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34. Danielle Wiebe on figuring out how to enter the world of entrepreneurship and the power of community · All Figured Out with Andrea Barr: Figuring Out Work, Life and Parenting

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I don't even know if I even want that in my future, and so it's
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like there has to be other people like me who also are
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looking for that connection community and so I started
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hosting. Welcome back to the All Figured
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Out Podcast. I'm Andrea Barr and I'm really
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excited to bring you another one of my secret weapons today.
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And that comes in the form of a woman named Danielle Wiebe, who
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over the years has acted as my business coach, mentor,
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mastermind, leader, cheerleader, friend, you name it.
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She's been there for me. And fun fact, it was in a very
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passionate coaching call with Danielle where she shared with
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me that I needed to start a podcast.
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And she was like, you need to start this podcast this week.
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And I remember sitting on my bed at my cottage in Muskoka and I
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was taking the call and I honestly was like, sorry, I
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think there's bad reception here.
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Come again. And the rest is history.
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So Danielle, thank you for that nudge.
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I've loved this podcasting journey and I don't know that I
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would have had the confidence without you.
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Danielle is a community builder, collaboration expert, business
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strategist and the founder of the very successful company that
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runs community and educational programs for women, and it's
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called Business Babes Collective.
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She's an entrepreneur through and through, and in this episode
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it's really fun to hear her advice about what to do if you
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feel called to start a business. What steps to take first, what
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to think about the power of community and so much more.
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Even if you're not thinking about starting a business, I
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guarantee you will be inspired by her approach and her
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philosophy on community and how important it is that we all have
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some sort of community in our life to support us.
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So without further ado, let's hear from the babe herself,
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Danny weeb, You're listening to the All Figured Out podcast.
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I'm your host Andrea Barr. As a career coach for parents, a
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mom and entrepreneur, and someone who spent 10 plus years
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in the corporate world, I still don't have it all figured out.
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And maybe you don't either. In this podcast I'll share tools
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and strategies that I use as my clients and in the many areas
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where I don't have things figured out.
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I'll be bringing you some amazing guest experts to help us
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fill in the gaps. So TuneIn each week as we
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explore how to make career and life decisions that truly work
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for you, your family and your big goals.
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Let's make moves, Danielle. We've welcome to the All Figured
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Out podcast. It is so wonderful to have you
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here. Thank you for joining.
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Thank you. I'm so honored to be here.
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Thanks so much for having me. It feels like a long time
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coming, so we have known each other for a number of years now.
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You are my mastermind, leader, business coach, biggest
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cheerleader. The inspiration for starting
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this podcast, I was sitting, I remember so vividly sitting on
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my bed at my cottage in Ontario. We had a strategy call booked
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and we're chatting and you were like, you need to start a
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podcast. And I was like, what do you
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mean? And so thank you for that and
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for and for so much else. So that's how we know each
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other, of course. Well, I'm so grateful that that
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you started it because I think so many people are blessed by
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it. And you know, there's people in
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our mastermind that love your podcast, so it's just really
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cool. Like it's been really cool to
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see you thrive in this, in this space, and you're just getting
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started, So excited for you. Oh.
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My gosh, thank you. So you are the founder of the
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Business States Collective, which is everybody needs to
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follow on Instagram, follow you at Danny Living Life as well
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because you just post such inspirational content for
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anybody who might be even considering the world of
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entrepreneurship. Before we even get into that, I
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have so many questions for you about those who might be
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contemplating that journey and that taking that leap.
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But tell me, how did you get into?
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I know a bit about your story, but you are an entrepreneur
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pretty well through and through, which is unusual for a lot of
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people. So tell me a bit more about your
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story and how you got to where you are today.
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Yeah, absolutely. So I definitely always kind of
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thought I would do something in the business world and
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entrepreneurship friends of my family.
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And so it was kind of something that I always thought about, but
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I didn't exactly know what that would look like or what I would
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do. I had lots of ideas.
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So, you know, at one point I wanted to own my own spa.
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And you know, at another point I'm like, oh, maybe I'll do
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this, maybe I'll do this. And I think, I think people that
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are entrepreneurial can maybe relate to that where they have
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so many different ideas of what they could or should or want to
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do. And so I, when I was still in
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university is sort of my first business like official business
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and it was in like the social media marketing space.
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I had a business partner. And so that was kind of my first
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taste of a, like actual entrepreneurship where we would
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pitch clients we would like. It was such a weird concept to
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me that we would send an invoice and get paid.
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Like it was just like mind blowing.
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You know, I think like the, I think when you first get into
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entrepreneurship and you get that first client or you have
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someone pay you, you're like, Oh my goodness.
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And of course, you know, it's always a really low amount at
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the beginning because you're undercharging yourself and
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you're like it is so much money, Oh my goodness, this is crazy.
