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Growth Mindset Strategies That Transform Leaders ft Yuan Yufeng · King Dems Podcast | Growth Mindset, Leadership, AI and Business Insights

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  Let go of that which no longer serves you and know that what
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  once served you might not serve you right now and might not
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  serve your highest self. I carry things and I use.
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  I used to carry things so much. I was that junior monk man.
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  I wasn't the senior monk, bro. I didn't set the woman down at
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  the river. And one of my bad habits in the
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  past was holding on to things too long.
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  And it's something that I'm working on.
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  And with everything that I'm able to let go of, I'm more
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  free, I'm more happy, got more peaceful.
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  So what I would say to myself is if it's past, if it's in the
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  past, just let it go. If you can make it right, make
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  it right. If you can't or if there's no
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  need to, let it go. Where attention goes, energy
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  flows and reality grows. So focus your energy on what you
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  want to grow, not on what you don't.
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  That's that's what I'd say. Before we dive back into today's
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  yourself. Welcome to the King Dems
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  We are live, ladies and gentlemen, once again, welcome
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  to the Kingdom's podcast and Diary of the CFO.
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  And today I've got. With me a VVVIP fighting out of
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  Beijing, China by way of California, United States of
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  America. Beck Walker, you are, you fag.
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  Let's go, brother. Adam Ola, thank you bro.
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  I I love the the very passionate.
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  Welcome bro. It's a pleasure to be here bro.
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  Bro I guess you you'd be like. Oh man, man, man.
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  I'm a fighter now. Let's do this.
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  Let's do this. Let's do this.
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  Whoa, you know, I, I love the UFC a lot.
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  And what a lot of people don't know about me is, you know, a
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  lot of people think, oh, he's a finance guy, He's a finance bro,
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  Marty. Martial artists as well.
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  So growing up, growing up in Lagos, Nigeria, I was a skinny
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  kid. A lot of people used to think,
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  oh, we can believe this one and that.
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  That forced me to get into martial arts.
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  So I got into Taekwondo. From Taekwondo I moved to karate
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  and karate, did a bit of judo and ended up with mixed martial
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  arts, mixed martial artists, just everything.
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  That's the best thing in a street fight, you know, you have
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  your striking, your wrestling and the grappling.
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  So that is why I'm very, very, very big on the UFC and the UFC
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  has produced a lot of champion and you are also a champion
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  brother, and that's why I have you here.
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  So sit back and let me give you your flowers.
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  So our champions today we are joined by a man who embodies
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  global legacy leadership at a level uranium, a communicator, A
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  poet, a teacher, a community builder, a linguist, A
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  storyteller, and a connector of millionaire and billionaire
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  mentors to the next generation of change makers.
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  Yuan Yufeng is the founder of Billions of Hooters and the head
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  of community at the School of Mentors, the world's number one
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  entrepreneurship community. He has lived and worked across
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  China, Indonesia, the United States, and beyond.
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  He has taught to, LED, written, performed, coached, and created
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  systems to elevate thousands of entrepreneurs.
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  This episode is a journey through self mastery, identity,
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  communications, leadership, and global citizenship.
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  Joran is the man who sits at the intersection of wisdom and
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  execution. Today pull the curtain back on
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  the mindset, skill set and the tool set that shaped him.
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  Joran, we honour your presence on the Kingdom's Parkas and
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  Diary of the CFO. You are welcome, Rasha.
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  Wow, sure. Thank you Introduction is is a
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  mouthful because you know your. Your journey is a globe fool.
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  Yeah, I appreciate you dedicating the the oxygen to the
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  intro bro. Thank you.
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  Whoa brother, where? Where do we start from?
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  You know, like you love to see. You were made in China but
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  raised in America. You're just like Apple Brother.
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  You're designed in in America, but but made in China.
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  Talk, talk, Talk to us about it, brother.
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  Yeah, so as as Adam Ola said, and as I often say, I was indeed
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  made in China, but the quality is good.
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  I was born 1995 I think I'm dating myself a bit, but I was
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  born 1995 in Wuhan in the Hubei province of China and.
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  Wuhan. In Wuhan, dude.
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  Wuhan. Hey bro.
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  The notorious Wuhan. Before 2020 nobody knew Wuhan.
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  After 2020 everybody knows Wuhan dude.
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  So it is what it is. It is what it is.
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  I'm not going to say anything I don't want.
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  I don't want to get cancelled. I love China.
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  I love China. That's.
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  Funny, dude. So yeah, I was.
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  I was made in China, in Wuhan, and I grew up in Wuhan a little
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  bit in Changsha, another town in China, and then in a small
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  provincial city called Songzhu in the Hubei province.
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  And then I moved to the States at age 6.
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  Yeah. And at the time, it was a huge
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  change, man. I changed my language.
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  I changed my name, my identity. I wasn't able to stay in touch
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  with some of my loved ones who had raised me from birth till
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  age 6. So it was just a time of
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  enormous, enormous change, and it had a massive impact on me
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  moving forward in my life. So yeah, that's that's the
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  origin. Wow, so you live in China,
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  Indonesia, the US and of course you operate across several
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  languages. So when you look back at your
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  early life and global upbringing, what woman planted
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  that seed for self mastery and, you know, positive global
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  change? It's interesting, I think
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  growing up switching languages at age 6 is very difficult.
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  You, you pick it. I, I picked it up pretty
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  quickly, but I always felt like I wasn't able to express myself.
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  You know, I had all these feelings and all these emotions.
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  And when the, the language level is not sufficient to express
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  myself, like there's frustration, there's anger.
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  And also I looked around and I saw like, hey, throughout
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  history, all the greatest leaders have all been amazing
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  communicators. So I really just focused in on
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  that, honed in on that. And I'm not sure I, I think
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  everybody's born into the world with their own unique karma.
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  I'm very grateful to have been born with a more altruistic
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  direction. I like helping people.
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  I like positivity. I want to see a better world for
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  everybody. And that's, that's always been a
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  part of who I am, but I've definitely leaned into that more
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  and more throughout the years. So I wouldn't say that it was,
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  it was one exact moment, but it's definitely been a very
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  intentional honing and elevation of what I'm naturally born with.
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  Natural born leader and it's interesting switching languages
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  at the age of 6. So I, I can't remember where I
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  read this, but I read that kids are, would I say children find
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  it easy to learn multiple different languages, especially
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  before the age of five, but six, OK, Yeah, you're still, you're
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  still pretty much there, right? And I look at myself, for
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  example, I grew up in Nigeria and in Nigeria, we have multiple
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  different ethnic groups, multiple languages.
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  Nigeria is a country of over 220 million people and people don't
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  realise that there are over 250 ethnic languages in Nigeria and
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  my father is from one ethnic group, my mom is from another
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  ethnic group. And that's why I have AI, you
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  know, have a good have a good hybrid.
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  So people who? Understand the demography of
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  Nigeria and the geography of Nigeria would understand that my
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  first name is Adimala. Adimala is a Yoruba name and my
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  middle name is Isima which is and Edo name is an Nishan name,
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  right? So growing up I had to learn
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  Yoruba. I had to learn my mom's
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  language, Nishan. I think that was the first local
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  language I learned. And in Nigeria we also have a
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  Creole called Pigeon English. Right.
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  So it's it's like English scattered.
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  Yeah, I don't know how to explain it, but like you, you
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  would feel like this person speak English, but it's not.
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  English. If you don't understand the
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  semantics, the syntax, the language structure, you'd be.
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  You can't literally get sold. By people speaking something
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  that sounds like. English and also you not even
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  learn the proper English so I had to get master of like 4
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  languages. So I understand like
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  understanding. Four different languages, code
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  switching. You know, sometimes you're
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  speaking to somebody who is speaking one language and you
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  need to switch to another part of your brain.
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  Like, OK, we're not, we're not doing the English right now.
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  We're doing maybe Yoruba, we're doing another language.
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  And you need to flow and express yourself, right?
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  So, but then there's always that primary language.
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  And I tell people, your primary language is that language that
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  you think in. So what language do you think
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  here? Do you think in Chinese?
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  Do you think in English? It's, it's interesting because
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  I've till six I thought in Chinese and then from from 6 to
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  like 29 1/2 I thought in English and now I'm very intentionally
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  thinking in Chinese. So what?
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  What language do you pray in? What language do what?
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  Do you pray in? What language do I pray in both?
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  But recently it's been more and more Chinese and let let me just
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  dive into why, because I mean, that's that's the big question,
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  right? Like why, Adam?
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  I'll, I'll share an incredible experience I had.
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  Dude, I I was working for a start up.
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  It was called Atlas back. It was a posture correction
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  device and I was looking for investors for the company.
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  I walked into a water shop, an alkaline water shop in Thousand
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  Oaks, CA and I met this local physical therapist.
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  His name is Dan Kinney, you can look him up.
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  Dan Kinney physical therapy. And Dan used to work with
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  Olympian athletes, bro, and he focus on posture and posture
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  correction. And me and Dan, we hit it off in
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  this water shop and Dan was collaborating with the owner and
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  doing giving like free posture correction sessions as Li Jen, I
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  think. And he gave me a free posture
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  correction session, bro. And when I stood up from his
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  table, I felt this whoosh, this like primal rush of energy just
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  shoot up my spine. And accompanied with that, there
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  was a voice in my head that started saying my Chinese name
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  you. And you, you phone which I
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  hadn't used since I moved from China to the US So bro, I'm
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  hearing in my head, your new phone, your new phone, your new
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  phone, my Chinese name chanting itself over and over again.
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  And I'm feeling strong, bro. I'm feeling like the strongest
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  I've ever felt in my body. And I'm like, what is this all
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  about? You know, like, why does fixing
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  my posture, why did it activate this energy?
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  Why am I hearing my Chinese name?
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  And I decided to go on a journey to relearn Chinese.
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  After that point, I'm like, there's something here, I need
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  to relearn Chinese. And what I realised is that
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  there was a lot of my power that I am now able to access because
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  I've relearned Chinese, because Chinese was my mother tongue.
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  A lot of people have the mother tongue and they learn extra
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  languages on top of that mother tongue, but they still have the
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  foundation of the mother tongue. For me, my foundation, I had no
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  way to access it when I moved to the States.
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  So a lot of energy and a lot of different patterns were still
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  running. Bro, there was a point in my
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  life where I'd rewired my mind completely in English, but I
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  still wasn't getting the results that I wanted.
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  And I was like, why? And when I started rewiring my
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  mind in Chinese, rewiring some of those thinking patterns,
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  dude, my life changed for the better very quickly.
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  And like it is only getting better the more I think in
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  Chinese and work through some of those old patterns that I wasn't
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  even able to access until I relearned Chinese.
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  You know, you might be of the conversation I was having with a
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  doctor friend of mine, I said a lot of people suffer from
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  identity crisis. How can you understand the
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  environment around you if you don't even understand yourself?
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  How can you know what to do if you don't know who you are?
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  How can you know who you are and if you don't even know where
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  you're coming from? History is a template for people
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  to operate in the present and the future.
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  And that's why it's really, really important for people to
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  know their history and for people to have a deep and rich
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  understanding of their culture. And a very big part of culture
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  is language. You know, language, food, you
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  know, various practises, religion, politics.
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  But language, I think language, food, music are very, very
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  fundamental in the framework, in the fabric of culture and
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  identity. And I love the fact that you're
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  very proud of your boots, you're very proud of your identity.
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  So that journey is a very sacred journey, but a lot of people do
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  not take it very seriously. And during the introduction, I
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  touched on the pack that you were actually for it, right?
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  So your journey crosses poetry, communication studies, acting,
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  community leadership and entrepreneurship.
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  So when did you start to realise that you were actually meant to
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  build people and not just projects?
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  And of course, beating people start to beating yourself.
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  I think the, the more I went into my Buddhist practise, the
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  more the shift went from projects and accomplishments to
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  people because what, what are the achievements for?
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  What are the accomplishments for?
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  They're to get the love and respect and attention of other
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  people. A lot of us operate in that way.
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  And I will say that I operated in that way.
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  And when I loved myself and I realised, hey, I can be the
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  source of everything that I need.
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  And when I felt better and better and better and was able
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  to heal myself and find peace within, I realised one that I'm
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  suffering, I was suffering and a lot of other people are
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  suffering. So by going through my own
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  suffering and transforming it and realising that a lot of
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  other people are also suffering, it's like, hey, no, it's, it's
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  all about people. And at the end of the day, man,
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  like the things that bring us the most joy, at least I can
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  speak for myself, are my relationships with other people.
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  It's how have I impacted this person's life?
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  It's not, it's not like, hey, like what did I accomplish in
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  this business? It's like, no, like how many
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  lives did I touch and to what level did I touch it?
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  How, how much was I able to help this person grow?
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  I think that's really what brings true fulfilment for me
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  personally. And it's a huge aspect of
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  fulfilment for, for humanity, just being able to help other
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  people and add value to other people's lives.
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  I think that's where the joy, the true joy of life lives.
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  Yeah. You know, for people who really
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  follow this podcast, they would have heard me say this most of
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  the times. I'd rather impact a billion
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  lives than make a billion dollars.
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  That's powerful. That's powerful.
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  And you know what? If you impact a billion lives,
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  you will definitely make a billion dollars, I think.
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  Absolutely, as long as you get your monetization for point out
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  correctly, yeah. Hey, you know, they're, they're
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  for me, the framework is balancing being a Buddha and a
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  businessman. And we need to have both, you
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  know, that's the balance right there.
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  And it's, it's OK to be a Buddha and a business person at the
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  same time. You know, it's OK to be rewarded
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  and paid for the good work that we do.
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  That's 100% OK and should be embraced actually.
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  You know, one thing that really drew me to you from the School
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  of Mentors was what I say the impact of your Buddha stories.
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  For me, I'm a Christian, but I respect other religions and I
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  strongly believe that all roads lead to the top of the same
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  mountain. And people have created too many
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  divisions, you know, especially in religion and politics.
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  They're very, very sensitive, you know, areas.
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  But I have learned to respect, you know, every other religion.
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  And yeah, coming from Nigeria, you know, people practise
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  different religions. I think by default, if you are a
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  learner, educated, enlightened Nigeria, you'd one of the very
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  first, you know, lessons you are taught in your early life is
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  religious tolerance. So for me, I went above the
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  tolerance to appreciation, right.
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  Go study what other people are about because if you don't
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  understand something, you cannot appreciate it.
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  If you don't understand something then you stand under
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  it. So you have like this really,
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  really life changing, life impacting stories, you know,
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  from the Buddha, right? And I'd like for you to share
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  some of these, you know, stories, especially from a
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  mindset skill set, tool set perspective, because that is
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  what we stand for here, the stand for growth mindset and the
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  belief that in order for you to collaborate with anybody, the
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  very first thing you need to evaluate is their mindset,
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  right? But you are very big on self
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  mastery. And there are a lot of these,
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  when I say anecdotes, these stories that connect with the
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  concept of self mastery and self identity.
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  So I'll leave the floor to you to, to to educate us because,
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  you know, the two goals of this broadcast are to educate and to
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  motivate. But you know, let's deal with
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  the education aspect right now. Sounds good bro.
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  I, I appreciate the, the invitation and the respect and
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  know that it is offered Likewise for me, I respect all religions.
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  I respect all faiths and belief systems, and I know that like,
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  these are the foundations upon which people build their lives,
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  you know, So I have massive respect for it.
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  And for me, anything that helps humanity, that helps humans live
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  healthier, happier, more empowered lives, I'm for that.
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  That's what I'm for. I'm against anything that
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  divides us, that weakens us and do.
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  That's a very easy way to tell what to consume and what not to
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  consume. Is this piece of information
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  creating more division? Is it creating more conflict?
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  Is it sowing more discord? Is it saying negative things
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  that are not empowering? Then I just don't listen to it.
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  I don't give it even a cent of my time, bro.
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  Zero of my time, zero of my attention.
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  The best way to kill something is to just not pay it any
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  attention. And with negativity, that's what
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  we got. That's what we got to do.
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  Now for the other side, Anything that unifies anything that
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  empowers, anything that makes humans happier, healthier,
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  stronger, gives us hope. That's what I'm for.
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  So yeah, that's just a quick thing on the consumption of
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  information. Good paradigm to work through
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  that. But back to the Buddhist
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  stories, man, one of my favourites.
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  And the more I study Buddhism out of MOLA, the more I'm
• 24:11
  feeling that the Buddhist path is the path of learning to let
• 24:15
  go. And the Buddhist believe that
• 24:19
  attachment is the root cause of all suffering.
• 24:24
  And it's usually an attachment to an idea of who we think we
• 24:29
  are or who we think we have to be in order to survive.
• 24:34
  There's there's so many subtle attachments in my experience
• 24:39
  that I had attached to that once I let go, dude, so much of my
• 24:43
  suffering, I'm able to let it go as well.
• 24:46
  So let me, let me tell you this, this story about letting go.
• 24:48
  So this is the story of the two monks with the woman at the
• 24:55
  river. Now, Buddhist monks, they're not
• 24:58
  supposed to, to have physical contact with, with ladies.
