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HALF WAY MARK_ SEASON 2 DA CREW PODCAST _ EPISODE _87_ HOST TRIVEDA HARRIS · DA CREW Podcast

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Podcast where I am your host, Trevita Harris. Tonight, my guest is
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business Check and we're going to talk about her acronym set successful educated Trillionaires.
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However, I'm not quite sure if she's made it just yet, but anyway,
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we'll still talk about what we need to talk about. But before we
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do anything, we have to go to God in prayer. Their Heavenly Father,
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thank you for bringing us together in this space, giving us the opportunity
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to spread your graciousness and your love and coverage over us each and every day,
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to be able to do what you have called us to do, even
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though some days we may fall short, but as long as we stay obedient
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to everything that you've called us to do and deliver the message to the people
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that are in need of hearing what it is that we have to say.
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It is your will that we must follow, and your precious and holy name
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Jesus, we pray Amen. Let's see. I don't know what's saying in
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the chat, but anyway, if she's here, I'll go ahead and bring
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her up. If not, I'm just going to tell you a little bit
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about what I was doing this weekend. Hey girl, I am good.
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How about you? Am pretty good? I'm blessed glad to be here.
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Yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am. Now listen, go over your bio
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that you sent me. You know that it was a lot, and so
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I had to try to down, you know, with single mom of you
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know, you were determined not to allow any of the challenges that you were
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hasten to deter you from doing what you needed to do. So with that
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being said, you started your very first journey in entrepreneurship with arrows of artistry,
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and with that became a very demanding what time, adjusting your schedule to
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be able to still be a mom, to also be able to run a
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business, and to do all of those things at one time. And so
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when you made the adjustments, you came up with the acronym of SET,
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which it stands for successful educated turionaires. So with that you can go ahead
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and continue on with your own personal introduction of who you are and what you
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stand for. Awesome, awesome, So yeah, you are absolutely right.
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I want to start off by saying that, in addition to that what my
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company does, we offer a lot of business to business services, so for
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so for business owners that are in need of like grants, or if you're
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in need of global advertising, if you're in need of you know, you're
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you like to be a vendor at any of our upcoming events. I am
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doing a tour expo where I'll be going to different states having different events,
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and business owners are more than welcome to participate. Outside and outside of that,
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I'm pretty much just you know, the average you know, the average
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person who you know pretty much came from a rough neighborhood who's just trying to
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make it out here in this world. So that's pretty much who I am.
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Well, listen, I won't even say that that is just all of
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who you are, because there's a it goes into you and I knowing a
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single mom that's a challenging itself, and being able to raise children and continue
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on with all of that other stuff and not letting any of that deter you
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because it can be very frustrated, and it can be very overwhelming, and
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you you have those moments where you have to step aside and go and cry
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about it, pull yourself together and keep going. And so one of the
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other things that I want to ask is when you decided to make that decision
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to go to college, what was that like. When I made the decision
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to go to college, it was okay. So first and foremost, it
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was really when I grew up. I grew up in a family where it
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was like you had to be somebody, you know, you you couldn't just
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be nobody pretty much. And with having that mindset always, you know,
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had to go like above and beyond and be the best that I can be.
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So when I graduated from well, when I came close to graduating from
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high school, I'm talking about days away from graduation, uh, is when
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I found out I was pregnant. And at that moment, that was something
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that my family wasn't really you know, for with me being the age that
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I was. But even before I want to I want to add this too,
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because I'm I'm I'm like thinking about my whole life right now as we
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speak it. Lord girl, but I you know I'm trying to. I
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tried to be like straight to the point too at the same time, because
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I know I could get real deep and throwed with everything. So pretty much
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like when I before I even got into college, I was already when I
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was in high school, I was already on the path of gaining college credits,
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accumulating college credits while and I think I was in my I think it
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was like my junior year of high school when I started doing like the it
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was like a bridge program. So I was getting college credits while still in
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high school. So when I got into actual college, it was a breeze
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for me. Like I you know, I just went in and I just
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knew, okay, I want to be At the time, I wanted to
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be in a medical field. Yeah, but you know I changed my mind
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eventually. But college was a breeze. Like in my first year of college,
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I actually well I had a lot of I had a lot of ups
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to it because I got into this class. I can't even remember what the
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name of the class was, but it was something. It was something in
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regards to uh, some sort of arts. I know, I had gotten
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this p this uh contest thing where we had to submit either a form of
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It was like, you know, you had to be creative, either a
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form of writing, like writing something or drawing something. It was like an
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art arts contest. So I got into that contest. I really loved to
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write. I really loved to write poetry. And when I got into it,
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it's like I won't first place, astonishingly, astonishedly, And it was
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a monthst I think like five hundred other contestants or something. But you know,
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it was a lot of contestants who submitted their pieces of art, their
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poetry or their right and drawning. But I was amazed that my poem.
