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Episode 46, Season 2: Entrepreneurship Isn’t Easy - Navigating Growth, Stress & Change · The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Love Dog Podcast. I'm your co host
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Speaker 1: Raina Butcher here with our host, doctor Sarah Hensley, the owner, founder,
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Speaker 1: and CEO of the love Doc relationship coaching services. You
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Speaker 1: can find her at the lovedoc dot com or on
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Speaker 1: any social media handle at doctor Sarah Hinsley.
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Speaker 2: Hello. Hi, how are you well. It's been you know,
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Speaker 2: it's been a very very rough week, week, month, month, Okay,
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Speaker 2: month the corner. Yeah, We've we've got some news that's
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Speaker 2: really not easy to share. Yeah, which is after a
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Speaker 2: year in the trademark process for getting the love doc trademarked,
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Speaker 2: and after two separate trademark attorneys did an initial conflict
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Speaker 2: of interest CERTI due diligence search, our trademark for the
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Speaker 2: love Doc was denied by the us PTO, which is
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Speaker 2: the US Trademark Office, and there was no way to
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Speaker 2: know right right. You take a chance, you pick a brand,
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Speaker 2: You do your due diligence search, which they don't have
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Speaker 2: as much reach as the examining attorney at the Trademark
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Speaker 2: Office does, so sometimes things don't come up in those searches.
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Speaker 2: And so there's two choices. Keep using the love doc
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Speaker 2: brand and potentially get sued by the person who has
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Speaker 2: a similar, not the same, but similar trademark, who trademarked
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Speaker 2: hers first. And you know, we may or may not
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Speaker 2: ever end up on her radar, right, or rebrand again,
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Speaker 2: which will be our third rebrand.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and we're really rebranding two entities. Yeah, we're rebranding
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Speaker 1: TO and the Relationship Code. Yes, that's right.
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Speaker 2: And so it feels a little bit destabilizing, like losing
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Speaker 2: my identity. I have been I have tried so hard
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Speaker 2: to stabilize this identity and move into a domain and
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Speaker 2: a just a trademark that feels good, right. The love
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Speaker 2: doc is short and sweet, it's catchy, it's what I do. Yeah. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: and now it's no longer ours, and so the right
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Speaker 2: ethical thing to do is to rebrand. Yeah. Could I
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Speaker 2: continue to use it and just risk Yeah, it's just
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Speaker 2: too big of a risk. It's too big of a risk,
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Speaker 2: and it's not the ethical thing to do. And the
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Speaker 2: area is too gray because it is. I could live
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Speaker 2: in that gray area, but I would rather much rather
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Speaker 2: in this case because of the blood and sweat and
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Speaker 2: tears that we've put into to building this, I would
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Speaker 2: rather live in the black and white area. When it
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Speaker 2: me too, And so we've decided to rebrand under my name,
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Speaker 2: which is the safest thing to do, Doctor Sarah Hensley.
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Speaker 2: So the podcast in season three is going to start
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Speaker 2: as the Doctor Sarah Hensley Show. Woooo whoop woop, the
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Speaker 2: Doctor Sarah Hensley Show. And we will be making that
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Speaker 2: announcement a lot before season three so that our audience
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Speaker 2: can still find us. The Doctor Sarah Hensley. Relationship coaching
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Speaker 2: services will continue, Yep. Nothing about what we have to
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Speaker 2: offer is going to continue. It's just going to be
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Speaker 2: the name, Colors logo, all of that is being rebranded.
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Speaker 2: Nothing's going to change, yeah, other than those the aesthetics.
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Speaker 2: Really like the esthetic portions.
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Speaker 1: I like to think of it as like a rebrand refresh.
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Speaker 2: Yes, let's think of it that way. Yeah, So we
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Speaker 2: fail forward in this company. There has been times where
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Speaker 2: I have lost massive amounts of money, even recently, because
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Speaker 2: I don't know. They don't teach you business in psychology school. No,
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Speaker 2: I mean it's constant.
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Speaker 1: I mean softballs are just being lofted at your face constantly, constantly.
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Speaker 1: You have no idea what to expect. Just when you
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Speaker 1: think you have it figured out, there will be some monkeys.
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Speaker 2: Just like you know, TikTok was my main platform and
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Speaker 2: now it's my least reach. It's the least reach it
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Speaker 2: has been. That platform has been decimated, it has been
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Speaker 2: completely ruined.
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Speaker 1: I think though, that everyone is feeling this, like, no,
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Speaker 1: we're not unique, We're not unique to this at all.
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Speaker 1: I think anybody in the digital landscape that run their
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Speaker 1: business in the digital landscape via social media are really
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Speaker 1: feeling this shift in how people are consuming. Yes, And
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Speaker 1: I think we just want to position ourselves in a
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Speaker 1: way as we move forward, because failure is not an
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Speaker 1: option for us. We want to position ourselves in a
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Speaker 1: way where we still stick to the mission.