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  And there was one day there's a a senior monk and a junior monk.
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  They're walking through the forest and they come to this
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  river. It's a very fast flowing river,
• 25:14
  kind of scary. And there's a, there's a
• 25:16
  beautiful lady there and she doesn't know how to cross.
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  And she asks the two monks, hey, can you guys help me across this
• 25:23
  river, please? And without thinking about it,
• 25:27
  the senior monk just goes over. It's like, yeah, sure, hop on,
• 25:31
  I'll carry you over. And he picks her up, carries her
• 25:35
  over the river, sets her down and moves on.
• 25:39
  Now, at this time, the junior monk is like, dude, what are you
• 25:43
  doing? You're the senior monk.
• 25:45
  Like, you're not supposed to have physical contact with
• 25:47
  women. Like, what are you doing, bro?
• 25:49
  And he crosses the river after them, but he doesn't say
• 25:53
  anything at that moment. They keep walking.
• 25:56
  The senior monk and junior monk continue on their journey.
• 25:58
  They're walking. And the junior monk, he can't
• 26:00
  stop thinking about it. He's like, dude, like, why did
• 26:02
  this guy touch this lady? Like we're really not supposed
• 26:05
  to do that. And after like a couple, a
• 26:07
  couple miles, he just couldn't help himself.
• 26:10
  So he asked the senior monk. He's like, dude, like you're the
• 26:13
  senior monk. Like, why did you why did you
• 26:15
  have physical contact with that Lady?
• 26:17
  And the senior monk says, hey, brother, like, look, I picked
• 26:22
  her up. I brought her across the river
• 26:25
  and I set her down. Why are you still carrying her?
• 26:32
  Why are you still carrying her? And the lesson there, bro, is
• 26:40
  like, there's so many things that we attached to that we're
• 26:43
  carrying inside of our hearts, carrying inside of our minds.
• 26:47
  And for the senior monk, he wasn't attached to the rules per
• 26:52
  SE. He was more concerned with the
• 26:54
  human, with helping the human in the moment.
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  And a lot of Buddhists like that, that's the true way to
• 27:01
  practise, put the human first, you know, like if it breaks the
• 27:04
  rules, but it benefits the human, do that action.
• 27:08
  And then this junior monk, he was holding on to convention.
• 27:11
  He was holding on to the rules and he was carrying the lady
• 27:15
  inside of his head and inside of his heart.
• 27:17
  And there's so many things that humans carry for so long that
• 27:22
  drag us down, hold us down in lower energetic states that if
• 27:27
  we could just learn to let go like the senior monk, that we
• 27:31
  would feel so much lighter immediately, bro.
• 27:33
  So that's the story of the two monks with the woman at the
• 27:37
  river. Wow.
• 27:40
  You know, you've actually shared the story on the School of
• 27:43
  Mentors and really he did touch me.
• 27:49
  And right now it's sinking in Defran again.
• 27:54
  Like it's a story that when you hear it or you tell it, it does
• 28:02
  heat with a new energy every time, letting go.
• 28:10
  Very, very important. You know, I've said this before,
• 28:12
  that people are too attached to constructs, to concepts, to
• 28:18
  ideas, to philosophies. You're not your idea, you're not
• 28:22
  your philosophy. And you know, for a very long
• 28:27
  time people believe in things that are wrong, right?
• 28:31
  And would kill or fight to defend that wrong position,
• 28:37
  right? And a lot of people don't
• 28:39
  realise that rules are made for man, not man made for rules.
• 28:47
  Wow, that's a great perspective. I like that.
• 28:57
  A lot of people are attached to convention, but you need to
• 29:02
  think about the greater good. I love that story very much.
• 29:07
  The woman was in need and you know, he did what he had to do
• 29:11
  and let her go. And you know, just from that
• 29:15
  moment where he drops her off, he's off his mind and he's
• 29:21
  continued on his journey or he's impacted her own journey
• 29:25
  positively. Yep.
• 29:28
  And this speaks to even every other religion.
• 29:31
  In Christianity and Islam, there are people who judge other
• 29:34
  people. You know, we sometimes we call
• 29:37
  them cooler than doubt. You know, individuals like, OK,
• 29:41
  you want to be holy, No problem. You be holy.
• 29:43
  Leave me. Just leave me alone.
• 29:45
  Let. Let me do my own thing, right?
• 29:47
  But why do people want to feel like they are better than the
• 29:51
  next person? Why do they want to feel like
• 29:56
  they're better than the next person?
• 29:58
  They want to feel that way because they're insecure about
• 30:03
  who they are and like it. It's, it's just a a lack of self
• 30:11
  love at the end of the day, I think.
• 30:13
  I mean at any time, any there's any reaching that is external,
• 30:18
  it's it's a lack of self love I think.
• 30:23
  And. You know, because if if you
• 30:25
  truly love yourself, then you'll be confident within yourself.
• 30:29
  And it also comes with experience because it's only
• 30:34
  after going through certain stages in life do we understand
• 30:38
  the experiences of others. If we don't have those
• 30:40
  experiences and those challenges, we truly cannot
• 30:44
  understand them. There's no way to imagine your
• 30:47
  way. You can't imagine, you can't
• 30:49
  envision. But there's certain things that
• 30:52
  you have to experience to truly understand it.
• 30:55
  And the correct way to practise on the path, I believe, is to
• 31:00
  transform it with compassion. And I think compassion is always
• 31:05
  the answer, dude. Zen Master tick not on.
• 31:07
  He said. Compassion is invincible.
• 31:11
  It is the only thing that is worthy of us.
• 31:14
  And hatred will not let you face the beast in man, but compassion
• 31:19
  can. And compassion can help you
• 31:21
  transform that. So that's my perspective on it.
• 31:30
  Wow, compassion, they're very important.
• 31:34
  If you've ever seen my my core values or heard about my core
• 31:37
  values, my core values to just three of them, kindness,
• 31:40
  respect, hospitality. You know, compassion is a very,
• 31:45
  very big part of kindness. I like to tell people I'm a kind
• 31:49
  guy, but not a nice guy. You know, I I generally care
• 31:53
  about people's welfare, but I feel like niceness is about
• 31:57
  seeking people's validation or trying to act like you're kind
• 32:05
  so that people would say, oh, that's, you know, that person is
• 32:09
  good. So from that Buddha story, we
• 32:15
  could see the senior monk is actually a kind guy.
• 32:23
  He genuinely cares about the human.
• 32:26
  Yes, right. And that is what kind people do.
• 32:29
  They don't care about the frameworks, they don't care
• 32:31
  about the rules. They care about the welfare of
• 32:36
  the people, Right. And you talk a lot about self
• 32:41
  mastery. And, you know, self mastery is,
• 32:44
  you know, a theme of the mind. It's intrinsic.
• 32:48
  It's about your internal engineering.
• 32:51
  And in this age of time, people seek validation too much.
• 32:58
  And you know, I tell people I don't really care about what
• 33:02
  people say about me or what people try to lead on me.
• 33:06
  If you said I'm stupid, I'm crazy and whatever, that's,
• 33:11
  that's, that's on you. Thank you very much.
• 33:14
  Because I use this analogy. When you take $100 note, right?
• 33:19
  Take that $100 note. You squeeze it, you, you know,
• 33:22
  you grumble it, you put it in the mud, you step on it and say,
• 33:26
  oh, you're not $100, you're $50. OK, no problem.
• 33:29
  Straighten it out and take that mint one, the fresh one and take
• 33:33
  it to a shop. The the.
• 33:37
  The rugged. Rackety 1 you know, and that
• 33:42
  mint fresh one are going to buy the same exact things.
• 33:46
  So I tell people my value is not determined by whatever you call
• 33:51
  it, is determined by what God has, you know, quoted.
• 33:55
  So it's more like the central bank actually printed this thing
• 33:57
  and you know, you credit 100, right?
• 34:01
  So whatever it is you want to try to call it, it doesn't
• 34:06
  change it. So our value is intrinsic, is
• 34:10
  determined by God. Until people get to realise the
• 34:12
  fact that your value is actually predetermined right and cannot
• 34:16
  be changed by people's validation or people's
• 34:19
  expressions, they might not take themselves very seriously.
• 34:28
  Yeah, no, that's a beautiful perspective and I think it's
• 34:31
  true. I mean, we, I think all humans
• 34:34
  have inherent value. And I will say too, that that
• 34:39
  humans are also capable of elevating their own value.
• 34:43
  That that's that's a beautiful thing.
• 34:44
  We're all born with inherent value, but we can also learn to
• 34:49
  increase our value by learning to increase the level at which
• 34:54
  we can help other people and, and service other people and
• 34:59
  provide solutions to their problems.
• 35:02
  It's interesting, 'cause there's, there's like, there's
• 35:05
  worth and there's value, right? Like inherently, like we all
• 35:11
  have worth just as human beings, but value is, I'm starting to
• 35:16
  think of value in terms of like what I can do for other people,
• 35:21
  the, the pain that I can alleviate, the problems that I
• 35:24
  can solve. I'm curious about your, your
• 35:26
  perspective on that, Adamola, because we all have value as
• 35:29
  human beings, just base basic human respect, you know, And,
• 35:34
  but what, what's your take on that?
• 35:35
  The the dichotomy of worth and value or or is there a
• 35:38
  separation for you? So I'd say in terms of value,
• 35:44
  I'll link it back to that analogy that I gave, right?
• 35:49
  What's the value of $100? Note, you can buy certain
• 35:53
  things, right? And that value is intrinsic.
• 35:57
  It's not determined by, you know, the aesthetic.
• 36:02
  So it's, you know. You know what it is, bro?
• 36:05
  It's determined by our belief in it.
• 36:08
  That's what it's determined by. Because if nobody believes.
• 36:12
  You believe in the you believe in that $100 note, right?
• 36:15
  That is why you're. Going to collect it and give
• 36:16
  some of the value. Yes, I, I want to bring it back
• 36:22
  to, to the, to belief. Now, bro, let's, let's talk
• 36:26
  about belief for a bit. Because what is it that
• 36:29
  literally gives that $100 bill the power that it has?
• 36:33
  It's the investment of our belief in it.
• 36:36
  It's our acceptance of it, but without, without our belief in
• 36:41
  it. Like if an alien just came to
• 36:43
  Earth and they didn't know anything about the $100 bill and
• 36:47
  they didn't believe in it and like it's just me and the alien,
• 36:51
  just us 2 left in the world. And it's like they don't know
• 36:56
  what it is, they don't believe in it, then it has no value
• 37:00
  because they haven't invested their belief in it.
• 37:03
  And it's the same with people, bro.
• 37:04
  I think we're valuable to the level that we believe we are
• 37:09
  valuable. So I think it's belief at the
• 37:12
  end of the day. I've got a quote.
• 37:15
  Belief is the catalyst that transforms thoughts into
• 37:20
  reality. Belief is the catalyst that
• 37:24
  transforms thoughts into reality.
• 37:29
  And you know, think about it from this perspective, talk
• 37:33
  about belief. The reason why somebody's going
• 37:36
  to accept $100 note is because they believe in that note.
• 37:40
  I come from Nigeria. We don't spend dollars or spend
• 37:44
  naira. If you go to some rural areas
• 37:47
  and you give a local businesswoman give $100 notes,
• 37:52
  she's never seen $100 in her life.
• 37:54
  She will not accept it from you. She wants a local currency.
• 38:03
  Man, this, this is so interesting because now it
• 38:07
  brings up like, hey, if you have something beautiful to share but
• 38:10
  people aren't familiar with it, then you have to introduce it to
• 38:14
  them in a way that feels familiar in order for them to
• 38:17
  accept it. So like, let's say you have some
• 38:20
  beautiful Christian messages to share with people, but these are
• 38:23
  people that have never heard about Christianity or anything
• 38:27
  like that. I guess a good way to
• 38:29
  communicate those values would be through adopting them in a
• 38:34
  format or through subjects that these people are familiar with.
• 38:40
  So yeah, it's my, my mind is kind of racing with ideas now.
• 38:43
  So I appreciate you man. You're, you're inspiring, dude.
• 38:46
  Let's. Know.
• 38:48
  Modern day business. Philosopher for reason, brother.
• 38:52
  Let's go, Let's go, the Joe. Letters.
• 38:57
  Oh, the Joe Rogan of Africa right here with you, brother.
• 39:01
  We're calling it global. Top 100 Barrister and the
• 39:04
  barrister in your faces, from your mouth to God's ears, it's.
• 39:08
  Going to happen, you know. I feel like I was, I was put on
• 39:12
  this earth. I was born just to be a
• 39:13
  podcaster. Like everything that I've done
• 39:16
  in my life is just pointing towards that purpose, OK?
• 39:24
  I have been viewing this guy to become, you know, a global
• 39:28
  podcaster, you know. A global elite level.
• 39:32
  The best in the world. In order to be the best, you
• 39:36
  have to be to the best, and the best is blessed.
• 39:39
  You know, we are blessed, brother, We're blessed.
• 39:45
  It's quite interesting, you know, like, I love the fact that
• 39:48
  I'm able to connect with the brightest minds of my time.
• 39:54
  I grew up reading a lot of books in my father's library.
• 39:58
  Books and philosophy, psychology, sociology, history,
• 40:02
  geography, political science. And, you know, reading the
• 40:07
  ancient, you know, Greek philosophers and you know, some
• 40:10
  Oriental ones as well, lacks of Confucius.
• 40:14
  I used to think, how wish I could have a conversation with
• 40:16
  these guys and know what's happening in their head and
• 40:19
  trade perspectives. And no matter how brilliant you
• 40:24
  are or how much of A genius you are as a person, connecting with
• 40:30
  another genius helps you to expand the horizon.
• 40:37
  There's something I learned in physics, you know the angle of
• 40:42
  elevation and angle of depression.
• 40:46
  So it's about your perspective. So your perspective is limited
• 40:53
  to what you can see, right? And it's based off the angle.
• 40:57
  So if you, if you have a building, for example, you have
• 41:00
  this and you're standing here, you're only limited to see what
• 41:06
  is here. You don't know what's at the
• 41:07
  back. But if you're standing here, you
• 41:14
  can see what is down, right? If you're standing here, you can
• 41:17
  see what is here and you know what is here.
• 41:20
  So having conversations with people, right?
• 41:23
  So I am here and you're here, for example, so I can tell you
• 41:30
  about what is here. You can tell me about what's
• 41:31
  here. I will focus on better
• 41:34
  individuals. I love it, bro.
• 41:38
  And like, do you think that that's what happens like let's
• 41:43
  say when we, when we pass away, right?
• 41:45
  Like the Buddhist believe that we're just a drop of water
• 41:49
  returning to the ocean. So what if like when I pass, I'm
• 41:56
  able to go back with that information and say, hey, here's
• 42:02
  what I've learned about life. Here's all of these different
• 42:05
  angles, take it and run. You know, I'm, it's just so
• 42:09
  cool. I'm thinking about the matrix
• 42:10
  now. I'm thinking about some very
• 42:12
  interesting ideas like universal consciousness.
• 42:18
  But no, I I love it, dude. And I think when great minds get
• 42:23
  together, I'm not saying that I'm a great mind, but you are a
• 42:25
  great. You are, you are a great mind,
• 42:27
  brother. You are a great mind.
• 42:29
  There's no, there is no argument about it.
• 42:32
  You know, You know, one thing, one thing I've learned.
• 42:35
  Is, you know, yeah, it's beautiful, humble, right.
• 42:37
  But it's also good to accept our privileges.
• 42:43
  Yeah, we have certain privileges based off our journeys in life,
• 42:48
  right. So it's it's not your fault that
• 42:50
  you're a great mind. You just have to accept it.
• 42:53
  You don't have to be humble about it, right?
• 42:56
  Yeah, you can be humble about it.
• 42:57
  Yeah, but. I.
• 42:59
  I think probably a way to be humble about it is.
• 43:01
  You know, maybe framing it as I'm grateful.
• 43:04
  You know, to be one of the great minds.
• 43:05
  You know of my generation, I think, yeah.
• 43:10
  What here, here's something that I take pride in is
• 43:13
  communication. And I think it's even better to
• 43:17
  have a friend give you the compliment for you.
• 43:20
  So that's why I deflected it because I do help you out with
• 43:23
  that bro. So I I appreciate your assist in
• 43:27
  that dude. Jeff Bezos said something really
• 43:30
  interesting. He said we can't be proud of our
• 43:33
  gifts, but we can be proud of our decisions.
• 43:37
  And. I'm proud of all the decisions
• 43:39
  that I've made with the cards that I've been dealt, you know,
• 43:43
  with the cards that I've been dealt.
• 43:45
  I'm very proud of how I'm showing up.
• 43:48
  I'm very proud of how I'm allocating my time, energy and
• 43:52
  attention in the world. And I'm proud that I'm I've
• 43:55
  chosen to be a good person or do my best to be a good person and
• 43:59
  make a positive impact in the world.
• 44:00
  So another thing that you on right there.
• 44:04
  You know, you talk about Keith's right, the Bible.
