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Herspiration Happy Hour, Season 9, Episode 24: The Group Chat is Open · Herspiration Happy Hour

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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations?
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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations?
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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations with your host, the unapologetic diva Dr.
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SPEAKER_00: G, the girlfriend therapist Dr.
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SPEAKER_00: Cortina Lewis, and the networking extraordinaire Diana Richardson Philippis?
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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversation?
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SPEAKER_00: This is Herspiration Happy Hour.
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SPEAKER_00: Happy Wednesday and welcome to another episode of Hearspiration Happy Hour.
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SPEAKER_00: This is season nine, episode 24.
0:51
SPEAKER_00: Y'all, I'm telling you, I was trying to hurry up and get that gummy bear down.
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SPEAKER_00: This is your unapologetic D.
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SPEAKER_00: But Dr.
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SPEAKER_00: G.
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SPEAKER_01: This is Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: Cortina Lewis, aka the girlfriend therapist.
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SPEAKER_02: It is Diana Richardson Philippus, your networking extraordinaire.
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SPEAKER_02: I'm back.
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SPEAKER_02: I said I'm back.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm back.
1:15
SPEAKER_00: And we're glad to have you back.
1:18
SPEAKER_00: Okay, so it is winning Wednesday.
1:21
SPEAKER_00: And as always, we take this time to celebrate anything that you have going on.
1:27
SPEAKER_00: So what are we celebrating this week, ladies?
1:30
SPEAKER_00: What can we celebrate with you today?
1:32
SPEAKER_01: We are celebrating the 49ers 6 and 0 winning street.
1:42
SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry, I cannot, I can't applaud to that.
1:44
SPEAKER_01: I know, I know, and I do my heart goes out to y'all team.
1:49
SPEAKER_01: We send prayers for Jalen Hurts.
1:51
SPEAKER_01: Oh, that's just so horrible.
1:53
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, for sure.
1:54
SPEAKER_01: Well, we know y'all ain't going to the Super Bowl.
1:56
SPEAKER_01: But um, anyway, any ma'am.
2:02
SPEAKER_02: Let's start this.
2:06
SPEAKER_00: I know we had a we have a lot of injured players right now.
2:09
SPEAKER_00: So I mean, you know, it's but you know what?
2:12
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if any of you all really noticed, not just with the Eagles, but every game, it's like somebody's going out.
2:19
unknown: Oh, yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: It seems like every, I mean, including a ref.
2:23
SPEAKER_00: I mean, good God, on the at the London game, a referee was taken out and he's out for the rest of the season.
2:30
SPEAKER_02: Like, what's broke up, child?
2:33
SPEAKER_00: I know, I know.
2:34
SPEAKER_00: It's kind of crazy, but you know, a heartfelt to all the players that are that seem to be getting injured um and sometimes injured pretty bad, where they're out for the rest of the season or missing majority of the season.
2:47
SPEAKER_00: As football lovers, I mean, I not you necessarily Cortina, but Diana and I, real, real football watchers.
2:55
SPEAKER_00: Um, it it's it's like disheartening for us.
2:59
SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
3:00
SPEAKER_00: I I don't care when, lose, or draw, I don't care how bad they get, how many losses, I'm gonna always be an Eagles fan.
3:07
SPEAKER_02: That part, yeah, I'm gonna ride to the wheels fall off.
3:10
SPEAKER_02: Yes, yes, and we may not go to the Super Bowl or even the playoffs this year, but trust and believe, you know how we do.
3:19
SPEAKER_02: We have an off season, and then we come back and we're gonna go to the Super Bowl and probably win it.
3:25
SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, so yeah, we just gotta get some things together.
3:30
SPEAKER_00: Um, but you know, so what else can we celebrate?
3:34
SPEAKER_02: Yes, because that we didn't count.
3:37
SPEAKER_00: That we don't blow the state.
3:43
SPEAKER_00: Yep, but what else can we celebrate?
3:46
SPEAKER_00: What else can we celebrate?
3:48
SPEAKER_01: She said already said it.
3:51
SPEAKER_01: That is a good celebration.
3:53
SPEAKER_01: Um, well, you know, you all y'all niece made it to the uh finals, final, final list before homecoming.
4:01
SPEAKER_01: I don't know if I said that.
4:03
SPEAKER_01: So we find out on the 14th if she will be crowned Miss Osprey.
4:07
SPEAKER_01: So we'll see.
4:12
SPEAKER_00: Amazing.
4:15
SPEAKER_00: I need to cut my phone uh well I'll go ahead with mine.
4:22
SPEAKER_02: Okay, I am celebrating rest, peace, and tranquility, which is my gift that I have been giving to myself for a while as I maneuvered through some things.
4:36
SPEAKER_02: So cheers to being unapologetic about your needs and and your progression and what you need to progress in life.
4:47
SPEAKER_01: So I'll win that is definitely something to clap about.
4:54
SPEAKER_02: You ain't lying.
4:56
SPEAKER_00: I'll double that clap, and you know what?
5:01
SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna piggyback.
5:03
SPEAKER_00: No, we're not we weren't clapping for the 49ers, honey.
5:06
SPEAKER_00: Um, so I'm gonna piggyback right off of that because I am celebrating that I have myself have been really intentional about just settling into my new home and then kind of being back and forth, just really and so I was telling Jay, I said, you know, y'all know I've been coming back and forth, back and forth because he was still working and he starts his new job next week.
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SPEAKER_00: But when he came, we got here Saturday, and just the last few days, I shared with him that it finally feels like home.
5:37
SPEAKER_00: Like this was a house, it was very beautifully done and all that, but it still felt empty.
5:43
SPEAKER_00: And so now that he's home, it's like it finally feels like home.
5:46
SPEAKER_00: So I was going to Maryland all the time, like I spent more time in Maryland than I did in this house.
5:51
SPEAKER_00: I would get I would get here on a Wednesday and turn around and leave on a Friday.
5:58
SPEAKER_00: Um, and so I I I'm grateful that I get to I've just really not only just kind of disconnected from being online all the time, like creating and all that.
6:08
SPEAKER_00: And I think I shared that before, but I I really just listened to myself.
6:13
SPEAKER_00: I just rested and I didn't worry about much that was going on, you know, to be like, oh, let me do some posts.
6:20
SPEAKER_00: Now I have content, I just I haven't felt like posting or creating, making something of it.
6:27
SPEAKER_00: And so I think these breaks because we feel sometimes we have to be doing so much to stay on an algorithm where well I am on my own algorithm.
6:37
SPEAKER_00: I I was listening myself, I was going to sleep at uh decent times, um, waking up at decent times.
6:45
SPEAKER_00: I've been able to just meditate and being my own.
6:48
SPEAKER_00: I've gotten a chance to talk to people who I've not gotten a chance to talk to in a while, and those kind of things really matter on how you show up in person versus like always feeling like you have to connect online.
7:01
SPEAKER_00: So that's my that's my win for this week.
7:06
SPEAKER_00: Um Cortina, do you have any drinks for us or a drink for us today, or will we get that later on?
7:20
SPEAKER_00: Dr.
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SPEAKER_00: Lewis.
7:21
SPEAKER_00: Uh oh.
7:22
SPEAKER_00: Oh, we might have lost her.
7:24
SPEAKER_00: Oh no.
7:26
SPEAKER_00: Well, we'll come back and ask her about that, but in the interim, we can certainly kick off our topic because I think the first thing that I want to ask is that, you know, let's Diana, you weren't on, so we missed last week and week before, I think we were on, it might have been the week before that.
7:48
SPEAKER_00: Well, we was just doing one where it was like things I wish I would have known.
7:52
SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna make some, I'm gonna put some clarity to some things.
7:55
SPEAKER_00: Diana, thank you so much because of Diana.
8:01
SPEAKER_00: Oh, oh, she's here now.
8:04
SPEAKER_00: Because of me.
8:05
SPEAKER_00: Hold on.
8:06
SPEAKER_00: There she is.
8:07
SPEAKER_00: There she is.
8:09
SPEAKER_00: So Cortina, I'm talking about our episode when we were talking about things I wish we would have known.