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Speaker 2: Yes. The mission is to help people love in a
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Speaker 2: healthy way. Yes, and in a way that God would
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Speaker 2: be proud of. And at the end of the day,
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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. There have been a few days
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Speaker 2: in the last month where I'm like, I'm shutting it down.
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Speaker 2: I'm shutting it down. I'm done. I can't do it anymore.
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Speaker 2: I can't. And God is like, excuse me. You think
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Speaker 2: I put you on this mission and it was going
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Speaker 2: to be easy. Yeah, remember who you are, remember what
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Speaker 2: you know about me, And you can't ask for growth
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Speaker 2: and expect to have no challenges. You just can't. I mean,
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Speaker 2: that's how you about the challenges in the growth that
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Speaker 2: I've prayed for, right can't. And you can't either out there.
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Speaker 2: You can't complain about the challenges that are going to
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Speaker 2: launch you into growth, because you don't grow if there's
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Speaker 2: no pain. There's no such thing. You don't grow muscle
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Speaker 2: without pain in the gym. You don't grow your intelligence
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Speaker 2: without the pain of putting hours into learning something. Self reflection.
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Speaker 2: You don't get to the point of true accountability and
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Speaker 2: self reflection without pain. This is why boundaries work, by
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Speaker 2: the way, because people on the other side of your
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Speaker 2: boundary or forced to face pain of your loss, which
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Speaker 2: is the only way that they might land into growth.
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Speaker 2: But that's another that's another discussion, right yeah, But it's
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Speaker 2: definitely something you teach.
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Speaker 1: That's what I teach, and it applies here too. It
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Speaker 1: applies you know, in business. There's been so many times
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Speaker 1: in my life where I've been challenged emotionally, you know,
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Speaker 1: obviously in relationships, you know, I mean, in my marriage
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Speaker 1: with you know, my child. But I think I can
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Speaker 1: say with utmost certainty, I don't think anything is challenged
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Speaker 1: to me more than business it has.
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Speaker 2: It shows you who you are, It shows you where.
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Speaker 1: You need to change, the things you need to change
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Speaker 1: about yourself. It shows you where maybe you still are
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Speaker 1: a little weak in specifically for me, setting boundaries. And
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Speaker 1: it's just this grind that you have to have just
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Speaker 1: a massive, robust nervous system for and emotional capacity and
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Speaker 1: mental capacity.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's a lot. And we talk about how
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Speaker 2: great it is all the time. And your sister Reagan,
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Speaker 2: so she Reagan is our customer support lead at the
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Speaker 2: Love Doc, and she sent us this meme that was hilarious.
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Speaker 2: It was like owning my own business is so great.
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Speaker 2: I get to pick the one hundred and forty hours
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Speaker 2: a week I work and work whenever I want to
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Speaker 2: work those hours. Like well, yeah, well that is a
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Speaker 2: little bit true.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's you know, I don't know if the
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Speaker 1: algorithm is so smart, because like my whole algorithm right
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Speaker 1: now is just all of these things based in business.
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Speaker 1: How you know, business will make you feel, how business
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Speaker 1: will teach you more than therapy ever could or you know,
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Speaker 1: and it's so true, and I mean.
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Speaker 2: There's just obstacles you would never think of an a
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Speaker 2: trillion years and you're just like, oh, big slap in
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Speaker 2: the face today, all right, how do I get up?
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Speaker 2: Shake it off? From that? Right? Like, when we were
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Speaker 2: trying to search for a new domain, there was a
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Speaker 2: new domain that we wanted. Oh my god. Oh man,
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Speaker 2: So there was a new domain that we wanted for
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Speaker 2: the new brand and it was taken. We contacted the
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Speaker 2: owner of that domain to just have a gentle conversation,
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Speaker 2: professional professional around would you be willing to sell it?
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Speaker 1: Right?
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Speaker 2: She's not actually currently using it? It redirects right, okay,
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Speaker 2: so you know we thought, why she's not really using it,
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Speaker 2: so maybe she'd be open, right, This happens all the time.
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Speaker 2: Domains are brokeren between people all the time. So I
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Speaker 2: sent her an email. She didn't respond, but you never know,
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Speaker 2: people don't check their email, right, right, You never just
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Speaker 2: never know. I mean we're not the best at email.
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Speaker 2: I never checked my mail. So we sent her a
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Speaker 2: message on social media, but then we realized that her
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Speaker 2: last post was like from like twenty twenty, so she
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Speaker 2: didn't respond, so were like, well, that probably didn't get
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Speaker 2: to her. So her number was public. So eventually we
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Speaker 2: just reached out. Yeah, we got on the phone.
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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, guys, this is not about throwing in
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Speaker 3: the under the bus, is why we're not revealing the
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Speaker 3: identity of this person, right, Oh holy Molly dysfunction.
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Speaker 1: Yes, it was so not I was so blindsided by it.
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Speaker 1: I did like I was speechless.
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Speaker 2: I was. I was left feeling utterly shocked. Yeah, I
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Speaker 2: was like, it was basically go fuck off.
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Speaker 1: Yes, y'all are creepos, y'all are talking me, or like.
