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SEASON 2 DA CREW PODCAST_EPISODE _73_ HOST LATONYA M LITTLEJOHN · DA CREW Podcast

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Every body, h good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome
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to another episode of Delayed but Not Denied the podcast. It's the season two
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episode seventy three. Tonight. I have a co host, my husband,
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mister Rico Little John, and we will be speaking with his sister, Miss
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Yvonne tonight. But before we get started, I would like to go to
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the Lord in prayer. Heavenly Father, we thank you for this moment right
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now, Father God, We thank you for the conversation that is going to
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happened tonight. We pray that it is received on the ears of the listeners
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they need to hear it. And we just bless your name right now,
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Father God, and we thank you in Jesus' name, we pray Amen.
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So, miss Yvonne, if you don't mind, come on up. Hello.
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How are you fine? How are you? I'm good, I'm good,
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good to be here tonight, Glad to have you, Glad to have
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you. Before we get started, if you could introduce yourself, Okay,
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I am Yvonne hot I am a reverend at Antioch Baptist Christian Church and I
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am a school educator in Atlanta, Georgia, and I am the sister of
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Rico and the sister in law of Litanya. Nice to see it all right,
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good? Okay, Well before we jump in, I wanted to ask
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you about your your profession being a teacher. How long have you been doing
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that? Okay, So I am right now. I am a coach,
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but I've been in education for this is my sixteenth year. I thank you.
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I teach children with special needs. So I teach children with autism,
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down syndrome, wheelchair babies, all those types of children, even children that
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are on what they call special specific learning disabilities. So all of those kids
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are kids that I work with. Now I am a coach for teachers who
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teach those kids. So this year I had about eight schools. Uh,
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next year I probably have four just because we're kind of trying to streamline some
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of our processes. But I had eight schools and I had about maybe twenty
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something teachers that I was in charge of to kind of coach them on how
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to teach those those babies, and you know, different strategies and things like
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that. But yes, this is this is I'm saying sixteen. Yeah,
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yeah, I was a nurse for that though, so a nurse. Yes,
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I was a pediatric nurse before that, so okay, how long did
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you do that? I did that for twelve years, so I kind of
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like, so this is like my second career, so yeah, okay,
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yeah. What's the most rewarding part of your job for you? Well?
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The children, of course, seeing children learn, because most people think that
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our babies can't learn, so and sometimes they treat our teachers like their glorified
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babysitters. But as a as a coach, getting my teachers to understand also
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that you can teach our babies. Some of our teachers say, oh,
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he can't do that, that's too hard for him. But you know,
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I try to teach them ways in which you can get a child, like
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you know, a kid to add or a kid to a kid with autism,
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to just just that's a nonverbal kid, just to say hello or say
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their names. I try to get them to understand progress is progress, even
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though we don't see progress. Let's just say we've been working all year and
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we haven't We think we haven't seen anything. But then at the end of
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the year, the baby says his name. That's progress and so and so
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for me, that's what I like, you know, you know, and
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I still have kids who I taught when they were like kindergarten, third fourth,
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fifth grade, they're in high school and they still remember me. So
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so I kind of I get joy from that as well. You know,
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I go out, you know, like when we go to like special lim
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Bis and things like that, I see all of my babies. So I
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am really inspired by the kids and all of the you know, just them
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having the tenacity to keep working. Yeah. So we know that your son
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has Aspergers. He does, Yes, he has Asperger's. Well now they've
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changed it. They changed Yeah, So it's just it's called it's just autism
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spectrum disorder. So you because it's a it's a spectrum. You have you
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know, those on the lower end and those on the higher end. My
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son is on the higher end. So he does have some functions that are
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you know, normal, like like everyone else. But most of the time,
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you know, things like social communication he has trouble with. But a
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lot of people don't really think about him having autism because he's so social.
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But it's just the things that he do sometimes will that you know, Okay,
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he has those where they they know facts like he knows all the facts
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about every Georgia's, every Georgia sports team there is. He can tell you
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about him. He can tell you on the team, He can tell you
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everything about him. He loves uh, he loves wrestling, so he can
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tell you anything about things like that. So it's it's just different things that
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he can tell you. But the one thing about it is that when you
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talk to him, you might not You might be like, oh, that's
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so smart, because very very very intelligent. Yeah, but the social piece
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is where I think the social and communication pieces where he has. He has
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those deficits, and so we work on those every day. You know,
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we teach him, hey, you're you're you're too close. You can't just
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say what you know. Sometimes it says whatever comes out of his mouth,
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and I have to teach you know, you can't just say everything that comes
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out to mouth. Things like that. But other than that, he's doing
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he's doing great. You know. Is he the reason that you chose special
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education? Well? Actually no, well I mean part of it. He
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is a reason. So I went to school to when I was a nurse,
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you know, I worked in pediatrics and I was a you know,
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medical assistant. But I was doing everything that a nurse could do, you
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know, all the blood work everything, but I wasn't getting paid. So
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I went to school and said, hey, I'm gonna go to school.
