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Episode #181: Choosing the Path of Happiness: Recognizing the Power of Positivity · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Hi, everybody, Welcome to tea time with Amy and Bev. Good day,
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Good day. How's it going? WHOA, I'm feeling a little I
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don't know, a little wonky. Not I don't know, uh, solar
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eclipse yesterday, new moon energy, and I went to a sound bath last
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night. So I'm just like, not good, not bad, not I
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just I don't know. Maybe the the the tones of course veects your energy,
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right, So just feeling different, I guess I would say that's actually
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interesting. Feeling different is I would say is probably very accurate for just life
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in general, especially as we're going through all these changes and we're not We're
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not in the same familiar path anymore. It's like it's it's all different,
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it's all kind of flowing. It's it's nice to be in that space of
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not having any expectations. I'm still on the focus of just being happy because
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everything else doesn't matter. Everything else really doesn't matter. If we're not happy,
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then we're not appreciating things. If we're not happy and we have win
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a billion dollars, we're still not going to be happy. We're still dragging
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ourselves along with it. So that's kind of a conversation I've been having with
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a lot of clients and stuff, because even though I've had money come into
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my life, the money comes in, it flows out, It flows in,
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it flows out. That's the way it is. But how are you
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feeling when all that happens? And it's and it's recognizing what's showing up around
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you indicating where you're at. So, I mean, we've got we're on
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this path and it's and it's sometimes unfamiliar, and we sometimes will gravitate back
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to the old familiar stuff, the old patterns because it's familiar to us.
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Again, that's all. It's not because it benefits it's greatly or anything.
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And it does benefit is because we recognize, hey, we're back where you
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know, this doesn't feel good and how long are we going to stay there?
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So it's just interesting because I really my focus has been being happy.
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I want to be in a space of happiness and joy, and there's no
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reason that I can't be regardless of what's going on in our experiences in our
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life. There's no way, there's no reason that we can't experience that.
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It's you know, looking at things and seeing a bigger picture and wondering how
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it's happening for us, and just kind of asking questions and it's kind of
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the journey right now. It's it's not complicated, it's not it's not that
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I have to go ooh, I'm filing this way and go search out why
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I'm filing this way, because that's what I was doing for me. It's
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just the focus right back to happiness again. Because it's one or the other.
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It's lover, it's fear, right, it's it's happiness, or it's
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or it's not. And that can be on so many different levels, but
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really it's it's that simple. And if we don't know what that looks like
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or what that feels like, we start asking questions. And that's what that's
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what I've been doing. Show me, show me what that feels like,
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show me what that looks like. And I have more experiences of it nice
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I I you know, now I'm out in the public a whole lot more
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hearing those conversations and recognizing do I want to be a part of this or
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not and recognizing how much time, energy and focus is given on an uncomfortable
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situation and how now I gotta tell this person, Now I gotta tell that
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person, and now and now we got to sit in the office and talk
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about it the third time. You know, it's like, now I don't
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I don't have time for this. I got stuff to do. I have
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my own energy to maintain. I just I don't need to sit on this
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conversation again about the same thing, about the same person that you're not liking.
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Why are we doing this? Right? But even you know people that
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just come in having conversations, and it's like, it's great awareness for me.
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And and as I've said before, I utilize listening or observing other people's
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conversations or their behaviors as a way to work on myself. And there was
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there wash there's some people that I'm around quite often now that repeat themselves in
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one conversation. We'll repeat themselves three or four times, say the exact same
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thing three or four times. Like I didn't hear you the first time.
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I told my boss, I said, listen, I have this awareness about
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these people. And if I do that, please just stop me and say
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you already said that. I mean, that's how how much I am invested
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in working on myself. I want other people to when I ask you,
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will you please do this because we get into that habit of speaking and we
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don't really hear ourselves sometimes because it's such a habit, such a pattern.
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And if I have the awareness of it and I want to change it or
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be sure that I'm not doing that type of behavior or speaking in that way
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to say hey stop stop. You already said that, I don't need to
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hear it again, right, And I am open to that. So I've
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asked for that feedback, and I've asked for her to, you know,
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be aware of how I'm talking and so that I'm my goal is just to
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be and do better, be and do better, and I know that people
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show up in my life to help me do that, and I utilize that
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information. So I'm like, let's do this. But you have to,
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right, You gotta be willing and want that for yourself. And it's being
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aware because sometimes it's not always easy, even though you've been practicing it for
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a long time. When you get out in the public and you're in that
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energy all day long, it's not always easy to maintain that energy, but
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it gets easier and easier. And then, like you said, you're using
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it for your own tool because we can look at it and decipher it and
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be like, well, the reason people repeat themselves because they're looking for a
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response and they're not getting the response from what they had said, so they
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say it another way, thinking that they're going to get this response and it's
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and it keeps them in that little hamster will yeah, to feel important.
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Yeah, And then we get caught cut and caught up in things. And
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that's something else too. I'm even recognizing with myself as one of the things
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I like, watched a lot of videos, so I can share that information
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and it's like, that's those some of that stuff resonates with me, but
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it hasn't been my personal experience, and so I'm finding for my personal experience.
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But it's not even so much my personal experience. It's just being in
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the space of allowing that flow because I don't have all the information, I
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don't have all the answers, and I don't want to have the answers.
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I'm not here to fix anyone. I'm here to grow myself and to expand
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myself. And because by doing that, I recognize other people are doing the
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same thing. By recognizing in my relationship, you know, my relationship,
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I'm gone all day long I'm gone all day long. I'm not going to
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do I'm going to work, and I'm going to the gym, and I'm
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with the grandkids and everything else. And it's like, then my partner is
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the one that's like gets kind of set to be side until I get home
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and then doesn't get that much attention because I'm tired from running around all day
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long. So it's also recognizing there's so many different things, and it's recognizing
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that we don't have to spread ourselves then, but it's asking for that help
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because I don't know how to manage that time. So I'm utilizing it where
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I'm having the opportunity to spend with you know, not spend, but to
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be able to be with all the people that I want to be with in
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my daily activities and enrich the relationship that I have because it's an amazing relationship.
