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- LayTheDon: What's up, y'all? It's for the exchange, and I'm here with my boys Kiv, Kobe to Code, and Big Bite Fredo. So GoFredo: you LayTheDon: we're picking back in off left's episode, toxicity between opposite sex friendship groups. And the word that comes up that everybody keeps blowing throwing around is platonic. Platonic friendships. And I wanna I we need a clear definition. What exactly do we consider platonic friendships? Brady, I'm gonna kick this to you first. What do you consider a platonic friendship in your eye? GoFredo: We ain't we ain't that's really just that several Kevin: Mm-hmm. LayTheDon: Like is there a line okay, we'll phrase it. Is there a line drawn? GoFredo: I'm just gonna That's just basically what it is Kevin: Okay. LayTheDon: And if you're in a platonic friendship, like where does that line draw as to like how much information y'all are sharing, how much access they got, especially like when that other person gets into a relationship, like where does that line draw as far as things that y'all do, don't do, communicate about in a platonic friendship? GoFredo: I think for me, like we said in episodes in the past, I communication is key no matter what the situation is. So once it gets to a point, I think we can share and conversate no matter what the situation is when you get into a relationship or when you're out of a relationship, whatever the case like that may be. It's certain. Now I do think to a certain extent, I get that in certain things that you would tell your girlfriend that you wouldn't tell your guy friend. But at the same time, I knew, know is certain things that as a as a best friend, no matter what, you're just going to tell them any no matter what the situation is. And it's just going to be like, that's my best friend. So it makes sense that they tell me this. Are you not going, judge them, whatever the situation is. But to me, it's once you get to the point where things get sexual, once you get to that point, is sexual tension now, whatever the case like that may be. That's when all that friendship and everything go out the window. At that point, you need to decide what we finna do here. Especially when you get older. When you younger, you can kinda figure this out and you can day there as a guy, you can day in there, mess around and put yourself in a friend zone. But like when you older, nah, LayTheDon: Two years. GoFredo: it's over with. It's over with. Once I know what's up, that's what we going. Ain't no other way around it. That's where we going. That's really what it is. That's really what it is to me. What about you, Kev? Kevin: Yeah, so we just talk about a platonic friendship. It's basically it's just a it's just a close relationship. The borderline is your sexual relationship. Like there's no sexual relationship if you are truly platonic. so and you bro, you I mean, I can't really say much different than what you said. you know, it's like once we cross that line, you know what I mean, we're not Yeah, that's just, that's just kinda that's just what it is. I I I don't know. I I guess it depends on your relationship, I guess. I've seen some people, well they say that they've crossed that and then kinda went back. I don't really see that. I don't really see you really being able to do that. That's just my opinion. but I I think GoFredo: I agree. Kevin: there's too many things that happen. There's too I I I think because you know what it is? It goes two ways, right? Let's just say you claw you cross that line, right? And you you go into a sexual relationship, it could be a great experience, and that does something to that relationship, and you'll probably end up, just based on that, you'll probably end up going further and trying to pursue a more romantic relationship. That's where that happens. I've been I've been there, and I've been there, I did that before. now there's the other side of it where you cross that line and then it's whack, and Yeah, you kinda hurt your f you you hurt your friendship at that point. You really hurt your friendship at that point. I don't even think you're gonna keep that thing no more because now GoFredo: Hmm Kevin: it's just because you cross that line. especially when it comes to the women, I feel like, they cross the line, it was corny. They're gonna be like, Yeah, nah. you gotta go. GoFredo: The effects. Kevin: that's just my that's just that's just that's just my thought. And you can tell me if I'm right or wrong. You can tell me if I'm right or wrong. I feel like You you cross that line with one of your y you cross the line with it with a with a with a dude and then it's corny even be like, Yeah nah, you gotta go. He might even really be cool too, but you be like, nah, he gotta go. GoFredo: I just, hey, hey, real. LayTheDon: For me personally, that's only 50% correct. And I'm gonna say this why. Because normally a girl just don't have a friend, a male friend for one reason. Usually there's other benefits to her. So if that man offers other benefits within the relationship within the friendship, and then the sex is whack, then it's to me it's just gonna be an ongoing joke that your that your dick's trash. But you still gonna be my friend, you still gonna be the homie though, and it'll never happen again. GoFredo: That's crazy. That's crazy. Kevin: He said it'll never happen again. GoFredo: That's crazy. LayTheDon: But that's just gonna that's gonna be where it's at. Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: That's crazy! LayTheDon: Now Kevin: Yeah. Yeah. LayTheDon: now if if if it was GoFredo: Goddamn! LayTheDon: I'm just saying that's that's personally for me. I don't know GoFredo: God, LayTheDon: about nobody else. But if it does happen to where like it happened to be good, and if we both don't have GoFredo: I need a shot for Buddy. LayTheDon: that same if we both don't have that same idea to pursue something romantically further on. Then I'ma go ahead and cut ties with you because if we ain't trying to build relationship, but we know that the sex was good and that sexual tension is great, I don't I I don't wanna be your friend no more because then I'm gonna expect access to that dick regularly at that point. And if we're not trying to be in a relationship, Kevin: Your mind always gonna be on that location. LayTheDon: then what we fucking for? GoFredo: I'm with you. LayTheDon: So I'd probably o I'd probably cut them off if it was good and we're not trying to pursue anything past that. But if it's bad, but you offer other benefits, you could still benefit I you could still benefit me in the friend zone, then yeah, but it's just gonna be an ongoing joke that you dipped your ass. Kevin: Okay. GoFredo: That's crazy. Crazy. Kobi: So you won't make fun of him because he's different trash. Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: I think it's a... LayTheDon: Hey, look, GoFredo: I think if the sex bad, it's pretty much a friendship over with. Nah. LayTheDon: if you offer good advice, you a good wingman. Offer good advice, you a good wingman. You can put me on your friend that's probably better than you, help me move my my furniture Kevin: That's crazy. LayTheDon: when I need you to. You know, like you GoFredo: Hey, wait a minute, it's do, wait a Kevin: That's crazy. LayTheDon: still you still willing to protect me as your friend? GoFredo: minute, time out, time out, time out, time out, Kevin: She said, put me on with your friend. GoFredo: time out, time out, time out. Did Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: you just say the do juice man, wait, what? What? What? Kevin: That's what she said. That's what she said. GoFredo: Put you on with the homie because what? Hey man, you, hey boy, hey. Hey boy. Kevin: Hey Can you imagine hey bro hey bro can you imagine let's just say this just imagine being in this situation right like it was corny we both acknowledge that it was corny and then she just goes Hey you you still gonna put me on with your homie? GoFredo: What? shorty, what? That's crazy. Kobi: Hehehehehe Kevin: yo, what? That's crazy. LayTheDon: scenario i seen I seen this I seen this picture this video GoFredo: That's crazy! LayTheDon: I seen this picture and video on Snapchat on Instagram TikTok whatever it was GoFredo: That's disrespectful. LayTheDon: do do married a shoddy but she kept her friends separate from her man because she didn't want her friends to try to get at her man whatever so he didn't meet any other homegirls until the day of the wedding and every homegirl in her wedding party was probably thinking of her look way better than her And the caption says, the message here is, or the the the the learning message here is always meet the homegirls first. GoFredo: But just. LayTheDon: believe if it's a group let me meet the home because let me let me choose which one I'm just GoFredo: That's crazy. That's crazy. LayTheDon: saying that that's just me I just feel like I should meet everybody before I get back 'cause no cause you're not finna that's how life works. That's how life should work. That's that's how it should work. We're not going to the first one we meet. We gonna we GoFredo: That's not how life work. That's not how life work. That's not how life work. That's not how life work. That's not how life work. This ain't no video game where you selected your character. Kobi: So, fellas, he's there, you chewin' LayTheDon: gonna we we're not we're not gonna go pick the first one we meet. We're gonna go with you know the one that Look the best of the group. We gotta see the the collage first. GoFredo: Hey, hey, this ain't Mortal Kombat. You ain't picking your character and going into the fight. This over with. You get what you get. You meet who you meet first. It's just Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: that it is what it is. LayTheDon: No. See that's the difference between men and women. We shop. Women shop for quality. Men look Kevin: Yamako. Kobi: Because if you do that, listen, if you do that, you're to mess up the friendship. GoFredo: I'm still stuck on it. Hey boy, I'm, LayTheDon: for quality. Y'all gonna fuck the first thing that throws some of y'all way. We're gonna shop around for quality before we go smash. That's the difference between men and women. I'm just saying. Women shop for quality. Men shop for quality. There is a difference. Lives. GoFredo: Who? Who? Cap. Cap. Cap. Cap. Cap. Cap. Kevin: That's that's that's that's not true at all. Y'all take y'all time, they'll y'all they'll they'll take their time and still end up with somebody corny. LayTheDon: Cam Newton even said it on a pod well they said it on a Cam Newton podcast. I'm trying to tell you, it's true. GoFredo: Who? Who said it? Kobi: Yeah, if I don't think she heard what you said, would you say it again? LayTheDon: I forgot what podcast. I forgot who said it, but it was all Cam Newton podcast. He said, I want to say it was young jock. I want to say it was young jock. Don't quote me on that. But he said, Women shop for quality, men shop for quality. And the example he gave is when a girl gets say, for example, a girl might get a Barbie, right? She's gonna get all the accessories, all the attachments, she gonna get all the quality things for this one Barbie. She only has one Barbie, probably one can. But when the men go GoFredo: huh. LayTheDon: and get, say, for example, a set of was it the little army men, they come in a pack of like twenty. They go get a set of the little NASCAR joints, GoFredo: I know what you're talking about. LayTheDon: they come in a pack of like six. You go get t shirts, they come in the like men shop for quality, they go for the first incon convenience of having the many, the convenience of having many to shop for women gonna go shop for quality. So I'm gonna go and I'm gonna check out all the homeboys and see which one I think quality wise will fit. Y'all won't go for the first girl that's trying to throw y'all a pussy in the front group. GoFredo: No, no, no, no. Look, check this out. LayTheDon: And the best part give here better than GoFredo: Hey, check this out. That's not well, first of all, one, to to rebuttal Kobi: I'm trying to figure out what you're talking to, Chad. GoFredo: what you said, I'm going to agree. But to a certain extent, I'm going to agree because one, women can choose who they excuse me, women can choose who they sleep with men can't. So that's one. So if a woman throws some yams LayTheDon: She game. GoFredo: your way, a lot of times the the dude won't go for it, especially if she hits tight to a certain extent. But women, that whole quantity, quality, hey, check this out. Shorties is going if you six foot, if you got dimples, if you drive a nice car, you'll flaunt you a little bit of money, you her physical type, you could be a piece of trash. LayTheDon: mind you we those are all quality things that would benefit us we look for the quality not if a if if a GoFredo: That's not a benefit. You just looking cause he look good. What's the quality? LayTheDon: no if a okay if a six foot nigga would was six foot nigga with money throws himself our way and then and then a and then GoFredo: You don't know he got money. LayTheDon: a five foot nigga with maybe some money same out same amount of money but there's a six foot nigga there's a five foot nigga The quality is six foot niggas probably more beneficial. He can lift high shit for us. He can pick up heavy stuff for us. He