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New Year, New You--Mariel Hemingway · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: Hi, Welcome to inside the Mom's Club, where being a
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  Speaker 2: Think the money?
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  Speaker 3: Are you?
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  Speaker 1: I am excellent? And I should ask how are you?
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  Speaker 1: Because you were telling me so we are in that
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  Speaker 1: part of life where we are starting to investigate issues
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  Speaker 1: of the M word, and we're not talking about money.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about menopause. And you showed up lots of drugs.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was hot a little bit on some hormone
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  Speaker 4: replacement therapy. This week. It's been, you know, an interesting
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  Speaker 4: mini phone calls and appointments. I learned a lot and uh,
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  Speaker 4: my background is nursing, so I thought it was fascinating
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  Speaker 4: all the way around. So yes, I'm pro all my
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  Speaker 4: new medications.
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  Speaker 1: Well, there is a fun So I started to do
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  Speaker 1: some of that and then the doctor that I was
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  Speaker 1: working with gave me this calendar. She said, we get
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  Speaker 1: to give you this medicine on a lunar calendar.
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  Speaker 4: And so she's saying natural family planning or something.
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  Speaker 1: Something like that. She's like, okay, so you do three
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  Speaker 1: twists on Monday, You're gonna do three twists of this
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  Speaker 1: and two twists of that, and the next day you're
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  Speaker 1: doing four twists of that and five twists. I gave up.
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  Speaker 4: I would fail because I couldn't keep up. But you know,
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  Speaker 4: I really did it because I take a class of
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  Speaker 4: pure bar class that I love really for my mind
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  Speaker 4: most of all, I find that part of my day.
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  Speaker 4: But I could not get rid of my hip pain,
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  Speaker 4: and I felt like I didn't have enough hormones flowing
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  Speaker 4: through and that I needed to address it. So anyway,
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  Speaker 4: it's no secret everybody goes through it, and so why
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  Speaker 4: not feel better.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know that hip pain. You know, you know
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  Speaker 1: I've had a huge hip problem, right. I didn't know
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  Speaker 1: that hip pain was connected to all that.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I mean that, yeah teninopathy.
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  Speaker 1: So I need le more about all of this.
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  Speaker 4: So I'm hoping that helps along with doing other things
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  Speaker 4: like taking care of myself, whether it's the walking, getting outside,
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  Speaker 4: all of the things that we should be embracing on
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  Speaker 4: a regular basis. I'm no picture of health, but I
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  Speaker 4: sure am trying well.
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  Speaker 1: So you know that I I used to that was
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  Speaker 1: really fit first for quite a while. And then I
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  Speaker 1: broke my foot. Literally, I took four steps in my
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  Speaker 1: own house. My foot twisted, it broke, and I was
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  Speaker 1: a year of I had a screw put in my
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  Speaker 1: foot and then they had to take it out. And
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  Speaker 1: then I was on one of these knee rollers because
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  Speaker 1: I hated crutches, and then the knee roller caused my
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  Speaker 1: hip a hip laborl tear. I mean, it's like one
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  Speaker 1: thing is yeah, but I've always been I've never been limber,
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  Speaker 1: not even I mean, but you I have no flexibility.
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  Speaker 4: What was the procedure you did for your hip?
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  Speaker 1: Just cell replacement? And actually it was that actually worked.
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  Speaker 1: I mean it made a huge difference because you saw
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  Speaker 1: me right after I after I had the procedure, it
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  Speaker 1: was very painful.
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  Speaker 4: I went from friend to nurse asap.
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  Speaker 1: I invited her. I invited to join me in Florida
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  Speaker 1: on a vacation, but little did she know it was
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  Speaker 1: mainly to make sure that I could. She had to
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  Speaker 1: help me up the stairs and into the car and
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  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, but it was good friend to
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  Speaker 1: do such a thing. But yeah, but now I'm trying
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  Speaker 1: to get back into shape again and trying to get there.
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  Speaker 1: And so when we recently went to outside of London,
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  Speaker 1: we were in the English countryside, which was tons of fun.
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  Speaker 1: Although Julie put me on a horse, which was so great.
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  Speaker 4: I feel the horse spirit, like, you know, you really
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  Speaker 4: need to grasp what I tried to get you to
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  Speaker 4: talk to your horse, lean over and pet it, you know,
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  Speaker 4: get that energy going and see your face.
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  Speaker 1: No, I love the horse was very nice, but I
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  Speaker 1: have a little problem with germs. So she told me
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  Speaker 1: to pet the horse and then I had to reach
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  Speaker 1: for my my yeah, hand sanitizer. It was kind of
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  Speaker 1: a little too much, but then so we did that,
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  Speaker 1: and then we took a walk in the English countryside,
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  Speaker 1: which they teased me because I brought my purse and
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  Speaker 1: they're like, who brings a purse to a hike in
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  Speaker 1: the English countryside? But we almost we got to be
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  Speaker 1: late at night and we were afraid it was going
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  Speaker 1: to be too dark to walk back, and who had
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  Speaker 1: money to pay the taxi when we had to walk?
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  Speaker 1: When we had to.
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  Speaker 4: Take thank God for your cashmere sweater and your fancy
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  Speaker 4: person or not, or we never would have made it anyway.
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  Speaker 1: But the biggest thing was the yoga.
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  Speaker 4: Oh God.
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  Speaker 1: So we took a yoga class from a woman who's
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  Speaker 1: very serious. He was really good, I mean she was excellent,
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  Speaker 1: really good instructor. And I said from the beginning, I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna be on the back row because I don't want
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  Speaker 1: anybody to see this because it's just not something anybody
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  Speaker 1: should have to see. And that worked fine. I mean
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  Speaker 1: I did most.
