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Should Your Friends Stay Friends With Your Ex? | Ghosting, Breakups & Reddit Horror Stories · The Treehouse Show Podcast

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  Speaker 2: you very much. So let's start today with a possible
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  Speaker 2: life change inside the Treehouse. Trey, you kind of had
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  Speaker 2: a weekend of discovering things. Tell me more.
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  Speaker 1: Are we talking about the brandy thing or so I've been.
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  Speaker 1: I've been doing exercising twice a day while I am
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to get a business started and clear my head,
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  Speaker 1: occupy my time, and honestly I started walking after Brandy
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  Speaker 1: left me because I sometimes my thoughts got so dark.
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  Speaker 1: I just needed to get outside and and you know,
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  Speaker 1: some sunshine and some fresh airs.
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  Speaker 2: Helps and a and a rocket revenge bod never heard
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  Speaker 2: anybody either.
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  Speaker 1: So so I was walking, uh the other day and
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  Speaker 1: uh lo and behold uh first and like she she
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  Speaker 1: passed me where you know on I was going east,
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  Speaker 1: she was going west and uh I obviously I saw her.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if she saw me.
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  Speaker 2: And then she was she on flot or in a car.
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  Speaker 1: She was in a car.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Then the following morning, it's about eight thirty ish, I'm
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  Speaker 1: walking and there are multiple apartment complexes around my apartment complex,
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  Speaker 1: and I said, the Cedar Springs area, And I'm walking
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  Speaker 1: past the entrance of you know, of one complex and
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  Speaker 1: she's pulling out and so like, oh, okay, so we
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  Speaker 1: live close to one another.
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  Speaker 2: Great. So this weekend you discovered that your ex girlfriend
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  Speaker 2: who ghosted you lives in the complex around the corner.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, pretty much. Yeah, And then I and uh so,
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  Speaker 1: I was walking yesterday afternoon Sunday, and there her complex
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  Speaker 1: has a little dog park and and one of the
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  Speaker 1: things that not only did the breakup rip me apart,
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  Speaker 1: because I really thought she was my soulmate and we
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  Speaker 1: had so much in common, and we never thought we
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  Speaker 1: had just a wonderful, wonderful relationship. But one of the
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  Speaker 1: other things was she had a dog, and the dog
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  Speaker 1: was with me a lot, and I got very attached
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  Speaker 1: to the dog, especially after Daisy died. And uh so
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  Speaker 1: she's out in her dog park, and uh, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I the way I walk, I can't help but walk
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  Speaker 1: in front of her. Oh I I could go, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna uproot my life and
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  Speaker 1: what I'm doing just because you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, she lives close by.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care good. But I saw her and obviously
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  Speaker 1: she saw me walking down the opposite side of the street.
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  Speaker 1: But then I go down the intersection cross and come
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  Speaker 1: back up her side of the street, and I looked
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  Speaker 1: over and she's at the farthest point of of of
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  Speaker 1: the dog park holding her dog. Like I like, I
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  Speaker 1: am some kind of maniacal you know, terror that's going
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  Speaker 1: to you know that, I like like, I've like I'm
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  Speaker 1: the villain and I've done something wrong and untowards her
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  Speaker 1: and she has to be afraid of me. So it's
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  Speaker 1: just it's it's just it's just bizarre. And uh I,
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  Speaker 1: I guess when you're when you're avoidant and and you
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  Speaker 1: do stuff like that, I guess you have to make
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  Speaker 1: a reason why the other person's a villain. And and
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, it's it's still it's heartbreaking, but you know,
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  Speaker 1: it is what it is.
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  Speaker 2: On the plus side, if I may mm hmm, your
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  Speaker 2: girlfriend ghosted you and you found her kind of makes
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  Speaker 2: you a ghostbuster. I'm going to drive you to start
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  Speaker 2: drinking again, aren't I No, dude, that sucks so hard.
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  Speaker 1: And actually it's it's oh, it's kind of sad because
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  Speaker 1: one of the things it's it's one of the things
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  Speaker 1: that I absolutely fell in love with with her was
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  Speaker 1: is she had the absolutely it sounds like a cliche,
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  Speaker 1: but a but a spark a light about her. And
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  Speaker 1: the times I've seen her, you know obviously no it's
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  Speaker 1: just from far away or in a car, but she
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  Speaker 1: looks dead inside. So that's sad. I'm wow, But she's
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  Speaker 1: made not only she goes to be then you know,
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  Speaker 1: she just up and I mean she had a fantastic
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  Speaker 1: job and uh up and just quit because she got
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  Speaker 1: mad at them. One day, and I was like, Oh,
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  Speaker 1: all sorts of good decisions, haven't we Wow?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I have a couple of questions. First of all,
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  Speaker 2: now the apartment you just moved into is not far
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  Speaker 2: from where you lived before, same neighborhood, basically right.
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  Speaker 1: Close enough, close enough. I mean it's it's less than
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  Speaker 1: a mile away about that.
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  Speaker 2: Get that. That's close, especially in Dallas Fort Worth terms,
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  Speaker 2: that's like next door neighbors. So where did she live
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  Speaker 2: prior to hooking up with you?
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  Speaker 1: She lived very close to where we live now, in
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  Speaker 1: the same So basically we're on the other side of
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  Speaker 1: the toll road, like Cedar Springs goes over the toll road.