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And as I've been doing that, I haven't been talking to one of
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my kids very much because she's been busy, you know, new mom and
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she has another son and so she's got a new son and she's been devoting
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more time to her relationship and we hadn't talked about it, but it just
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goes to show you the parallels when I start focusing on having more conversations and
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more communication, more holding hands or hugging or whatever. When I'm focused on
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all that stuff and I'm honoring that relationship, she's learning to do that too,
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because I didn't do that with her dad. We both had our parallel
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lives and we were busy all day long, and when we came together at
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night. That's how relationships fall apart because there's a there's not a coming together,
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there's not a sharing of things, and it's like you become roommates.
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You're not even you're not even in a space where you're enjoying each other because
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you don't even have time to enjoy yourself. So it's really taking that time
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to even enjoy self. There's a lot of there's just a lot of different
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things that have come forward for me as far as that experience goes, and
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it's really and it's not like, oh, I just made this decision and
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this is how it's going to be. There's a process. It doesn't just
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happen that way. I have not always been a very touchy feeling kind of
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person. I didn't ever like to snuggle, I didn't like I mean,
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it's like, hey, I'm hot, I'm sweating, get off, you
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know, get up, don't hey, give me some space. You know.
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So I was always kind of like that, but it's because I realized
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I was just overwhelmed by everything. I was overstimulated by everything I was.
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You know, I could use a million different terminologies, but let's take that
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conversation to a different space, because I don't want the conversation I'm having right
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now is actually creating my future and that's not where I want to create from.
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So my relationship is more holding hands. It's the long hugs. It's
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really filling that person's energy, no matter who it is, whether it's Freeman,
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or whether it's one of my clients, or it's my kids or my
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grandkids. It's taking that time to give them that hug and to look them
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in the eyes and tell them that I love them. It's doing all those
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things, and it's it's been one of those missed things that I hadn't really
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paid much attention to. But it's in my focus right now. It's important.
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I'm also realizing, you know, we back to the happy part.
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We're always we've been geared towards being consumers. So we're always wanting whatever we
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get, we're wanting something immediately afterwards, and there's nothing wrong with that because
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that's how we create. Were creators. But no matter what we're creating,
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we create all day long with our thoughts, and like you've learned, it's
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just taking in how do we want to invest our time or how do we
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want to invest in our creations, And it's like are we creating what we
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want? Or are we creating what we don't want? So it's really there's
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just so many things that are going along with that, but also realizing just
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because I want these things. For instance, if I wanted a brand new
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vehicle, if I don't have the brand new vehicle right now, it's not
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because I'm blocking myself from that brand new vehicle. It's not divine time.
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It's not time for that. If I'm wanting something else and the money just
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flows in, I know that, that's like it's it's like a general direction
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of where to go. We just like being happy. It's it's following those
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passions. It's so simple. It's all these little tiny things that kind of
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fit together and makes your life so full and so it blossoms. It grows,
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and then everybody around you has that same possibility, and when how are
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you even talking to him? You don't even have to tell them about I
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didn't tell my kids about that how I was doing things, or even clean
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house. And then my other daughter sending me pictures up cleaning the house.
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So it's like all these things. It's all these parallels that are always happening.
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We think we've got to go out and do all these big, huge
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things, and it's all the little tiny things. It's you showing up to
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your job, and it's you being just standing who you are. You don't
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have to teach anybody anything. You just be who you are. And they
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see, oh my gosh, how she's getting along with everybody. She doesn't
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have a problem with anybody, and she has a different understanding because you're singing
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them at their soul level. You're not going into and seeing them, and
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you might be seeing them at their child level. You know, you might
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see them where maybe they were where they got stuck at. It's like it's
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okay, because we're not going to treat a little kid horribly just because they're
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not doing what we want them to do or they're not behaving the way we
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want them to do. At least we shouldn't be that. There's other possibility.
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So it's like just just being yourself. Be what you want the world
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be, how you want the world to be right, show up, how
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you want everybody else to show up for you. And you're not going to
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show up and everything's gonna be great and you're gonna have some jerk coming and
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blow up in your face. It's not going to be that way. It
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might be a milder version of something like that. But if you are,
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then it's like you said, you go back to yourself. You checking myself?
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Where what was I thinking? Where am I? Where am I at?
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How is this mirroring me? What can I learn from this? How
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is this showing up from you? Or why is this showing up for me?
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Yeah? I had a I had a I'm gonna call it a test
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of the universe. Is what I want to call it? Is uh uh.
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Where I work, we we do fingerprinting and it's digital. And this
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lady came in. I know her from being around her in other spaces,
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and she came in. She's got to do this like every four years,
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and and so we start doing her prints and they're not coming out so well,
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so we've got to redo them. Redoing, like we redid her prints
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a lot. Not gonna lie, and but you know, it's like,
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if you don't get it a good print, it could get rejected and then
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that's going to cause you know, them to have to come back. And
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so we're trying to avoid that the first time. So you know, if
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we gotta do this fifty times, we're gonna do it. So I hope
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you scheduled your afternoon accordingly. So anyway, we start, and first of
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all, immediately she's just complaining about the fact that she has to do it.
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But she's been doing her career for like thirty years, and she knows
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she has to do this every four years given right, or like thirty two
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years she's been doing so it's it's a given she's got to do this.
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So why do we need to complain about that? We already know we gotta
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do it. Right then, so I start doing her prints or anyway,
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I'm not gonna tell all the details, because there were many things for her
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to complain about, or that she chose to complain about. But we started
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doing her prints, and and uh, I'm like oh, we got we
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got to redo it. And then I was like, oh, we go
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to redo it. I mean, this is just going on and on,
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and she's like, oh my gosh, this is a man's just just she's
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just men and nothing nice to say. And then what comes right, So
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then what comes out of her mouth is, well, this happened last time.
