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Black Moon Lilith · Astrology for Beginners

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SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, welcome back to the Astrology for Beginners podcast.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Stephanie Kate Boucher, and I am so happy to have you here.
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SPEAKER_00: This is the podcast for you if you have ever wanted to learn how to read a natal
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SPEAKER_00: chart or were kind of interested in astrology and wished that you understood more
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SPEAKER_00: about it but didn't know where to begin or it seemed too complicated and you didn't
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SPEAKER_00: have the time or the resources to invest in learning it.
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SPEAKER_00: My goal is to break things down for you episode by episode in the most simplified
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SPEAKER_00: way that I can so that you can learn to speak the language of the stars.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you for learning astrology with me.
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SPEAKER_00: Hey astrology friends, we are back again for another all new episode.
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SPEAKER_00: And today we are going to talk about one of the lesser known and lesser talked
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SPEAKER_00: about parts of your chart,
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SPEAKER_00: at least for some of you.
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SPEAKER_00: And that is a little thing called Black Moon Lilith.
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SPEAKER_00: I love looking at Black Moon Lilith.
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SPEAKER_00: It isn't really the flashiest part of one's chart,
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SPEAKER_00: but I do think that it is so,
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SPEAKER_00: so interesting because it asks us to think about parts of ourselves that we might
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SPEAKER_00: not always want to look at or that we don't immediately consider when we're
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SPEAKER_00: reflecting on ourselves and the wildest,
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SPEAKER_00: most raw version of ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: And Lilith certainly is the wildest, most raw version of ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, Black Moon Lilith isn't a physical object.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not a planet or an asteroid or any kind of celestial body.
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SPEAKER_00: Black Moon Lilith is a mathematical point in space.
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SPEAKER_00: And remember, I said the same thing about the lunar nodes, right?
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SPEAKER_00: There are some important things in your chart and in astrology that are not
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SPEAKER_00: physical objects,
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SPEAKER_00: but instead are mathematical points that are calculated.
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SPEAKER_00: But more specifically,
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SPEAKER_00: Black Moon Lilith is the point on the moon that is the farthest away from the Earth.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not on the side of the moon that's lit up that we see,
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SPEAKER_00: right,
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SPEAKER_00: that we think of when we think of the moon and the little face,
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SPEAKER_00: right?
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SPEAKER_00: It's what's on the other side of the moon.
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SPEAKER_00: Essentially, it's the dark side of the moon.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's the spot or the point on the dark side of the moon that is farthest away from us.
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SPEAKER_00: And before we go forward, I should probably tell you how to find it in your chart.
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SPEAKER_00: Most online chart calculators pull it up automatically now.
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SPEAKER_00: I know that astro-seek does, and I think that astro.com also does.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you've done this, it's probably there by default.
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SPEAKER_00: But what it looks like in a chart is a little crescent moon on the top,
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SPEAKER_00: with a little cross or a plus sign coming out of the bottom of that crescent moon.
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SPEAKER_00: So the bottom is like the same cross that you'd find at the bottom of the symbol
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SPEAKER_00: for Venus or for Mercury,
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SPEAKER_00: but with a little crescent moon on the top of it instead of a circle.
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SPEAKER_00: And I can put a link in the show notes that will take you to a sample chart where
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SPEAKER_00: I'll have Black Moon Lilith circled in the chart so you can see what it looks like.
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SPEAKER_00: Or you can just Google it if you're not sure.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, Blackburn Lilith, of course, has astrological significance and meaning.
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SPEAKER_00: And your Blackburn Lilith placement in your chart also says something very interesting about you.
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SPEAKER_00: Before we get into that,
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SPEAKER_00: I want to give you a little bit of context,
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SPEAKER_00: though,
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SPEAKER_00: because the context is integral to the astrological interpretation of Lilith.
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SPEAKER_00: And I also think it will just stick in your head better if you know the story behind it.
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SPEAKER_00: Plus, it's just a good story, worth knowing if you haven't heard it before.
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SPEAKER_00: The idea of Lilith goes way, way back.
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SPEAKER_00: Bits of her story can start showing up at least as far back as 500 AD, maybe earlier.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not totally clear on the timeline, but I know it was a very long time ago.
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SPEAKER_00: And
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SPEAKER_00: Her story has evolved over the millennia, as stories tend to do.
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SPEAKER_00: So there have been different iterations of her,
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SPEAKER_00: as told by the Mesopotamians,
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SPEAKER_00: the Sumerians,
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SPEAKER_00: and others,
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SPEAKER_00: I believe.
