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1 2 3 Magic - Punishments For Parents Who Like Discipline. · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Hi,
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  guys.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  review
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  parenting
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  books
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn,
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  best
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  selling
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  author
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  and
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skyler.
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  How
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  are
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  you?
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  I'm
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  good.
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  Excited
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  to
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  review
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  another
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  book
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  today,
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  a
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  book
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  I
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  hated.
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  Today
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  we're.
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  But
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  tell
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  us
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  how
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  you
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  really
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  feel.
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  Oh,
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  don't
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  worry,
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  I
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  will.
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  Okay,
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  today
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  we're
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  reviewing
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  a
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  book
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  called
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  One,
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  Two,
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  Three
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  Magic
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  by.
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  Who's
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  a
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  by?
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  It's
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  by
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  Thomas
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  Bellen,
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  PhD.
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  Yeah,
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  PhD.
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  The
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  worst
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  books
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  are
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  always
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  by
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  PhDs.
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  Not
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  true
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  necessarily.
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  They
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  think
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  they're
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  writing
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  a
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  thesis,
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  not
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  a
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  book.
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  That's
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  true.
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  Yeah.
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  So,
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  mom,
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  on
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  a
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  scale
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  of
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  scientist
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  to
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  parent,
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  how
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  readable
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  was
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  this
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  book?
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  Okay,
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  well,
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  on
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  a
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  science,
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  I
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  think
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  we
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  may
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  need
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  to
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  change
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  our
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  scale
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  on
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  this
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  one
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  because
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  it
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  was
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  not
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  scientific.
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  There's
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  no,
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  like,
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  too
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  many
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  graphs
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  and
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  too
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  many
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  studies
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  cited
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  on
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  that.
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  It
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  is
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  so
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  redundant.
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  Yeah.
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  It
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  was
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  not
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  interesting.
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  It
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  was
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  not
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  interesting.
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  I
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  would
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  put
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  it
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  that
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  way.
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  Although
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  there
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  were
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  graphic
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  novels
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  or
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  graphic,
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  like
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  stories
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  that
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  illustrated
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  the
• 1:19
  stories
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  he
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  was
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  telling.
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  That
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  went
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  really
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  fast
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  and
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  got
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  you
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  through
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  many
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  pages.
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  Which
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  I
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  liked.
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  Which
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  I
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  like.
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  I
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  liked
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  that
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  element.
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  I
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  liked
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  those.
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  Yeah,
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  those
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  were
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  good.
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  Yeah,
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  I
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  was
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  like,
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  oh,
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  look,
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  ten
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  pages
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  gone.
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  Uhhuh.
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  Really
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  fast.
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  But
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  anyway.
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  But
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  we'll
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  talk
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  about
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  what's
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  in
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  the
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  book,
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  what
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  it
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  says,
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  and
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  you
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  be
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  the
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  judge.
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  You
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  be
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  the
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  judge.
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  You
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  be
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  the
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  judge.
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  So
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  Thomas's
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  idea
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  on
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  discipline
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  is
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  that
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  you
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  count.
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  Counting
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  is
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  what
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  is
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  in
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  question.
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  So
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  the
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  first
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  offense
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  your
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  child
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  commits,
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  if
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  it's
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  a
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  behavior
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  that
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  you
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  don't
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  like
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  and
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  you
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  want
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  them
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  to
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  curb,
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  you
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  give
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  them
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  a
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  one,
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  and
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  if
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  they
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  continue
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  on,
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  you
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  give
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  them
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  a
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  two.
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  And
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  then
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  if
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  they
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  keep
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  pushing,
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  you
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  give
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  them
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  a
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  three.
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  And
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  then
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  they
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  go
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  take
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  a
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  five
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  minute
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  break.
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  Well,
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  okay,
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  There's
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  a
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  little
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  more
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  to
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  it
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  than
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  that,
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  but
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  that's
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  the
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  gist
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  of
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  it.
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  All
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  right.
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  What's.
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  What's.
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  What's
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  more
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  to
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  it?
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  Well,
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  okay.
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  All
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  right,
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  all
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  right,
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  all
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  right.
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  So
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  let
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  me
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  just
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  say
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  that.
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  Just
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  backing
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  up
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  just
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  what,
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  what
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  he
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  has
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  created.
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  And
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  by
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  the
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  way,
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  this
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  has
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  been
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  around
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  for
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  like
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  at
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  least
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  30
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  years.
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  I.
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  When
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  you
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  were
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  being
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  brought
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  up,
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  people
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  were
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  doing
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  this.
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  So,
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  you
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  know,
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  I
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  used
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  to.
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  Wouldn't
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  have
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  worked
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  on
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  me.
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  I
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  don't,
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  I
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  don't
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  think
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  it
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  would
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  have.
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  But
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  anyway.
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  But
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  what
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  it
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  is,
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  is
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  it's
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  a
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  guide
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  to
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  manage
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  children's
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  difficult
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  behaviors.
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  And
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  they
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  Give
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  you
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  tools
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  to
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  stop
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  what
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  he
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  calls
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  obnoxious
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  behaviors,
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  like
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  arguing,
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  whining,
• 2:50
  screaming,
• 2:51
  teasing,
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  those
• 2:51
  kinds
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  of
• 2:52
  obnoxious
• 2:53
  behaviors.
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  So
• 2:54
  the
• 2:54
  counting
• 2:54
  is
• 2:54
  to
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  stop
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  those
• 2:56
  behaviors.
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  And
• 2:58
  then
• 2:58
  there's
• 2:59
  also
• 2:59
  tools
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  to
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  encourage
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  what
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  he
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  calls
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  start
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  behaviors
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  like
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  start
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  doing
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  your
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  homework,
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  start
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  cleaning
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  your
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  room,
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  that
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  kind
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  of
• 3:08
  thing.
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  And
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  you
• 3:08
  don't
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  really
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  count
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  for
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  that.
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  There's
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  other
• 3:10
  tools
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  for
• 3:11
  that.
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  And
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  then
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  there's
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  also
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  supposedly
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  tools
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  for
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  parent
• 3:16
  child
• 3:16
  bonding,
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  but
• 3:17
  that's
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  the
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  shortest
• 3:18
  part
• 3:18
  of
• 3:18
  the
• 3:18
  book.
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  So
• 3:19
  the
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  least
• 3:21
  amount
• 3:21
  of
• 3:21
  effort
• 3:22
  is
• 3:22
  given
• 3:22
  to
• 3:22
  building
• 3:23
  your
• 3:23
  parent
• 3:24
  child
• 3:24
  bond.
• 3:24
  Yeah.
• 3:25
  In
• 3:25
  this
• 3:25
  book.
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  And
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  so
• 3:27
  he
• 3:27
  starts
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  out,
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  which
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  think.
• 3:28
  I
• 3:29
  actually
• 3:29
  think
• 3:29
  he's
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  right
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  about
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  this.
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  Okay,
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  okay,
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  here's.
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  So
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  there
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  are
• 3:32
  some
• 3:32
  things
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  he
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  does
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  well.
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  It's
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  just
• 3:35
  the
• 3:35
  overall
• 3:36
  main
• 3:36
  idea.
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  Neither
• 3:37
  one
• 3:38
  of
• 3:38
  us
• 3:38
  seem
• 3:38
  to.
• 3:38
  I
• 3:39
  will
• 3:39
  not
• 3:39
  be
• 3:39
  using
• 3:39
  this
• 3:39
  idea.
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  Okay.
• 3:41
  But
• 3:42
  he
• 3:42
  does
• 3:42
  challenge
• 3:42
  what
• 3:43
  he
• 3:43
  calls
• 3:43
  the
• 3:43
  little
• 3:43
  adult
• 3:44
  assumption
• 3:45
  that
• 3:45
  kids
• 3:46
  are
• 3:46
  small
• 3:46
  versions
• 3:47
  of
• 3:47
  adults
• 3:48
  and
• 3:48
  that
• 3:48
  they
• 3:49
  can
• 3:49
  be
• 3:49
  talked
• 3:50
  to
• 3:50
  and
• 3:50
  reasoned
• 3:51
  with.
• 3:51
  Like
• 3:52
  they're
• 3:52
  right
• 3:53
  in
• 3:53
  the
• 3:53
  middle
• 3:53
  of
• 3:54
  a,
• 3:54
  let's
• 3:55
  say
• 3:55
  a
• 3:55
  big
• 3:55
  tantrum.
• 3:56
  And
• 3:57
  you
• 3:57
  go
• 3:57
  to
• 3:57
  them
• 3:58
  and
• 3:58
  you
• 3:58
  could
• 3:58
  say,
• 3:59
  now,
• 3:59
  honey,
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  you're
• 4:00
  really
• 4:00
  disturbing
• 4:01
  everybody
• 4:02
  around
• 4:02
  you.
• 4:03
  Nobody
• 4:03
  likes
• 4:04
  to
• 4:04
  listen
• 4:04
  to
• 4:05
  this.
• 4:06
  I
• 4:06
  know
• 4:07
  you're
• 4:07
  upset,
• 4:07
  but
• 4:07
  it's
• 4:08
  really
• 4:08
  not
• 4:08
  a
• 4:08
  big
• 4:09
  deal
• 4:09
  that
• 4:09
  you're
• 4:10
  not
• 4:10
  getting
• 4:10
  the
• 4:10
  candy.
• 4:11
  You
• 4:11
  need
• 4:11
  to
• 4:11
  calm
• 4:12
  yourself
• 4:12
  and
• 4:13
  just
• 4:13
  relax.
• 4:14
  And
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  child
• 4:14
  will
• 4:15
  look
• 4:15
  at
• 4:15
  you
• 4:15
  and
• 4:15
  go,
• 4:15
  oh,
• 4:15
  yeah,
• 4:16
  of
• 4:16
  course,
• 4:16
  mom,
• 4:16
  you're
• 4:17
  right.
• 4:18
  That
• 4:18
  does
• 4:19
  not
• 4:19
  happen.
• 4:19
  You
• 4:20
  cannot
• 4:20
  talk
• 4:20
  to
• 4:21
  a
• 4:21
  child.
• 4:21
  No.
• 4:21
  He
• 4:22
  says
• 4:22
  essentially,
• 4:23
  children
• 4:24
  are
• 4:24
  like
• 4:24
  wild
• 4:25
  animals.
• 4:26
  And
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  need
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  be
• 4:28
  like
• 4:28
  a
• 4:28
  wild
• 4:28
  animal
• 4:29
  trainer.
• 4:29
  Yes.
• 4:30
  And
• 4:31
  you
• 4:31
  need
• 4:31
  to
• 4:31
  teach
• 4:31
  them
• 4:32
  non
• 4:32
  verbally
• 4:33
  and
• 4:33
  through
• 4:33
  repetition.
• 4:34
  Unfortunately,
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  train
• 4:36
  my
• 4:36
  dogs
• 4:36
  with
• 4:36
  long
• 4:37
  sentences
• 4:37
  and
• 4:38
  it
• 4:38
  doesn't
• 4:38
  work.
• 4:38
  It
• 4:39
  doesn't
• 4:39
  work.
• 4:39
  So
• 4:40
  I
• 4:40
  can
• 4:40
  confirm
• 4:40
  he
• 4:40
  got
• 4:40
  one
• 4:41
  thing
• 4:41
  right.
• 4:41
  Yeah.
• 4:42
  That
• 4:42
  is
• 4:42
  true.
• 4:42
  I
• 4:43
  mean,
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  cannot
• 4:44
  it
• 4:44
  very
• 4:44
  much.
• 4:45
  This
• 4:45
  whole
• 4:45
  method
• 4:46
  does
• 4:46
  kind
• 4:46
  of
• 4:46
  remind
• 4:47
  me
• 4:47
  of
• 4:47
  training
• 4:48
  your
• 4:48
  dog.
• 4:50
  And
• 4:51
  there
• 4:51
  may
• 4:51
  be
• 4:51
  a
• 4:52
  case
• 4:52
  for
• 4:52
  it.
• 4:53
  Maybe
• 4:54
  it
• 4:54
  could
• 4:54
  work
• 4:55
  anyway.
• 4:56
  We'll
• 4:57
  see.
• 4:58
  But
• 4:58
  for
• 4:58
  younger
• 4:59
  kids,
• 4:59
  he
• 4:59
  says,
• 5:00
  you
• 5:00
  are
• 5:00
  the
• 5:01
  benevolent
• 5:01
  dictator
• 5:02
  in
• 5:02
  the
• 5:02
  home.
• 5:03
  What
• 5:03
  you
• 5:03
  say
• 5:03
  goes.
• 5:04
  They
• 5:04
  have
• 5:04
  to
• 5:04
  do
• 5:04
  whatever
• 5:05
  you
• 5:05
  say.
• 5:06
  With
• 5:06
  older
• 5:06
  kids,
• 5:07
  you
• 5:08
  give
• 5:08
  them
• 5:09
  more
• 5:09
  say
• 5:09
  in
• 5:09
  family
• 5:10
  rules.
• 5:10
  You
• 5:11
  have
• 5:11
  family
• 5:11
  meetings
• 5:12
  and
• 5:12
  discuss
• 5:12
  the
• 5:13
  rules,
• 5:13
  but
• 5:13
  then
• 5:13
  they
• 5:14
  have
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  abide
• 5:14
  by
• 5:14
  them.
• 5:15
  But
• 5:15
  they
• 5:16
  say
• 5:16
  that.
• 5:16
  He
• 5:17
  says
• 5:17
  the
• 5:17
  biggest
• 5:18
  mistake
• 5:18
  that
• 5:18
  parents
• 5:19
  make
• 5:19
  when
• 5:19
  they're
• 5:20
  disciplining
• 5:20
  their
• 5:20
  kids
• 5:21
  is
• 5:21
  over
• 5:21
  explaining
• 5:23
  and
• 5:24
  showing
• 5:24
  too
• 5:25
  much
• 5:25
  emotion.
• 5:26
  You
• 5:27
  know,
• 5:27
  so
• 5:28
  I'm
• 5:28
  so
• 5:28
  guilty.
• 5:29
  The
• 5:29
  child
• 5:29
  is
• 5:29
  coloring
• 5:30
  on
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  wall
• 5:30
  and
• 5:31
  you're
• 5:31
  going,
• 5:31
  stop.
• 5:32
  You
• 5:32
  know,
• 5:33
  they
• 5:33
  don't
• 5:33
  do
• 5:33
  that.
• 5:34
  Don't
• 5:34
  show
• 5:34
  emotion.
• 5:35
  You
• 5:35
  just
• 5:36
  say.
• 5:37
  You
• 5:37
  just
• 5:37
  say
• 5:37
  one,
• 5:38
  one.
• 5:41
  One.
• 5:42
  That's
• 5:42
  a
• 5:42
  one.
• 5:44
  And
• 5:44
  the
• 5:44
  child
• 5:44
  keeps
• 5:44
  coloring.
• 5:45
  That's
• 5:46
  a
• 5:46
  two.
• 5:48
  Coloring.
• 5:49
  That's
• 5:49
  a
• 5:49
  three.
• 5:50
  Time
• 5:50
  for
• 5:50
  your
• 5:50
  timeout.
• 5:51
  Okay.
• 5:52
  He
• 5:53
  says,
• 5:53
  okay,
• 5:54
  that.
• 5:54
  Not
• 5:54
  to
• 5:54
  react.
• 5:55
  Because
• 5:55
  if
• 5:56
  you
• 5:56
  react,
• 5:57
  you're
• 5:57
  gonna.
• 5:58
  They
• 5:58
  say
• 5:58
  that
• 5:59
  when
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  react,
• 5:59
  you're
• 6:00
  inviting
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  fight,
• 6:01
  which,
• 6:01
  like,
• 6:02
  I
• 6:02
  get.
• 6:03
  You
• 6:03
  are.
• 6:04
  Because
• 6:04
  when
• 6:04
  I
• 6:04
  get
• 6:04
  a
• 6:04
  reaction
• 6:05
  out
• 6:05
  of
• 6:05
  someone,
• 6:05
  I'm
• 6:06
  like,
• 6:07
  square
• 6:07
  up.
• 6:08
  No,
• 6:08
  you
• 6:09
  are.
• 6:09
  You
• 6:09
  are.
• 6:09
  And
• 6:10
  the
• 6:10
  idea
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  this
• 6:11
  is
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  you're
• 6:12
  disciplining
• 6:13
  your
• 6:13
  child
• 6:14
  without
• 6:15
  arguing,
• 6:16
  yelling,
• 6:17
  or
• 6:17
  spanking.
• 6:18
  It's
• 6:18
  a
• 6:18
  different
• 6:18
  way
• 6:18
  to
• 6:19
  discipline.
• 6:19
  Also,
• 6:19
  it's
• 6:19
  2025.
• 6:20
  Who
• 6:20
  is
• 6:21
  still
• 6:21
  spanking
• 6:21
  their
• 6:21
  child?
• 6:22
  I
• 6:22
  think
• 6:22
  there
• 6:23
  are
• 6:23
  people
• 6:23
  who
• 6:23
  spank
• 6:24
  their
• 6:24
  kids.
• 6:24
  Oh,
• 6:24
  my
• 6:25
  God.
• 6:25
  It
• 6:25
  happens.
• 6:26
  Look
• 6:26
  inward.
• 6:27
  Yeah.
• 6:27
  No,
• 6:28
  people
• 6:28
  do.
• 6:28
  People
• 6:29
  do.
• 6:29
  Crazy,
• 6:30
  huh?
• 6:31
  It's
• 6:31
  2025.
• 6:32
  I
• 6:33
  would
• 6:33
  not
• 6:33
  do
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  myself.
• 6:34
  But
• 6:35
  there's.
• 6:35
  Yeah,
• 6:36
  people.
• 6:36
  I
• 6:37
  can't.
• 6:37
  Anyway,
• 6:39
  Okay,
• 6:40
  I
• 6:40
  agree
• 6:40
  with
• 6:41
  you.
• 6:41
  I
• 6:41
  would
• 6:41
  not
• 6:42
  be
• 6:42
  spanking
• 6:42
  my
• 6:43
  child.
• 6:43
  No.
• 6:43
  I
• 6:44
  mean,
• 6:44
  can
• 6:44
  you
• 6:44
  imagine?
• 6:44
  Not
• 6:45
  civilized.
• 6:46
  Well,
• 6:46
  all
• 6:46
  right,
• 6:48
  okay.
• 6:48
  But
• 6:49
  let
• 6:49
  me
• 6:49
  just
• 6:50
  go
• 6:50
  through
• 6:50
  the
• 6:50
  system
• 6:51
  in
• 6:51
  a
• 6:52
  little
• 6:52
  more
• 6:52
  detail
• 6:53
  than
• 6:53
  you
• 6:53
  did.
• 6:53
  Okay,
• 6:54
  okay,
• 6:55
  fair.
• 6:55
  Okay.
• 6:56
  Because
• 6:57
  it's
• 6:57
  very
• 6:58
  specific.
• 6:58
  It's
• 6:59
  very
• 6:59
  specific,
• 6:59
  and
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  have
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  follow
• 7:00
  it
• 7:00
  exactly.
• 7:01
  So
• 7:02
  the
• 7:02
  way
• 7:02
  the
• 7:02
  system
• 7:02
  works
• 7:03
  is
• 7:04
  a
• 7:04
  child
• 7:04
  is
• 7:04
  having,
• 7:05
  let's
• 7:05
  say,
• 7:05
  a
• 7:05
  major
• 7:06
  tantrum,
• 7:07
  and
• 7:07
  you
• 7:07
  just
• 7:07
  look
• 7:08
  at
• 7:08
  them,
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  show
• 7:08
  no
• 7:09
  emotion,
• 7:09
  and
• 7:10
  you
• 7:10
  say,
• 7:10
  that's
• 7:11
  one.
• 7:12
  And
• 7:13
  one
• 7:13
  means
• 7:13
  you're
• 7:14
  doing
• 7:14
  something
• 7:14
  wrong
• 7:15
  and
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  need
• 7:15
  to
• 7:15
  shape
• 7:16
  up.
• 7:17
  You
• 7:17
  wait
• 7:17
  five
• 7:18
  seconds.
• 7:20
  That's
• 7:20
  two.
• 7:21
  And
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  say
• 7:22
  it
• 7:22
  in
• 7:22
  a
• 7:22
  very
• 7:22
  gentle
• 7:23
  but
• 7:23
  firm
• 7:23
  voice.
• 7:24
  No
• 7:24
  emotion.
• 7:26
  You
• 7:26
  wait
• 7:26
  five
• 7:26
  seconds
• 7:27
  more.
• 7:27
  If
• 7:27
  the
• 7:27
  child
• 7:27
  continues
• 7:28
  and
• 7:28
  you
• 7:29
  say,
• 7:29
  that's
• 7:30
  three.
• 7:31
  Take
• 7:31
  five.
