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Rabbi Moshe Haber Orchot Yashar: Cost of Mockery and the Power of Inspiration 6.28.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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This is we said it's a safer of Heinenowski.
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It's it's called the audio share.
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And what it is that he goes, he wrote in the beginning of the
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book that they always come, people come to me, they ask me
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questions. There's advice.
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He says, I'm not saying I'm worthy, but they ask advice.
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So I decided to put together the book, a list of ideas and he
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goes by the olive bed to the olive bed for life, for a person
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to become a great person. It's very interesting book and
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it's very interesting how he's able to take out of each letter
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something very powerful. So by the letter alignment, and
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we started this last week, the letter alignment.
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His comment is his issue is let's anut what's let's anut
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mockery, the power of being a let's making fun of things,
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being a cynic, sometimes being a critic and ridiculing things and
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how effective and how much a person has to avoid it.
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So we discussed last week just a little bit about the fact that
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what does mockery do? We've heard the line before.
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That's an ahat one line of mockery can take down 100
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lessons. Let me give it a clear, very
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simple example. Imagine you have a rabbi whom
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you've shaped your life based on his lessons.
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OK, his ideas, his lessons have helped shape your life.
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And then one day someone shows up and says that rabbi, you
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kidding? He's AI rabbi.
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You know what he does? You know who he prepares from?
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He goes online, he does a little research, and he comes up with
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his classes. Yeah, he's very gifted Order.
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Come on. You trusting him, right.
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Or someone says that I went to school with him.
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You kidding? He was at the bottom of the
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class. He is the guy giving you
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lessons. And you know, it's possible, by
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the way, right? And it's possible there could be
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some truth to that comment, too. Forget the way you do with the
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truth in a second. But what's the effect of that?
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Come what effect does that comment have about a rabbi, even
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someone's parent, even by the way, anyone who has any level of
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influence on you, the effect of mockery is automatically it's
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pop. Pop a hole in the balloon and
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you take down the entire constant inspiration.
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Inspiration is built on, Just so you know, inspiration, in my
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humble opinion, is built on some degree of exaggeration.
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What do I mean by exaggeration? I mean like this.
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He listened to his speech. You get influenced by a person
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and you're very impressed by them.
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Do those people have bad moments in their lives?
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Of course they do. If you were to witness their bad
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moments, would you be as inspired as you are right now?
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You would not. Which means your inspiration.
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We Deep Dig Deep, is built on the better version of that
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person. It's built on the perception of
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them giving you carefully worded words and giving you a good
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image and giving you inspiration.
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So now it's very easy to find a hole in that inspiration, very
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easy. And when you do, you take down
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the entire rise of that person's influence.
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You take down the effects of that influence in a very serious
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way. At this point, clear, we've all
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seen this. Someone came to and said so.
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And so you listen to him, you hear from him, let you know his
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story. That right, we've all seen this.
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Now, problem is like this, couple of things.
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What do you do with the fact that we have to be real?
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We're very anti gullibility, very not happy about people.
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Just, you know, taking something hook, line and sinker and being
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just sheep. You got to be careful with that.
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So you got to be real. It's true.
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It'd be real. You have to make sure the thing
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you're dealing with is not a sketch.
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That's it. As long as you make sure the
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thing you're dealing with is not a sketch, you don't need to be
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an overly serious critic on everything.
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They try to be overly realistic. Why?
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Because you're not going to allow.
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I know many people who are very much critics and cynical, and
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they're always in effect, right. But The funny thing about these
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people is they never change. They don't move an an inch in
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their life. Why?
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Because if you're overly critical, you do not allow
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yourself to hear anything, and you make it that other people
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can't hear anything either. That's the effects of critics.
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He said. If a guy makes a line during a
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speech, a joke, and the crowd, he ruins the whole thing.
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That's the same idea. OK, fine.
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This is very clear. It's very simple.
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It's very clear. Has to go a little further on
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this concept. All right.
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So he says this is the work. This is our works.
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He says that the beauty, the power of this concept is this.
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If someone is that kind of critic and a cynical person,
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they think that being the smartest guy in the room, right?
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The power of a cynic is that he makes himself seem like he's the
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smartest guy in the room because he has the comments.
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What does a comment mean? A comment is basically, I'm
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above that statement. The idea of a of a cynic.
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I'll give you an example. It's not a negative example.
