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Teach Them Diligently - Before You Change Your Homeschool, Do This First · CrossCurrent Podcasts

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  Leslie Nunnery: Have you ever looked at something that isn't
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  Leslie Nunnery: working in your homeschool and immediately thought, I
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  Leslie Nunnery: need to fix this. I need a new
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  Leslie Nunnery: schedule, a different curriculum. Maybe we need to
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  Leslie Nunnery: drop the co op or add one. I
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  Leslie Nunnery: just need to do something. But what if
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  Leslie Nunnery: the problem isn't actually what you're doing? What
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  Leslie Nunnery: if you've skipped the three things that should
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  Leslie Nunnery: come before the doing? Today, David and I
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  Leslie Nunnery: are going to give you a simple framework,
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  Leslie Nunnery: believe, think, feel, do, that can completely change
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  Leslie Nunnery: the way you make decisions in your homeschool.
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  Leslie Nunnery: And if things aren't looking quite as shiny
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  Leslie Nunnery: as they did at the beginning of the
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  Leslie Nunnery: year, this may be exactly the reset you
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  Leslie Nunnery: need. Welcome to the Teach Them Diligently podcast.
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  Leslie Nunnery: I'm Leslie Nunnery, cofounder of Teach Them Diligently,
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  Leslie Nunnery: and I am so glad that you've chosen
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  Leslie Nunnery: to join me here today. Around here, we
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  Leslie Nunnery: talk a lot about heart school, a biblical
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  Leslie Nunnery: approach to homeschooling and family life that starts
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  Leslie Nunnery: with who God is, who he has called
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  Leslie Nunnery: you to be, and how he wants to
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  Leslie Nunnery: use the ordinary days with your children for
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  Leslie Nunnery: something much bigger than just academics. Most people
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  Leslie Nunnery: talk about homeschooling simply in terms of reaching
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  Leslie Nunnery: your child's mind. We believe the heart is
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  Leslie Nunnery: the real target. So each week, we're going
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  Leslie Nunnery: to talk about what it looks like to
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  Leslie Nunnery: reach their hearts, disciple them well, prepare them
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  Leslie Nunnery: for what God has in store for them,
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  Leslie Nunnery: and faithfully use the days God has given
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  Leslie Nunnery: us with them. Hit the subscribe button so
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  Leslie Nunnery: you don't miss an episode, and then join
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  Leslie Nunnery: us as we jump into today's conversation. We
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  Leslie Nunnery: have gotten to that time of the school
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  Leslie Nunnery: year where I think for a lot of
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  Leslie Nunnery: us, we find that our shiny, hopeful, wonderful
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  Leslie Nunnery: plans don't look quite so shiny and hopeful
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  Leslie Nunnery: anymore. We're starting to see where some things
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  Leslie Nunnery: don't work quite the way that we envision
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  Leslie Nunnery: they would. I remember so many times I
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  Leslie Nunnery: would get to this first of October type
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  Leslie Nunnery: time frame and be a little bit frustrated
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  Leslie Nunnery: because my grand plans, my big ideas for
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  Leslie Nunnery: the year just don't quite look as shiny
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  Leslie Nunnery: as, you know, in July when I was
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  Leslie Nunnery: coming up with all of them. So if
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  Leslie Nunnery: that is where you are today, stick around
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  Leslie Nunnery: because we are going to talk about how
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  Leslie Nunnery: to get back on track, and it may
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  Leslie Nunnery: come back to doing something that you skipped
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  Leslie Nunnery: over at the very beginning that can make
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  Leslie Nunnery: all the difference in the world.
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  David Nunnery: So we've gotten to this point. I mean,
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  David Nunnery: it is it is... I mean, fall has
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  David Nunnery: arrived. And, you know, for all those that
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  David Nunnery: live up north, maybe what you don't understand
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  David Nunnery: is is that southerners have a very complicated
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  David Nunnery: relationship with the summer. And so we love
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  David Nunnery: the summer. We actually really love the summer.
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  David Nunnery: But when we get into, like, late August
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  David Nunnery: and early September when it's still ninety degrees
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  David Nunnery: outside, we're really, really looking forward to fall.
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  David Nunnery: We're really just hating life. And so I
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  David Nunnery: would say that today is like a celebration.
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  David Nunnery: It's like, we we have marked something off.
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  David Nunnery: I pulled out the hoodie for all those
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  David Nunnery: that have, are are are watching on YouTube,
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  David Nunnery: and we are now getting to... You're wearing
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  David Nunnery: a sweater yesterday. Yes. I know. So this
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  David Nunnery: is a moment that... If you're living in
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  David Nunnery: the south, this is a moment.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah. But I think it's teasing us. Yeah.
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  Leslie Nunnery: That's it. It's this, this deceptive fall that
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  Leslie Nunnery: we're getting now. We'll go back to to
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  Leslie Nunnery: hot and and bothered soon, I'm afraid.
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  David Nunnery: So... And as you were talking about, that
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  David Nunnery: also probably marks a point that a lot
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  David Nunnery: of families start to get into where they
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  David Nunnery: have started the year with all of this
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  David Nunnery: hope, and they still have a lot of
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  David Nunnery: hope. They're still probably enjoying, but some of
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  David Nunnery: the things are starting to come out that
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  David Nunnery: aren't working as nearly as well. And so
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  David Nunnery: there are some out there that are, like,
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  David Nunnery: thinking, man, I need to scrap everything and
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  David Nunnery: start over. Let me go buy curriculum. And
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  David Nunnery: there's others that are out there like, man,
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  David Nunnery: I'm having a lot of trouble in this
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  David Nunnery: one particular area. Everything else is going good.
