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Dear Banya: A Sock for Every Foot · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: And two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 3: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 4: What's going on, Tanya? What's with the question in your voice?
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  Speaker 1: Well?
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  Speaker 5: I thought we were going to use the jingle off? Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: we still scrub in.
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  Speaker 1: No, so he has two options and you guys have
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  Speaker 1: a choice to make which one you like better.
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  Speaker 4: Are you ready for this?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no yet?
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  Speaker 4: Well yeah, okay, that's shitty chat.
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  Speaker 2: Come no, no, I think we want to start the
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  Speaker 2: episodes of Dear Bunny with a jingle.
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  Speaker 5: So I feel like we Oh, I want to start
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  Speaker 5: that right before we go into the emails.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like no, oh, I see what you're seeing.
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  Speaker 5: What I mean, like that'll be our transition into like
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  Speaker 5: the email starting.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we're just gonna chit chat right now.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, like i'd love to hang out with you.
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  Speaker 3: I do. Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I haven't done much hanging since like early December.
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  Speaker 3: And really, yeah, what do you mean?
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  Speaker 5: Like I haven't really been social, Like I just started
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  Speaker 5: being every weekend in the last two weeks. I've been
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  Speaker 5: like more social, but like before that, I wasn't social
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  Speaker 5: for a month and a half. Yeah, that takes a
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  Speaker 5: toll on your friendships.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, on your friendships.
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  Speaker 5: Me and you you feel distant?
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  Speaker 3: You do? Wow, thank you for sharing. How do we
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  Speaker 3: How do we read?
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  Speaker 1: You're a very high maintenance friend. That's all I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: You are.
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  Speaker 1: Friends can go a couple of months. It doesn't mean anything.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't create distance. It just happens. It's life.
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  Speaker 6: Well.
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  Speaker 2: I also think it's hard because we do the podcast
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  Speaker 2: weekly and so it takes it like if we weren't
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  Speaker 2: doing the podcast knowing we'd see each other, we would
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  Speaker 2: be like we would have to make time to like
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  Speaker 2: get together and hang out.
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  Speaker 3: But there's it kind of takes the.
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  Speaker 5: Pressure off because we're going to see each other.
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  Speaker 2: Because we know we're going to see each other, so
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  Speaker 2: it's like, oh, if we Because last weekend I was
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  Speaker 2: planning on hanging out with you because we had talked
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  Speaker 2: about that, and then I had to go to New
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  Speaker 2: York class minute, you know what I'm saying. So it's
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  Speaker 2: like but then I knew I was going to see
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  Speaker 2: you Monday, so I had that sense of like, oh.
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  Speaker 5: I want to see her today, I see I see.
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  Speaker 2: But I think if you if we didn't do the
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  Speaker 2: podcast together weekly, it'd be like, oh my gosh, what
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  Speaker 2: are we going to do?
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  Speaker 3: How are we going to catch up?
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah? But what would you like for us to do
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  Speaker 5: to to maintenance friend? He says, just.
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  Speaker 1: As an outsider's perspective, it seems to me. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: saying you're not, but it just seems I'm maintenance a
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  Speaker 1: lot of the times that you require a certain amount
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  Speaker 1: of social time per month.
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  Speaker 2: I I don't think you're a high maintenance friend.
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  Speaker 4: Well she would know better than I. Perhaps I'm wrong.
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  Speaker 2: I actually because I myself am quite low maintenance.
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  Speaker 3: I attract some highmaidens.
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  Speaker 2: I like a little high maintenance energy keeps me on
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  Speaker 2: my toes, you know. Otherwise, Like what am I doing
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  Speaker 2: just sitting in my bed.
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  Speaker 3: All day laying?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: When you have someone who needs you can't just lay. No,
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  Speaker 2: you got to be up and at him.
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  Speaker 5: You got to be up and at him.
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  Speaker 3: So what would you like to do to reconnect?
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  Speaker 5: I don't know, Maybe dinner at like our cute little place,
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  Speaker 5: which one our little seafood shack, what my ova.
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  Speaker 4: Just name it. It's not gonna be overrun with you. No,
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  Speaker 4: I'm not talking.
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  Speaker 5: About that, but do you want to know that this
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  Speaker 5: is seafood shock Beverly Hills, like upscale restaurant.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, where do we wait?
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  Speaker 5: Can I tell you the sweetest little story pictures of
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  Speaker 5: this place?
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  Speaker 2: Wait?
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  Speaker 4: Can I tell you this seafood shack.