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  Speaker 1: And I was on one side. She's always been on
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  Speaker 1: this side I was on. Now I'm on that same side,
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  Speaker 1: got it?
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  Speaker 2: Okay? So it in the same general area. The reason
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  Speaker 2: why I asked is because I wasn't sure if it
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  Speaker 2: was like if like if she had lived outside of
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  Speaker 2: that bubble and moved into it to be closer to
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  Speaker 2: whatever the situation was. Because for the most part, I
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  Speaker 2: think you guys were at your apartment for the most part,
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  Speaker 2: and then there was discussions of moving in, and then
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  Speaker 2: obviously that didn't happen, So I was just wondering what
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  Speaker 2: the like the geography was if it was actually she
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  Speaker 2: had uprooted it all.
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  Speaker 1: No, that was actually one of the magical things with
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  Speaker 1: her and dating in this day and age, is sometimes
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  Speaker 1: you know, if someone lives in South Lake, it makes
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  Speaker 1: it a lot harder that I mean, thirty miles may
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  Speaker 1: not sound like a lot, but it ends up being
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  Speaker 1: quite a bit. And she lived right by me, so
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  Speaker 1: that was one of the things that made it very nice.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, for a for establishing a new relationship, living
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  Speaker 2: kind of far apart is inconvenient, but if the relationship ends,
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  Speaker 2: then it's real.
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  Speaker 1: Nice, fair enough. Yeah, absolutely is true.
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  Speaker 2: Now I've been sort of in the situation that you're
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  Speaker 2: in as far as.
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  Speaker 1: And and listen, you know about this. We did not
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  Speaker 1: talk about this on the show, but I saw her
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  Speaker 1: one other time, and that is it was the weekend
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  Speaker 1: I moved and I had decided I was going to
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  Speaker 1: treat myself to a pedicure. I pull in the parking
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  Speaker 1: lot and and we had both been to this place
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  Speaker 1: before and she's walking out and I like honked and
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  Speaker 1: waved at her, and she would not make eye contact.
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  Speaker 1: With me. She would not look at me. I pulled in,
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  Speaker 1: I was pulled in behind her, then I pulled in
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  Speaker 1: next to her, and I mean, I'm still was one
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  Speaker 1: of the most shocking things that she would not acknowledge
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  Speaker 1: my existence.
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  Speaker 2: Were I'm just asking questions. I'm just curious. I'm just
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  Speaker 2: trying to see the scene in my mind, Like when
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  Speaker 2: you honked and wave, was it like in any way
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  Speaker 2: angry or aggressive at all? Or are you just like, hey, like,
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  Speaker 2: what was it?
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  Speaker 1: What was what was I mean at this point, it's me, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: this is someone that I spent every day with walked
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  Speaker 1: out of my door and at this point, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I had not seen her in six weeks, and uh
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  Speaker 1: so it was it was shy. I was so stunned
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  Speaker 1: by the fact that I'm just pulling in and thinking,
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  Speaker 1: not thinking about running into her and then she comes
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  Speaker 1: walking out it But no, in no way was it
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  Speaker 1: threatening or any or anything else. I was just honestly,
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to say hi.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so kind of getting back to this. So living
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  Speaker 2: kind of far apart from one another is difficult at
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  Speaker 2: the beginning of a relationship, you know, trying to close
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  Speaker 2: that gap, you know, at the distance between the two.
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  Speaker 2: But if the relationship ends, kind of nice because then
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  Speaker 2: you don't have to worry about running into them. But
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  Speaker 2: on the flip side, when you live, work, go out
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  Speaker 2: to eat and stuff in the same area when you meet,
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  Speaker 2: it's great for the relationship because you're so close already.
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  Speaker 2: But if the relationship ends, you're still living and working
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  Speaker 2: and eating in that same neighborhood with the X, and
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  Speaker 2: now you have to navigate that. And that's the area
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  Speaker 2: of your relationship where I have some familiarity because I
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  Speaker 2: had a previous serious relationship and when I moved out,
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  Speaker 2: I moved, you know, basically still in the same area
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  Speaker 2: when I went to go stay with friends, and so
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  Speaker 2: we ran into each other a few times, and a
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  Speaker 2: couple of the times it wasn't so fun. So it's
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  Speaker 2: it's a it's it can be an awkward thing, like
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  Speaker 2: at one point it was it was meant. It was
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  Speaker 2: brought to my attention at one point in the wake
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  Speaker 2: of that relationship that we needed to draw lines and
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  Speaker 2: we needed to split up venues, like one venue would
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  Speaker 2: be hers, another venue would be mine. Kind of a thing,
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  Speaker 2: and somehow we weren't allowed to go into these other spaces.
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  Speaker 2: I flat out denied that. I'm like, I'm not doing that.
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  Speaker 2: I took sort of your approach, which was, I'm I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to live my life and I'm not going to
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  Speaker 2: worry about where you may or may not be right.
