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Ben Newman · Bussin' With The Boys

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  Speaker 1: The boys Yo number one. Thank you. Regal Realty Group
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  Speaker 1: Hunter Briley specifically, guys, local Nashville company, real estate company.
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  Speaker 1: It's Regal Realty Group. You can find them at Regal
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  Speaker 1: RG dot com. And you can also get a Hunter
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  Speaker 1: Briley who works with us, you know, specifically Hunter Briley
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  Speaker 1: his personal fucking blow him up six one five six
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  Speaker 1: you know his office six one five four eight three
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  Speaker 1: zero eight five six. That is Hunter Briley and you
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  Speaker 1: can find them at Regal RG dot com. Guys, it's
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  Speaker 1: anything from commercial, residential and even investment.
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  Speaker 2: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: He's trying to find a home for this bus. As
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  Speaker 1: a matter of fact, he's helping us find some rental
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  Speaker 1: locations potentially a buying to have a nice, nice little
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  Speaker 1: Rob deer Dick fantasy factory type deal going on. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: he's a stud man. He really helps. He really helped
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  Speaker 1: us out. I know his phone has been blown up
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  Speaker 1: a little bit by people around here. He's gotten a
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  Speaker 1: few hot leads. So guys, he's it's real estate done
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  Speaker 1: differently and he's all about relationships. I've sat with him.
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  Speaker 1: I look I look into his beautiful eyes and he
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  Speaker 1: he helps me navigate through this world that we're all
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  Speaker 1: trying to navigate through. I'm big in the investment game,
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  Speaker 1: big in real estate, and Hunters somebody that I'm able
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  Speaker 1: to lean on and he's somebody that I trust and
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  Speaker 1: take advice from. So again, that's commercial residential if you're
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  Speaker 1: looking to move somewhere or rent, and also investment if
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  Speaker 1: you guys are looking for investment opportunities, looking for just
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  Speaker 1: to sit down and have a conversation. That is Hunter
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  Speaker 1: Briley with the Regal Realty Group and again Regal rg
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  Speaker 1: dot com. Just to kind of update you guys and
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  Speaker 1: give you guys an idea of what exactly we do.
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  Speaker 1: We have all of our episodes backlog. They're all in
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  Speaker 1: the bank right now. We have a library. We grinded
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  Speaker 1: out episodes to kind of last us throughout the year.
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  Speaker 1: We've dropped those episodes every Monday on the podcast for
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  Speaker 1: Monday on Tuesdays. Tuesday Nights is when you guys get
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  Speaker 1: the YouTube videos. But we keep the intros fresh because
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  Speaker 1: on the intros. That again, the episodes are banked. They're
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  Speaker 1: already They're already, they've already been done. So anything you
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  Speaker 1: hear they were done in the summer. We don't want
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  Speaker 1: you guys to get it twisted. The boy he's on
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  Speaker 1: the Titans. Number one priority is football. Myself, when I'm
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  Speaker 1: playing football, that is number one priority. So we just
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  Speaker 1: kind of drop in hit an intro each and every week,
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  Speaker 1: but all the episodes are already in the bank. Dude
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  Speaker 1: was reading through some reviews last week and that shit
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  Speaker 1: is hilarious. We tweeted a few of them out, I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna read you. I'm gonna read you, guys. Some guys
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  Speaker 1: keep the reviews coming. The reviews are the best part.
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  Speaker 1: The reviews are hilarious. Uh here's one. Shout out my
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  Speaker 1: dog a train one two. It's titled Wolf. I was
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  Speaker 1: sitting at home listening to this pod, cooking dinner and
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  Speaker 1: baking pie with my Yorkie. By the end of episode two,
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  Speaker 1: I glanced over. My dog Lily is now ghost from
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  Speaker 1: Game of Thrones. My apron has turned into armor. Pie
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  Speaker 1: is now whiskey and food is a fat juicy steak.
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  Speaker 1: Puppy to Wolf exclusive. Yo, that is fucking hilarious. Your
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  Speaker 1: little dog Yorkie hate Yorkies, but I love your little
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  Speaker 1: dog Yorki and I'm glad you love to review a train.
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  Speaker 1: Um shout out all day Ray, best pod in the game.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate that, my pup mark. How do you say it?
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  Speaker 1: Matt markel Fults markel Fultz listened to one episode and
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  Speaker 1: his jumper came back. The boys are out here changing lives. God, dude,
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  Speaker 1: If that's how you guys really feel, we are super
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  Speaker 1: fucking grateful, because this shit is awesome. You guys are
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  Speaker 1: on this journey with us, and we're just trying to
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  Speaker 1: to our episode. We change it up a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: my pups. We changed it up. The wolves we wanted
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  Speaker 1: to get. We wanted to get. We want different variety
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  Speaker 1: of guests on here. You know. That's one reason we've
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  Speaker 1: had shab On, Rich Frohning, Michael Chandler, a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: different people, Sean Booth to name a few different people
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  Speaker 1: out of the football world. Because yes, we get we
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  Speaker 1: have that little edge with football. We get our initial
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  Speaker 1: client tele our initial audience is football. But it's very
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  Speaker 1: important to us that we are we show you guys
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  Speaker 1: that we are more than just a football podcast. There's
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  Speaker 1: a lot of shit that goes on with us that
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  Speaker 1: we're very intrigued about. In this episode, here we have
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  Speaker 1: on performance coach and author Ben Newman. Ben is somebody
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  Speaker 1: that I've been close with for several years now. You know.
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  Speaker 1: He's a best selling author and he's a performance mental coach.
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  Speaker 1: He works directly with the Alabama Crimson tight football team.
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  Speaker 1: He works with he just got hired on for the
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  Speaker 1: Kansas State football team. He works with athletes in the NFL, PGA, NBA, MLB, UFC,
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  Speaker 1: and the n C Double A. He's a stud man.
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  Speaker 1: He writes for Forbes. He is uh, he's the white
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  Speaker 1: guy for me, Taylor, and I said down with him.
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  Speaker 1: We got into some great conversations a little bit about
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  Speaker 1: my story with Ben. My journey with Ben. I'm getting
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  Speaker 1: some mental coaching done since I've been in the league.
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  Speaker 1: Taylor and him go banter back and forth about Michigan
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  Speaker 1: and Michigan State. Him going to Michigan State, Taylor going
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  Speaker 1: to Michigan. Taylor drops some fucking jim. Uh, there's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of good storytelling. This is a this is a
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  Speaker 1: really cool episode to get super deep in a good way. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: We have fun at the beginning, and then we get
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  Speaker 1: in some real nitty gritty ship man, and it's uh,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm a big believer in mental performance. Taylor
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  Speaker 1: and I both are will be sending each other videos
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  Speaker 1: Law of Attraction, mental psychology training ship from David Goggins,
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  Speaker 1: Joe Rogan, Tony Robbins, Conor McGregor, all that shit. Dude.
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  Speaker 1: We said, we're constantly sending each other ship so, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's a big part of our lives, staying on kind
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  Speaker 1: of the mental grind, just as much as performance and
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  Speaker 1: physical you know, super important stuff and really insightful things.
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  Speaker 1: I think you guys are really gonna like this Bend
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  Speaker 1: Newman episode. You can find him on social Media's at
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  Speaker 1: Continued Fight on Instagram and Twitter. That is at continued
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  Speaker 1: fight and again. He is a He is a mental
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  Speaker 1: performance coach for the Alabama football team, Kansas State football team.
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  Speaker 1: Guys around all different varieties of leagues, myself, guys in
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  Speaker 1: the guys in the NFL. So I think you guys
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  Speaker 1: are really gonna like this one. It's a big change up.
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  Speaker 1: It's not just bullshitting the whole time. Uh, We're following
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  Speaker 1: his story. We're talking about a lot of ship and
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  Speaker 1: some stuff that is very relatable. And I hope you
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  Speaker 1: guys take into your lives and when you after you
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  Speaker 1: guys listen to this. If you guys feel like we
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  Speaker 1: how you felt about this episode. Comment to us on Twitter,
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  Speaker 1: and you know you guys are in this thing with us,
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  Speaker 1: but I appreciate you, motherckers, and I hope you guys
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode.
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  Speaker 3: Ben Newman, So you know there's one can of worms
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  Speaker 3: that we probably should opened that you probably didn't.
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  Speaker 1: Tell them what's ahead.
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  Speaker 3: Then I went to Michigan State.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I forgot.
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  Speaker 4: I just gotta make sure I talk slow. Remember everything I.
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  Speaker 1: Love.
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  Speaker 3: I love when when he made Braybell point up to.
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  Speaker 4: The yeah, yeah, man, we got to make sure people.
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  Speaker 4: If you go on the bus, man, you're in corn
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  Speaker 4: Husker territory.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, I was terrified.
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  Speaker 2: It's not amy and.
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  Speaker 4: It's kind of just like welcome, glad to have you,
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  Speaker 4: Jesus Christ.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, coloring books will be fine.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Aaron, he's over here like about to rip
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  Speaker 1: it out of the fucking bus. I have to get
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  Speaker 1: that black cart out. They can pay for it. Yo.
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  Speaker 1: It's raining outside, his storming. It doesn't matter, doesn't fucking matter.
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  Speaker 1: It's just like you know, it's a storm, and it's
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  Speaker 1: one of those storms to where the lightning flashes and
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  Speaker 1: the noise happens within.
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  Speaker 2: A sex like yeah, it's like death's all around us.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Generator going on outside.
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  Speaker 2: No excuses, play like a champion, Rule number seventy six.
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  Speaker 4: Just a lot of a lot of adversity, dude, a
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  Speaker 4: lot of adversity.
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  Speaker 1: So then, what were you thinking before you came on
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  Speaker 1: this bus, Like, like what was going through your mind?
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  Speaker 1: Like we've been boys a long ass time, and you
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  Speaker 1: knew I got this thing rolling me and the boy.
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  Speaker 3: I already told you. I literally I thought to myself,
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  Speaker 3: I've been on hundreds of interviews, and I never have
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  Speaker 3: been terrified for what the hell is going to be asked.
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  Speaker 3: I'm looking over it, Taylor, like Bro's gonna bring the heat.
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  Speaker 1: The dude is. The dude is witty. Man, you gotta
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  Speaker 1: come fucking correct if you want to dance with the devil,
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  Speaker 1: because Will knows.
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  Speaker 3: Will knows if he has asked anything wrong that if
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  Speaker 3: that thunder.
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  Speaker 1: You're that thunder?
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  Speaker 2: Do we Probably you probably heard that.
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  Speaker 3: I mean you said if I say anything wrong, yes,
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  Speaker 3: you're gonna it'll be relatively tame Will. That depends I.
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  Speaker 2: Don't know what you guys. Relationship is like.
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  Speaker 4: Will might just be getting a little little box today,
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  Speaker 4: but he might come out of the shell.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm ready to go.
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  Speaker 3: He always cuts it to me real.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I always try to cheer Ben because he's a
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  Speaker 1: he's a performance coach, he's an author. He does motivational speaking.