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I submitted a poem actually and a drawn I ain't know how to draw well,
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but I took anyway. I said, you know what I'm gonna answer,
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I can answer two forms an artists, so you know what, I
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would go for it, And that's what I did. I drew some little
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sketches. It was stick people on that girl, and I created the whole
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little storyboard. And that didn't make it, but my poem did it.
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And I want money from that too. So that was my first year of
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college. But I feel like what really, you know, made me want
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to go to college. Is the fact that I always wanted to be somebody,
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so that the goal. I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do.
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Well, I thought I had no knew exactly what I wanted to do,
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but you know, it was I didn't figure that out until like when
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I came close to graduate from college. Before I received my degree, is
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when I trapped into what it is that I really want to do? What
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do I have a passion for? But yeah, that was that was my
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purpose. I wasn't gonna give up. And for the fact that I got
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kids too, or had, you know, having a son at that time,
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it really pushed me to really make something happen with myself. Okay,
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well I can't understand that the team. You had my daughter at seventeen,
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and that was one of the things that it was like, Okay, I
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had her at seventeen, A lot of things I had to put on the
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back burner, and I got married. By the time I was twenty one,
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I had two kids. Me and my as husband now had two kids,
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and it was like, okay, well going to college just right now
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is not the thing. So I didn't actually go to college until my daughter
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had finished her freshman year in college, and then I went to college and
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I graduated shortly before she did, which was crazy. And it's one of
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those things that you know, you have kids and they look up to you,
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they look at what you're going through, and so I always wanted to
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be the example for my kids. Regardless of what you're going through. You
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don't want to give them the excuses that you can just be complacent. And
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I remember a conversation I was having with my kids. I don't know what
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they were doing, but whatever they were doing, I was like, Okay,
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let me just ask y'all a question. Do you want to be just
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average or do you want to super succeed what you see within yourself? I
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said, because I can give you all of that, all of the inspiration,
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all of whatever. I can tell you how good you are because of
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what I see within you, but it takes you to bring that out.
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So what do you want to do? You want to be average or you
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want to be the best at whatever it is that you're doing. And they
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were like, well, I'm going to be the best at whatever it is
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I'm doing. I said, okay, then you have to actually start making
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those steps to be the best that whatever it is you can do. And
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you know, there have been many times where I was like, you know
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what, maybe I'm overstepping my own space because it's I got a lot of
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stuff on my plate now. I don't know if I really want to do
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all of this. So let me take a step back and my kids and
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be like, naw, you know how to do this, so go ahead
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and do this. As a matter of fact, I just got back from
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Atlanta yesterday at a conference, and I was talking to my youngest son last
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night, and I was telling him about the journey that I started when I
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started my publishing business and how I had absolutely no clue on what I was
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doing. It was a vision that my boyfriend had for me in a situation
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where I had the vision, but my vision had a timeline was five years
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from when we originally talked about it, and so when he was talking about
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it, he was like, no, we're going to start this now,
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and I was like, sir, I'm not quite sure if I'm ready to
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do that. And as I was talking to my son last night, he
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was like, I have never known you to not figure it out, and
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so he was like, when you started this, I knew you would figure
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out what to do. And I was like, you kind of got a
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point, because I have anything that I have been faced with, even the
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stroke, the kiari, all of those different diagnoses, changing you know,
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how I lived my life. It was one of those things where it was
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like, Okay, I made the adjustment. My new normal is dealing with
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pain on a daily basis and being able to maneuver with the level of pain
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that I'm in most days. You would not believe. But my son said,
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so, I don't even know why you even doubted yourself in that moment.
