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How to Turn discomfort into fuel (S5) S27:E3 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Welcome, everyone.
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The master topic for the week is how
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to let go and level up.
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Series 5, show number 27.
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And today we're about how to turn discomfort
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into fuel.
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Series 5, show 27, episode number 3.
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So the theme is discomfort is raw energy.
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Some people define it as pain is discomfort.
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And so let's dive in, shall we?
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Welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner.
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Yes, and so grateful now to be a
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published author.
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Welcome, everyone.
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Welcome.
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So today, I continue a powerful shift with
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you in a perspective because growth is not
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just about letting go of the past.
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No.
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It is about embracing and transforming what the
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past left behind.
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Discomfort is not just something to escape.
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It is something to convert.
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And that's hard for a lot of people
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to really understand.
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Our core message is this today.
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Most people misunderstand discomfort and pain.
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They see it as damage, as limitation, as
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something that happened to them.
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But discomfort and pain is actually raw energy,
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as I said.
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And raw energy can be converted.
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It can become direction.
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It can become clarity.
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It can become purpose.
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What changes everything is how you interpret it.
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That's the real key.
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And most people miss that subtlety.
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So here are some points to get you
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on the right track with this thought pattern.
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Discomfort and pain can become fuel when you
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stop treating it like a cage.
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Energy is only trapped when it is not
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directed.
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That's an important point to understand.
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Number two, the question is, what now is
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more powerful than why me?
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Direction matters more than the explanation.
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Number three, struggle is raw material for transformation.
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Nothing meaningful is created without pressure.
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Take diamonds, for example.
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They have to go through lots of amounts
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of pressure to become something very precious.
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Number four, what hurt you can also guide
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and understand that to take you forward.
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What the hurt can do to guide you
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forward.
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Experience becomes insight when it's reframed, not in
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its pure form.
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Number five, your story should be a blueprint,
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not a limitation.
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Meaning depends on the interpretation present.
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Number six, scars are evidence of resilience, not
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weakness.
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Survival creates capability.
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And that's a real interesting thing that we
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have that ability to create capability.
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Number seven, discomfort shows you what actually matters
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in life.
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Discomfort clarifies priorities.
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Number eight, complaints can be converted into case
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studies.
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Experience becomes strategy when it's analyzed properly.
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Number nine, lessons become powerful when they're turned
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into creation.
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Now, insight without action, it immediately fades.
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And people lose their hope from that whole
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concept.
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And that's the whole key that I want
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to share with you.
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Number 10, guys, helping others transforms personal discomfort
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or pain into purpose.
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Service creates meaning from experience.
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I think that's an important point for us
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to realize is to embrace that meaning, embrace
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that concept of how an experience can get
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us to learn something, but only when we're
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aware of it.
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And then we can choose to make changes
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to make our lives even better.
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Number 11, guys, empathy becomes a strength through
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our lived experience.
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Understanding others begins with understanding yourself first.
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I think a lot of people try to
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understand others, but they don't try to understand
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themselves.
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And then they wonder why they can't understand
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others.
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It's because they don't know themselves first.
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We have to first become our own best
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friend before we can become other people's friends.
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And I think many people miss that.
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They go right out to try to be
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with others, but they don't understand themselves.
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And then they try to push their own
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agenda on people.
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And that never really sits well.
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It kind of leaves a bad taste in
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a lot of people's mouth, unfortunately.
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So just saying.
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Number 12, guys, your struggles uniquely qualify you
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in certain areas of your life.
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Experience allows you to build specialization.
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And the specialization gives you a very unique
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perspective, okay?
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Very unique perspective.
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Number 13, transformation begins when discomfort and pain
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becomes identity fuel.
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That sounds interesting, doesn't it?
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It is.
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Reframing changes outcomes.
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Because we're supposing something else.
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And then we're acting in that way, and
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that can change our outcome.
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Now, again, it does not happen overnight.
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So I want to be very clear with
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you and let you know that it does
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not happen overnight.
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But you have the potential to grow every
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single day in your life.
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Does that make sense, guys?
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Maybe you're not getting it immediately, but I
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can tell you that it does work.
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It's just you have to embrace it.
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You have to embrace it.
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If you can't embrace it, then how do
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you ever go anywhere?
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How do you go somewhere?
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How do you change where you are right
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now if you can't think outside the box?
