It's rare. The dog's been waking me up.
51:37
So that's been, that's been easy.
51:39
I don't need an alarm clock right now.
51:40
She wakes up at 5:00 AM. But I do typically set it for an
51:46
hour before I'm supposed to get up.
51:47
So if I want to get up at 5:30 or 6 or whatever, I'm going an
51:51
hour before that 'cause I need to.
51:54
I don't know why. I just, I like it.
51:57
Snooze a whole whole bunch of times and it's for about an
51:59
hour. I don't love that I don't know
52:05
of any thoughtful counters to it.
52:07
Maybe there are, I don't know. I've tried so many alarms and
52:10
different ideas that I feel. Isn't there like, some kind of
52:17
alarm that zaps people awake? No, there must be, because there
52:21
are people who can't hear. A sound alarm wouldn't do any
52:24
good for them. How do they wake up?
52:26
Sure there. Are, I don't know, man, you got
52:28
me anyway. So I, I think, I think that I
52:34
would say that weirdly enough, I think the answer to the question
52:37
is the appropriate amount of time is whatever it takes.
52:42
So any I mean, and obviously not shorter than yours, because that
52:48
would be what's the point of the argument?
52:49
It's obviously anything longer than.
52:51
So whether it's an hour, 45 minutes, an hour and a half, two
52:54
hours. There's been times where I've
52:55
said it for like an hour and a half before before I wanted to
52:58
get up. I used to set my alarm for like,
53:01
was it like 4? And I would end up getting up by
53:03
like 530 or something like that. There was a phase of that.
53:08
You didn't like that very much? No, because like.
53:11
I literally wake you up and you would be up, choose to turn the
53:18
alarm off and then go back to sleep.
53:21
I. Know go back to sleep.
53:21
I understand, I just explained why it's not I under no, but
53:25
that's. Anyway.
53:26
Not your turn. So anyway, so for me, I think
53:31
the answer is whatever it takes because there's different,
53:35
there's different types of people and sleepers and phases.
53:39
And like, you know, I'm sure there will be a phase in my life
53:42
where I can wake up with the alarm and it'll just be easy.
53:45
I'm not there yet. It has gotten better.
53:48
I know it doesn't feel that way, but over the long span of life,
53:53
I mean like when I was 20, I had four alarms and they'd be going
53:57
off all over the room for a real long time.
53:59
And I've now I'm down to one alarm and it goes off for more.
54:04
Lately it's about 1/2 an hour, but but 45 minutes to an hour
54:08
typically before I need to get up.
54:11
So I imagine that maybe in five years it'll be less.
54:14
Now, I did just get the surgery, so maybe it'll be corrective in
54:19
such a way that I will need less time to alarm, hopefully for
54:24
both of us. I don't.
54:25
I don't like the idea of having terrible sleep for the rest of
54:28
my life. So me neither.
54:30
Great. Well, you've made it this far.
54:35
You have some of you. That's true.
54:39
I wonder. Now that I'm thinking about it,
54:40
do they ever do in home sleep studies?
54:43
Cuz I yeah, the next one. The next one.
54:45
Is really I wonder if I. Could get an in home sleep study
54:49
cuz I feel like my in home sleep is very different than like the
54:53
two times I've slept. Not three times.
54:57
You never had a sleep study? No, I know, but I'm thinking.
54:59
If I got a sleep study, I'd be sleeping in a hospital.
55:02
It'd be quiet. I'd probably sleep straight
55:04
through. Just so nice.
55:06
There'd be no, no, that's not what a sleep.
55:08
Study they literally move you. They wake you up, they move you
55:12
because for science, Amber, that's why I hate them so much.
55:16
They're terrible anyway. So, so anyway, so my answer is
55:22
whatever it takes. But you know, if you'd like it
55:24
to be a versus, you could say 1/2 hour versus an hour, That's
55:28
what you'd like it to say so that you could win.
55:30
No, you're saying whatever. We could discuss it after the
55:32
pod. You're saying whatever it takes.
55:34
I'm saying 30 minutes is reasonable, whatever it takes.
55:37
Could be two hours. That's unreasonable that you're
55:39
sharing. Space with.
55:40
Another human, but here I'm I'm of a.
55:42
Belief that if you get to the point where you're sleeping
55:46
together in the same bed, you know what you've gotten into.
55:51
Oh gosh. And and you know what?
55:54
You can make decisions based on that.
55:55
Listen, if when I was 20 you could have left me.
55:59
You didn't. That'd be a awful thing.
56:02
Well, there's people out. There, I guarantee you there's
56:05
people out there who have left, people like me or not, who just
56:10
can't wake up for whatever reasons they have, whether it's
56:13
just because they don't sleep enough or whatever.