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So that was like my first taste of entrepreneurship and that was
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a really great learning experience.
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I learned a lot. It was also very challenging.
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There's just a lot of challenges that came with having a a
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business partner. I actually didn't know her too
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well and so there was the challenges there.
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But I'm super grateful for that experience because I think it
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taught me a lot and gave me a lot of life lessons very early
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on in my career, in my in the, in the entrepreneurial space.
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And so obviously through university graduated, I did get
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a business degree and I'm. I'm grateful for that
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experience. But also there's so much about
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about actually owning your own business that you just can't
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learn in school. And so from there, I tested out
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a lot of different businesses. I was working with a health and
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Wellness company. I did.
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I actually worked for my mom's business.
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She was in the electronic space of all places and she was doing
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consulting for and sales for high end electronics company.
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So I worked for her and helped her build her brand and also
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realized that the common thread throughout all of the different
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things that I did because in university was on the Business
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Association, hosting events. And the common thread through
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everything was like, I love people.
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I love community, I love working with others and like figuring
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out how to make things fun and exciting.
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And I'm like, I don't know what that's going to look like as far
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as my own business, but I started networking a lot.
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And So what I realized was that I was looking for a place where
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I could go and connect with people and potentially
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collaborate with people that were like me, that were also
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building businesses that were also entrepreneurial.
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But I wasn't really finding that space.
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I would go to these networking events and I was usually one of
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the only women in the room and also usually one of the youngest
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in the room. And I felt like everyone was
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like, oh, I've been in business for like 15 years or 20 years.
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And I have a staff of, you know, like however many people like
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Okay. But that doesn't really resonate
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with me. Like I and I don't even know if
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I even want that in my future. And so I was like, there has to
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be other people like me who also are looking for that connection
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community. And so I started hosting these
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little popup events and I was connecting with people on
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Instagram being like hey, you're super inspiring, like I'd love
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to take you for coffee. And so I was just sort of
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building my community one person at a time, 1 little popup event
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at the time. And when I got started, it
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really started super small and then it sort of grew and
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expanded. And Long story short, we started
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expanding and hosting these bigger events because I had a
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little bit of a background in social media that was like a
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main place where I would share about the events and get people
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involved. And so that that just grew and
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grew and grew. And then from there, back in
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2018, we ended up expanding to five different chapters across
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North America within, I think it was within two years and that
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was really exciting. But also like wow, talk about
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Burnout. So that was all while I was like
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okay, it was just me at the time.
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And then during those times where we were expanding, I hired
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two people at the same time to support me there and that was
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super game changing to not do it all on my own.
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So that was great. And then COVID hit, so then we
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had to pivot and so we actually ended up pivoting a lot of our
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business online which at the time was super challenging but
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also was a blessing in disguise. I started my podcast during that
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year and from there it's really been like building Community
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both online and then now that events are back, bringing the in
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person aspect of of community back in as well and also of
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course launching things like our signature course, Action Takers
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Club, the Mastermind. We have another new program that
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we just launched. And so yeah, it's just been such
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a journey and I I try to sum it up, but it always takes me way
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too long to explain everything. No, I love it.
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I think it's such a cool story and it's and it's unique.
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I love every entrepreneurial story because it's that they're
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all just so unique. And then on the personal front?
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You are. I'm a mom of 1, girl who's
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almost two, and I have another baby boy on the way.
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So. And we're about a month out.
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But I mean, who knows, right? So.
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Yes, that is exciting. And that has been such a huge
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journey as well. And I think one of the biggest
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blessings of what happened during the pandemic was that it
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forced me to reevaluate the business and think about how can
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I actually create this in a way that it's more sustainable for
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the life that I want being a mom as well.
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And so it's honestly, I'm so, so grateful because at the time,
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and I'm sure a lot of people can maybe relate to this during that
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season was like it was one of the hardest times because it
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felt like I was needing to start from scratch.
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And I had been doing my business at that point for about 5 years.
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And so I felt really established and you know we had, we had
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really built up a foundation and it felt like all of that was
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kind of being taken away. And I was like I don't even know
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who I am anymore without like hosting at these in person
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events and what am I even good at.
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And so it was really this like soul searching time too.
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I think I'm really figuring out what are my strengths, How can I
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serve, how can I continue to serve my community in like a
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powerful way but online. And so that was really an
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interesting transition to do that and so really pouring into
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and I'm so grateful at that moment when we because because
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we had the mastermind. I think you're maybe a part of
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the mastermind, like while the pandemic was happening too I.
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Kept crying on it. We all were totally what's going
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on? And, like, it was so emotional.
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Yeah, totally. And and I think too like that
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was such a cool way to still be able to like support the
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community even though so many things were unknown and it was
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like having that like incubator of okay, let's like figure this
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out together and let's like support each other.
