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Were you ever really happy with the narcissist? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What's going on, beautiful people?
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  Today I'm asking you a question. Were you ever really happy with
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  the narcissist it's going to make?
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  You think? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I am a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Welcome back, Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Yes.
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  Yes, folks. Yes, yes, It's a good y'all.
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  Bear with me right now, 'cause I I already know where your mind
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  went. I already know a lot of people
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  were just like, yeah, there were good times.
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  We were happy originally. There were good times.
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  I've. I've been happy.
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  So yes, Lee, I was happy in this relationship.
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  So what are you what are you getting at?
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  Hold on. Pause for a second real quick.
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  OK, bear with me. This is going to be Oh yeah, I'm
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  just. I'm being real with you right
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  now. I'm being real.
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  I'm keeping it hot and ready. I know I'll keep it hot and
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  ready. A lot of people don't think the
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  narcissist was genuine in the beginning, right?
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  So if they presented you a version of themselves that is
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  not real, if their their their first version of this person
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  that you met, the first version that you fell in love with, the
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  first version that you encounter was not real.
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  Than were you really ever happy or was you even your?
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  Own happiness in this relationship of Facade, so this
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  question got me thinking. That's why we got here.
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  Y'all. Y'all.
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  I'll be thinking. I'll be sitting here thinking
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  I'm like, man, what what is this?
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  What? Are you ever really happy with
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  this person? Because.
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  Real, true happiness is authentic.
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  Both people are being. Authentic, right?
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  Both people are presenting the the the best version of
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  themselves, of course, up front, but at least.
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  You're presenting the real version of you.
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  You're not lying. Unless you are, you're not
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  cheating. Unless you might have been, you
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  know you're not. You're presenting the best
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  version. Of yourself up front.
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  You're presenting the real. Version of yourself up front,
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  though the best, of course. You want to put your best foot
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  forward, you know? You.
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  Everybody does that. Everybody that puts their best
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  foot forward. But like I said.
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  Before Narcissus's best foot is a peg leg.
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  It's a false foot, right? It's a false foot.
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  You don't know it's a false foot at first.
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  Until they until the mask comes off.
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  But it's a false foot. It's a peg leg.
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  You always wonder why they walk with a little limp because their
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  leg is a peg leg. You know they lost the leg in
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  the battle. Of narcissism in 1942.
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  You know, the battle of narcissism.
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  But. It's so think about it.
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  Y'all. Were you gonna ask yourself the
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  question, Were you really ever happy in this relationship?
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  If they were fake from the beginning, were you ever really
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  happy with them? I know you.
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  I know there were. Moments of happiness.
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  That's not what I'm questioning. I know that is what.
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  I'm questioning. I know.
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  That there were moments of happiness.
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  But if they were being fake, your happiness might not have
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  been even been real in the. First place, Pardon the
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  Help me reach more people and back to the video.
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  Put some clue you got to put the put the clapping hands in the
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  comment section. If you understand what I'm
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  saying, you got to drop the clapping hands.
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  Coming. But yes, so think about it from
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  that. Perspective right there.
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  Yeah. It just opens your mind up to
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  something new right there. Because narcissistic people are
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  fake from the beginning, Are some of them.
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  Presenting of different some of them.
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  Being authentic, Yeah, some of them might be.
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  Authentically authentic. For a little.
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  While. Right.
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  They might not be lying. To you and manipulating you
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  upfront at first. But their intent is kind of
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  insidious, right? You know, I don't think all
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  narcissists start off the relationship with insidious
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  intent to manipulate the lie. Cheat.
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  Still, whatever. I don't think every narcissist
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  does that. That's not what I'm saying.
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  I'm talking about the narcissistic people who set out.
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  To do that intentionally from the beginning, being fake.
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  So this was like you said, answering the like.
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  This question is for a lot of. People that are.