• 44:09
  Actually in the book of Proverbs chapter 18 verse 16, it says a
• 44:13
  man's gift make up room for him and bring up him before great
• 44:17
  man. A man's gift make up room for
• 44:24
  him and bring up him before great man.
• 44:27
  Think about it. It reminds me of what our
• 44:33
  director of our higher ticket communities, Rob Fajardo says.
• 44:38
  Rob has a great networking thing because a lot of people say it's
• 44:42
  not what you know, it's who you know, right?
• 44:44
  A lot of people say that. But Rob's spin on that is
• 44:47
  actually it's what you know that allows you to connect with The
• 44:52
  Who you knows and allows you to provide the value to them.
• 44:56
  So it's the what you know that allows you to get in the room
• 44:59
  and stay in the room. So actually it's our gifts, as
• 45:03
  the Bible says, and it's the what that allows us access to
• 45:07
  The Who before we become The Who.
• 45:10
  So. Yeah.
• 45:13
  You know, that's something that the Bible says that I really
• 45:17
  appreciate. It says study to show thyself
• 45:19
  approved or workmen that need not be ashamed.
• 45:23
  Study to show thyself, approved a Workman that need not be
• 45:28
  ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
• 45:35
  What does that mean to you? That is, we have that
• 45:40
  responsibility to study. We have that responsibility to
• 45:47
  study for our self growth, our self development, and that is
• 45:55
  what's going to make you not to be ashamed.
• 45:59
  I love it bro because. Rightly dividing the word of
• 46:01
  truth. That's beautiful.
• 46:04
  Humans were blessed and humans also a lot of people forget.
• 46:11
  Maybe, maybe it's just me that forgot, but we're also organic
• 46:15
  beings. We're not just observers of
• 46:17
  nature. We are manifestations of nature
• 46:20
  as well. We're a part of nature and
• 46:22
  anything in nature that is not growing is dying.
• 46:27
  A tree is either growing or it's dying.
• 46:30
  There's no, there's no two ways about it.
• 46:32
  If the tree is not growing, it is dying.
• 46:34
  And it's the same with humans, bro.
• 46:36
  So like every single day, it's good to study, it's good to
• 46:40
  learn something new, it's good to get new things in variety.
• 46:43
  It's good to grow every single day because if we're not
• 46:46
  growing, we're dying. And the Buddhists believe that
• 46:51
  the the reincarnation as a human is a super, super blessed chance
• 46:57
  and opportunity to actually dive into the waters of truth, you
• 47:02
  know, to learn about the nature of reality, to transcend
• 47:06
  suffering. And just the Buddhist really
• 47:10
  Revere this opportunity to be human, to have human
• 47:14
  intelligence and to study every single day, man.
• 47:16
  So I love that quote from the Bible.
• 47:18
  Let's go a. Lot of respect.
• 47:21
  Brother, you know speaking to the full concept of self
• 47:26
  mastery, right? And that internal engineering
• 47:30
  that you very, very much appreciate.
• 47:34
  So you talk about holistic success.
• 47:37
  So what does self mastery mean to you in a world full of noise
• 47:40
  and pressure? And how does somebody begin that
• 47:43
  journey to self mastery? Damn bro that's a great
• 47:49
  question. I think self mastery, there's
• 47:52
  there's a lot of different elements to it. 1st it's it's a
• 47:58
  willingness to take a look at where you are currently and
• 48:04
  accept that honest with honesty. I think my the biggest turning
• 48:10
  point in my own self mastery journey was when I decided to be
• 48:14
  100% honest. OK, honesty will get you super
• 48:18
  far. It'll get you like 80% of the
• 48:20
  way there. And here's how it happened for
• 48:22
  me. In the past, I had a really bad
• 48:25
  habit of telling little lies to people to get them to like me
• 48:29
  more. I don't know why, bro.
• 48:30
  I'll just confess that it was something that I did.
• 48:33
  And I went to UCLA and I joined a fraternity called Lambda Chi
• 48:38
  Alpha there. And it was like my rush, my rush
• 48:42
  term. And we were picking our Big
• 48:43
  Brothers inside the fraternity to be our mentors, right?
• 48:47
  And I put these five guys as 54321.
• 48:50
  But I told number one and #2 that they were both my number
• 48:54
  one. I still know their names, Bro
• 48:55
  Austin, Austin Kopp and Adam Hakeem.
• 48:59
  Those are my two guys. They are my top two guys.
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  And bro, throughout the process of figuring out who is going to
• 49:06
  be my big bro, this lie came out and it was exposed in front of
• 49:11
  the whole fraternity dude and I. Had to get.
• 49:14
  Bro it was terrible. I felt so ashamed, I felt
• 49:18
  embarrassed. And it really, 'cause we do
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  these, I, I did this instinctively just try trying to
• 49:26
  survive. I think like everything that
• 49:28
  somebody does, it's a survival mechanism that we feel we have
• 49:32
  to do but we don't have to do. But Long story short, man, I had
• 49:36
  to give an apology in front of the entire fraternity and I had
• 49:40
  to take a good look at myself, man.
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  And this is life gives us opportunities to take a good
• 49:45
  look at ourselves and change. And after that I decided, man, I
• 49:50
  need to be 100% honest and not just to other people, but also
• 49:55
  with myself. Like how am I feeling?
• 49:58
  What are my genuine thoughts right now?
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  And then creating space for that.
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  So I think honesty is an incredible first step in self
• 50:10
  development and self mastery. Honesty.
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  Honesty and the search for truth about ourselves, about the
• 50:18
  universe. I think those are two very, very
• 50:20
  good things. Honesty is the first step.
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  Truth is the direction. You know, in, in Nigeria we have
• 50:28
  we have a saying that's quite popular.
• 50:29
  They say honesty is the best policy.
• 50:32
  I agree with that. I agree with that bro, because
• 50:35
  telling lies is like weaving a spider web that you have to
• 50:39
  navigate yourself and it'll eventually catch me inside of it
• 50:44
  if I, if I tell it, you know, it's just, it's not, it's not
• 50:49
  worth it bro. It's not worth it bro.
• 50:51
  My, my good friend Akon, he, he's from Ghana, he says
• 50:57
  anything that cost me my Peace of Mind is too expensive.
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  Anything that's going to cost me my Peace of Mind is too
• 51:04
  expensive. And I agree 110%, man.
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  So those are my thoughts on that bro.
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  It's interesting you're actually aligning with a proverb from
• 51:15
  from Nigeria. So I'll say it in Yoruba and Abu
• 51:19
  translate it so they say T Yoruba lofo Guangdong putito
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  Yoshi buria meaning are if a lie is told and it exists for 1000
• 51:32
  years, the truth will still eventually conquer it or be
• 51:37
  revealed. I agree with that 110%.
• 51:42
  The truth will always come up bro.
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  Because the the experience of life is truth.
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  We're experiencing truth everyday man.
• 51:51
  Like life itself is truth. And if if I have a misperception
• 51:56
  or a misconception about how life is, life experiences will
• 52:01
  show me that I am wrong. Like like there's certain
• 52:04
  universal principles that are just so true that even if I
• 52:09
  believe they're not true, my life experiences will prove them
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  true to me over time. So I agree with that.
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  Speaking of universal truths, right?
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  Yeah, I think about how in the past people used to think the
• 52:25
  world was flat for overtime. Scientific discoveries proof
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  that the world is spherical, so. There are some people who see
• 52:35
  believe. In the Flat Earth concept where
• 52:38
  you stand and you know, like how did that concept of changing
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  from the universal Flat Earth concept to the universal
• 52:49
  spherical concept, like how does that evolution play for you?
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  It's interesting, Adam, I, I only speak about things that I
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  feel I have some level of expertise or skin in the game
• 53:05
  with. I've never dove in very deep
• 53:07
  into that conversation. Just off the bat, I'm I'm
• 53:11
  feeling that the earth is spherical, that that's, that's
• 53:15
  my take on it. But like for me, I'm, I'm only
• 53:18
  concerned with the things that will improve human life.
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  That's that's where I put all my energy and attention.
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  I love that. That's just true.
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  It's just true. It's just who I am.
• 53:29
  But with with things like that, it's like I will support
• 53:36
  whatever gives you the most Peace of Mind because I care
• 53:42
  about the human. Like at the end of the day,
• 53:44
  we're all going to die. And does it matter?
• 53:47
  Does it matter if it's spherical or if it's flat?
• 53:49
  Or does it? Matter, I'm telling you, does it
• 53:52
  really matter? Because some people will fight
• 53:55
  you to define the concept of the Flat Earth.
• 54:01
  And I'm like, OK, do you think it's flat?
• 54:03
  It is very flat. No problem, let's move on.
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  Just there's some Tele facts that are just like suckers of
• 54:12
  energy that don't need to be there.
• 54:13
  Like if you have time to talk about Flat Earth or spherical
• 54:17
  earth like do something about the water problem like purify
• 54:21
  water on earth. OK go, here's the order bro.
• 54:24
  First, purify the air. Spend your time purifying air,
• 54:28
  finding solutions to purify air because without good air we're
• 54:31
  all dead instantly like 3 minutes.
• 54:34
  Second, find a good way to purify water.
• 54:37
  If you have still have time after solving the air problem,
• 54:40
  solve the water problem 'cause if we don't have water, we die
• 54:43
  in like 5 to 7 days. Then solve the food problem
• 54:48
  'cause if we don't have food, good clean, healthy food, we die
• 54:51
  after like, I don't know, 3-4 weeks, you know?
• 54:54
  So that's the order that flat versus spherical earthers should
• 54:58
  take and allocate their energy. That's what I believe.
• 55:03
  I love that. I love that, you know, water.
• 55:07
  Food, in the words of Bruce Lee, be like water, my friend.
• 55:12
  Be like water my friend. Dude.
• 55:14
  Dude it's the basics man. People have to think like, what
• 55:18
  is keeping us alive at this moment?
• 55:20
  It's air. That's the most important thing.
• 55:23
  We need clean air. What's secondary water?
• 55:26
  What do we die without the fastest, without water?
• 55:29
  OK, after water, food. We need to make these three
• 55:32
  things healthy and good for all of humanity.
• 55:36
  And then education, because it's food of the mind.
• 55:40
  With education, bro, we can change the entire world with a
• 55:43
  single generation. We just need to get one single
• 55:46
  generation right and humanity is good bro.
• 55:51
  Very, very important. And that actually reminds me of
• 55:55
  a philosophy that I have. I said the the capacity of a
• 55:59
  human being is determined by 4 ease number one, education,
• 56:06
  number 2 enlightenment #3 experience and #4 exposure.
• 56:11
  I'll take that again. 4 ease the capacity of a person as an
• 56:15
  individual is determined by 4 ES.
• 56:18
  Number one is education #3 is enlightenment #3 it's exposure
• 56:22
  #4 is experience. So in no particular order,
• 56:25
  right, those are four ES. I like to take this is.
• 56:31
  Bro this is beautiful and I I agree.
• 56:33
  I'll give you some sauce there. Bro I'm I'm, I'm gonna go in.
• 56:38
  Bro I'm I'm going in, dude. So all right, let me let me
• 56:43
  organise this and let me go in on this.
• 56:44
  So First off, exposure, one of our mentors that we had on his
• 56:50
  name is Will Rivera. He is a became a millionaire at
• 56:55
  23. He's a great quote.
• 56:56
  Ma'am, You can only grow to what you've been exposed to.
• 57:03
  You can only grow to what you've been exposed to.
• 57:06
  And dude, I I think that's super true.
• 57:09
  So I think exposure and choosing to expose yourself to the things
• 57:14
  that you want. Go and see the dream, go and
• 57:17
  touch the dream, go and taste the dream.
• 57:19
  Whatever your dream is, that environment is so important.
• 57:23
  Put yourself in that. You might want to add
• 57:24
  environment to those ease bro. Environment, yeah.
• 57:28
  Let's go there. Let's make it 5.
• 57:30
  I like the. Concept of five.
• 57:32
  Let's go. Let's go, bro.
• 57:34
  So yeah, you can only grow to what you've been exposed to.
• 57:37
  And that education is not just school, bro.
• 57:41
  Like I think I I want people to not think of education as just
• 57:45
  school. And that's why we've been
• 57:47
  enlightenment, Enlightenment. Is education on steroids?
• 57:51
  I love it. I love it for me for me
• 57:54
  enlightenment. I do go by more of the Buddhist
• 57:56
  perspective, which is like. Let me think about how to
• 58:06
  structure this. It's about seeing the nature of
• 58:11
  reality as it is and experiencing that for ourselves,
• 58:17
  because it's the experience of the nature of reality that
• 58:22
  really frees us. OK, so there's a great example
• 58:26
  of like a researcher and the Buddha.
• 58:30
  OK, there's the researcher and the Buddha.
• 58:32
  They're both researching and experiencing impermanence,
• 58:36
  right? So the researcher will use his
• 58:39
  micros or telescope, microglass, whatever it's called,
• 58:42
  microscope, and he'll look at an atom and he'll see how it
• 58:46
  fluctuates so much in every single second.
• 58:49
  It's not the same. It's, it's impermanent.
• 58:51
  The, the state that it's in, it's always changing.
• 58:55
  But the researcher will not become enlightened just by
• 58:58
  looking at impermanence. You know, the Buddha, the
• 59:02
  purpose of the meditation part of it was actually to experience
• 59:07
  the reality of impermanence using his own body as the tool.
• 59:13
  Because when we meditate, we're able to experience, oh, here's
• 59:16
  this sensation right here, 0 and now it's gone.
• 59:20
  Here's the sensation right here, 0 and now it's gone.
• 59:23
  Here's the thought that I'm experiencing 0 And now it's
• 59:25
  gone. Thoughts are gone as soon as
• 59:28
  they come, and every single phenomenon in the entire
• 59:32
  universe is impermanent to varying degrees of impermanence.
• 59:37
  Speeds that the speed that at which it changes.
• 59:44
  So I think it's important to have the experience of
• 59:48
  enlightenment, not just an intellectual understanding of
• 59:51
  it. Because if we don't experience
• 59:53
  it first hand, we won't truly know, I think.
• 59:59
  And you know, in terms of education, a lot of people make
• 1:00:02
  the mistake of what I say equating education to lead to
• 1:00:07
  racism, but education is more than just being literate.
• 1:00:12
  Like for you to speak to that and don't forget our five, our
• 1:00:15
  five ES enlightenment, education, exposure, experience
• 1:00:21
  and environment. So.
• 1:00:23
  You've spoken to, Let me see now, enlightenment.
• 1:00:29
  So we're talking about education now?
• 1:00:31
  Yeah. Yeah, I I love that, bro.
• 1:00:34
  Literacy gives you access to the flow of information.
• 1:00:39
  That's what literacy does. Literacy is, is, is.
• 1:00:44
  It's a very beneficial thing to have, but it's not everything.
• 1:00:50
  I think there's education in terms of learning, like what to
• 1:00:56
  actually consume. That's a key part of education,
• 1:01:00
  and that's an intuitive thing. It's like as we live our lives,
• 1:01:03
  we know the things that are beneficial to us and harmful to
• 1:01:06
  us by experiencing those things, right?
• 1:01:09
  Like I had to drink this Coca-Cola and this beer to
• 1:01:15
  understand that the next day I feel like crap and boom, the
• 1:01:19
  output of drinking too much alcohol is feeling like crap.
• 1:01:23
  So that's that's experience. And experience is a key part of
• 1:01:29
  education. It's all interwoven, but
• 1:01:32
  literacy gives us access to other people's experiences.
• 1:01:40
  But it's that first hand experience that will convince
• 1:01:43
  you one way or the other of whether or not to, to take this
• 1:01:47
  thing or to not take this thing. The fastest way to succeed at
• 1:01:53
  whatever your chosen pursuit is, is to put yourself in the
• 1:01:57
  environment where that thing is the norm, where achieving that
• 1:02:01
  is the norm. So for me right now, my goal is
• 1:02:04
  to relearn Mandarin Chinese for the reasons that I've told you
• 1:02:08
  and, and more. And what did I do?
• 1:02:10
  I decided to come to Beijing. I'm here in the capital of
• 1:02:13
  China. Immersion, bro, There's
• 1:02:15
  immersion is the best way to learn in my opinion because it's
• 1:02:21
  the you're getting the most possible reps in and quality.
• 1:02:25
  Quantity breeds quality, quantity breeds quality.
• 1:02:29
  Got to get the reps in and it's all about reps, bro.
• 1:02:33
  I'm convinced that as long as anybody puts the requisite
• 1:02:38
  amount of reps in, they're going to succeed at whatever their
• 1:02:41
  chosen pursuit is. Absolutely. 10,000 hour rule.
• 1:02:45
  Malcolm Gladwell. Yes.
• 1:02:49
  I I really appreciate what that guy said about 10,000 hour rules
• 1:02:54
  and I think that's in his book Outlier.
• 1:02:58
  Outliers. Yeah, the Outliers.
• 1:03:01
  I think that guy is reading a couple of books that I really
• 1:03:04
  appreciate. Outliers.
• 1:03:07
  David and Goliath. What about the book?
• 1:03:13
  You know him, right? Malcolm Blaber.
