Latest / Untraditionally Lala / Sex Unlocked: Porn Star Tips with Dani Gray
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- 0:00Speaker 1: Let's talk about sex, baby. Hello, my little sex pots.
- 0:05Speaker 1: Welcome back to Sex Unlocked. Sally, are we still talking
- 0:09Speaker 1: to the human red flag?
- 0:11Speaker 2: You know, I've gotten a lot of DMs.
- 0:15Speaker 1: Have you?
- 0:16Speaker 2: Yeah. Yes, after our podcast and everyone's like, girl, he
- 0:20Speaker 2: has a wife, Ryan. And I'm like, guys, no, he doesn't.
- 0:26Speaker 1: By the way, though, that did happen to me.
- 0:29Speaker 2: I'm sure you did. Wait, you didn't know?
- 0:33Speaker 1: I should have known. I got drunk and then, yeah,
- 0:36Speaker 1: he had a full wife and children and she's now
- 0:38Speaker 1: my best friend and we have like an unlikely affair.
- 0:41Speaker 1: But when someone says they got a wife, they may
- 0:44Speaker 1: have a wife.
- 0:45Speaker 2: Like he definitely doesn't.
- 0:47Speaker 1: Did he listen to the episode?
- 0:49Speaker 2: No, I don't think so.
- 0:50Speaker 1: Well, that's good. That saves you an uncomfortable conversation. Any
- 0:53Speaker 1: other red flags that have popped up or are we good?
- 0:56Speaker 2: No, no more red flags. I just like don't know
- 0:58Speaker 2: when I'm going to see him next.
- 1:00Speaker 1: He hasn't said?
- 1:02Speaker 3: No.
- 1:03Speaker 1: Okay. Let's just clock that.
- 1:05Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 1:05Speaker 2: We're just clocking.
- 1:08Speaker 4: Like I told him, I'm like, I'm giving you everything,
- 1:10Speaker 4: all of my energy. And like, I need to be fucked.
- 1:14Speaker 4: When am I going to see you again?
- 1:16Speaker 1: I feel like, isn't it just beyond, I think. From
- 1:19Speaker 1: what you've said, isn't it beyond just the fucking?
- 1:22Speaker 4: I am very into him, but it's just, it feels
- 1:25Speaker 4: weird to not see him all the time.
- 1:28Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 1:28Speaker 4: Cause I'm like so much, like I love, you know,
- 1:30Speaker 4: quality time together and seeing, like, it just feels weird
- 1:33Speaker 4: that I don't get to see him. And then I
- 1:34Speaker 4: feel like I'm filling that void with like other people.
- 1:38Speaker 4: Not that I'm being sexually with anyone else, sexual with
- 1:40Speaker 4: anyone else. But like, I mean, I spent the whole
- 1:43Speaker 4: weekend with Austin.
- 1:44Speaker 2: You know?
- 1:44Speaker 1: I know. I saw your stories. You guys look like
- 1:46Speaker 1: you have a lot of fun together.
- 1:48Speaker 2: Oh my God, we have so much fun together.
- 1:50Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 1:51Speaker 2: Up until 6.30 a.m. on Saturday.
- 1:54Speaker 4: I'm like, we went to go get tattoos together and
- 1:57Speaker 4: the only reason we didn't get it is because his
- 1:59Speaker 4: license was expired. And I was like, honestly, it's probably
- 2:03Speaker 4: good that your license was expired.
- 2:05Speaker 1: Wait, I love this, that that's the reason why you
- 2:08Speaker 1: couldn't get it done. I know.
- 2:09Speaker 4: Well, we have this thing where we say like banana bread.
- 2:14Speaker 1: What does that mean?
- 2:15Speaker 4: It means like, there's a video from a long time
- 2:18Speaker 4: ago and this kid like loves banana bread and he's like,
- 2:22Speaker 4: hell yeah.
- 2:22Speaker 2: Banana bread at work, dude. Hell yeah. So anytime anything happens,
- 2:27Speaker 2: it's like really good.
- 2:28Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 2:29Speaker 2: And Austin will look at each other and be like,
- 2:31Speaker 2: banana bread.
- 2:33Speaker 1: You guys are cute together.
- 2:35Speaker 2: So I was getting a banana and he was getting
- 2:37Speaker 2: a loaf of bread.
- 2:38Speaker 1: That's really fucking cute. I still want you guys to
- 2:41Speaker 1: do that. You should do it on camera.
- 2:43Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 2:44Speaker 4: Well, I think we're going to Austin, Texas next weekend together.
- 2:47Speaker 4: And I think we're going.
- 2:48Speaker 2: To get it there.
- 2:49Speaker 1: I think you should. My update for everybody is because
- 2:53Speaker 1: I am obviously a sexually active person. And then I
- 2:57Speaker 1: was naughty and had sex a few times without a condom.
- 3:02Speaker 1: Never again, by the way. I went and got tested.
- 3:06Speaker 1: Blood draw and culture all up in there. Everything has
- 3:10Speaker 1: come back clean as a whistle. And now I'm about
- 3:13Speaker 1: to put in some work.
- 3:15Speaker 2: Hell yeah.
- 3:16Speaker 1: Especially after this podcast. I love a clean slate. We're
- 3:19Speaker 1: starting from scratch. I'm basically a fucking virgin.
- 3:22Speaker 2: We are virgins. We have never had sex before. We
- 3:25Speaker 2: are clean and we are ready to go.
- 3:26Speaker 1: I am your virgin Mary. I am hyped though, because
- 3:30Speaker 1: not only am I clean, we have such an epic
- 3:34Speaker 1: guest today. Her name is Danny Gray. She is a
- 3:37Speaker 1: former adult film star. She would go by AJ Applegate
- 3:41Speaker 1: back in the day. She spent years as one of
- 3:44Speaker 1: the biggest names in porn. She is now a model, actress,
- 3:48Speaker 1: content creator, and a mom of two. She's helping women
- 3:51Speaker 1: release sexual shame and reclaim their sensuality. She is going
- 3:54Speaker 1: to talk about her life in the industry. I also
- 3:58Speaker 1: want to ask some tips about, you know, blowies and
- 4:00Speaker 1: things like that because I'm about to be opening street again.
