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Your Role Is Costing You Money - EP021 · Freedom Flip

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Who's the most important person for you to show love to?
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Myself, 100%.
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Why?
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If I am not in the right place,
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I am a detriment to the whole family system.
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So I need to be great.
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I need to be doing amazing.
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Therefore, I need to take care of myself.
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The next one is my wife
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because we are the support system of the whole family.
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And also, it's a great example for the kids
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to understand that they are not priority number one.
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You are somehow going into the operations.
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You need to be radical.
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You think that you are flirting with all these ideas
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and you need to get married with one idea.
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I think that you are flirting with operation.
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You're coming up with the idea.
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You have the knowledge.
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You can see what you want to achieve,
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but then you're faced with,
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oh, okay, I need to start spending.
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Because you get so excited,
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you are happy to go and waste your energy
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on the operation side.
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I need to remove this dirty shit operator hat
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that I don't know why I have it.
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I want to be able to have an operator
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where I can just call and say,
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hey, listen, I'm thinking about this idea.
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I want to be able to have a person that says,
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okay, cool, leave it with me.
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I only need to focus on creating the vision,
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pressing the accelerator and protecting the vision.
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It's beautiful, man.
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It's a limiting belief, right?
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The other limiting belief is
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I can't find an amazing operator, partner, person
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who can fill that role.
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The biggest limiting belief is believing
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that I can do fuck all in a great way
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when it comes to operations.
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And when I say fuck all,
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what I mean is without me getting burned in the middle.
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Are you trying to attract like 60 plus year old single ladies?
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What's going on here?
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What is this porn star thing, Peter?
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Jesus.
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American style.
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That's it.
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You know, now we...
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How do you say?
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Now we are in the restricted...
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Content.
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Content.
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Not safe for work.
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Don't let your kids watch.
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Exactly.
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We're here.
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We're live, baby.
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It looks like you did something in your face.
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Did you do like...
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What did you do?
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Did you like Botox or did you paint your eyes?
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What happened?
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Haircut.
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It's just a haircut.
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I'm in Florida.
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That's why I got the Speedo.
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Maybe a little extra vitamin D.
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So what's here?
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What's the update?
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What's cooking?
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It's my Speedo.
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That was my surprise.
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Oh, that's the update?
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Is that the best thing that you have to offer to this show?
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I wanted to show you a true patriot.
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My sister's here with her two little kids.
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She flew by herself with them and came down.
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And my wife's like, why are you wearing a Speedo in front of your sister?
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I was like, I gotta wear a Speedo all the time.
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I'm not different for different people.
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Just me.
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So what's cooking?
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I tried the Apple Watch.
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I'm like, my hope was I would be less distracted.
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I think I'm more distracted.
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No notifications.
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Oh, nothing.
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Okay.
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All of them are off.
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So what are you doing?
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What are you tracking for?
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I used it so when I kiteboard, it tells me how high I go.
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But then I realized it takes away the fun.
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because now I'm out there when I'm kiteboarding, it can be 30 minutes.
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It can be two hours.
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I have
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no idea how long because you're in flow.
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But when you have this, you know, the time you also know
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when you jump.
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I mean, I'm still not good.
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So it's like, I think I'm like 20 feet in the air.
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I'm like 10 or five.
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So I go up and I'm like five seconds.
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And now it's, you know, I'm checking the
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watch, right?
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I turn it over and I'm looking down and I was like, whoa, it's not as much fun.
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Like it's not, I got it.
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It was my Christmas present.
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And I thought I'll give it two weeks.
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I'll try it out.
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And it's like, it takes away the pure,
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I'm reading this book, The Comfort Crisis.
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And it's like, we're supposed to be out of nature,
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disconnected.
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As little as 20 minutes, three times a week
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has huge changes on our stress level,
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our cortisol level, our everything.
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But this takes away me from nature.
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If you bring a device with you in nature, it doesn't count.
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It negates all the beautiful impact.
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So you're gonna return it basically.
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Yeah, two weeks.
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And the only thing was for kiteboarding
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to see how high you jump.
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I wanna start free diving as well,
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where you go down like deep in the ocean and try and spear fish and stuff or just be with the fish.
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It can also measure how far down you go and how long you're down.
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Those were the two reasons.
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And the third reason was maybe I'll be on my phone less because this will be set up as a phone,
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everything.
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But I answer the phone more.
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I'm answering calls.
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I'm answering.
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And there's
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pure utility, no question.
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But the trade-off is I don't want to be on it.
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I don't find anything
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Being positive about having a phone on your wrist vibrating or ringing all the time makes no sense to me.
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Some have argued to me, look, I only allow it to be like my wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, siblings, and one important person.
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No one else can get through.
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So it's more of an, you can do either way.
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If you buy your own cellular connection, which I was going to do for this one, it is its own cell phone.
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Oh, that's cool.
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It is cool.
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And my mom actually loves it.
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I'm so proud of her in her 70s being like, yeah, I love it.
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I use it and she's always like, can you hear me?
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I'm on that watch.
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Like she barely knows how to use FaceTime.
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We still just see her forehead, right?
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Hey, can you, are you there?
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And it's just pure forehead.
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But her getting the Apple Watch, I was like, wow, that's really great.
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And she's obsessed with it.
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But I think the baby boomers get pulled into like sometimes the wrong stuff.
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And that might be an example.
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All this is just so much up for disruption.
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All these bricks, they have to go.
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Gone.
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Horrible form factor.
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Can someone come up with like some f***ing...
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Elon, Elon, come on, Elon.
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You know, he keeps flirting with it.
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People are like...
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That's not true.
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Those are fake videos on the internet.
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No, no, no.
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He responds just with a tweet.
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He'll say, I could easily do a phone, but it's not a priority.
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Yeah.
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That's what I mean by flirting.
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He can easily do anything, but nothing is a priority except for going to Mars, basically.
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Dude, I think about this all the time.
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I read a quote.
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I don't remember who it was.
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It said, all technology is temporary.
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Mind explode, right?
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Very true.
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And so when I think about that with a phone, it changed everything, right?
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Because it means we're always changing.
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Things are always changing.
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Technology is always improving.
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Think of the phone.
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The phone, I've told you this.
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I haven't seen anyone say this publicly yet.
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I just have this clear vision.
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Phone won't exist.
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It's all going to be your humanoid robot buddy, right?
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Pablo is my humanoid robot.
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Hey, Pablo, I want you to call blah, blah, blah and tell him this, right?
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And then the buddies suddenly on their face, you can see your friend's face and you talk
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to them like they're right there and you have a conversation.
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Okay, the face, maybe not, but for sure you just do the phone call.
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And your body's the robot.
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Nah.
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No, no, no.
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The robot is the cell phone.
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Oh, the robot is the cell phone.
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Yeah, the robot is the cell phone.
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That would mean that you will want to go with the robot absolutely everywhere.
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So now all of a sudden you go to doctor's appointment and the robot needs to be there with you.
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No, I think that is much...
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I disagree.
