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Feminine Communication Skills Healthy Masculine Men Love · Mindful Success Path

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  One of the things that is very attractive to a masculine man is a feminine woman who is in touch with her desires and knows how to actually express them.
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  I've oftentimes said on this channel that your desires are his direction, and the problem is that most women do not know how to express their desires or their needs or their feelings, so.
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  If asking for what you want right now feels like begging, manipulating, nagging, or straight up, terrifying, then this video is going to be your reset.
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  Because you don't have to chase a man.
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  You don't have to control a man in order to be heard, your feminine energy and using that in communication from a place of truth, I promise you, sis, he's going to step up and there's going to be no tension at all.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  This is based on my 15 years of experience coaching women in different areas of their lives, them being around high performing men for six to seven years, and asking them what they thought about dating and relationships, and taking myself from being a very hyper independent woman.
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  For 10 to 15 years and terrified of intimacy and all that kind of stuff to manifesting my provider husband in about four months.
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  From the women we're hearing, thank you.
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  'cause they're like, nobody ever told me any of this.
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  Stuff when it comes to feminine energy.
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  Thank you so much.
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  I'm trying to make sense of it.
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  I'm trying to work on myself and from the men we're hearing.
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  Thank you for sharing a lot of these things from a woman's perspective so we can understand what is going on.
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  And thank you for explaining to women kind of like how we feel and how our brains work.
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  So.
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  It is free.
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  So let's get into it.
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  Why do women struggle to express their needs and their desires?
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  Well, number one, a lot of women are running around these days completely out of touch with their needs, feelings, and desires.
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  I've oftentimes.
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  Had this on this channel, I will have a lot of women come to me for coaching and their energy is all like neck up, but from the neck down, she's dead.
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  So it's very logical.
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  It's a lot of frenetic energy, it's a lot of mental energy.
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  But when it comes to feeling and embodiment and energy, I feel nothing.
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  I can read energy.
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  So that's how, um, I'm sensing it.
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  It's like all the energy is.
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  Frenetic up here and very logical over talking, overthinking, all that kind of stuff.
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  And then, or combative or demanding.
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  And then down here it's like it's dead.
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  She feels nothing.
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  She's numb.
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  And a lot of times, women, um, because they've been taught to behave more like men.
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  Get to a stage where they're out of touch with their desires.
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  They're out of touch with their bodies, they're out of touch with their feelings.
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  Sometimes it's also just a protective mechanism, uh, for women as well.
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  And I need men to understand that sometimes a woman's protecting herself and there's good reason why women feel like they need to protect themselves.
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  Some of them have had horrible.
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  Experiences with men.
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  Um, and also even if you didn't have horrible experiences with men, you've been told for decades that you need to fear men.
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  So men need to understand that that's what women are dealing with.
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  Women need to understand that that's what they're dealing with.
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  As well.
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  So step number one that I have to walk a woman through a lot of time is like, girl, what do you actually want?
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  How are you feeling in your body right now?
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  And a lot of times women have to slow down to even get in touch with that part of themselves again.
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  Now, let's assume that a woman does know her desires and she knows her feelings.
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  So a perfect example is, I want a man to provide.
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  I want a man to pay the bills.
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  That seems to come up a lot on this channel.
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  Well, why would she have a hard time expressing that?
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  Well, number one.
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  She was taught to keep the peace and not have any sort of conflict whatsoever.
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  Um, and she's afraid that that will cause conflict if she expresses her needs or her desires.
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  She may have also been taught not to be a burden, so she may feel like her needs and her desires or a burden.
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  And what women need to understand is that your desires give men direction.
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  And if you know how to express those desires, they will give you the whole world.
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  And I've had men in the chat, in the comments that when I give examples of what that sounds like, the, the, the response is always the same.
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  They're like, oh my God, if a woman talked to me like that, I would work twice as hard.
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  I would give her this, I would do this.
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  I would do anything if a woman talked to me like that.
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  The problem is most women don't know how to talk to men like that.
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  And don't worry, I will be giving examples.
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  The other reason.
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  Why women have a hard time expressing their needs is because they think that being easy to love and easy to be light means having no needs whatsoever.
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  But of course, that's insane.
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  We're all human.
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  We have needs, um, and nobody's perfect.
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  So, you know, there might be something that your partner does where you're like, Ooh, right.
