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Ashley’s Baby Shower – Evolve Your Journey! · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with i R Radio. This is such a big episode,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, incredibly big episode. Ashley. We're celebrating you. We are,
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  Speaker 1: We're celebrating the evolution of my journey. Um. We have
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  Speaker 1: both had big gears as far as evolving, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because well, you got married, I'm having a baby. We
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  Speaker 1: started business. I bought a house. You like bought a
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  Speaker 1: house this year too. Like we just I mean, we're
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  Speaker 1: adulting and apparently it's very chuggy to be calling it
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  Speaker 1: adult ing today. Did you know that? Okay, do you
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  Speaker 1: know what the word choogie is? Ben? I don't. I don't,
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  Speaker 1: but we did just have a second voice come in
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  Speaker 1: so with us right now is Ashley's sister, one of
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  Speaker 1: our favorite people in the world, Lauren, who is also
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  Speaker 1: going to celebrate Ashley and hello evolution and how she's
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  Speaker 1: evolved her journey of the last year. We're gonna bring
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  Speaker 1: Lauren in just a second because we have a lot
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  Speaker 1: to talk about as she becomes an aunt. But actually,
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  Speaker 1: you're right, we have had a huge year, both of us,
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  Speaker 1: and it feels like we're maturing right before the audience's eyes.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, we have Um. You know, it's a cliche
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  Speaker 1: to say in the Bachelor world, you know, the word journey,
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  Speaker 1: but like you and I have really been on quite
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  Speaker 1: the journey since being on the franchise. And today, yes,
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  Speaker 1: we are celebrating it with Hyundai, which is amazing. Um.
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  Speaker 1: They they're all about evolving your journey, and today they're
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  Speaker 1: helping me celebrate the baby boy in my belly. They
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  Speaker 1: have sent over some incredible gifts, um that you guys
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  Speaker 1: can't see right now, but oh my gosh, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I'm in an you kidding me? That was exactly
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  Speaker 1: what I was going to say, you off off the mic.
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  Speaker 1: I was telling Ben. I was like, those are like
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  Speaker 1: the toys that like the I was so jealous of that,
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  Speaker 1: like the stuffed animals that were like way too expensive
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  Speaker 1: that I never like, I never thought mom and dad
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  Speaker 1: would we couldn't you know? Those were like the rich
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  Speaker 1: kid toys. I have these huge stuffed animals that Hyundai
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  Speaker 1: UM has given us for the nursery and a big
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  Speaker 1: like um, like a car and a train set. It's
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  Speaker 1: so cool and I'm so grateful for them and thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much. Yeah yeah, yeah, Um. Anyway, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to hand the mic over to Lauren so she can explain, um,
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  Speaker 1: what she's been with how she's been with me through
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  Speaker 1: out the past eight months. You guys can have like
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  Speaker 1: some fun chat right now. All right, Well, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what she's been like on the podcast, but it's
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  Speaker 1: been I don't know, want to say, like messy, just
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  Speaker 1: in general MESSI forgetfulness, blunders, I don't know, like overall
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  Speaker 1: asthetically messy. Um, yeah, I forgetful. Like we were like
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  Speaker 1: packing up the car this week and just it took
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  Speaker 1: two to three hours just to get out of the
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  Speaker 1: house because she forgot like a million things. So hopefully
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  Speaker 1: once baby Haven comes that it'll be a little less foggy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: is that the name? Yeah? Baby Haven? The first I
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  Speaker 1: was like, is pretty, but haven Haven would be weird.
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  Speaker 1: So um, Laurena, you know, I do feel like we
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  Speaker 1: have gotten a fairly good glimpse of Ashley on this podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Really for the last few months, she hasn't hit much.
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  Speaker 1: But if you're in a flashback twelve months ago, M hmm,
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  Speaker 1: what in yours your saying? Hey, once Ashley is pregnant,
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  Speaker 1: this is how I envision Ashley being. Oh I'm puffy,
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  Speaker 1: I envisioned Ashley to be puffy, uh, like her feet
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  Speaker 1: always in the air, elevated, puffy. Whenever I think of
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  Speaker 1: her as pregnant. Before I knew she was pregnant, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, her lips would be enormous and her feet
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  Speaker 1: would be enormous. Um. Generally crying all the time, which
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  Speaker 1: is very on brand. She hasn't been crying a lot though,
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  Speaker 1: really hasn't been Maybe the past like two weeks, maybe
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  Speaker 1: a little bit emotional just because of stress and everything
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  Speaker 1: else going on. But overall, besides her being kind of
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  Speaker 1: like forgetful and whatnot, she's pretty even keeled emotionally, you know.
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  Speaker 1: So where have you stepped in then, Lauren? So where
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  Speaker 1: do you see your role being for the last few months? Um?
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  Speaker 1: If we live closer to each other, I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I would be delivering her a lot of Duncan donuts
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  Speaker 1: and McDonald's if I could. Um, I haven't been able
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  Speaker 1: to do that. My My role is basically to get
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  Speaker 1: her whatever food or drinks she needs. But after baby, I'm,
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  Speaker 1: you know, very open to becoming a living nanny, being
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  Speaker 1: there at all hours. It's so weird, like you see
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  Speaker 1: so many people go through pregnancy it's like, oh yeah, obviously,
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  Speaker 1: people get pregnant all the time, delivered babies all the time.
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  Speaker 1: But you don't realize like how cool it is unless
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  Speaker 1: you're like you're literally watching a belly grow every single
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  Speaker 1: day with someone you're so close with. Talk about how
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  Speaker 1: you she's the only person who cares about feeling movement
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  Speaker 1: on my belly. My mom cares, you know, my mom cares,
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  Speaker 1: But Lauren, she really feels the belly. Jared has no
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  Speaker 1: patience for waiting for movement. How could you not have patience?
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  Speaker 1: You put your hand on a belly, that's all I
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  Speaker 1: gotta do, and then you feel a person swimming inside
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  Speaker 1: of you. It's it's really one of my favorite pastimes.
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  Speaker 1: And also locating the head in the butt in there
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  Speaker 1: because it's a little hard hard spot. No, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: And just in case people don't know, you guys are
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  Speaker 1: very close. So when you say you would be delivering
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  Speaker 1: food to her, you'd be around a lot if you
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  Speaker 1: guys live in the same or you're not. It's very true.
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  Speaker 1: But you I'm sure you're talking all the time, right
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  Speaker 1: all the time. I call her, We're probably talking phone
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  Speaker 1: twice a day maybe, And I just say how how
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  Speaker 1: are you feeling? How's the baby? You know? Uh, it's
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  Speaker 1: um yeah, I mean I wish I could be closer
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  Speaker 1: every every day, but um, she'll be here for the
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  Speaker 1: next two months, so then I'm sure a lot of
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  Speaker 1: duties will be taken over. I've officially taken off working
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  Speaker 1: in like February. I tell everyone, like, you have an
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  Speaker 1: appointment with me, but that's tentative unless I want to
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  Speaker 1: go see my nephew. Shout out to Lauren's hairdressing. Uh,
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  Speaker 1: you know business if you want, reach out to her
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  Speaker 1: at Lauren AI on Instagram, just DM herlous so thank you,
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  Speaker 1: thank you, and really just reach out for extensions. That's
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  Speaker 1: all I want to do. Okay. But on on another note, Um, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm delivering at the hospital that my dad has
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  Speaker 1: worked at for the past twenty seven years here in
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  Speaker 1: Northern Virginia. I just knew that I would be more
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  Speaker 1: comfortable delivering somewhere where I was so familiar with and
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  Speaker 1: you know a couple of doctors there or whatever. Ye like,
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  Speaker 1: I'll probably know the person who gives me the epidural. Um,
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  Speaker 1: you know, a little a little bit of the royal
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  Speaker 1: treatment maybe, and like my doctor. My dad's known seriously
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  Speaker 1: for almost as probably as long as he's been there,
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  Speaker 1: So it's just like very comforting for me. And Jared
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  Speaker 1: will probably be down here like every ten days until
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  Speaker 1: we have a better idea like what I'm gonna blow now.
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  Speaker 1: I just want to plan out that I, Jared, and
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  Speaker 1: I will both be in the deliverance. But I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to tell you yes, so if you guys want content,
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  Speaker 1: let me know. So when Jared passes out, which we
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  Speaker 1: think he might, Lauren is going to take over as support. I.
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  Speaker 1: I can just see it this way, like for whatever reason,
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  Speaker 1: I've in my mind Ashley yelling Jarard Jared just hitting
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  Speaker 1: the deck. Uh, it's gonna be you know that I
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  Speaker 1: yelled Jared's name like that because on the podcast every
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  Speaker 1: once in a while, so like have the dogs barking,
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  Speaker 1: or they'll be a delivery guy at the door and
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  Speaker 1: you'll go. She has never said a name more in
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  Speaker 1: her life. Yes, Um, now, lord, a little bit about
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  Speaker 1: this process for you, because I'm sure as sisters you
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  Speaker 1: grew up you know talking about this. What for you personally,
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  Speaker 1: what has the emotions been knowing that you're about to
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  Speaker 1: be an aunt? And also the emotions around when you
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  Speaker 1: found out that actually was pregnant. Um, you have to
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  Speaker 1: go watch the video and Jared, there is a video.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just I'm screaming in shock. I just you know,
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  Speaker 1: they were trying for a couple of months, and like
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  Speaker 1: every time she would tell me like she wasn't pregnant,
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  Speaker 1: I get like super sad and almost more sad than Ashley.
