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Season 5 - Episode 120 - You cannot have everyone happy and liking you! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happen to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop, and
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  let's start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey, everybody, good morning. Very early birds are awake, but
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  chickens are not. And I'm sitting out here
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  listening to them as they're waking up.
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  And I'm thinking, do you think the birds are worried whether
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  somebody likes them today? Do you think the birds are
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  concerned if somebody is going to be happy with them today?
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  I don't. I don't at all.
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  And there are times in our lives where people are not happy with
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  us. There are times when people
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  don't like us. There are times when people feel
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  disgusted by us, angry, frustrated, whatever it the
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  words might be, it's going to happen.
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  I, I really need everyone to understand it's going to happen.
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  It happens to you. It happens to me.
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  It happens to all of us. There are times when my kids are
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  mad at me. There are times when they don't
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  like me. There are times when my my
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  family just doesn't. They just are pissed at me and
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  it's going to happen. And all you can do when you make
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  a mistake is apologize. And if they're still mad at you,
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  you know what you have to do. You have to let it go because
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  the truth of the matter is it's going to happen.
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  And if you know you did the best job you can do handling yourself
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  by creating a gap in that space. If if something did happen that
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  you did do something wrong, you apologize, you put some distance
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  and say, I'm very sorry. I I own it, I'm sorry.
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  And you did the best you could do, then you have to move on.
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  If they choose to still be upset, if they choose to be
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  angry, if they choose not to change and grow and with you in
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  the processing get better. You can't do anything about
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  that. And so often we as human beings
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  forget. We want everyone to like us.
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  We want everyone to feel good about us.
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  We want everyone to look at us and think, wow, she's perfect or
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  I'm perfect or whatever it might be.
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  And it doesn't happen. It doesn't happen.
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  It's not part of the human experience that we signed up
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  for. Human beings like and dislike.
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  That's just the truth. How many people have you ever
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  met that all like the same vegetables and are good with
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  whatever you put on their plate? People say no, no, no, I don't
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  like mayonnaise, Oh no, no, I don't want that, I don't like
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  carrots, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  I mean, it doesn't matter what the subject is.
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  That's why we have so many varieties of things out there,
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  because we as human beings just can't all get along and like the
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  same things. And no matter how hard we try,
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  doesn't matter. Like I'm sitting here knowing
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  that when I go in to put the weather on to listen to it
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  today, there will be a political commercial coming on.
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  And it's because, oh, the primaries are here and
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  everyone's voting to hurry up and figure out like, you know,
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  all right, we got to vote for who's going to be in the in the
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  governor election. And they're all talking crap
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  about each other and everybody's doing it.
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  And you know what we have to do? We have to look past it all.
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  And we have to say this is the way it is.
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  This is part of my human experience.
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  So what do we do for ourselves? Well, we make decisions that we
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  know we do the best we can do. And that's all we can do.
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  Do the best we can do. And then we're going to move on.
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  We know we're going to keep ourselves aligned with what
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  makes us feel good. Like for me, that's always being
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  in the garden, that's always doing something outside, that's
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  keeping my hands busy. It's reading, it's learning so
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  that I don't get caught up in that energy, in that no matter
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  what it is. And I will say it happens
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  regularly enough to all of us that we have to have something
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  in our pocket that allows us to essentially, OK, you know what?
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  I do need to go to the garden. I do need to do these other
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  things because I know those other things are going to
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  instantaneously make me feel better.
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  They just disconnect you from all the negative energy.
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  So what are you doing that you have in your pocket that you can
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  go to after you recognize? Hey, someone hurt my feelings, I
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  hurt someone else's feelings. I've apologized.
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  Whatever it might be. Even sometimes you don't have to
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  apologize. It's like, hey, they just don't
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  like you. OK, great.
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  Don't apologize. There's nothing to apologize
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  for. And then you move on.
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  It's OK. It's OK.
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  And it's OK to just move on and let it go.
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  So if you've got something out there like that happening, no,
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  I'm sending you a hug and let it go.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.