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How do you know if you are compatible? · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: We are going to get into what makes couples compatible. Compatible. Compatible.
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  Speaker 2: Apparently, Cindy's got a revenge story. Last week, we were
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  Speaker 2: talking about revenge. And apparently, Cindy, you have a revenge
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  Speaker 2: story that's fantastic.
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  Speaker 1: Cindy? Is Cindy on line one, Dylan? Oh, she's on
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  Speaker 1: line two. Oops, my bad. Cindy?
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  Speaker 3: Hello?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry about that.
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  Speaker 4: Nope, it's okay.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, I do.
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  Speaker 6: So I have a great revenge story. I was living
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  Speaker 6: in Washington state and I was with my ex-boyfriend for
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  Speaker 6: about two years and I found out that he had
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  Speaker 6: cheated on me and all the bills were in my name.
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  Speaker 6: So I called the electric, the phone, everything. I had
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  Speaker 6: the bill shut off right then and there. He had
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  Speaker 6: a home phone that he did his work from. Well,
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  Speaker 6: I changed the password so he wasn't able to log
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  Speaker 6: in to check any messages and get his work. And
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  Speaker 6: I collect elephants, and he bought me a very expensive
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  Speaker 6: elephant statue, and I broke it in pieces and left
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  Speaker 6: it all over the floor.
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  Speaker 3: Of the house.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, my gosh.
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  Speaker 1: You got him good.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I did.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, he came home to everything turned off.
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  Speaker 1: He was like, let's address the broken elephant in the room.
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  Speaker 4: So you guys didn't get back together? Oh, God, no. No.
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  Speaker 6: I moved out of his house, and I was gone.
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  Speaker 1: How many elephants do you have?
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  Speaker 6: I probably have over 300.
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  Speaker 1: All sizes and stuff. Do you have any real elephants?
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  Speaker 7: All sizes.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: They're all like figurines and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, no real ones.
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  Speaker 4: I wish.
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  Speaker 1: Do you have any, any stuffed animals of Horton from Horton?
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  Speaker 1: Here's a hoop.
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  Speaker 7: I do.
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  Speaker 1: I figured that he's a great.
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  Speaker 6: I have a woolly mammoth.
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  Speaker 2: I have Horton.
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  Speaker 6: I have a Dumbo.
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  Speaker 2: I have it all.
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  Speaker 4: All forms of elephant.
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  Speaker 1: You have it all. And I mean, that's everything in life.
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  Speaker 1: Those collections.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Well, thank you.
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  Speaker 6: Elephants are life for me.
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  Speaker 1: They are.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you.
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  Speaker 4: You have a good day.
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  Speaker 2: Have you been to the zoo and seen elephants? Or
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  Speaker 2: have you been to safari? Is that a goal of
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  Speaker 2: yours at all to do that?
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  Speaker 6: So when I first moved to Tucson, I actually volunteered
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  Speaker 6: at the zoo because they said that we would be
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  Speaker 6: able to work with elephants.
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  Speaker 7: But they lied.
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  Speaker 6: All I was doing was picking up elephant poop so
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  Speaker 6: that it would last too long.
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  Speaker 4: That is working with elephants.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: But you want to hang out with the elephants.
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  Speaker 1: Not the zoo. Let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 2: I think the Tucson Zoo is one of the best
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  Speaker 2: zoos in the country, if not the best zoo.
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  Speaker 1: It's all right there.
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  Speaker 6: It is, especially whenever you have a kid who doesn't
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  Speaker 6: pay attention a lot. It's small, so they don't get
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  Speaker 6: bored easy.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I like it. You see all the animals
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  Speaker 1: in 10 minutes. Yeah, and they're right there.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: It's great. Well, thank you, Cindy. Thanks for listening.
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  Speaker 3: All right.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you. Y'all have a good day.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so Payne's got this list on what makes couples compatible.
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  Speaker 7: 877-937-1047.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to go over this list. Also, what makes
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  Speaker 2: you compatible? We're getting to it next after Dominic Fike.
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  Speaker 8: All right, Peyton's got this list of what makes a
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  Speaker 8: couple compatible. But first, Faith, before we get into the list, Faith,
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  Speaker 8: you know what makes a couple compatible for you?
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  Speaker 9: For me, it's the people that never post online how
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  Speaker 9: happy they are.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you know, Faith, I'm on your side with that.