8:15
SPEAKER_00: And you all, I thank you all for all of the views and the comments and all of that stuff.
8:22
SPEAKER_00: But where she disappeared again, however, Diana, one and what I was saying to you is that you have you've really taught me.
8:30
SPEAKER_00: Like, I will go and read comments and I'll I'll spend maybe 15 minutes replying back.
8:37
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, after that 15 minutes, I don't care how many people respond back after me, I don't entertain it.
8:44
SPEAKER_00: I don't allow certain things to consume.
8:46
SPEAKER_00: What is going on with her computer?
8:48
SPEAKER_00: I don't allow, I don't allow things to consume my energy.
8:53
SPEAKER_00: Also, I said what I said based off of my experience, and I'm not going back and forth because it doesn't happen to you, because that was not your experience, because you just feel like you, I don't know, want to say what you want to say, but uh I'm just like, you know what?
9:12
SPEAKER_00: I don't have time to go back and forth with people that I don't know.
9:15
SPEAKER_00: I I appreciate everybody having an opinion about it and sharing their experience and all of that stuff.
9:21
SPEAKER_00: And I did respond back to a few people, but after that, I didn't even go back to that post anymore.
9:25
SPEAKER_00: I saw where a lot of people were responding and all of that, but again, I said what I said based off of my experience.
9:32
SPEAKER_00: I don't care how many GYNs you choose to tag, I talked to my GYN, I talked to my nurse practitioner GYN.
9:40
SPEAKER_00: She said, I don't care how many GYNs you tag.
9:45
SPEAKER_01: It is true, it is true because I saw some people and they was like, Well, that never happened to me.
9:50
SPEAKER_01: One, I was looking at some of the ages of those individuals.
9:53
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, when I was in my 20s and 30s, that wasn't happening to me either.
9:56
SPEAKER_01: And then I said, Well, everybody's vulva area is shaped differently, it looks differently down there.
10:02
SPEAKER_01: So the way your anatomy looks, that is yours, so you can't speak for everybody and say, Well, that has never happened to me.
10:11
SPEAKER_01: Because I saw some people saying, Oh, well, you don't know how to squat with the whole peeing part, you know, like when you get um waxed and everything.
10:19
SPEAKER_00: We said so.
10:20
SPEAKER_00: The thing was when you waxed all your hair off, your pee just loses its trajectory.
10:24
SPEAKER_00: That that was the clip that showed, and then I shared about the waxing and my experience with waxing where I had to kind of cut back because of the lichen sclerosis, right?
10:33
SPEAKER_00: But you know, when I say that, we was like, what, over 200,000 views?
10:38
SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes.
10:40
SPEAKER_02: I was like, oh, well, clearly waxing is a hot topic.
10:45
SPEAKER_00: Waxing for childless is hot, it's a clearly it was clearly a wax topic, but I a hot topic.
10:53
SPEAKER_00: But like I said, I I mostly wanted to preface it that you know, while I appreciate you commenting and you all sharing it and all of that, I don't entertain a whole lot of things, especially from people who don't really know what the fuck they're talking about because it's their experience.
11:07
SPEAKER_00: And so I said what I said when I said it.
11:09
SPEAKER_00: And another lady said that um oh, she lost it when I cursed, and I let her know that one, I am a grown professional, I'm also an army vet freedom of speech.
11:20
SPEAKER_00: Thank you for uh tuning in.
11:23
SPEAKER_01: Lost it when you cursed.
11:24
SPEAKER_01: You're talking about like on the case.
11:26
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I was on air and I said something about you know about that.
11:31
SPEAKER_00: And when she her comment was that, oh, you know, she when she cursed, she lost me, and I this and that.
11:38
SPEAKER_00: I no, I also said my the podcast is I'm having happy hours with my girls, and that we're you know, the podcast is not for everybody, just like I'm not for everybody, and I'm very clear about that.
11:52
SPEAKER_00: So, you know, if you if you if you have an issue with somebody cursing, it doesn't make you less professional, uh, it doesn't make you ghetto or anything else because they're your word choice, and I have a very expansive vocabulary, I write for a living.
12:10
SPEAKER_00: So but when I get here with my girls, I want to be able to let my hair down without judgment.
12:17
SPEAKER_00: And I'm certainly going not going to take judgment from people that I don't know, and I don't care how critical you are.
12:26
SPEAKER_00: I said what I said, and that's it, and that's it, period.
12:31
SPEAKER_02: That's it, period, yeah.
12:35
SPEAKER_02: But you know, that space people are going to have their own opinions, they're going to clearly something is happening.
12:43
SPEAKER_02: Um with that, I think it's probably dead, the computer.
12:48
SPEAKER_02: But either way, you know, people are entitled, they can have their their own opinions, you know.
12:54
SPEAKER_02: But I do also think that in the space of social media and posting and people commenting, that they should still be mindful as well.
13:03
SPEAKER_02: Just because you have an opinion, and even if your opinion is negative, does not necessarily mean that you need to put that sometimes.
13:14
SPEAKER_00: But I I also feel like you can say what you want, but you I'm not entitled to respond.
13:21
SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
13:24
SPEAKER_00: I might look at it and decide what I want to respond to, what I made corrections on, because one girl said that girl, and I said that girl is Dr.
13:33
SPEAKER_00: Gurley, and Dr.
13:35
SPEAKER_00: uh Cortina Lewis also agreed with it.
13:38
SPEAKER_00: So my thing is if you show up on a platform, don't think I'm y'all better thank Diana because because you know I'm the petty one on here, and don't be petty, don't be petty.
13:54
SPEAKER_00: I mean, well, you know, and that's the thing.
13:55
SPEAKER_00: That's why I said, you know what, I have to pick and choose what I give my energy to, and I already don't give energy to a lot of things on social media as it is.
14:05
SPEAKER_00: Um, but one thing I will say is if you're when you watch this podcast, all of us show up as exactly who we are.
14:13
SPEAKER_00: Don't get it twisted.
14:15
SPEAKER_00: We are this is this podcast has always and will always be an authentic space.
14:20
SPEAKER_00: So what you see is what you get.
14:22
SPEAKER_00: If we say something that is out of character or you know, something like that, we're believe it or not, we can check each other behind scenes.
14:30
SPEAKER_00: Behind the scenes, we are genuine sister friends, uh, we are all professional women, and I love that just like Diana was like, Pam, stop going back and forth with those people.
14:40
SPEAKER_00: This was for a different post, and so and that was the first time I had ever done it.
14:45
SPEAKER_00: So like I said, this is about transparency, and anybody who comes on this show would know that we are very transparent about anything that we say.
14:56
SPEAKER_00: Um, and it is our opinion, it is our experience.
14:59
SPEAKER_00: So I just be chilling.
15:01
SPEAKER_02: Well, I'm glad I missed out on that one, child, because I had an experience with waxing too.
15:07
SPEAKER_02: I didn't have nothing to do with no pen, but um, you know, I'm just saying it wasn't there.
15:14
SPEAKER_00: I know, I know the weird part is it was different, which it's just different.
15:17
SPEAKER_01: We were saying if you totally bear them have hair to kind of stream it down a little bit, you know.
15:23
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and so like when you first get a wax, you're you first get that wax the full, it just and that's what we were saying, and a lot of it was a lot of women on there that was saying, Oh my god, me and my friends, we talk about this all the time.
15:36
SPEAKER_01: And yeah, I did see a lot of people saying, like, oh my gosh, I feel so validated, yes, this happens to me.
15:43
SPEAKER_01: Someone gets it, yes, yes, yeah.
15:46
SPEAKER_00: So, you know, but I I'm grateful that that discussion sparked some serious conversation and for people to know that they're not alone in these kind of of these of these kind of situations for sure.
15:58
SPEAKER_00: That's nice.
16:00
SPEAKER_00: So, like I said, that's why the group chat is open, and uh, but also we don't we don't entertain a lot of negative energy on here at all, at all.
16:10
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, nice.
16:11
SPEAKER_00: So it is the fall, ladies.
16:13
SPEAKER_00: So now I I need to know like what are y'all binge watching on television?
16:18
SPEAKER_00: And I like to swing it that way, but I'm literally trying to find what is going on.
