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Delicate like a Bomb · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back.
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  Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
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  Speaker 2: new episode of We Talk Back. It's your co-host, AJ Holiday.
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  Speaker 2: What up? Show dedicated to you niggas and these hugs.
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  Speaker 1: Not these hugs.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: It's me, Timbam. I love y'all again, man. Thank y'all
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  Speaker 1: for coming back to fuck with me. I fuck with
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  Speaker 1: y'all the long way. You sound like how you shit.
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  Speaker 2: Girl. Shut up. How you know how I shit? I
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  Speaker 2: heard you bloop that little three minutes you went away.
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  Speaker 2: I heard that shit. You ain't hear nothing. I swear
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  Speaker 2: to God.
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  Speaker 1: Mind your own business.
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  Speaker 2: I swear to God, I heard that shit and I
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  Speaker 2: meant to mention it. Literally. Look, but what I was
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  Speaker 2: about to say is shout out to the girl in
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  Speaker 2: the comments on our page talking about how only Tammy
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  Speaker 2: love y'all. So like y'all needy motherfuckers, y'all need everybody
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  Speaker 2: to love y'all. Like just be happy that somebody do.
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  Speaker 1: I love y'all. I really love y'all. And I appreciate
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  Speaker 1: when y'all come back in my comments. Telling me y'all
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  Speaker 1: love me too. I like that energy. Keep sending it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sending it to y'all. Y'all send it back to me.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Don't worry about AJ. AJ ain't got to love y'all. Y'all,
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  Speaker 1: I can do it for everybody. I love y'all for everybody.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. Right. I have a lot of gratitude. Okay. And
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  Speaker 2: appreciation for people. So if I could say anything, that's
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  Speaker 2: what it would be. But people you love tend to
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  Speaker 2: disappoint you. I ain't playing with people like that. I
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  Speaker 2: don't even like humans for real.
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  Speaker 1: I love y'all.
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  Speaker 2: I love all y'all.
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  Speaker 1: What's up, child? Girl, I had a time last night.
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  Speaker 2: I had a time last night.
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  Speaker 1: I went outside. I started at this place called Infused
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  Speaker 1: in Charlotte. If y'all come to Charlotte, these are the
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  Speaker 1: places y'all need to pop into. I started at Infused,
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  Speaker 1: and then I went to Stats. Sunday night on Stats
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  Speaker 1: is always the vibe. And then Stats closes at 12
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  Speaker 1: o'clock on Sunday, which It's weird to me because it's
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  Speaker 1: their biggest night. They probably should stay up until 2
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  Speaker 1: so they could keep getting that money. But I'm not
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  Speaker 1: the boss. So they close at 12 o'clock. And then
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  Speaker 1: after that, everybody goes to Cloud and stay there until
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  Speaker 1: 2 something. And I did all of that. I was
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  Speaker 1: getting my Bernice Burgos song because, you know, I'm old.
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  Speaker 1: I was out with all these little young hoes drinking
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  Speaker 1: with their young ass. Now I was hurting this morning.
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  Speaker 2: Bad.
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  Speaker 1: I went to my meeting this morning. Y'all like, hello.
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  Speaker 1: Good morning, everybody. I'm sorry I'm late.
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  Speaker 2: I told Taylor ass you was going to get on
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  Speaker 2: the mic sounding like that. Sounding like Martin Lawrence. I
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  Speaker 2: say good morning to you. This bitch like to go
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  Speaker 2: out every fucking Sunday night because that's your only day off?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, that's my only day in the whole week to
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  Speaker 1: like do what I want. The rest of the days,
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  Speaker 1: I got to be a responsible fucking adult. But I
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  Speaker 1: ain't been going outside that much. Like, I've been in
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  Speaker 1: the house on Sundays. So I just came out yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going out tonight, too, though.
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  Speaker 2: I ain't do much this weekend. I went by one
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  Speaker 2: of my older cousin's houses to try to get her
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  Speaker 2: to damn alter a dress for me. And I found
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  Speaker 2: out some very interesting things about my family just having,
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  Speaker 2: you know, because Family is really important. I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if people realize that or not. And then understanding your
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  Speaker 2: lineage and shit like that. Y'all, she had like tape
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  Speaker 2: recordings of elders in the family. Like I'm listening to tapes.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, that's dope.
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  Speaker 2: I was so excited about that shit. Like that's the
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  Speaker 2: type of shit I'm into. Yeah, I like that too.
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  Speaker 2: But now I'm ready to go to this area, Somerton,
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  Speaker 2: South Carolina. That's where my dad's family from. It's on
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  Speaker 2: the river. Indians. Okay. But it's a whole, like, our
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  Speaker 2: last name is a street down there, land. I want
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  Speaker 2: to go a whole cemetery with all our people in. Like, yes,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to go in the future.
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  Speaker 1: You should do it.
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  Speaker 2: I want to come, too. Yeah, come, come, come. Because
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  Speaker 2: earlier this year, like, I had a whole list of
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  Speaker 2: different places I wanted to visit. One of the places
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  Speaker 2: no longer on the fucking list, the Georgia Guidestones, because
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  Speaker 2: them shit got blown up during the summer. But y'all
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  Speaker 2: know we have, like, mounds and pyramids all around the
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  Speaker 2: United States. And Somerton has multiple mounds. Because, you know,
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  Speaker 2: we mound builders, like the people from the low country area. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I want to go see all that shit. So that
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  Speaker 2: was exciting for me. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that sounds very exciting. I like shit like that.
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  Speaker 1: My descendants of my family are some, you know, the
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  Speaker 1: white folks. Because my grandmother was mixed race. And my
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  Speaker 1: great grandmother didn't have any black. But she was the
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  Speaker 1: product of, like, rape. honestly. But the white descendants of
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  Speaker 1: my family, they still have the plantation house that they
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  Speaker 1: live on in South Carolina. And I really want to
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  Speaker 1: go down there and talk about reparations because why is
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  Speaker 1: the descendants of their family, they live in that house.
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  Speaker 1: I'm descended to this family. Where's my 40 acres in
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  Speaker 1: the mule? Right.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, it's probably down there. They probably don't want you.
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  Speaker 2: Like my older cousin, she started telling me how the
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  Speaker 2: family that's in Because Somerton is near Sumter. That's like
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  Speaker 2: Santee and all that. She was saying how they don't
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  Speaker 2: like the family from Charleston to come because it's heirs
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  Speaker 2: property down there. They don't want people snooping. They don't
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  Speaker 2: want to answer no questions.
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  Speaker 1: Questions, right.
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  Speaker 2: None of that shit because they still living on the land.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: But it's three brothers that split this land amongst each
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  Speaker 2: other and only they descendants. You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: Get it, right.
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  Speaker 2: One of their brothers.
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  Speaker 1: Right. Right.
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  Speaker 2: Families living on the land. But I wouldn't want anything
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  Speaker 2: from them. I just want to... What I would like
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  Speaker 2: is to be able to establish myself as a nation,
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  Speaker 2: but you can't do that by yourself. So I need family.