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I had to do this ten times. I went here, three times,
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I went there, three times I had to go over here. And
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I'm like thinking, so, you know, there's already going to be an
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extended amount of time to get your prints done. Like she already knew this,
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but she needed something to complain about. And I now, back in
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the day, in my old version of myself, I would have been a
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mess. I would have been shaking. I would have been you know,
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that not good enough story that oh my gosh, I'm not getting this right.
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You know, I would just I would have been Besides, I've probably
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been close to tears. Not kidding you, but I didn't. I cracked
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jokes. I said, well, at least you're getting your money's worth,
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you know. I'm just saying all these things to keep a positive light.
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And when when she left, yeah, of course I took a deep breath
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because that takes a lot of energy to old space like that. And uh
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So after they left, I went into my boss and I'm like, is
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it just me? Or is she negative all the freaking time? And she's
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like no, they her and her husband like never have anything good to say
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ever. And it's just that awareness of like, why coming back to what
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you were saying earlier, because of what I do know. It's like,
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man, can you imagine what her upbringing was and how she learned that and
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being in that kind of energy her in her childhood To have taken that on
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and been like this lady's in her scotti in her sixties, it has to
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be not kidding and to live your entire life in that like that. Now
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I recognize early, I'm not gonna say early, but I recognized in my
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twenties that I had a lot of anger in me and I didn't want to
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live my life till my last breath living in that anger and that shame and
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that guilt and all that stuff. So I wanted something different. And then
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now that I'm on that other side of you know, like you said,
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the happiness, the joy, you know, I'm seeking to be in a
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feel good space more often, and then to be around people like that who
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just it's like, why would you want? Why you want to live like
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that? Why? It's just like why you let's see that. It's kind
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of a it's kind of a reminder that where you're at right now because back
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in the back, maybe even five years, you might have gotten caught up
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in that type of energy, do you know what I mean? And it's
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like now not getting caught up in that energy. But and then once that
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energy is no longer in your space, taking that breath, because it's huge
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just doing that that something so simple, right, but it's not always It's
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it sounds simple, but it's not always simple, especially when you're first learning
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to do all this stuff. So it's easy to be still in that space.
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But it's like, but you're recognizing it's easy to not be in that
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space because you either said why because it doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel
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good. There's nothing good that comes from that. That's not true. The
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good that comes from that is a wanting for something better. Mm hmmm.
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Yeah. And I also recognize too that that the way I handle things is
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being a brighter example for the co workers because the co workers are still stuck
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in the not good enough and trying to prove themselves and taking things personal and
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all that stuff, and I'm just not I'm like not in that space anymore.
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So I can bring this different version of or experience, for example,
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for them to witness and and see how to handle things like that in a
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different way. Yeah, which sometimes, yeah, it is a blessing sometimes
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because I used to do the digital print too, and we used to do
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it because I worked at the I worked at a local jail, so back
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in that time, and sometimes we had to warm up the person's hands because
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if they got cold, they would get you know, cool, they would
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just not they wouldn't they just went print very well. So it's like there's
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there was certain things that we would have to do in order to help get
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prints because we didn't have we you couldn't walk away. You had to stay
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there until we got your prints. That's the way it is. It would
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let you know right then if it rejected it or took it so like you
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had experienced. But it's just interesting to be in that process and then for
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you to be on that side of it doing the same thing and like you
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said, she's been doing this for a long time. It's you know,
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I've talked about leaving a massage so much and everything else, But when I
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start focusing on this happiness part, I don't really care what I'm doing.
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As long as I'm happy, I really don't care. So my massages are
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different. I go into work, I feel different, like there's a whole
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different process that's happening. And I'm saying that because it's it gives people an
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opportunity to recognize it's just like, it's just like when I win the money,
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it's going to be this way, when I get the house, when
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I get that new job, when I leave that job, then I'll be
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happy. And it's not that's that's not an accurate statement because you're never going
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to be happy because you're always going to be leaning or or working towards something
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that's outside of yourself and that that's none of that stuff matters. But if
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I'm in a great space and on myself inside, it is just what it
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is. Honestly, I just find myself being happy. I'll pop in.
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I've actually I'm gonna do a massage all my day off, you know,
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tomorrow morning and I've done done in the last few weeks. I've done them
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here and I haven't really had a whole lot of time off for myself.
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But I'll take my time for myself, for the meditation, for to while
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I'm writing, to channel right, to read, to play my game.
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It's like, all those things are my opportunity to give myself a time for
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myself. And it's however, I'm want to utilize my time. If it
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makes me happy, that's the whole thing. If I'm happy doing it,
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then I'm doing it. That's and that's been such a process. It's been
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such a process that for me, it wasn't like it just happened overnight and
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then all of a sudden, here I am No, it's it's taking me
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time. And it's still still things pop up, still, emotions pop up.
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I mean I had something recently that popped up and I felt like I
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felt like I was being betrayed with their a little moment of it. Felt
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like I was being betrayed because somebody didn't tell me, you know, didn't
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confide in me or tell me everything about something that I thought in a relationship
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that information should be shared. And it's like it got blown out of proportion
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in my mind. My mind created this story, and it's like, hey,
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and this is in the midst of I'm practicing this being happy, and
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I'm like realizing, this isn't making me happy. What's the folks on the
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other side of it? So it's just I just you just got to let
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it go. Honestly, that that's just what I did. It's we've talked
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about in a million times. You can focus on the problem. You're never
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gonna find a solution when you're focused on a problem. And it didn't need
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a solution. All I needed to do was focus on being happy, put
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myself first, and not not put put a problem first, not put a
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perceived problem first. It wasn't even a problem. It wasn't even real,
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it wasn't even a big deal. It's just I find it fascinating because I've
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been that person too, that has been that person that wasn't positive all the
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time. Oh, me too, And yeah, and that's okay, yeah,
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because I was there, and it's like when we when we were when
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we can sit back and look at them and think, wow, they're just
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really they're really in it right now, They're really in that fucking guck right
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now, And what do they need from us? Streams of grace, I'm
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happy, send them joy, send them a prayer, not not a prayer
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like, oh, I hope they figure it out or they get fixed or
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whatever, because there's nothing wrong with them. They're on a journey. It's
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like I say, streams of graces, the these send them love you pray.
