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ROP Episode 25 Solo The Challenge is your Confirmation · Revolution of Purpose Podcast

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  What if the challenge that you're facing right now is not a sign
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  that you're going in the wrong direction? What if it's actually confirmation
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  that you are becoming just the person you need to be that is capable
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  of going where you've never gone before?
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  Anything worth building will also build you.
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  Welcome to the Revolution of Purpose podcast. I'm your host, John Streit,
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  and each week we bring you conversations with thought leaders,
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  entrepreneurs, and individuals who have aligned their life
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  with purpose. And created extraordinary resilience. So I'm gonna live
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  through it and accept it radically with grace and hope and love.
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  I mean, I would be proud to be in this household. It was an honor.
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  I had so much fun. Tune in every Monday for the Revolution of Purpose solo
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  show and every Thursday for Revolution of Purpose Conversations.
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  Welcome back to another episode of the Revolution of Purpose podcast. I'm John Streit,
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  and today I want to talk about something that I
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  think every one of us needs to be reminded of when pursuing something
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  that is bigger for our lives. Because there are going
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  to be moments when you have a vision for where you're going and you believe
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  that you're doing the right things. You believe you're becoming the right person,
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  but then suddenly everything gets difficult. Like something
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  doesn't work, or that opportunity doesn't happen.
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  Maybe the money doesn't show up as quickly as you thought it would, or the
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  relationship gets really difficult. The business starts to struggle,
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  or you get rejected. You start questioning yourself,
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  and one of the easiest conclusions to reach is,
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  maybe I'm doing something wrong. Maybe I was never
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  meant to do this to begin with. Maybe this isn't supposed to even happen
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  for me. What if I misunderstood where I
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  was supposed to be going? And my friends,
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  that can cause a panic attack. But today
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  I want to challenge that assumption because sometimes the challenge
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  that you're facing is not a contradiction. It is sometimes
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  the confirmation. I want you to consider a question today.
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  What if nothing has gone wrong? Like,
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  seriously, think about whatever you're struggling with right now. What if
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  it isn't evidence that you're off course? What if
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  it is just part of the course? Because when we decide
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  to create something that we've never created before, we're going to
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  have to become someone that we've never been before.
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  And becoming that person requires something from us. It,
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  it requires growth. It requires discomfort. It requires
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  us to confront parts of ourselves that were completely capable
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  of creating our old life, but are not yet completely capable
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  of creating our new one. And that's why I say anything
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  worth building is also building you. You're building the business,
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  but that business is building you. You're building the relationship,
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  but that relationship is building you. You're building the dream,
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  but the dream is building you. You're creating a new life,
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  but in the process, That new life is requiring
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  you to create a new version of yourself. I've experienced
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  this personally. When I first started speaking and coaching, I knew that
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  I had something inside of me that I wanted to share. I knew that I
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  wanted to help people. I knew that I wanted to speak and I wanted
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  to coach, but knowing that and actually becoming the person capable
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  of doing it confidently were two very different things.
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  It took me a while to find my authentic voice.
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  And maybe more importantly, it took me a while to trust
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  my own authentic voice. Because when we're starting something new,
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  it's incredibly tempting to look around at everybody else
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  who's already successful. I mean, a lot of marketing gurus will tell
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  you to do just that. Find your competitors, find the people in your niche,
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  do what they're doing. Don't reinvent the wheel. You, you see how they
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  speak. You see what they're posting. You hear the words they use. You see their
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  programs. Without even realizing it, you can
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  lose yourself and you can start trying to sound like all of those other
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  people that are already successful at the things that you want to do. And I
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  had to learn that the greatest value that I could bring wasn't
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  becoming a better version of somebody else.
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  It was becoming the most authentic version of John Street.
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  And that did not happen overnight. The speaking engagements did not
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  immediately come pouring in. The, coaching clients didn't immediately
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  line up. There were times when I was first getting started
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  that I could have looked at the external evidence and said,
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  maybe this isn't working. You know, somewhere inside of me,
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  I must have heard things wrong. I must have made a mistake.
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  But I knew that I had to keep showing up. I knew that I
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  had to keep finding my voice. I had to keep trusting my voice. I had
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  to keep becoming more authentic because eventually, The people who
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  need what I have to put out there are going to find me.