can do all that. Five foot nigga can't do that. So we're gonna go to the quality nigga. But if it's GoFredo: Check this out. LayTheDon: two bitches, say if it's two bitches that can approach y'all and say GoFredo: Mm-hmm. LayTheDon: one look bad and the other one is okay, but the one that's okay decides she's trying to sm suck your dick first. Y'all will go for her first because she already asked before she before you even get a chance to say no. Y'all gonna go ahead and go for it because she offered for it. GoFredo: No, no, no, listen. Check this out. If it's her, if it's her. LayTheDon: You gonna say no and then go for the sharing that ain't even say nothing? Kobi: I'm gonna take a drink. I don't know what you're talking about. GoFredo: No, listen, if my man's a 6'3", and my man's a 6'3", you don't know what his background, let's say, okay, example, if dude's 6'3", and he ain't got no money, and you got a dude that's 5'2", and he got a bag, you gonna go with the 6'3", dude, because he's 6'3", because it is that and the third, and everything like that, that's exactly what's gonna happen. LayTheDon: Nope. We gonna go with no, because the more the more quality will be with the nigga with the money. Yes. GoFredo: I'm capping, I'm capping. Let's go, let's go through a listen. Let's go, let's go on IG right now and go through a listen. Let's go through IG right now and go through a listen, show these BDs, what we gonna see. Let's go IG right now, just rambly, let's go through BDs. LayTheDon: That's that's just that that's called poor pussy management. That's different. That's that's different. That's that's poor. No, that's why I said the example I gave, that's why I said the example GoFredo: No, okay, now we got another word for it. Now we got another word for it. Now we got another word for it. That's crazy. LayTheDon: I gave, the example I gave is a 5'4 nigga who's rich as hell, and there's a six three nigga who's also rich as hell, makes the same amount of money. She's gonna go for the quality of the six foot nigga only because he is more beneficial, especially if she's five two. A 6'3 nigga is more beneficial to a 5'2 chick than a 5'4 nigga. Versus, say, for example, it's a tall chick. GoFredo: She's going at the sixth. LayTheDon: Say the chick. Say the chick is 6'2 and the nigga is 5'4, and the other nigga 6'3. Some some shorties don't necessarily need the 6'3. They okay with the 5'2 because they tall doesn't do the shit themselves. We going for what's more beneficial to us. Y'all going for whoever throwing GoFredo: Hey look, shorty, LayTheDon: that cap first. GoFredo: whether my man's got a bag or not, shorty's going because he's 6'4". Like I said, we can go on IG right now. Kobi: Braydon, Braydon, Braydon, late LayTheDon: Now who Kobi: calling us easy. LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: What? Boy, listen, I almost cut up. We almost got canceled, what I'm about to say. Hey, you got it, Lay. You almost got canceled, what I'm about to say, boy. You almost got canceled. Hey, you capping. You capping. Kobi: Say it in different ways so you don't get canceled. GoFredo: Hey, you capping. Boy, they throwing it away. They throwing it away. They throwing it away. Free layups. What are we talking about? Free layups, no defense. What are we talking about? What did we say? Kobi: Yeah. GoFredo: Come on now. I'm driving to the lane with no defense. Ain't no defenders on the court. What are we talking about? Kevin: Ha ha ha. GoFredo: What are we talking LayTheDon: yeah GoFredo: about? come on. what are we saying right now? Let's be realistic of what we saying. Like I said, and it's no disrespect to nobody. I'm just calling the spade the spade. If we go on Instagram, go on Facebook, go on any social media, and we just literally randomly just start picking shorties and gonna see who they be the easiest. You're gonna see, let's call the spade the spade. They be the easiest, it's gonna be the six to six whatever, and then they gonna try to change him. Let's be honest. They gonna try to change him for what he is, even though he been telling her straight forward, I'm not nothing, without saying it, showing Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: her, and she gonna continue to go for him. But she not gonna go for the man that's five, five, five, eight, five, whatever, because of his height. Women put categories on things that don't necessarily matter. You ain't going after a five, eight dude because he can't grab something LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: on the top shelf. How that crazy that sound? That crazy that sound, but you gonna get the six footers Kobi: you GoFredo: grabbing everything on the top shelf, but he grabbing other shorty's too. What we talking about? come on now. Kobi: Thank LayTheDon: See may maybe I'm GoFredo: you LayTheDon: just may maybe I'm just different 'cause that's not why I I would jeck reject the five eight nigga for other things like mm. GoFredo: But that's what I'm saying. You putting you, I'm telling you what's LayTheDon: I ain't one of GoFredo: out here. I'm telling you what's out here. I'm just being honest. A LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: lot of these shorties just look like I'm just saying, I'm just going off of what I've seen, all the people I helped, gave relationship advice to. We all know a lot of people. Let's think of all our homegirls, baby daddies, that's not nothing. Come on now. What they shooting for? Kevin: Mm-hmm. LayTheDon: I'll be honest with you, I don't really GoFredo: All A. LayTheDon: have no homegirls and baby daddies. I don't mess with the kind of I don't mess with those kind of friends, sorry. All of my female Kobi: crazy. GoFredo: Yeah, that's I'll give you that she got a point y'all LayTheDon: all I said, the female friends that I've had that did not have that had poor pussy management, I don't have I'm not friends with them anymore. GoFredo: I give you that. I give you that. I give it. I give it that. She right. I give it that. I give it that. What I'm saying you I'm not saying, look, like LayTheDon: Can't relate. GoFredo: I said, I'm just saying from like, from what I've seen, talking to homies, talking to guys and going from there, I ain't gonna lie to you. Niggas is having their way out here. Niggas is having their way out here. Very, having their way. Now it's to the point that, you know, the short kings out here is having their way as well. Like, guys is having LayTheDon: They are. GoFredo: their way out here. Respectfully, consent and all. Consent and all. Kobi: Okay. GoFredo: I'm just saying, especially now, look at the game now. It's harder. niggas ain't even opening doors for Shorty. You open the door for