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The Push and Pull with Andrew Spencer · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: It's a beautiful morning in San Francisco. We're here with
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  Speaker 2: Andrew Spencer. Andrew, it's been a while since we will
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  Speaker 2: sit down, catch up and talk about a year. Last
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  Speaker 2: time was in Beverly hillsy thing. Yes, it was life
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  Speaker 2: for you. I think looks a little bit different in
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  Speaker 2: the last year, right, But I think when I saw you, uh,
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  Speaker 2: you were well, you were still out in La living
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  Speaker 2: at the time, kind of doing like the group of
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  Speaker 2: guys that came out to Beverly Hills.
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  Speaker 3: I think it was you and.
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  Speaker 2: Justin Rodney, and I think Nate Nate. We're kind of all,
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  Speaker 2: you know, running together. But at that point in time,
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  Speaker 2: some people had started to find love and speak of it. Obviously,
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  Speaker 2: we got to give a little shout to Rodney. I
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  Speaker 2: just saw yesterday that he proposed.
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  Speaker 4: Man, just out of the blue. I scroll and I
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  Speaker 4: see it a little hurt. I didn't get the call beforehand,
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  Speaker 4: but it was.
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  Speaker 3: Just as cool.
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  Speaker 4: We'll see in the was that yesterday that you found out? Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: oh man, it was amazing. Obviously, he's like one of
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  Speaker 4: the most people that are so deserving of love. I'm
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  Speaker 4: so happy he found it. You know, it's good.
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  Speaker 2: If I remember, right when we were together, you were
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  Speaker 2: also dating somebody.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, that was a while ago. It feels
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  Speaker 3: like a while ago. Yeah, both, it was a while ago.
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  Speaker 3: And it does feel like a while ago.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that obviously no longer that relationship no longer
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  Speaker 2: is active.
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  Speaker 3: No, no longer active. It's just you know what happens.
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  Speaker 4: You're still trying to find someone.
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  Speaker 3: So let's yeah, you just keep moving on.
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  Speaker 2: Well, okay, so catch me up then in the last year,
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  Speaker 2: because I, like I said, at that event in Beverly Hills,
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  Speaker 2: it did feel like everybody's kind of doing their own things. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: there's relationships, you're kind of still all in la, but
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  Speaker 2: now there's so much different as we started this thing,
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  Speaker 2: And I said.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, from I think a lot has changed within myself
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  Speaker 4: and also just my friends group. You know, obviously everyone
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  Speaker 4: is looking for partners. You know, I see like there's
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  Speaker 4: like a baby craze going on right now. Everyone's getting
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  Speaker 4: engaged right now. So it's like you've see all these
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  Speaker 4: things coming to happen are happening, and for me and
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  Speaker 4: like a couple of my friends right now, we're going opposite,
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  Speaker 4: so we're I.
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  Speaker 3: Don't know what. Intentionally, No, not intentionally.
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  Speaker 4: I think I think we're starting to realize that we're
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  Speaker 4: putting a little bit too much pressure on it. And
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  Speaker 4: I feel like myself like I've been like too pressure,
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  Speaker 4: too much pressure on like trying to find my family
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  Speaker 4: and that my partner, that it's not happening, and I
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  Speaker 4: keep doing these like same failed relationships over and over.
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  Speaker 2: So do you know, like, do you have a reason
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  Speaker 2: why in your mind that these relationships aren't working?
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  Speaker 3: Do you feel like you man, you know, No, I don't.
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  Speaker 4: I just actually I just got out of relationship like
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  Speaker 4: a week and a half ago.
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  Speaker 3: I was seeing someone else that was my first like
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  Speaker 3: local in town like this. When was it public or
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  Speaker 3: was it public? No, it wasn't.
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  Speaker 4: I mean we did public stuff, but not like no, no,
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  Speaker 4: I wasn't. Like yeah, so it was nice. It was
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  Speaker 4: like girl from Chicago, Like I never dated someone that
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  Speaker 4: was like down the block from me.
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  Speaker 3: You know. It was nice, and then I didn't work out.
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  Speaker 3: Then I'm like, I'm like looking, I'm like, what am
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  Speaker 3: I doing wrong?
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  Speaker 4: So it's still a week off, so we're still trying
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  Speaker 4: to like figure out what it is and what we're
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  Speaker 4: looking for.