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If you can't understand a perception, if you
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can't get that, how do you move from
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where you are now to where you want
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to be?
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Again, it's not flipping a light switch.
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It's having intentional thoughts and acting on them.
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Not because we have to, but because we
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want to.
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That's important, guys.
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Really, really important.
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Once you do that, your life will start
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to change.
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Number 14, you did not go through difficulty
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to remain unchanged.
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Difficulty and challenges help us to learn, so
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we don't go through that anymore.
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Experience demands evolution.
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I'll give you a perfect example.
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Maybe some of you remember a stove, right?
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And maybe you got close to the stove
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and you almost burned your hand.
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You're like, oh, and I pulled my hand
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away, right?
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Maybe somebody even got too close and it
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got really hot.
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Maybe you did burn your hand, but then
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you pulled away.
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That reaction has taught you something.
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It has taught you, I don't want to
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burn my hand anymore.
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I don't want to do that anymore.
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That's what it has taught you.
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I think that's a very important thing that
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people just don't realize.
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They don't understand why it is, and I'm
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here to tell you that it makes a
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huge difference in your life.
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Huge, huge difference in your life.
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And that makes a whole difference in the
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world.
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When we have this realization, we change our
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thoughts.
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We change our actions.
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And by changing our thoughts and by changing
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our actions, guess what?
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We have different outcomes.
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We have different outcomes.
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And that's something most people will miss in
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life.
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They'll miss that because they never realized that's
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how it worked.
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They never realized it.
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But when you start to understand that concept,
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your life begins to change.
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It begins to evolve.
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It begins to morph in a positive way
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so that you can actually understand where you're
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moving toward.
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You know, it's not like you just get
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in the car and say, oh, I'm just
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going to drive down this road, and hopefully
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I'm going to hit a gas station or
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hopefully I'm going to hit a restaurant.
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It's a good hope.
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But what if you don't?
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What if you don't have enough gas in
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your car?
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Oh, unfortunately, you're going to have to call
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AAA or one of the services, and then
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you're going to have to wait for them
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to come out, and they're going to have
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to put in like maybe a gallon of
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gas or half a gallon of gas.
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And maybe that will get you just somewhere.
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You still have to get to a gas
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station to get regular gas.
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And that's an epiphany for a lot of
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people.
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Number 15.
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Number 15 says journaling, discomfort and pain, turns
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the emotion into usable insight.
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So we've all had times in our life
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when we don't like something.
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So we don't want to reminisce about the
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bad experience.
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We want to reminisce about what happened and
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learn the lesson.
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Throw all the other discomfort away.
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Reflection, guys, creates structure.
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Too many people don't reflect because they don't
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think they need to.
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If you don't reflect, you don't learn.
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Number 16, guys, pain and discomfort can sharpen
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your vision for the future.
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For the future.
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Clarity often comes through the contrast, through that
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moment that maybe you're not aware of.
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Right?
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And that moment has a way of causing
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us to believe something.
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We're looking for fulfillment.
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We're looking for that in many areas of
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our life.
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And when we don't get it, we become
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unhappy.
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But do we actually know how to build
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a better mousetrap or to build a better
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system so we can have those great experiences?
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Or do we just get frustrated all the
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time?
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And that brings me to my next point.
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Number 17, frustration can be redirected into action.
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Not anger.
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Action.
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Positive action.
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Energy needs direction.
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Not suppression.
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But too many people out there try to
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suppress something because they think if they do
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that, then they can just get it off
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the table.
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But then when its head rears again, it
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comes up stronger.
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People get angry.
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Number 18, guys, your story can become your
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own niche.
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We all have stories.
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I'm working on building a group in my
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town.
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And we're talking about the history of the
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town and how the town's losing its history
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and how big buildings are happening and how
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that's changing the evolution.
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So I'm trying to build a histories and
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memories group to let people share their stories.
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See, we live for stories.
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We live to create these moments so we
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can share them with ourselves and share them
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with others and relive them and have these
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amazing experiences that we keep feeling as if
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they're happening right now.
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Why do we have pictures?
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We relive the emotions.
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And again, not because we have to, guys,
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but because we want to.
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That is the true ultimate thing, guys.
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We relive them because we want to.
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We relive them because we want to.
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Number 19, share your insights, not just your
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emotional replays.
