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He Accidently Said She Gained Weight - What Are The Unwritten Relationship Rules · The Erica Show

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  Do you want to five? It's Erica DeLong Carlly from My Carolina CBS seventeen
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  in for Trevor Today, who's moving his aunt from Boston to North Carolina.
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  Hey Carly, Hey girl, Hey, y'all. All right, so we
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  got a listener dilemma. Okay, this guy's hot, y'all please help me.
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  Hey, Erica's show. I have messed up big time. My girlfriend
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  of four months. She asked me if she had gained weight, and I
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  am an idiot and I told her yes, I noticed that she did.
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  He said, I didn't care if she gained weight or not. She is
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  beautiful regardless, but I will tell the truth was the best policy. And
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  she is so angry with me. So please tell me the unwritten rules that
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  I must follow to be a happy man in this relationship. Signed in the
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  doghouse guy, Oh no, yeah, you don't. Okay, I've asked
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  my husband this to do I look fat and He's like, nope, you
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  look beautiful. House. Honestly, though, if I am giving you that
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  aunt, that question, I'm setting you up for failure. It is a
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  setup for failure. It is a setup. So don't ask him if you
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  don't want the truth. I mean, there's been times when Boston my husband
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  will be like, yeah, you have put on some way. I'm like,
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  I know, you didn't say so. Over time, he learned like,
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  yeah, you look perfect the way you are. Just are there any
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  other unwritten rules though, that guys or girls should know, Like don't say
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  this in the relationship for a girl, don't tell your guy that that he's
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  small. Oh yeah, no, I don't do that. You don't do
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  that. That's horrible, I would say too, Like when it's that time
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  a month for the ladies, don't be like are you on your yes?
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  Is that why you're acting so hateful or whatever? Don't do that nine one
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  nine eight six one oh five one help this guy out. I don't think
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  he's a bag. He just made a big mistake, especially for relationship.
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  What are the unwritten rules that guys specifically should know? Do you? And
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  I? Five? It's Erica DeLong and we got a listener dilemma, he
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  wrote in Sweet Guy. He was like, I've been dating this girl really
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  like for four months. She asked me if she like she had gained some
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  weight. I said yes, I thought honesty was the best policy. He's
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  like, I'm really into this girl. Please tell me the unwritten rules that
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  I must know in a relationship to not be in the doghouse anymore? Melissa,
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  what is a rule that you always live by in a relationship? Are
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  you coming to me for a solution? Are you just trying to vent?
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  Yes? You know what I mean? Yeah, because usually I'm just trying
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  to vent. And I don't need my husband trying to fix something for me
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  because the way he's gonna fix it is probably not the best way. Do
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  you want if I was say Rika's show, are there unwritten rules that everybody
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  needs to follow in a relationship? Listeners dilemma where new relationship? He really
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  likes the girl, but she asked us she looked fat, and he said,
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  yeah, you gain a few pounds. And he said, I wish
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  I had never said that. I like her the way she is, and
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  now I'm in the doghouse. So what are the unwritten rules? Jason?
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  This doesn't sound like a big one, but trust me, it is always
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  agree with her about work fights. She comes home and she's venting about something,
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  even if she sounds wrong, I'm gonna tell you this, actually,
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  especially if your girl's in the wrong, you have to double down and be
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  on her side even more so, and be like, Yeah, that girl
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  sounds terrible, she's a horrible person, but you're not wrong at all.
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  I love you and you're the best. It is not your place to tell
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  her she's wrong. Your place is to get on her team and fight that
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  lady to the death. That's your job. You have some passion behind those
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  words. You speak from experience. I'm telling you this is the way to
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  succeed. Just be on your wife's side. You can tell when she's bending
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  too. Don't give her advice, just step to the side.