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Monday Mini: Listener Mail (02/05/24) · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha. I'm welcome to Stephan
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Speaker 1: I Never told you production of iHeart Radio and for
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Speaker 1: today's Monday Minnie, we are back with another listener mail.
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Speaker 1: Thanks as always for taking the time to write to us.
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Speaker 1: There's a bit of a backlog right now, I will admit,
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Speaker 1: but we are working through these messages so never fear,
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Speaker 1: we do get them, and so many of them are
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Speaker 1: so good, so really thank you. But I wanted to
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Speaker 1: start with one. We read a part of this one
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Speaker 1: in your two part first, the first part of your
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Speaker 1: two parter you did on Regina from Once upon a Time. Yeah, yes,
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Speaker 1: but I wanted to read the whole thing. Eldie wrote,
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Speaker 1: I have been a listener of Sminty for years now
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Speaker 1: and it's always a pleasure for me when you cover
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Speaker 1: pop culture topics I know a little about and also
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Speaker 1: love the episodes I know nothing about, so I feel
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Speaker 1: I can share your enthusiasm on your favorite topics. Is
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Speaker 1: really neat to listen to. I love every discussion on
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Speaker 1: fan fiction, slash fandom, star Wars and company. As a
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Speaker 1: former huge Potterhead and former member of Lots of Toxic fandoms,
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Speaker 1: I survived the super wholock area. Lol. Those are topics
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Speaker 1: I really enjoy thinking about. This was a huge part
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Speaker 1: of my early twenties. I'm thirty four now and talking
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Speaker 1: about the not so fun stuff surrounding these topics is
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Speaker 1: also really important and I appreciate it anyway. All that
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Speaker 1: to say, I really appreciate all the work you do
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Speaker 1: and when to dig up a meta analysis I posted
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Speaker 1: many many years ago on my tumplar account about Disney Princesses.
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Speaker 1: It's by no means exhaustive nor researched. It was just
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Speaker 1: my personal feeling at the time in response to all
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Speaker 1: the people bashing Disney Princesses because it's old, does not
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Speaker 1: include Moana, a personal favorite of mine, North Frozen, But
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Speaker 1: I think it does shine a light on what you
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Speaker 1: said in the later part of episode two. Not everyone's
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Speaker 1: focus is on romance, even in older, more traditional Disney
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Speaker 1: princess movies. I'd even argue that the movies themselves do not,
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Speaker 1: as the Prince often arrives like in the third act
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Speaker 1: of the movies, or have little impact on the movie
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Speaker 1: as a whole except for the ending, and we all
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Speaker 1: know the journey matters as much, if not more than
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Speaker 1: the destination, and when the princes are present, it serves
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Speaker 1: as showing off the development of a burgeoning relationship, and
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Speaker 1: the princess often has another primary goal apart from romance. Yes,
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Speaker 1: and Led sent us the link. I love this. This
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Speaker 1: is something I absolutely would do. So I feel like
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Speaker 1: we're yes, yes that I just write that. No one
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Speaker 1: reads I never post anywhere, so kudos to you. I
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Speaker 1: love it, but it is true. Okay, First, I love
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Speaker 1: how many people wrote in about Frozen. I was kind
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Speaker 1: of a but I'm very happy about it. It's really
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Speaker 1: funny to me. One of the things about our jobs
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Speaker 1: is after you research something, you get a lot of
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Speaker 1: updates about it, and it's really hard to tell if
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Speaker 1: it's because you researched it or if there are a
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Speaker 1: lot of updates that are happening arts both. But I'm
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Speaker 1: getting a lot of updates about Frozen. I love that.
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Speaker 1: I love it too. I'm like, oh, okay, I.
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Speaker 2: Think I sent you a TikTok about cicadas, so you did.
