Latest / Inspirations for Your Life / Delete Edit Episode: Connection, Influence, and Everyday Impact (S4) S51:E7

Transcript

Delete Edit Episode: Connection, Influence, and Everyday Impact (S4) S51:E7 · Inspirations for Your Life

0:25
Well, hey guys, good evening, or should I
0:28
say good morning, I know it's a little
0:29
bit late here.
0:30
It's been a really fun week with getting
0:32
ready to travel for the holidays.
0:35
And so good to be with everyone here.
0:37
This is your very first time.
0:38
I want to say thank you and welcome
0:41
to the show.
0:42
If you're coming back, I definitely want to
0:44
say thank you very much and of course,
0:46
welcome back.
0:48
Friday, this is December 20, 2025.
0:52
It's the day that we close out our
0:55
master topic, which we'll get to in just
0:56
a second.
0:57
And pretty soon you'll learn what the granular
0:59
topic is for today.
1:02
Each week, we start with Saturday and we
1:04
roll through to Friday and we have a
1:06
master topic.
1:07
And then each day, that granular topic complements
1:11
the master topic.
1:13
If you've never been here before, don't forget
1:15
to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for more of
1:17
my amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
1:19
And ladies and gentlemen, if you're thirsty, feel
1:22
free to go grab yourself some RO water,
1:25
maybe some fruit, maybe a snack, doesn't matter.
1:29
Whatever you'd like, healthy or not, and head
1:32
on back to the show because we want
1:34
to kick this off.
1:35
All right, everybody.
1:36
Like I said, it is so great to
1:38
be with everyone here on the show.
1:41
And I hope that you guys learn a
1:45
lot of key insights because this is the
1:50
whole key, guys.
1:51
We can learn these impacts and learn how
1:54
they can not only, let's say, affect or
1:59
change our life, but we also can learn
2:02
how it can affect and change other people's
2:06
lives.
2:06
I think that's an important thing.
2:09
You know what I mean?
2:13
Does that make sense to everybody here?
2:14
I mean, I'm hoping it does.
2:15
If it doesn't, then please definitely let me
2:18
know that as well because I think sometimes,
2:22
you know, we get a little bit tongue
2:25
-tied or we get a little bit ahead
2:28
of ourselves because we feel that we're in
2:31
something too deep and we don't know what
2:33
to do, so we panic.
2:35
And panicking isn't a good thing because when
2:38
we panic, things just get worse, right?
2:43
You know?
2:44
So, you know, that's a very, very important
2:48
thing to understand.
2:52
You know?
2:53
Does that make sense to anybody?
2:56
And so, just thinking about how something is,
2:59
right?
3:00
We're thinking about a perspective because, you know,
3:02
our life operates on perspectives every single day.
3:06
But sometimes, well, we jump to conclusions, not
3:13
because we have to, but because we feel
3:17
compelled to or that we want to, and
3:19
I think that's a very important thing that
3:23
a lot of people, like, they just don't
3:25
get, right?
3:26
They don't get what that means.
3:28
And I want to tell you that choices
3:31
are what create your reality every single day.
3:35
So without any further ado, guys, let's go
3:37
ahead and kick this show off.
3:38
So you've tuned into another powerful, amazing episode
3:42
of Inspirations for Your Life, the end-of
3:46
-the-week episode, that's right, of the Inspirations
3:49
for Your Life show, that's right, the daily
3:51
motivational show that not only helps you sharper,
3:55
being able to think that way and feel
3:57
stronger and lead your own life on purpose,
4:02
it does a lot more.
4:04
And by the way, I'm John Seymour, serial
4:06
entrepreneur.
4:07
I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
4:11
host, coach, graduate student, and a passionate lifelong
4:16
learner.
4:19
Someone that has been around for years, building
4:22
businesses and creating content and coaching people just
4:27
like you to turn everyday moments into real
4:31
impact, to those wow, right?
4:35
Today, we're wrapping up our series of high
4:38
-impact living, seven days to think sharper, to
4:42
feel stronger and lead your own life with
4:45
a Friday theme, yes, connection, influence, and everyday
4:51
impact.
4:52
How you show up with people in the
4:56
smallest interactions and how those moments shape your
5:00
life.
