Latest / QUESTION EVERYTHING / The Kardashians Impact: Good or Bad? with Cultural Critic Kimberly Nicole Foster
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- 1:53Speaker 1: I am an interviewer. I am a journalist. That's how I identify,
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- 2:04Speaker 1: I kind of enjoy it because I have a lot
- 2:06Speaker 1: of opinions, as do we all, because this podcast is
- 2:10Speaker 1: for women with something to say. But I wanted to
- 2:13Speaker 1: start sort of this departure episode with something that's been
- 2:17Speaker 1: on my mind for years, and that is the Kardashians.
- 2:20Speaker 2: So one of the reasons that I got.
- 2:22Speaker 1: Into entertainment journalism ten years ago was because I loved
- 2:27Speaker 1: pop culture, and not so much the idea of what
- 2:32Speaker 1: is Jlo wearing, which obviously I care, but I more
- 2:36Speaker 1: looked at it like pop culture was a mirror that
- 2:40Speaker 1: showed us what we believed as a society to be
- 2:43Speaker 1: true and also showed us where we were going. So,
- 2:47Speaker 1: for instance, I remember when Kim Kardashian's paper magazine cover
- 2:52Speaker 1: came out and people were so mad about it because
- 2:55Speaker 1: she had her butt showing on the cover, and you
- 2:58Speaker 1: remember that champagne glass thing. And I remember reading all
- 3:01Speaker 1: the comments and they were all like, oh my god,
- 3:03Speaker 1: how could you do that?
- 3:04Speaker 2: You're a mother?
- 3:05Speaker 1: And I was like, this is so interesting because most
- 3:09Speaker 1: people are focused on the cover of the magazine, But
- 3:11Speaker 1: what I was focused on was how we desexualize moms
- 3:15Speaker 1: in America. And that's obviously just one aspect of many
- 3:20Speaker 1: cultural criticisms or curiosities. Should I say that we could
- 3:24Speaker 1: talk about in terms of that cover, But I just
- 3:26Speaker 1: think pop culture really holds a mir up. So I've
- 3:29Speaker 1: always wanted to cover the Kardashians. I think that in
- 3:33Speaker 1: some ways they've moved our society forward a little bit,
- 3:36Speaker 1: and in many many ways, I honestly, I think they've
- 3:40Speaker 1: been pretty negative. I was actually just at lunch with
- 3:43Speaker 1: a friend who said, I wish that I was born
- 3:47Speaker 1: in an era that the Kardashians didn't exist, and I
- 3:50Speaker 1: thought that was pretty impactful for them to really feel
- 3:54Speaker 1: that way. So I wanted to talk about it. Because
- 3:57Speaker 1: the Kardashians are in the business of getting us talking.
- 4:00Speaker 1: To talk about it, I wanted to do so with
- 4:03Speaker 1: one of my favorite cultural critics. She's definitely one of
- 4:05Speaker 1: my favorite follows on Twitter, and we're really going to
- 4:08Speaker 1: get into are the Kardashians a net positive or net
- 4:12Speaker 1: negative for our society?
- 4:13Speaker 2: And is their power waning? That was super interesting, so
- 4:17Speaker 2: let me jump into the intro.
- 4:19Speaker 1: The Kardashians are in the business of being famous for
- 4:23Speaker 1: some their symbols of female empowerment, self made business and
- 4:27Speaker 1: marketing savvy entrepreneurs. People love watching their hair, makeup and
- 4:31Speaker 1: fashion trends, and all the tumultuous relationships and family loyalty.
- 4:38Speaker 1: For others, the Kardashians have come to represent capitalist greed,
- 4:42Speaker 1: influencer of rapidity, cultural appropriation, a family with one point
- 4:47Speaker 1: two billion social followers influencing people to do what exactly, well,
- 4:53Speaker 1: what if both are true? I enlisted one of my
- 4:56Speaker 1: favorite people to follow on Twitter to help me sift
- 4:59Speaker 1: through all that today Kimberly Nicole Foster is an American
- 5:03Speaker 1: writer and cultural critic. She's best known as the founder
- 5:06Speaker 1: of the black women's interest website for Harriet. She was
- 5:09Speaker 1: named Forbes thirty Under thirty in twenty sixteen. Her work
- 5:12Speaker 1: has been recognized by Essence Magazine, Complex, Teen, Vogue. She's
- 5:16Speaker 1: a Harvard grad who says she watches way too much
- 5:20Speaker 1: reality TV. It says that you're a Harvard grad who
- 5:29Speaker 1: watches way too much reality TV. You're even wrapping your
- 5:33Speaker 1: Harvard sweatshirt, which I really appreciate.
- 5:35Speaker 2: What does that mean to you? Why too much reality TV?
- 5:39Speaker 3: I have been an avid fan of reality TV since
- 5:45Speaker 3: I was maybe eight or nine, and I watched my
- 5:49Speaker 3: first full season of the Real World, which I feel
- 5:52Speaker 3: like was New Orleans and I want to go back
- 5:55Speaker 3: and check, like what year was that? But I feel
- 5:57Speaker 3: like I was so young, way too young be really
- 6:00Speaker 3: into it, And ever since then, I've just been obsessed.
- 6:04Speaker 3: I will watch any reality show about anything, anywhere in
- 6:08Speaker 3: the world. Competition, big Brother, I am all in, what
- 6:13Speaker 3: do you think it is?
- 6:14Speaker 2: You love watching other people live their lives.
- 6:17Speaker 3: I am fascinated by the human experience. Not to turn
- 6:20Speaker 3: this into a fake deep thing, But I really believe
- 6:25Speaker 3: that I am so interested in humans and how they
- 6:29Speaker 3: behave and how they connect with each other, and how
- 6:33Speaker 3: we disagree and why. I just think that there is
- 6:36Speaker 3: something so obviously we know reality TV is fake in
- 6:42Speaker 3: so many ways, but there are so many things in
- 6:44Speaker 3: those shows you can't fake, and that is just endlessly
- 6:49Speaker 3: fascinating to me.