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We don't have the physical capacity to double population.
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It will happen.
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It's going to be more than double.
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I'll have two or three robots.
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Shut up.
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That's because you're a rich person.
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No.
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You're like rubbing in front of everyone's face.
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20 grand.
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Let me talk.
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Shut up.
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We don't have the physical space.
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Let's just say that we are saying we're
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going to the doctor.
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We go to the hospital.
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And now you're saying everyone has another person.
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So now it's so crowded, nobody fits.
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That's what I mean.
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In those spaces.
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So you are basically
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changing this, which is already too big for a massive humanoid robot.
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It makes no sense whatsoever.
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Now, I agree with you that you're going to have two, you're going to have three in your compound.
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You have 20 people working the fields, humongous amount of acres that you own all across the USA.
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You and Bill Gates are owning all farmland in the USA with your army of robots.
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People are going to be really sad when they try and rob me and they're like,
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why don't you have more money and stuff?
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Pablo said you.
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It's a good point.
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It's a really good challenge to say to space.
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You joke about this, right?
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And
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good feedback on, I love having this intern for like nine month periods.
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I'll have these interns.
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And it's kind of like that for me.
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Like they're amazing, but having in the political world,
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they call it, there's a term for it, but it's called like a body man.
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And basically you always
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have someone with you.
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That's one step ahead.
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So I know the guy that was a body man for a
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former presidential candidate, close friends with him.
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He went and got him coffee.
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He showed up his
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house before those days started.
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He drove him all of that.
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This guy, no one contacted.
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They all went
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through him.
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Yeah.
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And he was the physical standing next to him.
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And that's standard in the political
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world because they recognize you don't know what's coming.
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It's chaotic.
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They want that person to be
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in the zone and focused.
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And this other part will handle all of that.
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Yeah.
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But that is a different
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kind of, I don't think that everyone is going to be, is going to become that.
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I think that you and your compounds just made you lose touch.
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Okay.
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Anyhow, I think that this should not be like this.
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I think it should be like a little square or something way simpler.
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And maybe, maybe it is with something that allows to have a projected screen.
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But here's the other point.
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Maybe it's just you and I and a couple of people that are like very, very cautious of how addictive this is.
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But maybe 99% of the population wants this thing.
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It's like you don't drink alcohol, I don't drink alcohol.
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But guess what?
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The alcohol industry is, I don't know the size, but it's like a massive size since forever.
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It's deep, man.
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I have deep thoughts on this.
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So a couple of things.
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One, alcohol is the lowest number of people drinking it than ever on record since they started tracking in the 1940s.
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I hear you.
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It's still a trillion dollar company, industry, whatever.
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And you're right on the awakening.
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Second, in this book, The Comfort Crisis, it talks about a former employee of Apple, a senior executive, is on record stating, I believe the devil and all evil resides in the cell phones.
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It's like, and she and Bill Gates do not allow their kids to touch tablets, iPhones, technology,
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right?
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So it's, there's clear there, there are, you're right.
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How small the group is you, me and this intentional group, I think.
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But I think with data tracking information, people awaken.
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I love what you're saying.
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I think most people don't give a .
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Seriously.
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I think most people just don't give a whatsoever.
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They have other more important things to do and they are totally cool.
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Keep posting their pictures in Instagram.
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them traveling the world or them whatever, doing whatever they do.
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I think that that's
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way more important than what you think that Facebook does with the information or whatever
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Monsanto puts in the seeds.
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Yeah.
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It's deep, man.
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Yeah.
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You just watch too much Joe Rogan, too much conspiracy.
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It's funny.
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I've never watched every other
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clips I get I like, but I think I've only watched one or two episodes all the way through
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Joe.
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Really?
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Yeah.
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You don't like it?
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I think when I get really excited about somebody interviews, I just go to them talking just
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like straight them.
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I don't really have a good answer.
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How many of you watch?
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I watch several.
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Yeah, several.
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But it's all connected with who is he interviewing?
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So I watched all the episodes that he interviewed Elon.
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I watched the one with Trump.
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I watched right now is coming to me the Patrick B. David.
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I think he did two with Joe.
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I watched the Elon ones, of course.
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Those episodes I find very interesting, but I don't really watch to be like, oh, who is
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this person?
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curious to see who is this person like i met an amazing italian woman yesterday who left italy
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40 years ago has an amazing non-profit jew shop that was super inspiring it was funny talking to
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her because unique perspectives when she started talking i thought we were the opposite and then
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so i said i'll only ask questions the liberal woman that he that he wanted to bring into the
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podcast no no i don't i don't know who that is but no i just met this woman yesterday she's like 75
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years old.
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And it was weird.
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It was weird because her name is the middle name of my mom and my wife
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and my name is the name of her husband.
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So we just kept finding these weird things.
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So I thought we
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were complete opposite.
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And we ended up coming with, I only asked questions.
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She talked the
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whole time.
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And we came to a place where like, I agreed with her, which was fascinating.
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But that's a story or what is it?
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It's a topic, I think, of the idea that we jump to conclusions and assumptions so fast.
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And what
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can we achieve?
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Maybe you're right.
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Maybe it's more of a story that doesn't.
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It's this fascinating
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thing to me.
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My first assumption is to be like, wrong.
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I'm right.
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You're wrong.
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And I'm like,
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ready to tell you why.
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And I just checked that.
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And what can happen when we as humans check that
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impulse, right?
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And this is just, this is one example of that.
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Not to say I'm the only one
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doing it.
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Look, I struggle with it every day.
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I think it's a human nature thing, right?
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And she
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even gave the example.
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She goes, when we point at someone else and say horrible things, you know,
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racist, whatever, it actually comes back at us, right?
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A flip.
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And she said that on her own.
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So she's one.
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Second is having a bad week of sleep and then feeling uncomfortable about certain
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things and being able to tap into what it was and not communicating well with you and my wife
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and just kind of realizing what happens when we, you know, when there's things we can still work
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on and how those arise.
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So I've been having these calls with some amazing business owners,
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and one of them about the original idea.
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In this kind of fact-finding search process,
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I keep getting asked about families, about, man, can you help me with blah, blah, blah,
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my kids, my wife, my whatever.
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It's like a God universe thing of being like, hey, idiot,
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because there's only two things I'm really fast.
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I'm inspired by one.
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It's supporting the creators and makers, right?
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That's the goal right now.
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Like that's just something that fires me up.
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There's only two ways I think I can really do that.
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One is by improving their, their family life,
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their business of being a family, their whatever.
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The other is creating a more, you know,
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your idea of this infinite structure so they can create.
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Those two paths are the ones that are interesting.
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I went skiing with a buddy on Wednesday with all of our kids.
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And when we were doing it,
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we had the most productive brainstorming session.
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He said to me, why don't you combine them?
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Yeah, and I thought that was kind of cool.
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But since then, man, I've just gone deeper and deeper on why are the kids all messed up?
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You always say this.
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Because the school system is teaching them, not the parents.
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For sure.