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And that was really truly the vision of what I wanted for the
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mastermind. And what it has evolved into is
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like, you know, obviously I'm the leader of the mastermind,
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but it's like the the women that are in it, including yourself
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are just so incredible and like giving and supportive of each
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other. So which is really creates this
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like safe place where everyone's supporting one another and
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giving each other feedback ideas.
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And so that was kind of built off of my realization of okay.
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I want to create community that truly feels like community.
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And not just because I think there's such a big difference
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between having a following and having a community.
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My friend Tiffany from gals, that branch, I want to give her
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a shout out because she talks about this a lot.
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She talks about community and she says you're following is not
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your community. Your community is when you bring
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people together and there's that like mutual support of one
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another. And so I think that through
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those challenges, it's also made, I feel like now our in
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person events are different to where I'm like how can we like
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really create that safe space for people to come and feel like
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they can be vulnerable, feel like they can have the support
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that they're looking for. And so yeah, that's kind of just
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the heart behind what what we do and we want to create for
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people. So you do that in such an
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amazing way. You hosted, I think it was.
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Did you say it was your largest and longest?
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In person event two weeks ago 200 people.
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Yeah, it was. Well it was it was the first
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time we'd ever done a full day event like in the in the
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Vancouver area. So it was it was pretty special
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I it had been something I'd wanted to do for a very long
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time. So finally happened and I was so
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excited about it. So it.
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Was incredible. It was literally in a helicopter
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hanger. A gorgeous, gorgeous and that
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sounds weird, but it a gorgeous venue.
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Yeah, everyone kept talking about.
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Imagine a wedding here. Yes, they do weddings.
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And they're amazing. So yeah.
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Called Sky Hanger in Meadows. Meadows.
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Yeah, And we're like, where were we where?
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Did I drive to on my Google Maps?
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Exactly, and a testament to the beautiful community that you've
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created. You asked if some of us
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Mastermind members, sorry, getting over a toddler cold
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here. Some of us mastermind members
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would hop up on stage and and just be on a panel.
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And you were joking. You're like I gave you guys
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don't notice but it. I I didn't even have an ounce.
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Like normally I still get butterflies like I do like you
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know spoken for a living and that sort of thing.
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But I'd love to chat like yourself and but there was 0
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butterflies because you created the space.
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Like you've created a space that is so safe in a community that
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is so safe and so supportive. Literally have There's a woman
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who I had met on a virtual networking call through your
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community. Lisa.
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I'll give you a shout out. She's incredible.
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She's literally sitting in the audience as I'm talking.
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Nodding her head like clapping along, smiling.
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We met in person, the first, like the first for the first
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time that day and we had been chatting through Instagram
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through your community. So just a man who goes to you.
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It's just it's amazing. I wanna touch on something you
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were just you were speaking about which was kind of that
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soul searching element and where you're kind of just kind of
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contemplating like who am I, what is this business and?
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Something that I think would relate to anybody who's
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interested in entrepreneurship or the corporate world, how have
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you? How did you reconcile marrying
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what you are truly passionate and enjoy versus what you think
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the world needs? And the example that I would
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come up with, like even on the corporate side, would be the
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person who's like, well, I should probably work for a
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nonprofit because I want to do good in the world, but.
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You know, the the job that they're going for or the job
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that they're in, like just it. It's not actually what they want
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to be doing, but they're like hope I should be doing this.
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Do you know what I mean? Like, how do you get all those
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two things so good, So, so good? Yes.
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Oh man. And I mean, that has been such a
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journey for me for sure. I think at the beginning of my
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business I was really looking to just please other people, which
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is not a bad thing necessarily. It's like, okay, What does my
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community want? What does my community need?
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But, but the the challenge with that is that there were so many
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different people that kind of all wanted different things.
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And so I felt like I was being like, pulled in all of these
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different directions of like, what if you did this type of
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workshop or what if you did that kind of event?
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Or what if you what if you started this or what if you did
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that? And it was like all these ideas
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which were amazing. But at the end of the day, I was
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feeling overwhelmed because there were so many things.
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And I think we live in a world where we have so many options
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and so many opportunities, which is incredible and, like,
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amazing, but also it can feel overwhelming because like, but
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what do I choose? What is my thing?
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And honestly, I really think that sometimes you have to try
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things to know if it's like the right fit for you, right.
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And so you know, there was a lot of things that I tried that I
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tested, that I did and realizing okay and even figuring out like
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who is my ideal person, community member, mastermind
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member, client. And I I believe that like we
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were given strengths and and and gifts and abilities that are
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really specific to us. And then if we walk through that
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and we really like develop that, that we will be able to bless
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other people no matter what we're doing.
