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Monday Mini: Let's Uplift · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stephan.
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Speaker 1: I never told your appection about I Heeart Radio, and
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Speaker 1: welcome to Well. You know what for this Monday money,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna call it mental health Monday. Can we say that? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: I can't we say it? Okay, I'm gonna say it
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Speaker 1: that way. So just to be real transparent with you
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Speaker 1: Annie and then you the listener, I'm gonna tell you
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Speaker 1: my mental health is not great. So this is why
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Speaker 1: we're gonna call it mental health Monday. I'm not doing
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Speaker 1: well and it may be that whole millennial non crisis
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Speaker 1: thing we talked about, because everything is a disaster and
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Speaker 1: chaotic and things seemingly are getting worse, especially when it
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Speaker 1: comes to the society. It just feels like it's all
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Speaker 1: burning and or drowning or something along those lines. And then,
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Speaker 1: of course there's also my own personal push and pull
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Speaker 1: with my life in general, and I guess it could
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Speaker 1: absolutely have I know I've talked about my issues with
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Speaker 1: my family, whom I love dearly, and I still see
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Speaker 1: in contact and they are there for me. So when
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Speaker 1: I say there, I mean physically here for me. I
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Speaker 1: know if I said I need help they would be
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Speaker 1: there an instant. I know if I said I was sick,
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Speaker 1: my family would be asking about me, making sure I
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Speaker 1: was okay, and taking care of all those things. However,
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Speaker 1: we are very disconnected in a lot of ways, like
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Speaker 1: they've never seen my house that I've bought, while my
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Speaker 1: partner's entire family I've visited for a little while. Of course,
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Speaker 1: they're from out of town, which you would think would
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Speaker 1: make it more difficult, but I digress. Except for my nieces,
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Speaker 1: they have seen my house. It's pretty much because they
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Speaker 1: drove to my house so I could take them out
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Speaker 1: to eat again. Though they are probably people that I'm
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Speaker 1: the most close with in my family, so that was
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Speaker 1: That's an interesting kind of like it still stings a
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Speaker 1: little bit. We made our book announcement and any aus
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Speaker 1: talking to you off Mike, I don't know. I haven't.
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Speaker 1: I'm so I should be to the point where we
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Speaker 1: are so excited because we accomplished something huge and we
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Speaker 1: had the privilege of doing a big project I had
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Speaker 1: to hear by my side, and it's been a beautiful
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Speaker 1: working progress. I think. I don't know, that's maybe my opinion,
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Speaker 1: because I feel like we balanced each other out you
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Speaker 1: had so much patience with the fact that I'm the
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Speaker 1: procrastinator of the two of us, as well as our
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Speaker 1: wonderful person Janey, who was I guess she's labeled our ghostwriter,
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Speaker 1: but I really hesitate to say that since we did
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Speaker 1: write the book. But she has been one hundred and
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Speaker 1: twenty percent with us the entire process taking us down
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Speaker 1: this road. She is a beautiful person. I hope she
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Speaker 1: remains in our lives forever because she was fantastic. The
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Speaker 1: work of Helen Troy is so beautiful. I'm so excited.
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Speaker 1: That part was probably my favorite part. It's working with
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Speaker 1: her to realize what hired ideas were. I love doing that.
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Speaker 1: So this whole thing should be exciting. I should be
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Speaker 1: announcing the people, But every time I did think about it,
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Speaker 1: there's just like dread that happens. We just got a
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Speaker 1: copy of the first draft of it. Is that what
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Speaker 1: we call this advanced reading copy. It's sort of like
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Speaker 1: the first It's not for sale, it's not the final coffy.
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Speaker 1: Because a lot of people sent me. I posted about it.
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Speaker 1: A lot of people were like, wait, it doesn't come
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Speaker 1: out to August. I'm like, yeah, because this will got
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Speaker 1: a lot of editing to do. It's gonna color involved,
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Speaker 1: I promise, so yeah, blind and white and like the
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Speaker 1: thick brown, odd drawing paper. Obviously this is not all.