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But do you feel the parents are much better in most cases?
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No, they're terrible.
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Exactly.
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Because what playbook are they using?
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Whose playbook?
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They're using the playbook that they learn in school, that their parents learn in school,
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that their grandparents learn in school.
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And yes, things got a little bit better between there's not too much slapping right now and too much cold showers and too much kind of thing.
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But it's still very similar in terms of like, I am the authority and you're an idiot and you will obey me.
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Yeah.
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Which is the school system way.
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It was rolling with like, if I truly didn't care about money, like if I could just, let's think about the kids, right?
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If my kids were on the playground, I'd say, you don't have to worry about falling.
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Just go for it.
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I'm wrestling with this.
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Like, what is it?
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What is the thing that I get most excited about and impact offering the world?
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And it might be this kind of parenting playbook, right?
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How does that look like?
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So first, the parenting playbook, because using your parents one isn't working, right?
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It's like, that's the tagline or something like that.
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But you get the message, right?
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Or it could be a question, because did your parents playbook work?
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Or like, why are you using your parents?
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I would maybe put it more into like, is it your current one working?
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Wow.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Rather than taking it to the parents.
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Like it's like, this is about the current situation.
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Then you can talk about that later.
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Okay.
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So parenting playbook.
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And the other one that I had, the other name I liked was parenting operating system.
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Because you think your spouse is the, is the POS.
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And have you heard this before?
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Piece of shit stands for.
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Or like, because your current playbook is a POS.
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Either name, whatever.
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Parent operating system or parent playbook.
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How does it operate?
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Step one, and I have like pages and pages and pages of notes.
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It's a couple of key themes.
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Like you do an energy audit.
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So you go through your entire week and you audit how you feel before and after these
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things.
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Cooking a meal, doing laundry, you know, packing their bags, blah, blah, blah, everything.
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Managing the broken thing in the house, calling the electrician, all of this stuff.
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You energy audit.
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Because regardless, you could be making $20,000, $30,000.
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You could be at minimum wage and you may be married or have a boyfriend or girlfriend
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and you never communicated, hey, this thing I hate doing.
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And the other person's like, oh, it's kind of fun for me.
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So first you do an energy audit.
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Then you do a fear finder.
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What's a fear finder?
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You go to your biggest fear, right?
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So you uncover.
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For a lot of them, it's like the mom saying,
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I lose my kid, they die.
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So we help uncover these fears so we can talk about them.
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Or another example, for someone who can afford a babysitter,
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they're like, I don't want a babysitter.
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This is the number one thing I hear from moms
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because it's a deep fear that finally they unleash,
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which is if the kid gets hurt, I don't want them to go to the babysitter and not me.
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Like that
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would break them.
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That's the equivalent of dying for not all, but many of these moms I've met and
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talked to.
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Okay.
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So you've got energy audit.
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You've got fear finder.
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There's a third one that
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I have, but you go through those.
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There'd be a love language quiz, right?
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How do your kid and
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your partner receive love, right?
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Hey, who's the most important person to show love to, to a mom
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or dad?
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What would your answer be, Pablo?
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You're married.
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You've got two kids.
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Who's the most
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important person for you to show love to, to make sure they're feeling loved?
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I'm going to
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understanding the question.
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Okay.
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Your family is six.
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It's six.
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Yeah.
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Six.
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You have six kids
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or four kids, four kids, six kids.
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You got six kids and four kids, four kids.
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Okay.
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Four kids,
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two parents.
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Yes.
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There's six.
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Yes.
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Who is the most important of the six for you to show love to?
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Myself.
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A hundred percent.
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Totally agree.
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Okay.
17:29
Number two, my wife, a hundred percent.
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Why?
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We are, I'm just going to start with myself, right?
17:34
And then I go to my wife.
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if I am not in the right place in the right with the right energy I am a detriment to the whole
17:45
family system to the to everyone in the family so I need to be great I need to be doing amazing
17:51
so I therefore I need to take care of myself and the things that I need for me to be taking care
17:57
of are different than whatever my wife needs and whatever the kids needs but I need to be
18:01
self-aware and I need to prioritize myself to be in a great place to then be able to do my job,
18:08
to do my role, provide and so on.
18:10
The next one is my wife, because we are the support system of the
18:15
whole family.
18:15
And also we are the creators of the family, or at least the vehicles where the rest of
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the kids, the kids came.
18:23
So, and also it's a great example for the kids to understand that they are
18:30
not priority number one.
18:32
Priority number one is each parent on their own and then their relationship
18:37
with the parent.
18:38
And then they come.
18:41
What do you think?
18:42
It's beautiful.
18:42
The simple one-line
18:44
summary of what you just said, I would say is, if the parent's relationship breaks,
18:50
the child's entire world breaks.
18:52
That's it, right?
18:54
So if that one bond breaks,
18:58
each of the kids worlds was just shattered and just broke yeah it just goes back to the same
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thing but you're expanding it to now the relationship which is if i said if i am not
19:07
if i don't take care of myself and i am showing up in a terrible state then everything breaks
19:12
the same thing with our relationship step one is the relationship when you look in the mirror
19:16
with yourself then when you look directly into your wife and i think that a lot of relationships
19:21
that's not the case that there is i think that a lot of relationships is they never start with
19:26
themselves.
19:27
And then they never continue with the spouse, which is some of this job comes first.
19:31
Okay.
19:32
So let's come back to the parent playbook.
19:34
So the parent playbook, you're familiar with EOS,
19:37
beautiful system, way too formal for something like a family.
19:40
But what is the key thing?
19:42
If I
19:42
could pick one thing I want for every family to do, it's to stop thinking of just logistical,
19:47
who's going to pick up Tommy and who's going to pack the bag?
19:49
And did you buy the diapers?
19:51
And move away from that for 30 minutes a week.
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And this is the crux of the whole model.
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right?
19:57
Whether somebody does it on their own and self-implements or uses our system,
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a 30-minute meeting, that's it.
20:02
What do you do in the 30-minute meeting?
20:03
You talk about the
20:04
most important thing that is failing or struggling for the family, whatever it is, right?
20:10
But that is
20:10
the time to discuss it.
20:12
In EOS speak, it's the IDS, right?
20:14
Now, how would we facilitate this?
20:17
Let's think of from balling to balling on a budget.
20:19
Balling on a budget is you self-implement,
20:22
you do it yourself.
20:23
You just have some simple software that helps you maintain it.
20:25
Balling
20:26
on a budget is you use somebody like me, I'd be the highest one, right?
20:30
I come in, I help facilitate
20:31
it for 30 minutes in and out.
20:34
Middle of the row would be a local, oftentimes moms who have
20:37
implemented this, have the experience.
20:39
They would either come in person to your house and help you
20:42
do it, but only for three to six months.
20:45
The idea is we're in and we're out.
20:46
We're in to get you
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running.
20:48
So similar to EOS.
20:49
Very much, very much.
20:50
There's a lot I want to take away from EOS,
20:53
but then there's, I don't know, 10 to 20 books I've read on parenting that is a different
20:57
philosophy that needs to be put in as underlying.