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And so in saying that, sometimes you do have to really reflect
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and be like okay, what are my passions?
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What are things that I want to do?
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And not to say that because I also believe we need to curate
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our content, our offers to what people need and want.
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But there's going to be that tie of what we're super passionate
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about, what we're really talented in with what people
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want and need and and where our place is.
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So again, like you said, whether we're in a job and we're like
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serving a company in that way or whether we're doing that as an
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entrepreneur, so and and and it takes time sometimes to figure
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that out. And I think I've gone through
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seasons where it's been like, man, I should know by now who my
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ideal person is or like what my niche is.
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And I think for the longest time I was like, I don't have a
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niche, I don't have a niche. And I always get so frustrated
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with myself. And then I realized my niche is
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community and collaboration and like bringing people together.
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And that's my niche. Even though I didn't see it as
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one. I was like, that is what I love
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to do. And that's like my passion.
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And that's what I feel like I've been uniquely gifted to be able
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to do. And that is what serves our
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community within our masterminds, within our events,
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within like, you know, curating a space where people feel safe.
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And so, and I feel like I've only gotten really that haha,
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within the past couple of years where I've gotten super clear on
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that and been confident in that because I think I tested and I
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tried a lot of things like maybe I'm supposed to be the person
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who's really into like systems and time management and that
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sort of thing. Because I I love that too.
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But I realized as I started going down that road, I'm like,
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but I'm not actually that passionate about talking like I
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can talk about that and I can share about that.
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But that's not actually my, like true passion of what I really
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want to share about. And so it it it's testing and
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trying. And that might not be the answer
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that people want, but it it's taken me.
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I mean I've been, I've been, I've been running this business
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for over 8 years and I just feel in the last couple years, like I
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said that I've gotten a lot of clarity on that.
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And so it has been a journey, for sure.
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Well, you can. Like you can tell you can see
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the evolution and you and the way that you talk and it just
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seems like, you know, quote, UN quote content or your podcast
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episodes. It just seems so natural to you
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because you're talking about topics that you are clearly so
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incredibly passionate about and it just comes through and you
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are yourself. And I was actually just thinking
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about, you know what, I'm giving feedback to clients when we're
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doing some interview prep or anything like that show.
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I honest, I truly believe, as cliche as it sounds, I believe
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that everybody should show up. Almost as I can exaggerated of
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them self version of them self in it, even in an interview
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because you want them to be hiring for you and not this.
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Like unless you know times are really trying and you're like I
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just need a job, whatever. There could be circumstances but
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if you really want to find that right cultural fit you show up
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as you like. When I interview like when I was
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in the corporate world, I'm making jokes and I'm being
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casual like equally casual and dialed and buttoned down.
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I'm showing all sides of myself and I think that that's.
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That's just how you should show up, because then whoever you
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know comes into your world then is coming in for for you.
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And that's what I see in you for sure, is that you talk about the
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topics that you're really passionate about.
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And if people are also equally passionate about, that's who you
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want in your in your sphere, in your world.
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So I think that's great advice. Totally.
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And you know, it makes a difference too because I think
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that whether you're someone who wants to pursue entrepreneurship
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or a job, I think researching, researching the company or
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researching the industry that you want to be a part of.
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And then when you are looking to like be a part of community,
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like knowing what community is right for you is really
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important. And so you know when people say
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for example they come to our events or they they apply for
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our mastermind or or they're they're joining one of our
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programs, it's always So I'm always so excited to have them
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in our community when they have first like listened to the
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podcast for example, or you know that they've been kind of a part
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of our or been following us on social media.
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So they already know kind of a little bit about our culture of
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what we believe in, what we stand for.
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Because if someone's coming in where they don't really know
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much about our community and they're just looking to come in
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and like, I'm going to get as much as I can out of this and
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then kind of peace out, like that's not really what we're
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about. We're about like longterm
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community relationships. And like, you know, there's been
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people in our mastermind. I mean, you've been, you've been
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in our mastermind, like, yeah, since like you said maybe 2019
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or something like that. And there's people that have
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been in it since we launched in like 2018.
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And it's just like, it's just so cool to see those relationships
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develop and flourish. And so I think culturally
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knowing that that you are creating something that people
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will be either attracted to or repelled by is totally fine.
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And that's actually good. And that's why for us it's
24:06
important to showcase. And I think I'm getting more and
24:09
more comfortable and confident with showcasing that culture and
24:14
and being willing to be like there's going to be some people
24:18
who really don't like me or our community.
24:22
And that's okay. Like I'm okay with that now
24:25
because I know that the right people like I I always know when
24:29
I get on a call with someone they're applying for the
24:32
mastermind or whatever. I know within the first couple
24:34
of minutes, like this person's a really good fit.
24:37
Like they would fit in so well with our community.
