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Why No One Will Pick You · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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Speaker 1: I've been rejected and or friend zoned four times in
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Speaker 1: the last one year. Every person has said, well, you know,
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Speaker 1: you just deserve someone better who can give you more.
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Speaker 1: And my question is, is that.
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Speaker 2: A valid reason?
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Speaker 3: No, they're calling you a bitch. You deserve more as
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Speaker 3: in saying that your standards are too high. and he
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Speaker 3: doesn't want to deal with you. And also, maybe he's
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Speaker 3: sensing that you're a little crazy, so he's letting you
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Speaker 3: down easy in the hopes that you don't turn to
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Speaker 3: social media to falsely accuse him of some shit that
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Speaker 3: he didn't do. It's probably mostly that. This is just
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Speaker 3: like the male version of what those alpha podcasters are
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Speaker 3: calling womenese, when women make up nonsense to reject a
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Speaker 3: guy indirectly.
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Speaker 4: Earlier this year, I told my husband I wanted a divorce.
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Speaker 5: Translation, I finally verbalized to my husband that I'm no
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Speaker 5: longer attracted to him and want to pull away.
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Speaker 4: I have been searching for something in my relationship that
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Speaker 4: we don't have for the whole time we've been married,
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Speaker 4: which has been 10 years.
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Speaker 5: Translation, I've been with him for over 10 years and
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Speaker 5: I've never been attracted to him. He was just the
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Speaker 5: safe choice.
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Speaker 3: I mean, that sounds about right. If you have a
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Speaker 3: great relationship with a guy and you respect him, but
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Speaker 3: you want to divorce him after 10 years, it's probably
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Speaker 3: because you aren't attracted to him.
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Speaker 4: The reason that pushed me to even bring up divorce
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Speaker 4: and talk about it was the fact that I feel
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Speaker 4: like I don't, I can't be myself with my husband.
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Speaker 4: And it's really confusing because I'm 32 years old. I'm
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Speaker 4: a mom of three and I still don't know who
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Speaker 4: I am. So for me to be like, oh, I
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Speaker 4: can't be myself or you don't love me for who
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Speaker 4: I am isn't really fair because I don't know who
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Speaker 4: I am.
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Speaker 5: Translation, I'm having a hard time justifying staying with a
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Speaker 5: man who I'm not attracted to, although I feel safe
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Speaker 5: with him. And so I'm coming up with all this
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Speaker 5: bullshit that doesn't really make sense.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I was saying. So on the opposite
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Speaker 3: side of that, if I were to tell a girl,
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Speaker 3: I think you deserve more, like that one chick reported,
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Speaker 3: I would be saying that because I wasn't attracted to her,
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Speaker 3: or more likely she was a bitch with endlessly increasing
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Speaker 3: high standards, and guys don't want to be with a
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Speaker 3: chick who thinks they'll never be good enough. And so
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Speaker 3: it seems like in modern dating that a lot of
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Speaker 3: people are just missing obvious social cues, largely, I think,
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Speaker 3: due to horrendous advice from internet dating gurus who are
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Speaker 3: actually degenerates in real life. So let's talk about that.
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Speaker 3: But first, recently a jury ordered Meta and YouTube to
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Speaker 3: They knew their apps could contribute to anxiety, depression, and
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Speaker 3: body image issues, but did not share those risks while
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Speaker 3: prioritizing profits. If you or your child spent years growing
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Speaker 3: up on social media and experienced serious mental health struggles,
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Speaker 3: you should hear this. Carrie and Donnie is stepping up
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Speaker 3: to hold these platforms accountable for the harm they caused.
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Speaker 3: You can use the link in the description or scan
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Speaker 3: the QR code on screen to fill out a quiz
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Speaker 3: and see if you qualify for a case, and if
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Speaker 3: you do qualify, you can get a potential recovery of
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Speaker 3: up to thousands of dollars depending on your situation. Alright,
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Speaker 3: so social media has no shortage of displays of normalizing
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Speaker 3: the worst in human behavior, where people value money and
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Speaker 3: useless possessions over the company of those who actually care
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Speaker 3: about you. And what that's led to, in the case
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Speaker 3: of TikTok women for this video, is a series of
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Speaker 3: people who are developing their ability to extract wealth from
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Speaker 3: a relationship partner instead of developing their personality into someone
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Speaker 3: who men actually want to be with.
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Speaker 6: You say that they like you because you have a
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Speaker 6: pretty face and a nice body.
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Speaker 7: That's really all they care about.
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Speaker 2: They don't actually care about you as a person or truly...
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Speaker 2: I want to get to know what you're about.
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Speaker 3: Translation. He was initially attracted to your appearance, but because
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Speaker 3: of your terrible personality, he doesn't actually enjoy spending time
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Speaker 3: with you. That, or you're choosing to date a series
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Speaker 3: of losers who just pump and dump women.
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Speaker 1: All the girls that are being 20 right now and
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Speaker 1: absolute whores in the club, whatever not.
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Speaker 4: In 10 years, they're going to be 30, trying to
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Speaker 4: settle down and realize that all.
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Speaker 8: The good guys are taken. They're going to complain that
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Speaker 8: they were ran through their whole life. But while they
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Speaker 8: were partying for the past 10 years, all the good
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Speaker 8: girls got cuffed by the good guys.
