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Vision to Victory: Reset Your Life with Small Steps · D-constructing Topics

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What's going on everybody and what's going on folks?
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My name is David and I'm your legendary, your legendary, your legendary host
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of this legendary podcast, the Deconstructing Topic Podcast,
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where we grab a topic and we just like, we just deconstruct it.
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And today we got a good one.
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Today we got some trying to motivate my peoples out there that you guys are listening.
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making it happen we got so much going on to talk about in a time that hey listen
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if you're here in the United States you already know many parts of the region
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here of the United States so we got that four seasons you know and spring is
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actually about to finish and then we got summer so I said you know what.
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Wherever don't matter whatever part of this world you are that you know that
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there's going to be a new month or new time or whatever the case might be.
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Sometimes we kind of want to hit that reset button and we got to hit that reset
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button because sometimes we get overwhelmed.
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We get a little bit flustered. When we do, we tend to be like,
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what the hell is going on?
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So in this podcast, we kind of like want to steer you up and please feel free
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to share wherever you are in your car,
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house, beach wherever you're doing
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that thing thing once again subscribe follow
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whatever it is hit the like comment hit the like and then comment if after this
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conversation and you're gonna feel like damn David okay well you know okay I
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get it but I need some guidelines and today I'm gonna help my peoples out there
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because once we hit the reset button sometimes it's.
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I take it back i'm not gonna say it's easy but sometimes
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there are aspects of life that we need to kind of like hit the reset button
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but we don't know where to start so over here on
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my screen we have something where one of the things
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that i always have belief that when we want to hit the reset button in certain
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aspect of life whether it's i can i say whether it's your you know professional
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your job your family financial a couple of things there with family friendship,
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whatever relationship, sometimes we just be like, I don't even know where to
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start, but I know I need to make a change.
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And here we're not necessarily talking about changes in itself because a lot
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of times we can't make changes real quick.
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But we need to some certain guidelines and I'm going to start with a vision.
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Because a lot of times when we don't visualize what exactly that we want to
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do once we hit the recent point, and I'll tell you the story real quick, a couple of weeks ago.
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You know, there was so much going on personally, professionally,
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future, past, present, all that good stuff, all that, you know,
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how can I say, un caldero ahí de todo.
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A nice stew, a nice pot right there with all the ingredients that you could put there.
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And I was not feeling overwhelmed, but it was just something that hit me.
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And it was just a reminder, like, you know, David,
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you know now now i got a little uh kind of uh
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voice in my head now it's not just david it's deconstructing topic
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podcast the deconstructor hey hey
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my boy what's going on and i kind of reminded
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myself of something that i visualized when i was a young puppy you know and
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i'm gonna say a young puppet a young wolf oh let's go let's make it happen and
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you kind of have you have to ask yourself and even to this day it doesn't matter
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what age you are what kind of life you truly want.
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Because we're going to measure life as in, hey, listen, what we did last year,
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what we did a year ago, what we're going to do a year ago.
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And you can't think like, hey, listen, it's not what others expect from me.
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Because a lot of times we put pressure because we think that there's people that expect something.
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And I say, oh, it's not what they expect from you.
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And it's not what society said. But, you know, what feels kind of meaningful to you.
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And, you know, I'm hoping that, you know, you could be able to visualize that.
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I'll most likely put it in my description so you could print it out,
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put it in your vision board and all that good stuff.
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Cause I ain't trying to discriminate on anybody on where you put your stuff.
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I know somebody that put their stuff on the wall and I'm like,
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what is it? You paint? I'm just saying.
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And when I read my wall, they don't put stickies or anything like that.
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They just like to write on the wall. I'm like, oh, that's a habit.
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That's something that we're going to talk about.
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But you know, I'm not here to shame on anybody on how you do it,
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but you have to have a vision like a kind
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of like a destination on your on your head like a map you
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have to know where you're going you have to know where where that step
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is at you just can't be like you know what i'm saying i just want people just
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take a moment and as you listen to this beautiful episode of the deconstructing
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topic podcast that host just take a moment and picture what exactly you want And then from there,
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once you set like a roadmap to where, then right there.
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So we're going to start with vision. Always have that vision thing going on.
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Another thing too, and this applies to me, and it applies to many people,
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that what exactly is our core values?
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What exactly it is that make us?
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And that's one thing that I always have said. Sometimes we don't have certain
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core values because we don't know, you know, we don't know what exactly it is.
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I want to say that I love freedom. I love to be able to think on my own, to do things on my own.
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Hey, I love my job too.
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But there's certain things, there's certain freedom that wants to feel.
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And I think that we, many of us, for those there that have family,
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you're committed to something, your job, whatever it is.
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I know that freedom tends to become a little bit difficult, but you have to
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have a sense of what you can do because you can't always limit yourself.