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  David Nunnery: This one particular area, I'm struggling.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah. Yeah. Well, I remember, you know, to
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  Leslie Nunnery: those of you who have listened in quite
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  Leslie Nunnery: a bit or know our family, we are
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  Leslie Nunnery: done. We are on the other side of
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  Leslie Nunnery: homeschooling. Our... All of our kids have graduated
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  Leslie Nunnery: and launched. But I remember a lot of
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  Leslie Nunnery: times where we get to an evening, David
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  Leslie Nunnery: and I are talking after the kids go
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  Leslie Nunnery: to bed, and I am just ready to
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  Leslie Nunnery: scrap it all. I am so frustrated, so
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  Leslie Nunnery: done. And and really, I think disappointed is
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  Leslie Nunnery: the right answer there because I was so
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  Leslie Nunnery: disappointed that things weren't going the way that
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  Leslie Nunnery: I envisioned it. I didn't have that beautiful
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  Leslie Nunnery: day situation that I was sure that I
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  Leslie Nunnery: was gonna have. And so me not always
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  Leslie Nunnery: being the most rational in that state of
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  Leslie Nunnery: mind would be very eager to just upend
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  Leslie Nunnery: everything. And I'm so grateful that as I
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  Leslie Nunnery: would talk to David, he would kind of
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  Leslie Nunnery: remind me of a lot of things that
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  Leslie Nunnery: would ground me, help me think of things
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  Leslie Nunnery: in a much more rational level, biblical way.
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  Leslie Nunnery: And it kept us a lot of times
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  Leslie Nunnery: from making really rash decisions that probably would
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  Leslie Nunnery: have unnecessarily upset everything that we were going
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  Leslie Nunnery: for and really, really mess with the kids'
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  Leslie Nunnery: minds as we were changing everything unnecessarily. So
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  Leslie Nunnery: today, that's what we really wanna talk about
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  Leslie Nunnery: is when you get to that point where
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  Leslie Nunnery: you just feel like everything is not looking
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  Leslie Nunnery: the way that you wanted to, what do
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  Leslie Nunnery: you do to salvage and and to realign
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  Leslie Nunnery: with what God has called you to do
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  Leslie Nunnery: if you started to drift a little bit
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  Leslie Nunnery: off of that?
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  David Nunnery: Well... And so one of the more difficult
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  David Nunnery: elements of this particular stage... I mean, if
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  David Nunnery: you start... You started the year and you're
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  David Nunnery: thinking, man, this is gonna be awesome. This
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  David Nunnery: is gonna be wonderful. And then things aren't
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  David Nunnery: going exactly the way that you planned or
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  David Nunnery: there's just a little something in the plan.
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  David Nunnery: Everything else is going well. There's a little
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  David Nunnery: something in this plan that is not working
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  David Nunnery: exactly the way you want. One of the
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  David Nunnery: most difficult things about that is is that
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  David Nunnery: you don't know how to fix it.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Right.
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  David Nunnery: You know? And so you are trying. You
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  David Nunnery: don't know what to try. You're you're searching.
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  David Nunnery: You're looking. You're thinking about, man, am I
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  David Nunnery: the problem? Is my child the problem? I
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  David Nunnery: mean, all kinds of stuff is going through
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  David Nunnery: your head that is really negative. And what
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  David Nunnery: we're gonna go through is a progression, really,
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  David Nunnery: is kinda what it... I I would call
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  David Nunnery: it is is that it's a progression to
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  David Nunnery: help you so that you know what to
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  David Nunnery: do.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah. Yeah. Because so often when you get
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  Leslie Nunnery: into a state where things aren't working quite
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  Leslie Nunnery: right, it's hard to see the forest for
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  Leslie Nunnery: the trees, so to speak. You get so
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  Leslie Nunnery: in the weeds of just the head space
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  Leslie Nunnery: of frustration, at least for me. And I
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  Leslie Nunnery: suspect that that stands for a lot of
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  Leslie Nunnery: homeschool moms out there. You get so frustrated
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  Leslie Nunnery: that it's hard to see your way out.
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  Leslie Nunnery: And so we're gonna walk you through a
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  Leslie Nunnery: a progression, like David said, that will help
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  Leslie Nunnery: you with all your decision making. But if
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  Leslie Nunnery: you apply it right now to these areas
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  Leslie Nunnery: of frustration, you're gonna find that it's way
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  Leslie Nunnery: easier to get back to that mission, tethered
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  Leslie Nunnery: to it, and get going just the way
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  Leslie Nunnery: that you want to in your homeschool year.
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  David Nunnery: So I... Where this starts is that... And
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  David Nunnery: I I believe that there are a lot
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  David Nunnery: of homeschool parents out there that struggle with
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  David Nunnery: this, and this is just the way we
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  David Nunnery: do things. And when I say the way
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  David Nunnery: we do things, I mean, this is the
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  David Nunnery: way human beings do things is is that
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  David Nunnery: they make a decision, and then they hop
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  David Nunnery: right over to action.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah.
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  David Nunnery: And so not too long ago, I had
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  David Nunnery: a coach, and it was a it was
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  David Nunnery: a personal coach that I wasn't actually going
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  David Nunnery: to. It was just somebody that I was
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  David Nunnery: talking to. And they showed me this kind
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  David Nunnery: of... This framework. And it was really helpful.