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Speaker 4: And so now when they look at all the men
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Speaker 4: that are options, they're going to be competing with the
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Speaker 4: now 20-year-old good girls and be stuck.
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Speaker 9: Why?
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Speaker 8: Because all the good guys are gone. You missed your
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Speaker 8: chance being a fucking.
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Speaker 2: Whore, bitch.
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Speaker 3: Very true. But assuming the best here in that this
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Speaker 3: woman is not engaging in something gross like hookup culture,
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Speaker 3: the kind of behavior that's pissing guys off is this.
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Speaker 2: Men want to be treated like women nowadays. They want
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Speaker 2: to be treated like princesses, and it literally disgusts me.
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Speaker 2: If one more man.
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Speaker 3: God, the nail tapping. That's a red flag like bird
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Speaker 3: hands or clapping in between words for emphasis. There are
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Speaker 3: just certain gestures that only toxic women use, and you
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Speaker 3: can save yourself from wasting your time on a whole
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Speaker 3: relationship if you can recognize this stuff early.
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Speaker 2: If one more man leaves the elevator first before I do,
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Speaker 2: I'm going to lose my shit.
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Speaker 3: Okay, that was a random pet peeve. I feel like
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Speaker 3: these women are just making up nonsense rules to get
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Speaker 3: pissed about because they don't like the opposite sex. And honestly,
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Speaker 3: because people are always in a rush when I'm on
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Speaker 3: an elevator, I just exit in the order that will
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Speaker 3: allow everyone else to exit the fastest.
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Speaker 2: Men don't let you go first. Men don't hold open
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Speaker 2: the doors anymore.
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Speaker 10: Men are literally racing you to get a seat.
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Speaker 2: On the train.
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Speaker 3: Right, that explains everything. She's like a New Yorker or
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Speaker 3: lives in a city. Literally the lowest quality and most
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Speaker 3: entitled tier of woman.
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Speaker 2: Women will stand up first before the men. And the
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Speaker 2: men are just sitting there looking fucking stupid. And then
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Speaker 2: they have the audacity to go 50-50.
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Speaker 10: Like, are we okay?
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Speaker 11: Are we okay?
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Speaker 10: Men want to be treated like princesses.
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Speaker 2: And it's literally disgusting. It's disgusting. It grosses me out.
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Speaker 2: I do not like it. I, we, just like, there's
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Speaker 2: no chivalry. And it deeply upsets me.
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Speaker 3: Okay, so this is like another nail tapping or bird
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Speaker 3: hands thing. If a chick just rattles off the term
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Speaker 3: 50-50 like that and expects everyone to instantly understand what
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Speaker 3: she means, then she's a lost cause because it means
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Speaker 3: she's watching lots of TikTok princess treatment spoiled girly content
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Speaker 3: where the girls are told by social media influencers that
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Speaker 3: a guy needs to buy them expensive bags made of
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Speaker 3: plastic instead of, I don't know, saving that money for
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Speaker 3: responsible purchases like a house or a future family. It's okay,
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Speaker 3: the plastic bag has someone's name on it, so it's
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Speaker 3: definitely more valuable than a child. But that content is
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Speaker 3: specifically designed to teach women to be emotionally manipulative for
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Speaker 3: the purpose of extracting wealth from a weak man who's
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Speaker 3: afraid to tell you no. Every one of this chick's
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Speaker 3: mannerisms suggests that she's addicted to doom-scrolling on TikTok. So,
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Speaker 3: if you're not getting chivalrous treatment from men, then it's
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Speaker 3: probably more so a you thing. Because in my experience,
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Speaker 3: most men do want to give women nice things and
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Speaker 3: treat them well.
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Speaker 11: By the way, the Kicey clips with her have attracted
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Speaker 11: an insanely huge female audience. And you know why? It's because,
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Speaker 11: will I sit down and watch her silly little show
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Speaker 11: with her?
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Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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Speaker 11: After I get tired of taking her out to dinner
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Speaker 11: after screaming for nine hours straight and she wants to
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Speaker 11: go out to the special super loud Korean place that
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Speaker 11: I don't even really want to go to, you know
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Speaker 11: what I say? I say, what's the address I need
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Speaker 11: to drive over there right now? A lot of girls
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Speaker 11: would love to have a guy that would do that.
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Speaker 11: And it's not about being a simp. It's about being
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Speaker 11: a gentleman.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that the vast majority of men want
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Speaker 3: to do this for the person that they're with if
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Speaker 3: it's within their means to do so or some version
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Speaker 3: of that to show that they care. Why wouldn't you
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Speaker 3: want to give your relationship partner everything and do nice
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Speaker 3: things for them if they deserve it?
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Speaker 11: The women that don't deserve that? You call them foids.
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Speaker 3: Really, if they don't deserve it, you should break up
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Speaker 3: with them or preferably don't date them in the first place.
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Speaker 3: There are just so many eye roll women out there
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Speaker 3: that men shouldn't be giving the time of day.
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Speaker 7: I genuinely believe that the dating scene will get so
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Speaker 7: much better all over the world if we just brought
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Speaker 7: back simps. Guys need to simp again.