Shorty, you didn't already put LayTheDon: be on it. GoFredo: yourself in a different extra line. LayTheDon: I only dated two short kings in my life. And the only reason I ain't with both of them is because here's my thing. One of them basically had the same bodybuild as me. we both, short, stocky, muscular. And like him fighting, him fighting GoFredo: She talking about the same bodybuild as me. LayTheDon: for me was basically him fighting, my me fighting for myself. Like it's it is he wasn't like the type of nigga GoFredo: Yeah. LayTheDon: that could call like a fighting my battles, because I'm basically fighting in my like it wasn't gonna work out. And then the other short king. he alright, but it it wasn't his height. GoFredo: How about he hide? It's crazy. LayTheDon: It was just it wasn't his height. It was the fact that he act like he was tall. He ain't act his height. And GoFredo: I'm LayTheDon: it pissed me off. if you can acknowledge that you short and you a short king and you no, but when you when you don't actual height, actual like Kobi: How does one act their height? GoFredo: Hey. Kevin: What's the LayTheDon: it especially when you had if you have other things to make up for the height. GoFredo: I'm saying, killing me, I'm trying to figure that out. She said, Actio height is crazy. Kevin: what he did. LayTheDon: you if you got if you got other things there's some short kings out here that make up for the height. Don't get me wrong. There's some short kings that that definitely make up for the height. And stand on that, but don't try to act tall and shit. nigga you like Kevin: But what did he but what did he do? y'all was in the story, Kobi: How do you act tall? Kevin: he only tried to grab stuff on the top shelf or something like that? what what did he what did he do? GoFredo: I think Lay talking about the LayTheDon: you can't you can't GoFredo: fact that he was trying to raise his voice and he wasn't bringing enough meat to the table. LayTheDon: Yeah yeah Kevin: Ha ha ha GoFredo: See, I knew it, see! knew it, See! LayTheDon: No, it wasn't even that. Cause it wasn't even that. Like, I gotta Kevin: snit. GoFredo: I LayTheDon: keep this PG 13 because you know, I got I got an audience Kevin: Yeah. LayTheDon: that's watching me, so I can't I can't say too much. But like nah, GoFredo: You already went crazy. You already went crazy. LayTheDon: there there was other qualities that made up for his height. But apparently to him that wasn't enough. And my thing is if we the same height or we damn near the same height, don't get tough with me. We the same motherfucker. I would knock your little ass down too. that's not how that no, it's not. It's just like GoFredo: You just toxic. That's all it is. You toxic. Kobi: You start thinking of music, you like to your hands on niggas, that's what it is. Kevin: Yeah. LayTheDon: But no, it's not. It's just like GoFredo: That's what it sounded like to me. LayTheDon: I can't date a nigga that I feel like I can beat their ass. If I feel like I can beat your ass, we can't date. And if I don't feel like I can't beat your ass, then I don't GoFredo: That's so, hey listen, you don't understand how toxic that sound is crazy. You don't understand how toxic that, the fact that you going through this world like, Kevin: Yeah, it's great. GoFredo: I can beat his ass. ain't even finna waste my time talking to him. that is crazy. LayTheDon: Because Kobi: Okay. LayTheDon: when I look for a dude, I'm looking for a dude that's gonna protect me. Okay? I don't wanna get a position where I might gotta protect him too. that's not how that works. I'm looking for a protector, a provider. if I can do the same shit, where I feel like I can do the same shit, what the fuck I need you for? I need somebody that's gonna protect me. I wanna be proud to say I'm GoFredo: Alright. LayTheDon: gonna go get my man to beat your ass. I don't wanna say I'm gonna get my man GoFredo: You wanna be honest with you? LayTheDon: to go beat your ass, and nigga that walk around my height. Kobi: That should be a flag note. GoFredo: You can be tall and not know how to fight though. LayTheDon: You're right. obviously been finding out beforehand. Kobi: I'll find it out. LayTheDon: I ain't gonna put you out there. I ain't gonna No. no. Like I got my ways of figuring out. GoFredo: What you gonna fight him? What you gonna fight him? What you gonna tussle? What you gonna fight him? Talk about fighting him out before. Yeah. I'm gonna put the gloves on with him. LayTheDon: I like I got my ways of figuring things out. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it. Kevin: it is know what it is know what it is she wants you to yo she wants you to look like you would do something just in case she wants you to look like you would do something even though even GoFredo: That's what... LayTheDon: Yeah, yeah. Kevin: though you probably won't do it LayTheDon: But if I like if I find GoFredo: Ay! LayTheDon: out later if I find out later that you can't fight, then we'll have that conversation when we when we when we cross that bridge. But I at least leave you to look like you gonna do some shit until the time comes when you can't do some shit. Cause I know for a fact I'll be able to hold my own. Kevin: What's the What's the What's the conversation afterwards? GoFredo: Hey, we're in a different society now. People up in polls now. People up in switches and drakes. That fighting stuff overrated now. People up in tools. It's tools in the toolbox. Their hands ain't one of them. It's hands and hands. It's the last thing they up and now. Kevin: It's the the thing that's so crazy is I'm be honest, if it even came down to that situation where it's like, first of all, where you even hanging out that you even getting into fights in the first place. That that's that's number one. That's number one. Where y'all where are you going? LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: Why you why you still going there? Kevin: Where you going? That's what I wanna know. Where you going? I'm like, cause the older I get, I just be like, bro, I be I just be trying to be in the crib, like you know what I'm saying? This is a couple spots I you know what I mean. I'm a I don't go to clubs and all that. that's just not my I don't know, that that's me. But I'm just saying, even if the situation gets back to it. LayTheDon: It's just it's a just in case thought process, fool. It's just just in case shit gonna pop off and it like your nigga gotta look like GoFredo: Hey, I say, Kevin: Yeah. LayTheDon: he ready. GoFredo: what I say, Lay, when you dealing with, me and Kev, I'm sure me and Kev are both agree on this. When you dealing with somebody that's grown, and I done seen me and Kev fight, we