5:02
Number one, guys, let's kick it off.
5:04
Treat every interaction like it matters because it
5:07
does.
5:08
The way you talk to the barista, your
5:11
coworker, your partner, or a stranger holding the
5:15
door reveals who you are when nobody is
5:19
watching.
5:20
And I've always said, we've got to do
5:23
the right thing whether somebody is watching or
5:26
not.
5:27
And when you treat each touch point as
5:31
a chance to add respect, to be calm,
5:34
or show kindness, your days feel richer and
5:38
your influence just grows without performance.
5:42
Number two, guys, make one person feel genuinely
5:45
seen today or tomorrow.
5:48
Look them in the eye, slow down, and
5:52
show they're not background noise.
5:57
A lot of people get discouraged because people
6:01
aren't giving them the time of day because,
6:04
well, they're saying they're too busy to do
6:06
things.
6:06
And that's a real problem.
6:08
Ask a real question.
6:12
Reflect on something they said or acknowledge what
6:16
they're carrying.
6:18
People remember forever the moment someone truly saw
6:22
them.
6:23
Number three, offer specific encouragement, not generic compliments.
6:30
Good job is fine, but I appreciate how
6:33
calmly you led that meeting.
6:36
It's harder because it proves you noticed specific
6:41
encouraging times build trust and loyalty because it
6:47
tells people they're different and their effort is
6:51
not invisible.
6:52
So many people are all about themselves.
6:55
And the minute you excel, it's like they
6:56
get too busy to be able to share
6:59
that with you.
6:59
And I think that's a sad moment for
7:03
a lot of people.
7:04
You know, why does that happen?
7:08
I think it's the hustle bustle of life.
7:13
And that's something that a lot of people,
7:15
like, they just don't get what that means.
7:20
And the reason I say this to you
7:22
is sometimes people just, you know, they get
7:27
stuck in a trap.
7:29
And this trap is something that I feel
7:32
a lot of people, they don't know how
7:34
to say, they don't know what to respond.
7:37
So what do they do?
7:39
They get stuck.
7:43
They get completely stuck.
7:47
And it's something that might cause you to
7:52
go a certain way in life, right?
7:55
Maybe.
7:56
But then maybe it's something that gets you
8:00
to change your perspective.
8:01
And we all know that your perspective is
8:04
the key, guys.
8:05
It is the key, the key to making
8:08
a difference in your life every single day.
8:13
And so what does that mean to people?
8:18
Well, I think it means that most people,
8:24
okay, don't quite understand how their perspective makes
8:31
such a big impact on others' lives.
8:35
Some people just, they don't get that.
8:38
And I think they don't get it because
8:40
of something that's gone on in their life,
8:44
right?
8:45
Something that maybe, I don't know, something that
8:49
maybe just didn't work the right way, right?
8:53
But maybe it was about a fleeting feeling,
8:59
an emotion that potentially got in the way,
9:03
right?
9:06
I think sometimes it's good to pause.
9:10
Number four, follow up with someone you've been
9:14
meaning to check on.
9:17
That person you keep thinking about needs to
9:21
hear from you.
9:23
A simple, hey, you've been on my mind.
9:26
How are you really doing?
9:29
And do you really care how they're doing
9:31
or are you just trying to be superficial?
9:33
Because here's the thing, guys, if you don't
9:35
care how they're doing, don't ask.
9:39
Don't ask, all right?
9:44
And that's something I feel that a lot
9:46
of people don't understand, right?
9:49
They don't get that.
9:52
That's something that is going to hold a
9:57
lot of people back, all right?
10:02
And maybe it's going to even confuse you
10:04
just a little bit, right?
10:06
Maybe.
10:11
When you ask this kind of question about
10:13
how you're really doing, it can show up
10:14
at exactly the right time.
10:18
Number five, build relationships before you need them.
10:20
A lot of people need help.
10:27
And so they build them when they need
10:28
them, but they don't build them early.
10:30
It's kind of like going for a loan.
10:32
A lot of people that go for a
10:33
loan, the people that go for a loan
10:35
and need it don't get it.
10:37
But the people who go for a loan
10:38
and don't need it, get it, right?
10:42
Influence grows in seasons of consistency, not just
10:47
during crises.