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  Speaker 1: I although I had no idea where she had moved,
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  Speaker 1: because she just cut off all contact with me, But
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  Speaker 1: I I knew that sooner or later. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: knew I would see her, see her. I mean obviously
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  Speaker 1: grocery store, all, you know, various things. It's kind of inevitable. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so yeah, it's you know, at first it was shocking
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  Speaker 1: and you're like, oh crap, that's her. And then then
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  Speaker 1: after a while it's like, okay, well, and especially after
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  Speaker 1: the nail salon thing, it's like, I don't understand why
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  Speaker 1: why you would not even look at me or acknowledge
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  Speaker 1: my existence or you know, someone you spent seven months
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  Speaker 1: with and said was the love of your life and
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  Speaker 1: you wanted to spend it forever with and then all
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  Speaker 1: of a sudden and like I said, we never had
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  Speaker 1: a there was no blow up. I still I still
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  Speaker 1: to this day have never gotten anythinging, Hey, I this
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  Speaker 1: is why I left. Yeah, but you can't even say
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  Speaker 1: hello and be cordial. It was was shocking.
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  Speaker 2: Is this the strangest relationship you've had?
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  Speaker 1: It's the strangest breakup. And and this is one of
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  Speaker 1: the things my previous breakups, A lot of my relationships
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  Speaker 1: I was an alcoholic and so they were messy and ugly,
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  Speaker 1: but they were bad relationships. This was the first time
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  Speaker 1: in my life I would say I really had a
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  Speaker 1: healthy relationship. I was very comfortable, the first time I
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  Speaker 1: was comfortable with someone. And I think a lot of it, ironically,
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  Speaker 1: was we had some shared trauma from our mothers and
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  Speaker 1: kind of abandonment issues, you know, And I told her
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  Speaker 1: that was that was the thing, and I knew she
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  Speaker 1: had had some issues with that too with her dad.
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  Speaker 1: But we both had mothers that were selfish, self centered
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  Speaker 1: and at the end of the day, didn't care about
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  Speaker 1: anything but themselves, and we both hated that. And then
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  Speaker 1: it turns out she that's exactly how she acted.
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  Speaker 2: That stings, Yeah, that sings. Oh god.
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  Speaker 1: It's the worst part of it is is that I
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  Speaker 1: never saw it coming from her. I said, we we
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  Speaker 1: had we had so much fun together. We we just
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  Speaker 1: hung out all the time, and it was wonderful, and
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  Speaker 1: then it's like, oh, it's too and then you realize
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  Speaker 1: that's the problem. Oh it's too good, So you instead
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  Speaker 1: of wait, from what everything I've read, yeah, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's the mindset of, well, before that person leaves me,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going.
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  Speaker 2: To leave them, gotcha? Uh? And and so and not
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  Speaker 2: only did you know after seven months together, not only
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  Speaker 2: does she ghost you, but she also it's a twenty
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  Speaker 2: first century now, so you can't just break up with
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  Speaker 2: anybody anymore because now there's social media implications. One of
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  Speaker 2: the first things. I don't know if any of the
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  Speaker 2: social media platforms have this or not, but I think
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  Speaker 2: they should institute it, which is if I'm not even
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  Speaker 2: sure if Facebook still has the inner relationship, it's complicated
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  Speaker 2: whatever the designations were at one point. I've been married
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  Speaker 2: since twenty twelve, so I don't know what the updates
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  Speaker 2: have come with minds pretty much just said married to
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  Speaker 2: Terra for quite a while. But what I'm getting at is,
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  Speaker 2: when you break up with someone in the twenty first century,
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  Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, how are we going to handle this
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  Speaker 2: on social media? You know, there needs to be a
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  Speaker 2: function on social media to be like, Okay, wipe all
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  Speaker 2: photos with this person, because that's what a lot of
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  Speaker 2: people do. Like first steps is like I now have
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  Speaker 2: to wipe from existence any sort of evidence on social
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  Speaker 2: media that this relationship ever happened.
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  Speaker 1: She did that to me. I looked at her social
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  Speaker 1: media and I was like, oh, you have deleted every
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  Speaker 1: picture of us. And at that point, this is the
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  Speaker 1: funny thing. You want to know what's going on. And
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  Speaker 1: I knew her, you know her like Instagram was set
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  Speaker 1: to private and h but I had to unfriend her
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  Speaker 1: because I I I was in a very dark place.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like if I had seen her, if she
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  Speaker 1: had posted a picture, you know, just a couple of
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: times she posted, it just tore me up. And so
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  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I can't do this to myself.
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  Speaker 1: And then she she has since blocked me. Why. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Again somehow I'm the villain. I guess.
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  Speaker 2: Did you see that she had blocked you before you
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  Speaker 2: saw her as living nearby, or before you saw her
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  Speaker 2: at the nail salon? Or did that happen after.
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  Speaker 1: Before I knew we were living close by. So I
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: but sometime, I guess sometime maybe it was I don't
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  Speaker 1: know exactly because I quit looking for a while and
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: then I had one picture left, and then that she
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  Speaker 1: was tagged in, and then you know, I clicked on it. It
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  Speaker 1: was like this person doesn't exist. I'm like, oh, she
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  Speaker 1: blocked me.