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  David Nunnery: And what they did is is that they
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  David Nunnery: had a sheet of paper. They had a
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  David Nunnery: column, and it was believe, think, feel, and
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  David Nunnery: then do. And what they said is is
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  David Nunnery: that you make the decision that you're gonna
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  David Nunnery: do something, whatever it might be, and you
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  David Nunnery: hop right to do. And so how that
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  David Nunnery: works itself out with homeschoolers is that a
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  David Nunnery: homeschooler, typically, they will make the decision to
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  David Nunnery: homeschool, and then they'll jump right to curriculum,
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  David Nunnery: or they'll jump right to getting a homeschool
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  David Nunnery: planner, or they will get right to where
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  David Nunnery: are we going to put the kids. And
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  David Nunnery: we see this all the time. During the
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  David Nunnery: pandemic, the coop that our our kids were
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  David Nunnery: a part of, it, like, exploded. And it
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  David Nunnery: was all of these parents that had this
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  David Nunnery: idea of, I wanna homeschool. Where am I
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  David Nunnery: gonna put my kids? And that was the
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  David Nunnery: question that they were asking. Was it, you
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  David Nunnery: know, why do I wanna do this? And
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  David Nunnery: they weren't asking those kind of questions. They
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  David Nunnery: were asking the question, where do I put
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  David Nunnery: my kids or what kind of curriculum should
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  David Nunnery: I buy?
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  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah. Yeah. And, honestly, this shows up in
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  Leslie Nunnery: much smaller things as well. It could show
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  Leslie Nunnery: up in my days are chaotic. I need
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  Leslie Nunnery: to fix it. I need a new schedule.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Like, little things like that. And the reason
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  Leslie Nunnery: that I bring that up is for so
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  Leslie Nunnery: many of us, that's where the rub is
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  Leslie Nunnery: right now. My days are chaotic. I need
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  Leslie Nunnery: to mix things up. I need a new
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  Leslie Nunnery: schedule. I need whatever. But instead of... We
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  Leslie Nunnery: just start trying stuff. Instead of actually going
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  Leslie Nunnery: back, what do I believe, what's important to
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  Leslie Nunnery: our family, and working through it to create
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  Leslie Nunnery: the schedule that is perfect for our family,
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  Leslie Nunnery: we just jump into trying something new that
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  Leslie Nunnery: we see an idea on Instagram about. And
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  Leslie Nunnery: so that's really in the... In those weeds
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  Leslie Nunnery: that I was talking about. It's stuff like
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  Leslie Nunnery: that where this framework becomes incredibly helpful.
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  David Nunnery: So what we're suggesting is is that you
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  David Nunnery: go back to belief. So what is your
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  David Nunnery: mission? And so few families do this. Even
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  David Nunnery: families that are coming to teach them diligently
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  David Nunnery: events, families that are members of Teach Them
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  David Nunnery: Diligently three sixty five, members that follow us
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  David Nunnery: on Facebook, people that are listening to this
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  David Nunnery: podcast right now, they resonate with the idea
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  David Nunnery: that homeschooling is about discipleship, but they've never
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  David Nunnery: actually taken the time to say, what is
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  David Nunnery: my mission? What do I believe about what
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  David Nunnery: I'm homeschooling? And actually write it out.
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  Leslie Nunnery: If it
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  David Nunnery: was They haven't taken that time.
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  Leslie Nunnery: You know, I I actually... I kinda disagree
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  Leslie Nunnery: with you on that because I think that
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  Leslie Nunnery: most of our families do think about their
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  Leslie Nunnery: mission. I think that they do a lot
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  Leslie Nunnery: of them even write it out. Where the
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  Leslie Nunnery: disconnect comes, I believe, is in tethering to
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  Leslie Nunnery: it, in allowing that to become a filter.
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  Leslie Nunnery: And that's what we talked about in the
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  Leslie Nunnery: last podcast. I will I will link that
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  Leslie Nunnery: in the show notes because if you missed
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  Leslie Nunnery: that episode, we talked a lot about remembering
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  Leslie Nunnery: your why and how you allow your why
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  Leslie Nunnery: was five questions to allow that mission to
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  Leslie Nunnery: direct your decisions. And that is foundational to
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  Leslie Nunnery: the conversation that we're gonna have today because
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  Leslie Nunnery: that really is that first step, Taking what
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  Leslie Nunnery: you believe and tethering to it practically rather
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  Leslie Nunnery: than just this is my mission and then
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  Leslie Nunnery: moving on your merry way without allowing that
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  Leslie Nunnery: to filter your... The decisions that you make
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  Leslie Nunnery: day in and day out.
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  David Nunnery: Yeah. Sure. I think that that is actually
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  David Nunnery: a big part of the problem as well
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  David Nunnery: because when you lay out what your belief
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  David Nunnery: is and what your mission is, that's one
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  David Nunnery: thing. But actually acting on it is another.
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  David Nunnery: But I do think that there are a
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  David Nunnery: lot of families out there that just haven't
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  David Nunnery: gotten to the point where they've done this
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  David Nunnery: because they are so busy, and they're so
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  David Nunnery: distracted. And there's so much that is coming
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  David Nunnery: at them, and there's so many people that
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  David Nunnery: are telling them what's wrong with the public
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  David Nunnery: schools and what's wrong with classroom education and
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  David Nunnery: all of these reasons why they should be
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  David Nunnery: homeschooling that doesn't get necessarily to their calling.
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  David Nunnery: And so I do think that there is
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  David Nunnery: a whole lot of families out there that
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  David Nunnery: have not actually written this out, that haven't
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  David Nunnery: actually gotten to the point of belief. They
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  David Nunnery: have gone from, I want to homeschool, and
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  David Nunnery: then they've gone, okay. What curriculum am I
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  David Nunnery: gonna buy? They're going to go from, I
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  David Nunnery: want to homeschool to what room in my
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  David Nunnery: school... In my house am I now going
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  David Nunnery: to make my schoolroom? But then there's another
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  David Nunnery: group out there that is probably just as
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  David Nunnery: significant. That is they know what they believe
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  David Nunnery: about homeschooling. They believe in discipleship. They believe
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  David Nunnery: their home is their Jerusalem just as we
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  David Nunnery: teach, but they struggle with this connection to
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  David Nunnery: allowing that mission to feed what they do
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  David Nunnery: on a daily basis. And for both groups,
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  David Nunnery: what happens is is that things start falling
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  David Nunnery: apart because they don't have that anchor. And,
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  David Nunnery: also, they are looking for something else to
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  David Nunnery: give them direction rather than Jesus Christ, which
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  David Nunnery: never works out. Yeah. Which never works out.