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  Speaker 4: Of the poses.
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  Speaker 1: A few were like there was no way that was happening.
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  Speaker 1: But the worst thing.
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  Speaker 4: So it's silent.
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  Speaker 1: You get on the back row and you think, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm safe, except like I said, I'm not limber. I
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  Speaker 1: got lots of issues. My knees were cracking.
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  Speaker 4: So loud to the point where I was like people
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  Speaker 4: in my class they were laughing, they laughed.
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  Speaker 1: I don't blame them because so I'm trying.
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  Speaker 4: We are trying. We are trying, but we have somebody
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  Speaker 4: who can really help us.
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  Speaker 3: Today.
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  Speaker 1: It's going to help us a lot, which is why
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  Speaker 1: we should mental health get straight to our guests. Becauseyoga,
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  Speaker 1: we're going to learn a lot. And yeah, so let
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  Speaker 1: me introduce our guests today. It's very exciting. She is
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  Speaker 1: the granddaughter of the illustrious author Ernest Hemingway. And for
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  Speaker 1: those of you moms out there who have not heard
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  Speaker 1: of him, that is a shameful statement about our educational
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  Speaker 1: system in this country. You need to look that up.
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  Speaker 1: Very famous author, but she's famous in her own right.
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  Speaker 1: She made her silver screen debut at the age of
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  Speaker 1: thirteen in the film Lipstick, and then she was nominated
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  Speaker 1: for an Academy Award for Woody Allen's Manhattan. Since then,
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  Speaker 1: she's made over thirty films and TV appearance appearances, and
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  Speaker 1: today she pursues her passion for yoga and health and
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  Speaker 1: is now the voice of holistic and balanced health and
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  Speaker 1: well being. Please welcome maryel Hemingway.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, into the mom's flow.
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  Speaker 3: Thank Ye you're a mom.
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  Speaker 1: And she's a mom of two daughters. Yeah, and an
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  Speaker 1: author herself. I mean I could go on and on
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  Speaker 1: and just read your biography and then we could say
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  Speaker 1: call in a day because you have quantity of accomplishments.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, that's very sweet of you. Well, it's really fun
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  Speaker 3: to be here. Yeah, I hope, Uh. I hope my
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  Speaker 3: background doesn't get too crazy.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you might have some animals run through.
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  Speaker 5: We never know.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, the catt will probably jump up on the table.
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  Speaker 4: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: It's very pretty back there. Yeah, very nice. Well let's start.
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  Speaker 1: So there's two facets to this we want to talk
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  Speaker 1: to you about. One is the physical health side, and
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  Speaker 1: then we like to talk to you about the mental
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  Speaker 1: health side because you put it all together and that's
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  Speaker 1: what we what we need information on. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to start with the physical side because, as I said,
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  Speaker 1: if you're kind of a mess like me, particularly with yoga,
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  Speaker 1: do you really need someone in the class who's cracking
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  Speaker 1: and creaking? Like, what's the mindset? How do you yoga?
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  Speaker 3: Let me explain something about yoga. I've been doing yoga
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  Speaker 3: since I was twenty six years old, which means I've
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  Speaker 3: been doing yoga for very long, many many decades since then. Anyway,
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  Speaker 3: yoga is really just movement with breath. If you're not breathing,
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  Speaker 3: then you're really not doing yoga. You're just doing exercise now.
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  Speaker 3: And the reason why there's that delineation is that breath
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  Speaker 3: has the ability to heal, cause the creakiness to kind
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  Speaker 3: of mellow and it really doesn't matter. Yoga's not a competition.
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  Speaker 3: It's not like other you know, it's not like other
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  Speaker 3: exercise sports. It's really about you getting in tune with
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  Speaker 3: your body on the inside so that you can be
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  Speaker 3: aware of what suits it best.
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  Speaker 1: Does that make sense, It does make sense. Yeah, well
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  Speaker 1: it makes me feel better too. Honestly, I was trading
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  Speaker 1: it as a competition because I was there with Julie
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  Speaker 1: and our friend Jennifer, who's there's nothing Jennifer doesn't do
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  Speaker 1: that's just perfect, And so she was right in front
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  Speaker 1: of me, and I'm like, oh, show off. I'm about
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  Speaker 1: to fall over on my face what I'm doing and
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  Speaker 1: she's doing it great. But yeah, if I just so
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  Speaker 1: just internalize it to myself, just focus on what I'm
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  Speaker 1: doing and not all these really.
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  Speaker 3: Is it really is just about you understanding that your
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  Speaker 3: body is tight in certain areas. And you know, you're
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  Speaker 3: talking about hormones and and you know, and your hips
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  Speaker 3: and all these different things. You know, Yoga is just
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  Speaker 3: a place where you get to It's kind of a
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  Speaker 3: Buddhist approach to let's just step back and look at
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  Speaker 3: what our body needs. It's training you to be soft
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  Speaker 3: within yourself. I think as women, as mothers, as me
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  Speaker 3: as a grandmother. Now, I think that we're hard on ourselves.