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  Speaker 2: Yikes. So so here's the other interesting angle when it
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: comes to dating in the twenty first century with social
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: media implications, and that is for the third wheels, because
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: when when someone is in a serious relationship, what happens.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: You meet their friends, right, you meet their family. Well,
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: you also now become friends with them on social media, right, So.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: And I know that you are still friends with her,
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  Speaker 1: and and but I have never asked, Like, I'm I
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  Speaker 1: trust that if there was anything significant, you would give
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  Speaker 1: me a heads up, so I didn't get blindsided. Other
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  Speaker 1: than that, it's like I don't want to know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, first of all, I absolutely would. But it's interesting
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  Speaker 2: because it's, like, God, it's interesting on so many levels
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  Speaker 2: from the outside looking in, from the third wheel perspective,
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  Speaker 2: it's really effed up because I feel badly for you.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: You're one of my closest friends. You're one of the
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: people on this planet I've known for a very long time,
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: and I'm obviously on your side. And I didn't realize
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: before you guys were together that she and I were
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: already friends on social media.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize she was a fan of the show,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: and I mean going back to the radio days and
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: then the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: So when you got you know, when the relationship ended,
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: I looked to see if she had you know, canceled
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: me as well, and it showed that we still followed
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: each other. I was like, oh, okay, all right then.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: So the other angle then is since she hasn't blocked
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: me as far as I know, I haven't checked, do
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  Speaker 2: you need me to Do you want me to unfriend her?
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  Speaker 2: This is the weird conversations you have in the twenty
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  Speaker 2: first century when it comes to dating. When someone's relationship
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  Speaker 2: is I got to friends with the X on social media?
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  Speaker 2: Am I supposed to keep that? Do I unfollow? What
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  Speaker 2: do I do there?
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  Speaker 1: No, you shouldn't do a thing like I said it.
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  Speaker 1: There's no jealousy or anything else. And so no, I
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: don't you know, feel like there's some betrayal or anything
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  Speaker 1: that you're still friends with her and you should be
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: and you know, it's it is what it is, So
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: I have no, it doesn't bother me at all that
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: you all are friends. And you know, like I said,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: I I have gotten to a point and this is
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: age and this is everything else. And you know, I
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: pray that she finds peace and happiness and heals from
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: whatever ails her. I'm sorry that she, yeah, thinks I'm
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: such an awful person and won't talk to me. But
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: it is what it is.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: It's amazing there there. There are sometimes when I hear
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: this version of you say things like you just did,
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: and I wish I could take the recording of it
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  Speaker 2: and play it for the tray. I knew twenty years ago.
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: Just to see, just to see what he would say.
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  Speaker 2: inside the Treehouse, I'm Dan along with Trey. Today is Tuesday,
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: July twenty first, twenty twenty six. Let's celebrate with some birthdays. Ah,
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: hang on all right? Turning sixty nine today, John Lovett's
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: former Saturday Night Live cast member, famous for characters like
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: Tommy Flanagan, the pathological liar. John Lovett's sixty nine today
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: to me part of what I consider to be the heyday,
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: like the golden era of Saturday Night Live when he
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: him Phil Hartman, Like that nineties era Saturday Night Live
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: was really really solid, and some of the late eighties
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: as well. I think I think he kind of carried
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: over from the eighties and in the nineties.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: So you know, and it's it's funny how we remember
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: SNL because like SNL in the eighties gets panned a lot,
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: but it was actually really good. I mean the Eddie
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: Murphy days. Yeah, Joe Piscopo, that that.
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: Kevin Neelan, the Blonde Jackson, Victoria Victoria Jackson. There were
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: so many great cast members. Phil Hartman I was one
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: of the all time best.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: Oh it's gosh, I've I went back. I've watched a
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: few episodes of news Radio that such a good show.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: Ed you talk about ripping open a time capsule when
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: it comes to a television show and seeing people that
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: were a part of that show back then and knowing
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: what some of them are doing now you whoof.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I mean, Joe Rogan is the you know, has hair.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: He's like the sixth person down on the cast list
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: in that show.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean it's a fantastic cast and you know, sadly,
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: you know, Phil Hartman's no longer with us, but I
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: and Andy Dick is such a mess. But one of
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: the funny in the second episode, it's like they're doing
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: a story on Joey but a Fuco and they're like
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: and he Dick comes out of the booth and they're going, uh,
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: it's a but a fu go not what you said?
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: And he said, I don't get it, and he's like
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: in a second, and they're like.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: Oh God, that's up there. Like in our radio days
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: about whether or not to say ship's creak on the radio,
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: it's like, well, I mean it's s C H I
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: T T S and you know, Canada is saying it's so,
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: why can't we And it's with a name like but Afuco.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: It's like you want to make sure you say that
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: one right.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, don't don't. Don't get the the hard cut in there?
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: H Was that? So? Whenever I hear the name but
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: a Fuco? Was it on news radio where they were
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: maybe this scene you're talking about where they were trying
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: to like butt of fuoco. I don't know why that's
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: in my head. I don't know if it was a
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: Saturday night live bit or maybe it was on news radio,
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: but for some reason, I remember someone somewhere saying butt
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: of fuoco And I don't know why that's in my brain.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Now. This one obviously clearly he said, but a fucko.
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: At uh.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: But yeah, that that was It's actually it's it's a
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: funny show.