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I'm gonna get my nursing degree. Well, as I was getting my nursing
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degree, it just happened that I couldn't never get my grades up enough in
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nurse to get into the nursing school. So I told the lady, I
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said, listen, I didn't need to get out of school. What can
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I to get out of school? And what can I do with it?
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So she said, well you I got it. So I got a degree
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in African American Studies and I was gonna take that because I like history.
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So I was gonna take that and go to the school system. But then
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it was like it just clicked, Hey, you know you work with kids,
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you know kids, you know you you have a son who's you know,
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specially ed. So I just started working, you know, just subthing,
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just you know, kind of trying to pay the bills, and I
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ended up just it just ended up going that way. So I really think
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that it was God's playing all along for me to be doing this, and
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it was just this. This was just the way for me to you know,
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get into get into it and do it that way. Yeah, you
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got question. Well, like you said that, when I first met Malcolm,
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I couldn't tell until you told me because, like you said, the
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way he talked was very high intelligent. I was like, you know,
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he just just coming with coming with it until you like calmed him down and
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you like told me, right, what's going on. I was like,
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okay, because he'll because he'll go especially if it's something that he really cares
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about. You know, he's gonna be passionate about it. He's gonna keep
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talking about it. He's gonna So that's that's the piece. That's that autistic
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piece o. Kids. You know they focus on if there's something that they
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focus on and they can't seem to not focus on it. So those are
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the types of you know, things that But you know, he he does
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whatever he feels. You know, what I love about him is that he
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does what is what's true to him. Yeah, so he's not gonna let
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you stop him from doing whatever he says he said his mind to do,
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right, because once hend to that's it. I don't care what I say,
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I'll be like, Michael, you can't do that. You know I
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can. So, you know, I just don't got to the point where
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I just be like, Okay, try it out, do it, and
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I'm just going Mama, going back you and keep it moving. Because I
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called you once or twice, like I'm concerned about mine because he's everywhere.
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Yeah, I called you. He called me he's fine. I was like,
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Okay. My girls do that too. They always say, Mama,
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did you check on Malcolm? I said, I don't have to check on
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I know where he is. He's good, you know. He said he
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has a set routine. That's a good thing about you know, our kids
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that that. And when I say our kids, I mean my my specially
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had babies. They are on a routine and then when you bring them out
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of their routine, that's when they get messed up. So you have to
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let them stay on the routine that they normally stay on. So for me,
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I know that he's gonna be home. He's thirty years old, and
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you know, most most thirty year old is gonna be out there doing whatever
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they're gonna do. Mine's will be at home eleven thirty and he's he going
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and they're gonna fix him something eat, and he's going to be I do
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not worry now. When I started worrying, me like hey, hey,
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hey, it's a little after twelve, right, you know. And then
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but I call him and say, hey, you all right, and he'll
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be like yeah, mama, you know that type of thing. But I
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don't really worry until because I because I know him and he knows me,
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so he knows if it's not that time, he'll be like, you know,
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if it's getting closed, he'd be like, Mama, can you come
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hit me up from the train station? That type of thing. So right,
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my girl supposed to be you know, like and I'd be like,
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this is a grown man. Leave him alone. You know. Yeah,
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you know, I kind of worry when he goes worries about it. We
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were a little mine until we started following that young man on social media and
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the fact that he has so much independence and his situation doesn't hold him down.
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It's like you know, the parent and us is like, Okay,
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this is a mama know where he had, you know, like me big,
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but lave me. I know I know he had because hes gonna hes
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gonna put he gonna post it and he's gonna send me a picture, right,
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so especially we go and see them when w W comes down to Atlanta.