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Speaker 2: Like for real.
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Speaker 7: Every guy's excuse for not simping is like, oh, like
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Speaker 7: she's going to think I'm weird or like she's going to...
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Speaker 7: Take me to court and sue me for stalking her.
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Speaker 7: First of all, no, she's not. Second of all, so.
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Speaker 2: What, dude?
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Speaker 3: You see what I mean? She doesn't care. She simply
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Speaker 3: wants to extract special treatment for just existing, and nothing
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Speaker 3: will make a guy more resentful than a leech like this. Oh,
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Speaker 3: just take all the risk. Just chance that she won't
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Speaker 3: decide to ruin your life with a false accusation. So what, dude? Okay,
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Speaker 3: how about you? What are you doing to make the
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Speaker 3: chase worth it?
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Speaker 7: You just gotta simp, dude. Guys are waiting for the
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Speaker 7: girls to simp and be like, oh, I need to
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Speaker 7: see that she's interested. Who cares if she's interested, bro?
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Speaker 7: You have to, like, gesture max and, like, make her interested.
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Speaker 7: Use charm and charisma and personality and wit and humor.
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Speaker 3: She doesn't understand any of it. The half where she says,
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Speaker 3: it doesn't matter if she's interested, is going to get
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Speaker 3: you locked up. And the other half is nonsense like,
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Speaker 3: just be confident. Just have unlimited charisma. Thanks. I never
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Speaker 3: thought of that.
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Speaker 7: Like guys will get rejected like one to three times
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Speaker 7: and then they're just like, oh, well, you know, I'm
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Speaker 7: just like, I'm totally out of the game. Like I'm
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Speaker 7: just not even going to try anymore. It's not even
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Speaker 7: worth it to me. It's not worth it because you're
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Speaker 7: not simping. You're not putting your heart on the line.
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Speaker 7: So like, yeah, that's just a part of the game.
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Speaker 7: Like hate the game, not the player or whatever they say.
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Speaker 7: The guys that are married and have kids like and
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Speaker 7: actually win over women are the guys that put in
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Speaker 7: that effort. That effort doesn't just end the day you
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Speaker 7: hook up or the day that you start dating. You
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Speaker 7: have to ramp up that effort every year of your
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Speaker 7: marriage regardless. So if you're not in it to win it,
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Speaker 7: you're not in it to win it. You might as
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Speaker 7: well just like start dating guys or something.
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Speaker 3: Oh, hey, look, she did the meme. But devil's advocate here. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: I think the essence of her argument is fine. Men
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Speaker 3: should put work into a relationship and that work should
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Speaker 3: be ongoing. However, the question is, what effort are you
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Speaker 3: giving in return? If you can't tell me why a
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Speaker 3: man would find you valuable outside of your appearance, then
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Speaker 3: there's your issue. particularly when it comes to women who
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Speaker 3: are complaining that men don't want them.
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Speaker 7: I've been dating a guy for like four to five
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Speaker 7: months and noticed that he started pulling away and when
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Speaker 7: I asked him what's up he said listen I really
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Speaker 7: really like you I have so much fun.
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Speaker 3: Hanging Why would a guy want to deal with that
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Speaker 3: when he can either find someone who doesn't have those
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Speaker 3: problems or just be by himself? And yes, I understand
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Speaker 3: that we're only seeing surface-level material for these women. We
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Speaker 3: don't know exactly what they're like off-camera, but also understand
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Speaker 3: that there are women in real life who are so
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Speaker 3: bad and so horrendous that it is infinitely better to
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Speaker 3: be childless and alone than to be with someone who
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Speaker 3: is going to spend all of their time creating problems
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Speaker 3: for you, like starting an hour-long argument because you got
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Speaker 3: off the elevator first. Who wants to waste their energy
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Speaker 3: on that nonsense? There are more important issues to deal
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Speaker 3: with in a relationship, like figuring out how to bankroll
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Speaker 3: a house in a decent neighborhood and how to raise
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Speaker 3: kids who don't hate you or grow up to be losers.
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Speaker 3: And so what's happening here is that because lots of
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Speaker 3: guys have just said, fuck it, I'm not dealing with this,
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Speaker 3: the women who aren't getting picked are going on TikTok
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Speaker 3: and coping and saying, well, I didn't want a date anyway.
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, right as, no, right as I was
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Speaker 2: about to, shut the hell up.
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Speaker 6: Please stop, stop, I'm trying to talk, please.
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Speaker 3: Oh my God, you're filming in a car. Just drive
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Speaker 3: away from the leaf blower.
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Speaker 6: You thought I was going to rant and I'm not.
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Speaker 6: What I'm actually going to do is I'm going to
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Speaker 6: hit the books.
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Speaker 2: I'm going to hit the books.
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Speaker 6: And I'm shutting my trap. I'm telling the long list
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Speaker 6: of people that.
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Speaker 2: Want to date me. I'm going to tell them.
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Speaker 6: I'm like, get out of here. One, because I'm not
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Speaker 6: focusing on that right now.
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Speaker 2: Are you kidding me?