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SPEAKER_00: But the version of her story that we most commonly hear today is,
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SPEAKER_00: can be traced back to Judaic folklore.
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SPEAKER_00: And according to Judaic folklore, Lilith was Adam's first wife.
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SPEAKER_00: The tale goes that before Adam was partnered with Eve, he was partnered first with Lilith.
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SPEAKER_00: And unlike Eve, who was purportedly created from Adam's rib, his first wife, Lilith, was not.
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SPEAKER_00: Lilith and Adam were both created from the earth,
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SPEAKER_00: from the soil,
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SPEAKER_00: or the dust,
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SPEAKER_00: in the same way,
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SPEAKER_00: and they were created as equals.
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SPEAKER_00: And as such, Lilith did not want to submit to Adam.
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SPEAKER_00: She saw herself as an autonomous being with free will,
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SPEAKER_00: and she didn't want to squelch her spirit and become subservient to her husband.
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SPEAKER_00: She wanted her personal independence.
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SPEAKER_00: She wanted sexual independence.
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SPEAKER_00: That's a big part of the folklore, is that she didn't want to submit to Adam's wishes.
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SPEAKER_00: She wanted to be in control of her own sense of personhood and shape her own life
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SPEAKER_00: according to her own wishes.
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SPEAKER_00: And here's where the story gets a little fuzzier,
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SPEAKER_00: because it can differ slightly depending on the version you're getting.
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SPEAKER_00: Some variations of the story say that she left the Garden of Eden of her own accord
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SPEAKER_00: because she didn't want to be dominated.
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SPEAKER_00: She didn't want to live in this so-called paradise where she had to live this very submissive life.
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SPEAKER_00: It was like a gilded cage situation for her, which she rejected.
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SPEAKER_00: Other versions of the story say that she was banished from the Garden of Eden
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SPEAKER_00: because she wouldn't submit to her husband.
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SPEAKER_00: In either case, off she went.
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SPEAKER_00: She was no longer in the Garden of Eden with Adam,
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SPEAKER_00: and she then becomes this sort of demon-like figure who was seen as rebellious and
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SPEAKER_00: sexually wanton.
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SPEAKER_00: And she goes on to have lots and lots of demon babies.
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SPEAKER_00: She ended up becoming jealous of Adam's second wife,
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SPEAKER_00: Eve,
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SPEAKER_00: because she bore lots of earthly children and she was more willing to behave in the
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SPEAKER_00: ways that Adam wanted,
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SPEAKER_00: having been created from Adam's rib rather than as an equal.
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SPEAKER_00: And she wanted vengeance.
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SPEAKER_00: And it was believed for centuries,
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SPEAKER_00: right up through the Middle Ages at least,
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SPEAKER_00: that she was responsible for babies dying early in infancy through stillbirth,
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SPEAKER_00: through illness,
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SPEAKER_00: or through SIDS,
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SPEAKER_00: or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.
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SPEAKER_00: which of course people had no way of comprehending in those days because they had
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SPEAKER_00: no scientific explanations for the mysteries and tragedies of life.
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SPEAKER_00: So this vengeful, depraved sex siren was as good an explanation as any, it would seem.
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SPEAKER_00: And in fact, this is where we got the word lullaby.
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SPEAKER_00: The word lullaby,
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SPEAKER_00: I have heard,
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SPEAKER_00: comes from the Hebrew phrase lillith abai,
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SPEAKER_00: or I don't know if I'm pronouncing that right,
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SPEAKER_00: but it's something to that effect,
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SPEAKER_00: which translates to lillith begone.
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SPEAKER_00: And so mothers across the land,
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SPEAKER_00: fearful for their child's safety and survival through the night,
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SPEAKER_00: especially around the possibility of crib death,
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SPEAKER_00: would sing songs to their children or around their children before bed that were
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SPEAKER_00: meant to ward Lilith off and prevent her from stealing their baby's souls away in
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SPEAKER_00: the night.
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SPEAKER_00: All of this over a woman who didn't want to submit to her husband.
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SPEAKER_00: So for most of her history,
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SPEAKER_00: Lilith served as a sort of cautionary tale about what could become of a woman who
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SPEAKER_00: didn't accept her role in marriage and in society at large.
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SPEAKER_00: It was a don't let this happen to you kind of tale.
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SPEAKER_00: But in modern times, her story has been viewed through a new lens.
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SPEAKER_00: And this is one where she is a feminist heroine.
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SPEAKER_00: She is someone who knew her own mind and was not willing to accept less than her
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SPEAKER_00: birthright assured her she should have.