- 6:51Speaker 1: Well, it also seems like you have this culturally critical
- 6:55Speaker 1: eye for pop culture, which to me, reality TV fits
- 6:59Speaker 1: under that umbrella.
- 7:00Speaker 2: Were you always a pop.
- 7:01Speaker 1: Culture junkie, you know how like when we were younger,
- 7:03Speaker 1: it was People magazine and all of that.
- 7:05Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 7:06Speaker 3: Ever since I was a little kid, I thought I
- 7:09Speaker 3: wanted to be five different things. But one of the
- 7:11Speaker 3: things that I wanted to be starting around nine, when
- 7:14Speaker 3: I became a real person, because I feel like that's
- 7:17Speaker 3: when you develop a sense of self, was a magazine editor.
- 7:22Speaker 3: And I started using the internet really early. My mom
- 7:26Speaker 3: gave me an HTML book when I was around that age,
- 7:30Speaker 3: and I started making little websites. And one of the
- 7:32Speaker 3: first little websites that I coded myself was my own
- 7:35Speaker 3: little magazine called Starlet.
- 7:38Speaker 1: Is it fair to say that you're kind of doing
- 7:40Speaker 1: that in your own way now with for Harriet.
- 7:43Speaker 4: Absolutely.
- 7:44Speaker 3: I mean, if we're gonna talk about people who are
- 7:49Speaker 3: living their dreams, like I am one of those people
- 7:52Speaker 3: live in the dream every day.
- 7:53Speaker 2: I'm really happy to hear that. That's very cool. When
- 7:56Speaker 2: did you start for Harriet?
- 7:57Speaker 4: For Harriet started as a blog.
- 7:58Speaker 3: I started it in my college dorm room in twenty ten,
- 8:03Speaker 3: and that was peak blog era, you know, shout out
- 8:07Speaker 3: to the oldies, okay, like me, like I'm like a
- 8:11Speaker 3: vintage internet person now, but when everybody was on blogs
- 8:15Speaker 3: and message boards, and I wanted to make a space
- 8:20Speaker 3: where I could talk about my political identity but also
- 8:24Speaker 3: my interests in pop culture commentary and bring lots of
- 8:27Speaker 3: other women into it. So it was a blog slash
- 8:31Speaker 3: digital magazine kind of thing. And then around twenty fifteen,
- 8:37Speaker 3: I was doing an event and someone said to me,
- 8:42Speaker 3: you're you're good like, you're a good talker, you're charismatic.
- 8:45Speaker 4: You should make videos.
- 8:46Speaker 3: And I thought, oh no, I don't want to put
- 8:48Speaker 3: my face on the internet and be a thing. And
- 8:51Speaker 3: then I went through a bad breakup and I was like, I'm.
- 8:53Speaker 4: Putting my face on the Internet.
- 8:56Speaker 1: So I was already I've had so many people say
- 9:00Speaker 1: that to me.
- 9:01Speaker 2: Yeah, they go through a breakup and they're.
- 9:04Speaker 1: Like, I'm starting this company, I'm putting my face on
- 9:06Speaker 1: the internet.
- 9:07Speaker 2: I'm doing it all one hundred percent.
- 9:10Speaker 3: Whenever I tell that story, they're like, yeah, when I
- 9:13Speaker 3: went through a breakup, I went back to grad school.
- 9:15Speaker 3: When I went through a breakup, I started this company
- 9:18Speaker 3: right like all of these different things for sure. And
- 9:20Speaker 3: so that breakup happened and I had to do something
- 9:23Speaker 3: to get myself together. I started making videos. Originally I
- 9:26Speaker 3: published them on Facebook because that's where everybody was at.
- 9:30Speaker 4: That time, back in the old days.
- 9:32Speaker 3: And then my nieces, I saw them always.
- 9:37Speaker 4: Asking for our phones.
- 9:38Speaker 3: And they're nine now about to be ten, and this
- 9:41Speaker 3: is when they were real, real young, and they were
- 9:42Speaker 3: always asking for our phones and iPads and whatever, and
- 9:45Speaker 3: I'm like, what are y'all doing on here?
- 9:47Speaker 4: And they were watching YouTube.
- 9:49Speaker 3: And I was googling, like was this safe?
- 9:52Speaker 4: And what's happening?
- 9:53Speaker 3: And then I realized, oh, there's so many people making
- 9:58Speaker 3: great livings on YouTube, just talk talking about whatever they want.
- 10:01Speaker 3: And so I decided to start publishing on Facebook and YouTube.
- 10:06Speaker 3: And then eventually I decided to just focus completely on YouTube.
- 10:11Speaker 2: And it's proven a successful strategy for you. Yeah. You know.
- 10:15Speaker 1: One of the reasons that I feel really drawn to
- 10:17Speaker 1: your work is I've always come at pop culture from
- 10:21Speaker 1: a critical eye, not that it can't just be like
- 10:24Speaker 1: fun and easy, because it totally can.
- 10:26Speaker 2: But your videos really.
- 10:27Speaker 1: Break down pop culture based on gender, race, class, so
- 10:32Speaker 1: on and so forth, and so I wanted to break
- 10:35Speaker 1: down the Kardashians with you today. I have to tell you,
- 10:38Speaker 1: I'm a little bit nervous. I've had very strong thoughts
- 10:42Speaker 1: about the Kardashians for probably about ten years, and because
- 10:47Speaker 1: of my job, I never touched on it. And I
- 10:52Speaker 1: saw your video on YouTube about how Kim and Chloe
- 10:57Speaker 1: were changing their bodies, which we'll get into further, and
- 11:00Speaker 1: I said, you know what, fuck it, because I fully
- 11:05Speaker 1: agreed with you, and I think it's interesting to speak
- 11:08Speaker 1: about them, not from a hateful place in any way,
- 11:11Speaker 1: but from a place of trying to understand how they're
- 11:15Speaker 1: impacting culture so overarchingly, would you say NET positive or
- 11:20Speaker 1: NET negative?