10:50
Invest early, encouraging, helping, listening.
10:54
So if you ever need support, the request
10:57
rests on real history, not last minute conveniences.
11:05
Number six, guys, listen for what people care
11:08
about, not just what they say.
11:11
Under every story, complaint, or win, there's a
11:15
value, safety, respect, growth, freedom, belonging.
11:20
And when you tune into those values, you
11:23
connect deeper and you respond in ways that
11:27
truly land and build that respect.
11:31
A lot of people say this, but then
11:33
they don't mean it, right?
11:37
I think that's an important thing.
11:42
And I say this to you because of
11:44
the fact that it can change things, right?
11:49
It can change your whole life.
11:52
Number seven, use people's names.
11:56
It tells them you notice.
11:58
Dale Carnegie said this to us a long
11:59
time ago, the most pleasant sounding thing to
12:02
a person is the sound of hearing their
12:04
name said correctly, right?
12:06
Saying someone's name says you matter right now.
12:11
Over time, those small signals build warmth and
12:16
familiarity that no big speech can fake.
12:21
And so I think sometimes we get caught
12:28
up in the motion, you know, we're just
12:31
going through them.
12:32
But we don't really know why we're doing
12:35
things.
12:36
That's important.
12:37
I said we can't be on autopilot, right?
12:40
I've said that to you guys.
12:41
Number eight, give value before you ask for
12:45
a favor.
12:46
Share a resource, make an intro, send a
12:50
helpful link, or solve a small problem with
12:53
zero expectation.
12:55
Everyone I always know wants to get something
12:57
when they've given something.
12:59
When you're known as someone who brings value
13:05
first, influence grows naturally and your asks feel
13:10
like partnership and not pressure anymore.
13:14
Number nine, support someone's dream, even if it's
13:18
different from yours.
13:20
You don't have to fully understand their vision
13:24
to cheer for it.
13:26
I'm proud of you for going after that.
13:30
How can I support you?
13:32
Can be the fuel they need when doubt
13:35
is loud.
13:37
Number 10, guys, share something helpful publicly.
13:41
Instead of just consuming, don't only scroll and
13:46
save.
13:47
Share a lesson, story, or tool that helped
13:51
you so it can help someone else.
13:53
Everyday impact often looks like one helpful idea,
13:57
released instead of hoarded.
14:00
I think those are things that a lot
14:01
of people sometimes, they push to the side.
14:06
And they do this because they don't understand
14:12
the value of it.
14:15
Number 11, say thank you with detail.
14:19
Thanks is good.
14:21
Thank you for answering my questions.
14:24
So patiently and staying late to get this
14:28
done is unforgettable.
14:31
Detailed gratitude shows people which part of their
14:36
character you noticed.
14:39
And when they have a chance to reflect
14:41
on that, they're going to be like, wow,
14:44
this person really gives a darn.
14:48
That's important, guys.
14:50
Number 12, guys, make promises small.
14:54
And your follow through, huge.
14:58
Don't over promise to impress.
15:01
Under promise and over deliver to build trust.
15:05
I think that's a very, very big key
15:09
for a lot of people is to understand
15:11
how that works.
15:12
When people learn that it changes life.
15:18
If I say he'll do something, it gets
15:23
done.
15:24
Your word becomes a powerful influence.
15:26
In other words, when John C.
15:28
Morley says something, people know that my word
15:33
is just like my signature.
15:35
Number 13, own your mistakes.
15:38
Instead of hiding them, I mess that up.
15:42
And here's how I'm fixing it.
15:44
Builds more credibility than pretending nothing happened.
15:50
See, people don't trust perfection.
15:53
They trust honest responsibility and integrity.
15:58
Number 14, treat service as a strategy.
16:02
Not just being nice.
16:04
Service is intelligent leadership.
16:07
And when you look for ways to help
16:10
and uplift others, you create a network of
16:13
people who feel better when you're in the
16:17
room.
16:18
And that's real influence.
16:20
Not influence you can buy, guys.
16:23
Number 15, show up on time.
16:26
It signals respect.
16:27
I also tell people, if you're on time,
16:30
you're late.
16:30
So you should always be early.
16:32
A little more of a caveat to being
16:33
on time.
16:35
Punctuality says your time matters to me.