• 7:32
  And
• 7:32
  then
• 7:32
  the
• 7:32
  child
• 7:33
  takes
• 7:33
  a
• 7:34
  rest
• 7:34
  period,
• 7:36
  and
• 7:36
  that's
• 7:37
  one
• 7:37
  minute
• 7:37
  for
• 7:38
  every
• 7:38
  year
• 7:38
  of
• 7:38
  their
• 7:38
  life.
• 7:39
  Or
• 7:40
  you
• 7:40
  can
• 7:40
  also
• 7:42
  instead
• 7:42
  give
• 7:42
  what
• 7:43
  they
• 7:43
  call
• 7:43
  a
• 7:43
  break
• 7:43
  time
• 7:44
  alternative,
• 7:44
  like
• 7:45
  the
• 7:45
  loss
• 7:45
  of
• 7:45
  a
• 7:45
  toy
• 7:46
  or
• 7:46
  a
• 7:46
  privilege.
• 7:47
  Punishment.
• 7:48
  Yeah.
• 7:49
  Like,
• 7:49
  you
• 7:49
  know.
• 7:50
  You
• 7:50
  know,
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  have
• 7:52
  your
• 7:52
  favorite
• 7:53
  toy.
• 7:53
  I'm
• 7:53
  taking
• 7:53
  it
• 7:53
  away.
• 7:54
  Or
• 7:54
  no
• 7:54
  television
• 7:55
  tonight.
• 7:55
  Or
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  can
• 7:56
  do
• 7:56
  that
• 7:56
  instead
• 7:57
  of.
• 7:58
  And
• 7:58
  if
• 7:58
  they're
• 7:58
  doing
• 7:58
  something
• 7:59
  really,
• 7:59
  really
• 7:59
  bad,
• 8:00
  you
• 8:00
  can
• 8:00
  go
• 8:00
  right
• 8:00
  to
• 8:01
  three.
• 8:02
  The
• 8:03
  break
• 8:03
  that
• 8:03
  they
• 8:03
  take.
• 8:04
  If.
• 8:04
  Break
• 8:05
  seems
• 8:05
  to
• 8:05
  be
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  thing
• 8:06
  most
• 8:06
  people
• 8:06
  do.
• 8:06
  Yes.
• 8:07
  If
• 8:07
  a
• 8:07
  break
• 8:07
  that
• 8:08
  they
• 8:08
  take
• 8:08
  would
• 8:08
  be
• 8:09
  either
• 8:09
  on
• 8:09
  a
• 8:09
  chair,
• 8:10
  on
• 8:10
  a
• 8:11
  stairway,
• 8:11
  it
• 8:11
  could
• 8:11
  be
• 8:12
  in
• 8:12
  their
• 8:12
  room.
• 8:14
  No
• 8:14
  talking,
• 8:15
  no
• 8:15
  eye
• 8:15
  contact.
• 8:16
  But
• 8:16
  it's
• 8:16
  not
• 8:16
  like
• 8:17
  an
• 8:17
  angry.
• 8:17
  Putting
• 8:18
  them
• 8:18
  away.
• 8:18
  It's
• 8:19
  just.
• 8:20
  It's
• 8:20
  businesslike.
• 8:21
  You
• 8:21
  just
• 8:21
  put
• 8:21
  them
• 8:21
  away.
• 8:22
  And
• 8:22
  if
• 8:22
  they
• 8:23
  get
• 8:23
  up
• 8:23
  and
• 8:23
  move,
• 8:25
  then
• 8:25
  you
• 8:26
  make
• 8:27
  them
• 8:27
  start
• 8:27
  over
• 8:27
  and
• 8:28
  do
• 8:28
  it
• 8:28
  again
• 8:29
  after
• 8:29
  the
• 8:29
  break.
• 8:30
  When
• 8:30
  the
• 8:30
  child
• 8:30
  is
• 8:30
  released,
• 8:31
  there's
• 8:31
  no
• 8:31
  discussion,
• 8:32
  there's
• 8:33
  no
• 8:33
  lecture
• 8:33
  about
• 8:34
  what
• 8:34
  happened
• 8:34
  or
• 8:34
  what
• 8:35
  they
• 8:35
  did
• 8:35
  wrong,
• 8:36
  unless
• 8:36
  what
• 8:37
  they
• 8:37
  did
• 8:37
  wrong
• 8:37
  was
• 8:37
  something
• 8:38
  they've
• 8:38
  never
• 8:38
  done
• 8:38
  before,
• 8:39
  it
• 8:39
  was
• 8:39
  unusual
• 8:40
  or
• 8:40
  dangerous.
• 8:41
  And
• 8:41
  you
• 8:41
  need
• 8:41
  to
• 8:42
  talk
• 8:42
  about
• 8:42
  what
• 8:42
  happened.
• 8:43
  Yeah.
• 8:44
  So
• 8:44
  that's
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  system.
• 8:45
  That's
• 8:45
  the
• 8:45
  system.
• 8:46
  That's
• 8:46
  the
• 8:46
  system.
• 8:46
  And
• 8:46
  it
• 8:47
  works
• 8:47
  mainly
• 8:48
  for
• 8:48
  stopping
• 8:49
  bad
• 8:49
  behavior
• 8:50
  as
• 8:50
  opposed
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  starting
• 8:52
  things
• 8:52
  that.
• 8:53
  That
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  want
• 8:53
  them
• 8:53
  to
• 8:54
  start.
• 8:54
  That's
• 8:54
  a
• 8:54
  whole
• 8:55
  different
• 8:55
  system.
• 8:55
  That
• 8:56
  will
• 8:56
  come
• 8:56
  later.
• 8:57
  Yeah.
• 8:57
  So.
• 8:58
  So,
• 8:58
  okay,
• 8:58
  now
• 8:59
  talk
• 8:59
  about
• 8:59
  how
• 9:00
  much
• 9:00
  you
• 9:00
  hate
• 9:00
  it
• 9:00
  and
• 9:01
  why.
• 9:01
  I
• 9:01
  hate
• 9:02
  it
• 9:02
  because
• 9:03
  I
• 9:03
  don't
• 9:03
  think
• 9:03
  isolation
• 9:04
  should
• 9:04
  be
• 9:04
  used
• 9:05
  as
• 9:05
  a
• 9:05
  tool
• 9:06
  for
• 9:07
  punishment.
• 9:07
  I
• 9:08
  think
• 9:08
  it's
• 9:08
  kind
• 9:08
  of
• 9:08
  cruel
• 9:09
  unless
• 9:10
  the
• 9:10
  kid,
• 9:11
  like,
• 9:12
  needs
• 9:12
  a
• 9:13
  quiet
• 9:13
  place
• 9:14
  to
• 9:14
  calm
• 9:15
  down,
• 9:15
  which
• 9:15
  I
• 9:15
  guess
• 9:15
  in
• 9:16
  theory.
• 9:16
  But
• 9:17
  I
• 9:17
  just
• 9:17
  think.
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  think
• 9:18
  it's
• 9:19
  confusing
• 9:19
  for
• 9:19
  kids,
• 9:20
  you
• 9:21
  know,
• 9:21
  I
• 9:21
  think
• 9:21
  you're
• 9:22
  not
• 9:22
  really
• 9:22
  giving
• 9:23
  them
• 9:23
  many
• 9:23
  cues,
• 9:24
  especially
• 9:24
  with
• 9:25
  the
• 9:25
  emotionlessness
• 9:26
  of
• 9:26
  it.
• 9:27
  You
• 9:27
  know,
• 9:27
  I
• 9:27
  think
• 9:27
  kids
• 9:28
  learn
• 9:29
  based
• 9:29
  on
• 9:29
  our
• 9:29
  reactions,
• 9:30
  and
• 9:31
  they
• 9:31
  learn
• 9:31
  that
• 9:32
  something
• 9:32
  is
• 9:32
  dangerous
• 9:33
  or
• 9:33
  stressful
• 9:34
  because
• 9:34
  they
• 9:34
  see
• 9:35
  it
• 9:35
  in
• 9:35
  us
• 9:36
  and
• 9:36
  they
• 9:36
  internalize
• 9:37
  that,
• 9:38
  at
• 9:38
  least.
• 9:38
  I
• 9:39
  think.
• 9:39
  I'm
• 9:39
  no
• 9:39
  psychologist.
• 9:40
  I'm.
• 9:40
  I've
• 9:41
  been
• 9:41
  a
• 9:41
  parent
• 9:41
  for,
• 9:41
  like,
• 9:41
  all
• 9:42
  of
• 9:42
  four
• 9:42
  months,
• 9:43
  but
• 9:44
  from
• 9:44
  what
• 9:44
  I
• 9:44
  understand
• 9:45
  about
• 9:46
  interpersonal
• 9:46
  relationships,
• 9:48
  isolating
• 9:49
  and
• 9:50
  giving
• 9:50
  them
• 9:51
  nothing
• 9:52
  doesn't
• 9:52
  strike
• 9:52
  me
• 9:52
  as
• 9:53
  a
• 9:53
  very
• 9:53
  effective
• 9:54
  way
• 9:54
  to
• 9:55
  teach
• 9:55
  kids
• 9:55
  not
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  behave
• 9:56
  a
• 9:56
  certain
• 9:57
  way.
• 9:57
  It
• 9:58
  really
• 9:58
  doesn't.
• 9:58
  Especially.
• 9:58
  What,
• 9:59
  so
• 9:59
  then
• 9:59
  there's
• 9:59
  a
• 9:59
  consequence
• 10:00
  at
• 10:00
  three,
• 10:01
  but
• 10:02
  until
• 10:02
  then,
• 10:03
  no
• 10:03
  consequence.
• 10:04
  They
• 10:04
  could
• 10:04
  just
• 10:04
  keep
• 10:05
  pushing
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  pushing
• 10:05
  the
• 10:06
  limit.
• 10:06
  Right.
• 10:06
  And
• 10:06
  then.
• 10:06
  Oh,
• 10:07
  okay,
• 10:07
  now
• 10:07
  at
• 10:07
  three,
• 10:07
  we're
• 10:07
  gonna
• 10:08
  take
• 10:08
  you
• 10:08
  seriously.
• 10:09
  Like,
• 10:09
  I
• 10:10
  think
• 10:10
  that's
• 10:10
  silly,
• 10:11
  right?
• 10:11
  Well,
• 10:12
  he.
• 10:12
  Silly.
• 10:13
  The
• 10:13
  magic
• 10:14
  part
• 10:14
  he
• 10:14
  said
• 10:14
  is
• 10:15
  not
• 10:15
  in
• 10:15
  the
• 10:15
  counting.
• 10:16
  It's
• 10:16
  in
• 10:17
  the
• 10:17
  pregnant
• 10:17
  pause
• 10:18
  between
• 10:19
  counts.
• 10:19
  What
• 10:19
  is
• 10:20
  he
• 10:20
  talking
• 10:20
  about?
• 10:21
  I
• 10:21
  know,
• 10:21
  I
• 10:22
  didn't
• 10:22
  quite
• 10:22
  get
• 10:22
  that,
• 10:24
  but
• 10:25
  okay,
• 10:25
  yeah,
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  went
• 10:26
  on.
• 10:27
  It
• 10:27
  was
• 10:27
  funny.
• 10:27
  I
• 10:28
  went
• 10:28
  online
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  see
• 10:29
  if
• 10:29
  people
• 10:29
  said
• 10:30
  this
• 10:30
  was.
• 10:30
  You
• 10:30
  went
• 10:30
  on
• 10:30
  Reddit.
• 10:31
  Tell
• 10:32
  the
• 10:32
  people
• 10:32
  where
• 10:32
  you
• 10:32
  went.
• 10:32
  Oh,
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  did.
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  went
• 10:33
  on
• 10:33
  Reddit,
• 10:34
  which.
• 10:34
  I
• 10:34
  love
• 10:34
  Reddit.
• 10:34
  I
• 10:35
  love
• 10:35
  Reddit.
• 10:35
  It's
• 10:35
  really
• 10:36
  good
• 10:36
  because
• 10:37
  it's
• 10:37
  like,
• 10:38
  reasonable
• 10:38
  people
• 10:38
  talking.
• 10:39
  Reasonable
• 10:40
  mostly
• 10:41
  depends,
• 10:41
  like,
• 10:41
  which
• 10:41
  Reddit
• 10:42
  rooms
• 10:42
  you're
• 10:43
  in.
• 10:43
  In
• 10:43
  this
• 10:44
  one
• 10:44
  with
• 10:44
  the
• 10:44
  parents,
• 10:44
  I
• 10:45
  thought
• 10:45
  it
• 10:45
  was
• 10:45
  very
• 10:45
  reasonable
• 10:46
  and
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  thought
• 10:47
  there
• 10:47
  were
• 10:47
  some
• 10:48
  parents.
• 10:48
  I
• 10:48
  will
• 10:48
  tell
• 10:48
  you
• 10:49
  who
• 10:49
  said,
• 10:49
  yeah,
• 10:50
  works
• 10:50
  with
• 10:50
  my
• 10:50
  kid.
• 10:51
  I
• 10:51
  love
• 10:51
  it.
• 10:51
  It's
• 10:52
  great.
• 10:52
  And
• 10:53
  then
• 10:53
  I.
• 10:53
  There
• 10:53
  were
• 10:54
  other
• 10:54
  parents
• 10:54
  who
• 10:54
  said,
• 10:55
  yeah,
• 10:55
  well,
• 10:56
  I.
• 10:56
  I
• 10:56
  don't
• 10:56
  like
• 10:57
  it
• 10:57
  because
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  child
• 10:59
  doesn't
• 10:59
  really
• 10:59
  know
• 10:59
  what
• 11:00
  they
• 11:00
  did.
• 11:01
  And
• 11:02
  there
• 11:02
  were.
• 11:03
  There
• 11:03
  was
• 11:03
  one
• 11:03
  person
• 11:03
  Which
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  thought
• 11:04
  this
• 11:04
  was
• 11:04
  interesting.
• 11:05
  Who
• 11:05
  said
• 11:06
  now
• 11:06
  when
• 11:07
  they
• 11:07
  say
• 11:07
  to
• 11:07
  someone,
• 11:08
  like,
• 11:08
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• 11:08
  car's
• 11:08
  coming
• 11:09
  at
• 11:09
  them
• 11:09
  and
• 11:09
  you
• 11:09
  yell
• 11:10
  stop.
• 11:11
  The
• 11:11
  child
• 11:11
  doesn't
• 11:12
  even
• 11:12
  react
• 11:12
  because
• 11:13
  they're
• 11:13
  waiting
• 11:13
  for
• 11:14
  an
• 11:14
  account.
• 11:15
  And
• 11:15
  so
• 11:16
  it's
• 11:16
  like,
• 11:16
  that's
• 11:17
  not
• 11:17
  productive.
• 11:17
  You
• 11:18
  need
• 11:18
  to
• 11:18
  teach
• 11:18
  them,
• 11:19
  you
• 11:19
  know,
• 11:19
  words
• 11:20
  that.
• 11:20
  What
• 11:20
  words
• 11:21
  mean.
• 11:22
  Three
• 11:22
  is
• 11:22
  not
• 11:22
  a
• 11:23
  sub
• 11:23
  for
• 11:23
  stop.
• 11:24
  For
• 11:24
  stop.
• 11:25
  Get
• 11:25
  out
• 11:25
  of
• 11:25
  the
• 11:26
  way.
• 11:26
  You
• 11:26
  know,
• 11:26
  it's
• 11:27
  like
• 11:27
  that.
• 11:27
  That
• 11:27
  they
• 11:27
  are
• 11:28
  waiting
• 11:28
  for.
• 11:28
  Counting
• 11:29
  for
• 11:29
  everything.
• 11:30
  Yeah.
• 11:30
  And
• 11:31
  so,
• 11:31
  you
• 11:31
  know,
• 11:31
  in
• 11:31
  that
• 11:31
  case,
• 11:32
  that
• 11:32
  parent
• 11:32
  said
• 11:32
  it
• 11:33
  wasn't
• 11:33
  working
• 11:33
  for
• 11:33
  them
• 11:34
  in
• 11:34
  that
• 11:34
  way.
• 11:36
  Kids
• 11:36
  are
• 11:36
  simple
• 11:37
  creatures.
• 11:38
  Yes.
• 11:38
  And
• 11:39
  they
• 11:39
  need.
• 11:39
  I
• 11:40
  do
• 11:40
  think
• 11:40
  they
• 11:40
  need
• 11:40
  to
• 11:41
  understand
• 11:42
  what
• 11:43
  the
• 11:43
  behavior
• 11:44
  they're
• 11:45
  doing
• 11:45
  is
• 11:45
  that
• 11:46
  you
• 11:46
  want
• 11:47
  them
• 11:47
  to
• 11:47
  stop
• 11:47
  and
• 11:47
  why.
• 11:48
  Although
• 11:49
  I
• 11:50
  do
• 11:50
  agree
• 11:51
  that
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  don't
• 11:52
  over
• 11:53
  explain.
• 11:53
  You
• 11:54
  don't
• 11:54
  have
• 11:54
  to
• 11:54
  over
• 11:55
  explain,
• 11:55
  but
• 11:55
  you
• 11:55
  have
• 11:55
  to
• 11:56
  give
• 11:56
  them
• 11:56
  something.
• 11:56
  Give
• 11:57
  them
• 11:57
  a
• 11:57
  sentence.
• 11:58
  You
• 11:58
  know
• 11:58
  what
• 11:58
  I
• 11:59
  mean?
• 11:59
  Like,
• 11:59
  how
• 12:00
  are
• 12:00
  they
• 12:00
  going
• 12:00
  to
• 12:00
  know
• 12:00
  not
• 12:00
  to
• 12:01
  do
• 12:01
  it
• 12:01
  again?
• 12:01
  Kids
• 12:02
  aren't
• 12:02
  immediately
• 12:03
  reflective,
• 12:04
  like,
• 12:04
  oh,
• 12:04
  I'm
• 12:05
  in
• 12:05
  trouble
• 12:05
  because
• 12:05
  I
• 12:06
  just
• 12:06
  did
• 12:06
  this.
• 12:07
  Like,
• 12:07
  you
• 12:08
  have
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  be
• 12:09
  very
• 12:09
  clear
• 12:10
  with
• 12:10
  them.
• 12:10
  Right.
• 12:11
  They're
• 12:11
  not
• 12:11
  in
• 12:12
  this
• 12:12
  way.
• 12:12
  They're
• 12:13
  not
• 12:13
  like
• 12:13
  dogs.
• 12:14
  Dogs
• 12:14
  don't
• 12:15
  speak
• 12:15
  English.
• 12:16
  Dogs
• 12:16
  don't
• 12:16
  have
• 12:16
  language,
• 12:17
  other
• 12:17
  than
• 12:17
  my
• 12:17
  dog
• 12:18
  Harvey,
• 12:18
  who
• 12:19
  does
• 12:19
  speak
• 12:19
  English.
• 12:19
  But
• 12:20
  most
• 12:20
  dogs.
• 12:20
  But
• 12:21
  most
• 12:21
  dogs
• 12:21
  don't.
• 12:22
  Right.
• 12:22
  And
• 12:23
  sad
• 12:23
  for
• 12:23
  them,
• 12:24
  but
• 12:25
  kids
• 12:26
  do.
• 12:26
  Kids
• 12:27
  are
• 12:27
  learning
• 12:27
  language.
• 12:28
  They're
• 12:28
  learning
• 12:29
  nuance,
• 12:30
  too,
• 12:30
  about
• 12:31
  communication.
• 12:32
  And
• 12:33
  sometimes
• 12:33
  it's
• 12:34
  tone.
• 12:35
  Tone
• 12:35
  is
• 12:35
  very
• 12:35
  important.
• 12:36
  Tone
• 12:37
  is
• 12:37
  indicative
• 12:37
  of
• 12:38
  meaning
• 12:38
  a
• 12:38
  lot
• 12:38
  of
• 12:38
  the
• 12:39
  time.
• 12:39
  And
• 12:39
  you're
• 12:39
  not
• 12:40
  giving
• 12:40
  them
• 12:40
  any
• 12:40
  tone.
• 12:41
  You're
• 12:41
  not
• 12:41
  giving
• 12:42
  them
• 12:42
  any
• 12:42
  information.
• 12:43
  Right.
• 12:44
  You're
• 12:44
  just
• 12:44
  sort
• 12:44
  of
• 12:44
  mysteriously
• 12:46
  punishing
• 12:47
  them.
• 12:48
  Like,
• 12:48
  whatever
• 12:49
  I'm
• 12:49
  doing
• 12:49
  is
• 12:49
  wrong,
• 12:50
  I
• 12:50
  better
• 12:50
  stop.
• 12:51
  Yeah.
• 12:51
  And
• 12:51
  I
• 12:52
  honestly
• 12:52
  think
• 12:52
  that
• 12:53
  breeds
• 12:53
  insecurity.
• 12:54
  Right.