both tussling. So that's not even the issue, but at the same time, it's just one of those things where, like he said, you not even putting yourself in that situation. Like, it's to the point now where it's like, if the temperature starting to get hot, I'm just moving out the way. Y'all got it. I'm not even finna, I'm not even finna waste my time with that. I was like, if you younger, I don't wanna say you should, but it's a little different. I ain't saying it was right or wrong, but we done already earned our stripes. I done already did what I had to do in my 20s LayTheDon: Give it. GoFredo: and my teens and whatnot. Now I'm like, if I'm talking to a woman and she like, I wanna see if you can fight. All right, shorty, look, you got it. Don't even worry about it. I'm gonna talk to the next one. I ain't gonna try to put myself in that situation anymore. LayTheDon: said Charlie doing it on purpose. Now I said just in case. GoFredo: Some of them do now. LayTheDon: It cracked some. Yeah I'm not I'm not I'm not that toxic. I'm not that toxic. I ain't putting GoFredo: Some of them do not. It's some women out here that's literally, what I'm saying, but it's some women that put their boyfriends and husbands in terrible situations by running their mouth. And they don't even know if they man can fight. that is one of the most, I've seen videos, I've witnessed situations like that. I've been in situations where I'm like, shorty, your man is a pencil. my man's 6'2 and he about 120 pounds. You should not be running your mouth. You should not be running your mouth. you talking and they're not even the stat. You're in the wrong. you in the wrong, Shorty. I've been in a situation where Shorty was clearly in the wrong and she wasn't going to get her man to try to say something. I'm like Shorty, come on, cut it out. Cut it. No disrespect to my man. And the only reason I'm saying that is because, and it's no knock on him. Cause he didn't even want to fight. He was just like, hey man, my bad, da da da, it's no disrespect. I'm just saying hey shorty, your mouth is about to get your man put in harm's way. Because if I was a different type of dude, off her run in her mouth, I could have just went over here and just cleaned him, hit him dead in his grill. Just cause I can't hit her. You coming over here to try to keep it P and try LayTheDon: I think they're not. GoFredo: to be respectful, I could have just went over him and like, we've seen videos and we've all witnessed. Like I know, hey, I don't know about Kevin, Kobe, but I know me and Lay, When we was in college going to school and going to the club, we seen Muggles sleep on the curve. I got videos on my phone of a dude sleeping on the curve to this day, when we went out. Kevin: yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. LayTheDon: Yep. GoFredo: And his girl, and he's sleeping and his girl trying to grab him and get him up while he sleep. And it's her fault. And she still running her mouth. I ain't gonna do that to my man. His face in it. His face. And I ain't gonna do that to that man. I ain't gonna do LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: that to him. It's in the Snapchat memory. It's in the Snapchat memory. It's in the Snapchat memory. I ain't gonna do that. But it's what I'm just saying. It's those situations where women put they man in a bad situation and now all of a sudden you just... But for me, it go back to what we said with last episode. Like I said before, A-King, protect your peace. If you got a woman that's hostile like that and you not... Regardless if you can fight or cannot fight, exit left. That's not a situation you want to be in. That's how you lose your life out here. These men is told hammers. These hammers. You hear me? Ain't nobody fight no more. Everybody got a pole now, apparently. Nobody fight. So if you got you a woman that talk sideways, and she talking sideways to you, imagine what she feelin' to talk sideways to somebody else when she get outside. You don't want that, King. You don't want that, King. Get yourself out of that situation. LayTheDon: so in that in in that case, how far if we we're gonna bring it back because we we kinda gear into relationships. So let's talk about if we're if we're talking about your platonic friend. How far Kevin: Yeah. LayTheDon: are you willing to go for your platonic friend? if she called you on some hey fool, I need I I need you handle something for me. How far you willing to go with your we're not talking about regular home growth, we're talking about best female friend. mind you, you have you're in a situation, you got a girl, you got a whatever, but you got a platonic female best friend. How far you willing to go? GoFredo: I ain't dying. LayTheDon: So she called you cause her man beat her ass. But she keep going back for to do how how and she called you to come fight him for her. GoFredo: That's not my homie. That's not my home girl. That's not my home girl. That's not my home girl no more. Yeah, that's not my home girl no more. No, I'm saying for me, like I know it's... LayTheDon: If that scenario came up, if she calls you, she's getting he beating on her and he calls Kevin: Mm-hmm. LayTheDon: she calls you to handle him. How far are you going? You you gonna handle that for her? Kevin: Well she called me, I'm be like she called me, I'm be I'm like, what'd you do? Yeah, he whooping you up. It's like, no, me stop. GoFredo: You LayTheDon: Tesla Kevin: Say no, say no, I'm just playing. I'm just playing We gotta LayTheDon: We record that, right? All right. Just making sure make sure that was recorded. GoFredo: Thank you. No, that's that's in there that's there that's in there that's in there that's LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: in there Hey, you're Kevin: Yeah. Okay. GoFredo: Yeah, I what you doing? LayTheDon: What you mean you wanna know how to handle that? GoFredo: Hey, you want to be honest with you? Hey, it would have been faster to call 911. Kevin: The whole time. GoFredo: you LayTheDon: And the nigga flew and broke his ass here. It just so happened the bitch ass nigga ran and disappeared. I called Fredo across fuck country to come come handle some shit. What you mean? And my best GoFredo: fact she won't get beat up though. LayTheDon: friend has showed the fuck up. What are you talking about? GoFredo: Yeah, I'm older now, call 911. Kevin: Okay. LayTheDon: In this scenario right now, if I ever call Fredo for some shit, I'm calling him to help me hide the body at that point. Like, fuck is you talking about? Nigga already I already I probably already dealt with the nigga. I probably already I probably already dealt with GoFredo: Hold on, Feds be, is she Captain Feds? Hey, is she Captain