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SPEAKER_00: She was going to be fully herself and she was going to control her own life and
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SPEAKER_00: destiny with or without a man by her side and consequences be damned.
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SPEAKER_00: And now in Lilith and Eve,
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SPEAKER_00: we have these two very different archetypes,
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SPEAKER_00: very different mythological figures.
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SPEAKER_00: One of the empowered woman who refused to conform and just do what was expected of her,
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SPEAKER_00: but she was ostracized and demonized and she lost everything because of that.
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SPEAKER_00: And the other archetype of the dutiful wife and mother.
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SPEAKER_00: So what does all of this mean in terms of your natal chart?
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SPEAKER_00: What does Black Moon Lilith and its placement in your chart say about you in light of this story?
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SPEAKER_00: And is it relevant primarily for people who identify as women?
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SPEAKER_00: That's a common question.
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SPEAKER_00: No, it isn't.
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SPEAKER_00: I do want to throw that out there.
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SPEAKER_00: This concept is relevant for everyone.
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SPEAKER_00: regardless of your physical packaging or how you identify.
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SPEAKER_00: Because we all have parts of ourselves that don't quite fit in, right?
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SPEAKER_00: So it's applicable to everyone.
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SPEAKER_00: To put it simply...
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SPEAKER_00: Black Moon Lilith shows us where we felt,
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SPEAKER_00: probably early in our lives,
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SPEAKER_00: like it was very difficult for us to conform to other people's expectations.
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SPEAKER_00: Those could have been our parents' expectations or our family's expectations or the
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SPEAKER_00: community's expectations or the cultural expectations generally.
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SPEAKER_00: But it was where the true essence of ourselves or who we really were at our core just came
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SPEAKER_00: didn't line up with the messaging about what we should be or needed to be in order to avoid rejection.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, for many of us, this may have led to feelings of shame or fear.
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SPEAKER_00: You may have tried to conform as best you could,
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SPEAKER_00: and now there's this hidden or buried part of yourself that is concealed,
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SPEAKER_00: maybe even from yourself,
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SPEAKER_00: but certainly from others.
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SPEAKER_00: But really, your truest self is
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SPEAKER_00: The part of you real deep down in your subconscious would like it to break free,
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SPEAKER_00: would like you to break free of that conformity and rebel.
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SPEAKER_00: Or just be itself.
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SPEAKER_00: I think that's a better way of saying it.
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SPEAKER_00: It wants you to be yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: Or you may have been of a stronger mind or will and you may have refused to conform.
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SPEAKER_00: And this is where you developed a kind of rebellious streak.
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SPEAKER_00: So this could then be an indicator of where you refuse to submit to expectations.
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SPEAKER_00: It could be where you are likely to bristle against authority or resist authority,
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SPEAKER_00: where you're unlikely to give in to expectations.
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SPEAKER_00: It could be where you are likely to go your own way or carve your own path.
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SPEAKER_00: Now,
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SPEAKER_00: because there's typically so much shame involved,
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SPEAKER_00: especially as children,
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SPEAKER_00: but really any time in life when we don't conform,
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SPEAKER_00: and so much fear around being excluded or ostracized or separated from the pack,
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SPEAKER_00: because humans are pack animals,
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SPEAKER_00: we live in communities.
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SPEAKER_00: It creates the need for us to do some shadow work.
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SPEAKER_00: So Black Moon Lilith shows us where we have some shadow work to do.
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SPEAKER_00: It shows us where it is that we need to dig down and unpack anything that may have
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SPEAKER_00: been repressed or that feels ashamed or unlovable and then integrate it,
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SPEAKER_00: own it,
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SPEAKER_00: accept it for whatever it is and make peace with it or make peace with ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: That's really what we're talking about here.
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SPEAKER_00: This is where you are experiencing some version of what Lilith experienced in her
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SPEAKER_00: story and where you have room to heal.
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SPEAKER_00: And in the healing work, in this shadow work, we can find tremendous power.
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SPEAKER_00: We can reclaim our personal power here and become higher and truer versions of
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SPEAKER_00: ourselves and turn this piece of us into an offering to the world.
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SPEAKER_00: So at its best,
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SPEAKER_00: Lilith provides us information about where we can learn to love and accept ourselves,
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SPEAKER_00: even if we don't fit in.
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SPEAKER_00: Until we are willing to do this work, though, it can have some negative impacts on us, like...
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SPEAKER_00: We could be keeping our true selves repressed or losing touch with who and what we
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SPEAKER_00: really are,
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SPEAKER_00: or our decisions are being controlled by shame and fear.