- 11:22Speaker 3: Oh, you know, I don't like a binary.
- 11:24Speaker 4: Oh I don't.
- 11:25Speaker 3: I can't do that, but I want to go back
- 11:28Speaker 3: and say that I think it's really important that you
- 11:31Speaker 3: underscore that when we are talking about the Kardashians as
- 11:35Speaker 3: at this point an American institution, you know, like a
- 11:40Speaker 3: pop culture, I conics honestly, like, you know, like we
- 11:46Speaker 3: have to be honest about how influential they are, how
- 11:49Speaker 3: much power they are. It is not about hate, right,
- 11:52Speaker 3: And I feel I get a little bit defensive because
- 11:56Speaker 3: I do get a lot of comments like y'all hate them,
- 11:59Speaker 3: and I'm like, it's not about hate, but okay, net positive,
- 12:03Speaker 3: net negative. Oh gosh, oh, I'm gonna plead the fifth
- 12:11Speaker 3: because I think it's so complicated. I think the Kardashians,
- 12:17Speaker 3: more than being wholly bad or holly good, they are
- 12:23Speaker 3: such a good reflection, a good representation of what American
- 12:31Speaker 3: culture is and where it's going.
- 12:34Speaker 2: Interesting.
- 12:35Speaker 4: I can't think that's good or bad. It just is.
- 12:37Speaker 1: But I am interested in the fact that you say
- 12:40Speaker 1: where it's going, because I agree it's a mirror. They're
- 12:42Speaker 1: a mirror in a lot of ways of what Americans value.
- 12:49Speaker 1: I don't know if I agree if they're what we
- 12:52Speaker 1: will value, why do you say where it's going?
- 12:55Speaker 3: Because I think even as we see the I think
- 13:00Speaker 3: that the cultural power of the Kardashians is waning. I
- 13:04Speaker 3: actually would argue that I would make a video about that,
- 13:08Speaker 3: but I think that the fact that it's waning says
- 13:12Speaker 3: things about where are culture is going interesting.
- 13:16Speaker 1: Okay, I want to come back to that at the
- 13:18Speaker 1: end when we talk about how they're now using their children.
- 13:22Speaker 2: Before we get into that, you were talking.
- 13:24Speaker 1: About their value system and the way they spend money,
- 13:27Speaker 1: and you said it's the fall of Western society because
- 13:30Speaker 1: it's never enough, and you were kind of talking about
- 13:34Speaker 1: Kim's recent cryptocurrency.
- 13:36Speaker 2: I guess it's a scam.
- 13:37Speaker 1: Really, she promoted something on Instagram and then got fined. Okay,
- 13:43Speaker 1: when you say it's never enough, is it the cars,
- 13:46Speaker 1: the clothes?
- 13:47Speaker 2: What are you thinking about?
- 13:49Speaker 3: Okay, I have to acknowledge, you know, as a pop
- 13:52Speaker 3: culture commentator, as an Internet person, I do believe in
- 13:56Speaker 3: HYPERBOLEI for a fact. So no, I not explicitly literally
- 14:03Speaker 3: saying that the Kardashians are leading to the fall of
- 14:06Speaker 3: Western society. But I absolutely believe that the ethos that
- 14:09Speaker 3: they embody, that they participate in, that they extol this
- 14:13Speaker 3: idea of yet as much as possible, make as much
- 14:18Speaker 3: money as possible, never turn anything down, promote anything if
- 14:22Speaker 3: somebody is willing to write you a check. I think
- 14:24Speaker 3: that that is so harmful. And I think now that
- 14:27Speaker 3: we are having more conversations about the politics of consumption
- 14:31Speaker 3: and over consumption and who was primarily responsible, who is
- 14:35Speaker 3: guiding that over consumption, and who was encouraging that. I
- 14:39Speaker 3: think we are starting to look at what the Kardashians
- 14:42Speaker 3: have built their empire on differently, and so whereas maybe
- 14:47Speaker 3: five years ago, in the peak Girl Boss Sarah, we're
- 14:50Speaker 3: looking at Kim being a multi billionaire and accepting two
- 14:54Speaker 3: hundred and fifty thousand dollars for this ridiculous cryptocurrency.
- 14:58Speaker 4: Yeah, do get it, what you know whatever.
- 15:01Speaker 3: Now we can look and be like, are you serious?
- 15:04Speaker 4: Really? Like, well, it.
- 15:06Speaker 1: Even makes less sense to me now because earlier on
- 15:10Speaker 1: I don't think it's excusable in any way that she
- 15:13Speaker 1: promoted diet pills that I don't think she herself was taking.
- 15:18Speaker 1: But I could sort of make the argument for her
- 15:22Speaker 1: that she was trying to get somewhere and get something
- 15:24Speaker 1: that she didn't have. She was coming from a place
- 15:26Speaker 1: of lack. Now her like Skims, is in the conversation
- 15:31Speaker 1: when you talk about stocks, it's in the conversation with
- 15:33Speaker 1: like Apple.
- 15:35Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, why do you.
- 15:37Speaker 2: Need to promote the cryptocurrency?
- 15:39Speaker 4: One hundred percent? One hundred percent? I believe that.
- 15:42Speaker 3: And you know, recently Kanye and is going off whatever
- 15:46Speaker 3: he's saying. He said that Kim owns five percent of Easy,
- 15:49Speaker 3: that's also a multi billion dollar brand.
- 15:52Speaker 4: Something is wrong with you. You're fine, You're okay.