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  Ruminating on the. Past a lot of people that are
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  thinking back to times of happening, A lot of people that
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  think that they could have changed themselves to make the
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  relationship last longer or to. Fix the relationship.
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  Or to get them to come back right.
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  To get them to love you more. To get them, to get them, to
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  give you the original love that they.
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  Were giving. You in the beginning, but if
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  they were never real in the 1st place, was your happiness even
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  real? Were you ever happy with this
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  person? So if you are one of the people
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  who thinks that narcissists. Always.
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  Are manipulating from the beginning, but you're still in
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  love with the original version of themselves because they made
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  you happy here and there. Was your happiness even real.
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  This can help release. It y'all this?
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  Can help release you from the. Binds of you.
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  Missing the good times. If the good times were never
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  real in the 1st place, were they really even good times?
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  It sound like I feel like, yeah, I know it sound like I'm
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  preaching because internally it feels like I'm preaching right
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  now. I feel like.
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  I feel like the Lord is flowing through me right now just trying
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  to bring out this message because I literally just broke
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  this down a little while ago and it kept me to thinking I.
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  Can't do a video on that because people were.
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  Happy. But then my mind was like, wait,
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  if they were fake from the beginning, if they've been
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  lying? From the beginning.
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  If they've been manipulating from the beginning, then they
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  could have manipulated your happiness.
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  So think about that, right? This could help release you from
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  the ties that bind in you in this relationship.
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  These emotional. Ties these soul.
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  Ties whatever if you. Think this is your twin flame.
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  But they were lying. It's a false flame.
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  It's one of those. It's not.
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  You think y'all look. You think if y'all believe in
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  twin flames? You.
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  Think that y'all if you think that y'all both fiery hot.
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  Pieces of fire, right? You think this is this is the
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  torch and this is the torch, right?
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  If y'all listen on the podcast, I got two have a salt shaker and
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  a pepper shaker in my hand. So this is.
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  Your torch. Right here, your torch has a
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  real flame. It's hot to the.
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  Touch their torch looks like a real flame, but it's actually
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  one of those like those ceremonial you know, like those
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  fake flames with you put it like.
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  On a theatre or on a theatre stage on a.
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  Play those fake. Flames from from.
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  Paper mache or just? Pieces of paper painted orange.
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  It looks like fire from. From from.
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  From a distance. But it's not real fire.
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  You know, it makes smoke. It's like it makes a little
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  smoke here, and there's got, like a little smoke sensor in it
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  where it releases fake smoke. It looks like fire from a
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  distance. But the closer you get, you
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  realize it's not even real fire. It's pieces of paper blowing in
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  the wind. It's orange and red pieces of
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  paper blowing in the wind to represent fire.
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  They're not even your twin flame.
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  The flame is fake. The flame ain't even burning
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  hot. Yes, I just came up, came up
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  with that off top of my head. They're not your twin flame.
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  They're a fake flame. You think you're twin flames
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  because the connection was so tight.
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  Your the soul tie was. So this y'all had a soul tie.
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  You are a real you. Your tie is.
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  Real because you. Are a real person.
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  If they were a fake person from the beginning, then how can it
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  be real? I'm just saying this this this
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  is meant to make you. Think right here y'all to
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  release that. Because if you are one of the
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  people that believe that they were never real in the. 1st
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  place then. Was your happiness with this.
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  Person Real. Can this help you release that
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  person? Like was I really even happy?
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  Damn, you know what I wasn't. If they were faking it from the
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  beginning, then their their happiness is fake.
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  So if you're hyper focused on how they're treated the new
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  supply, If you're hyper focused on how they treated the new
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  supply, how happy they look, you don't recognize?
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  This person anymore? You said you're saying the
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  things. Like.
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  In your head, you're saying things like.
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  I don't even know who this person is anymore.
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  Because they're faking it again. So is the new supply even really
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  happy if they're being fake with them, it's again, it's it's
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  happiness adjacent. It's fault.
