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Season 5 - Episode 129 - Recovering from being mad at yourself · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happen to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  We are talking today about being mad at yourself for getting
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  caught up in something that you knew better.
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  And I just went through this with my son and I'm trying to
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  explain this to him. And I thought, what a great
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  lesson for me to talk to everybody about.
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  So he put something up for sale on Facebook and somehow, oh, it
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  turned out that somebody responded and was trying to take
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  him for a scam. And he's like, how can they scam
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  me if they're buying it and I'm selling it?
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  And it was this whole convoluted thing.
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  Thank goodness he had the, you know, the, the wherewithal to
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  get us involved and say, Hey, is this right?
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  And by him doing that, we recognize that.
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  Oh my goodness, you know, it's a scam.
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  Actually, my husband was the one that recognized it was a scam.
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  And almost immediately, just by the language they were using and
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  how, oh, we're going to transfer you money and you have to give
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  us a link and then you have to give us more money and the bank
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  is saying this and that and then they need another $400.00.
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  It's a minimum account. They come up with this
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  completely convoluted story. And unfortunately some people
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  believe those convoluted stories.
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  But in any event, being mad at yourself for this and having
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  shame around it is not something to take on because it happens to
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  the best of us. I've had people who are
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  extremely intelligent that I work with, that have gotten
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  involved with things because they are very good at being
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  manipulative and they manipulate the situation.
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  They manipulate. They're very manipulative and it
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  is incredibly important to recognize that the most
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  important thing you can do for yourself is to not get mad at
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  yourself for having that be the case.
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  It's more about saying, I'm so grateful that I didn't get
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  caught up in it all the way that I didn't go through the final
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  analysis. I stopped myself along the way.
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  Now, in general, we end up being manipulated all day, every day.
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  We don't think we are, but we are because every ad we see,
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  everything that we are responding to, someone is trying
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  to push us and manipulate us into buying their products.
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  You know, doing something we don't want to do and it's our
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  job to figure out if something aligns with us and are we
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  willing to do something or not do something.
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  Can't stress this enough. We are always on the lookout for
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  those things. Must be part of our normal
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  everyday life. I can tell you that every single
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  thing that comes across my social media or comes through my
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  e-mail, I look at it and I'm like, oh, they're trying to
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  manipulate me into something again.
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  They're trying to get me to buy something.
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  They're trying to get me to pay attention to something.
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  It goes on and on and on. And I know that.
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  I know that. But I am in control of where my
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  focus goes. And this is what we have to know
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  about ourselves. So it's not, it's not a bad
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  thing to be aware and say, hey, you know what?
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  I'm not going to let myself get caught up in this.
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  I'm not going to push put myself in the position of allowing
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  myself to be unaware. It's you can't say you're not
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  going to allow yourself to be manipulated because it happens
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  all the time. I mean, I get manipulated into
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  buying certain things at the grocery store because they give
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  me samples. I mean, Costco has that down,
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  don't they? You walk in, you have no
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  intention of buying a certain cracker, but because they're
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  sampling it and because you're hungry, you walk by the sample
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  cart and before you know it, your mouth is eating a cracker
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  with something on it that you didn't even want when you went
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  in. And then all of a sudden it's in
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  your cart because the woman that's selling it or the man
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  that's selling it is right there selling it on her little table.
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  And she says, oh, they're right here if you want to take one.
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  And before you know it, guess what?
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  You're taking one. And then boom, they're in your
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  cart and there you are with something and you're taking it
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  home. And you're like, I don't even
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  know why I bought this. I don't even know why this is
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  part of my, my shopping experience today, but they've
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  got it down. And guess what?
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  My friends, we were manipulated. I've been manipulated into
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  buying their pimento cheese multiple times because of that.
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  I've been manipulated into buying so many little trinkets
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  that they have there because of that one thing.
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  So don't feel bad, just recognize that's OK.
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  It's your choice and like everything else, it's all about
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  that one thing, making it aware. I'm going to be aware of when
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  I'm being manipulated and I'm going to say, Yep, I'm being
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  manipulated and I know it and it's OK.
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  I'm OK with it right now. Don't beat yourself up for it.
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  Be kind and recognize it and hopefully, hopefully you're
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  going to be able to see it. And once you're aware, you won't
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  be annoyed with yourself. So take that to heart and I hope
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  you guys have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.