- 15:56Speaker 3: You don't need this money, so you can generally and
- 16:00Speaker 3: I think you made a really great point. Now that
- 16:02Speaker 3: I am more comfortable financially than I was five years
- 16:06Speaker 3: ago or ten years ago, I make different choices about
- 16:09Speaker 3: my career. I spend my time differently. I really don't
- 16:14Speaker 3: even do a lot of ads or spawn con or
- 16:16Speaker 3: brand dealer because I don't like to go back and
- 16:18Speaker 3: forth and brands. I don't like them being able to
- 16:21Speaker 3: green light whether or not a video goes up. Because
- 16:25Speaker 3: my time is my most valuable asset. My integrity is
- 16:30Speaker 3: really important to me, Like those things matter to me
- 16:32Speaker 3: before money. And so it's very strange to me to
- 16:35Speaker 3: see people where the money is the most important thing.
- 16:40Speaker 2: Now.
- 16:40Speaker 1: I think people that disagree with us in this argument
- 16:43Speaker 1: will say, is any of this envy or jealousy?
- 16:47Speaker 2: What do you say to those people.
- 16:49Speaker 3: I am jealous of people who will never ever, ever
- 16:55Speaker 3: again in their lives ever have to worry about the
- 16:58Speaker 3: well being of themselves or anyone in their family, or
- 17:04Speaker 3: anyone that they.
- 17:04Speaker 4: Love or care for. I am jealous of that, for sure.
- 17:09Speaker 3: But also I recognize that it's not just about Kim Kardashian, right, Like,
- 17:18Speaker 3: we are making these arguments about this particular person, and
- 17:22Speaker 3: that's for me, the beauty of cultural commentary. We are
- 17:26Speaker 3: talking about a specific person, a specific case, but we're
- 17:31Speaker 3: actually talking about larger trends, macro trends, macro ideologies that
- 17:36Speaker 3: are ultimately really harmful. I think jealousy is an unuseful
- 17:43Speaker 3: smoke screen, because, yeah, who wouldn't want to You know,
- 17:48Speaker 3: I don't aspire to have a billion dollars. I'm gonna say,
- 17:50Speaker 3: actually wouldn't want to have a billion dollars because I
- 17:52Speaker 3: have a full morally bad about that. But I think
- 17:55Speaker 3: that the ease is what sparks jealousy. But also there's
- 18:01Speaker 3: all of this other stuff like that does not negate
- 18:04Speaker 3: the validity of the critique.
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- 19:38Speaker 1: of this like luxury aesthetic culture that they represent. I
- 19:42Speaker 1: remember watching their show and it's just cars on top
- 19:46Speaker 1: of cars that are like all.
- 19:48Speaker 2: Painted pink and Matt black.
- 19:49Speaker 1: Like everything is unique, right, just the most of everything
- 19:55Speaker 1: that to me felt not as much now, but several
- 19:59Speaker 1: years Scho felt very representative of American culture.
- 20:03Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think that the pandemic has shifted some things.
- 20:08Speaker 3: The pandemic has shifted some discourse, for surely. I don't
- 20:13Speaker 3: know if you watched their show for real, but maybe
- 20:18Speaker 3: the first season. I don't know. We're already on the
- 20:20Speaker 3: second season where Kim was talking about her new private
- 20:24Speaker 3: plane and there's like a big chunk of one of
- 20:28Speaker 3: the episodes that was just about a private plane, and
- 20:31Speaker 3: I just I was like, this is so boring, Like
- 20:35Speaker 3: this there is not even good TV. It's just the
- 20:40Speaker 3: wealth porn part of it is just not compelling. At
- 20:43Speaker 3: this point, we've seen it over and over again. But also,
- 20:47Speaker 3: I don't know, I hesitate to say a post pandemic
- 20:50Speaker 3: world because so many people are still living with it.
- 20:53Speaker 3: But I think that in post twenty twenty people are
- 21:00Speaker 3: more apt to think critically about it, like this is.
- 21:07Speaker 4: It's not fun.
- 21:08Speaker 3: I don't want to live vicariously through you and this
- 21:12Speaker 3: carbon emission like emitting vehicle that you don't need. Like
- 21:17Speaker 3: it's just not the joy that we used to get
- 21:20Speaker 3: from it. The fun, the pleasure for me is just
- 21:23Speaker 3: not there.
- 21:24Speaker 1: I think social media has changed that a little bit too,
- 21:27Speaker 1: because we've been we've been able to be voy years
- 21:30Speaker 1: into other people's lives. So like you were saying, like
- 21:33Speaker 1: we've seen the private plane, whereas years ago maybe we
- 21:36Speaker 1: hadn't seen a private plane.
- 21:38Speaker 3: Yeah, I think, and that's that's hurting the Kardashians a lot, right,
- 21:44Speaker 3: the novelty is gone, you see it.
- 21:47Speaker 2: We're going to talk about beauty.
- 21:49Speaker 4: Yeah, love it my favorite things.
- 21:51Speaker 1: So you and I like really agree on something I
- 21:54Speaker 1: heard you say in the video. Beauty is a bad investment.
- 21:57Speaker 1: Make sure you have a backup plan. It's disposed because
- 22:00Speaker 1: it's not in your control. It's also fully like a
- 22:05Speaker 1: in the male gaze, it's in a man's control. And
- 22:07Speaker 1: like you're an object of desire. The Kardashians more than
- 22:11Speaker 1: almost anybody that I can point to represent this object
- 22:16Speaker 1: of desire. Yeah, when we talk about beauty, standards. What
- 22:24Speaker 1: size effect do you think they've had on American beauty standards?
- 22:29Speaker 4: A huge effect.
- 22:30Speaker 3: The Kardashian Jenner's collectively for Talking cam On down to
- 22:35Speaker 3: Kylie Huge.
- 22:37Speaker 1: Recently read an article that there's this drug ozempic. A
- 22:41Speaker 1: Wall Street Journal came out with an article about it.