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  David Nunnery: And so I do think that you're right.
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  David Nunnery: There is a significant group of people out
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  David Nunnery: there that they know what their mission is,
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  David Nunnery: but their mission is not informing what they
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  David Nunnery: do. And then there's another group as well
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  David Nunnery: out there that have never gotten to the
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  David Nunnery: point where they have laid out, this is
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  David Nunnery: what I believe about homeschooling. And for those
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  David Nunnery: that have... They have done this before where
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  David Nunnery: they have laid out what they believe and
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  David Nunnery: what their mission is, it's still probably important
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  David Nunnery: for them to go back to this.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah. Yeah. For sure. We talk a lot
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  Leslie Nunnery: about hard schooling around here. And in hard
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  Leslie Nunnery: schooling and in the hard school book, in
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  Leslie Nunnery: the hard school courses that are in three
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  Leslie Nunnery: sixty five, I talk about how the first
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  Leslie Nunnery: attribute, the the the first thing that should
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  Leslie Nunnery: be seen in your life if you are
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  Leslie Nunnery: a heart school is that you remember your
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  Leslie Nunnery: calling. That comes back to what you believe.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Do you understand what God has actually called
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  Leslie Nunnery: you to do? You are parent first and
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  Leslie Nunnery: foremost. You are to go for the hearts
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  Leslie Nunnery: of your children. You need to see homeschooling
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  Leslie Nunnery: as a great tool for that, but your
• 14:24
  Leslie Nunnery: mission isn't homeschooling. Your mission is to bring
• 14:27
  Leslie Nunnery: your children to Jesus Christ, to parent them
• 14:29
  Leslie Nunnery: well, to give them a foundation for a
• 14:31
  Leslie Nunnery: faith that is their own. That's that remember
• 14:33
  Leslie Nunnery: your calling, that belief element of making wise
• 14:37
  Leslie Nunnery: decisions and aligning your home with what you
• 14:40
  Leslie Nunnery: believe. The second part of this structure, this
• 14:43
  Leslie Nunnery: this mode of operation, I guess, is that
• 14:47
  Leslie Nunnery: second part of... Or the second attribute that
• 14:50
  Leslie Nunnery: you see in a heart schooling family, and
• 14:53
  Leslie Nunnery: that is realigning your thinking with your calling,
• 14:56
  Leslie Nunnery: with your mission. So the second part is
• 14:59
  Leslie Nunnery: really what you think and making sure that
• 15:02
  Leslie Nunnery: what you think matches what you believe.
• 15:04
  David Nunnery: Yeah. Absolutely. And and, you know, when you
• 15:09
  David Nunnery: look at the the Israelites and coming out
• 15:13
  David Nunnery: of Egypt, And when you look at scripture
• 15:17
  David Nunnery: and how the Lord interacts with his people,
• 15:21
  David Nunnery: what he is... What he references all of
• 15:24
  David Nunnery: these things, where he is going through, what
• 15:27
  David Nunnery: do you believe about me? Who do you
• 15:29
  David Nunnery: think that I am? Right? And what do
• 15:32
  David Nunnery: you believe? What do you believe? What do
• 15:34
  David Nunnery: you believe? What do you believe? And then
• 15:36
  David Nunnery: you have these references to, what do you
• 15:40
  David Nunnery: think? What do you think? And so you
• 15:42
  David Nunnery: have, for instance, in the the famous verse
• 15:45
  David Nunnery: in in Philippians four eight, where it talks
• 15:48
  David Nunnery: about whatever is commendable, right, whatever is pure
• 15:52
  David Nunnery: excellence, and it starts laying all this out.
• 15:55
  David Nunnery: Right? And, you know, what about your homeschool
• 16:01
  David Nunnery: is making you feel that way? You know,
• 16:04
  David Nunnery: when you think about what you are doing,
• 16:06
  David Nunnery: you talk about what you believe, and then
• 16:09
  David Nunnery: what do you think on a daily basis
• 16:11
  David Nunnery: about what you were doing? Like, how does
• 16:14
  David Nunnery: what you believe about your homeschool, how does
• 16:18
  David Nunnery: that make you think?
• 16:19
  Leslie Nunnery: You you know, I think that's where a
• 16:21
  Leslie Nunnery: big disconnect is. And, again, we talk about
• 16:23
  Leslie Nunnery: this a lot in the Hart School Parenting
• 16:25
  Leslie Nunnery: Intensive because it's very easy to give lip
• 16:28
  Leslie Nunnery: service to what we believe. But our our
• 16:31
  Leslie Nunnery: way of thinking is deeply impacted by culture,
• 16:36
  Leslie Nunnery: by what we see, by what we bring
• 16:38
  Leslie Nunnery: in. So for so many of us, we
• 16:41
  Leslie Nunnery: bring in these thoughts of education or these
• 16:44
  Leslie Nunnery: thoughts about whether we can do it well
• 16:47
  Leslie Nunnery: enough or whatever. All of that impacts the
• 16:50
  Leslie Nunnery: way that you think, the way that you
• 16:52
  Leslie Nunnery: approach things. And that that lens through which
• 16:55
  Leslie Nunnery: you see what you're doing makes a massive
• 16:59
  Leslie Nunnery: difference. So you have got to bring your
• 17:02
  Leslie Nunnery: thoughts captive as we're told in first Corinthians.
