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Season 2 - Episode 346 - Comparing · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to read you a quote from Sigmund Freud.
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  The only person with whom you have to compare yourself is you
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  in the past. Oh, that's a good one, right?
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  The only person with whom you have to compare yourself is you.
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  In the past, I couldn't agree with this more.
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  I couldn't say how much I've said this to clients.
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  You are only competing with yourself.
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  There's nobody else that you are really competing with in the
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  theory of competition. I just don't believe in it.
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  I I seriously don't believe in it.
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  You are. You have to just be better than
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  yourself every bit of the time that you're working on it.
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  And then all of a sudden everything kind of falls into
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  place. People often will use this and
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  they think that they're constantly comparing themselves
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  to someone else, but they don't have the same factors.
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  And when you know that the theory of the butterfly, you
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  know butterfly effect and how one small thing changes
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  everything, you start to question, well, how can I
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  possibly compare myself? Like I don't compare my the way
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  I take care of my chickens to other people.
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  I might look at what they're doing to try to learn from it,
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  but I don't beat myself up for things.
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  Whether it's my garden, the flowers, the way I teach my
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  clients, whatever I do, I am comparing myself to myself and
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  saying am I getting better in this process?
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  Am I learning? Am I growing?
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  Am I making strides in the direction that I choose to go?
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  And by recognizing that we have this, this really unique
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  situation within ourselves to not compare like that that way
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  by not comparing to other people, we save ourselves a
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  great deal of strife and pain by doing so.
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  Because other people are are never, ever, ever going to be
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  like us. Never, no matter how hard they
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  try. I mean, we know the fact of
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  people who have twins or triplets or quadruplets or
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  whatever number of children they have all at the same time, and
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  they're genetically identical, but they're not the same people
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  and they don't have the same experiences or the same gifts.
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  And we all look at that and go, how is that possible?
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  They'll have similarities, but definitely not the same.
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  I went to school with twins and they were definitely different
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  people, definitely different people and remain to be
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  different people. I think the hardest part for us
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  is recognizing that we look outside of ourselves.
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  You know, our eyes are constantly looking outside of
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  ourselves. We're constantly seeing and
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  taking in the world. Our ears are constantly hearing
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  things and we're taking in things.
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  And it is, it is a it's human nature to look and say wow, I
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  wish I was him or I wish I was her.
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  I wish I was that person. But you know, the the most
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  difficult thing to recognize is you could never be that person
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  because you were meant to be the you that you are.
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  And when you realize that you could be completely different or
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  you realize that you could be, you know they have a different
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  trajectory, that you have a completely different path.
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  And that you're supposed to actualize your path and it it
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  will not compare or overlap with someone else's path and you stop
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  comparing yourself to those people, then you can start
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  working on am I doing better than I did the day before?
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  Am I doing better than I did the week before?
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  Am I aligned with what I want to feel every day?
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  Am I using my tools to get me to that place.
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  Then things start to shift. You know, I had a a a young girl
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  that I was talking to and she wants to be a singer.
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  And she made it a made a comment to me about how she would love
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  to be Taylor Swift. And I was like, oh, I I think
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  you have to be careful with what you wish for when you say those
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  things because we we don't know. I mean, yes, Taylor seems like
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  an absolutely beautiful, wonderful life on the outside,
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  but we don't really know what she goes through and we don't
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  understand what's happening. And Taylor's life is Taylor's
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  life. And you wouldn't want to live
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  Taylor's life. You want to live your own life.
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  She said, well, I will never get there.
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  And I'm like, well, that's the problem.
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  See, Taylor never questioned, or if she did question it.
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  And having never spoken to her personally, I can't tell if she
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  never questioned herself. But I'm, I'm guessing from her
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  music, she questions herself a lot.
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  And in her path of questioning herself, you know what she did?
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  She did something really great. She just kept going, She
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  questioned and she kept going. She didn't give up.
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  She just questioned and she kept going.
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  And that's what I told the girl. I said, do you think she
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  questioned herself? Yes.
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  Do you think she kept going? Yes, absolutely.
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  And because she kept going and she didn't stop and she kept
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  going and she didn't stop, look where she is now.
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  So if you want to be using her as an example of what can happen
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  when you follow the path, that's a great thing to do.
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  And that's what I suggest for everybody.
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  There's no comparing, but you can use it as a suggestion of
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  like, look what happens when you do the work.
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  OK, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.