- 22:44Speaker 1: It's a diabetes medication, and it's been rumored that Chloe
- 22:49Speaker 1: and Kim are taking it, which is part of how
- 22:52Speaker 1: they've recently slimmed down a lot. I find it so
- 22:56Speaker 1: fascinating that one of the things I used to find
- 23:00Speaker 1: positive about the Kardashians is that they really made a
- 23:05Speaker 1: curvier body desirable. And I don't know what you felt,
- 23:10Speaker 1: but when I was growing up, like it was like
- 23:12Speaker 1: Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie were on the cover of
- 23:14Speaker 1: every magazine and that to me, I think I probably
- 23:20Speaker 1: it definitely played into an eating disorder. Yeah, I find
- 23:24Speaker 1: it fascinating that they helped make a curvier body desirable,
- 23:28Speaker 1: which I think, outside of some of the race things,
- 23:33Speaker 1: was a net positive for women.
- 23:36Speaker 2: Okay, and now they're not.
- 23:38Speaker 1: Now there's trying to be skinny again and they're like
- 23:40Speaker 1: really playing into whiteness.
- 23:42Speaker 2: Go ahead, you're telling me about.
- 23:43Speaker 3: Okay, I, oh, this is so complex. This is why
- 23:47Speaker 3: I have so complex. I have to completely reject binary thinking,
- 23:50Speaker 3: right because I think that there is something as a
- 23:54Speaker 3: black woman who has been curvy since I hit puberty.
- 24:00Speaker 3: I remember the late nineties early two thousands so clearly,
- 24:06Speaker 3: and as a pop culture girl, as a pop culture junkie,
- 24:08Speaker 3: reality TV junkie, I remember the impressions that were left
- 24:14Speaker 3: upon my psyche so clearly of you are fat, you
- 24:17Speaker 3: need to lose weight, your thighs jiggle, you have a butt.
- 24:21Speaker 4: And I also.
- 24:23Speaker 3: Remember that's why I gravitated initially to Jennifer Lopez, That's
- 24:27Speaker 3: why I gravitated to like a Beyonce, because those were
- 24:31Speaker 3: the people who were in the mainstream of pop culture,
- 24:36Speaker 3: incredibly successful, celebrated as beautiful, who had curvier bodies. Kim
- 24:42Speaker 3: Kardashian comes mid twenty two thousand and five, two thousand
- 24:46Speaker 3: and six, two thousand and seven ish, and she brings
- 24:50Speaker 3: that message to white folks. Like when we're talking about
- 24:56Speaker 3: how she is changing the ideal, she's changing it for
- 25:02Speaker 3: white people. Because I also have to acknowledge that when
- 25:07Speaker 3: I was in black spaces, my curvier body was I
- 25:12Speaker 3: don't want to celebrate it also, you know, objectified, but
- 25:15Speaker 3: it was a good thing to have always, always or
- 25:18Speaker 3: plays always always having a certain kind of body I
- 25:23Speaker 3: always knew was desirable among black people, always especially I'm
- 25:27Speaker 3: a petite woman with a big butt, always a thing.
- 25:31Speaker 3: It was when I would go into white spaces growing
- 25:34Speaker 3: up and going to predominantly white schools or whatever in
- 25:38Speaker 3: extracurriculars in summer camps, that is when I was most
- 25:42Speaker 3: conscious that my body was different and that I was
- 25:47Speaker 3: a spectacle basically. And so I think it is correct
- 25:52Speaker 3: that for mainstream America, read white America, Kim Kardashian ushered
- 25:58Speaker 3: in a new kind of desirability, a new kind of sexiness,
- 26:03Speaker 3: an opportunity for women who had been told I remember
- 26:08Speaker 3: one of my first jobs. My manager was a white woman,
- 26:10Speaker 3: and she said, you can.
- 26:12Speaker 4: Never be too thin.
- 26:14Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no such thing as.
- 26:15Speaker 3: Too and I remember thinking, okay, And I think that
- 26:19Speaker 3: her challenging that for that segment of the population is
- 26:24Speaker 3: really really important. On the other hand, if you bring
- 26:29Speaker 3: up Kim Kardashian in a room of women of color,
- 26:32Speaker 3: or in particular black women, there is a lot of
- 26:36Speaker 3: resentment because so many black women feel like, WHOA, We've
- 26:40Speaker 3: had these bodies forever, because you know, Kim one born
- 26:43Speaker 3: with that bun, and we're saying, we've had these bodies forever.
- 26:48Speaker 3: And when we were in majority spaces, we were called out,
- 26:55Speaker 3: we were spectacles, we were made fun of, we were
- 26:58Speaker 3: made to feel undesirable and try and all of a sudden,
- 27:01Speaker 3: this person who has a different kind of hair and
- 27:04Speaker 3: different facial features and white skin, all of a sudden
- 27:07Speaker 3: she doesn't and y'all gravity to a y'all embrace it.
- 27:10Speaker 3: She's liberating you. Those are the dueling ideas that I'm
- 27:15Speaker 3: trying to reconcile here what she represents for a certain
- 27:18Speaker 3: kind a certain population and what she represents for another
- 27:22Speaker 3: kind of population. But I can absolutely agree with you
- 27:25Speaker 3: that for the majority of people she ushered in a
- 27:27Speaker 3: different kind of beauty standard via her body.
- 27:30Speaker 1: I think you bring up something like, it's critical when
- 27:34Speaker 1: you talk about Kim in particular, is that she adopted
- 27:38Speaker 1: a lot of black aesthetics without having to live the
- 27:40Speaker 1: black experience, and so she always comes back to the
- 27:43Speaker 1: safety of whiteness. Yeah, every single time. Actually, a lot
- 27:47Speaker 1: of their family does. And so in particular, I saw
- 27:50Speaker 1: this video. This is the one the video that actually
- 27:53Speaker 1: reached out to you about because you were talking about
- 27:55Speaker 1: their bodies. So can you elaborate on sort of this
- 27:59Speaker 1: idea of coming back to whiteness in regards to their bodies.