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It's example I was thought of in the Torah, we have one of the
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main Peter Sheem on homage Rashi and then on top of him is that
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Amban? Because then I'm ban came later,
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right? So the way it always seems in
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every argument is Rashi says something and then Amban argues.
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That's how it seems, which basically makes it seem like
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that Amban is on top of our she because he came second and Rashi
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never was given a chance to respond.
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And I've always had this opinion about that, that, that, that
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correlation. That's not so fair.
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It's always been my opinion. It's not so fair because when
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she came first, then a Bond came after him, then a Bond's
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commenting upon Rashi. And when she got never got a
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chance to defend themselves, right?
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And that's pretty much how it's that's in a positive way.
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But that's pretty much how a critic looks.
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The critic, you know, the movie critics, right?
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They watch a movie, they give you the critics.
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In the old days, those guys were a big deal.
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Those two guys with their names were exactly those two guys,
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right? And they were a big deal and you
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waited for the critics and you want to see what they have to
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say. But again, it's not so fair
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because they're coming after the fact, that common thing after
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the movies movie said and done. And they're really, the movie
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itself doesn't get a chance to respond, doesn't get a chance to
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explain where it was coming from, what was behind the
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scenes. Maybe it was difficult to make
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that image. Maybe we had a reason for that
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planning. Fine, That's what critics are.
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Critics are, in effect, the smartest guys in the room
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because they're the last word. And they go to neighbor to they
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use pistol Kim that. Wow.
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Exactly. A guy carries that common thing
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about a lesson and he says, but you know, don't you know, David
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heads Kimala Tara, one of the most misunderstood lines in
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history? Or they say some other line that
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they could drop on you. Sure, fine.
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You're right. What's the reality about the
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critics? The reality, the rabbi says, is,
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is that a critic is the smartest guy in the room originally.
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Over time, he becomes literally the laughingstock of the room.
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He says stop and watch critics. I'll tell you why I still watch
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critics on sports radio, sports talk radio.
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They still have these guys that criticize them.
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These guys, their names are and two papers, huh?
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No, no, the guys who criticize them in in in Daily News, in the
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post, one guy's name is I forgot the names and how these guys are
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as critical as it gets. And they go at it.
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They make it seem like nobody listens.
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They make it seem like these radio guys are the worst.
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The funny thing is they're much less famous, right?
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And then they have their favorites as this way you find
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these guys as as, as being a sketch.
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They have their favorites. They have their talk show guys
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they like. And these guys, they're pro the
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other guys they're anti. And you find you find the sketch
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in these people. He says, he says the way it
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works is is that a critical person sounds like the smartest
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guy in the room. He's got the last word.
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He has the comment, he shapes the scene, yet in reality he
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ends up being the laughingstock. As he says Hashem punishes a
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person like that. Mida kanagan mida and mida
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kanagan mida a little means measure for measure, which means
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that this individual who went out and made fun of a friend,
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made fun of a lesson, made fun of inspiration.
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He tried to make fun of somebody else.
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And therefore what God does to him is God allows that he is
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made fun of. And if you think about the
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person who's always made that joke in class, who always made
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fun of people and always was a cynical person about people,
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that individual that you think you know, you think through
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history, you think through your life.
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That guy, is he upstanding guy or is he a little bit like a
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little bit of a joker? And in the sense he doesn't
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really have his own legs to stand on because me doc and
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making me dash, that makes it that that person comes a
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laughingstock. That's how it works.
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So it's not really recommended to be a person who's cynical,
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who's critical, who's always got that last word to find the
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floor. Can you find the floor and
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anything? Of course you can find a floor
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and anything. You can find the floor and
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anything. Anyone does, anything someone
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does publicly. You ask me two minutes, I'll
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give you a clear floor. I'll give you a very noticeable
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floor. And they did so and so, didn't
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prepare so and so made a mistake in his Hebrew.
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So and so doesn't really know what he's talking about.
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And that lesson, you can find flaws in anything, but here's
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the reason why. So I'll tell you the truth.
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I personally am a very cynical person or a very cynical person,
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a critical person. I don't make fun of people per
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SE, but I have a comment to say in my mind.
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But anything I see, anything I see ever come, the reason over
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time you drop it and you change your ways is for the following
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reasons. Why are we cynical?
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The cynical originally, I'm personally cynical because I'm
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careful, which means I'm afraid of being, you know, being sold
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at Brooklyn Bridge. I'm afraid of some being a
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sketch. I don't really like when people
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are overly inspired by things that are not really so
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inspiring. That's my overall open.