- 4:04Speaker 1: Let's bring her in, Dani Gray. When I opened my
- 4:08Speaker 1: DMs and I read your message, I died. obviously I
- 4:13Speaker 1: immediately responded when I read it, sent you over to
- 4:17Speaker 1: our production team. And I was like, I have to
- 4:19Speaker 1: have her on the podcast because your message was just
- 4:23Speaker 1: so flawless. Welcome to Sex Unlocked.
- 4:26Speaker 3: Oh my God. Thank you.
- 4:28Speaker 2: How did you come across our podcast?
- 4:31Speaker 3: So funny.
- 4:31Speaker 5: I just watched the whole seasons of Vanderpump Rules.
- 4:35Speaker 4: Okay.
- 4:37Speaker 3: And I like fell in love with your energy and
- 4:39Speaker 3: your personality. So I started following you on Instagram. And
- 4:43Speaker 3: then I saw that you had this podcast and I
- 4:45Speaker 3: was like, are you kidding me? Of course she would.
- 4:46Speaker 3: You're awesome. And then when I started listening to it,
- 4:51Speaker 3: I was like, oh my God, no. Because the stuff
- 4:53Speaker 3: that you guys were talking about, I was like, I
- 4:54Speaker 3: have so many answers for you. I was like, I
- 4:58Speaker 3: have to reach out to her. I did not think
- 5:01Speaker 3: you were going to answer me. I wasn't sure. I
- 5:03Speaker 3: was like, whatever.
- 5:04Speaker 5: I'm just going to take the chance and throw it
- 5:06Speaker 5: out there.
- 5:06Speaker 1: Well, I'm so happy that you did. Okay, first I
- 5:10Speaker 1: want to know, how did you get into like the
- 5:13Speaker 1: adult entertainment industry?
- 5:15Speaker 3: Well, before that I was dancing.
- 5:17Speaker 2: What kind of dancing?
- 5:19Speaker 3: Stripping. Oh.
- 5:21Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 5:21Speaker 3: Exotic dancing.
- 5:24Speaker 1: Exotic dancing.
- 5:25Speaker 2: I love a strip club. I fell in love with
- 5:27Speaker 2: a strip club once.
- 5:28Speaker 1: You did with a woman?
- 5:29Speaker 2: Oh my God, yes. I was like, I'm going to
- 5:31Speaker 2: take you home. You're going to be mine forever.
- 5:35Speaker 1: And you'd have nothing but peace your whole life.
- 5:37Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 5:38Speaker 1: Okay, so you were dancing and you had connections.
- 5:41Speaker 3: This guy I knew who was kind of like running
- 5:43Speaker 3: this agency for modeling, but for like penthouse, like things
- 5:49Speaker 3: like that. It wasn't adult film. It was just magazines.
- 5:52Speaker 3: He was like, well, if you do want to do it,
- 5:53Speaker 3: I do know some companies.
- 5:55Speaker 1: When you say like adult entertainment industry, what does that
- 5:58Speaker 1: exactly entail?
- 6:00Speaker 3: I like to say it that way because there's like
- 6:03Speaker 3: the professional side of it where you're having like an agent...
- 6:06Speaker 3: and you're getting booked for only professional companies, like it's
- 6:10Speaker 3: handled as like a career and not like, oh, well
- 6:14Speaker 3: now they have like OnlyFans and stuff. But back then
- 6:16Speaker 3: when I started, they didn't have that. If you were
- 6:19Speaker 3: a porn star, then you were like in movies, like
- 6:22Speaker 3: in the public eye, like you weren't just like had
- 6:25Speaker 3: a website or.
- 6:26Speaker 1: It wasn't like free videos on Pornhub that I'm consuming. Yeah.
- 6:29Speaker 2: I mean, you can't even go on Pornhub now.
- 6:32Speaker 1: What?
- 6:33Speaker 2: I tried the other night. Like it's like blocked in
- 6:37Speaker 2: South Carolina or something.
- 6:38Speaker 3: Yeah. In Florida too.
- 6:40Speaker 1: You can't, Pornhub doesn't exist in where you live, Sally.
- 6:44Speaker 2: No, it does. It did.
- 6:46Speaker 4: And I guess something happened because I tried to go
- 6:48Speaker 4: on the other night and like, it was like asking
- 6:49Speaker 4: me for my ID information.
- 6:51Speaker 2: And I was like, well, I'm not doing that.
- 6:53Speaker 4: So then my guy friend was like, you just don't come.
- 6:57Speaker 1: So then Danny, would you consider yourself a porn star?
- 7:00Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I was in the top. I was
- 7:02Speaker 3: always nominated for like performer of the year. pretty much
- 7:05Speaker 3: every year that I was in.
- 7:06Speaker 1: That's pretty incredible.
- 7:08Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean, I loved the industry in my perception.
- 7:12Speaker 3: I thought it was great and it was empowering. I mean,
- 7:15Speaker 3: I know everybody's had that experience, but that was my experience.
- 7:27Speaker 1: Why do you feel that your experience fell more into
- 7:31Speaker 1: it being empowering and would you say? Like, do you
- 7:34Speaker 1: feel that it was about the people that you were
- 7:36Speaker 1: surrounded by or what made you feel that?
- 7:39Speaker 3: You want to have like a good support system. My
- 7:43Speaker 3: boyfriend also at the time was also a performer.
- 7:46Speaker 2: So I.