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Speaker 2: One email, then eventually one social media message, then eventually
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Speaker 2: a phone call, which is usually how business works, right,
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Speaker 2: and it.
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Speaker 1: But like again, speechless, speechless, speechless, how she reacted.
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Speaker 2: It was just and again I was so blinded. Big Yeah,
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Speaker 2: it was big and scary. Yeah, it was scary, like
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Speaker 2: and I'm just like, oh my, this person is a professional, yeah,
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Speaker 2: treating the public.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know whoa yeah, like and my only reason, yeah,
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Speaker 1: my only response was oh my gosh, we are so sorry.
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Speaker 2: That was never We are terribly sorry for bothering you.
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Speaker 2: And then it went on m M and stop spamming me.
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Speaker 2: I mean just we were like, I was like, you people,
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Speaker 2: and we were just like she called us creepy. We
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Speaker 2: were like We're so sorry. We were just trying to
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Speaker 2: take action on take contention because we need to rebrand Quitchy.
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Speaker 2: Every day I'm under the Love Doc is a day
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Speaker 2: that I could be sued, right, And you don't know
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Speaker 2: that until you get the rejection from the trading office. Sure,
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Speaker 2: and look, Taylor Swift is my spirit animal, right, She's
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Speaker 2: getting sued over trademark law right now because apparently there
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Speaker 2: is somebody that has the trademark Confessions of a Showgirl.
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Speaker 2: It has like a Vegas thing. I think, I think,
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Speaker 2: I don't know if it's a Vegas thing. I think
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Speaker 2: it's a Vegas thing. And she is suing Taylor Swift
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Speaker 2: for her Life of a Showgirl album and merch and
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Speaker 2: everything because apparently Taylor Swift did do a trademark search
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Speaker 2: and found Confessions of a Showgirl and was denied her
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Speaker 2: trademark but went through with it anyway. Yeah. She's like,
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Speaker 2: I'll just pay it. Yeah. I mean he's like, I
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Speaker 2: have thirteen billion dollars. Yeah, if you're a billionaire, Like
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Speaker 2: at that point, you know, any legal challenge you can pay,
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Speaker 2: you can pay people off. Yeah, And it was worth
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Speaker 2: it to her, right, but just to even know Taylor
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Speaker 2: has these things. I mean, granted, I wish I was
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Speaker 2: a billionaire, right, but you know, it's just like it
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Speaker 2: was so ironic that it's like that is happening at
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Speaker 2: the same moment, and learning about trademark law, like I've
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Speaker 2: had to learn I've had to get a PhD in
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Speaker 2: trademark law. Do this process. It is such a bad system.
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Speaker 2: And like Donald was saying the other day, He's like,
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Speaker 2: are we not going to run out a name for things? Eventually?
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Speaker 2: Like this trademark all thing seems kind of crazy because
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Speaker 2: like every so we're in Kentucky and horses horse racing
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Speaker 2: is like it right, and you have to trademark the
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Speaker 2: name of your horse. If your horse is in any
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Speaker 2: kind of competitive space, you have to trademark the name
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Speaker 2: of your horse. So you can't name another horse that
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Speaker 2: same thing. He's like, aren't we going to run out
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Speaker 2: of names? What are we gonna do? It's a racket.
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Speaker 1: It isn't just like anything else. It's a racket. It's
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Speaker 1: a money game, you know, and that's what they do.
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Speaker 1: And it is thousands of dollars. I spent thousands of
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Speaker 1: dollars just to get denied.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just business. Maybe it just makes it's hard
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Speaker 2: to feel impossible for people to create and to be
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Speaker 2: creative because like Confessions of versus Life of a Showgirl
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Speaker 2: of a show girl is all that's similar, right, Yet
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Speaker 2: she's getting sued. She's getting sued. Yeah, it's crazy and
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Speaker 2: it's creativity beyond belief. But I also get it, right,
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Speaker 2: I also get that people create something and want to
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Speaker 2: protect it. But at the end of the day, it
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Speaker 2: leaves very little wiggle room.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, because we battled with this with just the name, right,
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Speaker 1: we were you know, we wanted to come up with
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Speaker 1: something catchy and like and short and sweet. Yeah that
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Speaker 1: made sense. That was memorable that, you know. But the
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Speaker 1: end of the end of the day, I would rather
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Speaker 1: play it safe with Doctor like the Doctor Sarah Hinsley Show,
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Speaker 1: because I of course like me personally, Like I was like, well,
13:34
Speaker 1: where does that leave me? But it doesn't matter the
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Speaker 1: love dog. I'm here as a mediator. I'm here as
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Speaker 1: just your best friend. I'm here to to ask questions,
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Speaker 1: to guide our audience and and so and I was like.