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So have you ever had a time or space where you doubted what you
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were doing? Because being an entrepreneur, there are those moments where you're like,
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I don't think this is gonna work. Have you had many of those
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moments like oh yeah, I my goodness, you got me girl. Listen,
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I would say, I would say this my I would say my most
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doubtful moments were when I tried to and I hope don't know one take offense
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to this, but I like to speak exactly what's on my mind, and
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every you know, everybody know me of doing just that. So my most
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doubtful moment is when I decided to do like different partnerships with people or even
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like try to work with different people and as an entrepreneur, and I had
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to realize and I just realized this actually a few weeks ago. You know,
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your journey is for you. You may not be able to take no
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one down that journey of you're headed. You know what I'm saying. Your
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path is meant for you, your vision is meant for you, and other
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people may not understand that. So with that being said, I had to
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like self reflect and I had to cause I have been trying this whole partnership
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thing, collaboration thing a couple of times now a few times, and it
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seems like it just don't work out. And I had to really you know,
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figure out. Okay, I think I had to really tap into and
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understand what it is that I'm good at. And I know what I'm good
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at. And it's like I'm telling myself, you know, I've accomplished so
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much being who I am, doing what I do because I know what I
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want for myself. I know what I want for my business. So with
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that being said, I really don't need no one, but God, I
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don't need no one but God to accomplish everything that I want. So,
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you know, so with that being said, I really feel like that was
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That's like what that was my main challenge. Now there has been times to
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when I'm doing different things and it just you know, it's like, Okay,
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this is not working. I ran into those experiences too. But when
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I run into those experiences, it's like, Okay, well let me try
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it a different way, you know. And I kind of that whole you
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know, I'm gonna test this out, see what happens. I'm gonna do
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this, you know, I'm I'm gonna switch it up a little bit and
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see if this, you know, get more attractional see if people feeling this
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more. So it's like with that, I know how to maneuver. But
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I think my biggest challenge honestly was it's finding the right people to work with
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and to track, you know, to try to build because I'll see my
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up as I'm global, I'm I don't have a local mindset, you know.
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I don't want to be just that person that's known, you know,
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not even known. I just I don't want my business to only be known
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in it. Yeah, I want the whole world to know but then also
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not only that I want you know, of course I want their support.
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Of course I want their you know, I want them to come and shock
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with me and be a client of minds and all of that. I want
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to provide that ultimate service from my business as well. So it's not just
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being known, but actually providing exactly what that customer want, what that customer
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needs, and just pretty much overall being a great service to my customers.
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So that's yeah. So but other than that, like I really, it's
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just I don't know. Oh I'm not. I know a lot of people
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think that I may be like a people person, but I'm not really awful
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exactly what you're saying. I don't consider my black I commit to mingle in
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the space that I'm in. You know, I can you know, meet
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people where they are. Most of the time, it's like, okay,
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you on this and I can't really dig with this. But you're right.
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You can't work with everybody. And that's one of the things that I've had
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to learn and understand. And people will come to you all kinds of ways,
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and when I say all kinds of ways, and they want to talk
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to you this kind of way because they feel like, you know, we
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the same skin color, and we gonna no. First off, let me
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go ahead and tell you no, that's absolutely not the case. We're not
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going to do that. And you're not gonna play me down because you feel
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like we the same color and you can downplay what I'm doing. That's a
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no right there. And I'm not going to deal with you and your attitude
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or your thing that I owe you something, because nobody owes anybody anything.
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Whatever you want, you gotta work hard to get it. And people that
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say, well, how that little business or yours is doing, you know
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what, me and my little business is gonna go over here and mind our
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business like we were doing it. And I'm gonna let you go hard and
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sit over here on the sideline and spectate because you're not doing anything that's gonna
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change your life. So I'm gonna let you and your little mindset sit over
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there in the corner and continue to watch me build what I'm doing. So
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I've had to learn that, and I've had to learn how to separate my
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emotions from my business, you know, because sometimes you get too emotional that
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you don't think clearly about what it is that you have to do because I
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know for me personally, there have been moments whereas like, Okay, look
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here, God, I don't know what it is that you keep trying to
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get me to do, but I don't know if I'm doing it right.
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Because let me tell you about my experience going to Atlanta. Now, overall,
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the experience itself was absolutely wonderful, the speakers, all of that was
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just absolutely great. But let me tell you. I left here at Spartanburg.
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It's only two and a half hours from here to Atlanta. So I
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get down there and plenty enough time to get there early. The event started
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at nine o'clock. Well, how about I get literally five minutes from my
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destination. My GPS goes out and every time I get close, it gives
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me a street behind the street that I'm actually supposed to be on. So
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it was a delay in the time. So if I'm right here where it
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tells me, it goes out again. So I spent thirty minutes driving in
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a circle because it kept sending me around. I asked two officers to get
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me where I needed to go. They had absolutely no clue on to tell
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me where it is I needed to be. So when I finally got got
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in there, parked my car, did my parking, did all of that.
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Find out that they had booted my car because I was parked over the
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line, so I had to pay to get the boot off my car.
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So I missed about thirty minutes. Like the first I missed the first thirty
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minutes before we went to lunch. I missed done now the thirty minutes waiting
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on this guy to come and unboot my car. So I'm standing in the
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parking lot. I don't call my son, I don't call my aunt who
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lives in Atlanta. I am so irritated and frustrated to the whole point.