- 7:48Speaker 3: Had his like utmost support, obviously. I mean, we're both
- 7:50Speaker 3: doing the same thing. You know, my family knew they
- 7:55Speaker 3: were supportive. I feel like if you have a good
- 7:58Speaker 3: head on your shoulders and you go into it, like, okay,
- 8:01Speaker 3: this is going to be my career because I'm going
- 8:03Speaker 3: to be on the internet forever, pretty much. You have
- 8:08Speaker 3: to treat it as a career and be serious about
- 8:11Speaker 3: it so that you can eventually transition and do other things.
- 8:15Speaker 1: Right.
- 8:16Speaker 2: So you and your boyfriend wouldn't get jealous?
- 8:19Speaker 3: No.
- 8:20Speaker 2: Oh, I would be like....
- 8:24Speaker 3: In the beginning, I was a little bit. He was
- 8:27Speaker 3: like the most wonderful man I ever met in my life.
- 8:31Speaker 3: Because he would make me feel like so loved and
- 8:35Speaker 3: like wanted that I like eventually just realized who he was.
- 8:38Speaker 3: And I was like, I don't need to be jealous
- 8:40Speaker 3: of this.
- 8:40Speaker 2: It's kind of like acting too. Like, you know, like.
- 8:42Speaker 3: It is.
- 8:43Speaker 5: And that's the thing.
- 8:44Speaker 3: Like people don't realize how much acting there is in it. Yeah.
- 8:48Speaker 3: You're being genuine, but you know, there's also sometimes you
- 8:51Speaker 3: can do features, which they give you like a whole script.
- 8:54Speaker 3: It's a whole movie just with the sexy.
- 8:55Speaker 1: I mean, I'm watching Game of Thrones right now and
- 8:57Speaker 1: it feels like I'm watching a porno. I'm totally into it.
- 9:01Speaker 1: But like, so I do understand it. It would be
- 9:04Speaker 1: like acting. And you got into this industry at the
- 9:07Speaker 1: age of 22. And I think that's.
- 9:08Speaker 3: Also why I had a great experience because I didn't
- 9:11Speaker 3: come in at like 18. I already knew how to
- 9:14Speaker 3: like manage my money. I was already very responsible. So
- 9:18Speaker 3: I came in at a different time in my life.
- 9:20Speaker 1: Yeah. I love that you said that your family was
- 9:23Speaker 1: receptive and supportive. What did that conversation look like?
- 9:26Speaker 5: Not in the beginning. It was just, I think the
- 9:29Speaker 5: hardest part was my mom.
- 9:31Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 9:32Speaker 3: I wanted to tell her, but she found out through
- 9:35Speaker 3: my cousin.
- 9:35Speaker 1: Who watched it? Did he see you? The cousin?
- 9:39Speaker 3: She, so I did like this really stupid, like Jerry
- 9:42Speaker 3: Springer episode where they had, they were doing like a
- 9:46Speaker 3: spring break thing. And they had some performers come in
- 9:50Speaker 3: and like do like mud wrestling in this like blow
- 9:54Speaker 3: up pool thing.
- 9:56Speaker 1: I feel like I've seen this episode. Yeah. it's triggering
- 10:01Speaker 1: a memory I feel like I watched this and she.
- 10:04Speaker 5: Saw me and then goes and tells my uncle.
- 10:07Speaker 3: And then my uncle told my mom and I was
- 10:09Speaker 3: like you gotta be kidding me like that's not the
- 10:11Speaker 3: way like I wanted to tell her Yeah.
- 10:15Speaker 1: Your mom was like, have you guys seen Danielle? She
- 10:19Speaker 1: is crushing. I don't quite know what she's doing, but
- 10:21Speaker 1: she's balling out.
- 10:22Speaker 4: Yeah. That's like my sister with this podcast. Even my
- 10:27Speaker 4: sister ratted me out for having a sex podcast. My parents,
- 10:30Speaker 4: not that it's the same, but they didn't take it well.
- 10:33Speaker 1: Here's the thing. I'm a very, very sexual person. And
- 10:37Speaker 1: I grew up in Salt Lake city, Utah, which talking
- 10:40Speaker 1: about anything that related to like The female body was
- 10:44Speaker 1: kind of taboo. A lot of my dearest friends were
- 10:48Speaker 1: working at this strip club called Trails. And I would
- 10:52Speaker 1: tell my mom, I'm going to Trails because my friend
- 10:56Speaker 1: is dancing. And it was just not a big deal
- 10:58Speaker 1: at all.
- 10:59Speaker 2: So.
- 11:01Speaker 1: Even with the sex podcast, I do sometimes wonder, because
- 11:05Speaker 1: I'm like, my mom has been cool about it, but
- 11:07Speaker 1: I wonder what that would look like if I were
- 11:09Speaker 1: in that industry. And I'm, like I said, very open,
- 11:11Speaker 1: but I wonder how I would feel if like Ocean
- 11:14Speaker 1: or Sosa came to me and said, I'm really passionate
- 11:16Speaker 1: about this. Because I've said, I will support you no
- 11:19Speaker 1: matter what you want to do in this world. I
- 11:21Speaker 1: will be the first person to like cheer you on.
- 11:25Speaker 1: But I'm sure that was difficult for your mom to accept.
- 11:27Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 11:27Speaker 3: And I totally understood that at the time. That's why
- 11:31Speaker 3: I wanted to like be the one to tell her
- 11:32Speaker 3: and explain it to her.
- 11:33Speaker 1: Right.
- 11:34Speaker 3: What she was.
- 11:35Speaker 5: Picturing her mind is some crazy shit.
- 11:38Speaker 3: And like, I'm like in a hotel room or something
- 11:41Speaker 3: with some dude that's just filming.
- 11:42Speaker 5: You know what I mean?
- 11:43Speaker 3: Like totally whatever she was thinking was the worst.
- 11:46Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 11:47Speaker 3: I wanted to be the one to be like, no,
- 11:48Speaker 3: this is very professional. There's sound guy, a lighting guy,
- 11:52Speaker 3: a makeup artist, all these people on set. You're, you
- 11:55Speaker 3: have to do like, you have to get tested every
- 11:58Speaker 3: two weeks or you can't shoot.