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Speaker 6: Why would I want to do that, literally? Yeah, so
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Speaker 6: it's like I have to tell them, oh my gosh,
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Speaker 6: leave me alone, please. I love you so much. But
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Speaker 6: I can't focus on dating and stuff.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, you just have all of this attention from all
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Speaker 3: these wonderful bachelors, but you can't focus on that right
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Speaker 3: now because you're too busy going to the library or
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Speaker 3: some shit. I believe that about as much as I
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Speaker 3: believe Walter from Fresh and Fit got with three chicks
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Speaker 3: in one night and has a body count over a thousand.
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Speaker 3: But also, so far, really none of these women are
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Speaker 3: particularly unattractive, so if they can't find a decent partner
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Speaker 3: who is willing to say yes to them, then it's
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Speaker 3: almost certainly because they have a bad personality, enjoy picking losers,
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Speaker 3: or they're like true crime fanatics.
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Speaker 2: How can my soulmate be a man? I can't believe it.
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Speaker 2: I just could not believe it. I can't believe that.
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Speaker 10: All of them are like perverted monsters and you're just
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Speaker 10: supposed to settle down with a beast.
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Speaker 12: Like, I'm just a gentle princess and I legit have
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Speaker 12: to just pick one of these beasts and settle down.
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Speaker 2: That's crazy. And I have to have kids with them.
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Speaker 11: Like, what?
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Speaker 2: And they could kill me.
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Speaker 3: Let me be clear when I say that you are
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Speaker 3: many times more likely to be killed in a car
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Speaker 3: crash than by your husband. Learning to drive safely is
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Speaker 3: vastly more important than constantly looking for signs that your
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Speaker 3: lived experience is about to show up on Netflix. These
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Speaker 3: are very rare cases, and it's a travesty that these
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Speaker 3: stupid documentaries are making drama addicts think that there's like
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Speaker 3: a 50% chance some guy is going to give her
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Speaker 3: and her family the Lindsay Clancy treatment. Anyway, let's continue
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Speaker 3: with the cope.
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Speaker 10: I am 30 and have never been in a relationship,
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Speaker 10: let alone on a date. or had my first kiss yet.
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Speaker 10: And I'm slowly starting to believe that it will never happen.
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Speaker 10: I mean, I'm on the apps. I put myself out
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Speaker 10: there and it's just, it's abysmal. I mean, I don't
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Speaker 10: want to date where I'm from because I live in
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Speaker 10: a red state and I have very blue belief, you know, very,
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Speaker 10: you know, blue beliefs, you know, too many people in
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Speaker 10: this state where the MAGA hat and the dating pool
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Speaker 10: here is just hell has better options than.
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Speaker 5: Where I live.
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Speaker 11: Right.
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Speaker 3: The reason that you can't find a man is because
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Speaker 3: too many of them in your area wear red hats.
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Speaker 2: Am I ugly?
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Speaker 10: Is that the whole issue? Like, because if that's the issue,
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Speaker 10: I need someone to tell me.
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Speaker 3: Okay, so now we're doing real talk. Funny that you asked, because, uh, yes,
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Speaker 3: that would be your number one issue. No one wants
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Speaker 3: to date someone who is obese. Even you don't want
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Speaker 3: to date people who are obese.
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Speaker 10: I can't even attract my type. And my type is
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Speaker 10: skinny and scrawny nerds.
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Speaker 3: I always love the irony when fat people say they
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Speaker 3: only want to date skinny people or when single moms
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Speaker 3: say her future partner has to have no kids. But
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Speaker 3: very few people see obesity as their ideal body type,
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Speaker 3: even other fat people. Not that she's like a lost
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Speaker 3: cause or anything. Have you guys seen those weight loss
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Speaker 3: glow up photos? Judging by her face shape, she probably
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Speaker 3: would look pretty good and have vastly more options if
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Speaker 3: she just went on a diet. There are a lot
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Speaker 3: of attractive people hiding inside of 100 pounds of fat
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Speaker 3: or more.
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Speaker 10: When all my friends got married in their 20s and
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Speaker 10: I'll have like their second or third kid by now.
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Speaker 2: Do I want kids?
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Speaker 11: No.
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Speaker 3: Are your friends Republican? Because how are they able to
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Speaker 3: find somebody with similar political beliefs, but you can't?
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Speaker 10: Even if you do match with someone half the time,
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Speaker 10: they don't even ask questions about you. You're the one
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Speaker 10: holding the conversation.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's because they don't like you. If someone likes
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Speaker 3: you and you go quiet, they'll try to continue the conversation. Also,
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Speaker 3: outside of being fat, nothing will kill your dating options
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Speaker 3: like saying that you don't want kids. I've been on
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Speaker 3: the child-free Reddit enough for video research to know that
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Speaker 3: their number one complaint is that nobody wants to date them.
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Speaker 10: I feel so hopeless because the only men that really
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Speaker 10: meet my standards are one, Min Yoongi from BTS, and two,
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Speaker 10: a host of fictional characters who are, who just.
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Speaker 3: Strike three on that one. Obese, doesn't want kids, and
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Speaker 3: stays inside all the time fantasizing about K-pop and anime characters,
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Speaker 3: or worse. I think if we got to peer into
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Speaker 3: the lives of everyone who complains about dating, we would
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Speaker 3: find that a huge number of them can't find anybody
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Speaker 3: because they never leave their house. Also this.