• 12:55
  Because
• 12:55
  they
• 12:56
  live
• 12:56
  in
• 12:56
  this
• 12:57
  world
• 12:57
  at
• 12:57
  that
• 12:57
  point
• 12:58
  where
• 12:58
  it's
• 12:58
  like,
• 12:58
  I
• 12:59
  don't
• 12:59
  know
• 12:59
  what's
• 12:59
  going
• 12:59
  to
• 13:00
  set
• 13:00
  my
• 13:00
  mom
• 13:00
  off,
• 13:01
  and
• 13:01
  I
• 13:01
  don't
• 13:01
  know
• 13:02
  what
• 13:02
  I
• 13:02
  did
• 13:02
  to
• 13:02
  get
• 13:02
  counted
• 13:03
  last
• 13:03
  time
• 13:04
  specifically.
• 13:05
  So
• 13:06
  now
• 13:06
  I'm
• 13:06
  just
• 13:07
  sort
• 13:07
  of
• 13:07
  walking
• 13:07
  on
• 13:07
  eggshells.
• 13:08
  And
• 13:09
  that's
• 13:09
  not
• 13:09
  a
• 13:09
  way
• 13:09
  you
• 13:09
  want
• 13:10
  to
• 13:10
  train
• 13:10
  a
• 13:10
  person
• 13:11
  to
• 13:11
  be.
• 13:12
  I
• 13:12
  mean,
• 13:12
  I
• 13:12
  was
• 13:12
  kind
• 13:13
  of
• 13:13
  thinking
• 13:13
  that
• 13:13
  maybe
• 13:14
  if
• 13:14
  you
• 13:14
  did
• 13:15
  this
• 13:15
  with
• 13:15
  really
• 13:16
  young
• 13:16
  children
• 13:18
  and
• 13:18
  added
• 13:19
  a
• 13:19
  little
• 13:19
  explanation,
• 13:20
  it
• 13:21
  might
• 13:21
  work
• 13:22
  in
• 13:22
  terms
• 13:23
  of
• 13:23
  heading
• 13:24
  off
• 13:24
  some
• 13:24
  bad
• 13:24
  behavior,
• 13:25
  some
• 13:25
  behavior
• 13:26
  you
• 13:26
  don't
• 13:26
  want.
• 13:28
  It
• 13:28
  would
• 13:28
  be
• 13:28
  really
• 13:28
  hard
• 13:29
  to
• 13:29
  institute
• 13:29
  for
• 13:30
  older
• 13:30
  kids.
• 13:31
  You
• 13:31
  try
• 13:31
  to
• 13:31
  do
• 13:31
  that
• 13:31
  with
• 13:31
  a
• 13:32
  teenager.
• 13:33
  Yeah.
• 13:34
  You're
• 13:34
  just
• 13:34
  gonna
• 13:35
  get
• 13:35
  roasted.
• 13:36
  Yeah.
• 13:36
  Oh,
• 13:37
  one,
• 13:38
  one,
• 13:39
  two.
• 13:40
  Right.
• 13:41
  That
• 13:41
  could
• 13:41
  be.
• 13:41
  That
• 13:42
  could
• 13:42
  be
• 13:42
  ugly.
• 13:44
  Well,
• 13:44
  and
• 13:45
  then
• 13:45
  the
• 13:45
  rest.
• 13:45
  So
• 13:46
  they
• 13:46
  explain
• 13:46
  the
• 13:47
  system
• 13:47
  first
• 13:47
  of
• 13:47
  all,
• 13:48
  and
• 13:48
  then
• 13:49
  the
• 13:49
  entire
• 13:50
  rest
• 13:50
  of
• 13:50
  the
• 13:50
  chapter.
• 13:51
  And
• 13:51
  this
• 13:51
  is
• 13:51
  why
• 13:51
  the
• 13:52
  book
• 13:52
  felt
• 13:52
  a
• 13:52
  little
• 13:53
  redundant,
• 13:53
  I
• 13:54
  think
• 13:54
  what
• 13:55
  you
• 13:55
  were
• 13:55
  talking
• 13:55
  about,
• 13:56
  which
• 13:56
  is,
• 13:56
  it's
• 13:57
  all
• 13:57
  this
• 13:57
  what
• 13:57
  if
• 13:58
  advice,
• 13:58
  you
• 13:59
  know,
• 13:59
  well,
• 13:59
  how
• 13:59
  do
• 14:00
  you
• 14:00
  use
• 14:00
  the
• 14:00
  system?
• 14:01
  What
• 14:01
  if
• 14:01
  my
• 14:02
  child
• 14:02
  gets
• 14:02
  out
• 14:02
  of
• 14:03
  the
• 14:03
  break?
• 14:03
  Then
• 14:03
  what
• 14:04
  do
• 14:04
  I
• 14:04
  do?
• 14:04
  Or
• 14:05
  what
• 14:05
  if
• 14:05
  he
• 14:05
  leaves
• 14:06
  in
• 14:06
  the
• 14:06
  middle
• 14:07
  of
• 14:07
  the
• 14:07
  break?
• 14:07
  What
• 14:07
  if
• 14:07
  he's
• 14:08
  having
• 14:08
  a
• 14:08
  tantrum?
• 14:08
  Can
• 14:09
  I
• 14:09
  use
• 14:09
  it
• 14:09
  for
• 14:09
  a
• 14:09
  tantrum?
• 14:10
  What
• 14:10
  if
• 14:10
  he
• 14:11
  misbehaves
• 14:11
  in
• 14:11
  public?
• 14:12
  What
• 14:12
  do
• 14:12
  I
• 14:12
  do?
• 14:12
  Where
• 14:13
  do
• 14:13
  I
• 14:13
  put
• 14:13
  him
• 14:14
  in
• 14:14
  public?
• 14:14
  What
• 14:15
  if
• 14:15
  he
• 14:15
  wrecks
• 14:15
  his
• 14:16
  room?
• 14:16
  When
• 14:16
  he's
• 14:16
  in
• 14:17
  his
• 14:17
  room,
• 14:17
  one
• 14:17
  kid.
• 14:18
  Peed
• 14:18
  on
• 14:18
  the
• 14:18
  floor
• 14:19
  and
• 14:19
  they're
• 14:19
  like,
• 14:19
  okay,
• 14:20
  what
• 14:20
  you
• 14:20
  do
• 14:20
  is
• 14:20
  you
• 14:20
  put
• 14:20
  him
• 14:21
  in
• 14:21
  the
• 14:21
  bathroom
• 14:21
  because
• 14:21
  it's
• 14:22
  easier
• 14:22
  to
• 14:22
  clean
• 14:22
  tile
• 14:22
  than
• 14:23
  it
• 14:23
  is
• 14:23
  to
• 14:23
  clean
• 14:23
  carpet.
• 14:24
  And
• 14:24
  good
• 14:25
  practical
• 14:25
  advice.
• 14:26
  Very
• 14:26
  practical.
• 14:26
  He's
• 14:27
  like,
• 14:27
  sometimes
• 14:27
  your
• 14:27
  kids
• 14:28
  will
• 14:28
  pee
• 14:28
  on
• 14:28
  the
• 14:28
  floor
• 14:29
  for
• 14:29
  vengeance.
• 14:30
  That's
• 14:30
  right.
• 14:30
  That's
• 14:31
  right.
• 14:31
  They
• 14:31
  really
• 14:32
  don't
• 14:32
  like
• 14:32
  this
• 14:33
  punishment
• 14:33
  system,
• 14:33
  but.
• 14:34
  Well,
• 14:34
  kids
• 14:35
  don't
• 14:35
  like
• 14:35
  to
• 14:35
  be
• 14:35
  punished.
• 14:36
  No,
• 14:36
  I
• 14:36
  don't
• 14:36
  blame
• 14:36
  them.
• 14:37
  Anyway,
• 14:37
  so
• 14:37
  it
• 14:37
  goes
• 14:38
  into
• 14:38
  every
• 14:39
  single,
• 14:40
  you
• 14:40
  know,
• 14:41
  permutation
• 14:43
  of
• 14:43
  how
• 14:43
  you
• 14:44
  use
• 14:44
  the
• 14:44
  system,
• 14:45
  how
• 14:45
  you
• 14:45
  adjust
• 14:46
  it
• 14:46
  slightly
• 14:48
  and
• 14:48
  that
• 14:49
  even.
• 14:49
  Even
• 14:50
  when
• 14:50
  you're
• 14:50
  in
• 14:50
  public,
• 14:51
  if
• 14:51
  your
• 14:51
  child
• 14:51
  misbehaves,
• 14:52
  you
• 14:52
  have
• 14:52
  to
• 14:53
  do
• 14:53
  it
• 14:53
  there.
• 14:54
  And
• 14:54
  you
• 14:54
  have
• 14:54
  to
• 14:55
  find
• 14:55
  a
• 14:55
  place.
• 14:55
  Place
• 14:56
  symbolically,
• 14:57
  where
• 14:57
  you
• 14:57
  can
• 14:57
  put
• 14:57
  them.
• 14:58
  Like
• 14:58
  if
• 14:58
  they're
• 14:58
  at
• 14:59
  a
• 14:59
  friend's
• 14:59
  house,
• 14:59
  you
• 15:00
  put
• 15:00
  them
• 15:00
  in
• 15:00
  their
• 15:00
  corner
• 15:01
  or.
• 15:01
  At
• 15:01
  a
• 15:01
  store,
• 15:02
  put
• 15:02
  them
• 15:02
  in
• 15:02
  a.
• 15:02
  Cupboard,
• 15:03
  put
• 15:03
  them
• 15:04
  somewhere
• 15:04
  to.
• 15:05
  To
• 15:05
  serve
• 15:05
  their
• 15:06
  time
• 15:06
  out.
• 15:06
  Yeah.
• 15:07
  If
• 15:07
  you're
• 15:07
  at
• 15:07
  a
• 15:07
  store,
• 15:07
  you
• 15:08
  can
• 15:08
  put
• 15:08
  them
• 15:08
  in
• 15:08
  the
• 15:08
  store
• 15:09
  bathroom
• 15:10
  somewhere.
• 15:11
  Another
• 15:12
  piece
• 15:12
  of
• 15:12
  advice,
• 15:12
  he's
• 15:12
  like,
• 15:13
  some.
• 15:13
  Some
• 15:13
  kids,
• 15:13
  you
• 15:14
  can
• 15:14
  just
• 15:14
  park
• 15:14
  at
• 15:15
  the
• 15:15
  checkout
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  it's
• 15:16
  like.
• 15:16
  And
• 15:16
  leave
• 15:16
  them
• 15:17
  there.
• 15:17
  If
• 15:17
  it's
• 15:17
  safe.
• 15:18
  It's
• 15:18
  like,
• 15:18
  why
• 15:18
  would
• 15:19
  it
• 15:19
  be.
• 15:19
  Where
• 15:19
  do
• 15:19
  you
• 15:19
  live
• 15:20
  that
• 15:20
  it's
• 15:20
  safe
• 15:21
  to
• 15:21
  just
• 15:21
  park
• 15:21
  your
• 15:22
  kid
• 15:22
  at
• 15:22
  a
• 15:23
  grocery
• 15:23
  store
• 15:23
  checkout?
• 15:24
  Right,
• 15:24
  right.
• 15:25
  But
• 15:25
  that
• 15:26
  they're
• 15:26
  not
• 15:26
  just
• 15:26
  going
• 15:26
  to,
• 15:26
  like,
• 15:27
  leave.
• 15:28
  Yeah.
• 15:28
  Don't
• 15:29
  you.
• 15:29
  Isn't
• 15:29
  part
• 15:29
  of
• 15:30
  parenting.
• 15:31
  I
• 15:31
  think
• 15:31
  that
• 15:31
  would.
• 15:31
  I
• 15:32
  think
• 15:32
  that
• 15:32
  would
• 15:32
  get
• 15:32
  you
• 15:33
  arrested,
• 15:33
  but.
• 15:34
  So
• 15:34
  I
• 15:34
  wouldn't
• 15:35
  follow
• 15:35
  that
• 15:35
  piece
• 15:36
  of
• 15:36
  advice.
• 15:36
  Although
• 15:36
  you
• 15:37
  could
• 15:37
  blame
• 15:37
  it
• 15:37
  on
• 15:38
  the
• 15:38
  book.
• 15:38
  And
• 15:38
  I
• 15:38
  read
• 15:39
  this
• 15:39
  book,
• 15:39
  Officer.
• 15:40
  That's
• 15:40
  your
• 15:40
  defense.
• 15:41
  One,
• 15:41
  two,
• 15:41
  three.
• 15:42
  Magic.
• 15:42
  Have
• 15:42
  you
• 15:42
  heard
• 15:42
  of
• 15:42
  it?
• 15:43
  Yeah,
• 15:43
  it
• 15:43
  tells
• 15:43
  me
• 15:44
  I
• 15:44
  can
• 15:44
  leave
• 15:44
  it
• 15:44
  at
• 15:44
  checkout.
• 15:45
  He
• 15:45
  said
• 15:45
  I
• 15:46
  could.
• 15:46
  He
• 15:46
  has
• 15:46
  a
• 15:46
  PhD.
• 15:48
  Anyway,
• 15:49
  okay.
• 15:50
  So
• 15:50
  he
• 15:50
  says
• 15:50
  before
• 15:51
  you
• 15:51
  institute
• 15:51
  the
• 15:52
  system,
• 15:52
  you
• 15:52
  need
• 15:52
  to
• 15:53
  have
• 15:53
  a
• 15:53
  family
• 15:53
  meeting,
• 15:54
  bring
• 15:54
  everybody
• 15:55
  together,
• 15:55
  explain
• 15:56
  what
• 15:56
  the
• 15:57
  system
• 15:57
  is
• 15:58
  and
• 15:58
  he
• 15:58
  actually
• 15:58
  gives
• 15:59
  you
• 15:59
  a
• 15:59
  script
• 15:59
  to
• 16:00
  explain
• 16:00
  what
• 16:00
  kids
• 16:00
  love.
• 16:01
  Meetings.
• 16:03
  This
• 16:03
  is
• 16:04
  ridiculous.
• 16:05
  He
• 16:05
  believes
• 16:06
  in
• 16:06
  family
• 16:06
  meetings,
• 16:07
  which.
• 16:07
  Listen,
• 16:07
  God
• 16:08
  bless.
• 16:08
  But,
• 16:08
  like,
• 16:09
  I
• 16:09
  don't
• 16:09
  know.
• 16:09
  I
• 16:09
  feel
• 16:10
  like
• 16:10
  your
• 16:10
  kids
• 16:10
  can't
• 16:10
  really
• 16:11
  understand
• 16:11
  a
• 16:11
  family
• 16:12
  meeting
• 16:12
  until
• 16:12
  they're
• 16:13
  like,
• 16:13
  10,
• 16:13
  11.
• 16:14
  And
• 16:14
  also,
• 16:14
  I
• 16:15
  feel
• 16:15
  like
• 16:15
  it
• 16:15
  would.
• 16:15
  Be
• 16:15
  such
• 16:15
  an
• 16:16
  ominous
• 16:16
  occasion.
• 16:17
  Like,
• 16:17
  we
• 16:17
  have
• 16:17
  to
• 16:17
  have
• 16:18
  a
• 16:18
  formal.
• 16:19
  Family
• 16:19
  meeting
• 16:19
  about
• 16:20
  the
• 16:20
  new
• 16:20
  discipline
• 16:21
  program
• 16:21
  we're
• 16:21
  instituting
• 16:22
  at
• 16:22
  home.
• 16:24
  That's
• 16:24
  hard.
• 16:24
  Yeah.
• 16:25
  Is
• 16:25
  Congress
• 16:26
  coming?
• 16:26
  Like,
• 16:27
  what
• 16:27
  are
• 16:27
  we
• 16:27
  doing
• 16:28
  here?
• 16:29
  Well,
• 16:29
  and
• 16:29
  he
• 16:29
  says
• 16:30
  that
• 16:30
  since
• 16:30
  counting
• 16:31
  is
• 16:31
  negative
• 16:31
  feedback,
• 16:32
  you
• 16:32
  need
• 16:33
  to
• 16:33
  be
• 16:33
  sure
• 16:33
  that
• 16:33
  you
• 16:34
  balance
• 16:34
  the
• 16:35
  counting
• 16:35
  that
• 16:35
  you
• 16:35
  do
• 16:36
  every
• 16:36
  day
• 16:36
  with
• 16:36
  affection,
• 16:37
  praise,
• 16:38
  having
• 16:38
  fun,
• 16:39
  and
• 16:39
  listening
• 16:40
  when
• 16:40
  your
• 16:41
  child
• 16:41
  is
• 16:41
  being
• 16:42
  good
• 16:42
  during
• 16:43
  the
• 16:43
  day.
• 16:43
  So
• 16:44
  you
• 16:44
  don't
• 16:44
  want
• 16:44
  your
• 16:45
  house
• 16:45
  to
• 16:45
  be
• 16:45
  all
• 16:46
  disciplined.
• 16:46
  You
• 16:47
  want
• 16:47
  it
• 16:47
  to
• 16:47
  be.
• 16:49
  You
• 16:49
  want
• 16:49
  to
• 16:49
  balance
• 16:49
  it
• 16:49
  out
• 16:50
  with
• 16:50
  positivity
• 16:51
  as
• 16:51
  well.
• 16:52
  So
• 16:52
  he
• 16:52
  says
• 16:53
  for
• 16:53
  every
• 16:53
  negative
• 16:54
  piece
• 16:55
  of
• 16:55
  feedback
• 16:55
  you
• 16:55
  give
• 16:55
  your
• 16:56
  child,
• 16:56
  you
• 16:56
  should
• 16:56
  give
• 16:56
  them
• 16:57
  three
• 16:57
  pieces
• 16:58
  of
• 16:58
  positive
• 16:59
  feedback
• 17:00
  or
• 17:00
  at
• 17:00
  least
• 17:01
  five
• 17:01
  pieces
• 17:02
  of.
• 18:30
  He
• 18:30
  says
• 18:30
  for
• 18:31
  every
• 18:32
  negative
• 18:32
  piece
• 18:33
  of
• 18:33
  feedback
• 18:33
  you
• 18:33
  give
• 18:34
  your
• 18:34
  child,
• 18:34
  you
• 18:34
  should
• 18:34
  give
• 18:35
  them
• 18:35
  three
• 18:36
  pieces
• 18:36
  of
• 18:36
  positive
• 18:37
  feedback
• 18:38
  or
• 18:38
  at
• 18:38
  least
• 18:39
  five
• 18:39
  pieces
• 18:40
  of
• 18:40
  positive
• 18:41
  feedback
• 18:41
  in
• 18:41
  a
• 18:42
  day.
• 18:42
  This
• 18:42
  is
• 18:42
  a
• 18:42
  lot
• 18:43
  to
• 18:43
  keep
• 18:43
  track.
• 18:43
  I
• 18:44
  know.
• 18:44
  That's
• 18:45
  when
• 18:45
  I
• 18:45
  wrote.
• 18:45
  This
• 18:45
  is
• 18:45
  getting
• 18:46
  very
• 18:46
  complicated.
• 18:47
  Yeah,
• 18:47
  it's
• 18:48
  like,
• 18:48
  oh,
• 18:48
  okay,
• 18:48
  so
• 18:48
  like,
• 18:49
  two
• 18:49
  compliment
• 18:50
  sandwiches
• 18:51
  equals
• 18:51
  enough
• 18:52
  praise
• 18:52
  for
• 18:53
  half
• 18:53
  a
• 18:53
  day,
• 18:54
  Right?
• 18:54
  But
• 18:54
  if
• 18:54
  you
• 18:54
  forget
• 18:55
  one
• 18:55
  compliment
• 18:56
  sandwich,
• 18:57
  your
• 18:57
  kid
• 18:58
  is
• 18:58
  going
• 18:59
  to
• 18:59
  go
• 18:59
  to
• 18:59
  jail.
• 19:00
  I
• 19:00
  don't
• 19:00
  know.
• 19:01
  I
• 19:01
  don't
• 19:01
  understand.
• 19:02
  Well,
• 19:02
  it's
• 19:02
  like,
• 19:03
  I
• 19:03
  have
• 19:03
  to
• 19:03
  say
• 19:04
  this,
• 19:04
  you
• 19:05
  know,
• 19:05
  I
• 19:05
  didn't
• 19:06
  really
• 19:06
  know
• 19:06
  this
• 19:06
  system
• 19:07
  myself,
• 19:07
  but
• 19:08
  people
• 19:08
  were
• 19:09
  using
• 19:09
  it
• 19:09
  when
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  were
• 19:10
  growing
• 19:10
  up.
• 19:11
  And
• 19:11
  I
• 19:11
  remember
• 19:12
  seeing
• 19:13
  somebody
• 19:14
  use
• 19:14
  this.
• 19:15
  We
• 19:15
  were
• 19:15
  out
• 19:15
  in
• 19:15
  public.