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Yes, I know he's going to one of those those events. I
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know. Last he's gonna go to Dragon Con. He got you know all
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of that. So most of the time though, he like I said,
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he's gonna let me know so, and it's I just try to get him
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independence as if I would a thirty year old, not to the point where
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I don't you know what I mean, I don't see it. So like
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by him being in Orlando, everybody like you let him go down there by
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myself. Yes, he's okay, Yes, he's fine. His he got
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I have, I have relatives down there, so you know, so that's
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a good part, all right. But he's gonna call, you know,
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he just that's just him. He's gonna call because he's gonna you know,
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he he knows that, you know, I need to know where he's doing.
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So he's gonna call. And if I won't, if I don't think
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he gonna call, I'm just gonna look on the Facebook and I know exactly
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where he is Instagram, because you know that he's going to Disney World like
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to work. I was like wow. I was like, you know yeah,
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And I was like, you know, when I thought out he's going
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there by hisself, I was like, you roll around Atlanta by himself or
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ain't nothing. You know. He loves animation, you know, yeah,
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Disney and his his dream is like to be a mascot. So that's the
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perfect place for him, you know, allowing him to be whatever he you
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know, he could be whatever cares you want to be. So I'm good
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with that. Like I said, I have family down there, so you
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know, i'd be like, hey, can you go check on mad see
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how you know? You know that type of thing. The only thing I
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can't get with is calling him Teddy King Teddy. Yeah, but that's you
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know, I'm gonna let him have that, but his mama is not gonna
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call him king. Absolutely. When he was telling me, you know,
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when we met you at the mall and he was walking with me and talking
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to me, and he was talking about the girls and females that he liked,
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and he started talking about King Teddy and I'm like, what the man
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who is King Teddy? And he was like, you know, he started
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explaining, you know, that's me, and you know, this is what
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I do. And I'm like, all right, yeah, I'm not I'm
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not doing that. I just I just enjoyed when he he's on Instagram and
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go to his page and press play King Teddy here Bear. It just brings
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a smile to my You go ahead, you go ahead. You're gonna make
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mama some money some days. So Goad, absolutely, we definitely will.
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And So just to shift the atmosphere a little bit, I want to talk
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about the ministry for you. When do you know? When did you know
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that you were called to preach? So I started out as a I don't
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done everything in the church, so so I've been all, you know,
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church school teacher. I was on finance, everything right, and it was
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like God just kept saying, there's something more for you. So I so
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I was called to be a deacon like a year before I got the ministry.
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And then it was like, okay, I'm a deacon, you know,
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And so I kept asking God, is this it? And God was
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like no, you know, but I think each role was training me for
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the other. For the ministry role. Now, I'm still fairly new at
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this because you know, because I just got ordained not too long ago.
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But but I just think that I've always been that, you know, in
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in the ministry. It's just that I've just been in a different role.
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And I think those roles were to were leading me up into to be in
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as a as a Yeah, because like I said, most of everything,
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I you know, even as even when I was little, you know,
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six seven, eight years old, it was like I just loved to I
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just love to be in church, you know. And it wasn't I didn't
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want to be in the you know, I wasn't trying to preach, but
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I just you know, I would listen to the I would listen and listen
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to the sermons. I would be in the listen to the choir, that
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type of thing. So it was always in me. I don't know if
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that's necessarily when God called me. I just know I heard the answer,
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you know, about two three years ago so and so, and you know,
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of course I thought, hey, it's to be a deacon. So
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you know, I got trained to be a deacon and then and then I
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was trained after that to be you know, to go into the ministry.