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  Speaker 5: Not a shock, It's not a shack at all. Can
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  Speaker 5: I tell you the sweetest story?
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  Speaker 2: Though?
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  Speaker 5: We took my parent parents there when they were in town.
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  Speaker 5: And they have these towels. Okay, they give you these
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  Speaker 5: towels that are like this big. You're not looking it's
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  Speaker 5: like small, okay, And then they put on a plate
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  Speaker 5: and they pour hot water on it, and then they
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  Speaker 5: like fill up and they're like towels to wipe your
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  Speaker 5: hands with, right, So they're filling up the things and
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  Speaker 5: my dad asks the waiter, He's like, what is this
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  Speaker 5: And he was like, it's a marshmallow like kind of
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  Speaker 5: like wink, like a wink in a nudge And my
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  Speaker 5: dad thought it was and he like, I, I guess
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  Speaker 5: you had to be there because I I have not
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  Speaker 5: laughed that hard I think in like a year, Like
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  Speaker 5: I was belly laughing. I was hurting it was like,
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  Speaker 5: I was laughing so hard, I was crying. I was like, wow, Dad,
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  Speaker 5: I like needed that that laugh.
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  Speaker 2: That just shows the level of this shack that she's
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  Speaker 2: talking about. They bring a moist tale at that they
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  Speaker 2: that grows for you. Right.
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  Speaker 5: I didn't mean that it was an actual shack. I
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  Speaker 5: just meant like, I like a seafood.
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  Speaker 3: Shot, I know, but our little Yeah, we should go
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  Speaker 3: to Malbou. Have you been a Malbou seafood?
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  Speaker 5: Have not?
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's like one of our favorite spots.
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  Speaker 3: It's amazing.
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  Speaker 2: It's not a shock, but it is a little like
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  Speaker 2: beechy vibe.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, delicious seafood.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd love to go get a nice dinner with
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  Speaker 2: you at Ovra and that that drink that they have
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  Speaker 2: a passion fruit one my favorite.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not drinking right now.
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  Speaker 3: That's all I can.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, please enjoy for the both of them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but what does that mean? We went through this
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  Speaker 1: in the Morning Show. You're not drinking all except when.
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  Speaker 5: You drink no like zero like literally zero.
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  Speaker 4: But so bottle of a cadglass of wine.
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  Speaker 5: I haven't had a sip of drink since before Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 1: You've had a sip since before Thanksgiving. Wow, Okay, so
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  Speaker 1: you are not drinking right now.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not drinking right I probably won't drink for a
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  Speaker 5: while because I'm trying to kind of also get more.
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  Speaker 5: Like Robbie started juicing for me, and he's like, we're
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  Speaker 5: trying to do home cooked meals and trying to just
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  Speaker 5: get as much nutrition in my body just because I
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  Speaker 5: feel like I've been depleted of it. So just trying
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  Speaker 5: to like really hone in there. Yeah, yeah, nourish the
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  Speaker 5: bod nurse.
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  Speaker 4: The more studies that come out, the more it's clear
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  Speaker 4: that alcohol is not great.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, correct, And I'm trying to get my insides as
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  Speaker 5: tip top in tiptop as they possibly can well at
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  Speaker 5: the current moment.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, charge it.
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  Speaker 5: Charge it?
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  Speaker 2: Shall we get into the Disney busy beer Deervonya.
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  Speaker 1: There is option number one for jingles. Now again, Easton
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  Speaker 1: took yours. So but if you've missed last week, you
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  Speaker 1: two came up kind of improvised a jingle for dear Bonya.
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  Speaker 2: Say the three of us involved.
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  Speaker 1: He took your singing Becca an Tanya's I actually and
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  Speaker 1: added music to it.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, here we go. Option number one.
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  Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you.
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  Speaker 5: I have idea, dear Bonya.
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  Speaker 1: It's a little lullaby, by the way, that is eastern
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  Speaker 1: on the glock and spiel.
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  Speaker 5: Oh the little noise, the little keyboard you hear piano.
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  Speaker 4: Looks like a piano, but has a different tone to it.
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  Speaker 5: It sounds like a loolabye a little bit.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that was him. That was not you know, AI
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  Speaker 4: or something. All right. Number two, Well, this one's not
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  Speaker 4: as much, but here we go.
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  Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you.
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  Speaker 5: I have idea deer bonya. That's it.
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  Speaker 3: It's the music not quite lighting up with.
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  Speaker 4: I think you're right, but this is what we have.
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  Speaker 4: These are the two options.
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  Speaker 5: One more time.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, run it back.
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  Speaker 4: Number one, glock and Spiel.