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  Speaker 1: And so when she said like she was pregnant, like
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  Speaker 1: I just I just couldn't believe it happened. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: just screaming so excited. Immediately went out and bought him
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  Speaker 1: dog Martin's. Um. But yeah, I feel like it's just
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  Speaker 1: not going to hit me until I see him. Like
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  Speaker 1: I'm super excited, but I really don't have like I
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  Speaker 1: don't even know what to expect. I don't even know
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  Speaker 1: how to hold a child. How much nicer is it
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  Speaker 1: to be an aunt for the first like, because I
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  Speaker 1: didn't become an aunt until like, so I just became
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  Speaker 1: an aunt for the first time six weeks ago, and
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  Speaker 1: it's it's like nice. She's like I kind of know
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  Speaker 1: what my sister in law is currently going through, what
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  Speaker 1: she went through. How does it feel for you to
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  Speaker 1: be able to like watch the experience. First. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: it's nice to have, you know, to learn from you
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  Speaker 1: and you know, like a trial run for me. But
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  Speaker 1: then again, it will be so much less exciting when
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  Speaker 1: mine comes out and it's nowhere nearest cute. Laurence convinced
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  Speaker 1: oar kid's gonna be cuter than hers. That's a nice
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  Speaker 1: humble place to sit. Well, obviously, as we've talked about, um,
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  Speaker 1: this whole year for you and Lauren has been about
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  Speaker 1: evolving your journey, and the evolution of your journey actually
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  Speaker 1: over the last year has been something incredible. Now I
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  Speaker 1: want to poster a second because I know how this
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  Speaker 1: is gonna go. People are gonna be like, are you
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  Speaker 1: kidding me? Jared isn't gonna be around the last two
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  Speaker 1: months of this pregnancy. He's gonna be gone. Explain how
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  Speaker 1: busy Jared is already, and like, actually, how you came
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  Speaker 1: to the decision that he is going to be gone? Uh,
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  Speaker 1: and that you're gonna go down and spend some time
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  Speaker 1: with your parents and your sister. Well, definitely, ideally, I
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  Speaker 1: I think when this all started, like the idea that
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  Speaker 1: I was going to deliver at you know, my dad's hospital. Um,
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  Speaker 1: we didn't think it would so much align with the
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  Speaker 1: time that we opened the business, so I was just like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: Jared and I are gonna live with my parents for
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  Speaker 1: you know, five weeks together. Um, And then once the
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  Speaker 1: BIS this opening did align with it, it was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it's okay because he's at work genuinely at
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  Speaker 1: least twelve hours a day, so it's not like we'd
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  Speaker 1: be spending so much quality time together anyway. And it's
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  Speaker 1: not like I'm just like this bustling, like fun person
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  Speaker 1: to be with right now, you know. So we would
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  Speaker 1: see each other for like an hour at night. I
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  Speaker 1: miss him very much, like and I want him to
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  Speaker 1: be here, but calm down, he's gonna be coming down
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  Speaker 1: multiple times. And I think about like all the other
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  Speaker 1: couples out there who have to spend even further amounts
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  Speaker 1: of time apart, like my sister in law, who just
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  Speaker 1: you know, delivered a baby six weeks ago. She went
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  Speaker 1: an entire year without seeing her husband because he was
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  Speaker 1: stationed in the military and she was pregnant throughout the
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  Speaker 1: entire thing alone. So five weeks with Jared coming to
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  Speaker 1: make sporadic visits and being with my family. It's all good.
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  Speaker 1: Is even though unconventional I understand. I do think this
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  Speaker 1: is the best decision for for me and my body.
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  Speaker 1: Being unconventional is fine. It's worked for us. Right, you
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  Speaker 1: met a gun in reality show? Well, hey, I want
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  Speaker 1: to pause here. We've mentioned it before, but we are
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  Speaker 1: celebrating Ashley and Jared and the new baby with Ashley's family,
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  Speaker 1: some incredible guests this episode, and it's thanks to Hyundai.
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  Speaker 1: This is an incredible baby shower. Ashley has been thrown
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  Speaker 1: the best baby shower with the help of Lauren and
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  Speaker 1: her mom and others. They've set up. Uh, this room
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  Speaker 1: for them is full of some of the greatest gifts
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  Speaker 1: any child and any parent could imagine. Thank you, Hyundai.
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  Speaker 1: It's incredible to have you a part of this evolution
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  Speaker 1: of Ashley and Jared's journey to this point in time.
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  Speaker 1: We're so pumped to celebrate two of you. Hey, let's
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  Speaker 1: take a break here. When we come back, we'll be
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  Speaker 1: still with Ash's sister Lauren, and we're also gonna play
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  Speaker 1: a game led by Ashley. Alright, guys, we are going
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  Speaker 1: to make predictions with all of our guests. We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: ask them the same questions. But right now we want
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  Speaker 1: to start out with Ben and Laurence answers to these questions. So, guys,
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  Speaker 1: my due day is February. What do we think the
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  Speaker 1: actual date of birth will be? Um? Okay, February fifth.
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  Speaker 1: I was going to February third. Okay, so we're all
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  Speaker 1: thinking early. Definitely not late. There's no way actually has
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  Speaker 1: the patients to go late. No sho, He's already trying to, like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, make this happen. Yes. Uh, I would say,
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  Speaker 1: I would say somewhere right around there, like the third
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  Speaker 1: through the sixth um birth weights. So this is something
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  Speaker 1: that I've talked about multiple times. I'm worried about it. Um.
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  Speaker 1: Jared was ten, he was ten to his mom didn't
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  Speaker 1: have an epidul She apparently didn't think it was a
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  Speaker 1: thing in she was sorely wrong. Um. But anyway, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so I I'm gonna go with I'm gonna make my
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  Speaker 1: own predictions. I'm gonna go with eight pounds. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: go with a cool uh seven pounds eight ounces. I
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  Speaker 1: have a feeling this is gonna be seven pounds two ounces.
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  Speaker 1: Like I think this baby is going to be one
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  Speaker 1: of those that it's born long and like lean, and
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  Speaker 1: then it just gets so chunky, like three months in. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: he's gonna be chunky. Actually, one of my prayers, and
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  Speaker 1: I mean this, I'm gonna write it on my phone,
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  Speaker 1: for the prayers that I actually pray and not just
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  Speaker 1: saying I would pray for you, one of my prayers
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  Speaker 1: will be got give Ashley somehow, either the confidence, the
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  Speaker 1: courage or to or just like help her not have
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  Speaker 1: a ten pound baby. Yeah, yeah, I cannot imagine what
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  Speaker 1: we want a chunky baby because they're so cute with
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  Speaker 1: a great jaw line. I'm sorry. The next one, oh okay,
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  Speaker 1: the next one Lauren is very well aware of and
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  Speaker 1: the world will be aware of very soon because Ben, Ben,
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  Speaker 1: do you know the name of my child? I do
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  Speaker 1: not know. Okay, so now you don't get to guess Tom. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: well it's a good guess, but it's not right. In
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  Speaker 1: all honesty, I think I could see you guys going
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  Speaker 1: with like um Man. That's hard today because names have
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  Speaker 1: gotten so like out there and different. But the first word,
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  Speaker 1: the first name that came to mind, was like a Trevor.
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  Speaker 1: But I don't think it's gonna be Trevor. Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 1: Good name. But now I do like the name Trevor,
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  Speaker 1: and I think that Trevor's turned out to be pretty hot. Usually,
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I guess the goal is for your
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  Speaker 1: son to be hot. Well, is that something you know?
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  Speaker 1: Is that something you guys think of, because yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to, Yeah, you wanna, you want a cool
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  Speaker 1: kid in school, but you think of you think about
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  Speaker 1: them being a stud. Yeah, because so you know, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: when we talk about baby names, Jessica doesn't know like
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  Speaker 1: people of my past from high school or middle school
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  Speaker 1: or whatever, and she'll say a name and I'll be like,
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  Speaker 1: we can't. She's like why, I'm like, because that reminds
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  Speaker 1: me of this person and they weren't tight, Like, they
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  Speaker 1: weren't nice, they weren't cool. But there are those names
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  Speaker 1: that when you say, they have this like feeling of
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  Speaker 1: that's gonna be a cool kid. Lauren won't let me
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  Speaker 1: like name a kid. This wasn't a top choice for
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  Speaker 1: a boy. It actually probably would be a top choice
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  Speaker 1: for a girl. Um Logan because she dated a Logan.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah that's pretty normal, Lauren. That was so many years ago. Okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: but apparently she gets really mad. But let me flip
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  Speaker 1: it around on you and how where does that feel?
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  Speaker 1: But like that would be like you coming up with
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  Speaker 1: a guy that I had a crush on for like
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  Speaker 1: a year versus Okay, I guess it is a long time.
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  Speaker 1: She's so mean. I guess that is a long time. Okay, Okay, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm wrong. I'm wrong. I'm wrong, I'm wrong. Al right.