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Even if I say I'm praying for their happiness, that kind of insinuates
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they're not happy. And it's not my job to judge whether they're happy or
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not happy. Their perception of happy is different, especially when you're in that
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space. Happy is a different perspective completely compared to what we might perceive as
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happiness versus the next person that could run into this that's happy and jovial and
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just full of life and like almost you know, when you're in that space
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of the person that came in versus the other spaces like, oh, that
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is dramatic. I cannot handle that because they can't handle that. They can't
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handle that high virational frequency from where they're at right now. It's not good
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or bad, but it's certainly a gauge. It lets you know where you're
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at right now. Yeah, And I know, like when I was in
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my anger and all that stuff, when I saw happy people, I was
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interested in how to be that way. I just didn't know how to get
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there. And then I would have to be jealous, Yeah, jealous and
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envious of them because they were so full of life and I didn't have that
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in me. And I was like, I just don't know how to get
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that. Well, you start asking the universe and they provide, right,
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the universe provides, and I found a path. So yeah, I in
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a chakra class I'm teaching right now. The very first class, I started
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talking and I don't even remember what I said, but I laughed and it
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was about like the heaviness, the heavy emotions, and I just laughed.
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I'm like, you will find that I will laugh a lot during this class
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because we're done being in the trauma. We're done being in the drama.
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We got to get lighter. It's time to you know. Yeah, we're
23:48
probably gonna work through some stuff in this class, and we can also laugh,
23:52
we can have a good time. We can be lighthearted because that feels
23:57
better to me then hanging on to all the stuff. So you know,
24:03
even in those classes, it's like letting them know and giving themselves permission because
24:07
I know I needed that. I need somebody else to give me permission to
24:12
be, to laugh, to have fun, to let go of stuff,
24:18
to change my beliefs. And I recognize that for myself, and so I
24:26
will bring that up in my classes. It's like give your self permission to
24:30
fill in the blank, because you're the one that has to do it,
24:34
and you're the one right we're the ones for each of us individually to decide
24:41
what is that path of happiness? And if you're not sure, then look
24:47
at watch other people who seem to be happy in their life and just notice
24:55
how are they speaking, what kind of conversations are they having, what are
25:00
they laughing at? I laugh at myself a lot. I would didn't used
25:04
to do that. I would get angry with myself. I would be mad
25:07
at myself if I did something stupid. But now I just laugh at myself
25:11
because I'm like, aren't we interesting beings that you know we're still doing this,
25:15
or that you know I wasn't in the present moment I put my sunglasses
25:21
in the refrigerator or something crazy. So it's like just laugh giving yourself permission
25:26
to laugh at yourself instead of beating yourself up. So it doesn't feel good
25:30
when we do that. We already know that. And to bring in the
25:33
lightheartedness, because then that changes the signal that we're sending to the body,
25:37
to the cells in our body that's listening to every word and every thought and
25:41
every emotion we have and reacting accordingly, and then our body's going to be
25:52
in a better state when we're in that on that path of joy and happiness.
25:56
So it's like not just putting a smile on your face, it's like
26:02
changes your whole physical self. Such does such a blessing. Yeah, it
26:11
is such a things. It's all of it. And that the people in
26:18
their negative space, who are negative all the time, they have a lot
26:22
of physical problems. I've noticed that I pay attention to stuff like that,
26:26
Oh this hurts, Oh that hurts. Oh, Oh I got this ache,
26:29
I got this paint. I'm like, we need to spend some time
26:33
together, sister, I need to lock you in a room with me.
26:41
But at the same time, you can't. You can't force anybody to do
26:45
anything right. So it's she's probably not gonna do anything different in this lifetime
26:51
and that's okay, but I can learn from it. We can learn from
26:55
it. So yep, until she does or or whatever. Like like I
27:00
said, streams of grace. The more that people are setting streams of grace,
27:03
the more opportunities that person has when they're when they're so deep in stuff
27:10
amazing and just being happy, how much it ripples out. I'm telling you,
27:15
I'm blown I get blown away each time that I do something, and
27:18
then I, you know, I hear the response of people around me.
27:23
It's easy to it's easy. It's easy to fall back into those old patterns
27:30
of the other stuff. But as soon it is, but as soon as
27:33
you recognize, especially when you're going through this growth stuff, you look at
27:37
it and you're like, ooh, you need it to magnize. Yeah,
27:40
you don't. This doesn't feel right, This doesn't feel good. And then
27:44
it's an asking. And even if I don't know what to ask, right,
27:47
it's just saying, like you said a little while ago, I don't
27:48
know, and then it creates an asking. But just saying I don't know
27:52
allows the possibilities for information to flow through to you that raises your frequency,
27:56
that gives you insight, that helps you lift your own energy, not relying
28:02
on somebody else to do it for you. It's almost like when you when
28:07
you like, for us as an example, when we when we know what
28:10
it feels like to be lighter, and then we get caught up in the
28:15
human moments of maybe we are drawn into the drama negativity and we feel it,
28:19
like we feel it really quickly, right, and it's almost like here's
28:25
my human self and I'm trying to come out, like I just pull back
28:29
and it's like I'm trying to get out of that body, like well,
28:32
that's not mean wait, hold on, wait, I don't want to do
28:34
that. That's my spirit. Yeah, And it's even remembering like you've talked
28:45
about with archangel Michael, asking him to surround and to help you maintain your
28:48
own energy, you know, protect you and help your own energy. And
28:52
that's kind of a big deal, especially if someone's labeled themselves empathic or you
28:57
know, any of the labels they put on themselves. When you get into
29:02
those places and you're more sensitive to your surroundings, you recognize things and you
29:07
know things. But it's like not you don't have to stay in those places.