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  Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you.
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  Speaker 5: I have idea deer bonya. It's a little sleepy.
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  Speaker 3: It makes me tired.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, and this is the one that may
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  Speaker 1: or may not have been assisted by chat B two.
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  Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you.
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  Speaker 5: I have idea dear Yeah. The dear bonya comes in
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  Speaker 5: a little quick.
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  Speaker 2: The whole thing feels slightly off the beat, but that's
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  Speaker 2: so us. Yeah, but the sound kind of it's kind
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  Speaker 2: of like Miss Rachel or something.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe we need something a little more mature pop.
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  Speaker 3: Mature pop.
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  Speaker 4: But we're we're off taking Starton is heading to New York.
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  Speaker 4: By the way, what maybe I'm not supposed to say.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, but he's gonna go see Weeds.
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  Speaker 3: Happy for him.
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  Speaker 5: I like I like the second one. I say, we
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  Speaker 5: go with it.
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  Speaker 3: No, I'm not. I think it can be better, and that.
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  Speaker 5: The charge it to the game.
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  Speaker 4: Here we go, and now it's time for.
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  Speaker 2: I have idea maybe sped up a little bit too.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, Bega, Tanya Easton and Mark.
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  Speaker 1: This is from anonymous day one scrubber here active member
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  Speaker 1: in the Facebook group immediate listener when episodes drop. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you for being a constant place of joy. I'm thirty three,
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  Speaker 1: single for years, finally met someone that feels different. We
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  Speaker 1: have so much in common, communicate well, and are extremely
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  Speaker 1: attracted to each other. It's still early days and I'm
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  Speaker 1: trying not to get my hopes up too high while
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  Speaker 1: also not sabotaging it. While texting one night, he let
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  Speaker 1: me know that he has a foot fetish.
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  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, to.
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  Speaker 1: Be honest, I wasn't immediately freaked out, but curious. I
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  Speaker 1: asked what that means to him, and to the extent
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  Speaker 1: he said, I just like when they're taken care of
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  Speaker 1: and they look nice, nice paint job and smooth. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: suck on the toes a little and kiss them during
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  Speaker 1: certain moments. Since then, he's made comments about sucking on
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  Speaker 1: my toes. Not in an overly weird way, no, of
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  Speaker 1: course not, but I feel like when he said maybe
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  Speaker 1: sucking the toes a little, he may have downplanted a bit.
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  Speaker 1: I guess my question here is how do I stay
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  Speaker 1: open to the idea as we continue to get to
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  Speaker 1: know each other. Feet don't freak me out. I don't
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  Speaker 1: mind having my feet touched. I actually if this could
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  Speaker 1: benefit me, since he said he'd love to give me
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  Speaker 1: foot massages often. I guess my hesitation comes from not
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  Speaker 1: having experience with that and the taboo nature are on
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  Speaker 1: foot fetishes in general. What if he's the guy of
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  Speaker 1: my dreams and I just didn't know until now that
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  Speaker 1: my guy would be so in defeat signed are my
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  Speaker 1: toes and me ready?
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  Speaker 3: I have a couple thoughts.
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  Speaker 2: So my first thought is, I think your reaction is
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  Speaker 2: totally valid, like being feeling new and having a new
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  Speaker 2: experience with someone who's.
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  Speaker 3: Has a fetish that you haven't navigated before.
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  Speaker 2: My other thought is I appreciate his honesty about this
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  Speaker 2: because I think so many people don't get what they
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  Speaker 2: want in relationships, specifically or sexually because they're not it's
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  Speaker 2: too vulnerable to admit that they're into. Maybe you'll like
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  Speaker 2: someone paying such close attention to your feet, you know, like,
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  Speaker 2: maybe you'll I mean, I agree, take advantage of getting
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  Speaker 2: a foot massage whenever you want.
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  Speaker 5: So I'm with you on this.
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  Speaker 3: We had a whole.
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  Speaker 2: Episode about toe sucking because you were questioning toe sucking.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, so I have never the fetisher. Yeah, well that's
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  Speaker 5: not a fetish being curious about something, is it? I
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  Speaker 5: don't think so. But so I'm with beck on that
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  Speaker 5: I appreciate that he's vocal and that he can be
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  Speaker 5: honest about it. My only concern here is what if
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  Speaker 5: this is just him dipping his toe in? Like, what
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  Speaker 5: if he has other fetishes that aren't.
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  Speaker 4: Is that a thing?
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  Speaker 1: If if someone has a fetish, they may have multiple fetishes, Well,
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  Speaker 1: that's going to take too much time to tap out.