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  Speaker 1: Next question, the color of the outfit that the baby
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  Speaker 1: is gonna go home in. I wanted to be in
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  Speaker 1: a neutral gray. Lauren is like my stylists when things
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  Speaker 1: are important, so I'm probably gonna let her choose the color.
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  Speaker 1: It might be like an olive. Actually, zero chance that
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  Speaker 1: baby is not going home in a New England New
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  Speaker 1: England Patriots outfit. Zero chance he might have to come
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  Speaker 1: home and like a Tom ones, know that somebody's gonna
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  Speaker 1: send it to you. You're gonna buy one that we
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  Speaker 1: have them. There's times don't send us anymore, send them
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  Speaker 1: to us, but in like different sizes. We have enough
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  Speaker 1: zero to three months in Pat's and tom stuff. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: And lastly, Ben Lauren, which parent is the baby going
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  Speaker 1: to look most like? They look like twins either way,
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  Speaker 1: you know, Ashley, and Jared have similar features. So, um,
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  Speaker 1: I think Jared, because on the ultrasound, had a very
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  Speaker 1: strong chin, and Jared has more like distinguished and distinct
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  Speaker 1: fature features, you know, from his eyes to his like
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  Speaker 1: his cheek muscle, cheek bones like, so those things are
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  Speaker 1: going to transfer, I think. And no matter what, Ashley
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  Speaker 1: and Jared's noses are similar, but Ashley's nose is very
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  Speaker 1: like distinct. I think it has Ashley's nose and everything
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  Speaker 1: else really looks like Jared. But yeah they don't. It's
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  Speaker 1: gonna look like Ashley and Jared. They look the same
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  Speaker 1: thing the same way. Well, thanks, ben, I said. If
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  Speaker 1: there's one thing on their face that I'd, if I
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  Speaker 1: had to pick, would rather come from my face than yours,
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: I say it is the nose. But your nose is
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: very adorable to babe. So either way, you've always claimed
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: that you you believe you have a great nose, and
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I think you have a great nose. Ashley. Thanks, thank you,
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: thank you, Benning. You know, it just really annoys me
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: and people think that I got a nose job. It's like, no,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: I didn't, Lauren, It I wasn't as blessed Lauren. Real
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: quick before we let you go here. UM, any encouraging
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: words for Ashley over the next two months as she
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: finalizes this and that you're gonna be with her for it.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: And then finally, UM, before you send off, we'd love
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: once again to remind people where they can follow you
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: and find you. But of course, UM, encouraging words. I
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: think that there's just gonna be so much help. And like,
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: I'm glad that Mom is going to be there showing
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: you the ropes. You're not going to be alone and
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: you're going to be delivering in a great place with
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: literally Jared and I buy your side. There's something to
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: be scared of. You're gonna have a beautiful epidural and um,
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: and I think you're it's gonna be less Gary. Then
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: you think so, I mean, I have no idea what
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about, but I think it'll be fine. That's great.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: And then Lauren, Um, you can follow me at Lauren
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: AI and follow the I don't get a podcast. Oh
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: that's right, yeah, go get the Dame's plug for the
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: other podcast. Actually, I am curious. I know he said
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: we'd go here, but I am curious. A question came
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: up with Laura's talking so when are you going to
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: go back to Rhode Island with the baby? Then? I
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: think probably like three weeks after. We'll see, we'll see
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: if that's like cool with you know, the pediatrician and stuff,
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: that would be that would be idea sweet awesome. Well, Lauren,
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: you gonna be the best day ever. Best of luck
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: as you enter into these next two months with the crying,
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: emotional uh. I once called her beautiful Lauren, and I
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: got very strongly corrected to say, I don't feel beautiful
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: right now, so I'm not going to say that, but
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: You're going to be the best. Yeah, she put your
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: head off. I'm sorry, but yeah, Lauren, I'm very uh.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Ash was very lucky to have you here for the
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: next two months and your mother so best. Thank you,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: thank you so much. I was lovely being here. Thank
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: you for having me. After the break, we'll talk more
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: about evolving our journey with other bachelor moms who have
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: evolved their journeys, sometimes multiple times here over the last year.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: There we go, We'll be back al right, guys, Lauren
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: lion Dike is on the line. Hey, Lauren, thanks for
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: being here. Hi, How are you good? How are you
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: pretty good? How long are you Actlee, I have. I'm
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: thirty five and a half weeks, which is like this
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: really weird point that like I was craving to be
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: at for the longest time and now I'm like, okay, wait,
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: I'm scared. I'm like no, wait, stay in, no come out,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: stay in no, come out. It's like all dependent on
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: the hour. I remember that. Yeah, describe where you were
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: at this point. Well maybe maybe with a Lessie Twins
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: the Twins, you must have been dying to get out. Yeah,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: at this point with the twins, I think I had
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: like a week left, so I was very ready. Um.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: But with Lessie, I think I was kind of in
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: the same place as you. I was like so excited
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: to be there, and then as soon as I got there,
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, am I ready for birth? I
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: don't know, um, but yeah, I also felt ready at
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: the same time because I was very swollen and just
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: like puffy all over. It was really uncomfortable. So the
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: puffy is kind of setting in. I thought I was
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: going to be puffy way longer than this, but like
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: I can start, I'm really starting to see it in
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: my face. I'm like, this is the time where I
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: should retire from life. You know, I shouldn't leave the house.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: I think this is the last time I should leave
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: the house. I think I want to ask you because
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: you just said, like, am I ready for birth? That
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: is my number one fear, Like I cannot get over
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: that hump of like what it's going to be like
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: the first week of having him, because I'm just so
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: I'm like, that moment of my life will be after
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: I experienced the scariest moment of my life. So it's
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: delivery really the scariest moment of your life. No, honestly,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: I was afraid of it, probably where at the point
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: where you're at right now. And then by the time
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: I got really close to the end, I was like, Okay,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I'm ready, like just get her out right now, Like
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: can you induce me any day? I was just like
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: I didn't even care about the fear anymore. I was
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: just like ready for it to be done. So I
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: think you'll probably get there too. Um and then right
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: after like you don't really even think about that anymore.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: You're you know, you're taking care of your newborn, and
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: you're sleep deprived and you're really busy, and it's just
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: all new and you're learning a lot, so I think
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: you'll forget about it. Pretty crazy. That tends to me
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: with Will say, it's like you're so ready that it's
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: not even scary anymore. Um, okay, so that's the first
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: couple of weeks. Now these are other things that I
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: have no idea. I haven't read any books. Have you?
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: Did you read any books or anything like that to
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: prepare you for? Like how do I know how often
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: to feed them? How do I know how to swaddle?
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: You'll you'll learn. I mean I didn't read any books,
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: which I probably should have. I think a lot of
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: my friends that's what they did to prepare. But for me,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I did some classes like taking care of babies was
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: what Ari and I did when Alessie was like four
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: weeks old. I think, um, and that was really helpful.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: So I would look into that so kind of like
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: teach you how to feed, how often? How do swaddle?