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: That's a great show. I've h I don't know is
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: it streaming anywhere, because that's a show I would love
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: to go back and watch.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's on Roku.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, the yeah, because I just off the top of
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: my head thinking about the cast. Obviously you got Andy Dick,
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: Joe Rogan, I'm brain farting Phil Hartman. I'm brain farting
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: on the guy who was the program director that was
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: from Kids in the Hall, Dave Fully, Dave Foley. He
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: was like the star of the show. And then the
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: station manager or owner I forget, which is Stephen Root,
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: who's the guy that goes on to play Milton in
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: Office Space wanting his staple or he's also the guy
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: that was the middle aged guy with the wife that
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: hated him in Dodgeball. I like Steven Root's one of
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: my favorite actors. I think I've loved pretty much everything
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: I've seen him in. And when he's Jimmy James and
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: news Radio, he is so good. Oh yeah, it is freaky.
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: And watching that show news Radio. That show was on
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: around the time that I was starting to get into radio,
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: and so when I've gone back and watched episodes of it,
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: it is so relatable from a radio employee perspective. Oh yo, no,
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: it is they did they did good.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah. No, it's a you know, fantastic cast. Uh Mar Tierney,
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Uh like she was great in in the nineties and
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: two thousands and and some really good roles. But no,
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: that that cast is phenomenal, and it's it's a funny,
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: funny show that it's a gym.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: And since we're talking, we since you know, we went
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: off on this tangent because it's John Lovett's birthday, we
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: mentioned Andy Dick from news radio. It's important to mention
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: the altercation that happened between John Lovetts and Andy Dick
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: after after Phil Hartman died. Uh. And that is the
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: physical confrontation from a bitter years long feud regarding the
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: tragic nineteen ninety eight deaths of their friends Phil and
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: Brn Hartman. You ever heard about this? No ooh, this
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: is good. So John Lovet's blamemed Andy Dick for Brent
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: Hartman's relapse into cocaine addiction. Brent Hartman's Phil Hartman's wife,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: which preceded her fatally shooting her husband Phil and then herself.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: Andy Dick has denied providing her with the drugs. At
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: a restaurant in West Hollywood, a drunken Andy Dick allegedly
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: approached John Lovetz and told them I put the Phil
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: Hartman hex on you. You're the next one to die, before
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: downing the drinks at John Lovettz's table. When the two
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: comedians saw each other at the Laugh Factory a year later,
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: Lovitz demanded an apology for the hex. Andy Dick refused,
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: which prompted Lovitz to physically assault him. And by physically
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: assault him, I mean he grabbed Andy Dick by the
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: lapels and repeatedly smashed his head and back into a bar, which,
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: let's be honest, lots of people had wanted to do
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: that to Andy Dick. So kudos to John Lovettz and
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: honest to God. When I first heard this story, I
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: was like, John Lovetz.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: Did, Yeah, that's like.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: That's not a guy I would expect to go off
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: and just beat well out of somebody.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: And especially you look at what has become of Andy Dick,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: and then you think, eh, he might have been right,
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: because Andy Dick clearly now looks like someone who has
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: been using drugs way too long and he is just.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: Fried, absolutely and so like in that scenario, like in
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: your scenario, I'm team Tray. When it comes to you
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: and your ex girlfriend in love, it's Andy Dick. I'm
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: team Love. It's yea, absolutely smack that bitch up. So
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: happy Happy birthday, John Lovetts sixty nine. Josh Hartnett is
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: forty eight. He's had He's one of those guys that's
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: had an interesting Hollywood career. He's one of the stars
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: of Black Hawk Down. He was in Pearl Harbor opposite
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: Ben Affleck in that weird ass Michael Bay depiction of
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: Pearl Harbor got that was weird. Although I always like
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: the movie.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: I do.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: It's a movie I can watch pretty much anytime it's on.
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's a it's Michael, it's a Michael
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Bay movie. And especially in that time there's a lot
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: of explosions, a lot of you know, very dramatic scenes, but.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: It's good and uh and look, I mean, if we're
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: being honest in the nineties, in that time, in that
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: time frame, Ben Affleck, Josh Hartnett falling in love with
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: the same woman. Uh, played by a very attractive actress.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: I am absolutely brain fighting on her name. Oh she was.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: She was one of my one of like my nineties
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: and early two thousands crushes Kate Kate Beckinsale, especially with
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: her her role in the vampire movies that that that
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: she did. Whow uh So anyway, you know, when you
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: think about two guys battling it over over a girl,
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: You're like, no, man, we're not doing that. Bros before
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: hose kind of a thing. But then when you see
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: Kate Beckhamsale in Pearl Harbor, You're like, I get it. Yeah,
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: I'd punch you, Trey.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: I'd expect nothing less.
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: And I'd expect you to hit back. So Josh Harten
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: at forty eight D, like I said, he's had one
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: of those interesting Hollywood careers because he started out really
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: hot and then it kind of cooled off for some reason,
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: no idea why, and then he's had a bit of
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: a resurgence. He was in a movie in an m
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: Night Shyamalan movie last year a couple of years ago,
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: where the movie was called Trap and I love the
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: premise of the film. The movie was mostly good, it
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: was okay, are you familiar with this at all? So
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: the movie was called Trap. Josh Hartnett goes to a
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: concert sort of like Taylor Swift Lady Gaga type concert. Okay, okay.