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Speaker 1: The back was like, hey, this is not correct, but
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Speaker 1: it's still excited to see, exciting to hold it as
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Speaker 1: well as seeing it bound together. It's like, wow, this
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Speaker 1: is our work. A little avatage which I'm very excited
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Speaker 1: about seeing though, has come to life. You know, we
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Speaker 1: should be excited, but instead I kind of just have
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Speaker 1: this like little level of dread with it. It hit
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Speaker 1: me today because I'm very emotional about it today as
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Speaker 1: I am going through and trying to post about it.
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Speaker 1: I haven't posted it anything about it personally. I may
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Speaker 1: have retweeted your thing one time, like the things that's
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Speaker 1: happening on our social media of stuff Mom never told
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Speaker 1: you social media, but I was really hesitant and I
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Speaker 1: thought I wasn't going to do it, realizing a lot
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Speaker 1: of the friends who I am close to don't know
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Speaker 1: that I did this, we've done this, even though they
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Speaker 1: heard me talk about it in the process. So I
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Speaker 1: just kind of went through and fixed I guess some
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Speaker 1: of my social media and I privated it for those
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Speaker 1: of you who are not following are interested in follow me,
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Speaker 1: you know, I'll do the accept it for sure, but
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Speaker 1: I put it on private because of the fear and
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Speaker 1: dread of what my family's going to say and react.
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Speaker 1: And this is not everyone. And again the reason I
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Speaker 1: say this, they are very much on the opposite spectrum
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Speaker 1: of us of what we believe. What we think is
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Speaker 1: basic human rights, what we believe is, yeah, the overall
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Speaker 1: reason for us to be here to protect the people,
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Speaker 1: the vulnerable communities. And I'm not saying that they hate them,
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Speaker 1: but the belief is a so old school rhetoric that
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Speaker 1: it's definitely very conservative in the idea that if it's
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Speaker 1: not pertaining to the heteronormative idea, then it's sin. So
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Speaker 1: because of that, we've had a lot of clashing of heads.
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Speaker 1: I've cried a lot. I felt very disconnected as an adoptee.
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Speaker 1: I've had a lot of conversations about racism and they
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Speaker 1: just see me, they don't see me, but it comes
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Speaker 1: off as ungrateful for my upbringing. So all of us
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Speaker 1: to say is like that level has put such a
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Speaker 1: cloud over me that I am really struggling. And also
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Speaker 1: because of all of this, loss of identity of my family.
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to submerge myself into the whole like Korean world,
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Speaker 1: and I am struggling because of my own personal trauma
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Speaker 1: and triggers from that. That it the mental block has
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Speaker 1: me so frustrated because it's made it clear that it's
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Speaker 1: not time for me to progress. I spoke Korean until
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Speaker 1: I was eight years old, if not later, because obviously
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Speaker 1: that's what I grew up with. I learned English within
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Speaker 1: a six month span very quickly, trying to acclimate into
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Speaker 1: a community of just white Americans speaking English country English.
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Speaker 1: As you can tell, so my accent, the way I
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Speaker 1: speak is very odd, very odd. I get it. I
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Speaker 1: get it, but like trying to kind of rediscover or
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Speaker 1: come back to that has been so hard. I tell
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Speaker 1: the funny joke of like being in a Korean college
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Speaker 1: course for at least the full year and doing second
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Speaker 1: to the worst in that course, and the worst person
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Speaker 1: was and I love her that she was a white
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Speaker 1: girl from Louisiana. So it's like the two of us
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Speaker 1: were struggling real hard. And to the fact that when
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Speaker 1: I told my history to my Korean teacher, she was
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Speaker 1: very confused, very confused because she expected me to say
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Speaker 1: that I was born and then adopted immediately after birth.
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Speaker 1: And then when I told her no, I lived until
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Speaker 1: like a certain age, She's like, oh, and that was
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Speaker 1: literal silence and that was it. So a lot of
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Speaker 1: these things have been really really pushing my buttons. I
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Speaker 1: will say, I'll say that way, you know, and then
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Speaker 1: just add to the general of it all, I am
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Speaker 1: a depressive individual. I've talked to about depressive and anxious,
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Speaker 1: so I'm definitely on that spectrum with a lot of trauma.