Feds? LayTheDon: the body. I'm calling him to come help hide a body. Not not to come handle some shit for me. What are you talking GoFredo: Hey, hey boy, hey, hey officer, I have no idea what you talking about. I have no LayTheDon: Is it? GoFredo: idea what you talking about. only, hey, hey. LayTheDon: I have called him to hide a body. I said if I call him now, I said if I was like Kevin: Yeah. LayTheDon: for it now, I I got a whole man. So I'll obviously some shit go down, I'm gonna call my man first. And if I if it's some shit going down with my man, if I If I ain't got nothing to do with it, I got five brothers back home GoFredo: Somebody might have got that to do with LayTheDon: that that helped me. But if I ever call Fredo now, I'm saying the day and age that we are with me having a man and with Freyd Fredo is now probably like, no offense, my third line of defense now at this point, which it should be. Like my first line of defense, obviously, if something going wrong, it's my man. If something go wrong with my man, my next line of fence should be my dad and or brothers. If some if I if that can't get to them, then Fredo is my third line. But by the time I get to Fredo, I the the I better be hiding about it. Kevin: But that's what I'm saying though. It's like I feel like how you just said it, it's like levels to it. You know what I'm saying? I feel like if I got that call, I kinda like, I'm GoFredo: Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Kevin: kinda like I'm kinda like, hey, I'm I'm honored that I got this call, but like I feel like this is like a dad or a brother or an uncle issue before it gets to me. You know what I'm saying? No, I'm not saying it like that. I'm not saying it like that. But I'm just like, you know what I'm saying? Like, how did it get to me? You know what I mean? I'm not saying I wouldn't go, but I'm just like I'm just and we didn't that's the only scenario that's the only scenario that like LayTheDon: There's certain shit. There's certain shit that females feel more comfortable talking to their best friend about. GoFredo: KFC, how was that your first call? LayTheDon: There is certain shit that females are more comfortable talking about to their friends than they are their family. So sometimes Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: Hey. Hey, hey, Kim said, hey, Kevin: See GoFredo: hey, I'm with Kim. I was your first call? That's crazy. That's crazy I was your first. Kevin: But that bro, hey, hey, bro, hey, hey, bro. You feel me though? Listen, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, bro, look, look. She done she done she she done cook she done cooked in the in the kitchen. She set a fire in the kitchen. She called you. Call 911, you dummy, what you calling me for? You know what I'm saying? GoFredo: Hey, hey, Kim, hey, hey, Kim, she talking LayTheDon: They still call you on some stupid shit like that, but GoFredo: about something. Hey, the kitchen on fire, what should I do? I don't understand why you called me. I don't understand. I work for the fire department. Hey, hey, no, but to LayTheDon: Easily. GoFredo: answer your question late, I ain't gonna lie to you. think, I'm still like, I don't know. at a, I feel like I'm older and wiser now. And it's gonna sound, it's probably gonna sound corny to a lot of people, but at the end of the day, like, I mean, it's just suck because this how society is. I was younger when I was handling stuff in different type of manner and whatnot. I do believe in street justice. I will say that first and foremost. I'm one of those people that I believe street justice go a long way than the regular justice system. But that's only because y'all know I studied that. So I just believe that sometimes the justice system, the wheels of justice just don't move fast enough or they don't even move at all in a lot of situations. So I think you got to take matters in a different way. But at the end of the day, when it comes to that situation, if I got a home girl and it's unfortunate she getting her hands and some dude putting her hands on her, whatever the case like that may be. I honestly just think at this point in stage and how they say at our big age, shorty, you need to just call 12. You need to just call 12 at this point. Because not even just that, just because we had a completely different society now. Like when it was, when we was growing up, like we all old enough now, when it was, when we was growing up, when we seen like stuff like this happen, you went over to y'all was throwing hands. Y'all was moving furniture and whatnot. I didn't see too many situations where, like I seen one in Georgia where this girl, got beat up by her boyfriend, called her brothers to come over, he killed the brothers and whatnot. And now he in jail. So it's just like, it's just that crazy situation where you got that. And I didn't see too much in society. So I just think at this point, you need to just call 12 to come handle it. Like I said, I know that may sound corny and whatever the case like that may be, I've done both, not both, I've done one more than I've done the other. I've lately haven't been in a situation where I had to call 12. because none of my home girls or any of the girls I know have been in a situation where they getting beat up or anything like that. we all, all of us, the people I'm around is a lot more mature and mature, however you want to call it, when they handling their business, who they dealing with. So that you got that. But if I'm in a situation now, hey shorty, honestly, you might as well call 12. You got a better chance calling 12 at this point. LayTheDon: You know what, this is why I know how I protect my goddamn self. I'm tired of this bullshit. Cause GoFredo: I'm just being honest, it's different out here. LayTheDon: whatever I need you to handle the boy print, nigga. GoFredo: Call 12. LayTheDon: sí wow Kevin: I'm like, play dead. Anything. What do you gotta do? You know what I mean? Play dead. LayTheDon: Okay. GoFredo: Play possible Kevin: You know what I'm saying? GoFredo: No, I'm just, hey, look, that's why I say it. I understand it's gonna sound corny. I do understand it, but we in a different time now, especially now, I just seen, I've witnessed, and this ain't, and just to clarify, the situation with Lay wasn't with an ex, it was with some other goofy person and whatever the situation like that. It was with a roommate and whatnot. It was a roommate tweaking. So it was that. But when it comes to relationships, and Lay never did this. But me and her both seen situations, well, we didn't kinda help home girls out, tried to get them away from situations. it do was being emotionally abusive or just being terrible to them or putting their hands