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: All of that? You'll be fine. And you did that together.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: You and Aria did that together. Do you recommend Jared
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: and Ashley both doing these? Yeah? Totally. You guys have
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: to be on the same page, so he's got to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: do it with you too. How do you guys, I'm
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: sorry I have that freaking flim the baby post. Nobody
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: talks about it, but like of women like experience it throughout.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: I'm learning so much Lauren through Ashley's pregnancy, like being
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: able to talk to her every week has been such
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: like I'm sitting here right now, I'm gonna be very
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: quiet today, not on purpose, but because like I don't
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: even know what to ask, like I have zero idea
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: what's going on. Um, I'm learning as we go here.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: But so Ashley, I don't know if we talked about
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: this in a while, Lauren, if you didn't know Ashley
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: for a long time, and if I'm sharing too much,
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Like again, I don't know what I'm talking about anymore.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: For a long time, was sick like every day. Actually
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I haven't asked you, are you still sick often? And
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: then this flim thing is a thing like that happens.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: It doesn't happen to everybody, but it happens to a lot.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: It's one of those things that people don't talk about.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: And we're in the morning now, and this is when
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: it's bad for me in the morning, and I definitely
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: have to like eat when I wake up because if
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: not I have like a stomach full of mucus and
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: that really leads to a lot of nausea for me.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: But no, the past four weeks have been really good. Um,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: I don't think I've thrown up for about four weeks.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: It was like two weeks after your wedding that I
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: started to like just just be fine, Victory, Yeah, you've
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: been sick this whole time. Yeah, I was. I was.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: I threw up through like twenty seven weeks four things.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: It was not good, Lauren. Is there anything that you
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: experienced throughout pregnancy or early motherhood that you just did
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: not have any idea existed. Well, now that you're talking
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: about the whole like congestion stuff, I had this weird
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: thing towards the end where my mouth like swelled up
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: and I couldn't talk very well, so I just sounded
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: like my mouth was full all the time. It was
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: really weird and I hated it, but I at it
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: with both a Lessie and the twins. That's so weird.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I haven't heard of that. But you know what I've
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: had is that DS kenesia where it's just like it
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: tastes my mouth tastes bad, Like I'll brush my teeth,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: and ten minutes later it'll taste like I just woke
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: up and didn't brush my teeth again, which is like
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: also common. They say it tastes like metal, like you
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: had a whole bunch of pennies in your mouth. That's
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: that's like apparently the most common taste. But then there's
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: also just like the old there's like the overall bad taste.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: So I haven't tasted pennies, but I just taste an
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: overall badness, and it sucks because it makes you want
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: to eat even more than you want to eat, because
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: you just like when you have food in your mouth,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: you don't taste that, and then when you don't, you're like,
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: it's your breast apparently not like nobody says that they
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: smell it, but like it just tastes really stale. I know, okay,
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: but so tell me something about like the first week
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: of being with the baby that you never expected. Um,
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: the first week, Well, I don't really I don't remember
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: specifically the first week, but I do know when Alessia
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: was a newborn, I was like so protective over her.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't even let Already take care of her without me.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: I didn't trust anyone with really Yeah, I don't know.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: Maybe that was just me and maybe that's like a
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: new mom thing. But I was so protective. Are you
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: would literally be like trying to sit on my lap
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: while I was breast beting her. He wanted to be
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: like involved, I'm like, get away. I was like, I
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: don't know. I was really kind of weird when I
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: first had her. Is that is that like instinctual? I've
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: always been curious because you hear like the mama bear
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: come out like once the child is born. Did you
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: expect that out of yourself or is that just that
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: just how been? That was a total surprise to me.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: I thought that I would be able to take a
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: nap and like let Lessie or let Ali take care
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: of her and I would be fine. But it was
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: not that way. I mean, I think my hormones were
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: just out of control. So I was kind of crazy.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: But maybe not everybody gets that way. No, that's actually
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: a great point to bring up. How did you ever
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: get like any sort of postpartum depression? Did you how
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: long did it take for you to feel emotionally and
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: physically normal again? Or did do you ever feel physically
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: and emotionally normal again, Yeah, you do. UM. I think
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: with a Leslie I didn't really experience postpartum propression. I
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: did a little bit with the twins um, but with
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: a Lessie. I just feel like you kind of have
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: this a little identity crisis when you first have your
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: first baby, because you go from being you know, just
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: worrying about yourself and being kind of selfish and like
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: having all this time, and then you have this little
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: baby you have to take care of, and it just
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: kind of changes the way that you view yourself. And
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: I think I kind of panicked at first when I
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: first had her. I was like, I don't want to
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: be just a mom, and I was like so afraid
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: that I would only be a mom once I had her.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: But after she was a little bit older, I felt
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: like I could get myself back again and I would
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: just like my one piece of advice about that is
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: just remember that temporary and like you'll get your time
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: back and it'll be okay again. Okay, Okay. That makes
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: me feel good because that's actually like big fear that
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: I've been thinking about more and more lately. It's just
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: how do I kind of like continue my own life
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: on the child be part of it because there's so
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: many people that I feel like after they had a baby,
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: like they don't know themselves anymore. So is there any
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: tip to like get into that zone? Do you have? Yeah?
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: I mean I feel like from what I know about
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: you and Charity Eyes are a pretty good team. So
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: I feel like you guys will be able to kind
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: of about things off of each other. So like, if
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: you need time for yourself, He'll probably allow you to,
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: like like he'll take care of your baby while you
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: do something for yourself. But I think it's just important
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: to go do things that remind you of who you
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: are and things that you enjoy. So don't make it
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: all about the baby all the time. You deserve to
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: have some me time too, right, Uh, Lauren, I'm gonna
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: lead us through a little game here in a second.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: Obviously today is about celebrating Jared and Nashley and there
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: soon to be baby boy. But before we play this game,
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: before I ask uh you and Ashley these questions, Uh,
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: what are you up to these days? Anything you want
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: to talk about promote and bring attention to. Um. Well,
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: I'm actually still kind of in the baby bubble with
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: the twins, so I'm just like, we're just climbing out
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: of the hard part now with them. They're seven months old. Um,
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: so Ari and I are. We are doing our YouTube,
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: so we're always like planning for that and doing videos
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: for that. So if anyone wants to keep up with
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: our family life there, you can do that. Um. We
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: I'm actually working on a new project that I can't
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: really talk about yet, but I will say it has
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: something to do with like the fashion industry that I'm
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: really excited about. Um. But other than that, like, I'm
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: just excited. We're going on our first trip just us
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: too for fun next week for our anniversary. So yeah,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: that's three years of marriage. Yea three years. Well, here's
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: the question. Here's how this is gonna work. Um, We'll
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: look out for the announcement of your new project. Will
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: be excited about that. And your YouTube is incredible if
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: anybody who doesn't want to follow it. It was recommended
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: to me, uh just to watch by somebody a couple
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: of months ago they said you gotta watch this, and
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: so I watched uh, probably five of your videos. They're
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: really well done, um, and so people should definitely go
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: out and check that out. So I'm gonna ask uh
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: three questions here your Lauren, if you don't mind, You'll
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: answer them according to how your household operates now, and
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: then Ashley will be predicting how her household will operate.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: We'll start each question with you answering. Lauren. Here's the
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: first question, who changes more of the diapers? It's about Ashley?
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: Who will change more than diaper? If Jared wasn't working
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: so much, I'd say that he would. Um, I say
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: that he's going to take more voluntarily, and I'll have
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: to do more because I'm the only one that makes sense.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: That makes sense, Lauren. Who is the more patient parents? Uh?
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: This is as well. You know we both have our
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: good and bad days. That's great, Hey, Ashley, who will
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: be the more patient parent? I'm not a very patient
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: person in general, but when it comes to like our
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: little cuties, I am so like I'm just referring to
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: our relationship with Lois um, so if it's anything like that,
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: I will be more patient than Jared. Lauren, who was
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: more nervous during labor and delivery? You'r ari definitely act
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: who will be more nervous for during labor and delivery?
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: You or Jared? I think this is almost fifty fifty,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: even though my fear is high. Um. He has a
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: tendency of I'm not sure if I've ever said this
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: on the podcast before fainting during fainting during UM, go ahead,
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: it's fine during vaginal trauma scenes and movies. He's fainted
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: twice in the movie theater, once during a C section
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: scene and then once during UM that bottle scene and gone, girl, wait,
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: why like is this just a is this like a
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: like do you know where that comes from? No? You know,
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: he feels he feels so deeply this is he could
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: um come, He'll come on and talk about this. It's
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: a very funny story. The one time the ambulance had
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: to come and his parents had to pick him up
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: from the r and they turned the lights up and
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: they stopped the movie and everything. Oh my goodness, Oh
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: my goodness. Can you imagine, Like how do your parents say,
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: are you okay? Jared? What happened? It's like this, there
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: was a C section for an alien. UM. Lauren, thank
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: you so much for joining us, so we're she the best.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: Thanks for sharing your story with us. Final final question
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: for you, Lauren, who do you think the child is?
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: Going to look most like Ashley or Jared. I don't know,
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: it's hard. I think initially probably Jared because I feel
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: like they always look like the dog. But yeah, maybe
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: you later on because he's a boy. We'll see. Who
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: do you feel like your kids look like? Um les
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: Se and Lux definitely look more like Ari, but I
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: think Steal looks more like my family. Okay, interesting, Yeah,
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: I would say that if I had to, like, I
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: can't pick I can't pick up your baby. Your baby
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: baby faces right now, but I'd say Unlessie probably definitely
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: looks more like Ari. H Yeah, everyone's fun. It was
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: really annoying the beginning. Well, Lauren Lindyke, thank you so
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: much for coming on. Best of luck with all the
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: things coming up in the future. Again, please go check
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: out her in Ari's YouTube, and thank you for being
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: a guiding mentor to Ashley. She enters into this new
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: season of of life for her. Thanks Lauren, good luck
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: at bye bye. All right, now we have Crystal Nielsen
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: joining us. Hey Crystal, how are you doing? Hi guys,
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: I'm so awesome Ashly, I'm so humped for you. Are
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: you pumped for me? I'm like so scared, like Jared
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: and I talk every day. We're like, did we make
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: a huge mistake? Because everyone Okay, So this is what's
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: funny when you when you're trying to get pregnant, people
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: are like, when are you gonna have kids? Like, oh
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: my god, you have to have kids, right, And then
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: you get pregnant and people are excited for you, but
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: then they also start saying things like um, get ready
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: to never sleep again and get ready and a goat
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: like comments on Instagram which are so annoying, And one
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: time I have like an actual emotional breakdown over it
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: where it was like, if you think pregnancy is tough,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: weight to you have the kids, like, oh my gosh,
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: eighteen years of your life. I'm like, I have been
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: throwing up for twenty seven weeks and you're telling me
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: it's going to get worse than this. What is going on?
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: So please tell me like that we that this is
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: all quote worth it, because that's that's also what everybody says,
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: So like, you know what, you know, it's the worst
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: part of it's the worst, it's the worst right now,
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: but it's worth it, you know. It's so funny like
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: with pregnancy and having a baby, like every cliche thing
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: you hear ends up being true, like there really is
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: a reason why people tell you that, and it really
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: is that. I think the biggest thing I wish I
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: could take back from my pregnancy was I had so
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: much anxiety about birth, about later and delivery, about what
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: about when the baby comes and I don't sleep and
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: baby only once me, And there was so much just
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: like stress and expectations that I had from fear of
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: other people kind of sharing that with me, and it
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: really took a lot of the joy away because the
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: real truth is, you know, you're you have intuition, and
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: then when you have a baby too, um, you're gonna
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: have that too. You're gonna have those instincts and you
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: know that baby, not all these people on Instagram, not
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: even like you know, close friends or family members, like
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: that's your baby and have that special bond and you
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: just got to listen to that and then you're just
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: gonna be so happy when that baby's in your arms.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: It is so going to be worth it. Ashley and Labory.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: Delivery wasn't that bad. It was actually really incredible fun experience.