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Speaker 2: You know what, and in case I ever want to
13:48
Speaker 2: get out, that's right there you go. And I think
13:54
Speaker 2: we were both planning our outs. Oh yeah, we've had
13:56
Speaker 2: some other extreme professional challenges where we have dealt with
14:02
Speaker 2: unstable people. Yeah yeah, and again no style. I don't
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Speaker 2: want to throw anybody under the vessel. Obviously, we're not
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Speaker 2: identifying anybody, no, but just running into people that don't
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Speaker 2: conduct themselves professionally in a professional space, and it takes
14:18
Speaker 2: you aback, right, because you have a level of professional
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Speaker 2: standards of this is how we treat people, This is
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Speaker 2: how we respond when things get hard and when people
14:30
Speaker 2: don't meet you there. And I think this is parallel
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Speaker 2: to relationships. Right when you have grown and sometimes you
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Speaker 2: outgrow your partner and you are trying to conduct yourself
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Speaker 2: in a secure way, and you might have a very
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Speaker 2: insecurely attached partner who is not interested in growing or
14:46
Speaker 2: doing any work. The contrast becomes really big. Yeah, it does,
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Speaker 2: and that can leave your nervous system feeling I just
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Speaker 2: don't belong in this space, but also not really knowing
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Speaker 2: how to navigate your yourself out of it either. And
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Speaker 2: I think that that's the challenge that we've faced this
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Speaker 2: week for sure, is like when someone comes with such
15:09
Speaker 2: a level of lack of professionalism or instability in just
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Speaker 2: a discussion. Yeah, you don't. Sometimes you don't know where
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Speaker 2: to go. Yeah, it does. All the ways that you
15:22
Speaker 2: would normally try to de escalate don't work because the
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Speaker 2: instability is so high. Yeah, it makes you feel kind
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Speaker 2: of trapped in that moment. And it does take a hit.
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Speaker 2: It took a hit to our nervous system. You had
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Speaker 2: to recover from. Oh my gosh.
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Speaker 1: And you know, I mean, I think Sean Waylan said
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Speaker 1: this in last week. In a couple of weeks weeks ago,
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Speaker 1: people are.
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Speaker 2: Coming out of the would work about that episode too,
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Speaker 2: and listen, listen, God, let me say something about that episode.
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Speaker 2: We are not here to make everybody comfortable. No, we
15:54
Speaker 2: are here. We are not here to bring on guests
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Speaker 2: that we agree with entirely right. We are not here
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Speaker 2: to stay in an echo chamber. We actually believe in
16:03
Speaker 2: doing the exact opposite. We agree in being challenged, We
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Speaker 2: agree in digging into controversy just to finding the truth.
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Speaker 2: We are committed to bringing on guests that might not
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Speaker 2: agree with us in a lot of spaces. But if
16:19
Speaker 2: you just listen to people that agree with you, then
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Speaker 2: you never grow. You are in your own echo chamber.
16:25
Speaker 2: And that comes with too. Politics. That comes down to
16:30
Speaker 2: your values, your belief systems, everything, because you grow and change,
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Speaker 2: Like my political views have changed one hundred and eighty
16:37
Speaker 2: degrees in the last fifteen. They continue to change. They
16:40
Speaker 2: continue to change and adapt, right, and I think that
16:43
Speaker 2: that shows growth.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and we understand like Sean Wayland, you know, there's
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Speaker 1: you know, he's had controversy around him or whatever whatever
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Speaker 1: that may be.
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Speaker 2: I don't even know it all. But we didn't even
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Speaker 2: talk about those things. So, you know, we talk about
16:55
Speaker 2: things like accountability, like getting stuff done. We talked about
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Speaker 2: business a lot, and that was what I was going
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Speaker 2: to say.
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Speaker 1: You know, the one question that I asked him at
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Speaker 1: the end was you know, what is business taught you
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Speaker 1: that relationships couldn't or vice versa. And it's like and
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Speaker 1: his answer was so spot on. They're so parallel. They
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Speaker 1: are so parallel on each other in terms of and if.
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Speaker 1: And it makes sense why right, because you're in relation
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Speaker 1: no matter what. So in business you're in relationship. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm in relationship with my cup.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I don't go anywhere without it. It's my emotional is
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Speaker 2: a work up.
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Speaker 1: I feel you on that says so like you are
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Speaker 1: you're in relation with everything, and and you know, we
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Speaker 1: I think we can take a lot of accountability. Excuse me,
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Speaker 1: we can take a lot of accountability. And some of
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Speaker 1: the things we did wrong, you know, we we did
17:39
Speaker 1: make some mistakes.
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Speaker 2: Of course we're mad. Of course we've made mistakes.
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Speaker 1: Of course, you know, we're in this for the first time, right,
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Speaker 1: So when we hired more people on under the idea
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Speaker 1: that it was going to help, you know, that was
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Speaker 1: with the utmost intention of like, Okay, we want to
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Speaker 1: hire people on so that we have the right people,
18:03
Speaker 1: so that we can give other people opportunities, and so
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Speaker 1: that we can get a good workflow down. And sometimes
18:10
Speaker 1: it's not even about a skill set, it's just that sometimes.
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Speaker 2: It's just not aligned. Yeah, it just doesn't fit.
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Speaker 1: And in this case, it just wasn't aligned. It wasn't
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Speaker 1: fully aligned for what we needed in this time in
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Speaker 1: this business.