• 17:05
  Leslie Nunnery: Bring those thoughts captive into obedience to what
• 17:09
  Leslie Nunnery: you know to be true, like David was
• 17:11
  Leslie Nunnery: talking about. So what you think needs to
• 17:15
  Leslie Nunnery: be directed by what you believe. You have
• 17:18
  Leslie Nunnery: got to... A a lot of times, it
• 17:21
  Leslie Nunnery: takes great intentionality to let go of the
• 17:25
  Leslie Nunnery: things that you think that are not driving
• 17:27
  Leslie Nunnery: your mission. They actually are hiccups. They're they're
• 17:30
  Leslie Nunnery: roadblocks to your mission, which so many of
• 17:33
  Leslie Nunnery: us have. Real easy examples of that is
• 17:35
  Leslie Nunnery: when you are judging your homeschool by a
• 17:39
  Leslie Nunnery: rubric that isn't your own. You're you're looking
• 17:42
  Leslie Nunnery: at your homeschool efforts based on the grading
• 17:45
  Leslie Nunnery: scale of a public school or something. We're
• 17:47
  Leslie Nunnery: doing something entirely different here. You've got to
• 17:51
  Leslie Nunnery: look at it entirely different. So how you
• 17:54
  Leslie Nunnery: think needs to be realigned with your mission.
• 17:57
  Leslie Nunnery: And once you do that, that will be
• 17:59
  Leslie Nunnery: another attribute of of being a heart schooler,
• 18:02
  Leslie Nunnery: of actually building that framework that you want
• 18:05
  Leslie Nunnery: to to help you go for the hearts
• 18:07
  Leslie Nunnery: of your kids so much more effectively.
• 18:09
  David Nunnery: Yeah. So... And then the next level of
• 18:11
  David Nunnery: this is belief, think, and then feel. So
• 18:16
  David Nunnery: how do you feel? What is emotionally... What
• 18:19
  David Nunnery: kind of emotions does does your homeschool give
• 18:22
  David Nunnery: you? Right? When you think about, you go
• 18:24
  David Nunnery: through and you start writing down, you start
• 18:26
  David Nunnery: laying it out, what do I believe about
• 18:28
  David Nunnery: my homeschool? Right? And it may even be
• 18:32
  David Nunnery: important here to do, what do I believe
• 18:35
  David Nunnery: now, and what should I be believing about
• 18:37
  David Nunnery: my homeschool? Because there are all kinds of
• 18:40
  David Nunnery: thoughts that go through people's heads when they
• 18:43
  David Nunnery: start to homeschool. They start thinking things like,
• 18:46
  David Nunnery: my children may not have the opportunity. Right?
• 18:50
  David Nunnery: And so that actually impacts what you think
• 18:52
  David Nunnery: and you feel and what you do related
• 18:54
  David Nunnery: to your homeschool. Right? And so what you
• 18:58
  David Nunnery: need to do is is that you need
• 18:59
  David Nunnery: to actually anchor yourself in what your calling
• 19:01
  David Nunnery: is. I homeschool because I need to bring
• 19:05
  David Nunnery: my children to Jesus Christ. And therefore, what
• 19:09
  David Nunnery: do I think about this? Well, I think
• 19:12
  David Nunnery: what I am doing is the best way
• 19:14
  David Nunnery: to bring my children to Jesus Christ because
• 19:16
  David Nunnery: it gives me the time, and it gives
• 19:18
  David Nunnery: me the relationship, and it gives me the
• 19:21
  David Nunnery: opportunity. And so the curriculum is not leading
• 19:24
  David Nunnery: this. My mission is leading this. And so
• 19:27
  David Nunnery: even though you may be reading something through
• 19:29
  David Nunnery: the curriculum, you are not beholden to the
• 19:32
  David Nunnery: curriculum. So now you can actually go off
• 19:35
  David Nunnery: and actually do what you need to do
• 19:37
  David Nunnery: in order to help your child. Right? And
• 19:40
  David Nunnery: so... And then you... So that... So you
• 19:43
  David Nunnery: have believe and you have think and then
• 19:45
  David Nunnery: you have feel. And then that feel feeds
• 19:49
  David Nunnery: what you do.
• 19:50
  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah.
• 19:51
  David Nunnery: And I don't know if you understand now
• 19:53
  David Nunnery: just by going through that. Right? What is
• 19:57
  David Nunnery: the problem that is created by going from,
• 20:01
  David Nunnery: I've made this decision, and I'm gonna hop
• 20:04
  David Nunnery: right over to what I do. You have
• 20:07
  David Nunnery: no basis. You have no foundation. You have
• 20:10
  David Nunnery: no anchor and not... No. You just are
• 20:14
  David Nunnery: basically all action.
• 20:16
  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah.
• 20:17
  David Nunnery: And so you are now floundering on this
• 20:21
  David Nunnery: action side where you're doing all of this
• 20:25
  David Nunnery: stuff, but you're not getting the results that
• 20:28
  David Nunnery: you thought you would get. And so now
• 20:29
  David Nunnery: you're like, what am I gonna do?
• 20:31
  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah. Yeah. And and just to, like, work
• 20:35
  Leslie Nunnery: this out really practically, I said at the
• 20:37
  Leslie Nunnery: at the beginning that for a lot of
• 20:39
  Leslie Nunnery: people, we get in the weeds and we're
• 20:40
  Leslie Nunnery: like, my days are so chaotic. I need
• 20:43
  Leslie Nunnery: to upend my schedule. I need a new
• 20:44
  Leslie Nunnery: schedule. So if we work through this for
• 20:47
  Leslie Nunnery: a schedule, just a daily schedule, something that
• 20:50
  Leslie Nunnery: all of us have to figure out. Right?