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Speaker 1: How they are coming? Everybody prepare tennessee. I do think
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Speaker 1: this is a really good point, and we did talk
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Speaker 1: about it in our Frozen episode that a lot of
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Speaker 1: the story. You know, I think the issue is a
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Speaker 1: lot of it is, you know, at the end, you
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Speaker 1: get married, you have your happy ending, but so much
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Speaker 1: of the stories like before that, and so maybe a
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Speaker 1: part of the conversation we're not really having the nuance
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Speaker 1: when we're discussing, is maybe you do want that thing,
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Speaker 1: but it shouldn't be the thing. Yeah, that defines you,
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Speaker 1: like because they yeah, they do spend most of the
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Speaker 1: movie doing something else that comes in at the end.
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Speaker 2: You know, we never talked about a majority of those movies.
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Speaker 2: There's always like the sin of the parents that always
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Speaker 2: is the cause typically, Yeah, or at least a big misunderstanding,
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Speaker 2: because Frozen has that too.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, just that's true. That is true anyway.
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Speaker 2: Okay, So moving on, Sarah wrote, I am writing in
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Speaker 2: response to your recent episode entitled Tech Things to Leave
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Speaker 2: Behind in twenty twenty three. I certainly learned a lot
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Speaker 2: during that episode, so I wanted to chair with y'all
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Speaker 2: a powerful AI tool that has answered a question that
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Speaker 2: I've been wondering about for at least ten years. To begin,
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Speaker 2: I am legally blind. I do have some vision, but
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Speaker 2: I cannot see you well enough to read print or
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Speaker 2: find details my entire life, I had problems of finding
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Speaker 2: solutions to get around my ability to read print, such
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Speaker 2: as learning braill and listening for the sounds of my
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Speaker 2: water boiling when I'm making tea. Ever since my high
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Speaker 2: school years, I wondered how I would do an at
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Speaker 2: home pregnancy test if the situation ever came up. I
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Speaker 2: do not think I would want to involve one of
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Speaker 2: my family members who can see to avoid judgment for
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Speaker 2: being in that situation. There are apps that can connect
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Speaker 2: blind users to volunteers who can see, and their job
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Speaker 2: is to describe what is visible through the blind person's
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Speaker 2: a smartphone camera. While I could use one of those
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Speaker 2: apps to do it to do an at home pregnancy test,
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Speaker 2: I would not feel comfortable doing that for privacy's sake.
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Speaker 2: While I might be able to find a person in
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Speaker 2: my life who can see that I trust well enough
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Speaker 2: to help me with this situation, other blind women might not,
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Speaker 2: particularly if, like me, their partners are also blind. All
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Speaker 2: of this to say that this year, a revolutionary tool
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Speaker 2: called be my AI was released and has finally answered
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Speaker 2: my question. It is an extension of an app called
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Speaker 2: be my Eyes. This is one of the apps that
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Speaker 2: could blind users to volunteers who can see to describe
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Speaker 2: things for them. The b my AI describes pictures with
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Speaker 2: immense accuracy. It's useful for things like getting expiration dates
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Speaker 2: from grocery items to online shopping, and describing family photos.
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Speaker 2: A user can also chat with the AI tools to
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Speaker 2: get more specific details that they are looking for in
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Speaker 2: the image and provide additional images to get a satisfying answer.
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Speaker 2: As this tool was just released to the public in
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Speaker 2: the fall of twenty twenty three, the developers are still
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Speaker 2: working out some books with how it describes images. With
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Speaker 2: that said, it is still an immensely powerful tool for
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Speaker 2: myself and the millions of people around the world who
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Speaker 2: have limitations with their vision. Now I know that if
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Speaker 2: I was ever in a situation where I needed to
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Speaker 2: do an at home pregnancy test, I would be able
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Speaker 2: to do it independently and discreetly without involving an individual
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Speaker 2: who can see. That is immensely powerful for myself and
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Speaker 2: I'm sure for thousands of other blind women. Wow, that's incredible.
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Speaker 2: I didn't know that existed. That's amazing.