• 19:16
  One
• 19:17
  of
• 19:17
  my
• 19:17
  friends
• 19:18
  and
• 19:18
  someone
• 19:19
  I
• 19:19
  knew,
• 19:20
  someone
• 19:21
  we
• 19:21
  went
• 19:21
  to
• 19:21
  law
• 19:21
  school
• 19:22
  with,
• 19:22
  and
• 19:23
  she
• 19:23
  was
• 19:23
  a
• 19:23
  tough
• 19:24
  cookie,
• 19:24
  and
• 19:25
  she
• 19:26
  was
• 19:26
  doing
• 19:26
  the
• 19:27
  counting,
• 19:27
  and
• 19:28
  she
• 19:28
  made
• 19:29
  her
• 19:29
  kid,
• 19:29
  like,
• 19:29
  stand
• 19:30
  in
• 19:30
  a
• 19:30
  corner
• 19:31
  during
• 19:31
  his
• 19:32
  time
• 19:32
  out.
• 19:32
  And
• 19:32
  I
• 19:32
  thought,
• 19:33
  this
• 19:33
  is
• 19:33
  so
• 19:34
  humiliating
• 19:35
  for
• 19:35
  this
• 19:35
  child.
• 19:36
  Cruel
• 19:36
  and
• 19:36
  unusual
• 19:37
  punishment.
• 19:38
  I
• 19:38
  couldn't.
• 19:38
  I
• 19:39
  just
• 19:39
  was
• 19:39
  like.
• 19:40
  And
• 19:40
  his
• 19:40
  explanation
• 19:41
  for
• 19:41
  that,
• 19:42
  he's
• 19:42
  like,
• 19:42
  sometimes
• 19:43
  you
• 19:43
  just
• 19:43
  gotta
• 19:43
  do
• 19:43
  what
• 19:44
  you
• 19:44
  gotta
• 19:44
  do.
• 19:44
  And
• 19:45
  it's
• 19:45
  like,
• 19:46
  this
• 19:46
  is
• 19:46
  scarring
• 19:47
  this
• 19:47
  child
• 19:47
  for
• 19:48
  life.
• 19:48
  That
• 19:48
  is
• 19:48
  so
• 19:49
  humiliating.
• 19:50
  Especially.
• 19:50
  It's
• 19:50
  like.
• 19:51
  I
• 19:51
  don't
• 19:52
  know.
• 19:52
  I
• 19:52
  don't.
• 19:53
  I'm
• 19:53
  not
• 19:53
  buying
• 19:54
  into
• 19:54
  this.
• 19:54
  I'm
• 19:54
  not
• 19:54
  putting
• 19:55
  my
• 19:55
  child
• 19:55
  through
• 19:56
  this.
• 19:56
  It
• 19:56
  seems
• 19:56
  very
• 19:56
  damaging.
• 19:57
  Maybe
• 19:57
  you.
• 19:58
  You
• 19:58
  do
• 19:58
  it
• 19:58
  in
• 19:58
  a
• 19:59
  kinder
• 19:59
  way.
• 20:00
  I
• 20:00
  don't
• 20:00
  know,
• 20:01
  face
• 20:01
  the
• 20:01
  corner.
• 20:02
  Well,
• 20:02
  that
• 20:02
  I
• 20:03
  never
• 20:03
  do.
• 20:03
  I.
• 20:03
  I
• 20:04
  just.
• 20:04
  That's
• 20:04
  also.
• 20:05
  When
• 20:05
  people
• 20:05
  say
• 20:05
  tough
• 20:06
  cookie,
• 20:06
  is
• 20:06
  that
• 20:07
  like
• 20:07
  a
• 20:07
  stale
• 20:08
  cookie?
• 20:09
  How
• 20:09
  did
• 20:09
  that
• 20:09
  expression
• 20:10
  come
• 20:10
  to
• 20:10
  me?
• 20:10
  I
• 20:11
  have
• 20:11
  no
• 20:11
  idea.
• 20:11
  I
• 20:12
  don't
• 20:12
  know.
• 20:13
  Is
• 20:13
  that
• 20:13
  a
• 20:13
  cookie
• 20:13
  you
• 20:13
  like?
• 20:14
  Shouldn't
• 20:14
  I.
• 20:14
  Don't
• 20:15
  we
• 20:15
  have
• 20:15
  to
• 20:15
  look
• 20:15
  up
• 20:15
  the
• 20:15
  beginning
• 20:16
  of,
• 20:16
  of
• 20:16
  that
• 20:16
  expression?
• 20:17
  Yeah,
• 20:17
  I
• 20:18
  have
• 20:18
  no
• 20:18
  idea.
• 20:19
  Well,
• 20:19
  anyway,
• 20:20
  so
• 20:20
  then
• 20:21
  he
• 20:21
  gets
• 20:21
  into
• 20:22
  telling,
• 20:22
  explaining
• 20:23
  to
• 20:23
  you
• 20:23
  the
• 20:24
  tactics
• 20:24
  that
• 20:25
  kids
• 20:25
  will
• 20:25
  use
• 20:27
  when
• 20:27
  you're
• 20:27
  in
• 20:27
  the
• 20:27
  middle
• 20:28
  of
• 20:28
  trying
• 20:29
  to,
• 20:29
  you
• 20:29
  know,
• 20:30
  do,
• 20:30
  do
• 20:30
  the.
• 20:31
  This.
• 20:31
  1,
• 20:31
  2,
• 20:32
  3.
• 20:32
  He
• 20:32
  seems
• 20:32
  to
• 20:33
  believe
• 20:33
  that
• 20:33
  kids
• 20:34
  sole
• 20:34
  purpose
• 20:35
  in
• 20:35
  life
• 20:35
  is
• 20:35
  to
• 20:35
  find
• 20:36
  new.
• 20:36
  Ways
• 20:37
  of
• 20:37
  manipulation
• 20:38
  and
• 20:39
  manipulation
• 20:39
  and
• 20:40
  torture
• 20:40
  to
• 20:40
  the
• 20:40
  parent.
• 20:42
  And.
• 20:42
  Yeah,
• 20:43
  I
• 20:43
  mean,
• 20:43
  well,
• 20:43
  I,
• 20:43
  I
• 20:44
  suppose
• 20:44
  some
• 20:44
  parents
• 20:45
  might
• 20:45
  get
• 20:45
  to
• 20:45
  that
• 20:45
  point.
• 20:45
  That's
• 20:46
  their
• 20:46
  reason
• 20:46
  for
• 20:46
  being.
• 20:47
  Well,
• 20:47
  it
• 20:47
  happens.
• 20:48
  What
• 20:48
  fresh
• 20:49
  hell
• 20:49
  awaits
• 20:49
  today,
• 20:50
  right?
• 20:50
  Some
• 20:51
  if,
• 20:51
  if
• 20:51
  you
• 20:52
  don't
• 20:52
  instill
• 20:53
  some
• 20:53
  discipline
• 20:54
  or
• 20:54
  some
• 20:54
  kind
• 20:55
  of
• 20:55
  way
• 20:56
  of.
• 20:56
  I
• 20:56
  don't
• 20:57
  know
• 20:57
  what
• 20:57
  way
• 20:57
  you're
• 20:58
  gonna
• 20:58
  use.
• 20:58
  Maybe
• 20:59
  it's
• 20:59
  not
• 20:59
  this
• 20:59
  system.
• 21:00
  It's
• 21:00
  not
• 21:01
  this
• 21:01
  system,
• 21:01
  but
• 21:02
  you
• 21:02
  do.
• 21:02
  Need
• 21:02
  your
• 21:03
  kids
• 21:03
  to
• 21:03
  listen
• 21:03
  and
• 21:04
  you
• 21:04
  do
• 21:04
  need
• 21:04
  your
• 21:04
  kids
• 21:05
  to
• 21:05
  behave.
• 21:06
  But
• 21:06
  anyway,
• 21:07
  he
• 21:07
  says
• 21:07
  that
• 21:07
  what
• 21:08
  they're
• 21:08
  gonna
• 21:08
  do
• 21:09
  when
• 21:10
  they're
• 21:11
  trying
• 21:11
  to
• 21:11
  get
• 21:11
  their
• 21:11
  way
• 21:12
  or
• 21:12
  when
• 21:13
  they're
• 21:13
  trying
• 21:13
  to
• 21:14
  get
• 21:14
  revenge
• 21:14
  on
• 21:15
  you.
• 21:16
  And
• 21:16
  sometimes
• 21:17
  they'll
• 21:17
  use
• 21:17
  more
• 21:17
  than
• 21:18
  one
• 21:18
  of
• 21:18
  these
• 21:18
  techniques
• 21:19
  at
• 21:19
  once,
• 21:19
  but
• 21:20
  one
• 21:20
  is
• 21:20
  badgering.
• 21:21
  They'll
• 21:22
  be
• 21:22
  like,
• 21:22
  why?
• 21:23
  Why?
• 21:23
  Why?
• 21:24
  And
• 21:24
  you
• 21:24
  just
• 21:24
  count
• 21:25
  again.
• 21:27
  Two
• 21:27
  will
• 21:27
  be
• 21:27
  temper.
• 21:28
  They'll
• 21:28
  say,
• 21:28
  I
• 21:28
  hate
• 21:29
  you.
• 21:30
  Three,
• 21:30
  they'll
• 21:31
  be
• 21:31
  threatening
• 21:31
  you.
• 21:32
  They'll
• 21:32
  say,
• 21:32
  what,
• 21:33
  I'm
• 21:33
  gonna
• 21:34
  run
• 21:34
  away
• 21:35
  or
• 21:35
  I'm
• 21:35
  gonna.
• 21:36
  Where
• 21:36
  are
• 21:36
  you
• 21:36
  gonna
• 21:36
  go?
• 21:37
  Well,
• 21:37
  or
• 21:37
  I'm
• 21:37
  gonna
• 21:37
  kill
• 21:38
  myself.
• 21:38
  Oh,
• 21:38
  that's
• 21:39
  terrifying,
• 21:39
  right?
• 21:40
  Oh,
• 21:40
  I
• 21:40
  hope
• 21:40
  my
• 21:40
  kid
• 21:41
  never
• 21:41
  learns
• 21:41
  that
• 21:41
  sentence.
• 21:42
  Well,
• 21:42
  and,
• 21:43
  but
• 21:43
  he
• 21:43
  says
• 21:44
  if
• 21:44
  they
• 21:44
  say
• 21:44
  that,
• 21:44
  you
• 21:45
  should
• 21:45
  check
• 21:45
  it
• 21:45
  out.
• 21:45
  Don't,
• 21:46
  don't
• 21:46
  just
• 21:47
  leave
• 21:47
  them
• 21:48
  in
• 21:48
  their
• 21:48
  room.
• 21:49
  That's
• 21:49
  exactly
• 21:50
  martyrdom.
• 21:51
  I
• 21:51
  never
• 21:51
  get
• 21:52
  to
• 21:52
  do
• 21:52
  anything.
• 21:52
  Anything.
• 21:53
  Or
• 21:53
  you
• 21:54
  always
• 21:54
  give
• 21:55
  my
• 21:55
  brother
• 21:55
  everything
• 21:56
  so
• 21:56
  that
• 21:57
  it'll
• 21:57
  be
• 21:57
  like
• 21:57
  a
• 21:57
  martyr.
• 21:58
  They
• 21:58
  butter
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  up.
• 22:00
  They
• 22:00
  might
• 22:00
  apologize
• 22:02
  and
• 22:02
  not
• 22:02
  mean
• 22:03
  it.
• 22:04
  Or
• 22:04
  they
• 22:04
  might
• 22:05
  be.
• 22:05
  Get
• 22:05
  physical
• 22:05
  and
• 22:06
  attack
• 22:06
  you.
• 22:08
  No,
• 22:08
  that
• 22:09
  happens.
• 22:09
  You
• 22:09
  know,
• 22:10
  I'm
• 22:10
  sorry,
• 22:10
  but
• 22:11
  like
• 22:11
  I,
• 22:11
  when
• 22:11
  I,
• 22:11
  when
• 22:11
  I
• 22:12
  read
• 22:12
  this
• 22:12
  book,
• 22:12
  I
• 22:12
  think
• 22:12
  of
• 22:13
  really
• 22:13
  little
• 22:13
  kids
• 22:15
  and
• 22:15
  I'm
• 22:15
  just.
• 22:15
  There
• 22:15
  was
• 22:16
  also
• 22:16
  a
• 22:16
  whole
• 22:16
  paragraph
• 22:17
  in
• 22:18
  this
• 22:18
  book
• 22:18
  about.
• 22:18
  So
• 22:19
  listen,
• 22:19
  when
• 22:19
  your
• 22:20
  kid
• 22:20
  is
• 22:20
  up
• 22:20
  to
• 22:20
  this
• 22:20
  size,
• 22:21
  you
• 22:21
  can
• 22:22
  take
• 22:22
  them,
• 22:22
  but
• 22:23
  when
• 22:23
  they
• 22:23
  exceed
• 22:23
  this
• 22:24
  size
• 22:24
  is
• 22:25
  when
• 22:25
  you
• 22:25
  really
• 22:26
  need
• 22:26
  to
• 22:26
  like,
• 22:27
  come
• 22:27
  up
• 22:27
  with
• 22:27
  some
• 22:28
  other
• 22:28
  idea.
• 22:28
  Right?
• 22:29
  And
• 22:29
  I'm
• 22:29
  like,
• 22:29
  what's
• 22:30
  this
• 22:31
  about?
• 22:31
  Just
• 22:31
  put
• 22:32
  your
• 22:32
  hand
• 22:32
  up
• 22:32
  as
• 22:32
  they
• 22:32
  punch
• 22:33
  you.
• 22:34
  Like.
• 22:35
  Yes.
• 22:35
  And
• 22:35
  they,
• 22:36
  they
• 22:36
  do
• 22:36
  what,
• 22:36
  what
• 22:37
  he
• 22:37
  calls
• 22:37
  tactic
• 22:38
  escalation
• 22:39
  and
• 22:39
  switching,
• 22:40
  which
• 22:40
  means
• 22:41
  they
• 22:41
  escalate
• 22:41
  Their,
• 22:42
  you
• 22:42
  know,
• 22:42
  they
• 22:42
  might
• 22:42
  start
• 22:43
  by
• 22:43
  praising
• 22:43
  you,
• 22:44
  and
• 22:44
  that
• 22:44
  doesn't
• 22:45
  work.
• 22:45
  Then
• 22:45
  they're
• 22:46
  starting.
• 22:46
  Then
• 22:46
  they
• 22:46
  badger
• 22:47
  you
• 22:47
  if
• 22:47
  that
• 22:47
  doesn't
• 22:48
  work,
• 22:48
  then
• 22:48
  they
• 22:48
  threaten
• 22:49
  you,
• 22:49
  you
• 22:49
  know,
• 22:50
  but
• 22:50
  each
• 22:50
  time,
• 22:51
  you
• 22:51
  just
• 22:51
  count
• 22:52
  with
• 22:52
  each
• 22:52
  time.
• 22:54
  And
• 22:54
  then
• 22:54
  there's
• 22:54
  like.
• 22:55
  And
• 22:55
  he
• 22:56
  says,
• 22:56
  when
• 22:56
  they
• 22:56
  do
• 22:56
  this,
• 22:57
  do
• 22:57
  not
• 22:58
  show
• 22:58
  emotion.
• 22:59
  Do
• 22:59
  not
• 22:59
  explain.
• 23:00
  Just
• 23:01
  keep
• 23:01
  counting.
• 23:03
  And
• 23:03
  then
• 23:03
  he
• 23:03
  gives
• 23:03
  you
• 23:04
  real
• 23:04
  stories
• 23:05
  from
• 23:05
  real
• 23:05
  families
• 23:06
  who
• 23:07
  use
• 23:07
  the
• 23:08
  program
• 23:08
  in
• 23:09
  all
• 23:09
  kinds
• 23:09
  of
• 23:10
  scenarios
• 23:10
  with
• 23:11
  either
• 23:11
  siblings
• 23:12
  fighting,
• 23:12
  they're
• 23:13
  misbehaving
• 23:13
  in
• 23:14
  public,
• 23:14
  teasing
• 23:15
  a
• 23:15
  dog,
• 23:16
  refusing
• 23:17
  to
• 23:17
  go
• 23:17
  to
• 23:17
  bed.
• 23:18
  Interrupting
• 23:19
  to
• 23:19
  abuse
• 23:20
  animals
• 23:21
  their
• 23:22
  parents
• 23:22
  really
• 23:23
  need.
• 23:23
  Well,
• 23:23
  maybe
• 23:24
  they
• 23:24
  need
• 23:24
  this
• 23:24
  system.
• 23:25
  If
• 23:25
  you're
• 23:25
  abusing.
• 23:26
  They
• 23:26
  need
• 23:26
  a
• 23:26
  lot
• 23:26
  more
• 23:27
  than
• 23:27
  this
• 23:27
  system.
• 23:27
  Oh,
• 23:28
  my
• 23:28
  God.
• 23:29
  But
• 23:29
  anyway,
• 23:30
  so
• 23:31
  what
• 23:31
  he
• 23:31
  says
• 23:31
  is,
• 23:32
  you
• 23:32
  just
• 23:32
  have
• 23:32
  to
• 23:32
  practice
• 23:33
  it
• 23:33
  and
• 23:33
  practice
• 23:34
  it
• 23:34
  in
• 23:34
  many
• 23:34
  different
• 23:35
  situations,
• 23:36
  and
• 23:36
  you'll
• 23:36
  get
• 23:36
  better
• 23:37
  at
• 23:37
  it,
• 23:37
  and
• 23:38
  your
• 23:38
  child
• 23:38
  will
• 23:39
  get
• 23:39
  to
• 23:39
  the
• 23:40
  point
• 23:40
  where
• 23:40
  they
• 23:41
  respond
• 23:41
  much
• 23:41
  faster.
• 23:42
  Like,
• 23:42
  at
• 23:42
  first,
• 23:43
  it
• 23:43
  may
• 23:43
  take
• 23:44
  getting
• 23:44
  to
• 23:44
  three
• 23:45
  and
• 23:46
  huge
• 23:46
  time
• 23:47
  out.
• 23:47
  And
• 23:47
  a
• 23:48
  lot
• 23:48
  of.
• 23:49
  Or
• 23:49
  they
• 23:49
  know
• 23:49
  you're
• 23:49
  not
• 23:49
  serious
• 23:50
  until
• 23:50
  you
• 23:50
  hit
• 23:51
  three.
• 23:51
  Right.
• 23:52
  Or
• 23:52
  they
• 23:52
  just
• 23:52
  press
• 23:53
  their
• 23:53
  luck
• 23:53
  when
• 23:54
  you
• 23:54
  say
• 23:54
  one
• 23:54
  and
• 23:55
  two.
• 23:55
  Right.
• 23:55
  And
• 23:56
  continue
• 23:56
  on
• 23:56
  with
• 23:57
  what
• 23:57
  they're
• 23:57
  doing.
• 23:58
  And
• 23:58
  then
• 23:58
  when
• 23:58
  you're
• 23:58
  about
• 23:59
  to
• 23:59
  say
• 23:59
  three,
• 23:59
  they
• 23:59
  cooperate.
• 24:00
  Well,
• 24:00
  that's
• 24:00
  like,
• 24:01
  that
• 24:01
  happens.
• 24:01
  That's
• 24:02
  what
• 24:02
  he
• 24:02
  says.
• 24:02
  That
• 24:03
  will
• 24:03
  happen.
• 24:03
  But.
• 24:03
  But
• 24:04
  some
• 24:04
  of
• 24:04
  the
• 24:04
  parents
• 24:04
  who
• 24:05
  use
• 24:05
  the
• 24:05
  system
• 24:06
  say,
• 24:06
  you
• 24:07
  know,
• 24:07
  that.
• 24:08
  That
• 24:09
  actually,
• 24:09
  after
• 24:09
  a
• 24:09
  while,
• 24:10
  all
• 24:10
  you
• 24:10
  have
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  say
• 24:11
  is
• 24:11
  one.
• 24:11
  And
• 24:11
  they
• 24:12
  behave.
• 24:13
  It's
• 24:13
  kind
• 24:13
  of
• 24:13
  like,
• 24:13
  you
• 24:14
  know,
• 24:14
  my
• 24:14
  dog
• 24:15
  Mondo
• 24:16
  and
• 24:16
  the
• 24:16
  dog
• 24:17
  collar,
• 24:17
  which.
• 24:17
  The
• 24:18
  barking
• 24:18
  collar,
• 24:18
  which
• 24:19
  he.
• 24:19
  He
• 24:19
  barks
• 24:19
  and
• 24:20
  I,
• 24:20
  Which
• 24:20
  I,
• 24:20
  you
• 24:20
  know,
• 24:21
  we're
• 24:21
  out
• 24:21
  on
• 24:21
  the
• 24:21
  street
• 24:21
  and
• 24:21
  he's
• 24:22
  barking
• 24:22
  at
• 24:22
  everybody
• 24:23
  and
• 24:23
  dogs
• 24:23
  and
• 24:24
  children.
• 24:24
  It's
• 24:24
  terrible.