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: He takes his daughter to this concert and the concert
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: is a trap that the FBI and the police have
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: set to catch a serial killer. Yeah, and he's the
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: serial killer.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, I remember. I want to say that he
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: was on Netflix for a while and I remember I
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: was like, that looks really good.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: I mean that like I said, I mean, the premise
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: is awesome. Like when I first saw the trailer for that,
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: I was like, ooh, that is good. Uh and you
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: know it's it's an m Night Shamalan movie. So it
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: didn't quite stick the landing. It was good, it was interesting,
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: and it turned out it was a nice vehicle for
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: m Night Shyamalan to promote his daughter's musical career because
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: his daughter played this singer in the movie and the
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: music that they played was some of her original stuff.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: What was his he did the Blair Witch project or
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: is that something? Well he didn't what made him famous?
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: Signs? Okay, Signs did it? And to be fair, yeah,
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: it was worth it. Some of his other movies not
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: so much. I'm sorry. I actually no Signs was him,
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: but I don't think that was the one that got
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: him his start. The one that got him his start
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: was I See Dead People.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Oh, oh, okay, Sixth Sense.
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: That's it, Yes, Sixth Sense. That was his breakout thing.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: Sixth Sense was his breakout thing. Signs was really really good.
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: I love that movie. I love Signs. I think that's
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: so good. It was so clever, so well done. And
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: then a bunch of his other movies were just kind
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: of like. The Happening is my favorite of those. It
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: is such a nothing burger of a movie. Have you
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: ever seen that with Mark Wahlberg. I didn't mean for
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: the nothing burger and the wallburger thing to be in there.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: It just kind of worked out.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: I think it was Zoey Deschanel. Mark Wahlberg was the Happening.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: And they can't figure out why people are killing themselves.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: Like the movie starts with, oh, it's a normal day,
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: blah blah blah, and then all of a sudden, all
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: these people are just like throwing themselves off buildings and stuff.
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: Turns out it was the trees spoiler alert. The trees
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: are just going damn you. I know. Sorry, man, that's
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: the big reveal of the movie. It's the trees. Two hours,
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: it's the trees, Like, God help me.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: Are they like Ensign Lord of the Rings or are
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: they just trees?
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: No, They're just trees.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's blowing in the wind. That sounds like
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: a movie I'd be very disappointed with. So thanks for
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: the spoiler.
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: Everybody was trust I don't know if he's a disappointment
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: or not. But Rory Colkin is thirty seven. I say,
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: I don't know if he's a disappointment or not. He
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: comes from the Culkin family. He's just one of the
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: youngest kids. So Rory Colkin is known for films such
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: as Signs, Lords of Chaos, Black Mirror. So Rory Colkin
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: got his start in Hollywood by playing the younger version
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: of his older brothers and other projects. Because you've got
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: Macaulay Culkin is the main Culkin kid, and then Kieren
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: Kieran Culkin is the one that's killing it with everything
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: he touches.
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: I just it's interesting you brought that because I just
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: started watching Succession.
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: How good is that? I've heard nothing but great things fantastic.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm I'm seven episodes in the first season,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: but it is fantastic. Cat I love Brian Cox, like
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: that's something about him, and so I have found it
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: absolutely fantastic.
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: Everyone I've ever talked to that has said anything about
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: this show, it's been glowing. It's on my list of
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: things to watch. I just can't quite get there yet. Yeah,
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: I don't even remember. I saw something about it and
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, I was kind of.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: I didn't want to get any more. I have found
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: that I have to be in the right and mindset
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: to watch Game of Thrones.
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: That makes sense that you got to pay attention, man, That's.
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like you've really got to be watching it.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: And there's sometimes so I was also on HPOS. I
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: started watching Succession because I was gonna watch that, or
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: I never watched The Wire, and everyone has said The
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: Wire was fantastic.
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: I saw a couple of episodes back when it first aired,
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: and I really liked it, but I just didn't. I
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: guess I didn't have time to watch it when it
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: actually aired back in the day. And that's I'm with you,
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: that's one that I want to go back and actually
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: watch because it's one of the greatest television zones of
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: all time according to people.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: But succession so far, like I said, I think I'm
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: seven episodes in the first season, fantastic.
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: Two more birthdays. I want to mention both. They're deceased,
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: but they're very prominent ones. Robin Williams would have been
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: seventy five today. He passed away in twenty fourteen.
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: Have you read the stories about what was why he
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: committed suicide. No, Basically he was in a there's a
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: name for it, but he was in a very advanced
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: stage of dementius last Alzheimer's, and he was at a
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: point where they said the last movie he did that
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: he had to have Q cards for everything. He couldn't
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: remember any lines. And so evidently when they did an
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: autopsy on him and they figured this out and said, sadly,
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: at least today they probably could have slowed down the progression.
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: But that's why. But he is one of the few
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: celebrities with his death actually really made me sad because
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: he was such a part of from Morgan Mindy on
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: up everything. He I can't really think of anything he
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: did that was really bad.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: Same, Uh, it's sort of like we grew up watching
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: all his stuff. Yeah, from like you mentioned, from Morcan
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: Mindy to Hook, the Unting Look, Goodwill, Hunting Dead Poet Society,
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: all the work he did, all his stand up stuff.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: What was it? Uh? The what was the big comedy
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: comedy relief? I remember watching those and and he and
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: Billy Crystal doing those mentioning those two. The little cameo
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: that the two of them did on Friends. Uh, that
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: that was really funny, Patch Adams. I mean so many
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: great roles Missus Doubtfire. It's yeah, speaking of stories and
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: sharing things with each other. That the that the other
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: didn't know. Did you know what Robin Williams did to
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: Sally Field on the set of Missus Doubtfire?