16:40
Chronic lateness whispers that people and commitments are
16:45
optional.
16:46
And if I have time, then I guess
16:49
I'll get there.
16:50
If not, I'll be there when I can.
16:53
Consistent on-time presence builds reliability.
16:57
And the sooner you get that, the sooner
17:00
you'll start succeeding more in life every single
17:03
day.
17:04
It's not hard, but integrity is something that
17:08
we have to come from, right?
17:12
It's something we have to come from.
17:14
And if we can't come from it, then
17:15
how do we ever go anywhere, right?
17:18
How do we ever go anywhere?
17:20
That's a very, very big problem.
17:23
Number 16, be consistent.
17:29
Unpredictability erodes people.
17:32
Feel safest with those whose energy and follow
17:35
-through are steady.
17:36
The more your behavior matches your values day
17:42
after day, the more people lean on you
17:45
when it counts.
17:47
And you might say, John, I don't know
17:50
about that.
17:50
I'm telling you, you do know about that.
17:53
You know about it so deeply in your
17:55
heart, but for whatever reason, you don't act.
17:59
Number 17, speak well of people who aren't
18:05
in the room.
18:08
What you say about others in their absence
18:11
tells, well, listeners how you talk about them.
18:16
Choosing to build reputations instead of tearing them
18:19
down quietly raises your own.
18:26
That's an important one, guys.
18:28
Learning how that means something to you.
18:31
Learning what that can do for you.
18:33
Number 18, don't confuse influence with follower counts.
18:39
True influence isn't measured in likes.
18:43
It's measured in lives that are calmer, that
18:46
are stronger or clearer because you were there.
18:50
So you can have a small audience and
18:53
a massive impact or a big audience and
18:58
almost no impact.
19:00
Choose depth over reach every single day.
19:05
Number 19, bring solutions when you can, not
19:10
just problems to the table.
19:12
It's fine to say, here's what's wrong, but
19:16
powerful to add, here's one thing we could
19:19
try.
19:21
You don't need a perfect plan, just willingness
19:24
to help carry the load.
19:29
When some people feel they can't do something,
19:31
you know what they do?
19:32
They just come back and say, oh, and
19:35
then they make excuses, they make excuses.
19:39
And those excuses get people to procrastinate, get
19:44
people to think they're less than what they
19:49
really are.
19:50
Number 20, give someone the chance you wish
19:56
you'd been given.
19:58
A first shot, a second chance, a small
20:01
platform when you open a door for someone
20:04
else, you change their trajectory and honor the
20:09
earlier you who needed that same door opened.
20:13
Number 21, ask, how can I leave this
20:17
person better than I found them?
20:21
Before calls, meetings or messages, that question shifts
20:27
you from, what can I get to what
20:31
can I give?
20:32
And quietly transforms both relationships and reputation.
20:37
I think that's a very, very important one.
20:41
Number 22, use your skills to make someone's
20:45
day easier.
20:46
Fix a tech issue, review a document, offer
20:50
a marketing idea, or simply use your calmness
20:54
to steady someone's stress.
20:57
Your everyday gifts become powerful when aimed at
21:01
someone else's burden.
21:04
Number 23, be that person who resembles and
21:10
remembers the little details.
21:12
That's the birthdays, the preferences, the small wins.
21:16
That thing they were nervous about, following up
21:20
on these makes people feel seen in ways
21:25
grand gestures can't even come close to.
21:30
Number 24, please handle conflict in private.
21:35
Don't make it a drama performance.
21:38
Real leaders don't use public embarrassment as entertainment.
21:43
You address issues directly, privately and respectfully with
21:47
integrity, protecting their dignity while still solving the
21:51
problem.
21:53
And helping to keep the trust and build
21:57
it even more.
21:59
Number 25, don't ghost.
22:02
When an honest conversation is needed, silence can
22:06
hurt more than a hard truth.
22:08
Saying this isn't working and here's why, or
22:12
I need to step back is uncomfortable, but
22:17
deeply respectable.
22:19
Number 26, please share your story.
22:22
Someone needs the lesson inside it.
22:25
The challenges you've walked through carry wisdom that
22:30
could save someone else's time, pain or confusion.
22:36
Shared with humility, your story becomes a bridge,
22:40
not a spotlight.