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  Speaker 1: So I always ask him all the time, like, you
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  Speaker 1: know been like you never played football, so how do
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  Speaker 1: you motivate football players? That's a chirp and and and
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  Speaker 1: actually a question, like you know, you walk into some
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  Speaker 1: of these locker rooms the teams have you on like
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  Speaker 1: bam and all them they bring you in k State
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  Speaker 1: and they want to they lean to you for inspiration
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  Speaker 1: or motivation like these coaches do. And then you walk
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  Speaker 1: into a room with a bunch of you know, football players,
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  Speaker 1: dogs that are going to look at you as you know,
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  Speaker 1: an author, somebody who hasn't played and wonder, what the
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  Speaker 1: hell is this guy even going to give us?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I think I think you know this is that
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  Speaker 3: if I go into Alabama, within the first five minutes,
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  Speaker 3: they're gonna hear my mom's story. They're gonna hear the
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  Speaker 3: challenge adiversity I went through with my dad. Parents divorced
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  Speaker 3: when I was six months old, right knowing that my
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  Speaker 3: mom passed away, then my dad had his issues, and
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  Speaker 3: they know that, like, I've been through shit in my life,
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  Speaker 3: and that's the goal that I have, no matter what
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  Speaker 3: group I'm in front of, sports or business like, it's
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  Speaker 3: real life. And so whether I how many downs of
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  Speaker 3: football I played, which was freshman year high school and
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  Speaker 3: basketball solid solid freshman team. So the whole thing is
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  Speaker 3: they realize I've been through some shit in my life
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  Speaker 3: and I've been blessed at mentors and coaches to get
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  Speaker 3: me up off that Matt life. And then I always
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  Speaker 3: say Now that's my story. But I know everybody sitting
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  Speaker 3: in this room you have a story too, and it's
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  Speaker 3: helping them realize. Like I know, you've been through your shit.
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  Speaker 3: I've been through my shit. So if we can't connect there,
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  Speaker 3: there's really no work for us to do. There's really
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  Speaker 3: no motivation to come from until I can figure out
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  Speaker 3: what's in your heart, what's the fire that lies inside
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  Speaker 3: of you or the burners, you know I like to
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  Speaker 3: call it. It's going to cause you to get up
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  Speaker 3: on those days you don't want to do anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Right, you want to talk about in a nutshell your
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  Speaker 1: mom's story.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's I think about it every day.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 3: You know, we all have a story. We all have
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  Speaker 3: challenge and adversity. And for me, I had to grow
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  Speaker 3: up fast because my mom was diagnosed with a rare
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  Speaker 3: muscle disease. Nineteen eighty three was the year I was
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  Speaker 3: five years old. When she was diagnosed. She goes to
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  Speaker 3: a hospital in Boston. Everybody in their muscles, they have ameloids.
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  Speaker 3: So Taylor, you have ameloids, Will's got them, I've got them.
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  Speaker 3: If you have an excess of amyloids, you have a
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  Speaker 3: disease called ameloid dosis. Ameloids slowly eat away at your
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  Speaker 3: muscles and you die. There's no cure for the disease.
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  Speaker 3: So my mom goes to Boston meets with a woman
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  Speaker 3: by the name of doctor Mark with the Skinner. Doctor
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  Speaker 3: Skinner tells her you got two to four years to live,
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  Speaker 3: and you're only the second woman under forty years old
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  Speaker 3: I've ever seen or heard of having this disease. Ammal
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  Speaker 3: A doses and my mom greatest prize fighter I've ever
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  Speaker 3: met in my life. My mom takes out an old
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  Speaker 3: journal and she starts writing and allowed that to become
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  Speaker 3: a place where she unleashed her positive mental attitude onto
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  Speaker 3: the world. And she wrote, beat the statistics, beat the odds,
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  Speaker 3: live with the disease that is chronic and fatal, believe
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  Speaker 3: in yourself, combat anything purpose in life. And she showed
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  Speaker 3: up every night. As I've told you so many times.
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  Speaker 3: You know, my mom would come to the dinner table
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  Speaker 3: with an IV stand when we had twenty four hour
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  Speaker 3: nursing care in the house to ask me how my
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  Speaker 3: day was at school. So it's like when I get
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  Speaker 3: hit with something in life, it's like you better come
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  Speaker 3: with some serious heat and some serious fire. If you
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  Speaker 3: think you're gonna break me, well, what I've seen with
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  Speaker 3: these two eyes and one of the special moments I
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  Speaker 3: have with my mom's story because she taught me how
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  Speaker 3: to live, She taught me how to fight, she taught
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  Speaker 3: me how to rise up when you don't want to
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  Speaker 3: do it. And she passed away eleven days before my
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  Speaker 3: eighth birthday. But I continue her fight all the time
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  Speaker 3: I share her story. You are only the second person
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  Speaker 3: that has touched you. We actually the first, and then
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  Speaker 3: I actually I shared it this year with one speaking engagement,
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  Speaker 3: but you were the first person that I let up.
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  Speaker 3: And remember when I took out the journal, So we
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  Speaker 3: have this moment. I keep my mom's journal in the
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  Speaker 3: safe at home, and it was I think before your
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  Speaker 3: second season where we knew like you were really starting
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  Speaker 3: to make moves and things were really starting to take place,
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  Speaker 3: and I said, man, I said, I want to show
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  Speaker 3: you something. We go up to the office because you
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  Speaker 3: always come over and stay at the house, and I
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  Speaker 3: pulled out the journal and just gave it to him,
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  Speaker 3: and you just sat there like there aren't many things
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  Speaker 3: that make you speechless. And he's like, bro, I don't
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  Speaker 3: know what to say yeah, and just like touching this
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  Speaker 3: journal because he and I become so close, and then
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  Speaker 3: to touch that journal that's been my life's testimony. H
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  Speaker 3: It was just wild for me to be.
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  Speaker 1: Able to Yeah, they're like looking at handwriting and stuff
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  Speaker 1: like that. It's just my mom's Yeah. Knowing that was
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  Speaker 1: back in What'd you say in nineteen eighty three?
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  Speaker 3: She passed away November second, nineteen eighty six, but nineteen
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  Speaker 3: eighty three was when she was diagnosed. So she made it.
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  Speaker 3: She made it three years.
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  Speaker 1: And what was going on? Your dad was having issues
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  Speaker 1: too back then. I meant to where you had to
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  Speaker 1: kind of you talk about growing up fast, like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you had that stuff going on with your mom, but
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  Speaker 1: also your dad was you know, had his issues to
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  Speaker 1: where you had to be You're the You're.
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  Speaker 3: I'm the youngest, you're the youngest. Yeah, so my older brother. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: so my mom passes away, Dad moves back into the house,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, he had issues with addiction, He had
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  Speaker 3: all types of stuff. I'm now coming home as an
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  Speaker 3: eight year old boy, and you think Dad's napping on
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  Speaker 3: the couch, but you know he's just he's had his day.
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  Speaker 3: And so that's by eight years old, right, And thankfully,
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  Speaker 3: you know, my dad turned that challenge into a great
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  Speaker 3: example for me that you can also fight through anything,
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  Speaker 3: because nine months later he realized, like, man, I can't
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  Speaker 3: live this way, I can't have kids. And you know,
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  Speaker 3: my dad has been a great example that.
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  Speaker 1: What were the things he was doing?
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  Speaker 3: Drugs and alcohol and you know, stuff that is challenging
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: and tough, and so finally he got sober and he's
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: literally been sober ever since. So nine months after my
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: mom died, to now.
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: Was he was a reason why, Like not the reason,
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: but as part of.
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: That reason, because of all the struggles you had to
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: go through.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: With your mom and everything like that.
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: So they were. They were divorced when I was six
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: months old. So I think what it was though, was
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: other issues my dad has had that it was such
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: a hard life that I think he just he turned
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: to that. And part of everybody's wired different, you know
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: what I mean. There's people who can, right, we can
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: have our bourbons, we can have fun, and people can
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: handle it, and there's other people. It's it's a disease,
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: no question. Yeah it's a disease.
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's crazy.
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: I mean, anything can really become an addiction if you
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: let it, whether it's video games. I mean, sugar is
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: just such an addictive product that I literally have had
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: people argue with me about that.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: No, sugar's not addictive.
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: It's absolutely an addictive thing. You can't just look at
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: his addiction as you know, just drugs or alcohol. Those
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: are the easiest things to point out, but you can
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: turn so many things into you know, addiction, even things
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: that are good for you. You know, if you're working
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: out all the time or whatever, you don't you still
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: have to go.
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: Out and live your regular life too, and stuff like that.
• 16:43
  Speaker 4: But yeah, those types of things, especially like you know,
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: drugs and alcohol, those are very difficult to go through,
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: and it's so easy for people that don't do with
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: those issues to look and say, hey, well it's not
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: that big, just stop doing it, just stop doing your fine. Well,
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: I mean, if you drink, your brain is chemically imbalanced.
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: It's a depress you feel shitty when you get off fit.
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: What's the easiest thing to do. We just still have
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: a couple more. We'll hear the dog. They always say,
• 17:05
  Speaker 4: we'll hair the dog. They bit you a little bit
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: of that, and you start compounding those things on top
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: of each other, and you come you become codependent on
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: those things, and so it's it's a very it's a
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: hard and you know, windy road and again definitely puts
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: you into a spiral if you if you let it.
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: And that goes for drugs too, not just illegal drugs,
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: but you know, prescription drugs and all that those stuff.
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: I mean, I'm very open with the fact that, like
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: I mean, I've been giving prescription drugs before, like rolling
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: ankle or something like that, and you know, you don't
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: you don't feel better. There's no way you feel better
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: than when you're on one of those pills that they
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: make you feel amazing. But it comes. It comes with
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: those you know, the repercussions. The next day you're a
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: little more you're a little more agitated, you're a.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: Little more sure sep.
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: It is a slippery still, but you get it's realizing.
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: And I think the biggest thing that people need to
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: understand is the biggest best thing you do for yourself
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: is sit with yourself and and understand who you are
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: and going through that process. The best process is to
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: say well I am this person's figure out who you
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: are not and then shaving that down process of elimination
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: to finding out who you are and then growing from that.
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: Those are the best ways to become like you know
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: not you know, so, needing drugs or needing alcohol you
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: can really stuff dependent. Yeah, that's the word I'm looking for.
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: So it's it's definitely a slippery slope.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: It's hard for a lot of people.
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: You bring up an interesting point that drugs, alcohol, anything
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: in life. It's it's the way people think about things, right,
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: and you and I have had so many great conversations
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: about it. But how you think about things determines how
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: you show up right. Right, it's your belief system for everything. Right,
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: you've done what you've done playing in the NFL. You've
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: done what you've done playing because you believed you would
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: play in the NFL. Right, you believe you'd stand across
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: from another man and you would freaking punish him over
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: and over. And that's a belief system. So then your
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: work shows up that way. People aren't in touch enough
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: with the fact that you've got to be truthful with yourself.
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: You got to look in the mirror and say, I
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: either believe I will absolutely dominate any man that's in front,
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: I will punish everybody in front of me, or you're
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: gonna have doubts. And you can't have both. You get
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: one of the other. And people have to be truthful
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: with themselves. And I know there's a lot of people watching.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: They're not professional athletes, right, And so for you in
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: your life, you got to show up. You got to
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: be truthful about why you are where you are. And
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: if you're not where you want to be, you got
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: to you gotta look at yourselves say what am I
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: willing to change? Yeah, and you got to work hard
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: in another area otherwise you're probably gonna fall short of
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: what you actually want.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: It's tough.
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: It's because if if you play sports, it's the easiest
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: way to figure out, Okay, where am I at? Like
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: you could figure out I get my ass kicks. Okay,
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: I know I need to do I need to work
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: on X, Y and Z.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: Life.
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: It's not as black and white. It's you gotta you know,
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: you got to read, You get to educate yourself.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: You got to see.
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: You got to find your own deficiencies in yourself. What
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: it makes means to hear why are these things making
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: me into here?
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: And working on those things?
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: And I mean that's The best part about football is
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: it's such a competitive sport.
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: It'll tell you where you're at right then and there.