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But here's an interesting thing. God did this, which means I sham
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put people in place as means of inspiration.
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A very wild thing is a phenomenon that's going on among
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our people. The phenomenon is this.
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Do we have ghidolim today like we had 50 years ago?
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No, we don't. We do not have ghidolim today
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like we had 50 years ago. Do we have people, communities
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who are growing more than we had 50 years ago?
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Absolutely, yes. How does that work out?
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The rabbis, at the rabbis, basic rabbis, the ghidolim are not on
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the same level as they were 50 years ago.
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They never every 50 years, they keep changing, right?
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And they're always going down to a degree.
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You don't have a Kamala anymore. You don't even have a clear one
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individual inside the world who's the source of Allah.
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You don't have one. You don't have a Haikenewski
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anymore. You're not one clear individual
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who's the clear source of Allah. You don't have one right?
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You don't have in, in the Shiva world used to be 1 Roshi Shiva.
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That was a Shiva or Roshi Shiva trap shock.
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You don't have any more. You don't have any of these
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individuals. You have Gudurim, but you don't
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have that. How does that work out if you
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believe are not in the same position as they once were?
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So don't you think the people would be less in a certain
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sense? It's true that people are
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missing a leader. We definitely have a void of
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that sense of leader. It's real, absolutely real.
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We don't have a chief row, but in the community in that sense,
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as they did a long time ago, there are voids.
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That's clear. But at the same time the people
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arise. Why the people are better than
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they were before, because the people, community at large is,
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are buying in to the words of the inspiring individuals or the
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words of the rabbis. So one second, the rabbis are
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not in the same level as they used to be.
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Any rabbi would admit that, and yet the level of inspiration is
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higher. How does that work out?
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The answer is very clear, and that is that our people have a
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sense of listening. We are interested in what the
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rabbis have to say. As much as you think that we
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make comments about our rabbis in the world, you'll never find
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people who have more respect of rabbis in this community.
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The respect that they have rabbis in this community is
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literally the best there is. There's no one out there nor the
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community in the world that has a general basic level respect
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for rabbis. Even though we comment and even
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though we have this to say and that to say, and we say this to
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another schools, in the schools, all that stuff to respect the
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rabbi is number 1. And even though you have
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something to say about that rabbi, driving that car was so
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and so he said this so and so. He's doing that, but at the end
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of the day, if you are overly critical and you make fun of and
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you're ridicul, then inspiration won't be there.
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But if you allow them to do their thing and realize where
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they are, that is the key point. Every level of inspiration that
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comes your way, God sent that inspiration.
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God is using that individual as a salihah of Hashem.
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They're not really the rabbis. It's Hashem shaliyah.
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Hashem wants you to change, so he gave you a message to so and
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so. I know someone who has a rabbi
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that really you and I, I told this last week, I don't hold of,
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OK? I don't hold of this man.
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Yeah. At the same time, this person's
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life changed from that rabbi. So now you got to be careful
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because I might make some very serious mistakes and it's
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dangerous. But at the same time, it's not
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the rabbi, It's Hashem shaliyah and everything.
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All the inspiration in your life is God Shalia.
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God make you be excited about the fact that business worked
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out. That's Hashem shaliyah.
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God make you be thrilled about things going right with your
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children. Hashem gonna send this message.
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All these different things are Hashem messages, including the
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speeches that you hear and the lessons that you learn.
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So if you want to be a lit when he's someone who makes fun of
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things by saying to yourself, I don't want people to be
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gullible. It's very dangerous and people
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are gullible. Like I said before, I think I
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said this last week, if someone wants to make a very serious
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dedication and you were looking at them and saying that guy's
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going to give to that institution and it's a a shell
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institution and doesn't really deserve that money, maybe you
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should call him up and stop him. I could see that.
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But if someone wants to just be inspired and say over by the
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Shabbat table, do you know what that rabbi said?
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Do you know what I heard? You know this devout Torah, You
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know this lesson, someone quotes you some website online and they
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heard a nice about, right? And you want to comment because
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you want to say, well, you get it from that website.
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You know what the website is. You got to be careful.
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Again, if it's dangerous stuff, I understand.
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But if they're excited, they're inspired, they're growing.
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What what's, what's, what's the big heart to harm?