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  Speaker 2: That's why family is important. So if we want to
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  Speaker 2: get anything from this government, we may not get the
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  Speaker 2: actual land that they owe us, but they got to
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  Speaker 2: compensate us.
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  Speaker 1: Or the mule.
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  Speaker 2: Bitch, I want the motherfucking money. I want whole life insurance.
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  Speaker 2: I know what I want for reparations. I don't know
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  Speaker 2: about y'all niggas, but I know what I want.
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  Speaker 1: When I was younger, when my boyfriend's mother worked for
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  Speaker 1: South Carolina Archives and History, and she used to let
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  Speaker 1: me read, like, if you go there, you can read, like,
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  Speaker 1: slavery accounts and different, like, stories from, like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: slavery from Black people who are living probably post-slavery. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know about slavery stories, but, like, Really old shit,
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  Speaker 1: you can go read it. True stories of black people.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so Charleston archives are at the library here. And
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  Speaker 2: they have... Charleston has the best records. But you have
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  Speaker 2: to go and do the research. But they have all
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  Speaker 2: that shit at the state archives.
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  Speaker 1: I believe it. Charleston, that's one of the oldest cities
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  Speaker 1: in this country. You know? Charlestown.
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  Speaker 2: So... people don't go check this stuff out. And you'll
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  Speaker 2: find places like North Carolina, Tennessee, where they burn down
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  Speaker 2: archive places because they don't want you to find that
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  Speaker 2: history out. So if you got access to that shit,
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  Speaker 2: even just, you know, they have uploaded some stuff online.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's, I'll get the website and tell y'all
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  Speaker 2: next week. I can't remember. But they have some of
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  Speaker 2: the stuff that's like online records. You can try to start,
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  Speaker 2: you know, researching your lineage. Aside from Ancestry.com, like that's
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  Speaker 2: some bullshit.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't even trust that shit because I saw
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  Speaker 1: where somebody sent their pet iguanas DNA. And it came
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  Speaker 1: back like the iguana was Scottish and shit like that.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, those websites and the terms and conditions, it tells
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  Speaker 2: you for entertainment purposes only. How can you send your
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  Speaker 2: blood and then find out what ethnic group in Africa
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  Speaker 2: they can tie you back to? Those people, you would
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  Speaker 2: have to have my ancestors' DNA to do that. This
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  Speaker 2: shit is for entertainment purposes. The only way you can
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  Speaker 2: really get your true lineage is to talk to the
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  Speaker 2: elders in your family if they still around. That's about it.
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  Speaker 1: All right, let's get into dumb internet news. What happened?
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  Speaker 2: Girl, girl, girl. So now I don't know if we're
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  Speaker 2: going to blame this on EBT or PPP, but the
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  Speaker 2: motherfucking crab legs that disappeared from the Atlantic Ocean.
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  Speaker 1: Not just the legs. The whole crab is gone. It's
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  Speaker 1: not just the legs. Right.
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  Speaker 2: Right. That's funny as hell.
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  Speaker 1: The snow crabs have disappeared from the waters around Alaska.
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  Speaker 1: Scientists say overfishing is not the cause. So what do
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  Speaker 1: you think this could be caused by? I'm assuming like
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  Speaker 1: global warming is killing everything off.
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  Speaker 2: Possibly.
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  Speaker 1: But y'all niggas ain't going to have no snow crab
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  Speaker 1: legs this football season. Y'all going to have to eat
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  Speaker 1: y'all chicken wings.
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  Speaker 2: Shame. So do you want to hear my theory on
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  Speaker 2: what's happening? Sure. Aside from the obvious, when things like,
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  Speaker 2: like when we start seeing like different animals and species
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  Speaker 2: of insects, animals and shit like that start disappearing, we next.
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  Speaker 2: That's how I see it. But a lot of times
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  Speaker 2: it's human manipulation. You know, because we can go on
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  Speaker 2: next where they talk about got a shortage on fucking butter.
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  Speaker 2: So now you got a shortage on crab legs and
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  Speaker 2: fucking butter right now.
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  Speaker 1: The whole meal missing.
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  Speaker 2: The whole meal is missing, you guys. And I always
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  Speaker 2: be telling people I'm a whole mermaid. Like as much
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  Speaker 2: as I try to eat just straight plant based, like, man,
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  Speaker 2: I cannot not eat seafood. OK, but there's a couple
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  Speaker 2: of things that happened this year. And I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if people follow this stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Mermaids eat fish, though, because I feel like that would
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  Speaker 1: be cannibalism, ain't it?
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  Speaker 2: Girl, shut up.
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  Speaker 1: All right. You're right.
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  Speaker 2: As if other animals don't eat other animals in the sea.
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  Speaker 2: What the hell are we talking about?
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  Speaker 1: You're right. You're right. They cannibals.
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  Speaker 2: That's cannibalism. That is not cannibalism. You're not eating the
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  Speaker 2: same species. You don't have mermaids eating mermaids.
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  Speaker 1: How you know they don't eat each other? You see
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  Speaker 1: the mermaid not eat a mermaid?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, just like humans be eating each other. Right.
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  Speaker 1: They do.
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  Speaker 2: Both ways. Yeah. But, okay, so look, a few things
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  Speaker 2: happened this year aside from Russia going to war with Ukraine, right? So,
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  Speaker 2: I want to say, like, maybe in March, one of
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  Speaker 2: the top Russian lawmakers, like, real close to Putin, one
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  Speaker 2: of his aides, he basically said they want Alaska back. Right?
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  Speaker 2: I think, like, maybe in the 1800s or sometime, America
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  Speaker 2: purchased Alaska from Russia for, like, Some millions, like $ 7
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  Speaker 2: million at that time or something like that. Now Russia
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  Speaker 2: wants Alaska back. That's one thing, right? The other thing
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  Speaker 2: is that, I don't know if y'all believe in this
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  Speaker 2: type of stuff, but this is AJ's conspiracy, okay?
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  Speaker 1: We all knew where it was going.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, none of this is a conspiracy because it's all
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  Speaker 2: factual shit. I'm just laying out... Another perspective on how
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  Speaker 2: to look at why the crab legs are disappearing from Alaska.
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  Speaker 1: The crabs, not just the legs.
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  Speaker 2: Why the crabs are disappearing. Why the snow crab legs
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  Speaker 2: are disappearing. That is hilarious. Like it's just legs in
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  Speaker 2: the sea. Girl, that is wild. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: So Russia wants Alaska back. I don't know if y'all
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  Speaker 2: study ancient civilizations and stuff like that, like the Anunnaki,
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  Speaker 2: all that. They say these people still exist in the Antarctic,
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  Speaker 2: which is right above Alaska. Another thing that happened this
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  Speaker 2: year was that Russia hosted war games with China. So,
• 11:50
  Speaker 2: you know, China is kind of complicit with how Russia
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  Speaker 2: is handling Ukraine and stuff like that. They're on the
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  Speaker 2: same team, essentially. So I want to say maybe in
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  Speaker 2: August or September, they had war games in Alaska, in Alaska,
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  Speaker 2: in those waters. So we are dropping nuclear missiles and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: What we are doing in the water? And that could
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  Speaker 2: explain why this species, because they say snow crabs are
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  Speaker 2: like the most abundant. Right.