29:10
You don't have to you can observe. You can observe and then learn
29:15
from it, like what are what you're like you're doing You're learning for yourself,
29:18
you're learning how is this showing up for you? And how are you?
29:23
How can you grow through this? And how am I doing this myself?
29:26
And it just it just helps you grow. It helps you stay in
29:33
movement instead of stagnation. Movements so much better. But it's good movement.
29:37
It's not just any movement, it's it's good movements. It feels good movement.
29:42
Yeah. The image I got too as I was talking about that pulling
29:47
out was you know how you pull the reins on a horse to stop,
29:52
right, That's what I was like, whoat hold on? Anyway? Just
30:00
being we're not crossing that bitch, that crossing that beach today? Not today?
30:08
I like it. That's funny. It was one of those little slip
30:14
ups. It's good though. Yeah. So you know, we talked about
30:25
happiness people. It's important because I feel like that definition changes, just like
30:33
the definition. I mean, there's there's joy, but I think I'm gonna
30:37
speak in terms of like levels, there's levels of joy or levels of happiness,
30:41
and you know, you being in an in an angry state. That
30:49
level of happiness could be for me would be just moving from anger to contentment.
30:59
Right, I'm not full out blown full of joy, but I'm not
31:03
in my anger either, So you know, just finding and maybe a neutral
31:08
ground might allow that genuine happiness or joy to come in. And you keep
31:22
redefining what happiness is for you. Happiness back in the day was this When
31:30
for this person was loving me, I was happy. Or when this person
31:33
was giving me attention, I was happy, And we all know that that's
31:36
external. When I had that good job that I was happy, or when
31:40
I had the money. It wasn't necessarily the job, but the money coming
31:42
in and the bills were being paid, then I was happy. Like you
31:45
were talking about earlier, right when that fresh new vehicle sell and dependable form
31:53
of transportation, I was happy. Okay, that's all external. And as
32:00
we grow, as we learned to go within and and tap into our internal
32:07
happiness, then it's like another level of happiness. It's a it's a redefining
32:15
what happiness is. And so you know, we are we were raised to
32:21
focus on the material and give a lot of attention to it and allowing it
32:29
to be our source of happiness or joy and as we get older and notice
32:34
that this is happening for a lot of people, and it's probably been going
32:37
on for you know, with with elderly people for for a while, that
32:44
as we get older, it's like we reach a threshold and it might be
32:47
around I think like forty is a big transformational years, like when people really
32:53
start waking up to their life and wanting to make changes. And I think
32:59
fifty round fifty is a is a is a year where they start redefining what
33:07
their actual joy triggers are and where they want to give their attention. So
33:12
instead of instead of buying gifts for each other, let's let's go on amazing
33:16
vacation together, Let's go spend seven days together creating memories. Or instead of
33:23
you know, just just buying gifts for each other, let's let's spend a
33:30
day playing games and cooking together and laughing. Right, we start redefining what
33:37
really is the joy that's in within us and we want to share that,
33:42
but it's not through a gift of a material gift like you're saying. So
33:49
I've found that a lot in conversations people are just like, yeah, you
33:54
know, I just I just want to spend time with my kids. I
33:57
just want to cook for them. I just want to I just want to
33:59
have out with them, you know, around the holidays and stuff. We
34:01
got the holidays coming, and it's like more and more people are are thinking
34:07
in those terms. That's what I'm finding. And I would say I would
34:13
agree with you as far as that goes, because I'm getting into that space.
34:15
I'm getting into that space where I barely worry makeup. I'm getting into
34:20
that space where when I go in to have my hair done this next time,
34:22
I'm going to go start going more natural. I'm getting into a different
34:25
space because things I don't have the same requirements that I thought that I needed
34:31
before. I guess I don't have those feelings of things, and I'm and
34:36
it's being comfortable within my own skin and not being something else. I have
34:39
breathing plants, and it's at some point and I know if the money shows
34:44
up that I'm gonna get them removed. That's just that's my perspective because I'm
34:47
a different person than the person that got those. I have confidence and it's
34:52
not about my body, it's not about all that stuff. Am I still
34:54
going to go work out and do those things absolutely because that makes me feel
34:59
good. That helps give longevity to my life. But like you're talking about
35:01
with the family and the kids and stuff like that, that's the stuff that's
35:05
most important to me. It is and guess what, We're still beautiful and
35:09
that it doesn't change it. We're just another phase of beautiful. And then
35:13
it's like, how where can we take that to? I don't know,
35:15
do I do? I use the gash all my face. I started doing
35:19
that because I have a couple of them, so I've been using that and
35:21
that that's me time. That's taking time for myself. If I'm doing my
35:24
tone howse, that's taking time for myself and not being in a place of
35:28
frustration if something doesn't go right, but being okay. Like even this morning,
35:31
I make myself tea and I don't have a diffuser or a little port,
35:36
you know, a little tea bag so you can put it aside.
35:37
So I have this little net thing that goes into the little teapot that I
35:43
can steep tea if it's loose leaf tea. Well, this is loose leaf.