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This is the delicate balance we have to play because reality is
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we all want to be somewhat critical.
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We all are inclined to be cynical.
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We're definitely not interested in people becoming balloons and
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becoming a big deal when they don't deserve it.
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We're not interested in that. And you could ask me if you
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could give me some truth syrup, OK, if you could give you give
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me some truth syrup and ask me the truth about a lot of things
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that are going on. I'll be honest with you, a lot
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of things that you see and I see are really way more a sketch and
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bloated than they seem as the truth.
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So if that's the case, how could I ever be inspired?
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How could I ever grow? How could I ever listen to
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lessons? The answer is realize this.
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It's all Hashem sending those lessons through those people.
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If you think of the people who inspired you throughout your
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life with all the greatest people in the world, I don't
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think so. I don't think the people who
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inspired me throughout my life, all the best people on earth.
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But Hashem sent different things at different times to make me
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grow. And if I'm going to be a cynical
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person and I'm going to comment about all those different things
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that I never would have got past a certain step just yesterday,
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how's time? I make a call like 2 years ago
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Sunday comment about a great rosheshi or shisha and they said
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I don't know, always tell me ha ham or not.
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This guy has had his individual has had more effect in the
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Jewish world than most people. And the person actually said no,
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I'm not sure you know what that statement is.
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Now you're not sure if the guy's a learning person, but he's had
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more effect. And if that's thing when we made
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public, then you know what his influence would be weaker.
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And this is how the world works. And the person has to realize
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you want to ridicule, you want to make fun of, you want to keep
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people normal, you want to keep people right stinging.
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Clearly, I hear you. I'm with you.
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But this is the payoff. The payoff is there's no growth,
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there's no impact, there's no inspiration, there's no
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development. And all you have instead,
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because everyone being Uber cynical, in certain parts of the
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world, certain parts of Jewish community, you are a certain
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people who are fully religious, fully observant, and yet they
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don't learn a word. OK, fully observant, they don't
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learn to that word. This is a phenomenon out there.
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And I know these people, some of them are my friends.
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They're my friends. Why don't they learn to it?
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Are you ready for this? Here's what they don't learn.
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They don't learn because they went to yeshiva and they had to
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Oshea yeshiva, big rabbis. Then they went to work.
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I think we weren't going to work.
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They went to work to make a living.
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Now they don't have a shivas anymore.
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They have rabbis of a Shu. And in their world, they grew up
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in a world where rabbis of a Shu and their specific world was not
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a thing. In certain parts of the world,
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Shu rabbis are not a thing. Roshi Shivas only are a thing.
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OK, I've heard it as I can. No, but I could you imagine this
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concept. A guy grows up all day long.
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Roshi Shiva or Shiva Shiva, A rabbi of a Shu is not a thing.
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Shu is where you go pray and you leave.
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Where do you get your lessons from?
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Who is Shiva doesn't have a Shiva anymore.
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Now he has a Shuli praising but he doesn't respect there of it.
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So now he has nothing. I have many, many friends that
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are in this camp and they do not learn a word Mamet.
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They've learned very little. Why?
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Because they don't have any sources anymore.
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But if we're growing up, someone told them, their father told
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them, someone told them, listen, you go to shul, the rabbi gives
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a class. You go to yeshiva, the other
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rabbi gives a class. It's all good.
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It's all such an inspiration. Then they would have had that
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means draft the new means available.
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This is how the right way. If you want to make fun of
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things and you want to keep things at Bay and ridicule.
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This is the payoff person not very inspired.
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I'm telling you this because I'm talking to myself.
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I am a person who would naturally, I don't hold of
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things. You give me something new, I
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tell you, get rid of it. You give me a new name, I tell
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you, where'd he come from? Amen.
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Where'd he come from? What's his background?
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I want to know his background. I'm not a fan of things that are
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brand new or people getting super inspired by movements.
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It's not my type, but at the end of the day, Hashem sent these
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people. Think of the movements that we
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have in the Jewish world today. No names.
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There are individuals who are not even rabbis, not even
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rabbis, and they are having effects that are bigger than
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some of the biggest rabbis, you know.
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OK, I'm not telling you names because I don't want to asparage
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them at all. Do you know what I'm talking
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about? Yes.
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OK. These individuals they give you
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don't know I'm talking about there.
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OK, I could say I'm not saying I don't want to say his name
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exactly. Huh.