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  Speaker 1: It's like billions of... Yes. Crustaceans are just not there.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. So they're in abundance. So it's not like you
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  Speaker 2: can overfish them. So they're not dying from being overfished.
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  Speaker 2: It's something else that's happening in that water. It could
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  Speaker 2: be Alaska being contaminated by Russia. Who knows? But I
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  Speaker 2: think it's human manipulation is what we're experiencing right now.
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  Speaker 1: It could be. All right. This is a conspiracy theory
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  Speaker 1: of my own. It could be a portal to a
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  Speaker 1: different dimension under the water that And one of them
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  Speaker 1: motherfuckers slipped down in it and they cooked it over
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  Speaker 1: there and they was like, oh, this shit tastes good
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  Speaker 1: as fuck.
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  Speaker 2: This shit lit.
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  Speaker 1: And they sucked all of them to they side and said,
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  Speaker 1: fuck y'all, y'all can't handle crab legs.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I believe there is a portal in Antarctica.
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  Speaker 2: I believe that. So that could be, they could be
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  Speaker 2: getting the fuck on through because they know something about
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  Speaker 2: to happen on this realm. Y'all forgot that CERN did
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  Speaker 2: this damn hydro collider earlier this year where they try
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  Speaker 2: to pierce a hole in the universe.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: To create black.
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  Speaker 1: Matter, dark matter, all.
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  Speaker 2: These different things that transpired this year. You got to
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  Speaker 2: take into consideration when we start seeing shit we never
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  Speaker 2: seen before.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, that's scary, y'all. If you think about it,
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  Speaker 1: it's kind of scary. Like billions of crustaceans are just missing. Billions.
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  Speaker 1: That's crazy. Like, where do they go?
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  Speaker 2: Right. Or it could be something simple like them trying
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  Speaker 2: to hike the price up on snow crabs because they
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  Speaker 2: know bitches be buying it on EBT.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. What if the.
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  Speaker 1: Snow crab girls just stop fucking? Like they boycotting they
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  Speaker 1: niggas and they like, we not fucking. We ain't making
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  Speaker 1: no more. We ain't making no more babies.
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  Speaker 2: Billions? God dang.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: Have you been following what's been going on with Tasha
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  Speaker 2: K and Cardi B? At all?
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  Speaker 1: Not really. Tell me what happened.
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  Speaker 2: So, you know, Cardi B sued Tasha K this year.
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  Speaker 2: The lawsuit actually started in 2019, I believe. But she
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: sued Tasha K in a defamation case. So we all
• 14:28
  Speaker 2: know that the defense against defamation or slander is the truth, right?
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: So Tasha K wasn't able to prove that what she
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: was saying about Cardi B was true. So the courts
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: awarded her $ 4 million. So Cardi B right now is
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  Speaker 2: using the courts to take that bitch house, all type
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: of shit. Like she wants her coins from Tasha K.
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: And you got a lot of people who, me personally,
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: I don't like the blog shit. You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: The more we build our platform, we could end up
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: one of those people that somebody's prying into our private
• 15:04
  Speaker 2: lives to put it on the internet for money. Like
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: I know people say, oh, that comes with celebrity, right?
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  Speaker 2: It shouldn't, though. You know what I'm saying? I literally
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: want to start a blog, and I won't tell y'all
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  Speaker 2: the name of it because I'm going to do it
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  Speaker 2: one day. But I would like to let blogs see
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: how it feels to have somebody expose that they baby
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  Speaker 2: daddy got a baby on the way Christmas Day to
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  Speaker 2: the world before you even know. That is devastating to
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: ruin somebody's day like that. And that's the type of
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: shit that they be doing. It's really shady. I unfollow
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  Speaker 2: all the different blogs. I haven't followed all the blogs
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  Speaker 2: during Goddamn Monkeypox because I was tired of seeing that
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  Speaker 2: shit on my goddamn timeline. Y'all ain't manifesting that bullshit
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  Speaker 2: from my skin.
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  Speaker 1: But we be talking about people's shit.
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  Speaker 2: We do talk about people's shit, but I think it's
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  Speaker 2: the difference between spectating and giving your opinion on what
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  Speaker 2: you see as opposed to actually paying people for information, prying.
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  Speaker 2: You got somebody's best friend... getting $ 400 to give a video,
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  Speaker 2: just little, nah, I'm not into that. I'm not.
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  Speaker 1: And we not on here trying to tear nobody down.
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  Speaker 2: Yes. And I'm not into like subscribing to a subscription
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  Speaker 2: to get fucking other people business. That shit is weird
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  Speaker 2: to me. I don't like that industry. You shouldn't be
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  Speaker 2: able to say and do what you want to do
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  Speaker 2: to people. Without having to pay. Exactly. There should be repercussions.
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  Speaker 2: For doing insane shit. That's all I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: But not to Kanye. I don't want to go there.
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  Speaker 1: Never mind. Never mind.
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  Speaker 2: Never mind. No. Yeah, you want to go there.
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  Speaker 1: I don't. I don't.
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  Speaker 2: No, let's go there for two seconds.
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  Speaker 1: No.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: Please, God.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: Forgive me for saying that. I don't want to go there.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: What did he say, though? Tell me. What did he say?
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: It's just the fentanyl comment that kind of, it wasn't
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: the knee. It was the fentanyl, but I went to
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: look at all the reports and it shows that it
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: was lack of oxygen that killed him. It wasn't the fentanyl.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: Okay. So in that particular thing, okay, the thing with
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: Kanye even saying that, they did report he had fentanyl
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: in his system. I don't believe that the police gave
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: him fentanyl, but it was definitely not just that knee
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: to the neck. That's why I was confused why those
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: other cops didn't get the same amount of time. Because
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: it's the pressure of all three of those grown men
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: on top of that one man.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, to not breathe properly.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: Exactly. Asphyxiation, which is what the cause of death was. So, yeah.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: And what else you don't agree with?