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  Speaker 3: We need we have expectations about what we need to
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  Speaker 3: be doing and the and the truth is, you know,
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  Speaker 3: there's no like. Things change as we get older, things shift,
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  Speaker 3: We move into different facets of our lives. And it
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  Speaker 3: doesn't mean that you move less. It means that you
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  Speaker 3: move with more compassion and awareness of of your of
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  Speaker 3: your self and your body. So that's why there's this
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  Speaker 3: the idea that if you focus on your breath during
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  Speaker 3: this movement, it shifts the way your body will move
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  Speaker 3: and how you feel about it. Because sometimes we, you know,
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  Speaker 3: get into things and we're doing things in exercise and
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  Speaker 3: you're like, oh, you're britting your teeth and like, I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to get through this, whereas yoga should be more
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  Speaker 3: about oh wait a second. This is telling me to
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  Speaker 3: do something different. This is telling me to be more
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  Speaker 3: gentle with myself. And I think women, that's a really
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  Speaker 3: important yeah that we have a hard time doing. But
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  Speaker 3: you it's like I keep pushing, I keep pushing, and
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  Speaker 3: then really what happens is you hit a wall and
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  Speaker 3: then you're like, I'm not going to do this anymore, right,
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  Speaker 3: And that's not good. It's always about like, oh it's okay,
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  Speaker 3: I don't have to be the best in the class,
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  Speaker 3: because that's not what this is about. It's not a
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  Speaker 3: hip hop class. It's not a you know, a kickboxing
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  Speaker 3: boxing class.
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  Speaker 1: So you've read a lot of these things. Is there
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  Speaker 1: there's no judgment in like any of the students on
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  Speaker 1: the participants. I guess because I feel judged. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I guess I was always an overachiever in school and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, the teacher's got to.
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  Speaker 4: Think on your competitive monica.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, so but there's no judgment here, right, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: if I look like if you see me in the
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  Speaker 1: back falling over, if you're not thinking, oh.
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  Speaker 3: Gosh, and you know, I used to I used to
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  Speaker 3: lead a lot of workshops, and I used to I
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  Speaker 3: used to fall kind of on purpose. As you It's
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  Speaker 3: like falling is just like part of the It's like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: that's great, you pushed yourself to a limit and now
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  Speaker 3: you know where that limit is, and you know, and
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  Speaker 3: falling doesn't necessarily mean you fall to hurt yourself. It's
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  Speaker 3: just like it's just part of It's like we don't
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  Speaker 3: need to be perfect, and I think that that's kind
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  Speaker 3: of the bane of width. This exist is like, ah,
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  Speaker 3: this need to be perfect. I'm a perfect mother, I'm
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  Speaker 3: a really good wife, I'm a really good partner. Whatever
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  Speaker 3: it is, whatever, you know, dialogue we have going on
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  Speaker 3: in our heads. That's not what yoga's about. It's about
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  Speaker 3: actually not listening to the dialogue that's inside your head.
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  Speaker 3: Because by the way, that negative self talk that you
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  Speaker 3: do inside yourself, that's not you. That's your ego trying
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  Speaker 3: to control you. That has nothing to do with who
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  Speaker 3: you are, because.
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  Speaker 1: You are you, the inner you, the kind of a.
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  Speaker 3: Ware you knows what's right for you. And so that's
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  Speaker 3: why you know, when I talk about wellness, yoga, just
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  Speaker 3: being your best self, it's about really just tuning into
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  Speaker 3: the voice that is you, that knows that you're okay
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  Speaker 3: right now right So, like everybody has this idea that
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  Speaker 3: there's somebody out there that's gonna teach us what's right
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  Speaker 3: for us, you know, like, oh, there's that doctor, there's
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  Speaker 3: that holistic person, or a yoga teacher. For me, it
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  Speaker 3: was I went to a lot of gurus, and I
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  Speaker 3: traveled the world and did a lot of goofy things,
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  Speaker 3: and I learned a lot, but you know, I did
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  Speaker 3: a lot of goofy things. Anyway, what I realized is
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  Speaker 3: is that you're your best teacher. I went to I
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  Speaker 3: actually went to India once and I met his Holiness,
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  Speaker 3: the Dalai Lama, and and it was it was such
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  Speaker 3: an incredible story.
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  Speaker 4: I I, do you want me to tell the story?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, we've never really had someone you can say
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  Speaker 4: they've met that please anywhere.
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  Speaker 3: So I went to India at where he lives in
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  Speaker 3: Darham Solim because he can't be into bed as you know,
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  Speaker 3: because of political reasons. Anyway, we went there. I was
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  Speaker 3: about forty five, so that's almost anyway, almost twenty years ago,
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  Speaker 3: Holy crap. And so I went there and I was
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  Speaker 3: really excited. We were going to have a private audience.
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  Speaker 3: And when I say a private audience, there's about ten
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  Speaker 3: really influential people, super wealthy, super political whatever, and they
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  Speaker 3: were whooptie doos, and they all had questions for his
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  Speaker 3: Holiness and I was just super happy to be there.
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  Speaker 3: I had nothing to say to him, but I was
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  Speaker 3: just like excited. So we go into this little it's
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  Speaker 3: like a little cottage, but it had a little stairwell
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  Speaker 3: up and you could see him. He came down these
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  Speaker 3: stairs and not it wasn't grand it was it wasn't
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  Speaker 3: like a grand staircase. It was just he came down
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  Speaker 3: these stairs and there was these chairs, these overstuffed chairs
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  Speaker 3: and pillows in front of him, and two chairs beside him,
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  Speaker 3: and we all kind of were waiting for him. He
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  Speaker 3: came down and he directed me. He sat down, and
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  Speaker 3: he directed me, of all people, to sit down next
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  Speaker 3: to him, and I was super excited. So I sat
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  Speaker 3: down next to him. And first of all, I just
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  Speaker 3: want to say that listening to a man of such
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  Speaker 3: like he's, you know, like this great leader kind of
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  Speaker 3: you know, and just listening to him, and I wasn't
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  Speaker 3: in worship of him.