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In what way am I talking exactly?
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He does the dolphin one in one. In one example, there are two
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people. Two biggest Dolph teachers are
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not rabbis, two biggest teachers of Dafiomi.
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Well, Yumi's are regular people who work one guy's in real
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estate. Hey, very small guy and other
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guys in some I don't know why the business he does not robust
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and they have a major, major impact on Dafiomi, right?
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That's the world today. Regular guy has ability to this.
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What happens is these guys are good talkers.
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These guys are very gift out there in a second about the Sema
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Shasti. He's a very gift and this is
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delicate balance we got to in a second.
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So what do you think about this? Right?
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These guys, they're giving classes to 20,000 people a day,
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20,000 people a day, maybe more, maybe 30.
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I know what the number is. Forget it.
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If you learned down from me and you know it, well, good chance
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you're listening to one of these two teachers.
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One guy is fast and smooth, another guy is also fast and
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deep. And they're both very gifted,
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extremely gifted guys. They're unbelievably talented in
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what they do. So now the question is if you
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came to me about these people, you came to me two years ago or
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a few years ago before learning this concept?
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I would have said, I'm for sure. I would not have made a big deal
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positively about it. I probably would have said, I
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don't know if you should listen. I don't know.
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That's a working guy. I don't know where he's coming
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from. He's not a rabbi.
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He's teaching to it. Huh.
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It's a little funny, right? The fact is these guys are
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changing the Jewish world. And then there's a person in our
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community who is a businessman who teaches everyone not and
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he's a very big influence in our community somewhat.
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And Ashkan's world is humongous, humongous.
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Most of my friends who are working guys, they say, you know
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what I listen to And Muna, I get it from him.
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What do you do about that? So now if you're a critical
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person, goodbye, Charles, forget about it.
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Not a rabbi, not the probably not the fully Shiva education.
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I'll see you later. If you're a a very gullible
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person, hook, line and sinker, there are Shiva's now.
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They're rabbis now, give them some make, give them a shoe.
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They're rabbis now. That's also too much.
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The proper approach is the following approach.
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These people are shali of Hashem.
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God put them in their position because God wanted a certain
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outcome. Don't overdo it in the buy in of
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them as individuals. Don't underdo it in the knocking
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of them with their words. The proper approach is a
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balance, understanding that the shali of Hashem.
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They're dedicating their life to these missions, they're doing a
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good job, and we're going to keep the situation as is.
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Get influence, grow, recognize where it's coming from.
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But don't just pop every balloon and destroy every source and
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inspiration because otherwise you get nothing at this point.
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Clear, yes. Question, would you say your
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community's the best like you just said?
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Is that being? Yeah.
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Are you being critical of the other communities?
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Fair question. Yeah.
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Somebody. Yeah, Maybe I shouldn't be.
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Yeah, OK. Yes.
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Where people are Litz, right? Yeah.
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Do you think that the root of it, sometimes people don't like
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to see people surpass them, but so by staying like that and
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being like that, you're holding everyone else in your.
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Courts, Absolutely. The main purpose of a person
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being making fun of other things is your person makes a circle
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around themself and he wants everything to remain exactly the
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same. I don't want to see a guy come
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out of nowhere who's better than me in a certain area, so I'm not
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interested. That's jealousy.
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It's all based on jealousy. Most of making fun of is based
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on insecure. You know these guys and they're
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uncomfortable in the room. So he makes a silly comment,
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right. You know that guy and you're
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like, just just give me a mouth shot.
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You'd be better off. That is jealousy.
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That's been security. It's the same thing takes more
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and more. So he's better than you.
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And if he does it without reason, same thing.
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And a person who makes comments on the people when a person who
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gets religious, that's more observant and the first thing
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they're doing is they're doing to all those comments.
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You know, the guy didn't have the right upbringing.
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You know the guy did not have the right, right influence.
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But the guy who gets religious and he's, he's, he's tactful
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enough to realize my cousins are the same cousins, my parents are
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the same parents. That's only to respect in the
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same way. And so I have to dance a little
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bit more. I have to be a little bit more
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careful in my situation. But I shouldn't become that guy
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who's uncomfortable to be around.
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Then the guy has the proper approach.
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One guy might be Bhagava. One guy might be using his
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observance as a, as a means of putting other people down.