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: It was just my biggest thing when he went there.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: I was like, come on, Kanye. You know, it's a very,
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: very sensitive topic. And, you know, just to say things
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: like that with the type of platform he has is
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: just kind of like, you know, come on.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: So, yeah, you mentioned Kanye in regards to what Tasha
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: K and what's going on with Cardi B. Let's stay
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: on topic then. Yeah, please. You should, like I said before,
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: when I first started talking about them, the cure, the
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: remedy for a slander case, for defamation of character case
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: is always going to be the truth. So you have
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: to prove what you said, what you wrote was true.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: Tasha K wasn't able to do that. And I don't
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: feel like you should just be able to say and
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: do what you want to do to people in America.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: Like that shit should not come with celebrity.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: It shouldn't. She was saying shit like, Oh, she got
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: herpes or baby going to be slow. All kinds of
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: weird things, Tasha K. And then she hasn't, she hasn't
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: digressed either. She's still online making like memes. Like I just,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: I just withdraw my last thousand dollars. I ain't got
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: no money. So, It's just like, I feel like Cardi
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: B really want to fight her. And because I can't
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: physically put my hand on you, like this is the next,
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: next best thing. I'm going to just destroy your whole existence.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: And some people may see that as evil, but I
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: believe what Tasha K did to Cardi B is evil.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: We already know Cardi B is the type of person
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: who she can't take criticism for one. Right. And again,
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: that should not come with mean comments. People waking up
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: just to be mean to you shouldn't come with being
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: a celebrity. You know what I'm saying? And that's what happens.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Talking about people, kids and shit like that.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just not one Tasha K. Because one Tasha
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: K spreading that type of rhetoric multiplies into 20,000 Tasha
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: Ks in her comments. And that does affect people. People
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: have said mean things to me in my comments. And
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: i ain't as big as a i'm not a star
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: like celebrity and that shit affects you even though you
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: may say it doesn't it does so.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: It does i mean i think my skin has gotten
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: a little more thicker over the um years just because
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: this has been talking bad about me my whole life
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: exactly i was like damn I remember when I was little,
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: I wasn't even in high school yet, and I was
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: a hoe. I ain't even fucking.
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: How am I a hoe? Y'all calling me a hoe.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I'm not even fucking yet.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: Damn. Look, it was in your aura, even then. I
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: had a horror.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: That's exactly what it was. They saw that shit coming, okay?
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: All right, so look, the last thing I saw was
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: this little boy, YK Osiris. He's tripping out. He's driving
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: on a highway in Hollywood, I'm assuming, because he says,
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: anybody could come to Beverly Hills Center and rob him
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: right now, and that's where I'm at. Nigga, first of all,
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: ain't nobody coming to Beverly Hills Center to do anything
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: to you in broad daylight, okay?
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: Maybe chicken and waffle.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: Maybe Roscoe's, but not the Beverly Center.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: Oh, that was a hard joke.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Rest in peace. What's his name? PNB?
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, PNB Rock. Apparently, he's having some type of breakdown
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: because it sounds like his voice is trembling like he
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: was crying. He was saying how Lil Baby don't fuck
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: with him no more. He hasn't spoken to Drake. Drake
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: hasn't fucked with him no more. And He was like,
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I should just die. You know, I can just die now. Like,
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: don't nobody in the industry fuck with me. You know,
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: to me, this sounds like he's running out of money. Mm-hmm.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: That's what it sounds like to me. Yeah, one good hit.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah. My thing is, why y'all want to die about
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: being poor? I've been poor before. If I get poor again,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: I'ma still want to be here. I can survive. I've
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: been happy poor, you know? Yes.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: Let me tell you, whenever you feel like that and
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: you feel like, you know, there's nothing left, you always
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: got yourself.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: I always got me because I fuck with me.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: And that's the most priceless thing you got. All that
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: other shit is just, it don't hold the same value
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: as yourself.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You know how I feel about suicide. Like, if
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: you're going to do it, do it. Don't be publicizing it.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: It's real abusive. It's abusive to the public. It's abusive
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: to people who love you. I'm pretty sure your mom's
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: seeing that. Like, people who close to you, who actually
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: have a relationship with you and love you, don't want
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: to see you saying shit like that just because a
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: couple niggas in the industry don't fuck with you. The
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: other side of this thing, you know, recently they was talking,
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: laughing at him. I guess it was a rumor that
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: he was fucking with Diddy or some crazy shit like
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: that at some point. And they asked him about it
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: on the breakfast club I had talked. So I'm like,
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: in my mind, now I'm looking at you like, did
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: you do some shit you regret? And now they didn't
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: deliver on the things that were offered to you for
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: doing those things? Did you bend the knee? What happened?
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: What happened?
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: But no matter what happened, it still ain't worth dying about,
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: you know? I mean, I don't know what death looks like,
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: so I don't know what's on the other side. It
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: might be, I don't know what death, you know?
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: It might be lit.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it might be lit on the other side. So,
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you want to go, go.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: Right. Send us an email.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: I can't send no email for you. Why?
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: We get ghost emails all the time. What? Like spam.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: Who the fuck is, who's sending these emails?
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: They ain't dead people. We don't know that. I promise you,
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: I ain't got an email from a dead motherfucker yet.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: I promise you I haven't.
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: You don't know. It might be in your junk box.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: It might be in your spam box. You don't even know.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: No, I know.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: I can't.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty much sure. But you know what? Because people
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: swear we joke about everything. Suicide is not a joke.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: Suicide is very serious. It's a very real issue. And
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: I think it's become a greater issue in our country
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: than it used to be.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: Yes. People are stressed out. People are going through changes.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: And really, only the strong are going to survive. But
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: if you don't want to survive, you know, you have
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: to want to survive. You know what I'm saying? It's
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: just a tough time for everybody. And there's a couple
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: of things that I can name that may play a
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: part in what people are experiencing. But it's one thing
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: I always think about when people say, you know, one
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: thing I think about when people do abruptly commit suicide
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: and nobody knew that they were suicidal like that young girl.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: who committed suicide last month. I forgot her name, though.
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: She was like one of these rappers.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Fitness. Yeah, she was like a fitness young lady.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: Beautiful.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so she took her life.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: And I feel like this is just my spirituality kicking in, right?
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: It's almost like people who do commit suicide, it's something
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: in that moment that they realize that, This ain't it.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: They don't like, she said that she was like, she
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: never felt like she belonged here. It's like, that's just
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: what her, her, her soul or her spirit came to experience.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: And she was ready to go. I feel like you
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: should be able to have control of your own life
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: in that way. If you don't want to be here anymore. Yeah.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: So I just, I look at suicide different nowadays. I
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: used to think about it differently, but yeah, I just
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: look at suicide different nowadays.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: Um, There was this woman, and I saw there was
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: a documentary about it, but I can't think of the
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: name at the moment. But she was the mother of
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: two white males who had this illness that gave them
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: zero quality of life. And she took care of them,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: but she was getting old and she was about to die.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: And she knew that nobody was going to take care
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: of her sons the way she would take care of them.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: So she killed them. She killed both of them. And
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: she called it a mercy killing.
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I feel like hospitals do that all the time.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: Just take people out.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: I feel like they do do that.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: And I was torn. How do you get to decide
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: for them? Because they were nonverbal. They couldn't do much
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: of nothing but just exist, right?
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: Right. I don't want to be like that.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: Me neither. I don't want to ever be like that.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: But a part of me is like, you're not God,
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: so you shouldn't be able to decide that for them.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: But you are their mother and you're the only one
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: who's taking care of them.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: And that's God. I see women are the closest thing.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: If you believe there's a higher power and there's like
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: this big thing in the sky for you, I feel
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: like on earth, women are the closest thing you want
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: to get to God. We literally give life for real.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: We cultivate it and we give life. So, you know,
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: I also feel like women are just the portal.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: So we can take it away too? My mama used
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: to tell me that all the time. Yeah.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: I brought you in here. I take you out. But
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: the thing is, is that you are just a portal, right?