- 12:00Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 12:02Speaker 5: Also, you have like consent.
- 12:04Speaker 3: On film before you film saying you're not on drugs
- 12:07Speaker 3: and alcohol.
- 12:08Speaker 2: Wow.
- 12:09Speaker 5: Under your own free will, like all this stuff.
- 12:12Speaker 3: And I wanted to tell her and like explain like
- 12:16Speaker 3: I'm very safe and for you to feel, you know,
- 12:22Speaker 3: worried or. And then once she met my boyfriend at
- 12:24Speaker 3: the time, she like fell in love with him. And
- 12:27Speaker 3: then her whole perspective of the industry changed. I like
- 12:30Speaker 3: brought her around one year for Easter and she met
- 12:33Speaker 3: like other directors and like my makeup artists I was
- 12:36Speaker 3: using and some other talent.
- 12:38Speaker 5: And she was like, wow, all these people are so
- 12:40Speaker 5: nice and normal. I'm like, Yeah, we're just normal people.
- 12:44Speaker 1: Well, it goes back to any career choice. It's like
- 12:47Speaker 1: your career is what you do, not who you are.
- 12:50Speaker 1: You're not walking around the streets of Connecticut with your
- 12:54Speaker 1: boobs and vagina hanging out. It's like, this is what
- 12:58Speaker 1: I do, not who I am. And that goes for
- 13:00Speaker 1: any industry that anybody is in. I do have to
- 13:04Speaker 1: know where your name came from because I'm pretty obsessed
- 13:06Speaker 1: with it. AJ Applegate. Well, please tell me how you
- 13:10Speaker 1: came up with this. Yeah.
- 13:12Speaker 3: So I had a different name when I first went
- 13:15Speaker 3: in and it was just like an, like, you know,
- 13:19Speaker 3: I felt like it was Kaylee Evans. It was an ugly,
- 13:22Speaker 3: like unoriginal. Everyone had Kaylee or Evans like in their name.
- 13:26Speaker 1: Was that your dancer name?
- 13:30Speaker 5: No, my dancer name was Dallas.
- 13:33Speaker 1: Yes, bitch. I love it. Dallas. Wow. I'm a, I mean,
- 13:38Speaker 1: you choose great names. Okay. So then it went from
- 13:40Speaker 1: that to Kaylee Evans when you entered Yeah. This new world.
- 13:46Speaker 3: And every time I went on set, everyone was like,
- 13:49Speaker 3: oh my God. And I had bangs at the time.
- 13:51Speaker 3: So my hair was different. They were like, you look
- 13:54Speaker 3: like Christina Applegate from Don't Tell Mom the Babysitter's Dead.
- 13:58Speaker 3: And I was like, oh my God, that's such a
- 14:00Speaker 3: great marketing tool. Like I should change my name and
- 14:04Speaker 3: use Applegate as my last name.
- 14:07Speaker 5: So when people Google her, I also pop up.
- 14:10Speaker 2: Ah, smart.
- 14:11Speaker 3: What I was thinking.
- 14:12Speaker 1: Business minded. Fuck yeah.
- 14:16Speaker 3: And then I just like, I needed something short to
- 14:19Speaker 3: go with that. Cause signing stuff. I knew it was like,
- 14:21Speaker 3: that's such a long ass, you know, last name. Like
- 14:24Speaker 3: I just need something short. And I love like co-ed
- 14:27Speaker 3: names like Ryan, you can use for a girl or
- 14:29Speaker 3: a boy. And that was it.
- 14:33Speaker 1: So when you listen to our podcast, you said that
- 14:34Speaker 1: you could help us out with some things we have,
- 14:37Speaker 1: we have told people. We are not sex experts in
- 14:41Speaker 1: any sense of the word. Like we had someone on
- 14:45Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago and she was a high-end escort.
- 14:51Speaker 4: Oh, wow.
- 14:51Speaker 1: And the things she taught us, I was like, oh,
- 14:54Speaker 1: I'm like so vanilla. I'm out here thinking I'm like
- 14:57Speaker 1: a kinky motherfucker. I'm totally not. Like I would love
- 15:00Speaker 1: to know how to give the best blow job of
- 15:03Speaker 1: someone's life. Can you help me or am I going
- 15:08Speaker 1: too far?
- 15:10Speaker 3: No, I can definitely help. Like all my friends always
- 15:12Speaker 3: ask me this stuff too. Like when they're trying to spice,
- 15:16Speaker 3: you know, things up in the bedroom with their man,
- 15:17Speaker 3: they're like, how can I do this better?
- 15:20Speaker 5: Like they kind of just feel insecure around it.
- 15:23Speaker 3: But I feel like every, like a woman's intuition is
- 15:26Speaker 3: like the most powerful thing you could rely on and
- 15:30Speaker 3: just kind of listening or, you know, connecting to the
- 15:34Speaker 3: man and like feeling how he's like reacting to certain things.
- 15:38Speaker 5: I mean, If you just stay really connected.
- 15:41Speaker 2: Okay.
- 15:42Speaker 3: So with that flow, like you're not going to, you know,
- 15:46Speaker 3: go wrong with that.
- 15:48Speaker 1: How do you feel? There are times where a dude
- 15:51Speaker 1: is like, I want to feel my dick at the
- 15:54Speaker 1: back of your throat. And I'm like, well, you're also
- 15:56Speaker 1: going to feel me throw up on you because I
- 15:59Speaker 1: just don't have the gag reflex that I used to have.
- 16:02Speaker 1: I mean, is there like a way that I should
- 16:05Speaker 1: be doing that so that I don't gag?
- 16:08Speaker 5: No, if you have a gag reflex, like I do too.
- 16:12Speaker 2: Your gag reflex is that bad?
- 16:13Speaker 1: Yeah, I used to be able to scrape my tongue
- 16:17Speaker 1: from like where the dangly thing is and just like
- 16:19Speaker 1: fucking clean that shit. It enters my mouth and I'm like,
- 16:23Speaker 1: it's just a tiny little tool.
