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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #84_ HOST LISA HOPKINS_(SHOW #11) · DA CREW Podcast

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Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to another episode coming to you live from
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the Crewe Podcast. Welcome to episode number eighty three. I am Lisa Hopkins
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with Triggered Reactions conquered, and today we have a very very special guest for
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you. And at this time I'm gonna go forward with the word of prayer
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and then we will introduce our special guests. Father God, in the name
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of Jesus, Lord, we come before you today, thanking you for another
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opportunity. Lord, We thank you for our podcast. Lord. God,
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Lord, we ask that you would bless each and every podcast member. Lord,
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we thank you today for our guests. Lord. We thank you that
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you have given us an opportunity to come forth and share in some of the
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love that you have bestowed upon each and everyone one of us. Thank you,
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Lord God for being in our lives, being our father, and letting
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us know that we can come to you for anything when we have a need.
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Gracious, Heavenly Father, we thank you, we love you, We
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lift you up, and we give your name the praise and honor in Jesus
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name a man. At this time I would like to introduce to some and
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present to others my very very special guest, Miss Dastara Alexander. Welcome,
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Welcome, Welcome to Triggered Reactions Conquered with Lisa Hopkins. It is a wonderful
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pleasure to have you here on the podcast today. Why don't we start out
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by telling the people a little bit about you. Thank you for having me,
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Alexander. I'm a pro life, aarlegant for jeff University and also for
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a beautiful mess me do that. I have six beautifully and wonderfully made children.
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I do a lot of work out in the community, and I am
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a mommy to all. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for sharing
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that, and once again, welcome to the Crew podcast Triggered Reactions Conquered with
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Lisa Hopkins. At this time, I'm gonna go forward with the scripture that
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Miss Destara picked for us on today, and then she's going to expound a
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little bit on why she chose this scripture. The scripture is coming from Psalm
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one thirty nine, thirteen and fourteen, and it reads as followed, For
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thou hast possessed my reigns, thou hast covered me in my mother's womb.
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I will praise THEE for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are thy
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works, and my soul knoweth right well. I thank God for that scripture
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on today, because truly we were formed in our mother's roomb. Shapen in
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iniquity, in sin where we conceived. And right now we're gonna have a
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word from mister Stara, and she's gonna tell us a little bit about why
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she chose that particular scripture. So I chose that particular scripture. To me,
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it speaks a lot of value value as far as our father in heaven,
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what he did and how he did it. It's like you know when
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we take a need on a thread and we're showing something together or a yarn
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and we make in a quote or a blanket. So he knitted us in
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our mother room, which means what he did was perfect a man, and
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our God makes no mistakes. It's like Potter on the Potter's wheel. He
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molds us and makes us into what we are today, and he also shapes
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us for our purpose. At this time, we're going to ask I'm gonna
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ask you just to tell us a little bit about your childhood. My childhood,
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I believe was maybe like typical people childhood. I grew up in a
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house with my siblings and my mom's oldest child. If they all with my
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mom and my dad called me miss prissy, I guess I was pretty when
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I was coming up. I love to dance and spend time with our family,
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and I love to eat. So I love when we got together and
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could my mommy was always there. I think we were. I think I'm
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a spoiled brat in some cases. I say that because I had my mom
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and my dad there and also had the how do you place it, like
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a wealthy part in? Uh? I like I'm blended on both ends.
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Amen. That's awesome. So you had a pretty good childhood, plenty of
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siblings to run around with, grow up and learn with. So we thank
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God for that. I oh, yes, yes, yeah, a lot
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to do. So our topic today is a story of the star's hope.
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Um she is, Uh, she's h advocate for people not having abortions.
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We're gonna get into that, but before we go, she's gonna tell us
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about the root of abortion. Yes. So the root of abortion was put
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in place to terminate the Negro babies, and it was put in place by
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a woman named Margaret Singer, and her goal was too in her eyes,
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the Negro the covered families wasn't wealthy or worthy enough to be here placed on
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earth. When I look at it, and a worldly part of part of
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you. Maybe she thought she was just helping the people, and you know,
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women were getting pregnant and she could help them prevent going into more property
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by putting plan parenthood. She also is the lady that opened up plan parents
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hood in nineteen sixteen. So when I look at it spiritually, our father
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in heaven created us to be nurturius and to go and reproduce. So once
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again, it just goes back to him saying everything was good the way that
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he created a woman. He put everything in place for us to carry a
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childhood. So us as mankind don't how to say, so to say what
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kind should be here? Or that's greater than her least sin and Margaret Singer,
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Okay, we thank her for her knowledge about the root of abortion and
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that you were able to share that with us. Now let me ask you,
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have you ever had an abotion abortion? Yes, ma'am. How can
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you tell us a little bit about that? Yes, so, I've had
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five abortions. The first time I've ever had an abortion I was a baby
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when I was fifteen years old. But I say a baby because I was
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still a child. I was going to track tryouts, I was in middle
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school. I wanted to run track, so I went to tryouts. It
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was summertime, and I fainted, and of course they called my mommy and
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she came and got me. I thought I fainted because it was hot outside.