16:22
SPEAKER_02: Oktoberfest on AMC.
16:25
SPEAKER_02: What that's what I watch in October, all the scary movies on AMC.
16:32
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah.
16:32
SPEAKER_01: Uh each night they have a different um, they have a list for October, like on October 1st, like different things, like a list of all of the scary movies that you should be watching each I don't I don't know.
16:45
SPEAKER_00: I feel like I don't watch the old scary movies anymore because when I watch them, I'm I think to myself, now what how did I find this interesting?
16:55
SPEAKER_00: Because it looks like there's some good scary movies out there, though.
16:59
SPEAKER_02: No, I only feel like that about Friday the 13th.
17:02
SPEAKER_02: I'm like, as a child, I was so scared of Jason.
17:05
SPEAKER_02: Now I'll be looking at them shows like I do want to see Crystal Lake though.
17:11
SPEAKER_02: You do the Crystal Lake the show that just sister is watching that right now.
17:17
SPEAKER_01: She said it's really good.
17:18
SPEAKER_01: I know, I want to see it.
17:20
SPEAKER_01: I can't, uh I watched the carry season.
17:24
SPEAKER_01: We somebody else told me about that.
17:26
SPEAKER_01: I need to get into that.
17:27
SPEAKER_01: Somebody else told me that it's good.
17:31
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think I don't is it on Peacock?
17:34
SPEAKER_00: I don't know, but we watched it.
17:35
SPEAKER_00: We we watched it uh yesterday.
17:39
SPEAKER_00: I think we finished it last night.
17:41
SPEAKER_00: Oh my god.
17:42
SPEAKER_00: We just binge right through it.
17:43
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think it was only like eight episodes, so it was a binge washing binge watching session.
17:50
SPEAKER_00: Uh yeah, you gotta watch that.
17:54
SPEAKER_00: So so what else is good that's out there?
17:56
SPEAKER_00: Because I'm trying to build my list of things that I want to just binge watch um throughout the winter time.
18:04
SPEAKER_01: That's all um if you haven't seen um what do you call it?
18:09
SPEAKER_01: I'm sure everybody on here has seen it already.
18:11
SPEAKER_01: Different world.
18:12
SPEAKER_01: We binged it, yeah.
18:16
SPEAKER_01: Um, what else?
18:18
SPEAKER_01: What have I?
18:19
SPEAKER_01: I don't really watch a whole bunch of TV.
18:21
SPEAKER_02: That's what I was gonna say.
18:22
SPEAKER_02: I don't watch a bunch of TV, but I do watch the AMC.
18:26
SPEAKER_00: I'd watched oh, yeah, we definitely watch Mobland.
18:31
SPEAKER_00: We watch Mob Land.
18:32
SPEAKER_00: Is that good?
18:34
SPEAKER_00: You said it's an action movie with no words.
18:37
SPEAKER_00: Maybe maybe that's not Mob Land that I'm thinking about.
18:41
SPEAKER_00: Because that mob Shay, are you talking about the movie or are you talking about the show Mob Land?
18:48
SPEAKER_00: It's a series, yes, but there's a movie, I think, that is out there.
18:54
SPEAKER_00: I I wanna I forget what it's called, something land, and there's there are no words, it's just action.
19:00
SPEAKER_00: I tried watching it.
19:02
SPEAKER_00: I couldn't watch I couldn't say I'm not.
19:04
SPEAKER_02: I'm not.
19:05
SPEAKER_02: I I need to hear something, yeah.
19:08
SPEAKER_02: I I yeah, I'm not it's a series on Netflix.
19:12
SPEAKER_00: Mob Land.
19:13
SPEAKER_00: We watch Mobland, and they have lots of they have talking on there because it's with the older old guy, um, and the white.
19:22
SPEAKER_00: Oh, the wife is gangster.
19:25
SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes, yeah.
19:28
SPEAKER_00: Oh, he's crazy too, certified.
19:31
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I'm gonna have to watch it.
19:32
SPEAKER_02: I saw it, but I haven't started watching it.
19:35
SPEAKER_02: I don't really be watching that much TV.
19:38
SPEAKER_02: Only thing, what am I watching?
19:41
SPEAKER_02: Nothing but Oktoberfest.
19:44
SPEAKER_02: I don't I don't indulge in that, but I'm then I was bad when Lioness went off.
19:50
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, lioness.
19:51
SPEAKER_01: Oh, silo.
19:53
SPEAKER_02: I don't even know what that is.
19:56
SPEAKER_00: But lioness, I can't wait to come back.
19:58
SPEAKER_02: Oh my gosh.
20:03
SPEAKER_00: It was so super good.
20:05
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, why am I trying to think?
20:07
SPEAKER_02: I don't really want the Housewives of Potomac came back.
20:11
SPEAKER_02: Oh, I don't watch that.
20:13
SPEAKER_02: I like that show.
20:14
SPEAKER_02: That's like my my guilty pleasure because I just be like, they are something why I can't wait to see that.
20:24
SPEAKER_02: That's a though.
20:26
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna have to try mob land though.
20:28
SPEAKER_02: She said it's excellent.
20:29
SPEAKER_02: That's what she said.
20:31
SPEAKER_02: It's excellent.
20:32
SPEAKER_00: Speaking of excellent, I I've noticed that well, one uh Quartini were gone as of last week.
20:40
SPEAKER_00: Tell me how Colombia was.
20:43
SPEAKER_00: Love it.
20:44
SPEAKER_00: I think it's one of my favorite countries.
20:46
SPEAKER_00: Happy belated anniversary.
20:47
SPEAKER_02: Yes, happy belated anniversary, lovely.
20:51
SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much.
20:53
SPEAKER_01: I really like Colombia.
20:55
SPEAKER_01: I really, really do.
20:58
SPEAKER_01: Um, I need to take about three more trips there.
21:03
SPEAKER_01: Was it hot?
21:06
SPEAKER_01: Um, yes and no.
21:09
SPEAKER_01: It was a nice breeze.
21:12
SPEAKER_01: Um, we got caught in a storm.
21:16
SPEAKER_01: Oh that was fun, but not fun.
21:20
SPEAKER_01: I had a panic attack um on day two.
21:28
SPEAKER_01: About um, well, so we were on the boat, we were going to Rosario Beach Club, and this is where we were, you know, looking at the different places where we were going, and um, it was like in some beach club that's in the in the middle of something.
21:48
SPEAKER_01: So we're taking this boat over there, mind you.
21:51
SPEAKER_01: I didn't know it was like a high power, fast speed boat or nothing like that.
21:56
SPEAKER_01: So I just knew we were taking the boat, okay.
22:00
SPEAKER_01: We going regular on the water, fine.
22:04
SPEAKER_01: And then they finished talking to us and everything.
22:09
SPEAKER_01: They turned up the music.
22:10
SPEAKER_01: Then the boat just started going super fast.
22:12
SPEAKER_01: And I was like, okay, I was holding it together.
22:14
SPEAKER_01: My head was just down.
22:15
SPEAKER_01: I was like, okay, because I wasn't prepared.
22:17
SPEAKER_01: My mind mentally wasn't prepared for it.
22:19
SPEAKER_01: And then another boat came and they started racing the other boat.
22:22
SPEAKER_01: And I saw my life kind of like flash before my eyes, and I thought I was gonna die.
22:26
SPEAKER_01: I just saw us like hitting a rock and us flying off because it wasn't a big boat, it was like a speed boat.
22:33
SPEAKER_01: And so I was scared for my life.
22:36
SPEAKER_01: Wasn't prepared.
22:37
SPEAKER_01: Girl, when I tell you my head was down like this, nobody could see me.
22:41
SPEAKER_01: Girl, tears was streaming down my face.
22:46
SPEAKER_01: Were you in a life jacket?
22:49
SPEAKER_01: So I was like, Oh, I need life jacket.
22:51
SPEAKER_01: So I put the life jacket on, but it wasn't buckle.
22:53
SPEAKER_01: Soon as we went fast, I said I was making it.
23:01
SPEAKER_01: Because I guess everybody saw my hair was down, but I wasn't like hysterical, I was just like to myself.