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: And so I mean, that's that's a big reason why
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: I'm so confident, is that football's helped me learn to
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: be a confident person. Not just that, but also like
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: when you have an issue with something, instead of hiding
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: from you to take a head on and if you
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: don't go and a tacket there, I mean, if I don't,
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: if I don't do something in the first fifteen minutes
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: of learning about something, I let it get the best of.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: Me, which is a really difficult thing.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Sometimes, right, but figuring out like you guys are saying,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: the self awareness factor, and then figuring out those weaknesses
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: and then okay, how do I supplement those weaknesses If
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I can't do them, do them on my own us
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: with our diets, all of us you know, live well,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: eat well, stuff like that. If you know you're struggling
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: in another area, you know. That's why we ended up
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: meeting up and going over psychological stuff, mental trainings and
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: things that kind of like you kind of try and
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: brainwash yourself being like a young rookie. That's how we met.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: We met over Twitter.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: So I gotta tell the story. I mean, everybody's good
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: Twitter story. Yeah, well, I mean yeah, So we meet
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: over Twitter because we had a mutual friend. We didn't
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: know each other. All my work had been in the
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: corporate world. So I started speaking in two thousand and six,
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: coaching two thousand and eight, started books, and actually the
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: first talk I ever gave in sports in my old
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: high school basketball team in twenty eleven when the coach called.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: So I'd done a little bit in sports, but not
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: a lot, never worked with a professional athlete. Yet I
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: had these six mental training tools for the business side, sales,
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: for sales, yeah, for people in sales and business performance.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: And I was like, man, these will work in sports too,
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: And so Will and I get connected, and it was
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: like he's like, yeah, I'm gonna through the relationship. I'm
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: gonna trust this guy, and I'm gonna sit down with him.
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: I had never used these, right, so it's like, right,
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: we'll see see if this works in the world of sports.
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: And Will was in between the month of OTAs because
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: he had just been signed as an undrafted free agent
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: by the Redskins and was right before he was reporting
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: for training camp and I remember sending you that message.
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: After we connect, him like, he, ay, man, you want
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: to get together and talk mental toughness. Right. So I
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: had a belief, Hey man, this is going to work
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: with this guy. And then he was like, yeah, let's
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: get together. Let's do it. So we met every Monday
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: for a month.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Man.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: The first time we meet, he sits down. We're sitting
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: across in a booth. I said, man, what's on your mind?
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: And he says, uh, will Man? I said, what's on
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: your mind? So those twenty thirteen what's on your mind?
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: He says, you know what, if it doesn't work out
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: with the Redskins, there's thirty one other teams. I knew
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: I had his ass, right. I mean the moment he
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: said that, I knew it was game over. These principles
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: are going to work, right.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: So I looked at him and I said, wait a second, man,
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: I said, I know, we're just meet for the first time.
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: I got I'd like, I gotta ask you a question.
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: I got to ask you a question. What happens if
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: every day you start waking up and you tell yourself,
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: I'm a linebacker with the Washington Redskins, and if you
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: doubt yourself. In the middle of the day, you tell
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: yourself again, I am a linebacker with the Washington Redskins.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: And before you go to bed, you tell yourself, man,
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: I'm a linebacker with the Washington Redskins. Now bear in mind,
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: he's seventh out of seven on the depth chart. Right,
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: they got it, They've got they got his Alfred Morris
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: camp jersey number forty six waiting for when he gets
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: to camp. And Walker, yeah, and he looked at me
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: and he says, you know what, he goes, I'm gonna
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: start saying that every single day. And he basically at
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: that moment he snapped his fingers like you said, fifteen minute,
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: you got to make a decision, right and bang he
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: believed in it.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Do you still say every day that you're the linebacker
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: for the Washington Redskins.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: No, No, I don't doone. I don't I do have
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: goalsough Ben at Ben has helped me a lot. Like
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: I would go to Montero and he's in Saint Louis
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: and we would meet. We didn't meet in the middle
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: and just sit for like what an hour or two,
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: and you know, he would have stuff for me to do,
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: Like I read a couple like mental books, so I
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: was like obsessed with like mental psychology stuff. You know
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: how it goods you. You get motivated and you get
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: ready to go. And he wanted he reached out and
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: wanted to help me, and I knew he spoke and
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: did other things. So I was like, yeah, that'd be awesome.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: I'd be honored to sit and you know, come up
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: with a plan because again you're like you're intimidated, and
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: then you go through OTAs and you're an undrafted guy
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: and you figure out like these guys don't know me
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: at all like I thought they would coming from Nebraska
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: because I was in Nebraska, and you're like, all these coaches,
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: whoever gets me into a camp, all I need to
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: do is get into a camp like they're and these
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: coaches they already know me, like Boe and them do
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: it with the with Nebraska, and they're gonna think, oh,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: we got this guy, we got a diamond in the rough.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: They didn't get drafted. You get there and you realize like, yeah,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: you're probably gonna not gonna make this team and you're
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: at the bottom of every depth chart. Bro, I'm talking, Well,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: there was two of us undrafted rookie free agents, and
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: he was playing before me. Like I was like, there
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: was three units and I wasn't. I just got to
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: mix in with the third unit every now and then.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: And he wanted to meet, and you know, we met,
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: and I was kind of like nice and brainwashed going
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: into camp and you.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: You said, I want to meet with Will. First.
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: I sent a message to him, and then he said, yeah, man,
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: let's do it.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: He reached out. He's like, yeah, I love that you're
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: in the I said something about mental training. I can't
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: wait to get home and get him some book or
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: something like that. He reached out, said yeah, it's me.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: Let's meet halfway. And then I went into camp.
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: But hold on before let me, I got to mention
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: this because I think this is for everybody, because you
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: had mentioned some of us were not in sports, right,
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: and so if you remember, he was a captain of Nebraska,
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: right number twelve all time tackles. So it's like, I
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: knew this guy could play some ball. So I said
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: to him, I said, I said, man, I said, what
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: made you a captain of Nebraska? Tell me all the
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: things that were one hundred percent in your control that
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: you did, right, and we just broke it down. He's like, man,
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: I studied more film more than anybody else. Man I
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: was in the playbook more than anybody else. I was
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: on top of my nutrition and all these things he
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: could control. So I just asked the back to him.
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: I said, what happens if you show up that same
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: way with the Redskins? I said, what if you're another
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: coach breaking down game film as a rookie? I said,
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: focus on all these things you can control. And it
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: made him reconnect back to that confidence, like I am
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: that same dude. I am gonna go and it doesn't
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: matter where they tell me I am on a depth chart,
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: because I used to tell them, don't worry about where
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: they tell you are in a depth chart. Worry about
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: taking somebody's job when you get there, and absolutely dominate.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: Lock in one day at a time, you win one
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: day at a time. It's going to take care of itself.
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: And those are the conversations we had, and then he
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: followed through with the action. And I think for anybody listening,
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: you can either say, oh, I have no idea what
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: it's going to take to be successful. Where you go
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: find out or you look at your past success and say,
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: am I actually willing to consistently do those things over
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: and over and over again to keep having success. So
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: you're the one who decided, man, I'm gonna choose the
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: action I take, And you just showed up different than
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: the kid who was like, man, I don't make it.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: All The boy the Boys and the Boys goes back
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: early and I'm in the film room and I'm literally
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: game planning our offense for training camp for like those
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: few plays, I might get sure to be out there
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: because you're like, Okay, you can't fuck up if you
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: get that opportunity. Well a good you know. Fortunately for me,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: some luck played into it. Keenan who was a draft
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: pick the year before and like the fourth round Keenan Robinson,
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: he's a stud player. He gets hurt and tears his
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: peck on day one up training camp, so immediately I
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: go from seventh and rotating with the third unit to
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: now I could just get to be with the threes.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: And then the guy who was undrafted in front of me,
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: Jeremy Kimbro, he moves up with the second unit. He
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: hurts his hamstring in that first week, so I immediately
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: get thrusted to go with the twos and the boy
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: has a day one day where I had like two
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: picks and stuff like that to where I got to
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: be with the second unit in preseason. So look like
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: all this stuff kind of happens, And definitely that that helped,
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: Like knowing all that stuff and you're going in like,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna show out a few plays I
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: do get. But fortunately, fortunately on a personal level for me,
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: a couple guys go down in front of you, which
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: is what happens. Bribel said on You Know when he
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: was on the podcast, the injury in the NFL's one
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: hundred percent, so you better be ready for your opportunities
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: are going.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: To go down all the time.
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, people who probably listening to that when you're explaining,
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: like well, what a dick, Like he's unfortunate things for me,
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: Like people got hurt.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: Like that's just the way it is.
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: That's just the way it is, man, because a lot
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: of times in the NFL, it's not how good you are,
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: it's not how like it's sometimes like hey, this.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Guy's our guy, and that's what it is. Sorry, and
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: you're gonna have to go on a different team and
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: that's just that's just how it works. And there's really
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: no right or wrong like rhyme or.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: Reason, but it is what it is, and like it
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: just when stuff starts clicking like you, like you do
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: take advantage of that kind of stuff.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: So and then when that guy goes down and you
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: know how it is, it's that next man of mentality,
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: Like when you're out last year, who is Dennis Kelly
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: who comes in after you?
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: Yes, Dennison actually end up getting hurt too. So the
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: first the first first game of the season, I got
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: knocked out. We had the longest game in NFL history,
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: but against the Miami Dolphins. Is there were so many
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: so much rain and thunder and lightning. So I ended
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: up getting knocked out right after the second half, right
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: after the first half, in the in the third quarter.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: So I was out.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: The next week, Dennis was starting at left tackle. Dennis
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: ended up having a situation. I'm not gonna talk about
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: his stuff is it's not that's the number one right
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: I've never talked about so like Ray and Dennis had
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: his thing.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: So now we had our third tackle and Jack was
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: out too, So out yeah, Jack. Jack was hurt.
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: He was coming back from his injury. I get hurt,
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: so our starters are out, Dennis is now starting. He
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: gets his situation on Wednesday or whatever that week he's out.
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: So we're playing the Houston Texans with our fourth and
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: fifth tackle.
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: And it's like it's just wild.
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: Kevin pan File, Kevin pant File or pant Field and
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: I don't remember who was starting here at right, and.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: He either got activated or brought Tyler Merris.
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: He Tyler did such a great job, dude. He came
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: in and was he was a stuck cause I got
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: hurt in Buffalo too, and he he came in.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: And held his own against Jerry Hughes.
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: But yeah, like Tyler's that kind of do too, like
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: kind of he's been lucky enough to be with the Titans.
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: Like I think he's going his fourth year. It's kind
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: of like you like he's behind me and Jack and Dennis,
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: and like he's kind of.
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: Like on that bubble every single year. He's got that stress,
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: like right now is going to be the most stressful
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: time of the year.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: Figure out what's going on. He handles it so well.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: He's a man.
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: He really had some stuff on pro. But we went
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: into that game and it's like Kevin Panfield. We picked
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: him from Tampa Bay. We like he was on the
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: team for six months, he was starting. And then Tyler
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: has been on the team for three years, but he's
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: never had played, he's never played in a real game,
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: and now he's dressing and playing.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: It's it's just wild how things just happen.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and it happens that fast, and no one
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: gives a ship like get there at all, like the
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: head coach, and then they'll look at you like, hey,
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: you're up at your time, like your name is the
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: one being said in meetings now and you sit there
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: with that like nerves feel like yo, I gotta go
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: out there, and I gotta go out there and ball now,
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: like it doesn't matter that I am. I was a
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: fourth guy, or people are going to be like, oh,
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: you know, he made a mistake because he was a
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: four stringer, and the like no, you gotta you gotta
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: perform or you'll get your ass get cut.