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: I want to interject here for just a second, Um,
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: it is I've never said this out loud except to Jessica,
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: but like, it is one of my fears. And that's
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: why we just had Lauren Lindick on Crystal and I
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: kind of asked you the same question because it is
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: something on my mind often. I want to be a dad,
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: like I really do. I've always thought it, you know,
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: I could be a dad. I always like was like
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: envisioning that you're made to be a dad. But oh yeah,
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: but it's like there's this side of me that, uh,
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: some some evil or some voice slips in where it's like, uh,
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: but like nothing in your life is preparing you for that.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: Like you're you're too selfish. You you you barely like
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: find time for anything anything like friendships or anything there.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: You know, right now, how are you going to find
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: time for a child? And I asked Lauren, I said,
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: is it instinct? Like does it just kick it? Um?
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: Do you feel like is there a preparation you can
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: do leading up to that moment until the child is born?
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: Or does it just happen When you you're holding that
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: baby for the first time, you're going to know this
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: is it? It's just magic? It just happens. And I'd say,
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: like a big thing I know for me personally. I
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: also was really afraid to become a mom. A lot
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: of that I when I did some deeper work, realized
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: a lot of it was like self worth and like
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: fear of things repeating from my childhood into like a life.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: And that was so much pressure and stress and fear
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: there because it's the unknown, you don't know, but having
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: that fear to like keep you from experiencing this transformation
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: of yourself, like who you are as a person completely changes.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: And I heard this piece of advice which has been
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: my favorite, and it's that becoming a parent actually makes
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: you a better person because you're not just showing up
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: for yourself. You're not so selfish anymore. You're showing up
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: as a better person because your role modeling that in
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: front of someone, and so you get to really tap
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: into who you want to be as like as an
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: incredible person and influence for your child. So it's amazing
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: And I think that, like Asha was sharing, a lot
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: of women, we just kind of share the bad stuff
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: because it's it's memorable, it stands out. It's like, oh no,
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: I had it worse. I was saying, you know or whatever,
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: like here my labor story, and there's almost like pride
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: in it. Um, but we should. I really wish that
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: talking about the beauty of becoming a parent was a
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: little more memorable as opposed to the standout hard moments.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: Does that make sense. Yeah. I really enjoyed keeping it
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: real about the pregnancy because I feel like a lot
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: of people are afraid to talk about like their expectation
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: is that they're supposed to just be happy all the time. Um,
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: all that, And I'm glad that I've been really honest
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: about it. But it is so crazy that like the
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: aftermath of people are just like, well, you're in for it.
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: Your your life is going to change. And all Jared
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: and I are talking about over the past couple of
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: weeks now is like, are we gonna like our life
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: more afterwards than we liked it now? Oh yeah, you're
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: gonna love it. Gonna love it? Thank you? Yeah. And
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: we only fear things that we don't know. I was
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: actually just being a book by Dr Joe to spend
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: a break in the habit of becoming yourself. Have you
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: heard of him or that book? I think I may
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: have heard it from you talking about on Instagram. Probably
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: it's an incredible book, and he says, like we fear
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: the unknown, and so this practice of like visualization, when
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: we can actually walk through, for instance, buying house, getting married,
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: going through labor and delivery, welcoming that baby, when we
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: can sit and actually create a real memory, a real emotion,
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: and we can we can create this new reality of
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: the future we walk through it, it's not as scary
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: because we know what to expect. And that was a
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: big technique of visualization that I did preparing for labor
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: and delivery. It made me feel empowered as opposed to
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: being like what is going to happen? And we did
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: have like a scary situation, but I had done my research.
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: I spoke with my aunt who's a labor and delivery nurse,
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: and she told me, you know of some things to
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: anticipate and expect. So when you have the knowledge, you
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: feel confident going into situations. Well, thank you for that.
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: That Actually, that's a technique that I am am down
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: for and I think I will start trying and it's
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: gonna be easy and it's gonna be fun. And that's
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: just like the intention that you got a step for it.
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: Do you think do you think at all crystal too.
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: Like as we talked about these Instagram comments, and we
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: talked about people's individual experiences being a mother and a
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: father and kind of how they have experienced it. Am I.
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: I was talking to my buddy the other day, um,
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: who is a father of two now, and he said,
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: you know, at first, you would hear all this stuff
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: and you just kind of accept it, and you're like,
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna be tired, and I'm gonna be grumpy,
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna you know, everything, all my time is
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: gonna be taken away and all this stuff. You hear
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: all of this and you start to like internalize it,
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: and he goes, you know, what I've learned is that
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: parenthood is a lot of what you make of it.
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: Like if you look at this stuff as a as
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: a gift, if you look at it as fun and
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: a challenge. Uh, it doesn't have to be like this
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: crazy like oh my gosh, everything's changing type of thing.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: It's an enhancement to life you have before. Do you
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: believe in that at all? Absolutely? I mean the book
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: man searched for meaning. I mean, the guy was in
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: a concentration camp and he chose and a lot of
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: people could look at that as a very defeating moment
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: in their life, and he chose to search for the
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: meaning and it search for how this would empower him,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: and he came out and became this incredible speaker that
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: has influenced millions of lives. And so that's a big thing.
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: Is things happen to us. Some people can see him
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: as traumatic, some can see it as a blessing and
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: as an opportunity to get stronger. And that is a
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: ment resiliency that not only just parenthood, but thinking about,
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: you know, with your you know, fitness goals, or any
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: other situation in your life, that is exactly how you
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: empower yourself. So I'm totally with you there, Ben Crystal.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: We have a game that we want to play with you,
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: But first I have to ask you a little bit
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: about just like getting back into the health and wellness
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: journey after baby, because I was in the best shape
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: of my life when I got pregnant and then I
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: got super sick. You know, like I've said multiple times
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: in this podcast, over twenty weeks, couldn't really just couldn't
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: do anything right. And yeah, and now I'm at this
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: point where it's like hard you know, everything is getting
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: squished in my lungs and hard to breathe and all that,
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: and I'm like out of breath doing the simplest things,
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, how am I going to work my
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: way back into shape, especially when being so tired? So
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: please give me all your advice. You know what it's
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: like with any big goal or dream. I'm sure, like
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: starting this podcast, you just start with a vision of
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: where you want to go, and then you have a
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: little workback plan of little steps you can start taking. Um.
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: Like when I work with clients and they're like, I
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: want to lose fifty pounds, we can't get frustrated that
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: they don't lose fifty pounds in one week. We know
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: it's gonna take take time to put the fifty pounds on,
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: it's gonna take time to put take the fifty pounds off.
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: And pregnancy is the same way. It takes nine months
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: for you to build this beautiful baby and have your
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: body support it. And your body deserves some time and
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: deserves some space and some grace to slowly acclimate back
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: into this new um version of itself. And so the
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: best tips the things that I did is really small
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: and really simple, and this is what I've you know,
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: shared with all women is just focus on your hydration,
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: focus on foods that give you energy. Can be tempting
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: to go for a lot of unhealthy foods because they're
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: quick and easy, but you're really thinking about fueling your
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: body because you're fueling milk supply and every thing. And
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: just walking baby wearing and walking do it with Jared
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: gives you time together because you fresh air, gets you
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: out of the house. And most importantly, the sunshine is
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: great for baby because they learned how to balance their um.
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: I'm totally blanking on what it's called, but they're circadian rhythm,
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: so that is really great. And I'm always so happy
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: to be a resource for you, Ashley for like do
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: you questions because I did get prenatal certified while I
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: was pregnant to actually understand the human body as well
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: as postpartum. So so awesome book of resources for you.
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: I know you are and I will take it into Yeah,
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: I think a puppy comes before the baby. For me,
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm very much. I was. I was laughing
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: the other day I was driving my cars. You know,
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: I'm very much in a in a good spot. I
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: like where I'm at, But I was like, I'm gonna
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: just follow my friends and follow Ashley and Jared here,
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: and like I'll walk into this behind so that I
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: get all the hand me downs. It is. You're feeling
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: really good about my strategy right now, Crystal. We are
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: going to play a little game with you. The first
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: question I wanna ask, though, so how this game works.
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: We just played it with Lauren. You're going to answer
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: according to like where you're at in life, and then
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: Ashley answer into what her prediction will be. But the
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: first question is really just for you to answer for Ashley.
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: This is just a fun little tidbit. So actually get
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: your notebook out here. Uh, Crystal, what are the must
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: haves in a baby bag? And then what is non essential?
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: What ends up going to the bottom and never getting used,
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: like the diaper bag? Yeah, excellent questions. Will number one.