23:07
SPEAKER_01: And then she she like went under my hat and I was like wiping my tears.
23:11
SPEAKER_01: She was like, Oh my god, what's going on?
23:14
SPEAKER_01: And then she told Dutchie, you cry.
23:16
SPEAKER_01: He he came and said, He's like, You crying?
23:19
SPEAKER_01: What's wrong?
23:20
SPEAKER_01: I said, No, I'm just I'm just trying to calm down, just having a panic attack.
23:25
SPEAKER_01: And um, yeah, it was it.
23:27
SPEAKER_01: I wish they would have given me a warning because I just knew I was gonna die.
23:31
SPEAKER_01: He was like, Well, this ain't the Titanic, we ain't gonna hit no iceberg and sing.
23:34
SPEAKER_01: I said, I know, but it was a lot.
23:39
SPEAKER_01: But once I got that, I had me my little minis with me.
23:44
SPEAKER_01: I took me a shot, and I would just keep my head down, and then I got used to it because I think what sent me over the edge was racing the other boat.
23:54
SPEAKER_02: I don't know how that might have scared me too, to be honest.
23:58
SPEAKER_01: I know racing the other boat.
24:02
SPEAKER_01: We was already going fast, but then the other boat with the people, and it and so you know how like the boats make the waves, we were going over their waves, so it was yeah, a lot, yeah, a lot.
24:15
SPEAKER_01: So that was not fun in the moment, but looking back, it was kind of adventurous.
24:22
SPEAKER_01: So then, yeah, that was like probably like the most no, that's not the craziest thing.
24:27
SPEAKER_01: The other craziest thing is like I said, we got caught in the storm.
24:31
SPEAKER_01: Let me see if I can show y'all the before because I said, Oh, that looked like that's a storm coming in.
24:36
SPEAKER_01: Oh my gosh, so it definitely was.
24:40
SPEAKER_01: I don't know if y'all can see this.
24:43
SPEAKER_01: Y'all see that dark spot a little bit, all the way out there, and I saw it coming.
24:50
SPEAKER_01: Let me see if this makes it better.
24:52
SPEAKER_01: Um, not really.
24:55
SPEAKER_01: You gotta lower it down some holy canola.
24:58
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you could see that, yeah.
24:59
SPEAKER_01: So you can see the whole system coming in, and I said, Oh, that's a storm coming.
25:07
SPEAKER_01: So when I saw the man in the khaki pants walk down the stairs and tell all the people to get out the water, I said, Oh, yeah, there's a storm coming.
25:16
SPEAKER_01: Within 10 minutes, stuff was blowing.
25:20
SPEAKER_01: The little typhoon thing was with the leaves going in circles.
25:24
SPEAKER_01: I said, So then by that time, it's time for us to get on the boats.
25:28
SPEAKER_01: The boat is rocking like this for people to get on.
25:31
SPEAKER_01: I said, We're about to drive and that girl, we loaded on, so now seawater is coming in on me and Villian like this salt water all in our mouth and everything like that.
25:45
SPEAKER_01: Then it started raining so bad, I felt like people was hitting me with a paintball.
25:50
SPEAKER_01: That's how hard the rain was.
25:53
SPEAKER_01: Okay, I'm gonna send y'all some videos.
25:56
SPEAKER_01: I was trying to catch videos, but I couldn't see because the seawater in my mouth and in my eyes, thank god when it started raining, at least it diluted the seawater.
26:07
SPEAKER_02: So y'all had to get on the boat in the storm to make it back.
26:11
SPEAKER_01: Yes, no, in the speed boat, in the speed boat, different speed boat, bigger speed boat, but speedboat nonetheless.
26:19
SPEAKER_02: Girl, yeah, that might have threw me off.
26:22
SPEAKER_02: I'm not oh Diana, that'd have taken you all the way out.
26:26
SPEAKER_02: You already know.
26:27
SPEAKER_01: I oh, oh no, so this is me taking honey.
26:34
SPEAKER_01: It was oh that wasn't season.
26:41
SPEAKER_01: It it was it was fun.
26:43
SPEAKER_01: Um, and then Pelinke, love it.
26:47
SPEAKER_01: Um, really, really love you.
26:49
SPEAKER_01: No, I'm all black pride all the time.
26:52
SPEAKER_01: Power to the people, loved it.
26:54
SPEAKER_01: Um, we went to delirium.
26:57
SPEAKER_01: All I saw was prostitution.
27:00
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
27:02
SPEAKER_01: BBL's everywhere.
27:04
SPEAKER_01: I said, I don't feel like I'm supposed to be in here.
27:06
SPEAKER_01: My bed ain't big enough.
27:08
SPEAKER_01: Um, so it was it was so much so much.
27:14
SPEAKER_01: Diana, is something going on with your you look like you're glitching?
27:17
SPEAKER_01: Apparently, yes, yes.
27:18
SPEAKER_02: Now keep going.
27:20
SPEAKER_02: I'm just gonna unplug and come back with the yeah, Chenny.
27:23
SPEAKER_01: That was see that was happening to mine.
27:24
SPEAKER_01: I told I put in a thing, my my computer's bootleg, so I cracked the screen, and you know, my computer is a touch screen, so it does its own thing, it'll log me out, it'll make things bigger.
27:34
SPEAKER_01: I really don't want to go spend another$900 on the computer, but I might have to.
27:38
SPEAKER_01: I was trying to disable the screen, but anyway, Segwing back for those of you who are listening.
27:43
SPEAKER_01: I know you like we don't just talk about five different things.
27:45
SPEAKER_01: I know it's my ADHD.
27:47
SPEAKER_01: Charge it to my head, not my heart.
27:49
SPEAKER_01: Um, so going back to the trip, um, I love Pelinke, love the history of it, it was great.
27:56
SPEAKER_01: Um, like I was saying, we went to a club there.
28:01
SPEAKER_01: It made me feel kind of old because I got tired of standing up, even though we were in VIP on the stage.
28:07
SPEAKER_01: I was just like, oh my gosh, oh wow.
28:12
SPEAKER_01: Someone was there for their um bachelor party, and I was like, Oh my gosh, oh my goodness, this is what you're doing.
28:25
SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, girl.
28:26
SPEAKER_01: I was like, oh my gosh, oh my goodness, does your wife know?
28:31
SPEAKER_01: Well, your soon to be wife know what you're doing.
28:33
SPEAKER_01: I'm not judging, but go get tested anyway.
28:36
SPEAKER_01: Um, so yeah, it was fun.
28:40
SPEAKER_00: Speaking of that, I'm gonna I want your you all's opinion on something.
28:44
SPEAKER_00: So at the house in Maryland, I always take Kofi for a walk.
28:49
SPEAKER_00: So when I got to the end of the block one time, a car, I let a car get go by.
28:54
SPEAKER_00: The car literally just pulled right up on the next corner, like just right because it's a four-way stop, right?
29:00
SPEAKER_00: So just pulled up and stopped, got out the car, and then proceeded to just walk like six six houses down.
29:09
SPEAKER_00: Felt awkward.
29:12
SPEAKER_00: Felt very awkward.
29:13
SPEAKER_00: So, what are your thoughts?
29:14
SPEAKER_00: What would because Jay was like, Well, maybe he just wanted to get his steps in, but where did they walk to?
29:22
SPEAKER_00: The house I don't know.
29:24
SPEAKER_00: He just I I ended up after about six houses.
29:27
SPEAKER_00: I kind of lost him because me and Kofi kept walking, but it was just very odd.
29:31
SPEAKER_02: Maybe it wasn't no parking spots.
29:33
SPEAKER_02: Maybe he circled the blood.
29:36
SPEAKER_00: It's a housing area.
29:37
SPEAKER_00: How you not park in a the house you're going to and the whole street.
29:40
SPEAKER_00: I take Kofi walking the whole street, but you parking.
29:46
SPEAKER_02: Say he was running up on somebody real quick.
29:48
SPEAKER_02: Like, I bet you're gonna find out today.
29:50
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna park my car right here, I'm gonna walk down the street, I'm gonna see what's good.
29:55
SPEAKER_00: See, that's what I that's what was in my mind.