21:00
Can I bash it?
21:01
Yeah, tear it apart.
21:02
So the first challenge that I have is when you speak about systems or operations,
21:09
because you're not an operator, but you have an incredible approach to parenting.
21:16
And I'm going to call it for now approach.
21:18
So when you're thinking about this,
21:22
just remove yourself, detach yourself for a second about all these little operational ideas
21:27
that you are 30 minute meeting or first you do this, second you do this.
21:31
What is the ultimate
21:32
goal that you want that people achieve by using this?
21:37
Coming back to the title, they are free
21:40
to be the best parent they could have ever imagined.
21:44
They flipped their parenting.
21:45
And
21:45
often cases they're doing the exact opposite of what they do to set themselves free.
21:49
But when you say set themselves free, that means that they are somehow prisoners.
21:53
I'll give you a perfect example.
21:55
The cooking.
21:56
My wife said, I love to cook.
21:57
I said, wonderful.
21:58
I'm going to bring in this woman from down the street.
22:00
We'll try it for one month or a couple months.
22:03
She'll cook once a week to meal prep for.
22:04
My wife said, no, no, no, I don't want someone else in here.
22:06
I don't.
22:07
I love to cook.
22:08
I said, okay, you can cook anytime you want, any day.
22:10
And how many times did she cook?
22:11
So she was a prisoner.
22:13
But what happened with people that cannot afford it?
22:15
Great example.
22:16
I think that this is why it scales up and down.
22:20
It may be one of the partners doesn't realize how much he or she likes to cook.
22:24
It may be they have an extra bonus room in their basement or a office room they never
22:29
use, and they rent that out to a person who now cooks for them.
22:32
We did that.
22:33
When I was concerned about spending, we had a girl live with us.
22:36
She lived for free, and she cooked meals for us.
22:38
And we traded some space, and she ended up being a wonderful influence.
22:41
She completely changed the way my wife thinks about food being medicine by eating naturally,
22:47
right?
22:48
And I think we don't use the full creativity without some of these frameworks and systems,
22:52
such as you can always say no, that the COO, in my relationship with my wife, I'm the CEO,
22:59
she's the COO.
23:00
She can fire anyone whenever she wants, but she can't prevent me from hiring them.
23:05
What a great idea.
23:06
I don't know where you got that idea.
23:07
No idea.
23:08
Wait, is this from you?
23:10
Did you give me that?
23:11
I mentioned this in one of the talks that I gave.
23:14
I thought you meant the firing and hiring.
23:15
There can only be one CEO.
23:19
Totally.
23:20
And one COO.
23:22
Think of the companies with co-CEO.
23:24
BlackBerry.
23:24
That didn't go for him.
23:25
Waymo.
23:26
It's going to go bankrupt.
23:28
It's such a red flag.
23:30
Timestamp it.
23:31
December 26, 2025 at 11.30 a.m. Eastern Time.
23:34
Do you have any other obvious thing?
23:36
Like Ford is going to go bankrupt?
23:37
I don't think I'm legally allowed to disclose any opinions on that, being a prior employee
23:42
and selling my company to them.
23:44
You cannot say anything about Ford?
23:45
No.
23:46
Do you see?
23:46
You're a bitch.
23:47
Yeah.
23:50
Wait, wait, just to be clear, I'm not lying.
23:52
I'm just deciding I don't want a lawsuit.
23:55
Because you cannot say anything.
23:57
I remember one time.
23:59
I agree that I won't disclose.
24:01
I had an opportunity to sell my business.
24:03
And I remember that I looked at the contract and the contract was something like,
24:07
you cannot say ever anything bad about us ever doesn't matter what we do and i was like what
24:14
i mean but if you f**k me over like yeah i want to be able to say what i want i think not no that's
24:22
no like okay it's so funny you say that because i started a business with a guy and basically he
24:28
stole from the company and his other partners now i was a board member everyone else that were
24:33
partners worked for the company.
24:34
So they're like, you know, again, they're scared of losing their
24:37
job.
24:38
I was a board member.
24:39
I own part of the company.
24:40
So I find out he's doing these dividends
24:41
to start this separate company that only he owned.
24:44
I freak out.
24:45
I'm like, what?
24:45
You have
24:46
fiduciary responsibility.
24:47
I'm just going to have to sue you.
24:48
I don't want to have to do this.
24:49
Only
24:49
the lawyers win.
24:50
He didn't believe he did anything wrong.
24:52
Ultimately, we settled because we have a
24:54
great mutual friend.
24:55
And I was like, you know what?
24:56
I'm already in a lawsuit on something.
24:58
You know, I have only been in one lawsuit on myself that I initiated.
25:02
So the guy I started
25:02
the business with that took all the money.
25:04
Again, he had me sign an agreement that said,
25:07
I can't speak about him negatively.
25:11
And you're so right, Pablo, that actually shows the intent
25:15
or the likely outcome that someone has an intention or plan to do something terrible.
25:21
And it's somewhat premeditated and they want to protect themselves.
25:26
Yeah, wild.
25:28
Okay, wait,
25:28
come back to tearing me apart, tear apart this idea.
25:31
Because you're tearing apart the execution
25:32
of me as an operator.
25:34
Yeah, I'm trying to understand
25:35
what you are trying to create.
25:36
By the way, how serious are you about this?
25:39
Between 60 and 70%.
25:42
Because I think that your struggle,
25:43
and this is my opinion,
25:45
and I'm not 100% sure, 99% sure,
25:47
but maybe the struggle is that you come up
25:50
with all the ideas and you struggle
25:53
to find the right vehicle for this to skyrocket.
25:57
You've been doing this thing where you go,
25:59
you audit, you help for free.
26:02
you do this because you're passionate about it, but then you never find the vehicle where you
26:07
say, okay, that's it.
26:09
This is how I'm going to package it and skyrocket.
26:11
Let's go.
26:12
Never is a strong word, right?
26:13
I, you know, I don't like absolutes.
26:15
I would agree with you.
26:16
You are right as a theme, but let's go back.
26:19
So I really liked the Tony Robbins name your year
26:21
thing.
26:22
And we have a good buddy that was telling me he goes to all the Tony Robbins events.
26:26
He
26:26
names his year.
26:27
Names this year.
26:28
What?
26:28
A phrase for the year, titling the year.
26:31
Okay.
26:31
For me
26:31
personally.
26:33
You did all this stuff.
26:34
You're going to know it.
26:34
So 2024 was finding power.
26:35
2025 was
26:39
focusing power.
26:40
And I'm trying to decide what 2026 is, but it's probably unleashing.
26:44
So 2024,
26:45
what you said is totally right.
26:47
Spot on with my life and my themes.
26:49
2025, there was a business
26:51
venture and the nonprofit, both of which I started finding the power, which was I can create as an
26:57
investor, the plan, the strategy.
26:59
And in both of those, the nonprofit and a for-profit, I had an
27:02
amazing operator that I partnered with that was executing.