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  Speaker 4: I think we should focus on the show.
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  Speaker 2: I think it could be either way. I could this
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  Speaker 2: could be one of his fetishes. But that's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: He's not trying to hide it. He like straight up
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  Speaker 2: was like I like feet, I want to suck on toes,
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  Speaker 2: and like.
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  Speaker 5: Like, what if this is one of like a plethora
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  Speaker 5: of fetishes he enjoys.
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  Speaker 3: Because then but then she can deal with it.
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  Speaker 5: Because like the foot thing, I could handle. I think
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  Speaker 5: I've never had to navigate that personally, but I think
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  Speaker 5: I would be fine with the feet thing. It's like,
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  Speaker 5: if it were was to flow into other areas, I
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  Speaker 5: think that would make me nervous.
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  Speaker 4: What would be a red flag fetish for you, Tanya?
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  Speaker 5: I don't want to say, because I feel like some
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  Speaker 5: people are like into this, sure, no judgment, Like yeah,
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  Speaker 5: this is like bondage. Yeah, I don't think i'd like that.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let's say Robbie is exactly Robbie and he said
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  Speaker 1: to you, Hey, I think it'd be cool if you
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  Speaker 1: tied me up.
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  Speaker 5: I think it would. I think I would be scared.
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  Speaker 4: You'd be scared of that.
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  Speaker 5: I think so.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, even like like after you decided that you were
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  Speaker 2: in love with him, and he confessed that it's hard.
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  Speaker 5: To say, but like, yeah, I think it would.
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  Speaker 2: Like what about now if he was like, by the
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  Speaker 2: way I have, like, you're married, So like what if
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  Speaker 2: he finally felt vulnerable enough to.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I think that's what happens with some people and
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  Speaker 5: why they get divorced because they like morph into like
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  Speaker 5: different people. So that is like a possible Well I'm
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  Speaker 5: not even gonna go there for me, but like in general.
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  Speaker 4: Right, that would be cause for concern.
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  Speaker 1: If he brought out some silk scarves and said, tonight's
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  Speaker 1: the night I would like you to tie me up.
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  Speaker 5: I think I'd be uncomfortable with it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, well but that's fine. That's fine. I think that's fine.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not saying I would be fine.
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  Speaker 2: You are.
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  Speaker 5: You guys are both saying your partners came to you
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  Speaker 5: and said, let's have a little silk sash, tie me
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  Speaker 5: to the bed. You'd be chill.
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  Speaker 3: You'd be like, yeah, babe, well I guess I would.
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  Speaker 3: I I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I trust Haley, So like if that's
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  Speaker 2: what she wanted, and I was like, okay, if that's
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  Speaker 2: what you need.
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  Speaker 5: Every night, and the next night she's putting a ball
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  Speaker 5: in your mouth.
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  Speaker 2: Well, if it was me, if it was like based
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  Speaker 2: on things that were happening to my body, I would
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  Speaker 2: have boundaries.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want a ball in my mouth, nor do I.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm just okay, now we're gotten on topic here,
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  Speaker 2: So okay, here's my thing.
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  Speaker 3: If you immediately feel uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 2: My thing with anything is if it makes you feel
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  Speaker 2: uncomfortable in a way that's like my spidy senses are
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  Speaker 2: going off in a way that my my nervous system
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  Speaker 2: feels unsettled, then I don't think there's even reason to
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  Speaker 2: continue the relationship, because that's that's like your body telling
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  Speaker 2: you something. If you're like, WHOA, this is new and
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  Speaker 2: I've never had this experience. But I like this guy,
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  Speaker 2: and he's at least being honest and vulnerable with me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna see what this looks like, and you want
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  Speaker 2: to give it a shot, go for it. If it
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  Speaker 2: turns into something more and he has other fetishes that
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  Speaker 2: you're uncomfortable with, then then you navigate it as they
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  Speaker 2: come by. But I don't know, I don't think this
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  Speaker 2: is like it. I personally don't think it's a deal breaker.
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  Speaker 2: I think he's being honest about what he likes, and
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  Speaker 2: I think that a lot of people aren't and that
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  Speaker 2: leads to other problems.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, and I also think it's like public perception of
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  Speaker 5: these things too, like what's wrong with the little foot fetish?
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  Speaker 2: I think a lot of people have a foot fetish.