• 1:03:15
  Yeah, I know. I've heard of him.
• 1:03:18
  I think T pinpoint as well, like very, very great storyteller.
• 1:03:22
  I think he is one of the greatest storytellers of our
• 1:03:26
  generation. Like yeah, to to put some
• 1:03:29
  respect on his name. He he's one of the greatest and
• 1:03:33
  the way he analysis, you know, concepts and brings them to when
• 1:03:40
  I say association with reality, I think, yeah, I, I rated very,
• 1:03:45
  very highly. He should be on the podcast one
• 1:03:48
  of these days. Let's get him on board.
• 1:03:52
  No, still, bro, I'm. I'm speaking it for you, man.
• 1:03:54
  Malcolm Gladwell's coming on. He's coming.
• 1:03:57
  On Malcolm. Gladwell, this is an open
• 1:03:59
  invitation to you. We appreciate your body of work,
• 1:04:01
  and of course, we'd love to have you on The Kingdom's podcast.
• 1:04:04
  Yeah, we said he here first. Let's go.
• 1:04:08
  And Adam all, I wanted to compliment you too, man.
• 1:04:12
  I think if you read The Tipping Point, which I haven't even
• 1:04:14
  read, I think you're an amazing maven and an amazing connector.
• 1:04:19
  So you're an amazing curator of knowledge and you're an amazing
• 1:04:23
  communicator of and, and connector too, bro.
• 1:04:25
  So giving you your flowers, Ben. Thank you.
• 1:04:28
  Thank you very much, Larry. Take the flowers.
• 1:04:31
  Thank. You I.
• 1:04:33
  Appreciate it. I appreciate it.
• 1:04:34
  Thank you. Very much, you know, like in
• 1:04:37
  this age and time, people are very, very, would I say, stingy
• 1:04:41
  with compliments, you know, and appreciation.
• 1:04:43
  And I always say something, gratitude is good attitude.
• 1:04:46
  When a person shares their time with you, they share their life
• 1:04:48
  with you because the SI unit for measuring life is time.
• 1:04:51
  So when you appreciate it for something, it gives you more
• 1:04:57
  motivation. You know, I don't see validation
• 1:04:59
  for the truth is we are all human beings.
• 1:05:01
  When you appreciate it, it gives you more energy, more
• 1:05:04
  motivation. And I always say, do not go to
• 1:05:06
  where you're tolerated, go to where you're appreciated.
• 1:05:10
  I love it, bro. I love it, bro.
• 1:05:12
  I I love it, dude. Yeah.
• 1:05:14
  Don't go. Don't go where you're tolerated.
• 1:05:16
  Go where you're appreciated and celebrated.
• 1:05:19
  Absolutely. And of course, you know what a
• 1:05:22
  great way to segue into the next segment.
• 1:05:26
  I want to talk about communication superpower, you
• 1:05:29
  know, the linguistic freedom. So you wrote the Diamond Quarter
• 1:05:34
  Sutra. That is freedom through
• 1:05:37
  linguistic mastery. So how does language shape
• 1:05:40
  destiny, and how can the average person use communication to
• 1:05:43
  elevate their lives? What do you think is the most
• 1:05:48
  important conversation that we have every day?
• 1:05:53
  The most important conversation we have every day.
• 1:05:57
  That has to be the conversation with yourself.
• 1:06:00
  Absolutely, bro, absolutely. Lao Tzu.
• 1:06:04
  He has a great quote. Watch your thoughts, They become
• 1:06:08
  your speech. Watch your speech, they become
• 1:06:11
  your actions. Watch your actions, they become
• 1:06:15
  your habits. Watch your habits, they become
• 1:06:18
  your character. And watch your character because
• 1:06:21
  it becomes your destiny. And it's so true, man.
• 1:06:26
  It all begins with thoughts and the way that we think and we
• 1:06:29
  perceive and the thoughts that we're choosing every single day,
• 1:06:33
  brother. So there's 3 levels of karma in
• 1:06:36
  Buddhism and the three levels karma is defined as intentional
• 1:06:42
  action, anything done with an intent behind it.
• 1:06:44
  And thinking is also an action. And there's 3 levels of of
• 1:06:48
  intentional action and the fruits of said action.
• 1:06:52
  The 1st is thought the fact, the second is speech, and the third
• 1:06:56
  is physical action. Of the three, which one do you
• 1:06:59
  think is the most important to control right off the bat, or to
• 1:07:03
  guide, or to pick? That has to be your thoughts.
• 1:07:08
  Like, yeah, because that's intrinsic.
• 1:07:11
  You're right, bro. Thoughts are the seeds of speech
• 1:07:15
  and physical action. Thoughts are the seeds of both
• 1:07:18
  speech and physical action. Let me break down manifestation
• 1:07:21
  real quick for people. This is how manifestation
• 1:07:23
  happens in the world, bro. We have a thought.
• 1:07:27
  It's a seed, right? It's the seed of both speech and
• 1:07:31
  physical action. And when a thought comes into
• 1:07:33
  our minds, we have two choices. We can either allow it to go, or
• 1:07:38
  we can choose to act upon the thought.
• 1:07:41
  If I choose to act upon the thought abstractly,
• 1:07:44
  metaphorically, I'll plant the seed in the ground, put it
• 1:07:47
  there, water it, and the plant will grow and the fruit will
• 1:07:50
  grow. In real life terms, what that
• 1:07:53
  means is let's say the thought is, hey, I want some pizza.
• 1:07:57
  Pizza sounds good right now. OK, I plant the seed, I put
• 1:08:00
  there, I water it. What that means is I'm calling
• 1:08:02
  up 7 or I'm calling up Pizza Hut.
• 1:08:04
  Bro, I've taken it to the speech level.
• 1:08:06
  Hey, I want a double cheese stuffed double sausage pizza.
• 1:08:11
  Boom, communicate. We went from the thought level
• 1:08:14
  to the speech level. And then I drive over there, I
• 1:08:17
  grabbed the physical pizza and I come back, I'm sitting here with
• 1:08:20
  this physical reality, bro, this physical pizza that began as a
• 1:08:25
  thought. And look around you, bro.
• 1:08:28
  Every single thing in your room that you're using, your glasses,
• 1:08:33
  the sweatshirt that you're choosing to wear right now, all
• 1:08:36
  of those physical realities began with a thought.
• 1:08:41
  It began with a decision to whether or not to act upon this
• 1:08:44
  thought or to let it go. Also, another quick thing I have
• 1:08:47
  on thoughts. I have a saying, thoughts are
• 1:08:50
  just like advertisements. They come up all the time, but
• 1:08:54
  that doesn't mean you have to buy what they're selling.
• 1:08:58
  And I say that to give people freedom because thoughts come
• 1:09:02
  and go. As soon as soon as they come up,
• 1:09:04
  they go. So like, if you don't attach the
• 1:09:07
  thought, it has no power over you.
• 1:09:10
  It's our active participation and decision to plant that seed
• 1:09:14
  that manifests it into reality. So in terms of communication and
• 1:09:22
  using it to master our lives, the most important conversation
• 1:09:26
  that we need to master every single day is the communication
• 1:09:29
  with ourselves. And it's the way that we
• 1:09:32
  communicate with ourselves that leads to how we communicate with
• 1:09:35
  other people as well. So mastering the internal
• 1:09:39
  dialogue is what will help you master the the external dialogue
• 1:09:43
  as well. Wow.
• 1:09:47
  The Bible says in the book of Proverbs chapter 23, I think
• 1:09:51
  verse 7 as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.
• 1:09:56
  Absolutely, brother. Now here's the beautiful thing.
• 1:09:59
  The Bible could not be more correct, dude.
• 1:10:02
  It's not about what we can think in our minds, it's about what we
• 1:10:06
  believe in our hearts. That's what it is.
• 1:10:09
  I could think a certain thing with just my mind, but if it's
• 1:10:13
  not fueled by the engine of my heart, if I don't believe it,
• 1:10:17
  then it's, it's not going to manifest, dude.
• 1:10:20
  So I, I love that bro. And I love how you can just
• 1:10:23
  quote the Bible instantly and know exactly what it is, bro.
• 1:10:27
  That, that shows a level of mastery that I, I respect a lot.
• 1:10:31
  Dude. Not a lot of people can actually
• 1:10:32
  quote the exact proverb and tell me where it's from, dude.
• 1:10:35
  So kudos to you man. Thank you very much.
• 1:10:39
  You know, it's as though you knew that I was loading up
• 1:10:42
  another one for you. Hebrew.
• 1:10:44
  Chapter Hebrew. Chapter 11 Verse one.
• 1:10:47
  Faith is the substance of being spoke for, the evidence of
• 1:10:50
  things not seen. Faith is a subpense of things
• 1:10:55
  hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
• 1:10:57
  And that actually leads to that belief of, you know, what you're
• 1:11:04
  hoping for. Faith is a subpense of things
• 1:11:07
  hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
• 1:11:09
  And of course, down in that Chapter 11, it went on to say
• 1:11:16
  Abraham had faith and he was counted unto him unto
• 1:11:19
  righteousness. But without faith, it's
• 1:11:23
  impossible to please God. It's powerful, bro.
• 1:11:29
  Faith is so I I come from a family of scientists.
• 1:11:35
  My my dad is a PhD physicist, my mom's APHD chemist, and my
• 1:11:40
  Chinese dad. My parents split up.
• 1:11:43
  He, he's got a PhD in, in history and all of them are very
• 1:11:49
  sceptical, right? It's a, we are very sceptical
• 1:11:52
  family. So growing up I had a lot of
• 1:11:54
  Christian friends and the faith element of Christianity was
• 1:11:58
  always difficult for me, brother, very difficult because
• 1:12:02
  it asked me to believe without any evidence.
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  It's like you just have to have faith in it.
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  And it's something I still struggle with.
• 1:12:10
  Like faith without evidence is very difficult for me.
• 1:12:14
  But for me, what I've, what I've come to learn is faith, or that
• 1:12:18
  I can have faith in is the principles that I've tested over
• 1:12:23
  and over again with my own life experience that hold true no
• 1:12:27
  matter what situation I'm in. So for now, I have faith in the
• 1:12:33
  universal principles that I've experienced and I have faith in
• 1:12:36
  the teachings that hold true no matter what amount of pressure
• 1:12:40
  is I'm under. But I'd love to hear your
• 1:12:42
  perspective on faith dude. You know, for anybody who's been
• 1:12:48
  following the podcast, you know, overtime, and by the way, we're
• 1:12:51
  recording this on November 18 and the forecast actually
• 1:12:56
  started November 19, 2023. So it means tomorrow we're going
• 1:13:00
  to be clocking. Two years in the game.
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  And. Let's go.
• 1:13:07
  Let us go, you know. Thank you very much, brother.
• 1:13:09
  Thank you very much, brother. You know, I'm grateful two
• 1:13:12
  years. In other two years we were able
• 1:13:14
  to climb to global top 2.5%. Like I'm grateful, I'm grateful.
• 1:13:21
  You know, when put that into perspective, a lot of people who
• 1:13:24
  are at that global top 2.5% ranking actually started three
• 1:13:28
  years, four years, five years before me.
• 1:13:31
  And yeah, we're grateful. You know, while speaking about
• 1:13:34
  faith, even this podcast has been a brainchild of faith.
• 1:13:40
  You know, when I was going to start, a lot of people were
• 1:13:45
  like, oh, why should a finance guy start a broadcast, right?
• 1:13:50
  You are a finance guy. You're not a communicator.
• 1:13:53
  You're not, you know, a broadcaster.
• 1:13:56
  So sit with your finance. Do your finance people like to
• 1:14:00
  put people in boxes? But I always believed that, you
• 1:14:03
  know, I would do excellent things.
• 1:14:05
  I would do great things with this thing.
• 1:14:06
  So it was just an idea, right? I had the faith that I can, you
• 1:14:13
  know, tell the stories of ordinary people doing
• 1:14:15
  extraordinary things and go global with this thing.
• 1:14:19
  But I think a lot of people did not believe it until, you know,
• 1:14:23
  they started seeing a lot of great interviews and seeing the
• 1:14:29
  rankings, the chats, you know, in multiple countries.
• 1:14:32
  Today we're in 92 countries and you know, started with being
• 1:14:39
  global top 10%. I think we earlier this year
• 1:14:42
  around May, and I think that's when some people started
• 1:14:45
  believing in it and at some point became global top 5%
• 1:14:49
  people, top 3% people top 2.5%. You know, people start believing
• 1:14:55
  more that OK, this is no longer a joke, right?
• 1:14:59
  But when it was just an idea, people could not wrap their
• 1:15:04
  heads around it, right? So and that comes back to faith
• 1:15:09
  is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not
• 1:15:13
  seen. Conceive, believe, achieve.
• 1:15:19
  You have to conceive it, you have to believe it, then you
• 1:15:25
  need to strive to thrive before you can achieve it.
• 1:15:28
  So like you said, everything that we see around us was at
• 1:15:32
  first of thought. So there's a difference between
• 1:15:37
  thoughts and thinking. So thoughts are like the
• 1:15:42
  advertisement and thinking. It's processing those thoughts
• 1:15:48
  and you can decide to act on it or not act on it.
• 1:15:54
  So that's why our intentions sometimes are different from our
• 1:15:58
  actions because it all depends on what you act on.
• 1:16:06
  So for me, faith is and you know, science.
• 1:16:12
  I'm also a science person, of course.
• 1:16:14
  You know, in high school, before the secondary school, I was a
• 1:16:20
  science student in physics, chemistry, biology.
• 1:16:23
  So I understand the empirical concept.
• 1:16:26
  So if you cannot observe A phenomena, right, you cannot
• 1:16:33
  believe in that phenomenon. That's the empirical concept,
• 1:16:37
  right? You create laws, you create
• 1:16:40
  theories around what you've been able to observe, right?
• 1:16:44
  And it's, it's sometimes a conflict managing being a
• 1:16:49
  science person and being a person of faith.
• 1:16:53
  Science is, you know, very rigid about the observation and faith
• 1:16:59
  is, you know, very deep on believe in what I say blindly,
• 1:17:06
  right, that actualization. But you know, as you go on to
• 1:17:12
  study faith more, study science, what you discovered that there
• 1:17:16
  are actually synchronies, right? There are synchronizations
• 1:17:20
  between faith and science. You have neuroscience, for
• 1:17:23
  example, that's the study of the brain.
• 1:17:26
  I've had a couple of neuroscientists on the broadcast
• 1:17:30
  this year. We've had Doctor Ben Rain, the
• 1:17:33
  Stanford University neuroscientist on the broadcast.
• 1:17:36
  We've had Doctor Anjani Chakala, he's the neuroscientist advisor
• 1:17:42
  to Think he incorporated. And these guys explain the
• 1:17:47
  complex concept of the brain and how the brain works with the
• 1:17:51
  prefrontal cortex, for example. That is like the CEO of the
• 1:17:54
  brain and the way the neurons are wired.
• 1:18:01
  You know, the way the brain controls the body, it couldn't
• 1:18:04
  have been created by God, right? But you know, when you come back
• 1:18:07
  to that empirical construct, you observe phenomena, for you can
• 1:18:13
  trust and believe in that phenomena, right?
• 1:18:16
  And that's why I always say that you cannot force faith on
• 1:18:20
  people. The reason why I'm a Christian
• 1:18:24
  is not because my parents are Christians.
• 1:18:27
  The reason why I believe in God is not because my parents
• 1:18:29
  believe in God is because I've been able to observe God come
• 1:18:33
  through for me personally. I've been able to experience God
• 1:18:36
  personally. You know when you pray and God
• 1:18:38
  comes through for you, you've been in difficult situations and
• 1:18:42
  you express yourself with God and finds a way where there's no
• 1:18:47
  being. You know the Bible says he
• 1:18:51
  created streams in deserts, right?
• 1:18:54
  So if you're able to get on your faith journey and experience God
• 1:19:02
  for yourself, that would help you to achieve a good balance
• 1:19:05
  between science and faith because you've been able to
• 1:19:09
  observe on your own God doing things for you, God, you know,
• 1:19:18
  making things real for you. So that way you don't need any
• 1:19:25
  more proof to prove that God really exists.
• 1:19:31
  And I think that's what makes faith stronger.
• 1:19:34
  So that balance of faith and science is actually very, very
• 1:19:38
  much, you know, needed. But a person cannot achieve or
• 1:19:42
  unlock a higher level of faith if they've not been able to
• 1:19:47
  observe, you know, in their own personal journey, but coming
• 1:19:53
  through for them. So it comes back to our own
• 1:19:58
  lived experience, right? I love that.
• 1:20:07
  And I'm definitely open. I'm definitely open.
• 1:20:09
  You know, I think I'm open with everything.
• 1:20:13
  And one thought that I had about science real quick was science
• 1:20:17
  should not be used to define the boundaries.
• 1:20:20
  Science should be used to explore.
• 1:20:22
  I don't think science should be definitory.
• 1:20:25
  I think science should be exploratory and science that is
• 1:20:29
  used to set the boundaries is is not creative enough, I think.