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Speaker 1: I didn't know that either, And I responded and said,
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Speaker 1: you know, to my shame, I have never ever thought
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Speaker 1: me though about the pregnancy test, right at home pregnancy test,
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Speaker 1: So that is yeah, I mean that's an example of
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Speaker 1: technology filling a need. I love that.
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Speaker 2: Thank you for letting us know because that's such an
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Speaker 2: amazing discovery for a lot of people that like I
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Speaker 2: wouldn't have even thought to look for so suggesting this.
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Speaker 2: So thank you so much, Sarah.
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Speaker 1: Yes, thank you. Friend of the show, Amanda, who has
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Speaker 1: written in before and is the person who suggested that
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Speaker 1: we play way Haven, Yes, wrote in, I hope even
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Speaker 1: Samantha are doing well and both had a wonderful life day.
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Speaker 1: Our Christmas are whatever else you feel like celebrating. I
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Speaker 1: want to thank you both for your episodes. They have
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Speaker 1: kept me sane as I was moving to my new
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Speaker 1: home in coming Georgia. It's been funny because every episode
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Speaker 1: seemed to be like a mirror of what I was
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Speaker 1: going through, and it was so comforting to know I
8:09
Speaker 1: wasn't the only one going through rough times. First Halloween
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Speaker 1: Horror Nights, I loved your episodes on them, especially since
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Speaker 1: it was my first time back at Halloween Horror Nights
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Speaker 1: Orlando in about fifteen years. I absolutely went for the
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Speaker 1: last of us and stayed for the Dueling Dragons and
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Speaker 1: Yettie Houses. But seriously, I really hope you all get
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Speaker 1: to go again next year and make reports on them
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Speaker 1: a more frequent outing Samantha, I will volunteer as tribute
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Speaker 1: if Samantha is too scared to go loll thank you.
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Speaker 1: I also highly recommend if you get a chance next time,
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Speaker 1: to do the Horror Unmask, which lets you walk through
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Speaker 1: the houses with the lights on. You also get about
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Speaker 1: thirty to forty five minutes in six random houses to
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Speaker 1: take pictures, ask questions of the guide, and learn about
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Speaker 1: how each house was designed, and really get to appreciate
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Speaker 1: all the artistry. This may have been where my love
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Speaker 1: for the Yetti House came in. Here's some of the
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Speaker 1: pictures I was able to take next. I was super
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Speaker 1: excited to hear about your interest in board games. I've
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Speaker 1: been rekindling my love for them recently, and there's so
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Speaker 1: many more to choose from. Though it absolutely made me
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Speaker 1: realize the disparity between how many are women made versus not.
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Speaker 1: Here are a few fun games with solo modes that
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Speaker 1: I recommend, though I can't promise they're all made by women.
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Speaker 1: Final Girl only a Solo mode has multiple versions based
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Speaker 1: around popular horror tropes and all female protagonists. It's a
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Speaker 1: solitairel like game where you are trying to save victims,
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Speaker 1: to get power ups, get rid of the killer, or
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Speaker 1: escape with an item. Bark Avenue a dog walking game
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Speaker 1: that recently came out. It's all about trying to walk
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Speaker 1: as many dogs as you can in a single day.