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: For that other human being. And once they get here,
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: they are their own entity. You don't own another human being,
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: even your child. Right. Right. But in that case, like,
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: they would probably end up somewhere dying miserably anyway because
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: nobody would take care of you like your mama would. Right.
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: And that's just the truth.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: And they put her ass in jail. She died in jail.
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: That's weird.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, man. That's sad.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: So was she old?
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she was getting old.
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: She was getting older and she's like, I don't feel
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: well anymore. I feel like my days are numbered. And
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: I don't want to leave them here like this without
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: me to take care of them. Right.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: And then the state ain't going to take care of
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: them like that either. Like they would have just died
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: in a hospital somewhere, died in some type of adult facility.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: Because as soon as you put your family members in
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: those type of places, they end up dying. You know,
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: it becomes like hospice care. In a short period of time,
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: they be up out of here. So I feel like
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: the hospitals do it, but they like to play God. Yeah.
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: It's okay for them to play God because they done
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: took the oath. They got all the $ 100, 000 in student
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: loans and all this bullshit. So now you get to
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: play God. I don't like that.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: It's a crazy world we live in.
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: I know, right? But listen, y'all. Okay. We're going to
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: take a break right quick. And when we come back,
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: we want to get into the strong black woman throat.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: What y'all think about that? Throat.
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: Not your throat. We know y'all got strong throats. We
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: talking about the throat. We'll be back.
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: All right, y'all. So we are two black women, right? Okay.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I believe a majority of our listeners are black women.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: And what I wanted to talk about is like the
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: strong black woman saying misconception. Misconception. I read this article,
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: and I'm just going to read just the first little
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: paragraph because it kind of explains what I want to
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: talk about. So it says, of the strong black woman
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: is more than just a cultural throat many black women
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: in america report feeling pressured to act like superwoman projecting
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: themselves as strong self-sacrificing and free of emotion to cope
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: with stress of race and gender-based discrimination in their daily
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: lives that's our motherfucking weight to carry forever in america.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: I think that's you know It is a stereotype, but
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: it's something that's been passed down to us from slavery.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: We've had to be the strong black woman. We've had, like,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: they would take our male counterpart and beat him, tie
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: one side of his body, like his legs, to a
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: horse and tie his hands to another horse and then
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: beat both horses until they ripped the nigga apart in
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: front of you. You know, we had to, like, see
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: these things and feel like, okay, we may not have
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: our male counterpart to take care of us. So we
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: have to be strong for ourselves and for our children.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: And I think that ideology has been passed down after
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: generation to generation to generation. And then it almost became
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: like a badge of honor. Like I'm this strong, proud
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: black woman, but I'm over that shit.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: Well, you know, we can go back to slavery, but
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: a lot of people, and, Light as you may take it,
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: that's a black holocaust. And that's still happening today, right?
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: The thing is that those same things also happen to women.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: Those same things also happen to other ethnic groups of women,
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: other races of women. But you don't hear Indian women
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: going around saying, I'm a strong Indian woman. Or Asians saying,
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: I'm a strong Chinese woman. So what is the thing
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: about black culture where, you know, that's like a self-proclaimed
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: title that we've taken on and it has hurt and
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: harmed us and kind of motivated us at the same time, right?
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Because now we're looking for good relationships with our men
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: and that strong black woman thing comes in and it's
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: a problem in the hospital setting. When, you know, given birth,
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: we don't get the same type of medical care, same
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: type of pain medicine, because we are supposedly these superhuman.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: We so fucking strong.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: That can take all this pain. Like the whole OBGYN
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: system was built off of experiments that these white doctors
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: were doing on black women with no anesthesia. Like it's
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: a real thing, not a conspiracy. These things happen. So.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Now we've just been carrying this false badge of honor
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: and it doesn't help us in our day-to-day lives at
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: this point. I agree. You know, so we've had to
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: be strong. I feel like black men also have had
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: to be strong. But they can't say, oh, I'm a
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: strong black man. We would probably look at them like,
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying? So why is it?
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: I want my nigga to say he a strong black man.
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: What you mean?
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Because then we'd start comparing their struggle to ours
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: as women.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: No, because then I can see that, yeah. You strong, nigga,
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: be strong. Because I'm living a soft life over here.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: Let's talk about it. In order for Black women to
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: be able to live a soft life, right? The dynamics
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: within our relationships with Black men will then have to change.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: Because again... The way black women are, it's a trauma response.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: It's not how we want to be.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: But maybe we could start living our soft life before
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: the men come into it. So then they can see
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: our life is a soft life and you need to
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: be like the strong black man that we need. So
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: I found a list of things to help you live
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: a soft life, ladies. First thing is to schedule me time,
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: to be nurturing to yourself, to help restore your energy.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: So you're not running on empty all the time because
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: a lot of us are always on E. So you
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: need to start setting dates with yourself. Schedule me time.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: Whatever that looks like to get away from your kids,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: even to just be sitting still in peace is me time.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: So schedule me time. That's number one. Number two, cultivate
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: new beliefs about rest. It says if you tie your
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: self-worth to how productive you can be, You grow in
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: an environment where you're called lazy. Or if you grew
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: up in an environment where you're called lazy for relaxing,
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: you may feel guilty when you aren't busy. Rest shouldn't
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: be a response or a reward for overworking yourself. Make
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: time for rest, ladies. Prioritize rest. I agree with that.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: Oftentimes, Black women, we get into relationships where we're having
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: to always build with somebody else.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: Not saying that other groups of women don't do this,
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: but I like just I'm just speaking about black America
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: because even like we would say some African nations don't
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: even have to go through this. Like the men know
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: the roles and women know the role and it works.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: You know, this is just based on our experience in America. Oftentimes,
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: you don't really have that much time to rest unless
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: you're like really single, single with no kids. But if
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: you're in a relationship, especially with an entrepreneur. They want
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: you to be the secretary. You got to do all
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: these things and still perform in the bedroom. If there's
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: kids involved, you still got to do that too. It's like,
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: there's really no time to chill out. There's no time
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: to relax.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: But you have to, you have to prioritize your risks.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: Cause I mean, ladies, it starts to show up on
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: your face, baby. When you, when you look at you,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: you look at a bitch like, damn, she looked like
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: she had a hard life, you know? And it's because
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: we're not prioritizing our rest. And another reason is because
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: we're not wearing sunscreen. Y'all, start wearing sunscreen. Black girl
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: sunscreen is a thing. It's a product I use, and
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: it will help your face. If you don't have to struggle, don't.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Struggling doesn't always make the journey worthwhile or the destination meaningful.
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: You don't have to struggle to have an empowering, relatable,
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: or inspirational story. We aren't all dealt the same cards.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: So if you currently have access to things that make
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: it easier for you to accomplish something or achieve your goal,
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: take it. Don't feel guilty. Choose easy over hard every time.