35:45
So I didn't want to use that pot because I already put honey in
35:47
the other thing and an already tea bag in there, so I was putting
35:52
adding this into it. So I said, it in there and it steeped
35:53
for whatever ten minutes and it was great. And then I go to pull
35:57
it out and I freaking dump this stuff all in there, like it was
36:00
perfectly in the basket that I jumped it out, and I'm like, I
36:04
just laughed because it's like who cares? Who cares? Because when we get
36:07
into those heavy moments, then for and realize, hey, I'm in a
36:10
heavy moment right now. Feel the emotion if you want to feel the emotion,
36:15
but recognize that I'm not happy. So what's the opposite of that happy?
36:19
I want to be happy. So I just laughed about it. Like
36:21
you said, we're laughing about things. Things aren't so serious. It's not
36:23
about the gifts, and that's where it's about spending the time together. I
36:28
keep saying spending, and I don't like that word because we're not spending anything.
36:31
I'm not. I'm not wasting anything. I'm not spending anything I'm not.
36:36
It's not taking anything from me. It's actually filling me up. So
36:39
I get those opportunities to go hang out with the kids or with the bait
36:44
grand babies and my daughters, gosh, listen to them, and my clients
36:47
and my friends and my family, and it's totally different. But it's gone
36:52
into that space. I had that acupuncture done this past Tuesday, and I'll
36:59
tell you it was pretty incredible having it. She had done some cupping and
37:01
stuff too, and she's licensing Chinese herbs, so, you know, ancient
37:09
stuff to kind of help the body, to help facilitate the body, and
37:14
a couple of things that she recognized was needing to nurture the kidneys and the
37:16
liver for myself. And it's like, that's pretty that's a pretty big,
37:21
a pretty big deal. But that also is honoring the body, and that
37:23
helps facilitate your hair that, you know, not having. I'm not saying
37:28
that I'm not going to have any of the tinsel hair, you know,
37:30
some of those nice shiny grays, but it doesn't and if I do,
37:35
I do, so it doesn't matter. But it's still honoring the body.
37:37
It's being in that space and honoring it no matter what. You know,
37:40
it's moving forward with life and it recognizing God. It was the craziest thing
37:46
that whole evening I was having pain in my paincreous. I've never had pain
37:52
in my pran creous. So it was a shifting of energy the way that
37:54
my body's been holding onto things. So all see here again in two weeks.
37:58
That's just for me right now. This is how hoping to facilitate this
38:01
suit that I'm in right now that I've plugged up with all this energy.
38:05
I mean even people get clogged arteries and stuff like that. So it's like
38:08
when you think about it as far as a machine, it's honoring that machine.
38:13
It's honoring this vessel because this is my church. I get to go
38:15
to church at right now. This is it's within side of this vessel.
38:19
So it's it's my perspective on things has totally changed. I get it from
38:24
the table and I remember I looked at her and I was like, oh,
38:27
my voice is so soft, and I just it was funny to be.
38:31
I had to go sit in the truck because it was just so it
38:35
was just so different. It just felt so good for me. It was
38:39
just the woman and it's and I set myself up before I went, and
38:44
I say, I set myself up. I believe spirit let me know.
38:45
I'm thinking, well, if I get there and she tells, you know,
38:49
because I know that she was, I don't know how you would say
38:52
that. She's her her numbers are a little bit more than mine, maybe
38:55
by twenty maybe ten twenty years. And I get there and she's got this
39:00
beautiful, soft brown hair. And I had told myself before I left,
39:04
man, if she if she's got natural hair, I know this is the
39:07
right place to go to. And I get there and I'm looking at her
39:10
and I said, do you color your hair? Is that natural? She
39:13
said no, it's natural, and I was like, mm hmm. I
39:15
just got my confirmation. But it's not that I set it up. I
39:20
feel like spirit kind of set up for me to have a confirmation when I
39:22
got there that this is the right path. So it's just it's just finding
39:28
that path, and it's whatever it looks like for each individual. It's not
39:30
just one one path. I've even had super experiences from Baki, like super
39:37
experience, especially if you have like when I know, you do classes,
39:39
so if you do a class and you bring someone in that's never had you
39:43
know that to work on, so that everybody gets a practice on this one
39:45
person when that happened to me that uh all, I could barely contain this
39:51
laughter withinside of myself, and I started laughing on the table and I'm like,
39:53
I'm sorry, I just like it's bubbling over. I couldn't control it.
39:58
It was just so giggly. It was I couldn't even pinpoint. But
40:01
I understand now because it was energy. It was that what's the best way
40:06
to raise your frequency? It's what's laughter, That's like one of the best
40:08
ways. And that's what was happening. Nice And I consider these these beautiful
40:16
silver strands of hair are strands of wisdom. To say, now, you
40:29
like, look at all the wisdom I have all these years, all these
40:32
years, I'm drenched in wisdom. That's right. It couldn't contain it in
40:39
my head no more so it's growing outward. And isn't it interesting? Because
40:46
you and I do this quite frequently? Is that the parallels that we have
40:50
is like I went to a soundbath, not telling you right and tell you
40:54
until just now in our conversation you're going, I mean, you told me
40:58
you were going to acupuncture, but you didn't tell me when. And and
41:02
actually I just kind of be honest with you kind of space it. But
41:07
this is the first time I've been to a sound bath in probably four years,
41:14
and so and like you said, you said it too, it's like
41:16
you just you just feel different. Yeah, and that's good. There's some
41:22
kind of Yeah, there's some kind of energy shift going on, and I'm
41:27
just relishing in the difference of how I feel right now and allowing it to
41:34
unfold. So yeah, it's just not trying to grasp onto the old past
41:39
stuff again because oh this is unfamiliar. No, it's like if a baby
41:43
held on, you know, a new child learning how to walk, if
41:45
they held on the whole time and never let go, they would never learn
41:49
how to run. So it's like we're learning to do that too. We're
41:52
letting go of the old stuff. It just doesn't it doesn't feed us.