- 16:26Speaker 4: I do have those days. Like sometimes I'm like, I
- 16:28Speaker 4: have like gag reflex days, but then there's something where
- 16:31Speaker 4: I'm like, I could shove.
- 16:33Speaker 1: You're like today, I'm a gagger. Today I'm the gagger.
- 16:39Speaker 2: Yes.
- 16:40Speaker 1: You know, Sally just sucked an uncircumcised pee-pee for the
- 16:43Speaker 1: first time.
- 16:43Speaker 2: I was so scared. But it was normal.
- 16:46Speaker 3: I was so scared.
- 16:47Speaker 1: It was normal.
- 16:48Speaker 2: I didn't look. I closed my eyes.
- 16:50Speaker 1: I closed my eyes.
- 16:53Speaker 3: Was it like really, really uncircumcised or was it just
- 16:56Speaker 3: kind of like a little thing?
- 16:58Speaker 4: I didn't look.
- 16:59Speaker 2: Oh.
- 17:00Speaker 1: Are you talking like full anteater or semi-anteater?
- 17:03Speaker 2: Well, I like it. It looked normal once it was
- 17:06Speaker 2: like hard.
- 17:07Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 17:12Speaker 2: But.
- 17:13Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh.
- 17:14Speaker 2: I seem to enjoy it, so....
- 17:18Speaker 1: Yeah, as long as there's enough saliva. Like, who even cares?
- 17:21Speaker 2: It was fine. Right? I have an issue with, like,
- 17:25Speaker 2: talking dirty. That's where I lack confidence in the bedroom.
- 17:30Speaker 1: Yeah, was that hard, Dani? When you would... Like, when
- 17:34Speaker 1: cameras would go on, would you get a little shy?
- 17:37Speaker 1: Or did you feel like you actually... Really? She's like,
- 17:40Speaker 1: not at all.
- 17:41Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 17:42Speaker 3: It was so natural. You were born to do this.
- 17:47Speaker 3: I honestly. It's fun. This is kind of like off track,
- 17:51Speaker 3: but like once I learned about my human design and
- 17:54Speaker 3: like things like that. Yeah. Oh, my God. This explains
- 17:59Speaker 3: so much as to like how my life has gone
- 18:03Speaker 3: and like why I feel just.
- 18:04Speaker 5: So comfortable with sex.
- 18:07Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
- 18:08Speaker 5: Was I nervous a little bit like the first time?
- 18:10Speaker 3: Yeah. But I don't know. It just like once the
- 18:14Speaker 3: camera kind of turned on, I just was able to
- 18:16Speaker 3: kind of like go into like a different character and
- 18:18Speaker 3: just like I was fine. Yeah.
- 18:22Speaker 1: Do you think that most women who are in that
- 18:25Speaker 1: industry have plastic surgery on their vaginas?
- 18:29Speaker 3: I've never really heard of that being a thing.
- 18:33Speaker 1: I love that. There are times where I'm watching porn
- 18:36Speaker 1: and I'm like, this woman has like never slept with anyone.
- 18:39Speaker 1: It's never been wiped. She's never had a baby. Like
- 18:42Speaker 1: it's perfect and gorgeous. And like, what the fuck?
- 18:46Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 18:47Speaker 3: Yeah. No, I can definitely understand that. Cause I mean,
- 18:51Speaker 3: I feel like too, after you have a baby, it doesn't,
- 18:54Speaker 3: it doesn't change it like crazy, but it does change
- 18:56Speaker 3: a little bit.
- 18:57Speaker 1: Or, or it's like a mental thing.
- 19:00Speaker 3: That could be it too.
- 19:01Speaker 5: Cause I know how I feel now. Like after I
- 19:04Speaker 5: have had two kids, I.
- 19:06Speaker 3: Don't think I'd be able to go on camera and
- 19:08Speaker 3: do that now just because I mean, I feel like
- 19:12Speaker 3: it looks a little bit different, but.
- 19:15Speaker 1: I mean, we're shoving turkeys out of our cookies. I mean,
- 19:17Speaker 1: I would, I would think that it would change it
- 19:19Speaker 1: a bit. When did you, when did you make your exit?
- 19:22Speaker 1: When was your final, your final taping, your final moment
- 19:26Speaker 1: in 2019?
- 19:27Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 19:28Speaker 5: The boyfriend that I had actually passed away.
- 19:32Speaker 1: Wait, is this, is this Billy?
- 19:34Speaker 3: Yes. Yeah.
- 19:36Speaker 1: Billy Bailey.
- 19:38Speaker 3: Bill Bailey. Yeah. Yeah. Same was Joe. His real name.
- 19:42Speaker 1: Joe. And were you, and you guys were together?
- 19:45Speaker 3: Yes. And there was like tragic accident after the, that
- 19:50Speaker 3: kind of like changed my whole life. And I was like,
- 19:53Speaker 3: there's no way I can like film right now. But
- 19:55Speaker 3: like I said, I had such a great experience in
- 19:58Speaker 3: the industry. Like I had so many people rally behind me.
- 20:01Speaker 3: They hosted like a get together for me. And they
- 20:05Speaker 3: all like gave me donations so that I didn't have
- 20:08Speaker 3: to work. They were like, yeah. And my agent was
- 20:11Speaker 3: there and he did the same thing and he kind
- 20:14Speaker 3: of planned it with everybody. And I could not believe.
- 20:18Speaker 5: The amount of support from like other girls that I got.
- 20:20Speaker 3: And then like being like, I want to give you
- 20:23Speaker 3: money so you don't have to go back to work
- 20:24Speaker 3: and you can like grieve and like do whatever you.
- 20:27Speaker 5: Need to do to be able to get back.
- 20:33Speaker 3: And after that, a couple months later, I ended up
- 20:37Speaker 3: getting pregnant again.