24:40
And I can also tell if it's not a good fit pretty quickly just
24:44
based on and it's nothing wrong with them, it's just a cultural
24:49
fit. And so I think that like again,
24:52
whether you're going for a jobs like look for that culture fit
24:55
because you know positions can change and things can change.
25:00
And you know if you're a business owner you can shift and
25:03
pivot and change so many different times.
25:05
Like we've had people in the mastermind where they're like,
25:07
hey, I'm doing this like totally new thing.
25:10
It's like, great. That's awesome.
25:23
Okay, we have to. Like, you should do that and
25:14
like encouraging that. But it's their their personality
25:18
and their values stay consistent, right?
25:21
So yeah. I'd be remiss if we didn't get
25:25
into the topic of those who are listening, who are in the ideas
25:30
phase of their entrepreneurial journey.
25:32
They are dreaming big. I've got my dream big mug here
25:36
from the business base. They're dreaming big.
25:39
They have. Just that simmering fire in
25:43
their belly, those embers where they're like, oh, I'm just
25:46
getting that itch, the entrepreneurial itch.
25:48
But I'll say the big butt They are waiting for their kids to be
25:54
a certain age, for them to make it to a certain level in their
25:56
corporate job. Like I'm saying, the stuff that
25:58
I've totally felt in my past as well.
26:01
I want to make a certain amount of income.
26:03
I'm waiting for this. It's not the right time.
26:06
Who am I to start this business? I haven't gone to school for
26:08
this. All those things.
26:11
Where, where would you start? Where would you advise a person
26:14
to even start when they're battling those limiting beliefs
26:17
and just have that idea that's percolating?
26:19
Yeah. Oh, such a good question.
26:21
Well, first and foremost, I think, like, the dreaming stage
26:25
of of figuring out what you want to do for your business is
26:28
really incredible and amazing. And so like, have fun with it
26:33
and like maybe set dates with yourself of like, I'm going to
26:38
go to a coffee shop, I'm going to bring a notebook, I'm going
26:40
to just like journal my thoughts or like my ideas or what I want
26:44
to do. I think the challenge comes in
26:49
when people start sharing those ideas with people who they hope
26:54
will be supportive, but often or not, unfortunately.
26:58
So it's like people that are not in the entrepreneurial space, so
27:03
they maybe don't understand the possibility or the options or
27:10
that sort of thing. So like for example, if you're
27:11
like, Oh my goodness, I have this like amazing idea for a
27:15
business or, you know, I'm dreaming about creating whatever
27:18
it is. And then, you know, you go to
27:21
your sister or your cousin or your best friend and you're
27:24
like, hey, I have this idea. And if they either one haven't
27:30
created anything similar to that or they don't understand the
27:35
entrepreneurial space, they might be giving you the yeah.
27:39
But like, how are you going to, how would you even make money
27:42
from that? Like what?
27:43
You know. And then like all of a sudden
27:45
you're like, yeah, you're right. Like, well, yeah, you're right.
27:48
Like that doesn't. No, that's actually not a good
27:51
idea. And you start to second guess
27:52
yourself. And I think that's where also
27:54
the excuses start to come in of like, well, it's just not the
27:57
right time. Like it's just, you know,
27:59
whatever. And so I think first and
28:02
foremost, find communities and platforms.
28:06
Yeah, whether it be like podcasts that actually are are
28:09
encouraging for that and communities where people are
28:15
dreaming really big and doing big things and put yourself in
28:18
those situations because then you'll be like wow, there's
28:21
other people who have done this as well.
28:23
And that was one of the biggest feedback that we got from our
28:26
last conference or in person event.
28:28
People were in the room and I got a lot of messages from
28:32
people who said it was so cool to see the different types of
28:36
businesses and what was possible.
28:40
And you know, the people on our our panels, the people from our
28:43
mastermind who shared as well as like all the other speakers,
28:47
they're sharing very vulnerably about the struggles, about, you
28:51
know, the fact that it hasn't been easy and so know that it's
28:54
not going to be easy, it's going to be challenging.
28:58
However, it is possible. And if you have that spark, if
29:02
you have that like butterflies in your stomach, like, you
29:06
already know that like eventually you're going to have
29:09
to do this. Like you're going to have to
29:10
pursue this or else it's going to like eat you alive.
29:13
So it's like, start with the little tiny baby steps of like,
29:18
what's that next thing that I could do to, like, push this
29:22
idea forward? Because often we think of, like,
29:24
the big scary action steps that we have to take.
29:29
It's like, why don't we just break it down into super, super
29:31
small, tangible steps and just like continue one after another
29:35
to move ourselves forward on like a daily basis.
29:39
And then yeah, you need, you need to surround yourself with
29:44
community. It's not just like a nice to
29:45
have, it's it's vital because your mind is going to get in the
29:49
way and it's going to start to tell you really horrible things.