on them. And they went back and they kept going back. I've physically been in situations where I beat up girls' boyfriends. and then they went back to them like the next week. Shorty, no, and then you called me a week later. LayTheDon: Mix it help. GoFredo: Literally, I've been in a situation in the three week period. where she called me, I went to go put my hands on dude, whooped him. The next week she back together. And then the week after that, she called me and told me he put our hands on him again. How were you still, when did y'all get back together? Wait, I'm confused here. LayTheDon: Thanks. GoFredo: Like, so you got that situation. So because of that, and like I'm older, I'm wiser, I've educated myself a lot more, like I'm still handling business if it's necessary. And it's like, and it's, you know, it's one of those situations. But now I just think that we all smart enough now to like the people I hang myself around, we not even putting ourself in that situation. if it's a female, if it's one of my homies and they dealing with a female that's putting their hands on them, my homies know that's not a situation they're going to be in. Shorty not making it past and moving on with it. If it's my home girls, any of my home girls that I'm cool with to this day, it's a dude that put their hands on them or raise their voice or even act like they're going to put their hands on them. they not even finna deal with that. They getting theyself out of that situation. So that's what I'm saying. I'm not even in that. I don't even got people in my circle that put theyself in that situation anymore. those people are long gone. I'm so past that. Just because Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: we older now, we all trying to stack boxes. We all trying to stack boxes, get paper and raise families now. be uncles, aunties, dads, moms and shit and stuff like that. LayTheDon: No, no, I I agree with what he's saying. I just don't like it. I just don't like the answer. GoFredo: That's, hey, that's okay. That's okay. I'm number three on the list. So, Kevin: I get I get what you say. I I get what you say. I'm I'm GoFredo: You say what, Kev? LayTheDon: I agree, Kevin: Okay. LayTheDon: I agree, but it but I'm gonna agree with it though. Cause I just feel like you should die behind me at this point. At this point GoFredo: But that's crazy. But that's crazy. Hey look, respectfully, respectfully, I'm not dying behind nobody. You hear me? I ain't have had nobody, respectfully. Kevin: A GoFredo: I go to war for you, but I ain't dying behind Dying behind you is crazy. LayTheDon: The girl walk for me close enough, I'll take the wool part, but goddamn fool, damn. GoFredo: I go to war. But you know me, I'm strategic. LayTheDon: If w r if if some shit happened, I got w is you bailing me out at least? GoFredo: Yeah, I get my people out of jail. I ain't gonna never have nobody sit in there. LayTheDon: Okay, cool. And that's all that matters. As long as as long as I got you as as I got you as my ball yeah, we good. Then we then we straight. We straight. Don't worry about it. We good. GoFredo: Yeah, I ain't never have none Kevin: Lei, GoFredo: of my people sit in there. Nah, that's crazy. Kevin: Lei, I'ma I'ma Lei, I'ma tell you, I'ma tell you straight up, I'ma let you sit in there for a little bit and think about what you did before I let try to wrap. LayTheDon: You ain't shit. That's GoFredo: hahahahah LayTheDon: that li that's a light skinned answer right there, see. That's why I ain't got no light skinned friends for real. Cause y'all if y'all say shit like that. Kevin: I'ma get you out. I'm just saying, I'm gonna give you some time to think about what you did. I don't want you thinking that what you did was all right. I want you to learn your lesson from what you did. LayTheDon: What if I what if I ain't so if GoFredo: It's a- LayTheDon: I go to jail so if I go to jail for defending myself cause he tried to beat my ass, you gonna make me sick cause he beat my Kevin: Uh-huh. Uh-huh. LayTheDon: ass and I defended myself? Kevin: Uh-huh. I told you to play dead, didn't I? I told you to play I t I told you to play dead until I get there, didn't I? GoFredo: Hey, let's keep it a buck. They now feelin' how you go to jail. The law not, the law gonna pick. LayTheDon: I did, I played Dave and he did. Kevin: And you ain't listened. GoFredo: Hey, let's be honest. Hey, let's be honest. LayTheDon: What you mean? Kevin: Thank you. GoFredo: The law not finna, are they not finna let you go to jail? He going to jail. Now if you kill him, you're booked. Bond is the least of your concern. The bond, the bail money is the least of your concern at this point. LayTheDon: Not if I kill him in a self-defense state. Kevin: The way, see, the way, see, see, that's the thing though. The way Lei talking, she saying he doing something, right? Whole time you walk in there, Lei doing the Philly shell, she in there like this, she in there like this. Give it bro, give him bro combo, give it broke GoFredo: She's dipping the show, doesn't she? Kevin: combos. That's why you got arrested. You gotta know your people that you dealing with. She in there GoFredo: Hey! Hey, Kim! Hey, Kevin: in the Philly shell, she in there the Philly shell. Give him bro combos. GoFredo: Hey Kim, she Floyd in that mo, she dipping the shoulder, throwing the jam. She dipping the shoulder, throwing the jam. What you calling me for? You got it. You got it. You 50 and 0. What you calling me for? Kevin: Sorry. LayTheDon: That's what I said. I wouldn't call you for help. I would call you for the for the cleanup or the bond money. Either one. Whichever come first. GoFredo: I think, I ain't Kevin: Yeah, yeah. GoFredo: gonna lie to you, I think like you said, I don't think any of us will be in that situation and whatnot, but at the end of the day, I definitely get you out. I'll buy you out. I'll buy you out. I need to know what you in there for. I'll buy you out. LayTheDon: All right, so that me all right so so so Fredo third, Kobe fourth, Kevin ain't gonna listen unless the point because he ain't even trying to bomb me out. I think gonna leave me in there. yeah, damn. GoFredo: Hey look, well listen, well listen, you, I was just about to say, hey, you might make. LayTheDon: Kobe and a little came a little shout out to my nigga Kobe. GoFredo: Hey, hey, hey, hey, you might as well make care of on the list. So care be the fifth call because by the time you get your fifth call, you on day five. You didn't on day five at that point. You already sat in there for a while. So now it's time to call care. Now it's time to get, hey, hey man, I've been in five days. Kevin: Okay. GoFredo: Look like now I just sat in here five days now. Yeah, get