56:15
They got a condition, it doesn't matter.
56:18
And I guarantee you there's people who have left their
56:20
significant other because they can't get good sleep because
56:23
their significant other sleeps like bad sleeps poorly.
56:30
And I'm sure that's the case. And those are choices people
56:33
make. I mean, people make all kind of
56:34
choices in relationships and sacrifices to the other one.
56:37
You think I haven't made any? You're you're incorrect and I
56:41
know you've made some too. And that's how our relationship
56:44
grows and gets better. So I, you know, I don't want to
56:47
make you sleep worse for sure, right?
56:50
Oh, I know. I think I've proved that pretty
56:53
staunchly. Oh my God, lately.
56:56
And you? Need to know it.
56:58
You need to know it. That's important you that's a
57:00
commitment. You don't think I?
57:02
Do I'm just This is because I'm. Just throwing it out there.
57:05
No, because it's fresh. Four times in the pocket
57:07
because. It's fresh because it's.
57:08
Fresh. I'm still on the healing path.
57:10
I had the doctor follow up yesterday, he said.
57:13
Everything's looking good. He pulled a stitch out of my
57:15
throat. Yeah.
57:16
So. I mean, it hurt.
57:17
I'm on the healing pad. I still can barely eat a
57:19
cheeseburger. But you know what?
57:21
I ate 1 and it was so good. I love cheeseburgers.
57:24
Can we have an episode about cheeseburgers soon?
57:26
I love cheeseburgers. I don't know.
57:27
We could, maybe? Do like we should oh toppings
57:31
on. Cheeseburgers.
57:32
No, we should. Reach out to cheeses on
57:35
cheeseburgers. There's.
57:36
Like a couple? Of food food bloggers 1 is on
57:41
WFNU he's not really a Blogger but the unusual foodie we could
57:46
see like hey where would you recommend for a burger and like
57:50
cuz I I had my burger for like probably the month or two I
57:55
don't know I don't really eat that many burgers I'm gonna.
57:57
We're definitely gonna go I. Mean there's other things
58:01
there's. Other things I need to be able
58:02
to eat too. Yeah, like just my my mouth
58:05
doesn't open as far as it used to, but I ate a burger, so I'm
58:08
ready for a Taco. All right, well, let's try that
58:10
a little bit longer. Tomorrow we can't.
58:13
That's right. Tomorrow.
58:14
We are not. Going.
58:16
It's gonna be cold. Yeah.
58:19
Yeah, I spout anyway, so. I don't.
58:24
Know, I mean I guess. That could be the debate.
58:27
No, wait, no there. Should have been an absolute
58:29
debate. There's was that it We're not
58:31
done. What are you doing?
58:32
We're done The question. Yeah, OK.
58:36
I thought you were saying you had more to.
58:37
Say I was like, Dang, man, I thought you, I couldn't listen
58:40
to me. It's over.
58:41
It's over, it's over. That's probably for the best.
58:45
And you should comment. If you like how Luke asks his
58:47
questions, you know, hey, we can have him do a few more and
58:50
recommendations. I'm.
58:51
Taking recommendations on how to get up better.
58:54
Yeah, yeah. Let us know, so don't send me
58:57
recommendations on how to. Sleep better, I'm gonna get mad.
59:00
What you need to do now? Like follow rate comment.
59:07
Comment Most importantly, tell your friends.
59:10
Tell your friends. Tell your friends.
59:12
These two. Idiots ramble on about nothing.
59:15
Yeah. For like at 45 minutes to an
59:18
hour. Yeah.
59:18
Every week, Yeah. And we're mostly, I think we're
59:21
kind of funny. I think we're, I think we're a
59:23
little funny. I think we can be.
59:25
But not always, that's true. But sometimes people might.
59:28
Like learn how to have a good solid argument at the house.
59:32
I'm gonna plug them again. I.
59:33
Feel like we probably have a couple times and by the time
59:37
this one hits that station I don't know but WFNU 94.1.
59:42
Frogtown Radio. We are.
59:45
On Fridays at midnight. Still bonkers to me.
59:49
But they're super cool. Super cool organization.
59:52
Seriously. Like our rad factor went up so
59:55
high getting a part of that. Wonder if we ever get to be.
59:58
Live. You think we could do this live?
1:00:00
We probably could because we just, we've done it live.
1:00:03
Before, that's true, we did a live show and I don't know,
1:00:06
maybe one day we'll do one there because they did say we could.
1:00:09
That's true. There you go.
1:00:11
That's it. I hope you all have a wonderful
1:00:13
whatever day it is you're listening to this.
1:00:16
We're out. See you next time.