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SPEAKER_00: And then,
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SPEAKER_00: you know,
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SPEAKER_00: we're missing the life that's really for us or not claiming the happiness that's
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SPEAKER_00: meant for us.
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SPEAKER_00: So there's certainly some self-sabotaging that takes place with an unacknowledged,
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SPEAKER_00: unprocessed Lilith placement.
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SPEAKER_00: This can also be the case if instead of being stuck in shame,
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SPEAKER_00: fear,
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SPEAKER_00: or repression,
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SPEAKER_00: you have kind of gone the other way and have such a strong rebellious streak in
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SPEAKER_00: this area that you bend your behavior specifically to meet that rebelliousness.
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SPEAKER_00: And that could also be preventing you from having the life you want.
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SPEAKER_00: This can be covert or obvious,
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SPEAKER_00: like,
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SPEAKER_00: say,
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SPEAKER_00: you pick fights with authority,
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SPEAKER_00: or maybe you tend to get into arguments with authority figures very easily,
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SPEAKER_00: or you have a pattern of fighting with your bosses or something,
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SPEAKER_00: and it leads to you getting fired or to not getting the promotion you want or to
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SPEAKER_00: not getting the projects you want to work on or whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: Or it can also show up as something that you're not doing,
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SPEAKER_00: like maybe failing to act at all or doing nothing instead of something.
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SPEAKER_00: An example of what I mean here could be
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SPEAKER_00: You know,
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SPEAKER_00: the way in which we've all been brainwashed and conditioned into productivity culture,
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SPEAKER_00: we have a very strong perception or expectation in this culture that your worth is
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SPEAKER_00: based on how productive you are,
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SPEAKER_00: how much work you can get done,
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SPEAKER_00: how many hours you can put in,
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SPEAKER_00: how busy you are.
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SPEAKER_00: And this isn't morality, in fact, at all.
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SPEAKER_00: This is based around what has been necessary for
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SPEAKER_00: for us to survive in a capitalistic society where even a meager survival is based on your output, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And in fact, productivity amongst the masses is necessary in order to keep capitalism itself going.
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SPEAKER_00: The rich need the working class and the middle class to work,
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SPEAKER_00: work,
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SPEAKER_00: work in order for this whole thing to work.
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SPEAKER_00: So we have developed this perception that productivity is morality.
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SPEAKER_00: And in this context, one of the most rebellious acts might actually be...
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SPEAKER_00: rest or unproductiveness,
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SPEAKER_00: inaction might actually be an act of rebellion in this context,
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SPEAKER_00: which is all well and good.
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SPEAKER_00: But if you subconsciously, you know, and this is a hypothetical example, right?
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SPEAKER_00: If you subconsciously keep reverting to inaction out of rebellion or some kind of rage against the
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SPEAKER_00: Instead of looking for inspired actions that light you up from the inside out,
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SPEAKER_00: then you also wind up missing the life that's meant for you.
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SPEAKER_00: So part of this is becoming aware so we know where our blind spots are.
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SPEAKER_00: So you can start moving toward healing and reclaiming your power by looking at your
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SPEAKER_00: chart and determining where your Black Moon Lilith placement is.
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SPEAKER_00: The house that it's in can show you where in your life you stand apart from the pack
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SPEAKER_00: and where you can reclaim your power.
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SPEAKER_00: The sign is how you reclaim your power.
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SPEAKER_00: So remember,
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SPEAKER_00: we keep saying on the show that the house always answers the question of where
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SPEAKER_00: something happens,
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SPEAKER_00: while the sign is about how you go about doing it,
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SPEAKER_00: where and how.
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SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to go through the houses and signs just briefly,
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SPEAKER_00: but remember,
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SPEAKER_00: this can be a really individual thing with lots of personal nuances that I can't
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SPEAKER_00: possibly account for here.
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SPEAKER_00: There are going to be as many ways for Black Moon Lilith to manifest as there are people.
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SPEAKER_00: So you can take what I offer here as a starting point.
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SPEAKER_00: But if you really want to explore this part of yourself,
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SPEAKER_00: you're going to want to do some analysis on your own.
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SPEAKER_00: And that will involve looking at the house placement and the sign placement and
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SPEAKER_00: considering what you know about that house and sign and then using that placement
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SPEAKER_00: as a lens.
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SPEAKER_00: to begin thinking about yourself,
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SPEAKER_00: your personal history,
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SPEAKER_00: your life experiences,
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SPEAKER_00: your fears,
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SPEAKER_00: your desires,
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SPEAKER_00: your feelings,
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SPEAKER_00: your behavioral patterns,
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SPEAKER_00: and then consider what could be true for you in that context.