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  Speaker 2: There's a whole website about how people's feet look. And I,
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  Speaker 2: you know, like, it's not an uncommon thing. And I
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  Speaker 2: think that he's just telling you up front, and I
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  Speaker 2: don't know, I'm not bothered by it for you, but
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  Speaker 2: if there's other things that he does that this adds
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  Speaker 2: to an unsettled feeling, then you listen to that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: But what I think is a lot of people write
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  Speaker 2: in and they're like, I don't feel like remember we
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  Speaker 2: had that sex therapist on and or a couple therapists.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if you were there. I may have
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  Speaker 3: done it by myself. No, I think you were there.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: But she was saying basically, a lot of people have
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: needs and they don't talk about what their needs are
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: because it's too vulnerable or the press of it prevents
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: them from it. So then they're never satisfied, and that
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: leads to other issues in the relationship. So maybe he
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: was in a relationship and it became a problem. So
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: he's like, I'm just gonna be upfront about this when
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: I meet people so that there's no surprises.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.
• 16:14
  Speaker 5: This guy like, well, we don't have to go down
• 16:16
  Speaker 5: that path. What I didn't know this was a real
• 16:21
  Speaker 5: thing I saw in our Facebook group, but that there's
• 16:23
  Speaker 5: like sex parties. Oh and people go and you like
• 16:27
  Speaker 5: watch people have sex and like you like watch them.
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: So the entertainment at the party.
• 16:33
  Speaker 5: Is a couple and I don't know if you like
• 16:37
  Speaker 5: buy tickets to.
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: It or it's a public thing. Yeah, oh interesting.
• 16:43
  Speaker 5: Yeah, listen, there's a lot of like interests and people
• 16:46
  Speaker 5: that go. So it's like again like do you do you?
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: But like there's so much there's a sock for every foot.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: Is basically well, you're throwing the puns around. It's professional
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: level today. Thank you, good luck, anymous please update us.
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: All please you're hilarious. Coming up next.
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: If you agree to attend a destination wedding, are you
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: allowed to change your mind and take back your yes?
• 17:12
  Speaker 5: Well it depends.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: Well we'll get all the details coming up next.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: We're back.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: Here we go dear Banya and Meston, thank you so
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: much for always providing such joy and entertainment every week
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: and my day one Scrubb I look forward to every
• 17:41
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• 17:41
  Speaker 4: You guys are the best.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: A few months ago, I told one of my close
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: friends that I'd be able to attend her destination wedding
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: in Italy. At the time, it felt doable and super exciting.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: But as the date gets closer, I'm realizing how much
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: has changed for me since we last talked about it.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: In the past few months, I've had a death in
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: the family, along with some ongoing family drama that's been
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: emotionally draining. Money's become much tighter than I expected when
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: we talked about the wedding four months ago. I thought
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: I'd be in a different place by now, but the
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: reality is planning an international trip, even one that's still
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: months away, feels out of reach for me at the moment.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: The RCAP is due in a few weeks and the
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: wedding is at the end of July. What makes this
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: even harder is that it's a small wedding. Only a
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: handful of friends are invited. I feel like saying no
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: now I would be letting her down in a big
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: way after originally said yes. I don't want to hurt her,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: and I don't want to feel like I don't care,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: because I do. But I'm struggling to balance being a
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: good friend with being honest. But where I am emotionally
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: and financially right now? How do you know when it's
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: okay to change your mind even when you've said yes?
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: And how do you have that conversation without feeling the
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: worst friend ever? I feel like anything I say is
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: going to sell like an excuse, but it is just
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: the truth.
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: Love you all so much.
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: I mean, you recently got married and dealt with invites
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: and stuff. How did you navigate that?
• 18:52
  Speaker 5: I think if you give people enough time, I think
• 18:56
  Speaker 5: it's okay. And you're saying this wedding is until the
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: end of July, so she plenty of time. So I
• 19:01
  Speaker 5: think it's totally fine and valid and you can explain
• 19:06
  Speaker 5: what's going on like I don't. I don't see any
• 19:08
  Speaker 5: issue with you changing your RCP at this point. If
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: you were going to do it in June, I would
• 19:15
  Speaker 5: I would say she might hate you for a short
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: period of time, but even June, I feel like I
• 19:21
  Speaker 5: had I feel like I had somebody cancel a few
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: weeks out and it was still fine. I think it's okay,
• 19:31
  Speaker 5: especially with what you're going through.
• 19:33
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I think.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: I think when you choose a destination wedding, you kind
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: of have to be prepared for people to be going
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: through things in life and it being a financial burden
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: and under be a little more understanding because it's a
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: big to do to plan a trip and have to
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: pay for hotel, flights, all the things.
