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Modern Dating vs. Traditional Love | What Are We Really Searching For? · The Road Doc Podcast

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  Let me ask you something, are we actually finding better
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  connections in today's world or are we just getting good at
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  replacing people? Let's just deep dive into it on
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  to today's topic, modern dating versus traditional love, right?
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  Let's just see. Hello everyone, Hi.
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  Hi, I'm Doctor Mukund, the road doc.
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  Today we are going to discuss about modern dating versus
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  traditional love kind of thing because during the recent times
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  based on evidence and everything, I have seen a lot.
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  So I just want to give my kind of version to the world.
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  Things are very crazy these days.
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  So yeah, welcome back to my Rd. Dog Forecast where I like to
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  share my opinions and things that go around across the world,
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  things I experience and see it around.
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  And I would like to share with you all and get your opinions
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  and comments as well regarding this.
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  So with no further ado, we will just dive in.
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  Back then, I think the law was very simple, not easy, but very
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  simple, right? You just meet and then you build
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  something, you stay and then grow together.
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  That was used to be the traditional road, right?
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  There were very fewer options, but maybe they have more clarity
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  on everything, maybe based on like traditions and generally
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  the world at that point of time, it was like that.
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  Today we have like unlimited options.
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  People are so confused what they want in life.
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  For example we have like so many dating apps, social media,
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  constant exposure to new people but somehow I think the clarity
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  is gone for almost everyone right before that.
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  Kindly excuse me about the background.
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  This is my parents place, so I am just here temporarily for a
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  while, so please bear with me. Anyways, yeah, so coming back to
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  our point, yeah, the things were very crazy.
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  I mean, I will tell you some things that's happening at this
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  point of time, right. These days people around my age
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  are getting slowly started to get married.
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  Today too. I just saw the process and
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  everything. It was crazy to me.
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  Yeah, I am just these days trying to attend as many
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  weddings as possible to see what's actually there and so on
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  and so forth. And guess what?
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  It is crazy. You know, things are very crazy.
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  And people, basically what's happening these days is no one
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  is looking at. I'm not saying kindly understand
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  that I am not basing my opinions or my suggestions based on any
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  gender. It's just a neutralized thing.
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  So don't get offended. This is how this marriages and
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  everything has become was purely like a business team.
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  Like no one really knows what they want and what they want to
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  expect in other person and so on and so forth.
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  They are just like how much property you have, how much
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  money you have in your bank account, what you can bring to
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  the table. I mean, yes, you can have a
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  background check, you can ask all those, that's nothing wrong.
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  But nobody is questioning about once the way of handling things,
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  how they treat people, whether the person is good or bad,
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  whether they have good nature, whether they are they have this
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  kind of an characteristic trait and so on and so forth.
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  That part, nobody is caring these days mostly.
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  At least I'm not seeing it. Everybody is like, OK, we have
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  crores in the bank, we have pants in the locker, blah, blah,
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  blah. And then within one to two
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  years, divorce. Katam, bye bye, done, gone.
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  I mean, I'm just, I was having a conversation with my mom today
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  and I asked like, you people are very crazy back in the day.
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  I mean, not just my mom and basically that whole generation.
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  You just met some random person. You just checked like, yeah, the
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  person is good or not, whether they have money or not.
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  They primarily did not care at that point of time.
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  All they checked was the character of them and then
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  that's it, marriage done. And then the law happened.
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  That's their format. And most people believe it or
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  not, it worked. It worked because I talked to so
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  many people as well, and I asked how did it work?
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  They said back then there are no dating apps, there are no
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  options. You don't see million people in
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  a split second, so you barely see and your options are very
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  limited. So yeah, that's why it's kind of
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  pretty much possible. Not so possible, actually.
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  It's kind of very difficult to find partners.
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  And once you find they get, they know, they talk and they get
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  married. Especially these are no Internet
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  kind of errors. Back then things were very
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  different. So yeah, we cannot, we cannot
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  expect that in these days, these days they are still following in
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  2026 the same methods. People don't understand things
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  have changed and I even argued with my mom saying that mother,
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  things are very, very different right now.
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  That's not the reality anymore. Things went so crazy.
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  And if you go on the traditional route, I'm not just trying to
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  scare anybody, but I'm just talking based on evidence.
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  The evidence shows that the divorce rate has been increased
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  exponentially since 2010. Whether you like it or not,
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  that's that's the truth. It did increase a lot.
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  Why is that happening? Because nobody, everybody's
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  running after money. That's number one lifestyle #2
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  and nobody wants a partner. Actually, they just want some
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  business partner kind of a thing because the marriages on these
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  things, they are not existing at all because one will be in one
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  place, the other will be in another place, blah, blah, blah.
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  You get the point, right? So it's and if you ask for men
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  specifically in 2026, getting married from men's perspective
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  is completely useless. Sorry to say this but that's the
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  truth. Unless you find specifically a
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  good person, which is very very rare and it brings peace to you,
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  then fine. But for men, for men, for men.