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  It's it's it's Sucro. No, it's a it's splendor.
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  Happiness. You got real.
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  Happiness is sugar. That narcissistic fake happiness
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  is splendor. It it looks the same.
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  It tastes the same. It has different effects.
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  It ain't really, it ain't the same thing.
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  You can tell. But you Damn, this is this
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  little, this this real, this real sugar.
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  Looks sweeter. You can tell there's real.
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  Sugar. You know, narcissists get that.
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  That no sugar. Added type of love.
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  You know what I mean? Yeah, I hope.
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  Hey, I'm having. Fun with this.
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  Video if y'all can't tell because this is all coming from
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  the top of my head. Y'all know I don't take notes
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  anyway. But this?
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  Is all. Coming from the top of my head
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  because. You got me thinking, I'm like,
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  if they were being fake from the beginning, were you ever really
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  happy? And there's people who are going
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  to answer the questions like, yeah, I felt happiness.
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  I did. And that's.
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  And y'all again. It's cool, and this is not me
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  trying. To convince you that you wasted
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  your time. This is not the intent of this
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  video. I was like, well, I was never.
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  Really happy we. Spent 10 years together.
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  That's not what I'm saying, right?
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  There, it can really help release this part.
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  If you're if you're one of the people that are missing the good
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  times. If you're missing this person
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  because of the times you thought that they were good, but you
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  also think this person is fake, you can release that right
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  there. You can release it.
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  You can release it and this. Is me saying y'all?
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  This is not me saying that they never ever.
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  Cared about you either. Let me clarify that this is not
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  me. Saying that they.
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  Never ever cared about you. It's me saying that they.
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  Presented a false version of themselves to.
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  Make you happy because they didn't.
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  Feel authentic enough. To show you who they really were
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  to tell. You who they really were.
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  So they were. Manipulating you.
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  From the beginning, because they were being, they were being.
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  Intentionally obtuse. Intentionally manipulative.
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  Intentionally. Misdirecting you, you see?
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  This is me. This is not me saying that they.
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  Never ever cared about you. This is me saying that some of
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  narcissistic people are coming to you with I'll intent.
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  They're coming into. They're coming into your life
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  with I'll intent like they got a.
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  Grudge that they got a grudge to settle with you and whatnot, but
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  this is what narcissistic people do and.
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  This is what I'm just telling you.
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  You are stronger than what you think you are.
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  You deserve better. You deserve real happiness.
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  And their real. Happiness can start.
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  It starts from internal. It's real internal happiness.
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  It starts. With you so.
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  This is not you. Like I said again, that that
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  fake happiness, not that happiness adjacent.
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  This can be the real happiness, the part.
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  That comes with you. So you got it.
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  You can be as strong as you. Possibly can be.
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  Yo, this is your life. You can live it the way you want
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  to live it. You go out there and.
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  Get real. Happiness.
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  You go out there and get real. Sugar.
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  You go out there and find your real twin flame, not the fake
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  orange flames from the school play.
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  You know. Not the fake torch.
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  From the school play right there.
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  The black find a real twin flame that burns.
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  As hot as. You do?
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  You know somebody find a twin flame is not.
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  Trying to stifle your. Fire but trying to make, trying
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  to make it burn brighter. God, they get their real
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  happiness. Y'all.
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  So again, this is hey, I hope this video bought you a made you
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  think a little bit because it made me think.
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  I'm thinking as I'm talking, that's why I was talking to get
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  hyped and stuttering a little bit here and there.
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  That's because I was. Getting hyped when I was talking
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  like this is. To me this is ground breaking.
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  To me it might not make sense to.
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  Y'all, I know it's just like this is a confusing video, but I
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  hope it brought you some clarity.
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  I hope it made you think a little bit and I hope it brought
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  you. Some peace.
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  To help you release this person and help you find an internal
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  happiness, that's what I'm hoping.
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  That's my goal right here. Y'all.
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