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: Okay, let's talk about that for a second. Because I
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: feel like in the black community, it's almost like if
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: you didn't struggle, you ain't shit. It's like.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: You ain't get it out the mud.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: Exactly. I don't like that because everybody's bottom is different.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: Like my bottom is different from yours. My bottom might
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: be you know, the damn dirt to somebody else. You
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying? Everybody has a bottom. So why
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: are we criticizing people who didn't have to struggle? Right.
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? And for whatever reason, in
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: the black community, black women are supposed to struggle in relationships.
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: We're supposed to have struggle love. We're supposed to have
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: grown up struggling. You know what I'm saying? In order
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: for people to respect our hustle or respect who we
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: are now as a person. Like, Why is that? Why
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: do I have to struggle with a man in order
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: to get the reward of just simply just the love? Right.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: Why do I have to do that?
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: You don't have to.
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what this is saying. But we, for whatever reason,
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: it's almost like niggas test you. Like, why are you
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: testing me? Either you fuck with me or you don't.
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? Like, don't, don't do anything.
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: I saw a post the other day and I, and
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: I posted it on my story and somebody, one of
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: my homeboys inboxed me and he was like, that's not
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: toxic because in the video, it's a guy like smiling,
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: like licking his tongue out. He was so excited because
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: the bitch is on the other side of the phone
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: going crazy. The caption was like, when you, when you,
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: when you add a girl to make your woman mad
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: or something like that, why are you intentionally making me mad?
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: Why do you want to disturb a woman's peace in
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: that way?
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: I just think like these men are also dealing with
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: their own trauma and they be taking us along for
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: the ride.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: Yes, because the thing is, is that if you ask
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: a man what he wants from a woman, 98% of
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: the men will say, I want peace. But a lot
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: of these niggas, excuse me, a lot of these men
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: do not know how to facilitate peace, nor do they
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: know how to maintain peace. You aren't peace. You aren't
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: even peaceful, yet you're demanding peace from somebody else. Well,
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: you're the disturbance. Imagine that.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: Right. Be my peace.
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: You're not even peaceful. So I'm supposed to be your
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: peace all while I'm losing the hair in the middle
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: of my damn head.
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: In the middle of turmoil. Be my peace.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: Nah, I'm cool.
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: Peace out, nigga. All right, number four.
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: How about that?
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: Let people help you. This is a good one because- Oh,
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: that's for me.
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: This is a big one. If you have well-intended people
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: in your circle of trust willing to help you, let
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: them help you. God damn. That hit home because I
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: know a lot of people who don't accept help or
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: afraid to ask for help from people who are willing,
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: you know? So that's a big one, ladies. Let people
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: help you. Yeah.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: And that is actually like one of my things I
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: work on the most is asking for help. You know
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? Because I'm the type of person, I
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: am very intuitive. I'm an empath I can feel when
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: somebody need help so I make it to where they
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: don't even have to ask me I'm offering you know
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying so I kind of look for that
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: too for people like just in general conversation on me
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: telling you what's going on whatever I want you to
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: offer especially for men You know what I'm saying? I
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: don't want to have to come and ask you for shit.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: I feel like you should just already be doing it.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry. And that may be a thing because there's
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: a lot of women who are afraid to ask. Now,
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: I'm not afraid to ask a man for nothing.
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: I'm not afraid to ask for shit. I don't know
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: how I learned that, when I learned that, but I
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: will let you know what I need very upfront. But
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: that's because I'm also generous, you know? So I'm going
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: to let you know what I need because you ain't
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: got no problem letting me know what the fuck you need.
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: Exactly. And I feel like that's a big problem for
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: a lot of black women. Like, You have to be upfront,
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: especially in relationships. Whatever you want. Say, for instance, you
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: want a sugar daddy. You want somebody to take care
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: of you. You need to say that shit upfront, first
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: and foremost. Not after you done gave up your damn
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: coochie and now you got all these demands. Now you're
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: trying to figure out, what are we?
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: No.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: You need to ask for what you want. Let people
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: know what you want, what page you're on, upfront.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because it sets healthy boundaries for that relationship. When
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: you set your expectations in the beginning. Right. It really does.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: So that's kind of a little bit off topic a
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: little bit from asking for help. But if you're overwhelmed, right,
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: you got people around you who love you. Like I
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: know for a fact I don't use my resources like
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: I should. I don't. Because I don't like being disturbed.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: And this could be like one of my little things.
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: I will help people, but at the same time, I
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: don't like being disturbed. So I don't disturb other people.
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? So I can literally be
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: in the closet dying, child, and I ain't going to
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: tell nobody. I'm going to figure it out. I'm going
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: to figure it out. No, that's stupid, AJ. I know.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: Just ask for help.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: You know those posts that say, if your girl say,
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: I'll figure it out, she going to figure that shit
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: out and she ain't fucking with you no more? Like,
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: that's me for real. I'll figure it out. Because I
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: don't like the word no. I don't like when I
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: do muster up the courage to ask somebody about something
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: and they be acting like they can't come through for me.
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: I don't like that. I don't like no.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: It don't bother me. I just ask the next motherfucker.
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: You can't do it. All right.
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: I ain't even mad at you, boo. And on to
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: the next. It's kind of like cold calling. You know,
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: you call enough people, somebody going to say, not the
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: customer service, the begging.
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: I'm going to cold call you motherfuckers.
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: I swear to God. I ain't mad at nobody.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: Stupid.
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Number five, speak to yourself kindly. This is one of
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: the ones that I have to work on all the time.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: That negative self-talk that's in your head is just telling
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: you things that aren't right about yourself or aren't good enough.
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: And it's in your brain and you have to like
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: really get that negative, say fuck that negative inner voice
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: and speak out loud nice things to your fucking self. Mm-hmm.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: I challenge everybody to stop what they're doing right now.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: Go look in the mirror and say something fucking nice
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: to yourself.
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: Yes. It's the subconscious mind you got to work on.
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: And that's another thing daily, daily on a daily basis.
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: I'm doing different practices and rituals so I can change
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: my subconscious mind. So even like when I start having
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: a negative, negative thought, you know what I picture? I
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: picture like a box and I'm putting that thought in
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: a fucking box. And I'm tying a motherfucker balloon to
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: that box and I'm letting it float away. I'm letting
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: it go. And I'm replacing it with a better thought
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: because the present is all we have. We don't have
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: the future anymore. I mean, we don't have the future.
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: We don't have the past, right? The present, present right
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: now is all you got. So you have the ability
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: to create a better past. You got the ability to
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: create a better future, but it happens in the now.
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: So when you sitting there having all these negative thoughts
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: right now, you fucking up your past and you fucking
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: up your future. Period. Yeah. So you got to let
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: stuff go. Let things go. Let that hurt go. Girl.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: Let that shit. Bitch, I told you to go to
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: the mirror. Because I know you didn't get up. I said,
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: go to the mirror and say something nice to your
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: motherfucking self. Go do it.