• 24:25
  So
• 24:25
  I
• 24:26
  gave
• 24:26
  him
• 24:26
  the
• 24:26
  barking
• 24:27
  collar
• 24:28
  and
• 24:28
  I
• 24:29
  hid
• 24:29
  it
• 24:30
  when.
• 24:30
  When
• 24:30
  he's
• 24:31
  barking
• 24:31
  at
• 24:32
  people
• 24:32
  and
• 24:33
  it
• 24:33
  sprays
• 24:33
  him
• 24:33
  with
• 24:34
  this
• 24:34
  citronella.
• 24:35
  Right.
• 24:35
  It.
• 24:35
  So
• 24:35
  it
• 24:36
  doesn't.
• 24:36
  It
• 24:36
  doesn't
• 24:36
  hurt
• 24:36
  him.
• 24:37
  No,
• 24:37
  it
• 24:37
  doesn't,
• 24:37
  but
• 24:37
  it's.
• 24:38
  It's
• 24:38
  scary.
• 24:38
  It
• 24:39
  kind
• 24:39
  of
• 24:39
  startles
• 24:39
  him.
• 24:40
  But
• 24:40
  anyway,
• 24:41
  now
• 24:41
  all
• 24:41
  I
• 24:42
  have
• 24:42
  to
• 24:42
  do
• 24:42
  is,
• 24:43
  when
• 24:43
  we
• 24:43
  go
• 24:43
  out,
• 24:44
  if
• 24:44
  I
• 24:44
  hold
• 24:44
  up
• 24:44
  the
• 24:44
  barking
• 24:45
  collar,
• 24:46
  he
• 24:47
  just
• 24:47
  immediately
• 24:48
  behaves.
• 24:48
  And
• 24:48
  I
• 24:49
  think
• 24:49
  that's
• 24:49
  what
• 24:49
  happens
• 24:50
  with
• 24:50
  this
• 24:50
  program
• 24:51
  is
• 24:51
  that
• 24:51
  if
• 24:52
  you
• 24:52
  say
• 24:52
  one,
• 24:53
  a
• 24:53
  lot
• 24:53
  of
• 24:54
  kids
• 24:54
  just,
• 24:54
  okay,
• 24:55
  I
• 24:55
  get
• 24:55
  it.
• 24:56
  I'm
• 24:56
  on
• 24:56
  my
• 24:56
  way.
• 24:57
  Yeah.
• 24:57
  So,
• 24:58
  you
• 24:58
  know,
• 24:58
  it
• 24:58
  works
• 24:59
  on
• 24:59
  Mondo.
• 25:00
  I
• 25:00
  mean,
• 25:01
  well,
• 25:01
  Mondo's
• 25:01
  a
• 25:02
  Pomeranian,
• 25:03
  not
• 25:04
  a
• 25:04
  child.
• 25:05
  Right.
• 25:05
  I
• 25:06
  couldn't
• 25:06
  count
• 25:06
  for
• 25:06
  him.
• 25:07
  But
• 25:07
  the
• 25:07
  barking
• 25:08
  collar,
• 25:08
  I
• 25:08
  just
• 25:08
  have.
• 25:08
  To
• 25:09
  show
• 25:09
  it
• 25:09
  to
• 25:09
  him.
• 25:09
  Yeah.
• 25:09
  But
• 25:10
  it
• 25:10
  reminds
• 25:10
  me,
• 25:10
  this
• 25:11
  system
• 25:11
  kind
• 25:11
  of
• 25:12
  Reminds
• 25:12
  me
• 25:12
  of
• 25:12
  that.
• 25:13
  You
• 25:13
  know,
• 25:13
  the
• 25:13
  threat
• 25:14
  of
• 25:14
  the
• 25:15
  collar
• 25:15
  is
• 25:15
  enough.
• 25:16
  It's.
• 25:16
  That's
• 25:16
  right.
• 25:16
  I
• 25:16
  don't
• 25:17
  know.
• 25:17
  I
• 25:17
  mean,
• 25:17
  again,
• 25:17
  I'm
• 25:18
  only
• 25:18
  a
• 25:18
  parent
• 25:18
  of
• 25:19
  a
• 25:19
  very
• 25:19
  young
• 25:19
  child
• 25:20
  who
• 25:20
  I
• 25:20
  have
• 25:20
  yet
• 25:21
  to
• 25:21
  have
• 25:21
  to
• 25:21
  threaten.
• 25:22
  That's
• 25:22
  right.
• 25:22
  And
• 25:23
  if
• 25:23
  she
• 25:23
  is
• 25:23
  anything
• 25:24
  like
• 25:24
  me,
• 25:25
  she
• 25:25
  will
• 25:25
  master
• 25:26
  these
• 25:27
  tactics
• 25:28
  because
• 25:28
  I
• 25:28
  know
• 25:29
  by
• 25:29
  the
• 25:29
  time
• 25:29
  I
• 25:29
  was
• 25:30
  like
• 25:30
  five
• 25:30
  or
• 25:30
  six,
• 25:31
  I
• 25:31
  was
• 25:31
  running
• 25:32
  through
• 25:32
  these,
• 25:33
  you
• 25:33
  know.
• 25:34
  Yeah,
• 25:34
  but
• 25:36
  she's
• 25:36
  going
• 25:36
  to
• 25:36
  be
• 25:36
  better
• 25:37
  than
• 25:37
  me.
• 25:37
  Well,
• 25:38
  I
• 25:38
  hope,
• 25:38
  you
• 25:39
  know,
• 25:39
  you'll
• 25:39
  see
• 25:39
  when
• 25:40
  she
• 25:40
  gets
• 25:40
  difficult,
• 25:41
  you
• 25:41
  may
• 25:41
  come
• 25:41
  back
• 25:41
  to
• 25:41
  this
• 25:42
  book
• 25:42
  and
• 25:42
  say,
• 25:42
  oh,
• 25:43
  okay,
• 25:43
  I'm
• 25:43
  gonna
• 25:43
  start
• 25:44
  counting.
• 25:44
  It
• 25:44
  reminds
• 25:45
  me
• 25:45
  of
• 25:45
  Cesar
• 25:46
  Millan.
• 25:46
  The
• 25:46
  way
• 25:47
  Cesar
• 25:47
  Milan
• 25:48
  does
• 25:48
  that
• 25:49
  thing
• 25:49
  with
• 25:49
  dogs
• 25:49
  where
• 25:49
  he
• 25:49
  goes,
• 25:51
  oh,
• 25:51
  and
• 25:51
  then
• 25:52
  they
• 25:52
  go.
• 25:53
  And
• 25:53
  they.
• 25:54
  Yeah,
• 25:54
  supposedly.
• 25:55
  I
• 25:55
  don't
• 25:55
  know.
• 25:55
  I
• 25:55
  haven't
• 25:56
  watched
• 25:56
  the
• 25:56
  dog
• 25:56
  whisper
• 25:56
  in
• 25:57
  a
• 25:57
  really
• 25:57
  long
• 25:57
  time.
• 25:57
  I'm
• 25:58
  sure
• 25:58
  that,
• 25:58
  like,
• 25:59
  we
• 25:59
  should
• 25:59
  honestly
• 26:00
  review
• 26:00
  that
• 26:01
  show
• 26:01
  too,
• 26:01
  because
• 26:02
  I'm
• 26:02
  starting
• 26:02
  to
• 26:02
  see
• 26:02
  a
• 26:03
  lot
• 26:03
  of
• 26:03
  similarities
• 26:03
  between
• 26:04
  animal
• 26:04
  training
• 26:05
  and
• 26:05
  child
• 26:06
  training.
• 26:06
  Yeah,
• 26:07
  well,
• 26:08
  we
• 26:08
  should
• 26:08
  do
• 26:08
  a,
• 26:09
  a
• 26:09
  double
• 26:09
  blind
• 26:10
  where
• 26:10
  we're
• 26:10
  like,
• 26:11
  we're
• 26:11
  going
• 26:11
  to
• 26:11
  tell
• 26:11
  you
• 26:12
  two
• 26:12
  stories
• 26:12
  you
• 26:13
  tell
• 26:13
  us,
• 26:13
  which
• 26:13
  is
• 26:14
  about
• 26:14
  dog
• 26:14
  training
• 26:15
  and.
• 26:15
  Which
• 26:15
  is
• 26:16
  about
• 26:16
  baby
• 26:16
  training.
• 26:17
  That's
• 26:17
  true.
• 26:18
  We
• 26:18
  could
• 26:18
  try
• 26:18
  that.
• 26:19
  All
• 26:20
  right,
• 26:20
  let
• 26:20
  me
• 26:20
  tell
• 26:20
  you
• 26:20
  about
• 26:21
  how
• 26:21
  to
• 26:21
  use
• 26:21
  the
• 26:21
  program
• 26:22
  to
• 26:22
  encourage
• 26:22
  good
• 26:23
  behavior.
• 26:23
  Okay.
• 26:23
  Okay.
• 26:24
  So
• 26:25
  this
• 26:25
  is
• 26:25
  for
• 26:25
  start
• 26:26
  behaviors,
• 26:27
  he
• 26:27
  calls
• 26:27
  them.
• 26:27
  And
• 26:27
  those
• 26:28
  are
• 26:28
  things
• 26:28
  like
• 26:28
  doing
• 26:29
  your
• 26:29
  homework,
• 26:29
  cleaning
• 26:30
  your
• 26:30
  room,
• 26:30
  and
• 26:31
  it's
• 26:31
  anything
• 26:31
  that
• 26:31
  takes
• 26:32
  20
• 26:32
  to
• 26:32
  30
• 26:33
  minutes.
• 26:33
  Okay.
• 26:34
  So
• 26:34
  you
• 26:34
  can
• 26:35
  only
• 26:35
  use
• 26:35
  stop.
• 26:36
  You
• 26:36
  can
• 26:36
  use
• 26:36
  the
• 26:36
  counting
• 26:37
  for
• 26:38
  stop
• 26:39
  behaviors
• 26:40
  where
• 26:40
  you
• 26:40
  want
• 26:40
  them
• 26:40
  to
• 26:40
  stop
• 26:40
  something
• 26:41
  or
• 26:41
  a
• 26:42
  start
• 26:42
  behavior
• 26:42
  that
• 26:43
  only
• 26:43
  takes
• 26:43
  two
• 26:43
  minutes.
• 26:44
  Like
• 26:44
  if
• 26:45
  the
• 26:45
  child
• 26:45
  needs
• 26:45
  to
• 26:45
  put
• 26:46
  their
• 26:46
  coat
• 26:46
  on
• 26:46
  and
• 26:47
  they
• 26:47
  don't,
• 26:47
  you
• 26:48
  could
• 26:48
  count.
• 26:49
  But
• 26:49
  for
• 26:50
  anything
• 26:50
  that
• 26:50
  takes
• 26:51
  longer,
• 26:51
  you
• 26:52
  need
• 26:52
  other
• 26:53
  tactics.
• 26:54
  And
• 26:54
  so
• 26:55
  these
• 26:56
  are
• 26:56
  the
• 26:56
  tactics
• 26:57
  he
• 26:57
  says
• 26:57
  you
• 26:57
  use.
• 26:58
  And
• 26:58
  you
• 26:58
  could
• 26:58
  use
• 26:58
  one
• 26:59
  or
• 26:59
  more
• 26:59
  starting
• 27:00
  with
• 27:00
  one,
• 27:01
  praise
• 27:01
  your
• 27:01
  child
• 27:02
  when
• 27:02
  they
• 27:02
  start
• 27:02
  to
• 27:03
  do
• 27:03
  something
• 27:03
  they're
• 27:03
  supposed
• 27:04
  to
• 27:04
  do.
• 27:05
  And
• 27:05
  that's
• 27:06
  good
• 27:06
  because
• 27:06
  you
• 27:06
  have
• 27:06
  to
• 27:06
  get
• 27:06
  those
• 27:07
  praises
• 27:07
  in
• 27:08
  three
• 27:08
  for
• 27:08
  every
• 27:08
  child.
• 27:09
  You
• 27:09
  gotta,
• 27:09
  you
• 27:09
  gotta
• 27:09
  get
• 27:10
  your
• 27:10
  reps.
• 27:11
  Gotta
• 27:11
  get
• 27:11
  those
• 27:11
  in.
• 27:12
  And
• 27:12
  then
• 27:13
  two
• 27:13
  simple
• 27:14
  requests.
• 27:14
  And
• 27:15
  you
• 27:15
  just
• 27:15
  make
• 27:15
  the
• 27:15
  request
• 27:16
  in
• 27:16
  a
• 27:16
  simple,
• 27:17
  businesslike,
• 27:18
  matter
• 27:18
  of
• 27:18
  fact
• 27:19
  tone.
• 27:20
  I
• 27:20
  want
• 27:20
  your
• 27:20
  homework
• 27:20
  done
• 27:21
  by
• 27:21
  seven
• 27:21
  o'.
• 27:22
  Clock.
• 27:22
  That's
• 27:22
  it.
• 27:24
  No
• 27:24
  emotion,
• 27:25
  nothing.
• 27:25
  But
• 27:25
  if
• 27:25
  you
• 27:26
  are
• 27:26
  very
• 27:26
  business
• 27:26
  like
• 27:27
  he
• 27:27
  says,
• 27:28
  kids
• 27:28
  might
• 27:28
  respond.
• 27:29
  Kitchen
• 27:30
  timers.
• 27:32
  You
• 27:32
  can
• 27:32
  say,
• 27:33
  I
• 27:33
  want
• 27:34
  your
• 27:35
  homework
• 27:35
  done
• 27:36
  in
• 27:36
  20
• 27:37
  minutes.
• 27:37
  I'm
• 27:37
  gonna
• 27:37
  set
• 27:38
  the
• 27:38
  timer.
• 27:38
  It
• 27:38
  should
• 27:39
  be
• 27:39
  done
• 27:39
  by
• 27:39
  the
• 27:39
  time
• 27:40
  the
• 27:40
  timer
• 27:40
  goes
• 27:40
  off.
• 27:41
  So
• 27:41
  kitchen
• 27:42
  timers
• 27:42
  are
• 27:42
  good.
• 27:43
  And
• 27:43
  he
• 27:43
  also
• 27:43
  recommends
• 27:44
  using
• 27:44
  kitchen
• 27:45
  timers
• 27:46
  for
• 27:46
  the
• 27:46
  rest
• 27:46
  periods
• 27:47
  as
• 27:47
  well,
• 27:48
  so
• 27:48
  kids
• 27:49
  know
• 27:49
  how
• 27:49
  long
• 27:49
  they're
• 27:49
  gonna
• 27:49
  be.
• 27:50
  There's
• 27:50
  a
• 27:51
  docking
• 27:51
  system
• 27:51
  you
• 27:52
  can
• 27:52
  use,
• 27:52
  which
• 27:52
  is
• 27:53
  if
• 27:53
  you
• 27:53
  have
• 27:54
  a
• 27:54
  chore,
• 27:54
  your
• 27:54
  child's
• 27:55
  supposed
• 27:55
  to
• 27:55
  do
• 27:55
  their
• 27:55
  chore,
• 27:55
  and
• 27:56
  they
• 27:56
  don't,
• 27:56
  and
• 27:57
  you
• 27:57
  say,
• 27:58
  okay,
• 27:58
  I
• 27:58
  need
• 27:59
  you
• 27:59
  to
• 27:59
  do
• 27:59
  your.
• 28:00
  You
• 28:00
  start
• 28:00
  with
• 28:01
  the
• 28:01
  simple
• 28:02
  request,
• 28:02
  I
• 28:03
  need
• 28:03
  you
• 28:03
  to
• 28:03
  do
• 28:03
  your
• 28:03
  chore
• 28:04
  by
• 28:04
  seven.
• 28:05
  At
• 28:05
  seven.
• 28:06
  It's
• 28:06
  not
• 28:06
  done.
• 28:06
  It's
• 28:07
  like,
• 28:07
  okay,
• 28:07
  I
• 28:07
  know
• 28:08
  your
• 28:08
  chore.
• 28:08
  Your
• 28:08
  chore
• 28:09
  isn't
• 28:09
  done.
• 28:09
  I
• 28:10
  will
• 28:10
  do
• 28:10
  it
• 28:10
  for
• 28:10
  you.
• 28:10
  But
• 28:11
  I'm
• 28:11
  docking
• 28:11
  your
• 28:12
  allowance
• 28:12
  by
• 28:12
  $3.
• 28:14
  You're
• 28:14
  gonna
• 28:14
  pay
• 28:15
  me
• 28:15
  to
• 28:15
  do
• 28:15
  the
• 28:15
  chore.
• 28:16
  And
• 28:16
  then.
• 28:17
  Which
• 28:17
  is
• 28:17
  actually
• 28:17
  interesting
• 28:18
  because,
• 28:18
  I
• 28:18
  mean,
• 28:18
  like,
• 28:18
  listen,
• 28:19
  in
• 28:19
  the
• 28:19
  real
• 28:20
  world,
• 28:20
  if
• 28:20
  you're
• 28:21
  not
• 28:21
  gonna
• 28:21
  do
• 28:21
  something,
• 28:22
  you
• 28:22
  can
• 28:22
  pay
• 28:23
  someone
• 28:23
  to
• 28:23
  do
• 28:24
  it
• 28:24
  for
• 28:24
  you.
• 28:24
  It's
• 28:25
  your
• 28:25
  choice.
• 28:26
  Yeah.
• 28:26
  And.
• 28:26
  But
• 28:27
  kids
• 28:27
  don't
• 28:27
  like
• 28:27
  their
• 28:27
  allowance
• 28:28
  taken
• 28:28
  away,
• 28:28
  so
• 28:29
  that's.
• 28:29
  Well,
• 28:29
  they
• 28:29
  can't
• 28:30
  afford
• 28:30
  it
• 28:30
  because
• 28:31
  they're
• 28:31
  making
• 28:32
  less
• 28:32
  than
• 28:32
  minimum
• 28:33
  wage.
• 28:34
  They
• 28:34
  should
• 28:34
  unionize.
• 28:35
  That's
• 28:35
  right.
• 28:35
  Well,
• 28:36
  God.
• 28:36
  God
• 28:37
  forbid.
• 28:37
  But
• 28:37
  anyway,
• 28:39
  natural
• 28:39
  consequences.
• 28:40
  Which
• 28:41
  is
• 28:41
  like
• 28:41
  things
• 28:41
  like,
• 28:42
  you
• 28:42
  just
• 28:42
  let
• 28:42
  the
• 28:42
  world
• 28:43
  teach
• 28:43
  your
• 28:43
  child
• 28:43
  a
• 28:44
  lesson.
• 28:45
  Let's
• 28:45
  say
• 28:45
  they
• 28:45
  refuse
• 28:46
  to
• 28:46
  practice
• 28:46
  for
• 28:47
  their
• 28:47
  recital.
• 28:48
  Let
• 28:48
  them
• 28:48
  go
• 28:49
  embarrass
• 28:49
  themselves
• 28:50
  at
• 28:50
  their
• 28:50
  recital.
• 28:51
  Or
• 28:52
  they
• 28:52
  forget
• 28:52
  their
• 28:53
  lunch.
• 28:53
  Don't
• 28:53
  bring
• 28:54
  their
• 28:54
  lunch
• 28:54
  to
• 28:54
  school.
• 28:54
  And
• 28:55
  that
• 28:55
  feels
• 28:56
  bad.
• 28:57
  Your
• 28:57
  child
• 28:57
  needs
• 28:58
  to
• 28:58
  eat.
• 28:58
  I
• 28:58
  get
• 28:59
  it.
• 28:59
  One
• 28:59
  day
• 28:59
  won't
• 28:59
  kill
• 29:00
  him.
• 29:00
  But,
• 29:00
  like,
• 29:00
  I
• 29:01
  don't
• 29:01
  know.
• 29:01
  Well,
• 29:02
  maybe
• 29:03
  it
• 29:03
  will
• 29:03
  remind
• 29:04
  them
• 29:04
  to
• 29:04
  bring
• 29:04
  their
• 29:04
  lunch
• 29:05
  the
• 29:05
  next
• 29:05
  day.
• 29:05
  Day,
• 29:06
  maybe.
• 29:06
  But
• 29:07
  also
• 29:07
  like
• 29:08
  their
• 29:08
  kids.
• 29:10
  I
• 29:10
  know.
• 29:10
  I'm
• 29:10
  just
• 29:10
  saying.
• 29:11
  Okay,
• 29:12
  charting,
• 29:12
  you
• 29:12
  know,
• 29:13
  you
• 29:13
  have
• 29:13
  a
• 29:13
  chart
• 29:13
  of
• 29:13
  all
• 29:13
  your
• 29:14
  expectations,
• 29:15
  and
• 29:15
  every
• 29:16
  day
• 29:16
  they
• 29:16
  do
• 29:16
  it,
• 29:16
  they
• 29:17
  get
• 29:17
  a
• 29:17
  star.