• 1:20:37
  But yeah, just some thoughts on that.
• 1:20:39
  And it's interesting 'cause let's go back to linguistics,
• 1:20:44
  right? There's, there's a higher level
• 1:20:47
  cause the, the way that I see the human journey of self
• 1:20:50
  mastery is you go from potentially having, having some
• 1:20:54
  negative right? And then you transcend all of
• 1:20:58
  that. You rewire the mind.
• 1:21:00
  All your minds has become positive and now you're on the
• 1:21:03
  positive. But there's something even
• 1:21:06
  beyond that. And that's transcending positive
• 1:21:08
  and negative that, that duality. It's going beyond the yin and
• 1:21:13
  the Yang. And at the end of the day, it's
• 1:21:15
  going beyond all of language all together, because let me ask you
• 1:21:20
  this first. What?
• 1:21:21
  What came first, humans or human language?
• 1:21:24
  What came first It? Has to be humans.
• 1:21:29
  It has to be humans. Exactly.
• 1:21:32
  So every single word is just a sound, right?
• 1:21:38
  It's a sound that we've been taught to connect this sound
• 1:21:44
  with this image. Like when I say cup cup, you
• 1:21:47
  hear that sound? We both have this right?
• 1:21:52
  But Adam Allah, brother, if me and you are the last two humans
• 1:21:57
  on earth and we decided to call this a watermelon, could we?
• 1:22:03
  Let's call it a mug. Well, people call it a mug, but
• 1:22:07
  let what? What if we called it a beanie?
• 1:22:10
  Could we call it a beanie? Could we?
• 1:22:14
  It is whatever it is you call it.
• 1:22:17
  Exactly. So the truth of The thing is not
• 1:22:21
  in the name, right? So the truth of God is not in
• 1:22:25
  the name itself, or else it would only be God.
• 1:22:31
  That activation phrase, that combination of phonetics that
• 1:22:36
  would give it power. But Chinese people call it Shen.
• 1:22:40
  It's that's God as well. It's the same concept.
• 1:22:43
  So back to the language thing, man.
• 1:22:46
  It's like all words are just empty, Empty sounds that we've
• 1:22:52
  empowered with our belief and we've been conditioned.
• 1:22:55
  It's like a, it's a spell essentially in Harry Potter that
• 1:22:59
  creates an output of an image, an energy, and all of our
• 1:23:08
  emotional attachments to that word.
• 1:23:11
  But all of these can be rewired. So what is left after we've
• 1:23:16
  destroyed all of that conditioning, after we've let go
• 1:23:20
  of all words? Because all words are human
• 1:23:23
  creations. They're relative truths.
• 1:23:26
  They we use them to communicate, but they don't actually contain
• 1:23:30
  the truth. Let me give another example.
• 1:23:32
  Let's take the example of a flower, right?
• 1:23:36
  We call it a flower, but is is it truly a flower?
• 1:23:40
  First off, let's look at the physical phenomenon of the
• 1:23:43
  flower, the material aspect of it.
• 1:23:45
  Bro, if you look deeply in the heart of a flower, you can see
• 1:23:49
  that the flower is only made of non flower components.
• 1:23:54
  It's made of the soil, it's made of the seed, it's made of the
• 1:23:58
  rain, it's made of the sunshine that that nurtured it right?
• 1:24:02
  And if I took away the rain, could this flower be no flower?
• 1:24:11
  Is there rain or sorry, no rain? If there's no rain, is there a
• 1:24:15
  flower? Yes or no?
• 1:24:18
  If there's no rain, definitely there's no flower because you
• 1:24:21
  know, whichever way you want to process it, water is, you know,
• 1:24:26
  is important for that equation. So let's let's take rain as
• 1:24:31
  water. So it's impossible.
• 1:24:34
  Exactly. And then for the rain to be, we
• 1:24:38
  need the clouds, right? For the clouds to be, we need
• 1:24:43
  the whole atmosphere of Earth. For the atmosphere of Earth, we
• 1:24:48
  need the perfect alignment of everything in the entire
• 1:24:50
  universe to be exactly where it is, to have the right
• 1:24:53
  temperature, to have our atmosphere.
• 1:24:56
  If the sun was a bit closer, it'd be too hot, no atmosphere.
• 1:25:00
  If the sun was a bit further away, it'd be too cold, no
• 1:25:02
  atmosphere. That's why there's a phrase like
• 1:25:05
  you can see the entire universe inside of a single flower.
• 1:25:09
  You can see the Buddha inside of a single leaf.
• 1:25:13
  And that's the physical dimension, right?
• 1:25:15
  So all phenomena are only made of things that are not that
• 1:25:19
  phenomena. And that goes for flour, that
• 1:25:23
  goes for organic things, that goes for inorganic things.
• 1:25:27
  But let's take it to the linguistic level.
• 1:25:29
  Even flour FLOWER, it's composed of these letters, right?
• 1:25:35
  But if we took away the R at the end, take away the R at the end
• 1:25:40
  of flower, what is it? Flow.
• 1:25:44
  Flow. Flow flowy.
• 1:25:46
  What is it that that doesn't that doesn't evoke the same
• 1:25:49
  concept? It doesn't evoke the same image
• 1:25:53
  and the same feelings as flower, right?
• 1:25:58
  So we can see that all of all of our conditioned responses are
• 1:26:03
  just that. They're just conditioned
• 1:26:05
  responses to certain sounds that we've codified into different
• 1:26:10
  languages. Bro.
• 1:26:11
  So language is the magic of humanity.
• 1:26:15
  It's what we used to communicate, but it's it's not
• 1:26:18
  what we should anchor our identities in.
• 1:26:21
  That's why in my book, I say that we need to transform our
• 1:26:25
  relationship with language from an anchor of identity to a tool
• 1:26:30
  with utility. And it's been very important for
• 1:26:34
  me on my journey because I was born this name, Yuen Yu Fong.
• 1:26:39
  And then growing up, my friends and family called me Kai.
• 1:26:42
  Kai. That was my nickname.
• 1:26:44
  Then when I went to the States, they chopped off one of the
• 1:26:47
  Kai's and left out the tone. They just called me Kai.
• 1:26:50
  That's my English name. Cobra Kai.
• 1:26:53
  Cobra Kai, man. And at that time, bro, I
• 1:26:57
  remember feeling like an actor. I was like, who's Kai?
• 1:27:00
  Like I don't know who Kai is. So I became like a chameleon,
• 1:27:04
  like an actor almost bro, like method acting.
• 1:27:06
  This identity of Kai and these names that we have, they're one
• 1:27:12
  of our strongest attachments. And now I'm realising that my
• 1:27:16
  whole entire life I'm able to see it from a different
• 1:27:20
  perspective. I'm not seeing it as a victim.
• 1:27:22
  I'm seeing it as, hey, this helps me understand these
• 1:27:26
  Buddhist truths and these universal truths and an even
• 1:27:29
  deeper level so that I can help people at a higher level.
• 1:27:34
  So that's how I'm choosing to transform it.
• 1:27:37
  There's a great Buddhist concept, no mud, no Lotus, no
• 1:27:42
  mud, no Lotus. This beautiful Lotus flower can
• 1:27:46
  only grow out of mud. And it's the same with humans.
• 1:27:50
  If we're able to transform all of our challenges, transform all
• 1:27:53
  of our sufferings, then we're able to create beauty and truth
• 1:27:57
  from what we're we're able to create beauty and no truth from
• 1:28:02
  that. And when we know the truth, the
• 1:28:04
  truth will set us free. Know the truth and the truth
• 1:28:08
  just that Use me. Wow, you talk about language for
• 1:28:15
  utility and it made me remember the fact that you are a poet.
• 1:28:21
  I feel like you. The language for poetry is a
• 1:28:25
  form of utility. And I, I, I love to, when I say,
• 1:28:31
  get a deep dive into any one of your poems, especially one that
• 1:28:36
  relates to the concept of mindset.
• 1:28:42
  Let me, let me do you one better bro.
• 1:28:46
  First go, I'll, I'll, I'll sing you 2 songs.
• 1:28:49
  I'll sing you 2 songs because. Wow, I love music.
• 1:28:53
  By the way, did you know? I did not know.
• 1:28:57
  But no, you know. Let's go.
• 1:29:00
  There was you don't know. Now you know.
• 1:29:02
  Now I know, dude. So I think music is some poetry.
• 1:29:09
  That's what I believe it is. Music is poetry that is some and
• 1:29:13
  the first song, it is first song I wanted to sing for you is to
• 1:29:18
  commemorate your podcast, bro. I want to I want to sing you my
• 1:29:23
  way by Frank Sinatra. So let's do it, bro.
• 1:29:27
  Let me get some water first. Let me, let me top up my my my
• 1:29:33
  mug. Sounds good.
• 1:29:38
  Jesus Christ. Cheers bro, I'm topping up mine
• 1:29:42
  too. Don't copy me, don't copy me.
• 1:29:46
  I'm not your role model. You know it's a Nigerian joke by
• 1:29:53
  the way, you see, you not copy me.
• 1:29:55
  I am not your role model. I am not your what?
• 1:29:59
  I am not your role model. Role model.
• 1:30:02
  Got it. I'm not.
• 1:30:03
  Your role model? Yeah.
• 1:30:06
  How about don't copy me make your own Jol of rice?
• 1:30:10
  Whoa, you know about Jolof Rice, right?
• 1:30:13
  Wow. That, that, that's.
• 1:30:16
  Great Jolof rice is Jolof rice is our national meal.
• 1:30:21
  That's that's, that's, that's the most famous thing from
• 1:30:23
  Nigeria. Basically, you know.
• 1:30:26
  Yeah, I have done that. I had a a friend who's Ghanaian
• 1:30:29
  and a Co worker who's Nigerian and they always argued about who
• 1:30:33
  had the better Jolf Rice man. Oh, not yeah, That's that's
• 1:30:38
  that's the. Rivalry between Nigeria and
• 1:30:39
  Ghana, but Jolof. We call it the Jolof War, yeah.
• 1:30:46
  Dude, it's so funny, dude. Yeah, that's funny, right?
• 1:30:49
  We we call it the Jolof War like always.
• 1:30:51
  Arguing about who has the better Jolof Rice.
• 1:30:55
  I love it. It's it's a nice playful banter.
• 1:30:58
  It's it's crazy, right? Who's got the better to law
• 1:31:01
  Price but. Do you know who even?
• 1:31:05
  Has the best to law prices. It's not Nigerite, it's not
• 1:31:08
  Ghana, that's The funny thing. It's actually Senegal.
• 1:31:12
  Senegal, OK. Yeah, of course that is where
• 1:31:19
  that is where to law price basically originated from or
• 1:31:23
  because Nigeria is a very big country, 220 million plus
• 1:31:27
  people. So they just snatched the the
• 1:31:31
  meal and made it their own. Got it, Got it.
• 1:31:43
  I'm refilling my pop. You mean your watermelon?
• 1:31:48
  Yeah, my watermelon. There you go.
• 1:32:03
  Let's go. Oh, I think we have about 30
• 1:32:07
  minutes left. Cheers bro.
• 1:32:09
  Yeah. Whoa.
• 1:32:11
  Cheers, man. Cheers.
• 1:32:12
  Cheers. Wow.
• 1:32:14
  Hey, so now I'm in a good place to listen to a song.
• 1:32:17
  All right, let's do it. No2 Song.
• 1:32:22
  Alright, I haven't done this for a while, give my best shot and
• 1:32:29
  now the end is near. And so I'll face the final
• 1:32:39
  curtain, my friend. I'll say it clear, I'll stay in
• 1:32:48
  my case, of which I'm certain I've lived the life that's for.
• 1:33:00
  I've travelled each and every highway.
• 1:33:07
  And more. Much more.
• 1:33:10
  Than this you did it your way. My guy.
• 1:33:20
  Woo, love and respect. Very, very, very much
• 1:33:27
  appreciated brother. Wow, you did it your way.
• 1:33:31
  OK, OK, OK. Respect to you man.
• 1:33:37
  A top 2.5% podcast and going going even higher, 1% top 0.1%.
• 1:33:44
  That ain't easy man, so celebrate.
• 1:33:46
  That is a goal. That is a goal, brother.
• 1:33:50
  Whoa now. Now I'm curious.
• 1:33:51
  What is the? What is the next one?
• 1:33:53
  What is the next? 1.
• 1:33:55
  The next one, you asked about one of my poems, so I will
• 1:33:59
  actually share with you one of my songs that I wrote.
• 1:34:04
  You know what? I have my guitar.
• 1:34:05
  I'll play it for you. Let's go, Let us go.
• 1:34:17
  Actually this is my upstairs neighbour guitar, so shout out
• 1:34:20
  to Sue Hung upstairs. Shout out to Sue Warren, God
• 1:34:25
  bless. Yes.
• 1:34:27
  Can you hear that? I love the guitar.
• 1:34:34
  I love the guitar that is acoustic.
• 1:34:36
  Hold on. Let me tune this thing.
• 1:35:32
  Can you hear that? All right, Cool.
• 1:35:36
  This song is called the song is. It was actually inspired by the
• 1:35:41
  the flower example that I shared with you and I call it the
• 1:35:46
  flower of you the. Flower of you, Yeah, sounds
• 1:35:51
  amazing. Let's go.
• 1:36:13
  seem like just a flower. Yeah, but I see the sun.
• 1:36:19
  I see the moon. It is their light within her
• 1:36:24
  bloom. A flower may seem like just a
• 1:36:31
  flower. Yeah, but I see the sun.
• 1:36:36
  I see the bees. It is their kiss that makes them
• 1:36:41
  breathe. but I see.
• 1:37:53
  I haven't played this for a while bro, I can't remember what
• 1:37:55
  it is. Let me think.
• 1:38:00
  Sorry man. I see the flower.
• 1:38:05
  But the, the message is, you know, we're, we're all like that
• 1:38:11
  flower with there's so much more to us than just our name than to
• 1:38:17
  anything that is contained within the name.
• 1:38:20
  So the, the lyrics, let me try to remember it.
• 1:38:22
  Let me put this guitar down 1st. OK, I had actually kind of
• 1:38:36
  paused my musical journey for a while because the Buddha said
• 1:38:41
  the Buddha advised practitioners that because if there's still
• 1:38:48
  desire within someone, music will fan the flames of that
• 1:38:53
  desire. So he advised practitioners to
• 1:38:56
  avoid a certain sensual stimuli, to focus more on the path.
• 1:39:03
  But I also think that music can be a vehicle of truth and that's
• 1:39:08
  that's my intention for it. So the lyrics of this go a
• 1:39:14
  flower may seem like just a flower, but I see this.
• 1:39:19
  Hold on, let me think. But I see the sun.
• 1:39:25
  I see the moon. It is their light within her
• 1:39:30
  bloom, so you can see the light of the sun and the moon in the
• 1:39:35
  blooming of the flower, in the flower itself, just like the
• 1:39:39
  rain without the sun, there is no flower, man.
• 1:39:42
  It's just without that nourishment from the sun, there
• 1:39:45
  is no flower. And it's the same with us, man.
• 1:39:49
  Everybody's just like this flower without this water, this
• 1:39:53
  tea, like without the liquids that we consume every day.
• 1:39:57
  It just goes to show that we are not islands.
• 1:40:00
  And that we have to be really careful about what we consume,
• 1:40:04
  what we allow in, because all of it is actually going in and it
• 1:40:09
  will create a corresponding output.
• 1:40:11
  And it's also the song. My hope is to show people that
• 1:40:14
  we are so much more than anything that we can be called.
• 1:40:18
  And to know that you are beyond what language can express.
• 1:40:23
  And it's beautiful. Beautiful, absolutely beautiful.
• 1:40:28
  And of course, Speaking of languages, you are a global
• 1:40:31
  citizen. You speak English?
• 1:40:34
  Chinese. I guess that's Mandarin,
• 1:40:37
  Indonesian, Japanese, Korean. Just a tiny bit.
• 1:40:42
  Just a tiny. Bit you know, very levels.
• 1:40:46
  Keyword very levels. So how deep operating across
• 1:40:50
  cultures and languages change the way you see humanity and
• 1:40:54
  leadership? Wow, man.
• 1:41:00
  Every language carries with it its own unique energy and its
• 1:41:04
  own unique concepts. And I think part of part of the
• 1:41:09
  longevity of China, part of the reason why it's lasted for so
• 1:41:12
  long, is because within the language itself and in the
• 1:41:16
  culture itself. Like if I if I were to see an
• 1:41:19
  older gentleman on the street I could call him uncle.
• 1:41:23
  Like we do that. Like we literally just say uncle
• 1:41:25
  to any people dude on the street.
• 1:41:27
  Is. That Shifu.
• 1:41:28
  It's not Shifu. Is that shifu?
• 1:41:33
  Yeah, shushu, Shushu. And there's AI and there's gugu
• 1:41:38
  Mei Mei, these concepts of like you, you can call anybody a Big
• 1:41:42
  Brother, anybody a little sister, anybody an auntie,
• 1:41:45
  anybody an uncle. And it's through that lens, I
• 1:41:48
  think that the language determines the energy and the
• 1:41:54
  longevity of the culture. I kind of feel.