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When we went to the doctor and to find out I was pregnant,
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which means I was a baby having a baby. I didn't even know that
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I was pregnant, said, you know, she introduced me to like abortion,
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like, okay, you're gonna go get abortion. I didn't even know
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what that was, you know. So at this time, I'm just like
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confused. I'm listening to what my mommy said. I made a mistake,
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you know, she's upsettling me. So that's how I was introduced to abortion
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and playing parenthood. And once again, now today that I'm very well knowledge
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knowledgeable, it doesn't what I felt that I don't feel that today. So
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it just goes back to nineteen sixteen when Margaret put this in place, and
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then my mother coming up under that when planned parenthood was in the school's teaching
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that these type of things was okay because it wasn't even a child it right
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black, you know what I'm saying. So right, so when and at
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what time did you decide and what happened to make you decide that you didn't
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want to have any abortions anymore. For one, I think I was about
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the time when I was living in Texas and I started listening to a radio
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station called Focus on a Family, and there was so big would March for
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life, March for Life, March for Life. So I was like,
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what is that? And they was taking blessings donations to get ultrasounds put in
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different facilities so women that were pregnant could see their babying here the heartbeat.
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And I was one of those women that would go and donate my sixty dollars
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every single time because I wanted these monitors in these facilities so these women could
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see and hear that isn't actually a child. And I went to the pro
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life march. I believe it was twenty eighteen or nineteen, I'm not sure
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on the day, but it was the forty fit for forty six Pro Life
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March and Washington the seat and when I got there, they displayed they actually
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displayed like this big screen TV of what it looked like when you're having an
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abortion. So I see these scissors going in and it was like picking the
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baby apart, like pulling the leg apart it and pulling an arm apart,
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and then the other leg, and then the other leg and then the rest
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of the body, squishing it. The last thing that they squished was ahead.
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Oh my god, those to my knees. I was like, oh
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Lord that. I don't even know how I felt in that second. Like
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I wouldn't say I fainted, but I was just I was just on hands
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and knees, like, you know, I would forgive me for what I
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had done, because that's murder. Now does that Does that have anything to
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do with the unwanted surprise? It does? So the first time, no,
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it wasn't. So I don't know if it was the form or fifth.
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But I was going in again get an abortion, and I want to
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share this really quick. Sure, it was so comfortable to go in and
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get an abortion because everything was confidential. You don't have to tell nobody,
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you know, you don't have to tell your parents, you don't have to
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tell nobody. So it became a form of birth control for me. But
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this one particular time when I went in, there was you know, doing
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the job, moved fast and the monitor was sitting right here to the right
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of me, and the lady plugged it up, and you know, they
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check in, it's even pregnant, and I see the baby in there.
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I seemed a baby plan with it. These or her fingers and like the
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toes, and I was like, oh my goodness, Like but I'm like,
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I know that, I know that's the site of me. It's not
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nobody else in here. But I was so in like or whatever I was
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in that I still continue to later and go forth with the procedure. I
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understand. Okay, So I know you had your first baby, her name
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is Kalia. When Khalia was born and you had an opportunity to sit with
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her and look at her and touch her skin and see her play, didn't
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make you think about the other children that you had aboard it. It did
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so when she when they pulled her out and placed her on me, I
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was like, yeah, like I'm having an this is the whole baby.
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First thing I did was kiss her toes and me kissing her toes and like
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looking at her and counting her fingers like she had five fingers and five toes
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and two eyes. I'm like, this is this is like a whole baby.
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She was so chocolate and pretty. And then in the midst of that,
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it was kind of like a lot of guilt. But I before you
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know it, just I was like dang, like so the other ones was
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babies too, Yes, a lot of emotions. I was very emotion I
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could imagine I would. I would like for you to tell our listeners how
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many children you currently have today? I have six wonderful, energetic, fearfully
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and wonderfully made children, prays the Lord. That is such a blessing.