- 28:03Speaker 3: Before I get into what I'm going to say, every
- 28:05Speaker 3: black woman is not born with the big butt in
- 28:08Speaker 3: big hips, and every white woman is not stick thin,
- 28:13Speaker 3: and that is not their ideal. But when I talk
- 28:17Speaker 3: about the cognitive dissonance that I experienced growing up of
- 28:23Speaker 3: having this kind of body and being and predominantly Black
- 28:27Speaker 3: spaces and having it be celebrated and desirable, and having
- 28:30Speaker 3: the voice come up to me and then going into
- 28:33Speaker 3: a predominantly white space and having people say, oh, ghetto booty,
- 28:37Speaker 3: and okay, you know, like I am talking about what
- 28:42Speaker 3: people put on a pedestal and the consequences for me
- 28:47Speaker 3: not only psychologically, but like, the consequences are far reaching, right,
- 28:54Speaker 3: And so with the Kardashians, we saw them really come
- 28:59Speaker 3: up yah altering their bodies to appeal to black men, right,
- 29:07Speaker 3: altering their bodies to have the curveness that is the
- 29:11Speaker 3: ideal in black communities and not just black communities, people
- 29:16Speaker 3: of color communities. Latinas have said, we love that too,
- 29:21Speaker 3: that because the line was shorter. If we're talking about
- 29:25Speaker 3: the way to get to the top of the desirability hierarchy.
- 29:31Speaker 2: Wow.
- 29:32Speaker 3: I think that for Kim Kardashian, people say, people try
- 29:37Speaker 3: to say that that woman is not smart. I think
- 29:38Speaker 3: that that woman knows exactly what she's doing. She's incredibly strategic,
- 29:43Speaker 3: and for her, she had a much better and easier
- 29:48Speaker 3: chance of getting to the top of the desirability pyramid, hierarchy,
- 29:53Speaker 3: whatever you want to call it by appealing to racialized
- 29:56Speaker 3: communities than she did by trying to conform to whiteness.
- 30:00Speaker 1: Wow. Because she is ethnically ambiguous, right like when you
- 30:03Speaker 1: look at her, so she felt like it was easier.
- 30:08Speaker 3: And even her surgically unaltered body is a little is
- 30:11Speaker 3: it's curvier, you know, even her.
- 30:13Speaker 2: Facial features are objectively ambiguous.
- 30:16Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean, you know, put Kim next to
- 30:19Speaker 3: Paris Hilton right there. They're not the same body type,
- 30:21Speaker 3: absolutely right. They don't have the same aesthetic for sure,
- 30:25Speaker 3: And so I think that she figured out how to
- 30:28Speaker 3: get the most.
- 30:30Speaker 1: The whole family sort of embraces this tension, right So,
- 30:38Speaker 1: right now, Chloe and Kim have lost a lot of weight. Yeah,
- 30:43Speaker 1: And it's sort of fascinating to me because living in La,
- 30:47Speaker 1: I think sort of beauty standards hit La first, even
- 30:51Speaker 1: more so than New York, and then dispersed. So like
- 30:54Speaker 1: I am at the and I live in West Hollywood,
- 30:56Speaker 1: I work in entertainment, I am at the epicenter of
- 30:58Speaker 1: all of this, and I hear that it like I
- 31:00Speaker 1: knew about the ozempic thing three months ago, they purposely
- 31:05Speaker 1: changed their bodies.
- 31:07Speaker 2: What was their purpose?
- 31:09Speaker 3: My hypothesis, of course they don't know or speak to
- 31:13Speaker 3: these people, is they're undergoing a transition in career, in
- 31:22Speaker 3: personal life, and the next phase of their lives required
- 31:28Speaker 3: them to appeal to different groups to be able to
- 31:33Speaker 3: move more easily into different spaces and leave the old
- 31:39Speaker 3: spaces and the old appeals behind. And so we see
- 31:43Speaker 3: Kim Kardashian in particular, this transition into she just started
- 31:48Speaker 3: or co founded this private equity fund and now she's
- 31:51Speaker 3: the multi billionaire with skims, and she's getting more into
- 31:56Speaker 3: the political arena and activism in order to be taken
- 32:00Speaker 3: more seriously as all of those things.
- 32:03Speaker 4: And as a mother of.
- 32:04Speaker 3: Four, it makes perfect sense to me that you want
- 32:07Speaker 3: to tap back into the whiteness, to tap back into
- 32:10Speaker 3: the white male gaze in particular, because that is deemed
- 32:14Speaker 3: more legitimate, and that's how that's how you can make
- 32:17Speaker 3: more money, that's how you get more power.
- 32:20Speaker 2: She wants to be taken seriously in these faces. Yeah,
- 32:23Speaker 2: what about Chloe.
- 32:24Speaker 3: Chloe is a more complicated figure for me because of
- 32:29Speaker 3: her transition, because of her starting off being the quote
- 32:34Speaker 3: unquote fat sister, and we've seen her struggle with her
- 32:38Speaker 3: body image and her facial transformations and all of that.
- 32:44Speaker 3: I think, I don't know. For me, Chloe, this seems
- 32:47Speaker 3: like a trauma response. Not that I, you know, I'm
- 32:49Speaker 3: not anybody's therapist.
- 32:51Speaker 1: I don't know.
- 32:53Speaker 4: I don't know.