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And the other guy is using his observance as a means of lifting
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his family. You know, when a guy becomes
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observer, extra observer, extra religious in a family, there's a
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very big difference. Sometimes they change the whole
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family, sometimes they just become a nuisance.
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What's the difference? That if they doing it, they'll
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be arrogant and say I got this and now I got my black guy.
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Now I'm learning and see how much I'm learning.
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You see da, da, da and they do it that way.
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If something gets nervous, gets turned off and that everything
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is a headache, every say that every meal, everything is
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annoying. But if the guy does the right
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way, same even black guy, same learning, same schedule, same
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home Rotika shoot, but he does it the right way, he's tactful,
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he has proper respect. Then that person, he raises
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whole family somehow because they watch him, they like it and
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they're good. But the difference is the same
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exact difference as the as the concept of ridiculing.
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Are you trying to put other people down to keep yourself in
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a special spot or are you just trying to do your thing?
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So all that matters in every area, if you're trying to put
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other people down then and trying to keep you, therefore
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keep yourself as a great person. If that's your means of doing
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so, you can have all negative effects.
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But if you're trying simply to just be yourself and allow
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things to be and you're going to raise the entire, you know, has
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to say a tide, high tide, where's the line again?
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High tide raises all boats. That person becoming better will
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actually raise his whole family. He really will.
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And you've seen it many, many times.
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A good guy that has hand that's good at these things, he gets a
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little bit more observant, everyone gets better.
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A good guy that's a difficult guy that's annoying and he has a
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little more observant. Everyone gets more turned off.
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It's all about the same thing. So you have, whether it be less
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or you're the person who kind of more observant, you have to
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avoid trying to put other people down.
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And why are you doing that? Because you want to keep things
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at Bay. Why are you doing it?
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Because you want to make sure you remain your solid self.
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You end up backfiring because a person who makes fun of other
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people, person who comments persons are ridiculed.
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He stays in the same corner. It's not like he builds himself
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up through this at all. And all he does is take other
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people down. And you wish those people wish
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for the day that the other people have inspiration.
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I'm telling you myself personally as a rabbit host,
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this, as a rabbi, there are certain things I hear people
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tell me from rabbis and all I want to do is say, come on, he
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telling me this line from that rabbi, I know where he got it
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from. I saw the same thing before he
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saw the same thing. He saw it in the book.
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He just didn't quote the book. He didn't even develop the idea
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on his own. He just saw it in the book and
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didn't quote the source, which is the wrong thing, right?
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And I know that straight up. I know where he got it from and
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all I want to do is comment. But what am I doing when I
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comment? I'm taking away inspiration.
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I'm taking away influence. Sure.
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You need to be very careful to avoid bad influences.
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I'll be very careful with people becoming gullible and buying
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into things hook, line and sinker that are not health.
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But usually that's not the issue.
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Usually they tell you stuff that are some sort of Hassidou.
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That's not your Hassidou to some sort of ideas.
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That's dangerous. That's dangerous that you have
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to avoid as a sensible person who's not coming from a negative
26:46
place. You have to stop those things
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for sure. But overall general inspiration.
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You don't think the community at large has been better off by all
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these rabbis, All the rabbis that have had inspiration and
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even though they may not be God, do outdoor and they may not be
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worthy of the kissing, the hands strick, I understand.
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But at the end of the day, they had influence.
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And why does it bother you that they had influence?
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Let them do their thing. Don't buy in in a gullible,
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silly, teal way. That's where problems start.
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Don't go that way, but don't knock them down either, because
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they are Hashem Shaliak to lift up us, lift us up in all
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different ways. Sure, as it sends over person.
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You need the balance. You need the balance, no
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question about it. And if your kids got hooked into
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something that's a little weird, stop it, stop it.
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Shut it down 100%. But more often than not, it's
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not weird. It's not so crazy.
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It's a good the red tuda from Hashem and influence from a good
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place, and you just need to be a sensible adult in the room to
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stop what's crazy and to continue what's normal.
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But you don't need to take things down because otherwise,
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the people who made fun of everything, the people who said
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it's not our way, the people who said we never did this before,
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those people are stuck in the mud and they haven't changed
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enough. And everybody else is moving all
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along, all beautifully, all developing finally with great
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sources of Divertora, great sources of influence, influence
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and not worrying about the fact, not worry about the fact that
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these people may not be the greatest giggling of in the
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history. Doesn't make a difference.
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There are gods, Shalia to make us great.
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That's the whole good my God.