• 29:17
  And
• 29:18
  if
• 29:18
  they
• 29:18
  get
• 29:18
  a
• 29:18
  certain
• 29:18
  number
• 29:19
  of
• 29:19
  stars,
• 29:19
  you
• 29:19
  give
• 29:19
  them
• 29:19
  a
• 29:20
  reward.
• 29:20
  So
• 29:20
  that
• 29:21
  what
• 29:21
  may
• 29:21
  work.
• 29:22
  Counting,
• 29:23
  but
• 29:23
  only
• 29:23
  if
• 29:23
  it's,
• 29:24
  you
• 29:24
  know,
• 29:24
  less
• 29:24
  than
• 29:26
  two
• 29:26
  minutes.
• 29:27
  He
• 29:27
  gives
• 29:28
  this
• 29:28
  whole
• 29:28
  discussion
• 29:29
  about
• 29:30
  how
• 29:30
  when
• 29:31
  your
• 29:31
  kids,
• 29:32
  you
• 29:32
  know,
• 29:32
  are
• 29:32
  supposed
• 29:32
  to
• 29:33
  do
• 29:33
  something
• 29:33
  like
• 29:33
  their
• 29:33
  chores
• 29:34
  or
• 29:34
  their.
• 29:36
  Or
• 29:36
  their
• 29:38
  homework,
• 29:39
  at
• 29:39
  what
• 29:39
  age
• 29:40
  can
• 29:40
  they
• 29:40
  be
• 29:41
  left
• 29:41
  alone
• 29:41
  and
• 29:41
  expected
• 29:42
  to
• 29:42
  do
• 29:43
  something
• 29:43
  without
• 29:44
  getting
• 29:44
  distracted?
• 29:46
  And
• 29:46
  he
• 29:46
  talks
• 29:46
  about
• 29:47
  executive
• 29:47
  functions
• 29:48
  and
• 29:48
  how
• 29:49
  younger
• 29:50
  kids
• 29:50
  can
• 29:50
  only
• 29:51
  be
• 29:51
  left
• 29:51
  alone
• 29:51
  for
• 29:52
  maybe
• 29:52
  10
• 29:52
  minutes,
• 29:53
  but
• 29:53
  by
• 29:53
  fourth
• 29:53
  grade,
• 29:54
  40
• 29:55
  minutes,
• 29:55
  they
• 29:55
  can
• 29:55
  get
• 29:56
  everything
• 29:56
  done.
• 29:56
  And
• 29:56
  I'm
• 29:57
  looking
• 29:57
  at
• 29:57
  that
• 29:57
  chart
• 29:57
  going,
• 29:58
  you
• 29:58
  know
• 29:58
  nothing
• 29:59
  about
• 29:59
  executive
• 30:00
  function.
• 30:01
  That
• 30:02
  is
• 30:02
  not
• 30:03
  at
• 30:03
  all
• 30:03
  right.
• 30:04
  Yeah,
• 30:04
  but
• 30:05
  his
• 30:05
  point
• 30:06
  being,
• 30:06
  which
• 30:06
  I.
• 30:06
  The
• 30:07
  only
• 30:07
  point
• 30:07
  that's
• 30:08
  right
• 30:08
  about
• 30:08
  that
• 30:08
  is
• 30:09
  younger
• 30:09
  kids
• 30:10
  need
• 30:10
  more
• 30:10
  supervision
• 30:11
  than
• 30:11
  older
• 30:12
  kids.
• 30:12
  Yeah,
• 30:13
  everybody.
• 30:13
  All
• 30:14
  children
• 30:14
  do
• 30:14
  need
• 30:14
  some
• 30:15
  supervision.
• 30:15
  But
• 30:15
  these
• 30:15
  numbers,
• 30:16
  like,
• 30:16
  show
• 30:16
  me
• 30:17
  the
• 30:17
  math
• 30:18
  on
• 30:18
  this.
• 30:18
  That's
• 30:19
  not
• 30:19
  true.
• 30:19
  But
• 30:20
  whatever
• 30:20
  Maybe
• 30:21
  this,
• 30:21
  this
• 30:21
  could
• 30:21
  be
• 30:21
  an
• 30:22
  old
• 30:22
  book.
• 30:22
  It's
• 30:23
  the
• 30:23
  latest
• 30:23
  edition.
• 30:24
  But
• 30:24
  anyway,
• 30:25
  sometimes
• 30:26
  I
• 30:26
  read
• 30:26
  these
• 30:26
  books.
• 30:26
  And
• 30:27
  I'm
• 30:27
  like,
• 30:27
  this
• 30:27
  book
• 30:28
  was
• 30:28
  written
• 30:29
  in
• 30:29
  the
• 30:29
  1300s
• 30:30
  and
• 30:31
  it
• 30:31
  was
• 30:31
  written
• 30:31
  like
• 30:31
  last
• 30:32
  week.
• 30:33
  I
• 30:33
  know.
• 30:33
  No,
• 30:35
  he
• 30:35
  just
• 30:35
  doesn't
• 30:35
  have
• 30:35
  that
• 30:36
  right.
• 30:37
  But
• 30:37
  anyway,
• 30:37
  but
• 30:38
  that's,
• 30:38
  you
• 30:38
  know,
• 30:38
  it's
• 30:39
  okay.
• 30:39
  I'm
• 30:39
  sure
• 30:39
  that
• 30:39
  peop.
• 30:40
  I,
• 30:41
  I
• 30:41
  don't
• 30:41
  know.
• 30:41
  I
• 30:41
  don't
• 30:41
  know
• 30:42
  what
• 30:42
  studies
• 30:42
  he's
• 30:43
  citing.
• 30:43
  There's.
• 30:44
  That's
• 30:44
  not
• 30:44
  cited
• 30:45
  because
• 30:45
  that
• 30:46
  just
• 30:46
  isn't
• 30:46
  right.
• 30:46
  That's
• 30:46
  just
• 30:47
  a
• 30:47
  number
• 30:47
  he
• 30:47
  came
• 30:47
  off
• 30:47
  with,
• 30:47
  I
• 30:48
  think.
• 30:48
  I
• 30:48
  mean,
• 30:48
  I
• 30:49
  do
• 30:49
  think
• 30:49
  older
• 30:49
  kids
• 30:50
  can
• 30:50
  be
• 30:50
  left
• 30:50
  alone
• 30:51
  longer.
• 30:51
  40
• 30:52
  minutes
• 30:52
  in
• 30:53
  fourth
• 30:53
  grade.
• 30:53
  In
• 30:54
  fourth
• 30:54
  grade.
• 30:54
  And
• 30:54
  they'll
• 30:55
  get
• 30:55
  all
• 30:55
  their
• 30:55
  homework
• 30:55
  done
• 30:56
  and
• 30:56
  they
• 30:56
  won't
• 30:56
  get
• 30:56
  distracted.
• 30:57
  I
• 30:57
  don't
• 30:58
  think
• 30:58
  so.
• 30:59
  Okay.
• 31:00
  And
• 31:01
  then
• 31:01
  he
• 31:01
  talks
• 31:01
  about.
• 31:04
  Let'S
• 31:04
  see.
• 31:04
  And,
• 31:05
  well,
• 31:05
  just,
• 31:05
  you
• 31:06
  know,
• 31:06
  what
• 31:06
  to
• 31:06
  expect
• 31:06
  of
• 31:07
  kids
• 31:07
  at
• 31:07
  different
• 31:07
  ages
• 31:08
  in
• 31:08
  terms
• 31:08
  of
• 31:08
  misbehavior.
• 31:10
  Younger
• 31:10
  kids,
• 31:11
  things
• 31:11
  that
• 31:11
  are
• 31:11
  hard
• 31:12
  are
• 31:12
  going
• 31:12
  to
• 31:12
  be
• 31:12
  things
• 31:12
  like
• 31:13
  morning
• 31:13
  routine.
• 31:13
  Yeah.
• 31:14
  Tantruming,
• 31:16
  cleaning
• 31:16
  up
• 31:17
  and
• 31:17
  chores.
• 31:17
  But
• 31:18
  as
• 31:18
  they
• 31:18
  get
• 31:18
  older,
• 31:19
  you're
• 31:19
  going
• 31:19
  to
• 31:19
  get
• 31:19
  into
• 31:19
  homework
• 31:20
  problems,
• 31:20
  staying
• 31:21
  up
• 31:21
  late,
• 31:21
  that
• 31:22
  kind
• 31:22
  of
• 31:22
  thing.
• 31:24
  And
• 31:24
  you
• 31:24
  know
• 31:25
  how
• 31:25
  to
• 31:25
  use
• 31:25
  the
• 31:26
  program
• 31:28
  in
• 31:28
  different
• 31:29
  points
• 31:29
  at
• 31:30
  a
• 31:30
  child's
• 31:30
  life.
• 31:30
  Yeah.
• 31:31
  And.
• 31:31
  And
• 31:31
  really
• 31:31
  there
• 31:32
  are
• 31:33
  so
• 31:33
  many
• 31:33
  examples
• 31:34
  of
• 31:34
  using
• 31:35
  this
• 31:35
  program
• 31:35
  and
• 31:36
  that's
• 31:36
  where
• 31:36
  it
• 31:36
  gets
• 31:37
  redundant
• 31:37
  a
• 31:37
  little
• 31:38
  bit
• 31:38
  in
• 31:38
  my.
• 31:38
  Yeah.
• 31:39
  And
• 31:39
  like,
• 31:39
  again,
• 31:39
  as
• 31:39
  you
• 31:40
  said,
• 31:40
  all
• 31:40
  of
• 31:41
  the,
• 31:41
  like,
• 31:41
  permutations
• 31:42
  of
• 31:42
  it.
• 31:42
  If
• 31:43
  this
• 31:43
  slight
• 31:44
  difference
• 31:44
  in
• 31:44
  circumstance
• 31:45
  is
• 31:45
  the
• 31:45
  case,
• 31:46
  you
• 31:46
  do
• 31:46
  everything
• 31:47
  exactly
• 31:47
  the
• 31:47
  same.
• 31:48
  Right.
• 31:48
  If
• 31:48
  this
• 31:49
  slight
• 31:49
  difference
• 31:49
  in
• 31:49
  circumstances
• 31:50
  is,
• 31:50
  you
• 31:51
  alter
• 31:51
  it
• 31:52
  by
• 31:52
  this
• 31:53
  tiny
• 31:53
  bit
• 31:54
  minuscule.
• 31:54
  Right.
• 31:55
  So
• 31:55
  you
• 31:55
  can
• 31:55
  see
• 31:55
  all
• 31:55
  these
• 31:56
  adjustments
• 31:56
  you
• 31:56
  can
• 31:57
  make
• 31:57
  and.
• 31:57
  Right.
• 31:58
  So
• 31:58
  anyway,
• 31:59
  but
• 31:59
  you
• 32:00
  know,
• 32:00
  look,
• 32:00
  if
• 32:00
  you're
• 32:00
  going
• 32:00
  to
• 32:00
  use
• 32:01
  it,
• 32:01
  you
• 32:01
  might
• 32:01
  kind
• 32:02
  of
• 32:02
  use
• 32:02
  this
• 32:02
  as
• 32:03
  a
• 32:03
  encyclopedia,
• 32:04
  like,
• 32:04
  okay,
• 32:04
  what
• 32:04
  do
• 32:05
  I
• 32:05
  do
• 32:05
  now?
• 32:05
  I
• 32:06
  guess
• 32:06
  also.
• 32:06
  Yeah,
• 32:07
  but
• 32:07
  that
• 32:07
  seems
• 32:07
  to
• 32:07
  defeat
• 32:08
  the
• 32:08
  purpose
• 32:09
  of
• 32:09
  this
• 32:09
  kind
• 32:09
  of
• 32:10
  discipline
• 32:10
  because
• 32:11
  like
• 32:11
  dogs,
• 32:12
  when
• 32:13
  a
• 32:13
  dog
• 32:13
  does
• 32:13
  something
• 32:14
  bad,
• 32:14
  you
• 32:15
  need
• 32:15
  to
• 32:15
  catch
• 32:15
  them
• 32:16
  in
• 32:16
  the
• 32:16
  act
• 32:16
  and
• 32:16
  discipline
• 32:17
  them
• 32:17
  immediately
• 32:18
  or
• 32:19
  they
• 32:19
  will
• 32:19
  not
• 32:20
  associate
• 32:21
  the
• 32:21
  issue
• 32:21
  with
• 32:22
  the
• 32:22
  punishment
• 32:23
  at
• 32:23
  all.
• 32:24
  You
• 32:24
  know,
• 32:24
  you
• 32:25
  can't.
• 32:25
  If
• 32:25
  you
• 32:25
  find
• 32:25
  pee
• 32:26
  on
• 32:26
  the
• 32:26
  floor,
• 32:27
  you,
• 32:27
  you
• 32:27
  can't
• 32:27
  then
• 32:28
  punish
• 32:28
  the
• 32:28
  dog.
• 32:30
  Right.
• 32:30
  But
• 32:30
  I
• 32:30
  think,
• 32:30
  aren't
• 32:31
  you
• 32:31
  supposed
• 32:31
  to
• 32:31
  be
• 32:31
  catching
• 32:32
  your
• 32:32
  kids
• 32:32
  in
• 32:32
  the
• 32:32
  act
• 32:33
  in
• 32:33
  this
• 32:33
  one
• 32:33
  too?
• 32:34
  I
• 32:34
  guess
• 32:34
  in
• 32:35
  some,
• 32:35
  but
• 32:36
  maybe
• 32:36
  not
• 32:36
  some
• 32:37
  of
• 32:37
  these
• 32:37
  situations,
• 32:38
  he's
• 32:38
  like,
• 32:38
  that
• 32:39
  doesn't
• 32:39
  seem
• 32:39
  like
• 32:39
  it's
• 32:40
  the
• 32:40
  case,
• 32:41
  especially.
• 32:41
  If
• 32:41
  you
• 32:41
  don't
• 32:42
  explain
• 32:42
  why,
• 32:43
  why
• 32:43
  you're
• 32:44
  doing
• 32:44
  it.
• 32:44
  Yeah.
• 32:44
  Then
• 32:45
  he
• 32:45
  gets
• 32:45
  into
• 32:45
  creating
• 32:46
  positive
• 32:46
  relations
• 32:47
  with
• 32:47
  your
• 32:48
  kids
• 32:48
  and
• 32:48
  he
• 32:49
  Talks
• 32:49
  about
• 32:49
  some
• 32:49
  things
• 32:50
  and
• 32:50
  I
• 32:50
  think
• 32:50
  these
• 32:50
  are
• 32:50
  good
• 32:50
  ideas.
• 32:52
  He
• 32:52
  teaches
• 32:52
  you
• 32:52
  about
• 32:53
  sympathetic
• 32:54
  and
• 32:54
  empathetic
• 32:55
  listening.
• 32:56
  When
• 32:56
  your
• 32:56
  child
• 32:57
  is
• 32:58
  upset
• 32:58
  about
• 32:58
  something.
• 32:59
  How
• 32:59
  to
• 32:59
  listen
• 32:59
  to
• 32:59
  them
• 33:00
  and
• 33:00
  ask
• 33:00
  non
• 33:01
  judgmental
• 33:01
  questions.
• 33:02
  Reflect
• 33:02
  back
• 33:03
  their
• 33:03
  feelings,
• 33:04
  summarize
• 33:04
  what
• 33:04
  they've
• 33:05
  said
• 33:05
  to
• 33:05
  show
• 33:06
  you're
• 33:06
  listening
• 33:07
  even
• 33:07
  if
• 33:07
  you
• 33:07
  don't
• 33:07
  agree
• 33:08
  with
• 33:08
  them.
• 33:08
  Listen
• 33:08
  to
• 33:09
  them.
• 33:09
  That's
• 33:10
  a
• 33:10
  good
• 33:10
  thing.
• 33:11
  Don't
• 33:11
  over
• 33:12
  parent.
• 33:12
  You
• 33:13
  gotta
• 33:13
  let
• 33:13
  your
• 33:13
  kids
• 33:14
  to
• 33:14
  think
• 33:14
  for
• 33:14
  themselves.
• 33:16
  But
• 33:17
  don't
• 33:17
  constantly
• 33:18
  be
• 33:18
  worried
• 33:18
  about
• 33:18
  them
• 33:19
  and
• 33:19
  express
• 33:19
  unnecessary
• 33:20
  worries.
• 33:21
  Give
• 33:21
  them
• 33:21
  a
• 33:22
  reasonable
• 33:22
  amount
• 33:23
  of
• 33:23
  independence
• 33:23
  as
• 33:23
  they
• 33:24
  get
• 33:24
  older.
• 33:25
  He
• 33:25
  talks
• 33:25
  about
• 33:26
  this
• 33:26
  was
• 33:26
  kind
• 33:26
  of
• 33:27
  interesting,
• 33:27
  having
• 33:28
  fun
• 33:28
  with
• 33:28
  your
• 33:28
  family.
• 33:29
  And
• 33:29
  he
• 33:30
  said,
• 33:31
  you
• 33:31
  know
• 33:31
  how
• 33:31
  families
• 33:32
  like
• 33:32
  to
• 33:32
  schedule.
• 33:33
  Oh,
• 33:33
  family
• 33:33
  time.
• 33:34
  We'll
• 33:34
  all
• 33:34
  go
• 33:34
  out
• 33:35
  and
• 33:35
  do
• 33:35
  this
• 33:35
  together.
• 33:36
  And
• 33:36
  he
• 33:36
  said,
• 33:36
  you
• 33:37
  know,
• 33:37
  family
• 33:37
  time
• 33:38
  is
• 33:38
  not
• 33:38
  as
• 33:38
  good
• 33:39
  as
• 33:39
  it's
• 33:40
  as
• 33:40
  people
• 33:40
  think
• 33:41
  it's
• 33:41
  gonna
• 33:41
  be.
• 33:42
  You're
• 33:42
  gonna
• 33:42
  fight
• 33:43
  with
• 33:43
  each
• 33:43
  other.
• 33:43
  It's
• 33:44
  not
• 33:44
  gonna
• 33:44
  be
• 33:44
  fun.
• 33:45
  Yeah.
• 33:45
  Do
• 33:45
  individual
• 33:46
  things
• 33:46
  with
• 33:47
  your
• 33:47
  kids.
• 33:47
  Yeah.
• 33:48
  And
• 33:48
  I,
• 33:48
  I
• 33:48
  don't
• 33:48
  know
• 33:49
  if
• 33:49
  I
• 33:49
  agreed
• 33:49
  with
• 33:49
  that
• 33:50
  but
• 33:50
  I
• 33:50
  mean
• 33:50
  I
• 33:51
  sometimes.
• 33:51
  Yeah.
• 33:52
  Things
• 33:52
  get,
• 33:53
  you
• 33:53
  know,
• 33:54
  when
• 33:54
  you
• 33:54
  have
• 33:54
  a
• 33:54
  family
• 33:55
  event,
• 33:56
  maybe
• 33:56
  it's
• 33:56
  not
• 33:56
  as
• 33:56
  much
• 33:57
  fun
• 33:57
  as
• 33:57
  you
• 33:57
  think
• 33:57
  it's
• 33:57
  gonna
• 33:58
  be.
• 33:59
  But
• 33:59
  I
• 33:59
  do
• 33:59
  think
• 33:59
  it's
• 34:00
  good
• 34:00
  to
• 34:00
  do
• 34:00
  one
• 34:01
  on
• 34:01
  one
• 34:01
  things
• 34:01
  with
• 34:01
  your
• 34:02
  kids.
• 34:02
  I
• 34:02
  also
• 34:03
  think,
• 34:03
  I
• 34:04
  think
• 34:04
  it's
• 34:04
  healthy
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  do
• 34:04
  things
• 34:05
  as
• 34:05
  a
• 34:05
  whole
• 34:05
  family
• 34:05
  because
• 34:06
  kids
• 34:06
  need
• 34:06
  to
• 34:06
  understand
• 34:07
  that
• 34:07
  interpersonal
• 34:08
  dynamics
• 34:08
  can
• 34:09
  be
• 34:09
  complex.
• 34:10
  That's
• 34:10
  true.
• 34:10
  You
• 34:10
  know
• 34:11
  and
• 34:11
  you,
• 34:11
  the
• 34:11
  first
• 34:12
  place
• 34:12
  you
• 34:12
  learn
• 34:12
  that
• 34:12
  is
• 34:13
  in
• 34:13
  your
• 34:13
  family.
• 34:14
  Yeah.
• 34:14
  And
• 34:14
  I
• 34:15
  think
• 34:15
  if
• 34:15
  you
• 34:15
  like
• 34:16
  shield
• 34:16
  your
• 34:17
  kids
• 34:17
  from
• 34:17
  that
• 34:17
  because
• 34:18
  it's
• 34:18
  annoying
• 34:18
  and
• 34:19
  because
• 34:19
  you
• 34:19
  don't
• 34:19
  want
• 34:20
  to
• 34:20
  deal
• 34:20
  with
• 34:20
  people
• 34:21
  fighting
• 34:21
  with
• 34:21
  each
• 34:21
  other.