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Speaker 2: How is there a male loneliness epidemic? But I'm coming
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Speaker 2: across more videos of women complaining about how miserable they are,
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Speaker 2: that they're not married yet, that they can't find a man,
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Speaker 2: that the dating scene sucks. I don't see men complaining
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Speaker 2: about being single. I see men accepting that they're single.
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Speaker 2: I see men going, God, the girls out here, man,
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Speaker 2: I tried to talk to this one girl. The guys
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Speaker 2: are actually trying. It's y'all that are fucking ruining it. Thanks.
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Speaker 3: That's exactly what every guy's ego needed to hear.
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Speaker 2: I just saw a goddamn video of a bitch complaining
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Speaker 2: about a picnic date. Mind you, she wasn't even like
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Speaker 2: drop dead gorgeous. Not that even if she was drop
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Speaker 2: dead gorgeous, it's okay to make fun of people. Bitch,
16:27
Speaker 2: that's not good enough for you either. The guy said,
16:29
Speaker 2: fuck it. They're going to bars. They're on their third
16:33
Speaker 2: fucking Heineken.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, never take a chick who isn't at least your
16:37
Speaker 3: fiancé anywhere expensive, because starting out a relationship by making
16:40
Speaker 3: it rain is exactly how you attract one of those
16:43
Speaker 3: vampires who would treat you like shit because she wants
16:45
Speaker 3: to extract wealth from you. You can weed all those
16:48
Speaker 3: women out by making the first few dates things that
16:50
Speaker 3: are free or things that cost barely anything.
16:52
Speaker 2: They're bonding with their friends. They're not fucking talking about y'all. Oh,
16:56
Speaker 2: but you guys? I'm 45 and all of my friends
17:00
Speaker 2: are getting married. And I just don't understand why I'm
17:03
Speaker 2: 38 and I haven't come across a decent. Because there's
17:07
Speaker 2: probably something wrong with you. And please stay away from
17:09
Speaker 2: women that have trauma. Please stay away from women that
17:12
Speaker 2: always have a story. Every guy I get with treats
17:17
Speaker 2: me bad. Every guy. Every house that you purchase burned down.
17:21
Speaker 2: Every single one of them. I smell arson.
17:25
Speaker 3: I cannot say this shit enough. Vet your partners like crazy.
17:28
Speaker 3: Never date someone who is mentally ill and be very
17:31
Speaker 3: comfortable with being by yourself so that you have the
17:34
Speaker 3: ability to say no to crazy women or women who
17:36
Speaker 3: will treat you like shit. Your relationship is not a charity.
17:39
Speaker 3: If you don't think your partner is great or the
17:41
Speaker 3: best thing in the world, then you don't have to
17:44
Speaker 3: be with them. You can find someone else.
17:46
Speaker 2: I was perfect. I did everything right according to you.
17:52
Speaker 2: Let's ask him. Either you're the most unlucky person in
17:55
Speaker 2: the world, or bitch, you're lying. I would rather die
17:58
Speaker 2: than go up to a guy. I would rather- Oh.
18:02
Speaker 2: You don't want to get rejected, right? Okay, you don't
18:04
Speaker 2: want to know what it feels like to be a guy. Oh,
18:07
Speaker 2: don't forget the whole single by choice. Oh, I'm single
18:10
Speaker 2: by choice. I'm single by choice. I'm single by- You
18:12
Speaker 2: don't fucking have options.
18:14
Speaker 3: Damn, I could listen to this chick all day. I'm
18:16
Speaker 3: not saying that women have to ask men out. Personally,
18:19
Speaker 3: I don't think they should. But what I don't appreciate
18:21
Speaker 3: is the entitlement of, oh, it's not that bad, you know,
18:24
Speaker 3: just let a chick ruin your life if you ask
18:26
Speaker 3: her out and she doesn't like you back. Okay, why
18:29
Speaker 3: don't you put your life and your reputation on the line?
18:31
Speaker 3: If it's so easy, you take the risk.
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Speaker 2: I mean, y'all are getting so desperate that you're hosting
18:36
Speaker 2: singles events. If that's not the most loneliest shit I
18:41
Speaker 2: have ever heard of. Why? So they can show up
18:44
Speaker 2: with their like little name tag and like offer to
18:47
Speaker 2: buy you a drink? so that y'all can take the
18:49
Speaker 2: drink and basically go, no thank you, I'm not interested.
18:53
Speaker 2: Who the fuck's paying to get rejected? No thank you.
18:56
Speaker 2: If they're gonna pay for anything, at least they're gonna
18:58
Speaker 2: go pay to have a good time, which is why
19:01
Speaker 2: they're hanging out with their friends.
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Speaker 3: Oh god, nothing has to be more pathetic than singles events.
19:06
Speaker 3: What are you like, going to go on a group
19:07
Speaker 3: scavenger hunt together? What happens if you go to one
19:10
Speaker 3: of these events and immediately think that everyone's chopped? This
19:13
Speaker 3: one on screen was a weekend event. That would just
19:16
Speaker 3: suck if you had to burn 48 hours knowing that
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Speaker 3: you thought nobody was attractive. Or worse, you have a
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Speaker 3: singles event run by women and no guys show up.