27:07
Well, one I hired and one I partnered
27:11
with.
27:11
But yeah, you're right.
27:12
There's a theme of, and this comes back to us fearing ourselves or
27:16
not being willing to go into who we truly are.
27:18
We try and, I want to be an operator.
27:20
I want to be
27:20
the CEO of the business, or I want to be the one managing the team and doing calls.
27:24
No, I don't.
27:25
I'm not good at it and I shouldn't be doing it.
27:27
What am I good at?
27:28
Having a clear mind, seeing what no one else wants to say is the truth and double down
27:33
with that resource.
27:35
And usually I think this is where I think I am an investor.
27:38
It's I've seen it somewhere else in the world through travels, through talking, through
27:42
curiosity, through books.
27:43
And I'm able to apply that in a new way.
27:45
Like parenting.
27:46
Parenting.
27:47
I have 20 books, the EOS philosophy, these other things that I did myself.
27:52
I thought, oh, these are interesting.
27:53
Why don't I test it to create a system internally at my house that we operate by?
27:58
Oh, this works really well for us.
28:00
I don't really see other people operating in this way.
28:03
That's me.
28:03
I don't think I'm the creator of any of this.
28:06
I think I'm pulling together puzzle pieces or puzzle.
28:09
And kind of that's like, that's what I do generally.
28:12
Now, I think I used to have more of an ego and think, oh, I'm creating this stuff and
28:15
it all came in my mind or it's coming from me.
28:17
No, it's just me finding.
28:19
And in the best case, I download it at 3 a.m. and it's coming through me.
28:22
But usually it's just seeing it out in the wild and applying it to a different industry vertical situation.
28:28
So coming back to this.
28:29
So when you say about this business, first of all, do you see this as a business, right?
28:33
Yeah.
28:34
Okay.
28:34
And what role are you playing?
28:36
That's a good question.
28:36
I don't know.
28:37
The who would not, I would not be.
28:39
For how many people is this?
28:40
Today?
28:40
No, no.
28:40
For how many people do you see this?
28:43
What's the reach?
28:43
Oh, that's the reason.
28:44
That's the thing that actually gets me excited is the movement of, I think that I don't know of anything that exists at all.
28:50
So it could be any parent.
28:52
Okay.
28:52
So you're not answering.
28:53
There's at least 50 million families in the United States.
28:57
There's an easy reach.
28:58
Is that right?
28:58
Yeah.
28:59
About 100 million people.
29:00
What I think is I see this much more as you being the communicator from the top of the
29:08
funnel all the way down to private session with Peter, right?
29:13
So again, picture Tony Robbins as an example.
29:17
But this is just focus only on parenting and creating freedom for you as a parent, which creates happiness for everyone in the family, basically.
29:28
And I don't see, I mean, you may say that Tony provides systems, but not with the rigidity that I am hearing.
29:37
EOS is so rigid.
29:39
It's so rigid.
29:41
And to me here, what you are sharing is much more a mindset with some tools that you have invented, you copied, you took from somewhere and modified a little bit because every situation is different.
29:57
And I guess that this is what you're going to find out when you start going mass market on this.
30:02
So you can have from the way I see that you can go so many different routes because you can go from having a playbook course like our friend Anastasia put together.
30:13
And that is fantastic.
30:15
You can create an academy after that for people to be involved.
30:20
So there is some follow up.
30:22
You can eventually put events together.
30:24
You can have live streams.
30:27
You can have a school community where or you can have your own website where people pay whatever $10 a month or $20 a month or $100 a month or whatever.
30:40
You can have so much.
30:41
But I think that this comes back always to the same limiting factor, which is what role are you going to play?
30:49
And you'd say Tony is the communicator for his business.
30:52
Tony is the fire.
30:53
Tony is without Tony, that business doesn't really exist.
30:59
And maybe now after what, like 40 years or 50 years of him doing the same thing with different strategies, right?
31:08
Different courses or different events.
31:11
But it's basically the same thing.
31:13
Then maybe there is a chance that maybe and with AI, maybe there is a chance that this passes on and continues.
31:21
but I think that if you think about Date with Destiny,
31:26
which is, in my opinion, the best event that Tony has,
31:29
after Tony passes, hopefully in a very long time,
31:32
I don't think that people are going to be signing up for that event
31:35
unless there is literally a replica of Tony doing Tony.
31:42
Put me in, Dad.
31:43
Put me in, Dad.
31:44
Dad, it's time for you to recognize me as your illegitimate son.
31:48
So I think that it always comes back to the same thing.
31:52
This is my opinion, your limiting factor.
31:54
You don't have limitations of ideas, problems with ideas and knowledge and books and communication.
32:01
To me, your problem is always the same or your limitation is always the same, which is
32:05
what are you willing to give for this to be something?
32:09
This is great feedback.
32:10
The one thing that got me kind of fired up was, this is wild, but there's a
32:15
childhood friend, a guy I went kindergarten through college with.
32:18
And his older sister
32:19
has been a teacher.
32:20
I don't know her well, but she seems wonderful.
32:22
She quit her job to advise
32:25
families picking a school.
32:27
And I was like, that's the worst business idea I've ever heard.
32:29
Because
32:30
I know she's great intention.
32:31
She's worked at a bunch of different schools.
32:33
But your clients are
32:34
interested in you one time a year before school starts.
32:36
Or if you have a troubled kid that got
32:38
bullied.
32:39
It can be a good business.
32:40
I don't know why is it a bad business?
32:41
I'm going to check in
32:42
with her, my guess is it's really tough to find.
32:45
I think that it depends.
32:46
It all depends on how
32:47
passionate the person is and how great the person is at doing what they're doing.
32:51
And I really think
32:52
that, I mean, you are very passionate about doing this in your own family.
32:56
You are passionate about
32:58
speaking when we are in an event or in a meeting or the topic comes about, you're very passionate,
33:04
but are you passionate about putting the time to make a business out of this?
33:08
I think the reason less business and coming back to like, what would I do if I didn't worry about failing or money or anything?
33:15
It all starts with parenting.
33:17
You talk about kids in the school, right?
33:19
I look at it as school is like if the parent wakes up to how they might pick a different school.
33:24
If a parent wakes up to how they're parenting, they at least have weekends and morning and evenings, right?
33:31
Here's another rule that we'd have.
33:32
When a family's really struggling with mornings, the dad takes it over.
33:36
or the CEO, whether it's the mom or dad, whoever's CEO, like I'm going to solve this.
33:40
It's the
33:40
hardest part of the day is getting to school, getting organized, get everything.
33:43
Dad's in
33:43
charge.
33:44
CEO's in charge.
33:45
I'm going to do this and set up a system because I'm going to go into the
33:47
hardest point.
33:48
Is this a simple business or is a complex business?
33:51
Very much a complicated business.
33:53
Let me ask again.
33:53
Is this a simple business or a complex business?
33:56
I'd say complex because it's
33:57
much more, it's much more like the vision I have right now is you would have a local rep that's
34:02
been through some basic training?