- 32:54Speaker 3: But she's been through a lot, and especially in watching
- 32:58Speaker 3: the first episode because I had a stop because I
- 33:01Speaker 3: think that the show is boring. Now the first episode
- 33:03Speaker 3: of the second season of the Kardashians, and that trauma
- 33:07Speaker 3: and it comes up. The body stuff for her comes up,
- 33:10Speaker 3: and Kim says, the sisters are worried because you're looking thin,
- 33:16Speaker 3: and Chloe almost The big meme on social media was
- 33:20Speaker 3: that she was almost flattered, like really, but it was
- 33:24Speaker 3: really clear then that because she was experiencing so much
- 33:28Speaker 3: emotional trauma and turmoil because of all of that stuff,
- 33:33Speaker 3: that she just was not taking care of herself. And
- 33:36Speaker 3: I also think it, in addition to the trauma part
- 33:41Speaker 3: of it, that also helps her transition into a new lane,
- 33:46Speaker 3: a new cycle in her professional life and potentially a
- 33:50Speaker 3: new part of her personal life.
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- 35:02Speaker 1: this idea of the business of being famous, right, like
- 35:07Speaker 1: I think we people don't think about fame in that way.
- 35:11Speaker 1: But for instance, Jennifer Lopez is amazing at being famous.
- 35:16Speaker 1: Love her, but she's really smart about fame. She knows
- 35:21Speaker 1: how to stay in the public eye. She knows the
- 35:24Speaker 1: news cycles.
- 35:24Speaker 4: Hmm.
- 35:26Speaker 1: What do you say to people that say, well, the
- 35:28Speaker 1: Kardashians have just optimized the business of being famous.
- 35:33Speaker 3: I don't disagree. I don't disagree. I don't think that
- 35:38Speaker 3: they lucked into this. I don't. I think that there
- 35:43Speaker 3: is so much carefully orchestrated and meticulously analyzed all of
- 35:54Speaker 3: these moves. When people talk about the devil works harder
- 35:57Speaker 3: but Chris Jenner works harder, I think that they're getting
- 36:01Speaker 3: to this idea that the way that these women are
- 36:04Speaker 3: coming together to coordinate their businesses and public images and
- 36:08Speaker 3: the messaging around and the narrative building, the myth making
- 36:12Speaker 3: around the Kardashian genera.
- 36:13Speaker 4: Like that is a plus. Also, I give.
- 36:18Speaker 3: Them and Kim in particular credit for revolutionizing innovating the
- 36:24Speaker 3: way that celebrities use social media. That is the way
- 36:29Speaker 3: that she's used initially her Twitter in Instagram. We see
- 36:33Speaker 3: that being the blueprint for now a list celebrities doing
- 36:37Speaker 3: that stuff. Like, I do not take that away from them.
- 36:42Speaker 3: But also, you can be really quote unquote smart and
- 36:49Speaker 3: strategic in your moves and know that you are exploiting
- 36:55Speaker 3: marginalization and know that you are exploiting and and maybe
- 37:01Speaker 3: not even accidentally being actually really intentional about who are
- 37:06Speaker 3: you going to step on, who are you going to erase?
- 37:08Speaker 3: Who are you going to ignore so that they can
- 37:12Speaker 3: be at the top financially at the center of all
- 37:18Speaker 3: of our cultural commentary in all of this fracas and
- 37:23Speaker 3: all of this. I just think that they get who's
- 37:27Speaker 3: left behind.
- 37:29Speaker 1: You touched on something that I have a hard time articulating,
- 37:33Speaker 1: because when I sort of explain to people that I
- 37:35Speaker 1: am not a big fan of them, they're like, well,
- 37:38Speaker 1: how do you deny her business acumen?
- 37:40Speaker 2: How about the fact.
- 37:41Speaker 1: That she's helping these people get out of prison now,
- 37:44Speaker 1: and she's into criminal justice and reform.
- 37:47Speaker 2: And both of those things are true.
- 37:51Speaker 1: I'm not denying either of those, but to me, it
- 37:53Speaker 1: doesn't make up for everything else we discussed. When you
- 37:58Speaker 1: think about how she has sort of exploited and used
- 38:02Speaker 1: race to her advantage, how do you think about her
- 38:05Speaker 1: criminal justice reform endeavors now?
- 38:08Speaker 3: I think Kim Kardashian should spend way more time uplifting
- 38:16Speaker 3: the predominantly black women attorneys who are doing the bulk
- 38:21Speaker 3: of this work, and less time trying to put herself
- 38:25Speaker 3: at the center of these conversations. I Am not going
- 38:29Speaker 3: to say it doesn't matter that she herself traveled to
- 38:32Speaker 3: the White House to get President Trump to exonerate these
- 38:37Speaker 3: I'm sure that their families are internally grateful, I get it.
- 38:42Speaker 3: But I think that the real work, and the more
- 38:45Speaker 3: important work, is investing in lifting up centering the people
- 38:51Speaker 3: who have spent years doing this and not making a
- 38:56Speaker 3: you know, she had a little reality TV show about
- 38:58Speaker 3: her thing, you know, and it's like no, no, no,
- 39:01Speaker 3: because ultimately all of that is self serving. Ultimately we
- 39:06Speaker 3: cannot ignore how Kim even deciding to make this criminal
- 39:12Speaker 3: justice turn, this criminal prison policy reform turn, how that
- 39:17Speaker 3: ultimately bolsters her personal brand and increases her net worth.
- 39:22Speaker 2: Do you think there will be a Kardashian backlash? Have
- 39:25Speaker 2: we seen it yet?
- 39:26Speaker 4: Oof? A backlash? I don't think so. I think we
- 39:31Speaker 4: see hints of it. I'm trying it.
- 39:34Speaker 3: It was the last Oh you know, when the get
- 39:37Speaker 3: your fucking ass up and work, you know how we
- 39:40Speaker 3: see hints of it. But a full blown backlash, I
- 39:45Speaker 3: don't think so. I think when I talk about the
- 39:48Speaker 3: Kardashians as an American institution, a part of that is
- 39:53Speaker 3: also I think they're too big to fail.