22:42
Number 27 guys, remember that impact is measured
22:47
in lives changed, not likes gained.
22:51
One person sleeping better at night because of
22:55
something I said or you said is much
22:59
more powerful than a thousand passive views.
23:03
Don't underestimate quiet, unseen transformation.
23:08
Number 28, choose to be, well, a thermostat,
23:17
not a thermometer.
23:18
Don't just reflect the room, set the tone,
23:27
bring calmness to chaos, focus on the distraction,
23:34
gratitude to negativity.
23:36
And when you intentionally shift the emotional temperature,
23:41
okay, people notice something, you know what that
23:43
is?
23:43
They notice how you are and they notice
23:46
what you stand for.
23:49
Number 29, let your actions speak so loudly,
23:53
your words only confirm them.
23:56
Show up, follow through, serve, encourage and keep
24:01
your character steady.
24:03
Then when you speak your voice, it carries
24:07
the weight of a life that matches its
24:10
message.
24:13
Number 30, we're ending this Friday by asking
24:18
a very important question.
24:20
Who did I help encourage or empower this
24:25
week?
24:26
Don't just ask what you achieved, ask who
24:30
is standing a little taller because you crossed
24:35
their path.
24:37
That's what everyday influence really is.
24:41
Now, a quick story.
24:44
Somebody helped me this weekend, this past week.
24:50
And he was pretty remarkable.
24:54
And so I decided the other day that
24:57
I need to go back and say, thank
24:58
you.
25:00
Had I do that, I got a card.
25:03
I wrote basically that there are still some
25:05
good people left in this world.
25:07
And I'm great that I met you.
25:11
Brought them some homemade cookies.
25:13
And I'm also planning on sending them a
25:15
pizza next week because I think more good
25:21
needs to be put into this world.
25:24
Ladies and gentlemen, I know that sometimes you
25:30
feel it's just extra work to say thank
25:33
you.
25:34
But when we choose to say thank you
25:36
in our lives, things matter, things change, right?
25:47
I don't know if you guys know this,
25:48
but you have been listening or you have
25:51
been watching the ever popular inspirations for your
25:57
life show.
25:58
Oh, by the way, I'm John C.
26:00
Morley.
26:00
I'm a serial entrepreneur.
26:02
I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
26:06
host, coach, graduate student, and a passionate lifelong
26:12
learner.
26:12
Your daily gratitude guide to practical, high impactful
26:20
living, creating a mindset that shifts and helps
26:25
you live more connected, more intentional and more
26:32
impactful every single day.
26:36
Ladies and gentlemen, I know that we've hit
26:39
some chords here.
26:41
Some of you might have said, oh, I
26:43
don't wanna listen to this.
26:44
I don't wanna watch this because maybe these
26:47
things are turning up in your life.
26:51
Maybe you're afraid about the fact that this
26:56
is actually you in the mirror.
26:59
If this episode, ladies and gentlemen, on connection,
27:07
influence and everyday impact spoke to you in
27:14
any large or small way, please stop and
27:19
take a moment after this show and share
27:22
it with someone you want to grow with.
27:27
And remember, ladies and gentlemen, your greatest influence
27:30
lives in how you treat people.
27:34
When nobody's keeping score, please, ladies and gentlemen,
27:39
choose to connect with me by visiting now
27:41
after the show, BelieveMeAchieve.com.
27:46
And of course you can check short form
27:49
content, long form content, articles, reels, and so
27:53
much more.
27:57
So I'm an entrepreneur here and I offer
28:00
you more tools and stories every single day
28:03
and daily motivation.
28:04
You could tune into the Inspirations for Your
28:06
Life Show every single day.
28:08
Just go to BelieveMeAchieve.com.
28:12
You can watch the audio version, you can
28:14
watch the full video and audio.
28:16
And let's keep elevating your life, your leadership
28:20
and your impact.
28:22
You make one meaningful interaction at a time.
28:29
That's powerful, guys.
28:32
I'm not telling you it's gonna be easy.
28:34
I never said that.
28:36
What I am telling you is that if
28:39
you believe in yourself, you can make amazing
28:43
changes.
28:44
Have yourself a great one, everyone.
28:45
I'll catch you real soon.