34:04
That's not what I'm asking.
34:05
You can always create a very
34:06
complicated business out of an original simple idea and simple business.
34:13
So let me ask you in
34:13
a different way.
34:14
If you think about our friend and what he wants to do in the healthcare,
34:21
vertical and so on.
34:22
Is that a simple business or a complex business?
34:25
I assume complex.
34:26
I don't
34:26
know.
34:26
Well, I agree with you.
34:27
I agree with you.
34:28
Our friend Anastasia, her post-exit, post-wealth
34:31
of playbook.
34:32
And so is that a simple business or a complex business?
34:35
Right now, probably simple, but I think it will grow to be complex.
34:39
I don't think that's how it works.
34:41
No, you might be right.
34:45
It is simple or it's complex, period.
34:48
Simple.
34:49
Yeah, I agree with you.
34:50
Why yours is complex and hers is simple?
34:52
I don't expect to ever be teaching groups like her.
34:55
That doesn't give me energy.
34:56
No interest to that.
34:57
You are not answering my question.
34:59
I don't know.
34:59
It's a good question.
35:00
It's a good challenge.
35:01
I think that her program is dealing with one person getting in their own little heart.
35:06
The dynamics of a family system, mom, dad, kids, you know, running the house, all of those is, right?
35:13
I'm talking to people worth hundreds of millions of dollars that are going bankrupt in that family system and are crushing their business system.
35:19
So look at the emotions involved in getting your spouse, your CEO to be on board with something.
35:25
That's very complicated.
35:27
I think you are conflicting the word difficult.
35:31
with complexity.
35:32
These are two different things.
35:34
That something is difficult.
35:36
So let's say
35:37
kiteboard, right?
35:39
It's difficult.
35:40
It's complex too.
35:41
You got wind directions, you got wind speeds,
35:44
you got kite size, you got trim, you got board size.
35:47
Yeah, but you can say the same thing about
35:49
anything also.
35:50
The first thing that came right now, I think that is connected with the speed.
35:53
Complicated businesses take more time.
35:56
Take more time to evolve, take more time to...
35:58
to you have to simple business are much more because it's simple.
36:05
Doesn't really require much.
36:08
Anastasia said this, and I agree with her.
36:10
If it wasn't for me that pushed her to do the two events,
36:13
she would have never done it as fast as she did it because it's for her.
36:18
She's in a very tough position because her mission or the vehicle that right
36:22
now she's choosing for her mission is a simple business and she's a
36:27
complicator.
36:27
so this is why I am helping her I'm so glad to be helping her because like I see she gets stuck
36:32
I'm like no no what are you doing no no just just do this but but didn't you think that we should
36:37
do we should do like no zero no no you're good let's go do this just this and it's unbelievable
36:45
we have conversations and she just tends to over complicate but again this is because when I say
36:52
overcomplicate.
36:54
She just does herself, but it just doesn't really apply for a business or for
36:58
a project or for a mission or for whatever that is simple.
37:03
It's pretty straightforward.
37:05
And I guess my only question would be, I look at the models of EOS or strategic coaching
37:11
as two business models that are way more appealing to me than...
37:15
Because those are more complex for sure.
37:18
Yes.
37:18
Yeah, those are what I'm more interested in than something like Tony Robbins or Anastasia's path.
37:24
Okay, there you go.
37:26
So Tony, again, it's simple.
37:30
Maybe if I say it in a different way, it's pretty straightforward.
37:33
He's able to somehow, I mean, very complex things, but he brings them down in a very simple way.
37:40
Anastasia, the same thing.
37:42
Very simple way of communicating something that is so complex.
37:46
So she, greatest skill that she has, if you look at the first event that she put together,
37:52
too much noise that she was able to clean a lot.
37:55
I gave her a lot of feedback also, and I'm not taking credit, but she listened to a lot
38:01
of different feedback and she made a second event way cleaner, way more straightforward.
38:07
When you think about EOS, EOS is not very straightforward.
38:10
You need to train yourself.
38:13
To do the opposite of what you want.
38:14
Yeah.
38:14
Now I am also even thinking of going to the gym.
38:18
You need to train yourself.
38:20
Being able to get to the other side of the tunnel after post-exit, post-wealth or a death event, let's say, then it takes, it's very, very, very hard.
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And you need to keep working and you need to keep working out and working out and working out and working out and showing up all the time.
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When you talk about strategic coach, and again, I have not done that.
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So I'm speaking from what other friends told me.
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It's much more, it's a complicated type of business.
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So that is interesting.
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You are making the correct, in my opinion.
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You are not interested in the simplifier version.
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You like the complicated version.
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Simplifier is Peter has a magic sauce.
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He's going to show up to events or talk with you and simplify your life through his experience,
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right?
39:03
I wouldn't be good at that.
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I wouldn't enjoy that.
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I don't know.
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Because I think that's what you're doing.
39:08
I think that's what you see today because that's a simple view of where it is.
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What I see is I've done EOS.
39:14
I've read some of the books and watched a bunch of videos on the, whatever it's called, strategic coaching.
39:23
Those are, as an investor, those are what I'm imagining merging with the parenting strategies, approaches, books, knowledge that I've been able to do.
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Putting that knowledge into those systems.
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And I'm probably not communicating it clearly.
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That's the investor, what I'm seeing and envisioning.
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That's how I operate my family today.
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Like you come and you see chaos
39:43
because I haven't written it down
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and I haven't communicated or gotten it in a way
39:46
that you can understand.
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It's already what I'm doing.
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It's already what we do in our family.
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It's just, I haven't been able to communicate it,
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distill it, provide it.
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So it looks like magic.
39:55
It looks like Peter, you know, Tony Robbins, bastard son.
39:59
What is your next step?
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My next step is deciding whether or not
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this is a worthy thing, passion.
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mission to go try and put my life energy into for 2026.
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That's the real one.
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I have three or four
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things that are intriguing.
40:11
But literally, I got on a call with a guy who's an amazing business
40:13
that's perfect for this holding company.
40:15
The first guess how many calls we had before we even got to
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his business?
40:19
Three.
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Three calls.
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We did a full 30 minutes to 60 minutes just talking about his
40:25
family at his request, not mine.
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He was like, hey, I saw this video that I had done, you know,
40:31
where I talked, it's the only time I've ever talked an hour about this stuff.
40:33
And he's like,
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I can't stop thinking about it.
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I've already started trying to do some of it.
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Can I ask you
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questions?
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And we were literally first call went through, he's like, more questions.
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We didn't get
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to the business thing.
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And I'm trying to like live with life and flow with a little bit.
40:46
So
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second call is like, Hey, do you have more of the family things or do you want to dive into this?
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Yeah.
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If you don't mind the family things, boom, second call.
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Third one.
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Yeah.
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Third one,
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we get go through more family.
40:54
So when you, I'm just coming back to the question that you didn't
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answer because you don't know.
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You answer with, I don't know, which is maybe I'm going to ask in a
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different way.