- 39:55Speaker 1: Now I do too. I think that's actually where their
- 39:58Speaker 1: children come in. I've always looked at pop culture like
- 40:01Speaker 1: groups of people succeed.
- 40:03Speaker 2: People love a group, they love a group of friends.
- 40:06Speaker 1: I think part of their success has been the sheer
- 40:08Speaker 1: number of them, And now they all have children. I
- 40:11Speaker 1: saw you talk about how Kim brings North to these
- 40:14Speaker 1: fashion shows, and you made a funny I'll just let
- 40:18Speaker 1: you tell it, but you made a funny comparison about
- 40:20Speaker 1: how your mom took you to a concert.
- 40:22Speaker 4: Oh yeah.
- 40:23Speaker 3: I mean I am trying to be careful about the
- 40:27Speaker 3: way that I invoke the Kardashian kids because these are super,
- 40:31Speaker 3: super famous people, so no matter what they do, they're
- 40:34Speaker 3: going to be photographed, They're going to be scrutinized. They
- 40:38Speaker 3: make TV for a living, so there's going to be cameras.
- 40:41Speaker 3: But when I felt uncomfortable seeing and when I do
- 40:47Speaker 3: still feel uncomfortable seeing Kim's kids in particular front row
- 40:52Speaker 3: at these very adult events. That discomfort comes from knowing
- 40:57Speaker 3: that every single move that they make, every family outing,
- 41:02Speaker 3: every bonding experience that gets made a public event, it's commodity.
- 41:08Speaker 3: It's a commodity. It all gets commodified. It all goes
- 41:12Speaker 3: back to enriching Kim Kardashian, Inc. Expanding the brand, making
- 41:19Speaker 3: sure that we are still talking about them. Maybe I
- 41:24Speaker 3: think Kim understands that she's at a point where we're
- 41:28Speaker 3: not going to be talking about her in the same way,
- 41:30Speaker 3: you know, fawning over her body or beauty or whatever.
- 41:34Speaker 3: And a way to make sure that she never leaves
- 41:38Speaker 3: the center of our cultural conversations, that she is always
- 41:41Speaker 3: in the zeitgeist is to bring the children in. And
- 41:45Speaker 3: maybe it's not as explicit in her mind. Maybe that
- 41:48Speaker 3: is not those are not the exact connections that they're making,
- 41:52Speaker 3: but certainly she sees the outcome, and that's distressing. When
- 41:56Speaker 3: I went to a concert or so many concerts growing
- 41:59Speaker 3: up with my mom. We just did it for fun, Okay,
- 42:02Speaker 3: we just did it for the memories and for bonding
- 42:06Speaker 3: and so we can wear our matchin concert t shirts
- 42:08Speaker 3: together twenty years later. My mom does not get anything
- 42:12Speaker 3: out of it. She's not a brand.
- 42:14Speaker 2: You brought up something that I forgot to touch on
- 42:16Speaker 2: that they.
- 42:17Speaker 1: Sort of like play into all of these racial trophes,
- 42:22Speaker 1: even with the men that they love.
- 42:24Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, I think that the positioning there are
- 42:35Speaker 3: very concerted efforts to position themselves as the self sacrificing,
- 42:45Speaker 3: you know, completely devoted mothers who always put the family first.
- 42:52Speaker 3: There's nothing more important than family. But also we're girl bosses,
- 42:57Speaker 3: but also there's nothing more important than family, and these
- 43:01Speaker 3: men are distractions. Like we're doing everything that we can
- 43:07Speaker 3: to make them act right, make them make the help
- 43:10Speaker 3: them make the best choices, to be the best partners
- 43:14Speaker 3: wives that we can, to them, girlfriends, whatever that we can,
- 43:18Speaker 3: but they just they can't. They refuse And we've done
- 43:21Speaker 3: it and you've seen us sacrifice, you've seen us work
- 43:23Speaker 3: so hard, and they just will not act right. And
- 43:27Speaker 3: of course that does play into old old tropes about
- 43:32Speaker 3: aarrant black male sexuality. And of course with Lamar, and
- 43:39Speaker 3: we have the professional athlete thing about them being not smart,
- 43:45Speaker 3: about them being promiscuous.
- 43:48Speaker 4: We have the drug use.
- 43:49Speaker 3: Thing with Lamar playing that up, planting stories, juxtaposing the
- 43:54Speaker 3: work that they do with the work that the men
- 43:56Speaker 3: do or don't do. I think that is very, very intentional.
- 44:00Speaker 3: And yeah, plays into some very nasty racial tropes.
- 44:05Speaker 1: That really confuses me because they have black children.
- 44:09Speaker 2: I mean, it's very bizarre.
- 44:13Speaker 4: I feel like they feel like they're above race.
- 44:16Speaker 3: Right, Like, yes, they talk about I've definitely heard Chloe
- 44:23Speaker 3: in particular and Kim, I've heard them talk about raising
- 44:27Speaker 3: black children. And I remember years ago Kim making some
- 44:31Speaker 3: note about some racist incident that you experienced, and she
- 44:35Speaker 3: cares more because she has black children now.
- 44:38Speaker 4: But I also.
- 44:38Speaker 3: Think that because wealth, because money is the center of everything,
- 44:44Speaker 3: because that is the most important element, it wouldn't surprise
- 44:47Speaker 3: me if they understand that they have enough and will
- 44:52Speaker 3: always have enough for their children to be able to
- 44:56Speaker 3: in some ways transcend the race.
- 45:00Speaker 2: Yeah, that's sad.
- 45:02Speaker 1: Yeah, after our conversation, there seems just like a general
- 45:05Speaker 1: self center centeredness to all of it.
- 45:08Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a self centeredness that tries to mask itself
- 45:13Speaker 3: as self communal, right, life, Yes, that's why it's so complicated.
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- 45:36Speaker 2: You are so wonderful. Thank you for your time.
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