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Value comes from the interpretation.
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The interpretation comes from our perceptions.
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Our perceptions come from what we see or
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see, what we hear, what we touch, what
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we taste, what we smell.
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And our immediate environment and other environments that
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we interact with.
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Number 20, guys, your hardest chapter can often
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become your strongest message.
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Somebody once told me, John, do the hard
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things first, then do the easy things.
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Because when you do that, your motivation picks
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up and you want to go do the
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easy things.
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Depth comes from difficulty.
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Also, when things are hard, you do the
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easy things.
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It's like, oh, wow, this is easy.
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This is so easy.
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Depth comes from the difficulty.
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And difficulty comes from our own skills, our
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perception, and our ability to learn more about
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that area, that topic, or that specific niche.
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Number 21, guys, survival can be transformed into
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strategy.
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Survival can move into strategy.
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Experience becomes advantage only when it's structured, not
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when it's just some type of mess.
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Everything needs a structure, guys.
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When we have chaos in life, we don't
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learn.
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Number 22, never again moments can set new
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standards for us and for others.
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Boundaries come from experience that we partake in.
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And that's an important realization.
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If we know that experience comes from how
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we perceive things and we don't like something,
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then we probably pivot away from doing that
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again or in that specific environment.
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Number 23, guys, discomfort is inevitable.
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But the level of suffering, that's optional.
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That's our own choice.
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You know, you cut your finger.
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Are you going to cry about it and
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complain that it hurts, or are you going
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to put some Neosporin on it, put a
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bandaid on it, and move on?
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What we focus on persists.
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We focus on discomfort, we get more discomfort.
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Meaning determines the duration.
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Some people, they just want to cry.
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They want to complain, oh, my finger hurts.
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Oh, this hurts.
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So let's just think about it harder so
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it'll hurt even more.
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When you stop thinking about it, it's like
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it loses its grip on you and you
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barely even notice it's there.
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Number 24, guys, one action today that you
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choose to take can rewrite an emotional pattern
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that you've been living for years.
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One that you didn't even know existed.
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Momentum break cycles, guys.
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Why is it people don't want to break
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the momentum?
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They're scared.
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They don't know what's going to happen.
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They don't know why.
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But all they know is if they did
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this, they're going to be different.
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And they're not ready to be their own
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unsung hero.
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And that's a sad thing, guys, when people
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do that.
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Really sad.
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Number 25, growth requires us to use our
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discomfort and pain, not to avoid it.
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Does that make sense?
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I know that can be hard for a
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lot of people.
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Avoidance preserves limitation.
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And if we do that, we put ourselves
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into a corner.
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We put ourselves into a life that says
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we have no way out when we do
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have options.
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It's just we're limiting ourselves.
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We're thinking inside a box.
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We need to crush the box.
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We need to think outside the box.
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That's not new, guys.
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That's been around for centuries.
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We have to start thinking outside the box.
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Crush the box.
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Get rid of the whole box.
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Number 26, your experience can help you design
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better outcomes.
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Knowledge from pain and discomfort is something very
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key.
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You know what that is, guys?
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It's applied intelligence.
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When we start to apply intelligence to our
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discomfort and pain, we become wiser.
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We become smarter.
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We also don't do that thing, right?
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Remember I talked about the stove and we
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put the fingers like, oh, I just pulled
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my finger away, right?
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I put my finger right here and it's
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like, oh, that's hot.
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I'm going to pull it away.
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So you don't do that again.
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And you start to realize certain things are
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hot, like stoves and other things, right?
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Grills.
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And we learn as we get older what's
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hot so we don't get burned, so we
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don't want to get burned.
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Number 27, your journey can shorten someone else's
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struggle.
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I've often said, you know, taking a trip,
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which I've gone to Europe many times, or
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taking a trip and doing something, will help
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you learn 10 times faster than actually learning
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in a classroom.
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You want to learn about Europe?
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Go to Europe.
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Best way to learn.
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Not saying learning in a classroom is bad,
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but you're going to learn 10 times faster
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when you're immersed in it.
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That's how we learned our language.
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Immersion.
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That's how I learned English.
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That's how other people learned their languages.
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They're immersed in it.
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So the objects, the things and experiences become
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part of our brain and create these connections.
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Sharing accelerates others.
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And when we accelerate others, our life changes.