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Our children are our blessings. Even if if something is wrong with them,
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or if they have developed developmental challenges, those are still our babies. They
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are our blessings. And we want to thank for our children because they don't
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they are just not our children. We have an opportunity to see them grow
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up and see how God is going to develop them into adults. So we
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thank God for your children that you do have. Parenting and being a mommy
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is a wonderful thing. Amen. I love it. I love being a
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mommy. And I wanted to also add that that's how I know that my
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father in Heaven has forgiven me because he has still given opportunity to be a
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mother. Amen. Amen. So what Okay, I'm a twelve I'm this
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is like a little skit. I'm twelve years old and I'm in love with
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my what I think is my boyfriend at school. We're so in love that
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I'm pregnant. Now what do I do? What would you suggest for me
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to do? I'll give you two points of view. I always like to
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go to, you know, Christianity first, I'm a Christian, So I
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would say reach out to your local church. Reach out to your local church
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and tell somebody you know that you are pregnant. And I will also really
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strongly advise you to sit and talk with your boyfriend that you're so in love
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with, because he has to say so. You know, it's selfish of
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us to make all the decision because they're like, it's our body, but
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it took two to make that little third baby you know that's inside. So
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reach out to your local churches. There are a lot of pregnancy resource centers,
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but I would do my research on which one you reach out to because
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majority of them also support abortion. So reach out to the community. Talk
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to someone that you trust, an adult. Tell the Lord thank you that
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you can care even though you're so dumb, you know. But I will
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also encourage you to, you know, to keep your baby, and I
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will walk alongside you. And there are opportunities if you did not want to
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keep the baby, you can keep the baby and bless another family. But
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the baby that's not able to carry. And man, thank you, that's
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some good advice. I appreciate that. Now. When you were look,
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when you were a little girl and you started growing up, did you have
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the conversation with your mother? Did your mother set you down and tell you
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about sex and pregnancy and marriage and all that. Yes, So my mommy
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is like very open when it comes to sex, and I believe he did
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a great job. I did both. Just going back today, I'm an
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adult and I'm a Christian first, So when I'm taking my kids to save
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your body for marriage, you know what I'm saying, like, just don't
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just be out here having sex just for the pleasure of it, right because
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our father in heaven tells us not to do that. So the conversation of
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sex was in our household. It also was in our schools. But even
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before I heard it, and I think seven or sixth grade when in sex
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education, my mommy was already teaching us that she's already was teaching, you
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know, use protection and protection was conducts, you know. And okay,
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okay, I want to take you back to the first time, maybe the
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second, third time you had an abortion, when you were at the clinic
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and they prepped you and got you ready for the abortion. What did the
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nurse tell you they were actually doing. So they told me that they were
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just going to remove how did she place it to lucas? And so she
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made a circle like this. I don't know if you guys to really like
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see, but she was like, we're gonna remove some sell to tissues that's
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like about this size. And she's like, she said, it's like slimy,
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you know, like slime. And I was like, okay, okay,
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you know it sounds like it sounds very easy to do. Like if
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that's it, it's just a sell a tissue, We're gonna remove it.
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You're gonna bleed for a little bit, and you continue to go back like
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in a few days you can go back to your normal activities. Oh mind.
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And I believe that. Oh And it was so untrue. And I'm
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sure that they're still telling that same story today to get these young girls that
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are uneducated, that don't know that, you know, having been learned from
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their parents about abortion, they're still telling them that and feeling their heads up
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with untruths. And I don't believe that God is pleased with that. And
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I have a daughter that actually works at planned parenthood and she doesn't really feel
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too much about it. It's like she doesn't have a view on it.
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It's like it's her job to sign the people in and sign them out,
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so that's what she does. But I don't think that I would want to
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work at a planned parenthood because I know that somebody's gonna walk right past me
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and kill their baby. So yeah, that was quite an experience for you
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to grow up and one day learn that they really are killing children. So
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when you first dealt with the guilt of it, did you have like hallucinations
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or hear babies crying in your sleep or anything like that. Did you have
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any of those type of experiences. I did. I did used to hear
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babies crying, and it wasn't even in my sleep. I was like,
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I would be woke moving around and I was like so I was like,
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wow, you know, like I'm tripping, like something is like taking place
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here, and I didn't know what that was called, Like, I didn't
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know anything about anxiety, and none of the type of you know, mental
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I call him imprisonments that goes on today. But yes, I experienced that,
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and from that and having my own child at that time, I think
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by the time she was like two or three years old, I was just
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angry, wow, so much, and I wanted to be perfect for her
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because of what I did to the other children. Yes, I understand.