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: Like we give other people compliments all day long. Give
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: yourself some compliments. Bitch, you doing a good job. Bitch,
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: you doing a good job.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: Period. Whatever it is. Whenever you notice something good about yourself,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: say it out loud to yourself. Damn, my titties sitting
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: up nice today. Damn, I'm smart. Damn, I'm funny as hell,
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: ain't it? That brings me to number six. Stop trying
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: to be humble.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Stop trying to be humble.
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: I love this list. Okay. Yeah, me too. I love
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: this list. Because in the black community, it's almost like
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: you need to be humble. Y'all always trying to humble somebody. Listen,
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: in 2022 and 2023 and beyond, fuck being humble. If
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: you the shit, act like it. Right. And if you're
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: trying to get to be the shit, it starts today, again,
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: in the now. Okay? Right.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: Stop being humble, ladies. That's old. Starting today, we gassing
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: ourselves up. Gass yourself up. Toot your horn.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: Yes, because who else going to do it?
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: And fuck anybody who got a problem with it.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: Exactly. Because I can recall being in relationships where I
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: couldn't depend on my mate to do it. You know
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? I had to. You got to be
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: your own self-starter. You got to be your own cheerleader sometimes.
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: Because in some of these relationships, these men is almost
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: like they in competition with you. Yeah. You know what
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: I'm saying? Like somebody not telling you that you're pretty.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: And when we're looking for that, like we can go
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: outside and like 30 other men are telling us how
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: beautiful we are, right? But if that man that's in
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: the home with you or the man you're with, isn't
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: doing that, it's abuse for women.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: I get men who say something like, man, I don't
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: be wanting to say that to you because I know
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: you hear that shit all day long.
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: And that's bullshit. So what?
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to hear it from you too.
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: Y'all go.
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: Exactly. Never get enough. Never get enough.
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: Number seven, focus on what you can control. Stop fucking worrying.
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: Girl, that's my mantra. Y'all, I got a tattoo on
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: my middle finger, on my right middle finger. And it's
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: apostrophe E-M. Fuck them. To all things uncontrollable. And I
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: got this tattoo like 20 years old. Okay? So I
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: always worry about little things. Big shit, I be like, damn,
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: fuck it. I just got to deal with it. But
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: it be little things that give me a goddamn headache, man.
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: But in a real way, like, you really have to
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: be like, fuck it, and control the things that you
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: can control. You can't control everything. But what you can control,
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: do that shit.
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because, I mean, I know me, like, I be
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: on the airplane, baby, having a whole anxiety attack.
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: Like, Lord, what is the pilot doing up there? I
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: got to go up there and see.
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: I can't control that. I just have to be calm
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: and just know that God got me and whatever will be,
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: whatever will be, will be. Ain't that what I mean?
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah. It's hard to surrender. You know what I'm saying?
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: And again, this even comes through in relationships, surrendering to
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: your partner, surrendering like to a man that is capable.
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: It's hard for us because of how a lot of
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: us have been raised this strong black woman thing. Like
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: you think you're going to stop being a strong black
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: woman when you get a strong black man, you might
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: be trying to overpower that man and you're going to
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: run his ass away.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: Cause you can't submit.
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: But that's hard. That's, you know, that's a hard thing
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: for me, but just because I come from a line
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: of strong black women, strong single ass black women, now
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: that I think about it.
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: Let's be clear.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: And it's hard to submit. Cause you can't, you, especially
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: when you're, you know, you've been running your own life
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: successfully and then you got, here come this man and
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: you want to trust him with the finances and trust
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: him with the, I want to, I want that, but
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: I don't want, I'm scared.
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: Finances are usually the woman thing. You know what I'm saying?
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: Smart men usually give their money to the woman because
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: women are, well, okay.
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: Let me back up a little bit.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: I was about to say, okay, because you do have
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: some people who are, some women that are just bad
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: with money and collectively black women have more debt Because
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: we're getting the student loans and all that. Yeah, we
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: got the higher education, but we also come into relationships
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: and a lot of debt. Credit card debt, student loan debt,
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: tax debt, all that shit. Meanwhile, you're marrying a man
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: who didn't go to college. Maybe he's a business owner.
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: He's an entrepreneur. He doesn't come with all that shit.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: Right. Number eight. Stop trying to be the hero.
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: Woo!
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: I hope you listening, bitch. There's a bitch out there
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: that I know for a fact is a super saver hoe.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: But always saving somebody. Always finding a fixer-upper of a
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: person so she can just go help their lives. You
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: can't heal and fix and rescue everyone, especially if you
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: yourself aren't healed. So sometimes you just need to focus
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: your energy on rescuing your motherfucking self. And stop trying
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: to heal everybody else.
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: So I feel like those type of people are necessary. Helpers, heroes.
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: They are necessary, but the problem is is that the
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: people that they usually attract are users you know they're
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: not they're not the guys or the women who are
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: gonna you know get the help and and stay with
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: them you know build this man up for the next
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: bitch me personally I don't mind passing on a refurbished
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: nigga I don't mind OK, if I helped him do
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: something and now, you know, he's a better person for
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: the next woman, then so be it. But women, I
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: do not suggest you ever building a man. They will
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: resent you when they do get on because you know them.
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: You know somebody when they really rich and you know
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: the real person when they really poor and, you know,
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: shit fucked up. Right. Right. Usually that's how it works out.
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: Like when Kanye said he leave your ass to a
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: white girl, like that's a real thing. It's a real
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: thing because men don't like that. He'll then go on
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: to another woman who don't even know his struggle and
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: do all the things you begged him to do. Don't
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: be the hero.
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because a lot of times you end up losing
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: yourself and straying away from your own healing trying to
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: help someone else. So find the courage to focus on
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: rescuing and keeping yourself.
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: Yes, honey.
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: Number nine, prioritize joy. Indulge in things that make you smile,
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: make you feel genuinely happy. Prioritize that into your life.
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: Tell me a thing that makes you happy aside from
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: money and family.
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: Food. I really enjoy food. I enjoy trying new foods.
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: So if you're someone who enjoys food, like, prioritize going
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: to a different restaurant and maybe even like, let's say
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: you can't afford a lot, going to try looking at
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: their menu and you finding an appetizer that sounds really
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: good and going to try it.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: Right. That's joyous. I'm Yelp queen. One of the things
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: that makes me happy aside from family and like money
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: and shit like that or material things is serving. I
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: like to cook and I like to serve people the food.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: And before I even make my plate, I'm looking at
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: you to get you to tell me, like, what's the score?
• 51:37
  Speaker 2: Can I get a thumbs up? Like, how it tastes?
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: How do you enjoy this?
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: Yes. That shit makes me fucking happy. I literally used
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: to fight with one of my exes, girl, because I
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: would cook this nigga some food. Like, take my time. Like,
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: even a burger, bitch, is going to be gourmet. Okay?
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: Let's be clear. Handmade. And he wouldn't eat immediately. And
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: that would piss me off so bad because I want
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: you to taste my food fresh.
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: That's my mama.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: Yes, I would recook your food on a stove just
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: so you can get the full enjoyment out of it.
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: That makes me happy.
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: Come eat it while it's hot. That's how she is.