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  Speaker 5: But I was.
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  Speaker 3: I was pretty astonished, Yeah, in awe And watching him
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  Speaker 3: listen to people was extraordinary. The fact that he could
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  Speaker 3: he took it. When a person asked him a question,
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  Speaker 3: he looked them in the eyes though they were the
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  Speaker 3: only person in the room at that time. So that
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  Speaker 3: was the first thing that really touched me. The other
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  Speaker 3: thing was he didn't say much in response to their questions,
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  Speaker 3: but he listened with such attention that the person felt
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  Speaker 3: so incredibly heard. So that was that was number one.
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  Speaker 3: And then I just watched him and periodically he would
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  Speaker 3: look over at me and he would he would smile,
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  Speaker 3: and that he would giggle, and I was like, oh
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  Speaker 3: my god. So I would smile and giggle back, thinking,
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  Speaker 3: oh my god, I'm having this unspoken communication with his
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  Speaker 3: wholiness anyway whatever. And so an hour and a half
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  Speaker 3: goes by. I haven't said a word because I have
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  Speaker 3: nothing to say to him, and you can tell is
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  Speaker 3: wrapping up, and we all start to get up, and
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  Speaker 3: I start to get up like this, and he puts
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  Speaker 3: his hand on my hand and he looks me in
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  Speaker 3: the eye and it still makes me cry. He looks
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  Speaker 3: me in the eye and he says, you're okay.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, And you have to.
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  Speaker 3: Understand my story. I have traveled the world looking for
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  Speaker 3: answers to why my family was the way that they were,
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  Speaker 3: the mental illness. Was I going to end up like them?
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  Speaker 3: Was I going to take my lef whatever?
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  Speaker 1: And him saying that.
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  Speaker 3: Was such an epiphany for me. I mean, I didn't
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  Speaker 3: see angels or white light, but I did. I remember
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  Speaker 3: going back to the States thinking, oh, I am okay,
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  Speaker 3: And that's when I started my journey. I really do
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  Speaker 3: a lot of work for mental health. I have a
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  Speaker 3: foundation called the Foundation called the maryel Hemingway found which
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying to create as a a resource navigator for
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  Speaker 3: mental health. I just want people to be able to
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  Speaker 3: go there, plug in. You know, I'm in Austin, Texas, Texas,
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  Speaker 3: I'm in Bourbonck, California, wherever I am in the United
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  Speaker 3: States or hopefully the world, and be able to say,
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  Speaker 3: if you've got addiction issues, suicide issues, whatever your child
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  Speaker 3: is going through something, where do I go if I
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  Speaker 3: want holistic help, if I want psychanter health, if I
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  Speaker 3: want you know whatever.
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  Speaker 4: Right, So, Miriel, you want that to be That's an
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  Speaker 4: incredible experience getting to know the Dalai Lama. I thank
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: you for sharing that, because when you said that and
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: he touched you, you know, for someone to say it's
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: going to be okay, You're going to be okay, it
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: was pretty cool. But how did you know with all
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: the things that have gone in in your life? You know,
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: you talk a lot about mental health and the journey.
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: You've even done a documentary called Running from Crazy. Is
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: that the correct?
• 19:00
  Speaker 5: Yes?
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: I just want to make sure. So yeah, so my
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: I would like to know how you chose the path
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: that you chose, because you've seen it all before, You've
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: seen the addiction and everything else. How did you choose
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: meditation and yoga knowing that was going to boost your
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: life and you were going to be this champion for
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: mental wellness.
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: I well, that that's kind of what the point of
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: the whole holys His Holiness conversation or the story is
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: really that. That was the that was kind of the
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: turning point where I realized, oh, this is my journey.
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: I need to go down this path. I need to
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: help people. I mean I always had been. I'd been
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: doing yoga for twenty years prior to that. Sure, I was,
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: you know, I was on that path, but it was
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: I was disconnected. There was something about me that was
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: I was still in fear. I was still chasing a guru,
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: a doctor of thisa that until I realized it was me.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: That was the moment I went, oh, I'm my best teacher,
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: I'm my best guru, I'm my best nutritionist. Now it
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: doesn't mean that you don't need help. We all need help.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: We all need you know, we need moms and friends
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: and maybe doctors, maybe this, that and the other thing whatever.
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, all of us
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: are guided by our own intuition, yes, right, And if
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: we don't trust what we have to say about ourselves,
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: then you know, like you're never going to get the
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: healing that you really need because you know what's best
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: for you ultimately.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: I mean about four years ago, I did that too,
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: you know, I said to myself, Oh my gosh, I'm
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: actually know a lot of things and to trust myself,
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: turn into myself, so you help people. You do have
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: a podcast? I do, Yeah, it comes. It's called Outcomes
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: the Sun. Is that correct?