29:57
SPEAKER_00: But Jay is like, no, I don't think it was that.
29:59
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you just I'm like just very odd for a man to get out of a car and then just just walk up the street.
30:08
SPEAKER_00: He was checking up on somebody, somebody, yeah.
30:12
SPEAKER_00: He was either checking up on somebody or going to visit somebody and didn't want his park park outside, but yeah, I just thought it was so unusual.
30:20
SPEAKER_00: But I did, you know, um we didn't go to a club out there in Palenco or Palenque.
30:27
SPEAKER_01: No, Palenque, we ain't go to no club, want no club in Palinque.
30:30
SPEAKER_01: No, no, no, Cartagena.
30:32
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah.
30:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, chat.
30:35
SPEAKER_01: That's way too much.
30:36
SPEAKER_01: Was it in the walled city?
30:37
SPEAKER_01: Was it in the walled city or is it outside the um no, it wasn't in the wall.
30:43
SPEAKER_01: We stayed in the wall city.
30:44
SPEAKER_01: That's why we stayed.
30:45
SPEAKER_00: So did we we stayed at the wall in the wall city as well?
30:48
SPEAKER_01: No, no, it was some, but it's one of the like most popular clubs that they have there.
30:54
SPEAKER_00: Okay, now we did a rooftop, we did several rooftops there, but when we were there, it's February, and when I say godspeed, it was so flipping hot in February, it was so flipping hot.
31:10
SPEAKER_00: Like you walk outside and you walk up up the block a little bit and you sweat in balls, I'm telling you, just sweating with the the last day that we were going to leave.
31:19
SPEAKER_00: I said, You know, I want to go out and do a little bit of shopping.
31:22
SPEAKER_00: Jay was like, I took a shower, I'm not going out there.
31:24
SPEAKER_00: So I went across, had had lunch or had breakfast and coffee, and then I just walked down the street before we even got on our flight.
31:32
SPEAKER_00: I had to come back and take a shower.
31:33
SPEAKER_00: I was drenched, and I don't sweat easily.
31:37
SPEAKER_00: Oh no, we didn't have that kind of problem though.
31:39
SPEAKER_00: It was hot.
31:41
SPEAKER_00: So, and and it's potentially that February is it could be their hot and dry season.
31:46
SPEAKER_00: We didn't have any rain, we had zero rain.
31:49
SPEAKER_00: Just just like uh when I go to Argentina, and February is a good time to go because it's cold if you go in like June, July time frame.
32:03
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, things are kind of uh a flip that way, but you know, okay.
32:11
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but oh what are y'all what's up, ladies?
32:20
SPEAKER_01: My computer's doing crazy stuff.
32:22
SPEAKER_01: I know you over there looking dazed out, like uh I'm like, what what is going on?
32:30
SPEAKER_01: I had to move y'all to the up screen because my new computer technical difficulties, yeah, very very much so technical difficulties.
32:45
SPEAKER_00: I just got this computer a year ago.
32:49
SPEAKER_01: Oh, is it warrant?
32:50
SPEAKER_01: Does it have warranty?
32:51
SPEAKER_01: I have no idea, but so my smart self, so I wanted my screen protector to my not my screen protector, my privacy screen to protect my screen so when I'm typing my notes, so people can't see it.
33:06
SPEAKER_01: I had the smart idea because it wasn't sticking the way I needed it to stick, to put this clip on the screen.
33:14
SPEAKER_01: You see this?
33:16
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it cracked it.
33:19
SPEAKER_01: I closed the laptop and it cracked the screen.
33:26
SPEAKER_01: So I think on this trip, I made the crack worse, putting it in my book bag and traveling, and so now I have been having the hardest time, and it just pop up dots because it's a touch screen, so it'll shut down.
33:44
SPEAKER_01: That's why I every time I clicked in here, it would like shut it down, and so it's like it has hands inside of here, and I'm looking at a post right now where it looks like somebody touching the screen, but ain't nobody touching the screen because my hands are here.
34:00
SPEAKER_01: No, it's we got ghosts, but um, yeah, it's it's it's sound like you need to go get it repaired.
34:07
SPEAKER_01: You know how much they said it's gonna be to prepare between 500 and 900 because it's a touch screen.
34:12
SPEAKER_01: I might as well get a whole goddamn one, girl, because ain't no way.
34:18
SPEAKER_00: Ain't no way no way.
34:21
SPEAKER_00: Damage Cortina.
34:25
SPEAKER_01: You see how life be life in y'all?
34:27
SPEAKER_01: Yes, just be life.
34:29
SPEAKER_01: Every time you think, okay, all right, you gotta come out with thousands of dollars to fix something every time, yeah, every time.
34:42
SPEAKER_00: So I don't want to buy nothing else.
34:45
SPEAKER_00: I don't need to buy anything else.
34:46
SPEAKER_00: I I know even at this new place that Amazon is probably tired of me.
34:51
SPEAKER_00: Like even when I've been even when I've been gone, I come home, and most of the reason I come home is because I have too many packages outside that's been there like for a whole week or something.
35:01
SPEAKER_00: And I said, Well, you know, now I try to time it where I'm home for all these packages, but I probably get packages almost daily.
35:09
SPEAKER_00: I I have become an organization freak, like for everything.
35:15
SPEAKER_00: I look into a space and I'm like, mm-mm, I don't like it.
35:18
SPEAKER_00: I need to organize.
35:19
SPEAKER_00: Then I go, I'm I'm on Amazon and I'm shopping.
35:21
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I need to get something for that.
35:23
SPEAKER_00: So now I'm I'm organizing my pantry.
35:26
SPEAKER_00: I didn't like that, you know, because it has a little white shelf or the white uh whatever shelving on there that has and I hate that.
35:35
SPEAKER_00: So then I in my closet in my bedroom, I had these little, I don't know what to call them, little insert dividers or whatever, and it looked looks so good.
35:45
SPEAKER_00: I decided to do my pantry the same way.
35:48
SPEAKER_00: So the pantry is coming along, but now I have empty bins, and now I'm like, what the hell do I put in these bins?
35:53
SPEAKER_00: And so then, like, even with the the guest bathroom downstairs, it's just like a almost like a floating sink, and so there's not nowhere to really put any paper towels unless you sit it up on the sink.
36:05
SPEAKER_00: And it I've been annoyed.
36:07
SPEAKER_00: So today I bought this, it's a shelf that has a paper towel holder on it, and I'm gonna have that installed in the best bathroom, and then I told Jay, I think I'm gonna order another one for the other bathroom upstairs, which is his bathroom.
36:23
SPEAKER_02: Hmm, what's it?
36:25
SPEAKER_02: It's nothing like when you first move into your new home, you know, and you're decorating and you're doing all the things.
36:31
SPEAKER_02: That's exciting.
36:32
SPEAKER_02: I remember it.
36:33
SPEAKER_00: It is, but it it I tell you what, it makes you spend so much money on and Jay is just like, I don't know what you you don't need to buy nothing else.
36:41
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, but I kind of do, right?
36:44
SPEAKER_02: But just one more thing, just just this one thing because we really, really, really need it.
36:49
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because I bought some bookends and where I wanted to put them, it didn't end up looking nice, so then I put them in the guest room.
36:56
SPEAKER_00: I had this, I got like an artificial tree, it was raggedy, so I was like, Well, this is not going anywhere.
37:05
SPEAKER_00: Instead of throwing it out, I kind of placed it where I felt like it would go the best in the guest room where it's not so crazy looking, but as I am now, I feel like I want to I want a whole lot of like fresh plants.
37:19
SPEAKER_00: So now I want me a cactus plant, I want me a spider plant.
37:23
SPEAKER_00: Um, I have um money, I have a what is it, leaf of life tree downstairs and an aloe plant in my kitchen.
37:31
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's in the living room, and I have an aloe plant in the kitchen, and so I said, you know what, I need to get me a cactus because those are easy, and then I want I want a spider plant, but I've just really been putting my mom was telling me because she's been talking about putting fresh plants in her house, and so I was like, you know what?
37:48
SPEAKER_00: I think I'm gonna just decorate with some fresh plants.