29:53
You're not good enough, You're not talented enough, You don't
29:57
know what you're doing. You don't have any experience in
29:59
this industry. There's way too many people
30:02
already doing what you want to do, so it's not worth it.
30:06
Like, these are things I hear all the time or people have an
30:10
idea and then they're like, I'm just going to wait until I hear
30:13
this all the time from entrepreneurs quickly.
30:15
I want to do this thing. I'm like, great, awesome, like,
30:18
let's do it. Like, I'm just going to wait
30:20
until next year when I have, like, more followers on
30:24
Instagram. I'm like.
30:25
What, No. What?
30:27
Like what are you talking about? And like to me it's so clear.
30:30
I was like, but no, if you take this action and you do this
30:33
thing, that's actually what's going to build your business and
30:37
expand all of those other things.
30:40
Like the vanity metric things is actually when you start to do
30:44
the things that you want to pursue.
30:47
And so I think it's just realizing that you're never
30:50
going to feel ready. You're never going to be 100% it
30:54
situations are never going to be 100% perfect either.
30:58
Like, we pivoted the entire business when I found out I was
31:02
pregnant with my first daughter, right.
31:04
And so it and and you hear stories from people all the time
31:09
where they started their businesses.
31:11
Actually Elaine at the conference, she started her
31:14
business three days after one of her.
31:17
I think it was her second baby or maybe even third baby was
31:20
born. And it's like she's like it was,
31:24
she's like, I don't recommend that, however, like she's like,
31:28
I just, I had to do it. And so I think whatever excuse
31:33
that you're telling yourself, there's a, there is someone who
31:38
has done that in spite of their circumstances and that's like a
31:42
part of your story. I always like to share that with
31:45
people like that can be a part of your story.
31:48
Some, like all the odds were against you, but you were able
31:51
to to make it happen so. Makes a better story too.
31:54
Exactly. Totally.
31:56
Better, a better a better arc in the in the storytelling for
31:59
sure. How do you find, how does a
32:02
person find the right community? Like you're so passionate about
32:04
it and I feel so lucky that I just stumbled into one of your
32:07
events one time finding you on Instagram and being like what?
32:10
This is so cool. There's like beautiful pink
32:12
flowers and. Sparkling wine and like this,
32:17
these amazing women on this panel.
32:18
Like, I was like, where am I? This is like Disneyland for the
32:22
the closet entrepreneur. I was like a closet
32:24
entrepreneur. I was, yes.
32:25
Worker world and how does one go about you know finding that
32:30
community and and please tell tell people about your business
32:33
too because I think that this is it's I'm not just saying this
32:35
because you're on and I'm like plug your business like.
32:37
Yeah. I want people to know about
32:39
Business Babes Collective and that you're there for those who
32:41
are percolating with those, those ideas.
32:44
OK, well, thank you so much for sharing.
32:46
Yeah. I think that sometimes I I love,
32:50
I think I can't remember who said this.
32:52
There's someone on my podcast, I think that said this.
32:54
But sometimes you're going to have to like, kiss a lot of
32:57
frogs to, like, find your prints.
32:59
I can't remember who said that to me, but I was like, Oh my
33:01
God, I. Said that, Did you say that?
33:03
Yeah. Oh my gosh.
33:05
OK, so happy case. That's amazing.
33:09
I love that you said that. So I was totally meant to be.
33:12
I'm like, why did that come to my head right now?
33:14
Said. That on the panel, okay.
33:17
So I love that. And it is true, though, when
33:21
you're looking for something like community, right?
33:24
I've heard a lot of people who are like, yeah, like I and.
33:27
And people that are nervous to come to our events because
33:30
they've had bad experiences where they maybe walked into a
33:33
networking event and it didn't feel welcoming and no one wanted
33:37
to say hi to them and they tried to network and people weren't
33:40
interested in getting to know them.
33:42
And you know, like that can be really discouraging and it can
33:46
be really, especially if you're someone who is maybe an
33:50
introvert or you're shy or, you know, I mean, like I host
33:55
community. I literally do community for my
33:57
business. And I get really nervous when I
33:59
go to other people's events because I don't know what I'm
34:01
walking into. I have no clue, right.
34:03
It could be super amazing and fun and and and welcoming or it
34:08
could not be and and you don't know really until you walk into
34:11
the room. So it's like, you know what?
34:13
It just takes that those like seconds of courage to just do
34:18
it. And even if it is not the
34:21
experience that you wanted to have, you're going to learn
34:24
something from it or you're going to meet that one person
34:28
who maybe like lock eyes from like across the room.
34:31
You're like that's a safe person.