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  Speaker 4: Because I feel like the more you go on about
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  Speaker 4: your sick other online, the more trouble you guys are in.
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  Speaker 1: Is that your theory, Faith?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, basically.
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  Speaker 9: Every time I see those people that are like, my partner.
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  Speaker 3: Is so great.
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  Speaker 9: He's so awesome. He's so great. And we're doing this
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  Speaker 9: and we're doing that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, you guys are so not happy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I'm okay with the picture of the two of you
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  Speaker 4: and like, happy birthday, Dan. That's it. Yeah, exactly. That's
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  Speaker 4: all Dan needs.
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  Speaker 10: Love you. Love you.
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  Speaker 5: Happy birthday.
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  Speaker 3: You're the best.
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  Speaker 5: I wonder what the term is going to be for that. Because,
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  Speaker 5: you know, when you're in a relationship and it's kind
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  Speaker 5: of like that, it's called love bombing.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 5: So I wonder what it, like the social media version
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  Speaker 5: of that term is.
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  Speaker 4: Unnecessary relationship bragging.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of long, but I think we can workshop it. Well,
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  Speaker 1: thank you, Faith. Peyton, is that on the list?
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  Speaker 4: Not that exactly.
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  Speaker 7: This is things that what actually makes a couple compatible.
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  Speaker 7: So a relationship expert, she was talking about how like
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  Speaker 7: the strongest couples aren't necessarily the couples who never fight.
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  Speaker 7: So I think she has a point there because if
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  Speaker 7: you're posting on social media, you're probably trying to distract
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  Speaker 7: and disguise and, you know, play people for a fool
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  Speaker 7: for what your relationship truly is versus being actually vulnerable.
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  Speaker 1: Good.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 11: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So what is one on the list?
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  Speaker 7: If you can take feedback from your partner, then that
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  Speaker 7: means that you're probably compatible with them. If you don't
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  Speaker 7: go into defense mode and gain your feelings that they're
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  Speaker 7: attacking you, if you can just take it to the
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  Speaker 7: chest and be ready to move on.
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  Speaker 4: Isn't it how you deliver the feedback, though, too?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, which I think speaks to compatibility because you have
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  Speaker 5: to know your partner and know how to approach them
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  Speaker 5: if you're going to bring them some sort of feedback like,
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  Speaker 5: You know, Rich, Stacey could come to you and say
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  Speaker 5: something like, you know, I don't really like the music
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  Speaker 5: that you're making.
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 5: And that would hurt. But if Stacey knows you really well,
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  Speaker 5: she could be like, I think your talents would be
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  Speaker 5: useful elsewhere.
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  Speaker 4: It may be a different style of music or something.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: I think your talents would be more useful if you
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  Speaker 4: sold all your guitars.
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  Speaker 1: Christina, what makes a couple compatible?
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  Speaker 10: First, I agree with Faith, but what I think is
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  Speaker 10: speaking about.
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  Speaker 11: That other person in rooms that other person is not in.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, so when you talk..
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  Speaker 7: How they speak about that person.
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  Speaker 4: You talk nice about them when they're not around.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, you don't go behind their back and, you know,
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  Speaker 7: you're talking crap or disrespecting them.
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  Speaker 11: You always have that.
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  Speaker 1: Respect for them. So you can go behind their back,
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  Speaker 1: you just have to say nice things.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: No, I'm with you.
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  Speaker 7: How your partner speaks about you when you are not
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  Speaker 7: around says everything. And that definitely falls in line with
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  Speaker 7: they know how to set boundaries. Healthy boundaries, how you
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  Speaker 7: speak about your partner is a big one.
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  Speaker 4: Everybody in this room, I feel like, does that too.
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  Speaker 4: I see them building up their partner in here.
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  Speaker 1: Terrence, you're on the air. What do you think about
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  Speaker 1: compatibility in couples?
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  Speaker 10: So one of the big things, me and my wife
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  Speaker 10: go out to dinner or any kind of event, we
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  Speaker 10: always see couples sitting at a table by themselves, and
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  Speaker 10: they're both on the phones with each other. So we
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  Speaker 10: see couples engaging with each other just when we know
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  Speaker 10: they're compatible.
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  Speaker 2: But you also don't know what's going on at that
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  Speaker 2: very second. Hey, what time does the movie start? I'll
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  Speaker 2: check this theater, you check that theater.