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  I think marriage literally became a Trump for men, for
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  women too. But that was a trap.
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  It's exist since traditional long ago.
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  But yeah, because things are pretty crazy, which I cannot
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  openly talk about on camera because it might be censored or
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  it might be edited out. So you get the point, right?
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  Because you check in your own vicinity how many divorce are
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  happening? How many marriages are actually
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  actually standing tall. Now everyone is like, we want
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  this lavish marriage book, this wedding thing.
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  We just want to spend crores under millions of dollars or
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  rupees, whatever it may be, to show off to so-called relatives,
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  society and so on and so forth, which nobody gives a damn after
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  a while. But they like to spend that much
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  of money and if you ask me, it's no use.
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  But if you have too much money to waste it on, go ahead.
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  But if you ask my opinion, I think I think you should not get
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  married spending that much of money which is happening these
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  days, which is very good business for this marriage
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  halls, conventions, whatever you call for them, it is really a
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  good business. But I don't think that level of
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  spending on something and people you don't give a damn in future
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  is useful anymore. Because golden days it was very
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  different because they do not meet every single day like your
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  family, your relatives and all those things.
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  Now we are like we have the technology, we are on constant
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  touch every single day via social media apps, so on and so
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  forth. It's different world we are
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  living in and we are more connected these days yet we are
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  so far. That's the illusion that we are
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  living in today because we are connected with everyone.
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  Like 1 message, one call, boom, boom.
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  But in the olden days at least, it was like you meet once in a
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  while. So at that point of time,
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  marriages, all these things are big deal because you gonna meet
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  after very, very long time and then you have all the people you
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  know, you invite them and then you have good food, you share
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  food and all those things. That does make sense.
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  At that point of time, sure. But in today's world, everybody
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  is running after money. Everybody gives you respect,
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  only you have money. S basically when the money
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  entered the chat, the dynamics changed rapidly, very, very
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  fast. And that's also sad part.
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  And that's also, let's just say part of evolution or whatever
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  you can call it. The integrity of people has gone
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  down rapidly, which is a sad thing actually, but that's the
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  truth we have to face. So what I suggest in these terms
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  is if you are well above, you can spend whatever money you
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  don't care and you can still leave it off good, fine, do
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  that. If you are OK, OK, then you
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  should definitely do not waste your money on such things
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  because trust me, it's one or two days or three days or one
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  week or whatever. Gone.
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  Your money is gone. Now you are back to square 1 and
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  you have to restart everything from square 1.
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  Then you think it's gonna be worth it or not.
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  And you make that decision. Because see I will tell you one
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  thing, people in our parents age literally got married on temples
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  right? Or any religious places like
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  churches, mosques etc. Or in their homes and stuff.
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  They spend bare minimum. But guess what?
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  They are the actual people who stayed in the marriages for very
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  long time. Truth, we are seeing it so just
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  look around you find it now. Literally the modern dating
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  literally feels like marketplace sometimes.
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  So I play right, I talk for few days, ghost move on.
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  Everybody is in this loop because I know few of few
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  friends. They were like, hey, we met them
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  online, they were living in this country, blah blah, blah.
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  And then they talked for a while and blah blah.
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  And then they just stopped talking.
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  And I was like surprised what the hell is happening?
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  What is happening? Then I understood this is just a
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  matrimonial kind of a procedure. I am like what the heck, when
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  did? When did I signed up for this
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  stupidest thing? I'm like wow, I thought these
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  people are just common friends or whatever, but no man, no no
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  no. They're like checking.
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  They have like checklist. This person did this.
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  OK, good. They have this good.
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  They have this good, good, good. What the hell?
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  I'm not interested bro, not interested in this stupid
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  marriage scam leaving me alone. Alright then I understood.
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  Is this happening? This is not natural now.
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  This is now normal. What's happening in the world?
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  I ask few of my friends. They are also like, yeah, dude,
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  this is the trend now. They just talk randomly or you
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  just meet someone there. Every person is having like a
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  checklist in their mind. They are just checking,
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  checking, checking. They won't tell you they have a
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  checklist, but they are checking in the background and they are
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  like, whoa, whoa. I'm like, I'm not interested,
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  bro. I'm not interested in this
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  marriage scam, all these things at this point of time because I
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  have, I am talking about myself because other people have shared
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  their stories, but it's too personal to reveal on camera
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  again. So I'm just talking about myself
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  here. I'm like, I'm not interested to
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  carry that responsibility, whatever you call it, not
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  interested in the first place and it's not worth my time.
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  I just want to explore, travel, live a live a life that I
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  admire, I am happy about at this point of time.
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  I am not saying I am not against any marriage or anything at this
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  point of time. I am just not interested.
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  Maybe in 2-3 years I might change my mind.