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Speaker 1: And once again and it's it's just something I will
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Speaker 1: always have to manage, you know. We've talked about that,
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Speaker 1: We've talked about the fact that it just doesn't go away.
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Speaker 1: I'm a different types of therapy for the rest of
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Speaker 1: my life. I am on certain types of medication to
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Speaker 1: try to balance everything out for me. And just maybe
8:07
Speaker 1: with a combo of all those things, I will say, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm just not in a good place. Let me just
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Speaker 1: be really frank and really honest. So in honor of that,
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Speaker 1: because I am not in a good place, because I
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Speaker 1: had a whole different episode in mind, which had everything
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Speaker 1: to do with anti Asian stuff that I've seen recently
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Speaker 1: which makes me angry. But instead what I wanted to
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Speaker 1: go through is kind of try to make myself uplift
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Speaker 1: my own mental health stuff, I guess, as well as
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Speaker 1: share it with y'all. And no, I don't mean like
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Speaker 1: bench watching your favorite or my favorite K drama, which
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Speaker 1: I have been doing, or rewatching Ratitui for the upteenth time,
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Speaker 1: which is my go to movie. I don't know why.
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Speaker 1: I just love it. I just love everything about it.
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Speaker 1: But actually doing something that feels like I'm taking action,
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Speaker 1: and that is something that I've always when I feel upset,
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Speaker 1: when I see something that is offensive or obviously a
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Speaker 1: real attack on the community that I love, then I
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Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, this is my best way of reacting
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Speaker 1: with that ten minute rant about how I am not
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Speaker 1: okay and may kind of going on and on, and
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Speaker 1: even though yes, sometimes you just need to have a
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Speaker 1: moment and to collect yourself and sometimes it just needs
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Speaker 1: to be about you, like I'm so, I don't want
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Speaker 1: to hear anyone saying that that's being selfish. No, that's
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Speaker 1: not a bad things. Taking time just to reflect while
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Speaker 1: you're hurting, that's beautiful. I mean, it's painful, but to
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Speaker 1: be able to acknowledge yourself that way. You've got to.
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Speaker 1: You've got to. But for now, but we're gonna go
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Speaker 1: for with ways of taking action for all the nastiness
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Speaker 1: that is happening or feels like it's constantly happening in
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Speaker 1: our current state. Are you okay with that? Annie? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: All right. So here's what I thought. I'm going to
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Speaker 1: talk about a few organizations, and I know y'all going
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Speaker 1: to have so many more suggestions, So I really hope
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Speaker 1: that you send us as many suggestions that you can
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Speaker 1: send a baby what you do when you're in these places?
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Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm talking about? I know you do,
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Speaker 1: because we've heard from you about the loss of family
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Speaker 1: or feeling disconnected, and you, you all, including you Annie,
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Speaker 1: obviously are a part of my chosen family, and I'm
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Speaker 1: very grateful for that because I know not everyone has that.
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Speaker 1: So moving on, So one of the of course things
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Speaker 1: that we need to talk about is the anti trans
10:55
Speaker 1: laws as well as rhetoric that is happening everywhere all
10:59
Speaker 1: over the country. It feels like it's NonStop. As much
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Speaker 1: as so much progress has been made for the trans community,
11:06
Speaker 1: there's a lot of step backs We've talked about that.
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Speaker 1: So here's a few organizations that maybe you should look
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Speaker 1: to if you want to help, including the National Center
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Speaker 1: for Transgender Equality, which works on a local level as
11:18
Speaker 1: well as the federal level on policies and laws, which
11:21
Speaker 1: is very important right now. Obviously trans Lifeline, which is
11:25
Speaker 1: a hotline staff by trans people for trans people. And
11:28
Speaker 1: I think this is really important because we know how
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Speaker 1: isolating and how much self loathing there is when it
11:34
Speaker 1: comes to what we're hearing with anti trans rhetoric, that
11:38
Speaker 1: they are really pushing that hateful language and sometimes eventually
11:43
Speaker 1: that gets into your ears, and having a community is
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Speaker 1: so important. Then we have Trans Women of Color Collective.