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  Speaker 2: Are you a relationshipship type of guy, Like do you
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  Speaker 2: desire to be in a relationship or.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I am. I just feel like, you know, it's
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  Speaker 3: a scary thing.
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  Speaker 4: It's a scary because I feel like I do self
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  Speaker 4: sabotage in a way where I don't like being such
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  Speaker 4: a high and then like and it ends because then
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  Speaker 4: I like I can't recover fast enough.
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  Speaker 3: So I always try to like lessen the blow.
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  Speaker 4: And I think that's probably my biggest problem was just
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  Speaker 4: like I was like, I act like I don't care
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  Speaker 4: about some things because I don't want to get too invested.
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  Speaker 3: And then you're like, well, I want to get to a.
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  Speaker 4: Point where I know for sure like this is a person,
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  Speaker 4: and then I could just fully give them a hunter.
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  Speaker 4: And that's why I'm like, I feel like I'm messing
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  Speaker 4: up a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: So but you, obviously, I mean you're somebody who has
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  Speaker 2: always been I mean you've been told to a thousand times.
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  Speaker 2: You have an energy about you that's captivating and brings
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  Speaker 2: people in, and you have a joy about you that
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  Speaker 2: obviously is people want to be around, right, And so like,
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  Speaker 2: how I guess when you with you just said, how
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  Speaker 2: do you hold back in relationships?
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  Speaker 3: In because it does feel like.
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  Speaker 2: You bring everything you've got to the moments that you're in, So.
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  Speaker 3: How do you hold back?
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  Speaker 4: It's it's it's almost like you're stuck playing this game,
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  Speaker 4: you know what I mean, like of like push and pull.
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  Speaker 4: And that's where I'm like, I'm in the middle of
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  Speaker 4: I'm just like playing this game because you know, I
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  Speaker 4: feel like every other woman is playing the game against me,
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  Speaker 4: you know what I mean. So you're like, well, they
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  Speaker 4: know the game, you know what I mean. So they're like,
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  Speaker 4: you don't give too much or you don't take too
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  Speaker 4: you know what I mean. So that's that's the situation
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  Speaker 4: I feel like I'm in, and it's so exhausting cause
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  Speaker 4: I know, like myself and a couple of my friends,
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  Speaker 4: we just we want to give, like all of us.
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  Speaker 4: But at the same time, like I don't know if
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  Speaker 4: this era likes that, you know what I mean. It's like, well,
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  Speaker 4: he's too nice of a guy, or he does too
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  Speaker 4: much for me. I'm like, how is that a bad thing?
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  Speaker 4: So at this point, like you're just kind of like
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  Speaker 4: trying different things and it's not very it's not it's
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  Speaker 4: not as natural as I want it to be, and
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  Speaker 4: like that's what kind of sucks. It's like, you know,
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  Speaker 4: you want to be your full self, but at the
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  Speaker 4: same time, you're afraid of, like that being rejected because
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  Speaker 4: if your full self gets rejected, then you're just like,
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  Speaker 4: I don't.
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  Speaker 3: Know what am I going next? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you're so vulnerable when you get into
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  Speaker 2: that and that pain that can come with it.
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  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I think a very cheap question to you
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  Speaker 2: would be, would you ever try to do the show again?
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  Speaker 2: Because obviously dating in the real world isn't easy.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, yeah I would. I mean I don't
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  Speaker 4: have a problem with that at all. I've been actually
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  Speaker 4: asked to be on so many other shows right now
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  Speaker 4: I can't say, but so, I mean I'm not, like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, opposed to it. So we'll see, you know,
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  Speaker 4: I think any way I can find.
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  Speaker 2: Outside of the Bachelor world, Yeah that does that excite you?
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  Speaker 2: The opportunities outside of it? Or would you prefer to
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  Speaker 2: stay within it?
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  Speaker 4: I you know, I'd prefer to stay in it, But
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  Speaker 4: you know, at the end of the day, like if
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  Speaker 4: there's a different opportunity, a different way of doing it.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it doesn't bother me at all.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Well, obviously yesterday, you know, we're out here in San Francisco.
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  Speaker 3: Yesterday I spoke with Greg.
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  Speaker 2: He had mentioned he hasn't started dating in the last
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  Speaker 2: like seven six seven months, he's kind of taken time off.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: You also stead at the beginning that your your friendships
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  Speaker 2: have changed. Yeah, is does that? Can you elaborate on that?