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: They don't expect any any drop off, Like there's some
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: elite dudes that when then they go down and you're
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: just like fuck man, like your quarterback goes down, yeah,
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: for sure, ship, or like you got a wide receiver,
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: Like it's a big time dude, Like you can't really
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: replace those, right, He's gonna a little bit of a
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: drop and if like things just happened, man, and they
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: expect you to play just as well as that when
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: you're a.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: Star, yeah at the start, and then when you're like
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: that young cat or you're finally getting an opportunity, like
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: you know, that might be your only opportunity you get
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: because if you're say you're a lower rounder, undrafted guy,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: you might only get one shot. If you're higher, you
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: might get a couple like slap on the wrist and
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: get a few extra chances because you're you know, that's
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: why they drafted you. But when you're on that lower cuff, man,
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: if you don't, if you don't take advantage when you
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: do get when your name is called, like it's like, Okay,
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: he didn't work out, get him out of here. But
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: if you do work out, it's like, oh, we found somebody,
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: we got lucky. Oh it's our scouting department, Like, yeah,
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: this is us, we found him. But if not, it's like,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: oh he didn't work out. We figured Yeah.
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: There's definitely not a shorte of people that want that
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: want to play in the NFL. That's for sure, Yeah,
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: no doubt.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: But if you're like, I don't know, the NFL is
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: one thing I feel like talking to full of plays.
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: I mean, I've sat in so many rooms and motivational
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: speakers have come in, and you know, nine times out
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: of ten, I get pretty hyped up. I'm easily hyped
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: because I love watching those motivational videos.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: I should read more. I'm gonna read more.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: Send them to you.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: You need to, Yeah, we do, because I'm all about that.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: Like I love I love like.
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: I just love the idea of like being great. You
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. I love like all that kind
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: of stuff. I'm watching those videos and.
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: Reading this Taylor like to give you guys kind of
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: start for interrupting. But Taylor will like get hype in
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: the morning, right well, because we work out together and
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: they'll like send me say it's like Econa McGregor or
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: something about law of attraction or something. Joe Rogan said,
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: that's a huge Like he'll like send it, you know,
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: and it'll just get you hype. So that's like what
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: he's talking about when he says he gets super into that.
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you can't be just like you know, if
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: it's football players, it's easy. You feel.
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: You put a video a couple of guys making some
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: big hits, there's a hyped up they go out to
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: play football, Like what's it doing between football players? And
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: then when you go into like a fortune five hundred company,
• 31:32
  Speaker 4: and you got to go and talk to these people
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: that are have been suits their whole life since birth,
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: they've been suits.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: Well, for for me, it's actually the same principles and
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: the same lessons, right. It's finding somebody's burn, it's finding
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: somebody's motivation. It's finding the actual reason why they want
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: to do the work. And if you find the reason
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: why somebody wants to do the work, they're going to
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: go do the work right, And then it's holding them
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: accountable to it. And it's very similar. There's business people
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: who they want you to get them all fired up, right.
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: There's sales teams. I may go give a sales talk
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: and they're like, can you bring the heat like some
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: of those locker room videos we've seen. And then you
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: know there are some athletes who are like, bro, if
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: you bring anything like that, like, don't ever leave me
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: a voicemail again to hype me up for a game. Yeah,
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: there's some NFL players like the messages. To them, it's
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: very chill. It's you know, it's a poison confidence type message.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: It's more laid back. And then there's other guys like, man,
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: if you're going to leave me a voicemail, you better
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: bring it otherwise, don't leave me a message. So it's
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: the same way, right, because there's gonna be guys in
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: the business world who were former athletes, right, maybe they
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: played high school football, maybe they played college. To me,
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: we all have that adrenaline, and everybody likes that adrenaline
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: up differently. So I believe my goal is I got
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: to connect with somebody and figure out what are they like,
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: what motivates them? And once I find that, man, I'll
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: go get it right. And so I think that's like
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: with Will, one of the things we'd have like maybe keywords, right,
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: I mean, there's so many different things. Man. Once you'd
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: hone in on something like you'd say it to him
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: and he would just be ready to go. And there
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: were almost times he was like I would be like
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: that message was too long for you, wasn't it? Like
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: you just needed me to say this because we've become
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: so close like brothers. He's just like, bro like that,
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: just just give me the three words.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: That's all I had. Yeah, Like I don't need the
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: whole paragraph. Everybody just straight, yeah, straight.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: Will is I got.
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: I hate complimenting the boy, but Will is definitely without it.
• 33:10
  Speaker 4: I won't be hardest, like Will wants to be great
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: so bad and it's not just like my whole life
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: since I got a scholarship off ROC talk all the time,
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: I got to offer from Utah State spring ball going
• 33:20
  Speaker 4: into my senior year and I as us an offer
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: from them. I was like, I'm going to the NFL,
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: like that's it, and people are like, well, and then
• 33:27
  Speaker 4: you know, I don't know, it's not I'm going that
• 33:29
  Speaker 4: is it.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: It's done. And I never had a plan, a plan B.
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: It was always like, well, I'm going to the NFL.
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: I'm going to the NFL.
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: Will has done such a great job of making his
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: dream scome true of going to the NFL, working so hard,
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: becoming a captain, while the other captain the Redskins right,
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: doing those types of things. But the whole time, I
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: all get in this car and he's listening to some
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: damn podcasts about real estate and he's listening to a
• 33:49
  Speaker 4: podcast about you know, how to diversify your portfolio so
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: your money grows. But and it was like this dude
• 33:54
  Speaker 4: just like want He just wants it.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: Whatever that is. It's it's very admirable to see.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: I appreciate that.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, fuck yourself.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: And I believes, well he doesn't. He doesn't realize that that.
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: He inspires the hell out of me too, right, So
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: it's I maybe came in, We'll still do this.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Ticket.
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: Hey it's iron, it's it's iron sharpens iron. But I
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: mean he he definitely motivates me. His story, his belief,
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: his fight, I mean all kinds of crazy stuff. The
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: only issue I've ever had with Will is when we
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: first started speaking together, getting his ass off the stage
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: because we went to Nebraska and it's like, I don't
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: know how you get the mic out of his mouth.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: I'm glad you get to speak every now and again,
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: you know, because like we'd get I remember the one
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: time we went to that military university, right, and he's
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: all these troops, and I think he's fired up because
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: he's speaking to the troops, right, And it was I
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: think we each had twenty minutes and you know, so
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: he's got twenty, I've got twenty. He goes first, We're
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: like thirty five minutes in. I'm like, bro, I just
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: want to like thank him for their I.
• 34:49
  Speaker 5: Gotta say hi, yeah, we got to get you off
• 34:52
  Speaker 5: the stage. And then he's like, did I go too long?
• 34:54
  Speaker 5: And I'm like, yeah, you took the whole time. So
• 34:57
  Speaker 5: I'm glad you've taught him. He's got to share, you
• 34:59
  Speaker 5: know what I mean.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: I don't think I'm I talk more than him.
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: Well, I always tell him, you know, there's three boys
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: in the family. I say, this is the only family
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: I've ever met where literally like you're like the only child,
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: yet there's three children, you know what I mean. He
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: doesn't share, He doesn't do any of that.
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: Now, down through the little things where transition actually a
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: table person, I really think about it.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: You get down on a naty greedy but how like
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: so you you are where you are now, but it
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: all started somewhere, like you get down in Michigan State.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: Why like why all of a sudden are you now
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: being told or asked to speak? Why are you now
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: in these rooms? Like where where did it start? Where
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: did it come from? Because you worked in Northwestern Mutual. Correct.
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I was a financial advisor over ten years, and yeah,
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: I mean I had a great run, you know, on
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: that professional side of things. But you know what, I
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: always look at the tough stuff I've been through and
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: how I responded. That defines the person that you become. Right, So,
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: if it wasn't enough my mom and my dad and
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: all these things, I was a paper broker in Chicago.
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: I was engaged for thirteen hours to my sweetheart. Right,
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: had I gone to Michigan, maybe I would have worked out.
• 36:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll tell you. You hear your motivational speaker. I
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: just can't imagine like someone coming from Michigan State Like,
• 36:10
  Speaker 4: I feel like the only motivation is getting the hell
• 36:12
  Speaker 4: out of there.
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: You have to think to yourself, man, like, that's why
• 36:16
  Speaker 4: when you knew man, my mom, my dad. But I
• 36:18
  Speaker 4: got the fuck out of this call. That's why other
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: thing and and now and now your.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: Motivation is me. I'm really happy for you. You've come
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: this far.
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: Oh god, so engaged thirteen That won't be the end
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: of it either, now that he's opening it up. Yeah,
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: so engaged thirteen hours. Thank god? She told me no
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: otherwise I wouldn't have the life that I have. I
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: go back to the first time I was invited to speak, right,
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: I got paid five hundred bucks. I'm like, this is
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: the thing. And then like after that, I would get
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: coffee cups, you know, And then you got to come
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: home and tell your wife like, hey, I got a
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: coffee cup to speak. She's looking like, how the hell
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: is that going to pay the bills? Right when I
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: go to San Diego and they give you this beautiful
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: picture book and everybody signs it. Yet they paid my expenses, right, So,
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: like you live in this this land where here's my dream,
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: here's where I know I can get to. And everybody
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: always ask me. They're like, you work for Alabama Football,
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: you work for Kansas State, but you've worked for Microsoft,
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: Like how did you start. I'm like, well, I didn't
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: start there, right. Everybody wants that, and you know, you
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: hop on social media these days and everybody's an author,
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: everybody's a speaker, and I wish the best everybody because
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: I'm an abundant guy, right, But you got to put
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: in the work, and everybody wants the end result. Nobody
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: wants to do the work and it's like, look, I
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: hope you do become a great speaker. I hope you
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: do write books, but have a willingness to do the
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: work right, right, So I spoke, What did I tell you?
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: I spoke to my high school basketball team. That's my
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: first work in sports. I've gone back for eight years,
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: still giving back to my high school basketball team because
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: I love my coaches. They've helped me become the man
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: that I am today. Right, you've met him, You've come
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: back to my high school. So it's all those little
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: things that you have a willingness to do because there's
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: passion and you've got to fire inside you to go
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: do it rather than focusing on money, focusing on the results.
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: And most people don't want to do the work these
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: that's whatever.
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: That's where everyone wants to quick fix.
• 37:51
  Speaker 4: Everyone wants to just be rich and they want to
• 37:53
  Speaker 4: be famous in all this and it's like it's we
• 37:56
  Speaker 4: talked about it in a podcast before. It's like people
• 37:58
  Speaker 4: see the results of what football's done for us, not
• 38:00
  Speaker 4: the hard work that we put in to get the
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: result of football. Like you know, Sundays are great, but
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: there's camped, there's working out, there's literally no off season,
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: you have to go. You get a couple of weeks
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: of vacation, but you're working out all the time, trying
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: to stay on top of it. Me and we are
• 38:13
  Speaker 4: always talking about nutrition, We're talking about our workouts, and
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: all that stuff accumulates over time, and it's like, you know,
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: there's a lot of you always see those little motivational
• 38:22
  Speaker 4: posters and it's like a it's a cat hanging from
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: a branch and it's like just keep.
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: On going or whatever. But then you see like the
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: uh with the iceberg, and it like shows the tip.
• 38:31
  Speaker 4: Of the iceberg, that success, but you see it built
• 38:34
  Speaker 4: like how you build everything, and people don't see all
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: the hard work you put in. And then you have
• 38:37
  Speaker 4: the tip of the iceberg, which is like what everybody
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: actually wants. But anything, anything worth having or doing, you
• 38:42
  Speaker 4: have to work for.
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: But here, here, here's the crazy thing. You give that
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: iceberg example. Here here's the wildness. And sometimes I like
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: to be more direct, just to like shake up the
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: listeners to realize what we're talking about. Here they see that,
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: and they still don't see what's beneath the water, like
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: they literally see it. And it's like somebody just like
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: that's actually how you get there, right, Like, do you
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: want to see the reps that Taylor's put in? You
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: want to see the footwork that he's put in, You
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: want to see the number of hours that Will's put in,
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: all the stuff that's below and you could put that,
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: they don't see it. All they still see is the Iceberger.