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Speaker 1: Apparently all the dogs are based on real pups, and
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Speaker 1: the art warms my heart every time I open. It
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Speaker 1: also has two player and multiple the initiative this is
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Speaker 1: all about being thrown into a comic book where you
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Speaker 1: have to break codes to uncover the mystery of the
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Speaker 1: neighbor down the street. Scooby Gang meets Spy Kids can
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Speaker 1: also be played with multiple people. Okay, and now to
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Speaker 1: the topic that brought me to message you both in
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Speaker 1: the first place. Way Havevid. I was so happy to
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Speaker 1: hear your second episode on it, covering books two and
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Speaker 1: three and no Worries to Samantha, I completely understand. We
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Speaker 1: have to criticize the things that we love. Aha. To
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Speaker 1: answer a question, you both pose the differences and the
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Speaker 1: character's genders are determined by your sexuality preference. In the
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Speaker 1: first book, so heterosexual will get you all of the
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Speaker 1: opposite gender, while bisexual, asexual or pan sexual will get
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Speaker 1: you a mix of inverse with the Nate slash Natalie
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Speaker 1: and Adam slash Ava always being the same for that
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Speaker 1: wonderful love triangle mess. I'm glad you both are enjoying it,
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Speaker 1: and encourage you to do several playthroughs, especially with the
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Speaker 1: different characters, to learn more about them and test the
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Speaker 1: limit of the sometimes annoying choice of game systems. Anyway,
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Speaker 1: this has been super long already, but thank you both
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Speaker 1: again so much. I hope you get some well deserved
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Speaker 1: time off leading into the new year. I'm also planning
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Speaker 1: on going to DragonCon this year, fingers crossed I'll get
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Speaker 1: a chance to say thank you in person. We need
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Speaker 1: to do yes, oh yes, I love this.
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Speaker 2: Definitely, Oh way, heaven. I've already forgotten to go through
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Speaker 2: all of them a bank at one sitting.
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Speaker 1: I started the first one again, and it's just really
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Speaker 1: hard for me to like make different choices of looking
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Speaker 1: all that one.
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Speaker 2: That's that's it, Instinctually, I think I know for that
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Speaker 2: same choice, I'm like, wait, I need to do something different,
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Speaker 2: But which one?
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Speaker 1: Which one? Yeah, but I did start it again. I
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Speaker 1: think it will still be similar, but it'll be different. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: but I think like I'm not going to go like
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Speaker 1: way far off, but it will be a different outcome.
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Speaker 1: So many times when we send these to Christine and
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Speaker 1: I listened to them again, because we do it for
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Speaker 1: quality QA as we call it, I'll listen to it
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Speaker 1: and be like, why didn't I talk about that. I
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Speaker 1: do have a I have a theory about what's gonna happen,
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Speaker 1: and that's all I'll say. But there's something suspicious that
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Speaker 1: happened in mind that when you were talking about what
12:18
Speaker 1: happened in yours, I was like, oh, I might have
12:21
Speaker 1: stumbled on something. Then Okay, well.
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Speaker 2: Because like, yeah, I really do need to go try
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Speaker 2: it again, because I was so like, you can do that.
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Speaker 1: That lets you WHOA, Yeah, I was very confused. I
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Speaker 1: stumbled on something. Okay, I'm gonna have to go back
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Speaker 1: and look at it. That could be Dillar, right, but
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Speaker 1: it's just it's fun. It is funny. I love that
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Speaker 1: you brought this to his Amanda. We have joy out
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Speaker 1: of it. Yes, I will admit I bought I already
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Speaker 1: bought some of the Final Girl games, and I bought
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Speaker 1: the comic book based one to buy the Puppy Dog one.
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Speaker 1: I knew you would get that. To do that, I
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Speaker 1: need to see dogs. It's it's great. All game recommendations
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Speaker 1: appreciated clearly. We actually do take them into a convey excited. Yes. Also, yes,
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Speaker 1: the pictures of Halloween Horror Nights were great. I did
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Speaker 1: want to do that. We would see that group doing
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Speaker 1: it and I'd be like, Oh, I'm jealous of you
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Speaker 1: going into the behind the scenes and stuff. That was
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Speaker 1: really cool. I heard so Universal is like completely changing
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Speaker 1: their theme park next year, like they're doing it now.
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Speaker 1: But anyway, I heard five nights that Freddy's will be
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Speaker 1: there next year. Yeah, oh that's the hell. That would
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Speaker 1: be a good way. I know that Hell would be good.
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Speaker 1: Come hang with us. Yeah, I might have to take
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Speaker 1: Amanda up on this. I hope that your move to
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Speaker 1: Coming Georgia went well. I spent a lot of time
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Speaker 1: there as a child, because that was the quote, big
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Speaker 1: city near me close.