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: And so I have and I out Come the Sun
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: Outcomes the Sun beautiful. I love that when I was
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: looking this up in your podcast, is there one common
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: treatment or product that people give you feedback on that
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: they say that works that. I loved that because there
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: are so many and I was just wondering the type
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: of feedback you get from people who listen to your podcast.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: Well, you know, my podcast is not about like, I'm
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: not pushing any particular anything. I what I do talk
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: about with my I have a co host. Yeahs, you
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: both have each other Melissa Alma Gucci, and we we
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: it's not like we're pushing any particular thing, but we
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: do talk of the seven doctors, and the seven doctors
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: or doctor son, doctor air, doctor water, doctor, exercise, doctor earth,
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: doctor nutrition, and doctor rest. They're available twenty four hours
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: and day, seven days a week, and they're free, They're
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: super free. Yeah, and we get a lot of feedback.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: We get a lot of feedback that, oh my god,
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: I never realized that grounding, taking your shoes off and
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: walking on your grass in the backyard or walking h
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: actually makes me feel more inflammation in my body because
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: it actually gets rid of inflammation, also gets rid of
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: neuro inflammation, which is the inflammation the brain, which is
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: also a great cause of our mental health problems. So
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: there's a lot of feedback and we try to share
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: things that help boost the mental our mental health. But
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: I think everything you do physically helps your mental health.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's talk a little bit about mental health. And
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: there's always been a stigma over mental health issues, and
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: it seems like it's gotten much better, but we're still
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: not quite there yet. Where do you think we are
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: in helping people identify? You know, and I will say
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: I have, as Julie Well knows, I have an issue
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: with anxiety, and just the way then I said it
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: is like as an apology, I should apologize. I can't
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: help that. But where are we? Where do you think
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: we are now? And what can we do to make
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: people feel more comfortable? Just saying, hey, yeah, I got it.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: I have anxiety. You know I'm working on it, but
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: I have it. Where do you think we are?
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: In question?
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: What do we do? What you just did gave a
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: lot of people that listened to your podcast permission to
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: say that that's all, you know, just saying, gosh, I'm embarrassed.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: I'm you know, because everybody is right. We're all in
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: the same boat. We're all trying to live a life.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: And the reason why I share my story and you know,
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: I have seven suicides in my family and all that stuff,
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: I only share it to say, look, just because I
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: come from a famous family or I've got a famous
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: name or whatever it is, doesn't mean that I don't
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: have all this issues that everybody else has. It wakes
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: up in the morning, putting their pants on, you know,
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: one leg at a time, making their coffee, sometimes having
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: a headache, you know, whatever it was a while ago,
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: but I had hot flashes. But you'll get back to menopause.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: Can't wait.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: But anyway, it's just it's it really is about just
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: talking about it. You help people by saying that you're
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: embarrassed about it, because that makes people feel comfortable. They go, oh, gosh,
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: I'm kind of embarrassed about that, And then then you
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: realize once you've said it, are you really embarrassed? No,
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: because we're not embarrassed if we have a headache. We're
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: not embarrassed when we get a cold, but we're super
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: embarrassed if we have a day where we're anxious. Like why,
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: our brain is connected to our body, so these things
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: are working in conjunction. So sometimes physical things are manifestations
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: of the brain not being happy, and sometimes the brain
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: is a manifestation of the body not being happy.
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: Do you think this country is getting better about bringing
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: it to the surface.
• 25:09
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I think.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: I just did a speaking engagement in Spain and they're
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: really I mean, they have a whole belief system. They
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: kept saying to me, well, gosh, we sort of believe
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: if you talk about suicide it might encourage people to
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: take their life.
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: And I was like, whoa no, no, no, no, it's
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: not that way at all.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: The more you talk about it, the less power it has. True,
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: because when you keep things in the darkness, they get bigger.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: You know how it is like your problems that you
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: don't discuss, you know how big they get in your brain.
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: You wake up in the middle of the night it's
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: like ah, You're like, ah.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: This is like taking over my life.
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: Whereas when you talk about it, it takes that. It's
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: like it unplugs it from the wall and it becomes
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: less powerful.
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, could not agree more, could not agree more. Well,
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: I love that you do what you do and spreading
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: the word. And I think that we have people that
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: want to have a question.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Do Yeah, we have some women that would like to
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: ask you some questions as well, and there are zoomer moms,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: So welcome zoomer moms. Welcome to Hi ladies. Well, we
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: know you each have a question for maryel So I'm
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: going to introduce each one of you and tell us
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: a little bit about yourself and ask your question. And
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: we will start with Kathy, Welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 26:30
  Speaker 7: Hi, thank you so much for having me as a
• 26:32
  Speaker 7: zoomer mom today. A little bit about myself. It used
• 26:36
  Speaker 7: to be have held a couple of elected official positions,
• 26:39
  Speaker 7: currently serving as an appointed position for the state of Texas.
• 26:43
  Speaker 7: I'm so excited to have this network that you've put together, Monica,
• 26:48
  Speaker 7: because now my kids, my daughter just turned twenty five,
• 26:51
  Speaker 7: my son's about to turn twenty one, so I'm in
• 26:53
  Speaker 7: a different phase of the mom world. But the mom
• 26:57
  Speaker 7: world never leaves you.
• 26:58
  Speaker 5: So thank you.
• 26:58
  Speaker 7: Thank you for the part of Mary l My goodness,
• 27:03
  Speaker 7: you are as sunny as ever, and God bless you
• 27:06
  Speaker 7: for the work you're doing to allow people to talk
• 27:09
  Speaker 7: about mental health. I've got a couple of loved ones
• 27:11
  Speaker 7: that suffer from some pretty significant mental health issues, and
• 27:16
  Speaker 7: it's a family. It takes everybody to help out with
• 27:21
  Speaker 7: moms nowadays. If you're a new mom starting out, and
• 27:25
  Speaker 7: you've got social media, which can be used for good
• 27:28
  Speaker 7: in things like this, but so many people compare themselves
• 27:33
  Speaker 7: to that TikTok mom or Facebook mom or probably showing
• 27:37
  Speaker 7: my age say on Facebook, what advice do you give
• 27:42
  Speaker 7: to a new mom who doesn't just have the noise
• 27:45
  Speaker 7: that I had in my head back when my kids
• 27:47
  Speaker 7: were little. But they've got people who look perfect like
• 27:51
  Speaker 7: it's easy.
