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Why Don't Guys Talk to Me at the Gym? · Podcast - Big 98.7

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  Speaker 1: If I could, I would keep this feeling in a
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  Speaker 1: basket job busted out when it was someone's acting hard
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  Speaker 1: and I just.
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  Speaker 2: Really needed to win, you know, Sure, your little victories
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  Speaker 2: with us at seven oh one two, eight oh one,
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  Speaker 2: eight seven.
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  Speaker 3: It's not always the big things in life. Sometimes it's
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  Speaker 3: the little things that keep you pushing, help you wake
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  Speaker 3: up that day, help you be excited about anything. You
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  Speaker 3: have a little victory for us, Let us know it's
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  Speaker 3: seven oh one two, eight zero one nine eight seven, Angie,
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  Speaker 3: what is your little victory today?
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  Speaker 4: I was so nervous about parent teacher conferences for Liam,
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  Speaker 4: the little one, because you just never know what the
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  Speaker 4: teacher is gonna say. And I know that Liam struggles
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  Speaker 4: with math, so I was really worried about what that situation.
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  Speaker 4: Well under that club, buddy, right, And so we had
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  Speaker 4: the meeting yesterday and I asked, very point blank, are
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  Speaker 4: we worried he's not gonna make it to fourth grade
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  Speaker 4: and that he's just a lost cause for math? And
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  Speaker 4: she said, no, absolutely not. It's a confidence thing with Liam,
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  Speaker 4: and it's not.
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  Speaker 1: That he's incapable.
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  Speaker 4: Sure, she didn't think that there needs to be like
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  Speaker 4: extra tutoring anything crazy but there, no, that's fine too.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just didn't know.
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  Speaker 4: But she said that it's more of a confidence thing
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  Speaker 4: with him, and that when he doesn't get something right away,
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  Speaker 4: he gets very frustrated.
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  Speaker 5: It is exactly how I felt.
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  Speaker 1: That is exactly who I am as a person. So
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, he gets that for me. But
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  Speaker 1: she's very.
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  Speaker 4: Confident that if he builds his confidence with math, that
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  Speaker 4: he will do just fine. And then she really she
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  Speaker 4: praised his handwriting. He has excellent handwriting. Yes, yes, And
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  Speaker 4: so it was just overall a very good meeting. We
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  Speaker 4: talked about the strengths and weakness is what we need
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  Speaker 4: to do to get Liam where he needs to be.
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  Speaker 1: But I was so nervous, just because you know, it's
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  Speaker 1: your kid.
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  Speaker 4: You worry about your kid like crazy, and so for
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  Speaker 4: it to not be well, he's the worst and he
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  Speaker 4: behaves like trash and he's never gonna make it.
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  Speaker 1: In this world. It was a big relief.
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  Speaker 4: So shout out to his teacher for all the support,
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  Speaker 4: and I'm very proud of my little Liam.
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  Speaker 5: Hey, there we go.
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  Speaker 3: That's something I would feel Every parent on earth can
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  Speaker 3: have a little bit of anxiety towards especially in the
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  Speaker 3: younger years. Yes, oh god, parent teacher conferences. Wait till
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  Speaker 3: I find out all the things I'm doing wrong and
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  Speaker 3: not doing right at home at all?
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  Speaker 5: How much I screwed this up? Blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 4: At one point I said to her, I really don't
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  Speaker 4: know who allowed me to be a parent.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're almost like apologetic. Yes sorry, miss Johnson. Yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: so well, good for him and good for you. I
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  Speaker 3: think that's awesome. I'm sure there's a lot of other
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  Speaker 3: parents experiencing parent teacher conferences this time of the year.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is just the beginning.
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  Speaker 4: He was the second conference of the entire week of conference.
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  Speaker 5: There we go.
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  Speaker 3: Do you want to know my little victory? In course
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  Speaker 3: I do so sad because it's so little.
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  Speaker 1: No, it's not sad.