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I'm like, man, maybe I shouldn't have even come. And this is
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just too much all at once. And I'm like, I don't even know
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if I want to do the second day at this point, because all of
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this is happening all at one time. And so my son, my youngest
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son, y'all, he is my logical thinker, and he does not think
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with emotion at all. He's like, Mom, don't say it, because
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you're where you're supposed to be. And I was like, I don't know,
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I don't know. I just it's just too much right now. And
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then it was hot outside while I was waiting for the guy. But anyway,
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I called my aunt and she was like, well, what is the
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conference about? And I was like, it's called Ignite for Profits. It's
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a book for profits club and so they had their event in Atlanta, so
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and she was like, well, that's what you do. So you're supposed
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to be right there. And she was like, you know, the devil
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will attack what it is that you're trying to do when you're on the path
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to doing exactly what it is that you need to be doing. And I
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was like, yeah, Auntie, I know, I'm still frustrated. I'm
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crying. And I was like, I don't know, I don't know if
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I'm coming back tomorrow. But I cried. I cried my little moment.
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I got myself together and I went back in. And when I tell you,
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going back in really let me know that I was in the right space
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at the right time, and everything worked out according to what I needed to
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be doing. And so I was just like, you know what, I
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had my moment, the frustration of it all, it did not stop me
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from getting what I came there to get to receive the messages from the speakers,
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the just all of that, everybody being like minded individuals was so powerful,
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so inspirational because it's like all of us have had these challenges that we've
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had to overcome, and so speaking with all of these women and then the
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gentlemens that were speaking, when I tell you the information and the encouragement and
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the words of you know, mindset over feelings is what gets you to be
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successful. And a lot of times we can't get our mindset together but to
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actually go after what it is that we want to do. I made a
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video, I think last week, and it talks about three different types of
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people and those are your supporters, your fans, and the spectators. And
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the supporters are the people that are going to be there with you no matter
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what you're good, you're bad, you're different, if you don't know what
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you're doing, they still going to be there to support you through thick and
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thin. You have your fans who are only supportive of you as long as
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you're doing everything that they want you to do. The instant you do something
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that they don't like, they gone on to somebody else. Now, your
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spectators are the ones that sit on the sideline and talk about what it is
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that you're doing, but never have the guts, are the courage to actually
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do what it is that you're doing. So make sure that when you're in
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the space, make sure that you have like minded individuals that are around you
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so that you know, Okay, look here, this is what I'm doing
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over here. Okay, well how can I help you get to where it
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is that you need to do? So doing all of that, you talked
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about how you've tried to partner with people and those things didn't work out.
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Are you a firm believer in you know, knowing that if God didn't send
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them to you, they're not supposed for you to be working with. Or
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do you try to over extend to try to get work? Do you do
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that I do? And I'm gonna give you a prime example, because like
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when I had my first group of people that I was trying to work with,
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I was like, Okay, you know, maybe I'm doing something wrong.
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Maybe you know I have to try a different approach. And I've tried
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that different approach, and like I so I never really just say Okay,
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we're gonna do this, it's not working out, I'm done. I always
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try to understand exactly. You know, the people that I'm working with trying
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to figure out what they're figure out, like what people were good at,
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try to put them in certain you know, certain positions to where Okay,
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I know I can work with you here because you're really good at this.
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And so I've tried to do different, try different, many different techniques,
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and it just because if you try to help them see what it is that
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you see within them and they don't see it. One thing that I can
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say about me is I stop trying to force what I see in them.
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And it's like, Okay, I'm a good person at given a second chance,
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but you don't get a third one. You know that That's one thing
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that I've learned. I will give you two chances after that. It's like,
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you know, because I'm only going to ask you twice after that.
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You know. It's like because sometimes I know people don't quite understand, and
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I'm big on asking questions for clarification. So if you can't ask me a
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question and assume that I know what it is that you're thinking, because I
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don't. So if I'm asking you multiple questions about some it's because I clearly
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don't understand. But then you got people that you've been trying to work with
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and you be like, Okay, look here, I know you're good at
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this right here, so this is all I want you to do. I
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want you to do nothing else. But then they have seventeen different excuses as
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to why they can't apply themselves here, and then I'd be like, what
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we're going on? Like, this is what you told me you were absolutely
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good at, so this is what I gave you, So now you don't
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want to do that. So it brings me back to the mindset of people
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that they say, Okay, well I'm ready to do this, I'm ready
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to take it. I'm ready to go all in, and they don't.