- 20:39Speaker 5: And then that's when I stopped.
- 20:42Speaker 3: And then I was going to, I think I did
- 20:44Speaker 3: like one comeback scene after I had my child, maybe
- 20:48Speaker 3: like a year later. And it just wasn't the same
- 20:51Speaker 3: for me. But I also think after becoming a mom,
- 20:55Speaker 3: it just kind of like changed, not changed my perspective.
- 20:57Speaker 5: I don't think if you're a mom and you're doing this,
- 21:00Speaker 5: I think that's fine.
- 21:01Speaker 3: There's nothing wrong with that. Just for me, I didn't
- 21:04Speaker 3: want to be performing like once I had kids.
- 21:14Speaker 1: I know you said that your outlook on the industry
- 21:16Speaker 1: hasn't changed. Are there things that you go, that does
- 21:21Speaker 1: make me a little nervous.
- 21:23Speaker 3: Like what if they were to see something of mine? Yeah.
- 21:26Speaker 1: If someone were to bring it up at school or something.
- 21:29Speaker 5: I mean, of course I've thought about this.
- 21:32Speaker 3: Um, I feel like with boys, I don't want to
- 21:34Speaker 3: be like, you know, putting gender association with this, but
- 21:39Speaker 3: I do feel like with boys, it's a little bit
- 21:40Speaker 3: different than if I was to have girls. Um, Obviously,
- 21:45Speaker 3: I don't want them to see that. I'm not ashamed
- 21:47Speaker 3: of it, but I also would not want them to
- 21:50Speaker 3: see that. Once I knew this was what I was
- 21:53Speaker 3: going to do as a career, I did think about, well,
- 21:55Speaker 3: what's going to happen when I have kids later? And
- 21:57Speaker 3: I just always knew that I'm just going to be
- 21:59Speaker 3: completely honest with them. If they ever have any questions
- 22:02Speaker 3: for me, I'm going to tell them the truth. I
- 22:04Speaker 3: feel like if you hide it, it makes it worse.
- 22:07Speaker 3: But if you already teach them about it and they
- 22:10Speaker 3: are aware and they feel comfortable to ask me any questions,
- 22:15Speaker 3: it's not going to be something that's going to like
- 22:17Speaker 3: shock them or I don't know, like affect their life in.
- 22:21Speaker 5: Any negative way.
- 22:22Speaker 3: Right. But I think about, okay, what if once they
- 22:26Speaker 3: get older, their friend was to show them or something.
- 22:29Speaker 3: But honestly, by that time, my stuff is so old.
- 22:32Speaker 3: It's like someone would really have to be just like
- 22:35Speaker 3: doing that purposely. Yeah.
- 22:37Speaker 1: It would have to be very intentional.
- 22:39Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 22:39Speaker 4: One of his friends were like, Hey, check your mom out.
- 22:42Speaker 4: I don't think they're going to go to his other
- 22:45Speaker 4: buddies and be like, Hey, look how high his mom is.
- 22:47Speaker 1: I don't think they're even going to need to see
- 22:49Speaker 1: the videos. They're just going to see you in person
- 22:51Speaker 1: at drop off or something. You'll be like, damn.
- 22:54Speaker 2: Your mom is fire. The hot mom.
- 22:57Speaker 1: Can I ask you, I have lived in LA for
- 22:59Speaker 1: 13 years and it's just like a different environment, right?
- 23:02Speaker 1: Like everyone's doing their own thing. We're kind of in
- 23:05Speaker 1: our own little bubble. We notice a lot of like untraditional, jobs,
- 23:09Speaker 1: family life. When you meet new people or your kids
- 23:16Speaker 1: have playdates, and I'm sure everyone loves to Google, have
- 23:20Speaker 1: you noticed any mom friends or people treat you differently
- 23:24Speaker 1: if they know what you used to do, like what
- 23:26Speaker 1: your career used to be?
- 23:27Speaker 3: I haven't come across that yet with any moms. The
- 23:31Speaker 3: only thing, I mean, really has been like if a
- 23:35Speaker 3: dad recognizes me, they're like their family and he's like
- 23:40Speaker 3: I know you from somewhere I just don't know like
- 23:42Speaker 3: this happened my at my son's graduation from pre-k and
- 23:48Speaker 3: the dad is with his kids and his wife and
- 23:51Speaker 3: he's like talking to me and he's like oh I
- 23:53Speaker 3: just I know you from somewhere I just can't pinpoint
- 23:56Speaker 3: it and me and my mom are just looking at
- 23:57Speaker 3: each other like oh god here we go and because
- 24:02Speaker 3: my mom knows.
- 24:04Speaker 5: And I'm just like, no, I don't know you.
- 24:06Speaker 3: I'm sorry. Maybe you've just seen me walk into the
- 24:08Speaker 3: school before. I don't know. And he's like, no, maybe Vegas.
- 24:12Speaker 2: I'm like, no, I don't know.
- 24:14Speaker 1: I don't know. I love this so much because he's
- 24:19Speaker 1: going to go home and clock it and be like, Oh,
- 24:22Speaker 1: I don't know why this makes me so happy. And
- 24:27Speaker 1: by the way, I hope with all of these questions,
- 24:30Speaker 1: you do not feel judged in any capacity. I'm okay.
- 24:35Speaker 1: open space. I just, I find this whole thing so intriguing.
- 24:39Speaker 1: This whole podcast is taboo talking about like what you
- 24:42Speaker 1: watch when you masturbate, you know, all of these things
- 24:46Speaker 1: that are very natural. And so when I, when I
- 24:48Speaker 1: got your message, that was the other reason why I
- 24:50Speaker 1: wanted to have you on is because you had such
- 24:53Speaker 1: a positive experience. And I think it's looked at in,
- 24:57Speaker 1: in such a different way than through the lens that
- 25:00Speaker 1: you see it. And I'm like, we have to shed
- 25:04Speaker 1: light on this in some capacity. And I think about
- 25:09Speaker 1: it all the time, even with Vanderpump rules, people will
- 25:11Speaker 1: ask me, aren't you going to be so embarrassed when
- 25:14Speaker 1: your children see you like taking your top off under
- 25:16Speaker 1: a waterfall or how you speak to people? And I'm like, no,
- 25:21Speaker 1: not really. Like, do I hope that in Europe, like,
- 25:25Speaker 1: what do they mean? People, people are very comfortable thinking
- 25:30Speaker 1: inside of a box and anything that they can't understand
- 25:33Speaker 1: or relate to. They have no space for a conversation.