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: What advice them?
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: Well, I mean, you've hit on one of the most
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: important things that I think mental health issues are are
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: so prevalent, especially for the youth, because social media is
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: destroying their view of themselves. They're thinking that, oh my god,
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: I'm not as perfect and by the way, who got
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: you know, like I was sitting here trying to make
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: sure that my lighting was okay because you don't want
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: to be ugly, Yeah, you got, we do these things,
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: but nobody's going on social media putting their ugliest picture
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: up and you know, being all open or people that
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: are doing that are kind of doing that. I don't know,
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: it's all and comparison is just the bane of anybody's existence.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: Comparison is the cause of more pain and more suffering,
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: especially for the youth, because they're just they're comparing themselves
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: to things that aren't real. And so I think there
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: needs to be education to our youth about what social
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: media is. Yes, it's a great tool. It enables all
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: of us as women to get together and be excited
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: about meeting each other and talking about being a mom
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: or whatever it is you're going through in your life.
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: But we have to know that there's limitations to that.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: It's not real connection. You know, there's really a When
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: you're on your phone and you're texting, that's a seven
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: percent connection. All of us here were This is better
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: because I can see your face and you can see mine,
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: and we can hear each other, so there's much more
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: of a connection. But the truth is when you're looking
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: on Instagram, there's not a connection. People are feeling more
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: and more lonely because of social media. It's creating more anxiety,
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: more depression. So I think we need to be educated
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: and we need to give our children limitations when it
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: comes to social media. Look, it's not going to go away,
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: but you have to say, look, when we're eating dinner,
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: you cannot be on your phone. That's just a no go, right,
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: And by eight nine o'clock that thing shut down unless
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: your kids are you know, out, You've got to stay
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: in contact. But you know what I mean, we got
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: to start going Look my my real connection with my children,
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: real connection with my spouse or whomever you're living with.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: That's what really matters, right, We need to highlight the
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: reality of real connection.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true as a society, and yeah, how we
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: actually get the power back, because we put so much
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: power into social media that even if you're like I
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: wrote a book and to sell another book, they ask me, well, like,
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: what's your numbers on social media? And I think that
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: it matters so much. And I now today I can't
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: even walk through a room without saying something about, uh, gee,
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: I need some blue shoes. And suddenly if the advertise,
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like I'm being followed by this
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: thing I'm carrying around. I mean, I know we need
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: to consciously take the power back by being more connected,
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I think is what you're saying with other people, like
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: intentionally saying that.
• 31:19
  Speaker 4: That what replaced which is which?
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: Absolutely? And your question was just so right on, because
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: it's just so so very important, Kathy, to really address
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: that issue. So my advice is, let's educate our kids
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: just like, hey, this reality. We know it's not going away.
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: We know you're not we're not going to unplug you completely,
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: but let's all come together and decide, Okay, here are
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: the times and that that we can't do it, that
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: then that it's really important that we go you know,
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: we go for a walk together and we don't look
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: at it on our phone.
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: Nice, right, Nice?
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Yep. Cindy, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: little bit about yourself. Do you use a question for MARYL?
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: Hi Per?
• 32:13
  Speaker 5: Can you Hi?
• 32:15
  Speaker 8: I am retired airline employee for twenty five years and
• 32:21
  Speaker 8: I come with a fifteen year old boy.
• 32:23
  Speaker 5: Yeah, and very proud mom.
• 32:25
  Speaker 8: And my question, firstly, thank you so much for sharing
• 32:30
  Speaker 8: your story with us today.
• 32:33
  Speaker 5: I too have mental health in my background.
• 32:37
  Speaker 8: My mom was manic, depressive, bipolar, and so growing up
• 32:41
  Speaker 8: with the ups and downs and the ebbs and flows and.
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: Not really understanding what it meant.
• 32:48
  Speaker 8: I'll be fifty five this year, so I didn't understand
• 32:52
  Speaker 8: what that meant when I was eight and nine years old,
• 32:56
  Speaker 8: working through treatments and whatnot. So thank you for giving
• 33:01
  Speaker 8: mental health a voice. And my question today would be,
• 33:07
  Speaker 8: it's taken you a while to get to the place
• 33:10
  Speaker 8: you're at today. In the moments that you wake up
• 33:15
  Speaker 8: and you're not feeling great, what is something you go
• 33:18
  Speaker 8: to that helps you get back into that good.
• 33:24
  Speaker 5: Thinking that positive as positive thoughts? What do you lean on?
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: Good question?
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: Thank you? Thank you for that question because it's it's
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: so important and it's actually super easy. One of the
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: greatest things that you can do if you're not feeling right,
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: or you wake up and it's just or things aren't
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: working you're you know, you're sitting in front of your
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: computer and just things aren't working out, I go for
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: a walk, and if I come back and I'm still
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: feeling that way, I go for another walk. Always, so
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: what we have to done stand about anxiety, depression and
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: all that stuff. It always changes. Always, Everything always shifts
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: because energy changes. Energy is always in movement, it's always
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: in motion, it's always changing. So to literally physically move
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: your body will help you to get out of that state.