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: It should be a suitcase that you can wheel in.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: Absolutely a big one too. Um an outfit for you.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: We're talking about hospital back and we're talking about daily
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: diaper bag, diaper bag, the diaper bag. Oh okay, digestive
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: enzimes by Garden of Life for sure. Um, let's go
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: into every component opponent and that's me, snacks for me, um, diapers, wives,
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: and then change a couple of change of clothes. I
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: think that's really the essential um as well as some
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: baby talenttle and nail clippers. That's pretty much all you mean,
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: really really, that's so the baby bag doesn't have to
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: be massive, like you don't have to strap it around.
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: Clippers in the baby bag. You will be so surprised
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: how many times you're going to manicure that baby's nails
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: every week and a half. You've got to clip the nails.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: They're gonna cut you. I got some of those gloves
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: already and those little mittens. Yeah, yeah, Well here's the
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: questions Crystal again, you answer them according to where your
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: life is at now, and then n Ashley and some
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: predicting on where her and Jared will stand. So, Crystal,
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: who in your life takes the most pictures of the baby? Now?
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: You are included in this conversation as well, for sure me? Ashley,
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: who will take more pictures of the baby? For sure? Me?
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: And that alarms me because my eye cloud is already
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: totally It's just it's it's out of storage and I
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: have the most storage that you can buy an eye cloud.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: So my job in the next four weeks is to
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: just clear a ton out. That's a fun job. That's
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: when I found Jessica's picture on my phone because I
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: had taken it like six months when I had to
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: clean it up. Anyways, good story. Next question, Crystal. In
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: your life, who is the quickest to call the pediatrician
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: when the baby is sick? Miles is mom? I love it.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: I love it. Ashley, who will be the first to
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: want to call or call the pediatrician when the baby
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: is sick? Um, well, my dad's a doctor, so we're
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: going to have him, and you know, he's the first
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: call and and then afterward it would still be me
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: going to pediatrician. I think. Yeah, Crystal, who is or
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: will be the stricter parent? Oh? Maybe Miles, Yeah, maybe Miles. Yeah.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: He's really more discipline with our dogs. That's that's exactly
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: what I equate to. And that's what I was gonna say, Jared,
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: just because he's stricter with Lois. So he's also like
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: way more fun with Lois too. At the same time,
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: like he rough plays her. He's just like you know,
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: he'll he'll tackle her but like also when she's bad,
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: he's way more likely to go yeah and dogs and
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: need like an elf. Milt. We literally just have a
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: discussion like yesterday. But I feel like when and Dark
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: gets older, I might step in and be more strict
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: because like with her being a girl, I'm definitely gonna
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: be like, oh no, no, no, I know what you're doing.
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: I played those games very ner us for that stage.
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: So Ashley, who will be the stricter parent you or Jared? Jared,
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: no question, I'm a little bit gonna be more more
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: strict with education and like doing your homework and stuff,
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: But as far as manners and behavior goes, it'll be Jared.
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: There you go. What a team. Hey, Crystal, before we
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: like go here, thank you again for coming on. Any
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: updates in your life that you'd love to share with
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: anybody listening? Um, any updates? I mean, Miles and I
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: just put in our notice for our current place right now,
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: and we have sixty days to find somewhere to live.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: I haven't. We have no idea where we're going. Looking
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: at Nashville, we were we were looking to move out
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: of state. I think we're going to stay in San
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: Diego because I mean in San Diego, and you know,
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: our support unit most importantly is here, and I we
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: realize we really want and are to have that support
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: growing up. So um, that's just the big thing. Um.
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: I'd say, I'm definitely moving. I'm currently getting so to
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: find an NLP Neural linguistic programming UM. And I'm going
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: to be launching some group coaching to really work with
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: empowering women. UM. And I'm really pumped about it here
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: coming up in the next couple of months. You do
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: have some crazy stuff going on. You're gonna be moving,
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: You're starting a whole new program that's really exciting. And Crystal,
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: thank you for taking the time to come on and
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: talk to us and celebrate Jared Nashley and their future
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: baby boy. Oh thank you. And I just want to
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: say I'm so happy to connect with you guys because
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: both of you have had big life transitions happen recently.
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: Been congratulations on getting married, actually having a baby, becoming
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: a mommy. It's so amazing and I'm just so proud
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: to watch your guys journey. The whole theme of this episode,
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: Crystal is evolving your journey because we felt like the
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: last uh, you know, twelve months for us has really
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: you know, we've evolved this humans a lot, and just
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: in our experience, So thank you for for saying that
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: with us. Oh ah. And then thank you for that
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: adorable baby gift that you guys sent to Antara when
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: I announced our pregnancy. Because she still wears the Patagonia
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: vest and that little pink Furt jacket, so she killed
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: rocks that they fit her perfectly. So I think of
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: you guys every time I put it on. It looking fancy,
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: she's looking fancy. There you go. Well, thanks Crystal, guys.
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: By Hi, how are you guys? Good? How are you?
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: I'm okay? How are you feeling? It's weird. I feel
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: my best at thirty five weeks and I have the
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: entire time. Really yeah, I mean I know that's very rare,
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: and I think it's probably going to end soon. I mean,
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: it's it's inevitable that it's going to end. Baby. What
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: do you mean is I feel like I will probably
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: start feeling that like need for him to come out now,
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: just like you know, like just even turning around in bed,
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: it's just like totally okay, you can turn I can
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: sleep on my stomach. I mean I'm so excited to
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: sleep on my stomach. I'm a stomaic sleeper. She is
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: a stomach sleeper. Well, we are everybody listening. We have
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: the wonderful Trista Sutter on the podcast right now talking
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: with Ashley about everything good and everything to expect and
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: sharing all of her wisdom on parenthood. Trista, thanks for
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: joining Almost Famous. Thanks for having me. I'm so excited
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: to celebrate you and your baby boy. Thank you so much.
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: So We've had Lauren Lindyke and Crystal Nielsen on so far,
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: and both of them, you know, have kids in the
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: you know the baby face yea. And what I wanted
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: to talk to you about is what face since you
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: have teenagers has been your favorite? Because I expect that
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: I am going to like more being up a teenage phase.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: But like my dad, he started really like hanging out
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: with us when we got to like fourth grade, and
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: you can sit around the kitchen table and like have
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: actual conversations with them. What what like? Define the stages?
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: For me? It's so hard because honestly, I know this
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: is a total cop out, but I do love little
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: bits of every stage. I am a I'm a total
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: baby person. So if I see a baby in public,
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: I'm like booing and eyeing and like totally trying to
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: get their attention and love on them. I'm I'm a
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: huge baby mom. But I did really truly love when
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: they started talking. So it's kind of about sixteen months
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: old and they get that personality and and they just
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: start exploring expressing themselves, and so that was really fun.
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: But I do have to say right now, also Max's
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: fourteen and he's like wants nothing to do with us basically.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: But Blakesly, on the other hand, is twelve and she
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: is loving her mom right now. We have such a
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: great friendship. The other day she told me, Um, we
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: were just snuggling in bed and she said, Mom, you're
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: my favorite of all my friends, and I about I know,
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: I know. So so there are just sweet little moments
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: with everything. Of course, lots of it is really hard too,
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: but I really do love every phase. What was the
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: hardest phase? Oh goodness, Um, well, teenage years are definitely
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: not easy. Um, you know, it's it's difficult because I
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: wanted two kids, because I wanted them to have a
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: play partner to me too. Friends. I looked at myself
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: in the mirror today and I was like, you know,
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: out of breath with my lungs all compressed, and I'm like,
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: I can't believe I'm going to do this again. That
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: that so that he's you know, has to somebody, Ben,
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: we have to actually talk about that, because you are
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: an only child and you turned out fantastic. So yeah,
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: So that's why I kind of wanted to have a
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: sibling because I grew up as an only child. I
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: wanted them to have a play partner. And they really
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: are not close like that, and maybe they will be older,
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: but it's hard to see them. Kind of it's not
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: hard to see them in their own element because I
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: love seeing but both of them thrive independently. But I
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: also would love for them to be close. And also,
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: I you know, the kids, we were super close. I
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: mean I was stay at home. I'm still I still am,
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: and I always had a really close close relationship with
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: both of my kids. But now that the teenagers are
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: creeping in, the moodiness is setting in and they kind
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: of are disconnecting and establishing that independence. So that's that's
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: kind of hard. I don't know if you knew this, Astley,
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: but Tristan and I have a lot in common. We're
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: both Indiana University grads, so we both went to AYU.
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: We're both only children, Trista. That brings in a question
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: for me to you, then, did you feel all unprepared
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: when you did have two kids to figure out how
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: that operates? Because you know, you and I both grew
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: up without anybody else around. You know there's good and
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: bad to that, But did you feel like you could
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: help them build a friendship since you, as a child,
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: never really saw that with your sibling. Well, you know
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: what I did. I was lucky enough to have a
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: neighbor who kind of took me in because my parents
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: got divorced when I was in fifth grade and my
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: mom was still working, and so I would go to
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: my friend's house like growing up, that's where I was
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: all the time. And they had three kids, one older
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: daughter than me, one younger daughter than me, and one
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: younger son. So I kind of had siblings in that
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: relationship or that family relationship. Um, but I will say
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: that I think I got a lot of help from
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: my friends. Um, I had a lot of like mommy
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: and me. I went to a mommy and me group
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: when I was when Max was just I mean, he
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: was brand new, and I still one of my best
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: friends here is still from that group, and and they,
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: you know, we would always get together in these big
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: groups and I learned a lot from them. So I
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: think that it came from not only the relationship I
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: had growing up with my neighbor, but also from my
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: friends and just seeing how they were with their kids.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: Besides the fact that I was a pediatric physical therapist
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: for four years and so you know, I had UM.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: I had experiences with families who had multiple children in
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: my work environment before I had kids. UM with go ahead, up,
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: yeah I do. I'm gonna switch gears here, UM pretty drastically.