34:33
I'm going to go talk to them and then and then you talk to them
34:37
and and and you build a relationship and sometimes those
34:40
communities start just one person at a time and maybe if
34:45
you don't have anything within your that that is resonating
34:49
with you, then maybe that's like you building that for yourself
34:52
and that's beautiful as well. So you know of course, yes, of
34:57
course you're always welcome to join our community and and see
35:00
what we're all about. But at the same time, find one
35:03
that resonates with you, that you feel safe and you feel
35:07
supported and you feel championed in.
35:10
And then just like go all in. I think for me, for so long, I
35:16
would kind of like tiptoe my way into things and be in
35:19
communities but not be like fully in.
35:22
I'm kind of on the outskirts. I'm sort of watching from the
35:24
sidelines and now I'm like, you know what?
35:27
Life is too short for that. Let's just like dive right in.
35:29
Let's be vulnerable. Like I'm in a program right now.
35:33
I'm like, oh, my goodness. I mean, my entrepreneurial
35:36
journey just investing in different things.
35:37
And I'm in a program and I just, I was like, you know what, I'm
35:41
going to like go all and I'm going to be super vulnerable.
35:43
And I'm just going to share, like I'm going to share my
35:45
struggles. I'm going to share like
35:47
whatever. And it's been really cool
35:50
because there is a event that that was hosted in San Diego
35:55
that I went to with this same group of people.
35:58
And I had people coming up to me and saying like, thank you so
36:01
much for, for being so vulnerable in the calls, like,
36:04
like. And they felt like they knew me.
36:06
Like, they felt like they were already connected with me.
36:08
And it's like a big kind of group program.
36:10
But I'm like, I'm always putting up my hand.
36:12
I'm always like sharing and just like letting the people coach me
36:17
and just like almost crying, like it's just like, but that's
36:21
what like, builds those bridges and those connections.
36:24
So vulnerability, I think, is another tip to like once you
36:28
find the right community, be willing to be vulnerable because
36:32
that's what's really going to actually allow you to build
36:34
really strong relationships. It's so it's so, so true and
36:39
it's and it's not. It's quality over quantity.
36:41
Like if just pick even just pick one group or I really liked what
36:45
you said about the being in an event and you can find one
36:48
person that you chat with and that could be the game changer.
36:52
And I was thinking about the word community.
36:55
And how it it feels like this thing where you have to wear a
36:57
badge, like because I'm in Danielle Weeps Business Babes
37:01
Collective community, I have this badge that I wear with this
37:04
like, name tag and this like secret card.
37:07
No, it's not that. I, yeah, have some really close
37:10
friends within the community, but I wouldn't say that I have
37:12
this 2500 person. Group that I'm beholden to.
37:18
There is access out there, but I guess what I'm trying to say is
37:21
that like it's community is curating those like really key
37:25
people who can be in your corner, who you can go to, who
37:28
you can share your struggles with, who you can be vulnerable
37:31
with, who share back with you. That's community.
37:34
Like I think we build it up as a big thing, like you're joining a
37:36
church or you're joining a a group or whatever.
37:39
Like it's. Yes, you're joining this big
37:42
thing that's bigger than you, but that you make a small,
37:44
curated selection within it, right.
37:46
And sometimes the more intimate connections and community within
37:50
the larger community is where the magic happens.
37:53
Like, I love when I hear that people met at our events or met
37:57
through our mastermind and like they're still in connection or
38:00
they're, you know, going for lunch with each other.
38:02
And I'm like, that is so beautiful.
38:04
Like, that's exactly what I wanted from this is like to be
38:08
able to create a space where people could meet and connect
38:11
with each other and really like resonate with one another and
38:14
then take the relationship from there.
38:16
So yeah, I think to like walking into every situation, whether it
38:21
be virtually or whether it be in person and saying okay, what's
38:26
just one take away that I can get from this or what is one
38:29
person that I can that I resonate with, that I can
38:33
continue to build a relationship with.
38:35
And I think too, I mean, I know we could probably talk forever
38:40
about all of these things, but like recognizing that community
38:46
takes time and it's not going to happen overnight.
38:51
And I think that's one of the things that I really feel really
38:56
passionate about right now. And sharing with people is like,
39:00
everyone wants overnight success.
39:02
Everyone wants like a microwave version of what they're trying
39:07
to build. And they're like, oh, I just,
39:10
you know, I went to this event and you know, I just, I didn't,
39:13
I didn't really need anyone. Or like, I don't, I don't know,
39:16
I don't really connect with anyone.
39:17
It's like it actually takes work.
39:19
Like it actually is work to build community and it sometimes
39:23
will take months if not years to build that strong community
39:27
around you. And community will shift and
39:30
change. And so I think it's just it's
39:34
being patient, but it's also being intentional and and the
39:36
and the other thing I really want to pinpoint is how can you
39:40
give to the community, not just what can you take?