• 1:41:57
  And like with Japanese, there's some incredibly beautiful
• 1:42:01
  concepts that guide how they live.
• 1:42:03
  There's a concept called Kai Zen.
• 1:42:05
  Have you heard of it? Yeah, I've heard of Kai Zen.
• 1:42:09
  I've heard of our that's that's one.
• 1:42:12
  It's a haiku. Yeah, Hikigai, Hikigai origami.
• 1:42:18
  That's the art with your papers. But then haiku haiku, the poem
• 1:42:23
  the. Haiku is.
• 1:42:24
  The poem. The 17 syllables.
• 1:42:27
  Yep, I think so. Faraguchi.
• 1:42:33
  What's Faraguchi again? I'm not sure about that.
• 1:42:37
  Yeah, yeah. Just like different concepts.
• 1:42:39
  But like, the samurai culture is something that like really,
• 1:42:44
  really would, I say is amazing to me.
• 1:42:49
  The samurai culture Death before the sauna.
• 1:42:54
  It's like. Man, these people view life from
• 1:42:57
  a different land. They do and it's it's very
• 1:43:01
  powerful to learn from every single culture, from every
• 1:43:05
  single country with from every single language.
• 1:43:07
  I think there's merit and there's beauty and there's truth
• 1:43:11
  and all of it. The concept of Kai Zen is the
• 1:43:15
  art of continuous improvement. That's what it means.
• 1:43:18
  It's essentially the 1% better. 1% better every day.
• 1:43:22
  I love it. I think that's what I do, you
• 1:43:25
  know, just 1% every day, hey. I'm more interested.
• 1:43:29
  I think you're doing at least 2.5% every day.
• 1:43:36
  Thank you very much brother. That's why we're global top 2.5%
• 1:43:40
  right now. Let's go. 2.5% every day.
• 1:43:45
  Whoa, brother, you know, let's talk about community leadership.
• 1:43:49
  And you are at the heart of building the world's number one
• 1:43:54
  entrepreneurship community in the world.
• 1:43:57
  That is number one. I've, I've been privileged to
• 1:44:00
  have people that are #1 in the world awarded you on this
• 1:44:04
  broadcast. For example, I've had Brett
• 1:44:06
  King, right? Brett King is the founder of the
• 1:44:10
  world's first diesel bank, right?
• 1:44:14
  More than so before we had the likes of Beverly Monzo, you
• 1:44:18
  know, we had Morgan and Breaking is the host of the world's
• 1:44:24
  number one ranked fintech podcast, which is Breaking
• 1:44:27
  banks. We've had guys from Money 2020,
• 1:44:32
  for example, Zach Pettit. Money 2020 is the world's
• 1:44:37
  largest fintech conference. So number one in the world is
• 1:44:43
  not a joke. In order to be the best, you
• 1:44:46
  have to beat the best and the best is blessed.
• 1:44:50
  So you need that number one school of entrepreneurship in
• 1:44:56
  the world, right? What does it take to build
• 1:44:59
  trust? The longing momentum at scale
• 1:45:02
  for over 5000 entrepreneurs. Yeah, we're, we're, I think
• 1:45:09
  we're at like 6700 now brother and and growing.
• 1:45:13
  Yeah, that's what I said. Over over 5K, you know, that's
• 1:45:16
  the milestone that I decided to, to, to eat the milestone.
• 1:45:20
  No, I, I appreciate it, man. I appreciate it.
• 1:45:23
  I, I say it because I want to. I want to really celebrate my
• 1:45:26
  team. I want to celebrate the school
• 1:45:29
  of Hard Knocks guys, Jack, James and Josh.
• 1:45:32
  They've put incredible work to build this.
• 1:45:35
  Amazing, amazing, amazing individuals.
• 1:45:37
  Amazing. Shout out to them.
• 1:45:39
  Shout out to them and for those who don't know that the School
• 1:45:42
  of Mentors is the entrepreneurial community that
• 1:45:46
  they founded based off of the School of Hard Knocks and I
• 1:45:51
  think 1. Yeah, and they have their own
• 1:45:53
  podcast as well. They have their own.
• 1:45:55
  Podcast as well. Like they do.
• 1:45:56
  Their podcast is so great that I have recommended it on my own
• 1:45:59
  platform. Like, I appreciate their work,
• 1:46:01
  you know, Shout out to Jack James.
• 1:46:03
  Yeah, we should have James Doc on the podcast as well.
• 1:46:06
  Yeah, I think I. I, I'm going to reach out to
• 1:46:08
  James like I really appreciate. You know, his philosophies and
• 1:46:12
  what he's building, you know, big shout out to him.
• 1:46:16
  Up next, James, this is the second person we have
• 1:46:19
  manifested. Right.
• 1:46:20
  James, see you soon on the podcast.
• 1:46:23
  Let's go, let's go, bro. Yeah, bro.
• 1:46:26
  I would definitely include Jack and Josh too.
• 1:46:28
  The Co founders are incredibly sharp guys.
• 1:46:30
  Yeah. Bro bro bro Yeah.
• 1:46:34
  Include Open invitation. JJJ, Jack.
• 1:46:38
  JJ. James, we won the three JS on
• 1:46:41
  this podcast. See you guys soon.
• 1:46:45
  See you guys soon. The interesting thing is, you
• 1:46:48
  know, anytime you hear me quote the Bible, I'm always.
• 1:46:51
  Quoting in King James Version because that was what I grew up
• 1:46:55
  region. That's cool, man.
• 1:46:57
  Yeah, I so yeah, I won. Huge shout out to the guys, the
• 1:47:06
  energy of the school of Hard Knocks and the people that they
• 1:47:09
  tend to attract. I want to just say like are some
• 1:47:12
  of the kindest, most positive, most empowered, most, most
• 1:47:16
  growth oriented people in the world.
• 1:47:19
  And it's really my pleasure to to head that kind of community
• 1:47:23
  with those kinds of people. Now in terms of leadership, I
• 1:47:26
  think what's beautiful is it's, it's about creating space for
• 1:47:33
  people. I think of course we have the,
• 1:47:36
  the weekly calls with millionaire and billionaire
• 1:47:39
  mentors. We got billionaire day coming up
• 1:47:41
  like in an hour and 15 minutes, we got 3 billionaires coming on.
• 1:47:45
  And the level of mentorship that people get access to inside the
• 1:47:49
  school of mentors for the price point that we offered at is
• 1:47:53
  absolutely unparalleled, bro. It's unparalleled.
• 1:47:57
  And, and dude, we're building, we're building 1 of the greatest
• 1:48:02
  curriculums for entrepreneurs at every phase of the
• 1:48:05
  entrepreneurial journey. I'm heading that project.
• 1:48:08
  I'm incredibly proud of it. And basically the mentorship
• 1:48:12
  calls with the millionaires and billionaires, those live calls
• 1:48:15
  are what you want. But the self development
• 1:48:18
  contained within the curriculum is what you need to succeed and
• 1:48:22
  to continue putting in the hard work to actually make it, to
• 1:48:26
  make it work and to be successful.
• 1:48:29
  But all of that aside, aside from those incredible resources,
• 1:48:33
  I think the key to our success has been the culture that we've
• 1:48:38
  created inside of the community. We've created a go giving
• 1:48:42
  culture. This is taken from the book The
• 1:48:44
  Go Giver by the great John David Mann, and it switches up that
• 1:48:49
  classic go getter paradigm with the go giver paradigm.
• 1:48:53
  So let's take the example of a pie, right?
• 1:48:57
  Everybody looks at this pie and the go getter is like, hey, how
• 1:49:00
  can I go and get my slice of that pie?
• 1:49:02
  It's good to be a go getter. You know, in life, sometimes you
• 1:49:05
  got to be a go getter. But the go giver thinks, hey,
• 1:49:08
  how can I make this pie even bigger for everybody else?
• 1:49:12
  How can I contribute more value to this pie?
• 1:49:15
  And the go giver is someone that always leads with value 1st.
• 1:49:19
  And we've created a beautiful culture of go giving inside the
• 1:49:23
  community where we lead. And we give as much as we can so
• 1:49:27
  that everybody can level up as much as they can as quickly as
• 1:49:30
  possible. And we've built that culture.
• 1:49:33
  And thankfully, we have amazing members who like yourself, are
• 1:49:37
  giving opportunities, are giving platforms, are sharing insights,
• 1:49:41
  takeaways, knowledge. And the momentum is just
• 1:49:44
  building and building and building and building.
• 1:49:47
  And I think another amazing book to draw upon for creating
• 1:49:52
  community is called The Culture Code.
• 1:49:54
  The Culture Code, I think his name is Daniel Coyle.
• 1:49:57
  Yeah, amazing guy. And what Daniel says that it's
• 1:50:01
  really important to create what is called a vulnerability loop.
• 1:50:05
  OK, what is a vulnerability loop?
• 1:50:08
  It's a loop created by the first two people.
• 1:50:11
  There's a leader that starts the loop that opens up the realm of
• 1:50:15
  vulnerability by sharing maybe their own doubts, their own
• 1:50:19
  securities, their own challenges.
• 1:50:21
  And then the the second person is also key in continuing that
• 1:50:25
  loop. First they accept and then they
• 1:50:27
  start sharing their own vulnerabilities as well.
• 1:50:30
  And with those first two leaders, you've created what is
• 1:50:33
  called a vulnerability loop. A loop and a space where people
• 1:50:37
  feel safe enough to drop their guard, where they can be
• 1:50:41
  themselves, where they can breathe inside the space where
• 1:50:44
  they feel safe enough to contribute from their own unique
• 1:50:48
  experiences. And that is the online community
• 1:50:51
  that we built. And it's something that I'm
• 1:50:53
  super proud of. And for me, one of my key core
• 1:50:56
  values is include inclusivity, inclusion and compassion and
• 1:51:01
  creating space and also listening.
• 1:51:04
  That's a key component of it. Learning to listen with the
• 1:51:08
  intention. Exactly.
• 1:51:10
  Brother and Zen master take not Han.
• 1:51:14
  I go to him a lot. He's one of my spiritual
• 1:51:16
  fathers. He's the founder of Plum Plum
• 1:51:19
  Village, a monastery in France, and he's basically the godfather
• 1:51:25
  of mindfulness. He brought mindfulness in
• 1:51:27
  Buddhism to the West. And one of his quotes that is
• 1:51:30
  like the foundation of my life is understanding is the
• 1:51:36
  foundation of love. In fact, it is Love's other
• 1:51:41
  name, understanding. And that's a core principle that
• 1:51:46
  I operate with and that I teach my team to operate with, which
• 1:51:50
  is come with the intention to understand, come and understand
• 1:51:54
  the client, Come and understand our members.
• 1:51:56
  What are their pain points? What do they actually need?
• 1:51:59
  And then listen and communicate in such a way that makes them
• 1:52:03
  feel heard, that makes them feel understood.
• 1:52:06
  And then also deliver the tactical thing that can actually
• 1:52:09
  help them. If you can do that, bro, you've
• 1:52:11
  covered the mindset, the skill set and the tool set and you're
• 1:52:14
  good. Wow.
• 1:52:16
  You know, you talk about love, right?
• 1:52:20
  And about what love is about. It's interesting that the Bible
• 1:52:28
  actually aligns with that philosophy.
• 1:52:31
  First Corinthians chapter 14 verse 4 says love suffers long
• 1:52:37
  and is kind. Love does not envy.
• 1:52:40
  Love does not parade itself. It's not puffed up, does not
• 1:52:45
  behave really, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no
• 1:52:49
  evil, does not rejoice in iniquity or rejoices in the
• 1:52:54
  truth, hears all things, believes all things, hopes all
• 1:52:58
  things, and hears all things. That's beautiful.
• 1:53:04
  But love is. That's beautiful and the by bro,
• 1:53:08
  as as a Buddhist practitioner, I literally could not agree with
• 1:53:12
  the Bible more right now like that is that is such a beautiful
• 1:53:18
  essence that it's that it's communicating and it's it's
• 1:53:22
  very, very true. It's very, very true.
• 1:53:27
  Wow, you know, I love the fact that you you aligned with my
• 1:53:31
  philosophy of mindset skill sets.
• 1:53:33
  Also, you know, and your career has actually spanned teaching,
• 1:53:37
  acting, teacher, being songwriting, marketing research,
• 1:53:40
  leadership. For what skill would you say has
• 1:53:44
  given you the greatest return on investment and why?
• 1:53:49
  It's communication, man. That's.
• 1:53:50
  I was expecting that I was that as well.
• 1:53:54
  You don't disappoint me. Bro, it it is, it is what it is
• 1:54:00
  and it's why I'm here and it's why you're here.
• 1:54:03
  And let's, let's go back to Malcolm Gladwell, the tipping
• 1:54:07
  point, right? There's people who are mavens
• 1:54:10
  and people who are connectors and they're salesman, the maven
• 1:54:13
  and the connector archetypes. The maven is someone who is an
• 1:54:16
  amazing curator of knowledge and can communicate that and can
• 1:54:21
  teach that, and the connector connects people together.
• 1:54:25
  Now, I think if you have a very high level of skill and
• 1:54:28
  communication, all of these things that you pick up, you're
• 1:54:32
  able to share with other people at a very high level in order
• 1:54:37
  that they can understand it as easily as possible.
• 1:54:40
  For me, I optimise my communication for
• 1:54:45
  understandability. I want to make it as easy as
• 1:54:48
  possible to understand. I think that's the sign of true
• 1:54:50
  mastery. It's not.
• 1:54:52
  Hey, how many SAT words can I pull out of my, my, you know, to
• 1:54:56
  impress somebody? No, because my, my intention is
• 1:55:00
  not to impress you. My intention is to communicate
• 1:55:05
  things that are truly valuable, that can actually help you move
• 1:55:08
  forward in your own life's journey.
• 1:55:11
  And in order to reach the maximum amount, amount of
• 1:55:13
  people, communicating with simplicity is the best way to do
• 1:55:17
  that. So the number one ROI thing for
• 1:55:21
  me is definitely communication. And it goes beyond, of course,
• 1:55:26
  communicating with others. Like we go back to the
• 1:55:28
  importance, what is the most important conversation we're all
• 1:55:31
  having every single day? It's the one with ourselves.
• 1:55:35
  And if we can learn to communicate with ourselves, with
• 1:55:38
  love, with patience, with peace, with compassion, then we can
• 1:55:43
  learn to do that for the others, for, for the world and for for
• 1:55:47
  others in the world. And Adam Olem, everybody, a lot
• 1:55:52
  of people are focusing on collective change, right?
• 1:55:54
  Let's get collective change. But dude, collective change is
• 1:55:58
  just the aggregate of individual change on a big scale.
• 1:56:03
  So dude, I really believe these kinds of conversations that
• 1:56:07
  we're having right here, this kind of education, this kind of
• 1:56:11
  sharing, this is the most important thing that we can be
• 1:56:14
  doing to help move humanity in a better direction.
• 1:56:17
  It's sharing valuable consciousness, bro.
• 1:56:20
  So I think communication is absolutely key.
• 1:56:23
  And it's also important for personal relationships as well.
• 1:56:28
  Like there can be so much love. Like, but if I'm unable to
• 1:56:33
  express my love, then the other person won't feel my love, you
• 1:56:38
  know? And I think mastering
• 1:56:40
  communication allows your love to be felt at the maximum
• 1:56:45
  impact, which I think is a worthy motivation for pursuing
• 1:56:50
  and mastering the art of communication.
• 1:56:54
  Wow, so scaling people, not just platforms, actually involves
• 1:57:00
  communication? So you are responsible for
• 1:57:04
  hiring, for training, for onboarding, you know, for the
• 1:57:07
  curriculum, for customer success and communication.
• 1:57:11
  So what systems or frameworks do you use to keep the community
• 1:57:15
  engaged, aligned and to continue to grow?
• 1:57:22
  Yeah, there's, there's two ways to help people grow that I
• 1:57:28
  focused on. I I used to be a teacher in
• 1:57:30
  China. I taught English in a city
• 1:57:33
  called Yuyang in the Hunan province.
• 1:57:35
  It's a Tier 3 city, relatively smaller, still like a million
• 1:57:39
  people. So that's a that's a small city
• 1:57:41
  in China. And I learned from from teaching
• 1:57:44
  kids aged 4 to 15 that the power of praise and the power of
• 1:57:50
  challenge cannot be understated. And there's a saying that goes,
• 1:57:55
  the feminine grows through praise and the masculine grows
• 1:57:59
  through challenge. The feminine grows through
• 1:58:02
  praise and the masculine grows through challenge.
• 1:58:04
  So for me, praise is a huge key aspect of me helping people
• 1:58:10
  grow, as is challenge. So anytime anyone does something
• 1:58:14
  that I know to be good for themselves, for their own
• 1:58:18
  personal development, like showing up to a call, doing an
• 1:58:21
  exercise, bro, I, I heap abundant praise on that person
• 1:58:26
  because it takes a lot of courage to reach that point.