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I know that there's that saying that sometimes in life, and it happens to me
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that sometimes I feel as if life is sacrificing you for the better of others.
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And I'm like, no, you know, that could happen. And it is true.
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And there's been people that have been that, but it doesn't mean that you can't grow.
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It doesn't mean that you can't create. That doesn't mean that you can't be stable.
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You know, your values, it's like a little, in your head, it's like a little compass.
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What do you cherish the most? Think about it. Just write down what you cherish the most.
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What are those things that I could just plug in, in this map that I got in my head?
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Again, whether it's freedom, family, you know, creativity. Hey,
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listen, I got a podcast because I'm a creative person.
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And I want to share my creativity with other people.
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So once that your life matches your value, you're going to start to like fulfill like, okay.
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And look, I want people, I want to tell people everything in my life.
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You know what I'm saying?
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Because sometimes storytelling, we could all feed off each other from what we
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learned from certain things, you know? But one thing I always want to say is this.
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You're going to see and you're going to follow that there's the vision,
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there's something I want to do and I.
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Put myself there, you know what, perhaps not on this birthday, on my next birthday.
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And hey, listen, I know that birthday becomes a self thing, but sometimes you
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want to put a little kind of stick like a checkpoint.
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We're definitely going to make it, and we're definitely going to make it happen.
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And when you don't, and trust me, when you don't have those things,
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it's going to feel like if you don't have those core values,
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you're probably going to feel off and then steer away from that path.
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And that's why I'm very, very adamant. And I started to do this,
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set some short and long-term plans.
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Again, go to the board, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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If there's one thing that happened to me, I was doing, you know what else?
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I'm in stuff, you know, in my life.
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I was doing my little budget going on. Hey, listen, it's always good to budgetize
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and, you know, so on and so forth.
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Because on the short and long-term, hey, listen.
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I got a job that, hey, when I retire, I'm going to have some money.
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I'm going to have some pension. I'm going to have this.
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But we can't go out there in retirement without not having a sense of what you
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need to do or what you should do.
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So I kind of felt like I work better if I do somewhat of a bigger plan.
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And I did kind of like a budget. Okay, this is the budget.
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This is, you know, my pay. This is my budget for the whole month of June.
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Yeah, June is around the corner. Oh, my goodness.
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And I kind of said to myself, wow, it's different because a lot of people do
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the weekly thing. Hey, listen, hey, there's a lot of people that do a little
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short term on a daily basis, per hour.
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That's where they have those, what do they call those things? Planners, right?
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Ain't nothing wrong with that. But short term, long term, you have to set those goals.
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What can you do? You want to work out three times a week? Do you want to start saving money?
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Do you, one of the things that I kind of started doing is that when I go shopping,
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whether it's groceries, whatever, I keep the receipts. Now I compare to what it is.
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Should I have bought that? You know, it's the needs and the wants. You know what I mean?
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But once that you have your clear
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goals, turn those goals into a direction somewhere. Boom, boom, boom.
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Because that's all he needs is that direction. And sadly, a lot of us like that.
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But once that we got that direction, once we have those goals.
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Trust me, it's going to help you so much.
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Write it down. Set some goals. Short term. and long-term.
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One of the things that I also mentioned on this one is that create an action plan.
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And that's the thing is that, okay, you got the goals. You might say,
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David, what's the difference between goals and create an action plan? The key was action.
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One thing is to say, I want to work three days a week.
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The action would be, okay, let's start so that I can know exactly how to perform.
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What are you going to do? When will you do it? How often? You understand?
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If you don't create goals, they just become like, oh, well, I wish I did this.
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I wish I did that. You know, did this. And then we start to procrastinate.
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I mentioned on one of my podcasts, it takes 1%.
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1%. Start doing something 1%. If you know that you're doing something wrong,
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then I'd be guilty of something.
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Can I? Can I? Can I? I'll be guilty of something.
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You know, I enjoy networking, you know, going to places, restaurants, new places.
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And I look at that menu and I see, it's a beer that I never tasted.
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And then from one beer goes to two and to three.
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I'm sorry. I'm just saying, hey, I enjoy some of the adult beverage.
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But you get what I'm saying here.
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So I said, next time, instead of three, let's go with two.
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But again, sometimes that's why a lot of people tend to like,
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when it comes to action, they stop because they think that you have to accomplish
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something like right away. You don't. Just little steps.
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Start at 1%. Take 1% of something and put 1% of this.
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Then one becomes two, two becomes three, and then so on and so forth.
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Small steps. And you're going to see, once you start doing this constantly.
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Empowerment yes another thing too here folks i hope that you're enjoying this
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once again hit the like button it means a lot it it kind of i always tell people if you're listening,
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it doesn't hurt to hit the like button i don't know where you're listening to
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but gonna get on your laptop wherever you listen to hit the like as it helps
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the algorithm because we want people like deconstructing we want deconstructing
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to be all over the place We'll see you next time.