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SPEAKER_00: Look to your desires and your emotions on this one.
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SPEAKER_00: This is going to be about how you respond to things viscerally.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay,
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SPEAKER_00: if you have Black Moon Lilith either in the first house or in the sign of Aries,
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SPEAKER_00: you may have a very deep desire to express your independence.
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SPEAKER_00: The first house is about self and literally about your body,
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SPEAKER_00: your appearance,
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SPEAKER_00: your autonomy,
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SPEAKER_00: your persona,
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SPEAKER_00: and your approach to life generally.
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SPEAKER_00: So there can be challenges with self-acceptance around any of these things.
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SPEAKER_00: You may have felt at some early point in life like you simply,
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SPEAKER_00: in a very literal way,
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SPEAKER_00: weren't accepted or weren't acceptable as a person somehow.
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SPEAKER_00: So the themes around accepting the self and asserting your independence are going to be strong here.
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SPEAKER_00: With Aries,
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SPEAKER_00: if you have Lilith in Aries,
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SPEAKER_00: you're going to be learning to seek your own personal freedom,
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SPEAKER_00: leaning into your personal freedom.
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SPEAKER_00: You're going to be learning to follow your impulses and be assertive.
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SPEAKER_00: But you may also bump up against authority figures a little more.
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SPEAKER_00: If you have Lilith in the second house or in the sign of Taurus,
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SPEAKER_00: then you could be looking at themes around your personal values or the material world,
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SPEAKER_00: like your financial security.
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SPEAKER_00: So it could be that your personal values don't align well with those of your family
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SPEAKER_00: or community or the culture,
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SPEAKER_00: and you have to contend with that.
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SPEAKER_00: And it can also be an indicator that perhaps you didn't have a lot of security,
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SPEAKER_00: financial or otherwise,
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SPEAKER_00: early in life.
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SPEAKER_00: And maybe you felt like a bit of a misfit or like you didn't fit in because of that sense of lack.
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SPEAKER_00: It can also be about self-esteem.
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SPEAKER_00: The second house is very much about self-esteem.
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SPEAKER_00: Now,
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SPEAKER_00: in Taurus,
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SPEAKER_00: if your Lilith is in Taurus,
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SPEAKER_00: your shadow work may be around accepting your desires around very earthly and very
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SPEAKER_00: human pursuits,
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SPEAKER_00: like embracing and enjoying your sensuality or sexuality,
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SPEAKER_00: indulging in pleasures like food and drink and luxury.
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SPEAKER_00: Taurus is very luxurious and loves to be surrounded by nice things.
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SPEAKER_00: So this placement for Lilith can be about being indulgent.
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SPEAKER_00: With Lilith in the third house or in Gemini,
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SPEAKER_00: we're looking at themes like intellect and thinking,
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SPEAKER_00: our learning styles,
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SPEAKER_00: our communication styles,
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SPEAKER_00: and our immediate surroundings like our neighborhood or our siblings.
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SPEAKER_00: So there may be deep feelings of rebellion around one of these areas,
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SPEAKER_00: or you may not have felt like you conformed well in one of these areas.
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SPEAKER_00: If you have Lilith and Gemini,
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SPEAKER_00: you're going to want to find healing in learning to communicate more openly and honestly.
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SPEAKER_00: You're going to want to embrace the way you think and learn.
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SPEAKER_00: And you know, with Gemini, there can be a lot of hopping around from thing to thing.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a mutable sign, after all.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's a very curious and social sign that likes a lot of stimulation and activity.
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SPEAKER_00: So this could be about embracing what...
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SPEAKER_00: Society might consider a lack of consistency or a lack of focus.
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SPEAKER_00: But you're going to want to embrace that about yourself and learn to use it to your advantage.
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SPEAKER_00: It can be about learning differences and using that to your advantage because you
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SPEAKER_00: can see the world from a different perspective than most people.
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SPEAKER_00: So there's that.
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SPEAKER_00: In the fourth house or with Lilith in Cancer,
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SPEAKER_00: this could indicate that there were conflicts within the family or the home.
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SPEAKER_00: There can be security issues again,
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SPEAKER_00: or it can signal difficulties with emotional connection within the family or in
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SPEAKER_00: your family line.
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SPEAKER_00: This can be ancestral too.
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SPEAKER_00: It can also be about the family home, like the physical home in the literal sense.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe you moved around a lot as a kid and didn't feel like you had strong roots
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SPEAKER_00: like the other kids you knew or went to school with.