• 20:53
  Leslie Nunnery: What do I believe? Well, I believe that
• 20:55
  Leslie Nunnery: I am called to bring my children to
• 20:56
  Leslie Nunnery: Jesus Christ. I believe that I am Herod
• 20:59
  Leslie Nunnery: first and foremost, and I need to take
• 21:01
  Leslie Nunnery: every opportunity that I have to go for
• 21:03
  Leslie Nunnery: the hearts of my kids. I believe that
• 21:05
  Leslie Nunnery: homeschooling is an amazing tool to give me
• 21:09
  Leslie Nunnery: time and conversations and the ability to learn
• 21:11
  Leslie Nunnery: together and to figure out how their minds
• 21:13
  Leslie Nunnery: work and all of these things. So that's
• 21:16
  Leslie Nunnery: what I believe. I... And and what I
• 21:18
  Leslie Nunnery: think. I think that if I use this
• 21:21
  Leslie Nunnery: correctly, that it will enhance my children's ability
• 21:26
  Leslie Nunnery: to learn as well as my ability to
• 21:28
  Leslie Nunnery: go for their hearts. So because of my
• 21:31
  Leslie Nunnery: mission, I know that if I if I
• 21:33
  Leslie Nunnery: set up my day correctly with my mission
• 21:36
  Leslie Nunnery: in view, it's going to make our relationship
• 21:39
  Leslie Nunnery: stronger. It's gonna make their learning better. It's
• 21:41
  Leslie Nunnery: gonna give me more opportunities to go for
• 21:43
  Leslie Nunnery: their hearts. Win, win. How do I feel?
• 21:45
  Leslie Nunnery: I know that if I don't set up
• 21:47
  Leslie Nunnery: my day correctly, I am going to feel
• 21:49
  Leslie Nunnery: really frustrated and irritated. But those days where
• 21:52
  Leslie Nunnery: I am missional and when I am actually
• 21:55
  Leslie Nunnery: seizing the opportunities that God gives me, I
• 21:59
  Leslie Nunnery: leave that day just feeling like it has
• 22:01
  Leslie Nunnery: been such a success no matter what happens
• 22:03
  Leslie Nunnery: with the planner. So looking through all of
• 22:06
  Leslie Nunnery: that lens, what do I wanna do? Well,
• 22:08
  Leslie Nunnery: I wanna build a day that safeguards my
• 22:11
  Leslie Nunnery: time to go for my children's hearts. In
• 22:13
  Leslie Nunnery: our family, the way that that looked was
• 22:17
  Leslie Nunnery: I knew that every single school day, there
• 22:20
  Leslie Nunnery: were there were things that had to have
• 22:22
  Leslie Nunnery: first priority. Number one, I wanted time for
• 22:25
  Leslie Nunnery: us to come together and to actually talk
• 22:29
  Leslie Nunnery: about things of the Lord. I shared what
• 22:31
  Leslie Nunnery: I was learning in my devotions. As they
• 22:33
  Leslie Nunnery: got older, they did the same. We talked
• 22:34
  Leslie Nunnery: about stuff like that. We had a great
• 22:36
  Leslie Nunnery: conversation. A lot of times, I would just
• 22:38
  Leslie Nunnery: do that at the kitchen table over breakfast.
• 22:41
  Leslie Nunnery: We just started there. It allowed us to
• 22:44
  Leslie Nunnery: not start our day chaotically. Everyone knew what
• 22:47
  Leslie Nunnery: was the very first moment in our day.
• 22:49
  Leslie Nunnery: From there, we moved into a fancy office,
• 22:53
  Leslie Nunnery: which I talk about a lot, where we
• 22:54
  Leslie Nunnery: did a lot of living subjects. We would
• 22:57
  Leslie Nunnery: read together. We would talk. I got so
• 22:59
  Leslie Nunnery: much great insight into how their their minds
• 23:02
  Leslie Nunnery: work, what was in their heart, the conversations.
• 23:04
  Leslie Nunnery: We talked about philosophy and and all of
• 23:07
  Leslie Nunnery: these things. And sometimes, that part of my
• 23:10
  Leslie Nunnery: day would go until lunch because we were
• 23:12
  Leslie Nunnery: having such great conversations. But because of what
• 23:15
  Leslie Nunnery: I knew to be true, because of what
• 23:17
  Leslie Nunnery: I believed and thought and felt, then what
• 23:20
  Leslie Nunnery: I was doing aligned with that and it
• 23:22
  Leslie Nunnery: brought in so much more peace. So as
• 23:25
  Leslie Nunnery: you are looking at something as simple as
• 23:28
  Leslie Nunnery: how you're going to order your days, if
• 23:31
  Leslie Nunnery: you walk through that exercise, it becomes so
• 23:34
  Leslie Nunnery: much clearer as to what you should focus
• 23:37
  Leslie Nunnery: on and then you line everything up with
• 23:40
  Leslie Nunnery: that and rising tide helps all ships or
• 23:43
  Leslie Nunnery: something. Whatever that statement is, it's kind of
• 23:45
  Leslie Nunnery: what you see. You fix these foundational elements
• 23:48
  Leslie Nunnery: and the whole rest of the day falls
• 23:50
  Leslie Nunnery: into place beautifully.
• 23:51
  David Nunnery: I remember when you started to put that
• 23:54
  David Nunnery: in place, that time with the kids. Mhmm.
• 23:57
  David Nunnery: And you talked about stacking the subjects.
• 24:01
  Leslie Nunnery: Asking conditions.
