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How to Command Respect: Boundaries, Self-Worth, and Being Treated Right · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Respect can be one of the most important aspects of
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  Speaker 1: a relationship, whether it's respecting yourself or others. As defined
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  Speaker 1: by Oxford Languages, respect is defined as due regard for
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  Speaker 1: the feelings, wishes, rights or traditions of others. If you
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  Speaker 1: often feel like you're being used, taken advantage of, ignored
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  Speaker 1: or taken less seriously, you may feel like you're not
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  Speaker 1: getting any respect these days. Want to know how to
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  Speaker 1: command respect like others do? If so, keep watching for
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  Speaker 1: six psychologically proven ways to get more respect. Look him
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  Speaker 1: dead in the eye. Do you look everywhere but into
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  Speaker 1: the eyes of the person you're talking to? Holding someone's
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  Speaker 1: gaze is a key way to convey mutual respect. According
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  Speaker 1: to psychologist Dr. Erin Etoff, looking someone in the eye
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  Speaker 1: shows them that you think they are important. In addition,
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  Speaker 1: researchers at the University of British Columbia found that eye
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  Speaker 1: contact can make you more resistant to tactics of persuasion
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  Speaker 1: and influence. This means that you're more likely to stand
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  Speaker 1: your own ground rather than fall under the influence of others.
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  Speaker 1: The next time you talk with somebody, try to give
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  Speaker 1: them some eye contact as they speak. You might feel
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  Speaker 1: an increased sense of closeness that will command yourself some respect.
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  Speaker 1: Perfection Objection To command respect, you might think that you
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  Speaker 1: need to hide any of your weaknesses or flaws as
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  Speaker 1: much as possible and put on a facade. After all,
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  Speaker 1: what else can make you seem less worthy of respect
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  Speaker 1: and praise than making a mistake? But the reality is
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  Speaker 1: often quite the opposite. In 1966, Harvard psychologist Elliot Aronson
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  Speaker 1: discovered the pratfall effect. This type of bias showed that
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  Speaker 1: the people considered superior by others tended to be more
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  Speaker 1: likable or attractive when showing weakness. In one of Aronson's experiments,
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  Speaker 1: this weakness took the form of an everyday blunder, such
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  Speaker 1: as spilling coffee over oneself. This Small mistake humanized people
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  Speaker 1: who seemed to be superior, like managers, teachers, or parents,
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  Speaker 1: and thus made them more likeable. Let's be honest, who
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  Speaker 1: doesn't love a good blooper reel at the end of
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  Speaker 1: a show or movie? It's kind of nice to know
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  Speaker 1: perfect people mess up too, right? Dress to impress. Let's
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  Speaker 1: say you're on a first date with somebody at a
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  Speaker 1: nice restaurant. Your date comes in and they're wearing a t-shirt, jeans,
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  Speaker 1: and aren't bathed. Does this seem like a good first
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  Speaker 1: impression to you? What would you think of your dates
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  Speaker 1: if they came groomed, well-dressed, bathed, and put together instead?
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  Speaker 1: Probably seems a lot more likable, right? These are first impressions.
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  Speaker 1: They are almost always the first indicator of whether you'll
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  Speaker 1: like or be liked by someone. While natural looks are
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  Speaker 1: out of your control, the way you dress isn't. How
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  Speaker 1: you dress can give you the opportunity to change others'
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  Speaker 1: impressions of you. Clothes can also be a way to
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  Speaker 1: boost confidence and a manner of self-expression that can help
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  Speaker 1: you command respect. According to researcher Kim Johnson of the
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  Speaker 1: University of Minnesota, our behavior in respect to other people
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  Speaker 1: is influenced by the person's dress and the meaning we
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  Speaker 1: associate with that dress. While most make the mistake of
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  Speaker 1: dressing to blend in with others to avoid being judged,
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  Speaker 1: try dressing in a way that makes you stand out
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  Speaker 1: with your personal charm. This may include choosing a unique style,
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  Speaker 1: wearing clothes that accentuate the beauty of your body type,
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  Speaker 1: and dressing in a way that makes you feel more self-confident. So,
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  Speaker 1: if you want to command more respect, try dressing in
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  Speaker 1: a way that you think would do so. But don't
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  Speaker 1: forget to still be you. Respond, don't react. Have you
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  Speaker 1: ever seen a news headline and got immediately angry? Everyone
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  Speaker 1: has had a strong feeling before. However, this can be
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  Speaker 1: something that causes people to not respect you. According to
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  Speaker 1: Mayo Clinic, those who can maintain personal composure during times
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  Speaker 1: of stress or excitement are able to be more assertive
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  Speaker 1: and often more respected and likable. Being assertive can help
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  Speaker 1: boost self-esteem and earn the respect of others. Asserting yourself
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  Speaker 1: means upping your confidence and standing your ground without being
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  Speaker 1: too aggressive or emotional. Overwhelming feelings can obstruct conflict resolution.
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  Speaker 1: Showing others that you're able to be firm and confident
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  Speaker 1: while being calm can garner respect. If you're too aggressive,
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  Speaker 1: you might seem like a bully that ignores the needs
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  Speaker 1: of others and is self-righteous. You don't want to be
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  Speaker 1: someone explosive, like Bakugo from My Hero Academia, which can
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  Speaker 1: get in the way of problem solving. But you also
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  Speaker 1: don't want to be too passive and allow others to
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  Speaker 1: walk all over you. Smile and nod. Do you know
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  Speaker 1: someone who talks on and on and on? When you
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  Speaker 1: finally get the chance to speak, do they interrupt you
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  Speaker 1: to talk about themselves? Or ignore what you say and
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  Speaker 1: divert the topic back to them? Would you respect someone
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  Speaker 1: who doesn't give you respect? Probably not. To create mutual respect,
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  Speaker 1: the thoughts and opinions of everybody should be acknowledged. In
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  Speaker 1: many circumstances, people often do not concentrate on what is
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  Speaker 1: being said. They just listen just to listen. According to
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  Speaker 1: the professor of cross-cultural management in the University of Berlin, Dr.
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  Speaker 1: Marie-Therese Claes, keeping an open mind and listening deeply is
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  Speaker 1: a sign of respect. Doing so can make others feel
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  Speaker 1: that they and their beliefs are valued and well thought of,
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  Speaker 1: which can cause them to reciprocate the respect and attention.
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  Speaker 1: You can show you're an active listener by paraphrasing and
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  Speaker 1: validating their words or asking relevant questions, which will make
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  Speaker 1: them feel heard and understood. Remember that commanding respect always
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  Speaker 1: involves giving respect to others too. Sometimes you'll meet some
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  Speaker 1: people who simply are unwilling to reciprocate respect, no matter
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  Speaker 1: the circumstance. We cannot change others or their actions. In
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  Speaker 1: those cases, it might be best to limit how much
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  Speaker 1: you're with these types of people. Remember, respect should always
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  Speaker 1: be a mutual thing between two people. Your mental health
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  Speaker 1: should be a priority. You are worthy of respect. We
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  Speaker 1: hope you can use some of these tricks to help
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  Speaker 1: you command respect in your life. As always, please subscribe
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