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Speaker 2: My niece works over there, so hi, neighbor, Yeah yeah, hello. So.
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Speaker 2: And then we have Debbie who wrote I'm fifty. I
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Speaker 2: was never on the pill until forty. Mom had breast
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Speaker 2: cancer in the early nineties, and it was assumed back
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Speaker 2: then the pill could raise my risk. When I started
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Speaker 2: the four periods a year pill, heaven, My period sucked.
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Speaker 2: Even for a year sucked. I never wanted kids, and
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Speaker 2: I got it every three weeks when not around women
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Speaker 2: on the pill to sink me up the seasonique three
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Speaker 2: periods a year pill is amazing. I don't know why
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Speaker 2: every woman who can take the pill isn't on it.
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Speaker 2: I was changing to another pill to help keep my
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Speaker 2: hormones from being nutty, was going to stop for a
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Speaker 2: while and see what happens naturally. And haven't had my
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Speaker 2: period since the last one from the pill in August. Yay,
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Speaker 2: I was finally getting the perimenopause. And then I got
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Speaker 2: breast cancer. Oh I'm fine. It was found in August
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Speaker 2: at Memmo, had a lumpectomy and just finished radiation treatment
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Speaker 2: last week. Now just starting to maxifen the estrogen blocker
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Speaker 2: as a preventative measure and have to take it for
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Speaker 2: five years.
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Speaker 1: So unfair.
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Speaker 2: After being scared of it by the goofy women who
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Speaker 2: talked about it dramatically had very mild hot flashes. I
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Speaker 2: didn't even realize I was having them for a few months.
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Speaker 2: Now after a few days on the tamox I seem
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Speaker 2: to be having more intense ones and more frequent And
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Speaker 2: this is it for five years. It's not unbearable, it's
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Speaker 2: just annoying. I like the cold. So the last four
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Speaker 2: years or so, I've been learning a little bit more
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Speaker 2: about the pause, not that it helps much, other than
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Speaker 2: knowing there was help if I had the natural one
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Speaker 2: and it was harsh, and I have a great ghano
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Speaker 2: who was ready to help me with my hormone therapy
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Speaker 2: if needed. Here's some great resources I came across doctor Jenkunter,
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Speaker 2: she posts on Instagram, has a newsletter as she wrote,
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Speaker 2: the Vagina Bibble and the Menopause Manifesto Menopause Taylor on
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Speaker 2: YouTube aka Menopause Barbie.
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Speaker 1: Amazing.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's really good information because, as you know,
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Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure this stems from my perimenopause what conversation,
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Speaker 2: because I'm still.
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Speaker 1: Going what.
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Speaker 2: And looking at all the options, and yeah, I think
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Speaker 2: this is why. I know a lot of people have
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Speaker 2: issues with the IUDs and talk about like really being
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Speaker 2: scared of them, really having painful experiences, and the floating
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Speaker 2: IUD is the fright, and yes I still check my
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Speaker 2: string often for that, but not having a period. The
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Speaker 2: first year of my IUD was very painful, but after
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Speaker 2: that worth that pain. Because I have not had that issue,
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Speaker 2: I will have some like PMS feelings, but it's.
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Speaker 1: Not anywhere near what I was going through.
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Speaker 2: I told you, I think I had like clots the
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Speaker 2: size of nickels and quarters, and apparently that's that of normal,
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Speaker 2: and I didn't know that, and all I was given.
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Speaker 1: Was ibuprofen and sent to school yep.
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Speaker 2: And like people didn't understand until they had to experience pain.
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Speaker 2: People would have different types how painful it was. And
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Speaker 2: I think because of that, the insertion of the IUD
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Speaker 2: was like okay, Like it really didn't bother me at all,
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Speaker 2: Like I went and running and everything. And then I
16:53
Speaker 2: have had friends who were like taking all kinds of
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Speaker 2: medication and vomiting and I was like, what what's happening?