39:43
Because the more you can give, I promise you, the more you will
39:47
take. Often we think about it in an
39:49
opposite way of like what can I get, What can I get, What can I
39:51
get. But like if you switch your
39:54
mindset, you're like, what can I give, How can I be vulnerable?
39:58
How can I show up? In a really powerful way, where
40:02
it's actually serving other people and that's actually when
40:05
you're going to get the most benefit from a community is when
40:09
you do that rather than just being the person who's always
40:12
taking. Yes, yes, it's so true.
40:16
Oh my goodness. And we could absolutely talk
40:18
about this forever. Oh my gosh, I have so many more
40:22
questions. But we we're hopping on our
40:25
mastermind calls soon, so we got to I was kidding.
40:28
I mean, I'm not kidding. We actually are, but we are
40:30
sure. Okay, I have to ask.
40:33
You know what are something that you are still working to figure
40:36
out? Oh man, so many things.
40:40
So, so many things. I think right now in this season
40:46
that I'm in, I'm really figuring out motherhood.
40:51
I just, yeah, I just feel like I have exponential things to learn
40:58
about motherhood. Like I and I like, have this
41:00
desire to be such a good mom and and also be like a strong
41:05
business woman. And it's figuring that out and
41:12
being present I think is the biggest thing that I've, I've
41:16
really been trying to learn over these past couple of years since
41:19
having my first is being present in each moment.
41:23
And like for example being on a podcast with you.
41:26
Like I want to be like fully present with you right now.
41:28
And when I'm with my clients going to be fully present.
41:31
And then when I'm with my daughter, I want to be fully
41:33
present with her and not be like thinking about work or thinking
41:37
about all the things I should be doing.
41:39
And then vice versa, when I'm working, I want to be all in on
41:42
that and not feeling guilty for for not being, you know, with my
41:46
daughter. So it's that I'm still figuring
41:49
out. I think it's, I think it's a
41:50
challenge, but I'm grateful. And I also I feel passionate
41:55
about, you know, my kids growing up and knowing that they can
42:00
pursue what they want to do and also have a family if they want
42:03
to. And I know that's what your
42:04
podcast is all about. So I love that.
42:07
So that's, I think, my motivation as well.
42:10
You're such a wonderful example for your kids.
42:13
They're so lucky to have you. You're just you're such a
42:15
wonderful human. Thank you so much for joining
42:18
today. And where can everybody find
42:20
you? I will put everything in the
42:21
chairs, of course, but I think there's gonna be a lot of
42:24
Googling that's happening after this, so make it easy for them.
42:26
Yeah, okay. So best probably platform is
42:30
just our website which is business babes collective.com.
42:34
We have a podcast called Business Babes Collective and
42:37
then our Instagram business. Instagram is Business Babes Co
42:42
and my personal account is Danny Living Life.
42:45
So if you want more like yeah behind the scenes motherhood and
42:48
business things and all that, all that stuff then that's where
42:51
you can find that. But yeah I would love to connect
42:54
with anyone and yeah send me a DM.
42:56
I'm I'm in my DM's as well and love to chat with people, so.
42:59
Yes, and I have to plug for you. Action Takers Club is an online
43:04
program that Danny runs that I have gone through myself.
43:07
I've actually gone through it in in its entirety and also gone
43:11
back and done bits and pieces. But I would say from as a
43:14
testimonial, I would say it's a really cool place to start.
43:17
It is so accessible from a financial perspective and from a
43:20
time perspective where it's online, it's easy.
43:23
You can sign up for the program, you can buy this course and it's
43:26
basically everything you would need to just take that idea.
43:29
Like if once you go to that coffee shop and you make your
43:31
notes and you're percolating on that idea, go into and and buy
43:35
Danny's Course Action Takers Club and it will help you to
43:39
take those dreams and really start to solidify them even
43:42
more. Like she really she starts off
43:44
with like who do you want to work with, set your vision and
43:46
all that beautiful stuff that's just so much fun to do.
43:49
It's the best part of building a business.
43:51
So I will. I'm plugging that for you
43:53
because I think it could actually be you.
43:55
It could be a great place for people to start.
43:57
Yeah. And it's so fun.
43:59
It's just so fun. Yeah.
44:00
Yeah. And we have a community that's
44:02
attached to that as well. So we have monthly coaching and
44:05
monthly virtual networking. So it's like a great way to just
44:08
get plugged in for our community.
44:10
And we'd love to have you in there.
44:11
So, yeah, thanks so much for sharing that.
44:13
Thanks, Danny. And I'll see you on our next
44:15
call in 4 minutes with our Mastermind crew.
44:17
I'll see you then. Okay.
44:19
Bye. Thank you for listening.
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