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: I also, I'm very conscious of my mornings and how
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: I spend them. So how I wake up really will
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: define the kind of day that I will have. So
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: one of the big things that I try to do
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: when I wake up is to take a few moments,
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: you know, or a few minutes to be grateful. To
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: just think of all that I'm grateful for. You know,
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: my good health, I live in this beautiful place, my husband,
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: my you know, the really good friends of my life,
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: and just really say, I'll kind of whisper out loud,
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: what you're grateful for, your kids, you know, all of it,
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: and then really kind of try to be present throughout
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: the morning and visualize the day before you get up
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: out of bed. Visualize the day you want to have, right.
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: I call it kind of a the perfect day meditation.
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: So you're lying there and you just like all of
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: a sudden, you start thinking of just this really great day. Right,
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: I see myself, there's a lighting there this morning. I'm
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: gonna have a really good podcast with me, my new friends.
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: You know, I'm going to meet these lovely women. It's
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: all gonna be, you know, like an all, it's all
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: gonna manifest into this day. And ninety percent of the time,
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: And I also do that the night before, the night
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: before before I go to sleep, I try to digitalize.
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: You know, I'm not always successful. I'm not a perfectly
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: but I try to imagine the day that I want
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: to have the next day. And I'm telling you it
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: is the most effective thing I've ever done in my life.
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: If I have speaking engagements and I visualize it or whatever,
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: it's like the day just unfolds the way I Now.
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: Does it happen in a specific way, No, But the
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: day like I feel the way that I wanted to feel, right,
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: And that's we are. I feel like we're computers and
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: I think we can program ourselves, but I think we
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: forget that we have a lot of power that we
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: don't acknowledge in ourselves. So again it gets back back
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: to energy and frequency. Are we are electrical beings. That's
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: why I talk about groundings because when you put your
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: feet on the ground, there's an electrical impulse that comes
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: from the earth into your feet, and our feet have
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: thousands of pores, so you take in that energy. That's
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: what gets rid of the influence. But it's all of
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: those They sound like kooky things, but they're not. They
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: really really work and they really help with any kind
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: of issues that come up.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: I love I I really do, so I really believe that. Angel.
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little bit
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: about yourself, and do you have a question?
• 37:22
  Speaker 6: Yes, I'm actually at My background is radio and television,
• 37:27
  Speaker 6: and Cindy had the exact same question I have. But
• 37:29
  Speaker 6: you just said something that gave me another question. You
• 37:32
  Speaker 6: were talking about us being grounded, and it made me
• 37:37
  Speaker 6: think about the medical community itself. Do you think that
• 37:41
  Speaker 6: the medical community and being on medications and whatnot, has
• 37:46
  Speaker 6: made us adverse to holistic approaches to our health.
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: That's a really good question, and I want to be
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: very very careful in how I answered, because well, you know,
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: everybody has their stance on how we heal and how
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: we go about our lives.
• 38:05
  Speaker 6: Right.
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: So I am not a big medication fanatic at all.
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: I don't take anything. But that doesn't mean that I
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: think that everybody doesn't need some help or whatever, you know.
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: And when it comes to emergency medical care, there's nothing
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: better than the United States. But I do think that
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: our right I think especially when it comes to mental health,
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: because that's what I'm more of an expert at. I
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: think that medication can be a good break for somebody
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: who's having an issue, but it's not a solution. It's
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: a band aid. It gives us space to figure out
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: what we need to do. Right, We need to tell
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: our story, we need to whatever it is. But to
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: use medication as like a way to say, oh, I
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: don't need to address this, right, you know, because usually
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: our mental health problems come from some sort of trauma
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: that we buried inside, right, some story that we're not
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: willing to tell. So I do think that we kind
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: of overuse medication in this country, especially, we sort of
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: like i'd write, you know, we want to go to
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: a doctor and have him give us a pill and
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: you know we're going to lose weight and you know,
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: like instead of like, but I got to work out
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: and I got to eat properly, you know what I mean.
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: So there's like there's a balance, right, And I'm not
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: being judgmental when I say that for me, you know,
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: medication is is just not a solution for me. But
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: but I and I believe that these natural ways, like
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: the seven doctors I talked about, are really amazing ways
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: to find your solution, right, to find what works for you,
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: to to address that inner that inner voice, that intuition, intuition.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, taking a pill doesn't mean that you don't get
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: to do the work exactly exactly.
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: That's yeah, yeah, well said.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: Well yeah, and in this country, we do have this
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: idea that you just take a pill and it's all
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: even when you're scientifically I know, during the pandemic, everybody said,
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: well just give me an antibiotic. Well it's a virus.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: It's hard to explain to people that's not going to
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: cure you. But yeah, so we kind of over medicate
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: ourselves to Jan, Welcome to the Mom's club. Tell us
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: a little bit about yourself and being.
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: A question I real, Jan, everybody knows me about three
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: little letters. That my last name is Corkanus. We have
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: encountered each other several times in our lifetime at limousine
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: service for thirty years here in Dallas, Texas. I also,
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: you remember, uh, you said don't make the paper to
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: Laurie Muslow, and I you said, if you don't make
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: the paper, you're not getting paid. You opened up a
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: room here at the Crescent Hotel Bams.
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, my gosh, I did well. Yes, the kid crad
• 41:20
  Speaker 3: as true. You remember a while ago, yeah, a while ago.
• 41:26
  Speaker 4: It was in the eighties.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: I want to say, you.
• 41:29
  Speaker 5: Know, so we go back.
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: I was pregnant with my first daughter, so yes, I'm sorry.