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  Or it brings up something in you'cause you're human.
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  It's okay.
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  It's totally fine.
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  We're not.
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  Robots.
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  We're not fembots, we're not detached from our emotions.
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  In fact, if you go the fem bot route and you become detached from your emotions, you are not going to attract healthy men.
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  You will attract unhealthy men.
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  So instead, right, because this is what you've been taught, then this is what women do, right?
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  Uh, they will drop hints.
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  Men hate it when you drop hands.
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  Just say what you want.
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  I'm a woman and I hate it when women drop hands.
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  Just say what you want.
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  I hate it.
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  Right?
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  So I understand the men in that regard.
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  Another thing that women will do is they will over give and then eventually she's going to explode when her, when it's been long enough where her needs go.
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  Augment.
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  So what happens is if, if you suppress your emotions and you ex suppress your needs and you suppress your desires to keep a man, you are not actually in a relationship.
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  You are in performance mode.
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  And most men don't want you to suppress these things.
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  They just want you to learn how to express it in a way that is.
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  You know, respectful and actually inspires them.
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  That's it.
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  It's just a communication skill.
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  And for those of you who are interested in learning the Psychology 1 0 1 of the Male Brain, then make sure to check out the Feminine Magnetism Mastery Program because I have whole modules in there on male psychology, how it's wired, how it works, and how they respond to feminine energy.
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  And you will hear a lot more examples of how to talk to men.
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  Okay, so let's go into chasing a man versus feminine expression.
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  Chasing or controlling looks like repeatedly reminding him of things, managing him, being the micromanager, trying to control the situation.
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  It might also look like begging for breadcrumbs.
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  So like he gives you any little piece of attention and you're like, oh my God, give me more.
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  Um, so it might look like that.
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  It means making your worth dependent on how he was.
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  Bonds to you.
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  Uh, a lot of women will be like, okay, well, um, if I express this and then he doesn't do the thing that I wanted him to do, then what does that mean about me?
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  Nothing.
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  It means absolutely nothing about you.
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  Nothing, right?
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  Um, it just might mean maybe it's not a match or maybe he can't meet you in that very moment, but it means nothing about you, uh, personally.
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  So feminine expression looks like truth plus openness, plus letting go of the outcome.
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  So it might sound like, this is what I feel, this is what I need, or this is what I desire.
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  What are you available for?
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  That's a quick formula that we can do when it comes to communicating with men, because it's not about being demanding or entitled.
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  It is just about being anchored in your truth.
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  Men hate it when women are demanding and entitled, but they love it when you are anchored into your desires, your needs, your emotions, and your truth.
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  So here's the three part structure.
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  Again, I feel start with your emotion, not an accusation.
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  Very important, right?
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  Again, get in touch with how you're feeling.
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  I feel anxious, I feel overwhelmed.
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  I feel happy.
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  Um, you may need to go on the internet and, and I've had clients do this where I go do it and I'm like, here's a list of emotions.
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  Which one are you feeling?
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  Because some people are so out of touch with that part of themselves because they've been on survival mode for so long that they can't even like reach for the word.
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  So I have to give them a list.
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  I'm like, here's a list.
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  Point to the one that you're feeling I desire.
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  So expressing the need as a preference, not a demand.
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  A preference, not a demand.
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  Most women are going on around here demanding when all they needed to do was learn how to express the preference and the guy would've done it.
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  That's it.
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  That's all women need to learn how to do.
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  And then finally, just asking, you know, what are you available for?
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  Uh, is a form of inviting the partnership but not pressuring him to do something.
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  So examples sound like I feel really disconnected lately.
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  I'd love more intentional time with you.
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  Are you open to that?
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  I would actually take this to another level.
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  Let's say my husband's working really hard'cause he's the provider.
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  He works really hard sometimes he works 12 hour days.
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  The man runs like three different businesses.
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  He doesn't stop.
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  Okay?
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  But maybe I haven't seen enough of him and I, maybe I'm feeling a little bit disconnected.
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  Usually I'm fine with it because I know he's providing for us.
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  But maybe I'm feeling a little like disconnected or I'm feeling a little, I call it ey, gooey that day and I'm craving a little bit more connection.
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  I might say.
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  My love.
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  I love how hard you work for us.
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  Thank you so much for providing for us.