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Speaker 1: This obviously focuses on transwomen of color, which we need
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Speaker 1: to talk about the marginalized when it comes intertectionality, how
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Speaker 1: many levels of trauma and triggers there is within that.
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Speaker 1: Then we have the Trans Youth Equality Foundation, which provides education, advocacy,
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Speaker 1: and support for our transgender and gender nonconforming teams and youth.
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Speaker 1: I believe they have a camp coming up too. I
12:11
Speaker 1: think I just saw that on their site, which sounded interesting.
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Speaker 1: So that's just a few. I know there's tons out there.
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Speaker 1: I know y'all have know there's some on the local
12:19
Speaker 1: level which you definitely should be looking into. And then
12:22
Speaker 1: we're going to go on to we've we've talked about
12:24
Speaker 1: previously the reproductive rights, Justice and Care because it is
12:29
Speaker 1: ongoing and irritating, and that includes the National Network of
12:34
Speaker 1: Abortion Funds I've talked about them before, which helps with
12:37
Speaker 1: financial and logistical needs for those in need of abortion.
12:40
Speaker 1: They also work with local organizations, which is so important.
12:43
Speaker 1: I think we've talked about how important it is that
12:46
Speaker 1: you do look towards that way. Then we have Sister Song,
12:49
Speaker 1: which is one of my favorites. They work to amplify
12:51
Speaker 1: and strengthen the indigenous community and people of color, so
12:54
Speaker 1: they work really closely with them. And then we have
12:57
Speaker 1: the bridget Alliance, which also do similar work or providing
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Speaker 1: transport and any kind of logistical needs and funding. Then
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Speaker 1: we have one four specifically for the South, so that
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Speaker 1: includes like Florida, Alabama, Tennessee, Georgia, which is art southeast.
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Speaker 1: They do the same thing about the funding and the logistics.
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Speaker 1: And then we have front Arra Fund which is specifically
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Speaker 1: with the Rio Grand Valley in Texas, and I did
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Speaker 1: focus on a little on the south side, So everybody
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Speaker 1: from the north, let me know what you got, because
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Speaker 1: I know y'all in the Midwest all of the places.
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Speaker 1: I'm not ignoring you a promise. And then we talked
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Speaker 1: about band books previously, and I'm getting some good information
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Speaker 1: from listeners about laws that's happening around there that we
13:39
Speaker 1: do want to come back to. But here's some ways
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Speaker 1: to help work against the band books that's happening, which
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Speaker 1: is stay informed and that you can do that with
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Speaker 1: organizations like we need diverse books. Their site is Diverse
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Speaker 1: Books dot orgs and they do exactly that and helping
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Speaker 1: to get out different different voices and different books for
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Speaker 1: those to see themselves in literature, which is so important
14:04
Speaker 1: because I know how underrepresented I've felt. Um. Then PIN
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Speaker 1: America like writing pen and it's pin dot org, which
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Speaker 1: quote champion the freedom to write, recognize the power of
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Speaker 1: the word to transform the world. So they do a
14:18
Speaker 1: lot of conversations and they'll let you know and update
14:21
Speaker 1: you what's going on around the country. Because this is
14:23
Speaker 1: really important. We need to really pay attenent. I know
14:25
Speaker 1: any you are talking about the fact that a lot
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Speaker 1: of the beginning of some really ugly stuff happened with
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Speaker 1: banning of books. Yeah. Yeah, And in our when we
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Speaker 1: did our book announcement in our book club and we
14:38
Speaker 1: talked about banning of books. Pin America was the one
14:40
Speaker 1: we used a lot of their recent data on. So
14:44
Speaker 1: they are a big name. They are keeping watch on this,
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Speaker 1: and they have they have a lot of really good
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Speaker 1: data and resources for if you want to know more
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Speaker 1: and know more about how to how to fight back. Yes,
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Speaker 1: um and yeah. And also you can start into book clubs.
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Speaker 1: I guess technically all of our books have been banned.