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  Speaker 1: And you just have to see them.
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  Speaker 10: This goes on for a long period of time. We
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  Speaker 10: can be there for an hour and they'll be on
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  Speaker 10: the phones for the entire hour.
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  Speaker 5: You're like, why are you even there together?
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  Speaker 4: And Terrence, I think you brought up something. When you're
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  Speaker 4: with somebody that you're compatible with, what you do is
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  Speaker 4: you watch other couples and you start breaking down what
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  Speaker 4: they're doing together. So you're like almost being like secret
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  Speaker 4: spies together. I think that's a fun couple thing.
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  Speaker 1: I love watching other couples. Me too.
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  Speaker 2: I was eating dinner and I was watching. my wife
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  Speaker 2: and I were watching another couple on their phones. And
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  Speaker 2: what was funny is the woman was taking pictures of
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  Speaker 2: her food and the husband was taking pictures of her
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  Speaker 2: taking pictures.
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  Speaker 1: Of her food.
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  Speaker 4: That's funny.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks, Terrence. What else on that list, Peyton?
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  Speaker 7: They actually say what they need. Like if they aren't,
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  Speaker 7: they're not, we're not mind readers out here, right? So
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  Speaker 7: if you go to your partner and you say, Hey,
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  Speaker 7: I need some more affection and some reassurance. And your
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  Speaker 7: partner actually takes that and understands and makes the steps
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  Speaker 7: that To change that, you're probably pretty compatible.
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  Speaker 1: Cecilia?
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  Speaker 9: Good morning.
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  Speaker 1: What makes a couple compatible?
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  Speaker 9: I think that what makes a couple the most compatible,
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  Speaker 9: in my opinion, is the fact that you guys can
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  Speaker 9: never find things to... We'll never find things to run
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  Speaker 9: out of, like, topics. Like, you don't... The, um... Laughter
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  Speaker 9: is always there. You guys have, you know, never run
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  Speaker 9: out of things to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: There you go.
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  Speaker 1: All right. Well, thank you, Justine. What about you? What
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  Speaker 1: makes couples compatible?
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  Speaker 11: Could you say Justine?
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  Speaker 1: I sure did. Hello.
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  Speaker 7: Hi.
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  Speaker 11: I think this is totally off base of what everybody
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  Speaker 11: else is saying, but I found out that me and
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  Speaker 11: my husband were compatible when we both hated camping.
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  Speaker 4: So you have disdain for the outdoors together.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not against that.
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  Speaker 11: You spend a lot of money to live homeless.
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  Speaker 1: Were you camping when you both discovered this? Were you together?
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  Speaker 10: No.
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  Speaker 11: No, we just both decided, and I was like, I
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  Speaker 11: hate camping. I just want to put it out there,
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  Speaker 11: and I'll never go camping. And he's like, me too.
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  Speaker 11: And I was like, perfect.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, a nice hotel. That's nice.
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  Speaker 1: Do you guys have kids? Exactly.
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  Speaker 11: Exactly.
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  Speaker 5: We do.
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  Speaker 11: We have six between the two of us, but camping
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  Speaker 11: for us is like staying anything under a four-star hotel.
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  Speaker 2: Is anything, any of your kids Boy Scouts? Because that's
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  Speaker 2: a big part of camping.
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  Speaker 1: No, definitely not.
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  Speaker 7: She's like, and I would not put.
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  Speaker 4: Them in there if there was a choice.
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  Speaker 11: And I didn't even think that was going to hold
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  Speaker 11: the note with you guys, but I had some cocktails
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  Speaker 11: and I was drinking and I was like, well, obviously
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  Speaker 11: it's that. No camping and having separate bank accounts.
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  Speaker 4: Wait a minute. You're having cocktails right now?
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  Speaker 11: No, I was at the gym. I didn't think you
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  Speaker 11: guys were going to call. So I'm kind of breathless
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  Speaker 11: because I was on the treadmill. So I was like,
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  Speaker 11: here I am.
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  Speaker 1: All right. Thanks, Justine. Thank you. Yep. Melissa, good morning.
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  Speaker 4: Good morning.
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  Speaker 1: What makes couples compatible?
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  Speaker 6: I think for my husband and I, anyways, it's opposites attract.