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What is the limiting factor?
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Today, the limiting factor is step one,
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committing in a way that's like, hey, this is, I'm excited enough about this that it sets me
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free to say no to everything else.
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That's step one, right?
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Why do you need to go like that?
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Because in my investments, in my life, in my marriage and everything, I've just realized I'm
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way more successful when I feel the energy is so strong about one thing that I'm able to then
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repel everything else.
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Say, nope, nope, nope.
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If I don't get there, I feel I'm setting myself up
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for failure, not success.
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Okay.
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I would just maybe, maybe, maybe put a question mark, asterisk,
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something.
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Tell me, upgrade my mind.
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I think that your, it's the same feedback that I gave
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Anastasia.
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Anastasia really understands that this is her main limiting factor, which is you do not
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have an operator, period.
41:57
Right now, based on what you told me, you hired a chief of staff
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in your house, right?
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So now finally you have an operator in your household.
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And it's amazing.
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It was good advice from you.
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You do not have that in your business mission.
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Totally correct.
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So you have all these ideas that you like flirting with.
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And I think that I understand you cannot really commit because, listen, I can be only one
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operator.
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I cannot be operator of all these different things.
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And I know that you may say like, oh, well, but I will hire an operator.
42:33
Yeah, sure.
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But why not having an operator that can put these things in motion, can help you bring
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your vision?
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Because you are the visionary.
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You're coming up with the idea.
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You have the knowledge.
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You can see what you want to achieve.
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but then you're faced with oh okay i need to start spending maybe you don't maybe you're because you
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get so excited you are happy to go and waste your energy on the operation side maybe right i don't
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think that's a good use of time i agree with you this is exactly what i mean is you are somehow
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going into the operations rather than being this is where i think that you need to be radical this
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is where i think that you need to get married rather than you're flirting you think that you're
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flirting this is my opinion okay you think that you are flirting with all these ideas and you need
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to get married with one idea i think that you are getting you are flirting with operation a little
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bit operation here preparation here preparation here even in the same thing your operation here
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operation here that's the flirting that you are doing i think that you need to get married
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with you being the visionary and literally be radical with zero operations so you can have one
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and because you have a lot of these different ideas and because it's a complicator i think
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that as a complicator, you can do several things at the same time, but you need a super strong
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operations person.
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That doesn't mean also, just to be clear, that this person is going to be
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running all these businesses.
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They can do one.
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Or they can do none of them, but they are your
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chief of staff, let's say.
44:09
It's not the exact example, but they are your life integrator when
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it comes to business and philanthropy.
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Philanthropy being love for humanity.
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So things that can be charitable, things that are non-profit,
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things that are for profit.
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You're saying one that would integrate.
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You have a portfolio and your portfolio, you want to make moves and you have to
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be an operator doing the moves.
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Like what are you doing?
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Yeah.
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Get your, in EOS, they call it visionary and integrator.
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Get your integrator, get your operations expert, handle all the noise.
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It's powerful.
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And I think you're right.
44:41
So we hired this amazing woman that starts January 5th to be running the house to backfill for the person we're hiring as we're going to be hiring as a chief staff.
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And I mean, you're so right.
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And I was so excited.
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We were trying to convince her not to take the job.
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I didn't even hire her.
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It was this person I said, you need to hire, fire.
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It's your choice.
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Finds this amazing Russian woman who most guess how many kids she was taking care of before us.
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She's going to start in January.
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Six.
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Eight.
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Wow.
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You're right, though.
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The family before that was six or vice versa.
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Maybe you're right.
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Maybe it's six now, but it was eight and six.
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As a babysitter, you mean?
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She would be babysitter, house cleaning, house organizing, school prep, food put away,
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maybe cooking a bit, just the whole life.
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So she relieves the other person to really free up.
45:30
And you're right, because I think once you get that person, whether it's in a nonprofit,
45:33
a business, a family, this kind of chief of staff with the freedom to really execute,
45:39
it's like a drug.
45:40
And I experienced that in the philanthropy in the last year, in the nonprofit, and in a business this last year.
45:45
And it was amazing.
45:46
And I could feel both of them were like, this is incredible.
45:49
Like, I'd come in and I would say, it's like what you do.
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I give them, I say, your head's going to hurt after half an hour with me.
45:55
And they're like, why?
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Because your brain's going to expand.
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Because I just come through and question everything, all these assumptions.
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I use different models I've seen, and we apply, and we pick like one thing they're going to do.
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And that just changes the course.
46:08
Yeah, so that would be my advice.
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you don't have this person.
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And this is something, for example,
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with the podcast, right?
46:14
I was speaking with,
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and like, hey, I just need,
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and then my brother said,
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okay, I'm going to be that person.
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Yes.
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Has she struggled with other things?
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Like, has that been too much for her to handle
46:24
along with all of your other stuff?
46:26
Regarding the podcast?
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Yeah.
46:28
Like she's done a great job.
46:30
I think that she mentioned multiple times
46:31
that she's so excited about it.
46:34
She is?
46:34
Oh yeah.
46:35
I know she loved the one episode with little Aaron.
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Yeah, she really likes it.
46:40
she really likes the idea she really likes the whole thing so for her i mean so coming back to
46:46
this what did that what did i do right i i am able to have a conversation with her and share the
46:51
vision and i'm like this is this is the fundamental truth of what we are doing and i do not want to
46:58
change this so as an example we said we just want to have fun we do not want this to feel like a
47:04
a burden.
47:05
And how do I know that this will never change?
47:08
It's because, okay, let's flip it.
47:09
Do I, will I ever want to wake up and say, you know what?
47:13
This is too much fun.
47:14
I just want to
47:15
really have a horrible moment with this podcast.
47:18
I want my life to start being miserable.
47:20
Like,
47:21
no, no, thank you.
47:23
So that's how I know that that's, I hear a fundamental truth
47:26
that that's not going to change.
47:28
So I'm able to express these things to her.
47:30
And then this is the interesting part, right?
47:32
You saw me, I was doing WeChat GPT, okay, we need to hire this person.
47:35
I'm just doing a little bit of brainstorming WeChat GPT.
47:38
And then I share with her.
47:39
And then she's like, well, I think that we should get an agency.
47:43
And I'm like, me putting my hat as an operator, right?
47:46
My hat as operator has holes, I get wet, it's heat, it makes me lose my hair.
47:52
It's terrible, right?
47:53
But for whatever reason, I put my operator hat and I am giving instructions like, no, no, no, listen, agency is this.
48:04
And then, of course, she's an operator.
48:06
And she is an operator for what we think.
48:10
She's an operator complicator, but with an incredible skill to translate things in a very, very easy way.
48:17
Incredible.
48:18
She might be an operator to simplify.
48:19
I honestly don't know.
48:20
But she is incredible at making easy and simple.
48:25
Because I would not be able to work with her if she communicates very complicated.
48:29
Because I would not be able to understand.
48:31
It would be like literally a headache.
48:33
So she was right.