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Someone wise once told me, John, you want
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to become better at something?
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Yep.
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Help someone else with the same problem.
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And you'll get better too.
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Number 28.
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Our discomfort and pain can evolve into a
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very unique, profound purpose when it's directed outward.
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A lot of people I know talk about
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service.
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Service transforms experience.
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But many people use the service to say
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that they're service leaders.
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But when I look under the cover to
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really see what they are, they're using it
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as a Band-Aid, as a masking tape.
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They're using it to exploit others.
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I love service toward others.
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But when you use it to exploit others,
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that's just wrong.
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That's wrong.
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Service will always transform the experience.
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Providing it is genuine.
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Now you might get people in the beginning
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that are going to latch on to you.
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But guess what?
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Later on, they're going to come on to
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you and realize maybe you weren't sincere.
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Number 29.
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The more you use your discomfort and pain,
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the less it controls you.
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You're basically detaching from it.
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Expression reduces emotional weight.
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John, that is so darn powerful, I know.
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Number 30.
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Our discomfort and pain is the past.
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But fuel is the future.
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We can harp on what happened to us
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in the past.
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I went this way.
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This happened to me.
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We can always do that.
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But if we don't look past that, then
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how are we ever going to grow in
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our lives?
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I think that's a very, very important thing.
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And most people just think about what's going
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on in the day.
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But they don't look at the fact that
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I just did this.
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Well, I don't want to do it again
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and have the same type of reaction or
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the same type of results.
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And I'll have the same type of results
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if I choose to do the same thing
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over and over again.
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Einstein said this very well a long time
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ago.
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Doing the same thing over and over again
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is what?
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It is insanity.
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So if we do the same thing over
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and over again and we expect different results,
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that is insanity.
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If we keep doing the same thing over
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and over again and expect the same results,
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insanity.
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So we need to change what it is
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we are doing so we can move forward.
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And direction, ladies and gentlemen, determines the transformation.
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Not only transformation, but the level of transformation,
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where we're going to go, what we're going
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to do.
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That's determined all by you.
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And I think when we ponder about our
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perceptions and just noticing something like if we're
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driving a white car, something we see a
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lot of white cars, it's because our REC,
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our Reticulate Activating System, or RAS, is attuned
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to that.
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What happens if you go to a word
25:05
processor and you type something?
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It finds it.
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What happens if you go to LinkedIn and
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you type a word?
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It finds it.
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Like contacts, it'll find it.
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But if you put it in quotes, it
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only finds that in LinkedIn.
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Different types of searches.
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So ladies and gentlemen, as closing today, here
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is the truth.
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You guys want the truth, don't you?
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I want to have some more RO water
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here.
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So basically the whole thing of RO water
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and then maybe less than, I'm going to
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say, very small amount, maybe less than, not
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even, not even, I'm going to say maybe
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eight tablespoons of lemon makes a real difference.
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So our discomfort and pain does not disappear
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just because you ignore it.
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It disappears when you use it, when you
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convert it, when you redirect it, because anything
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that is not expressed becomes stored.
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When you have a headache and we say,
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gee, I don't have a headache, what do
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we teach people?
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Think about your headache.
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Think about, you know, what shape is the
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headache?
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What color is the headache?
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What texture is the headache?
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Those kind of things.
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And when we try to put it into
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something like a noun, it starts to lose
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discomfort.
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Because it's now being classified.
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But anything that is used becomes power.
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Anything that is used becomes power.
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Anything that is used becomes power.
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That is so priceless.
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Most people miss the cookie, right, I'm calling
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it the cookie, or the prize because they
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have not been aware.
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Maybe they opened their eyes for a moment
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and their ears for a moment and then
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they turned their head.
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They weren't even there a minute.
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When you just sit and become aware of
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the environment, you gather so many data points
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subconsciously.
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That's key.
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Ladies and gentlemen, if you do not know
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me by now, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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This has been Inspirations for Your Life.
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And this is where discomfort becomes fuel.
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So when you learn how to repackage your
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discomfort into fuel that will motivate you to
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take the next steps toward your goal, you
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will start to achieve it.
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Ladies and gentlemen, have a great day and
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a great rest of your evening.
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I'll catch you real soon on the next
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show.
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Check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for more of my
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amazing, inspiring creations.
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Be well, everyone.