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Speaker 2: Which we two of us and I just had a
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Speaker 2: local anesthetic. But all of that to say is like yeah,
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Speaker 2: I like, but I understand, like pills are really concerning.
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Speaker 2: When I was first getting on the pill, I was
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Speaker 2: sick as a dog. They were so like it was
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Speaker 2: so all for me that I could not stand up
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Speaker 2: straight and then had to get it changed it But
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Speaker 2: because I'm like, it's fine as fine, my body is adjusting,
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Speaker 2: I waited two weeks to say something was wrong even
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Speaker 2: though I couldn't stand up. But yeah, like I definitely
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Speaker 2: all of that was like so many of that is
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Speaker 2: that concern. I need to get a mammogram and I
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Speaker 2: haven't done that yet. I don't know the history for
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Speaker 2: my family at all because I'm adopted, you know, And
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Speaker 2: then seeing all this is something I'm like, I really
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Speaker 2: do need to take care of that.
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Speaker 1: So, Debbie, thank you so much for writing in yes, yes,
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Speaker 1: when we've heard a lot of it from a lot
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Speaker 1: of people about this as well, and I feel like,
17:55
Speaker 1: once again, unfortunately the general consensus was no one talked
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Speaker 1: to me about it. I didn't know what it was
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Speaker 1: the thing. Everyone expects me to deal with it. And
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Speaker 1: then you compare yourself to your friend and they're having
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Speaker 1: a completely different science. So I have learned that too,
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Speaker 1: like sometimes your friend and you are not the same.
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Speaker 1: Both are legitimate, but you were not experiencing not all
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Speaker 1: the time, No, not all the time. Cale wrote, First off,
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Speaker 1: I'm not finished reading your book yet, because it takes
18:32
Speaker 1: me forever to read things, but I perched it the
18:34
Speaker 1: day A came ouh, thank you. During that time, I
18:38
Speaker 1: had just helped my best little pal across the Rainbow Bridge,
18:41
Speaker 1: and your book was one of the only things that
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Speaker 1: brought me joy. So thank you both so much for
18:46
Speaker 1: all the work you put into it. It's fantastic so far,
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Speaker 1: and I can't wait to finish it. Second, I just
18:51
Speaker 1: finished the section where Annie shares her experiences of being
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Speaker 1: a sexual and bi romantic, and I just had to
18:56
Speaker 1: put my thoughts down while they're still fresh in my mind. Annie,
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Speaker 1: I resonate with what you went through and go through
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Speaker 1: so much it's almost uncanny. I think I've shared before
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Speaker 1: that I am a trans man when it comes to
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Speaker 1: my sexuality, having lived as a woman for twenty six years.
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Speaker 1: I appreciated what you said about feeling like you can't
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Speaker 1: even trust yourself to know what you want. I find
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Speaker 1: myself wandering that all the time these days. But what
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Speaker 1: I really wanted to share is that you discussing asexuality
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Speaker 1: on Sminty was really the first time I'd ever thought
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Speaker 1: about it critically. It was the first time I ever
19:27
Speaker 1: considered that to be something I might identify with, and
19:30
Speaker 1: so I wanted to thank you for your vulnerability and
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Speaker 1: sharing that on your platform. I know some days we
19:36
Speaker 1: all wonder the work we do really matters. So I
19:38
Speaker 1: wanted to tell you and Samanthe two that the work
19:41
Speaker 1: you do matters to me in more ways than one.
19:44
Speaker 1: I'm thirty one and just now exploring who I am
19:46
Speaker 1: in some ways, and I too find it quite exciting.
19:50
Speaker 1: Thank you, Klee, Thank you Cale. I'm sorry bout you boo. Yeah,
19:56
Speaker 1: Kale sent a picture of coconut. I believe, very very cute,
20:01
Speaker 1: very very cute, very sorry.