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: So I think I agree.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: I think you're giving her plenty of time to maybe
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: invite another friend that can be there. I think you
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: have a conversation, maybe take her to dinner or I
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: don't know if she's a friend that lives in the
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: same place as you, But I think you have a
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: in person or at least on the phone conversation with
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: her so she can hear your tone and hear how
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: bummed you are and how you know sad you are
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: to miss it, but know that you're just in a
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: place where it's just too hard to even think about.
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: And she might offer either to help if she really
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: wants you there, and she might or she might just
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: be understanding.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: And I think if she's bummed.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: That's totally valid and is also just like her being
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: bummed is just her wanting you to be there, Like
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: that's just her love for you and wanting to be
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: there to celebrate.
• 20:35
  Speaker 5: I think there's like two types of brides out there,
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: and like I think some people take this stuff very
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: personally and if like you're not there, you're cut and
• 20:44
  Speaker 5: you're this and you're that. And then there's some people
• 20:47
  Speaker 5: who just understand that, like things happen. Like I had
• 20:51
  Speaker 5: a friend who couldn't come. I don't want to say
• 20:53
  Speaker 5: it was last minute, but he had a work thing
• 20:56
  Speaker 5: pop up, and I understand that, like works out in
• 21:00
  Speaker 5: this industry is very cutthrow and it's very crazy, and
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: so I totally understood the decision. I was sad and
• 21:05
  Speaker 5: I was bummed, but like I totally understood.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: So it's like I.
• 21:09
  Speaker 5: Think that if this is a friend that's so close
• 21:12
  Speaker 5: to you, I think she'll understand. I think you're giving
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: her plenty of time to figure it out, and I
• 21:17
  Speaker 5: think it to do it's best for you.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: I also think the thing that.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: You having the conversation and her being able to understand it,
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: as opposed to you just being like hey, I can't
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: go right. We'll give her understanding and a little more
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: grace with the situation. But I think you do what
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: you have to do.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: Another're anonymous, Dear Beca, Tanya Mark and Eastern. I'm such
• 21:42
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• 21:44
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• 21:45
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• 21:47
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• 21:48
  Speaker 4: You guys are the best.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: I need help with how to deal with what might
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: be the nosiest neighbor.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: Of all time.
• 21:58
  Speaker 5: I'm not nosy.
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: My gay partner and I are moving out of our home.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: My neighbor texts me at all hours of the day
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: and night with constant updates about what's happening in our
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: town and our neighborhood. Things he's seen, things he's heard,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: questions like where's the family next door?
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: Ben? It's NonStop.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: What makes it even worse that he doesn't know anyone's name,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: so he describes our neighbors using the most inappropriate physical
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: descriptions imaginable and I truly don't think he means any harm,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: but it drives me crazy. I don't want to be
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: rude to tell him to mind his own business, because
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, he is my neighbor.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: I have to see him regularly. I also don't want
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: to create tension to be at odds since if he's
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: this nosy, I guess there's some comfort in knowing he's
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: probably watching my house too. But at the same time,
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: the constant text and commentary are really threatening to bug me,
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: and I don't know how to set boundaries without making
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: things awkward or hurting his feelings. How do I politely
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: shut this down or at least ask him to scale
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: it back while without causing drama. Is there a way
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: to do it that keeps the peace but gives me
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: my sanity back?
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: Thank you?
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: This is so hard I would I would not know
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: what to do, But from someone who's not going through it,
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: I how I would handle it is. I would just say, Hey,
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: there's so much like going on in the world, and
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: I'm having a lot of anxiety right now, and I
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: think you're like getting text updates about things happening in
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: our neighborhood like kind of is increasing that feeling.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: If if there's any way that we can.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: Just well, I would just say, if there's something that's
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: like important that I need to know about. I'm really
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: grateful to have you like looking out for our neighborhood.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: But I think the more updates I get, the more
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: like anxious it makes me. And I'm just be like,
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: I'm really grateful that you are looking out for the
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: neighborhood and you know, keeping an eye on things.
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: But Becca's going in.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: I just I don't think it's fair that someone else's
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: need to like but that's what you is is becomes
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: a burden on Like she's writing in to ask advice
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: about it.
• 23:58
  Speaker 5: But I think that sometimes people like this, like they
• 24:01
  Speaker 5: like the drama, they like the like being in it.
• 24:03
  Speaker 5: They want someone to engage. They're looking for that, right,
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: So if you stop engaging as much, so maybe and
• 24:08
  Speaker 5: it's gonna sound like you're playing a game, but like
• 24:11
  Speaker 5: stop engaging as much, like wait a very long time
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: to text him back, or maybe just like thumbs up
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: a text and like don't engage in it. I think
• 24:18
  Speaker 5: maybe he'll get the hint.