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They really don't. So how many entrepreneurs have you worked with that you've watched
29:34
grow from that little bitty seed of being planted with the information that you shared
29:41
with them to actually being successful? Because I know you've worked with a lot
29:45
of people and you've watched them grow. And how has that been to watch
29:51
your I can say your little pupils expand into the people and the vision that
29:56
you saw for them. How has that been? I love that you answer
30:00
that question, I mean asked me that question. I said, answered,
30:03
I love that you asked me that question. So I would say knowingly,
30:10
like I know of a good two people that I work with who actually came
30:15
and told me how much of an impact? Well, I no, three,
30:19
I'm sorry, I'll change that. Three people that actually told me that
30:26
you know, I inspired him. But and you know, and they really
30:30
have grown from like the moment from when I met them up until now,
30:34
like even if they you know, one person one god, No, he
30:38
was. He started out as a person who did like the few snacks and
30:45
stuff like that. And I had came across him on event Bright and I
30:49
actually have a testimonial from him on my group page. And he started out,
30:56
you know, with selling that, and then he went from selling that
31:00
to he integrated like Payne cream and stuff like that. And then from there
31:07
he said, you know what I think, I'm push my photography and so
31:12
he started taking pictures. He even came out to my store when I had
31:17
got my store in the water Tower downtown in Chicago. He came out and
31:21
took pictures, did a whole video of my store for the grand opening,
31:26
and and then like from there he went he just blossomed like he went to
31:33
Paris, he took pictures out there in Paris. He just did New York
31:37
Fashion Week, he did Miami something like Miami Fashion Show thing or something like
31:44
that. So I am so proud of him and everything that he's doing.
31:49
And by the way, his name is Sky Kimmins. So if you guys,
31:55
you know, want to connect with him, he's a really great photographer.
31:57
But he tells me all the time, like a lot of even from
32:01
the beginning when he was doing his you know, his uh he called his
32:06
infusions. That was the name of his business. When he was doing that
32:09
part of his you know business, he told me, like, you know,
32:15
I learned a lot from you at the event that he participated in with
32:19
me on how to make itself more marketable, how to sell when it comes
32:23
to these different defenses he's participating in. So I was just, you know,
32:29
I'm like, okay, cool, But you know, and even from
32:32
there, he still tells me to this day that he learned a lot from
32:37
me. And you know, if it wasn't for me, probably wasn't it,
32:39
you know, wouldn't be where he's at right now. So it's just,
32:45
you know, it feels good because I really don't. I really didn't
32:47
know the impact that I had on people up until you know, when people
32:52
started coming to me and telling me like, hey, you know you inspired
32:57
me to do this, or you know, I really love you know how
33:00
you taught me how to you know, market my business, or you know.
33:05
I really love to hear that from people, because if I don't hear
33:07
it, then I I probably will never know. But another another person,
33:14
and this is the this is here's the twist. So another person that I
33:19
watched grow from a seed is a young lady that I had partner with in
33:24
the beginning. Now you know what I just said about partnerships, so with
33:30
me and said we started when I started set. It was me and her
33:36
that started. But I just saw it like, you know, okay,
33:40
I don't feel like she's really you know, into this like I am.
33:45
I'm really giving this my own. And as time progressed, I had eventually
33:52
you know, you know what, this is not working now. I think
33:55
we should you know, go our separate ways. And and that that was
34:01
that she wasn't happy happy about it. She was like completely upset and it
34:08
was a lot of words that's changed. I won't get off into that part,
34:12
but it was a lot you know, it was a lot of static
34:15
for me saying that, and for me, you know, wanted to just
34:19
go solo. But I will say this, when I met her, she
34:23
didn't have a business. She didn't even have you know, into her mind
34:28
that she wanted to start a business. She was more so just the working
34:32
you know, she was working for the city, and I think she was
34:36
okay with doing just that. But every since I you know, gave her
34:42
the idea of saying, hey, we should do a business together, we
34:45
should partner together and do something, and I gave her, you know,
34:50
my ideas on how I want to go about starting this business. When she
34:53
jumped on board, she wasn't, I feel like, you know, really
34:58
busy, busy, business savvy. But after the partnership ended, she went
35:06
ahead and got her own store and it was in the same location of where
35:12
I first opened up my first store. And she did her thing like she
35:16
opened up her own store and everything, and I feel like it was kind
35:20
of a way of getting back at me. But ultimately it's how I looked
35:25
at it too, was she would have never done any of that if it
35:30
wasn't for me, you know, what I'm saying. If it wasn't for
35:32
me getting her on that path of hey, let's go into business together,
35:37
let's do this, she would have never probably even thought to start that.
