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How you speak to YOURSELF MATTERS MOST! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today, I want to tell you a little story about something
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  that recently happened to me. We had a situation at our house
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  where we couldn't do laundry and I had to go to the laundromat.
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  Now that in itself is not the story, it's no big deal, things
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  happen. And we had just endless days of
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  rained and alarms on our septic system, we're going off.
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  And so just to be on the safe side rather than taxing the
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  system. I said, okay, I'm going to go to
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  the laundromat and I choose to go to a Lon Her mouth, that's
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  probably 30 minutes from my house just because they've got
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  the best big dryers and I was like, okay I'll do it all at
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  once. I'll get everything done.
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  So we gave me a chance to sit inside the laundromat and
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  actually, you know, work at one of the tables, it's really a
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  nice little place, it's got tables television, you can kind
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  of hang out in there. So as I'm there, listening to
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  this girl on the phone, she probably was in her 20s and she
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  was talking to maybe her a friend, maybe, a parent who
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  couldn't really tell who she was talking to.
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  But the point of the story was the way in which she was talking
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  about herself. I was just fixing ated on the
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  fact that the language of how she was speaking.
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  About herself, was just I hadn't heard anything this - come out
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  of somebody in a long time and one would think I would hear a
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  lot of negative stuff because I work with a lot of people and
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  maybe the Good Fortune, is that because I've been working with
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  people for a long time. They're not talking about
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  themselves that way anymore, but Holy cow, this girl went on and
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  on talking about so dumb, I'm so stupid.
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  I don't understand why I can't get it.
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  I'm an idiot. She went on and on and on
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  talking about and I observed from the situation that this was
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  something to do with work and how what was going on in her job
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  and the the entire time I was there while she was waiting for
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  her wash, the whole time, she was putting in the dryer, she
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  was. Talking loudly.
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  Anyone could hear her and she was talking about how she's made
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  poor decisions. How the she's so disappointed
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  with herself. All I could think of the entire
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  time was this this girl has no clue what these language
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  patterns are doing to her. She doesn't understand that how
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  you speak to yourself, affects everything.
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  What you are saying to yourself, affects the entire well-being.
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  Of your, your soul. So to speak.
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  You're in there. And you are telling yourself all
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  this negative stuff over and over again.
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  There is no chance that you're going to get out of it because
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  you're just entrenched in the belief systems that are that
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  negativity. You are causing a huge piece of
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  that to keep showing up. When you tell yourself, you're
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  stupid, your brain believes it. We are wired to believe what we
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  hear about ourselves from our self, so that's why it's so hard
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  to unwind. Wire negativity because we
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  believe our voice is to be true. And you if you are regular
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  listener and you've heard me say before a really quick way to
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  help yourself is to record positive messages to yourself in
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  your own voice and then listen back to them.
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  Well, that's because we are wired to believe what we hear
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  from our own voice and the opposite of that is incredibly
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  true. That if we keep hearing how
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  stupid we are from ourselves, we are going to believe that, and
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  we are going to live into that, and then we are going.
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  To be stuck. And we are going to go down that
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  road of just being an utter Despair and not being able to
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  get out of it. So today I want to talk to you
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  and remind you just to please pause and listen to what you are
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  saying to yourself. I don't care how small you catch
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  yourself doing this. It's the rain barrel, the poison
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  in the rain barrel analogy. Meaning, if I have a giant rain
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  barrel filled with fresh, wonderful water, And I put One
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  Drop of Poison in it and I say to you, hey, you know what, I'd
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  love to share some water with you.
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  Come on, let's go to my rain barrel.
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  It's the most amazing water. It's been, you know, right out
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  of a Crystal Spring and it's been here and it's ice cold and
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  it's ready to go over. By the way, I just put one drop
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  of cyanide in it but don't worry about it because it's so
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  diluted. It won't.
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  It won't do anything to you. You'd look at me, like I was
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  insane. You'd say, I'm not going to
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  drink that water. I have no intention of drinking
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  that water because it had one Drop of Poison and Logical brain
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  would say, I'm done with that, not touching it.
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  But that's what you do when you speak like that to yourself.
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  That those drops of poison are within you all the time and if
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  you don't stop and pause and clear that out, you are
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  effectively drinking that water from the rain barrel that has a
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  drop of poison in it. So I want you to stop today.
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  I want you to think about what you're telling yourself and for
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  the love of God and all that's holy listen.
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  Into yourself and say, no, this is unacceptable.
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  I'm not going to treat myself that way.
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  I'm going to stop. I'm going to say better things.
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  If you're angry with yourself about something, you can say it
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  in a better way. You can say I was very
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  frustrated with myself right now.
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  And how I acted with this? You can say I made a poor
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  choice. Those might be very true facts,
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  but you don't have to say, I am stupid.
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  I am an idiot. I am so dumb.
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  You don't have to talk about yourself like that.
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  Any other negative way you might have found in this little
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  Discovery process. So go discover go figure it out
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  and change it and please find some positive words to say about
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  yourself. Even if you're just celebrating
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  small little silly things do it. It matters.
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  All right, my friends. I will see you tomorrow.
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  Have a great day. Bye.