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  That's a whole different story. And I will tell you few other
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  friends of mine stories. They are like ghosted very
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  badly. Like they just met in college or
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  something and then they talked and casual things and then they
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  stopped and then they said we are not compatible because I
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  want my partner like blah blah, blah.
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  And they are like, oh, who said is this a date kind of a thing
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  or marriage kind of a thing? What's going on?
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  Crazy. They just thought I just you are
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  just acquaintances or colleagues but no crazy world out right
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  now. Careful people careful otherwise
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  you will end up in so-called marriage.
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  I'm not saying they are bad or good.
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  All I'm trying to say is you make your choice.
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  If that's what you want in life go ahead.
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  A thumbs up for you but you wanna explore life and you wanna
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  hold on for a while then you should because there is no
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  connection these days. It's full of these dating apps
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  and stuff. You swipe this that blah blah.
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  They are making good amount of money from your desperation.
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  So kudos to the dating apps. They are doing great job making
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  money. I mean, nothing wrong word.
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  But yeah. So yeah, let's talk about
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  traditional love. OK?
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  Now, I will not say the traditional love or dating kind
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  of a thing or whatever you call it.
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  It wasn't perfect either. During that circumstances,
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  during that point of time, people stayed even though they
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  shouldn't have. There were limitations, suicidal
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  pressures, lack of freedom. But one thing I have noticed
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  from various marriages, they have something called depth.
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  Now people, they don't walk away that easily.
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  Like today we walk away like we just enter into McDonald's or
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  KFC and then order it. If you don't like it, we just
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  come back kind of a thing. Yeah, for every small
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  inconvenience people are getting divorced these days which we are
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  seeing so. And again, I am not saying that
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  is good, this is bad, this is good, that is bad.
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  It has pros and cons. But all I am saying is things
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  have changed drastically. So what's the real problem then?
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  What's the real issue that is it about the modern day thing or
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  its is it about the traditional love or it's generally how we
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  approach relationships? Everybody wants like deep love,
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  but everyone will not give full efforts.
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  They just come with very shallow kind of effort.
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  Everyone wants loyalty, but they keep all their options open as
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  well. So like and also one more thing
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  is like everyone wants clarity in their life and mostly people
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  avoid all the difficult conversations.
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  Maybe the question isn't which is better, right?
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  May be the real question may be. I am just thinking, are you
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  actually ready for the kind of love you say you want?
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  Because no system is the perfect system.
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  I cannot blame the old system or we cannot blame the today's
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  world. We can fix it.
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  I don't think we can fix anything either.
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  So what do you actually want? Yeah, it's it sounds very
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  confusing, isn't it? Exactly my point if it sounds
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  very confusing after hearing the whole episode.
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  Exactly. That's how today's world is
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  running regarding this top. Hey, Cortana.
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  So, yeah, so crazy woman, we are living in people.
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  If you are already married or if you just got married recently or
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  you are thinking about marriage, just let me know in your
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  comments your experiences. Ha ha, like what?
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  What's your experience, your take on today's world?
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  I just wanna hear your opinions and how things are happening in
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  different parts of the world. I just want to listen to.
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  I just want to hear from you as well.
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  Things are crazy, crazy, man, crazy.
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  And I also know that different environments have different
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  cultures. These different cultures have
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  different traditions and so on and so forth.
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  In India itself, every region has its own thing, so if you go
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  deep inside you will find different different traditions
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  regarding this thing. How they check.
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  I am literally getting tired because in order to talk this
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  kind of a traffic you will not believe literally 2-3 hours
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  before I had a cup of coffee but still I feel tired.
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  So you understand the reason why I am saying all this is because
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  even thinking about this title just give me like instant
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  tiredness. Looking at everyone's life
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  around me and everything that's happening around the world and
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  so on and so forth. I can tell it's a crazy world
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  out there, no doubt. And crazy.
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  Please excuse me for everything crazy.
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  So finally I wanna tell this. If this episode feels very
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  confusing, that's how today's world actually is.
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  And if you feel like you did not understand anything, that's the
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  whole point man. I didn't understand a thing.
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  What's happening in today's world?
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  They are like one day they want this, one day, no, one day they
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  want this and don't even get me started.
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  They have like so many options. I I do not even want to name
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  anything. If you know those names, then
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  just comment down below. Crazy, man, crazy, crazy.
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  So folks, be careful out there. We are living in a crazy world
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  right now so just take care. And if you are all already
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  married, I'm sorry, your happiness might be already gone
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  so I can't do anything. If you are not married yet, you
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  will be happy no matter what, which is great.
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  And if you are thinking about marriage, good for you.
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  You will lose everything after once it's done anyways.
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  So yeah, I'm just kidding. Just do whatever you wanna do.
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  I just love to share my opinions here.
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  I would like to hear from you as well.
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  So anyways, take care. Bye, bye and thank you so much
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  for listening and tuning in. We are going strong these days.
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  Your continuous support has been a great help for me to continue
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  this journey. So thank you.
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  Take care. Bye.
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  This is Doctor Mikun signing off.