• 24:02
  David Nunnery: And stacking conditions. And so you would go
• 24:05
  David Nunnery: through the devotional time where you would actually
• 24:08
  David Nunnery: go through bible. What are you learning? This
• 24:10
  David Nunnery: is what I'm learning, and you would have
• 24:11
  David Nunnery: a little, you know, kind of devotional time,
• 24:14
  David Nunnery: and it would lead right into history and
• 24:16
  David Nunnery: literature. And there was all of this conversation
• 24:20
  David Nunnery: and all of this laughter, and the kids
• 24:22
  David Nunnery: were enjoying it. And then all of a
• 24:24
  David Nunnery: sudden, the day is amazing.
• 24:26
  Leslie Nunnery: It changes everything.
• 24:27
  David Nunnery: And, you know, before you put that in,
• 24:30
  David Nunnery: it was hit or miss. Yeah. You know,
• 24:33
  David Nunnery: you would have good days, and you would
• 24:34
  David Nunnery: have bad days. But because you organized your
• 24:39
  David Nunnery: day around what you believe and then you
• 24:40
  David Nunnery: started going, okay. What do I think about
• 24:42
  David Nunnery: that? How does that make me feel? And
• 24:44
  David Nunnery: then, okay. Well, this is what we're going
• 24:47
  David Nunnery: to do because we believe this, and then
• 24:49
  David Nunnery: everything starts to kinda fall into place from
• 24:51
  David Nunnery: there because it made everything you did after
• 24:55
  David Nunnery: that so much easier. And so that is
• 24:59
  David Nunnery: what we're encouraging is... And and we talk
• 25:02
  David Nunnery: about this a lot, where we talk about
• 25:04
  David Nunnery: clarity and mission. Mhmm. It's amazing what happens
• 25:09
  David Nunnery: to your day and to your schedule and
• 25:12
  David Nunnery: what you are doing If you go back
• 25:15
  David Nunnery: to clarity in your mission, what exactly am
• 25:18
  David Nunnery: I doing? Why am I doing this? And
• 25:22
  David Nunnery: you apply that to every single thing that
• 25:25
  David Nunnery: you do from that point forward, and it
• 25:27
  David Nunnery: becomes a filter. Going back to what you
• 25:29
  David Nunnery: were talking about before, where there's a lot
• 25:33
  David Nunnery: of families out there, they know what their
• 25:35
  David Nunnery: why is, but it doesn't actually make it
• 25:37
  David Nunnery: to the point of action. And so, therefore,
• 25:41
  David Nunnery: they still don't feel good about what they're
• 25:44
  David Nunnery: doing.
• 25:44
  Leslie Nunnery: Yeah. You know, that... We don't talk an
• 25:47
  Leslie Nunnery: awful lot about what we do inside of
• 25:50
  Leslie Nunnery: teach them diligently three sixty five, but I
• 25:52
  Leslie Nunnery: think it's really appropriate right here because everything
• 25:56
  Leslie Nunnery: in our culture is going against you setting
• 26:00
  Leslie Nunnery: up your home in this way. You're making
• 26:02
  Leslie Nunnery: decisions that you are really, really comfortable with
• 26:05
  Leslie Nunnery: and that just brings life to your family
• 26:07
  Leslie Nunnery: and your homeschool. And so within three sixty
• 26:10
  Leslie Nunnery: five, both in the the community as well
• 26:13
  Leslie Nunnery: as in the heart school intensive and and
• 26:15
  Leslie Nunnery: other things that we do one on one
• 26:17
  Leslie Nunnery: with families, we we are there. It's designed
• 26:20
  Leslie Nunnery: to help you stay on mission. It's designed
• 26:23
  Leslie Nunnery: to help you stay encouraged and focused. It's
• 26:26
  Leslie Nunnery: designed to give you access to resources and
• 26:28
  Leslie Nunnery: community that will that will... You can actually
• 26:32
  Leslie Nunnery: tether to, and they will help you stay
• 26:34
  Leslie Nunnery: on mission. And it's been incredible to hear
• 26:37
  Leslie Nunnery: what God has done in the the families
• 26:40
  Leslie Nunnery: that have really, really engaged in there. God
• 26:42
  Leslie Nunnery: has been so good. I've heard from so
• 26:44
  Leslie Nunnery: many of them that just... It has it
• 26:47
  Leslie Nunnery: has changed the trajectory of what they're doing,
• 26:50
  Leslie Nunnery: that they can't imagine homeschooling without teach them
• 26:52
  Leslie Nunnery: diligent like three sixty five. But these are
• 26:54
  Leslie Nunnery: their people that more often than not, when
• 26:57
  Leslie Nunnery: they're having a bad day or they're kind
• 26:59
  Leslie Nunnery: of in a quandary or floundering a little
• 27:01
  Leslie Nunnery: bit, they can say something in there and
• 27:04
  Leslie Nunnery: other ladies, other other homeschoolers will jump right
• 27:07
  Leslie Nunnery: in and give them really good counsel because
• 27:10
  Leslie Nunnery: it is filled with Christian homeschool families that
• 27:14
  Leslie Nunnery: are truly missional just like you. And so
• 27:17
  Leslie Nunnery: I invite you to to make that investment
• 27:20
  Leslie Nunnery: in your family by joining us there. Allow
• 27:22
  Leslie Nunnery: us to walk alongside of you and lock
• 27:25
  Leslie Nunnery: arms with you three hundred and sixty five
• 27:27
  Leslie Nunnery: days of the year. Go through the heart
• 27:29
  Leslie Nunnery: school parenting intensive with us. Let us one
• 27:32
  Leslie Nunnery: on one, and kinda into a small group
• 27:34
  Leslie Nunnery: setting, talk to you about how you can
• 27:37
  Leslie Nunnery: apply these principles and how they can truly
• 27:40
  Leslie Nunnery: impact your family starting right now. That's just
• 27:43
  Leslie Nunnery: one of my favorite things that we get
• 27:44
  Leslie Nunnery: to do, and I wanted to personally invite
• 27:46
  Leslie Nunnery: you to join us there.