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And that is why we need to build habits and routine. One of the habits that
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I want people to build is hitting that light bulb.
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Common and sharing. Hey, listen, sharing is caring.
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But when we'll change habits in life, habits, habits, habits.
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We are creatures of habits. And we got to create habits. Good ones, good ones.
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You know, I know people, you know, and I kind of have tried to master this,
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and I'm pretty sure I will.
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That there's a lot of people that they rely on motivation. They want to wake
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up and say, oh, man, I need some music.
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I need something inspiring. I need something this. And sometimes I would say, it's this.
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The other day, something happened. And I said to myself, sometimes we don't
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need to necessarily get a wake-up call in order to wake up.
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Whether something that happened drastically, you
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know we don't have to wait wake up to that just
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start time a morning planning start time start a
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routine daily exercise read time learn more listen you're listening to my podcast
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by you subscribing and sharing it you're gonna learn a lot more and once you
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become consistent you build that habit it's gonna become routine trust me because
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why is it that we have habits we are humans.
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But why is it we so come to the bad habits and not the good ones?
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Complacency, right? We think that good habits hurt.
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We think that good habits cost money. We think that good habits are going to,
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I don't know, change their life to go against what you are. No,
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no, no. Good habits, build habits.
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I'm going to say good habits because if you're not, if you're listening to this
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and you're not necessarily happy, or you think that you want to make changes
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and you're listening to of this podcast, this episode.
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Those habits, those routines. Let's make it happen. I know we can.
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Okay. I apologize here for a little silence.
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One of the things is that track progress regularly.
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And people are going to be like, huh.
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Just saying. Okay. I still want to help you. But track progress because you
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can't improve if you don't know what exactly you track.
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I mean, if you're going to the gym, or even if you're not going to the gym,
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because again, I go back to habits and routine.
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Because for some reason, oh, you know, you know, the gym and course and this and that.
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Trust me, people, a lot of people out there are going to listen to this episode.
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They do tend to have a little extra time that they don't know what to do.
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They'd probably rather get a little bit drunk. They probably want to go shopping
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and splurge and do some crazy stuff and not be happy.
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So track your progress, whether it's your exercising, whether you're learning
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something, whether the other day at work we had a meeting and somebody,
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there was a word that came up.
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For some reason, I'm trying to remember the word. I think it was omen.
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There were a couple of people that didn't, how can I say it to you?
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They didn't know the word omen, O-M-E-N, but we're here.
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And that's one of those things that if people are really interested in learning,
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grab a word that you learned today.
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Grab something, track your progress.
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If my vocabulary has 5,000 words, by next week I want to learn a couple so that I have 5,000 and two.
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I'm just saying, what is it that you're working? What's working? What's not?
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You know, are you moving forward? How do you feel? Sometimes you got to ask yourself how you feel.
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You always got to keep yourself aware and be accountable for what you do because
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track your progress, I'm telling you.
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And once you track your progress, you're going to be doing good and you're going to be excellent.
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As I'm moving here and keep in mind is this, I'm looking at you,
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but I got like a little screen here.
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I got to kind of scroll into making sure that, you know, everything is working.
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And that's how I track my progress there.
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I'm over here, you know, moving in certain parts. But once again,
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I'm trying to be accountable and keep yourself aware.
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And that's why I'm always kind of wondering. You're like, wait,
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it's looking around because I'm aware and I'm tracking everything.
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But I'm just saying sometimes in life when we do have plans,
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keep in mind, just track your progress. If you feel like something is not working,
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just make it a little adjustment and improve here.
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That's the kick is, look, you're always going to hear this. Life isn't perfect.
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And your plan doesn't. You know what I mean? Nobody's saying that this is to
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all be just like me when I'm about to hit the reset button in June.
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I'm not chasing perfection. I'm not trying to be perfect.
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Is the pursuit of perfection drives me? Absolutely. Do I want to be perfect?
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No. Is my plan going to be perfect?
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Absolutely not. Because, you know, you got the bad habits, the routine.
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You got life. You got all this.
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And one of the things that I always want to say is this, is that if you don't
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know, just change your approach and you'll be like, hey, listen,
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let me try something different.
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Let me do something different. Be flexible.
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Be as flexible as you can. Sometimes we got those, hey, I'm going to do three.
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I work, I go to the gym four days a week.
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Can I do five? Absolutely. Can I do three? Absolutely.
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Am I going to be happy? Absolutely. Am I going to be doing two?
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Absolutely. Am I going to be happy? Yes.
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Because I adjust that because sometimes, hey, listen, in the spring I got,
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you know, congested and I got sick.
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And then you go back to the gym on your routine or whatever it is,
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and then guess what? I didn't feel a certain way. I'm like, okay.