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  Speaker 3: Yesterday Corey and I we just ordered pizza. We were
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  Speaker 3: sitting at home and were you ever get home? And
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  Speaker 3: I don't even have kids that take care of but
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  Speaker 3: get home and you're just like, today's not the day,
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  Speaker 3: Like I don't want to spend the thirty five fifty
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  Speaker 3: whatever minutes making this. Corey didn't want to spend the
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  Speaker 3: whatever amount of time to make whatever. And we even
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  Speaker 3: kind of had leftovers, but we sort of just did
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  Speaker 3: the old like kind of look at each other, you know,
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  Speaker 3: you just know, I order pizza today, Yes, she did.
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  Speaker 3: And it was wonderful to just do nothing while we
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  Speaker 3: had someone bring us food relatable. A. Yeah, we've had
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  Speaker 3: so many croc pot meals this past week and it's
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  Speaker 3: that time of the year, you know what, what better
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  Speaker 3: time to And I think she was just kind of
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  Speaker 3: over it. And I didn't want to make anything either,
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  Speaker 3: mostly a because I was being lazy, but be she's
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  Speaker 3: a better cook than me, so.
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  Speaker 4: Let go.
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  Speaker 3: Well, boyfriend might not be a term, a title that
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  Speaker 3: you want to hold anymore. I can't believe this, but apparently,
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  Speaker 3: with especially the younger generation, having a boyfriend might be
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  Speaker 3: considered like cringe. Now, this is not fair. I'm a
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  Speaker 3: bit confused by this. Here is what it said in
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  Speaker 3: this article that was on Vogue. Okay, basically, many women
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  Speaker 3: online are moving away from openly posting about their boyfriends.
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  Speaker 3: They've replaced the hard lunch with subtle hints. You know,
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  Speaker 3: it's like a hand or a dinner photo. Yeah, it's like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: driving in the hand is on the thigh or something
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  Speaker 3: along those lines. After years of boyfriend Land, where supposedly
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  Speaker 3: women's identities centered on their relationships, many now see flaunting
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  Speaker 3: a boyfriend is outdated or embarrassing. Some women hide partners
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  Speaker 3: to avoid seeing seeming boyfriend obsessed. Is having a boyfriend embarrassing?
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  Speaker 3: In twenty twenty five seven oh one two eight zero
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  Speaker 3: one nine eight seven, what about you, Angie?
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  Speaker 4: Is ah?
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  Speaker 5: You well you had your oman, Yes, have a boyfriend.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. I'm in a unique situation.
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  Speaker 4: When it was boyfriend land, that the thing they're referencing
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  Speaker 4: where everyone was posting about their boyfriends all the time,
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  Speaker 4: I was married, and I was in a marriage that
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  Speaker 4: I mean, you rarely saw my husband on social media
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  Speaker 4: because he didn't care, Like he wasn't into it, and
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  Speaker 4: we barely hung out with each other. Obviously we're not
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  Speaker 4: together anymore. That wasn't the relationship. So when all boyfriend
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  Speaker 4: land stuff was happening, I was never posting, and I
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  Speaker 4: was feeling sad, like, ugh, I wish that I were
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  Speaker 4: in a relationship where I felt super like happy to post.
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  Speaker 5: Right right fast.
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  Speaker 4: Forward to now and I'm with someone I mean not new.
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  Speaker 4: We've been together for over a year and we were,
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  Speaker 4: you know, talking before that, but he's my boyfriend because
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  Speaker 4: we're not engaged and we're not married.
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  Speaker 1: But I do the term feels weird to me.
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  Speaker 4: Because at my big age of thirty eight and his
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  Speaker 4: even bigger age he's turning sixty this next month, and
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  Speaker 4: so it does feel weird to call him my boyfriend
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  Speaker 4: because I just feel like we're at a big age
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  Speaker 4: for that. But in terms of posting him and being
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  Speaker 4: all like lovey dovey on social media, I feel like
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  Speaker 4: I waited forever to be with someone where I could finally.