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Speaker 2: So in this business, you know, we've encountered people outside
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Speaker 2: of our business, you know, subcontractors, et cetera, that just
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Speaker 2: didn't align with our vision. You know, we tried to
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Speaker 2: kind of make it work, but the product that was
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Speaker 2: created didn't kind of align with the vision or the
18:45
Speaker 2: personalities of the people didn't feel good to us. Yeah, communication,
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Speaker 2: I mean it's very key, right, Somebody that was maybe
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Speaker 2: rude or abrupt, and they're way that they communicated didn't
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Speaker 2: feel good because we're like a very relaxed, yeah kind
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Speaker 2: of the flow, go with the flow, like figure things
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Speaker 2: out as were things out, like we'll we'll figure it out.
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Speaker 2: And we don't always necessarily gel with people who are
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Speaker 2: more rude if we you know, and so we've just
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Speaker 2: like we want to save our piece as we go
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Speaker 2: through this business. And if people you know, come on
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Speaker 2: board and like a subcontractor rule or something, because our
19:28
Speaker 2: team is small and it's tight. Our team is like
19:30
Speaker 2: a family, and so if if outsiders kind of come
19:35
Speaker 2: in in a subcontracting space, it's it's like a trial
19:41
Speaker 2: and error thing, right, like is your workflow going to
19:43
Speaker 2: match kind of how we do our workflow and is
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Speaker 2: the is what our vision actually going to be able
19:48
Speaker 2: to be created by you? And and sometimes it's just
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Speaker 2: not a match. Right. And but I think what's the
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Speaker 2: hardest part of this business is that when we come
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Speaker 2: acrosseople in general, whether that's people we work with or
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Speaker 2: even you know, clients maybe right that are operating from
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Speaker 2: a very disregulated space. After you become a much more
20:15
Speaker 2: regulated person that can self reflect and that can communicate
20:19
Speaker 2: well being around somebody that is extremely dysregulated that you
20:26
Speaker 2: are not actively trying to help in that moment. Like
20:28
Speaker 2: it's different than if it's in a coaching space, right, sure,
20:31
Speaker 2: But somebody like from the outside, like coming in very
20:35
Speaker 2: very disregulated and very rude or very abrasive, you know,
20:41
Speaker 2: cursing or raising their voice or whatever. It takes you
20:44
Speaker 2: back and you're just like, WHOA, Like I stay away
20:49
Speaker 2: from that in my life now. Yeah, I had a
20:51
Speaker 2: marriage that was like that. I did a.
20:53
Speaker 1: Video on that the other day that I thought it
20:55
Speaker 1: was really good. Like, every human being in the world
20:57
Speaker 1: needs a disrespect it's.
20:58
Speaker 2: A disrespect boundary, that's right, and we have them. And
21:01
Speaker 2: so if there's if there's disrespect on a professional level,
21:06
Speaker 2: it's just we're not going to work with you.
21:08
Speaker 1: Yeah, it just makes it too hard and and I
21:10
Speaker 1: mean I think that something that we talked about in
21:15
Speaker 1: the Christa episode was like a woman's intuition is her
21:19
Speaker 1: strongest skill and it's her. It's her, it's her biggest tool.
21:24
Speaker 1: And when you trust it and you follow it. So
21:26
Speaker 1: it's like at the end of the day when in
21:28
Speaker 1: business you can have people with massive skill sets that
21:34
Speaker 1: are just so great, knowledgeable, but you have to be
21:38
Speaker 1: able to follow your intuition and where and how how
21:41
Speaker 1: it feels in your body, Like how does your body
21:43
Speaker 1: feel at the end of the day.
21:44
Speaker 2: And we were dying, We were dying like at the
21:48
Speaker 2: and then this last quarter, oh, we have we have
21:52
Speaker 2: run ourselves into the ground, had some subcontractors come in
21:56
Speaker 2: and try to create some things, and we found people
22:01
Speaker 2: that have been amazing, like absolutely out of the knocking
22:05
Speaker 2: it out of the park amazing. And then we have
22:09
Speaker 2: had people whose personalities just didn't feel workable.
22:13
Speaker 1: Yeah, not that those people aren't amazing, let me be
22:15
Speaker 1: clear those there have been people. I feel like there
22:19
Speaker 1: are people have certain skills and certain attributes that make
22:24
Speaker 1: them amazing individuals. Again, this goes back to alignment. Does
22:29
Speaker 1: it feel aligned? So does it feel good? Does it line?
22:33
Speaker 2: Yeah? It does?
22:34
Speaker 1: Is communication, working and flowing will because those things, at
22:38
Speaker 1: the end of the day are the baseline of business.
22:41
Speaker 2: It's not all about skill set. It's not. And that's
22:44
Speaker 2: that is something that I think that we have learned.
22:47
Speaker 2: Soul lessons this last quarter is that you can have
22:51
Speaker 2: all the skills in the world, and then if you
22:55
Speaker 2: your workflow is so different or your personality is just
22:58
Speaker 2: so different, it doesn't feel aligned, and you've got to
23:03
Speaker 2: move on. And that's a hard thing in business. It's
23:06
Speaker 2: a hard thing to harding in relation to stop a relationship, right,
23:10
Speaker 2: it is a hard thing to and any type of
23:12
Speaker 2: relationship tough breakups are really really tough.