me out of here. I just sat in here. LayTheDon: Well I would hope that I would share. Well I would hope my first four calls would give me out before five days. If y'all ain't give me out before four four four four days, then yeah, what type of fucking phrase is y'all? GoFredo: Hey, gas, $6. Gas, $6. Girl, you gotta understand. You might have to sit in there. Kevin: Hey yo, you know what's so wild though? I'ma I'm gonna keep it I'm I'm I'm gonna keep it a LayTheDon: They got live transfer, mate. Kevin: I'ma keep it a thousand though. Bro, I'm not at this stage in the game, I'm not getting into nothing with anybody over in a getting into a threatening situation unnecessarily outside of my wife, bro. That's it. Period. Period, period. Now things situational GoFredo: Facts. Facts. N-A-X. LayTheDon: First of all. Kevin: things do happen, you know what I'm saying? Like we might who knows we all link up and then we go out and something pop off. That's different. You know what I'm saying? But I'm talking about just just random phone calls and stuff like that. too, too old, too many things going on for that outside of my wife. I'm like, no. Or kid. Or kid. Or kids. That's different. GoFredo: And that's the one thing I know about, and it go back to, I know Leighton liked the answer, but that's the one thing when it comes to lead in, is when you a leader, you gotta make decisions that not everybody gonna approve of, but it's for the benefit of everybody. It suck, but at the same Kevin: Thanks. GoFredo: time, that's what comes with lead in. It's not making the decision that everybody like, but making the decision that's required for the benefit of basically the team. like Kev said. If it's me and my wife, I handle business for me and my wife. But at the same time, I've also made decisions to make sure my wife isn't putting herself in any of these situations. I selected my wife correctly, basically, and whatnot. it's like Kev said, if there's a situation that needs to be handled, you can't handle it as a hothead, because that's how you get, you gotta go in clear minded, and that's what comes to being a leader. You got it in certain ways you got to handle it now. But if there's a situation that pop off on a random Tuesday, me and my wife out of you talking crazy, you yapping at the gums, I'm finna put your gums on the pavement. Your gums going on the sidewalk. I'm letting you that right now. But if there's a situation that we can kinda like, if buddy just talking crazy, you know, it is what it is. Words don't, like I'm at a stage now where words don't phase me. Words don't mean nothing to me at this point. Me going to go tussle with somebody and spending the day in jail or doing something like that. we all got careers now. A record don't look good at our age now. Just to go tussle over some words. It's that type of stuff that needs to be said. So if I'm dealing with my wife and we in a situation and somebody talking crazy, whatever situation like that, let's just get away from this. Let's get away from the situation. And it ain't that I'm soft or I'm weak. It ain't none of that. It's just for the benefit of us moving forward, me spending the day in jail, for the benefit of us. Because once the job found out, we got careers that you get a felony of misdemeanor, it's gonna be hard to kind of figure some stuff out to kind of move around. Kevin: Yeah. GoFredo: All of us in. None of us have a record. Ain't none of the stuff we do. LayTheDon: Shit. None of us. I'm saying all on background checks it. Well care will GoFredo: I'll tell you. Kevin: Yeah. LayTheDon: share. I don't know, care can your y your your your company do background checks? Can you go get a family and still be a financial advisor? Kevin: yeah, yeah yeah. Yeah, 'cause I I I report GoFredo: It's his company. He's doing the checks. Kevin: to 'cause I report to 'cause I report to Fenrest. I report to Fenrest. LayTheDon: That's why as I say, can't can't you still be a financial advisor with a with a murder charge? GoFredo: Where the murder charge is crazy. Kevin: No, I report to Fenra, so I I can't have no I can't bro I can't have no misdemeanor, no felony, I can't have no late taxes, nothing, nothing. GoFredo: See? So it's like, it's all that. It's all that. I think as you get older, you're more wiser to what was going on. I remember when I was being younger and Kevin Lay noticed, I had me Kobe 10 later, but if you call me a bitch, I'm glassing you. I'm putting your teeth in a jar. Don't you ever in your life disrespect me like that. that's what it was when I was growing up, especially being from Chicago. That's what it was. We didn't play like in my generation. Now... LayTheDon: watch that happen. That shit was hilarious. GoFredo: Now, people calling they homies bitches like it's nothing, which is crazy. I've never seen that, but we didn't play that when I was growing up. Now we know when they're close. Now I'm at the stage where if you, that word stuff don't mean nothing. You call me whatever you want to do. You ain't finna show me. You ain't finna show me nothing. So it used to be like, if you say something, I'm putting your teeth on the jaw. Now is, hey man, you got it. You frustrated with, you're unhappy with life. I'm using my words now to get like, hey bro, you unhappy with life. Now I'm enticing you. to do something crazy. Cause as soon as you raise your hand, I'm breaking it. But that's, you know, that's a different conversation for another date. I'm just saying. But I don't think anybody should be doing violence. I don't think anybody's putting their hands on each other. I don't think none of that. I everybody should be peaceful. We should be God fearing people. We should just be loving each other. That's all it is. That's all it is. Let's not put our hands on nobody. look how they Kevin: Hey GoFredo: doing the advertisement. If anybody are in relationships where you getting your hands put on each other, you need to call a 1-800-get-the-hell-out-that situation. That's what you need to be doing. Don't you stay in that situation, that man and that woman putting their hands on you. LayTheDon: Jimmy, I thought it was one eight hundred choke that hoe. GoFredo: Whatever it is, get out. Get out. Get out. Leave. We do not support LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: any type of domestic violence. Get out of that situation. Leave. That's how you do it on the advertisement. You hear me? hear me? But look, check this out. Check this out. Hey, look, this was a good episode. We talked about a lot. We went from relationships to platonic to toxicity to putting teeth in the jaw. But look, check this out. We gonna come back to y'all next week before the exchange. We out, y'all. Peace.