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: Yes, I something about it. It was like the courtroom
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: scene and she had just lost.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, for the sake of me telling this brief story,
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: say uh, no, I don't tell me, No, Dan tell me.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: I'd be happy to trey. So while filming Missus Doubtfire,
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: they're filming, you know, this emotional scene and Sally it's
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: like a courtroom scene. You know, Sally Field's character it's divorcing,
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: you know, Daniel, Robin Williams's character and something like Robin
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: Williams could tell something was wrong, something was off with
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Sally Field, and he's like, what's wrong, And she told him,
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: my I just found out that my dad died. And
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: apparently they'd had this strained relationship, but she said that
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: she was sort of in a in a place trying
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: to process this whole thing that had just happened. She
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: just learned that her dad had died, and she was like,
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: she had to go to work that day. She had to,
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: They had they had to stay on schedule. They had
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: all these reasoned studio stuff. Producers are like, we have
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: to get these shots in, we have to get this
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: movie done, blah blah blah. And so she tells him, well, yeah,
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: my dad died. And and when the way Sally Field
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: told this story that I saw, you know, she emphasizes
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: that this is basically the height of Robin Williams's career,
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: and so he just they shared like an emotional moment together,
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: and he offered his sympathies and things, and then he
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: stood up and said we're done for today and just
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: shut the whole f and movie down so she could
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: go and do her thing and then once she was ready,
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: she came back and then they finished the movie. But
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: I mean she was like, that was his movie and
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: obviously he knew he had the power to call that shot.
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: And he's like, we're done for the day. Well, okay.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: One of his other one of the other great stories
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: about him, and one of my favorite probably maybe it's
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: one of my top three all the time favorite movies
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: is The Bird Cage. And obviously Nathan Lane was gay,
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: but at that time that was I mean, it's so
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: hard to for people to understand that of truly what
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: in the closet was, but uh, they were like on
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: an interview with Oprah and he Nathan Lane tells a
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: story about she was kind of leaning in a direction
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: of asking him kind of about sexuality and everything else
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: and said Robin just stepped in and like took the
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: bullet and just just kept veering off in another direction
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: to shield him from having to talk about it.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: It's amazing. Yeah, it's amazing to not only uh, to
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: do it, but to have the wherewithal and the acumen
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: to see that unfolding and be able to do something
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: about it. So, albeit posthumously, Happy birthday, Robin Williams one
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: more birthday that is of a deceased person, and I
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: have to admit this is one of those. I have
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: a little bit of a hot take on Ernest Hemingway
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: is one hundred and twenty seven today if he was
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: still alive. He passed away in nineteen sixty one. He
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: is the Nobel winning prize author of The Old Man
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: in the Sea and For Whom the Bell Tolls, which sucks.
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: Here's my hot take with Ernest Timmingway. I went to
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: the bookstore last year and I was like, you know what,
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: I'm going to finally read some of these classics that
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: I was supposed to in high school that I just
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: read the cliffs notes and went to football practice for instead. Right,
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: So I went to the bookstore and I got not one,
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: but two Ernest Timingway books. I said, you know what,
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: I'm going to do this. I'm going to read Himingway
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: like a damn man. And I read it and I
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: was like, eh, look, I get it. It was it was.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: His writing style was revolutionary for the time. But and
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: don't get me wrong, he does have the absolute best
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: short story of all time for sale, baby Shoes never used.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: Even I was not a fan of of of the
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: book that I read, the one and a half books
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: I read.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: I know I had to read. I want to say
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: for whom the Bell tolls? But I just don't remember.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: I don't remember it. But I think there's one of
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: the fascinating things some of the literature that we grew
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: up with. I think with the changes in technology has
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: it's changed our perspective on how we look at it.
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: I think it's harder to relate to.
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: That could be.
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: I mean, especially for you, for younger, if anyone thirty
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: five or under, they they don't know a world without
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: cell phones, without internet. And I'll tell you it sounds simple.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: But when I was in the previous relations previous previous
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: relationship and she had kids, we had to kid read
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: The Hardy Boys, which I always love. The Hardy Boys
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: growing up to totally unrelatable now because you look at
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: some of the ways they solve things. They're like, well,
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: why wouldn't you just go online?
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: And the Hardy Boys didn't have the Internet.
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: But that's what it's. It's so hard for them to
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: understand no internet, no TV TV, if you had TV,
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: no only three channels and no email, having to look
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: stuff up that no Google is probably the biggest thing
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: that that their their minds can no longer wrap themselves around,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: is actually having to look at a dictionary, world book, encyclopedia,
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: do research instead of just going hey Google.
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but how is it that they like they have
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: to be able to process some of this stuff? And
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: what I mean is like if they're watching a western,
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: they know that there's no Google. You know, uh, you know,
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: when you're you know, watching a show about the wild wild.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: Watching watching is is different okay, reading where you actually
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: have to use some imagination. It is, if I would
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: say there is that is the one problem with this
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: new generation is they lack the imagination because everything's visual
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: for them.