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  I really see it and I really appreciate it.
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  You know, I just, I was thinking today and I'm feeling a little bit disconnected.
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  I'd love a little bit more time with you.
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  Um, are you open to that?
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  I.
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  What's the man going to do?
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  He's gonna find a time on his calendar.
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  He's gonna take me out on a date.
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  Um, he's going to stop working early that night to go spend some time and cuddle with me.
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  That's what they do.
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  I didn't have to demand anything.
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  I just had to appreciate him, express what I was feeling, and express my desire, and then invite him to step up.
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  That's all I needed to do.
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  Another way in which this comes up is I feel overwhelmed.
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  I need some support around this.
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  Can we find a solution together?
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  So, one of the things, this is, this one specifically, is more for like women who are dating and perhaps women who are in marriages where they're feeling unsupported by men because, you know, we're married to humans.
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  What's interesting with me and my husband is I don't usually have to tell him when I'm feeling overwhelmed.
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  Now when men work on their container, they can usually tell the mood that their wife is in.
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  So if I'm feeling overwhelmed, he knows, oh, he knows very well, and he'll just like jump in.
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  I won't even have to ask him.
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  In fact, sometimes I forget to ask, and that's on me.
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  I forget to ask'cause I feel like I have to do things myself because I was used to being hyper independent for so long that sometimes again, because he married a human, then I will, um, forget now.
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  My husband knows when I'm feeling overwhelmed and then he'll jump in.
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  I'll give an example.
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  The first live stream that I ever did.
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  A couple weeks ago, he, he was in the chat helping me, um, and he was like, oh, she's feeling overwhelmed.
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  She can't find the link right now.
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  Let me just log in as her, go on the chat and drop the link for everybody.
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  I didn't have to ask.
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  He just saw it.
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  He's like, oh, she's getting really overwhelmed right now.
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  Let me go in, um, and help.
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  She's getting overwhelmed with all the different moving pieces and the chat and everything.
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  Or maybe he sees that I'm doing a lot of stuff around the house because managing the house, um, we have help, but I still have to manage the help basically.
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  And I'm managing stuff around the house and he's starting to sense that, like I'm feeling a little bit like frazzled or overwhelmed.
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  He will know.
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  Um, not all husbands know at which point the woman need, and he will.
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  Right once you train him to know.
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  But sometimes it's up to the woman to be like, Hey babe, I'm feeling overwhelmed.
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  Um, rather than trying to continue doing everything yourself and then exploding at him later.
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  Men just like it when you're open with them.
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  Honestly, your job is to express, and his job is to respond, and you don't need to manage both roles.
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  You really don't.
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  And healthy men will step up once you learn how to communicate with them.
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  That being said, there is a situation where men don't respond well.
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  Right.
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  So here's what that looks like.
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  If he shuts down, if he gaslights you or if he avoids this altogether, like avoiding conflict, uh, that's data that's important for you to know.
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  One of the things that came up in the chat a couple days ago when I was doing a live stream, a man said this, but it also applies to women, and he said, one of the things I'm looking for in a partner is how they handle conflict or how they handle requests or how they handle.
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  Conversations, but particularly, I think he said conflict and he's like, do they shut down?
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  Do they run away?
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  Um, what are they doing right?
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  And that way I know kind of what I'm dealing with in terms of conflict.
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  And if they consistently wanna run away or avoid, then I know that's not a good partner for me.
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  Ladies, same thing.
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  Observe that in the men.
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  Now feminine energy, what she does is she observes without collapsing.
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  So I always tell the ladies this, right?
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  And I used to actually say this when I used to train women on sales.
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  Well, it's the same thing in relationships.
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  I need you to put your little social scientists hat on and just be a social scientist and observe and take your notes and then act accordingly.
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  Because essentially when you are dealing with a person who is not responding well, you only have two options to restate and stand firm or to walk away with love.
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  Only you are gonna know what the answer to that actually is.
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  Most of you honestly are married to good men, and you just have to restate and stand.
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  Most of you do not need to walk away or divorce him or any of that.
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  Perhaps it's just that the relationship dynamic has been one way for so long and then now you're shifting it and he's like in shock like that does happen.
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  Okay.
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  There is a shock period sometimes where a period where perhaps there's more tension because the dynamic is shifting and that's totally normal, and that's why it's so important that instead of trying to do this stuff on your own, that you work with professionals, that you work with, people like me.