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  And looking back now, I can see something that I couldn't always see while
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  I was going through it. The challenge was not contradicting
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  my vision. The challenge was developing me into the
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  person who could carry that vision. I needed that
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  hard season. I needed that uncertainty. I needed those moments
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  where nobody seemed to be listening, where nobody seemed to be hiring me,
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  where I was just struggling to make the ends meet,
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  meet in coaching. And then that forced me to answer
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  such a much more important question. Will I still believe in who I'm
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  becoming when the outside world has not confirmed it
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  yet? And that's the same question that you have got to ask yourself.
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  I don't care what type of business it is that you're building. I don't care
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  what type of field you're in. If you're in sales, if you're in real estate,
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  if you feel called to preach, if you feel called to
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  lead a synagogue, if you feel called to be a life coach, if you feel
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  called to be an actor, if you feel called to be an entertainment and music,
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  whatever it is, you have to find out deep down, will you
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  believe in who it is that you are becoming, even if the entire
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  outside world has not confirmed it yet? My friends, that's the identity
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  work that you need. It is the question that you
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  have to answer. It's the question I had to answer. And it's
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  the question that anyone who is successful has to answer.
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  There comes a time where you just have to believe
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  in yourself. You have to show up for yourself.
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  And you can't depend on someone else to be there to do it. You aren't
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  always gonna get the validation from the outside world.
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  That's when you dig down deep and you look and you say,
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  I know that I know what I am called to do. I know that I
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  know that I'm supposed to do this.
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  And just because I have challenges, that is not evidence that I'm doing something
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  wrong. It is actually evidence that it is creating me to be the
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  person that is strong enough to carry that vision. My friends,
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  think about Steve Harvey. You know, today we know Steve Harvey
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  is one of the most recognizable entertainers in the world. He's on television,
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  on the radio, comedy, books, business,
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  really hilarious. But, but that isn't where the story started.
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  Early in Steve Harvey's comedy career, he struggled.
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  I mean, for years there were periods where he didn't
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  have enough money for housing and lived out of his car. And he
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  traveled from just comedy club to comedy club. Think about what that must have
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  looked like from the outside. If your only measurement was his
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  circumstances, you would've said, Steve, buddy, this isn't working.
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  You know, maybe comedy is not your path. Maybe it's time to do something else.
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  And I'm sure that there were moments when he wondered the same thing.
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  But what if those years were not evidence that he wasn't going to make
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  it, but instead, what if those years were helping create the man
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  who eventually would make it? Because the Steve Harvey
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  who eventually stood on massive stages at the Apollo,
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  was not simply waiting somewhere in the future. He was
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  being developed on the way there. Every difficult
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  room, every rejection, every night wondering whether
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  he should keep going, every moment that required him to believe before
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  there was evidence. It was building something inside of
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  him, and he was awakening to who he could be. That challenge
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  wasn't necessarily contradicting his destination.
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  Instead, it was preparing him for it. This connects directly to
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  what I've been talking about on the last several solo podcast episodes about the law
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  of identity transformation. You know, there are 4 stages where we
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  awaken. We awaken to the possibility that
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  we could become the person that's living that identity,
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  that's taking aligned action to create the life we want
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  to live. You first awaken to what's possible. You see
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  a different version of your life, a bigger vision of a new possibility,
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  something different than you can become.
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  And this is where people sometimes misunderstand the process because becoming
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  isn't always comfortable. Please pardon this interruption to your podcast
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  episode. This will not take but a minute. Before we continue, I want to ask
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  you something. Do you know that you're capable of more, but your life right now
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  just isn't fully reflecting the person you know
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  you can become? Then I want to personally invite you to schedule a Shift Mindset
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  call with me. This Shift Mindset experience
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  It's something that I created to help you identify one decision that you
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  can make that will shift your life. And when I say that this is a
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  call with me, I mean exactly that. This is a live one-on-one
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  personal call between you and I. This is not
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  prerecorded. This is not a member of my team. It is you and
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  I having a real coaching conversation about your life, and it does
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  not cost you any money. It is a 45-minute exchange of time.
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  I'll give you 30 minutes of my best mindset coaching to help you identify
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  a decision that It will create a real shift in your life. And in exchange,
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  I just ask that you give me about 15 minutes to show you the coaching
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  experiences that I offer. There's no obligation,
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  but there is an opportunity to create a meaningful shift
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  in your life just from this call. You can schedule yours today
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  at johnstreet.org. Just click on the button that says schedule your
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  shift call. And also, if this podcast is helping you,
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  please subscribe, please like, and please share it.