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SPEAKER_00: You can find healing by creating your own sense of security and loving yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: And if your Lilith is in Cancer,
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SPEAKER_00: you can find strength by learning how to really lean into your emotional sensitivity,
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SPEAKER_00: really leaning into your intuition.
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SPEAKER_00: There may be some real intuitive or even psychic abilities here that made you feel
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SPEAKER_00: different from other people.
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SPEAKER_00: But you want to love that about yourself and lean into it more.
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SPEAKER_00: You can also learn that being yourself and being unique allows you to love and nurture people more.
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SPEAKER_00: And maybe even being a healer for other people is something you can do.
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SPEAKER_00: Unhealed,
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SPEAKER_00: though,
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SPEAKER_00: there can also be some moodiness here or control issues,
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SPEAKER_00: so I would just be careful and watch out for that.
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SPEAKER_00: In the fifth house,
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SPEAKER_00: or in the sign of Leo,
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SPEAKER_00: Lilith signals a sense of rebelliousness or feeling like you can't or don't want to
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SPEAKER_00: or couldn't conform in areas like creativity,
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SPEAKER_00: self-expression,
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SPEAKER_00: passion,
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SPEAKER_00: or your overall passion for life,
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SPEAKER_00: and romance.
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SPEAKER_00: Your brand of creativity or expression may not have been appreciated by others in the way you needed.
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SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you were told early on or got the message early on that you were overly
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SPEAKER_00: dramatic or conversely not expressive enough or something like that.
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SPEAKER_00: Or you may struggle with love and dating.
23:38
SPEAKER_00: Or you're someone who doesn't want children in a society where everyone is told
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SPEAKER_00: they should have children.
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SPEAKER_00: Sexuality and your ability to enjoy that part of your life can come up here.
23:51
SPEAKER_00: So think along all of these lines if you think that might fit.
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SPEAKER_00: In Leo, Lilith asks that you express yourself more fully.
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SPEAKER_00: and or create what you want to create.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's all about expressing yourself with enough confidence so that you don't
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SPEAKER_00: need validation from others.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't need to perform to others' expectations in order to feel good about yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: You can feel good about yourself from the inside, just the way you are.
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SPEAKER_00: In the sixth house or in Virgo,
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SPEAKER_00: this is really going to be about work and service and ultimately perfectionism.
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SPEAKER_00: So you may be someone who would really,
24:33
SPEAKER_00: this is just an example,
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SPEAKER_00: you may really like to go about your day-to-day life in a way that's different from
24:39
SPEAKER_00: expectations or norms,
24:41
SPEAKER_00: or you may not have the desire to follow a traditional schedule.
24:45
SPEAKER_00: or work in a traditional way,
24:47
SPEAKER_00: and you may have felt like these are things that were imposed on you against your will.
24:53
SPEAKER_00: This could have happened as early as having to go to school every day when it really didn't suit you.
24:58
SPEAKER_00: You may have anxiety around these things, even.
25:00
SPEAKER_00: You may have anxiety around health issues,
25:03
SPEAKER_00: or maybe you're different in some way because of a health issue or a mental health issue.
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SPEAKER_00: With Lilith and Virgo,
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SPEAKER_00: maybe you were severely criticized growing up,
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SPEAKER_00: or maybe you are at risk of being critical of others because of perfectionistic
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SPEAKER_00: tendencies or anxieties that you were carrying around that would have you strive
25:26
SPEAKER_00: for perfectionism.
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SPEAKER_00: The remedy,
25:28
SPEAKER_00: I would think,
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SPEAKER_00: is to design your life in such a way that your day-to-day routines really work for
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SPEAKER_00: you as an individual.
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SPEAKER_00: And in doing so, you can really be of more service to those around you in the world.
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SPEAKER_00: Virgo is about service, ultimately.
25:44
SPEAKER_00: So it's like putting on your own air mask before helping others.
25:50
SPEAKER_00: In the seventh house and in Libra, we have themes of partnership and diplomacy.
25:56
SPEAKER_00: So these are relationship challenges.
25:58
SPEAKER_00: And this could kind of go either way.
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SPEAKER_00: It may show up as someone having difficulty with compromise and with being in a
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SPEAKER_00: partnership and kind of bristling against partnership for fear of losing yourself.
26:11
SPEAKER_00: Or you may have felt like that happened to you earlier in your life and that really
26:15
SPEAKER_00: made an impact on you.
26:17
SPEAKER_00: It can also mean that your ideas and values around relationships and how they
26:24
SPEAKER_00: should function lie outside of what you're taught culturally.