• 34:22
  What
• 34:22
  are
• 34:23
  they
• 34:23
  going
• 34:23
  to
• 34:23
  do
• 34:23
  when
• 34:23
  they
• 34:23
  get
• 34:23
  a
• 34:24
  job
• 34:24
  and
• 34:24
  they're
• 34:24
  on
• 34:24
  a
• 34:24
  team.
• 34:25
  Yeah.
• 34:25
  You
• 34:26
  have
• 34:26
  to
• 34:26
  be
• 34:26
  an
• 34:26
  adjustment
• 34:27
  with
• 34:27
  other
• 34:27
  people.
• 34:28
  That's
• 34:28
  a
• 34:28
  huge
• 34:28
  part
• 34:29
  of
• 34:29
  life.
• 34:29
  And
• 34:29
  if
• 34:29
  you
• 34:29
  don't
• 34:30
  learn
• 34:30
  that
• 34:30
  when
• 34:30
  you're
• 34:30
  really
• 34:31
  young,
• 34:31
  this
• 34:31
  is
• 34:31
  why
• 34:32
  people
• 34:32
  who
• 34:32
  are
• 34:32
  only
• 34:33
  children
• 34:33
  get
• 34:34
  so
• 34:34
  much
• 34:34
  flack.
• 34:35
  And
• 34:36
  whether
• 34:36
  it's
• 34:36
  true
• 34:36
  or
• 34:37
  not.
• 34:37
  And
• 34:37
  I,
• 34:37
  I
• 34:38
  know
• 34:38
  only
• 34:38
  children
• 34:38
  who
• 34:39
  are
• 34:39
  the
• 34:39
  most
• 34:39
  wonderful
• 34:40
  emotionally
• 34:41
  in
• 34:41
  touch
• 34:41
  people.
• 34:41
  And
• 34:42
  I
• 34:42
  know
• 34:42
  some
• 34:42
  people
• 34:42
  who
• 34:42
  are
• 34:43
  only
• 34:43
  children
• 34:44
  and
• 34:44
  it
• 34:44
  shows.
• 34:46
  They
• 34:47
  got
• 34:47
  all
• 34:47
  the
• 34:47
  attention.
• 34:48
  Yeah.
• 34:48
  But
• 34:48
  it's
• 34:49
  not
• 34:49
  just
• 34:49
  about
• 34:49
  all
• 34:49
  the
• 34:49
  attention.
• 34:50
  It's
• 34:50
  about
• 34:50
  not
• 34:51
  learning
• 34:51
  to
• 34:51
  be
• 34:52
  an
• 34:52
  adjustment
• 34:53
  with
• 34:54
  other
• 34:54
  people
• 34:54
  where
• 34:55
  the
• 34:55
  stakes
• 34:55
  are
• 34:55
  high.
• 34:56
  In
• 34:56
  family
• 34:57
  situations
• 34:57
  where
• 34:58
  there's
• 34:58
  like
• 34:58
  a
• 34:58
  finite
• 34:59
  amount
• 34:59
  of
• 34:59
  resources
• 35:00
  and
• 35:00
  like
• 35:01
  you're
• 35:01
  competing
• 35:01
  with
• 35:02
  other
• 35:02
  people
• 35:02
  for
• 35:02
  your
• 35:02
  parents
• 35:03
  attention
• 35:04
  in
• 35:05
  some
• 35:05
  circumstances
• 35:06
  it's
• 35:06
  other
• 35:06
  sorts
• 35:07
  of
• 35:07
  resources
• 35:08
  and
• 35:08
  it's
• 35:08
  like
• 35:09
  you
• 35:09
  have
• 35:09
  to
• 35:10
  Learn
• 35:11
  how
• 35:11
  to
• 35:11
  deal
• 35:12
  with
• 35:12
  stuff
• 35:12
  like
• 35:12
  that.
• 35:13
  Yeah,
• 35:13
  you're
• 35:14
  right.
• 35:14
  I
• 35:14
  think
• 35:14
  it
• 35:14
  is
• 35:15
  important
• 35:15
  to
• 35:15
  have
• 35:15
  family
• 35:16
  activities.
• 35:17
  And
• 35:17
  also,
• 35:17
  hopefully
• 35:18
  you
• 35:18
  enjoy
• 35:18
  your
• 35:18
  family.
• 35:18
  And
• 35:18
  it's
• 35:19
  just
• 35:19
  like,
• 35:19
  well,
• 35:19
  let's
• 35:19
  hope.
• 35:20
  Yeah.
• 35:20
  You
• 35:20
  know,
• 35:21
  I
• 35:21
  mean,
• 35:21
  that's
• 35:21
  what
• 35:21
  you
• 35:21
  want.
• 35:22
  You
• 35:22
  want
• 35:22
  to
• 35:23
  love.
• 35:23
  I
• 35:23
  enjoy
• 35:23
  my
• 35:23
  family.
• 35:24
  I
• 35:24
  hang
• 35:24
  out
• 35:24
  with
• 35:24
  my
• 35:24
  family
• 35:24
  more
• 35:25
  than
• 35:25
  they
• 35:25
  hang
• 35:25
  out
• 35:25
  with
• 35:25
  anyone.
• 35:26
  I
• 35:26
  know.
• 35:26
  I
• 35:26
  was
• 35:26
  thinking
• 35:27
  about
• 35:27
  that
• 35:27
  yesterday,
• 35:28
  how
• 35:28
  much
• 35:28
  we
• 35:28
  all
• 35:29
  enjoy
• 35:29
  being
• 35:30
  together.
• 35:30
  Yeah.
• 35:31
  You
• 35:31
  know,
• 35:31
  I'd
• 35:31
  rather
• 35:31
  be
• 35:32
  with
• 35:32
  you
• 35:32
  guys
• 35:32
  than
• 35:33
  almost
• 35:33
  anybody.
• 35:34
  Yeah,
• 35:34
  well,
• 35:34
  we
• 35:34
  cultivated
• 35:35
  that.
• 35:35
  Yeah.
• 35:36
  That
• 35:36
  doesn't
• 35:37
  just
• 35:37
  happen.
• 35:38
  That's
• 35:38
  right.
• 35:39
  We
• 35:40
  do
• 35:40
  love
• 35:40
  to
• 35:40
  be
• 35:40
  together.
• 35:41
  Yeah.
• 35:41
  Okay.
• 35:42
  And
• 35:42
  then
• 35:43
  praise,
• 35:44
  you
• 35:44
  know,
• 35:44
  praise
• 35:45
  your
• 35:45
  children.
• 35:45
  That's
• 35:46
  so
• 35:46
  important.
• 35:46
  As
• 35:47
  we've
• 35:47
  talked
• 35:47
  about,
• 35:48
  and
• 35:48
  I
• 35:49
  have
• 35:49
  always
• 35:49
  said
• 35:50
  this
• 35:50
  praise
• 35:50
  is
• 35:51
  free,
• 35:52
  and
• 35:52
  kids
• 35:53
  work
• 35:53
  for
• 35:53
  praise.
• 35:54
  They
• 35:54
  love
• 35:54
  to
• 35:55
  hear
• 35:55
  praise.
• 35:56
  And
• 35:56
  there
• 35:56
  are
• 35:56
  so
• 35:57
  many
• 35:57
  things
• 35:57
  your
• 35:57
  kids
• 35:57
  do
• 35:58
  that
• 35:58
  you
• 35:58
  can
• 35:58
  praise
• 35:59
  them
• 35:59
  for.
• 35:59
  Yeah.
• 36:00
  So
• 36:01
  I'm
• 36:01
  100%
• 36:02
  in
• 36:02
  agreement
• 36:02
  on
• 36:03
  that.
• 36:04
  Now,
• 36:04
  he
• 36:04
  does
• 36:04
  say
• 36:05
  on
• 36:05
  this
• 36:05
  system,
• 36:06
  be
• 36:07
  consistent,
• 36:07
  and
• 36:08
  if
• 36:08
  you
• 36:08
  stop
• 36:09
  doing
• 36:09
  it
• 36:09
  and
• 36:09
  suddenly
• 36:10
  your
• 36:10
  kids
• 36:10
  are
• 36:10
  misbehaving,
• 36:11
  go
• 36:11
  back
• 36:11
  to
• 36:12
  it.
• 36:13
  Yeah,
• 36:13
  it's
• 36:13
  very
• 36:13
  rigid.
• 36:14
  It's
• 36:14
  a
• 36:14
  very
• 36:14
  rigid
• 36:15
  system.
• 36:16
  You
• 36:16
  must
• 36:16
  do
• 36:17
  it
• 36:17
  this
• 36:17
  way.
• 36:18
  Every
• 36:18
  time
• 36:18
  it
• 36:19
  is.
• 36:19
  It's
• 36:19
  like
• 36:19
  you
• 36:19
  have
• 36:19
  to
• 36:20
  do
• 36:20
  it.
• 36:20
  If
• 36:20
  it's
• 36:20
  not
• 36:21
  working,
• 36:21
  it's
• 36:21
  because
• 36:21
  you've
• 36:22
  done
• 36:22
  something
• 36:22
  wrong.
• 36:23
  Yeah.
• 36:23
  And
• 36:23
  it's
• 36:24
  like,
• 36:24
  maybe
• 36:24
  the
• 36:25
  system
• 36:25
  sucks.
• 36:26
  Maybe
• 36:26
  it
• 36:26
  doesn't
• 36:27
  work
• 36:27
  for
• 36:27
  me.
• 36:27
  Okay.
• 36:28
  Anybody
• 36:29
  tells
• 36:29
  the
• 36:30
  story
• 36:30
  about
• 36:31
  how,
• 36:31
  first
• 36:32
  of
• 36:32
  all,
• 36:32
  with
• 36:32
  this
• 36:32
  program,
• 36:33
  what.
• 36:33
  What
• 36:34
  his
• 36:34
  goal
• 36:34
  is
• 36:35
  and
• 36:35
  is
• 36:35
  that
• 36:36
  before
• 36:36
  the
• 36:37
  program,
• 36:37
  maybe
• 36:37
  you're
• 36:38
  spending
• 36:38
  three
• 36:38
  fourths
• 36:39
  of
• 36:39
  your
• 36:39
  time
• 36:39
  disciplining
• 36:40
  and
• 36:40
  only
• 36:41
  five.
• 36:42
  A
• 36:42
  fourth
• 36:42
  of
• 36:43
  your
• 36:43
  time
• 36:43
  having
• 36:43
  fun
• 36:43
  in
• 36:44
  your
• 36:44
  family.
• 36:44
  And.
• 36:45
  But
• 36:46
  if
• 36:46
  you
• 36:46
  use
• 36:46
  the
• 36:47
  system,
• 36:47
  then
• 36:47
  three
• 36:48
  fourths
• 36:48
  of
• 36:48
  your
• 36:48
  time
• 36:48
  is
• 36:49
  fun
• 36:49
  and
• 36:50
  a
• 36:50
  fourth
• 36:50
  is
• 36:50
  disciplining.
• 36:51
  And
• 36:51
  so
• 36:52
  that's
• 36:52
  the.
• 36:52
  Where
• 36:52
  is
• 36:52
  he
• 36:53
  getting
• 36:53
  these
• 36:53
  numbers?
• 36:54
  Nowhere.
• 36:55
  The
• 36:55
  numbers
• 36:55
  he
• 36:56
  presents
• 36:56
  in
• 36:56
  this
• 36:56
  book.
• 36:57
  That'S
• 36:57
  like,
• 36:57
  only
• 36:57
  number.
• 36:58
  Did
• 36:59
  you
• 36:59
  just.
• 36:59
  Oh,
• 37:00
  yeah,
• 37:00
  here's
• 37:01
  one.
• 37:01
  Oh,
• 37:02
  right.
• 37:02
  Here's
• 37:02
  another.
• 37:03
  Right.
• 37:03
  No,
• 37:04
  I
• 37:04
  don't
• 37:04
  know.
• 37:04
  It's
• 37:05
  not
• 37:05
  biased
• 37:05
  based
• 37:05
  on
• 37:06
  a
• 37:06
  study.
• 37:06
  But
• 37:07
  anyway,
• 37:07
  the
• 37:07
  ideas.
• 37:08
  It's
• 37:08
  not
• 37:09
  citing
• 37:09
  it,
• 37:10
  but
• 37:10
  he's
• 37:10
  not.
• 37:10
  The
• 37:10
  story
• 37:10
  of
• 37:10
  how
• 37:11
  this
• 37:11
  program
• 37:11
  saved
• 37:12
  someone's
• 37:12
  marriage
• 37:13
  because
• 37:13
  their
• 37:13
  kids
• 37:14
  were
• 37:14
  so
• 37:14
  out
• 37:14
  of
• 37:15
  control,
• 37:15
  and
• 37:15
  then
• 37:15
  they
• 37:16
  put
• 37:16
  this
• 37:16
  system
• 37:16
  in
• 37:17
  place,
• 37:17
  suddenly
• 37:18
  their
• 37:18
  kids
• 37:18
  were
• 37:18
  behaving,
• 37:19
  Their
• 37:20
  marriage
• 37:20
  was
• 37:20
  saved.
• 37:21
  I
• 37:21
  have
• 37:22
  a
• 37:22
  hard
• 37:22
  time
• 37:22
  believing
• 37:22
  that.
• 37:22
  I
• 37:23
  feel
• 37:23
  like
• 37:23
  there
• 37:23
  were
• 37:23
  probably
• 37:23
  other
• 37:24
  issues
• 37:24
  in
• 37:24
  this
• 37:24
  marriage.
• 37:25
  Well,
• 37:25
  maybe.
• 37:26
  I
• 37:26
  don't
• 37:26
  know.
• 37:26
  I
• 37:27
  don't
• 37:27
  know.
• 37:28
  Okay.
• 37:29
  And
• 37:29
  so
• 37:30
  there
• 37:30
  were
• 37:30
  the
• 37:30
  things
• 37:31
  I
• 37:31
  liked
• 37:31
  about
• 37:31
  the
• 37:31
  book.
• 37:32
  Was.
• 37:32
  I
• 37:32
  like
• 37:33
  the
• 37:33
  pictures.
• 37:33
  Lots
• 37:34
  of
• 37:34
  pictures.
• 37:34
  Love
• 37:34
  the
• 37:34
  pictures.
• 37:35
  Love
• 37:35
  the
• 37:35
  pictures.
• 37:36
  I
• 37:36
  love
• 37:36
  how
• 37:36
  much
• 37:36
  space
• 37:37
  the
• 37:37
  pictures
• 37:37
  take
• 37:38
  up.
• 37:38
  I
• 37:38
  know.
• 37:38
  Cause
• 37:38
  they
• 37:39
  keep
• 37:39
  you
• 37:39
  moving.
• 37:40
  And
• 37:40
  then
• 37:40
  I
• 37:40
  do.
• 37:40
  I
• 37:41
  agreed
• 37:41
  that
• 37:41
  you
• 37:42
  don't
• 37:42
  over
• 37:42
  explain
• 37:43
  things
• 37:43
  to
• 37:43
  kids.
• 37:45
  And
• 37:46
  oh,
• 37:46
  one
• 37:47
  thing
• 37:47
  he
• 37:47
  did
• 37:47
  say,
• 37:47
  which
• 37:48
  I
• 37:48
  totally
• 37:48
  agree
• 37:48
  with.
• 37:49
  If
• 37:49
  you
• 37:49
  get
• 37:50
  your
• 37:50
  kids
• 37:50
  a
• 37:50
  dog,
• 37:51
  no
• 37:51
  matter
• 37:51
  how
• 37:52
  much
• 37:52
  they
• 37:52
  tell
• 37:52
  you
• 37:53
  they're
• 37:53
  going
• 37:53
  to
• 37:53
  take
• 37:53
  care
• 37:53
  of
• 37:53
  the
• 37:54
  dog,
• 37:54
  they
• 37:54
  won't.
• 37:54
  They
• 37:55
  won't.
• 37:55
  And
• 37:55
  it
• 37:55
  will
• 37:56
  be
• 37:56
  your
• 37:56
  dog.
• 37:56
  And
• 37:57
  he
• 37:57
  is
• 37:57
  right
• 37:58
  about
• 37:58
  that.
• 37:58
  Yes,
• 37:58
  that
• 37:59
  is
• 37:59
  true.
• 37:59
  He
• 37:59
  is.
• 37:59
  Absolutely.
• 38:00
  That
• 38:00
  is
• 38:00
  a
• 38:00
  universal
• 38:01
  thing.
• 38:01
  He
• 38:01
  is
• 38:01
  right
• 38:01
  about
• 38:02
  that.
• 38:03
  There
• 38:04
  is
• 38:04
  no
• 38:04
  world
• 38:04
  in
• 38:04
  which
• 38:05
  your
• 38:05
  children
• 38:05
  will
• 38:05
  take
• 38:05
  care
• 38:06
  of
• 38:06
  their
• 38:06
  pet
• 38:06
  unless
• 38:07
  you
• 38:07
  like,
• 38:07
  live
• 38:07
  on
• 38:07
  a
• 38:08
  farm.
• 38:08
  I
• 38:08
  don't
• 38:08
  know.
• 38:09
  But
• 38:09
  I'm
• 38:09
  just.
• 38:09
  He's
• 38:10
  right
• 38:10
  about
• 38:10
  that.
• 38:11
  Another
• 38:11
  thing
• 38:11
  I
• 38:11
  agreed
• 38:12
  with,
• 38:12
  and
• 38:12
  I
• 38:12
  think
• 38:13
  this
• 38:13
  is
• 38:13
  so
• 38:13
  true.
• 38:14
  He
• 38:14
  said
• 38:14
  that
• 38:15
  routines
• 38:15
  are
• 38:16
  great
• 38:16
  for
• 38:16
  kids.
• 38:17
  And
• 38:17
  the
• 38:17
  more
• 38:17
  that
• 38:18
  you
• 38:18
  have
• 38:18
  routines
• 38:18
  built
• 38:19
  into
• 38:19
  your
• 38:20
  life,
• 38:21
  the
• 38:22
  less
• 38:22
  discipline
• 38:22
  you're
• 38:23
  gonna
• 38:23
  have
• 38:23
  to
• 38:23
  do.
• 38:23
  And
• 38:24
  that
• 38:24
  is
• 38:24
  so
• 38:24
  true.
• 38:24
  I
• 38:25
  100%
• 38:25
  agree
• 38:26
  with
• 38:26
  that.
• 38:26
  Build
• 38:27
  routines
• 38:27
  in
• 38:28
  for
• 38:28
  children.
• 38:28
  I'm
• 38:29
  attempting
• 38:29
  to
• 38:30
  create
• 38:30
  a
• 38:30
  schedule
• 38:31
  for
• 38:31
  my
• 38:31
  infant
• 38:32
  right
• 38:32
  now.
• 38:33
  And
• 38:34
  right
• 38:34
  now
• 38:34
  she's
• 38:34
  hating
• 38:34
  it.
• 38:35
  You
• 38:35
  know.
• 38:36
  Cause
• 38:36
  I
• 38:36
  really
• 38:36
  sort
• 38:37
  of
• 38:37
  like
• 38:38
  let
• 38:38
  her
• 38:38
  take
• 38:38
  the
• 38:39
  lead
• 38:39
  in
• 38:39
  terms
• 38:39
  of
• 38:40
  like
• 38:40
  when
• 38:40
  she
• 38:40
  wants
• 38:40
  to
• 38:40
  nap,
• 38:41
  when
• 38:41
  she
• 38:41
  wants
• 38:41
  to
• 38:41
  eat
• 38:42
  and
• 38:42
  things
• 38:42
  like
• 38:42
  that.
• 38:43
  But
• 38:43
  she's
• 38:44
  gonna
• 38:44
  be
• 38:44
  four
• 38:44
  months
• 38:45
  soon.
• 38:45
  And
• 38:45
  I
• 38:45
  think
• 38:46
  it's
• 38:46
  really
• 38:46
  just
• 38:46
  like
• 38:46
  time.
• 38:47
  You
• 38:47
  have
• 38:47
  to.
• 38:48
  Yeah.
• 38:48
  Yeah.
• 38:48
  Because
• 38:49
  otherwise
• 38:49
  it's
• 38:50
  gonna
• 38:50
  be
• 38:50
  like
• 38:50
  this
• 38:50
  forever.
• 38:51
  And.
• 38:51
  And
• 38:51
  you.
• 38:52
  Once
• 38:52
  you
• 38:52
  get.
• 38:52
  Get
• 38:52
  her
• 38:53
  into
• 38:53
  a
• 38:53
  routine,
• 38:53
  it'll
• 38:54
  just.
• 38:54
  Things
• 38:54
  will
• 38:54
  happen
• 38:54
  so
• 38:55
  much
• 38:55
  more
• 38:55
  naturally
• 38:56
  and
• 38:56
  easily.