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So I spent about a year as a minister, and then I got ordained
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last year in June. In June, so yep, so that we were
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able to watch your ordination online. We got the link from your mom and
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we were there like we we couldn't be there physically, but we were in
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the building. Mama told me, she said I gave him. I gave
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him every day. I said, yes, I said, I appreciate it
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because I had an aunt. She couldn't she couldn't be there either. But
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my mom, my mom's good about right. You know, I think she's
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going to be my you know, my manager. But asposed to my daughter,
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my daughter preaching my daughter is my daughter is so yeah, because what
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she told us, I told, tell you what we want. I'm glad
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it's gonna be there in some form some form. Yeah, I appreciate it
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because the more the Mama family behind me, the more I can. You
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know, you know, we we are on Facebook live. So if you
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would like to, you know, join us on a Sunday if you can't,
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you know, if you're at your church or you can't, you can't
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join us at abc C East Point and then you can see. You know,
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I don't preach every Sunday, of course, because I'm just a you
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know, an associate minister. So we go from there. Yeah, okay,
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but but I enjoyed, I enjoyed the I guess the life I have
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right now. So yeah, yeah, What has been the downside of being
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a female preacher for you or has there been a downside? Well, I
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don't think I've experienced it yet. Now I've watched you know, my pastor,
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but I don't think I've experienced it yet because coming from the church,
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I you know, I'm at because she's you know, she's I have a
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woman pastor, so she allows you to do things that normal you know pastors
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may or may not let you do. So I haven't gotten to that point
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yet. And then most of the ministers that you know, we belong to
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this group called Friends and Fellowship, so there are a lot they have male
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pastors in that in the in this fellowship, and they allow women to you
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know, kind of just be who they are. So right now, I
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don't think I've experienced anything yet. But I guess as I moved up in
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the you know, into the ranks, there may come a time where you
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know, I probably will you know, experience you know, those type of
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things. But I have you know, experienced how my pastor, like we
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go to another church and we have to do things for like at funerals and
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stuff like that, how how they treat her sometimes. So I know,
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you know, it's possible. So I'm not you know, I'm not,
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and I'm just for me. I'm just I'm I'm humble. So if you
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tell me, you know you don't want to preach you your puppet, I'm
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good with that because that means that's not where I need to be in the
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first place, right right, you know, Hey, I'm gonna move on,
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keep it moving. I'm not gonna I'm not gonna argue with you about
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your about your about your you know, pupet. And I just think that
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everybody has a place where they should be. You know, have a we
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all have a home, right we can work out where we can work out
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all our gifts. So this is where I work out my gifts. So
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yeah, yeah, any more questions, I'm just happy to be talking to
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you me. I know too, with with with we it's been a long
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time, yeah, it has. It's been a long time, and I
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should have made it a point of you know, fini, you know,
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I mean, it's okay. I mean because in the beginning, we can
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move forward, you know, go and not. My thing is I think
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we just have to learn how to make our own what you call it relationship.
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I know. Like, like I've told you before, I'm not that
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I'm that sister. He'll gonna come to you, come to rescue what I
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need to come, But I'm not that sister that's gonna be like, hey,
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you know, call you every day tight, you know, because my
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other sisters every day so and I live with them. So. But it
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was the fact that you know, knowing that you have a sister, but
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not knowing correct, you know what I'm saying, because when I was yeah,
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because the thing was if our father had like you know, you have
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a sister, correct, and just telling us another story, you know,
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And we're meeting and we're sticking to one story and you're telling us you know
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what I'm saying, And we had to put like two and two together,
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you know, And I don't even know the story that. I don't even
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know the story, to be honest with you, I don't know the story
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that was told. I just know, you know, Hey, I got
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brothers out there, y'all do y'all you know I meet y'all one day.
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If not, So, your mother told you you had brothers? How did
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you find out? You told me? Yeah, my mama did. Yeah,
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but this is probably you know, at the time, I was like
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fourteen fifteen, maybe maybe a little younger, but yeah, she told me
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I had brothers. Yeah, so I knew that I had brothers, you
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know, longer like before, but I didn't know like the whole story.
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So you know, you know, the elder, that's when you learned,
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you know, because when you learned. Yeah, because what my side was,
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we was going to see an uncle down in the line. We wound
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up coming to see you, and the first thing our dad said, we're
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going to see your cousins. Okay, because your cousin. I'll never forget
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it. I will never forget this speech. Okay. We came down and
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you and we we we went the story with we went to the store,
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and the whole time we was going going to the store and coming back,
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you were saying, I'm your sister, I'm your sister, and we were
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like, no, you are cousin. Your dad told you your cousin,
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and so you went and we got back to your mom's house. You told
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him. You got in his face to like tell them I'm the sister because
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I was mad. Value Yeah, by that time, I was like,
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hey, I stood up and like, you know, we we basically stood
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up in front of him, like, YO, tell us the truth.
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Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, that's that's yours. I said, why
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did you tell us this before? So I didn't know that story? I
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just knew. I just like, okay, but it's but I thank God
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for social media because I do too. Yeah, you know, I think,
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and I thank God for you know, my mom willingly you know,
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willingly to to like hey, let me reach out. Yeah, three together
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right now. I know I'm not close as I am to the other two
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as I am to you. That's okay, that's okay, it's okay.
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I know they're my brothers. I know that, you know, I know,
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and I'm not. There's no like, I don't feel no love loss.