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: Oh that's great.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: And then now I have an autistic grown child at home.
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: It's a godson, and I didn't really have much on
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: his background. I got him about five years ago. And
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: it is true what you're saying. They just give you
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: the medication and and they just asked you a few
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: questions and that's about it. I got thrown into this
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: situation and I really didn't know how to navigate through it.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: So now I definitely want to know how I can
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: help with your Texas Foundation.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Oh that's sweet.
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: Well it's a it's a hopefully a worldwide foundation. But wow,
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: well we'll talk later.
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: I can.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: But I just want to say bravo for for taking
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: on a very that's it's not easy, I know, because
• 42:35
  Speaker 3: autism is a challenge at best, but there are we've
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: seen some really amazing results for autism through frequency, you know,
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: through frequency healing. And that's kind of a deeper conversation
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: on how that works, but there's, uh, there's a lot
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: of ways to kind of because I I think, in
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: my genius, not being a doctor, way that that that
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: there are it's like a neural pathway thing that happens
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: in the brain that needs to be disrupted, interrupted and shifted.
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: So I think that that's why frequency has been very
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: successful and kind of helping get people with autism to
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: a place where they're very high functioning. And and that's awesome.
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: But God probably to you for taking that on.
• 43:37
  Speaker 5: Nice to see you.
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: That's well, we don't like the paper, we won't get paid.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: That's okay. I am going to remember that the paper, Well,
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: and you and you mentioned being pregnant with your your
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: first daughter, so your your children are grown now, right, there.
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: Are grown up.
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: I have my oldest is thirty there, she'll be thirty
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: eight in December, and she has a daughter who is
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: nineteen months old. So I am a grandmother. And then
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: my youngest is thirty five.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: Oh wow. So what's that like being the mother of
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: adults with their own children. I mean, do you feel
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: like you've how much input do you have?
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: And yeah, you took the question right out of mind.
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: Well, I mean maybe some mothers are different, but I
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: feel like I'm perfectly happy not to have much input.
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: I'm just perfectly happy to show up and have the
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: best time ever with my grandchild. Because you and you
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: will know this when it happens to you, it is.
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: It's just a different situation. You don't have the same responsibility.
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: You don't have the anxiety, but you know, you didn't
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: not sleep. You know, you get to have them, you're
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: fully rested. You know, you have a lot of fun
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: with them. It's just a different thing. I mean there's
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: certain things I go, hell, they're you know, the baby's
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: still sleeping with them. Okay, you know, like I I
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: just keep my moud. It's like, it's not my journey,
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: right and and by the way, she my granddaughter, is amazing,
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: so it must be working. Yeah. I've never been one
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: to think that I needed to control their journey or
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: their situation. So I'm I just love. Being a grandmother
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: is really kind of extraordinary. And it also shifts your
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: relationship with your child, you know, like my daughters and
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: I being you know, having two adults as as children.
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: It's what happens is there's this shift into you're always mom,
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: but you're also a friend. And that's kind of beautiful.
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: And and I didn't realize how profound that would be
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: because I lost my mother when I was much younger
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: and we hadn't gotten to that place and she was
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: sick and you know all of that. So it's it's beautiful.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: Well, that's very that's awesome. Actually, I can't wait to
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: be a grandmother myself because I'm just that fun. I
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: was always I like to have fun with the kids.
• 46:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you would be there, want to shower them with
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: and come back as your grand they wouldn't be Yeah, So.
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to that when I have none of
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: the other responsibilities like I'll just let it their parents
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: deal with the fallout of they're very spoiled because their
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: grandmother spoils them. Well, thank you so much, Merriel. I
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: can't believe the time has passed. Where do we find
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: your podcast and what's your project? What we look forward
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: to it.
• 46:41
  Speaker 4: It's called it's.
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: Called Outcomes the Sun and it's on you know, YouTube
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: and Spotify and Apple and whatever wherever you find your podcast.
• 46:51
  Speaker 3: And then I also have the foundation, which is maryel
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: Hemingway Foundation dot orgy and that's coming away with one
• 46:58
  Speaker 3: M M A R I E. L. Just you know,
• 47:01
  Speaker 3: in case you're not familiar with my grandfather's work. And
• 47:06
  Speaker 3: then I am producing. I've got two television shows kind
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: of based on my family history and legacy. It's they're
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: not documentaries. They're based on my grandfather in the twenties
• 47:20
  Speaker 3: in Paris and then then he's in Cuba. And then
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: there's a part of the part of the show which
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: will be about me and my sisters in the sixties,
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: seventies and eighties. But the through line is mental health
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: kind of that's the unspoken through line of that project.
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: And yeah, I've just got a lot going on. My
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: husband created a chamber that pressurizes you at different altitudes.
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: So we've got a health and wellness facility here in
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: southern California on Pacific Coast Highway which we're about to
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: open in another month, and that'll have hot plunges and
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: cold plunge and saunas and all kinds of different things.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: That's very exciting.
• 48:05
  Speaker 3: You can see me on social media because we know
• 48:09
  Speaker 3: we're all going to do it. Mary El Hemingway, it's
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: pretty easy.
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah, well that's great.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: Well, there's so much going on. I can't wait all
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: the documentary. I can't wait wait to watch that.
• 48:21
  Speaker 4: And we have to go to this punge.
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: For sure, we're going to plunge a lot. I think
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: we're really going to enjoy that.
• 48:27
  Speaker 4: Well, I think my hips would like that would too.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: Well, thank you so much Mariel for joining us, and.
• 48:33
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• 48:34
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• 48:36
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