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Speaker 10: I'm so fucking sick of this shit.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god.
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Speaker 6: Touch a boob, buy a drink.
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Speaker 8: I mean, it's like very fucking simple.
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Speaker 9: Okay, so I recently went to a singles event and
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Speaker 9: it was 90% women.
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Speaker 2: Like, are we all living the same life at this point?
19:37
Speaker 2: Because I've never been in a room. But that many
19:41
Speaker 2: single people even thought that it was even, I thought
19:44
Speaker 2: I was like the only one left. I mean, beautiful women,
19:48
Speaker 2: all types, shapes and sizes. Where are the men?
19:52
Speaker 3: Oh my God, just go outside. Why are you going
19:54
Speaker 3: to singles events? Oh, it's because I don't have time. Okay,
19:58
Speaker 3: so make time. How do you have no time when
20:00
Speaker 3: you don't have a family? Work fewer hours. You can
20:03
Speaker 3: downsize your cost of living so you can afford to
20:05
Speaker 3: do that or train for a better paying job or both.
20:09
Speaker 3: If you have no obligations to a partner or towards children,
20:12
Speaker 3: then you can unilaterally make any decision that you want
20:15
Speaker 3: to take your life in a direction that you find
20:17
Speaker 3: to be more desirable. You have options if you're willing
20:20
Speaker 3: to put the work in, but the reality is that
20:22
Speaker 3: you aren't doing that, which is why no one wants
20:24
Speaker 3: to date you.
20:25
Speaker 2: And ironically, they're always finding themselves. But as they get older,
20:28
Speaker 2: they're the same shitty person they were 10 years ago. So, bitch,
20:31
Speaker 2: what did you learn? Huh? Always speaking that fake spiritual shit.
20:37
Speaker 2: What character flaw... word did you fix? What character flaw
20:42
Speaker 2: do you think you need to fix?
20:44
Speaker 3: Exactly. If you keep getting results that you don't want,
20:46
Speaker 3: then what changes have you made to prevent those undesirable
20:49
Speaker 3: things from happening in the future? For these people, the
20:52
Speaker 3: answer is none. In fact, if you tell them that
20:54
Speaker 3: they should focus inward, they'll actually attack you.
20:57
Speaker 9: As a 27-year-old woman that is married to literally the
21:01
Speaker 9: love of my life, like, women who are single... that
21:05
Speaker 9: are around my age will ask me how I found
21:08
Speaker 9: a good guy. This girl was like about 25 and
21:10
Speaker 9: she asked me, how can she get a guy? But
21:13
Speaker 9: when she asked me that question, she followed it with, Oh,
21:17
Speaker 9: you know, all the guys, you know, you see it
21:19
Speaker 9: on social media.
21:22
Speaker 9: .
21:24
Speaker 8: Typically,
21:27
Speaker 8: when women say those types of things, you'll have like
21:31
Speaker 8: the sisterhood come together and say like, yeah, men do suck.
21:36
Speaker 9: And like, yeah, like you're right, girl. But it leaves
21:39
Speaker 9: you with no direction. It just keeps you in that cycle.
21:43
Speaker 3: Right, it's feel-good content where you point the finger at
21:45
Speaker 3: someone else for all of your problems, instead of looking
21:48
Speaker 3: at how your own actions are putting you in a
21:50
Speaker 3: bad situation. That content is like drugs. And you know,
21:54
Speaker 3: you can drink after a breakup and it'll make you
21:56
Speaker 3: feel good for a while, but if you continuously drink,
21:59
Speaker 3: you'll become dependent on the substance and it will destroy you.
22:02
Speaker 3: I actually think it's quite damaging for people's psychology to
22:05
Speaker 3: spend lots of time watching channels that say you'll never
22:07
Speaker 3: make it, Because the opposite sex sucks now.
22:10
Speaker 8: I didn't get too far into the convo with her
22:13
Speaker 8: because she got very, very triggered.
22:15
Speaker 9: But what I told her is like, why do you
22:18
Speaker 9: think because you see bad behavior online of certain men, like,
22:23
Speaker 9: why do you take it on and then just like
22:27
Speaker 9: give up on your love life because.
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Speaker 3: Right, who gives a shit about these statistics? The whole
22:41
Speaker 3: point here is to try to become the person who
22:43
Speaker 3: finds the good relationship or gets the good job or
22:46
Speaker 3: has the good family despite these statistics not being in
22:48
Speaker 3: your favor. And if more people put in the work
22:51
Speaker 3: to turn themselves into the person that the good ones
22:53
Speaker 3: like as well as being strong enough to say no
22:55
Speaker 3: to a bad deal or an abusive partner... then the
22:58
Speaker 3: dating market will start to suck a lot less.
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Speaker 9: Instead of focusing so much on how much men suck,
23:03
Speaker 9: why don't you just focus on the things that you
23:06
Speaker 9: could work on.
23:07
Speaker 8: So that you could finally meet your man?
23:09
Speaker 9: That's what I wanted to tell her, but what ended
23:12
Speaker 9: up happening was after I offered her a different perspective,
23:16
Speaker 9: I think that set something off in her brain and
23:18
Speaker 9: she kind of took that as like an attack and
23:20
Speaker 9: she got... Yeah, see what I mean when I say
23:23
Speaker 9: that this archetype of person will get mad at you
23:25
Speaker 9: if you tell.