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So just make sure, you know, make sure they know that I
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don't feel any you know, I just feel like maybe, you know,
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sometimes people just have to get come to the knowledge of things on their own
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and they have to deal with it in a certain certain way. I just
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learned how to forgive because I used to be mad because I ain't have you
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know, I needed a father, right and he was let me tell you
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that I grew up with the father I needed to have, And so I
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didn't know how to be your sister, if that makes it. And I
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was like he was a father, but he wasn't a father. He was
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just you know, we help him, bumped heads to the part where I
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got a little older, we squared up. Oh okay. I just didn't
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know how to how to approach being a sister because I think I'm the oldest,
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right you know, So for me to be the oldest sister to everybody,
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like I'm the oldest to the sisters on my mama's side and the sisters
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on my daddy's side, So for me to try to be how do you
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be a sister to people that you didn't know, you know what I'm saying.
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So it's like, well, do I just you know, be me?
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But then I said, you know what, just be you and however
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they take it, that's how they take it. And so that's just where
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that's where I feel like you and I relate so well because I was raised
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as an only child, and so when I found my biological family. I
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had a brother and a sister on my mama's side and two brothers on my
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daddy's side, and you know, going through a situation where I'm not accepted
30:03
on either end. Like you know, I didn't I didn't choose my parents,
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correct, that's and so I didn't feel like I should be punished for
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the parents I got. But you know, it is what it is,
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And like we don't necessarily have a relationship now, and I've come to a
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place where I've made peace, you know, because I can't mourn people that
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I don't know. True, that's true, I don't. I'm not now.
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I did mourn. I'm not gonna tell you it because because you know,
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I just wish I had the chance to like just say hey, how
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I felt. You know, hey, I don't care what you and my
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mama. You know, that's that's between right for me. For me to
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be put in the middle of all of that. I then have to be
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put in the middle of trying to to know some brothers who you know not
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necessarily want to know that they got a sister. You know, It's like
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I've been told you you don't how it is You've got ear just you know,
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just people telling you me being me. I would like to know if
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you know, I just was like, you know what, it was not
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your fault, so I can't you know, there's no like I said,
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there's no I don't want to deal with them type things. And I'm okay
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with us just you know, having moments when we come together and we you
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know, you know, that's why I was glad that I could be you
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know, friends on Facebook with everyone, so I can at least see their
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lives through you know that I see my sons. You know, I see
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you know, different things that Colos is doing, you know that type of
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thing, you know, So I'm not like missing out so to speak.
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Right, I made it my business come see you until you could tell you
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I made it my business. We first started communicating, when y'all first started
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communicating, we started making plans to come down there, and I want to
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say it was fourth of July. Yeah, we we packed in that little
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car and hit the road. And you know, the relationship that I see
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you and Rico have to me is beautiful because I don't have that, you
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know with my siblings, my brothers on my father's side, you know,
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their their mom. They're protecting their mom because I'm a product of his infidelity.
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And so it wasn't really that they didn't like me, but they didn't
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want their mom to hurt because of me, and so you know, they
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tried to shield her feelings or whatever. And I was finally introduced to her
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face to face, and she found she got to meet Deontay, and Deontay
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looks more like my dad than I do. And so, you know,
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what she couldn't see in me, she saw in Deontay. And you know,
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it's been a lot different since, but still not what I had in
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mind. You know, coming from a place of adoption, I went into
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the scenario of it's been thirty one years, they're gonna want to know me.
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But that's not what happened. And now forty five year old me,
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I've come to accept what is and I don't try to change, you know,
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change God's way and God's timing, because maybe God then planted out the
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way that I thought it should have gone for my protect you know what I'm
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saying, Like he he he allowed me to meet these people, see who
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they are, see what they're about, and move on out. Yeah,
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he was protecting and I told Jah that you know, she has an aunt
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because on her mother's side, Yeah, okay, that on my side.
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I told her even when she was young, young, you have an aunt.
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She stays in Georgia. So the one day we're gonna we're gonna be
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the she finally met you and Deonte, and Daja has always known about you
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from the moment we started talking to you on Facebook. They knew about you
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even if you were to I wish you could see all of Daja's social media.
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She she goes by Peaches. I love Peaches all right down, girl.
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She got some big shoes to feel right here, right right, and
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minister just tell her she she gotta do out it. But but that's her
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love for your auntie. You know, that is her love for you.
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You know, people on the street, you know she she does hair.