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: We don't know if she's engaging. She might be doing
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: that already.
• 24:23
  Speaker 5: She might be respond well, I'm rating that under the
• 24:27
  Speaker 5: impression that she's like engaging with this person because and
• 24:30
  Speaker 5: I have people like that sometimes too, like at work
• 24:32
  Speaker 5: that just like want to like engage in these things
• 24:35
  Speaker 5: that I have no interest in engaging, and so I'll
• 24:37
  Speaker 5: just like respond the next day and being like sorry,
• 24:40
  Speaker 5: I just saw this, like yeah, you know, because then
• 24:43
  Speaker 5: like some of this steam, you know, goes down. So
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: I would just like try to engage less or like
• 24:51
  Speaker 5: thumbs up instead of like responding with words just like
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: a thumbs up or you know.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would so limit your like responses to him,
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: and then if he says, hey, why aren't you responding,
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: you can just say I get.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: A lot of anxiety. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good advice.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: That's good advice. I just assume maybe she wasn't.
• 25:09
  Speaker 5: Already was already just limit for the jugular feels.
• 25:13
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: I think if you've already just limited yourself to not
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: responding and only emphasizing the messages and he's still going
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: and it's still giving him anxiety, then I think you
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: can he if he says, like, why aren't you responding,
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: you can just say, hey, I have a lot of
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: anxiety and this does not help. That's really really hard,
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: and if you have the means, you should move.
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: I'm just kidding.
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: I wish I had, like, not quite that, but I
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: wish I had more of.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: Haley says, I am the neighborhood watch. She says, I'm
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: so nosy, and.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I am not no I'm not like in
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: people's business, but I do like paying attention to what's
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: happening mirror us and around us on my apps.
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not telling anyone.
• 25:54
  Speaker 5: I wish I had a little more of that, like neighborhood,
• 25:56
  Speaker 5: like camaraderie, prottery. We just don't have.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: Maybe the new name moving in you can get to know.
• 26:01
  Speaker 5: Yes, I will make them a basket.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: One thing I really learned, and it's so interesting that
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Party says about the way he describes I'm picturing this
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: guy older because there was an older generation, which is
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: weird because I'm an older generation. But there's an older
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: generation that cannot describe people without using physical characteristics. And
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I love that about gen Z, how they've kind of
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: been the engine behind this. You cannot describe someone physically
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: to them without getting politely corrected. It's their clothes, their
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: hair color, or nothing else. There's nothing else you could
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: say when you're trying you know that person, you're up
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: on stage with that person, you better have their clothes,
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: you better have their name, or you better have hair color,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: because that is it. If you describe them in any
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: other way, it is wrong and inappropriate. And I respect that,
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: and I really think that's kind of a cool trend
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: that's been happening.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: But there are some descriptions that aren't. It's it's how
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: they're spoken that are that is offensive in my opinion,
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: like there, it's like there, or if it's a if
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: it's an attribute or physical attribute that's unnecessary.
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: That's what the older generation does.
• 27:02
  Speaker 5: They give it the big nose.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: They give a detail that you're like that had nothing
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: to do with the story. But if it's important in
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: terms of describing what someone looks like, there are physical
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: attributes that set someone apart from the next person wearing
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: a red shirt.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: I know I have in doing that. Well, I know
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: something you might even think is complimentary doesn't matter, but.
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, but like I do think that's like if
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: the police are like, what did she look like? And
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: I'm like a red shirt and then they're like, well,
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: there's three people there.
• 27:37
  Speaker 5: You know, if you're getting asked by the police, you
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: better give them like every mole and every blemish.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: But I'm just saying, like I understand that that generation
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: just pops off on description and attributes that you're like,
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: I did not that had nothing to do with the story.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: You're just rude.
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: All Right, we come back.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: We have a light one to wrap up with this Thursday.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Dear Banya, We're back.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: Oh crush to you.