26:29
SPEAKER_00: So maybe you don't have traditional views on marriage, for example.
26:35
SPEAKER_00: Or it can go the other way and show up as codependency or people pleasing.
26:40
SPEAKER_00: The healing goal here is to balance Aries energy with Libra energy because these
26:45
SPEAKER_00: are opposites and find a way to assert yourself in a healthy way that preserves
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SPEAKER_00: your boundaries,
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SPEAKER_00: but that is still making that Libran good faith effort towards working well with
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SPEAKER_00: others and having mutual respect.
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SPEAKER_00: Lilith in the eighth house or in Scorpio can be rather intense.
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SPEAKER_00: Most things in the eighth house or in Scorpio can feel intense,
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SPEAKER_00: but this can be about possibly being fascinated with things that are taboo.
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SPEAKER_00: So things like sexuality or intense intimacy or intense sexual experiences,
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SPEAKER_00: maybe some that are considered outside the norm of polite society,
27:29
SPEAKER_00: right?
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe your sexuality or your sexual desires don't conform somehow.
27:34
SPEAKER_00: It can also be about the occult or in having an interest in life after death,
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SPEAKER_00: spirituality,
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SPEAKER_00: any of these things.
27:42
SPEAKER_00: There can be a fear of true emotional intimacy or trust with displacement.
27:49
SPEAKER_00: And deep intimacy can be replaced with things that seem like intimacy on the surface, like sex.
27:56
SPEAKER_00: This is, again, kind of the unhealed version of Black Moon Lilith here.
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SPEAKER_00: There can be sometimes more traumatic experiences that could have occurred in some
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SPEAKER_00: area of life,
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SPEAKER_00: though not necessarily.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes,
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SPEAKER_00: though,
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SPEAKER_00: if you think that's the case for you and you would like to do some healing work,
28:16
SPEAKER_00: it can definitely help to do so with support,
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SPEAKER_00: maybe in the form of a therapist or a coach or something.
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SPEAKER_00: a qualified mental health practitioner of some kind.
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SPEAKER_00: Anytime you're dealing with trauma, I don't recommend doing that alone.
28:30
SPEAKER_00: This placement on a totally different note can also be about control or power
28:36
SPEAKER_00: struggles with other people.
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SPEAKER_00: That's the Plutonian influence here.
28:42
SPEAKER_00: Shared finances can also show up.
28:44
SPEAKER_00: So someone could rebel, let's say, by not paying their taxes or breaking tax laws or something like that.
28:53
SPEAKER_00: Also,
28:54
SPEAKER_00: like with the last water sign we talked about,
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SPEAKER_00: cancer,
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SPEAKER_00: there can be a heightened sensitivity and intuitive ability.
29:02
SPEAKER_00: That's true for all water signs.
29:05
SPEAKER_00: And that can lead you towards healing and greater self-love here.
29:09
SPEAKER_00: This could be, for some, about healing yourself and accepting yourself and loving yourself enough to
29:16
SPEAKER_00: to let go and allow for real trust and intimacy to take place in the context of
29:24
SPEAKER_00: what's healthy and right and empowering for you.
29:27
SPEAKER_00: Now, the ninth house and Sagittarius, this is typically about beliefs, our beliefs.
29:34
SPEAKER_00: So at a young age or even now,
29:37
SPEAKER_00: it may be that your beliefs or worldview was at odds with your community or your family.
29:43
SPEAKER_00: There could have been a very dogmatic approach to life that you had a hard time getting on board with.
29:49
SPEAKER_00: And that may have made you restless and wanting to challenge those perspectives.
29:55
SPEAKER_00: So you may want to learn to lean into your desire for expansion and learning and
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SPEAKER_00: new experiences and adventures so that you can fully develop your own sense of the
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SPEAKER_00: world and broaden your perspectives and
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SPEAKER_00: and embrace a worldview that truly feels like your own.
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SPEAKER_00: Lilith in the 10th house or in Capricorn, the 10th house can literally represent authority.
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SPEAKER_00: So this could mean that you aren't aligned with authority in the most literal sense.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe your parents, often the father, but not necessarily.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe your community.
30:34
SPEAKER_00: society at large.
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SPEAKER_00: You know,
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SPEAKER_00: there could be a drive to reshape things and create new systems and new paradigms
30:41
SPEAKER_00: even with this one.
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SPEAKER_00: Working in the government or working within systems can come from this desire,
30:49
SPEAKER_00: especially if you're wanting to change those systems or improve them somehow.
30:53
SPEAKER_00: It can also be about feeling the need to improve yourself.