35:40
So sometimes I feel like things have like an ironic twist. But the end
35:45
of the day, I'm glad that I was still able to, you know,
35:50
like help her get to where she wanted to go or where she wanted
35:53
to be, and she actually did something, you know, that she should
35:59
be proud of for herself. So yeah, yeah, that's one of these
36:05
things. You see them and you see the potential and then never reach my
36:12
thing. When I see something, you hear stuff like that happens, I
36:15
feel like they have other people that are in their ears and that gets them
36:20
to try to say, well, girl, you know you probably need to
36:22
do that by yourself. You don't even need to do that with her,
36:24
because she's done. She doesn't have your best interest at heart. I feel
36:28
like it's always those outside people that tend to want to separate versus collaborate.
36:37
And when you see that or since that or whatever, it's like, you
36:39
know what, I'm gonna let you go on over there. I ain't gonna
36:44
bother you but if you always, if you need somebody to talk to Vinu
36:47
or whatever, I'm still gonna be here for you to do that. But
36:52
I see how you moving and I just don't want to move that way,
36:53
So I'm gonna separate myself. There's no hard feelings, there's no animosity.
36:59
I take what I take from it. You take what you take from it.
37:01
You need it, go ahead, But at the end of the day,
37:05
you're always if you keep God first, that's number one. If you
37:07
keep God first and keep Him included and everything that you're doing, you're never
37:12
going to be without what it is that you need. And something I learned
37:16
at the conference yesterday, and that is nothing happens to you, it happens
37:22
for you. So everything that you've gone through, no matter if it's a
37:28
health issue, losing a job, whatever, some of those things that happen
37:34
in our lives are destined to push us outside of where we've been so complacent
37:38
and comfortable. But we don't want that push. We don't want that challenge,
37:44
We don't want any of that, so we pushed back and we like,
37:47
man, I just just keep happening to me. I don't know what
37:51
I'm supposed to do. You know, you start breaking down and everything and
37:54
it's like nothing has happened to you that you can overcome unless you just don't
38:01
want to overcome it. You know, There's been multiple things that I've been
38:06
through in my life personally where it's like, God, I don't know what
38:09
it is that you you want me to learn from this, but why I
38:13
got to be the strongest soldier at this moment because right now I don't see
38:16
it, but you keep putting it right here. So it's like, Okay,
38:21
I got there's a lesson in this and I need to learn. I
38:23
don't won't do this, but you know, has there been some moments where
38:30
you like, God, look here, you putting a whole bunch of weight
38:32
on my shoulders and I don't know what I'm supposed to carry out of this,
38:37
and I don't know where you're about to take me, but this weight
38:39
right here is heavy. So help me to adjust to what you got on
38:44
me. Have you felt those kind of moments? Oh? Yes, I
38:49
have. Definitely I have those moments, I would say, and you know
38:54
what, like they say never and well I can't remember that Zach burdon of
39:01
it, but they I think it goes like, you know, when you
39:07
asked for ask God for certain stuff and he gives it to you, you
39:12
gotta know how to handle it, you know what I'm saying. So like
39:15
when I had my very first expos you know, I was like, man,
39:22
I really hope this goes well. And it was going well, like
39:25
I had a lot of vendors sign up. It was a lot of people
39:28
that came out, and I started to feel kind of, I guess you
39:35
could say, kind of nervous and scared in a way because at the last
39:40
minute, like a month prior to the day of the event starting, I
39:45
had to switch locations because originally it was supposed to be at Prairie State College,
39:52
and I was doing a lot of sharing on Facebook tagging them and I
39:57
guess what they were seeing or I don't know, maybe you know the music.