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: But I feel like this is a this is a
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: this is a question, maybe not a follow up another thought,
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: All good, all good, whatever action you want to go,
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: this is uh, this is something that is it? You know?
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 1: With Ashley and Jessica, I don't feel like it's gonna
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: be as big of an issue, But in my mind,
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: I'm very curious. Okay, can you have a glass of
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: wine or a couple of drinks while you're breastfeeding or
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: there's a term that I've heard pump and dump, pump
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: and dump, or do you have to pump and dump,
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: pump and dumping. Yeah, you know, depends on who you
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: are and what you believe. If you are pretty conservative,
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: then there's no wine, no nothing, you know. Um. I
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: think there are people who would have a glass of
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: wine and not worry about it. I was more towards
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: the conservative side and would pumping dump um if I
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: was going to indulge in some alcoholic beverages. But um,
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: but I think it totally depends. I don't think it's
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: against you know, any moral character to take care of
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: or moral I don't know what the word is, um,
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: to like indulge in and give yourself some me time.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: But I also feel like there is that responsibility of
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: knowing that you are giving your child nutrition and what
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: you are putting in your body is going into your baby.
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: So I aired always on the side of caution. Um,
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: but it's totally you know, an independent decision. Then I
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: will shock you because you know that in notably France
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: and Australia, that women have like up to five glasses
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: of wine a night, I mean night, not a night
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: a week, a week, um, while pregnant, not during the
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: first trimester usually but not a big deal at all. Um,
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: one glass of wine a week, especially the first trimester,
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: you definitely want to be careful because that bring development
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: and you can you can do some harm there, So
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: I think being even extra cautious during those times. I
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: mean especially with what you eat and like not eating sushi,
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: not eating deli meat. Um, I think I'm eating Deli
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: meat now thirty five weeks, I'm like, I'm eating the
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: Deli meat. I'm good. Okay, Okay, So let's talk about
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: your relationship when it comes to kids. When you and
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: Ryan had max, Um, do you feel like it's strengthened
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: your relationship or put more of a strain on it.
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: Like my parents say that they were like bonded and
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: had like this magical time when I was born. Okay,
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: that's amazing. I think it was all too easy for
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: my mom though, she's just very maternal and she's just
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 1: like pregnancy was also a snap for her. Awesome. I
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: had a horrible pregnancy, but I had I when when
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: my baby's popped out, that was like the magic, the
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: magical time for me. I would say it was hard
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: on us because Ryan didn't feel as connected to his
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: children at first because they are just this little tiny
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: blob and they were completely dependent on only me, and
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 1: he was still working at the time, and I was
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 1: breastfeeding and I was doing every single breastfeeding. I didn't
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: want to burden him, so I didn't pump and do
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: like bottles. I would definitely recommend doing that, um pumping,
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: putting it into a bottle if your baby is able
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: to take the bottle um, because it does encourage that
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: that time with Jared, that time with their dad, And
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: so for us, I think it was it was definitely
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: strange because, uh, they were all about me, They needed me,
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: only me, And of course Ryan loves loved his children
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: when they were babies, but it was it was hard
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: on us. It wasn't I'm I'm like your mom. I'm
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: very like maternal and it was all about them when
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 1: they were babies. Especially when did he start clicking with them.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: I would say probably when they started talking, like, you know,
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 1: around like two something like that. UM. And he has
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 1: great relationships with them, but it's it's more for him
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: about you know, he's this active mountain guy and being
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: out on the mountain, going on hikes, going backpacking. Actually
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: I might take that back. I might say like later on,
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: like not two years old for him to connect with them,
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: But really he connected them with them when they were
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 1: able to go on camping trips together. Um, when they
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 1: got to go skiing together. You know, he taught them
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: how to ski starting at two years old. So those
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: kind of things. I think once he was able to
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: share his passions with them, that's when he really connected
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: with them. I've heard that so much, even Jordan's speak.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: When my favorite professional golfer has just said that this
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: week he's at his first golf tournament since having his
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: first child, and they're like, how's it been, He's like,
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: I mean it's fine. I just I just sit there
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: and she does all the work, and I just like
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 1: try to fill in where I came, but I'm not needed.
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: And so I don't feel bad about being at this
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 1: golf tournament because I know the baby's just fine. Um, Trista,
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: we're gonna play a little game with you here. We've
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 1: been playing it with everybody. But before we start the game,
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: and I'll lead us to the game here, I'll tell
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: you how it works. But before we start the game,
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 1: you know you are the mother of a twelve year
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 1: old and a fourteen year old. You have at least
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: fourteen years to look back now on parenthood. And I
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: am sure there's something because you are very introspective, you
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: think very deeply that you have thought through in the
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 1: last few years where you go, I I just maybe
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: wish I would have done this differently, or I'm really
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: glad I did it this way, or there's wisdom. Uh,
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: take a few minutes here and just put any wisdom
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: on Ashley is she's just about two months away, less
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: than two months from having this child. Um, what would
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 1: you tell a brand new mother. Well, there's a few things.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: I think Number one is give yourself some grace. You're
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: not going to do everything perfectly. No one ever does
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: you know you're gonna You're learning and there have been
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 1: millions and millions and millions of other moms, so rely
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: on them. But also give yourself some grace. Um. I
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 1: think also going into having the baby, I'm sure you
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: have a birth plan or have thought about this. And
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: obviously you're good friends with Jade and she could tell
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 1: you this, but have a birth plan, but don't like
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 1: stick to it because my birth plans could not be
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: any different. Totally, but like having one is a good idea,
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: but also not like knowing that things can go wrong. Um.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: I had an emergency C section and and it was
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: super scary, but I knew I would totally trusted in
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 1: my doctors. So I think just knowing that your doctors
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: know what they're doing. UM, and then uh, you know,
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 1: a big, huge piece of advice. I always say this
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 1: is this was the biggest piece of advice that I
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: ever got. UM. And it's kind of controversial in that
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 1: some people think that it's like kind of cruel to do,
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 1: but develop mentally, I think it's the best thing for
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: your kids. And my kids are great sleepers, so when
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: it comes time two, it's like, I think it's a
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: three months. I think we moved Max into his crib
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: and then we started, um doing cry it out maybe
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: at four when they start eating solid foods. So at
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 1: like four or five months, we did cry it out
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 1: and it was the best thing. Also, we didn't have
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 1: a shared bed. UM. And if you're concerned, which I
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 1: know that's on your mind, of keeping the connection alive
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: with Jared, I would say, try to stay away from
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: a shared bed where they sleep in your bed. Just
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: because you guys still need two nourish your relationship, and
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: that's really difficult to do when a baby is sleeping
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 1: with you. So, um, I think trying to cry it
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: out it is horrible and tortuous on the mother especially,
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: But as long as you know that they're safe in
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: their bed, you have the monitor on, just let him cry.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: They need to learn that they can take care of
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 1: themselves and they'll be safe, you know. INTERESTING think I'm
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: all about that, because there's no way, Um, there's no
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: way a puppy. First off is sleeping in the bed
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: and letting the puppies sleay on the bed. The fact
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: that all my lowest in our bed is the greatest
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: time of our day. We love when we like pick
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: her up before we fall asleep and put her right
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 1: in between us and we just were in all you. Yeah,
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: it's going to change, and I don't want the baby
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: in the bed, but I always want my little baby,
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: my little baby dog in the bed. Then you might
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: change your mind when you get that. Are you getting
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: the puppy? I think so. I mean, don't tell Jesson,
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: I think so. I don't know. I don't know if
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: I have an option at this point there's already like,
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: there's already way too much. We're way too far ahead
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: at this point. I okay, here's the game. Here's the game.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 1: So Trista, UM, I'm gonna ask you a couple of questions.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: You're going to answer them the best of your abilities, okay,
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: and then Ashley is going to answer them as well,
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: predicting for her feature what will happen? This is post
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: baby being born? You ready? Yes? Who was better at
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 1: singing lullabies? You were Ryan me, hands down. And I
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 1: don't think he's staging a little by at all, Ashley,
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 1: You or Jared. This is so obnoxious how many times
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: I've compared our future child to Lois. But it'll be
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: Jared because he loves turning her upside down, cradling her
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: and singing songs. Sir, Oh my god, I need a video. Unbelievable.
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: Who is or was better? I guess was would be
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: the better way to say this. I'm assuming, but who
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 1: is better at packing the diaper bag? Hello? Mommy organization?
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 1: And I was the one that was always in charge
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 1: of it, so I needed to make sure. Although I
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 1: will say this was a big thing to learn from me.