23:15
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's been emotional for us too, And like
23:17
Speaker 1: we don't take things like this lightly.
23:19
Speaker 2: Like we have massive hearts. You and I both gosh too, sometimes.
23:26
Speaker 1: Yes, sometimes to our detriment. We're both highly empathetic people.
23:31
Speaker 2: We can't be in this business and do what we
23:32
Speaker 2: do without high healthy no.
23:35
Speaker 1: And you know, I just want to acknowledge that anyone
23:40
Speaker 1: who's running a business or trying to better themselves who
23:46
Speaker 1: have strong skill sets, like we see you, and we
23:51
Speaker 1: we understand that this is freaking hard. This is so
23:56
Speaker 1: massively hard. But I refuse to give up. If anything,
24:02
Speaker 1: I feel more energized, you know. January February, March, Well,
24:06
Speaker 1: let's just okay, let's go back November December, January November.
24:09
Speaker 1: Now we're very difficult, but I feel re energized for
24:13
Speaker 1: these next ninety days to get to a place where
24:17
Speaker 1: you and I especially you, because you've been doing this
24:21
Speaker 1: longer and you have to coach. So I think about
24:24
Speaker 1: and I got all these kids, so running all them
24:29
Speaker 1: all over the place, So I often think of you,
24:31
Speaker 1: Like you know, one day this week was so hard
24:34
Speaker 1: and like my brain was literal scrambled eggs.
24:37
Speaker 2: It was. It was much. My brain was mashed potatoes
24:39
Speaker 2: on the same day. And if our brains are much
24:41
Speaker 2: on the same day, yeah, it's not going to go. Somehow,
24:44
Speaker 2: through the grace of God, God gave me the strength
24:46
Speaker 2: to just coach and do you know this and maybe
24:50
Speaker 2: we can wrap it up here. Yeah. That day I
24:54
Speaker 2: got the most beautiful feedback from people in my groups.
24:59
Speaker 2: From my one one client's saying, You've changed my life,
25:03
Speaker 2: You've saved my marriage. You've like this group has completely
25:09
Speaker 2: changed our dynamic like I thought we were. I had
25:12
Speaker 2: had one couple that said, we have divorce papers sitting
25:15
Speaker 2: in front of us and we're throwing them away and
25:19
Speaker 2: they have kids. I had to be so restored because
25:22
Speaker 2: and that was the same morning that I told Donald
25:24
Speaker 2: that if in ninety days, I don't feel better physically
25:27
Speaker 2: that I'm I'm just gonna have to shut it all
25:28
Speaker 2: down because I can't do it anymore.
25:30
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm so glad that happened, man, And you know,
25:33
Speaker 1: and then God was like, come on, now, I got you.
25:37
Speaker 1: Let me let me restore your faith here.
25:38
Speaker 2: Let me remember why I sent you here. And you're
25:41
Speaker 2: not giving up because this isn't your mission, it's mine, right,
25:44
Speaker 2: That's right.
25:44
Speaker 1: And you know, and even that morning, the hard day,
25:49
Speaker 1: you know, Ashley, who's been on the podcast, and we're
25:51
Speaker 1: going to bring back guys, because man, that episode was so.
25:53
Speaker 2: Amazing to the episode with Ashley Passtrom. Go listen please
25:59
Speaker 2: now because it is such a social and spirit completely restored.
26:03
Speaker 2: You want hope when you feel hopeless, please go watch
26:05
Speaker 2: that episode.
26:06
Speaker 1: But she texted us that morning too, she did, yeah,
26:08
Speaker 1: and she was just like, hey, I just happened to
26:10
Speaker 1: listen to the last episode, which was one we did
26:12
Speaker 1: kind of on the rebrand before we knew we're gonna
26:14
Speaker 1: have to change the name, you know, and she was
26:17
Speaker 1: just like, I'm so excited for you, you girls, and like
26:20
Speaker 1: what y'all are doing is so amazing, and you know,
26:22
Speaker 1: I mean, her message was just so uplifting and so
26:25
Speaker 1: encouraging because she is truly like your earth earthly angel.
26:29
Speaker 2: Yeah. God knows just exactly when to send her.
26:32
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah he did, he did. And then just the
26:34
Speaker 1: fact that you had because I thought of you the
26:38
Speaker 1: other night, because I knew when you were wrapping up,
26:41
Speaker 1: like she doesn't get done coaching sometimes, so like nine pm,
26:43
Speaker 1: ten pm.
26:44
Speaker 2: The other night it was ten pm, and I'm you, Yeah,
26:48
Speaker 2: totally my fault.
26:49
Speaker 1: Another I'm just like, I got my fire hose, guys,
26:54
Speaker 1: I'm putting out fires left and right.
26:55
Speaker 2: I left and right.