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So sometimes you got to be flexible. One of the things that when in the world
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of progress, like we know that it's not a line.
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We know that process is just a learning and adapting and making those little
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adjustments because one thing I've noticed with people that they deviate from
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their goals and their vision and all that is that when something happens unexpectedly,
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they think, oh, man, that's life. It is life.
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Like I always tell people, 9 out of 10 things in life, it's going to be bad.
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It's that one thing that you do good that's going to kind of topple and make
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you feel that you're doing something incredibly good.
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So that's what's going on with that situation. and once that you feel like achieve and reflect.
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Accomplish something in this, how can I say, mission that we in?
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I say we, because it is me, the Deconstructing Topic Podcast legend.
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And it is you, the audience that's listening, my family, that's taking time to listen.
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Is that when you do, let's say, a weekly thing, take time to reflect And you'd
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be like, what did I achieve?
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Because I always have saddest this. And one of my sisters in a podcast,
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Partner in Crime, if you will, shout out to Nisi on Filter Show,
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that we had an episode about New Year's.
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And she always said that New Year's resolution is one of the most overrated,
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and I believe so. And I'm with her. And why?
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Because we spend so much time thinking what we didn't do instead of thinking what we achieved.
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Again, nine out of 10 times in life, it's gonna throw you off,
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but it's just that one thing. What did you achieve?
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Reflect on it. Perhaps, you know, we could celebrate. You know what?
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It's like me. I'll give an example.
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Oh, next week, I'll probably go to the gym four or five days,
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work on some new routine, whatever. You know what I might celebrate?
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Not by having three beers. Not by having two beers. I'm just gonna have one
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because now I'm eliminating that. I'm celebrating my win.
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Yeah, let's go. Woo. But I'm just saying, I don't need to buy a beer.
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But you get what I'm saying.
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And sometimes we could, it doesn't mean that we're going to stop doing what
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we're doing. We could celebrate something. We could do something.
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Just do something. And always have to take that time to reflect.
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And you'll be like, once you reflect, you'll be like, okay.
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Ask yourself this question, what did I learn? That is one thing.
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And I work, and I still do this.
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Sometimes, you know, when I'm talking to one of my colleagues or anybody in life,
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but when I'm talking to one of my colleagues, whether it's something outside
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of work or in work, you know, because I'm always, my mind is always,
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my juices is always flowing.
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Whether you're younger than me,
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my age or older than me, I always said to people, you're learning a lot.
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You're learning a lot. And don't forget this. What did you learn? Right?
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What did you learn? That's the question that a lot of people tend not to ask.
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Because as I'm helping you here, set up a little gold mine of a plan here.
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Regardless of whatever, you catch yourself a lot of times doing the same thing
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is because you don't ask yourself, What did I learn,
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Every aspect of your life It's a learning curve Whether it's your learn Whether
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you didn't learn Whether whatever came out of it You just gotta reflect And
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just turn them into Something positive,
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You're smarter If you made a mistake before And you said I gotta learn from
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this Then you know what It's not that I gotta learn from this I already learned
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something So turn that into a wisdom.
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Once again, here's my thing. Keep this in mind. It's your vision,
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your values, your goals, your actions, your habits, track, adjust, reflect.
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Keep in mind, it's like a cycle. Keep those things in mind.
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Vision, values, goals, action, habits, track, adjust, reflect,
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make it happen. It's a cycle.
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That's another thing, too. I tell people, David, I move my hands a lot because I'm very animated.
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I'm very passionate about helping you and helping myself. because together we can.
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And if it's something that you want to talk about, if you perhaps want to make
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an adjustment into that plan, by all means.
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But let's go stronger. Let's go clear. Let's go more intentional about things.
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And just remember, life, life is safe.
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Listen, I want to say that life is short. It doesn't happen by accident.
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I've been there, done that.
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Survive a car accident. Survive this, survive that. because it's something in
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life that not once you understand that you hear your life, design it. It's up to you.
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It's something that you have to design. So once again, it's your boy,
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the Deconstructing Topic Podcast, the legendary that's listening, talking here.
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Vision, values, goals, action, habits, track, adjust, reflect.
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It's all in the screen. Let's go. I'm sorry.
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Vision, values. There you go. Goals, action.
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Habits, track, adjust, achieve, and reflect. We all here.
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If you need a copy of this, let me know, hit me up, email me my information.
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It's all will be in the description.
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Once again, I'm glad that I did not get a big screen. Maybe I should get a big screen.
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So I like that. I won't have to be looking at the screen because I am networking
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at the same time, but you know what?
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We definitely make it happen. My attention is all to you because I love you all.
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Once again, thanks for listening and I'll see you in the next episode.
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It's your boy, Deconstruct the Top Podcast. Let's make it happen. I'm out. Peace.