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  That you work with therapists, whatever, whatever floats your boat.
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  Although a lot of therapists, unfortunately, will tell you to go divorce your man because that's where we've gotten to when it comes to therapy.
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  Not all the good ones will, not a lot of them will, unfortunately.
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  So be discerning about the therapists.
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  Um, and also be, same thing applies for coaches.
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  Be discerning of them as well.
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  But most of you.
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  Are married to good men.
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  It's just the dynamic has been a certain way for a while, and now we're shifting the dynamic.
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  And he might be in shock, so you might have to restate, um, and stand firm, uh, but more, more likely than not, he's gonna be in shock in kind of a good way and just be kind of like.
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  Oh my God, she's never talked to me that way before.
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  What do I do?
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  Like, you know, that's definitely happened to my husband and I because, uh, all the women that he dated previously to me did not know how to do any of this.
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  So when I would do this with my husband, um, he'd be.
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  Stunned because no woman had ever spoken to him that way before.
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  Um, and a lot of the men in the chat, when I give examples on live streams, are also completely stunned when I give examples and they're like, oh my God, I wish I could find a woman who talks like that.
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  Because it makes them wanna step up.
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  Like with healthy men, it does really make them want to step up and change.
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  They just might be like.
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  Paralyzed for a second while they're trying to figure out what's going on because, um, most women have never spoken to him that way.
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  And perhaps in your marriage up until now, you've also never spoken to him.
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  So.
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  Here's the reality.
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  Expressing your needs, expressing your feelings, expressing your desires.
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  That's not controlling, that's just being honest and direct with the person that you are in a relationship with.
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  It's clarity.
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  And clarity is a good thing when it comes to communication and the feminine.
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  She doesn't chase, she reveals.
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  Right?
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  And um, those of you who are in.
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  Oh, what training do I talk?
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  Oh, the way I talk about that, right?
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  And being mysterious and revealing things over time.
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  I talk about that in the Feminine Magnetism Mastery Program, so you can grab that below.
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  That's specifically where I talk about that, and I've also done other videos on how to be mysterious and how to reveal your desires over time because it keeps men engaged.
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  But that's, that's another conversation that doesn't have to do with this video.
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  And basically, a woman, uh, will express her needs and her desires.
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  And she's gonna, whatever happens, happens, she's good.
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  Either way, she is not attached to an outcome at all.
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  But most women will be surprised that when they're dealing with healthy men, they're going, they're, they too will be shocked at the results that start to happen when they start to express their needs and realize that those needs are actually going to be met most of the time.
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  So if you are ready to master feminine communication, here's where you can start.
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  You can apply for one-on-one coaching with me where we actually role play these things, and then that way I have more context on your specific situation and what is going on.
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  The application is below another area where we're going to be talking about this.
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  We're working on a program called Manifest Your Provider, man.
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  It is for single women and also married women who want to change the dynamic in.
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  Their relationship to one where she's more in feminine energy and he's more in masculine energy.
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  We will be talking a lot about communication in that one as well.
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  The wait list is below.
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  Um, and there's also several programs where I talk about different areas of communication, so that's the magnetic commitment program.
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  Where I talk about specifically the process of going from dating to commitment and the different conversations that happen at each stage.
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  The feminine magnetism mastery is where I talk a lot more about being mysterious and how to reveal your desires over time.
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  And in the high value woman transformation program, that's where I talk about setting boundaries and standards and how to actually express those.
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  So choose your own adventure depending on what it is that you need and how much support.
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  You desire at this moment For the on-demand programs, all you need to do is go to the description and then you buy it, add it to your cart, ba bing, ba boom.
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  You get an email with your username and password and it shows up in your portal.
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  And for working with me one-on-one, uh, it's an application only process because I'm really picky about who it is that I work with.
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  On a one-on-one basis.
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  'cause I wanna make sure that it really serves the person that I am going to be working with.
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  And then with the Manifest your provider, man, we're still figuring out what the format's gonna look like, so we don't have information on that yet.
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  But you can join the wait list and you'll be the first to know when we do have information on that.
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  Uh, as soon as we have it.
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  So thank you so much for giving me your time today.
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  I hope you found this useful.
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  Let me know in the comments what your biggest takeaway was.
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