40:01
And one girl she was you know, she's sold like sex toys and
40:06
stuff like that. So they was like, oh no, we didn't think
40:08
that, you know, people were gonna be selling stuff, And I said,
40:13
I don't. I don't understand because I was referred to you by someone
40:19
who actually had a couple of events here already, who sow you know,
40:22
and their vendors sold stuff at these events, so you know, I feel
40:29
like that was one of those roadblocks. But I kept on pushing, you
40:34
know, and I said, you know, I'm gonna figure out a way
40:36
to maneuver arounds, which I did, and you know, my events,
40:40
my event was still in a success. But I will say there's been times
40:46
where I felt like overwhelmed when it comes to I guess, because I guess
40:52
life in general. There's been times when, like, for example, what
41:00
I live at now, it's like I when I had when I had my
41:04
car, I kept receiving parking tickets and I'm like, why am I always
41:10
It's like it was it just became a normal thing. Like I come out,
41:15
I see a ticket on my car, and I'm new to I'm kind
41:19
of like, I only been here in this area for two years now,
41:22
but I'm kind of moved to the area. And then I just got you
41:24
know, my I had just got my car, like recently. But it's
41:30
like I kept seeing parking tickets and it's like, okay, it's always,
41:35
you know, and over where I live at it's so packed and crowded,
41:38
so you literally have to, you know, find somewhere to park. But
41:43
then they got all these little signs of saying, oh, you can't park
41:45
in park or whatever. So that was one of those moments where I felt
41:50
like, Okay, man, I got all this to do. I got
41:52
all these bills, I got five kids to take care of, parking tickets
41:58
still piling up. What in the world. I felt overwhelmed because it's too
42:04
much. And then when you a single mom and you doing it all by
42:07
yourself, it's like stressful. It's very stressful. And then it's like,
42:14
you know, sometimes I think, you know, I even talk to guy
42:19
like, look, I ain't got nobody helping me. I'm doing this alon,
42:23
man, you know what I'm saying. So at those times I feel
42:29
But even when I'm gonna say this too, like even when I do feel
42:31
discouraged or I feel like down and stressed out, I always try to find
42:37
a solution. I always I don't like to sit and dwell in the issues
42:42
that are going on. I just try to figure out, Okay, what
42:45
would be my best way of going about this. And then at the time
42:47
too, I was still paying like my car note and everything, and you
42:52
know, so it's just like bills paddling up on top of bills, and
42:57
it's like this is getting outrageous because I really want to get in a position
43:02
and I'm pushing myself in that position to like save more money so I can,
43:07
you know, do the things that I want to do, make different
43:10
investments, build generational wealth, keep pushing my business. I don't have time
43:17
to be you know what I'm saying, constantly paying a city and you know,
43:21
paying other people to for my life. So it's some things I had
43:27
to give up. In my car, unfortunately, was one of those things.
43:30
I was like, you know what, no, I'm good on this.
43:34
I don't even want to you know, I don't even want to do
43:36
this no more. And you know, and even right now, like I'm
43:43
definitely gonna give me another car. But at the same time, it's kind
43:46
of like it's less stress, you know what I'm saying. I don't have
43:52
to worry about that part anymore, like coming out to parking tickets and all
43:57
that type of stuff, you know. And I even had to go to
44:02
court too. Just yeah, girl, girl, it's like, you know
44:12
what, you know what this is something cause I feel like, you know,
44:19
I think I was like what I need to do I think, I,
44:21
like I said, I just had I feel like I had to let
44:22
it go. So I was like, you know what, maybe and then
44:25
it's like I had car issues prior to the end as well, where my
44:30
battery will stop it just like I had took my kids to school one day
44:36
and then I'm trying to start the car, back up, car one start,
44:39
And that happened to me a couple of times. And I was like,
44:43
and I had a brand new battery. That's the crazy part. So
44:45
I'm like, and you know how you get those situations where stuff like that
44:53
happened, but you don't really think too Okay, well it may be time
44:58
for me to get another car, or you know, it's like you still
45:00
try to hold on to it, you know, like okay, and that's
45:05
me because I guess I'm always trying to figure out a solution. So it's
45:07
like, all right, let me, you know, let me get a
45:12
jump or something. Once I get a jump, I'll go to you know,
45:15
cause I got it from Walmart. So it's like, I go to
45:19
Walmart, have them check out the battery. Okay, what is it is
45:22
that the alternator was going on? And I get the news that everything is
45:28
well, everything is okay. So I'm like, okay, well, you
45:30
know what, I'm just gonna you don't hold on to this car, just
45:35
hope that it don't, you know, shut off again like that. And
45:38
I had to make sure I turn everything off, like my lights and stuff
45:42
off. So I just kept going about it like that, and then eventually
45:45
the same thing happened again with the same thing happened again, and you know,
45:54
at that point, it was like it wouldn't start. My car wentn't
45:58
start at all, What's going on? And people was telling me like,
46:02
well, maybe the battery and the key fob was you know, maybe that
46:08
was there and he had to go get that replace. Girl. I was
46:13
like, and anyway, everything I had going on, I said, you
46:16
know what, I'm just done forget. Let me ask you this question about
46:22
the and I another and that was when you before you got the car,
46:31
did you ask God did you need this car? Because that's one of the
46:36
things that I've had to learn to understand that if I don't go to God
46:40
first, whatever the situation may be, if I don't go to Him first,
46:45
Because before I moved to where I am now, I tried to move
46:50
without consulting him and I ended up getting scammed. And so before I moved
46:54
here, I was like, God, if it is so, then you'll
46:58
make the necessary adjustments, the instructions that I need to follow, You'll make
47:02
them clear so that everything falls into place. So did you ask God about
47:07
this car before you got the car? You know? I didn't. I
47:14
didn't. I didn't, But I will say this, I do feel like
47:17
the car served its purpose. And I'm saying that because at the time where
47:24
I was living at my kids, I didn't want my kids going to their
47:29
neighborhood school, so I had to send them to school somewhere else and that
47:35
require you know, them transform. Yeah, so I got my kids into
47:40
school and during that time as well, I was I also had That's when
47:45
I had got my first store, which was you know, far off.