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: This from Jenny.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: Hi, guys, I've been seeing people talking about this online,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: and after hearing you discuss people we meet on vacation,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: wanted to get your take. Everyone's pointing out that this
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: story is like a horror story. From Alex's girlfriends Sarah's
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: point of view, Your boyfriend has a platonic best friend
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: that he goes on vacation with alone every year, and
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: they text all the time. I read the book years ago,
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: so I don't really remember all the backstory, how much
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: context the book the book gives her, But still I
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: could not wrap my head around it. No matter how much,
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: no matter how much trust you have, the dynamic feels
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: like a lot. So I have to ask, what would
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: you do if Robbie or Helly had a best friend
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: like this? Is this a total red flag or is
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: this one of those situations where the history really matters
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: and you just have to trust it. I could not
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: fathom it. Can't wait to hear your takes. Love you
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: all so much, Jenny.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: I thought the I could be wrong because I didn't
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: read the book, but I thought the movie kind of
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: alluded to the fact that they went on vacation together
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: when they were not together, and then the vacation where
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: they were all together they were on.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: So I kind of got that impression.
• 29:25
  Speaker 5: I think what she's saying is like, forget the like
• 29:27
  Speaker 5: specifics of the movie, and like, would you be comfortable
• 29:30
  Speaker 5: if your partner had somebody of I get like it
• 29:35
  Speaker 5: would be like if Haley had a best her best
• 29:38
  Speaker 5: girlfriend that she's going on trips without you all on
• 29:42
  Speaker 5: all the time. Like if rob that's.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: Kind of hard.
• 29:44
  Speaker 6: I mean.
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: It's like if Robbie had a girl friend that he
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: was like going on vacation with, I'd be like, hell
• 29:51
  Speaker 5: to the freaking no.
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's what I'm saying.
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: But if if you and Robbie had a relationship that
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: was very on and off and it was just like
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: there were moments y'all together and not together and you
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: had a best room from child and he had a
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: best room from childhood, or you had a best room
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: from childhood that was of the opposite sex, and y'all
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: were not together, would it be a problem for you
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: to go on vacation alone with him if you and
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: Robbie aren't together.
• 30:13
  Speaker 5: I would be weirded out if this guy that I'm
• 30:16
  Speaker 5: on and off with is always going on vacation with
• 30:18
  Speaker 5: another woman. Yeah, I think I'd be like, yeah, I'm weird.
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: I would too.
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: I'm just saying like, there, it's kind of that we
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: were on a break conversation, and it's like.
• 30:26
  Speaker 5: If we were together, if we were on a break,
• 30:28
  Speaker 5: if I met him on I don't know.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that the Sarah girl on the story,
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: in my opinion, put up with Wait. I would have
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: been like, hey, I don't.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: Think I compete with this girl.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: She's very important to you, obviously, and I feel less
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: than But I think that about the wedding planner. The
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: wedding Planner is like literally a horror film. You're getting
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: married to the love of your life and your fiance
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: falls in love with the woman planning the wedding.
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: And goes to the Oh yeah, my gosh, what a
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: great movie.
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: That was. It's amazing, But when you think about the storyline,
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: you're like, oh my gosh, this is a nightmare.
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: Worst worst case scenario.
• 31:09
  Speaker 5: Worst case scenario.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: They're eating peanuts together at the drive the park movie.
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: Or whatever it is.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a lot of movies like that. But that's
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: the thing about movies. They romanticize horrible things.
• 31:26
  Speaker 5: I wouldn't like it. My answer to this is I
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: would not like it.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't like it either.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: And you know, what if if the person that I
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: loved had obviously deep feelings for someone of the opposite sex.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: I mean, I guess if I felt like Hayley had
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: flirtatious interactions with even another woman like that and they
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: were going on vacations, I'd be like, I'm uncozy.
• 31:49
  Speaker 5: Charge it, Charge it to the game.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: I don't know if charge it works, but end it
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: would be more my Yeah, yeah, wipe it. Okay, that's
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: all for now. We love you so much.
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: Please send any options for your Bania jingles.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: Dear Bonnia jingles.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we were all to a start, and we know
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: what we like and what we don't like.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Easton said when he made these, Hopefully this inspires scrubbing yes, yes, yes, yes.
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: What Eastern is is he is a vessel. Yes, he
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: is a fire starter.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: So it's not necessarily the flame that's going to keep
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: the fire going, but it's the flame that gets the
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: fire started.
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's what those were. And it's only up
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: from here.
• 32:36
  Speaker 5: It only go up from here, up up, up where
• 32:41
  Speaker 5: the cloud's gone, like that, up up, It only go
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: up from here. Even my skin is acting weird. I
• 32:51
  Speaker 5: wish that I could grow a beard like No, then
• 32:55
  Speaker 5: he wants to go. Nobody knows the song. Yeah, I
• 32:59
  Speaker 5: don't want to jump in.
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: I was giving solo performance. Dang, all right, that's all
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: for now.
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: We love you so much A three weekend.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Bye,