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Speaker 1: I used to, like I said, Banned Books Week. It's
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Speaker 1: in September, And like I said, in my high school,
15:11
Speaker 1: we a couple of us would run it and we
15:13
Speaker 1: would make bookmarks that had banned books and quotes from
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Speaker 1: the banned books on them and hand them out, Like
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Speaker 1: I think this would be super fun. And yes, you
15:23
Speaker 1: could use like some of the books we've done on
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Speaker 1: our book clubs. And I don't know, there's something that's
15:28
Speaker 1: it's very there's a lot of really fun DIY projects
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Speaker 1: you can do around an idea like that, Yes, for sure.
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Speaker 1: And then very important buy and read banned books. And
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Speaker 1: when we say buy and read. Try to keep it local.
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Speaker 1: Do you go to your independent bookstores? We know there's
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Speaker 1: tons out there. I don't do it enough. I try
15:48
Speaker 1: as much as we can. Sometimes we have to do
15:50
Speaker 1: it on the fly. I will say. I know authors
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Speaker 1: have said even if you do use massive conglomerates like Amazon,
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Speaker 1: they still get money. They'd rather you do that than not, right,
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Speaker 1: So if you have to, you have to. Sometimes there's
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Speaker 1: not access. But if you can go to your independent bookstore.
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Speaker 1: We have Keras, which is an amazing independent bookstore here
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Speaker 1: in Atlanta. But yeah, this is really important. Keep it
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Speaker 1: and you know what, sometimes being banned it's good advertisement,
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Speaker 1: I think, just as a thing. So let's make that
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Speaker 1: a true thing. And then there's a lot of things
16:28
Speaker 1: happening with the youth who are already fighting against the
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Speaker 1: bands in their schools. So if you know what's going on,
16:34
Speaker 1: if you know of student organizations that are doing this,
16:37
Speaker 1: which I'm sure there's tons out there, support them, support
16:40
Speaker 1: them however you can, whether it's writing letters for them
16:42
Speaker 1: in support of them to the schools, or letting the
16:46
Speaker 1: officials know, donating books to them. I think these are
16:50
Speaker 1: really great ideas. So that's some of the things that
16:52
Speaker 1: we can do for the banning of the books, which
16:55
Speaker 1: is silly. I also want to talk about how we
16:58
Speaker 1: can support the black folks in general. There are organizations
17:02
Speaker 1: that we should follow though, including Black Girl's Code, which
17:07
Speaker 1: we've talked about before, because they are empowering girls ages
17:11
Speaker 1: seven through seventeen by exposing them to computer science and technology.
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Speaker 1: We love what they do. Also, we've talked about this before.
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Speaker 1: Buy from black businesses, black women businesses. There are tons
17:23
Speaker 1: out there. TikTok is really great at exposing these work
17:26
Speaker 1: like LEAs a little shops. We bought some t shirts
17:29
Speaker 1: from Mahogany Mama. She does some amazing work. There's a
17:32
Speaker 1: lot of small shops that need our support. Do it
17:36
Speaker 1: do it today, find it on Etsy. Be careful because
17:42
Speaker 1: some people will just say things yeah. Anyway. The Oprah Project,
17:48
Speaker 1: which we talked about previously on our feminists around the world,
17:52
Speaker 1: which they provide mills and resources to black trans people.
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Speaker 1: I think that's amazing as well as the Black Women's
17:58
Speaker 1: Health Imperative is the only national organization dedicated to improving
18:03
Speaker 1: the health and wellness of Black women and girls that
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Speaker 1: is solely dedicated, So I think that's very important. Go
18:10
Speaker 1: check them out. And then there's so much more we
18:14
Speaker 1: could say, because there's so many other things that we
18:17
Speaker 1: need to talk about. But to end because I've already
18:20
Speaker 1: stretched this out with me just talking and rambling. First, Ay,
18:23
Speaker 1: do you have any things that you want to add
18:24
Speaker 1: that I may have missed? I know, feminist frequency, feminist frequency.