• 38:57
  But
• 38:57
  it's
• 38:57
  hard
• 38:58
  building
• 38:58
  that
• 38:58
  routine.
• 38:59
  But
• 38:59
  that's
• 38:59
  okay.
• 39:00
  Do
• 39:00
  put
• 39:00
  it
• 39:00
  in
• 39:00
  the
• 39:00
  work.
• 39:01
  Yeah.
• 39:01
  And
• 39:01
  it's
• 39:02
  worth
• 39:02
  it.
• 39:02
  It
• 39:03
  really
• 39:03
  is
• 39:03
  worth
• 39:03
  it.
• 39:03
  And
• 39:04
  then,
• 39:05
  you
• 39:05
  know,
• 39:06
  only
• 39:06
  thing
• 39:06
  I
• 39:06
  thought
• 39:06
  about
• 39:07
  this
• 39:07
  system
• 39:07
  was
• 39:07
  if
• 39:08
  you
• 39:08
  start
• 39:08
  it
• 39:08
  when
• 39:09
  they're
• 39:09
  really
• 39:09
  young,
• 39:09
  maybe
• 39:10
  it
• 39:10
  has.
• 39:11
  It
• 39:11
  could
• 39:11
  work.
• 39:11
  I
• 39:12
  don't
• 39:12
  know.
• 39:12
  It's
• 39:12
  not
• 39:12
  like.
• 39:13
  No.
• 39:13
  Because
• 39:13
  I
• 39:13
  won't
• 39:14
  be
• 39:14
  starting
• 39:14
  it,
• 39:14
  won't
• 39:15
  be
• 39:15
  doing
• 39:15
  it
• 39:15
  when
• 39:15
  my
• 39:15
  daughter
• 39:16
  is
• 39:16
  really
• 39:16
  young.
• 39:16
  I
• 39:17
  thought
• 39:17
  it
• 39:17
  was
• 39:17
  complicated.
• 39:18
  I
• 39:19
  thought
• 39:19
  there
• 39:19
  were
• 39:19
  so
• 39:20
  many
• 39:20
  permutations.
• 39:21
  It
• 39:21
  was
• 39:21
  hard
• 39:22
  to,
• 39:22
  you
• 39:22
  know.
• 39:23
  And
• 39:23
  I
• 39:24
  thought
• 39:24
  that
• 39:24
  the
• 39:25
  fact
• 39:25
  that
• 39:25
  you
• 39:25
  had
• 39:25
  to
• 39:25
  do
• 39:25
  it
• 39:26
  in
• 39:26
  public
• 39:27
  could
• 39:27
  be
• 39:27
  humiliating
• 39:28
  for
• 39:28
  a
• 39:28
  child.
• 39:29
  I
• 39:29
  feel
• 39:29
  like
• 39:29
  the
• 39:30
  only
• 39:30
  place
• 39:30
  that
• 39:30
  this
• 39:30
  is
• 39:30
  probably
• 39:31
  really
• 39:31
  effective
• 39:31
  is
• 39:32
  in
• 39:32
  a
• 39:32
  classroom
• 39:33
  when
• 39:33
  you
• 39:33
  are
• 39:33
  one
• 39:34
  adult
• 39:34
  managing
• 39:35
  20
• 39:35
  children.
• 39:36
  I
• 39:36
  think
• 39:36
  that
• 39:37
  this
• 39:37
  system,
• 39:38
  if
• 39:38
  everybody
• 39:39
  sort
• 39:39
  of
• 39:39
  agrees.
• 39:40
  Yeah.
• 39:40
  To
• 39:41
  go
• 39:41
  along
• 39:41
  with
• 39:41
  it,
• 39:41
  it's
• 39:42
  probably
• 39:42
  a
• 39:42
  pretty
• 39:43
  effective
• 39:43
  way
• 39:43
  to
• 39:44
  manage
• 39:44
  a.
• 39:44
  Lot
• 39:44
  of
• 39:44
  kids
• 39:45
  maybe.
• 39:45
  But
• 39:46
  One
• 39:46
  on
• 39:46
  one,
• 39:48
  like,
• 39:48
  I
• 39:49
  don't
• 39:49
  know,
• 39:49
  try,
• 39:50
  try
• 39:50
  a
• 39:50
  little
• 39:50
  harder.
• 39:51
  Your
• 39:51
  attention
• 39:52
  isn't
• 39:52
  that
• 39:52
  divided.
• 39:53
  Well,
• 39:54
  you
• 39:54
  know,
• 39:54
  well,
• 39:55
  and
• 39:55
  the
• 39:55
  thing
• 39:55
  that,
• 39:55
  that.
• 39:56
  The
• 39:56
  last
• 39:56
  point
• 39:57
  I
• 39:57
  just
• 39:57
  wanted
• 39:57
  to
• 39:57
  make
• 39:57
  was
• 39:58
  that,
• 39:58
  you
• 39:58
  know,
• 39:58
  since
• 39:58
  you
• 39:59
  don't
• 39:59
  accept,
• 39:59
  explain
• 40:00
  what's
• 40:00
  happening
• 40:01
  in
• 40:01
  the
• 40:02
  timeouts.
• 40:02
  Do
• 40:03
  the
• 40:03
  kids
• 40:03
  really
• 40:04
  internalize
• 40:05
  the
• 40:05
  whys
• 40:06
  of
• 40:06
  why
• 40:06
  they're
• 40:07
  getting
• 40:09
  in
• 40:09
  trouble
• 40:10
  and
• 40:10
  why
• 40:11
  they
• 40:11
  should
• 40:11
  follow
• 40:11
  rules
• 40:12
  and
• 40:12
  behave?
• 40:13
  And
• 40:14
  we
• 40:14
  want
• 40:14
  kids
• 40:14
  to
• 40:15
  be
• 40:15
  self
• 40:15
  motivated
• 40:16
  to
• 40:18
  act
• 40:19
  in
• 40:19
  ways
• 40:20
  that
• 40:20
  are,
• 40:21
  that
• 40:21
  everyone
• 40:22
  will
• 40:22
  accept.
• 40:23
  So.
• 40:24
  Yeah,
• 40:24
  I
• 40:25
  just,
• 40:25
  I
• 40:25
  thought,
• 40:25
  I
• 40:26
  wasn't
• 40:26
  sure
• 40:26
  this
• 40:26
  would
• 40:26
  do
• 40:27
  that
• 40:27
  for
• 40:27
  you.
• 40:27
  Yeah,
• 40:28
  it's
• 40:28
  like,
• 40:28
  so
• 40:29
  for
• 40:29
  the
• 40:29
  rest
• 40:29
  of
• 40:29
  your
• 40:29
  life,
• 40:30
  do
• 40:30
  you
• 40:30
  need
• 40:30
  to
• 40:31
  have
• 40:31
  a
• 40:31
  counter,
• 40:32
  Someone
• 40:33
  to
• 40:33
  follow
• 40:33
  you
• 40:33
  around
• 40:34
  and
• 40:34
  count
• 40:35
  for
• 40:35
  you
• 40:35
  every
• 40:36
  time
• 40:36
  you
• 40:36
  do
• 40:36
  something?
• 40:37
  Hopefully
• 40:37
  you
• 40:37
  would
• 40:38
  grow
• 40:38
  out
• 40:38
  of
• 40:38
  it.
• 40:38
  But
• 40:39
  I
• 40:39
  mean,
• 40:40
  he
• 40:40
  lists
• 40:41
  this
• 40:41
  for
• 40:41
  teenagers
• 40:42
  and
• 40:42
  I'm
• 40:42
  like,
• 40:42
  if
• 40:43
  you're
• 40:43
  still
• 40:43
  doing
• 40:43
  this
• 40:43
  with
• 40:43
  your
• 40:43
  teenager,
• 40:44
  you
• 40:44
  have
• 40:44
  larger
• 40:45
  problems.
• 40:45
  Yeah.
• 40:46
  Like
• 40:46
  you
• 40:46
  need
• 40:46
  to
• 40:46
  learn
• 40:47
  how
• 40:47
  to
• 40:47
  communicate
• 40:47
  with
• 40:48
  your
• 40:48
  kid.
• 40:48
  Yes.
• 40:49
  Yes.
• 40:49
  Because
• 40:50
  you
• 40:50
  shouldn't
• 40:50
  be
• 40:52
  in
• 40:52
  your
• 40:52
  teenager.
• 40:54
  That's
• 40:54
  crazy.
• 40:55
  That's
• 40:55
  what
• 40:55
  he
• 40:55
  does.
• 40:57
  That,
• 40:57
  that
• 40:57
  would,
• 40:57
  that
• 40:58
  would
• 40:58
  actually
• 40:58
  work
• 40:58
  better,
• 40:58
  I
• 40:59
  think,
• 40:59
  than
• 40:59
  counting.
• 41:00
  That's
• 41:00
  scary.
• 41:00
  Honestly,
• 41:01
  people
• 41:01
  might
• 41:01
  take
• 41:01
  your
• 41:02
  kids
• 41:02
  away
• 41:02
  if
• 41:02
  you
• 41:02
  started
• 41:02
  doing
• 41:03
  that
• 41:03
  to
• 41:03
  them.
• 41:04
  Just
• 41:05
  like,
• 41:05
  what's
• 41:05
  wrong
• 41:05
  with
• 41:05
  her?
• 41:06
  I
• 41:06
  don't
• 41:06
  know.
• 41:07
  So,
• 41:07
  so
• 41:07
  you're
• 41:07
  not
• 41:08
  gonna
• 41:08
  try
• 41:08
  this
• 41:08
  system
• 41:09
  at
• 41:09
  home?
• 41:09
  No,
• 41:09
  I'm
• 41:10
  not.
• 41:10
  I'm
• 41:11
  not.
• 41:11
  On
• 41:11
  a
• 41:11
  scale
• 41:12
  of
• 41:12
  scientist
• 41:13
  to
• 41:13
  parent,
• 41:14
  I
• 41:14
  give
• 41:14
  this
• 41:15
  book
• 41:16
  A1
• 41:17
  on
• 41:17
  the
• 41:18
  grounds
• 41:18
  that
• 41:18
  it
• 41:18
  is
• 41:18
  in
• 41:19
  fact
• 41:19
  a
• 41:19
  book.
• 41:21
  It
• 41:21
  has
• 41:21
  paper,
• 41:22
  there
• 41:22
  are
• 41:22
  words,
• 41:23
  it
• 41:24
  is
• 41:24
  a
• 41:24
  book.
• 41:24
  But
• 41:25
  you
• 41:25
  didn't
• 41:25
  really,
• 41:26
  you
• 41:26
  didn't
• 41:26
  buy
• 41:27
  into
• 41:27
  it.
• 41:27
  Okay.
• 41:29
  All
• 41:29
  right.
• 41:29
  Well,
• 41:30
  you
• 41:30
  know,
• 41:30
  there
• 41:30
  might
• 41:31
  be
• 41:31
  people
• 41:31
  who
• 41:31
  love
• 41:31
  it.
• 41:32
  There
• 41:32
  are
• 41:32
  lots
• 41:32
  of
• 41:32
  people
• 41:32
  do.
• 41:32
  It
• 41:33
  sold
• 41:33
  2
• 41:33
  million
• 41:33
  copies.
• 41:34
  Yeah.
• 41:35
  I
• 41:35
  am
• 41:35
  unfortunately
• 41:36
  now
• 41:36
  one
• 41:36
  of
• 41:36
  those.
• 41:36
  People
• 41:37
  we
• 41:37
  bought
• 41:37
  it
• 41:37
  to
• 41:38
  whom
• 41:39
  owns.
• 41:39
  A
• 41:39
  copy,
• 41:40
  but
• 41:41
  I
• 41:41
  did
• 41:41
  not
• 41:41
  enjoy
• 41:41
  it,
• 41:42
  I
• 41:42
  did
• 41:42
  not
• 41:42
  like
• 41:42
  it,
• 41:44
  and
• 41:44
  I
• 41:45
  will
• 41:45
  not
• 41:45
  be
• 41:45
  reading
• 41:45
  his
• 41:46
  other
• 41:46
  works,
• 41:46
  if
• 41:46
  there
• 41:47
  are
• 41:47
  any.
• 41:47
  We're
• 41:47
  going
• 41:47
  to
• 41:48
  be
• 41:48
  reading
• 41:48
  lots
• 41:48
  of
• 41:48
  parenting
• 41:49
  books
• 41:49
  and
• 41:49
  lots
• 41:50
  of
• 41:50
  books
• 41:50
  about
• 41:51
  disciplining
• 41:52
  kids.
• 41:52
  So
• 41:53
  it's
• 41:53
  going
• 41:53
  to
• 41:53
  be
• 41:53
  interesting
• 41:54
  to
• 41:54
  see
• 41:54
  what
• 41:55
  discipline
• 41:55
  program
• 41:56
  you
• 41:56
  decide
• 41:57
  to
• 41:57
  adopt.
• 41:57
  I,
• 41:58
  I
• 41:59
  can't
• 41:59
  tell
• 41:59
  you.
• 41:59
  I
• 41:59
  was
• 42:00
  never
• 42:00
  good
• 42:00
  at
• 42:00
  discipline.
• 42:01
  That
• 42:01
  was
• 42:01
  not
• 42:01
  my
• 42:02
  thing.
• 42:02
  Yeah,
• 42:02
  I
• 42:02
  don't
• 42:03
  know
• 42:03
  how
• 42:03
  great
• 42:03
  I'm
• 42:03
  going
• 42:03
  to
• 42:03
  be
• 42:03
  at
• 42:04
  it
• 42:04
  either.
• 42:05
  Well,
• 42:05
  somebody
• 42:05
  has
• 42:06
  to.
• 42:06
  Somebody
• 42:07
  in
• 42:07
  your
• 42:07
  family
• 42:08
  has
• 42:08
  to
• 42:08
  try.
• 42:09
  Yeah.
• 42:10
  For
• 42:10
  us,
• 42:10
  it
• 42:10
  was
• 42:10
  our
• 42:11
  nanny
• 42:11
  who
• 42:11
  was
• 42:12
  the
• 42:12
  disciplinary.
• 42:14
  We
• 42:14
  loved
• 42:15
  her,
• 42:15
  but
• 42:15
  we
• 42:15
  feared
• 42:16
  her.
• 42:16
  You
• 42:17
  know,
• 42:17
  we
• 42:17
  knew
• 42:18
  she
• 42:18
  did
• 42:18
  not
• 42:19
  play.
• 42:20
  She
• 42:20
  also
• 42:20
  did
• 42:20
  not
• 42:21
  count
• 42:21
  if
• 42:22
  she
• 42:22
  told
• 42:22
  us
• 42:23
  Something
• 42:23
  was
• 42:23
  a
• 42:23
  no.
• 42:24
  We
• 42:24
  were
• 42:24
  like,
• 42:24
  all
• 42:25
  right,
• 42:25
  I
• 42:25
  guess
• 42:26
  that's
• 42:26
  what
• 42:27
  it
• 42:27
  is.
• 42:27
  No
• 42:27
  worked
• 42:28
  very
• 42:28
  well.
• 42:28
  No
• 42:28
  work.
• 42:29
  No
• 42:29
  is
• 42:29
  a
• 42:29
  very
• 42:29
  effective
• 42:30
  word
• 42:30
  when
• 42:31
  wielded
• 42:31
  properly.
• 42:32
  Right.
• 42:32
  I
• 42:33
  mean,
• 42:33
  he
• 42:33
  tells.
• 42:34
  Or
• 42:34
  one
• 42:34
  of
• 42:34
  the.
• 42:34
  I
• 42:35
  think
• 42:35
  I
• 42:35
  said
• 42:35
  the.
• 42:35
  The
• 42:35
  one
• 42:36
  of
• 42:36
  the
• 42:36
  parent
• 42:36
  told
• 42:36
  the
• 42:37
  story
• 42:37
  about
• 42:37
  a
• 42:38
  kid
• 42:38
  playing
• 42:38
  in
• 42:39
  the
• 42:39
  road
• 42:39
  and
• 42:39
  a
• 42:39
  car
• 42:39
  coming
• 42:40
  at
• 42:40
  him.
• 42:40
  And.
• 42:41
  And
• 42:41
  instead
• 42:42
  of.
• 42:42
  And
• 42:42
  when
• 42:42
  they
• 42:42
  yell
• 42:43
  stop,
• 42:44
  the
• 42:44
  kid
• 42:44
  doesn't
• 42:45
  realize
• 42:46
  that
• 42:46
  they're
• 42:46
  doing
• 42:46
  anything.
• 42:46
  They're
• 42:47
  in
• 42:47
  imminent
• 42:47
  danger.
• 42:48
  They're
• 42:48
  in
• 42:48
  imminent
• 42:48
  danger.
• 42:49
  They're
• 42:49
  waiting
• 42:50
  for
• 42:50
  three.
• 42:51
  It's
• 42:52
  like,
• 42:52
  wait,
• 42:53
  stop.
• 42:54
  Yeah.
• 42:56
  That
• 42:56
  was
• 42:56
  scary
• 42:57
  to
• 42:57
  hear.
• 42:57
  Yeah.
• 42:58
  And
• 42:58
  I
• 42:58
  hope
• 42:58
  that
• 42:59
  wasn't
• 42:59
  a
• 42:59
  true
• 42:59
  story.
• 43:00
  No,
• 43:00
  it
• 43:00
  was.
• 43:00
  Somebody.
• 43:01
  It
• 43:01
  was
• 43:01
  on
• 43:01
  Reddit.
• 43:02
  It
• 43:02
  had.
• 43:02
  It
• 43:02
  was
• 43:02
  on
• 43:02
  Reddit.
• 43:03
  It
• 43:03
  happened.
• 43:03
  That's
• 43:03
  how
• 43:03
  we
• 43:04
  had
• 43:04
  to
• 43:04
  be
• 43:04
  true.
• 43:04
  I.
• 43:05
  They
• 43:05
  wouldn't
• 43:05
  have
• 43:05
  made
• 43:06
  they
• 43:06
  fact
• 43:06
  check
• 43:06
  Reddit.
• 43:08
  No,
• 43:08
  I
• 43:08
  don't
• 43:08
  think
• 43:08
  so.
• 43:09
  All
• 43:09
  right,
• 43:10
  so
• 43:10
  you're
• 43:10
  not
• 43:10
  recommending
• 43:11
  this
• 43:11
  book?
• 43:11
  I
• 43:11
  don't
• 43:11
  recommend
• 43:12
  this
• 43:12
  book.
• 43:13
  Don't
• 43:13
  read
• 43:13
  this
• 43:13
  book.
• 43:14
  Don't
• 43:14
  waste
• 43:14
  your
• 43:15
  time.
• 43:15
  Don't
• 43:15
  try
• 43:15
  this
• 43:16
  method.
• 43:16
  Well,
• 43:17
  you
• 43:17
  try
• 43:18
  it
• 43:18
  based
• 43:18
  on
• 43:18
  what
• 43:18
  we
• 43:19
  just
• 43:19
  told
• 43:19
  you
• 43:19
  and
• 43:20
  then
• 43:20
  decide
• 43:21
  the
• 43:21
  book.
• 43:21
  Get
• 43:22
  the
• 43:22
  book
• 43:22
  in
• 43:22
  our
• 43:22
  incredibly
• 43:23
  complicated
• 43:24
  explanation
• 43:25
  of
• 43:25
  this
• 43:25
  book
• 43:26
  because
• 43:27
  it's
• 43:27
  not
• 43:27
  an
• 43:27
  easy
• 43:28
  system
• 43:29
  to
• 43:29
  follow.
• 43:29
  You
• 43:30
  need
• 43:30
  a
• 43:30
  PhD
• 43:30
  to
• 43:31
  follow
• 43:31
  this
• 43:31
  system.
• 43:32
  Yeah.
• 43:32
  And
• 43:32
  I
• 43:33
  didn't
• 43:33
  even
• 43:33
  go
• 43:33
  to
• 43:33
  college,
• 43:34
  so
• 43:34
  perhaps
• 43:35
  this
• 43:35
  is
• 43:35
  over
• 43:35
  my
• 43:35
  head.
• 43:35
  Maybe
• 43:36
  it
• 43:36
  is.
• 43:36
  Maybe
• 43:36
  that's.
• 43:37
  That
• 43:37
  could
• 43:37
  be
• 43:37
  the
• 43:38
  reason.
• 43:38
  Reason.
• 43:38
  Okay.
• 43:38
  That
• 43:38
  could
• 43:39
  be
• 43:39
  the
• 43:39
  reason.
• 43:39
  Thank
• 43:40
  you
• 43:40
  so
• 43:40
  much
• 43:40
  for
• 43:41
  joining
• 43:41
  us
• 43:41
  for
• 43:41
  another
• 43:42
  episode
• 43:42
  of
• 43:42
  Other
• 43:43
  People's
• 43:43
  Parenting,
• 43:44
  and
• 43:44
  we
• 43:44
  hope
• 43:44
  to
• 43:44
  see
• 43:45
  you
• 43:45
  next
• 43:45
  week.