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  Speaker 5: I was so excited up for lost time.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and you remember.
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  Speaker 4: This Gabe, where I was super excited to hard launch
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  Speaker 4: the relationship because.
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  Speaker 1: You know, there are a lot of factors. Again, at my.
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  Speaker 4: Big age, I have a previous relationship. I had two
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  Speaker 4: kids with that man, and so it was a lot
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  Speaker 4: of navigating getting the kids on board, and you know
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  Speaker 4: all that stuff where I was like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 4: when can I just find just be open and free
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  Speaker 4: that Okay, I'm in a.
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  Speaker 1: New relationship now, it's all good.
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  Speaker 4: And so the hard lunch to me was very exciting
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  Speaker 4: when it was National Boyfriend Day and I'd never gotten
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  Speaker 4: to post for that before I posted, and you know what,
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  Speaker 4: maybe that was cringe, Maybe.
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  Speaker 1: That was embarrassing, but I don't care.
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  Speaker 4: I've never Maybe there are people out there having a
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  Speaker 4: boyfriend so embarrassing. I'm not embarrassed. I'm really proud of
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  Speaker 4: my relationship. I definitely don't do the posts where it's
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  Speaker 4: like nine paragraphs about.
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  Speaker 1: How great it is, because I do get that that
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  Speaker 1: can be annoying.
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  Speaker 4: But I'm never gonna see someone post with their boyfriend
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  Speaker 4: and me think, ew if anything, I love love, I
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  Speaker 4: love love, So post your boyfriend all you want.
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  Speaker 5: Kayla, is it embarrassing to have a boyfriend? She said?
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  Speaker 3: I do hear more people just say partner these days,
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  Speaker 3: but no.
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  Speaker 5: It shouldn't.
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  Speaker 3: There shouldn't be anything embarrassing about using boyfriends and Kayla,
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  Speaker 3: this was something that was on the Big or is
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  Speaker 3: on the Big ninety eight point seven Facebook page, and it.
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  Speaker 5: Was kind of interesting to see both sides.
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  Speaker 3: There are times we post things and I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: this is gonna be one sided. I think, yeah, that
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  Speaker 3: is not the case. Ashley said, Yes, before fiance, I
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  Speaker 3: would just regularly say my guy.
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  Speaker 4: Oh I would say my guy too, and partner. It's
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  Speaker 4: because for me it's not posting about him, it's the phrase.
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  Speaker 4: But the term boyfriend I just think sounds bad because
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  Speaker 4: we're so old.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Crystal said, Nope, who needs a piece of paper
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  Speaker 3: declaring love marriage is a contract with a spendy ending.
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  Speaker 3: And I think she's just kind of got a point.
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  Speaker 3: I was never the biggest fan of using the term fiance.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know why, but it just sounded it sounded
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  Speaker 3: so like I don't know if the word is like
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  Speaker 3: posh or it just sounded so fancy to me, and
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  Speaker 3: that's just not who I am. On field, Yeah, I
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  Speaker 3: hated that, and Amy has the perfect answer, is it
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  Speaker 3: embarrassing to have a boyfriend?
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  Speaker 5: In twenty twenty five?
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  Speaker 3: Amy says it depends on the boyfriend, and she is
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  Speaker 3: exactly amen, Honey, this might be something you don't even
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  Speaker 3: want to know the answer to. If you're a parent,
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  Speaker 3: it's six point fifty two right now. How many questions
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  Speaker 3: has your kid asked you already this morning?
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  Speaker 5: Is it ten? Is it twenty?