23:26
Speaker 8: Them what the actual problem is? That's why nothing ever
23:28
Speaker 8: gets fixed with these people, because most of them will
23:30
Speaker 8: get pissed when you tell them what's actually wrong with them.
23:44
Speaker 3: Which is why the trick of much of the content
23:46
Speaker 3: on my channel is to, I don't know, make a
23:48
Speaker 3: video about a bunch of undateable women for my mostly
23:50
Speaker 3: male audience, pretend that I'm talking about those women when actually,
23:53
Speaker 3: I'm purposefully choosing subjects that have similar problems to the
23:56
Speaker 3: people in my audience. It's not every example, but it
23:59
Speaker 3: is a lot of them. So if you're met with
24:01
Speaker 3: a super resistant person who will get triggered if you
24:04
Speaker 3: tell them what's wrong with them, then you can just
24:06
Speaker 3: point to another person with similar problems, Say that person's
24:09
Speaker 3: being undesirable, and talk about how you would solve their issues.
24:13
Speaker 3: It's not going to work instantly, but after the technique
24:15
Speaker 3: has been used several times, they'll start to take a
24:18
Speaker 3: hint when they notice similarities in their behavior, especially if
24:21
Speaker 3: you mutually agree the example person was bad. But as
24:24
Speaker 3: for the subjects of my video, my advice is never
24:27
Speaker 3: for them. Even if it seems like I'm speaking directly
24:29
Speaker 3: to them while using their name, those people aren't going
24:32
Speaker 3: to listen to me. The women in this video aren't
24:33
Speaker 3: going to listen to me, because most of them are
24:36
Speaker 3: too busy consuming content like this.
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Speaker 1: If you meet a man and that man opens you
24:43
Speaker 1: up and makes you feel comfortable and makes you feel
24:46
Speaker 1: safe enough.
24:48
Speaker 10: To engage with him sexually and then you engage with
24:51
Speaker 10: him sexually.
24:52
Speaker 2: And then that man ghosts you, that man is a rapist.
24:57
Speaker 2: That man is a rapist.
24:59
Speaker 3: Okay, I'll give her that one. But in exchange, we
25:01
Speaker 3: get to call women rapists if they use a man
25:03
Speaker 3: for his money.
25:04
Speaker 9: And if you are a woman and you have been
25:07
Speaker 9: a victim to this scenario.
25:09
Speaker 8: That I'm sharing with you right now, it's not your fault.
25:13
Speaker 9: What he made you feel is emotional and psychological manipulation.
25:18
Speaker 2: And it's okay, baby girl. It's okay, queen.
25:21
Speaker 9: And now you know how to set stronger boundaries.
25:26
Speaker 7: And how to demand....
25:29
Speaker 2: Actions.
25:30
Speaker 3: All this advice is going to do is cause women
25:32
Speaker 3: who listen to it to punish any good man she
25:35
Speaker 3: dates as if he were an abuser. Then they'll ask,
25:38
Speaker 3: why do all these guys say that I deserve a
25:40
Speaker 3: man who can meet my needs before they break up
25:42
Speaker 3: with me? Their actual problem is that they aren't attracted
25:45
Speaker 3: to men who will treat them well. They are emotionally
25:48
Speaker 3: attracted to men who are abusive, and until that worldview changes,
25:52
Speaker 3: they will continue to date men who ghost them, and
25:55
Speaker 3: they will also continue to push away men who want
25:57
Speaker 3: to treat them well, or they'll just become abusers to
26:00
Speaker 3: weak men.
26:00
Speaker 2: Guys are shitty. Guys are terrible. Guys this, guys that. No,
26:05
Speaker 2: the guys you choose, on purpose, who are not holding
26:09
Speaker 2: you hostage in a basement, who y'all record telling you
26:14
Speaker 2: to get the fuck out of their house, those guys
26:16
Speaker 2: that are willingly letting you leave, those are the guys
26:19
Speaker 2: that you hate.
26:20
Speaker 4: Well.
26:21
Speaker 2: quote-unquote hate, because you guys, you know, you never actually
26:24
Speaker 2: fucking leave completely until, what, years later, and then he
26:28
Speaker 2: doesn't want anything to do with you, so now you
26:31
Speaker 2: come to the internet and say how, how happy that
26:35
Speaker 2: you are that you're single, he stopped talking to you,
26:37
Speaker 2: didn't he, right, right, and then now you're looking for
26:41
Speaker 2: the good guy to come sweep you off your feet, right,
26:43
Speaker 2: now that you're 37 and have two kids, okay, die
26:48
Speaker 2: alone and get a dog.