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: It's like people fight the fact that, like you have
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: to work in order to get the things that you want.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: Do you do you ever like watch guys like well,
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: I appreciate that, thank you.
• 39:23
  Speaker 4: Do you ever watch guys like Tony Robbins or Eric Thomas,
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: like those individual speakers and like take things from them,
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: learn things from them or anything like that.
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: So I like to learn from everybody. I mean I
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: read books like Crazy. Eric Thomas and I actually hung
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: out for a couple of days at BAMA training Camp
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: last year, which was a great time. And what I
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: pay attention to is how does he interact with people? Right? So, yeah,
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: I heard his talk. His talk was great, but like
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: how does he interact with people?
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: Speaker?
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, great speaker, but like watching him, you know, we'd
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: be eating and it we'd be eating with the players.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: How's he interacting with the that's the stuff I want
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: to see, like how do you treat people? How do
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: you deal with people? What are the questions that you ask?
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: And he's engaging with guys, right, So it's like if
• 39:58
  Speaker 3: I meet somebody, like, I don't want to know, Taylor,
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: what that makes you great? I want to hear, like
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: what did you do to get to where you are? Like,
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: I want to learn when you meet somebody. So those
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: are the things I look for. And of course, I
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: mean the moment you stop growing, you're done, right, I
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: mean if you just say, oh, I've made it to
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: this point. And we always talk about the seduction of success.
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: You can't be seduced by success, right, you have to
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: have that belief and pa, I mean standard over feelings,
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: which is what I learned. Man, we can clear this up.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: What do you mean by that you can't be seduced
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: by success?
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: So Will taught me something called standard over feelings.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: I got that from Tony Robbins.
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: Okay, so standard over standard, standard over feelings. So and
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: then I came up with seduction of success.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: So as he kind of took me through this, I said,
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: all right, well, from what I've seen the people I've
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: shared the stage with, the people that I've learned from
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: books I've read. The highest performers are not seduced by success.
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: So the moment that you have achievement, you actually crave more.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: You realize, like, because of that achievement that makes me
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: realize what I can, I'm gonna go get after it
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: again tomorrow. And most people, let's give sales right, business world,
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: they sell something great yesterday, they walk into the office. Man,
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to dial the phone for like a week.
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: I may not dial the phone. You see that commission
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: check I'm going to get And the next thing, you know,
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: three months later, they're like, what happened to my business? Right?
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: And you're like, dude, you didn't work for three months.
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: Now we average out that big commission over three months,
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: it's average. And then they're upset what happened? You got
• 41:13
  Speaker 3: seduced by your success rather than realizing that's the moment
• 41:16
  Speaker 3: where you really grow if I don't define myself by
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: that check and I say, man, I can get after
• 41:20
  Speaker 3: it again tomorrow, And then you say, how can I
• 41:22
  Speaker 3: get better tomorrow? And that becomes a cycle. You do
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: it over and over and over again. That's grit, you know,
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: that's conviction, passion, perseverance, getting after it one day at
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: a time. That's how you become great.
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's definitely it.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: No, that's what. No, that's what I said. I like
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: the seduction of success because it's all about the whole standard.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: Old feelings is the thing that I learned from Tony Robbins.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: Listen to all his YouTube stuff. You have this standard.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: Like me personally, like when I listen when I listen
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: to that, whenever he was talking, it's like, Okay, Will Compton,
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: what do I want to be? Okay, I want to
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: be a Pro Bowl linebacker? What does a Pro Bowl? Okay?
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: Are you start with the end of mind? So okay,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: it's Pro Bowl? Right? I want to be great. I
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: want to be a great linebacker. What is a great
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: linebacker do on a daily basis? And it's that standard
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: you write out for yourself. Because day one, Will Compton,
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: when we're motivated in the off season and we're about
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: to go day one, the boy gets in talent and
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: we're ready to go day one, that same Will Compton
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: is not going to feel the same as day thirty,
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: Will Compton, Day thirty, we'll start having his feelings like
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: you wake up, you might want to snooze that alarm
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: a extra more times, we might want to take a
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: day off. But if you have that standard written out
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: of what the pro bowl version of Will Compton looks like,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: and what does a pro bowl or doing on a
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: daily basis, how does he eat, how does he talk
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: to himself, what does he listen to, what is he reading?
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: And how does he go about his life? Compared to
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: if you just go by your feelings all the time,
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: you're gonna wake up, You're gonna you feel sorry. Here,
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: I'm a little more soret today. I'm gonna eat this food.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat these treats are desserts. I'm going to,
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: you know, talk to myself in in a feeling sorry way, like, Okay,
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: you put all this work in yesterday, get seduced a
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: little bit by that success, and you don't continue to
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: live out that standard that you wrote for yourself on
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: day one. That's why I think it's super important things
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: down because you see it and you remind yourself, Okay,
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: this is where I was when I was super motivated
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: compared to how I'm feeling now in the dog days
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: of a season or a training camp and stuff like that.
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: So that's, uh, that's why I like the whole standard
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: over feelings mantra.
• 43:14
  Speaker 4: The unfortunate thing is a lot of times people do
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: have success and they're not going to want success again
• 43:19
  Speaker 4: until they have that failure next. Yeah, they'll go and
• 43:22
  Speaker 4: they'll this is so great, and then you think you're
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: so great, and then all of a sudden a couple
• 43:26
  Speaker 4: of things happen and you're like, well, maybe I'm not
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: so good. You feel sorry for yourself, then yeah, take
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: it up and make yourself and it makes you appreciate
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: what the success actually was that day to.
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: Day absolutely, and then overcoming that you you your character
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: is built through how you respond in adversity, right, Like, yeah,
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: we're all gonna be successful at certain periods of time,
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: but like you just say, like, you're gonna get humbled,
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: you're gonna get kind of shaken, a little bit, But
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: how you respond is ultimately who you were in the
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: first place. You just needed to realize that, you know,
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: my shit isn't what I thought it smelt like all
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: the time. And then you overcome that, and then you're
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: even more of a fucking bad as Yes, more of
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: a fucking wolf, I guess.
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: But I've always believed that if you put it in
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: the hard work, then you're prepared when the bad stuff happens.
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: And if you don't put in the work, you're not prepared.
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: And a lot of that is the mental side, right,
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: That's the big difference, is the mental side, because maybe
• 44:13
  Speaker 3: a young guy does come in, right and he all
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: of a sudden he's pushing you. But then it's your
• 44:16
  Speaker 3: mental belief in yourself. It's the push. It's all those
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: reps that start to come out. It's that belief and
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: you're like, I don't care who this guy is, I
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: don't care what the position is. Nobody's taking anything away
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: from me because I own this right right, And it's
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: just a different level of belief that comes out. Man,
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: that fire lights up in your eyes and you could
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: just I mean, it's just you just attack it.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: We're getting super motivated in this pod right now. Boys.
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: I always wonder about that, like you just have a
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: good point. Like I always wonder like, when is he
• 44:39
  Speaker 4: going to be the point where someone does come in
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: and challenge They will not challenge me, but so they
• 44:44
  Speaker 4: do draft left tackle and I do you have like, Okay,
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: this is the guy that's going to take over lawan spot.
• 44:49
  Speaker 4: He's getting old, he's this that, Like I wonder how
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna hopefully, like I always think about that. I
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: hope I handle that with poise, and I hope I
• 44:57
  Speaker 4: like I help that guy because when I came in,
• 45:00
  Speaker 4: I didn't get a lot of help from the older guys,
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: and so I had to go do it kind of
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: go do it on my own. And I hope that
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: when the guy comes in, whoever that person might be,
• 45:08
  Speaker 4: hopefully he's in elementary school right now, like he comes
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: and let me, let me take you through this, like
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: this is how I learned to be a better play
• 45:16
  Speaker 4: this is that, but still like obviously play like that.
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: I think that's the difference.
• 45:20
  Speaker 4: Like being motivated isn't like, you know, knocking someone down
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: to take a step up. It's if you help everybody
• 45:26
  Speaker 4: go up, like being the best time you learn is
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: when you're teaching. So I'm helping that person whoever, whoever
• 45:32
  Speaker 4: he is. You know, hopefully he's in diaperson. I'll be
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: able to handle aver. If you called himself new Dell,
• 45:39
  Speaker 4: we have to.
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: Fight, yea.
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the window right there I don't know if you
• 45:43
  Speaker 3: guys have shared this yet, if you talked much about
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: London Fletcher, but exactly what you're describing is exactly how
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: London Fletcher treated you. Yeah, for sure, you know London Fletcher.
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: I just remember the stories you told me of you know,
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: he would literally wait in the hot tub and he'd
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: be waiting and you would chat and you'd ask him
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: questions and he'd answer, and the reality was like he
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: was on his last legs, he was finishing his career,
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: and he could have been like why am I going
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: to get He knows he's a Hall of Famer and
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: he knows. I mean, why would I talk to this
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: kid like why am I going to give him any busins?
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: It's way easier to be that guy when you know
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: you're gonna be a Hall of Famer or you know,
• 46:15
  Speaker 4: like you've hit the top. It's those guys that you
• 46:17
  Speaker 4: know had some success, was kind of consistent in that area,
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: but never really got I think, did it big.
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: But you know, but London London was always that dude.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: I know, I know you're saying because literally you're saying that,
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: and I'm kind of thinking, like I was. It was
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: hard sometimes to step out of my zone and help
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: her Shawn for Sewan because I was kind of like,
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: it's not like I know I'm going to be some
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: Hall of Famer and I've already done what I've done
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: in the NFL. It's like I knew they drafted a
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: guy in the first round. I signed here to challenge
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: and have a role on the team.
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but you can say that to be humble. But
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: I remember last year when we talked and you were helping,
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: you were helping Rashan.
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I definitely I definitely helped him, helping them.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: In my mind, he's talking about battle.
• 46:55
  Speaker 3: Absolute yeah, absolutely right.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: Like you're sitting there like do I want to do
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: I want to fully help him because I want to
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: play the spot he's playing.
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: But to me, to me this now you're talking about
• 47:06
  Speaker 3: what legacy is. Right, So you didn't want to do it,
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: but you did it. Something tells me if you ever
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: get that feeling, you may not want to do it,
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: but you just vocaliz you're gonna do it.
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna do it.
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: And then you're gonna be home and you're gonna be
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: touching that guy. You're gonna be like bro man, I
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: had a hell of a run. I love this game.
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: This game was good to me. And man, I'm watching,
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: I'm enjoying what you're doing out there, and you're gonna
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: know you're gonna have a piece of the next flip
• 47:28
  Speaker 3: of that belief in him that caused him to go
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: on and have a great career. That's what legacy is
• 47:32
  Speaker 3: all about.
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's just crazy. How like I'm twenty eight now,
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: so I'm old as fuck, but I remember being like.
• 47:39
  Speaker 4: In high school, and I remember being like my first
• 47:41
  Speaker 4: couple of years in college, even the end of college,
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: and my first couple of years in the NFL, thinking
• 47:45
  Speaker 4: like this is the only thing that matters. I think,
• 47:48
  Speaker 4: how good like how you're known in football, and the
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: older you get, you get married. He said that you
• 47:52
  Speaker 4: have a kid like he realized, like just being you know,
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: your character of who you are off the field is
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: the most important thing. So if I'm if I'm meet
• 48:01
  Speaker 4: some kid who's trying to take my job and I
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: treat him like an asshole, He's always going to remember
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: me as an asshole. He's never going to remember me
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: for who I know I am, or how I treat
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: my friends. And so that would be more important to me.