- 25:37Speaker 1: And that's exactly why we do this podcast. The other
- 25:42Speaker 1: podcast is to like open that conversation to hear people
- 25:46Speaker 1: like you speak who have been, you know, boots on
- 25:49Speaker 1: the ground in this industry. I have a question. I
- 25:52Speaker 1: went to Chatsworth, Chatsworth, California. It's in Los Angeles.
- 25:57Speaker 2: Okay. The porn capital.
- 26:00Speaker 1: You guys, I had no idea. Danny, you're going to die.
- 26:05Speaker 1: We're filming upfronts for Bravo. They're called upfront. So it's basically,
- 26:12Speaker 1: and it was for NBCU and Bravo where you bring
- 26:16Speaker 1: in cast members to show like what our network holds.
- 26:21Speaker 1: And that's where people come in and buy advertising space. Oh, okay.
- 26:26Speaker 1: So yeah, we're filming and I go into this house
- 26:29Speaker 1: and I'm like, this house is fucking awesome. It's like
- 26:33Speaker 1: colorful and cool. And then I see like this big, uh,
- 26:39Speaker 1: like shrub in the shape of a giant wiener. I
- 26:44Speaker 1: go into one of the bedrooms and there's like dicks everywhere.
- 26:50Speaker 1: It was like a house where a lot of, of,
- 26:54Speaker 1: porn content was shot and then i learned chatsworth is
- 26:57Speaker 1: like the porn capital of the united states uh-huh oh.
- 27:01Speaker 3: My god started that's why they.
- 27:04Speaker 1: Call it that that's where like what do you mean
- 27:07Speaker 1: that's where it started.
- 27:08Speaker 3: Like that's where porn filming literally started was in chatsworth
- 27:13Speaker 3: wow i think like nights and stuff like all of
- 27:17Speaker 3: that is based.
- 27:18Speaker 1: Off of 100% with Mark Wahlberg.
- 27:21Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 27:21Speaker 5: I want to say Nina Hartley was in that when
- 27:23Speaker 5: she was young and she's.
- 27:24Speaker 3: Like a gilf now.
- 27:26Speaker 1: Okay.
- 27:27Speaker 4: Love it.
- 27:28Speaker 5: But I mean, she was huge back in the day
- 27:31Speaker 5: and I think she was.
- 27:32Speaker 3: On that movie, but that stuff of that.
- 27:36Speaker 1: Yeah. Boogie nights was like all about the porn industry
- 27:39Speaker 1: and Mark Wahlberg had like a giant dick.
- 27:43Speaker 4: Right.
- 27:43Speaker 1: Yeah. Were there any times where you would be paired
- 27:47Speaker 1: with someone who you're like, oh, I really am. This
- 27:50Speaker 1: is going to take a lot for me to get
- 27:52Speaker 1: into today.
- 27:53Speaker 3: Yeah. With the guys, I feel like I always got
- 27:56Speaker 3: like good top male talent.
- 27:59Speaker 1: Okay.
- 28:00Speaker 3: Obviously, of course, you're not going to be attracted to everyone,
- 28:04Speaker 3: but that's why I feel like the guys are so,
- 28:07Speaker 3: they have the hardest job. Because they can't pretend.
- 28:11Speaker 1: No, they got to get it up.
- 28:12Speaker 3: Yeah, like you can't pretend.
- 28:15Speaker 1: Yeah, like we can use... Yeah, if we don't get
- 28:19Speaker 1: wet from a dude, which by the way is like
- 28:21Speaker 1: for me, someone touches me and I'm like, you don't
- 28:25Speaker 1: want to do that. You don't want to do that.
- 28:28Speaker 1: But I'm like, we can just like lick the hand.
- 28:32Speaker 1: Like the dude has a lot of pressure on him.
- 28:35Speaker 5: Yeah.
- 28:36Speaker 3: I always said if I was a guy, there's no
- 28:38Speaker 3: way I'd be able to I would have to take medicine,
- 28:41Speaker 3: I think.
- 28:42Speaker 1: Medicine?
- 28:43Speaker 3: Yeah, some of the guys have to take like Viagra.
- 28:45Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah.
- 28:47Speaker 3: But I mean, I don't blame them for having to
- 28:49Speaker 3: do that. I mean, it's healthy taking that all the time, but.
- 28:55Speaker 1: You do what you got to do though.
- 28:56Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean.
- 28:57Speaker 1: I'll tell you something really funny that I just discovered.
- 29:01Speaker 1: So the blue pill for men is to get them hard.
- 29:04Speaker 1: And the only two blue pills I've come in contact
- 29:06Speaker 1: with as a woman are beta blockers and Unisom, which
- 29:10Speaker 1: is like a sleeping aid. So I'm like blue pills
- 29:13Speaker 1: for men, get them up and rock solid and blue
- 29:17Speaker 1: pills for women make us numb out and go to bed.
- 29:20Speaker 2: I love it.
- 29:28Speaker 1: I have to ask you before I let you go.
- 29:30Speaker 1: What is it like dating out in these streets with
- 29:34Speaker 1: these men?
- 29:35Speaker 3: My second child's father, we separated, but we're still like.
- 29:40Speaker 5: I've been only with him since I left the industry.
- 29:44Speaker 1: Wow. And what does he do?
- 29:47Speaker 3: He has his own construction company.