37:52
SPEAKER_02: Okay, that's cool.
37:53
SPEAKER_02: They're beautiful, it's good for oxygen, yeah.
37:59
SPEAKER_00: So I'm when I go back to Home Depot or when I go back to where the Trader Joe's because that Trader Joe's have cactus as well, or cacti as well.
38:08
SPEAKER_00: So I can buy me a cactus plant.
38:12
unknown: Thank you.
38:13
SPEAKER_00: Well, are you getting ready for us?
38:14
SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for us?
38:16
SPEAKER_00: Oh girl, I've been ready for y'all.
38:18
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, good.
38:19
SPEAKER_00: I even did room assignments, and so because there have been a few people that dropped off, then that made it that opened up space.
38:27
SPEAKER_00: Ebony is not able to make it now, and then uh Magalie is not able to make it either.
38:33
SPEAKER_00: And then my sister, uh, she has like a tennis tournament or something where she's refereeing or something, so yeah, that that shaved down where it freed up space.
38:44
SPEAKER_01: Got it.
38:46
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
38:47
SPEAKER_00: Well, we're still gonna have fun.
38:50
SPEAKER_00: We are going to have a ball.
38:51
SPEAKER_00: We are certainly going to have statements, and I'm making a change to the to the French day instead of going to a restaurant.
39:01
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna I think I'll have them come cater and we just pay the cater because it's cheaper than the restaurant that we was gonna go to.
39:09
SPEAKER_00: The special I told me and Diana, we were talking about that, right?
39:12
SPEAKER_00: It was insane with that what they sent to me.
39:15
SPEAKER_00: It didn't make sense, really, yeah.
39:17
SPEAKER_00: So it did make sense.
39:18
SPEAKER_00: So the restaurant was really nice.
39:20
SPEAKER_00: I'm not even gonna put the name out there, but she sent me a contract and she said the food and beverage is$750.
39:28
SPEAKER_00: Cool.
39:28
SPEAKER_00: Remember in the on the invite that I put on there, like on the flyer, I put you know, that it was a seven, it was$750, and for everybody just to bring$100 that will cover because you can only they only take so many credit cards.
39:40
SPEAKER_00: So if everybody has cash, yeah.
39:42
SPEAKER_00: Also, they also uh if you use a credit card, you're also charged a percentage to utilize a credit card.
39:48
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and so when I got the contract, it had food and beverage minimum$750, something another another$750 or something, because it came up to I saw on the line$1,500.
40:03
SPEAKER_00: Then it was all this tax, this, this, and this and this, and then it's total, yes, for$2,400.
40:09
SPEAKER_00: And I said, say what now?
40:12
SPEAKER_00: I said, the way that I would split a reservation first in six and six, and you know, we did sit near each other, but then I said, if you all recall, I also have that's the day that you dress where dress for the occasion that you know that of life, so no matter what it is.
40:30
SPEAKER_00: And I said, Well, I think people would probably be more creative if we're not going anywhere but just having brunch in the house, so I'll have it set up um at the house.
40:40
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's crazy.
40:42
SPEAKER_01: That is so when do you have to sign a contract to make a brunch reservation?
40:47
SPEAKER_01: Oh, we have yeah, we have to do that for they do that a lot, yeah, yeah.
40:51
SPEAKER_00: But$2,400 when you tell me, but yeah, but when you it's$2,400 when you tell me the food and beverage is$750.
40:58
SPEAKER_00: Where the hell does it food and beverage minimum$750?
41:01
SPEAKER_00: How do we get to$2,400?
41:04
SPEAKER_00: Or no, it was$2,074.
41:06
SPEAKER_00: How do we get to there from$750 to$2,043?
41:10
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that's crazy.
41:12
SPEAKER_02: That's crazy.
41:13
SPEAKER_00: Because the number dropped.
41:15
SPEAKER_00: So she when she sent me back with the correction, it went from 24 to 20 to for to 20, I think 2047 or 2074 or something like that.
41:22
SPEAKER_02: But yeah, and she didn't answer it, answered the question.
41:25
SPEAKER_00: She hasn't replied back.
41:30
SPEAKER_01: And we would have got there looking crazy, like, huh?
41:33
SPEAKER_01: You're right.
41:34
SPEAKER_00: No, I would have I've been I've been checking in.
41:37
SPEAKER_00: So for the most part, like I'm catering uh Friday night, um, because it's Japan, it's Japan um Japanese night, and there's an authentic Japanese restaurant here that is catering, and they'll drop off and all of that other stuff.
41:49
SPEAKER_00: I also have a ramen bar and I have like Japanese snacks and whatnot for you know sake, yeah.
41:58
SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, it's gonna there's gonna be lots of different sakis and some Japanese whiskies.
42:03
SPEAKER_00: So, yes, for our Tokyo Nights fun, our Tokyo Knight pajama girls' pajama party.
42:10
SPEAKER_00: So I've been trying to get everything together for this weekend, and I'm gonna tell you this back and forth with this contract stuff has been killing me.
42:22
SPEAKER_00: But yeah, she didn't write me back, and I said, Yeah, I don't think so, because then I I was also having to factor in getting everybody there and and getting everybody back, so it made more sense to have uh chef come and make a French cuisine.
42:38
SPEAKER_02: I like that, I like that I think that'll be fun, and we can dress up and do our thing and take pictures, and and now the outfits is really gonna be outfitting, okay?
42:49
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so I think that that was that was one of the things that I said I'm gonna have to put in a group.
42:53
SPEAKER_00: I wanted to make sure, Cortina, you were back.
42:55
SPEAKER_00: It wasn't Villian's birthday anymore, so I wanted to make sure everything was was uh done.
43:01
SPEAKER_00: And I said on Friday, I basically we'll be about two weeks out from the event day, and I I can give more in explicit instructions because nobody reads, nobody going to party full to get any of the information.
43:14
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, Cortina, look at that way, Diana too.
43:18
SPEAKER_02: Um I'll be like, I know it's an invitation, but just could you just tell me she'd be like, I put it in the invitation.
43:30
SPEAKER_00: Yes.
43:31
SPEAKER_00: Oh, and and it's gonna be almost a two for one weekend.
43:36
SPEAKER_00: So I had talked to Jerry, and since you won't be available for her birthday weekend, I told her I said, All the ladies will be here at the house.
43:44
SPEAKER_00: So this was an opportunity to celebrate her double nickel as well.
43:48
SPEAKER_00: So it's two birthdays, one weekend.
43:50
SPEAKER_00: And so she's like, let me know how much things things cost.
43:53
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, girl, I still haven't figured out all of that, the logistics of everything yet, in terms of that, the only thing that Is has been confirmed is the Japanese night for this for the food and the party bus.
44:10
SPEAKER_00: Which I'm gonna tell everybody we got a poll in the party bus, so I don't think if I don't think it'll be appropriate for anybody to wear a dress unless you're planning on putting some Spanish.
44:19
SPEAKER_00: Okay, okay.
44:20
SPEAKER_01: Let us know about the okay party bus no because it's all black, it's all black.
44:26
SPEAKER_02: I'm wearing a dress, but I'm gonna be a lady, okay?
44:28
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna be a lady.
44:30
SPEAKER_01: You used to do polls.
44:32
SPEAKER_01: I gotta see what the weather is gonna be like because I was gonna wear some it's gonna be cold for this birthday turn up.
44:36
SPEAKER_01: We on a bunch of yeah, but I'm saying you know, I don't like the cold, so I gotta be warm.
44:40
SPEAKER_02: Put on no jacket.
44:42
SPEAKER_01: Is it gonna be cold?
44:44
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's cold down here, it's a little chilly.
44:47
SPEAKER_01: It got hot today.
44:49
SPEAKER_01: I mean, it's a little it's a little chilly.
44:51
SPEAKER_01: When I say chilly, it it's a little chill in the air, and y'all gonna look at me crazy when I say what the degrees are, but to me it's a little 72.
45:05
SPEAKER_00: It's chillier than we was we was in the 90s.
45:10
SPEAKER_00: It was 76 today and it was hot.
45:13
SPEAKER_02: I don't know what it was today because the sun was out.