• 48:13
  Speaker 4: I think that would override any egotistical battle. I hope
• 48:17
  Speaker 4: with like, you know, playing the game of football, like
• 48:19
  Speaker 4: I want to be this, I want to play ten
• 48:20
  Speaker 4: more years. I want to do, like you know, achieve
• 48:22
  Speaker 4: all these you know goals that really at the end
• 48:24
  Speaker 4: of they don't mean very much. It's a team spoil
• 48:27
  Speaker 4: you know, these individuals don't truly mean as much as
• 48:30
  Speaker 4: you feel that they do when you're in.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: The moment, Yeah, there is there a moment where that
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: kind of clicks for you and you thought that way
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: or is it kind of a combination or was there
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: a conversation maybe a vet I know when you were
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: telling me this sort about Whitworth and guys you look
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: up to, like, was there ever a moment where you're like, yo,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: this is I'm changing my perspective or maybe a drive
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: home and your listeners.
• 48:48
  Speaker 4: My I think my moment for me was after this
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: last season, the twenty eighteen season, I hated football. I
• 48:56
  Speaker 4: I really did not like playing the game at all.
• 48:58
  Speaker 4: I didn't I was met at the coaches. I didn't
• 49:00
  Speaker 4: get along with my offensive line coach. Me and Rabel
• 49:03
  Speaker 4: got back got out a lot and I was like
• 49:05
  Speaker 4: what the fuck? Like I was, I just I was like,
• 49:08
  Speaker 4: how do because I told will Wi first mail, I'll
• 49:10
  Speaker 4: play it forever, I don't even care, and I like,
• 49:12
  Speaker 4: I still wanted to play more. But I was also
• 49:14
  Speaker 4: like mad about football and all these different things. And
• 49:18
  Speaker 4: what I learned was is it wasn't any of their fault.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: It was mine. Like I was the one that was
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: being a cancer. I was the one that was self entitled.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: Not necessarily people as like he's he wasn't a cancer.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: I know what you're saying, Yeah in your own mind.
• 49:31
  Speaker 4: My mind, in my mind, I guess more than anything,
• 49:33
  Speaker 4: I was a cancer to myself right right, So like
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: I wasn't going in the locker room like saying a
• 49:37
  Speaker 4: bunch of stuff for any musicst in to that. But
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: what I did do was I I did feel a
• 49:43
  Speaker 4: little self entitled. I signed a big contract, and I felt,
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: you know, I deserve this and I deserve that. Why
• 49:47
  Speaker 4: are they treating me like this and not taking on
• 49:49
  Speaker 4: that master responsibility. I still played well. I had a
• 49:52
  Speaker 4: good season last year, but I didn't really see the
• 49:55
  Speaker 4: responsibility that I had when I signed that big contract,
• 49:59
  Speaker 4: And I think I thought things are more owde to
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: me than that. I actually, you know, I should have
• 50:04
  Speaker 4: been giving instead of receiving. So I'm looking at myself.
• 50:07
  Speaker 4: I'm in California and I'm sitting there and I'm listening
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: in the ocean. I'm sitting on the beach looking out,
• 50:12
  Speaker 4: and I'm like, it's not It's not anybody's fault of
• 50:15
  Speaker 4: mind that I'm feeling this way. Like I that resistance
• 50:18
  Speaker 4: I was getting from verybel He's a great he's a
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: great coach, and you know, there's always gonna be things
• 50:22
  Speaker 4: that he and I agree and disagree on, but at
• 50:24
  Speaker 4: the end of the day, like his goal is to
• 50:25
  Speaker 4: make sure a team goes in the right direction. And
• 50:27
  Speaker 4: I was causing resistance. I was I was dragging them
• 50:30
  Speaker 4: down a little bit in that, whether it was in
• 50:32
  Speaker 4: my head or not. So having that control, having the
• 50:37
  Speaker 4: understanding of knowing what you can control, is the only
• 50:38
  Speaker 4: thing that actually matters. And if someone comes to you,
• 50:41
  Speaker 4: if someone came to me and said fuck you, well
• 50:43
  Speaker 4: I know that that probably has nothing to do with.
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: Me the words that they said. It has more to
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: do everything that's going on with them.
• 50:49
  Speaker 4: And I was the guy saying fuck you the whole
• 50:51
  Speaker 4: time because I was, you know, I felt all these
• 50:54
  Speaker 4: things that I thought I deserved when and reality wasn't real,
• 50:58
  Speaker 4: And so I had to start reading more. I started,
• 51:00
  Speaker 4: you know, I actually like I had to get off
• 51:01
  Speaker 4: my phone more. I had to like start doing things
• 51:03
  Speaker 4: to make myself grow. And now I went in and
• 51:06
  Speaker 4: these OTAs have been the most fun OTAs. The camp
• 51:09
  Speaker 4: has been the most fun. Like it's because I'm only
• 51:11
  Speaker 4: focusing on the things of control and accepting the responsibility
• 51:14
  Speaker 4: that I do have on this team, and so those
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: are it's always hard to admit because you never want
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: to be the bad guy or feel like the villain.
• 51:20
  Speaker 4: But it was definitely something that I needed to start
• 51:23
  Speaker 4: taking a hold of and understanding, like, you know, you're
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: in your six you got to you gotta be a leader.
• 51:29
  Speaker 4: You know, you got to be a guy that you
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: can't just be dicking around all the time and just
• 51:32
  Speaker 4: be laughing. And you got to know when's a good
• 51:34
  Speaker 4: time to joke, when's a good time to you know,
• 51:36
  Speaker 4: be serious, and and finding that balance of stuff like that.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: But and so those things definitely helped me.
• 51:43
  Speaker 4: Kind of realize that it's not as important to have
• 51:45
  Speaker 4: the accolades and stuff like that. It's more important when
• 51:48
  Speaker 4: I leave this locker room whenever it is that these
• 51:50
  Speaker 4: coaches and these players that I play with, said, man,
• 51:52
  Speaker 4: Taylor is a good dude, Like he cared about the boys.
• 51:55
  Speaker 4: You know, they'll their kids will hang out with my
• 51:58
  Speaker 4: daughter and be like, yeah, my dad, my dad looked dead.
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 52:01
  Speaker 4: That's that's the ship. I was like, man, like, it's
• 52:04
  Speaker 4: so important. It's so important to be It's not important
• 52:07
  Speaker 4: that how people view you, but it's important to have
• 52:09
  Speaker 4: peace in your own self right. You know, people people say,
• 52:12
  Speaker 4: don't be so self centered. I think it's really important
• 52:14
  Speaker 4: to be self centered, because what is self centerce we
• 52:16
  Speaker 4: have the center of yourself, you know, and understanding like
• 52:19
  Speaker 4: who you are and how what motivates you and your character. So, yeah,
• 52:23
  Speaker 4: it was tough. It was definitely a tough off season
• 52:25
  Speaker 4: for sure. But it's like, I'm really grateful once I
• 52:27
  Speaker 4: started to figure it out, really grateful to know that,
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: you know, it's the the dislike or displeasure of football
• 52:34
  Speaker 4: is totally within my own hands, whether it's going I'm
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: playing well or not, Like it's all that perception, you know,
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: Perception is reality.
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: That's what I hear that's why I hang out with
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: that motherfucker.
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: Well, I kind of think I went all over the
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: place too.
• 52:48
  Speaker 3: No, so here, here's what I captured in hearing that,
• 52:51
  Speaker 3: and I would go even just a little bit deeper.
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: Is the stories people are going to tell your daughter
• 52:57
  Speaker 3: about how in year six you flip the switch where
• 53:01
  Speaker 3: you already have this in you. I mean, I've watched
• 53:03
  Speaker 3: you play, I watched him try to take you off
• 53:05
  Speaker 3: the field, and you're coming back on the field, but
• 53:07
  Speaker 3: literally this mentality that you've never approached six seconds of
• 53:10
  Speaker 3: play as intently as and intentionally with as much fire
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: as you do now because of your daughter, and because
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: people are going to say you had to scrape daddy
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: off the field to get him off the field, you
• 53:19
  Speaker 3: had to pull him out of the locker room, to
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: get him out of the locker roo because he would
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: have done anything for his teammates, whether it was on
• 53:24
  Speaker 3: the field or in the locker room. And it's all
• 53:26
  Speaker 3: about legacy. And I think you flip that switch to
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: having the ability to look your daughter in the eyes
• 53:31
  Speaker 3: because reality is you're probably gonna be playing ten years
• 53:33
  Speaker 3: from now. Right Well maybe okay, so.
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: Probably will, but I don't have an ego, right, But
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: you know what I'm.
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: Saying, Like when it comes to your daughter, she may
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: not get to see you in your prime, and your
• 53:48
  Speaker 3: prime is right here, and embrace it like you never
• 53:50
  Speaker 3: have before, because your daughter is watching every single move
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: that you make. And that's not what I realize. Like
• 53:56
  Speaker 3: with my mom, Like people are like, man, like your
• 53:58
  Speaker 3: mom died eleven days for your eighth birth How do
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: you remember any of this? And that's all I had, right,
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: all I had was eleven days for my eighth birthday.
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: That's it, right, So kids pay attention. Right, everybody's watching
• 54:11
  Speaker 3: your behavior, and I think it's an exciting time for you.
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: Where now that you've made it through that mentally and
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: you just watch what happens, right, you'll turn up to
• 54:18
  Speaker 3: a whole other level.
• 54:19
  Speaker 4: The thing is, it's not like the the blessing and
• 54:22
  Speaker 4: the curse of like the mind is. It's not just
• 54:24
  Speaker 4: like a oh, I've reached.
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: That level and that's it.
• 54:26
  Speaker 4: Like it's a constant maintenance and constant work. It like,
• 54:28
  Speaker 4: stay on top of those things, right, bless them now.
• 54:31
  Speaker 4: And if I if I don't, like you know, stay
• 54:34
  Speaker 4: reading or or keep up on you myself or you know,
• 54:38
  Speaker 4: I always my wife is such My wife is so smart,
• 54:41
  Speaker 4: she's so incredibly intelligent, and she's she can break things down.
• 54:46
  Speaker 4: And the story I loved telling is when I was
• 54:49
  Speaker 4: in year two, after my second season, people are talking
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: about replacing me, Matt Neely keyboard Warriors, probably saying we
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: gotta get we hear this guy. You know those types
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: of guys.
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: Listen, Matt, I'm just kidding's now, you know that.
• 55:01
  Speaker 3: I yeah, that's always.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: Been a fan.
• 55:05
  Speaker 4: But I do say that there are big titan faithful
• 55:07
  Speaker 4: people that wanted me out. And I met my wife right.
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: After that offseason.
• 55:11
  Speaker 4: I met her June thirty July January thirty first a
• 55:14
  Speaker 4: proposer five weeks later, and she helped me just like
• 55:19
  Speaker 4: kind of realize the bigger picture. And the one thing
• 55:21
  Speaker 4: that always sat with me is like, if your life
• 55:23
  Speaker 4: was like a garden and you have all these different
• 55:26
  Speaker 4: pieces of your life, whether it's social life, your business life,
• 55:30
  Speaker 4: your family life, and all I gave these pots and
• 55:33
  Speaker 4: if I'm watering the football one all the time, that's great,
• 55:35
  Speaker 4: and that one's going to grow, but look at all
• 55:36
  Speaker 4: these other ones dying around it, and you're and if
• 55:39
  Speaker 4: those die that's going to affect the plant that's living too,
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: And so you got to continuously water all these plants
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: all the time and stay on top of it and
• 55:46
  Speaker 4: kind of check and balances when you get to watch
• 55:48
  Speaker 4: yourself a little bit like Okay, I'm dipping into the
• 55:50
  Speaker 4: negative a little over here. I gotta go water that
• 55:52
  Speaker 4: plant for a second. Stay on top of those things.