20:03
Speaker 2: Coconut is such a good name.
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Speaker 1: It's really good and it fits. It fits coconut corn.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, thank you so much for writing it about this.
20:15
Speaker 1: I know I talked about it before, but I was scared.
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Speaker 1: There were certain things I was scared to write down
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Speaker 1: and have people read, even though we talk about on
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Speaker 1: the show. But that was a that section was up
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Speaker 1: there with I don't know what. I don't know how
20:30
Speaker 1: people are gonna react to this. I don't know what
20:32
Speaker 1: they'll think. I hope that in some way people connect
20:35
Speaker 1: with it. Vulnerable. Yeah, So thank you so much for
20:40
Speaker 1: relating that it is something that like, I don't know.
20:45
Speaker 1: I just really appreciate you writing this, because some days
20:48
Speaker 1: I'll be like, this doesn't matter, really, I mean what
20:51
Speaker 1: am I doing? And then I had a conversation with
20:54
Speaker 1: a friend recently who was like, I didn't know what
20:57
Speaker 1: a sexuality was until you started talking about it, and
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Speaker 1: now I'm really thinking about it in my experience, and
21:02
Speaker 1: I think it really resonates with me. And so thank you.
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Speaker 1: We really do appreciate all your listeners taking this time
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Speaker 1: and being vulnerable with us and Cale You've been such
21:16
Speaker 1: a delight in so many messages, things ranging from Star
21:19
Speaker 1: Wars to things as deep ass that think, well star
21:22
Speaker 1: Wars is deep? What am I saying? Insulting yourself from this?
21:27
Speaker 1: I know what am I saying? Thank you, thank you?
21:33
Speaker 2: And then Jude wrote, first off, I read the book
21:37
Speaker 2: A good job. Well, thank you, But I was thinking
21:39
Speaker 2: a lot about ethical purchasing like this last happy Hour
21:43
Speaker 2: was about uh. One time trying to buy a frame,
21:46
Speaker 2: I wanted to avoid Amazon, so I ordered off eBay
21:49
Speaker 2: and when I received the frame, under the first layer
21:51
Speaker 2: of packaging was an Amazon Prime envelope. So it felt
21:55
Speaker 2: like I paid more just for someone to buy something
21:57
Speaker 2: off Amazon. For me, Regarding the problem at Midtlely, I
22:01
Speaker 2: have not bought off this site yet, but artists co
22:04
Speaker 2: op or artists do co op. Seems like it may
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Speaker 2: be the solution to Atsy's awful stances. I want to
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Speaker 2: purchase ethically, and I know there's that meme about no
22:13
Speaker 2: ethical consumption under capitalism, but it's so frustrating. My sympathy
22:17
Speaker 2: is regarding the ad problem, I hear a lot more
22:19
Speaker 2: podcasters complaining about how podcast ads work in the dynamic
22:23
Speaker 2: ones I mean yes, and the fact that it pays
22:26
Speaker 2: for our bills.
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Speaker 1: I do feel like the most cynical, like old detective
22:33
Speaker 1: hearing this from you, which I appreciate, thank you for.
22:37
Speaker 2: No.
22:38
Speaker 1: No, I mean like, because I've been dealing with this
22:40
Speaker 1: problem for a long time, so I like you knew
22:43
Speaker 1: podcasters coming out complaining about it. Oh, like that, welcome
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Speaker 1: to the party.
22:51
Speaker 2: Honestly, I'm more frustrated at the fact that our cash
22:54
Speaker 2: flow has everything to do with what we're willing to
22:57
Speaker 2: speak for, and there's.
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Speaker 1: Not a lot of great company I'm sorry.
23:01
Speaker 2: Like, like when we talk about how Etsy was, once
23:03
Speaker 2: upon a time a great company, and now, yeah, we
23:06
Speaker 2: have people much like what you're talking about with the
23:09
Speaker 2: eBay thing, buy off of Amazon and send it. They
23:12
Speaker 2: have more big companies advertising on Etsy pretending to be
23:17
Speaker 2: small companies and they're not, and then they're overcharging the
23:20
Speaker 2: small businesses that are legitimately trying to make it. So
23:24
Speaker 2: it's one of those things of like it's getting worse.