30:58
SPEAKER_00: You may have felt like
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SPEAKER_00: You didn't measure up somehow early on in life or you didn't know how to feel
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SPEAKER_00: respected within the community.
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SPEAKER_00: And so now you have to prove yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: There can be a fear of failure, too.
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SPEAKER_00: So this can be a very ambitious placement.
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SPEAKER_00: You might want to craft a new public image for yourself, whether you're conscious of that or not.
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SPEAKER_00: And Capricorn would just have you working diligently and tirelessly to get to where you want to be.
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SPEAKER_00: You can really lock into a long-term vision and be very disciplined about getting there.
31:36
SPEAKER_00: In either of these cases, whether it's a 10th house placement or Lilith and Capricorn,
31:41
SPEAKER_00: You want to do healing work around breaking the belief that you have to prove
31:45
SPEAKER_00: yourself to anyone in order to be worthy of love and respect.
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SPEAKER_00: You do not.
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SPEAKER_00: You are already worthy of love and respect.
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SPEAKER_00: And you do not have to do anything extra to make that so.
31:58
SPEAKER_00: The 11th house and Aquarius, this is the collective house and sign.
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SPEAKER_00: So these are where our friendships and our groups and communities show up.
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SPEAKER_00: So again,
32:08
SPEAKER_00: this is kind of a literal interpretation indicating that you may not have always
32:15
SPEAKER_00: felt like you fit in with groups.
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SPEAKER_00: You might have struggled to find or develop friendships,
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SPEAKER_00: or you may have felt like you had to change yourself in order to fit in and make friends.
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SPEAKER_00: Bullying can occasionally come up here.
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SPEAKER_00: And Aquarius is about embracing your uniqueness and allowing yourself to be however
32:37
SPEAKER_00: eccentric you want to be or however eccentric you are and being detached from the
32:42
SPEAKER_00: outcome of that.
32:44
SPEAKER_00: When you do that,
32:45
SPEAKER_00: if you can do that,
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SPEAKER_00: you wind up being someone who can very powerfully serve the collective of humanity
32:53
SPEAKER_00: in a very compassionate way because you have empathy and you're very open-minded.
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SPEAKER_00: That's what you can lean into.
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SPEAKER_00: And finally, we have the 12th house and Pisces.
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SPEAKER_00: If you have one of these placements, this can be about being really sensitive to the suffering of others.
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SPEAKER_00: Often on a very subconscious level,
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SPEAKER_00: you might not even know that you're super sensitive to the suffering of others.
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SPEAKER_00: And left unhealed or unexamined,
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SPEAKER_00: this can lead to stress and feelings of anxiety or depression,
33:27
SPEAKER_00: which can make you avoidant or wanting to escape from reality.
33:33
SPEAKER_00: Escapism can be a challenge.
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SPEAKER_00: These are both ruled by Neptune also, so themes of deception or confusion can also come up.
33:42
SPEAKER_00: That could mean self-deception,
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SPEAKER_00: and an example of that would be maybe not spotting the warning signs or reading the
33:50
SPEAKER_00: red flags of an unhealthy situation or decision or relationship because you're
33:55
SPEAKER_00: wanting to see the best in someone or something.
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SPEAKER_00: Or it could mean that you attract people in who are likely to be deceptive.
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SPEAKER_00: So the healing work could be around tapping into this crazy high level of intuition
34:13
SPEAKER_00: that you have access to with any 12th house or Pisces placement and trusting it.
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SPEAKER_00: Trusting yourself is huge in terms of healing for this one.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, that does it.
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SPEAKER_00: We have covered them all.
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SPEAKER_00: Of course,
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SPEAKER_00: you're also going to want to look at any aspects that Black Moon Lilith is making
34:34
SPEAKER_00: with other things in your chart,
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SPEAKER_00: like planets or angles or lunar nodes.
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SPEAKER_00: Anything that forms aspects with the Sun or the Moon should always stand out to you.
34:46
SPEAKER_00: Or conjunctions to angles should stand out to you.
34:50
SPEAKER_00: Even it just being in an angular house can be noteworthy.
34:54
SPEAKER_00: So those are the first, fourth, seventh, and tenth houses.
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SPEAKER_00: These things can indicate that where you feel different,
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SPEAKER_00: where you feel non-conforming or unique or rebellious is going to play a key role
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SPEAKER_00: in the work that you are meant to do in that part of your life.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a key part of the way you do things there.
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SPEAKER_00: And the healing and radical self-acceptance and empowerment can be a key part of
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SPEAKER_00: that aspect of your life too.
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