26:49
Speaker 3: Though when it comes to relationships, setting standards and boundaries
26:53
Speaker 3: shouldn't be the main goal here. It instead should be
26:56
Speaker 3: learning how to pick a partner who wouldn't violate certain
26:58
Speaker 3: boundaries in the first place. Sure, talking about your standards
27:01
Speaker 3: and your needs should be a part of the conversation
27:03
Speaker 3: at some point, but if you constantly have to manage
27:06
Speaker 3: a relationship partner, then that person is either most likely crazy,
27:11
Speaker 3: or you guys aren't compatible. But bringing this to storytelling,
27:14
Speaker 3: because like half of my videos these days are about
27:17
Speaker 3: the importance of the media that you consume... And when
27:19
Speaker 3: it comes to well-written stories, you have what's called a
27:22
Speaker 3: hero arc that contains some sort of lie that the
27:24
Speaker 3: protagonist believes. Usually it's something that they do that's gotten
27:28
Speaker 3: them what they wanted in the past, but now suddenly
27:30
Speaker 3: it's causing them problems, and their story is the journey
27:33
Speaker 3: of them making the necessary changes that will lead them
27:36
Speaker 3: to their goal. By the way, notice how in modern
27:38
Speaker 3: feminist storytelling, the female characters are already perfect, they have
27:42
Speaker 3: no flaws in their way of thinking, and they don't
27:44
Speaker 3: go through any major character changes, other than maybe realizing
27:48
Speaker 3: that they were already great all along. That's intentional. The
27:51
Speaker 3: writers are doing that on purpose. Anyway, in a real story,
27:54
Speaker 3: the protagonist either makes a change that results in an
27:57
Speaker 3: entirely new worldview, or the change is like an upgrade
28:00
Speaker 3: and nuance on a prior trait that gets them more
28:03
Speaker 3: of what they want without as many negatives. Sometimes when
28:05
Speaker 3: things are going wrong for you, you do have the
28:07
Speaker 3: right idea, you're just using the less good version of it.
28:11
Speaker 3: And so, change is so important that, in stories, we
28:14
Speaker 3: call people heroes when they're capable of doing it. because sadly,
28:18
Speaker 3: most people aren't. Most people kind of just wander around
28:20
Speaker 3: through life like NPCs with very little self-awareness.
28:24
Speaker 12: Is chivalry officially dead? We were walking, we're at Churchill Downs,
28:31
Speaker 12: and we were walking all the way from a far
28:34
Speaker 12: back lot, and they have little golf carts that come
28:36
Speaker 12: around and offer people rides to the front gates, and
28:40
Speaker 12: it's a little bit of a hike.
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Speaker 5: A golf cart pulls up, all.
28:44
Speaker 12: Of the men in front of us Okay, let me
28:47
Speaker 12: get this straight. You chose to wear high heels for yourself,
28:52
Speaker 12: I can imagine.
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Speaker 13: Some people trick themselves into saying that they dress up
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Speaker 13: for themselves, not others. They want to look more attractive
29:19
Speaker 13: for their own self-esteem. This is obviously false, because if
29:23
Speaker 13: it were true, they would dress the same at home
29:26
Speaker 13: as they do in public.
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Speaker 3: Right, thanks for setting the record straight. So she chose
29:30
Speaker 3: to wear incredibly uncomfortable shoes because they put her body
29:33
Speaker 3: into a shape that attracts more sexual attention from men,
29:37
Speaker 3: and she's mad because men who were ahead of her
29:39
Speaker 3: and got to see first did not roll out the
29:41
Speaker 3: red carpet for her and blessed her with a seat
29:44
Speaker 3: so that she would not have to walk in the
29:45
Speaker 3: uncomfortable shoes that she chose to wear. Can you see
29:49
Speaker 3: what I mean when I say that women like this
29:51
Speaker 3: aren't getting nice treatment because they don't deserve it? They
29:53
Speaker 3: are essentially saying that they own that seat because they
29:56
Speaker 3: were born a certain way, And men are immoral for
29:59
Speaker 3: not jumping to give her that thing that she owns,
30:01
Speaker 3: even though the societal rules are first come, first serve.
30:04
Speaker 3: Maybe they should wait their turn or walk. Now, would
30:07
Speaker 3: I have offered up my seat? Of course I would have.
30:09
Speaker 3: But if I had any hint that these women wanted
30:11
Speaker 3: to be waited on and catered to with that personality,
30:13
Speaker 3: then there is no way in hell I would have
30:15
Speaker 3: stepped off that golf cart. Maybe the guys she's talking
30:18
Speaker 3: about picked up on that. So if you want to
30:20
Speaker 3: know why people aren't choosing you, then it's because you
30:22
Speaker 3: have a terrible personality, or you don't take care of
30:24
Speaker 3: your health, or you aren't socializing enough to encounter somebody,
30:28
Speaker 3: or all of the above. So fix those things. And
30:31
Speaker 3: more importantly, don't psych yourself out by thinking about all
30:34
Speaker 3: the people who aren't going to make it. Those people
30:37
Speaker 3: are not your problem. It is not your responsibility to
30:40
Speaker 3: grant a charity relationship to someone who is mentally ill,
30:43
Speaker 3: nor is it your responsibility to pick up the stragglers
30:46
Speaker 3: who won't get with the program. That doesn't work anyway,
30:48
Speaker 3: they'll just take you down with them. Instead, your business
30:51
Speaker 3: is to improve yourself as much as possible and to
30:54
Speaker 3: only accept somebody who you genuinely think is great. Anyway,
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Speaker 3: thanks for watching, follow me on Twitter, and I'll see
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Speaker 3: you in the next video.