47:49
So the car definitely served its purpose, I will say that. But that's
47:58
one of the things that take from whatever it is that we're going through,
48:02
is that when you do ask God for certain things, if you ask him
48:07
for strength, you asking for patience, you asking for wisdom, whatever it
48:10
is, understand that there are tests that are attached to what you're asking him
48:15
for. He's not going to give you patience if you don't know how to
48:20
actually interact with the situation that requires it. He's not going to give you
48:23
strength if you don't know how to handle the weight of whatever it is that
48:28
you have to deal with. That's one thing that I have come to understand.
48:30
If you're praying for certain things, understand that there are lessons attached to
48:36
it. So if you don't want these lessons, don't be going up there
48:38
praying and asking God, Hey, look, Kia, can you give me
48:42
this, because it's a sign to certain things. By baby, I love
48:46
you. Yeah, I'm sorry my baby busting lee, So I have to
48:54
make sure I say bye. I see him lady. He going to see
48:57
my grandson, so you know I'm a grandma too. But anyway, those
49:02
are one of those things that you know that when God, when you ask
49:07
him for something, there's stuff that is attached to what he's about to bless
49:10
you with. Your blessings are attached to lessons, and sometimes we don't be
49:15
wanting the stuff that come with those blessings, but it's like you you asked
49:21
for this, understand that it's some stuff and some work that you're gonna have
49:25
to do and before we go, is there anything that you want to tell
49:30
anybody listening if they're thinking about becoming an entrepreneur, if they're thinking about just
49:39
you know, getting out of their comfort zone, what advice would you have
49:45
to offer them? And then how can they get in touch with you as
49:47
well? I would say, if you are thinking about becoming an entrepreneur,
49:54
make sure it's something that you really want to do, and it's it's in
49:59
a addition to what you said as well, like when you start. I
50:04
know a lot of people may see the glitz and glamour of becoming an entrepreneur,
50:07
but just believe it's a lot of work that's put into that and things
50:13
definitely don't happen overnight. It definitely takes a lot of planning. You have
50:16
to be very strategic. You have to definitely do your research, know exactly
50:22
what you're doing, what you're getting yourself into, make wise investment choices as
50:28
well. You know, try to look and see at what's trending right now,
50:32
but again also make sure it's something that you feel like you're really passionate,
50:37
something that you're really good at doing, and something that you really like
50:40
to do. In addition to that, I would say be careful with who
50:46
you're doing business with. If you business with someone, make sure there are
50:51
contracts put in place. Make sure you know, you guys have some sort
50:55
of uh you know, legal into what whatever you guys decide to do together,
51:02
because there may be a lot of backlash if you don't, uh,
51:06
so make sure you have that. And then also I would say, strive
51:13
for your dreams, even if it's outside of entrepreneurship. Just strive for your
51:16
dreams, uh and try to figure out what your gift is. So that's
51:22
my advice. That's my advice to everyone. And if you guys do want
51:25
to connect with me, you can find me on Facebook and business check is
51:30
spelled b I Z N E S S. It's the same on Instagram and
51:36
then you guys can also join my I call it my set for Life exposed
51:42
on global page, which is is dot E dot T h xpo e x
51:49
p O go on g O n E global g l O b A L
51:54
and it's that on Facebook and on Instagram is as for l expo gone global.
52:02
So it's all together. But I would love to work with you guys,
52:07
you know, waiting to see what you guys are talking about, what
52:09
type of business you have, and I'm open to working with anyone and everyone,
52:14
so feel free to reach out. Well, I want to thank you
52:17
for being a part of tonight. We've been planning this for a long time
52:23
and so were able to get together to actually do this. And we're definitely
52:29
gonna do this again because we got to get your team on here so we
52:32
can talk to the people that you've been working with. So I want to
52:37
thank you for your time tonight and we're gonna do this again. And you
52:42
know, as always you guys, I thank you for tuning in. And
52:45
the one thing that I will always say, and that is stay out of
52:49
God's business. The only thing that he needs you to do is be obedient
52:52
to what he's called you to do. So until next time, June twenty
52:57
seventh is when I'll be seeing you guys again. So y'all have a great
53:00
night, and thank you again for being here. Thank you, Yes me