41:55
It doesn't feed our souls. And when we go, we're we're what are
41:59
we with us? We're taking all these experiences, how how did we love
42:04
and how did we show up for each person? And I know in my
42:07
past I haven't always shown up best for each person, but I wasn't showing
42:10
up best for myself. And I'm not beating myself up for that. And
42:13
I won't. I'm in a place where when it comes up into my mind,
42:16
I tell the person, whether here in the physical or not in the
42:20
physical, I tell them I'm sorry. I'm sorry. That that's all.
42:22
That's what I knew at that time. And now I'm showing up differently and
42:27
not like sorry and like oh and still showing up the same old way.
42:30
No, I'm showing up differently. I'm recognizing honoring relationships, giving time to
42:35
relationships, you know, spending the taking the time for that hug, looking
42:40
at someone in the eyes. It's there's just so much to be said about
42:44
all that stuff, that connection because in the connections are so important. There
42:47
there that's like the most valuable. It gives me goosebumps. Yeah, and
42:52
those are my confirmations, right. I was talking to a guy the other
42:57
day that I swear to God almost the whole mission, I had goose bumps.
43:00
I'm like, this is amazing. I love it when it happens like
43:02
that. But I'm looking for that. But because I when I when I
43:07
don't have it, I miss it. So it's I'm looking for that and
43:09
also recognizing there's a few of my friends that have moved. I mean they're
43:14
like abroad and I miss them, but also recognizing we're still connected. I
43:19
miss seeing, miss having the conversations with them. I miss those kind of
43:22
things. But they're not gone. It's just like people that go into spirit,
43:25
they're not gone. They're still here. And and even though their physical
43:30
body that we acknowledges, the physical body is abroad, there's there's still no
43:36
there's no separation. We're still connected. So I just stop and I just
43:39
think about them and I send them love, and then I can feel this
43:42
love coming right back to me. It's awesome. Yeah, and that just
43:47
can fill up your happiness cup too. Yes, like that right without doing
43:53
anything right. I didn't go buy anything, I didn't have to do anything.
43:58
I just sat and relaxed. It's just like if you sit and say
44:00
that the name Jesus three times, or you say kwan yin or whatever you
44:06
you know, whatever comes into your mind. Snaya because I love Snaia that
44:09
comes through Suzann Geeseman. I love that. I love that energy. I
44:15
listen to so many different channels and it's like there's certain channels that I hear
44:19
their information. It's too, it's too I don't know scientific not that I
44:25
have a problem with science at all, but it's something I'm looking for,
44:29
that feeling, that flow, that that loving nurturing that's all around us to
44:35
flow to us. So like sitting in that space and just feeling that energy,
44:37
feel how that feels. It raises your energy when you think about I
44:43
was talking to one of my soul sisters yesterday and she said, you know,
44:49
I imagined, you know, my guardian angel giving me a hug.
44:52
And it's not only that they're giving me a hug, they got these wings
44:54
that are surrounding you, in supporting you and protecting you, and that you're
44:58
safe and everything's perfect and right. And how she said that she got emotional
45:02
because she could feel like the tears willing up. And it's not a sadness
45:06
that those tears are wilding up. It's it's it's letting you know, this
45:09
is how it feels to be in that space of love, to be in
45:12
that space of joy. And I don't always use the word love, because
45:15
there is such it can be so weighty for some people. People can't tolerate
45:20
that. So it's like even happy might be weighty for somebody else. Though.
45:23
It's like finding what works for you what, like you said, it's
45:27
were these words that had For instance, love had a different definition for me
45:31
when I was younger, and now it's totally different, totally different. It's
45:36
beyond this world love. It's not the love. It's not something you had
45:40
to do something for love or anything like that. It's none of those feelings.
45:44
There's no attachment to it. It's just just being in that feeling of
45:47
it. Yeah, I in that in mentioning that. I saw something on
45:53
Facebook the other day about said something along the lines like, Okay, we're
46:02
in the twenty first century and we're still abusing each other and still at war.
46:09
It's like, you know, it's things got to change, you know,
46:13
And it's and you know, I'm thinking about it. It's like generations
46:17
of how I'm gonna say, I'm gonna say, especially women were abused partially
46:30
in different ways from the male counterpart, but the woman, no matter what,
46:36
has had to stay in the relationship because that's what you did then,
46:39
right, You took care of the kids and you stayed in that relationship,
46:44
and no matter what was going on, you didn't talk about it. And
46:47
it's like we've come all this way and we're in the twenty first century and
46:52
we're still dealing with that. It's like, ladies, gentlemen, people,
47:00
is time to move into that space of the joy and the happiness, love
47:07
and the compassion for one another and get it into a different energy. Change
47:13
that energy, and all of that is raising the collective feminine energy, because
47:19
I mean, I've been saying this for a while. It's like we've been
47:22
in the masculine energy for so long where we're now in a time where we're
47:28
starting. We are not starting. We have been raising the collective feminine energy
47:35
and bringing some harmony and through those avenues of happiness, genuine happiness and that
47:42
happiness coming from within yourself helps shift the energy, the vibrational frequency of the
47:50
of collectively of the population and the planet and just being lighter. It's like
47:58
I want to contribute to on the other side of that though, like if
48:04
there's war still going on, that means that there's still people that can learn
48:07
from war, you know, from that perspective, and it may not be
48:12
at our front door, but it's you know, it's it's outside of ours
48:15
of us, and it's it's it's also recognizing that feminine coming forward to embrace
48:22
the masculine, because by embracing it, that's just like saying our dark side,
48:27
right, it's not too we're the light for that dark, that dark
48:30
within the side of ourselves. If we've got like an attachment on us,
48:34
it's it's not an attachment, really, it's the other side of us that
48:37
we've been kind of trying to push aside and not look at and shaming it
48:42
or you know, it's got to change, and it's like it just we
48:44
just needed to embrace it. So just a different perspective on it because I
48:47
felt I had heard something from someone before and I realized, if it's not
48:52
in our experience, in our direct experience, it's we've learned from it.