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  Speaker 3: Well, i'll tell you what. They're close to being on
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  Speaker 3: pace for at least about five right now. Really, I
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  Speaker 3: have found out how many questions the average kid asks
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  Speaker 3: mom and dad A day, What is the number? So
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  Speaker 3: if your kids instantly you know, your kid wakes up
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  Speaker 3: and you start your breakfast, You got your cheerios in
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  Speaker 3: your bowl, You're sitting around the dinner table, having your coffee,
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  Speaker 3: maybe hanging out with Big ninety eight point seven on
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  Speaker 3: the radio in the background, and little Timmy goes, hey, mom, where.
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  Speaker 5: Do dreams go when you wake up?
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  Speaker 3: That might cause you to spit your coffee out, because
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  Speaker 3: that's a great question.
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  Speaker 5: Yes and b how do you answer that?
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  Speaker 1: How do you answer that?
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  Speaker 3: It turns out your kid likely asks you or your
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  Speaker 3: husband or a combo of the two forty six questions
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  Speaker 3: per day you are your child's personal chat GPTs that
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  Speaker 3: seem you are more right and more wrong at the
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  Speaker 3: same time.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that seems low, first of all, but I guess
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  Speaker 4: it is the average.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Nothing makes you feel dumber than your kid asking you
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  Speaker 4: a question, and then you realize, did I.
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  Speaker 1: Never learn anything in my entire life?
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  Speaker 5: Right?
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  Speaker 4: There are so many questions Liam asks me that I
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't I don't know, honey, It's complicated.
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  Speaker 4: I say that a lot. Yeah, what Okay? You're getting
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  Speaker 4: your kids ready for school right now? From here?
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  Speaker 1: Until drop off.
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  Speaker 4: Count how many questions your child asks you and let
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  Speaker 4: us know at seven oh one, two, eight oh one, nine,
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  Speaker 4: eight seven.
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  Speaker 1: This is fascinating to me.
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  Speaker 3: There's one thing I love about when my niece or
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  Speaker 3: nephew's visit.
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  Speaker 5: They're all kind of younger.
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  Speaker 3: They're getting older, but young enough to still where they're
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  Speaker 3: asking questions.
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  Speaker 5: Uncle Gabe.
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  Speaker 3: I love going through the eyes or the brain of
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  Speaker 3: kids and just the abstract thinking that they have because
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  Speaker 3: there's no rules. You know, as you grow, you kind
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  Speaker 3: of learn how the world works, and you learn about gravity,
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  Speaker 3: and you learn about whatever. Kids don't have that their
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  Speaker 3: imagination is so good or so never ending that they
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  Speaker 3: can come up with questions to your brain goes, well,
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  Speaker 3: that's against the law of nature, the law of gravity, whatever. Yeah, kids,
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  Speaker 3: that doesn't exist. And I love when I get to
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  Speaker 3: kind of jump back into being seven when I hang
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  Speaker 3: out with my niece around the holidays.
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  Speaker 4: So, Whimsicle, that's right.
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  Speaker 5: This is am I the problem. It's the problem.
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  Speaker 1: It's me.
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  Speaker 2: We'll hear one side of the story and with your
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  Speaker 2: help decide if it's right or if maybe you're the problem.
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  Speaker 3: I'm hardly the problem.
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  Speaker 5: On Big ninety eight point seven.
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  Speaker 4: Diana wrote into us, and this is not the typical
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  Speaker 4: Am I the problem? It's very short and sweet. I
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  Speaker 4: went to the gym today and not one single guy
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  Speaker 4: stopped and said hello or spoke to me. Guys, if
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  Speaker 4: you're at the gym and you see a middle aged woman,
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  Speaker 4: at least stop and say hello, because this may be
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  Speaker 4: the only social time she gets today.
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  Speaker 1: Am I right? Or am I right?
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  Speaker 5: There's no way. There's no way.
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  Speaker 1: That's what Diana sent in Fellas.
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  Speaker 5: This is a trap.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, when you are at the gym, you keep your
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  Speaker 3: headphones on, hit those bench presses and those curls, with
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  Speaker 3: your eyes straight to the mirror in front of you,
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  Speaker 3: and don't ever let them wander. All right, this is
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  Speaker 3: a trap, Diana. You are the problem, okay, and you
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  Speaker 3: are a problem. I can already feel it.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like Diana might be the only woman in
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  Speaker 4: the history that would prefer that.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, our techs are lighting.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, got topic already here, smokes Aaron Marie.