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And in the midst of that, it just when she cried, I was
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like, I want to hold her, but then I'm angry. Wow.
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It was emotions that brings me to my next question. Do you feel like
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you may be suffering or have suffered in the past from some sort of post
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traumatic stress disorder? Absolutely not today, but in my past absolutely yes,
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okay, and how did you cope with that? In my past? I
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mean roll a joint because I no more really understood like what was taking place,
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because remember it was confidential, so I didn't have to tell nobody,
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only the people the person that was driving me there, but to them,
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and they not gone through it, they don't really understand. I understand,
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So it sounds like, you are very very educated, and you've done your
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research, and I know that you know of an organization called the pro life
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movement. Can you tell us a little bit about that? Yes, so
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I am also part of the pro life movement. And with that is basically
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it's having a voice for the voiceless, because the baby in the womb doesn't
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have a voice, but we have a voice for the baby. Okay.
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And how can a person be a part of that movement? You can reach
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out to your local your local communities, your churches. The churches number one
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should have those particular resources. And also you're gonna start educating yourself and get
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out there and do it on your own. Okay. And now let me
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ask you this favor instance, you met a young child, how would you
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what would you say to introduce them to pro life? Meeting a young child,
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I would first let them know that they're fearfully and wonderfully made and not
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be as I said so because my father and having said so, and because
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he's also the one that created you. And I would ask them how how
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do they feel about that? Like how do you feel about what I just
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said? M And from there I would introduce them to being great and continuing
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to share that with every other child. We can even share with adults because
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ken type the impact or an adults also, Yes, okay, tell them
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that is a very start of being pro life. M And what do you
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think in your opinion, what do you think would be an alternative to having
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an abortion and alternative to having an abortion adoption, bless the family with the
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baby, m the baby be Okay, I think adoption is the biggest one.
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Okay, that'll work. Okay. So if you were going to leave
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a special message with all of our reviewers today, what would it be.
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It goes back to the beginning. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made because
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our father, and having said so, educate yourself. Everybody, every color,
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every nation, educate yourself. But for the color community, please educate
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yourself because color babies are awarded more every year than they are born into the
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world, and each one teach one. Yes. Now, I understand that
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you have an organization as well that has to do with abortion. And what
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is that? Yes, so I do have an organization. It's called Beautiful
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Messing Me Doula. We are pro life. We do not support nor of
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recommend abortion. What I do as a postpartum doulas I come alongside families,
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women and their partners emotionally and physically through the process of postpartum. As a
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birthen doula, I come alongside and prep her, help her through the pain.
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I'm like a cheerleader, like you can do this, Like you know,
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let's go, We're gonna get through this. I'm here for the whole
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process and to make sure that she confused to have a voice, because sometimes
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going into labor and being around the hospital and all the different workers, we
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kind of get intimidated like, oh my gosh, I can't say anything.
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So I'm there to make sure her voice is heard. That's absolutely amazed,
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and I tip my hat off to you because it takes a very very strong
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woman to go through all that you have gone through the process of learning about
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abortion, then learning how to teach about abortion, and then also incorporating the
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Word of God with your teachings. I really thank God for your very life
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just to be the stand up woman that you are. I'm very grateful to
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have had this opportunity to interview you, and I thank you, thank you,
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thank you so much for coming on Triggered Reactions Conquered and to our listening
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audience, I thank you also for viewing with us today. I pray that
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we have learned something and we need to know that it is not a good
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thing to not let those children go ahead and be born. So I'm gonna
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ask mister Star Adam Xander, how can the people get to know you,
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your organization or any questions they may have. How can they get in contact
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with you? You can get in contact with me through I have our Instagram
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page, and my Instagram page is called Beautiful Messing Me Doula and mess fell
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m e SSI. The reason why it's called beautiful Messing Me Doula is because
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it is a beautiful mess when we are pregnant and we go through life itself.
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But it's beautiful because our father in Heaven gave his life. So Amen,
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that's the way you can contact me. And with that being said,
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once again, welcome and thank you for joining us here with the Crew podcast
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and Trigger Reactions Conquered with Lisa Hopkins. I thank my wonderful guest, mister
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Star Alexander, gracing us with her presence. And to God be the glory
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for the things that he has done. Amen. Welcome to Figure Reactions with
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Lisa Hopkins, where we explore