18:30
Speaker 1: I mean there's that's if you want to learn more
18:35
Speaker 1: about feminist issues from some people who got really attacked
18:40
Speaker 1: by angry gamers. They got great contents, and there's there's
18:44
Speaker 1: also Bridget talked about them once, and there are some
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Speaker 1: black women who are doing the same thing. And I
18:49
Speaker 1: feel like there's so much. I would say, do your
18:55
Speaker 1: research in your local area because there is a lot
19:00
Speaker 1: going on right now, and I it is important to
19:03
Speaker 1: know where you're your money is going. And there are
19:07
Speaker 1: some great tips for like the best how you can
19:12
Speaker 1: whatever your situation is, how you can support things like
19:15
Speaker 1: this in the best way most efficiently. So do that. Yeah,
19:20
Speaker 1: volunteering is always good. Again. When we talked with Helica,
19:24
Speaker 1: we talked about just the power of liking and sharing posts.
19:28
Speaker 1: That's all you can do, especially for causes like the
19:33
Speaker 1: Rannie and revolutions. That's happening. Making sure that you're just
19:36
Speaker 1: letting people know what's going on, talking about it. Same
19:39
Speaker 1: thing with the banning of the books, same thing about
19:41
Speaker 1: these laws that they're doing under hush hush conditions. Just
19:44
Speaker 1: making sure that you're outspoken about it is just as
19:48
Speaker 1: important as well as just subscribing, following these organizations that
19:53
Speaker 1: we talked about to know what's going on and making
19:55
Speaker 1: sure that it's part of your community. And if you
19:58
Speaker 1: are on TikTok for na guess it's on your FYP
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Speaker 1: for you, your page, thank you. I want to end
20:18
Speaker 1: with some of the things that we should do, especially
20:21
Speaker 1: when we are struggling with the trauma PTSD. We've talked
20:26
Speaker 1: about how about seven out of eight of every one
20:29
Speaker 1: hundred people suffer from PTSD. We talked about collective trauma,
20:34
Speaker 1: which is a constant for all of us. So just
20:37
Speaker 1: a few things reminder that we can do again. It
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Speaker 1: takes some time focus on yourself. That's not a bad thing.
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Speaker 1: And whether that's again taking a moment to do something
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Speaker 1: that you love, taking a moment to be with someone
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Speaker 1: that you love, taking a moment, takes some space. In
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Speaker 1: the sun. Sun is good, Sun is good. Bugs are mad,
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Speaker 1: but sun is good. And then and also if you can, yes,
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Speaker 1: therapists are great. Find someone that you can you trust
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Speaker 1: and able to really have a conversation with focus on
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Speaker 1: the good. I know that's hard to do sometimes. And yeah,
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Speaker 1: be with your chosen people. Maybe not drink so much.
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Speaker 1: And yeah, sleep if you can sleep is good. Sleep,
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Speaker 1: it's real good. Also meditation. Also, ay, I just found
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Speaker 1: an app and I didn't subscribe to it. I just
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Speaker 1: wanted to check it out where it talks about your
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Speaker 1: well being. And in this well being in the app,
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Speaker 1: there is a baby bird that you have to take
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Speaker 1: care of and it checks on you and it checks
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Speaker 1: on how you feel and helps you could do breathing exercises.
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Speaker 1: It's interesting. I'd be scared the baby bird would die. See,
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Speaker 1: I know this says something about my I've always been.
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Speaker 1: You don't have to feed it, that they are autonomous
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Speaker 1: in that, but you can't dress it and talk to it.
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Speaker 1: You It gives you encouragement and you see it growing up.
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Speaker 1: I think, Oh no, it has a community and family family.
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Speaker 1: I think so I didn't get far enough. Oh why,
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Speaker 1: oh my, that is interesting. I mean it sounds like
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Speaker 1: again I think that's about more of my statement on
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Speaker 1: my mental health, and my immediate reaction is oh no,
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Speaker 1: But I think like if, yeah, if you can find
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Speaker 1: that thing that is healthy and gives you that chance
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Speaker 1: to reflect, and I know for some people, I think
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Speaker 1: my therapist kind of recommended something like that to me before.
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Speaker 1: She was like, maybe not for you, but just like
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Speaker 1: checking in and having that moment of reflectiveness, which can
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Speaker 1: feel with something like that, at least for me, can
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Speaker 1: feel kind of like you're wasting time, but you're not
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Speaker 1: um because it is important to take those moments for
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