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  Speaker 4: To each their own. We never know what goes on
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  Speaker 4: at home. Perhaps she's all alone or has stress at home.
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  Speaker 4: I can see her point. A simple hello can change
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  Speaker 4: a person's entire day.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I hate when we get someone with a
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  Speaker 3: voice of resment. Just now I feel like an absolute jerk.
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  Speaker 5: This am I the problem has got people fired up.
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  Speaker 3: In the comments Andrew he said, I'll take things that
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  Speaker 3: didn't happen for five hundred Alex and I think Andrew
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  Speaker 3: might have a little bit of a point.
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  Speaker 1: Diana wrote into us saying that no one.
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  Speaker 4: Said, no guys said hi to her at the gym
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  Speaker 4: today or whatever day she was there, and that she
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  Speaker 4: thinks that guys, if they see a middle aged woman
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  Speaker 4: at the gym, they should say hello, because that might
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  Speaker 4: be the only social interaction time that she has. Some
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  Speaker 4: people are not feeling Diana. The comment section on Facebook,
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  Speaker 4: Jerry said, does Diana say hello to others? If so,
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  Speaker 4: she's getting the engagement that she seeks. If she expects
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  Speaker 4: everyone else to initiate, then she's the problem. And then
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  Speaker 4: Victoria texted in she's fishing for attention.
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  Speaker 1: On top of that, many.
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  Speaker 4: Men avoid women because when they try to be nice
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  Speaker 4: or chivalrous, they get called the creep.
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  Speaker 1: This is the point that I agree with because.
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  Speaker 4: A lot of times if a guy, most of the time,
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  Speaker 4: if a guy comes up to me when I'm at
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  Speaker 4: the gym or anywhere, target or anywhere in life, I
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  Speaker 4: don't want it. And like I'm with someone I'm not
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  Speaker 4: trying to I can't. I don't know off the bat
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  Speaker 4: if you're trying to flair, if you're trying to whatever,
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  Speaker 4: and then it's like eh. And I understand from a
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  Speaker 4: guy's perspective not wanting to deal with that, even if
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  Speaker 4: they're just trying to be nice.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess I don't know how other guys would
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  Speaker 3: feel about this, but I would assume some guys nowadays,
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  Speaker 3: in twenty twenty five, the risk isn't quite worth the reward,
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  Speaker 3: all right.
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  Speaker 5: Being labeled a creep or getting put.
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  Speaker 3: On the internet and in yeah and embarrassed publicly is
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  Speaker 3: not worth the Oh.
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  Speaker 5: I like this lady.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna go try and engage conversation with her or whatever. Now,
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  Speaker 3: whether the gym is the place to do that or not,
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  Speaker 3: that's a whole different story. Erica said, If I am
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  Speaker 3: out anywhere at all, anytime, please don't ever say.
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  Speaker 5: Hi to me. Gosh, so be careful with that one.
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  Speaker 3: At least, be careful if you run out to you
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  Speaker 3: or if you run into Erica. Lynn and Then finally,
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  Speaker 3: Amber said, if you see me at the gym, don't
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  Speaker 3: look at me, think about me, Breathe near me, share
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  Speaker 3: the air with me. Nothing I married my husband has
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  Speaker 3: already annoyed me. Oh my god, did my wife run
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  Speaker 3: right in under a pseudo name?
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  Speaker 1: Here?
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  Speaker 3: You don't want to feel the wrath he already brought
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  Speaker 3: out of me. Trust me, you'll thank me.
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  Speaker 4: I think this is what man assume every woman is
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  Speaker 4: feeling at the gym.
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  Speaker 1: Diana, I'm sorry, but this is a you problem.