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  Speaker 2: Like does that mean you've lost friendships here in the
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  Speaker 2: last year or you've just gone different paths?
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  Speaker 3: Like what is that? I think you guys were so tight? Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: or I wouldn't say that.
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  Speaker 4: I think everyone's starting to find their person and like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, you just want to be more respectful to
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  Speaker 4: their time with their people. And and you know, like
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  Speaker 4: like I said, like Greg said, like he's not dating anyone.
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  Speaker 4: Like the vibe of our group has completely shifted a
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  Speaker 4: little bit.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 4: It's it's a lot more work based. It's more about
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  Speaker 4: like doing stuff like that than it is how we were,
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  Speaker 4: you know, trying to find a girl and trying to
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  Speaker 4: do this. And it's completely like shifted. So it's like, uh,
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  Speaker 4: like everyone around us is just like it's I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: it's it's it's a lot different than we were a
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  Speaker 4: year ago, our mindsets compared to you know, last year.
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  Speaker 3: So is this something you enjoy? Are you missing? No,
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  Speaker 3: it's I think it's good for the group. I think,
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  Speaker 3: I think.
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  Speaker 4: And it wasn't like we all sat down and talked
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  Speaker 4: about like we should do this. It's something that's like
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  Speaker 4: just happened to all of us. And you know, it's
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  Speaker 4: been nice that you know, we'd be able to be
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  Speaker 4: able to be on the same page, and that's what
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  Speaker 4: you know, it's easier to do things, you know, easier
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  Speaker 4: to make decisions on what we're going to do because
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  Speaker 4: everyone's kind of on the same page.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it feels like that is a really healthy, natural progression.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, because you're how old now? About turn thirty? About
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  Speaker 3: turn thirty?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so like when you hit thirty, right, the life
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  Speaker 2: looks different than it does at twenty five. There's new
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  Speaker 2: responsibilities and new and new fun things that you can
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  Speaker 2: participate in. But like, I don't see my friends half
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  Speaker 2: as much as I did at twenty five now that
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  Speaker 2: I'm thirty five because families, kids exactly going together still
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  Speaker 2: blast same thing.
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  Speaker 3: Pick up like where you left off. Yeah, well, it
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  Speaker 3: kind of close out here.
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  Speaker 2: I do want to talk about outside of romance, because
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  Speaker 2: that's kind of what people love to hear, but outside
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  Speaker 2: of romance professionally for you, I know, last year we're
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  Speaker 2: getting ready to come up on college football season.
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  Speaker 3: Last year you did a lot with college football.
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  Speaker 2: I got to see you on my television on Saturday mornings.
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  Speaker 2: You're obviously a former college football player yourself. You know,
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  Speaker 2: what does that look like this year and what maybe
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  Speaker 2: kind of dreams do you have for that career path?
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  Speaker 4: No, man, I absolutely love the game of football, so
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  Speaker 4: it's like it's like a second nature to me. So
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  Speaker 4: I thought, like, you know, hey, I'm really good at this,
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  Speaker 4: and I get to be able.
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  Speaker 3: To be around it more.
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  Speaker 4: This is something I really want to do, is what
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  Speaker 4: I dream of being being able to do. And like
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  Speaker 4: being an athlete, you never got to play in all
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  Speaker 4: these big stadiums and you know for these established, you know, universities,
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  Speaker 4: So being able to go to these different universities stadiums
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  Speaker 4: and all that like that, that.
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  Speaker 3: Just brings me great joy.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I've worked with ESPN multiple times h College
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  Speaker 4: Game Day specifically, you know, I've been on the show
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  Speaker 4: I've talked talked football National championship like on a on
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  Speaker 4: a on a television screen in front of millions, you know,
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  Speaker 4: I've m seed Jonas Brothers concerts, so like it's been, uh,
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  Speaker 4: you know, it's been really cool. I've gotten my feet
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  Speaker 4: in the water, and I kind of want to just
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  Speaker 4: keep going and doing it.
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  Speaker 3: You know. I also wanted to like try to put
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  Speaker 3: my little spin on it.