• 1:58:28
  You know, it takes a lot of momentum and I never, I didn't
• 1:58:32
  get as much praise as I would have benefited from potentially.
• 1:58:36
  So I know that like, hey, that's something that I wish I would
• 1:58:39
  have had. So I try to give as much praise
• 1:58:42
  as I can and I do it specifically.
• 1:58:45
  Like I, I do my best to connect. It's not a general praise.
• 1:58:48
  It's like, hey, like I really want to celebrate your amazing
• 1:58:51
  communication skills. I'll praise something specific
• 1:58:55
  and praise them in public. You know, if there's a conflict,
• 1:58:59
  address it privately. If there's something you're
• 1:59:02
  dissatisfied with, train that privately, privately, sorry.
• 1:59:07
  Anytime like you see potential for improvement in somebody like
• 1:59:12
  never have that conversation publicly.
• 1:59:14
  Have it privately as as often as you can and praise publicly.
• 1:59:19
  And then issuing challenges, brother, is a great way to help
• 1:59:23
  people grow as well. It's not a challenge in that I
• 1:59:26
  want conflict. No, it's a challenge in that I
• 1:59:28
  believe in your potential and let's set a time frame for you
• 1:59:31
  to achieve this. So like a challenge might be
• 1:59:35
  brother, like I challenge you to breakthrough the top 1% in the
• 1:59:39
  next three months, you know? That's a goal.
• 1:59:43
  And and boom, it becomes a goal, right?
• 1:59:46
  So the power of praise and the power of challenge, those, those
• 1:59:49
  are essential and making people feel appreciated for the work
• 1:59:54
  that they do, man, for everything that they contribute.
• 1:59:57
  It's, it's, it's key. It's people want to be people
• 2:00:00
  want to feel seen, they want to feel heard and they want to feel
• 2:00:04
  appreciated. So anytime someone contributes
• 2:00:08
  to the community, I always do my best.
• 2:00:10
  I train my team to, you know, appreciate to accept and to
• 2:00:17
  connect on that thing and to encourage and to praise and to
• 2:00:21
  challenge. And those are.
• 2:00:23
  Kind of the tools that I use to help people in their personal
• 2:00:27
  development, to help the community continue growing
• 2:00:30
  because the community is just a bunch of people coming together.
• 2:00:34
  So if I focus on the people inside the community, then I'm
• 2:00:37
  going to help the community itself.
• 2:00:42
  Wow, so Speaking of mindset, the Buddha within, we founded
• 2:00:48
  billions of Buddhas. What does it really mean?
• 2:00:52
  Thank you for asking, brother. So the dream of billions of
• 2:00:55
  Buddhas. Buddhism believes that everybody
• 2:00:58
  has their own inner Buddha. Every human being, every, all
• 2:01:02
  life has an inner Buddha. Now it's not trying to convert
• 2:01:07
  people to Buddhism, it's helping them tap into their own inner
• 2:01:11
  Buddha, that centre of peace within them, that peaceful
• 2:01:16
  stillness, that joyfulness. And I just see so much in the
• 2:01:19
  world. There's so much chaos and the
• 2:01:21
  chaos is growing and the world is accelerating and people are
• 2:01:24
  stressed out and depressed and anxious.
• 2:01:27
  And I know that I was like that too.
• 2:01:30
  And now that I found a system for peace, I want to help share
• 2:01:33
  that system of inner peace with everybody so that they can enjoy
• 2:01:37
  that peace, so that they can live life at their own pace.
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  And even if life is moving fast, they have an eye of the storm
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  that they can abide from and operate from.
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  Because that's the truth. Like once, once you see the
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  truth of how reality is and how our universe is designed, peace
• 2:01:58
  just washes over you. That's been my own personal
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  experience. So for me, it's my wish for
• 2:02:03
  peace for the world. Put into 3 words billions of
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  Buddhas and I also think, hey man, 1 Buddha did so much good
• 2:02:13
  one Jesus did so much good. What if we had billions of
• 2:02:17
  Buddhas? What if what if we had billions
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  of Jesus's man And the what why I say that is I, I don't think
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  it's possible to become Jesus in, in Christianity.
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  I think that's sacrilege. There's Christ consciousness
• 2:02:30
  that we can embody. I've done my own research into
• 2:02:32
  Christianity and I definitely believe in that.
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  But in Buddhism, the belief is that the, the, it is a
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  possibility within human potential to actually become a
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  Buddha like that is within human potential.
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  I, I can't become Jesus because that'd be sacrilegious, but I
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  can bring my level of self development and self mastery to
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  the level of a Buddha. And I am fascinated by that
• 2:03:00
  potential man. And I think that's what we need.
• 2:03:04
  And I just think that's what is good for the world.
• 2:03:07
  So that's the direction that I'm, I've dedicated my life to.
• 2:03:11
  Did you want to know an interesting parallel to what
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  you're saying about Buddhism and Christianity?
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  So it's pretty much the same thing.
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  In Christianity, the word Christian actually means Christ
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  to like. That is you should be Christ
• 2:03:28
  like like Christ. So that's also the intention.
• 2:03:32
  If you can have multiple billions of Christ unlike
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  individuals on earth, it would be a better place.
• 2:03:40
  It'd be heaven on earth. And in in many ways it already
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  is, depending on your perspective.
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  Like right now, brother, sharing this beautiful conversation with
• 2:03:51
  you. I think we're already in heaven
• 2:03:53
  on earth. I think we're already in
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  Nirvana. We're already in enlightenment.
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  In that experience. It's because I'm grateful.
• 2:03:59
  You know, as you said, time is life.
• 2:04:02
  Our life is just composed of time and I appreciate you
• 2:04:05
  sharing your time and your life with me man, so thank you.
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  Absolutely, you're welcome and you know when you think about
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  it, I said something if you don't understand something, you
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  stand under it and study to show myself a Workman that need not
• 2:04:20
  be ashamed, quietly divided the word of truth.
• 2:04:23
  So the problem with a lot of Christians is they are not even
• 2:04:27
  studied treating even more Christianities.
• 2:04:30
  Many Christians don't even know that the meaning of the word
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  Christian means Christ. Like when the purpose of
• 2:04:38
  something is unknown, abuse is inevitable.
• 2:04:43
  So you need to understand what you're practising. 100%, bro, I
• 2:04:51
  think there's immense beauty in, in the Christian path, There's
• 2:04:55
  immense beauty in the Buddhist path.
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  And anyone that really dives into the truth of their
• 2:05:00
  tradition will find truth. They'll find peace, they'll find
• 2:05:04
  love within and without and above and below.
• 2:05:08
  And I, I love what you said about understanding, bro, that
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  if you don't understand, you're, you're standing beneath, you're
• 2:05:13
  standing under it. It makes me think because
• 2:05:17
  there's there's two paths for Buddhist practitioners, right?
• 2:05:20
  You can go the monastic path and become a monk or a nun, or you
• 2:05:25
  can go the lay lay path become just a secular practitioner.
• 2:05:30
  And the Buddha said for the secular practitioner, there's
• 2:05:33
  only one thing to focus on and that is all-encompassing
• 2:05:38
  understanding. If you live with the intention
• 2:05:41
  to understand all, you will attain enlightenment as a
• 2:05:44
  secular practitioner. And brother, like if, if, if we
• 2:05:49
  come into the conversation with our own ideas set, then there's
• 2:05:53
  no point in having the conversation.
• 2:05:55
  And if if we both come in with open minds and a willingness to
• 2:06:00
  change and a willingness to understand, which is the
• 2:06:03
  willingness to love, then we're already there then because there
• 2:06:07
  is no like path to love. Love itself is the path.
• 2:06:13
  There is no way to peace. Peace itself is the path, and
• 2:06:17
  it's in every decision that we're choosing right now.
• 2:06:20
  So choose. Choose it, don't chase it.
• 2:06:24
  Absolutely and you know, and that's what a book mindset is
• 2:06:27
  about, right, Deciding to learn, you know, so, so for me, I love
• 2:06:37
  to learn. I love the pathway of being a
• 2:06:43
  student for life. The day, you know, there's a
• 2:06:46
  proverb where I come from, it says the day we die is the day
• 2:06:51
  we stop learning. Oh, that's good, man.
• 2:06:56
  The day we die. The day we stop learning.
• 2:06:59
  I agree. And of course, you know,
• 2:07:02
  Speaking of learning, you went from the school of Hard Knocks
• 2:07:05
  to the school of mentors, right? Literally.
• 2:07:08
  So what was the hardest season of your life and how did it
• 2:07:11
  shape the person that you are today?
• 2:07:16
  Oh man, man, we're getting deep, OK.
• 2:07:21
  The hardest season of my life was was during COVID for sure.
• 2:07:25
  And. Wuhan.
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  Wuhan So a lot of people don't know this.
• 2:07:33
  I've only shared this with a few people, but I'll, I'll share it
• 2:07:35
  here publicly for like kind of the first time on your podcast,
• 2:07:39
  man. I actually went to, I actually
• 2:07:43
  went to gaol for five days and it was, it was an accident.
• 2:07:49
  I had done something with a good intent, but I did it under the
• 2:07:53
  influence of marijuana and the, the outcome turned out bad.
• 2:07:57
  So what, what happened was it was like the middle of COVID.
• 2:08:02
  I just had a fight with my mom and I went out with my buddy
• 2:08:05
  Chris to go and, and smoke some marijuana to try to relax a bit
• 2:08:09
  and chill. And this was the time where I
• 2:08:12
  had just seen a lot of like that Jeffrey Epstein stuff and like
• 2:08:17
  child abuse and like, like, I had just dug into the child
• 2:08:21
  trafficking issue globally. And it's, it's really
• 2:08:24
  terrifying. It's really terrible.
• 2:08:26
  And I was chilling with my friend at the park and we were
• 2:08:30
  just meditating there, bro. Like, he drove his car.
• 2:08:33
  He took us with his car. And then I saw this, this mother
• 2:08:38
  and her child walking into the park, man.
• 2:08:40
  And the child was shirtless and I saw her take the child and
• 2:08:45
  pose the child against the tree and start taking pictures of the
• 2:08:48
  kid. And it just didn't look right to
• 2:08:50
  me. Dude.
• 2:08:51
  I don't know. Just this woman taking pictures
• 2:08:53
  of a of a shirtless kid at the park.
• 2:08:56
  I was like, what is going on? And my mind was kind of primed
• 2:08:59
  with all that Epstein stuff, dude.
• 2:09:01
  So I told my buddy, I'm like, dude, that doesn't look right.
• 2:09:03
  I'm going to go check that out, make sure that kids.
• 2:09:05
  OK. So I go over and I ask, hey,
• 2:09:09
  excuse me, is this your child? And the mother says yes, it is.
• 2:09:13
  But she shook her head no at me when she said it.
• 2:09:15
  So she said yes, it is. And I was kind of confused.
• 2:09:19
  So I looked at the kid. I'm like, excuse me?
• 2:09:21
  Like, do you need any help? And I thought I saw him give me
• 2:09:25
  a little bit of a nod. So I'm like, OK, like, I don't
• 2:09:28
  know what's going on here. Let me call the police.
• 2:09:32
  I called the police, bro, 911. I called it like, hey, I don't
• 2:09:36
  know what the situation is. Like there's a mom here with a
• 2:09:39
  kid, I think. But like, it looks potentially
• 2:09:42
  be some child abuse. Can you guys come and check it
• 2:09:44
  out? And it might, it might have been
• 2:09:48
  like, you know, I was under the influence of marijuana.
• 2:09:51
  Maybe I didn't sound completely sober.
• 2:09:54
  But nobody came. They didn't send anybody.
• 2:09:56
  I don't think they believed me. And I was kind of, I talked to
• 2:10:00
  the police for like 6 to 9 minutes, bro.
• 2:10:02
  It's on their record. And by this point, the mother
• 2:10:08
  and the child were leaving the park.
• 2:10:09
  And I was really worried for the kid.
• 2:10:12
  And I was kind of starting to panic.
• 2:10:13
  I'm like, what is going on? Like, is this child abuse?
• 2:10:15
  Like what is happening? Am I going to just let this
• 2:10:17
  happen in front of my eyes? And I, I decided to spur the
• 2:10:21
  moment. Instinct just kind of took over.
• 2:10:23
  And I ran over there and I tried to get the kid away from her
• 2:10:26
  just to figure out the situation.
• 2:10:28
  But in the States, if you move anyone's kid from point A to
• 2:10:33
  point B without their express permission, that's.
• 2:10:36
  Technically, he'd not. Been exactly bro.
• 2:10:41
  So just this whole situation played out and I was arrested
• 2:10:46
  for kidnapping. I, I, I moved the kid like, I
• 2:10:50
  don't know, like 10 feet and yeah.
• 2:10:55
  And it just like it was the, the, IT was terrible because in
• 2:10:59
  that moment, I'd spent my entire life trying to be a good person,
• 2:11:03
  you know? And in that moment I was still
• 2:11:05
  trying to be a good person. But I could see this, the movie
• 2:11:08
  of my life flipped from hero to villain in that instant.
• 2:11:12
  And it broke my heart, bro. And then went to gaol, had crazy
• 2:11:18
  experiences in gaol, like still on marijuana.
• 2:11:22
  And I think from the shock of the event that had just
• 2:11:26
  happened, my mind kind of just lost it, dude.
• 2:11:29
  Like I was hallucinating. I saw things on the walls and
• 2:11:33
  like it was, it was a terrifying 5 days in gaol.
• 2:11:38
  But I did have a beautiful moment of peace.
• 2:11:45
  My friend Cyrus, he had introduced this concept of the
• 2:11:48
  God spot to me. He was making a joke.
• 2:11:51
  He's like, yo what? What's the G spot?
• 2:11:54
  And I was like, dude, what are you talking about?
• 2:11:56
  And he said, dude, it's, it's, it's actually not the, it's the
• 2:11:59
  God spot. And in my hallucinations, bro, I
• 2:12:03
  saw this, this G on the ground of my, of my gaol cell.
• 2:12:08
  And I decided to put my head on this G.
• 2:12:10
  I'm like, oh, this is the God spot.
• 2:12:11
  Let me just put my head on this God spot.
• 2:12:14
  And when I did, dude, and I laid down on it, bro, I felt just, I
• 2:12:20
  think I had an ego death experience where I just
• 2:12:22
  completely let go of my idea of who I was.
• 2:12:27
  And I was in amazing bliss just feeling connected because I had
• 2:12:32
  set down the concept of myself and I had fully believed in the
• 2:12:35
  complete immersion and unity with God.
• 2:12:39
  And I found great peace in gaol. But then the aftermath of that
• 2:12:45
  were very difficult. You know, I had to go through, I
• 2:12:48
  think it was a A2 year, like probationary period because they
• 2:12:54
  saw my case. They were like this guy tried to
• 2:12:56
  do something good. The law is like the letter that
• 2:12:59
  it's iron. We can't change it.
• 2:13:02
  But if you go through this mental health recovery
• 2:13:04
  programme, we can get this completely off your record.
• 2:13:09
  And it's completely off my record now.
• 2:13:11
  But hey, it's my story. So I decided to share it here
• 2:13:14
  with you. I'm not ashamed of it, but I, I
• 2:13:21
  do believe now that one don't, don't act under the influence,
• 2:13:26
  right? And even even if there's good
• 2:13:29
  intention, we have to execute at a very high level of skill or
• 2:13:34
  else it can turn out bad. Even the most beautiful
• 2:13:36
  intention can turn out poorly if there's no skill behind it.
• 2:13:40
  And in that moment, yeah, it was, it was a difficult call,
• 2:13:46
  man, it was a difficult call. And I'm being very vulnerable
• 2:13:49
  right now, but I thought I'd share it.
• 2:13:52
  And that was the most difficult time of my life.
• 2:13:55
  But one beautiful thing that I learned too was that we are
• 2:13:59
  protected by our good intent. Even at the hardest times.
• 2:14:03
  I, I knew in my heart that I did it with good intention and that
• 2:14:09
  that is what saved me. You know, like just knowing that
• 2:14:14
  I acted with good intent. And then that process also
• 2:14:18
  taught me patience. You know, two years is a long
• 2:14:21
  time. And patience is a virtue.
• 2:14:24
  Patience is at a great virtue. So I learned patience through
• 2:14:27
  that. I learned compassion, I learned
• 2:14:29
  radical acceptance 'cause there was a part of me that was still
• 2:14:33
  clinging to like, hey, like, I know I'm right.
• 2:14:35
  I know what I saw, but hey, I was under the influence, man,
• 2:14:38
  I'm, I'm not certain now. Maybe I saw it incorrectly and,
• 2:14:42
  and it's, there's a high probability that I saw it
• 2:14:46
  incorrectly. So it's a hard lesson, but yeah,
• 2:14:50
  that was the hardest time of my life.
• 2:14:52
  That was my rock bottom. I had broken my shoulder in gaol
• 2:14:55
  as well. And I guess I'll just say I'm
• 2:15:00
  very glad I'm past it and I'm I'm grateful for the lessons.
• 2:15:04
  I wish it hadn't been as hard of a knock as it was.