• 55:55
  Speaker 4: If you're not so anally focused.
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: That's what I was.
• 55:58
  Speaker 4: I was like, I gotta do this. I got to
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: do foot both. I got to I was like strangling
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: myself that it was actually holding me back. And once
• 56:04
  Speaker 4: I let go and allowed myself to, you know, have
• 56:07
  Speaker 4: a relationship like I do with my wife and you know,
• 56:09
  Speaker 4: socially and everywhere else.
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: And I am more like a healthy version of all that.
• 56:13
  Speaker 4: Like I've sense that I made three Pro bowls in
• 56:15
  Speaker 4: a row and it's just crazy and I have like
• 56:18
  Speaker 4: we joke all the time. She goes, uh, the first
• 56:21
  Speaker 4: contract that was yours, that second contract's mine.
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: I was like, you damn, You're damn right. She's awesome, man.
• 56:29
  Speaker 4: But it does it definitely puts things in perspective. And
• 56:33
  Speaker 4: I say that when we talked about earlier, how you know,
• 56:36
  Speaker 4: sometimes you got to fall, like you have that success,
• 56:38
  Speaker 4: you got to fall to know how good that success tasted.
• 56:40
  Speaker 4: Because my first year I didn't play the first five games,
• 56:44
  Speaker 4: I still made All Rookie Team. I was a first
• 56:46
  Speaker 4: round draft pick, and I felt like I was on
• 56:47
  Speaker 4: top of the world.
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: Well after that.
• 56:48
  Speaker 4: Second season, I was like, I was like, holy shit,
• 56:50
  Speaker 4: like I might be at a league in a couple
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: of years. People are calling for my head and like
• 56:56
  Speaker 4: that motivates you, it makes you want to be better.
• 56:58
  Speaker 4: But I know now going through both those that someday,
• 57:02
  Speaker 4: if you're going to be hey, you too old, Bud,
• 57:04
  Speaker 4: You're too old, there's a faster kid out there that's
• 57:06
  Speaker 4: gonna take your job. And if you don't stay on
• 57:08
  Speaker 4: top of it, you know, you get last a year
• 57:10
  Speaker 4: or two longer after that, but eventually it's gonna catch
• 57:12
  Speaker 4: up to you.
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: Except for Tom Brady.
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, no doubt, man, I think uh, I
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: think that just kind of is relatable to everybody, that
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: everybody constantly fucking goes through speed bumps. Right Like you're
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: sitting there saying that, I'm thinking about my rookie year,
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: like when I didn't get activated and I was on
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: peace squad the whole year, and when I was like
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: really bitter about it and pissed off that like when
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: somebody tore their ACL they went out and got you know,
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: somebody else to play special teams and not be the backup.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: And it's like, yo, I thought you guys were gonna
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: activate me, and you know, dude.
• 57:41
  Speaker 3: You called me week thirty. Every week from week thirteen
• 57:43
  Speaker 3: on he was activated, the coach told him this, bro,
• 57:46
  Speaker 3: this is the week. Yeah, literally from week thirteen on.
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: Hey, and I'd be so pissed off, and you had
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: asked if I'm still doing the prize Frider day, like
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: still check marking the boxes and the things that kind
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: of got me to where I was.
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: I was a prize fighter day.
• 57:59
  Speaker 3: So I believe similar to what you just said about
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: water in the plants, I share what I call a
• 58:03
  Speaker 3: price fighter day. So it's doing things that are personal,
• 58:06
  Speaker 3: professional athletic, or of service to others and make sure
• 58:09
  Speaker 3: every day you're checking something in all those boxes that
• 58:12
  Speaker 3: are one hundred percent in your control, putting all your
• 58:14
  Speaker 3: effort in so you can say I won the day.
• 58:16
  Speaker 3: And if you can stack winning those days, you can
• 58:18
  Speaker 3: actually have balance in your life. Right, an all pro
• 58:20
  Speaker 3: professional football player can have balance, right, be a hell
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: of a dad, be a hell of a husband, read books,
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: and do all those water the water the right plants
• 58:27
  Speaker 3: every day. Not go he it's football season, don't I
• 58:30
  Speaker 3: won't read a book. It's football season. I won't hang
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: out with my wife. No, it's you can do those
• 58:34
  Speaker 3: things if you choose to do them, and that that's
• 58:36
  Speaker 3: what he's referring to.
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, still find that balance too.
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sure, sorry for sure. But all I'm saying
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: is like you need those people in your life to
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: check you and kind of like you got to look
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: in the mirror, like, yo, okay, will are you doing
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: these things that Ben asked you about? Like this year
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: when I, you know, when stuff would go down with
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: me and I had that injury and I was out
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: for like four or five weeks, and you know, I
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: wasn't having the most fun either, and kind of taking
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: on my new role of being a guy in the
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: background and kind of just being a camaraderie guy. And
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: then charl would question me a lot about like you
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: don't think you're just going through a phase, or Hey,
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: how's that new book that you're reading? Or I thought
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: you weren't gonna I thought you said you were gonna
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: eat those things, or they kind of just check you
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: and to make you look in the mirror and realize, like,
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: am I being holding my own self accountable through like
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: these questions. That's why it's so it's super important to
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: have people in your life that hold you accountable, check you,
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: check up on you, review with you what's going on
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: and whether or not you might say something that might
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: be a white lie. In the beginning, you're still standing
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: there brushing my teeth at night, knowing, Okay, am I
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: really doing these things that that they asked me about
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: that like Ben asked me about that, Charle asked me
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: about like am I holding myself accountable in that nature?
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: Or am I just going through a phase and just
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: kind of feeling sorry for myself? So everybody goes through
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: that shit, man, That's why it's important you are. You
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: are who you surround yourself with. That's why we're around
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: each other all the time. That's why we're always like
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: feeding each other's minds with like with stuff. We have
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: our partners at home, you have our mentors, You have
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: guys that you want to lean on, like yo, or
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: a younger that you want to teach and you're actually
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: getting something from him even though you don't realize it.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: Like you're getting something from somebody younger than you that
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: you're giving to and you're just like kind of clinging
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: on to them. It's super important, it's super important.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: It's it's uh, I don't know, man.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 4: People People have such a knack for feeling fucking sorry
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 4: for themselves. It's a wild now, It's it's crazy. How
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 4: if you just if you just took a moment and
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 4: learned about yourself five minutes a day, sat there, didn't
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 4: do anything, and you don't have to cross your legs
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 4: and say, oh, you know, and meditation is in all forms.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 4: I could sit here like this for five minutes just
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 4: kill myself. What's bothering me? Why is it bothering me?
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 4: And the more you learn that it's not gonna be
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 4: like you're gonna have the perfect attitude all the time.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 4: But what it does do is if when I do snap,
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 4: it gives me a chance to say, five minutes later,
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 4: be like, Okay, why is that bothering?
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: Well?
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 4: This is going on distresses on me. Well I can't
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 4: let that affect this. So I can go and you know,
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 4: diffuse any situation and I'll let it build on top
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 4: of itself.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 2: But if you never take the time.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 4: To learn anything about you, you're gonna always it's like
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 4: blame other people. And if you blame other people, you're
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 4: it's most of the time, if you're pointing at somebody
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 4: else and it's your.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: Fault, it's probably something you've done right, you know.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 4: That's why it's so it's depression is a huge thing,
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 4: and especially now in twenty nineteen, it's so huge because
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 4: there's so many ways to not sit with yourself or
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 4: it's almost mind numbing for people. You can get on
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 4: social media and sit there on Twitter for hours, Instagram
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 4: for hours and you never have to actually check in
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 4: with the reality.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 2: That's hurting you in the back end. Yeah, you know,
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 2: one thing leads to another.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 4: They keep compounding on top of each other and then
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 4: people start blaming Well, you're just you're a fuck.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: You're a football player and you live the best.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 4: Like listen, I've had my own adversity with my family,
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 4: Like I've grown up a certain way that I mean,
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 4: they're you know, live and around. So I'm not going
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 4: to like dive in you know, on a podcast about it.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 4: But you know, we've had We've had a lot of
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 4: issues that I've had that I've had to work through.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 4: But it's not like I just came out of the
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 4: room with a goal, with a cape on, with a conta.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 2: Nothing goes on and we've done it everyone else.
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 4: It's just like it's it's like the more you feel
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 4: sorry for yourself, the more you're gonna you're have more
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 4: things to feel sorry for yourself about. So stop, like,
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 4: stop complaining people. It's so easy to find things to
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 4: complain about, and it's really it's really hard to.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 2: Find things to be happy about. It's crazy.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 4: If you on your if like people tell me the
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 4: journal all the time, I really do need to start
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 4: doing it. But if you just say five things a day,
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 4: you're grateful for the positivity and it's the law of
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 4: attraction and see it's the universe.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: If you just if you.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 4: Speaking positive, you speak in a positive tone all the time,
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 4: it's gonna it's gonna end up that way. But if
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 4: you're constantly shitting on yourself, whether it's a joke or not,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 4: you're gonna that you're gone, it's gonna come. It's gonna
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 4: come get you people, gonna stop feeling sorry for yourself.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 3: I always talk about the burn, as I mentioned earlier,
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 3: and the burn is that underlying fire that really lights
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 3: the purpose and the why, because I think there's a
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 3: lot of guys talk about purpose and why and and
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 3: it's like, well, man, I don't really know what those
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 3: things are. Well, tell me what the burn is. Tell
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 3: me like when you think about this, like taking no
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 3: action is not on the other side of these thoughts, right.
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 3: So for me, every day waking up thinking about my
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 3: mom and I actually put together this burn challenge where
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 3: I encourage people every day, first thing you do, before
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 3: you check text message, before you do this, wake up
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 3: and just write out what your burn is in a
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 3: journal for thirty days. Just write one sentence. Yeah, one sentence,
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 3: and I'm on day twenty two right now. I don't
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 3: even need to do this. I've been thinking about my
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 3: purpose and my burn every day, my whole damn life
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 3: because of what I had to see. I'm setting an example.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 3: And you know how many people they message me on
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 3: Instagram like what is this? You know, and it's what
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 3: is this? And then it's like that you can just
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: tell from their tone like what kind of nonsense? It's
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 3: what nonsense?
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: Is this not?
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 3: Hey, help me understand the meaning of this. And then
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 3: some people can make but people don't realize what you
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 3: think about. You one hundred percent control your mindset. You
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 3: can either control your mindset and say papers wrote about me,
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 3: papers said this paper did that, or I mean, if
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 3: we had more time, we could sit here and say,
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 3: what did you really think about when the paper saw that? Right,
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 3: there was some fire that said, man, I'm gonna go
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 3: into the weight room now with your with your baby girl. Right,
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 3: you wake up every day and you think about the
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 3: example that you set for your baby girl. The other
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 3: side of that is not getting your reps in in
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 3: the gym. The other side of that is not doing
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 3: what it takes to be recognized as one of the
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 3: greatest left tackles to ever play the game. Right, You've
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 3: done the Pro Bowls, but now we take it to
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 3: the next level. Right, And most people don't realize you
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 3: control those thoughts. And as you have those, life changes
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 3: and things change. First, baby I had man. Life changed.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 3: It's like, now you're an example for somebody else. Now
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 3: legacy means something else. Now I'm taking the pen that
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 3: my mother passed to me, I get to pass it
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 3: to my son. I get to pass it to my daughter.
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 3: That's a hell of a responsibility and something I will
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 3: absolutely attack every single day to make sure I can
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: touch as many lives as I can. And like to me,
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 3: you think about something like that, you think about your
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 3: daughter in that context, getting after it right, one play
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 3: at a time. That's like it's easy, but most people
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 3: don't realize you one hundred percent can control thinking that way.