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: Why is that an argument? Why I got to argue
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: with you to come eat? You was just around here
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: acting like you was about to die from hunger and
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: now I actually take the time and cook for you
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: and you just got the fucking food sitting there getting cold.
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: To me, that is like You don't have any regard
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: for my time at all. Because bitches don't be out
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: here cooking.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm bitches.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: Did you be right there cooking?
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: I do. You know what? It's crazy because I haven't,
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: since I've been single, I have not been cooking like
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: I used to when I was in a relationship. I
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: used to be all on like different, there's this website
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: called Divas Can Cook and I would go to different restaurant,
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: I mean recipes and like, Like, oh, baby, look what
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: I'm making today for you. I used to be, like,
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: making pineapple boats with teriyaki chicken and rice and all
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: and make it cute and giving him drinks with little
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: umbrellas in it.
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: Uh-uh. Yeah, real extra.
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: Doing the most. Now I got single and a bitch
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: with DoorDash to fuck out of food.
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: That shit is too expensive, y'all. That damn DoorDash, you
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: be done ordering something for $ 17 and your damn tab
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: is $ 45. Yeah. No, I'll be there to pick it up. Cancel.
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: But whatever your joy looks like, and it don't have
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: to be nothing that you have to buy. Dancing to
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: your favorite song, watching an episode of your favorite show,
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: reading your favorite book, wearing your favorite shoes. Whatever joy
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: looks like for you, do it, bitch. Start doing it.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: Start prioritizing it into your life.
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: Okay? Yeah.
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: Because you'll look up and you ain't wore your favorite
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: shoes all year. You ain't danced all year. You look up,
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: you ain't danced. It's three seasons of your show. Your
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: favorite show done came out and you ain't watched a
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: single episode.
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: You ain't did your hair. You ain't got your nails done. Nothing.
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: You ain't prioritize your joy at all. So let's get
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: back to that. And number 10, the last one, accept
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: that you are worthy and deserving. You have to accept that.
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: You have to decide it and believe it and accept
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: that for yourself.
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: That's a big word. That's a big word. That word decide.
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: I'm going to give, let me give y'all a, I
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: decided on Sunday. I decided, I don't know if you
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: looked at my story, but it looked like scribble scratch
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: to people. I don't know if people, if you guys
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: know what a sigil is. A sigil is like, it's
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: a magic shit, right? So you take a phrase or
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: an affirmation, right? You write it down. And then you
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: take the letters from this phrase or affirmation and you
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: arrange it into a photo. You arrange it into a picture.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: So like if you saying, I decide, you take the
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: letters out of those words and you, you could do
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: this on a computer, you could do it freehand, but
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: you arrange them in a certain way, you know, and
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: you put it out there. You might want to burn it,
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: but you got to charge it up, charge it up.
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: You know what? Maybe you dance around it. Maybe you
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: have sex around it. Maybe you just meditate around it.
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: Whatever it is. But you charge it up, right? Pray
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: around it. Yep. You put it out there and you
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: get rid of it. Forget about it. And watch how
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: shit fucking manifests. On Sunday, I had a sigil on
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: my story. And this guy, I be calling him my
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: husband anyway. So my husband messaged me and he was like,
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: what is this? I said, it's a sigil. And all
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: it says is I decide. I decided. It actually said,
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: I decided. And I could send it to you. And
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: I was making a decision about multiple things. I was
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: falling out with a homegirl. All these different things was happening.
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: But I made up my mind on Sunday about a
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: lot of things. And I was laying in bed last night.
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: And I realized that the things I decided on or against,
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: everything in my fucking favor. Everything is in my favor.
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: As a Monday. Sunday I did this thing. And I'm like, damn.
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: What the fuck?
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: Because I'm like, okay, let me break it down just
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: a little bit more. So me and this friend, we
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: fell out, right? So I was supposed to be going
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: to her wedding this Saturday. I'm no longer going to
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: the wedding. I let another friend convince me to tell
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: her I wasn't coming. But obviously she wasn't expecting me
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: because she had a whole fucking bridal shower. Yesterday that
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: I wasn't invited to, but so be it. But I
• 56:59
  Speaker 2: decide that's one of the things I decided on on
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: that Sunday. Right. And on Monday, I got a big
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: opportunity that came to me Monday for the same day
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: as her wedding. So once I decided that I'm letting
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: this relationship go, other doors opened up.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: Right. Look at God.
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: So decide. Decide. That's where the magic starts. It starts
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: in your mind once you decide.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: You don't need anything to deserve the soft life. It
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: doesn't have to be earned. When we believe and we
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: decide we're worthy of a life guided by ease and comfort,
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: we will reject things that don't align with that vision
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: and make decisions that get us closer to maintaining that lifestyle.
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: So ladies, decide today that you deserve the soft life
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: and then you're going to have it. All right.
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: I love y'all.
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: I love y'all for real. Why am I so filled
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: with love? I don't know.
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: It's gratitude.
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: It's a gift and a curse sometimes. But when I
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: say I love y'all, I mean that shit.
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: I do.
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: So y'all take this list. This comes from XO Nicole.com.
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: If you want to go back over it and read
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: it for yourself, but you can always just listen to
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: our show again and stream it.
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: So look, not to say we weak, Because we ain't
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: weak at all. Right? But we real delicate like a bomb.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: Y'all better be careful. Right.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: Versus a flower.
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: Be careful with black women. So when we say we strong, like, yeah,
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: it's a real thing. But just be careful. Be real,
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: real careful. Because the goddamn universe don't play about us.
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: That's what I do know.
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: Okay?
• 58:45
  Speaker 2: Right. It just doesn't. But... You don't have to be
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: strong no more. Let go. Release. Surrender. To the soft life.
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: To the soft life. Here's to the soft life, ladies.
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: Listen, we got our consultations up on wetalkbackent.com, right? So
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: you can literally book a session to talk to either
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: one of us or both of us. whichever you want
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: to do. Y'all check it out. It's wetalkbackent.com.
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: Right. Call me if y'all need me to tell y'all
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: how much I love y'all individually. If y'all can't do that,
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: I will.
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: And we're going to have merch coming soon. It's just
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: a process. It's a whole process, girl. But at least
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: we got a website now. And it's really nice. First
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: of all, the lovely Von Shell, one of my friends,
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: good friends off of Instagram. I met her on Instagram,
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: but she's also from the Low Country Child. When I
• 59:45
  Speaker 2: tell you God sent, God sent. For real, for real.
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: God sent.
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: Anyway, listen, I enjoyed this episode. It gave me a
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: lot of insight. So listen, guys, if you enjoyed this episode,
• 59:59
  Speaker 2: please tune in every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app or
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• 1:00:07
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• 1:00:12
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• 1:00:17
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• 1:00:19
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• 1:00:22
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• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: All right, y'all.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: Follow me on Instagram, Official Tam Bam. I love y'all.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: That's all I got.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 2: See y'all next week. Thank you guys for coming out.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: God bless you. Good night. Remember, speak now and never
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: hold your peace.