26:57
Speaker 1: But I thought of you because at the end of
26:58
Speaker 1: that day, it was so hard for me to take
27:00
Speaker 1: a lot of action right throughout that day and I
27:03
Speaker 1: was just trying so hard to make my brain work.
27:06
Speaker 2: You were you were frozen. Yeah, And I.
27:08
Speaker 1: Told Josh that night, and I'm like, all I can
27:09
Speaker 1: think about right now is Sarah because she's had to
27:12
Speaker 1: coach all day and I could not. And sometimes that
27:15
Speaker 1: can I think it can be restoring yourself.
27:19
Speaker 2: My best done. Yeah. Despite that, Well, it's it's like
27:23
Speaker 2: God just gave me the right answers for things over
27:25
Speaker 2: and over again, and I kept getting the feedback, Wow,
27:28
Speaker 2: this has been so helpful. Like the individual sessions I had,
27:30
Speaker 2: people were like, you know, I've gone into these types
27:34
Speaker 2: of sessions and felt like I got nothing out of it.
27:36
Speaker 2: And I felt like I got I took a whole
27:37
Speaker 2: page of notes. Yeah, so thank you, and and that
27:41
Speaker 2: was just everything I needed. I needed to hear God.
27:45
Speaker 2: I need God because I was like, God just knew
27:49
Speaker 2: that I was like so close to giving up. And
27:53
Speaker 2: one person and so many people agreed to do video
27:57
Speaker 2: testimonies too, so we got to get with them. But
28:00
Speaker 2: one person said, you are giving a public health level intervention.
28:06
Speaker 2: This is a public health level intervention. Everybody needs to
28:10
Speaker 2: be taught these skills. We would see suicide rates go down,
28:14
Speaker 2: we would see divorce rates go down, we would see
28:16
Speaker 2: people come out of depression, we would see people come
28:19
Speaker 2: out of anxiety. And I'm like, yeah, I know what
28:21
Speaker 2: happened to me. And so it's like this is public
28:24
Speaker 2: health level and I don't want to inflate myself. It's
28:27
Speaker 2: the science. I just know the science, right, and I
28:30
Speaker 2: have faith in God. And I'm just a messenger. So
28:34
Speaker 2: I'm just here as a messenger. But if I can
28:36
Speaker 2: be that messenger, But we do need help elevating our platform.
28:41
Speaker 2: We need some help. We're stagnant a little bit and
28:45
Speaker 2: we've been scrambling to figure out how do we since
28:48
Speaker 2: And a lot of it was a change in TikTok.
28:50
Speaker 2: I'm convinced, you know, it was normal for me to
28:53
Speaker 2: get hundreds of thousands of US on my videos every day.
28:56
Speaker 2: Each video would have hundreds of thousands of US. Now
28:59
Speaker 2: if I get ten thous it's like a decent video.
29:02
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's I think it's everybody's felt that. And
29:06
Speaker 1: I think, you know which we did a whole episode
29:08
Speaker 1: on I think it's AI. You know, AI is changing
29:10
Speaker 1: how people consume and what people do, and how people
29:12
Speaker 1: pivot and what people learn. You know again, people aren't
29:16
Speaker 1: paying necessarily for what you know because you can find
29:21
Speaker 1: what you know anywhere. They're paying for your perspective. They're
29:25
Speaker 1: paying for your perspective on it, and you can't get.
29:29
Speaker 2: That from AI. You just can't. Yeah, you cannot. Knowledge
29:34
Speaker 2: is everywhere, Yeah, but your behavior in relationships doesn't come
29:39
Speaker 2: from your insight. Knowledge is not in the system. And
29:42
Speaker 2: I don't think a computer bought at the end of
29:44
Speaker 2: the day can regulate your nervous system. They can't.
29:47
Speaker 1: They can't, and I cam an attunement can and I
29:49
Speaker 1: think too. The shift we see now and then we
29:53
Speaker 1: are going to wrap this up with the shift we
29:55
Speaker 1: see now, there will very soon be another shift. What
29:58
Speaker 1: that will look like, I don't know, oh, I know,
30:00
Speaker 1: but there will.
30:01
Speaker 2: Be feels like the tectonic plates in the ground are
30:03
Speaker 2: always moving on its Yeah, for sure, for sure.
30:06
Speaker 1: But you know what, guys, we fail forward, That's right,
30:08
Speaker 1: and we have to fail forward or in your own life, yeah,
30:11
Speaker 1: and in your relationships, I think too. Like that, I
30:15
Speaker 1: feel really restored, especially based on what you just said.
30:18
Speaker 2: Can I get some of that here? Let me Okay,
30:22
Speaker 2: I'm sending.
30:22
Speaker 1: It your way, but just based on what you said
30:25
Speaker 1: about your shire, yeah, I mean no, that did?
30:28
Speaker 2: That restored my spirit? But my body is yeah, my
30:31
Speaker 2: body is tired too. My body is so tired.