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 3: They'd rather get up and say, gosh, my boss did
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 3: this yesterday, And that's because it's easier. I'd rather have
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 3: that than actually do what it takes to control your mind.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: It's a victim's mentality.
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, it's crazy.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 4: Like I'll watch my daughter. I'll watch my daughter watch
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 4: my wife, and my wife will go do something. It
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 4: might she'll walk away and then the wind will come
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 4: up behind her and pretend to do the same thing.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 4: And then they'll go the next thing, and like my
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 4: she coughs, my daughter will be like like pretending to cough.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 4: Like the bean is she's a sponge. I mean it's
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 4: not just the bean, it's everybody. But might call my
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 4: daughter the bean for those.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 2: Who are listening. She's a complete stuff. She's so awesome.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: Did we drop the fucking gym today?
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: Is there anything else where we really need to hit on?
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Ben, you got anything else?
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: And then you want to do you have for people?
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 4: For people that do have connected with the things they've
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 4: heard on this that they can follow you. What kind
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 4: of social media is you got?
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 3: So at continued fight is uh is my social media?
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: That's the primary?
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 3: Well, that's that's Instagram, that's Twitter, and those are the
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  Speaker 3: most popular ones.
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  Speaker 2: That's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: What about a website?
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  Speaker 3: Website is Ben Newman dot net, Okay dot net And
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  Speaker 3: if you go to b n C speakers dot com,
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  Speaker 3: you go to b n C speakers dot com, you'll
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  Speaker 3: find Big Willie over here, one of our speakers. We've
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  Speaker 3: been on the road. We've probably done thirty something speaking
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  Speaker 3: engagements together. And Will's a hell of a speaker. I
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  Speaker 3: told you I was joking that you couldn't get him
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  Speaker 3: off the stage. Yeah, but I'll tell you what, this
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  Speaker 3: is one of the most intelligent guys I've met. I
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  Speaker 3: remember we went to North Dakota State. We had just
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  Speaker 3: come off of actually, so I was there four years
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  Speaker 3: for the head coach, took me to Kansas State with him,
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  Speaker 3: and three of the four years we won a national championship.
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  Speaker 3: He comes in the year after we had followed short
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  Speaker 3: of winning the national championship, and the way he inspired
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  Speaker 3: those kids, man, they still fricking talk about it, and
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  Speaker 3: we ended up going back to back the years after
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  Speaker 3: that man inspired the quarterback who just got drafted by
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  Speaker 3: the Chargers, Like his level of inspiration is really something else.
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  Speaker 3: And that's why I know for him that fire because
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  Speaker 3: I think back to when we were in your apartment,
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  Speaker 3: when you were on practice squad. We went out to
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  Speaker 3: dinner to celebrate it. I came out to see him
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  Speaker 3: and he was right now, he's on practice squad talking
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  Speaker 3: about I'm gonna have camps, I'm gonna give back in
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  Speaker 3: my community, I'm gonna speak, I'm gonna do all these things.
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  Speaker 3: He didn't hold back the fact that he was on
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  Speaker 3: practice squad to keep him from believing he would have camps,
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  Speaker 3: believing he would save money. You wrote down you believe
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  Speaker 3: you'd invest in real estate. And far too many people
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  Speaker 3: are worried about the chapter where they are and how
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  Speaker 3: they're never going to get to where they're going rather
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  Speaker 3: than recognizing the chapter where you are right now might
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  Speaker 3: be the best damned chapter, and you solidifying the foundation
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  Speaker 3: that's going to give you the mindset to go conquer
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  Speaker 3: and achieve everything you want in your life. And that's
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  Speaker 3: what you've done. And that's why I love this guy
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  Speaker 3: to death. I'm sure you can tell, but he's like
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  Speaker 3: an uncle to my kids. I would do anything for
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  Speaker 3: this guy, and that's why I want the listeners to know.
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  Speaker 3: Forget following me like I would do anything for this dude,
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  Speaker 3: and that, to me, that's what life is all about.
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  Speaker 3: It's about knowing you've got relationships like this. I could
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  Speaker 3: call this dude at three o'clock in the morning and say, Bro,
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  Speaker 3: something went down in Saint Louis, And unless there was
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  Speaker 3: something that he absolutely couldn't do it, he'd be like, bro,
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  Speaker 3: I'm in the car. He'd be like, brow, I'm in
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  Speaker 3: the car. And I always dreamed he would answer that
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  Speaker 3: he would come for me, and now he tells me
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  Speaker 3: he'd sleep.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate it.
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  Speaker 3: I'll go looking for a new friend, doing good.
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  Speaker 1: Joe hyping me up. There's an Alabama transfer. It was
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  Speaker 1: that long snapper. He came from Bama.
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  Speaker 3: Yup, Scott, he's a band now, Yeah, Scott.
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  Speaker 1: He came up to me when we were there working
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  Speaker 1: on He's like, hey, do you know Ben Newman? And
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  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I know Newman. He's like, Yo,
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  Speaker 1: He's talked about you a lot. Man Like it was
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  Speaker 1: probably it was a really cool thing. Knowing he transferred
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  Speaker 1: from there and came from somewhere I've never even been,
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  Speaker 1: and knowing that you probably you know, said say these
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  Speaker 1: nice things. I really appreciate it.
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  Speaker 2: Well.
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  Speaker 3: I remember one of the linebackers from Bama before the
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  Speaker 3: National Championship last year, you mentioned on an elevator somewhere.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was cool. He say. We were at the
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  Speaker 1: Pro Bowl. J Mosley's brother cousin Jamie.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, brother, and we.
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  Speaker 1: Were on the elevator at the Pro Bowl and he
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  Speaker 1: said the same thing, like you know Ben Newman. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I know Ben. That's my boy. He's like, man,
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  Speaker 1: he always comes to Baman and says a lot of
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  Speaker 1: great stuffcause'mitting there thinking, I always get curious, knowing you're
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  Speaker 1: about to go in another locker room, what is going
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  Speaker 1: to be the feedback just because you know you stepped
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  Speaker 1: in the sports world, not like that long ago, like
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  Speaker 1: I what five however long seven years ago?
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  Speaker 3: Now twenty thirteen was the first time.
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  Speaker 1: I'm always wondering, like when you step in these new
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  Speaker 1: life locker rooms, like how guys are going to take
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  Speaker 1: some of this stuff in. I always get curious. I
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  Speaker 1: know how I took it in, But you know, there's
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  Speaker 1: a sometimes there's levels of think you know, think about it.
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  Speaker 3: There's two things going through my mind that I that
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  Speaker 3: I got to share before we stop. First one is
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  Speaker 3: every message has to be different. When coach Climbing went
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  Speaker 3: from North Kota State and he went to Kansas State
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  Speaker 3: and we sat down because he would always have me
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  Speaker 3: develop a theme for the season, right, and this season
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  Speaker 3: it's pound the Stone. I've never used pound the Stone
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  Speaker 3: at Alabama. I've never used pund the Stone at North
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  Speaker 3: Kota State, never used it with the Dolphin, never used
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  Speaker 3: it anywhere, right, So for me, like, it's got to
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  Speaker 3: be something fresh, it's got to be something new. And
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  Speaker 3: too many coaches think, well, I'll go from here and
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  Speaker 3: I'll just pick it up and I'll put it over here. Man,
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  Speaker 3: you got to find out how those guys tick. You
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  Speaker 3: got to find out what's in their locker room. You
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  Speaker 3: got to find out how they think. And then I
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  Speaker 3: had a buddy of mine, Joshua Medcalf, who wrote a
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  Speaker 3: book called Pound the Stone. Let me use it. But
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  Speaker 3: I think it's finding what's actually going to resonate. And
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  Speaker 3: it's been a blessing that we've been able to find
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  Speaker 3: these messages that have worked, and they have and then
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  Speaker 3: the behavior comes behind it. They rally around it. No
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  Speaker 3: different than for the boys. Right I'm sitting here watching
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  Speaker 3: from home knowing you two dudes were the ones who
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  Speaker 3: did that, and that was one of the proudest moments, no,
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  Speaker 3: and that like, even though you weren't getting everything that
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  Speaker 3: you wanted last year and the time that you wanted it,
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  Speaker 3: you were in there, the two of you for the boys,
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  Speaker 3: getting those guys to rally, getting those guys to give
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  Speaker 3: all them stuffs. Dude, that's the stuff that it's all about.
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  Speaker 3: It's keep it's continuing to fight when you don't want
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  Speaker 3: to do it. And here here's the beauty of this formain.
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  Speaker 3: I've got to tell this story because we wouldn't be
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 3: sitting on this bus right now, and none of these
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  Speaker 3: stories of people you've met in my ability to share
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  Speaker 3: your story to inspire others. And it's a crazy inspiration.
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  Speaker 3: Bro that first training camp that I go to to
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  Speaker 3: see him, right, So for four weeks we get together,
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  Speaker 3: We're doing all this mental training stuff. This is the story,
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  Speaker 3: none of this. We're not here right, all right? So
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  Speaker 3: I literally.
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  Speaker 2: This train got I gotta put it out.
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  Speaker 1: Go ahead.
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  Speaker 3: Sorry. So he calls me the day before I'm supposed
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  Speaker 3: to get there and he says, Bro, he goes, there's
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  Speaker 3: something really bad with my hamstrings. So I get there.
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  Speaker 3: Turns out we didn't know and at the time he
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  Speaker 3: had a torn hamstring. So he comes from practice, he says,
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  Speaker 3: meet me at the Team hotel. And I'm thinking I'm
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  Speaker 3: just gonna be hanging out at training camp, and it's like,
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  Speaker 3: oh man, we got to go work. So we meet
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 3: across from the Starbucks. We're at the Omni Hotel in Richmond, Virginia,
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  Speaker 3: and I sit across from him and I looked at
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  Speaker 3: him and I said, Bro, I'm like, can you go?
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 3: And He's like, I could go, I could go, And
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, who knows. What's the situation is? Can you
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  Speaker 3: go without hurting yourself and causing long term damage? Can
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  Speaker 3: you go and he's like, bro, I can go. I'm
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  Speaker 3: gonna get this thing strapped up. There's one trainer I
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  Speaker 3: can trust. I'm gonna go in there. I'm gonna get
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 3: strapped up. I can go. I said, go do your thing,
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  Speaker 3: Go take what belongs to you. He went out that practice,
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  Speaker 3: he had an interception, he had a pick six on
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 3: Kirk Cousins, and another ball that you dropped for an interception.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 3: And it was that day where he became a member
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  Speaker 3: of the Washington Redskins. But he made the choice to
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  Speaker 3: fight through the pain and then we find out what
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  Speaker 3: was it two years later. He actually played on a
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  Speaker 3: fully torn hamstring for almost two full years. And you've
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 3: got people bitching that they can't take the nuts step
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 3: in their life. If anybody's tweaked their hamstring, they don't
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 3: want to walk. And you've played on it for two
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  Speaker 3: years and everything that has happened in this entire story,
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 3: You guys wouldn't have this relationship if you wouldn't have
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  Speaker 3: stepped on that field. Because when you're seven out of
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  Speaker 3: seven on the depth chart, right when you're seven out
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  Speaker 3: of seven and you go in there and say I
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 3: got a bad Hammy Taylor what do they do? Hey, bro,
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  Speaker 3: go ahead and pack your bags and get out of here.
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  Speaker 3: We don't have time to worry about you. We're gonna
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  Speaker 3: get somebody else. And you always fought, man, I've always fought.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you. That's unbelievable at continued fight. Appreciate you wolves.
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  Speaker 1: Go out there and be a fucking wolf today. That's
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  Speaker 1: as your dad says, big hugs and the tiniest of kisses.