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: It's all spoon fed and it's like they don't have
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: to come up with anything in their mind. It's issues
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: you're right there on the tablet.
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: And it's why it's why they don't read.
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: So the book that I read all of by Ernest
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: Hemingway was a Farewell to Arms, one of his you know,
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: famous ones, and I got about halfway through for Whom
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: the Bell Tolls and I was just like, why am
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: I forcing myself to finish this. I'm just I'm not
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: enjoying it. Look, I'm all about a brief writing style,
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: but the way he did it, it just seemed I don't.
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: I guess it's I guess like with Himingway, it's it's
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: either a love or a hate thing. I guess some
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: people love it, and that's fine if that's your jam. Cool,
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: But I will say the ending of Farewell to Arms
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: didn't expect that, So I give him props on that.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: Do you want me to tell you or are you
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: worried about me spoiling a book that's almost one hundred
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: years old?
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: I think you're safe.
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: Okay. So he plays an ambulance driver in the First
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: World War, Okay, And he meets a woman and they
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: fall in love, and I believe they and it's I'm
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: thinking about the book now and I'm like, this is
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: so bad. But the ending is he meets this woman.
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: All right, He's met this woman and they end up
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: I think they end up getting married. She gets pregnant
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: and at the end of the movie, she and the
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: baby both die and that's the end of the book,
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: which honestly, I gave him a lot of credit for.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: I was like, I did not see that coming. Props
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: to Ernest himming Away on the plot twist.
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: Now, I think i've that that sounds familiar, So I
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: don't know if maybe I I I don't think I
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: read that, but that that ending sounds very familiar. So
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: either you're not the first person to tell me that,
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: or I don't know.
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I also felt, you know, like at the end
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: of that Hemmingway novel where the wife and the baby
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: both die and I'm thinking, lucky bastards.
• 48:57
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• 49:21
  Speaker 2: Back inside the Treehouse, I'm Dan along with Trey. Uh Trey.
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: Have you ever spotted cheese on a lady?
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: Huh?
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: It's probably the response I expected. I saw this on Reddit.
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: My boyfriend spotted cheese on me I'm so embarrassed, and
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: then she had to edit it.
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: Like you know, you say like thighs, like cottage cheese,
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: like you know, like.
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: Okay, She writes, my boyfriend spotted cheese on me. I'm
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: so embarrassed. Then she had to go back and make
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: an edit. She edits and says, sorry for calling it cheese. Lol,
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: I mean discharge. My boyfriend spotted discharge. English is not
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: my first language. She says. This happened yesterday. I promise
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: I am a very hygienic person and I take that
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: stuff seriously. Yesterday, however, I had to hurry through the shower.
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: Of course, I washed my private parts, but clearly not
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: well enough. In the late afternoon evening, things got hot
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: and heavy. My boyfriend went downtown. Everything was normal after
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: five minutes. I guess he got in there more and
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: she says that's when he stopped and said, you showered today, right?
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: She says, I swear my stomach dropped. I don't know why,
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: but I'm so scared of being perceived as dirty or
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: un hygienic. Anyways, I responded yes. His response, you got
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: some cheese. She goes on to say, I wanted to die.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: He did did he say this as he is getting
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: dressed and leaving and running away, like.
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: As he's closing this running down the hall, you got
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: some cheese?
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: Hey?
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: Just well, it's either that or you grab a package. Yeah,
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: it's either that or you grab a package of rits.
• 51:37
  Speaker 2: Oh h. She says he couldn't. She says he said
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: he couldn't taste anything weird. But actually my tasted pretty neutral,
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: as he before has described a slightly acidic taste, and
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: he said it was a small amount. Nothing crazy. At
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: this point, I was one hundred percent sure that this
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: was a mood killer for him him, but no, it
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: actually wasn't. She says. He wiped it away and insisted
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: on wanting to keep going. So my boy did go
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: grab a package of ritz.
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: I don't know whether to say he's a better man
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: than me or obviously he has more intestinal fortitude, because
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: I at that point I would have to go, all right, babe,
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: don't have to resume this at another time. You go
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: get in a shower.
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: Huh. I think it's time that I need some space,
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: and I think it's time I see some other vaginas.
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: This is where and this is going to be crude
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: to some people, but the men are talking. Now, this
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: is where you need to take the produce test seriously.
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: Right when you're at the grocery store and you're squeezing
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: an avocado to see if it's ready, or your school
• 53:01
  Speaker 2: you're knocking on a melon to see if it's right.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: You're doing all these things. If if you get down
• 53:08
  Speaker 2: there on your lady and it's growing something that is
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: not supposed to be there, don't eat it.
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah. If it looks like you know, something you saw
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: on a Tom and Jerry cartoon, walk away.
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: If this looks like something a chef might put on
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: top of an amuse boosh, get out of there. Oh
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: When if you open up a bag of bread and
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: it's moldy, you don't eat it, do you.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: Also, if you get down there on your lady and
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: it smells like moldy bread, don't eat it.
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Or if it looks like it smells like moldy
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: cheese it's not a salad.
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: Treat it like taco bell lettuce, don't eat it. Oh
• 54:16
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• 54:20
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• 54:52
  Speaker 2: cheese free, no feta. Ooh four