30:34
Speaker 1: Yeah, my eyes are twitching currently as we speak. So
30:37
Speaker 1: a lot of that has to do with caffeine and nicotine,
30:40
Speaker 1: which is what I've lost seven pounds since I've been
30:42
Speaker 1: this stress. Seven pounds. You don't even need to shot
30:46
Speaker 1: uh uh No, I didn't, no ozmpic or anything, just
30:49
Speaker 1: pure stress.
30:50
Speaker 2: See when I'm stressed, I eat. You can't have you
30:53
Speaker 2: not eaten.
30:54
Speaker 1: I feel like I haven't eaten like a solid meal,
30:57
Speaker 1: like especially a home cooked meal, and like at least
31:00
Speaker 1: thirty days.
31:00
Speaker 2: I have that protein bar in my person. I totally forgot.
31:03
Speaker 1: See, I'm not even thinking about food because all you
31:05
Speaker 1: know the coffee and cigarettes, coffee cigarette diet man listen.
31:09
Speaker 1: And I'm not proud. I did not advocate for smoking
31:12
Speaker 1: guys under any circumstances. Let me just be really clear,
31:15
Speaker 1: But sometimes you just got to accept that there are
31:18
Speaker 1: smoking seasons in your life. And there have been multiple
31:21
Speaker 1: smoking seasons in my life. And then I'll get tired
31:23
Speaker 1: of moan bullshit and I'll quit again. And you know,
31:25
Speaker 1: I've done this over and over and over. It's a pattern.
31:27
Speaker 1: But I do not advocate for smoking. But in case
31:31
Speaker 1: you're wondering, smoking is coming back and it's trending.
31:33
Speaker 2: It's because they're finding out that vapes are worse than cigarette. Yeah,
31:36
Speaker 2: and so people are giving up their vapping sexy. That's
31:39
Speaker 2: why Kylie Jenner just did what it was it Vanity Fair?
31:42
Speaker 2: Is it vogue? I can't remember Vanity a Vanity Fair
31:45
Speaker 2: where she died her eyebrows blonde and got that like
31:47
Speaker 2: deep spray tan, and there was smoking a cigarette. Did
31:50
Speaker 2: not even look No, didn't like her. Yeah, And then
31:53
Speaker 2: there have been so much press about how smoking is
31:56
Speaker 2: coming back. Ye, and I'm not advocating for that because
31:59
Speaker 2: I do not think that is healthy.
32:00
Speaker 1: No, it's not, it's not, And it's about it's about balance.
32:03
Speaker 1: And of course I hope none of my jazzer sized
32:05
Speaker 1: ladies are listening, because they'd be like.
32:06
Speaker 2: You're listen.
32:07
Speaker 1: They used to smoke cigarettes outside jazzer size and then
32:09
Speaker 1: go in and teach jazzer sides. But I am not
32:11
Speaker 1: proud of the smoking. But smoking, I feel like, is
32:15
Speaker 1: the old. Yeah, I'm quitting. Smoking is the ultimate. Like
32:18
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck, Like here I am.
32:20
Speaker 2: I don't. I know it's actively burning the inside of
32:23
Speaker 2: my lungs side.
32:24
Speaker 1: Yes, I know it's killing me. I know it's making
32:26
Speaker 1: easy ever. Yeah, i know it's making my skin wrinkled.
32:29
Speaker 1: I know it's taking my teeth yellow like, but I
32:31
Speaker 1: don't care. And I'm still gonna do it temporarily because
32:34
Speaker 1: and here, if you think about it, and I promise
32:36
Speaker 1: that we're going to wrap up. Tobacco is a grounding drug, right,
32:39
Speaker 1: Native Americans used it for centuries to ground themselves.
32:42
Speaker 2: It's not the tobacco. It's all the chemicals they put out.
32:45
Speaker 1: If it was just the tobacco, and they and I
32:48
Speaker 1: try it, and I've tried to just roll regular tobacco,
32:51
Speaker 1: but it's not the same.
32:52
Speaker 2: It's not the same the filter, you know, like all
32:55
Speaker 2: of it. It's like how ZeVA is not the same
32:56
Speaker 2: as diet coke.
32:57
Speaker 1: Right, exactly, just exactly so anyway, and guess what, AI
33:01
Speaker 1: is not the same as Doctor Hensley. So if you
33:03
Speaker 1: are looking, if you are looking for intervention in your
33:06
Speaker 1: own relationship and guys, please you know, bear with us
33:10
Speaker 1: as we transition into this rebrand.
33:13
Speaker 2: I go, yeah, We're yeah.
33:14
Speaker 1: As we transition into this rebrand refresh is what I
33:18
Speaker 1: like to call it, just bear with us and stay
33:21
Speaker 1: with us because we are officially as of next month May,
33:26
Speaker 1: we will be the Doctor Sarah Hensley Show. Okay, And
33:29
Speaker 1: so none of the topics will change, the conversation won't change.
33:34
Speaker 2: The amazing guests are just going to get more amazing.
33:37
Speaker 2: We already have like an elevation and the guests in
33:41
Speaker 2: terms of their platforms and knowledge, and we have some
33:45
Speaker 2: exciting people that we want to bring on.
33:46
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33:50
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