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  Speaker 4: You know, obviously there's so many people in this field
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  Speaker 4: and I want to do the same thing. So yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I mean I feel like I've I've gathered a lot
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  Speaker 4: of connections within college football and ESPN, so you know,
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  Speaker 4: hopefully that that that gets me a little bit further,
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  Speaker 4: like because that's it's that's the only thing. It's about
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  Speaker 4: who you know, not what you know. You know, I
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  Speaker 4: didn't study to be a journalism in journalism and anything
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  Speaker 4: like that. I just kind of fell into it. And
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  Speaker 4: you know, hopefully that keeps going.
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  Speaker 2: What's your spin that you put on a see I
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  Speaker 2: want to I want to deal with a little bit
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  Speaker 2: more over the players.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I feel like I want to be able
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  Speaker 4: to relate to them and just have them be more free.
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  Speaker 4: And you know, I hate when athletes do interviews and
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  Speaker 4: they tell you the same old stick, you know what
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  Speaker 4: I mean, like, who are you like? This is an athlete, Like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, be yourself here, you know. I want to
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  Speaker 4: be able to promote you as you yea and with
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  Speaker 4: that and also being able to see the facilities, like
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  Speaker 4: what a day to day looks like for an athlete
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  Speaker 4: right before a game day, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 4: just kind of that kind of stuff. I feel like
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  Speaker 4: there's not enough spotlight on some of the players, and
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  Speaker 4: you know, going into the NFL Draft, I think it's
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  Speaker 4: one of the coolest things to kind of know who
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  Speaker 4: your team is about to pick. And I feel like
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  Speaker 4: that's a quick YouTube church like, oh well I saw
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  Speaker 4: him sit. This is the kind of guy we're getting.
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  Speaker 4: So that that's that's something I would want to do,
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  Speaker 4: like down the line, I think that'd.
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  Speaker 3: Be really cool.
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  Speaker 2: So if anybody's listening and they have a connection or
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  Speaker 2: they're into that field, Andrew's just you're excited, you're ready,
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  Speaker 2: and you put in the work.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, it's not like you're just you know.
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  Speaker 2: I think sometimes people get off the show and they
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  Speaker 2: just kind of say, no, I'm gonna go host this
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  Speaker 2: or do this.
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  Speaker 3: You've put in the work, You've grinded, now.
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  Speaker 4: Grinded sent millions of d ms to college universities, and hey,
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  Speaker 4: can we come out and you guys, can you host
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  Speaker 4: a sort of game? And you know, people might be
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  Speaker 4: embarrassed to do it, but I think it's uh, you know,
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  Speaker 4: I think it's one of the things that I take
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  Speaker 4: pride in myself, is just like being able to ask
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  Speaker 4: you know what I mean, and ask for help.
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  Speaker 3: And I think it's it's a huge way.
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  Speaker 2: No, I mean, I think it's incredibly impressive. It's so
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  Speaker 2: much better than just sitting back and saying I deserve this.
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  Speaker 3: Now you put in the work. You're sitting your resume
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  Speaker 3: out there in the sense.
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  Speaker 4: And that's you know, it's that's the athlete and all
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  Speaker 4: of us that you know, you know, work is the
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  Speaker 4: reason why you're going to get to where you want
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  Speaker 4: to be. So yeah, I'm not afraid of that and
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  Speaker 4: look forward to doing more.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I hope it works out. I really do.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be excited for you when I will pull up
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  Speaker 2: my social media or maybe turn on the TV on
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  Speaker 2: Saturdays and I see you there on that.
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  Speaker 4: There's already it's oversaturated for bachelor guys. And you know,
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  Speaker 4: I got on the float and that's Jesse and then
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  Speaker 4: I see Jordan. I was like, oh, dang, I'm the
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  Speaker 4: the man. I'm the third guy trying to be the
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  Speaker 4: whole football to bachelors.
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  Speaker 3: This word's out for those two though. Yeah, they're great
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  Speaker 3: and they're crushing it. They're crushing it. They're doing just fine.
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  Speaker 3: So I think there's room for three and I hope.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, shoot, I would take a little piece of
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  Speaker 3: the pie. You deserve it. Man.
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  Speaker 2: Well, hey, we wish you the best. Thanks for coming
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  Speaker 2: out here. We'll have a lot of fun today. Just
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  Speaker 2: appreciate catching up.
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  Speaker 3: Appreciate it, man, thanks for having me.
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