• 27:47
  David Nunnery: Yeah. And Leslie spends so much time in,
• 27:50
  David Nunnery: three sixty five in the community and in
• 27:54
  David Nunnery: the the the mobile app where people are
• 27:56
  David Nunnery: talking and having conversation. Leslie spends a ton
• 28:00
  David Nunnery: of time in there, and we are getting
• 28:02
  David Nunnery: ready actually to start back at the Hart
• 28:04
  David Nunnery: School Parenting Intensive. It it should be coming
• 28:06
  David Nunnery: online here in, like, October. And that is
• 28:10
  David Nunnery: a program which we will talk a little
• 28:12
  David Nunnery: bit more about that, but that is something
• 28:14
  David Nunnery: that you actually get mentorship from us. Yeah.
• 28:16
  David Nunnery: And it is something that comes from... Comes
• 28:19
  David Nunnery: with teaching diligently three sixty five. And so
• 28:23
  David Nunnery: just to kinda return back to this, you
• 28:25
  David Nunnery: know, what do you believe? How does that
• 28:27
  David Nunnery: make you feel? Or how does that make
• 28:30
  David Nunnery: you think, how does that make you feel,
• 28:32
  David Nunnery: and then now what are you going to
• 28:33
  David Nunnery: do? That is the framework that we are
• 28:36
  David Nunnery: encouraging you to go back to. And so,
• 28:38
  David Nunnery: basically, what we are talking about here, if
• 28:40
  David Nunnery: you just wanna boil this down, the most
• 28:43
  David Nunnery: important part is going back to what you
• 28:45
  David Nunnery: believe. So if you're in a situation right
• 28:48
  David Nunnery: now where you feel like things aren't going
• 28:50
  David Nunnery: the way that you planned, if you feel
• 28:52
  David Nunnery: like there's just... Everything's going okay, but there's
• 28:55
  David Nunnery: one thing that is really off, go back
• 28:57
  David Nunnery: to what do I believe? What do I
• 29:00
  David Nunnery: believe about what is not going well? What
• 29:03
  David Nunnery: do I believe about my homeschool? What do
• 29:04
  David Nunnery: I believe about parenting? And then how does
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  David Nunnery: that make me think? How does that make
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  David Nunnery: me feel? And then now what am I
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  David Nunnery: going to do? Yep. Yep. So So I
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  David Nunnery: think, actually, one thing that would be really
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  David Nunnery: helpful is to... You have a worksheet that
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  David Nunnery: you put together that is about mission statement
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  David Nunnery: to write out your mission, and that may
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  David Nunnery: actually be something that's really good to put
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  David Nunnery: in the show notes.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Okay. Yep. I'll be glad to to put
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  Leslie Nunnery: that in there. That's actually part of the
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  Leslie Nunnery: Hart School parenting intensive, but I'll grab it
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  Leslie Nunnery: and and give it to you. Like he
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  Leslie Nunnery: noted, we're gonna start another Hart School parenting
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  Leslie Nunnery: intensive soon. If you're not listening to this
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  Leslie Nunnery: around October time frame, know that we do
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  Leslie Nunnery: those in Teach Them Diligently three sixty five
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  Leslie Nunnery: regularly. So you can still join the membership.
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  Leslie Nunnery: You can still take advantage of the next
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  Leslie Nunnery: time that we run it. I hope this
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  Leslie Nunnery: has been an encouragement to you. I hope
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  Leslie Nunnery: that you have a lot more hope about
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  Leslie Nunnery: getting back on track. It's not that hard.
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  Leslie Nunnery: It really just takes taking the time to
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  Leslie Nunnery: boil things down like we talked about. God
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  Leslie Nunnery: is so faithful, and children are so resilient.
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  Leslie Nunnery: So I want you to remember that if
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  Leslie Nunnery: you've gotten off to a rocky start or
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  Leslie Nunnery: if you feel like you're in the mud
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  Leslie Nunnery: a little bit, now is the perfect time
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  Leslie Nunnery: to make the adjustments. Go back to what
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  Leslie Nunnery: you believe. Think your way through it. Align
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  Leslie Nunnery: your thinking with your mission. Refocus on relationships.
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  Leslie Nunnery: Go through all of the elements of a
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  Leslie Nunnery: heart school paradigm, and I... It will help
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  Leslie Nunnery: you immensely. So check that out. There's gonna
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  Leslie Nunnery: be a lot of resources for you in
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  Leslie Nunnery: the show notes today. So I encourage you
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  Leslie Nunnery: to take advantage of those and have a
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  Leslie Nunnery: great rest of your day. We look forward
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  Leslie Nunnery: to talking to you again real soon. Thanks
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  Leslie Nunnery: so much for joining us today. If this
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  Leslie Nunnery: episode encouraged you, I'd love for you to
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  Leslie Nunnery: follow the Teach Them Diligently podcast and share
• 30:52
  Leslie Nunnery: this episode with another parent who could use
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  Leslie Nunnery: this encouragement too. That really does help us
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  Leslie Nunnery: reach more families. And remember, the everyday work
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  Leslie Nunnery: you're doing in your home matters. Those ordinary
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  Leslie Nunnery: conversations, choices, those routines, and those moments are
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  Leslie Nunnery: shaping your children more than you may realize.
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  Leslie Nunnery: So keep your eyes on Jesus, keep going
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  Leslie Nunnery: for their hearts, and keep teaching them diligently.