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She went to cosmetology school. And so when people act, how can I
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get in touch with you? Well, this is my number. My name's
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Peaches, and I'm like, girl, ain't nobody named you Peaches? She
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said, I named myself Peaches because of my aunt name Peaches. So she's
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been Peaches as far as long as we've known you. Okay, Well,
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that's good. I appreciate it. I mean, it makes me feel good
35:43
to know that, you know, I have some some uh influence, even
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when I don't think I have influence, I have some. So I know
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my my nieces on this side, you know, I think I influenced them,
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but I think I influenced them in a different way. But I mean,
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and you, I guess you can do that more so when you have
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you know, when you're in their lives like that, you know, and
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we probably could have been you know, which, like I said, it's
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never too late. You can do and we can't do anything about what goes
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on in the past, right from it and just keep you know, and
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and make sure that we don't make those same mistakes. That's why my children,
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you know, that's why I would tell my children, Hey, you're
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gonna make mistakes, but you own up to them and move on and try
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to learn from them. Don't don't keep making the same mistakes that you made
36:45
before, you know. So, So how do you how do kids feel
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your kids feel about having three actual offs? So? So do I want
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to hear the story about you know, when they find out that, But
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they're okay, and they always asking them about y'all. It's just that they're
37:06
very protective. So absolutely not not that there. They don't want me to
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get to know you type protective. They just stand back and watch to see
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how you're how you're gonna treat me to be able to say, hey,
37:22
I'm cool with them, because they do that. Even with they do that,
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even with my cousins. I have some cousins who we really I just
37:30
don't get along with them, right and I grew up with them, but
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I just don't get along with them. And so, you know, so
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if they were like mckiva's, especially mckiva has that like she has that discernment,
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very good discernment, so she can discern if you if you if you're
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for her or for her family, and if you are not, she's not
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gonna you can tell she's not gonna deal with you. Malcolm. Of course
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I'm gonna deal with everybody. Maya tries to stay neutral. So Maya tries
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to look at it from both sides, like you know, like me and
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her dad, me and their dad, we don't, I don't I stopped.
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I just don't talk to him and so we So he reached out the
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other day and they were like, Mama, why you won't talk to him.
38:17
I'm like, listen, I'm done with that. I'm not dealing with
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that. I mean, she said, well he trying to get his life
38:23
together. Well okay, and I'm just not the one that you need to
38:28
do get your life together for, you know, do it for you,
38:30
do it for God, but don't don't bring me into this. And so
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Maya tries to see both sides, but mckivah like, I understand, Mama,
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you know that type thing. So it's just it's just they all have
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their different way of trying to protect either themselves or protect me. But I
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think they're okay with you know, us getting to know each other and you
38:49
know, having a having some type of relationship. Like if I said,
38:52
well, okay, I'm going to I'm going to South Carolina, they gonna
38:55
want to get in the car and come with me. You know that,
38:58
it wouldn't be for it would be no, no, we're not going type
39:00
stuff. So yeah, right, so yeah, but you know this is
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you know, this is the these are your your your what nieces and nephew.
39:10
So yeah, and we love them, We love them. Me and
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Keeper used to talk on the phone quite often. If we wasn't talking,
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we was texting. I don't know, you know what transpired. And I
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know once she got older, she started doing her own thing, you know.
39:30
With that's probably that's that's that's probably true with her. You know,
39:36
you know, she only the only person she calls every day just aboutance me,
39:39
so right, you know, if she needs me, she knows where
39:45
I'm at, so she knows how to get in touch with me and stuff
39:49
like that. But you know, we're not gonna a loner. So you
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know, yeah, because Ricos trying to talk to her and she don't say
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much. Not she's not gonna say a whole lot. She just she's not
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that girl. She just wants you to sit at her house. Like she's
40:06
not gonna invite you to her house. In her space. Uh, she's
40:10
a social butterfly. But but when it comes to her space and her time
40:15
and all that, she just she's protective of it. So yeah, that's
40:22
just that kind of comes from me too. That's just my you know,
40:27
she like she moved into an apartment. She tells you that, hey,
40:31
don't you better call for you come to the house, include me, you
40:36
know type thing. So you know you ain't gonna just show up and think
40:38
she's gonna be hospitable because she's not you. That's how I am. You
40:47
know, when the first time you come up here, you welcome. After
40:50
that family, family ask me, She's like, no, Mama, just
40:58
yeah, yeah. And when she ready to go in her space, that's
41:01
what she does. She go on her space though. Yeah. So so
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closing, we enjoyed talking to you too. And closing, I would like
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to ask you if there's anybody watching at this particular moment that is looking to
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give their lives the price, what would you what would you have for them?