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 1: We went on a trip one time and I actually
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 1: forgot diapers and we were in the airport couldn't find
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 1: them anywhere. Thankfully, there was a sweet mom in a
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: restaurant that I was like, is there anyway that you
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 1: could spare a diaper or too? Um, so, just your
• 1:12:33
  Speaker 1: diaper bag needs to be uh, very carelly carefully prepared.
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: I honestly, I was more up in the air if
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 1: I would have predicted when I asked you this question,
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 1: because Ryan, as a camper and as somebody goes outside,
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: is very used to the details of packing a bag
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 1: for long trips away, and so I thought maybe, just
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 1: maybe this was a hidden talent of his. I mean,
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: he's good at packing, but I was always in charge.
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 1: Fair enough, fair enough, Ashley, who will be better at
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 1: packing the diaper bag? That'll be me? Jared when it
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: comes to little things like that can be forgetful and
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: I have a Mary Poppins bag always Yeah, fair enough? Well, uh,
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 1: final question here, And this isn't a predictive question. I
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 1: think Actuley probably has a very good idea of how
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 1: to answer this question. But Trista, what was the first
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 1: thing you ate and drink after delivering the baby? Oh?
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 1: My gosh, I have no idea. I don't. I don't remember.
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  Speaker 1: Um oh well, actually I probably I think I do.
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  Speaker 1: So the first delivery with Max, it was emergency C section,
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  Speaker 1: so I had to go and I had to go
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  Speaker 1: under general anesthesia, so they don't really let you eat
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  Speaker 1: much afterwards. But I am obsessed with the Graham crackers
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  Speaker 1: in the hospital. Sounds crazy, and I had to have
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  Speaker 1: their Graham crackers, so it was probably Graham crackers. Actually
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  Speaker 1: will be the first thing you eat when this baby
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  Speaker 1: is born. I don't know what the first thing I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna eat is because like that will have to do
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  Speaker 1: with how I'm okay looking forward to me? I'm looking
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  Speaker 1: forward to I'm looking forward to having a charcoutery board
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  Speaker 1: or like a cold cut sandwich guilt free, like because
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  Speaker 1: I just said, like I have been eating it a
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  Speaker 1: bit lately, but I'm excited to not feel any worry
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  Speaker 1: going in for it. Also really excited for spicy tuna roll.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that a girl. Uh, Trista, thank you so much
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  Speaker 1: for joining us. You're always a treat and a pleasure
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  Speaker 1: and absolutely incredible. I canna say enough good things about you,
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  Speaker 1: so thank you for coming on the day and sharing
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  Speaker 1: all of your wisdom with Ashley, Jared and the future
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  Speaker 1: new baby boy. Thank you so much. Yeah, thank you
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  Speaker 1: for having me. I'm so excited for you and can't
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  Speaker 1: wait to hear the good news. Ashley, I truly hope
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  Speaker 1: that you feel celebrated. Do you feel celebrated? Yes? Definitely?
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  Speaker 1: Are you? That was so fun. That was so fun
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  Speaker 1: with all the moms having different perspectives and like asking
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  Speaker 1: them about like different realms of motherhood. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: we got you know, it wasn't repetitive. Um, we just
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  Speaker 1: got a lot of good advice. And I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I say we yeah, because I'm in it too. I'm
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  Speaker 1: like you are one day soon enough. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: you are going to be in it. I know that
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  Speaker 1: you and just say a couple of years, right, But
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  Speaker 1: why do I feel like it's not going to be
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  Speaker 1: a couple of years. Why don't I feel like it's
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  Speaker 1: gonna be like within the year that you tell us
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  Speaker 1: that she's pregnant. Because just like I said this, the
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  Speaker 1: puppy will never sleep in the bed. Um my life.
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  Speaker 1: I consistently changed my mind. Um, that's just one of
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  Speaker 1: the things I've accepted about myself. And so you never know.
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  Speaker 1: But Ashley, what does that mean she's pregnant now? No? No,
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  Speaker 1: I can both promise you that taken or no. But
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  Speaker 1: I do make that joke often and it's not funny
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  Speaker 1: for her. Um, So I've been told that I can
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  Speaker 1: no longer like make that joke around people and like
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  Speaker 1: not say we are, but like kind of hint at it.
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  Speaker 1: And then she's like, you can't do that, that's not funny.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I think it's funny, you guys. I say
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  Speaker 1: this because he kind of like said something on the
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  Speaker 1: phone the other day and I was like, wait a second.
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  Speaker 1: It really throws people off. So, Ashley, to close out
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  Speaker 1: this podcast, this is your celebration, uh, through the heart
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  Speaker 1: family and through the almost famous family who's listened for
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  Speaker 1: so many years now, uh, and you had some great
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  Speaker 1: advice and some great mothers. But to close it out,
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  Speaker 1: I would just love for you to take some time
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  Speaker 1: to tell all of our listeners and tell me how
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  Speaker 1: are you doing, how are you feeling? What are your
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  Speaker 1: emotions right now? You're getting very close. It's definitely like,
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  Speaker 1: as Crystal said, a lot of fear of the unknown,
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 1: a lot of questioning about like if we're prepared. How
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  Speaker 1: how we're going to handle the life change, um, if
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  Speaker 1: things will come instinctually, whether I need to do more research.
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  Speaker 1: So there's like a lot of anxiety, but like I'm
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  Speaker 1: also really excited about, of course meeting him. Um, I'm
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  Speaker 1: excited about seeing his personality develop. I'm excited about seeing
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  Speaker 1: his face. I am um excited about like feeling like
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  Speaker 1: healthy again. And um, yeah, I don't know if that's
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  Speaker 1: kind of covers it. I think that everybody keeps using
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  Speaker 1: the word like excited, but I definitely think anxious probably
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  Speaker 1: fits it a little bit more. But it doesn't mean
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  Speaker 1: like we're not looking forward to it. We are, um,
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  Speaker 1: but there's just so many unknowns. And I liked her
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  Speaker 1: advice about like visualizing what it's going to be because,
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  Speaker 1: like you know, power positive thinking. It's kind of like
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  Speaker 1: what I've always done. So I'm thinking, like just put
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  Speaker 1: that out there, do what I always done with like
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: even Jared, right, I'm Bachelor in Paradise and since like
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  Speaker 1: you know, just like kind of keep believing it's going
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  Speaker 1: to be great and it will be. How can final
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 1: question for you? And again, we want to thank Hyundai
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 1: for helping us celebrate Ashley's baby shower. Uh, they have
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 1: been incredible to Ashley and the Almost Famous team as
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  Speaker 1: we have celebrated and are going to continue to celebrate
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  Speaker 1: Ashley and Jared as their evolution or as their journey
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 1: continues to evolve now into being parents over the next
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 1: few months. But thanks to Hyundai for doing this, Ashley.
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  Speaker 1: Final question for you, people are listening. Uh, they care
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  Speaker 1: about you. They obviously listened to us talk every week.
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 1: I'm your co host, so I'm I'm here too every week.
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 1: How can people now best support you and Jared over
• 1:19:06
  Speaker 1: the next few months leading up to this? I think
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 1: just like send the positive vibes instead of the vibes
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 1: that are like, oh my god, you're in for it,
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 1: you know, because we just talked about this too, Just
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  Speaker 1: like oh, just like wait till you know you're so
• 1:19:22
  Speaker 1: tired and like wait till like they talk back to
• 1:19:24
  Speaker 1: you and all that stuff. It's like, can you just
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  Speaker 1: like let me enjoy each moment and just send positivity
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  Speaker 1: and just say, um, like it's going to be the
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  Speaker 1: best instead of thinking about all the negatives. Yeah, because
• 1:19:41
  Speaker 1: you know, like you know, these negatives exist, Like it's
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 1: not you'll have to remind me you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: be remind you what you what you need right now,
• 1:19:49
  Speaker 1: and that's why I asked it. What you need right
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  Speaker 1: now is for people to lift you up and to
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 1: be positive and to get you excited because it's gonna
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: be hard, but you're gonna figure it out. You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: be a great mom and Jared's gonna be a great dad.
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 1: Um but and it's gonna be awesome. And people, you
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 1: just need people to tell you that it's weird, because
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 1: like I'm always about like keep it real, right, so
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 1: I want you to keep it real with me. But
• 1:20:10
  Speaker 1: like there's a reason that people have multiple kids. It's
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 1: because they like it more than they don't like it,
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And then sometimes the advice
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 1: that sometimes the comments you get are are like that
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 1: that it's MSS and it's just like you know, it's
• 1:20:24
  Speaker 1: not because you wanted to do it all over again. Yeah, Well, Ashley,
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 1: and if Jared was here, but I'm sure I'll listen. Uh,
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  Speaker 1: it's gonna be awesome. You guys are gonna be great.
• 1:20:35
  Speaker 1: You're made for this. Have a great time. Uh, and
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 1: thank you all for listening and celebrating Ashley. And Jared's
• 1:20:41
  Speaker 1: baby shower with us again, thanks to Hundai for helping
• 1:20:44
  Speaker 1: us put it on. Thank you Hyundai for my my
• 1:20:48
  Speaker 1: toy store. It's so cute, it really is. Well with that,
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 1: this is another episode of Almost Famous podcast a very
• 1:20:56
  Speaker 1: special special episode. I've Been Been, but Ashley see you.
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