45:16
SPEAKER_02: I don't have the AC on though, but it does feel a little warm in my office right now, so it might be an AC night tonight.
45:25
SPEAKER_01: It might we haven't been turning on the AC since we had a lot of time.
45:28
SPEAKER_00: Ours has been off, but it needs to be on because the way that I don't know if it was menopause or if it was hot.
45:33
SPEAKER_00: I was hot last, I was sweating.
45:35
SPEAKER_00: I didn't get up.
45:37
SPEAKER_00: I was like, this cannot be, cannot be.
45:41
SPEAKER_00: Said I'm gonna have to start drinking my ashwagandha tea again.
45:43
SPEAKER_00: I kind of fell off because of all the back and forth I've been doing um and traveling where I don't have a lot of stuff with me other than my clothes, and then when I got to Maryland, I was overstaying my welcome.
45:55
SPEAKER_00: So I would plan to go for like three or four days and sometimes end up there for like two weeks.
46:05
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
46:05
SPEAKER_00: So and I'm I'll be back going back this weekend, but that's for my that's for my event.
46:12
SPEAKER_00: That's for my event.
46:13
SPEAKER_00: I have my final book signing at the MLK library uh on Saturday, uh late afternoon.
46:21
SPEAKER_00: So yeah, outside of that, I won't be going back until it's time for me to I gotta go get another steroid shot in my hand.
46:32
SPEAKER_01: What's your hand doing?
46:34
SPEAKER_00: I'm good.
46:36
SPEAKER_02: See, I told you that you just had to give it a little bit of time and it was gonna work.
46:43
SPEAKER_02: I told you.
46:44
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I had a steroid shot and it took it took a it took like almost a week and a half or two weeks to for that steroid shot to work.
46:52
SPEAKER_00: So I go back uh November 5th to have another one.
46:55
SPEAKER_00: Uh and then I, of course, I have my nail appointment done on the fourth for my birthday.
47:00
SPEAKER_00: I need to schedule my photo shoot.
47:02
SPEAKER_00: I need to get on the phone with her now.
47:04
SPEAKER_00: Um, schedule my photo, my birthday photo shoot so I can get everything done because I don't plan on going back to Maryland for I don't know, at least until after the new year.
47:14
SPEAKER_01: Oh wow, okay, yeah.
47:17
SPEAKER_00: Unless it's to get my nails done because I do need oh no, I'll be back because I I have like a farewell ladies' brunch and a celebratory ladies' brunch for another friend who just started a new position.
47:28
SPEAKER_00: We we had to move it all the way back to December 5th.
47:32
SPEAKER_00: Um, I know, move it back to December 5th.
47:36
SPEAKER_00: I know, I yeah, yeah, schedules.
47:42
SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you, adulting, yeah, adulting is rough, you know.
47:47
SPEAKER_00: Everything is on a schedule now.
47:49
SPEAKER_00: It's like, okay, here, you know, let me make sure I'm here, make sure I'm there.
47:54
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, I think I have brunch with another with someone on Friday.
47:59
SPEAKER_00: I think I have lunch on Friday.
48:01
SPEAKER_00: Also got a nail appointment on Friday because I'm getting my nails cut down.
48:04
SPEAKER_00: These are just too long for Tina.
48:05
SPEAKER_00: I don't know how.
48:06
SPEAKER_02: I don't know how she'll be doing it.
48:08
SPEAKER_02: I I can't wait to go get these cut down, and I've just got struggling, struggling.
48:15
SPEAKER_01: I don't know either.
48:16
SPEAKER_02: They're very pretty long, but it's like no, I can't.
48:22
SPEAKER_00: These are just longer than what I'll kept them this long so I can get my my Halloween designs and stuff on there.
48:29
SPEAKER_00: But they're one, they're already growing out, and I just told her, I said, so let's just take this off, get a feel, and just paint them black, and then I'll come, I'll go back uh November 4th to get my nails done.
48:47
SPEAKER_00: I like that because these gotta go.
48:50
SPEAKER_00: These have absolutely they hurt your your nails.
48:53
SPEAKER_00: Don't hurt, Cortina.
48:56
SPEAKER_00: She's not hitting them.
48:58
SPEAKER_01: You don't bang them sometimes.
49:00
SPEAKER_01: I mean, not that much.
49:02
SPEAKER_01: The only banging them doesn't hurt.
49:04
SPEAKER_01: What hurts is when I bend it and it lifts up.
49:09
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, oh my gosh, girl, that's almost like a crack.
49:13
SPEAKER_01: It's like an out-of-body experience, the pain.
49:16
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
49:18
SPEAKER_02: But outside of that, not not too much, no.
49:22
SPEAKER_02: That only happens when I let them get too long, and then you hit it and it lifts.
49:28
SPEAKER_01: Or if it's already lifting and it gets caught on something, yeah.
49:34
SPEAKER_02: That is that throbbing.
49:36
SPEAKER_02: I can't so that I took my whole nail down just to get rid of the feeling of hitting it and making that throbbing.
49:45
SPEAKER_02: Since I don't ooh, I'm gonna put a band-aid on it and keep it down.
49:50
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I remember I broke my other nail.
49:52
SPEAKER_00: I had to get a tip for this one.
49:55
SPEAKER_00: Uh well, I got a gel over a gel gel X nail, but I finally hit it, finally grew out enough for me to get a gel-x over, but it broke to where it bled.
50:08
SPEAKER_00: It is not no joke.
50:09
SPEAKER_00: Because, like, these, yeah, these are mine, and when they break, yeah, the breaking is bad.
50:16
SPEAKER_00: That's why I also want to get them cut down because I feel like I'm getting to the I do a lot, like I don't really wash.
50:22
SPEAKER_00: I don't, I'm not saying like I do anything, like I wash dishes and all that, I don't do any of that, but and I also don't wash laundry, but I fold it.
50:30
SPEAKER_00: But I do I do stuff like put together shells, put together this is candy woman, huh?
50:40
SPEAKER_00: What'd you just say?
50:41
SPEAKER_00: I I like to put together shelves.
50:43
SPEAKER_00: No, I like you don't wash laundry.
50:45
SPEAKER_00: I don't uh no, I don't wash laundry.
50:47
SPEAKER_00: Jay does Jay.
50:49
SPEAKER_00: Oh, okay, okay, and and low key and low key.
50:54
SPEAKER_00: So when we first when I first moved, when we first moved everything in and he left, there was so much laundry because our washer and dryer had been packed up for a couple days, so much laundry.
51:05
SPEAKER_00: Girl, why I found a really good laundry service.
51:08
SPEAKER_01: I thought you were gonna say something else.
51:10
SPEAKER_00: No, I found a really good laundry service here, and I set all the bags outside.
51:16
SPEAKER_00: I think I set outside like five, five or six bags, came back nine, folded.
51:21
SPEAKER_00: I washed my carpet, comforters, all, and all I had to do was put it away.
51:26
SPEAKER_00: So he's home now and he's been washing, and I've just been putting some stuff away.
51:30
SPEAKER_00: So even I don't wash in this house so much so that when I do wash and I tell him, Oh, I wash laundry, he was like, You okay?
51:41
SPEAKER_00: You cool?
51:42
SPEAKER_02: Is everything good with you?
51:44
SPEAKER_02: Because what would make that look?
51:46
SPEAKER_02: What would make you do that?
51:48
SPEAKER_02: You good?
51:50
SPEAKER_02: Okay, I like to wash laundry, I just don't like to fold.
51:53
SPEAKER_00: I like to fold because my OCD won't allow me to let anybody else fold anything.
51:58
SPEAKER_00: See, I don't like other people folding stuff for me, but I hate folding.
52:02
SPEAKER_01: It's a mine is a trauma response because my mom, if my stuff wasn't fold right, she would go and dump all the clothes on the floor, out the drawer.
52:09
SPEAKER_00: Oh, well, see, I fold like you would think that how my stuff is folded, it's almost you would think I worked in a retail store.
52:17
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, and so like even the print.
52:21
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so even Jay, he knows that if there's a print or something on on his shirts, that's it's faced up.