• 2:15:07
  But hey, man, we're we're past it and that we made it through.
• 2:15:11
  So that's that it's. A hard knock life.
• 2:15:15
  You know, you talked about mental health recovery and this
• 2:15:20
  podcast stands family and strongly on the side of mental
• 2:15:25
  health. You know, our major sponsor is
• 2:15:31
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  therapy tool. You know they take mental health
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  very seriously. I'd love for you to speak on the
• 2:15:44
  importance of mental health and the resources of tools like
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  Better Health and help them with mental health.
• 2:15:56
  Dude, mental health determines everything.
• 2:15:58
  I mean, I think what happens in our society is that if kids are
• 2:16:03
  too sheltered, that leads to mental weakness.
• 2:16:09
  So there's mental weakness and there's mental strength.
• 2:16:12
  And when those kids that are mentally weak go out into
• 2:16:15
  society, they can't cope. And then we diagnose it as
• 2:16:19
  mental health, mental illness where it's actually mental
• 2:16:23
  weakness, I believe. And if we see it as mental
• 2:16:26
  weakness, that's something that we can actually work on.
• 2:16:30
  Of course, that it, it does go into mental illness at a certain
• 2:16:34
  point. But I, I, I do think that mental
• 2:16:37
  health is absolutely vital to success, is vital to living a
• 2:16:43
  good life. And when I was at my lowest,
• 2:16:47
  man, I just did one small action every day to start building
• 2:16:52
  momentum. I hit the treadmill every day.
• 2:16:54
  I, I just had to dude. And that small win every single
• 2:16:59
  day started rebuilding my confidence.
• 2:17:02
  It started rebuilding my confidence.
• 2:17:04
  And because I had acted with good intent, I could lean into
• 2:17:09
  that aspect of it as well and just know that like, hey, like
• 2:17:12
  you're dealt a hard hand, but you acted with good intent.
• 2:17:16
  So at least I know that you're this kind of person that will do
• 2:17:20
  the right thing, that you believe is the right thing under
• 2:17:24
  pressure. But make sure I do it correctly
• 2:17:26
  next time and make sure that I'm not under the influence.
• 2:17:29
  Make sure that I'm perceiving it correctly.
• 2:17:31
  But at least I knew that I had the courage to act.
• 2:17:34
  But brother, mental health is so important.
• 2:17:37
  And I think mental health can be diagnosed by the contents of our
• 2:17:41
  thoughts, by the way that we're talking to ourselves, by our
• 2:17:44
  internal communication. That's easily diagnosable.
• 2:17:49
  And what I learned is that I don't think that we should label
• 2:17:56
  people. I don't think that people should
• 2:17:58
  accept labels as identities because once we accept something
• 2:18:03
  as our identity, the identity is the most powerful manifestation
• 2:18:07
  concept that we have. Who we think we are is what we
• 2:18:10
  attract. Who we think we are is the
• 2:18:12
  lifestyle that we build. And if we accept an identity of
• 2:18:16
  I am depressed, I am a depressed person like I'm an anxious
• 2:18:21
  person like that, It's it's going to be very hard to climb
• 2:18:24
  out of that loop because once you attach to an identity, this
• 2:18:30
  is my personal opinion, by the way.
• 2:18:32
  But once I bought into an identity that perpetuates that
• 2:18:35
  loop, that cycle. Instead of doing that, I
• 2:18:39
  advocate for people going to the gym, get moving.
• 2:18:43
  You have to change something. I believe that the feeling of
• 2:18:47
  depression is evidence that you're not living the life that
• 2:18:50
  you want to live. I don't think there's anything
• 2:18:53
  wrong with people. I think all emotions come up for
• 2:18:57
  a reason, and I think depression is there to tell you that, or it
• 2:19:01
  was there to tell me that, hey, I'm not living the life that I
• 2:19:04
  want to live. Let me change something because
• 2:19:07
  insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting
• 2:19:12
  different results. Now I, I've created a, a
• 2:19:16
  philosophy out of all of this, which is curation is the cure.
• 2:19:22
  Curation is the cure. So a curator is the person in
• 2:19:27
  the museum that gets to decide the art that gets to go into the
• 2:19:30
  museum. So you curated your entire
• 2:19:33
  background right there. You're the curator of your home
• 2:19:36
  and we're all the curators of our, of our lives.
• 2:19:39
  And if something is going wrong in our lives, it's because we've
• 2:19:45
  curated something, we've allowed something in that is creating
• 2:19:49
  that non optimal output, or we're missing something that we
• 2:19:53
  need to have in order to be healthy.
• 2:19:56
  So I believe humans need movement.
• 2:19:59
  Movement is medicine and movement is what helped me climb
• 2:20:03
  out of rock bottom. We need extreme ownership.
• 2:20:08
  Shout out Jocko Wheeling. We need to take responsibility
• 2:20:10
  for our own lives. Growing up, I was kind of
• 2:20:13
  entitled, and there was a lot in my life that I wasn't used to
• 2:20:16
  having responsibility for. So coming out of college and
• 2:20:21
  having to be responsible for my own life, it was a tough
• 2:20:24
  transition. So I always advocate for parents
• 2:20:27
  giving more and more responsibility to their kids as
• 2:20:29
  times as time goes, Even financial responsibility, give
• 2:20:34
  that to your kids earlier so that they can feel the weight of
• 2:20:37
  it and they can get accustomed to the weight of it.
• 2:20:40
  But yeah, movements and we, we need to remove every negative
• 2:20:45
  thing that we're consuming. If you think about it, what is
• 2:20:49
  the point of consuming negative news?
• 2:20:51
  What's the point of consuming news?
• 2:20:53
  I mean, like there's a point in educating ourselves on how
• 2:20:58
  global events are playing out. Consuming good news, yes, but
• 2:21:04
  the negative news that is portrayed and there's a lot of
• 2:21:07
  it, there's no point in consuming it because one, it's
• 2:21:10
  already in the past. You can't influence it.
• 2:21:15
  You have no influence over it. So why are you giving it your
• 2:21:18
  time, attention and energy? What we consume, it grows within
• 2:21:22
  us and it's what we will produce.
• 2:21:25
  You know, as the seed is, so too is the fruit.
• 2:21:28
  So remove the negative, add the positive, keep the momentum
• 2:21:33
  going. That's kind of the three steps.
• 2:21:35
  Remove all negative things, curate out all negative things,
• 2:21:39
  negative self talk. Stop doing that brain rot stuff.
• 2:21:44
  Stop consuming that negative news.
• 2:21:46
  Stop consuming that crappy food. Stop eating it crappy beverages.
• 2:21:52
  Stop it, you know, and then move in the direction of health.
• 2:21:56
  Add all the positive add in movement, add in exercise, add
• 2:22:01
  in millionaire and billionaire consciousness.
• 2:22:04
  Add in the Kingdom's podcast. Add in, you know, add in the
• 2:22:09
  diary of ACFO, dude, add consume positivity and you will become
• 2:22:13
  positive. We are what we eat, bro.
• 2:22:16
  And then there's certain ways to keep the momentum going because
• 2:22:21
  momentum is created by reminding ourselves that we're making
• 2:22:24
  progress. I think so.
• 2:22:25
  I have all these mantras, which is like every little bit counts,
• 2:22:29
  you know, every step is one step closer.
• 2:22:32
  Gratitude is its own reward. And the the attitude of
• 2:22:36
  gratitude will take you so far, dude, because gratitude for the
• 2:22:40
  good attracts more of the good back to us.
• 2:22:43
  Gratitude magnifies the good. And I can prove it because if
• 2:22:47
  I'm grateful for this cup, right, I cultivate gratitude for
• 2:22:51
  it. I will take better care of the
• 2:22:53
  cup or the watermelon as we had established, and I will attract,
• 2:22:59
  you know, I'll, I'll make sure that it's in in good condition
• 2:23:02
  because I'm grateful for it. That shows that will invest care
• 2:23:06
  into the upkeep of it. If we are grateful for the money
• 2:23:09
  that we have, we'll care for that money.
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  We'll take care of that money. We'll invest it wisely.
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  So gratitude for the good attracts more of the good to
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  you. And gratitude for the challenges
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  immediately shifts you out of victim mentality and into that
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  growth mentality that we were talking about.
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  Hey, I just got out of gaol. What can I learn from this?
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  You know, hey, I tried to do something good.
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  I tried to help this kid. I misjudged it.
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  What can I learn from it? Well, bro, don't smoke marijuana
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  if it's not, if it's going to have those effects on you, you
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  know, like, like just don't do it.
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  So gratitude, man. It's, it's an invincible frame
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  of mind. And what I've seen out of Mullah
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  with all of the millionaires and billionaires that come to the
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  school of mentors, they all have invincible frames of mind that
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  allows them to perceive life in a way that is always beneficial
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  to them no matter what the situation is.
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  And gratitude is one of those invincible mindsets.
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  You know, that's something I always see on the podcast every
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  time. Gratitude is good attitude.
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  And when a person shares the time with you, they share their
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  life with you. Because inside, you know, for
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  measuring life is time. You know, I'm really, really
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  grateful having you on the show today.
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  There's a lot we, you know, have spoken about, and there's a lot
• 2:24:29
  we should speak about in part, too.
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  I know you have very limited time today because it's
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  Billionaires Day today, right on School of Mentors and you need
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  to run pretty soon. So I'll take you through the big
• 2:24:42
  fire ground and guys, expect the Part 2 and of course expect the
• 2:24:48
  three J's on the podcast pretty soon.
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  That is Jack, Josh and King James.
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  So Are you ready to rumble? Yes, yes and yes.
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  Let's go. Okay, okay, So what is 1 habit
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  that has changed your life forever?
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  The Pasana meditation bro, that is the top habit.
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  The Pasana meditation translates to insight meditation.
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  They offer free retreats internationally.
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  Go to a Vipassa meditation. It will change your life.
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  It's one of the top skills that any human can acquire.
• 2:25:27
  It will sharpen your mind. It will de stress you.
• 2:25:30
  It will elevate your stress tolerance.
• 2:25:32
  It will give you great self-awareness.
• 2:25:34
  It'll help you understand yourself and understand the
• 2:25:37
  nature of reality. It'll make you happy and
• 2:25:39
  peaceful. Vipassana meditation.
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  Interesting. So what language do you want to
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  master next and why? Still, Mandarin Chinese, man,
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  because I realised manifest in your mother tongue, that's the
• 2:25:53
  most powerful way to manifest. And my programming language for
• 2:25:57
  the first six years of my life was Mandarin Chinese.
• 2:26:00
  And when I use Mandarin Chinese, I feel more powerful.
• 2:26:03
  I feel more rooted. I feel because it allows me to
• 2:26:07
  connect with that sense of safety that that language gave
• 2:26:11
  me because my caretakers from zero to 6 used it with me at
• 2:26:15
  that pivotal age. So Mandarin Chinese.
• 2:26:19
  Fantastic. What is one book everyone should
• 2:26:23
  read before the 10:30? I'll give you 3 How to love by
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  Zen Master TIC, not Hong. It will teach you love in the
• 2:26:33
  truest sense of the word. It'll help you love yourself and
• 2:26:36
  love others. How to win friends and influence
• 2:26:38
  people. It's the Bible on communication.
• 2:26:40
  Dale Kanegy. Dale Kanegy.
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  That was the first book I ever bought.
• 2:26:44
  In my life. Let's go, brother.
• 2:26:46
  Hey, we're, we're connected on that.
• 2:26:48
  So how to win friends and influence people?
• 2:26:50
  It will take you so far because people will take you places that
• 2:26:53
  money cannot. People will take you places that
• 2:26:56
  money cannot. Third book mastery by Robert
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  Greene. Think with the goal of mastery
• 2:27:05
  and you will become the top 1%. You will be able to achieve your
• 2:27:09
  potential and you'll be able to move mountains Because Robert
• 2:27:13
  Greene says once you've attained mastery in one specific
• 2:27:16
  discipline, the entire world opens up to you.
• 2:27:19
  And we've seen it happen again and again and again.
• 2:27:21
  So Mastery by Robert Greene is my third recommendation.
• 2:27:26
  So what do you think is the most underrated life skill?
• 2:27:32
  Most underrated life skill? Who most underrated life skill?
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  The ability to rest. So a lot of people, they don't
• 2:27:46
  know how to rest. They literally don't know how to
• 2:27:49
  stop. Like people think that watching
• 2:27:52
  the TV is resting, but no, it takes processing power still in
• 2:27:56
  your brain to actually watch and process the TV show.
• 2:28:00
  That's still stress that you're taking on.
• 2:28:02
  The most underrated skill is resting.
• 2:28:05
  Go to a park, lay on your bed, don't go on your phone, just lay
• 2:28:09
  down there and be with yourself, be in your body.
• 2:28:13
  The body's always, the body is all it always wants to heal you.
• 2:28:18
  It always wants to heal. And with every breath that we
• 2:28:22
  take, it's always rejuvenating. And if we can learn to rest and
• 2:28:26
  stop and relax without consuming 24/7, man, like everybody's
• 2:28:32
  going to be so much happier, so much more peaceful.
• 2:28:35
  So resting is the number one most underrated skill.
• 2:28:38
  Rest and recovery very, very, very important.
• 2:28:41
  I think athletes actually do understand that better because
• 2:28:45
  they have to perform with the body.
• 2:28:48
  So if you could give your younger self one sentence of
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  advice about, what would it be? Let go of that which no longer
• 2:29:07
  serves you and know that what once served you might not serve
• 2:29:13
  you right now and might not serve your highest self.
• 2:29:18
  I carry things and I used, I used to carry things so much.
• 2:29:23
  I was that junior monk man. I wasn't the senior monk, bro.
• 2:29:26
  I didn't set the woman down at the river.
• 2:29:28
  And one of my bad habits in the past was holding on to things
• 2:29:32
  too long. And it's something that I'm
• 2:29:33
  working on. And with everything that I'm
• 2:29:36
  able to let go of, I'm more free, I'm more happy, I'm more
• 2:29:41
  peaceful. So what I would say to myself
• 2:29:44
  is, man, if it's past, if it's in the past, just let it go.
• 2:29:48
  If you can make it right, make it right.
• 2:29:51
  If you can't or if there's no need to, let it go.
• 2:29:55
  And where attention goes, energy flows and reality grows.
• 2:30:00
  So focus your energy on what you want to grow, not on what you
• 2:30:05
  don't. That's that's what I'd say.
• 2:30:09
  I think that's powerful. Reminds me of a private
• 2:30:12
  conversation is having with my Co host and Co founder a couple
• 2:30:16
  of days ago. And he said I don't want to grow
• 2:30:19
  older. I know grow wiser.
• 2:30:22
  That will be a very, very big shame.
• 2:30:25
  And you know, one thing I've learned this year as I grow
• 2:30:29
  older and grow wiser is the importance of letting go and
• 2:30:34
  letting God let go and let God add a deal.
• 2:30:41
  That's powerful, man. That's that faith, right?
• 2:30:43
  That's that trust. And I think when I'm able to let
• 2:30:48
  go of cause for me, the, the Buddhist practise, what I'm
• 2:30:52
  working on right now is letting go of my attachment to all
• 2:30:55
  language and all the concepts that we cling to 'cause we had
• 2:30:59
  already established that language there.
• 2:31:02
  It's, it's all just sounds right that we've conditioned the
• 2:31:06
  response. So for me, I'm, I'm learning to
• 2:31:09
  let go. And I think trusting what comes
• 2:31:15
  intuitively without strategizing, trusting and
• 2:31:19
  leaning into that faith is the letting God aspect of what I'm
• 2:31:23
  working on right now, dude. So I appreciate that.
• 2:31:26
  And I know James loves that too. Let go and let God.
• 2:31:29
  Oh wow. Really interesting, great minds
• 2:31:32
  thinking like wow. So thank you very much once
• 2:31:35
  again. And of course, to the audience,
• 2:31:38
  always go for something in your lives, conceive, believe, start
• 2:31:43
  to thrive and of course, achieve, say it will come your
• 2:31:47
  way next. It's love and respect.
• 2:31:51
  And of course, a very, very big thank you to you and your fan.
• 2:31:56
  Wow. See you in Part 2.
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  Let go of that which no longer serves you and know that what
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  once served you might not serve you right now and might not
• 2:32:07
  serve your highest self. I carry things and I use.
• 2:32:10
  I used to carry things so much. I was that junior monk man.
• 2:32:13
  I wasn't the senior monk, bro. I didn't set the woman down at
• 2:32:16
  the river. And one of my bad habits in the
• 2:32:18
  past was holding on to things too long.
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  And it's something that I'm working on.
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  And with everything that I'm able to let go of, I'm more
• 2:32:25
  free, I'm more happy, got more peaceful.
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  So what I would say to myself is if it's past, if it's in the
• 2:32:31
  past, just let it go. If you can make it right, make
• 2:32:33
  it right. If you can't or if there's no
• 2:32:36
  need to, let it go. Where attention goes, energy
• 2:32:39
  flows and reality grows. So focus your energy on what you
• 2:32:43
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