- 29:49Speaker 1: When you guys were getting to know each other, he
- 29:51Speaker 1: obviously did not mind. And you haven't really had any
- 29:55Speaker 1: experiences dating, but like.
- 29:56Speaker 3: So I met him on hinge.
- 29:58Speaker 1: Oh, I love a good hinge moment.
- 30:00Speaker 5: I mean, this was back.
- 30:04Speaker 3: In 2019. So I feel like hinge, I haven't been
- 30:06Speaker 3: on a dating app in a long time, but I
- 30:08Speaker 3: feel like the dating apps are really hard.
- 30:10Speaker 1: You know what though? My friends are having a lot
- 30:12Speaker 1: of luck on hinge. So I don't know if it's
- 30:14Speaker 1: having like a comeback moment, but a lot of my
- 30:17Speaker 1: friends are like hinges where it's at. So it's been
- 30:19Speaker 1: popping since 2019.
- 30:20Speaker 2: My roommates having a great time on hand.
- 30:23Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 30:24Speaker 3: Proud of her he said he was okay with it
- 30:26Speaker 3: in the beginning but we went through a lot of
- 30:28Speaker 3: ups and downs with it where i.
- 30:33Speaker 5: Just always felt like when we get an argument he
- 30:35Speaker 5: would like.
- 30:35Speaker 3: Throw it back in my face yeah like things like that.
- 30:38Speaker 4: Um but also it's annoying when someone says like i'm
- 30:42Speaker 4: totally fine with it and then throw it in your
- 30:44Speaker 4: face once you get closer to them yeah because i
- 30:48Speaker 4: i mean i have that happen to me all the
- 30:49Speaker 4: time with even just being on southern charm on reality
- 30:52Speaker 4: tv The guys are like, yeah, I'm totally fine with that.
- 30:55Speaker 4: And then, you know, a few months go by and
- 30:59Speaker 4: they use it against me. And they're like, you're drama. You're,
- 31:02Speaker 4: you know, toxic. You're on reality TV. I don't want
- 31:05Speaker 4: to date someone on reality TV. I'm like, you knew
- 31:07Speaker 4: who I was because I was up front with you.
- 31:09Speaker 3: Totally.
- 31:10Speaker 2: I hate when guys do that.
- 31:12Speaker 1: That triggered.
- 31:12Speaker 3: Yeah, that was just a, that was a really rough
- 31:14Speaker 3: time in my life trying to find myself again while,
- 31:20Speaker 3: you know, transitioning and trying to figure out okay what
- 31:24Speaker 3: do I want to do while still trying to make
- 31:27Speaker 3: him happy in a way that he's going to be
- 31:28Speaker 3: like proud of me instead of trying to throw stuff
- 31:32Speaker 3: in my.
- 31:32Speaker 1: Face right would you ever go back into the industry.
- 31:38Speaker 3: No I don't think so I like I've come such
- 31:43Speaker 3: a long way to do like mainstream modeling and acting
- 31:46Speaker 3: and like what I want to do now with helping
- 31:49Speaker 3: other women Yeah. That I don't want to go backwards.
- 31:53Speaker 3: You know?
- 31:54Speaker 1: Yeah. It was a chapter in your life that's now
- 31:57Speaker 1: over enclosed.
- 31:58Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 31:58Speaker 1: I totally relate to that. I'm so happy that we
- 32:01Speaker 1: had you on. You're so beautiful, by the way.
- 32:04Speaker 3: Aw, thank you. You guys are.
- 32:07Speaker 1: Let's not get carried away. You are absolutely stunning. I'm
- 32:10Speaker 1: so thrilled that you slid into my DMs. Thank you so,
- 32:13Speaker 1: so much. And I'm wishing you all of the happiness
- 32:17Speaker 1: on the planet. Am I allowed to... To watch your videos.
- 32:23Speaker 1: I got some new toys. We did an episode last
- 32:28Speaker 1: week about toys and I'm like, we may need to venture,
- 32:32Speaker 1: but I'll ask for permission.
- 32:34Speaker 3: What's your favorite toy?
- 32:37Speaker 1: We just got this. I say we, because we reviewed
- 32:40Speaker 1: it on the podcast, but it's a rose. Have you
- 32:43Speaker 1: heard of the rose? It's got like the vibrating sucker
- 32:46Speaker 1: in the middle for the clit.
- 32:48Speaker 3: Like a mouth?
- 32:50Speaker 1: Like a mouth.
- 32:51Speaker 5: Yeah, is it like the one that's like a mouth
- 32:53Speaker 5: in the middle?
- 32:54Speaker 1: No, but I've seen that one and I want it
- 32:56Speaker 1: so bad. No, this is just like, you just got it?
- 32:59Speaker 3: Yeah, it's amazing.
- 33:03Speaker 1: Send me, DM me the link, will you? I want
- 33:08Speaker 1: the exact one. The rose is just like this little
- 33:11Speaker 1: vibrator and like the top looks like a rose, but
- 33:13Speaker 1: it has a hole in the middle that like vibrates
- 33:15Speaker 1: and sections the clit. But then this one has like
- 33:18Speaker 1: a cord that attaches to like, a little mini insert.
- 33:22Speaker 1: I won't even call it a dildo. So you get,
- 33:25Speaker 1: that's what I'll be doing while my kids at her
- 33:27Speaker 1: dad's just, just in case anyone was wondering where I'm
- 33:30Speaker 1: going to be. It'll be me that and AJ Applegate.
- 33:38Speaker 1: You're amazing. Thank you, my love.
- 33:40Speaker 2: Yes. Thank you.
- 33:42Speaker 1: I absolutely dig her. She is banging AF. I love that.
- 33:46Speaker 1: She is de-stigmatizing the industry and, And I want to
- 33:51Speaker 1: thank you guys for listening to another episode of Sex Unlocked.
- 33:54Speaker 1: We are going to catch you next week. Love y'all. Bye.
- 33:57Speaker 3: Bye.