52:27
SPEAKER_00: So I'm very that's why I said I'm very particular about how I fold and it's supposed to be face up, don't everybody fold like that.
52:35
SPEAKER_00: No, not everybody, not everybody, yeah.
52:39
SPEAKER_00: But so I have to they have to be folded a specific way.
52:42
SPEAKER_00: I like my towels folded a specific way.
52:44
SPEAKER_00: I will go and unfold them, and then the clothes in the that makes me mad.
52:49
SPEAKER_02: That will make me bad because they gotta be uniform, they gotta be uniform.
52:54
SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah, don't put, don't fold no towels and put yeah, the other the other part is like I my clothes in my closet, they are hung specifically by color, but by different items too.
53:07
SPEAKER_00: So, like all of my blazers are together and they're all about you know, I have like my dresses, shirts, and all that, so it's color-coded.
53:16
SPEAKER_00: So for me, I um I don't really break nails doing that.
53:21
SPEAKER_00: It's more of me with with hammer and screws and screwdrivers and drills and all of those things.
53:28
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna start calling you Pam the Builder, you know, Bob the Builder.
53:31
SPEAKER_02: We can call Pam the Builder.
53:33
SPEAKER_00: Seriously, between decorating and building things up in here, Jay will tell you real fast.
53:39
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, he asked me, Hey, where's the screwdriver?
53:41
SPEAKER_00: Oh, it's it's here, it's there, it's there.
53:44
SPEAKER_00: The the and I think I shared this before.
53:46
SPEAKER_00: Our I have a really, really big uh toolbox, it's broken, so I need another one, but you would think it would belong to a man.
53:56
SPEAKER_00: I mean, I have sanders, I have saws, I have all I have knee pads, I have all kinds of different things.
54:03
SPEAKER_02: She said the knee pads, child.
54:05
SPEAKER_02: I got oh, yeah.
54:06
SPEAKER_00: So when I lay down floor, when I when I'm putting down flooring or cleaning, like I've pull up and yeah that part you pull up hard right.
54:16
SPEAKER_02: She said putting down flooring, lay down flooring, yeah.
54:21
SPEAKER_00: Okay, girl, right?
54:24
SPEAKER_00: Don't don't mind me, or because I mean that they're too long for painting because you get paint all in your uh so it's it's easier for me to have not necessarily really short, but short enough for me to be able to so the other part, these are so long, it's been daunting to hang things up because the nails when you're trying to hold them in the wall, so it's then like I said, it's just hard.
54:49
SPEAKER_00: And I'm the DYI girl, I just love putting stuff together.
54:54
SPEAKER_00: No, you go ahead then.
54:55
SPEAKER_02: I know I ain't mad at it.
54:57
SPEAKER_00: I built cloud, I built my closet in in my room.
54:59
SPEAKER_00: I'm mad that I had to I threw it out when we moved because it wouldn't fit in the truck.
55:03
SPEAKER_00: I just said I don't have time, just throw it out.
55:05
SPEAKER_00: Um, but I am gonna build my mom's closet um as a gift to her.
55:10
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm a custom her closet.
55:12
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna custom make her closet.
55:14
SPEAKER_00: That's nice.
55:15
SPEAKER_02: I like that.
55:15
SPEAKER_02: You can come over here you want because Lord knows I need some help, child.
55:21
SPEAKER_02: That closet, yeah.
55:23
SPEAKER_00: But people see me and they'll be surprised at what I could do.
55:26
SPEAKER_00: Like, I have re-saned, I've re-done an entire kitchen before.
55:30
SPEAKER_00: Like, I sanded all the cabinets, put knobs in, uh, restained them, all of that stuff.
55:36
SPEAKER_00: Damn, it's dusty, it's dusty as hell, but it's it's so rewarding, and it's it's therapeutic.
55:45
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, okay.
55:50
SPEAKER_00: See, y'all just don't handy though.
55:53
SPEAKER_01: No, D, he that that's him.
55:55
SPEAKER_01: Very handy, that's very handy.
55:58
SPEAKER_01: You know what I do?
56:01
SPEAKER_01: Hey, uh oh, that looked nice.
56:04
SPEAKER_01: You sure you want to do it that way?
56:06
SPEAKER_01: Oh, okay.
56:08
SPEAKER_01: So I just yeah, not me.
56:13
SPEAKER_00: Nope.
56:14
SPEAKER_00: That's why I don't mind ordering furniture or whatever that you gotta put together.
56:19
SPEAKER_00: Drills are amazing things to take the time off.
56:24
SPEAKER_00: I know.
56:25
SPEAKER_00: Um, but you know what?
56:27
SPEAKER_00: We are at the top of the hour.
56:30
SPEAKER_00: Uh, and we are going, I think we're supposed to go out tonight.
56:34
SPEAKER_00: Might be a little date tonight, might be a little day night, even though he cooked.
56:39
SPEAKER_00: What did he cook?
56:41
SPEAKER_00: He made but made me lunch.
56:43
SPEAKER_00: He was like burgers, they were really good.
56:45
SPEAKER_00: Turkey burgers, I think it was like turkey and sausage mixed together.
56:49
SPEAKER_00: They were really good.
56:50
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it was really good.
56:51
SPEAKER_00: It sounds good.
56:53
SPEAKER_00: I've only been cooking really well.
56:54
SPEAKER_00: I cooked, what did I cook?
56:56
SPEAKER_00: I know I've been cooking for Kofi pretty much every day, of course.
57:00
SPEAKER_00: And I don't normally cook for him every day, I normally make enough, but because I've been making him salmon every day mixed with some other food uh that I had from Pet Fresh, because when we were in Maryland, I ran out of food and we were getting ready to go, and we didn't have pots or nothing.
57:14
SPEAKER_00: So for me to cook, so I said, Well, you know what?
57:16
SPEAKER_00: Let me just run and get some fresh pet.
57:18
SPEAKER_00: And took some took him a while to eat it, but it's a fight, so I just make salmon with it.
57:23
SPEAKER_00: I also made duck, I made a duck breast for him as well.
57:27
SPEAKER_00: So he had a duck breast and fish, he had perch too.
57:32
SPEAKER_00: Come on, Coco.
57:34
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, he said he's eating goods, goods, he eats very good, he eats better than we do.
57:41
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and there's no let me just throw some dog food in a bowl.
57:46
SPEAKER_00: Okay, he's a bougie, he's a bougie black dog.
57:52
SPEAKER_03: A BB, BBD, a like dog.
57:58
SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, that look that could coin that.
58:00
SPEAKER_00: He's a BBD, a bougie black dog, yeah.
58:05
SPEAKER_00: Um, even though he's like mulatto, really.
58:08
SPEAKER_00: Because his dad is a black one and his mom is well, his mom used to be brown and then she turned white, and then Kofi was turning white, but now he's browning again, and then he got some dark, dark patches on him.
58:22
SPEAKER_00: I'm hoping that's not dirt, but I'm gonna bathe him.
58:24
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna find out.
58:29
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go, that's what I'm about to do.
58:31
SPEAKER_00: Either we're gonna go out or I'm gonna wash his dirty ass because I can't where he at?
58:35
SPEAKER_02: He ain't not in there or you with Jay?
58:38
SPEAKER_00: He's downstairs with Jay.
58:39
SPEAKER_00: He was sitting there looking at me a minute ago, so no, he's not up here with me, he's downstairs.
58:46
SPEAKER_01: Okay, right.
58:48
SPEAKER_00: But uh Diana, where can everybody find you at?
58:51
SPEAKER_00: Follow you, connect with you.
58:53
SPEAKER_02: You can connect with me on all social media platforms when I'm on there at Diana Richardson Philippis at Diana Richardson Philippis, or you can reach me at uh she is Diana, or excuse me, Diana Richardson Philippis.com.
59:06
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59:08
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59:09
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59:14
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59:15
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59:16
SPEAKER_01: You can find me at the Girlfriend Therapist on all social media platforms and at the newar N-O-I-R Center and um at Smile Facilitation Services on Instagram and yeah, Facebook.
59:33
SPEAKER_00: All right, yes, cheers.
59:34
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59:35
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59:45
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59:53
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59:57
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