23:28
Speaker 2: The ones that we think are good are not good.
23:31
Speaker 2: I actually bought a gift for a friend in Canada.
23:34
Speaker 2: It's a Canadian company and it says it's ethically grade
23:38
Speaker 2: and then you go through and get the scores and
23:39
Speaker 2: it's not that great and it's like son of a Yeah,
23:43
Speaker 2: but like it's just it's just really annoying because you know,
23:46
Speaker 2: you really want to try to do these things, but
23:48
Speaker 2: it's so limited. And again it's also very privileged to
23:51
Speaker 2: be able to do those things because the cost or availability,
23:56
Speaker 2: Like it's just a sort but artists co op coop,
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Speaker 2: which was what I was calling it previously until aie
24:02
Speaker 2: told me otherwise.
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Speaker 1: I could still be wrong.
24:06
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure, so Jude, if you know, if you
24:10
Speaker 2: hear us and you're like, y'all are wrong, please let
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Speaker 2: us know.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, so that sounds amazing. I want to check
24:16
Speaker 1: that out for sure. Yes, me too, I probably do that.
24:19
Speaker 1: I'm curious. Yeah. And lastly, Jordan wrote, Hey, Annie and Samantha,
24:28
Speaker 1: I hope that you're both doing well. I just finished
24:31
Speaker 1: the most recent Monday Mini on Board Games, and I
24:33
Speaker 1: wanted to give you guys some more information on mennon
24:35
Speaker 1: Nights and answer Samantha's question about how they feel about queerness.
24:40
Speaker 1: I'm excited. My mother grew up in a fairly small
24:43
Speaker 1: men and Night community in northern British Columbia, Canada. Her
24:46
Speaker 1: whole life, she was taught that queerness was something bad
24:49
Speaker 1: and sinful. Later in life, her brother, my uncle, came
24:52
Speaker 1: out as gay and he was banished from the men
24:54
Speaker 1: and Nite church. He moved down south to Vancouver and
24:57
Speaker 1: doesn't have a great relationship with his parents anymore. Most
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Speaker 1: people in the community haven't talked to him since he
25:02
Speaker 1: came out. My mother is the only one who fully
25:05
Speaker 1: supports him. My mom describes the Mennonites as in quote
25:09
Speaker 1: ultra Christian cult and they are very into heteronormative ideas.
25:14
Speaker 1: On the bright side, they do make some pretty good
25:16
Speaker 1: food lol. I think it would be great if you
25:19
Speaker 1: guys considered making an episode about them and their culture.
25:22
Speaker 1: Thanks for reading. I love the show. Okay, somebody answered
25:26
Speaker 1: your call. That's thank you.
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Speaker 2: I really was curious because it's sadder than I wanted
25:30
Speaker 2: it to be. But I was really hoping because you know,
25:34
Speaker 2: sometimes I think about Quaker people and they're amazing people,
25:36
Speaker 2: but I don't know their stands on queer community either.
25:39
Speaker 1: So hopefully you know about Quakers, let me know.
25:42
Speaker 2: But it seems like, yeah, that makes sense, like any
25:45
Speaker 2: conservative ideals. It is really hard to not see that
25:49
Speaker 2: and then but it makes me sad a little bit
25:51
Speaker 2: on my ally. So thank you Jordan. That really does
25:56
Speaker 2: answer my question. That's thank you. Yeah, on again. We
26:00
Speaker 2: appreciate so much because we don't have this experience. We
26:04
Speaker 2: didn't know, and I love that someone in the audience
26:09
Speaker 2: was like, I can answer, I can help.
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Speaker 1: That is amazing time. Let's go. I love it so much,
26:17
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