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  Every time you do that, every time you engage, you are helping to spread this
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  message and inspire someone else to create their best life through
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  also living their own revolution of purpose. Now let's get you back to the
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  Revolution of Purpose podcast. You know, becoming often looks like resistance.
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  Becoming often feels like uncertainty.
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  Becoming can feel like things aren't working because
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  your old identity and your new identity, well, they're colliding.
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  But then you start to align. Your thoughts begin aligning with
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  the person that you're becoming, and your decisions begin to
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  align. This is where you start to take that aligned action as
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  this identity of the person that's creating the life that you desire to live.
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  The, the habits start to change. Your environment starts to
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  align. Your actions align. And eventually you are
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  manifesting. You are creating. Like, the external world
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  begins reflecting the internal transformation that you're going through.
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  But in human nature, we just want to strip We just want to skip straight
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  from awaken to create. We see the dream and immediately
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  we want the evidence. And life says, not so fast.
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  There's someone you're going to need to become first. And that's
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  where challenge comes in. One of the most important mindset
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  shifts that you can make is to stop automatically interpreting
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  resistance as rejection. Something becoming
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  difficult does not necessarily mean no. A delay does
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  not necessarily mean no. Someone rejecting
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  you does not necessarily mean no. A failed attempt does not
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  necessarily mean no. Sometimes it means grow instead
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  of no. Sometimes it means learn. Sometimes it means adjust or become
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  or try again or keep going to this universal academy
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  that is preparing you to be the person you have to become.
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  There is information in that resistance. There is development
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  in that resistance. Sometimes there is even direction
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  in that resistance. And now I'm not saying every obstacle means
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  that you're guaranteed to get exactly what you want. Sometimes wisdom
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  requires us to change direction. Sometimes we discover something
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  just isn't aligned in who we really are, but we shouldn't automatically
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  assume that difficulty means we're on the wrong path.
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  Sometimes difficulty is simply the tuition
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  that we're paying for becoming capable of living
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  the life that we've asked for. So the next time that something becomes difficult,
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  instead of immediately asking, why is this happening to me?
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  Try asking, who is this asking me to become?
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  Maybe it's asking you to become more patient or more courageous,
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  more disciplined or more authentic. Maybe it's asking
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  you to trust yourself and stop trying to get
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  validation from everybody else in your life. Maybe it's asking you
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  to finally stop seeking approval. Maybe it's asking
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  you to become someone who can hear the word no without
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  allowing it to define who you are. Maybe it's asking you to develop
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  a capacity that you haven't needed until now. My friends,
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  if your passion involves you posting on social media on
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  the regular, you're going to develop thick skin. And that doesn't happen
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  by just saying, I believe I want thick skin. No, you develop the capacity
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  that you had not needed until you start posting on social media. The next
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  level of your life may require a version of you that your current life never
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  even demanded. And the challenge may be exactly what's
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  developing that person. So whatever you're facing right now,
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  I want you to sit with this. What if nothing has gone
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  wrong? What if this moment isn't a contradiction?
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  What if it is a confirmation? What if the resistance
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  that you're experiencing is evidence that you're stretching beyond
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  the boundaries of the identity that created your old life?
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  What if you're simply in the become part of awaken,
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  become, align, and create? Don't judge
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  the entire journey by the hardest chapter. And don't you dare
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  abandon the vision simply because you're becoming the person capable
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  of carrying that vision and it's harder than you expected.
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  Remember that anything worth building is also
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  going to build you. The challenge you're facing may not be contradicting
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  where you're going. It may be confirming that you're becoming someone
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  who can get you there. So don't waste this challenge.
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  Let it build you. Let it strengthen you. Let it reveal you.
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  Let it call forward the version of you that your
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  future requires, because anything worth building will
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  also build you. My friends, keep going because nothing
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  can stop you if you don't quit. Thank you so much for spending these
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  few minutes with me today on this solo episode of the Revolution of
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  Purpose podcast. Don't forget to tune in Thursday for our next conversations
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  episode. And until then, Keep living your own revolution
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  of purpose. Thank you so much for spending this time with me today.
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  you're ready to stop wondering what's next and start living with greater
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  clarity and purpose in your own life, I would love to meet with you
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  personally. Visit johnstreet.org right now to
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  schedule your complimentary live purpose and clarity call with
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  me. Until next time, remember, your purpose is not
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  something you find. It is something you awaken to. And then
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  you choose to live it. Go make today another step in your own
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  revolution of purpose.