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  Speaker 6: He's very chill and I'm not so chill. Maybe sometimes.
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  Speaker 9: He's very relaxed and calm.
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  Speaker 1: All right, thank you, Melissa. So what's all that?
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, I've got that 100%. Type A, type B?
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  Speaker 7: The yin and the yang.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Have you hit this whole list already?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, and everyone that had called in, I
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  Speaker 7: feel like has definitely hit on this list. They're willing
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  Speaker 7: to be vulnerable. If you know how to set boundaries
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  Speaker 7: with your partner and kind of put your foot down,
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  Speaker 7: then you're probably pretty compatible with your person.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. So if you go over them all real quick.
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  Speaker 7: They can take feedback. They actually say what they need.
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  Speaker 7: They're willing to be vulnerable and they know how to
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  Speaker 7: set boundaries.
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  Speaker 4: Okay. Those are serious.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: And this is from a relationship expert.
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  Speaker 1: So, you know, does it say the person's name? Who's
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  Speaker 1: the election?
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  Speaker 7: It doesn't say the person's name. It just says I
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  Speaker 7: am relationship.
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  Speaker 1: You have to remain anonymous.
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  Speaker 4: You know, one of the things I think works is
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  Speaker 4: like if there's a serious situation and you can make
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  Speaker 4: the other person laugh, that's good. Oh, yeah, for sure.
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  Speaker 4: Break the break the tension with a funny joke.
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  Speaker 7: Also, too, I know we had talked earlier, like, if
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  Speaker 7: you can just keep a conversation going and always have
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  Speaker 7: laughter and fun. For me, I feel like if I
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  Speaker 7: can just be quiet and be in nothingness with you
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  Speaker 7: and not feel awkward or weird or pressure. That's a
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  Speaker 7: good one.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: I feel like if you can just be.
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  Speaker 5: Because it's just complete.
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  Speaker 1: Comfort that way. Hold on. Denise says something. Hey, Denise.
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  Speaker 1: What makes a couple compatible? Denise?
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  Speaker 11: Denise?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, sorry.
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  Speaker 3: So my biggest thing I'm going to say is the
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  Speaker 3: same sense of humor. I think that makes a couple
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  Speaker 3: so compatible because if you have super like dry, dark
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  Speaker 3: humor and the other one has a very like light humor,
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  Speaker 3: it's not going to work out because you're going to
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  Speaker 3: throw jokes at them and it's not going to land.
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  Speaker 3: And it's just going to be a fight after fight.
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  Speaker 3: But you need to be able to like mess around
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  Speaker 3: with each other, joke with each other, kind of like–
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  Speaker 3: be on the same lane with each other. Cause then it's,
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  Speaker 3: it's just not going to work. Like imagine someone that's
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  Speaker 3: just like, Oh my God, you're going to wear that.
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  Speaker 3: And then they just like, Oh my God, which one
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  Speaker 3: is what I'm wearing? Like you need to be able
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  Speaker 3: to take the joke. Like, you know, like I was
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  Speaker 3: just kidding. Like if they don't get the joke and
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  Speaker 3: they don't get your sense of humor, I don't think
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  Speaker 3: it's going to work.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 1: Well, there's an evolution to that, I think.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you've got to kind of train them to take
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  Speaker 4: the darkness.
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  Speaker 1: Train them.
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  Speaker 7: I think, though, what Denise is saying is find your
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  Speaker 7: person who is already there so you don't even have.
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  Speaker 4: To worry about that. Sometimes, though, you find a nice
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  Speaker 4: one and get them to laugh at the darker stuff
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  Speaker 4: along the way.
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  Speaker 5: People are adaptable, but you need someone to be open to.
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  Speaker 1: Gino from America.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, pleasure.
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  Speaker 2: Gino Plager is performing on America's Got Talent tonight.
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  Speaker 1: And he's from here. We want him to win. The magician.
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  Speaker 4: He's amazing.
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  Speaker 2: Our Instagram the numbers to vote for him because we
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  Speaker 2: want him to win. So if you're watching America's Got
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  Speaker 2: Talent tonight, look for him. He's from Phoenix, and he's
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  Speaker 2: a superstar, this kid.
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  Speaker 1: Superstar. So Gino Plager. We'll post it up on John
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  Speaker 1: Jay and Rich, right?
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  Speaker 2: for him.