48:57
We don't have to continue being in that space. And I feel like there's
49:00
a lot of people that need to learn from that, because there's a lot
49:01
of people out there that still believe in conquering things that you've got to conquer
49:06
your things and it's got to be war and it's got to be that way.
49:08
But on the other side of that, I don't I don't personally feel
49:12
like it has to be that way, and you don't either. I don't
49:14
think because we just like we said, things can change, but the change
49:17
comes from within, and it's us not having that war with anything withinside of
49:22
ourselves, even with the idea of war. It's that we're we're on this
49:27
great journey and everything that we do for ourselves and every growth and every time
49:31
I focus on the happiness, we're raising the collective, we're raising the environment,
49:37
We're changing everything without doing anything. It's we're so subtle. It's that's
49:43
why it's I think that's why a lot of people I would say that we're
49:46
in the dark, would be afraid of people that are in the light because
49:50
the light, it's so subtle. We don't have to do anything, and
49:53
it conquers, it doesn't. It embraces, It fills everything up of love,
49:58
It sinse streams of grace. All well, yeah, makes sense.
50:02
And you think about it as being in the light is peace, and what
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is peace stillness? And what is stillness being with yourself and what's being with
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yourself, loving yourself, embracing yourself, honoring yourself me And that's the vibration
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that I want to contribute to the external. And when you're thinking about war,
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it's a representation of the war within, and that war within is because
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you don't like yourself. You can't be with yourself. You're your not being
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in your own authentic self. You don't love yourself, you don't like yourself.
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Everything's external. You're believing your beliefs are based on other people's words and
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control and power, and so that energy frequency contributes to the space of war.
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And it's like you said, there's still people that need to learn from
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that, Like this lady, I could have been a mess with the whole
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negativity story that she had nothing good to say. That could have balled me
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up. I could have been a mess. I could have cried afterwards.
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It could have just been a disaster, which it would have been years ago
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because of the way I was. But I wasn't allowing her darkness to dim
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my light. I was standing in my light. I was standing and sharing
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that and and bringing it to this space and the and keeping my vibration up
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and maintaining my energy. And it was like I this and that's why I
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said earlier, right a universe the universe was testing me. Is I did
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really really good and I was so proud of myself, and it was just
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you know, you have those opportunities to have those check ins, and it's
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to know that you ain't you ain't taking me down today, you ain't doing
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it. I'm not allowing you to do this. Right, my hubby's leaving
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and h and so it will be people ready and willing to know that something
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has to change when it comes to those areas of war. And really it
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starts within. There's a reason why you're giving into it. There's a reason
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why you're okay with it, and there's a reason why you don't like it,
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and the reason why you don't want to be around it. And so
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just you know, taking that internal inventory of where am I, where am
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I with myself because your external is going to definitely mirror that back to you.
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I never sins. Yeah, expect everything back to you, oh man.
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And you were the light. So if you think about just a conversation
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we were having, you were the light in that and that you were the
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light for that darkness and that she needed that way. So whatever she took
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from it, that's awesome because all you have to do is smile and be
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the light. That's it. That's easy. And most of the time I
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ignored what she was even saying she'd say something I wouldn't even just internally I
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was laughing. I was just like, we're just gonna get through this,
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amy We're gonna be okay, I'm just gonna get do this. But yeah,
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half, at least half of what she said I didn't even respond to,
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not then like a mental like would you shut the fup? You know?
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No, none of that. I was just doing my thing. I
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was just doing I was just in with the fingerprinting that I was just where
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I was, And it was an example of this is how it looks like
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when we're in that space, and how things can feel so heavy, and
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how things repeat, and how she's been in that same space, and she's
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even talking about the previous stuff and how we're creating all the time with our
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words. So it's like really being aware of how we're creating all at all
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moments. It's at all moments. But when you decide to go ahead and
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recycle that information, you can either stay on that merry go round or you
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can just step right off and then walk away from it and be in your
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peace, because it's a choice, it's our personal choice. And then I
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honestly do feel once we become neutral in any situation, whether it's war,
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whether it's relationships, love, hate person whatever. Once we become neutral,
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there's nothing more for us to learn from that, and it falls out of
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our experience. It's no longer needed. So it's it's it's good to that's
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just another gauge to let you know where you're at too, I feel Yeah,
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for sure, good conversation, sister, I love it. I love
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it too. I'm gonna read put my peat myself. I love it,
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I love love love it. Got any vital words for their peeps, be
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aware of what you're speaking. Yeah, even for myself, because it's easy
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to talk about the problems that we've experienced in the past to bring into someone's
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awareness, so they have an idea that you've been through something they've been through,
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and it's like, we don't have to I'm recognizing we don't have to
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do that. It's it's not necessary because then that that's nothing different than dipping
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down into someone's energy. So it's basically holding the light. Be the light.
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Yeah, be the light for yourself. Yes, I hold I could
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be the light for this person who's very negative because I have that light within
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me for myself. Yeah, that yourself. Is takes precedence, and when
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you do it for yourself, it's just easier to do it for other people.
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So it's been years of practice for that for myself, and because I've
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been practicing it for so long now it's just so much easier to do it
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for others. So breathe the light for yourself, practice it and you'll notice
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you don't. It's not even a practice with other people. You just automatically
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do it. So all right, my friends, another wonderful episode that I'm
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just saying I feel as a wonderful episode, and we hope that you get
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something out of it that you can implement. Just take one thing, one
56:40
word, one comment, and just implement for yourself to do and be better
56:47
with yourself and for yourself so that you can show up and be and do
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better in this world. Helping with the collective energy, changing the vibrational frequency
56:59
more towards the happiness and joyful state, helping to raise that collective feminine energy
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and be more loving. It's just so it's just so fun and freeing and
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light. So U with that, thank you so much for your time,
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