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Try This Not That: 5 Ways to Get Where You Want To Be (for Each Enneagram Type) · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast with Amy Wicks, your wholehearted life and business coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should know this podcast will inspire you to grow in self-awareness, be passionate about your faith, and get clear on your calling.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are new here, then welcome to the community of multi-passionate women who love to go deep on topics like faith, Enneagram, relationships, leadership, and community.
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  SPEAKER_00: This conversation might provide the step you need to make the change you desire.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's get started.
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  SPEAKER_00: So how are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, really?
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you feeling?
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  SPEAKER_00: How are things going?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you been emotional lately?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you been at peace?
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, I know sometimes it's hard to express yourself, but I'd love for you to try.
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  SPEAKER_00: So give me a word.
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  SPEAKER_00: One word that describes how you're feeling at this moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Come on, just play along for just a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: So give me a word that truly describes how you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now say a word that describes how you want to feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'll go next.
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  SPEAKER_00: How am I doing right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm feeling a little overwhelmed.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what word describes how I want to feel?
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to feel clear-minded and steady.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I used more than one word, but can you relate?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, during my morning office routine today, and that just means my time in the Word with coffee, journaling, and all that.
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  SPEAKER_00: During that time I reflected on how I felt and how I wanted to feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: I read my scripture passage, did some listening prayer, and I journaled.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as I did, I felt my stress level decrease.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remembered that I was not alone, that God could handle my schedule, and I had done the most important thing by giving the Lord and myself this precious time with Him.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breathe in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breathe out.
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  SPEAKER_00: God's got this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you haven't already catched the fall breath prayers for each Enneagram type, remember you can just scroll back a couple episodes and tune in to get reset.
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  SPEAKER_00: But for today's episode, I'm going to offer five practical ways for each Enneagram type to move from where they are to where they want to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are specific steps, so your starting point doesn't have to be your stuck point.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today we're going to kick things off with the Enneagram type 5.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know you guys are always stuck in the middle, so today we're going to start with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for the Enneagram type 5, instead of doing it yourself, ask for help.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of continuing to just keep researching, choose to take action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of being the teacher, be the student.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of just keeping it to yourself, express your emotion to others.
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  SPEAKER_00: And instead of staying stuck in overthinking, share what you know or ask your questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now these tips are for the Enneagram type four.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of thinking you don't belong, accept the invitation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of holding on to past hurts, choose to release what is not yours.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of being stuck in comparison, celebrate your uniqueness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of being ruled by your feelings, validate your feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of holding unrealistic expectations of others, communicate your ideal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about the Enneagram three.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of high expectations, choose to grow slow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of labeling it as a failure, celebrate your effort.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of just focusing on performance, choose to be authentic with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of striving to be the best, take a break.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of being a chameleon and inauthentic, stick true to who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, are you ready, Enneagram too?
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of not sharing your needs, ask for help.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of overextending your help, set a daily boundary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of not feeling wanted, receive a compliment and believe it's genuine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of offering help, wait to be asked.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of not having time alone, plan a solo activity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now onto the Enneagram ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of critical self-talk, take time to celebrate small wins.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of perfectionism, combine grace with excellence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of a rigid schedule, plan for some white space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of suppressing your feelings, take time to be honest with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And instead of just knocking out the checklist, have fun with your people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the tips for the Enneagram nine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of avoiding anger, express your opinion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of procrastinating, set a timer and begin.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of discounting yourself, take a risk.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of hiding, let yourself shine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of being a doormat, know that your desires matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: For the Enneagram eight, instead of loving it or hating it, learn to be okay with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of avoiding vulnerability, open up to a few trusted people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of debating every point, ask good questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of trying to control, trust the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of just being brutally honest, offer truth with compassion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, for the Enneagram seven, instead of moving on to the next thing, stay a little longer.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of believing that you are limited, choose to be grateful for your boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of avoiding your pain, give yourself time to emote.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of maxing out your schedule, create white space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of collecting friendships, go deep with a few.
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  SPEAKER_00: And last but not least, the Enneagram six.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of just relying on the gurus, trust God's voice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of being loyal to a fault, implement healthy boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of staying in overwhelm, do one thing at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of planning for the worst case scenario, expect the best.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of testing others' motives, believe their intention.
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  SPEAKER_00: Friend, I hope that you are hearing me loud and clear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your starting point doesn't have to be your stuck point.
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  SPEAKER_00: With God's guidance and some practical tips, you can move towards the person that He created you to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you're listening to this episode and you're newer to the Enneagram, you can scroll back in this podcast feed and hear about all nine types in the Enea Summer series.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you can check out the resources in the show notes, and I've got loads for free that will help you on this journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope you enjoyed this deeper coaching perspective on truly understanding your personality so the knowledge can benefit you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, friend, we are all broken, we are all blowing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the brave one, and that's you, does something about it.