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What would you say? So? I would just say that if you,
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if you, if God is speaking to you now, all you have
41:36
to do is just tell God that you confess with your mouth and with your
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heart and you believe that He was raised from the dead and you are saved.
41:45
I would say, just find you a good a good based up church
41:52
based home so that you can continue to be with God and to continue to
41:58
be in uh this. You know, the Holy have the Holy Spirit to
42:02
keep talking to you. If if if if I am someone who you would
42:07
like to keep in touch with, you can reach out to my sister in
42:13
law as well as myself. I don't know. I don't know my Facebook.
42:17
Uh, I don't know all this stuff because you know, as educator,
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we don't know those things. But my church is Antioch Baptist Christian Church
42:25
in Atlanta, Georgia. My pastors Reverend doctor Maxine Wadell, and you can
42:31
find us at ABCC Eastport dot org. And you just go on that website
42:37
and you can actually and reach out and tell them that River Holt was the
42:42
one who introduced you to Christ. So I'm just introducing him. I mean,
42:45
I cannot save you. I'm just the only one that can introduce you
42:49
to Christ. So I hope that anything that we've said tonight has helped you
42:53
to just understand that we all have we all have we all all have a
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life, and we all have things that we're dealing with, and that the
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only person who can help you deal with these things is Jesus Christ. Amen.
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Amen, And if you could, if you don't mind, prayer south
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Well, okay, yes, sir they having we love history. I love
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it, Yes, yes, I love I'm a history buff. I am,
43:23
So you go, we gotta get together one day. I like I
43:30
like history and science. So I love science and I love history. I
43:34
love history from the time those ships came over here, even before that,
43:39
yep. Even when it comes to the Bible. I love researching, researching.
43:45
I'm a good researcher. So yep, yeah, yep. Well,
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let us let us pray. Father, God, we thank you right now.
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We thank you, Lord for this opportunity for a family to come together
43:59
and discuss things that you wanted us discuss. Lord. For those that are
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listening, God, we ask Lord that you want to let them understand that
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we are just regular people who know you and trust you. God. We
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ask now, Lord that you look over we go and look over little Tania.
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God. Whatever they're in the need of at this moment, God,
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we ask that you give them strength, peace and power. We also ask
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Lord that you protect their homes, protect my nieces and nephew, my niece
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and nephew. God, protect his mom, protect her mom, God and
44:30
all their family. God. We ask Lord that whatever they stand in the
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need of, we ask that you continue to give them all that they need.
44:37
But Lord, we also ask that you bless their homes God, that
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their homes may be filled with your glory. We thank you right now for
44:45
everything that you have done for us tonight, and we thank you for this
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gathering and we ask these things in your son Jesus Christ name. Amen.
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Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen. Since I want to thank you for
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the opportunity to sit down and ask you questions you know about what you do
45:07
and how you help children that are sometimes not seen in in a way that
45:19
other children are seeing. So I thank you for that. I thank you
45:23
for following the path that God laid for you, because whether or not you
45:30
see it, people are watching and they're going to become closer to God by
45:38
your leadership. And so we thank you for that. Yes, ma'am,
45:43
I thank y'all for just allowing me to be peaches. But yes, but
45:51
just allow me to be me. I appreciate it. So I thank you,
45:55
sir and ma'am. You're very welcome. I love you. I love
46:00
you too, no matter what, Yes, what I'm saying. I don't
46:05
care what what the outside say, whatever, whatever, my sister, I
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love you, always gonna look anytime you need me, you just let me
46:15
know. I will. I will about sending this mushy man to you.
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Yeah, don't make me cry. Look, he'll be over here. Bawling
46:25
in a minute, pushing off right now. You know I love you.
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I love you too. I always support you. You know what I'm saying.
46:37
No matter what, no matter what, I got your bet, yes,
46:40
sir, nobody else got you, just a you got me. I
46:45
got you all right, I got you to I love it. Good night,
46:52
I love it. Thank you all for watching tonight. This has been
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delayed but not denied. Where you may be delayed or a guy has for
47:00
you will never be the night unto you until next time. Everyone, have
47:05
a good night, good night, good night a person per se me.
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All things ain't one thing, you stupid? Where did all the blue skyes?
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But boys, and though blows from the north to south, things well purs