48:35
She ended up finding incredible people.
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And we are working with them.
48:42
And she did all the interviews?
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Yes, I tapped into my network.
48:46
And I asked certain people that have podcasts.
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I got some referrals.
48:50
She went find other people.
48:51
She interviewed the whole thing.
48:53
And then I did one interview and I'm like, yep, let's go.
48:57
I got her feedback of all the other interviews and she felt very strong about this one.
49:02
So I went already thinking like, okay, this, and also we had the reading from all of them,
49:08
which the readings were pretty good.
49:10
I really like a lot how honest, so it's Charlie and Derek, they're watching now.
49:15
I really like how humble and how honest and how they gave me feedback.
49:21
Charlie gave me feedback a couple of times on things that I believe to be true.
49:25
And he's like, well, that's, you know, in a very good way.
49:30
This can be the challenge on this and this is why this is not going to work.
49:33
And they're incredible, spectacular.
49:38
And I think that even though they don't have, I think this podcast is not very common.
49:45
It's not a typical podcast because all podcasts usually are selling something.
49:49
That being said, I think that this is a great moment to plug the robes that are a sponsor for this podcast.
49:56
Robe made out of polyester and ball-shrinking nylon.
50:01
And American flag, ball-shrinking Speedo.
50:05
That is 100% cotton, right?
50:08
Oh, Peter, come on.
50:09
Just a peek.
50:11
Not cotton.
50:11
And the funny thing is the entire day I've had struggle wearing it because I'm like,
50:16
this isn't good for me.
50:18
But I think I'm done having kids.
50:19
So maybe it's helping just cutting off.
50:20
Oh, you have one more coming.
50:23
One more coming.
50:24
You just need to start.
50:25
You need to start coming and then one more coming.
50:28
I don't know what's going to happen in this bathing suit.
50:30
So, okay.
50:32
Coming back to, yeah, operator.
50:35
I was trying to share.
50:36
I was sharing the story, right, of what a game changer is to have one person
50:41
where I can share my vision
50:43
and the person gets excited with the vision
50:46
and just runs with it.
50:48
Did I tell you, I met with this venture capitalist,
50:49
I think I said, and it's a flip.
50:52
Yeah, we talked about it on a prior one,
50:53
but he said, I will only pick a CEO that I invest in.
50:58
They start new businesses
50:59
when the CEO will do it without me.
51:01
And I think it's the same as what you're just saying now,
51:03
which is like, you can offer them this.
51:05
Now, will they do it by yourself?
51:07
Most operators won't, right?
51:08
Because they can't see the...
51:11
The example you said that I think is so powerful is they're so excited.
51:14
They're like, I'm choosing this is what I want to do.
51:18
I want this job.
51:19
I want this role.
51:20
I shared with her, and I think this is what happened, but I shared like, hey, I want to
51:25
start writing books.
51:26
And I shared that a little bit and she's like, oh my gosh, I'm so pumped.
51:31
Yes.
51:32
Wow.
51:33
How far is she along on that?
51:35
No, this was like, I shared it two days before she went on vacation.
51:38
So no, nothing, zero.
51:40
Wow.
51:41
Yeah.
51:42
It's so funny.
51:43
I get a similar, and I even, I played with ChatGPT a bit on this,
51:47
and it talked about doing series that got me excited on topics.
51:50
So, but this is coming back to where I can just call and say, hey, listen,
51:56
I want, I am thinking about this idea and I want to be able to have a person that says,
52:01
okay, cool.
52:02
Leave it with me.
52:02
Let me just get back to you in two days, in three days,
52:04
in one week, in one day to see how I'm like, okay, cool.
52:08
So that way I only need to focus
52:10
on creating the vision.
52:12
That's what I want.
52:13
I want to focus on creating the vision,
52:16
pressing the accelerator,
52:17
and protecting the vision.
52:19
How I need to remove this dirty operator hat
52:24
that I don't know why I have it.
52:26
I don't know how I made it up.
52:27
It's garbage.
52:28
It's beautiful, man.
52:30
It's a limiting belief, right?
52:32
One limiting belief would be
52:33
that I have to be the operator.
52:34
The other limiting belief is
52:36
I can't find an amazing operator,
52:38
partner, person who can fill that role.
52:40
And this is from strategic coaching, who not how.
52:43
You always start with who, and then the how is up to them.
52:47
And you can consult.
52:49
I disagree.
52:49
Why?
52:49
Because I think that everything starts with the mindset.
52:52
And I think that the biggest limiting belief is believing that I can do all in a great way when it comes to operations.
52:59
And when I say all, what I mean is without me getting burned in the middle.
53:04
I can get it done.
53:06
Jesus is I'm gonna be wasting so much of my vital energy makes no sense zero sense I can hire a
53:14
person that does this in an incredible way I end up winning the person ends up winning what am I
53:21
doing okay so let me challenge it I still think it's who which is realizing I am not the who I
53:26
have to break that mindset and I need to find the who before we move on to how and I see this all
53:32
the time, people are like, well, you know, and, and it's so funny.
53:36
They're like, well,
53:37
we're going to do it this way.
53:38
No, I don't want to talk about which way.
53:39
I don't want to talk
53:39
about how let's start with who, and you're saying for, I agree with you.
53:44
I think you're right.
53:44
Yeah.
53:44
But the question is, who are you having this conversation with?
53:47
Right.
53:47
This conversation
53:48
about shouldn't be me myself.
53:50
And if it's, if it's by myself, I've already decided I am the,
53:53
who that's the wrong decision.
53:55
We agree.
53:56
So let's, it's actually not two steps.
53:58
It's three steps.
53:59
First step is I am not the who.
54:01
Finding who the who is, then letting them decide the how
54:05
through conversations or whatever.
54:06
That's really the three parts.
54:07
Yeah, but what I am saying is I think that in the stage that you are right now, which is
54:12
finding what's your vehicle, your next vehicle of creation, right now you have a challenge,
54:18
which is you are flirting with a lot of ideas.
54:22
The job of finding the who is on you.
54:25
And what
54:25
What I am saying is you should already have one who, and the job of this person is to
54:33
be able to ping pong with you.
54:36
So I'm going to be like, okay, Peter, now I understand your vision.
54:39
Okay, get it.
54:40
Leave it with me.
54:41
Let's let's rock and roll.
54:43
Let's let me let me share with you a little bit of how I am.
54:45
I'm gonna let me think about it.
54:47
Let me come back and tell you, hey, Peter, this is the strategy.
54:49
This is what I want to do.
54:50
I want to start myself doing a little bit more just to see if then we bring the person
54:54
or let's bring the person right now,
54:57
rather than you doing all that brain damage,
55:00
coming up with a strategy,
55:01
the strategy is basically how.
55:05
How do we achieve the vision?
55:06
And they should be driving that,
55:07
and I can challenge it, have thoughts,
55:10
but let them pick.
55:12
I mean, it's deep, man.
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Brother, love you.
55:16
I gotta go.
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Love you, man.
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Cheers.